Hey BEAT family! Today, we focus on THE BROTHERS! Men, here are 5 things, as your online pastor (ha...since y'all call me pastor Parr anyway) I encourage you to stop doing. Which one(s) of these do you struggle with currently? On Friday we will come back and focus on the women. Enjoy!
@@thebeatagp I would say if a Christian man has no care to pursue a relationship to get married, just one to give him affirmation, or just to have a girlfriend he has no right or the privledge to pursue a Christian girl, or even a worldly girl for that matter, I.e. Paul Washer. :P
Christian men need to stop cussing. That goes for me as well. When I get really angry they just fly out of my mouth. That's something I need to pray about.
I did too. It was hard to stop until or once I got born again and filled with Holy Spirit. Now it won’t even come out. God really changed me and many others I know. Just surrender your life totally and take Him seriously put Him first. Keep praying and reading Bible. It will stop.
Of all things I struggle with it is this. Working on constructions sites all day I find myself struggling with this the most. I never swear at someone, but I do find myself swearing more than I would like. I also use an unhealthy amount of sarcasm.
I’m trying to get better at this. I sparingly say damn, he’ll, or $hit. F-bombs are off limits. It’s so prevalent now that when I meet new people I see how many, if any, F-bombs they use.
Thank you posting. My wife recently was led by the spirit to look into my social media and dms. She found inappropriate things, likes and flirtatious comments. She then said to me, you tell yourself that you have never cheated but in God’s eyes you have committed adultery!” This broke me to the core. I have since got rid of that social media and I am taking steps to clean up everything. Pray for our marriage and for me to continue in my repentance. Thank you 🙏🏽 and to God be the glory.
What stands out to me here, is how great God is, that He gave her the understanding and grace to see those things and work through it with you. I am sure other couples outcomes have not always been the same. God is always helping us!
Good on you for speaking up. Or should I say your wife for speaking up. It would have taken more courage from your wife to step up. That shows love as she was willing to communicate. Now to be blunt. You know the path to the promised land, get your sh*t sorted and don't turn back. You have so much support on your side.
This needed to be said! Great message. As far as finding value in things/accomplishments…yes it’s a very slippery slope. Everything in this life is hanging by a thread.. so true value is in our Eternal relationship with God.
God bless you bro Jerren. Thanks for being an active supporter on this channel as I am on yours. So glad we are friends and support one another. Can't wait to see your next documentary. Much love,
1. Inappropriate actions with women 2. Porn 3. Passive leading 4. Misleading women 5. Finding purpose in posessions This is powerful. Thank you Pastor! Also, we as man have to stop competing with each other in the body. Support and unity are essential
This is crazy!! I’m a personal trainer, and there are women I follow that post pics that aren’t overly sexual but boarder line. This morning a women posted a pic. I’m not attracted to her at all, so I was gonna like it to give her encouragement. But I felt convicted by the Holy Spirit not to like it. And now this video comes up! I was also delivered later today from demons of anxiety and fear which tormented me as a child. I know I’m delivered!Brothers and sisters of Christ, please keep me in your prayers!
Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and TH-cam channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.
Honestly thank you for sharing this . Gives me hope that God is working on men . Following threw and being obedient is key and I give u so much respect because this world is beyond sexualized and it's not easy . Keep up the amazing work.
Also, when men hit the like on racy photos it encourages that woman to keep doing what she's doing. Too many women's self worth is based on what people think of their appearance, and in the end it only builds a negative reputation, not her character or healthy self esteem.
Even down to the profile name which can incline men to interact on your posts. Honestly, a name like “713 Eye Candy” kind of insinuates something other than Christ. Not a bash, just something to bring to light.
@@Urboy5th nothing about my name would insinuate anything derogatory to someone who loves God in the first place. It might, however, to someone who is hoping to find racy content behind it in my opinion. Just in case you don't know, one great way to be Christ like is to not judge, especially without proper observation to test the spirit behind a thing. The name I chose is for many reasons that I will not spend time breaking down for you. You're entitled to your opinionated errored assumption, I'll stick with the fact of the matter. Much love to you, God bless, and have a superfantastic day!
I can relate to when you talked about stopping porn, that stuff is poison and very dangerous, it almost killed me last year, the Lord took me through a cleansing or a deliverance as some people call it, it was ugly, now I'm completely free from porn.
@Jerik G I know you asked someone else; but if you don't mind I would like to share. There were several verses and concepts that I had to link together. The enemy uses inaccurate preconceived notions (little thoughts that are deceptions) those thoughts become the breeding ground for believing horrible lies about ourselves and others. The Bible Project video on 1 Corinthians. The examination of the issue, the proper view of the role of believers gathering and the recap at the end of the video. Proverbs 9. I discovered v4 and v16 are the same words. One an invitation to spend my time with wisdom; the other, an invitation to spend my time with folly. I can't be in both places at the same time. Wisdom makes my heart sorrow shrink. Folly makes my heart sorrow grow. Ecclesiastes 11:10... I am told to remove sorrow from my heart and not to intentionally bring evil to me through my 5 senses. Then Psalm 19:8-13..
@@l.a.6522 When you’re addicted to porn you’re inviting demonic oppression into your life and when God was cleansing me of porn these demons had been with me for a long time and they didn’t want to leave so this intense feeling of hopelessness saturated my soul which tormented my mind and almost caused me to take my own life. That’s why porn is so dangerous, but Jesus was with me the whole time, He wanted me to understand how sin affects the soul.
Regarding domestic duties - I'm a man who is a full-time housekeeper. This job wears me out like nothing else I've ever done. A brother who's even stronger than me told me something similar. Guys, if your wife is a stay-at-home mom, give her all of the domestic help you can!
One thing men often forget God gave Adam responsibility first and the woman is the "Help mate" not slave, your mother, maid etc...it's really going on as we speak with people I know personally but we just have to pray for those people.
@@vodkacannon @Vodkacannon @Vodkacannon hello there just wanted to touch bases with you Man the same God that saved me can do the same for you. If you allow Jesus to be your Lord and Savior. It is never too late man to give you life to Jesus. Salvation is a gift that is given to us and you don't have to do anything out of order, sacrifices etc..
# 5 is HUGE!! Too many women leading and men are ok with this!! For women it’s exhausting and causes bitterness. Not enough pastors teaching on this. Great list, brother!!
And what’s wrong with women leaders? Female leaders existed since the dawn of time. The most powerful Queens have been independent and smart. Just say you hate women and go!
Current streak with no porn was 14 days, broke it last night. This video came in just in time. I know the Lord is pulling me out, but even when verses come up, I still fail. I think I need to be praying more.
Keep up the good fight, brother! Stay in the word, stay in prayer, stay around your spiritual family and get into some tough ministries. Sometimes we can avoid temptation when we're too busy marching on the gates of hell.
Fasting is a great tool. One I will add is confession - is there something from your past you need to air out to God? Maybe something you and an ex-girlfriend did, or something inappropriate you said to a woman, etc. Pray about it, ask the Spirit to call to mind any sin that may need to be confessed, and then find a trusted older brother in the faith and tell him what happened.
Great video Pastor Allen! I was guilty of watching porn and being a passive leader. Jesus has a done a huge transformation in my life and now I’m devoted to serving him and advancing the Kingdom
Thanks for sharing brother I struggle with porn myself it’s hard and embarrassing to say it, but I feel encourage that you brothers in Christ know the pain and shame and understand how the challenges is to be free from it. God bless you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️
@@Hisdearone we are to carry one another burdens and build one another up if he is really trying to get off it. It shows he cares to change for men its harder because we get clogged up and are mind is exploding and it's hard to control it. It doesn't go away even if you pray your mind still doesn't care and demand it and won't let you stop thinking about it and then it feels good and hard to not and you give in its a strong urge every man struggles with it Barley anyone's able to control it.
So I have a question for you. What is an acceptable thorn for a man to have, that he can struggles with, but he is still in an "acceptable" position for marriage??
I think the greatest conviction from this video are points 4 and 5. I was introduced to porn and I mean the worst of it by relatives and close friends at around 7 years old, and it became an addiction early on. I've made a lot of progress since but it's been a battle. And while I do my best to provide for our household, spiritually i'm inconsistent and it pains me to see the effects of that on my wife and our marriage. If you're reading this, please pray for me. I want to be a better example for those around me to know God is real , and holiness is livable. But it has to start with me first. God bless.
Oh Lord, have mercy on this man! He wants to change and wants to be led by Holy Spirit. Please bless him with courage and keep him from falling 🙏💙 In Jesus's name. Amen.
fast and pray.....ask God for deliverance from porn.....He wants you to be delivered and whole more than you do....being aware of this issue is the first step ........Bless you..may you know the great peace of the Master as you are freed from this demon.
Husband's wear your wedding band. I've heard my husband say he couldn't wear his wedding band because of his work. Wear it when your out in public around other women. Its very hurtful to a wife when she sees you not only don't wear it at work but you also don't wear it after work. and I found it disrespectful to me as his wife.
My husband cannot wear any rings or even a wristwatch to work because of the type of equipment at his job. I stopped wearing my wedding ring for a long time until recently when a man tried to talk to me & when I told him I was married, he got annoyed that I wasn’t wearing a wedding ring. So I went on Amazon & ordered a fake diamond wedding band set for $40. It actually looks realist &!very nice. I wear that now so men won’t bother me.
I've seen men and women who do more manual jobs wear those silicone wedding rings. They are flexible and kind of popular. It seems like a good option if they can't wear metal jewelry. It is true that some people will try to flirt with you even if you're wearing a ring but stop them in their tracks. It's better to be respectfully blunt with them from the very beginning.
Just let people know you are happily married, respect and behave yourself. Our ancestors wore no marriage bands and yet they were faithful. Whoever wants to cheat will cheat even if they wear wedding rings as huge as alloy wheels.
@@douglasjohnson6877 jesus can change our heart.......may the lord forgive us.......I love Jesus so much......I don't want to do any sins......I want to serve lord ....
Praying for you brother. This is a difficult one to deal with. Do all you can to place guard rails in your life. I also encourage you to fast about this.
It is very hard on us women when we see that we look nothing like the women our SOs are liking on social media. Even if we take care of our bodies, go to the gym, eat healthy, dress elegantly and neat, take good care of our hair, skin and nails, we are beautiful, but we cannot compete with extreme makeup, fake hair/nails/eyelashes, plastic surgery and Photoshop.
Man God always speaks to me through you Allen. Been talking to a couple girls but I’m too focused on working on myself and my goals. No point leading them on . Thanks Allen
Gems on top of gems Allen. As a single guy I’m realizing how important it is for me to heal from the things that hurt me so I don’t bleed on people that never hurt me. No female deserves that. Way too many of my brothers are trying to find healing in a person. Let’s heal brothers so we can lead even better.
I was guilty of most of those a couple years ago, and they all stimmed from porn and how it warped everything else. J would say too, if you're struggling with porn be mindfuln of Instagram, snap, movies, etc.. They can trick you into thinking it's not as bad. I would say another thing we need to do is find older men to mentor us and younger men to feed into. There's a major lack of that today and in the past few decades.
@Joshua Bowman Yeah there is definitely discernment that needs to be done, ex: what am I watching this for or hope to secretly see? Being honest with ourselves helps, and can make it easier to pick what to get rid of.
Jesus says if you are to lust then it would be better to cut out your eye. What if did is get rid of all my social media and went to an old prepaid flip phone for a year. It helped ten fold, I still don’t have social media.
@@sukaenacornelius9285 not bad but you forgot the battle in the mind. What if you go outside to workout, and do your thing and bam 💥 ! The woman are outside dress inappropriately or you know abit to revealing. Den it there goes my perfect mediation :( Including the beach or gym 🙁
Yes! I’m at stay at home mom right now and I’m finding this job so much tougher than my 9-5. I’m exhausted by the end of the day just trying to keep it all together and every day there’s something that didn’t get done. Thanks for acknowledging stay at home moms because it is a thankless job that is not valued very much in society. You bust your butt all day just for hubby to come home and say, “So what y’all been doing today? Just chillin?” Ugh!
It's definitely a highly respectable job. My mom and I spent 3 days with my nephew, and even it being both of us, we were exhausted by this adorable fella and to add on my dad didn't help with anything 😩. I genuinely respect stay at home moms and moms who go to work as well.
I remember when I watched you under 300k subs. And know you have doubled and still provide Godly advice as you did before. Keep up the blessed work brother.
I wish this video had been around 20 years ago when I was a single college student. Guys who showed an interest in me did all these passive-aggressive games to make sure I knew they were interested, but then, when I responded to their interest, they'd pull back, and leave me confused, but then they'd build back up to being really interested and alluding to marraige, and again, when I'd respond to this, they'd deny ever being interested. It made me crazy, and really hurt. Thank you, Brother Allen, for addressing this stuff! I look forward to your next video about women.
Janelle, I thought I was the only one. I have the exact same thing happen to me all the time. I’m 34 now still single and men still do this. Its devastating
@@emmarose6590 Thanks so much for sharing. I will be praying for you. I totally get it. I did eventually get married, but he was the first and only who pursued me the "right" way (without all this passive-aggression).
Evil people are known for putting on the “window dressing” of faith in God, but rejecting the actual power of the Holy Spirit. They want to be seen as spiritual people, or good people but they are not truly following God.
Great message Allen. After my divorce I was constantly flirting with women at work, and pretty much everywhere to help build up my confidence within. It got so bad, I was meeting ungodly women who didn't even agree with my Holy Faith in God. I participated in this ridiculous behavior for almost two years. I even began to become sexually active with these women to please myself. Only thing is that I was still lonely and upset at my x-wife.. Eventually I felt the Holy Spirit speak to me and show me that I would never have peace doing these things.. I remember watching documentaries for atleast 3 days about people's life stories about how there former partners passed on HIV and other STD's to them .From there, I remember getting on my knees with a very long and emotional prayer asking him for forgiveness for my horrible behavior that I carried on for close to two years. I also realized that by surrounding myself with some of my old friends and co-workers who were ungodly; well that wasn't fruit full either. I give God All the Glory because he delivered me from this unfruitful behavior.🙏👍..
It takes a strong man to admit his faults and hold himself accountable... it's nice to see that there are men out there that will do that. It gives me hope.. May Yah bless you and keep you in His perfect peace...
This is such a good and important message in the current climate. Satan is very clever and such a deceiver and fools you to think "it's just innocent stuff"
Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and TH-cam channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.
Brother Allen, thank you for being a real life teacher. Thank you for bring up those taboo topics that others are NOT teaching. Thank you for marrying the behaviors with the consequences. Bless you Brother Allen for touching on this new issue that is truly breaking up marriages. Can't wait for critique of what women need to stop doing. Heavenly Father cover Brother Allen, his family and ministry in the Blood of Jesus, Amen.
6:14 I am guilty of this, I met an awesome Christian girl a while back and we got along pretty well, I eventually mistreated her, and we don’t talk anymore. It made me really reflect on my own life, my values, and my relationship with God. If any of you are guilty of this then I advise you to stop looking for a girl and invest time into your relationship with God :) I pray for anyone who is guilty of this, it sucks but it’s something we can all learn from!
It's very refreshing to know a guy can own up to his mistakes and actually do whatever it takes to be better. No one said it's easy, but it's not impossible. I'm not saying that I'm a perfect Christian woman - in fact I really look forward to seeing the next video! In an old relationship I was in not that long ago it was hard for me to even talk to a guy about certain things. And it would usually have a lot to do with what was on this list. I felt very discouraged and very self-conscious and he would wonder why. Keep growing, Christian man! 👍 Praying for you!
@@davidsbgr true I did that once too I used her to feel good about myself and felt horrible afterwards girls connect more emotionally and as guys were too passive but since that time I’ve never lead a female astray again
I would also add, if you are a man and you are marriage minded, if you meet a woman and later determine she is not what you are looking for in a wife, tell her and let her go. Don't be a thief of her time and make her a miss right now until you find someone else. The longer you mislead her just to have someone for now, the longer you are keeping her from having the person that is for her.
Great video! I'm 27, got married when I was 25, had my child at 26 and began a life in Christ with my wife a few months ago and it's been a totally new life. Thank you for these videos as I try to lead my family as an honest devout Christian man 👍🏻👏🏻🙏🏻
Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and TH-cam channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.
Right on time, God definitely speaking to me! Great video, I stopped checking out Facebook, only family posts! You’re right, be intentional, this flesh won’t quit!
Lust is one of the devil's most powerful weapon. Lust is embedded in the flesh at at young age it's very hard to over come. Even as we are. If you live a life of sleeping around, When you marry ( for men and women) the flesh is still weak and it will be hard to change the flesh. 4 in 5 marriages end in divorce because of it. God is the only way out of the flesh culture.
Lust over anything including porn are thoughts that must be cast down or it will create strongholds in your mind. 2 Corinthians 10:5 "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ" James 4:7 "Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you."
Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and TH-cam channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.
Or don't. But to the unmarried woman and the virgins I say, it is better that you remain so, for the unmarried is concerned with how she may please the Lord. But the married woman is concerned with how she may please her husband, and she is divided.
Thank you, Allen… grateful for this video! My husband is my dearest friend as God has grown us so close to Himself and one another through praying for one another… as the days are TOUGH. 🙏🏼 Again, needed video
If every believer shared this with a man in their lives, and they shared it from there… and people listened, repented and obeyed… this world would start to look a bit different. Great message Brother Parr.
If you have to stop liking pictures of women on social media because the pictures they post are too revealing, you’re probably better off unfollowing them altogether. Build those boundaries brothers in Christ 💪🏻
#2 has been a tough one for me. Putting my job over my wife and children. I know I have been diligently working on this but this is the one I struggle with the most.
I know some women who are putting their career or future career ahead of pursuing a healthy relationship. I'm not saying to not have the career, just don't pursue it at the expense of a healthy relationship.
Thank you for this real video. Men and women both need to stop letting social media define us. Get off the media and spend time with your family. Men need to stop being so disconnected. Good points Allen. I had to come back and watch this one after watching the one for women.
I truly appreciate your transparency and you speak the truth from the Bible point of view. I can't wait for you to tell about a Christian women should be before God. God bless you!
Ouch!. Yes I am one of those men who slacks and need improvement. I pray in the Name of Jesus Christ for healing and His Divine Guidance. God bless you brothers and sisters. Great msg.thx 🤜🤛
I was so interested to hear what men should stop doing. After watching this, I am even more thankful for the husband God has given me. God has transformed our hearts, minds, and lives. I just want to give praises when they are due. Praise be to God for the blessing of a wonderful husband and marriage. We celebrated 10 years this year, and I am excited to keep seeking the Lord’s will with the one chosen for me.
Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and TH-cam channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.
I have been threatened at school so many times. I'm a 12 year old wanting to live long but I don't know if I can. I was raised in a christian household but now I have anxiety and a little depression and I'm losing faith in God. Help me please.. I don't want to die in school and I don't want to go to hell over my little faith.
@@jessielynn i just don't feel like I have a belief in God and by threatened, I mean shoot up the school. I'm at the school now so I'm praying I survive another day. Their security is so bad too.
@@SamIAmThe1st I’m so sorry you went through a school shooting! That had to be terrifying. I thank you father that you are a protector. I ask that you would send your army of angels to protect yeeter’s school and everyone in it. May no harm come to him or his classmates from another school shooting. Also father, please reveal yourself to him in a supernatural way that only you can to remind him that you are with him. Amen.
Great advice!!! Now this the type of teaching that needs to take place in men fellowships. This that type of teaching that will cause growth and accountability.
As a young man I have been doing so much wrong things exactly in my relationship with my girlfriend and as a Christian I believe I have found this information for a reason, I will change for the better. Thank you so much
Thank you for putting these problems into words. I've dated guys that would do at least a couple of these things. And then they would wonder why I was so self-conscious. It felt like no matter what I would say or do, it was never going to be enough. It was very discouraging. Thank you! And I look forward to your next video for women.
@@orangeblossom9279 : Oh yes, men gossip about just as much as women. Examples of things men will gossip about is who is dating who, who’s more jacked than another, various kinds of achievements, often with embellishments of course, and who did them, and who got what and why it’s better than what you’ve got.
Yep……your right on, I really have seen and listened to all of that ****! Sooooo disgusted by it. Great video! Happy you tackled it! Well put! Looking forward to more!!!!Thank you!!!!!!
No man is perfect, and one attitude of my dad that I avoid for myself is to hold a double standard, that the wife work at least part time but also perform all the work at home. You can pick the traditional one income standard or the modern two income standard, but don't try to have it both ways in your favor.
I'm praying for you Robert. I pray the Lord help you understand your purpose and activates you in the call he has for your life. I pray that he strengthens you and surrounds you with men that sharpen you.
@@RTKMEN Thank you! I've subscribed to your page. I've come a long way since this post, but still have a long way to go. Thank you for your prayers! God bless you!
@@robertdavis3036 praise God for your journey brother. May you continue to be a voice for our other brothers trying to break free from the devils grip.
Great content. I don't understand how anyone could dislike this video...unless they are doing the things on this video that should be avoided. #repentandbelieveinthegospel
Thank you for sharing this. I can admit that I am guilty of several of these. But I am glad to have been challenged through this video. I pray for all of the brothers including myself that struggle in any area that take us away from God’s will for our lives.
I'm guilty of not being a money provider right now. I've had so many up and down jobs, worked so hard at all these places and have got nowhere, having injuries and losing jobs because of back pain and I have been struggling for a long time. I tried starting my own company which during maintenance season for picking up jobs my brand new equipment broke down and was out for almost 4 months due to no parts being available so I missed my opportunity to pick up work... So now I only make 40 dollars a week. Now my wife is working at walmart and doing shopping app jobs to provide for me, her and my son while I sit here depressed not knowing what to do...
Thank you father that you are a provider. You provide for the birds and the flowers so how much more would you care for us? I pray father that you would open doors of opportunity for this man to provide financially for his family. I ask that you give him godly wisdom in seeking those opportunities. I also ask father that you would comfort him in knowing that his worth is found in you and not in the amount of money he makes. Strengthen his wife as she works hard for the family. We present these requests in Jesus’ holy name. Amen.
One thing about many modern sisters in Christ, it seems like modesty isn’t thought in the church. Anyways, this is just my observation. The older sisters need to teach the young women biblical things, likewise the older men teach the younger men biblical things.
It's not that we don't teach the younger women, it's just they don't listen or tell us we are judging them (I really wish that people truly understood the difference between judging, judging with righteous judgement, and correction). God is going to hold them accountable for their disregard. And likewise with the brothers who aren't modest either. It goes both ways.
People should stop liking half naked or immodest pictures on social media, because it will give courage to women or men to wear those dresses outside. We should not encourage these types of behavior.
@@thebeatagp definitely sobering however, my 3 year relationship ended 2 days ago due to these behaviors. I must admit there's been significant change on his part yet the wounds of these said actions seem to resurface by certain triggers and just caused pure turmoil on both ends. Basically, this video showed me that what I've been asking for is indeed possible.... Trusting God to work in me so ill be ready to receive this in His timing 🙏🏻
@@kelseybattoo6177 it is so possible. While no man is perfect and most/all men deal with lust on some level, some men have it worse than others and if you are dealing with a man who is far right on the spectrum of lust, it can create HUGE problems in your marriage down the line.
Mr. Parr, as for the husband or men lacking the work around the house, that doesn't apply to me. I do the work around the house, cooking, cleaning, laundry, working on the car, sweeping, mopping, dusting, washing dishes (we share making the bed up). If anything, I get tired of the constant "you should know what I'm thinking mind games". My wife is verbal when need be, but a lot of it is confusing because it's a case by case scenario that most/some of the time doesn't require me as a male interaction to do something. I personally do help when I can, but there are times where I truly believe I am not appreciated for it. So I just keep to myself and study my Bible and ask God to direct my thoughts.
This should be common knowledge and taught to the youth. I was born into a secular family. Never have heard my parents even say the word God. I've had to learn lessons the hard way. Great video brother keep spreading the truth.
Hey BEAT family! Today, we focus on THE BROTHERS! Men, here are 5 things, as your online pastor (ha...since y'all call me pastor Parr anyway) I encourage you to stop doing. Which one(s) of these do you struggle with currently? On Friday we will come back and focus on the women. Enjoy!
Friday🙏🏾❤️
Thanks brother Parr for another good practical message! Looking forward to the one for us women.
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@@RI......... Lol!!! Ha. Yes indeed!
@@thebeatagp I would say if a Christian man has no care to pursue a relationship to get married, just one to give him affirmation, or just to have a girlfriend he has no right or the privledge to pursue a Christian girl, or even a worldly girl for that matter, I.e. Paul Washer. :P
Christian men need to stop cussing. That goes for me as well. When I get really angry they just fly out of my mouth. That's something I need to pray about.
I did too. It was hard to stop until or once I got born again and filled with Holy Spirit. Now it won’t even come out. God really changed me and many others I know. Just surrender your life totally and take Him seriously put Him first. Keep praying and reading Bible. It will stop.
Of all things I struggle with it is this. Working on constructions sites all day I find myself struggling with this the most. I never swear at someone, but I do find myself swearing more than I would like. I also use an unhealthy amount of sarcasm.
True
Stop beating up your wives.
I’m trying to get better at this. I sparingly say damn, he’ll, or $hit. F-bombs are off limits. It’s so prevalent now that when I meet new people I see how many, if any, F-bombs they use.
Thank you posting. My wife recently was led by the spirit to look into my social media and dms. She found inappropriate things, likes and flirtatious comments. She then said to me, you tell yourself that you have never cheated but in God’s eyes you have committed adultery!” This broke me to the core. I have since got rid of that social media and I am taking steps to clean up everything. Pray for our marriage and for me to continue in my repentance. Thank you 🙏🏽 and to God be the glory.
May the Lord help your marriage to be strengthened in Jesus Name
What stands out to me here, is how great God is, that He gave her the understanding and grace to see those things and work through it with you. I am sure other couples outcomes have not always been the same. God is always helping us!
Good on you for speaking up. Or should I say your wife for speaking up. It would have taken more courage from your wife to step up. That shows love as she was willing to communicate. Now to be blunt. You know the path to the promised land, get your sh*t sorted and don't turn back. You have so much support on your side.
I'm glad You are doing the best for God and Your wife
Don't ask for prayers please, just repent and ask for forgiveness from your wife, praying for your marriage won't make things right with you and God
This needed to be said! Great message. As far as finding value in things/accomplishments…yes it’s a very slippery slope. Everything in this life is hanging by a thread.. so true value is in our Eternal relationship with God.
God bless you bro Jerren. Thanks for being an active supporter on this channel as I am on yours. So glad we are friends and support one another. Can't wait to see your next documentary. Much love,
@@thebeatagp thanks brother and looking forward to your next one as well! Much Love.
AOC love you guys. You and Allen 😊 God bless🙏🙏
@@aocnetwork I JUST CAME FROM YOUR CHANNEL TO THIS ONE 🙏. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH
AOC AND ALLEN PARR… my mornings usual start with prayer and your videos be blessed my brothers
1. Inappropriate actions with women
2. Porn
3. Passive leading
4. Misleading women
5. Finding purpose in posessions
This is powerful. Thank you Pastor! Also, we as man have to stop competing with each other in the body. Support and unity are essential
This is crazy!! I’m a personal trainer, and there are women I follow that post pics that aren’t overly sexual but boarder line. This morning a women posted a pic. I’m not attracted to her at all, so I was gonna like it to give her encouragement. But I felt convicted by the Holy Spirit not to like it. And now this video comes up! I was also delivered later today from demons of anxiety and fear which tormented me as a child. I know I’m delivered!Brothers and sisters of Christ, please keep me in your prayers!
Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and TH-cam channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.
Is this something you often deal with as a personal trainer? Sounds like it would be common 😅
@@vaxtestsmarkofbeast436 you can’t take the mark of the beast by accident right???
@@jxguarfn9939
Where does it say that in the bible?
Of course, people will be deceived. Satan is a deceiver.
Honestly thank you for sharing this . Gives me hope that God is working on men . Following threw and being obedient is key and I give u so much respect because this world is beyond sexualized and it's not easy . Keep up the amazing work.
Also, when men hit the like on racy photos it encourages that woman to keep doing what she's doing. Too many women's self worth is based on what people think of their appearance, and in the end it only builds a negative reputation, not her character or healthy self esteem.
Yes, it encourages them to wear that type of dress outside.
Even down to the profile name which can incline men to interact on your posts. Honestly, a name like “713 Eye Candy” kind of insinuates something other than Christ. Not a bash, just something to bring to light.
Yeah Eye Candy may not be the best profile name lol
@@Urboy5th nothing about my name would insinuate anything derogatory to someone who loves God in the first place. It might, however, to someone who is hoping to find racy content behind it in my opinion. Just in case you don't know, one great way to be Christ like is to not judge, especially without proper observation to test the spirit behind a thing. The name I chose is for many reasons that I will not spend time breaking down for you. You're entitled to your opinionated errored assumption, I'll stick with the fact of the matter. Much love to you, God bless, and have a superfantastic day!
Ok Eye Candy🤣🤣🤣
Yes, I’m excited to hear the Christian women version!
Me tooo girl! God Bless you❤️
Me too
@@complexityofagirl God bless you as well! 🙏🏽
same here!
Me too!
I can relate to when you talked about stopping porn, that stuff is poison and very dangerous, it almost killed me last year, the Lord took me through a cleansing or a deliverance as some people call it, it was ugly, now I'm completely free from porn.
@Jerik G I know you asked someone else; but if you don't mind I would like to share.
There were several verses and concepts that I had to link together.
The enemy uses inaccurate preconceived notions (little thoughts that are deceptions) those thoughts become the breeding ground for believing horrible lies about ourselves and others.
The Bible Project video on 1 Corinthians. The examination of the issue, the proper view of the role of believers gathering and the recap at the end of the video.
Proverbs 9. I discovered v4 and v16 are the same words. One an invitation to spend my time with wisdom; the other, an invitation to spend my time with folly.
I can't be in both places at the same time.
Wisdom makes my heart sorrow shrink.
Folly makes my heart sorrow grow.
Ecclesiastes 11:10... I am told to remove sorrow from my heart and not to intentionally bring evil to me through my 5 senses.
Then Psalm 19:8-13..
Seriously... It took me a long time to stop masturbation and i did it slowly. Now i don't even think about it. No porn... no masturbation
How did it almost kill u...?
@@l.a.6522 When you’re addicted to porn you’re inviting demonic oppression into your life and when God was cleansing me of porn these demons had been with me for a long time and they didn’t want to leave so this intense feeling of hopelessness saturated my soul which tormented my mind and almost caused me to take my own life. That’s why porn is so dangerous, but Jesus was with me the whole time, He wanted me to understand how sin affects the soul.
@@marty4723 u got it...
Regarding domestic duties - I'm a man who is a full-time housekeeper. This job wears me out like nothing else I've ever done. A brother who's even stronger than me told me something similar. Guys, if your wife is a stay-at-home mom, give her all of the domestic help you can!
Me too, man! Good job! It's super tough getting pulled around every which way. It's hard to do maintenance and make progress at the same time.
Thanks.
God bless you! 😂☺️
One thing men often forget God gave Adam responsibility first and the woman is the "Help mate" not slave, your mother, maid etc...it's really going on as we speak with people I know personally but we just have to pray for those people.
@@vodkacannon @Vodkacannon @Vodkacannon hello there just wanted to touch bases with you Man the same God that saved me can do the same for you. If you allow Jesus to be your Lord and Savior. It is never too late man to give you life to Jesus. Salvation is a gift that is given to us and you don't have to do anything out of order, sacrifices etc..
# 5 is HUGE!! Too many women leading and men are ok with this!! For women it’s exhausting and causes bitterness. Not enough pastors teaching on this.
Great list, brother!!
And what’s wrong with women leaders? Female leaders existed since the dawn of time. The most powerful Queens have been independent and smart.
Just say you hate women and go!
Yep it's a huge Issue and definitely not natural
Current streak with no porn was 14 days, broke it last night. This video came in just in time. I know the Lord is pulling me out, but even when verses come up, I still fail. I think I need to be praying more.
Fasting is key!! Fasting with repentance and prayer is the best way to be delivered!!
Keep up the good fight, brother! Stay in the word, stay in prayer, stay around your spiritual family and get into some tough ministries. Sometimes we can avoid temptation when we're too busy marching on the gates of hell.
keep going friend, Gods gonna get you through this.
Fasting is a great tool. One I will add is confession - is there something from your past you need to air out to God? Maybe something you and an ex-girlfriend did, or something inappropriate you said to a woman, etc. Pray about it, ask the Spirit to call to mind any sin that may need to be confessed, and then find a trusted older brother in the faith and tell him what happened.
Hang in there bro keep fighting. Good luck.
to the 7 people who gave this video a thumbs down, may the Holy Spirit convict you deeply, this is wisdom right here !!!
I support you
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Maybe it was just an accident. I've hit the thumbs down by accident before.
I'm not married but when a guy saw me doing my laundry he said, "She makes you do that?!" And looked surprised as if men shouldn't do laundry.
I feel sorry for whoever he’s married to.
Funny enough he would probably do the same at home, but try to make out like " he is the man". I don't do such.
@@timeeak4599 😂😂😂spot on
@@timeeak4599FACTSSSSSS
Those men be the same ones doing their laundry as they should tf
This was definitely me. I found Christ and have been a lot better. My wife even praises me and said it’s like I’m a new man. All glory to God.
Great video Pastor Allen! I was guilty of watching porn and being a passive leader. Jesus has a done a huge transformation in my life and now I’m devoted to serving him and advancing the Kingdom
Thanks for sharing brother I struggle with porn myself it’s hard and embarrassing to say it, but I feel encourage that you brothers in Christ know the pain and shame and understand how the challenges is to be free from it. God bless you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️
Anyone who is still addicted to porn is definitely not ready for marriage PERIOD!
Please ask God to help you and deliver you 🙏🏾🙌❤
Thats what I was saying even when I give in im like nope ik im too immature for that rn plus im 23 lol I got so much time.
How long should someone be free before pursuing a godly relationship?
@@Hisdearone we are to carry one another burdens and build one another up if he is really trying to get off it. It shows he cares to change for men its harder because we get clogged up and are mind is exploding and it's hard to control it. It doesn't go away even if you pray your mind still doesn't care and demand it and won't let you stop thinking about it and then it feels good and hard to not and you give in its a strong urge every man struggles with it Barley anyone's able to control it.
For America's sake
So I have a question for you. What is an acceptable thorn for a man to have, that he can struggles with, but he is still in an "acceptable" position for marriage??
I think the greatest conviction from this video are points 4 and 5. I was introduced to porn and I mean the worst of it by relatives and close friends at around 7 years old, and it became an addiction early on. I've made a lot of progress since but it's been a battle. And while I do my best to provide for our household, spiritually i'm inconsistent and it pains me to see the effects of that on my wife and our marriage. If you're reading this, please pray for me. I want to be a better example for those around me to know God is real , and holiness is livable. But it has to start with me first. God bless.
Oh Lord, have mercy on this man! He wants to change and wants to be led by Holy Spirit. Please bless him with courage and keep him from falling 🙏💙
In Jesus's name. Amen.
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fast and pray.....ask God for deliverance from porn.....He wants you to be delivered and whole more than you do....being aware of this issue is the first step ........Bless you..may you know the great peace of the Master as you are freed from this demon.
Stay encouraged, you are not alone!!!
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Husband's wear your wedding band. I've heard my husband say he couldn't wear his wedding band because of his work. Wear it when your out in public around other women. Its very hurtful to a wife when she sees you not only don't wear it at work but you also don't wear it after work. and I found it disrespectful to me as his wife.
My husband cannot wear any rings or even a wristwatch to work because of the type of equipment at his job. I stopped wearing my wedding ring for a long time until recently when a man tried to talk to me & when I told him I was married, he got annoyed that I wasn’t wearing a wedding ring. So I went on Amazon & ordered a fake diamond wedding band set for $40. It actually looks realist &!very nice. I wear that now so men won’t bother me.
Eehh I get it but not wearing it a wedding band around other women is no big deal. Women won’t care either way.
I've seen men and women who do more manual jobs wear those silicone wedding rings. They are flexible and kind of popular. It seems like a good option if they can't wear metal jewelry.
It is true that some people will try to flirt with you even if you're wearing a ring but stop them in their tracks. It's better to be respectfully blunt with them from the very beginning.
Just let people know you are happily married, respect and behave yourself. Our ancestors wore no marriage bands and yet they were faithful. Whoever wants to cheat will cheat even if they wear wedding rings as huge as alloy wheels.
In some mechanical or electrical jobs it is dangerous to wear rings! As in amputated fingers or electrocution!!!😮
As a woman, I approve this message ^_^
Excited to see the video coming out for women next time! :D
🔥video, per usual, bro!
Thanks bro!
Wow, what an incredible meeting of Godly leaders!! I appreciate what both of y'all do for the kingdom!
I am Indian Christian 🇮🇳......Please pray for me....I struggle with sexual sins sometimes.........I love Jesus....... please pray for me....
Bless u brother
So true to all you have said....guilty myself , but still working toward change.... !
@@douglasjohnson6877 jesus can change our heart.......may the lord forgive us.......I love Jesus so much......I don't want to do any sins......I want to serve lord ....
Praying for you brother. This is a difficult one to deal with. Do all you can to place guard rails in your life. I also encourage you to fast about this.
It is very hard on us women when we see that we look nothing like the women our SOs are liking on social media. Even if we take care of our bodies, go to the gym, eat healthy, dress elegantly and neat, take good care of our hair, skin and nails, we are beautiful, but we cannot compete with extreme makeup, fake hair/nails/eyelashes, plastic surgery and Photoshop.
Yeah thats true :(
about Photoshop, I saw one interview where Claudia Schiffer (a supermodel) said "I don't look like Claudia Schiffer".
Very true. Feels like lies when they say, "I like you the way you are" when YOU don't look like HER.
So many celebrity pics are photos hopped. It helped me stop comparing myself because I realized a majority of pics are fake
Noone cannot compete with a half naked woman
Man God always speaks to me through you Allen. Been talking to a couple girls but I’m too focused on working on myself and my goals. No point leading them on . Thanks Allen
Gems on top of gems Allen. As a single guy I’m realizing how important it is for me to heal from the things that hurt me so I don’t bleed on people that never hurt me. No female deserves that. Way too many of my brothers are trying to find healing in a person. Let’s heal brothers so we can lead even better.
amen bro
I was guilty of most of those a couple years ago, and they all stimmed from porn and how it warped everything else. J would say too, if you're struggling with porn be mindfuln of Instagram, snap, movies, etc.. They can trick you into thinking it's not as bad.
I would say another thing we need to do is find older men to mentor us and younger men to feed into. There's a major lack of that today and in the past few decades.
@Joshua Bowman Yeah there is definitely discernment that needs to be done, ex: what am I watching this for or hope to secretly see? Being honest with ourselves helps, and can make it easier to pick what to get rid of.
Bro I know, John Doyle made a wonderful video about how porn is destroying the west, a truly disgusting industry
Jesus says if you are to lust then it would be better to cut out your eye. What if did is get rid of all my social media and went to an old prepaid flip phone for a year. It helped ten fold, I still don’t have social media.
@@sukaenacornelius9285 not bad but you forgot the battle in the mind. What if you go outside to workout, and do your thing and bam 💥 ! The woman are outside dress inappropriately or you know abit to revealing. Den it there goes my perfect mediation :(
Including the beach or gym 🙁
@@sukaenacornelius9285 Kind of hypocritical considering your channel pic.
Yes! I’m at stay at home mom right now and I’m finding this job so much tougher than my 9-5. I’m exhausted by the end of the day just trying to keep it all together and every day there’s something that didn’t get done. Thanks for acknowledging stay at home moms because it is a thankless job that is not valued very much in society. You bust your butt all day just for hubby to come home and say, “So what y’all been doing today? Just chillin?” Ugh!
It's definitely a highly respectable job. My mom and I spent 3 days with my nephew, and even it being both of us, we were exhausted by this adorable fella and to add on my dad didn't help with anything 😩. I genuinely respect stay at home moms and moms who go to work as well.
I remember when I watched you under 300k subs. And know you have doubled and still provide Godly advice as you did before. Keep up the blessed work brother.
I wish this video had been around 20 years ago when I was a single college student. Guys who showed an interest in me did all these passive-aggressive games to make sure I knew they were interested, but then, when I responded to their interest, they'd pull back, and leave me confused, but then they'd build back up to being really interested and alluding to marraige, and again, when I'd respond to this, they'd deny ever being interested. It made me crazy, and really hurt. Thank you, Brother Allen, for addressing this stuff! I look forward to your next video about women.
nowadays only Christian women do this to guys... at least thats my experience. they just laugh it off and say "oh im just naturally flirty..."
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Janelle, I thought I was the only one. I have the exact same thing happen to me all the time. I’m 34 now still single and men still do this. Its devastating
@@emmarose6590 Thanks so much for sharing. I will be praying for you. I totally get it. I did eventually get married, but he was the first and only who pursued me the "right" way (without all this passive-aggression).
@@falconiustallon I am so sorry this has happened to you. Shame on these women who misled men. Praying for you.
Stop being weak and caving on convictions. Two of the most important things (I’m not perfect on the convictions bit).
Evil people are known for putting on the “window dressing” of faith in God, but rejecting the actual power of the Holy Spirit. They want to be seen as spiritual people, or good people but they are not truly following God.
Great message Allen. After my divorce I was constantly flirting with women at work, and pretty much everywhere to help build up my confidence within. It got so bad, I was meeting ungodly women who didn't even agree with my Holy Faith in God. I participated in this ridiculous behavior for almost two years. I even began to become sexually active with these women to please myself. Only thing is that I was still lonely and upset at my x-wife.. Eventually I felt the Holy Spirit speak to me and show me that I would never have peace doing these things.. I remember watching documentaries for atleast 3 days about people's life stories about how there former partners passed on HIV and other STD's to them .From there, I remember getting on my knees with a very long and emotional prayer asking him for forgiveness for my horrible behavior that I carried on for close to two years. I also realized that by surrounding myself with some of my old friends and co-workers who were ungodly; well that wasn't fruit full either. I give God All the Glory because he delivered me from this unfruitful behavior.🙏👍..
I got herpes from a prostitute before I finally listened to the Holy Spirit to stop. Be glad you didn't need that to happen.
@@brandenharvey9817 Well God Bless you and I hope all is well with you 🙏
It takes a strong man to admit his faults and hold himself accountable... it's nice to see that there are men out there that will do that. It gives me hope.. May Yah bless you and keep you in His perfect peace...
@@angeleyes3469 God Bless you as well
This is such a good and important message in the current climate. Satan is very clever and such a deceiver and fools you to think "it's just innocent stuff"
Sinful things are getting 'Normalised,' unbelievers are not even Aware of it, what's going on.
This is SPOT ON imo.
Thanks for helping men head in a better direction. Benefits all
TBH, tese 5 things should be avoided regardless of your gender.
laughing hard at number 1. 😭 “everybody can see you liked the picture” 💀 it’s true. these points made were on..point! 👌🏾
Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and TH-cam channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.
Brother Allen, thank you for being a real life teacher. Thank you for bring up those taboo topics that others are NOT teaching. Thank you for marrying the behaviors with the consequences. Bless you Brother Allen for touching on this new issue that is truly breaking up marriages. Can't wait for critique of what women need to stop doing. Heavenly Father cover Brother Allen, his family and ministry in the Blood of Jesus, Amen.
So true. Can’t wait to see what you have to say for the women.
Me either, us men got a slap upside the head today. . .
@@mikeclark1656 😄😄😄
6:14 I am guilty of this, I met an awesome Christian girl a while back and we got along pretty well, I eventually mistreated her, and we don’t talk anymore. It made me really reflect on my own life, my values, and my relationship with God. If any of you are guilty of this then I advise you to stop looking for a girl and invest time into your relationship with God :)
I pray for anyone who is guilty of this, it sucks but it’s something we can all learn from!
Yes, Put The Lord First, Even before Family, then Everything Will Follow.
Very common for christian men
It's very refreshing to know a guy can own up to his mistakes and actually do whatever it takes to be better. No one said it's easy, but it's not impossible.
I'm not saying that I'm a perfect Christian woman - in fact I really look forward to seeing the next video! In an old relationship I was in not that long ago it was hard for me to even talk to a guy about certain things. And it would usually have a lot to do with what was on this list. I felt very discouraged and very self-conscious and he would wonder why.
Keep growing, Christian man! 👍 Praying for you!
@@davidsbgr true I did that once too I used her to feel good about myself and felt horrible afterwards girls connect more emotionally and as guys were too passive but since that time I’ve never lead a female astray again
Amen, it would also help to others to take a vow of celibacy. It may be 3 months, or like me, permanently.
I would also add, if you are a man and you are marriage minded, if you meet a woman and later determine she is not what you are looking for in a wife, tell her and let her go. Don't be a thief of her time and make her a miss right now until you find someone else. The longer you mislead her just to have someone for now, the longer you are keeping her from having the person that is for her.
AMEN!
Social media has ruined relationships between men and women
Excellent points
My brother, this convicted me on many levels. And I'm married. God help me and all my brothers. It's not easy out there!
Fantastic. Amen brother.
Another thing about liking women's riské pictures: it might encourage them to post more of those because she gets attention.
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Great video! I'm 27, got married when I was 25, had my child at 26 and began a life in Christ with my wife a few months ago and it's been a totally new life. Thank you for these videos as I try to lead my family as an honest devout Christian man 👍🏻👏🏻🙏🏻
I'm hardly hit on number 4. This is my struggle, may God help me to overcome this sin. Pls pray for me brethens.
Yes Allen! I am GUILTY of MOST OF THESE! But I'm WORKING ON ALL OF THEM EVERYDAY! JUST KEEP ME IN PRAYER!🙏😇🙌
Great teacher, God bless you brother
On point, again Pastor Parr! Thank you!
Thanks Allen I am guilty but God is transforming me each day. Praise be to God our Father and Our Lord and savior Jesus Christ.
Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and TH-cam channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.
Right on time, God definitely speaking to me!
Great video, I stopped checking out Facebook, only family posts! You’re right, be intentional, this flesh won’t quit!
You spiritually slapped me. I need to step up! Thank you Allen parr!
Lust is one of the devil's most powerful weapon. Lust is embedded in the flesh at at young age it's very hard to over come. Even as we are. If you live a life of sleeping around, When you marry ( for men and women) the flesh is still weak and it will be hard to change the flesh. 4 in 5 marriages end in divorce because of it. God is the only way out of the flesh culture.
It does seem to be an easy source he uses for temptation.
Lust over anything including porn are thoughts that must be cast down or it will create strongholds in your mind.
2 Corinthians 10:5
"Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ"
James 4:7
"Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you."
@@b.delacroix7592 I think one of the most important thing for us as christian, is to follow spiritual direction, and to do so, it's take humility,
Please pray I meet a godly man like this. I’m so alone, I have god but I long for human companionship abs to share life with someone.
Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and TH-cam channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.
Or don't. But to the unmarried woman and the virgins I say, it is better that you remain so, for the unmarried is concerned with how she may please the Lord. But the married woman is concerned with how she may please her husband, and she is divided.
My bro, keep up the Lord’s work!!!😎 💪🏿🦁
Thank you, Allen… grateful for this video!
My husband is my dearest friend as God has grown us so close to Himself and one another through praying for one another… as the days are TOUGH. 🙏🏼 Again, needed video
May you cherish deeply what you both have because with both parties been surrendered to Jesus that is how a marriage brings fulment to each of us...
If every believer shared this with a man in their lives, and they shared it from there… and people listened, repented and obeyed… this world would start to look a bit different. Great message Brother Parr.
If you have to stop liking pictures of women on social media because the pictures they post are too revealing, you’re probably better off unfollowing them altogether. Build those boundaries brothers in Christ 💪🏻
Amen 🙏
#2 has been a tough one for me. Putting my job over my wife and children. I know I have been diligently working on this but this is the one I struggle with the most.
Exactly! Love number 3 and when a man can actually let ya know what they want instead of playing games or being wushu washy.
I know some women who are putting their career or future career ahead of pursuing a healthy relationship. I'm not saying to not have the career, just don't pursue it at the expense of a healthy relationship.
Good video. #5 is really good. It got me.
Great points of areas we as men have to remain laser-focused on. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom and insight.
Thank you for this real video. Men and women both need to stop letting social media define us. Get off the media and spend time with your family. Men need to stop being so disconnected. Good points Allen. I had to come back and watch this one after watching the one for women.
I truly appreciate your transparency and you speak the truth from the Bible point of view. I can't wait for you to tell about a Christian women should be before God. God bless you!
Ouch!. Yes I am one of those men who slacks and need improvement. I pray in the Name of Jesus Christ for healing and His Divine Guidance. God bless you brothers and sisters. Great msg.thx 🤜🤛
Loved the passive leader at home, so so true!!!!
Hey… you’re right… I was wondering what more to do. Thanks for guiding me. I’m returning to be a Christian again.
Great information. Thank you for sharing. I’m looking forward to learning what things I might need to be mindful of as a Christian woman.
Man you would be public enemy number one in the youtube manosphere. It is refreshing to here another man of God speak like this.
I was so interested to hear what men should stop doing. After watching this, I am even more thankful for the husband God has given me. God has transformed our hearts, minds, and lives. I just want to give praises when they are due. Praise be to God for the blessing of a wonderful husband and marriage. We celebrated 10 years this year, and I am excited to keep seeking the Lord’s will with the one chosen for me.
Please do NOT get v or tested or your temperature be measured. The v and tests are the mark of the beast. Ask the Lord for confirmation. Don't give in when someone forces you. Be it family, friends or employer, do not give in. Examine the preachers and TH-cam channels you listen to and unsubscribe to the channels that do not help you in your walk with the Lord. There is no pre trib rapture. Persecution is coming. Ask if you have any questions. The body of Christ is the third temple. No building. Be careful which church you go to. Pray, Fast and read the bible as never before. No make up, earrings, lipstick, fake lashes, fake fingernails, fake hair, etc. Let the hair stay natural. No tv, worldly music. No trousers as a woman. No piercings, tattoos, chains, rings, braids. Dress properly. No shorts. Stay away from the roman catholic stuff. Repent of your sins. Ask the Lord what you have to change in your life. Baptism in the name of Jesus. Test the spirits. Warn others.
@@vaxtestsmarkofbeast436 Stop!!! That is just plane WRONG!
Congrats 👏🥳
I have been threatened at school so many times. I'm a 12 year old wanting to live long but I don't know if I can. I was raised in a christian household but now I have anxiety and a little depression and I'm losing faith in God. Help me please.. I don't want to die in school and I don't want to go to hell over my little faith.
What do you mean you’ve been threatened at school? And why do you think you will go to hell for having little faith?
@@jessielynn i just don't feel like I have a belief in God and by threatened, I mean shoot up the school. I'm at the school now so I'm praying I survive another day. Their security is so bad too.
@@SamIAmThe1st I’m so sorry you went through a school shooting! That had to be terrifying. I thank you father that you are a protector. I ask that you would send your army of angels to protect yeeter’s school and everyone in it. May no harm come to him or his classmates from another school shooting. Also father, please reveal yourself to him in a supernatural way that only you can to remind him that you are with him. Amen.
@@jessielynn thank you so much. It didn't happen but people were threatening for it to happen. Thank you still.
Great points for us men brother, definitely needed this message 🙏👑
THANKS ALLEN SO GLAD TO YOU ADDRESS THESE SUBJECTS...
Great advice!!! Now this the type of teaching that needs to take place in men fellowships. This that type of teaching that will cause growth and accountability.
You are teaching what is needed to be said!!!!!
Once again, added to my favorite sermon playlist. I was in prayer all morning for sons and will look forward to the one for women.
Christ be with you
Apathy is the false fruit of "faith alone" and "Once Saved Always Saved"
God bless you
I am still very young but I thank God that I see this beforehand. I personally struggle with my words of what I praise and uplift, and also with lust.
As a young man I have been doing so much wrong things exactly in my relationship with my girlfriend and as a Christian I believe I have found this information for a reason, I will change for the better. Thank you so much
Thank you for putting these problems into words. I've dated guys that would do at least a couple of these things. And then they would wonder why I was so self-conscious. It felt like no matter what I would say or do, it was never going to be enough. It was very discouraging.
Thank you! And I look forward to your next video for women.
You are Always Right On. Goes for women too
Thanks for the video Allen!
I have been guilty of allot of those thing. Well Said Brother!!!
Men need to stop gossiping so much especially about women.
Men and women!
It goes both ways.
It goes both ways but most times it’s women doing the gossiping
Dang I didn’t know guys gossip that much lol. I thought it was only women
@@orangeblossom9279 : Oh yes, men gossip about just as much as women. Examples of things men will gossip about is who is dating who, who’s more jacked than another, various kinds of achievements, often with embellishments of course, and who did them, and who got what and why it’s better than what you’ve got.
Yep……your right on, I really have seen and listened to all of that ****! Sooooo disgusted by it. Great video! Happy you tackled it! Well put! Looking forward to more!!!!Thank you!!!!!!
On point with #5 Brother Allen. It all begins in the home. God's Peace and Grace to you all 🙏😊
*Ubarikiwe sana, this one is so informative, here from EAST AFRICA TANZANIA in JESUS' name may you stay blessed🙏*
No man is perfect, and one attitude of my dad that I avoid for myself is to hold a double standard, that the wife work at least part time but also perform all the work at home. You can pick the traditional one income standard or the modern two income standard, but don't try to have it both ways in your favor.
I just got back on my walk of faith. Thank you for this video.
I'm trying to be the man that God wants me to be. I'm weak in SO MANY areas! PLEASE, pray for me and I'll pray for you!!!
I'm praying for you Robert. I pray the Lord help you understand your purpose and activates you in the call he has for your life. I pray that he strengthens you and surrounds you with men that sharpen you.
@@RTKMEN Thank you! I've subscribed to your page. I've come a long way since this post, but still have a long way to go. Thank you for your prayers! God bless you!
@@robertdavis3036 praise God for your journey brother. May you continue to be a voice for our other brothers trying to break free from the devils grip.
@@RTKMEN AMEN!!!
Great content. I don't understand how anyone could dislike this video...unless they are doing the things on this video that should be avoided. #repentandbelieveinthegospel
Thank you for sharing this. I can admit that I am guilty of several of these. But I am glad to have been challenged through this video. I pray for all of the brothers including myself that struggle in any area that take us away from God’s will for our lives.
I'm guilty of not being a money provider right now. I've had so many up and down jobs, worked so hard at all these places and have got nowhere, having injuries and losing jobs because of back pain and I have been struggling for a long time. I tried starting my own company which during maintenance season for picking up jobs my brand new equipment broke down and was out for almost 4 months due to no parts being available so I missed my opportunity to pick up work... So now I only make 40 dollars a week. Now my wife is working at walmart and doing shopping app jobs to provide for me, her and my son while I sit here depressed not knowing what to do...
Thank you father that you are a provider. You provide for the birds and the flowers so how much more would you care for us? I pray father that you would open doors of opportunity for this man to provide financially for his family. I ask that you give him godly wisdom in seeking those opportunities. I also ask father that you would comfort him in knowing that his worth is found in you and not in the amount of money he makes. Strengthen his wife as she works hard for the family. We present these requests in Jesus’ holy name. Amen.
One thing about many modern sisters in Christ, it seems like modesty isn’t thought in the church. Anyways, this is just my observation. The older sisters need to teach the young women biblical things, likewise the older men teach the younger men biblical things.
It's not that we don't teach the younger women, it's just they don't listen or tell us we are judging them (I really wish that people truly understood the difference between judging, judging with righteous judgement, and correction). God is going to hold them accountable for their disregard. And likewise with the brothers who aren't modest either. It goes both ways.
@@MrzWill Lol. Thank you, sister. Many brothers are shocked to hear that sisters are just as stubborn as we are. 😅
Modesty needs to taught to men and women in the church. No one should have to face risk the temptation of lust, that includes our sisters in Christ.
People should stop liking half naked or immodest pictures on social media, because it will give courage to women or men to wear those dresses outside. We should not encourage these types of behavior.
These women get bent out of shape if you try to teach them how to BE proverb 31 woman🤷🏽♀️
This was good Allen. Shouts to my fellow brother in Christ in Dallas.
The more I listen the more my heart breaks. 😞
How so...yes it's sobering to hear. What's on your mind?
@@thebeatagp definitely sobering however, my 3 year relationship ended 2 days ago due to these behaviors. I must admit there's been significant change on his part yet the wounds of these said actions seem to resurface by certain triggers and just caused pure turmoil on both ends. Basically, this video showed me that what I've been asking for is indeed possible.... Trusting God to work in me so ill be ready to receive this in His timing 🙏🏻
@@kelseybattoo6177 it is so possible. While no man is perfect and most/all men deal with lust on some level, some men have it worse than others and if you are dealing with a man who is far right on the spectrum of lust, it can create HUGE problems in your marriage down the line.
Thank you for your boldness.
Mr. Parr, as for the husband or men lacking the work around the house, that doesn't apply to me.
I do the work around the house, cooking, cleaning, laundry, working on the car, sweeping, mopping, dusting, washing dishes (we share making the bed up).
If anything, I get tired of the constant "you should know what I'm thinking mind games". My wife is verbal when need be, but a lot of it is confusing because it's a case by case scenario that most/some of the time doesn't require me as a male interaction to do something.
I personally do help when I can, but there are times where I truly believe I am not appreciated for it.
So I just keep to myself and study my Bible and ask God to direct my thoughts.
This should be common knowledge and taught to the youth. I was born into a secular family. Never have heard my parents even say the word God. I've had to learn lessons the hard way. Great video brother keep spreading the truth.