I really like how they talked about relationships without using their own as an example. They didn't assume everyone's relationship is the same. Instead, they gave general advice that works for many people. This way, everyone can relate and apply the advice to their own life. It's very helpful because it allows us to think for ourselves and make our own decisions about our relationships. They didn't try to fit everyone into one category, and that's very powerful.
Conversations between emotionally mature people who operate from a healed place, are self aware, vibrating to their highest… I thrive for this everyday by finding such podcasts and tapping into these spaces, doing my shadow work, reflecting, being in touch with my most broken, vulnerable and embarrassing side, and then healing those scars 1 step at a time. And I am glad to say that I have come a very long way after my divorce. I could listen to this man all day, everyday. Thank you guys for sharing so much light into this dark world. Ladies, fulfilling, safe, loving and HAPPY marriages exist. DO NOT SETTLE!!!
Thank you so much for this! This had made me realize how much I need to appreciate my partner, I thought I was over performing but I need to put more fire, more energy. Because seriously God has blessed me beyond with this man Im gonna pull up my socks
I was telling hubby how TH-cam has gotten so boring and I can't really relate anymore to the topics but now this channel ma'am... You are doing the Lords work with the Dlaminis. We are so grateful, I hope my algorithm will lead me to more of such channels. Looking forward to more episodes, thank you.
Bazalwane, I need the What Women Want episode. It’s rough la endlini. This episode had my fiancé clapping as though he has won the lottery 😂. We’re using the series as pre-marital counselling 😁
Really enjoyed this Podcast. Came here because i saw Dr Bakhe Dlamini after listening to him on another podcast and enjoyed his way of articulating situations in relationships. I am 29 years old and not yet married, but in a serious relationship and I enjoy watching such content because I am doing my best to improve as a man and my relationships. I think it's very important for us young people who are not yet married to watch such content because marriage doesn't start after the wedding, but the foundations are set during the dating phase, because people don't miraculously learn new habits after the wedding day. So big ups and we need more of this content.
The way this has been so triggering, just showed me how much more deep healing I need from the Balm of Gilead from my traumatic experiences in the hands of ex-lovers (including ex-husband). I am glad I came across this. Thank you for allowing God to use you to invite me to a deeper place of healing. I would have not known that I had unresolved issues, that only God can resolve, had I not been "irritated and annoyed" by this narrative. More so that I wish to get married again. Thank you so much! God keep you and bless you.
We need to talk about the issue of men not wanting to be 100% providers. There is 50%/50% nowadays and it is affecting the role of the wife. The wives work hard and always feel tired and still expected to think of motherly and wifely duties. Most men need to step up as leaders of their homes. They expect us women to be everything.
I am happily married but got both my eyes and ears glued on this!! We should always be willing to learn and grow in marriage, just like in every area of life.
i love how they unpack on the many aspects a woman can woman up, and how also the 50/50 doesnt work in a relationship but 100/100 does...quite a very eye opening discussion and we thank you somuch for us who arnt married but lare looking forwad to.
You know even though I'm still young you know I'm 35 years of age, meaning I'm in a category of the young adults of these country. You know and again despite the fact that I'm still in a category of single Men of these planet, you know but I can tell you now that ever since I started watching your podcast. You know within a short period of time, I have learned so many things I didn't know as a Man about romantic relationships romance and marriage.🔥✌🏽
I enjoyed this. Been married for 10 years now and some things we forget or let go off over the years and need these chats as a reminder. Thanks for sharing.
I am glad I came across this podcast. I have met an evolved man- not afraid to articulate his needs. This is teaching me how to balance everything. PS# I never understood why a certain man wanted me to pick up what he would wear to work- until one day I asked a friend's brother and he explained the nurturing part.
Thank you so much for this Podcast. I am a big fan. I am engaged and the courtship still feels like a new experience even though it has been 8 months. This has been so insightful. Keep them coming, there is a gap.
I have a problem that im self aware of I won’t mention it but im grateful you touched on it. I really feel the need to change cause I’m married to a king and I don’t want to see him leave because of that problem. You mentioned it as a number one key to man’s heart. ❤️ ❤ thanks bo Dlamini
Am learning alot on this podcast about marrige and love. Thnx alot 4 opening my eyes. Nw am trying to practice some mistakes I made. Thnx Mr and Mrs Dlamini❤
Wow. Thank you so much. I do appreciate. It is my first time watching and I won't look back. I do relate so much to what you have talked about. God Bless❤
For as long as men see themselves as superior to women none of these talk will ever work... We are both human,before you are a man or a woman you are human and respect is mandatory to all.Do unto others as you would like done to you period!!
If you are a Bible believing Christian, you will note that respect is due to your husband and from your husband, love is due to you as his wife. Nothing to do with superiority or inferiority. Just the order of God. There is such a blessing in the household when things are done according to the order of God.
Wow 👌, what a conversation. Learning a lot. It is unfortunate that some of us our background has suppressed the feminine part in us 🤔 We need to WOMAN UP!
Thank you for this conversation I really needed it a lot. I'm a married man and exactly I relate to almost all these sentiments ❤ thank you my sister and the power couple
It's my first time here and wow I've learnt alot after listening to this, i have realized my mistakes nd I'm willing to save my marriage by starting over❤❤❤❤thank you so much guys
@@nanit06 the men need to wake up and play their roles if not the woman will keep leading since she has her babies to feel some compassion for her babies she can't also a bondon them.
Like in my relationship. I checked out emotionally and physically now cos Im taking all family responsibilities I'm exhausted and he doesn't care. Even if I try to ask him to help he will help while nagging and complaining
So true, we dream up until the Vail and thereafter is trauma for me. I find acts of service the most difficult, I want to do what needs to be done, go to work come back and rest and here he wants to be served and I'm struggling this is not what I signed up for 😢😢😢
A lovely session...Sis Kwanda interjects however I believe maybe it's because she doesn't want to forget her point but nonetheless big ups to the POWER couple.Thank you for opening our eyes...Keep helping us, our brothers, our "boy child" need a lot this teachings .. May God continue strengthening and using you...Marriage is created by God and its a beautiful thing.. Thanks once more..
My man will not even help me wash a car for me or even change tyres for me. I will work to provide, clean and cook,, do laundry, look after kids, and can't even give me money. He doesn't even trust me with his money. How do I woman up while I'm made to feel like a single man?
You know very well you shouldn’t be with that man. You will never be happy and he will never love you the way you want. But ofcourse many of you will hang on trying to “fix yourselves” for the wrong men.
That's what the society always expect from us. We are always told to fix ourselves even doing all that and breaking. It's sad cos now I don't even know whether to leave the children with him or leave with them as he always threatens me with the kids and take them to his mother without talking to me either saying they are his. @@Vv-fl2rm
A wonderful session. I like hearing that we are different on the definition of intimacy and sex including other lot of things. Now, how do we balance those differences?
My husband never talks n when i talk, uthi i love to complain n ngifuna kuzwiwe ngam. He's the one to say, everything is perfect for him, while for me, its down right booorriiing marriage we have here! We 11yrs into it n have learnt to keep quiet over the years. We can drive from Jozi to East rand to Pretoria without a word to each one . Or maybe random comments about other things nje! Kuningi, i need consultation with the couple if they do, alone n then as a couple. Please share their details if they do. Thank you in advance.🙏
This is definitely the reality of it, they do not wanna talk and when you do they label it as complaints. It is hurting to even continue addressing the issues at stake because you can see where it will lead to; silence. And when you finally keep quiet the entire house will be in silence, nothing is the same once it reaches that point. I hope you will find help, best of luck!
Just to caution with love... I am a very soft spoke lady, that's just how I am. I know other ladies who aren't so "soft," but that's OK because soft doesn't always equal respectful. So if you are loud and bold and bubbly and crazy, there is a man out there who loves a woman like you, so you don't have to be like Mrs Dlamini. Just respect your husband the way he wants to be shown respect. ❤
And also look at his expressions (facial expressions and body language) that also help with learning what your man want and need Can you guys also please post videos on your TH-cam page, vlogs eh 'a day in our life vlog, spend a weekend with us, ect"
Thank you so much for this, it's an eye opener especially when it comes to sex. I never understood why so much sex 😂😂 I wanted to blame the elders for saying give him anytime he wants
Mina I have tried to save my marriage and to make it work.but the guy doesn’t wanna come to party...instead he cheats like hell.he even flirt with other women in front of me....(ask them cell numbers).😌ke feletswe...
Nokwanda... Please help. I grew up with a single mom, dad passed away when I was 6 years old. My mom did everything in her power to raise us, all 5 of us are now professionals. How do I see myself after the veil because I don't know what happens in marriages
Sorry I am not Nokwanda but perhaps this can help: Perhaps in the community of abazalwane (the born agains) you can look up from a certain married couples (do not idolize them though cause they are not angels), can attend marriage seminars, read books about marriage and families, more than anything else ask GOD to teach and guide you in your journey. Don't worry all will be well. I share almost your same story and now I am married for 24 yrs this year. It was not easy but here we are. We go for seminars, discuss each other's challenges, see a psychologist when we get stuck etc. kumnandi ❤️❤️❤️
You must allow your guest to introduce themselves and tell us who they are. I am looking for any clip where they says they are psychologists where did they study their undergad and post grad studies in psychology
I really like how they talked about relationships without using their own as an example. They didn't assume everyone's relationship is the same. Instead, they gave general advice that works for many people. This way, everyone can relate and apply the advice to their own life. It's very helpful because it allows us to think for ourselves and make our own decisions about our relationships. They didn't try to fit everyone into one category, and that's very powerful.
Conversations between emotionally mature people who operate from a healed place, are self aware, vibrating to their highest… I thrive for this everyday by finding such podcasts and tapping into these spaces, doing my shadow work, reflecting, being in touch with my most broken, vulnerable and embarrassing side, and then healing those scars 1 step at a time. And I am glad to say that I have come a very long way after my divorce.
I could listen to this man all day, everyday. Thank you guys for sharing so much light into this dark world. Ladies, fulfilling, safe, loving and HAPPY marriages exist. DO NOT SETTLE!!!
My brother, you're exactly speaking what all men want and need
as a single person aspiring to be married, this was eye opening, very profound🥰💖
Thank you so much for this! This had made me realize how much I need to appreciate my partner, I thought I was over performing but I need to put more fire, more energy. Because seriously God has blessed me beyond with this man Im gonna pull up my socks
I’m with you. Let’s do better
I was telling hubby how TH-cam has gotten so boring and I can't really relate anymore to the topics but now this channel ma'am... You are doing the Lords work with the Dlaminis. We are so grateful, I hope my algorithm will lead me to more of such channels. Looking forward to more episodes, thank you.
I felt so acknowledged during that pause of updating and thanking us
This serves as a pre-marital counseling for me as a born again Christian girl. Thank you so much, I have learned
My reading at the look of Mrs Dlamini looking at the husband saying in her heart that this man is so profound
Agreed 😂
Bazalwane, I need the What Women Want episode. It’s rough la endlini. This episode had my fiancé clapping as though he has won the lottery 😂. We’re using the series as pre-marital counselling 😁
Really enjoyed this Podcast. Came here because i saw Dr Bakhe Dlamini after listening to him on another podcast and enjoyed his way of articulating situations in relationships. I am 29 years old and not yet married, but in a serious relationship and I enjoy watching such content because I am doing my best to improve as a man and my relationships. I think it's very important for us young people who are not yet married to watch such content because marriage doesn't start after the wedding, but the foundations are set during the dating phase, because people don't miraculously learn new habits after the wedding day. So big ups and we need more of this content.
this is great wisdom from a young man 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Marriage is hard especially when we don't see eye to eye and don't understand each other’s love language.
That's where communication must be clear on about such
How would u want to be loved
The way this has been so triggering, just showed me how much more deep healing I need from the Balm of Gilead from my traumatic experiences in the hands of ex-lovers (including ex-husband). I am glad I came across this. Thank you for allowing God to use you to invite me to a deeper place of healing. I would have not known that I had unresolved issues, that only God can resolve, had I not been "irritated and annoyed" by this narrative. More so that I wish to get married again. Thank you so much! God keep you and bless you.
We need to talk about the issue of men not wanting to be 100% providers. There is 50%/50% nowadays and it is affecting the role of the wife. The wives work hard and always feel tired and still expected to think of motherly and wifely duties. Most men need to step up as leaders of their homes. They expect us women to be everything.
I am happily married but got both my eyes and ears glued on this!! We should always be willing to learn and grow in marriage, just like in every area of life.
All I can say is "wow"❤❤❤❤❤... May God continually protect, annoint and bless this family in every area of their lives.
This is so beautiful, I have enjoyed . Please film more of these , very powerful ❤️
This episode confirmed that my absent father syndrome and strong mother i experienced will never make me to understand marriage and I GIVE UP!!
i love how they unpack on the many aspects a woman can woman up, and how also the 50/50 doesnt work in a relationship but 100/100 does...quite a very eye opening discussion and we thank you somuch for us who arnt married but lare looking forwad to.
Wow! What a discussion?! The man here get it. A Bible principled and the woman has women up for sure. Thank you for sharing
You know even though I'm still young you know I'm 35 years of age, meaning I'm in a category of the young adults of these country. You know and again despite the fact that I'm still in a category of single Men of these planet, you know but I can tell you now that ever since I started watching your podcast. You know within a short period of time, I have learned so many things I didn't know as a Man about romantic relationships romance and marriage.🔥✌🏽
What an awesome podcast, thanks for being so candid and spot on.
I enjoyed this. Been married for 10 years now and some things we forget or let go off over the years and need these chats as a reminder. Thanks for sharing.
I am glad I came across this podcast. I have met an evolved man- not afraid to articulate his needs. This is teaching me how to balance everything.
PS# I never understood why a certain man wanted me to pick up what he would wear to work- until one day I asked a friend's brother and he explained the nurturing part.
Thank you so much for this Podcast. I am a big fan. I am engaged and the courtship still feels like a new experience even though it has been 8 months. This has been so insightful. Keep them coming, there is a gap.
I have a problem that im self aware of I won’t mention it but im grateful you touched on it.
I really feel the need to change cause I’m married to a king and I don’t want to see him leave because of that problem. You mentioned it as a number one key to man’s heart.
❤️ ❤ thanks bo Dlamini
Am learning alot on this podcast about marrige and love. Thnx alot 4 opening my eyes. Nw am trying to practice some mistakes I made. Thnx Mr and Mrs Dlamini❤
When I saw this episode and immediately shared with her
But what if a King doesn't treat you like a Queen but treat you like his slave? What happens then....
Yhoo I'm watching and learning so much
Wow. Thank you so much. I do appreciate. It is my first time watching and I won't look back. I do relate so much to what you have talked about. God Bless❤
Thank you so much foe unpacking what respect to a men means ❤
Thank you for the teachings in this video Dr and Mrs Dlamini.
For as long as men see themselves as superior to women none of these talk will ever work... We are both human,before you are a man or a woman you are human and respect is mandatory to all.Do unto others as you would like done to you period!!
If you are a Bible believing Christian, you will note that respect is due to your husband and from your husband, love is due to you as his wife. Nothing to do with superiority or inferiority. Just the order of God. There is such a blessing in the household when things are done according to the order of God.
Wow 👌, what a conversation. Learning a lot.
It is unfortunate that some of us our background has suppressed the feminine part in us 🤔
We need to WOMAN UP!
Wow I now see where to set the boundary ☺️
Thank you for this conversation I really needed it a lot. I'm a married man and exactly I relate to almost all these sentiments ❤ thank you my sister and the power couple
This is so empowering
I enjoyed this session. So insightful for us black middle class women aspiring to be married.
It's my first time here and wow I've learnt alot after listening to this, i have realized my mistakes nd I'm willing to save my marriage by starting over❤❤❤❤thank you so much guys
Just what i needed ive really learned alot
But there are some careless men. Who leave all family responsibilities to the wife
🤔what do you suggest is the solution in a situation like this?
@@nanit06 the men need to wake up and play their roles if not the woman will keep leading since she has her babies to feel some compassion for her babies she can't also a bondon them.
Like in my relationship. I checked out emotionally and physically now cos Im taking all family responsibilities I'm exhausted and he doesn't care. Even if I try to ask him to help he will help while nagging and complaining
Profound, thank you so much ❤. Kindly teach us about inlaws and sex.
Guys I'm so grateful
My son is used to having his food on a tray, because that's how i taught him from a very early age. He's a teenager now
Anxiety 101 listening to this
Great episode,notes taken...Can we also have an episode abt What woman want...l used to do all good but l also have checked out
This Doc is on point with very good ideas
Hello, how do you pour from an empty cup?
Powerful discussion I learnt a lot thank you
Truths only this was very insightful those who have ears will hear and do
True Nokwanda, I struggle with the begging ei ei 😂 you just related very well with an absence of a father
😂😂😂😂
So true, we dream up until the Vail and thereafter is trauma for me. I find acts of service the most difficult, I want to do what needs to be done, go to work come back and rest and here he wants to be served and I'm struggling this is not what I signed up for 😢😢😢
"Modernity" is killing our family structure! We need to wake up! A.lotmof this is commonsense and not being selfish.
A lovely session...Sis Kwanda interjects however I believe maybe it's because she doesn't want to
forget her point but nonetheless big ups to the POWER couple.Thank you for opening our eyes...Keep helping us, our brothers, our "boy child" need a lot this teachings ..
May God continue strengthening and using you...Marriage is created by God and its a beautiful thing..
Thanks once more..
Interesting conversation
This is great...
❤❤❤❤I pray to be a better person for me and my future husband ❤
My man will not even help me wash a car for me or even change tyres for me. I will work to provide, clean and cook,, do laundry, look after kids, and can't even give me money. He doesn't even trust me with his money. How do I woman up while I'm made to feel like a single man?
listen from 36.52 on the video
You know very well you shouldn’t be with that man. You will never be happy and he will never love you the way you want. But ofcourse many of you will hang on trying to “fix yourselves” for the wrong men.
That's what the society always expect from us. We are always told to fix ourselves even doing all that and breaking. It's sad cos now I don't even know whether to leave the children with him or leave with them as he always threatens me with the kids and take them to his mother without talking to me either saying they are his. @@Vv-fl2rm
A wonderful session. I like hearing that we are different on the definition of intimacy and sex including other lot of things. Now, how do we balance those differences?
I wish I learned some of these things earlier❤
Learned a lot! Wowsers
Insightful,thank you Nkhosi
Insightful! Thank you!
This is awesome
Thank you
❤ you are real and practical thank you
Eish!!! I'm just as good as an ATM
This helped ALOT!
Thank you so much, we really appreciate..
Wow school in session 👌
My husband never talks n when i talk, uthi i love to complain n ngifuna kuzwiwe ngam. He's the one to say, everything is perfect for him, while for me, its down right booorriiing marriage we have here! We 11yrs into it n have learnt to keep quiet over the years. We can drive from Jozi to East rand to Pretoria without a word to each one . Or maybe random comments about other things nje! Kuningi, i need consultation with the couple if they do, alone n then as a couple. Please share their details if they do. Thank you in advance.🙏
This is definitely the reality of it, they do not wanna talk and when you do they label it as complaints. It is hurting to even continue addressing the issues at stake because you can see where it will lead to; silence. And when you finally keep quiet the entire house will be in silence, nothing is the same once it reaches that point. I hope you will find help, best of luck!
She’s such a wife material powerful yet soft. I wish God could help me to be this way to prepare me for my future husband ❤
Just to caution with love... I am a very soft spoke lady, that's just how I am. I know other ladies who aren't so "soft," but that's OK because soft doesn't always equal respectful. So if you are loud and bold and bubbly and crazy, there is a man out there who loves a woman like you, so you don't have to be like Mrs Dlamini. Just respect your husband the way he wants to be shown respect. ❤
Thanks dear I appreciate your encouragement 😘😘🌟🌟✨✨👏🏽👏🏽💖💖🙏🏽🙏🏽
Can we have another part..😢😢
Thank you so much, I'm really learning in each episode. May God blesses you and continue to use you🥰
Thank you so much for this podcast ❤. I'm learning a lot. May God continue to use you.
Thank you so much 🙏🏼❤
Thank you so much, learning a lot in every episode❤
Im learning
I need to do better as a wife😢😢
Problem with man you will wait and wait to be led, if you don't initiate he also relax.
N that make them seem like they don't know what they want and it's exhausting 😢
sad truth 😭
Thank you so much
True DrB...
A man can leave a marriage today but physically walk away 6 months later!! Go figure!
Hello mommy.
When is this "up-next" episode of What Women Want coming?
And also look at his expressions (facial expressions and body language) that also help with learning what your man want and need
Can you guys also please post videos on your TH-cam page, vlogs eh 'a day in our life vlog, spend a weekend with us, ect"
How can one book a session with you the Dlaminis
Thank you guys so much
❤️❤️❤️
I agree with all that they are saying🎉
Thank you so much for this, it's an eye opener especially when it comes to sex. I never understood why so much sex 😂😂 I wanted to blame the elders for saying give him anytime he wants
Mina I have tried to save my marriage and to make it work.but the guy doesn’t wanna come to party...instead he cheats like hell.he even flirt with other women in front of me....(ask them cell numbers).😌ke feletswe...
True that the thing😢
So sad@@cebohnkosi6102
Adultery is grounds for divorce, Biblically. God doesn’t want you living that way.
What if he cheats?
Divorce. Biblically.
Niyasifundisa kakhulu
Nokwanda... Please help. I grew up with a single mom, dad passed away when I was 6 years old. My mom did everything in her power to raise us, all 5 of us are now professionals. How do I see myself after the veil because I don't know what happens in marriages
Sorry I am not Nokwanda but perhaps this can help:
Perhaps in the community of abazalwane (the born agains) you can look up from a certain married couples (do not idolize them though cause they are not angels), can attend marriage seminars, read books about marriage and families, more than anything else ask GOD to teach and guide you in your journey. Don't worry all will be well.
I share almost your same story and now I am married for 24 yrs this year. It was not easy but here we are. We go for seminars, discuss each other's challenges, see a psychologist when we get stuck etc. kumnandi ❤️❤️❤️
@@CbosEasyRecipes7 Ngiyabonga cc. I really appreciate it
I will not keep quiet if he takes my idea because his idea failed… that will never happen
😂
A real man isn't intimidated by a womans success, if anything it should push you as a man to do better, do more so you can elevate her even higher.
Wondering why I can't react more than once to this!
I tried the tray, the pampering, cooking meals....didn't work. Lingerie dismissed.
I have loved this program . Fake feminist ideas have destroyed the would be good marriages
You must allow your guest to introduce themselves and tell us who they are. I am looking for any clip where they says they are psychologists where did they study their undergad and post grad studies in psychology
In the University of LIFE.
Ephesians 5:22-33.
Stop interrupting each other!!! Let a person finish their thoughts!