navigating heartbreak - finding self, healing, learning
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ย. 2024
- Hi friends - Keeping it real here with a very vulnerable video about what I have been going through for the past month and just felt right to show up and share this. Rather than it being breakup-focused, I want to make it more about navigating back to yourself through heartbreak because it comes in many forms for various reasons. A few days after this happened I immediately turned to the internet and tried to find something to hold onto and what I found were stories about the breakup specifically but I wanted to make this more self-focused since every situation is so different. I hope your heart feels comforted by this insight into my heartbreak. I hope you feel seen and heard but also hopeful for yourself and possibly inspired to try any of these things. I hope this is a reminder to be gentle with yourself and that no one really knows how to handle heartbreak and you are never alone. I love you! Hang in there
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A soulmate is not found, it is made. Partners should choose each other every day and unfortunately he decided not to choose you. But don’t let that lead to questions of why. It’s not your fault. You are worthy of all the love, someone that sees that, and someone that chooses you over and over again.
I disagree. I don't believe you "make" a soulmate any more than you can make someone else "be" anything for you, people are what they are and I don't believe that is up to you or within your realm of control. It seems arrogant to me, to think you get to decide something like that.
i chose him every day but he did not choose me. struggling with self hatred and guilt for the mistakes ive made.
19 years together. 1/2 of my whole life. 2 kids, a beautiful house full of my dreams about the future we were going to build together.
He cheated. I asked him to move out two days ago. This is really painful. Same here: can’t eat, can’t sleep, sick symptoms. Self pity, tears. I’m watching all these videos hoping to find time terms of this grief. I really want to end it.
Hey! Please stay, you're worthy of so much love
I’m praying for you ❤️🙏🏾
I'm going to a breakup right now. I never felt so much pain. I feel like there is no future for me, no life, no happiness. I will never feel safe as I felt with him...
Found out he cheated last week at a party, received oral. I thought he was my best friend. But he did not choose me after I chose him for 4 years.
You are safer with yourself than in the arms of others who have the potential to destroy you.
I don't feel safe too
Hey there, I’m going through a break up too, and I understand what you are saying. It’s been 3 ish months now and let me tell you it was so so painful when it started, it hurt so much, I was miserable. And today as I right this I still miss him, I still want to text him and I still want him to text me, but if I compare my pain from today to that day when I was wailing like a child, then it’s already changed. I still miss him, but it’s nowhere near what it felt like, it’s because eventually everything does change. It would be the same for you too, even if your don’t believe me or it seems impossible, it willHappen, and you will be ok . even in these times, you have to remember that there was a time Before them and you were an amazing person with a bright future then, and you ARE an amazing person with a bright future now too. Never rely on anyone solely for your happiness, YOU should give yourself that
Happiness and safety. Don’t put him on a pedestal, you didn’t loose“ the one” ( if he was then he wouldn’t have made you feel this way), so don’t repeat that to yourself. You got this, it will get better, just take care of yourself, okay? Heartbreak is painful, but you are a strong person so keep your head up high:)
It is ABSOLUTELY normal to feel that way but let me tell you- you will get through this like, BELIEVE ME, I have been through the same and now after 2 months I feel my life is getting back on normal track a little. Just know that you will feel worse before it gets better, your mind will process this in positive way even though you feel hopeless now and then, just like how wounds get healed automatically, so hold on. TRUST ME. This difficult time shall pass as well. Peace, be still.
You are not alone 😢 my husband is divorcing me too 😢
I hope your doing better. I was literally dying a couple of months ago. I am not there yet but I am in a good space now. I'd never wish a heartbreak on anyone even on my worst enemy
Girl I think the same as you❤
Same. I broke up with him and it nearly killed me, it triggered severe depression in me. He was an angel and did nothing wrong, neither did I. I just wanted out and felt so guilty for breaking his heart. I honestly don't think I will ever get into a relationship ever again, it's just too painful 💔
Was only 4 months into this relationship but he was my first on everything, I was certain that he was the one and our future held so many good things but as I tried to understand him and why he was acting distant he decided that ending was for the best. I still don't accept this breakup because I hold so much love for him. He did not break up with me, he broke me completely. Never felt so insufficient in my life to the point of screaming out of pain to my parents who I never ran when I was hurting. But I know I'll be okay, I just have to find who I was before him and make me stronger and happier and learn to never lose myself again for another person. Your video helped me a lot and I hope that whenever I feel healed I can come back to this video, to this comment and assure that time heals everything and that it needed to happen.
This really helped me. I just had a marriage ceremony with my ex 2 weeks ago and the day after our honeymoon he decided to tell me he wasn’t in love with me anymore and didn’t see a family with me. Therefore, he refused to send our license in. I had no clue whatsoever and was extremely confused since we just had a ceremony. I’m def going through the grieving stage since we were together for 6 years, but this video helped me a lot. Thank you for posting this.
He is cruel gosh
I know this video is old but this video made me feel less alone. That burning pain in the chest is unbearable and breathing hurts but I'm going to try the Wim Hof method to see if it helps. You're so right, it's so hard to make friends as an adult. Thank you for sharing
Hey. Going through the breakup right now. Never in my life I thought this would be so painful to experience. It’s been almost a month, I’m better than first week, but sometimes it just feels so painful. And also the way it all ended makes it so much worse. I just can’t believe sometimes this is the reality I am in.
But what helps a lot are my family, friends, goals and just my ordinary life. Everyone around me is so supportive. Even tho I knew this relationship would never be it, it still feels as if someone took your heart out and scratches the hell out of it. I genuinely never wanna go through it.
Hope we all will be happier and better.
Everything in this video is so relatable.
So sorry to hear this. Please hang in there, okay? We'll get through this..
This video is filled with raw emotion that really got to me. I feel your pain and it reminded me of my own heartbreak (had to cry all the time :D) It sounds pathetic but time will heal your wounds. I just want to thank you for your honesty and authenticity!
wow. that felt like i was watching myself the last two months. thank you for making this and sharing with the world. your vulnerability is inspiring.
just got out of a year and half relationship, I was with him until I moved away to the Philippines so the second half of our relationship was LDR. told me he lost feelings for me, and it hurt the most because he was my number one support system. nobody was at fault and the breakup was mutual, but it just hurts so much losing somebody you love. thank you so much for sharing, I hope to get through this pain one day at a time.
Sending you big hugs! Experiencing heartbreak as well. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing this video. It helped me to feel less alone. You're so strong ♥️
I followed you a few months ago because of the ceramics. And I was really worried on your IG stories that you're going through this. I thought you guys were just so happy. I'm also going through a heartbreak right now. I have to watch this video because it also helps me on how to move on with the feelings.
I hope you're doing well these days. I wish you the best.
We broke up after two beautiful years. He got deployed to another country while I’m preparing for school abroad. At some point we comforted each other that everything was gonna be okay, that’s four years is nothing compared to the life we want to spend together. A week ago, he said he didn’t wanna go through long distance with me and that we should just focus on ourselves. Of course I agreed on his behalf because I didn’t want to be the only one pulling all the strings. But I just lost the love of my life and honestly don’t know how long this pain is gonna stay. Feels so empty
Oh my god, I've been watching youtube since it was a thing and I think this was one of the most interesting videos I've ever came across. You are amazing and the only thing I could think of throughout the video is how you are a great example of women just being incredible. Sending love
hhis video reminds me of myself at a stage, where I felt like nothing could ever make me feel ok again.
I had a heartbreak and it felt like the world ended in a way. your video showed me, how far I've come and how much I learned from it all. thanks :)
You are not alone! I am like this as well. Each day is a "fight". Keep your head moving on ;)
I hope you are doing okay and im glad of the changes you showed towards the end of the video. i am going thru my first heartbreak right now. i find talking about it reduces the pain by 2% at least. my partner of 9 years decided to left for the reason that i didnt treat her good enough and shes done with me. ive been trying to win her back for 4 months but today she asked me to let her go fully cuz shes dating someone else. shes been dating few people a month after it happened. it was never a breakup for me cuz i didnt want it so seeing her w someone else kills me cuz to me shes still mine. i feel like my whole life has ended before it even begins, im 27 now which the most important agento be stable and get married but its over for me. i dont think i'll ever love someone else ever bcuz im tired and i think its pointless. if a partner who knows everything about me, my strength, my weakness, bad and good, for 9 years together can get up and leave, why not anyone? its pointless. i dont know how to move forward but setting new goals for me helps a bit. i am ambitious and brave and loyal. and being loyal backfired on me. i loved her too much so now its hurting too much. idk
Going through a similar situation. I know it's hard. But let's try our best to stay strong. Sending healing energy and hugs!! We're not alone.
@aiden I hope you're doing much better now, that sounds incredibly painful
Aiden, I hope you are feeling better, and have hope. Be the best person you can be and love others, love will find you.
I find it so difficult when they leave or betray you, and then they try and come back a few months later when they realise…
I totally get this. Happend to me. Got betrayed and dumped only for her to come back after the summer and ask if we can be together again. I said no and moved on. That was 2 years ago. Feel you on that. Stay strong my friend you will see better days promise 😊🙏🙏
Really hoping that doesn’t happen to me
I hope you will pass this time and feel everything without resistence
We are here for you
So much love ❤❤
beautiful, wonderful teya. thank you for sharing this. i had to let go of the man i believe might be my person on friday, for reasons beyond my control. and it’s been so hard. this felt like a much needed hug. so thank you 🤍
Thank you for sharing your healing process, it made me cry but also feels good to see that we are not alone. Sending you lots of love and hugs Teya
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you want to manifest within two days🥰🥰
sending you a big hug, sister!
I totally get what you when you say you’re not hungry but you have to eat. I’m about four weeks into my grieving stage and it’s been unbearable pain. Can’t sleep can’t eat thinking so much my stomach was in knots. This heartbreak was different for me. It was emotionally painful. I am ready to get passed this.
wow we are very similar. i was broken up with. i feel intense self hatred and regret. i just want a time machine to change some things i did. i downloaded bumble for friends and then deleted it. i couldnt eat. i wake up and remember it all happened. its so painful
Bless, Wish the best for you and your journey ♥️
You literally have my dream hair
wow, this video is so soft and calm to watch, I was watching it while I was taking a bath. i literally understood everything u going through coz I'm currently there. It has been a day though but it hurts and I fear 2 things 1. What's gonna happen to me in 4 days, in weeks and months 2 being alone I really fear loneliness. he was the only one who killed my loneliness but now back to point 1 being alone the whole day crying n binge-watching break-up videos. this really ain't nice at all. i should be with him now watching our favorite shows but it is what it is I keep on reminding myself why I ended the relationship n I feel like a fool how dare I cry n miss someone who mistreated me like that even sold my late moms assets without my permission yet I'm here crying oh wow seems like I never stop disappointing myself. Thanks for ur calming video it was nice watching it at the same time painful
You are so inspirational!
Thanks a lot for sharing this video! It is definitely so inspiring and real. So glad to have found your TH-cam channel! All the love!
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Whatsapp him☝️☝️☝️☝️
I'm really going through a really hard times and i have exams n it's so hard to go through breakups 😭
Thank you for sharing 🦋🦋
You’re so beautiful this vlog came at the perfect time for me
your words are so accurate
I'm not feeling anything I broke it with him coz I have invested ALOT in that relationship and he didn't even did 50% of my efforts. It feels so bad but there's nothing I'm feeling rn I feel a Lil weird that what has happened and it ended but something is inside me that is restless I feel restless I can't sleep it's 6 am in the morning I can't sleep there's no one who can ask me or help me deal with this huge wierd emotion. Ps. It was 8 years long relationship I am tired of asking for efforts and emotional support. I've tried my best but I guess I was in the wrong 😕
Hey, you will be fine trust me it gets better with time. Gradually.
You're beautiful queen
I am extremely grateful for people like you who share their experiences. It gives so much hope. Thank you and wish you to find the way to happiness and peace again🤍 For whoever is going through the similar experience, it's a reminder that we need this pain to grow and sooner or later it will make sence! Sending you all a lot of love!
feel v seen after this, thank u v much! >:3
It’s been a month and I’m still not okay but he’s in a whole new relationship 3 days after the break up 😊😍🎀
beautiful x
I'm going through a break, i don't know what to do I'm stuck
First and foremost I’m going through the same thing and you’re not alone. For me it happened a couple days ago and what has helped is just letting myself feel every emotion. Our thoughts and feelings don’t really define us, it’s how we react to them is what defines us.
@@angelocastorani8744 yes, I'm getting better now. Thanks for your concern
Sending you love ❤Thank you for sharing
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the pit in the stomach is such a real thing.
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Especially the pain in your heart . It’s a stabbing pain. I’m going through it
Im going through a breakup. Its about a month in and I still don’t feel much during the day. I think its because when we did break up we werent talking and I was already checked out mentally. I felt more anger than sadness and that concerns me sometimes. I often miss him during the night because thats when my mind still thinks a lot. I’ve also had nightmares of how anxious I used to feel when I was in the relationship/almost close to breaking up.
same
In those dreams where you think about the anxiety in the relationship, that's your inner wisdom telling you it was not good for you. Sometimes the heart still has to catch up to what the brain already knows. Currently going through a breakup too. It's been horrible. Sending you so much love and support
I got broken up with about a week ago, after nearly 6 years together. He was living abroad for 4 months, and when he returned we were gonna move in together. But about halfway through, he came home for a weekend and it was an amazing weekend, too. We went camping and talked and hiked and sat at a campfire together. I visited him the weekend after (travelled 6 hours!!) to get there, and after going out for dinner, walking around his city and discussing the rest of the weekend, he waited until nearly midnight to tell me he hasn't had feelings for me since before he moved away. All that time he told me he loved me and that he missed me, but he wasn't in love me anymore when he said those things. Gosh, it physically hurts and the future we had discussed is now gone.
You will get through this! Sending you so much love 💗💗💗
The fact that I relate so much to thins-The pain really is physical😭It's tangible LMAO ngathi I'd die and resurrect when the pain is little lesser.
I’m so sad that you experienced that. Hope deferred is just the worst. I am experiencing tremendous heart break right now. I hope you are doing a little better now. Praying for healing and peace for you. ❤🙏🏾
you are so strong!! I'm going through the same thing right now, worst heartbreak I've ever felt, but I see the growth already, even if it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. We're gonna get through this and come out a higher versions of ourselves, everyday is a different - and that's actually the beauty of it. sending you so so so much love.
Send you a hug, im feeling the same.
So well said! 🥹✨
This was honest raw and beautiful! You are moving through this with so much grace! Thank you for sharing
Im just exhausted from the mental strain it’s put on my mind and my emotions. I keep journaling and it provides temporary relief but god do I miss him everyday so much. I want this to end and not knowing when it will is the part that kills me like I don’t have any hope that this will end soon. I want nothing more than to text him but im not going to. Im two months in god does it suck. He is never more than one thought away weather im working cleaning driving. My heart hurts and my brain hurts god does this consume so much energy. I don’t know if I’ll ever be okay again but I hope the rest of you guys heal up all the way❤
Just because still makes you cry doesn’t mean you aren’t moving on. I’m 2 months in too, and yes I miss him, I have accepted the fact that I’m always going to love him, bc at some point he was a really important person in my life, but we live without them before and we’ll do it again, let yourself be sad and cry all you want, but don’t think about the what if’s, try to wash it off, hope is the worst when going thru a heartbreak, but remember the love you gave them came from within you. You were always a lover, already someone who could love deeply, just bc they’re gone doesn’t mean that goes away. THEY DIDNT GIVE YOU THE CAPACITY TO LOVE, THEY JUST GAVE YOU A PLACE TO EXPRESS IT. And we shall fall in love again!!! We got this girl, don’t text him, remember he decided to walk away and you’re worth it, he’ll come back, bc they usually do but don’t let him, remember he broke you when you never deserved that, you probably always going to love him too, but just like you love an old friend, you’ll fall in love again, pray and pray and pray, sending you lots of love girl🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
English is not my native language, so sorry in advance for the misspelling 😭🫶🏽
@zuriii03 I’m only seeing this now❤ thank you so much for all the positive words of encouragement. I might not know you but you definitely helped me even today he crossed my mind especially with it being the 14th of Feb. I hope your heart is doing better and so are you. We will get through this and love again someday. I hope your doing well today sending love from South Africa
Three months for me today, and I feel the same exact way that you do. Sending you a comforting and empathetic hug your way. 🥺
i feel the exaxt same way. its extremely hard and painful almost all the time. but it will get better.
Thank you so much for this video. Im feeling so lost and lonely but now i realise im not alone in this.
im feeling like a dead. so much hurt and sadness
send you a hag, you Are so cute 🫶🏻
Sorry about my english..
My girlfriend just recently broke up with me. I feel so lost and alone. My anxiety is out the roof but I don't feel any pain in my chest. It's also really hard for me to cry. I feel like there's something wrong with me. I feel the pain cognitively but not in my body - which makes it harder to process. I wake up every hour of the night with a racing heart, racing thoughts and a feeling that I am going to die. I'm terrified of everything and what once felt safe doesn't anymore - even my own bed. It feels like it will never end.
I’m going through the exact same thing. It’s weird not being able to cry when you’re in so much pain. Always here to talk❤️
I'm so proud of you
I'm going thru it now.. I feel for you.. big hugs
❤❤❤❤❤ Sending lots of love and healing❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for this,
I'm through the half of the video and just wanted to genuinely say how much this means to me.
Sharing (feelings, experiences) is caring.
It is really hard to get through heartbreak, it is really hard to let go and it is harder to let go of the hope you had that you don't have to let go... but we are together in this.
What's this song in the background
Thank you so much for sharing something so emotional, vulnerable and personal. I’m sure it’s important for many people, as it is for myself