I actually needed to pray about my situation rn and I sent this to one of my girls. She JUST texted me and I also JUST read this comment while the video was playing and the pastor said the exact same sentence. If those aren’t signs, than idk what is.
1. Prove his self - control. 2. Prove his servant's heart by expressing your needs and watching his response. 3. Prove his synergy with you by sharing your dreams with him. 4. Prove his authenticity through questions. 5. Test his love by his capacity to rest with you. 6. Is he learning your love language? 7. Can I please him?
My niece who is an RN and her boyfriend is an attorney. (They are married now.) They are both very Christian. The would always meet for every date and leave separately and go to their respective residences. They were never alone together and were not tempted. They were both virgins until their wedding night. They were both in their 30s when they got married! It worked! It can be done. They dated for 4 years. Great video as always!
You teach all the things that I wish my father had taught me. I'm 51 years young, from Delaware. Divorced after 3 decades from a narcissist, went right into bad relationships because I felt SO lonely. I was the breadwinner, made the decisions, gave to everyone else, was a people pleaser and just so tired of being the leader. I should have stopped to heal, to learn myself and the results of my childhood trauma. You have helped me to start over again, to listen to my intuition, to make wise decisions to end relationships that aren't evenly yoked. THANKYOU for being an example of a godly man. MAY Adonai bless you and your beautiful wife!
It's never too late to learn. I know women older than you who still haven't learn. I'm spending time now healing and getting over my childhood trauma. This is best I've ever felt...single and growing.
Be gentle w yourself .. we didn’t have this education , information or spot light on these characters . We didn’t realized are behaviors are from our childhood wounds , and theirs predators that feed off childhood wounds .. married 40 yrs w covert narc . We need pastors videos shown in high schools … bc these narcs are the real pandemic . 😵💫
"Just because a man is a good man, doesn't mean he is a good man for you" AMEN, I am 3 months out of a toxic relationship with a "good man", who was controlling and manipulative, had low self esteem and projected all of his insecurities into our relationship.
I think it’s so funny when he says “I gotta go I’ve spent too much time talking” and then I immediately go and watch two or three more 50 minute videos 😂 I just love the wisdom that spews from him. 🙌🏾
as a young woman who’s biological father passed when I was 15…and seeing all of the older women in the comments wishing they would’ve met you sooner or had you in their lives younger…as a 28yr old with no kids and no man. Thanks “Dad” 🙏🏾💕
Dear 28 year old sis. Preserve yourself. These men are AWFUL many narcissist and predators. I am now 53, single, one adult child. I wish I could go back to 28 and stay celibate to truly weed out all the imposters they will waste your life and use your body and no God in them. They will use God and religion to get over on you. Very sad. I am not bitter just FACTS. I am starting Graduate school to get my masters soon and looking forward to dating an equally yoked man who will prove himself. Be smart.
Truth….my marriage was to an untrustworthy man. He was not a masculine man. He was a “simp”. So tragic. If I had knowledge, it would have saved so much pain. Thank you Pastor.
Masculine men can as well be toxic and abusive. As a woman it’s just the luck of the draw whether u get a men tht truly loves yu. No matter his mannerisms
At 30:32 - To me, when a man drops everything when you ask him for some help, this is so romantic & loving, it shows a wonderful connection between the couple.
My ex did but let me tell you, he is the worst kind of a narcissticist. He jumped most of the time bc I ran the relationship & it was NOT by my choice.
So true. Acts of service is my love language and the man I was involved with knew this and when opportunities presented themselves to prove his words he failed almost every time! That actually was the last straw recently that caused me to cut him off and block him.
YUPPA!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I AM RE EVALUATING THINGS CONCERNING MY RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN NOW!!! MAN LOOKS AT THE OUTWARD APPEARANCE, BUT GOD LOOKS AT THE HEART AMEN!!!!
I recently heard an author say attraction and chemistry are just the floor and paint (find out what the house is made of, foundation, roof, history before buying). I loved the analogy and thought I'd share.
Pastor, the first thing that came to my mind was I wish I had found your teaching years ago, but a thought came to my mind’ it’s never too late!!! Thanks for your growth Jesus ❗
I AM IN FULL AGREEMENT WITH YOU SIS!!!👋🏾👋🏾! IF I KNEW WHAT I KNOW NOW FROM YOUR TEACHINGS BISHOP BLAKES, I WOULD HAVE BYPASSED THE DUMB STUFF, MEN AND SITUATIONS AMEN!!!
Abstinence is a test of one’s character or even “fruit of the Spirit” since self control is one of the fruits of the Spirit. I think we forget about this one fruit. The fruit is a reflection of the root.
Hello from New Jersey. I can’t get enough of your teaching & extremely grateful that I found your channel!! I’m 52 & lost my Dad to cancer when I was 4, your wisdom has changed my life because I was a silly woman who attracted my childhood trauma in every relationship I found myself in & a narc magnet but thanks to you, those days are over!! Thank you 🙏
This channel deserves to be on Oprah Winfrey's channel. It's a genuine match. This is the type of content she and her audience would appreciate. It's beyond valuable. Thank you for being the father that most of us will never have in real life, when it comes to being able to go to him for relationship advice.
No not Oprah. That woman is about self promotion and not a woman after God's heart. She is apart of the elite and has an agenda to introduce people to New Age teachings instead of Christ's teaching. Blake's is doing just what he needs to do at this time
I wish.....I wish I had heard this one year ago to save me the pressure of having sex with someone who ended up being the worst monster I had ever met. I pray that God will heal my heart, mind and spirit and that I will be able to forgive myself and move forward.
Hahaha OMG that was my email! I'm so happy you replied in this form and so quickly! Woke up in the morning and saw this, made my day 🤣 God bless you always
I love this msg, POWERFUL, I call my husband my king bcuz of the man he is to me and in general, I often times tell him that he is a man of many men, this msg showed me truly that he is a king. I give Yahweh praise and thanks for blessing me with a really good husband 🙏
I have been very wise when it comes to handle men. They like boys who love their toys and Selfish. You have to be catch me if you can. 1) Love yourself 2) Able to live with yourself 3) Set boundaries 4) Respect yourself as a woman 5) Be very wise 6) Don’t take things personal 7) Watch your words 8) Able to control your thoughts and your actions 9) Choose wisely 10)Take care yourself mentally physical 11) Don’t be the first 1 to say I love you 12) Travel with that person before you move in together 12) Don’t tell your business with your man to your family or friends 13) Keep yourself very busy
This is exactly the issues in my relationship. Every single one of these is lacking and my husband has been trying to convince me that Im asking for too much. Its all my fault, he never wouldve passed the tests if I wouldve known before. I found all of these things to be necessary on my own. You put them into words beautifully.
There should be no excuses for staying in a relationship with someone that puts you through more stress and pain over love and joy. 💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Can’t wait to hear the word; I have been watching u for months & caught up to ALL ur videos. The way the Lord uses you to minister is a blessing to my soul. 😇 - Minister Mari
@@RCBlakesJr. God go with you! Lead and give you the words we need to hear that God gives you to share. With Us!!! Yes try the Spirits .watch how they operate in their lives.The words they speak when the man feels lax and comfortable around you. When they feel that they can be their real personality identity self!!! I
When your “standard is broken”…it’s time to pray, look inward, ask the Father to help you heal and draw closer. Thank you for your teachings. God bless you!
You are doing EXACTLY WHAT GOD WANTS YOU TO DO......teach women (even me who at age 75, widowed aft. 53 yrs. in happy, good marriage....YET has been lacking in social skills because I never HAD to!!!...now I'm having to learn things I NEVER HAD A CLUE ABOUT!!!) So, that said....KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE DOING PLEASE and I give GOD all the glory for it, which I can tell you are already doing. And thank you!
You describe a dance where a woman can trust the true course of the man and follow his lead, and so then can 'submit' to the beauty of the music and movement of two as one... Thankyou, beautiful
Your wise words will work in any relationship. If you could include teachings for widows or those of us over 50 who are considering remarrying that’d be much appreciated. There are different dynamics in 2nd marriages, adult children, etc. Love your teaching.
We got this ladies! Abusive marriage and dead end 10 year relationship later, I'm ready for this relationship to myself for myself. We're going to get our king's one day!
I love this man. He helps us to set our bar high, be able to look the finer side of a man where most times we women overlook . @RCBlakes, you also need to run a course or a channel for parents. Most times parents need to instill good values and be a good example when the child is growing up. Why I am suggesting this? Coz I believe most of us are built the way we see our parents interact and our environment. Our surroundings makes us who we are.
Amen! God is so faithful that even when I try to back slide he steps in on my behalf and I'm able to be kept!!! I have the power and authority over my flesh to wait for my KING and hold myself and walk as a QUEEN
Years ago I dated a guy for a bit, then one day I told him about my dream.. my passion of photography. Mind you, I'm already one and I have some success behind my back. He told me my dream was too much and that I should pick something more down to earth. Dropped him that same conversation and told him why. Never done better cut in my love life! These people just weigh you down. Life is challenging enough without them.
How accomplished you are for all those you help to find true love. We all need love, we all want love, we all hope for love, we all hope for lasting love. You are on point with your direction. We just need to trust and follow your teachings. More importantly set our standards ,values and expectations and NEVER waiver. Ladies we are the power!
"When you ask questions and they get offended!" That's your answer! "When you ask questions and you get no answers!" "That's your answer!" The male I been knowing for over 5 yrs told me that he hates questions cause questions lead to answer! He said that women trap men when they ask questions! "If a man really loves a woman he is alright with questions, real talks, long talks for hours! When a man really loves uou he opens up hie heart cause he wants a female to trust him. When a woman asks not accuses question after question for general understanding it's cause she wants to be able to trust you.
i married someone who was not supposed to go past being an acquaintance. we dint last past 3months in the marriage. i dint have this knowledge and wisdom, thanks so much for this pastor RC
I loved this informative video as I am talking to a potential husband. And I know my worth and I am a woman of high values. I want to do the right thing with Gods blessing! Sending many blessings your way! Thank you for your teachings in Gods name!
I love your channel! Still grateful for your teachings! While I have been engaged, I'm so glad I did not go through with that wedding! He was a horrible man and I knew it. Now I'm glad that I purposely take the time to date these men and figure out what they want from me. I have learned that I am lusted after by alot of men. Smh🤦🏽♀️ When you said is it infatuation, that's exactly how I feel, they feel about me. Until they get into this hot seat! I asked a man yesterday is he ready for the hard questions because some men tend not to be, even when they think they are. He said I will answer your questions! 😆 I have also had the man who came to visit me in flashy cars. When I asked him to teach me about stocks, he gave me nothing. He was the most inconsistent man I have ever met. So I took heed and moved on. I love testing a man to see where his mind is. It is so vital to my life and my purpose as a feminine woman. It has taken some time to get here. But I am here!
1: Proves his self-control. If a man can’t abstain from having sex; he won’t be able to abstain when he’s married. Proverbs 6:20;31:2-4 2: Proves his servants heart: by expressing my needs and watching how he reacts. Ephesians 5:24 3: Proves his synergy with his woman. • Shares her dreams with him. • Are we equally yoked? Marriage isn’t the death of me but birth of WE! A man that is too small for you; he will always be imitated by “his woman”. Genesis 37:8 4: Proves his authenticity through questions 1 Kings 10:1 • Ask a man the Hard questions? Any man that’s authentic and genuine; is a man that’s comfortable with your questions. A real man asks for trust. When a woman interrogates a man, she is wanting to rest in her femininity. 5: Proves his by his capacity to rest with you. Judges 16:19 If a man has sex with you, and he leaves shortly after, he’s not your man. 6: Is he learning your love language? 1 Corinthians 4:5 If he isn’t learning you, he isn’t invested in you. 7: Can I please him? When a woman can’t please a woman, her self-esteem is ruptured.
#1 is rare especially in 2022. Men can pause and take their time pretend to be deeply involved. I’m learning to be celibate again and hold unto to my cookie till I feel fully ready.
Pastor your truly annoited and I'm thankful for your life. I love your sense of humour, you put a smile on my face when you say 'Clowns in Crowns 👑' I once had one! Your words touch my soul and bring me to tears, just what woman needs from a wise father figure. I start my day with your videos without fail! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
My 1st time listening to u Pastor Blakes it was sooo very enlightening & refreshing i wish I had this knowledge b4 I got married & divorced....understanding a man and his intentions is key.....thank u for knowledge
You just described everything I’ve been doing subconsciously. I ask any man that shows interest questions upon questions while guarding my heart. So far, none have been able to Elicit trust because my questions were not answered.
Wish I had this information in my early 20s, but learning it at 30 in this format/teaching is so refreshing. Tfs your knowledge with us Pastor Blakes! God bless you💫
This part sums up the whole message! Everything is locked solid within this simple context! If he can’t / won’t answer questions, red flag flying all over the place!! Let the whole thing go, he’s not the one for you.
Wow. Pastor Blake's, I'm 45 and you say things I've never heard before but you make so much sense. May God bless you and thank you for your words of wisdom.
Finally made me a list of do and don't for relationship. Inspired by a friend. And Sir Blake's just solidified my Righteousness inclination, to God be the Glory. Thank you Sir Blakes
Although the videos that are helping me through this difficult time were made between 1-3 yrs ago, they are speaking to my heart and soul TODAY! The exact messages that I need to hear are being delivered through this amazing servant of GOD to help his Queens and KINGS improve themselves and each other. I thank GOD that he allowed me to find you on this platform. Much love and blessings to you and your beautiful wife Lisa. GOD bless! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thanks Mr Blake I write down all ur points in my note book. Thanks alot man of god. God bless u and pray for me to find a great man of God husband like u🙏
I share your video with many, you’ve been such a blessing to me. Thank you for keeping it real, God Bless you & ur wife. Look forward to seeing you both in Houston, Tx. 🙏🏼
This is my favorite video from you. It’s saved in my “Femininity Journey” playlist here on TH-cam. I’ve watched this several times. I put it on as I clean up my space or cook or clean. I just love this message so much. Your content really has made such a huge difference in shaping the woman I’ve become. Thank you RC!🫶🏾♥️
Thank God for your wisdom you are anointed and appointed for such a time as this to teach the women but also the man that would hear and not being offended or timid dated but learn to be blessed in their marriage and their relationship Godly marriage first putting God first honor that and blessed a man mentally physically and yes financially Thank You Pastor RC Blake, Beautiful Wife for being a Example of what a Marriaged couple should represent!🙏🏾🙌🏾👩❤️👩💞
Hello Pastor Blakes. Thanks for this message. The Holy Spirit has been speaking to me about this in this season of my life. My boundaries have been violated time and time again by this man and I'm at a point where I am no longer playing his game. Thank you for empowering young women all over the world. Your South African daughter here!
The greatest gift a woman can give to a man is her FEMININITY, not just her feminine body. Woman’s body is a part of much bigger picture which includes spirit, energy, beauty, passion, and love. A body without a feminine soul means nothing.
When a man says " you ask too many questions" I'm out
"Marriage is not the death of me, but the birth of we."
Beautifyl!!
This is beautiful!
Yes that sounds beautiful and all but in most cases it's not true.
Yes 🎉✅
“Lust gets bored.”
That’s a word of truth right there!
I actually needed to pray about my situation rn and I sent this to one of my girls. She JUST texted me and I also JUST read this comment while the video was playing and the pastor said the exact same sentence. If those aren’t signs, than idk what is.
Real Raw Truth Here Buddy!
1. Prove his self - control. 2. Prove his servant's heart by expressing your needs and watching his response. 3. Prove his synergy with you by sharing your dreams with him. 4. Prove his authenticity through questions. 5. Test his love by his capacity to rest with you. 6. Is he learning your love language? 7. Can I please him?
Exactly why i'm still totally Celibate, Single Not Lonely and Happy. Amen
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I Totally Agree...
My niece who is an RN and her boyfriend is an attorney. (They are married now.) They are both very Christian. The would always meet for every date and leave separately and go to their respective residences. They were never alone together and were not tempted. They were both virgins until their wedding night. They were both in their 30s when they got married! It worked! It can be done. They dated for 4 years. Great video as always!
@rhondawalker amazing!
Thank you for sharing this testimony! I hope they are still successful and doing well! Esp with very difficult careers
4 years? Um, way to long for clean, holy young people..
Did they date structuredly, in stages, starting by dating several, platonically?
You teach all the things that I wish my father had taught me. I'm 51 years young, from Delaware. Divorced after 3 decades from a narcissist, went right into bad relationships because I felt SO lonely. I was the breadwinner, made the decisions, gave to everyone else, was a people pleaser and just so tired of being the leader. I should have stopped to heal, to learn myself and the results of my childhood trauma. You have helped me to start over again, to listen to my intuition, to make wise decisions to end relationships that aren't evenly yoked. THANKYOU for being an example of a godly man. MAY Adonai bless you and your beautiful wife!
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It's never too late to learn. I know women older than you who still haven't learn. I'm spending time now healing and getting over my childhood trauma. This is best I've ever felt...single and growing.
Be gentle w yourself .. we didn’t have this education , information or spot light on these characters . We didn’t realized are behaviors are from our childhood wounds , and theirs predators that feed off childhood wounds .. married 40 yrs w covert narc . We need pastors videos shown in high schools … bc these narcs are the real pandemic . 😵💫
Hallelujah!!! My story too
God Gotcha 😇
"Just because a man is a good man, doesn't mean he is a good man for you" AMEN, I am 3 months out of a toxic relationship with a "good man", who was controlling and manipulative, had low self esteem and projected all of his insecurities into our relationship.
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Doesn’t sound like a good man then.
Dated a man like that. He was “good” from afar but extremely difficult to deal with up close.
Not good. He displayed goodness but was evil inside, this is called a snake…..
I put up with so much in relationships because I didn't understand my worth. I know better now. Thank you for this teaching.
Amen me too!!!
Yes!!!!
Amen me too!!!!
Amen me three!!
I still am searching for my worth. I’m attracted to toxic situations
I think it’s so funny when he says “I gotta go I’ve spent too much time talking” and then I immediately go and watch two or three more 50 minute videos 😂 I just love the wisdom that spews from him. 🙌🏾
Lol!! I do the exact same thing! 50 minutes of divine directions! My soul is being nourished & the Holy Spirit is confirming.
Thank you RC Blake’s
Me too! Lol
Same here! 😅
as a young woman who’s biological father passed when I was 15…and seeing all of the older women in the comments wishing they would’ve met you sooner or had you in their lives younger…as a 28yr old with no kids and no man. Thanks “Dad” 🙏🏾💕
I AM AN OLDER SINGLE WOMAN MYSELF NO BIOLOGICAL CHILDREN EXCEPT SPIRITUAL ONES AND I AM STILL LEARNING!!😇
God is blessing you
I resonate with this. Lost my dad at 14, now im 26 with no kids and no man. Forever grateful for this wisdom.
Dear 28 year old sis. Preserve yourself. These men are AWFUL many narcissist and predators. I am now 53, single, one adult child. I wish I could go back to 28 and stay celibate to truly weed out all the imposters they will waste your life and use your body and no God in them. They will use God and religion to get over on you. Very sad. I am not bitter just FACTS. I am starting Graduate school to get my masters soon and looking forward to dating an equally yoked man who will prove himself. Be smart.
Blessings sisters 😊 we are all like sisters now 😅
Truth….my marriage was to an untrustworthy man. He was not a masculine man. He was a “simp”. So tragic. If I had knowledge, it would have saved so much pain. Thank you Pastor.
Pastor…would you update the 9 questions?
I thought my husband was bi polar .. but just realized he’s a covert narc and I’m w him 40 yrs . Ppl wear a good mask these days 😵💫
Masculine men can as well be toxic and abusive. As a woman it’s just the luck of the draw whether u get a men tht truly loves yu. No matter his mannerisms
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At 30:32 - To me, when a man drops everything when you ask him for some help, this is so romantic & loving, it shows a wonderful connection between the couple.
My ex did but let me tell you, he is the worst kind of a narcissticist. He jumped most of the time bc I ran the relationship & it was NOT by my choice.
So true. Acts of service is my love language and the man I was involved with knew this and when opportunities presented themselves to prove his words he failed almost every time! That actually was the last straw recently that caused me to cut him off and block him.
An unproven man is an untrusted man”
That message spoke to me...Im taking this as a vow... Thank you Pastor Blakes.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
YUPPA!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I AM RE EVALUATING THINGS CONCERNING MY RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN NOW!!! MAN LOOKS AT THE OUTWARD APPEARANCE, BUT GOD LOOKS AT THE HEART AMEN!!!!
I recently heard an author say attraction and chemistry are just the floor and paint (find out what the house is made of, foundation, roof, history before buying). I loved the analogy and thought I'd share.
Amen
It has taken me 32 years to realize this!
Me to sis 💗🙏🏾
"How can two walk together unless they agree?" One of my favorite Scriptures Pastor Blakes.
Amos 3:3 very good one 👍
Pastor, the first thing that came to my mind was I wish I had found your teaching years ago, but a thought came to my mind’ it’s never too late!!! Thanks for your growth Jesus ❗
When the student is ready, the Teacher will appear. You are ready my friend. The time is now. God bless you. 🙏🏽🌺❤️
I agree 💯
@@keepthechange1 Ooohhh! That is a word right there.🔥🔥 The Lord bless you as well. 🙏
I AM IN FULL AGREEMENT WITH YOU SIS!!!👋🏾👋🏾! IF I KNEW WHAT I KNOW NOW FROM YOUR TEACHINGS BISHOP BLAKES, I WOULD HAVE BYPASSED THE DUMB STUFF, MEN AND SITUATIONS AMEN!!!
That was God.
Abstinence is a test of one’s character or even “fruit of the Spirit” since self control is one of the fruits of the Spirit. I think we forget about this one fruit.
The fruit is a reflection of the root.
“Submit to her Husband, to her husband, to her husband” period!! Amen 🙏💯💯💯
When a man treats you like God wants him to treat you, you will have no trouble submitting to your man! R,C Blake's is speaking truth!
Hello from New Jersey. I can’t get enough of your teaching & extremely grateful that I found your channel!! I’m 52 & lost my Dad to cancer when I was 4, your wisdom has changed my life because I was a silly woman who attracted my childhood trauma in every relationship I found myself in & a narc magnet but thanks to you, those days are over!! Thank you 🙏
Some entertainers are good pretenders...
My ex-husband was a good provider and father. I settled. He was a workaholic. Where was the love ?
@@janicerockwell8417 pppp0pppppppppp lol ppppppppppplplplllp
These clowns are great actors…….UNTIL you know what you’re looking at!!! Biggest lesson of my life.
@@janicerockwell8417 yes they are Really Good at this!!!True Fakers!!!!
This channel deserves to be on Oprah Winfrey's channel. It's a genuine match. This is the type of content she and her audience would appreciate. It's beyond valuable. Thank you for being the father that most of us will never have in real life, when it comes to being able to go to him for relationship advice.
I don't think he/we need more Oprah at all. We're good.
It should be it’s own show. Pastor Blakes and his beautiful bride Lisa are amazing.
I agree this valuable information. 🙏🏽
No not Oprah. That woman is about self promotion and not a woman after God's heart. She is apart of the elite and has an agenda to introduce people to New Age teachings instead of Christ's teaching. Blake's is doing just what he needs to do at this time
I wish.....I wish I had heard this one year ago to save me the pressure of having sex with someone who ended up being the worst monster I had ever met. I pray that God will heal my heart, mind and spirit and that I will be able to forgive myself and move forward.
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3
You’re not the only one. I did this too I am a witness GOD will heal you. Forgive yourself and forgive the person.
Hahaha OMG that was my email! I'm so happy you replied in this form and so quickly! Woke up in the morning and saw this, made my day 🤣 God bless you always
Blessings to you! It was a great question which answer has benefited many!
Agree, it was a great question of how to vet a man without playing games
I love this msg, POWERFUL, I call my husband my king bcuz of the man he is to me and in general, I often times tell him that he is a man of many men, this msg showed me truly that he is a king. I give Yahweh praise and thanks for blessing me with a really good husband 🙏
Dear God,i want this to be my testimony
Bless me with a good man ,Amen
Yes! I want this to be my testimony too
Yes! I want this to be my testimony too
I'm happy for you!
Yes I want this to be my testimony too! Amen 🙏🏾
I have been very wise when it comes to handle men. They like boys who love their toys and Selfish. You have to be catch me if you can. 1) Love yourself 2) Able to live with yourself 3) Set boundaries 4) Respect yourself as a woman 5) Be very wise 6) Don’t take things personal 7) Watch your words 8) Able to control your thoughts and your actions 9) Choose wisely 10)Take care yourself mentally physical 11) Don’t be the first 1 to say I love you 12) Travel with that person before you move in together 12) Don’t tell your business with your man to your family or friends 13) Keep yourself very busy
Don't move in at all till marriage. Cohabitation isn't Wise because it's puts you in a place of compromise and temps the flesh
I Love Your teachings Pastor Blake's, because you back it up with the scriptures from the Holy Bible!
Amen!
Very good teaching
This is exactly the issues in my relationship. Every single one of these is lacking and my husband has been trying to convince me that Im asking for too much. Its all my fault, he never wouldve passed the tests if I wouldve known before. I found all of these things to be necessary on my own. You put them into words beautifully.
Hello Pastor you are a blessing to me as 22 yr old woman.
There should be no excuses for staying in a relationship with someone that puts you through more stress and pain over love and joy.
💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
The Queens are here. God bless each of you. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
These teachings are for generations to come. I pray Gods blessing over a man who has covered us as daughters of God.
Amen!!!
Bless Pastor Blake!!!🙏🙏🙏
Can’t wait to hear the word; I have been watching u for months & caught up to ALL ur videos. The way the Lord uses you to minister is a blessing to my soul. 😇 - Minister Mari
Thank you. I am honored. 😊🙏🏽
Thanks for your words of wisdom. You are helping me rebuild the broken areas with… Completely, queen conscious! Thank you🙏🏾
@@RCBlakesJr. God go with you! Lead and give you the words we need to hear that God gives you to share. With Us!!!
Yes try the Spirits .watch how they operate in their lives.The words they speak when the man feels lax and comfortable around you. When they feel that they can be their real personality identity self!!!
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When your “standard is broken”…it’s time to pray, look inward, ask the Father to help you heal and draw closer. Thank you for your teachings. God bless you!
This teaching is my “level up” Praise God Blakes ministry
Girl me too💯♥️
Blessings sisters
You are doing EXACTLY WHAT GOD WANTS YOU TO DO......teach women (even me who at age 75, widowed aft. 53 yrs. in happy, good marriage....YET has been lacking in social skills because I never HAD to!!!...now I'm having to learn things I NEVER HAD A CLUE ABOUT!!!) So, that said....KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE DOING PLEASE and I give GOD all the glory for it, which I can tell you are already doing. And thank you!
I listen every night as I go to sleep.
That’s funny- I do the same!!
Lol same!!
This is going to be GOOD. I feel it in my soul.
Me toooo
Me three
You describe a dance where a woman can trust the true course of the man and follow his lead, and so then can 'submit' to the beauty of the music and movement of two as one...
Thankyou, beautiful
God is going to keep blessing you both and your ministry because you are helping so many.🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Your wise words will work in any relationship. If you could include teachings for widows or those of us over 50 who are considering remarrying that’d be much appreciated. There are different dynamics in 2nd marriages, adult children, etc. Love your teaching.
I agree!
I agree
Me too...I agree!
Ooooooooh Jesus
How I wish I had this message in my young teens, twenties and thirties.
Wow. Speechless. I never learned how to vet him. Now after heartbreak amd divorce I am understanding thanks to you. Keep teaching ⚘Thank you
Me either!!! 3 marriages down the drain!
We got this ladies! Abusive marriage and dead end 10 year relationship later, I'm ready for this relationship to myself for myself. We're going to get our king's one day!
I love this man. He helps us to set our bar high, be able to look the finer side of a man where most times we women overlook . @RCBlakes, you also need to run a course or a channel for parents. Most times parents need to instill good values and be a good example when the child is growing up. Why I am suggesting this? Coz I believe most of us are built the way we see our parents interact and our environment. Our surroundings makes us who we are.
Very valid point, I feel the same.
Amen! God is so faithful that even when I try to back slide he steps in on my behalf and I'm able to be kept!!! I have the power and authority over my flesh to wait for my KING and hold myself and walk as a QUEEN
Thank you so much for the prayer at the end 💯💖
So good - thank you
There's a lot of people "Talking" but not "Truthing". Wise counsel.
Wow! Thank you for a buffet of food for thought on managing relationships.
Hi everyone good to be here from Trinidad and Tobago
Years ago I dated a guy for a bit, then one day I told him about my dream.. my passion of photography. Mind you, I'm already one and I have some success behind my back. He told me my dream was too much and that I should pick something more down to earth.
Dropped him that same conversation and told him why.
Never done better cut in my love life!
These people just weigh you down. Life is challenging enough without them.
Queens ask questions only a king can answer!!
I know that's right 👍.
Some men get very angry and shout when you ask them certain questions like about their marital status!
@Deborah you are right... that's that red sign... runnnnnn lol
Amen!!! That's why I have been Celibate for 4 years!!! God is Awesome! I pray that God continues to keep me until I get married.🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
Yessss!!! THANK YOU ❤you provided all that is needed!.
How accomplished you are for all those you help to find true love. We all need love, we all want love, we all hope for love, we all hope for lasting love. You are on point with your direction. We just need to trust and follow your teachings. More importantly set our standards ,values and expectations and NEVER waiver. Ladies we are the power!
"When you ask questions and they get offended!" That's your answer! "When you ask questions and you get no answers!" "That's your answer!"
The male I been knowing for over 5 yrs told me that he hates questions cause questions lead to answer! He said that women trap men when they ask questions!
"If a man really loves a woman he is alright with questions, real talks, long talks for hours!
When a man really loves uou he opens up hie heart cause he wants a female to trust him. When a woman asks not accuses question after question for general understanding it's cause she wants to be able to trust you.
'The marriage it is not the death of me, it is the birth of we' ...Great! Thank you Pastor Blakes 💕
i married someone who was not supposed to go past being an acquaintance. we dint last past 3months in the marriage. i dint have this knowledge and wisdom, thanks so much for this pastor RC
THIS IS GOLDEN! G O L D E N
Good evening Bishop Blakes and First Lady Lisa Blakes🙏 I am so thankful for your ministry helping fatherless women like myself. ❤
Str8 awesomeness
I loved this informative video as I am talking to a potential husband. And I know my worth and I am a woman of high values. I want to do the right thing with Gods blessing!
Sending many blessings your way!
Thank you for your teachings in Gods name!
Watching for the 2nd time
I love your channel! Still grateful for your teachings! While I have been engaged, I'm so glad I did not go through with that wedding! He was a horrible man and I knew it. Now I'm glad that I purposely take the time to date these men and figure out what they want from me. I have learned that I am lusted after by alot of men. Smh🤦🏽♀️ When you said is it infatuation, that's exactly how I feel, they feel about me. Until they get into this hot seat! I asked a man yesterday is he ready for the hard questions because some men tend not to be, even when they think they are. He said I will answer your questions! 😆 I have also had the man who came to visit me in flashy cars. When I asked him to teach me about stocks, he gave me nothing. He was the most inconsistent man I have ever met. So I took heed and moved on. I love testing a man to see where his mind is. It is so vital to my life and my purpose as a feminine woman. It has taken some time to get here. But I am here!
1: Proves his self-control.
If a man can’t abstain from having sex; he won’t be able to abstain when he’s married. Proverbs 6:20;31:2-4
2: Proves his servants heart: by expressing my needs and watching how he reacts. Ephesians 5:24
3: Proves his synergy with his woman.
• Shares her dreams with him.
• Are we equally yoked?
Marriage isn’t the death of me but birth of WE!
A man that is too small for you; he will always be imitated by “his woman”. Genesis 37:8
4: Proves his authenticity through questions 1 Kings 10:1
• Ask a man the Hard questions?
Any man that’s authentic and genuine; is a man that’s comfortable with your questions.
A real man asks for trust.
When a woman interrogates a man, she is wanting to rest in her femininity.
5: Proves his by his capacity to rest with you. Judges 16:19
If a man has sex with you, and he leaves shortly after, he’s not your man.
6: Is he learning your love language?
1 Corinthians 4:5
If he isn’t learning you, he isn’t invested in you.
7: Can I please him?
When a woman can’t please a woman, her self-esteem is ruptured.
Thanks
#1 is rare especially in 2022. Men can pause and take their time pretend to be deeply involved.
I’m learning to be celibate again and hold unto to my cookie till I feel fully ready.
I love the fact that this Pastor is open about his life. He doesn’t hold back. Now he is happily married.
Thank you
@Nurse Raqki Joie - Thank you for the notes. 🙂🙏
Pastor your truly annoited and I'm thankful for your life. I love your sense of humour, you put a smile on my face when you say 'Clowns in Crowns 👑' I once had one! Your words touch my soul and bring me to tears, just what woman needs from a wise father figure. I start my day with your videos without fail! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
My 1st time listening to u Pastor Blakes it was sooo very enlightening & refreshing i wish I had this knowledge b4 I got married & divorced....understanding a man and his intentions is key.....thank u for knowledge
You just described everything I’ve been doing subconsciously. I ask any man that shows interest questions upon questions while guarding my heart. So far, none have been able to Elicit trust because my questions were not answered.
This was one of your best father / daughter talk/teachings yet. Pastor R.C.Blakes God bless you and your wife first Lady Lisa Blakes 🙏
Wish I had this information in my early 20s, but learning it at 30 in this format/teaching is so refreshing. Tfs your knowledge with us Pastor Blakes! God bless you💫
God bless you sir. You are a spiritual guide to many. Thank you for your teachings
Powerful and Outstanding!
Thank you for your wisdom tonight.God Bless you and Mrs Blake's
When a woman questions and interrogates a man, she's working to a place where she can trust him in order to be In her role and allow him to lead 🥳🥳🥳🔥
This part sums up the whole message! Everything is locked solid within this simple context! If he can’t / won’t answer questions, red flag flying all over the place!! Let the whole thing go, he’s not the one for you.
Wow. Pastor Blake's, I'm 45 and you say things I've never heard before but you make so much sense. May God bless you and thank you for your words of wisdom.
I am excited to be apart of this evenings presentation 🙌
Finally made me a list of do and don't for relationship. Inspired by a friend. And Sir Blake's just solidified my Righteousness inclination, to God be the Glory. Thank you Sir Blakes
Although the videos that are helping me through this difficult time were made between 1-3 yrs ago, they are speaking to my heart and soul TODAY! The exact messages that I need to hear are being delivered through this amazing servant of GOD to help his Queens and KINGS improve themselves and each other. I thank GOD that he allowed me to find you on this platform. Much love and blessings to you and your beautiful wife Lisa. GOD bless! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
GOD Bless you Bishop for speaking about this pertinent subject!! 🙏 ❤
Wow .. eye opening.. I’m just seeing it as I’m growing in a Queen consciousness
Thanks Mr Blake I write down all ur points in my note book. Thanks alot man of god. God bless u and pray for me to find a great man of God husband like u🙏
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Amen preach Pastor If you can't refrain from Lust Lust will consume your life God will keep you if you want to be kept
Amen!! Pastor,I appreciate you. You are teaching me, my daughters and sister and family. May the Lord continue to keep you and your family safe
Hello Bishop and everyone listening. Ready to enjoy and receive the message
Hello. Yes I am and shared it.
Ok so the introduction was a whole word by itself!!! 🙌🏽 thanks pastor for this word I so needed this as a reminder during this time of season 🙏🏽
Whew Praise the Lord Bishop!! I’m chuckling because I don’t know how to test 😂😂😂
Thank God for you. I’m so happy He led me here.
I love this word. It reminds me of animals. Males have to fight and/or prove themselves before the female animal submits herself to him.
I am absorbing these teachings and sharing with my sister and friends!, THAN YOU, pastor Blakes!
At last, I am on time!!
I share your video with many, you’ve been such a blessing to me. Thank you for keeping it real, God Bless you & ur wife. Look forward to seeing you both in Houston, Tx. 🙏🏼
Excellent Teaching and I AGREE ❗️👏🏾 My Significant Other heard some of his teaching from another video ; and he agreed that Mr. Blakes is SPOT ON❗️
This is my favorite video from you. It’s saved in my “Femininity Journey” playlist here on TH-cam. I’ve watched this several times. I put it on as I clean up my space or cook or clean. I just love this message so much. Your content really has made such a huge difference in shaping the woman I’ve become. Thank you RC!🫶🏾♥️
I love the idea the have a feminity journey playlist. Do you mind sharing your playlist?
GOD BLESS YOU, WORDS OF AFIFIRMATION, SO MUCH NEEDED❤🔥🔥💜🙏🏿
Thank God for your wisdom you are anointed and appointed for such a time as this to teach the women but also the man that would hear and not being offended or timid dated but learn to be blessed in their marriage and their relationship Godly marriage first putting God first honor that and blessed a man mentally physically and yes financially Thank You Pastor RC Blake, Beautiful Wife for being a Example of what a Marriaged couple should represent!🙏🏾🙌🏾👩❤️👩💞
“True fulfillment happens in the expression of our individuality. “ 🙏🏾🥰
This is definitely Most Definitely One Of Your Best Like always thank you so much Pastor. Hello to the lovely first lady Lisa. Ty ty.
Thanks to the Almighty God for sending Pastor R C BLAKES TO teach us Soo much about being the right kind of Woman in the eyes of God.. 🇹🇹
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Wish i knew this many year's ago took notes 📝 thank you for your teachings Pastor Blakes🙏
Good night. I am watching from Anguilla in the Caribbean. I am always blessed by your videos, Bishop Blakes.
Hello Pastor Blakes. Thanks for this message. The Holy Spirit has been speaking to me about this in this season of my life. My boundaries have been violated time and time again by this man and I'm at a point where I am no longer playing his game. Thank you for empowering young women all over the world. Your South African daughter here!
The greatest gift a woman can give to a man is her FEMININITY, not just her feminine body. Woman’s body is a part of much bigger picture which includes spirit, energy, beauty, passion, and love. A body without a feminine soul means nothing.
Once again , your guidance is of Excellence Pastor Blakes. Thank you for speaking truth always. 🙏 ❤