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My house mate fits this description. I have had many fruitless confrontations, leaving me frustrated , angry and tired.(I am 84 and not well). I will from now on try to follow this guidance and let God take care of this problem. Praised be Jesus Christ!!
Yep, and they're are a few in my family I have to love from a distance. They are experts at manipulation. Its hard to understand people who are wired that way.
If you don't call them out, they make your life Hell, if you do call them out, they make your life Hell. You can't win with a narcissist. Prayers for everyone struggling to live/exist in peace around such toxic people. 🙏🏻✝️💖🇺🇸
I have one in my life now ... Not the first time and I didn't let them get as close. But they are still chasing.. I surrender that responsibility to my Father 😢. 🙌🏻🙏🏻
I finally left my abuser, after almost 28 years of a horrific marriage. I’m thankful for the pain, those terrible and terrifying decades of pain, drove me to take my own life. I failed. God is not done with me yet. I’m going to school to become a Christian trauma informed therapist. I don’t know how, but I’ve never heard God speak so clearly to me. I’ll be fervently praying for those victims who endure a relationship that is its own living hell.
Only people who shared a life with them will know what we have been through. Finally after 25 yrs of marriage I chose to walk away from a permanently damaged twisted man, there is no reasoning with these people, they are sick to the core.
I choose Gods peace over toxic chaos. My mother, my husband. I ask for their healing as I will no longer assist in it. I cannot make them see who they are and the damage they have caused and are causing. I back away emotionally for my peace and give it to God now and for ever. I will now and always stand on His ground and accept the peace only from him. Amen
It seems as though you took no blame or fault at all here... You may not be too blame but should you not ask for God's guidance on yourself and not just for your husband and mother? If not spoken in the same way you spoke it about others, are you not possibly, a narcissist?
@well-dressed-bird who are we to judge. Do you know what it's like to become a Christian and people turn against you even though you stay quiet not retaliate or acting better than others but want to know the one who loved us first and his son who gave his life for us. Darkness doesn't like light.
This is important to understand so we all should listen intently to it. I learned this a few years back that it’s ok to step away from toxic people and this reinforces that information for me. It is too difficult to love narcissistic people until you step away from their effect on you. I must get this book.
This is important to understand so we all should listen intently to it. I learned this a few years back that it’s ok to step away from toxic people and this reinforces that information for me. It is too difficult to love narcissistic people until you step away from their effect on you. I must get this book.
If you’re here reading this, know that God sees your struggles, even when others twist your intentions. Lord, thank You for Your unwavering truth and justice. Teach us to be still and trust that You fight our battles when we cannot. May Your peace calm every anxious heart today. Amen! 💛🕊
Facts! Truth! Correct. On point. Righto, mate. Seeking to rely on man rather than God is exhausting for the seeker, and usually brings out the worst in the sought.
I needed to be reminded of this, thank you !! "Woe unto him who leans upon the arm of the flesh." People will disappoint us & we will to others as well . Going to God & praying about everything will help us not to become offended & think bad things when people don't deliver as we would like or expect them to.
I'm genuinely curious, as someone who is struggling to grasp the concept of surrendering to God. I would absolutely love to give it all too God.... Now with that being said I seem to be confused and ignorant on the how of it all.... May sound dumb but that's what's going on. I struggle with saying a prayer and talking out loud to the Lord, and feel like Im surrendering my troubles over. What are some ways you may have that allow you to surrender? Examples may help me grasp the information I'm trying to discern
Thank you so much for writing this! I am sitting here with my journal open and writing your words down. I needed a reminder of this in my life as well! God bless
22 years here! I can't believe I survived with any sanity! I pray your life is as peaceful as mine is now. Can you believe, even now, after 12 years apart, he is still blaming me for his now horrible life?
Today, I commit my trust in JESUS CHRIST to make it possible to heal. I turn this entire situation over to HIM! I WANT the peace that only CHRIST can bring. I praise JESUS CHRIST! I ask him to protect my spirit. I ask for strength to achieve total commitment to HIM!✝️
Got away from all the toxic people and found there was nobody left. But, I'm not on my own - I got Jesus. For each wrong turn He'll light the way right.
when I was being told to let go long ago as a struggling single mom out from.an abusive scene ....I also felt like no one was left & didnt quite know how to wait on the Lord. love you Lord thx u for seeing me thru ❤❤❤❤
many alcoholics are narcissists - both my parents and my ex all were narcs and alcoholics. They are in a lot of pain but to selfish to see that they create pain with their behavior, hence the narcissism, it is all about them, 24/7. Lean on the Lord, He will guide your next steps.
41 years and many many children I do understand I have just lately been able to see everything in a much clearer light. I’ve been praying for 24 years. It helps. Trust God beg his help. I love the rosary it’s a life line to heavens help. Good luck . Prayers for you.
You can do this! You finally have the knowledge that it isn’t you… it’s always been him. God will provide all the strength you need now. His army of soul warriors are on your side. 🙏♥️
This is excellent. Narcissism is satanic. We can't beat Satan. It's best to keep your dignity and let God deal with this dishonest, manipulative, sadistic person.
We can beat satan by walking away from it. You get the victory in Jesus name and satan is defeated. I had to walk away to have peace in my life. That is how the enemy is defeated.
Of course 1000% we CAN BEAT SATAN..he already lost when we found JESUS..SATAN is a LIAR..TELL HIM SO AUDIBLY I. THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS..he must flee And hates the WORD OF GOD..THAT IS OUR SWORD...God gave us ATHORITY OVER ALLLLLLL THINGS..claim it❤🙏♥️☝️
This is very timely. My father recently passed and he was so broken. I helped as much as I could with his physical and mental comfort. My mother is a malignant narcissist. Last week I asked God to take over, and deal with this toxic mess. And then I listen to this. Indeed it was God’s Grace and Holy Spirit that nudged me to ask for God’s help last week. And here again it appears that God intervenes once more to tell me that I am on the right path.
Similar experience for me. This place's algorithm serves me nothing but trash normally yet after sincere prayer last night I found this video which told me EXACTLY what I needed to hear. A very overwhelming experience. God is good.
MY MOM IS ALSO A MALIGNANT COVERT NARCISSIST AND MY SISTER IS HER GOLDEN CHILD AND ENABLER. I AGREED TO RENT TO OWN A HOME WITH THEM THAT IS IN MY MOM'S NAME AND IT HAS BEEN THE WORST 7 YEARS OF HELL FOR ME AND I FEEL SOOOOOOOOO DRAINED EMOTIONALLY MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY....GOD SPEED!
@@jamielynngallegos9196 You can only go no contact with these demons. Then, it's in God's hands. You can't deal with a demon unless your an expert-exorcist. Run and don't look back.
I guess all those battles fought and led by God's people you would call toxic. You know....by Moses, Joshua, King David....so toxic. What was God thinking?
Good way to notice if you may be with a narcissist if you had one in the past is simply look for similarities. Pay attention to body language and especially the structure of how they speak. There will always be similarities. Not a bad idea to become versed on the subject.
@@janedias1501 I can answer that. They spen their entire lives lying and manipulating ppl and they believe they can talk God out of sending them to hell.
Ditto! I don't think that I would have ever left on my own, and the relationship was slowly and painfully killing me. I even got cancer and was an emotional wreck. God finally pulled me out of the dark pit I was in. ❤
The biggest threat to this country is DOJ's Community Policing program which is supervised by scapegoating narcissists who delude themselves into believing that they are pinnacles of virtue capable of scapegoating anybody for anything. I've seen them target people because they communicated with a target at a business like a deli clerk at a grocery store. It's a Commie Satanic Technocratic Surveillance State that doesn't use warrants and doesn't disclose sources, methods, technology. The real threat is The US Military using mind control technology to subvert free will to entrap targets. They did it to me for decades. There is no rule of law that applies to a mere security firm that organizes gang stalking of dissidents, whistleblowers, complainants, and anybody unlucky enough to be targeted as a patsy.....to facilitate all the no bid, front loaded, cost plus surveillance contacts. You are subverted by Commies. And, these Commies...all see themselves as good solid citizens?
If you don’t mind me asking, how did he remove you? I am 30 years in and I’m stuck I want to be removed too… I have been praying and fasting he sabotages my jobs it’s been crazy. He’s also bipolar which is a whole other whammy.
@Tee-jay-365 he opened my eyes to what he was doing. The final straw was him talking to another girl on messenger on christmas day last year. I tried to make myself believe he would change but he never did and i would never have left that relationship no matter how abusive physically, emotionally or mentally but God knew i needed to see this with my own eyes for affirmation. It broke my heart into a million pieces but im way better off. 6 years of my life wasted on a demon who didnt love me but set out to destroy me. Time heals. It will take time to heal completely but i will and you will. The only thing i can say is get away from them and have no contact with them. None. Make sure you go somewhere where there will be support for you. Its hard but you can do it. Prayers for you and Gods protection
@@Tee-jay-365 you need to just do it! Don’t stay in the relationship and then ask, how do I get out! Make a plan, save up money, find a divorce lawyer or just pack up and leave and don’t look back. If you return to get your stuff, bring someone with you, never go back alone. It’s easier than you think!
I'm sorry, I feel guilty too and I'm just putting things togarher. I k ew something wasn't right. 14 yrs but still dating. It made since to not rush because we both been married twice. The hard part is I still Love him deeply, but realizing he dnt love me, it's always about him. he has all the signs. I can relate to u feeling guilty. I wish u peace and hope you heal.❤
Self Preservation requires no apology. It can be hard to disentangle from the person/people and history but your well being requires it. Think of them as predators that you don't want to trigger the hunting instinct so just back away slowly and/o simply disappear. One method is Grey Rock 🪨 - become very boring to them - simple yes/no and minimal contact. Trust God, he sees all and his justice is perfect!
This message is so timely for me to hear because my long time boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago and i was mourning the loss at the same time remembering all the narcissistic things he did. So God was merciful and my boyfriend actually did me a favor because i was still hoping and enduring his bad behavior. God is good all the time!
I chose God peace after years of trying to deal with a narcissist without knowing that he was! I was making excuses for him because I thought I loved him enough to change him. 😢
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos. This video popping up on my feed is super timely. I started this year with a promise to myself to break free from my traumas and focus on myself and my walk with God. So seeing this video is another indication and God's sign for me to just be "STILL" and let him be GOD. 🙌🏼 Thank you Lord. 🙏🏼
I was married to a covert narcissist for 20 years and finally broke free when I stepped out of the cycle, simply by no longer letting him control my emotions. It took 3 months to be able to do it without feeling that awful hole in my chest. Sadly, I got remarried to another covert narcissist, and ten years later I'm finding myself in this exact same place. I hate it so much. I'm almost 52 and have spent the entirety of my adult life unloved by a man. It really does make you question what's so unlovable about you. I don't even know who I am anymore, or if I'm wise enough or strong enough to make it out a second time. 30+ years of praying, begging God to heal the narcissist so you can have a normal healthy relationship takes an enormous toll. It's really difficult having to surrender only to be ditched. The narcissist will NEVER CHANGE. as long as we can really understand that truth, that's the only time we'll be able to step away. Stop imagining a fantasy world where he loves you, he doesn't, he can't, and he never will. The narcissist only loves himself.
I’m sorry that happened to you. I have the same. Malignant narcissist mom, and I chose a boyfriend who beat me, then married a wife beater, and then a pedophile. All were toxic narcissists of course. Edit: I divorced at 59, and finally my sweet father passed and I am free of my malignant narcissist mother. She’s in God’s hands now and I pray she can be healed.
@60sGirl123 I understand your pain. I don't know if I'll ever heal from this. I had 9 children with the first one and one with the second. He's only 7. It's going to be a long while. I fear for my children.
All these stories are so shockingly similar... I've been surrounded by these people all my life. It's truly horrifying.. sometimes I feel like I don't even want to be in this world anymore.. my heart goes out to all of you...
We live in treacherous times full of majority narcs and a lot of times the same thing that makes you loveable to a normal healthy person also makes you an easy target for the narcissist. I know how it feels to ask that same question why can't I just get something as simple as love? But, I can't lie to myself. I'm partially to blame for ending up with a narc. I was a people pleaser and I let that direct my life so much that it perverted my discernment. You said you felt a hole in your chest every time you stood up to him so I suspect you're also guilty of that. No that doesn't make you any less of a victim than what you are of the circumstances but it's also not God's way at all. People pleasing puts the opinion of man ahead of the word of God. So if you feel like you may be a people pleaser ask God to Search Your Heart then repent ask for forgiveness confess and then move on. Don't beat yourself up over it.I think you deserve love. God cherishes you and I know that he didn't want that for you and as a sister in Christ neither do I but maybe the only one who is capable of loving us in these times is our heavenly father till he gathers his sheep.
I choose peace over chaos and will never go back! I never thought I would recover from the abuse, but I did and I couldn’t be more grateful! Trust me I still have my days, but I do trust that God has all the answers and solutions, so I gave it all to him to bear, and nothing has felt more empowering. I pray for my family that’s entangled in this every day and hope they eventually find peace. Nobody deserves the abuse of a narcissist. NOBODY!
I choose God‘s peace over toxic relationships. I’m in a horrendous situation now beginning of a divorce and an an estrangement 😢 from a narcissistic daughter decades of abuse from a narcissist husband, who is not a believer. He’s given me grounds and departed from this marriage in every way emotionally spiritually mentally. He is a narcissist I can tell from this video and so is his daughter. I can no longer live like this. Abuse I endured for many decades. I finally said enough. I really believe God brought this into my TH-cam stream. He keeps bringing the CS Lewis videosthat speak to me 100% and I’m so grateful thank you.
I can relate to your story. The most difficult and draining part is to diagnose. Much easier with your husband but your only daughter?? It took me almost half of the century to see that she is also a narcissist. Learning not to struggle with a thought why it happened to me; it is like I am now in a process to become more humble and trusting God on a deeper level!
I CHOOSE GOD'S PEACE OVER TOXIC BEHAVIOR!!!!!!! I THANK YOU HOLY SPIRIT FOR ALLOWING ME TO SEE, READ & COMPREHEND THIS MESSAGE; HELP & SHOW ME HOW TO APPLY IT TO MY LIFE! THANK YOU JESUS, AMEN!
Only way to apply it is to go thru it.... Basically take a little of that which destroys you every day and gargle it around until it becomes a tonic that protects you. Be careful of what you ask for. Can't apply the knowledge unless you have not only must you learn the knowledge you must also go through the lesson enough until you hear it clearly enough to become aware of it and then apply it. Asking to apply it is basically asking for more situations to happen. So don't start doubting God if it happens again and your not sure why lol you just didn't learn the lesson. And I hope you have no need to apply the knowledge and meet someone who is worth a damn amen
Thank you Sir, I'm from this relationship since my teens up to my 50+; married for 30+. It's ONLY God's hand who took me out of that demonic relationship. Who said to me "fear not for I AM with you".
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos. On Christ the solid rock I stand, all other ground is shifting sand. Thank you for this message and thank you Jesus for leading me here. 26:16
This is unfortunately a reality. I experience it first hand on a daily basis. But I choose His decernment and Truth. This teaching helps me alot with perspective!
@@erikadebeer1502 the key is found in 2 Timothy 3:1-5, "But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these." Notice the last part of verse 5. Also notice the last part of verse 7, "always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth."
True! I left a nomination where all 5 of the leaders were narcissists(diff.degree) Exosed in media because of the social control, manipulation and gaslightning. The best place for them to thrive is among gullible people….😢
Quiet time with God n with Bible is wiser. Toxic behaviour is in Proverbs, its invisible in heart n soul. Provocateur n cause until we must be like Jesus not Peter or Moses or Jonah " Do what you want to do" . Pray for resurrection n meet many doubting Thomas.
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos. Lord of Mercy as i forgive, protect me, guide me and renew my strenght. Praying deliverance over my ennemies. Thank you for this CS Lewis message i needed it, God bless you and all the people in this channel.
It was really tough being the daughter of a narcissist mother. AND be her scapegoat child while my little brother was (is) her Golden child. I was 53 yrs old before I realized I would NEVER be good enough for her; NOTHING I could ever do to win her approval. After one last emotional, gaslighting, and verbal attack, I made the decision to go no contact, to NEVER be in a room with her alone again. EVER. My father understood it at first, but as time went on, home with her day after day, she gaslighted and blamed me, and finally convinced my dad EVERYTHING was ALL My Fault. Truth: I tried for all my adult life to show her respect and love, to win over the mother who had been physically and emotionally abusive to me my whole life... to show her I didn't hold her past treatment against her, that I wanted a loving Mother-Daughter relationship with her. But she could NOT accept me as her equal. She could NOT let me be ME. Everything I did was wrong, was backwards, it wasn't her way so it was not the right way. I was 53 years old the day she looked into my dad's eyes right in front of me and LIED to my dad about me, and accused ME of being the liar... and He had to live with her and endure her controlling wrath, so he chose to believe her over me. Broke my heart. That's when I decided to stay away from her to the best of my ability, an be around her only when there were witnesses - that way she wouldn't say the horrible things to me that she said when we were alone. Years AFTER that, I found videos similar to this one explaining what a Narcissist was, and I was astounded, so relieved to know what it was, and that "withdrawing myself from her drama" as I'd thought of it, aka "Going No Contact" was actually a tactic encouraged by professionals. It's difficult when it's a domestic partner, but it's very precarious when it's your own mother. Some of my family gets it, but my brother - who had a totally different relationship with her, doesn't understand it at all. She died a couple of years ago, and even tho' she's gone, she still wins. My brother inherits all their real estate. My brother and his wife got all the jewelry, they get the extra grave plot beside my parents... and I'm still alone in understanding what a covert narcissist she was, and btw, she also had histrionic personality disorder. She really knew how to charm people and manipulate them, but talk nothing but gossip and trash about them behind their backs. I love my brother and I don't blame him for being his mother's Golden child. I love my father. They just don't know all she did and said to me because she was smart, she knew not to allow any witnesses to her evil toward me. Whoever you are... YOU have the RIGHT to pull away from the drama in your life created by a narcissist, no matter who they are. YOU are important. YOU have a right to PEACE and RESPECT. You are NOT a bad person if you choose to protect yourself from someone who gives themselves permission to abuse you and belittle you and make your life stressful and miserable. No one else is going to protect you; You must do what you need to do to protect yourself.... and that's ok.
I'm so sorry you endured this for so long. You did the right thing. I was married to my narc for 46 years, so I get it. He died 3 years ago and I've been raging at him for all this time. It's only hurt me more. Like he won anyway since I'm left with the scars. But today, just today, God sent me this video. It has given me a peace spiritually that I can't explain. God has set me free today, hallelujah!!!!!!!!!!! I pray that you, too will have this peace. I pray for all victims of narc abuse today to find peace. I know you lost material things and that's hard but if you lose your soul, that's worst. Your peace of mind is worth everything. God has a plan for you. I pray for good health and all the good things going forward for u. Happy New Year...God bless you
I'm so sorry for all the years of pain. No matter our age, we have an intrinsic need to be accepted and loved by our parents. I can't imagine how hard it's been for you. My husband has a narcissistic mother and I recognized her manipulations immediately after we started dating (in our 20's). We are now in our 50's and he has just started to see her behavior for what it is. Now I'm watching him struggle with realizing a lifetime of attempts to "win her over" were futile. But, there is some healing and he's beginning to let go of the guilt she made him feel. I think you are strong and brave to survive what you have. And, you should commend yourself for being so insightful and realizing where the problem was, your mother & not you. I've prayed for your peace and strength and for God to "open" the eyes of your Father and brother. God bless you & know you're worth is so much more than any earthly treasures that pale in comparison to the Heavenly treasures waiting for you! ❤🌻
my story is similar to yours. I'm the oldest of 7 and my N mom's scapegoat - my entire life. she told me outright at different times that I was nuts, that I didn't remember things right, that I was very bad. maybe I'm lucky though - the 2 brothers after me got beat by her every day most of their lives. (I didn't know that until she was close to death and I had regular contact with the brother next to me. It was great, although painful, to share stories.) With my mom the only way to start to get along with her was to agree with everything she said, do everything how she said to do it , hate & bash the people she hated & bashed, etc., etc,. After I went into Alanon (dad was alcoholic and for the longest time I thought that was my primary problem) and after I did the steps I had increasing awareness of the stunts she pulled. I thought of going no contact - however my training in the steps indicated you have no hope of ever helping anyone you've cut off so NC was discouraged. I will tell you one story of healing my mom and I had. This was just weeks before she died, decades after me practicing what I learned in Alanon. One day she yelled at me for stealing something. I was puzzled because I never even noticed that object! I was staying at her house and the next day she found the object had fallen off it's table and was on the floor. in her typical smart-arse manner she said, "I suppose I owe you an apology" (maybe the first time she ever said anything like that!) I'm sure an angel was speaking through me because in the sweetest calmest voice I said something like, 'no worries. I've falsely accused people in the past too." I swear that years of tenseness fell off her face and shoulders. It occurred to me that my mom may have never experienced any forgiveness. She did tell me once that she only felt total peace two times in her entire life (that was when I had learned to meditate and asked if she ever learned to meditate). My heart went out to her. Mind you - that incident did not heal everything - but the weeks before she died we did not have one more spat or little argument. I suspect she would have preferred being different as much as her children would have liked it. I also prefer to call her "sick" as I learned to do with my alcoholic dad. Over the years I have met a handful of truly evil people - bottomless darkness in their eyes and other signals - and my mom was not that even though she did plenty of evil things. Anyway I'm glad for the bit of forgiveness and peace she and I found. I'll never know how much that affected her - but like I said - it felt like an angel was using my voice to love her so who knows .....
Save yourself the The irreparable cranial Intellectual Damage brought on with the Constant challenge/ Battle with Stupidity. Irreparable damage to the Nervous system of your Intelligence Quotient. Save your breath on your Next Breath You may just be needing it .Oh and Guard your Heart and Spirit too while you're at it.
Say that to someone who is stalked and had attempted murder numerous times, brakes stolen, vehicle shut down and sped up by hacking into computer, poisoned, terrorized years on end...easy to say if you haven't experienced severe attacks by evil and they turn everyone against you with their lies..
Narcissists will even challenge court orders. But a higher power saw it all. His Justice is unescabable. My identity is anchored in God's truth and peace. So mote it be.
If you are a Freemason or into the Occult or Witchcraft, that is not the true God of the Bible, and you will NEVER have TRUE peace! Turn to Jesus Christ of Nazareth and confess your sins and renounce any religious entanglements from these demonic organizations.
I choose God‘s peace over a toxic relationship. When I was married of 20 I didn’t realize my now ex husband was a narcissist. I didn’t even know what the word was, but not to long in our marriage I realized something wasn’t right. My daughter, 48 years old, it’s also narcissist. I have distance myself from her. However, she has two children that I do not see because of this. It Breaks my heart, but I cannot do the job that only God can do. I will always pray for her and hope that she can find happiness some day.
I understand think my spouse of Almost 50 years had narcissist behavior which I did not know. And my daughter is one possibly because I just got away from a man who I thought was real but was a narcissist. I have 6.5 months recovery and cannot believe I was dupped again and was very hurt by the man I fell in love with but he was a very sick man and he almost destroyed me my dog and ruined my rv. He was demonic so terrible. He kept destroying me for 1.5 yrs so he could take all and just use me. We got rings and he wanted to marry me but I was afraid of just what happened. I wanted to help him to the day he would die. I did not know there was such evil. He was native. Do not know if what he told me in his life whether it was true or not. I was vulnerable with depression from spouses death and very naive. Well got A’s in psychology and never learned about narcissists in any books I studied. So turning to God for help to recover. He tried to take everything I had and used me. He said he was trying to make me tough by saying crappy stuff to me to tear me down not to make me tough. My daughter is a user just like him. Really a mind blower. He promised a lot all lies. He stole from me a lot. Very sick and very abusive demonic good grief such lessons to learn. Have to stay away from any family they are all not okay. Took me a long time to see. It sucks since I never was taught anything so had no protection against all that. I wanted family so much. I always was helping all. Now me with my dog and seeking God for all. Had to save my dog he almost killed her had to help her recover her health her pancreas and her liver plus helping myself to recover my heath also. Plus have met so many who have been abused by narcissists. I encourage young people to protect themselves and am so happy when I meet young people who have understanding of it all.
I have three grown children. My 48 year old daughter is a narcissist. So sad that this Christmas we will not be together. She lives 2 blocks away and mother to three of my grandsons....8, 16 and 24. I do miss the 8 yr old. Last weekend she excluded me and her sister from the 24 year olds graduation for his masters. I am the only living grandparent. So tired of the disrespect. I am taking a stand and stepping back and trusting the Lord. I can't fix this!
You're not alone, my son is keeping me from my gkids. It's better in God's hands, it's one of those impossible for man kinda things.@nancybrantley9694
Our younger daughter said a year ago that she ia done with us and siblings. She is 36 now. God has given me peace and He knows what she needs. I continue to pray for her and hope one day He turns her heart to Him and opens her spiritual eyes.
Thank you C.S.Lewis!!!! You have made clear what I have been struggling with for years. I have a narcissistic brother that fits this profile exactly. I so wish I had seen this when I was dealing with him. So sad that this is the path he chose, but I finally recognized what he was and stepped away completely. Although I continue to pray for God to open his eyes, I know I cannot. The boundaries God has taught us to set are the only things that allow me to come back to peace. I have learned to pray “Dear Lord, let him find no peace until the peace of Jesus is in his heart.” Anyone dealing with a narcissist, listen carefully to this message. C.S. Lewis is sharing God’s truth about the behavior and only God can change it. Step aside, and give it all to God.
We can forgive and pray for the person who is the toxic narcissist that we live with from a different address.. no need to stay in the same house.. put distance between you and them.. maintain your peace.. this was excellent advice.. thank you for these words of wisdom..
I Choose God's Peace Over Toxic Behavior Through The Power of The Holy Spirit in Jesus "Our King of Peace" Name. Amen!!!❤❤❤ THANK YOU ABBA FATHER GOD!!!❤❤❤
Heavenly Father, I come to you today in humility faith and love, Lord I pray and trust that whatever situation Kimberly is experiencing right now you will guide her and give her discernment peace and a new smile🤗 each morning. In Jesus name amen . Hey Kimberly....when the "outlook doesn't look too hot"..."try the UPLOOK🙏🏻💪🏻🙌🏻!!" ...and as my dad used to say to his Hang glider students..."ya can't soar with the eagles if your hanging out on the ground with the turkeys" 😉 may the Lord keep and bless you Kimberly... God's daughter. -pastor Cashy
@@Kick-y9mHow beautiful Gods beauty all over both Kimberly and your response Thank you Amen to prayer for you sister in Christ You are his beloved Praise God for his everlasting love towards his children❤
Dear Jesus, please give her and the rest of us dealing with narcissistic situations, the strength to disengage and hide in You. Help us to abide under Your wings. Psalm 91.
This message is transforming for those of us who have to deal with a toxic relationship. My favourite scripture from Psalm 46 is “Be still and know that I am God”. It is the foundation of my faith in Him. He has saved me from so much stress and sadness. Praise Him.
Thank you your words resonate with my marriage where I have been told I am a bad wife. I have raised 5 children with only one hand & on a farm where I have worked so hard. I feel worthless & unable to please my Calvinist husband who tells me maybe Jesus didn’t choose or die for my dad. He wouldn’t let our children sing Jesus loves me because he doesn’t love them because they are rotten filthy sinners. I am going to withdraw from these confrontations & leave it to God to solve & trust Him for His love that I am worth something
Lord i am praying for Anne as she as well praying in her marriage with children and work on the farm. You are giving her the power to do your will Father not mans,if he the husband is that don't know you open the eyes of his heart,
And I join you in prayer that God will soften her husband's heart and he will see the error of his ways That Anne will have a.peace joy and strength that surpasses all understanding ❤ in Jesus name 🙏 AMEN
Remember that the good Shepherd leaves the 99 to look for the one. You are loved greatly. The church is the bride of Christ. He has redeemed you and you are beautiful in his sight.
Stay strong, Anne Marie. Our Lord Jesus died for all. We are all sinners and all have evil hearts according to God's word. It is by the blood of Christ that He shed on Calvary, which gives us salvation and makes all of us worthy, so long as we repent and are obedient to His word. God bless you, Anne ❤ 🙏
I understand completely now. I choose God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. I have became spiritually weakened and now understand how to deal with it. I will let God handle what has always out of my reach.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Distance yourself from those toxic people they are eating spirits and distractions and easily we can lose our salvation! This year I made a choice to disconnect from whoever and let God handle my battles 👆🏼🗣️🔊
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Wow, I have been battered , this has come just in time I choose God's peace over toxic behaviour ❤
@@sheilagalvin9704I share Gods peace
My house mate fits this description. I have had many fruitless confrontations, leaving me frustrated , angry and tired.(I am 84 and not well). I will from now on try to follow this guidance and let God take care of this problem. Praised be Jesus Christ!!
I love and forgive all. But some people are better loved from a great distance with zero contact.
😂I AGREE!
And that is mentioned somewhere in The Book
Well said!
I agree
Yep, and they're are a few in my family I have to love from a distance. They are experts at manipulation. Its hard to understand people who are wired that way.
If you don't call them out, they make your life Hell, if you do call them out, they make your life Hell. You can't win with a narcissist. Prayers for everyone struggling to live/exist in peace around such toxic people. 🙏🏻✝️💖🇺🇸
I have one in my life now ...
Not the first time and I didn't let them get as close. But they are still chasing..
I surrender that responsibility to my Father 😢. 🙌🏻🙏🏻
I finally left my abuser, after almost 28 years of a horrific marriage. I’m thankful for the pain, those terrible and terrifying decades of pain, drove me to take my own life. I failed.
God is not done with me yet.
I’m going to school to become a Christian trauma informed therapist.
I don’t know how, but I’ve never heard God speak so clearly to me.
I’ll be fervently praying for those victims who endure a relationship that is its own living hell.
Only people who shared a life with them will know what we have been through. Finally after 25 yrs of marriage I chose to walk away from a permanently damaged twisted man, there is no reasoning with these people, they are sick to the core.
That would be me, so it's crucial I digest God's word as much as possible
@@OlympiaMoose28 years...wow
I choose Gods peace over toxic chaos. My mother, my husband. I ask for their healing as I will no longer assist in it. I cannot make them see who they are and the damage they have caused and are causing. I back away emotionally for my peace and give it to God now and for ever. I will now and always stand on His ground and accept the peace only from him. Amen
I choose peace over toxic behaviour.
It seems as though you took no blame or fault at all here...
You may not be too blame but should you not ask for God's guidance on yourself and not just for your husband and mother?
If not spoken in the same way you spoke it about others, are you not possibly, a narcissist?
Well dressed bird when you’re dealing with a narcissist, there are not two sides
Full of love and wisdom you are....@well-dressed-bird
@well-dressed-bird who are we to judge. Do you know what it's like to become a Christian and people turn against you even though you stay quiet not retaliate or acting better than others but want to know the one who loved us first and his son who gave his life for us. Darkness doesn't like light.
"As you walk away from the confrontation you are not walking away from justice, you are walking toward divine intervention."
@@nhtom8 Well-stated! ♥️🙏
I absolutely love this
THAT comment is SO helpful for me. I've listened to half of the broadcast and keep wanting practical advice.
This is important to understand so we all should listen intently to it.
I learned this a few years back that it’s ok to step away from toxic people and this reinforces that information for me. It is too difficult to love narcissistic people until you step away from their effect on you.
I must get this book.
This is important to understand so we all should listen intently to it.
I learned this a few years back that it’s ok to step away from toxic people and this reinforces that information for me. It is too difficult to love narcissistic people until you step away from their effect on you.
I must get this book.
If you’re here reading this, know that God sees your struggles, even when others twist your intentions. Lord, thank You for Your unwavering truth and justice. Teach us to be still and trust that You fight our battles when we cannot. May Your peace calm every anxious heart today. Amen! 💛🕊
Amen Amen in Jesus Mighty name!
Amen 🙏🏻
In the name of Jesus,
Amen
Thank you
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Never look for what you are missing outside God . People are never the answer for what we are missing, only God is .
Facts! Truth! Correct. On point. Righto, mate. Seeking to rely on man rather than God is exhausting for the seeker, and usually brings out the worst in the sought.
I needed to be reminded of this, thank you !! "Woe unto him who leans upon the arm of the flesh." People will disappoint us & we will to others as well . Going to God & praying about everything will help us not to become offended & think bad things when people don't deliver as we would like or expect them to.
Yes brod, thank you for reminding. Blessings from the Philippines.
I'm genuinely curious, as someone who is struggling to grasp the concept of surrendering to God. I would absolutely love to give it all too God.... Now with that being said I seem to be confused and ignorant on the how of it all.... May sound dumb but that's what's going on. I struggle with saying a prayer and talking out loud to the Lord, and feel like Im surrendering my troubles over. What are some ways you may have that allow you to surrender? Examples may help me grasp the information I'm trying to discern
Thank you so much for writing this! I am sitting here with my journal open and writing your words down. I needed a reminder of this in my life as well! God bless
I was married to a narcissist for 23 years. Praise God I was able to leave that unhealthy relationship with most of my marbles. 🥺
22 years here! I can't believe I survived with any sanity! I pray your life is as peaceful as mine is now. Can you believe, even now, after 12 years apart, he is still blaming me for his now horrible life?
Jesus help me now
See, GOD was and is protecting you.
Today, I commit my trust in JESUS CHRIST to make it possible to heal. I turn this entire situation over to HIM! I WANT the peace that only CHRIST can bring. I praise JESUS CHRIST! I ask him to protect my spirit. I ask for strength to achieve total commitment to HIM!✝️
I choose god peace over chaos
Got away from all the toxic people and found there was nobody left. But, I'm not on my own - I got Jesus. For each wrong turn He'll light the way right.
Same here.
when I was being told to let go long ago as a struggling single mom out from.an abusive scene ....I also felt like no one was left & didnt quite know how to wait on the Lord. love you Lord thx u for seeing me thru ❤❤❤❤
Cosmicstargazer, that's exactly my story as well
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos
Better to be alone than with toxic people. We have Jesus.
I choose God’s peace over toxicity.
I choose YHVH's peace over toxic chaos. Thank you and praise Him 🙏
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos! No more building on sand. But on solid rock. Christ is my rock, my refuge, my savior.
Amen
Amen 🙏
Amen
I would appreciate your prayers as married 53 yrs and thought it was his disease of alcoholism until GOD HOLY SPIRIT directed me here 12/17/2024.
By His Stripes we are healed.❤❤❤❤
many alcoholics are narcissists - both my parents and my ex all were narcs and alcoholics. They are in a lot of pain but to selfish to see that they create pain with their behavior, hence the narcissism, it is all about them, 24/7. Lean on the Lord, He will guide your next steps.
I feel this so much. I am married to an alcoholic as well.
41 years and many many children I do understand I have just lately been able to see everything in a much clearer light. I’ve been praying for 24 years. It helps. Trust God beg his help. I love the rosary it’s a life line to heavens help. Good luck . Prayers for you.
You can do this! You finally have the knowledge that it isn’t you… it’s always been him. God will provide all the strength you need now. His army of soul warriors are on your side. 🙏♥️
This is excellent.
Narcissism is satanic. We can't beat Satan. It's best to keep your dignity and let God deal with this dishonest, manipulative, sadistic person.
Tq. I thought God in us. God defeated Satan. With your comment , Trinity is powerful.
Jesus beat satan for us.
We CAN beat Satan!!!! Through Jesus Christ, who is King.
We can beat satan by walking away from it. You get the victory in Jesus name and satan is defeated. I had to walk away to have peace in my life. That is how the enemy is defeated.
Of course 1000% we CAN BEAT SATAN..he already lost when we found JESUS..SATAN is a LIAR..TELL HIM SO AUDIBLY I. THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS..he must flee
And hates the WORD OF GOD..THAT IS OUR SWORD...God gave us ATHORITY OVER ALLLLLLL THINGS..claim it❤🙏♥️☝️
This is very timely. My father recently passed and he was so broken. I helped as much as I could with his physical and mental comfort. My mother is a malignant narcissist. Last week I asked God to take over, and deal with this toxic mess. And then I listen to this. Indeed it was God’s Grace and Holy Spirit that nudged me to ask for God’s help last week. And here again it appears that God intervenes once more to tell me that I am on the right path.
Weird !
It is truly God intervening! When we see, we can see His work for us. Being grateful is so important from the heart. Bless you and Merry Christmas!!
Similar experience for me. This place's algorithm serves me nothing but trash normally yet after sincere prayer last night I found this video which told me EXACTLY what I needed to hear. A very overwhelming experience. God is good.
MY MOM IS ALSO A MALIGNANT COVERT NARCISSIST AND MY SISTER IS HER GOLDEN CHILD AND ENABLER. I AGREED TO RENT TO OWN A HOME WITH THEM THAT IS IN MY MOM'S NAME AND IT HAS BEEN THE WORST 7 YEARS OF HELL FOR ME AND I FEEL SOOOOOOOOO DRAINED EMOTIONALLY MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY....GOD SPEED!
@@jamielynngallegos9196 You can only go no contact with these demons. Then, it's in God's hands. You can't deal with a demon unless your an expert-exorcist. Run and don't look back.
I choose God's peace over a toxic environment
I guess all those battles fought and led by God's people you would call toxic. You know....by Moses, Joshua, King David....so toxic. What was God thinking?
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos. That this video "popped up" was Divine Intervention. Thank you Jesus.
Same here, l really needed this now.
I choose God's peace over toxic behaviour!
I choose God’s peace over toxic behavior 🙏
I declare that I choose God's peace over toxic choas. Amen
I declare that I choose God’s peace over toxic chaos. Amen 🙏 ❤ 26:16
I know i NEVER want to BE IN a RELATIONSHIP with a NARCISSIST EVER AGAIN .. THEY ARE VERY GOOD AT HIDING THIS ..! IT IS LIKE QUICK SAND .. 💔
Good comment. “ quicksand “ it’s the exact right word. 😢😢😢
Absolutely true, I don't know how they don't fear GOD....
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I can't remember the verse, but it is something about none so blind as cannot see.
Good way to notice if you may be with a narcissist if you had one in the past is simply look for similarities. Pay attention to body language and especially the structure of how they speak. There will always be similarities. Not a bad idea to become versed on the subject.
@@janedias1501 I can answer that. They spen their entire lives lying and manipulating ppl and they believe they can talk God out of sending them to hell.
LORD, WE NEED A MIRACLE BEFORE THE END OF THE YEAR. AMEN 🙏
Yes and amen!
Amen amen amen❤
Amen In Jesus Mighty Name!
We are already seeing miracles. Open your heart and see what God is doing in our time. God is good.
Amen
i choose God’s peace over toxic, delusional, deceitful behaviour
I choose Gods peace over toxic chaos .
God removed me from a narcissist relationship that was destroying me. He opened my eyes to the real truth. Im so better off without them in my life.
Ditto! I don't think that I would have ever left on my own, and the relationship was slowly and painfully killing me. I even got cancer and was an emotional wreck. God finally pulled me out of the dark pit I was in. ❤
The biggest threat to this country is DOJ's Community Policing program which is supervised by scapegoating narcissists who delude themselves into believing that they are pinnacles of virtue capable of scapegoating anybody for anything. I've seen them target people because they communicated with a target at a business like a deli clerk at a grocery store. It's a Commie Satanic Technocratic Surveillance State that doesn't use warrants and doesn't disclose sources, methods, technology. The real threat is The US Military using mind control technology to subvert free will to entrap targets. They did it to me for decades. There is no rule of law that applies to a mere security firm that organizes gang stalking of dissidents, whistleblowers, complainants, and anybody unlucky enough to be targeted as a patsy.....to facilitate all the no bid, front loaded, cost plus surveillance contacts. You are subverted by Commies. And, these Commies...all see themselves as good solid citizens?
If you don’t mind me asking, how did he remove you? I am 30 years in and I’m stuck I want to be removed too… I have been praying and fasting he sabotages my jobs it’s been crazy. He’s also bipolar which is a whole other whammy.
@Tee-jay-365 he opened my eyes to what he was doing. The final straw was him talking to another girl on messenger on christmas day last year. I tried to make myself believe he would change but he never did and i would never have left that relationship no matter how abusive physically, emotionally or mentally but God knew i needed to see this with my own eyes for affirmation. It broke my heart into a million pieces but im way better off. 6 years of my life wasted on a demon who didnt love me but set out to destroy me. Time heals. It will take time to heal completely but i will and you will. The only thing i can say is get away from them and have no contact with them. None. Make sure you go somewhere where there will be support for you. Its hard but you can do it. Prayers for you and Gods protection
@@Tee-jay-365 you need to just do it! Don’t stay in the relationship and then ask, how do I get out! Make a plan, save up money, find a divorce lawyer or just pack up and leave and don’t look back. If you return to get your stuff, bring someone with you, never go back alone. It’s easier than you think!
I choose Gods peace over toxic chaos. “Be still and know that I am God”.🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻👑
I really choose God's peace ❤. He alone is my rock and my salvation
I choose God’s peace over toxic behavior!! Yes and amen!
Sometimes stepping back and letting Him work behind the scenes is the most powerful choice we can make. Amen!
SOMETIMES? That's the problem! It must be ALWAYS.
I choose peace over toxic chaos. I walked away 5 years ago. I’ve felt guilty ever since. This has given me peace. Thank you Jesus for this message
I'm sorry, I feel guilty too and I'm just putting things togarher. I k ew something wasn't right. 14 yrs but still dating. It made since to not rush because we both been married twice. The hard part is I still Love him deeply, but realizing he dnt love me, it's always about him. he has all the signs. I can relate to u feeling guilty. I wish u peace and hope you heal.❤
Self Preservation requires no apology. It can be hard to disentangle from the person/people and history but your well being requires it. Think of them as predators that you don't want to trigger the hunting instinct so just back away slowly and/o simply disappear. One method is Grey Rock 🪨 - become very boring to them - simple yes/no and minimal contact.
Trust God, he sees all and his justice is perfect!
"I Choose God's Peace over toxic chaos, amen and amen."
I choose Gods peace over toxic relationships with narcissists in Jesus name.
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos.
This message is so timely for me to hear because my long time boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago and i was mourning the loss at the same time remembering all the narcissistic things he did. So God was merciful and my boyfriend actually did me a favor because i was still hoping and enduring his bad behavior. God is good all the time!
Amen
I chose God peace after years of trying to deal with a narcissist without knowing that he was! I was making excuses for him because I thought I loved him enough to change him. 😢
The problem is that YOU wanted to change him. That is God's job. Yours? Just pray over him and love him.
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos.
This video popping up on my feed is super timely. I started this year with a promise to myself to break free from my traumas and focus on myself and my walk with God. So seeing this video is another indication and God's sign for me to just be "STILL" and let him be GOD. 🙌🏼 Thank you Lord. 🙏🏼
I was married to a covert narcissist for 20 years and finally broke free when I stepped out of the cycle, simply by no longer letting him control my emotions. It took 3 months to be able to do it without feeling that awful hole in my chest.
Sadly, I got remarried to another covert narcissist, and ten years later I'm finding myself in this exact same place.
I hate it so much.
I'm almost 52 and have spent the entirety of my adult life unloved by a man.
It really does make you question what's so unlovable about you. I don't even know who I am anymore, or if I'm wise enough or strong enough to make it out a second time.
30+ years of praying, begging God to heal the narcissist so you can have a normal healthy relationship takes an enormous toll.
It's really difficult having to surrender only to be ditched. The narcissist will NEVER CHANGE.
as long as we can really understand that truth, that's the only time we'll be able to step away.
Stop imagining a fantasy world where he loves you, he doesn't, he can't, and he never will. The narcissist only loves himself.
I’m sorry that happened to you. I have the same. Malignant narcissist mom, and I chose a boyfriend who beat me, then married a wife beater, and then a pedophile. All were toxic narcissists of course.
Edit: I divorced at 59, and finally my sweet father passed and I am free of my malignant narcissist mother. She’s in God’s hands now and I pray she can be healed.
@60sGirl123 I understand your pain. I don't know if I'll ever heal from this. I had 9 children with the first one and one with the second. He's only 7. It's going to be a long while. I fear for my children.
Shocking
All these stories are so shockingly similar... I've been surrounded by these people all my life. It's truly horrifying.. sometimes I feel like I don't even want to be in this world anymore.. my heart goes out to all of you...
We live in treacherous times full of majority narcs and a lot of times the same thing that makes you loveable to a normal healthy person also makes you an easy target for the narcissist. I know how it feels to ask that same question why can't I just get something as simple as love? But, I can't lie to myself. I'm partially to blame for ending up with a narc. I was a people pleaser and I let that direct my life so much that it perverted my discernment. You said you felt a hole in your chest every time you stood up to him so I suspect you're also guilty of that. No that doesn't make you any less of a victim than what you are of the circumstances but it's also not God's way at all. People pleasing puts the opinion of man ahead of the word of God. So if you feel like you may be a people pleaser ask God to Search Your Heart then repent ask for forgiveness confess and then move on. Don't beat yourself up over it.I think you deserve love. God cherishes you and I know that he didn't want that for you and as a sister in Christ neither do I but maybe the only one who is capable of loving us in these times is our heavenly father till he gathers his sheep.
Proverbs 1:7 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom but a fool hates correction and instruction.
So very true!!!
I chose God's peace over toxicity.
I choose peace over chaos and will never go back! I never thought I would recover from the abuse, but I did and I couldn’t be more grateful! Trust me I still have my days, but I do trust that God has all the answers and solutions, so I gave it all to him to bear, and nothing has felt more empowering. I pray for my family that’s entangled in this every day and hope they eventually find peace. Nobody deserves the abuse of a narcissist. NOBODY!
Ovo je toliko tocno, hvala ti Boze na svemu- this is so true, thank you God for everything
I choose God‘s peace over toxic relationships. I’m in a horrendous situation now beginning of a divorce and an an estrangement 😢 from a narcissistic daughter decades of abuse from a narcissist husband, who is not a believer. He’s given me grounds and departed from this marriage in every way emotionally spiritually mentally. He is a narcissist I can tell from this video and so is his daughter. I can no longer live like this. Abuse I endured for many decades. I finally said enough. I really believe God brought this into my TH-cam stream. He keeps bringing the CS Lewis videosthat speak to me 100% and I’m so grateful thank you.
You can do it. Trust God.
I can relate to your story. The most difficult and draining part is to diagnose. Much easier with your husband but your only daughter?? It took me almost half of the century to see that she is also a narcissist. Learning not to struggle with a thought why it happened to me; it is like I am now in a process to become more humble and trusting God on a deeper level!
I CHOOSE GOD'S PEACE OVER TOXIC BEHAVIOR!!!!!!! I THANK YOU HOLY SPIRIT FOR ALLOWING ME TO SEE, READ & COMPREHEND THIS MESSAGE; HELP & SHOW ME HOW TO APPLY IT TO MY LIFE! THANK YOU JESUS, AMEN!
Only way to apply it is to go thru it.... Basically take a little of that which destroys you every day and gargle it around until it becomes a tonic that protects you. Be careful of what you ask for. Can't apply the knowledge unless you have not only must you learn the knowledge you must also go through the lesson enough until you hear it clearly enough to become aware of it and then apply it. Asking to apply it is basically asking for more situations to happen. So don't start doubting God if it happens again and your not sure why lol you just didn't learn the lesson. And I hope you have no need to apply the knowledge and meet someone who is worth a damn amen
Thank you Sir, I'm from this relationship since my teens up to my 50+; married for 30+. It's ONLY God's hand who took me out of that demonic relationship. Who said to me "fear not for I AM with you".
Me to now
@@cryingsouls9271 💗🙏
@sandrahedebe5616. Good for you! 💗🙏
I choose God’s peace over toxic chaos!
I choose God’s peace over toxic chaos
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos. On Christ the solid rock I stand, all other ground is shifting sand. Thank you for this message and thank you Jesus for leading me here. 26:16
I choose GOD’s peace over toxic chaos! I surrender it to the FATHER!!
I choose Gods peace over toxic relationships
It amazes me how many are pastors and few who will take a stance to relieve them of their job.
This is unfortunately a reality. I experience it first hand on a daily basis. But I choose His decernment and Truth. This teaching helps me alot with perspective!
@@erikadebeer1502 the key is found in 2 Timothy 3:1-5, "But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these." Notice the last part of verse 5. Also notice the last part of verse 7, "always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth."
True! I left a nomination where all 5 of the leaders were narcissists(diff.degree)
Exosed in media because of the social control, manipulation and gaslightning.
The best place for them to thrive is among gullible people….😢
I choose God's peace over toxic behaviour.
Quiet time with God n with Bible is wiser. Toxic behaviour is in Proverbs, its invisible in heart n soul. Provocateur n cause until we must be like Jesus not Peter or Moses or Jonah " Do what you want to do" . Pray for resurrection n meet many doubting Thomas.
I choose God's peace over toxic behavior! A new beginning!
I choose God's peace over Chaos..
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos. Lord of Mercy as i forgive, protect me, guide me and renew my strenght. Praying deliverance over my ennemies. Thank you for this CS Lewis message i needed it, God bless you and all the people in this channel.
I choose God’s peace over toxic relationships.
It was really tough being the daughter of a narcissist mother. AND be her scapegoat child while my little brother was (is) her Golden child. I was 53 yrs old before I realized I would NEVER be good enough for her; NOTHING I could ever do to win her approval. After one last emotional, gaslighting, and verbal attack, I made the decision to go no contact, to NEVER be in a room with her alone again. EVER. My father understood it at first, but as time went on, home with her day after day, she gaslighted and blamed me, and finally convinced my dad EVERYTHING was ALL My Fault.
Truth: I tried for all my adult life to show her respect and love, to win over the mother who had been physically and emotionally abusive to me my whole life... to show her I didn't hold her past treatment against her, that I wanted a loving Mother-Daughter relationship with her. But she could NOT accept me as her equal. She could NOT let me be ME. Everything I did was wrong, was backwards, it wasn't her way so it was not the right way. I was 53 years old the day she looked into my dad's eyes right in front of me and LIED to my dad about me, and accused ME of being the liar... and He had to live with her and endure her controlling wrath, so he chose to believe her over me. Broke my heart. That's when I decided to stay away from her to the best of my ability, an be around her only when there were witnesses - that way she wouldn't say the horrible things to me that she said when we were alone. Years AFTER that, I found videos similar to this one explaining what a Narcissist was, and I was astounded, so relieved to know what it was, and that "withdrawing myself from her drama" as I'd thought of it, aka "Going No Contact" was actually a tactic encouraged by professionals. It's difficult when it's a domestic partner, but it's very precarious when it's your own mother. Some of my family gets it, but my brother - who had a totally different relationship with her, doesn't understand it at all.
She died a couple of years ago, and even tho' she's gone, she still wins. My brother inherits all their real estate. My brother and his wife got all the jewelry, they get the extra grave plot beside my parents... and I'm still alone in understanding what a covert narcissist she was, and btw, she also had histrionic personality disorder. She really knew how to charm people and manipulate them, but talk nothing but gossip and trash about them behind their backs.
I love my brother and I don't blame him for being his mother's Golden child. I love my father. They just don't know all she did and said to me because she was smart, she knew not to allow any witnesses to her evil toward me.
Whoever you are... YOU have the RIGHT to pull away from the drama in your life created by a narcissist, no matter who they are. YOU are important. YOU have a right to PEACE and RESPECT. You are NOT a bad person if you choose to protect yourself from someone who gives themselves permission to abuse you and belittle you and make your life stressful and miserable. No one else is going to protect you; You must do what you need to do to protect yourself.... and that's ok.
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May God's Blessings of Love, Peace and Grace surround you all the days of your life ✝️ 🙏🏽 ✨️ ♥️ .
I'm so sorry you endured this for so long. You did the right thing. I was married to my narc for 46 years, so I get it. He died 3 years ago and I've been raging at him for all this time. It's only hurt me more. Like he won anyway since I'm left with the scars. But today, just today, God sent me this video. It has given me a peace spiritually that I can't explain. God has set me free today, hallelujah!!!!!!!!!!! I pray that you, too will have this peace. I pray for all victims of narc abuse today to find peace. I know you lost material things and that's hard but if you lose your soul, that's worst. Your peace of mind is worth everything. God has a plan for you. I pray for good health and all the good things going forward for u. Happy New Year...God bless you
I'm so sorry for all the years of pain. No matter our age, we have an intrinsic need to be accepted and loved by our parents. I can't imagine how hard it's been for you. My husband has a narcissistic mother and I recognized her manipulations immediately after we started dating (in our 20's). We are now in our 50's and he has just started to see her behavior for what it is. Now I'm watching him struggle with realizing a lifetime of attempts to "win her over" were futile. But, there is some healing and he's beginning to let go of the guilt she made him feel. I think you are strong and brave to survive what you have. And, you should commend yourself for being so insightful and realizing where the problem was, your mother & not you. I've prayed for your peace and strength and for God to "open" the eyes of your Father and brother. God bless you & know you're worth is so much more than any earthly treasures that pale in comparison to the Heavenly treasures waiting for you! ❤🌻
my story is similar to yours. I'm the oldest of 7 and my N mom's scapegoat - my entire life. she told me outright at different times that I was nuts, that I didn't remember things right, that I was very bad. maybe I'm lucky though - the 2 brothers after me got beat by her every day most of their lives. (I didn't know that until she was close to death and I had regular contact with the brother next to me. It was great, although painful, to share stories.) With my mom the only way to start to get along with her was to agree with everything she said, do everything how she said to do it , hate & bash the people she hated & bashed, etc., etc,. After I went into Alanon (dad was alcoholic and for the longest time I thought that was my primary problem) and after I did the steps I had increasing awareness of the stunts she pulled. I thought of going no contact - however my training in the steps indicated you have no hope of ever helping anyone you've cut off so NC was discouraged. I will tell you one story of healing my mom and I had. This was just weeks before she died, decades after me practicing what I learned in Alanon. One day she yelled at me for stealing something. I was puzzled because I never even noticed that object! I was staying at her house and the next day she found the object had fallen off it's table and was on the floor. in her typical smart-arse manner she said, "I suppose I owe you an apology" (maybe the first time she ever said anything like that!) I'm sure an angel was speaking through me because in the sweetest calmest voice I said something like, 'no worries. I've falsely accused people in the past too." I swear that years of tenseness fell off her face and shoulders. It occurred to me that my mom may have never experienced any forgiveness. She did tell me once that she only felt total peace two times in her entire life (that was when I had learned to meditate and asked if she ever learned to meditate). My heart went out to her. Mind you - that incident did not heal everything - but the weeks before she died we did not have one more spat or little argument. I suspect she would have preferred being different as much as her children would have liked it. I also prefer to call her "sick" as I learned to do with my alcoholic dad. Over the years I have met a handful of truly evil people - bottomless darkness in their eyes and other signals - and my mom was not that even though she did plenty of evil things. Anyway I'm glad for the bit of forgiveness and peace she and I found. I'll never know how much that affected her - but like I said - it felt like an angel was using my voice to love her so who knows .....
she never deserved your respect
I chose God's peace over toxic confrontation and relationship in Jesus name. Amen
I choose God’s peace over toxic confrontation and relationship in Jesus' name. Amen
I choose Gods Peace over toxic behavior
I choose God’s peace over toxic behavior and chaos. I surrender to God daily.
ME TOO.🙏♥️✌️
Amen to that 🙌🙏
Save yourself the The irreparable cranial Intellectual Damage brought on with the Constant challenge/ Battle with Stupidity. Irreparable damage to the Nervous system of your Intelligence Quotient. Save your breath on your Next Breath You may just be needing it .Oh and Guard your Heart and Spirit too while you're at it.
Say that to someone who is stalked and had attempted murder numerous times, brakes stolen, vehicle shut down and sped up by hacking into computer, poisoned, terrorized years on end...easy to say if you haven't experienced severe attacks by evil and they turn everyone against you with their lies..
Narcissists will even challenge court orders. But a higher power saw it all. His Justice is unescabable. My identity is anchored in God's truth and peace. So mote it be.
Courts can hace corrupt narcissists too.
But JAHOVAH shall bring Dem low. Ur enemies is not stronger than TMH JAHIOVAH Tskenu
If you are a Freemason or into the Occult or Witchcraft, that is not the true God of the Bible, and you will NEVER have TRUE peace!
Turn to Jesus Christ of Nazareth and confess your sins and renounce any religious entanglements from these demonic organizations.
I choose God‘s peace over a toxic relationship. When I was married of 20 I didn’t realize my now ex husband was a narcissist. I didn’t even know what the word was, but not to long in our marriage I realized something wasn’t right. My daughter, 48 years old, it’s also narcissist. I have distance myself from her. However, she has two children that I do not see because of this. It Breaks
my heart, but I cannot do the job that only God can do. I will always pray for her and hope that she can find happiness some day.
You could be my mom sorry for your pain ,
I understand think my spouse of Almost 50 years had narcissist behavior which I did not know. And my daughter is one possibly because I just got away from a man who I thought was real but was a narcissist. I have 6.5 months recovery and cannot believe I was dupped again and was very hurt by the man I fell in love with but he was a very sick man and he almost destroyed me my dog and ruined my rv. He was demonic so terrible. He kept destroying me for 1.5 yrs so he could take all and just use me. We got rings and he wanted to marry me but I was afraid of just what happened. I wanted to help him to the day he would die. I did not know there was such evil. He was native. Do not know if what he told me in his life whether it was true or not. I was vulnerable with depression from spouses death and very naive. Well got A’s in psychology and never learned about narcissists in any books I studied. So turning to God for help to recover. He tried to take everything I had and used me. He said he was trying to make me tough by saying crappy stuff to me to tear me down not to make me tough. My daughter is a user just like him. Really a mind blower. He promised a lot all lies. He stole from me a lot. Very sick and very abusive demonic good grief such lessons to learn. Have to stay away from any family they are all not okay. Took me a long time to see. It sucks since I never was taught anything so had no protection against all that. I wanted family so much. I always was helping all. Now me with my dog and seeking God for all. Had to save my dog he almost killed her had to help her recover her health her pancreas and her liver plus helping myself to recover my heath also. Plus have met so many who have been abused by narcissists. I encourage young people to protect themselves and am so happy when I meet young people who have understanding of it all.
I have three grown children. My 48 year old daughter is a narcissist. So sad that this Christmas we will not be together. She lives 2 blocks away and mother to three of my grandsons....8, 16 and 24. I do miss the 8 yr old. Last weekend she excluded me and her sister from the 24 year olds graduation for his masters. I am the only living grandparent. So tired of the disrespect. I am taking a stand and stepping back and trusting the Lord. I can't fix this!
You're not alone, my son is keeping me from my gkids. It's better in God's hands, it's one of those impossible for man kinda things.@nancybrantley9694
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you are not alone because God is watching over all of you and will bless the ones you love and your noble, loving intentions
I choose God's peace that passes all understanding over toxicity. Be still and know that I am God!!
Our younger daughter said a year ago that she ia done with us and siblings. She is 36 now. God has given me peace and He knows what she needs. I continue to pray for her and hope one day He turns her heart to Him and opens her spiritual eyes.
God is releasing me from the toxicity of my 7 year relationship with a narcissist. Praise God!!
Don’t waste any more of your life hoping he will change and turn around to love you he is incapable , life is too short
Thank you C.S.Lewis!!!! You have made clear what I have been struggling with for years. I have a narcissistic brother that fits this profile exactly. I so wish I had seen this when I was dealing with him. So sad that this is the path he chose, but I finally recognized what he was and stepped away completely. Although I continue to pray for God to open his eyes, I know I cannot. The boundaries God has taught us to set are the only things that allow me to come back to peace. I have learned to pray “Dear Lord, let him find no peace until the peace of Jesus is in his heart.”
Anyone dealing with a narcissist, listen carefully to this message. C.S. Lewis is sharing God’s truth about the behavior and only God can change it. Step aside, and give it all to God.
Absolutely! It's a gift to yourself!
1. Walk away.
2. Pray and let God handle it.
My declaration I choose God's peace over toxic chaos
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos. I needed to hear this! Thank you!!!!!!
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos, I surrender all in His loving and Almighty hands.
We can forgive and pray for the person who is the toxic narcissist that we live with from a different address.. no need to stay in the same house.. put distance between you and them.. maintain your peace.. this was excellent advice.. thank you for these words of wisdom..
I choose peace over toxic behavior and chaos. I surrender!
I choose peace. The Lord just gave me Ex 14:14 twice yesterday and now today.
"I choose God's PEACE, over toxic chaos"
I Choose God's Peace Over Toxic Behavior Through The Power of The Holy Spirit in Jesus "Our King of Peace" Name. Amen!!!❤❤❤ THANK YOU ABBA FATHER GOD!!!❤❤❤
I choose GODS peace over toxic chaos in Jesus name
I choose God’s peace over toxic chaos. I pray those in my life will do the same.
I choose God’s peace over toxicity! I am a victim of exactly this, described perfectly in this descriptive audio.
I choose Gods peace over conflict
I choose God's peace over chaos
I chose God's peace over all chaos and God has shown me the way.😊
I choose Gods peace over chaos and manipulation. And I will share this journey with others that need to hear it.
I thought this seemed long at first, but people doing life with narcissists need a good 30 min of encouragement and wisdom. Perhaps every day!
I choose God’s peace over toxic relationships. Would appreciate prayer.
Heavenly Father, I come to you today in humility faith and love, Lord I pray and trust that whatever situation Kimberly is experiencing right now you will guide her and give her discernment peace and a new smile🤗 each morning. In Jesus name amen .
Hey Kimberly....when the "outlook doesn't look too hot"..."try the UPLOOK🙏🏻💪🏻🙌🏻!!" ...and as my dad used to say to his Hang glider students..."ya can't soar with the eagles if your hanging out on the ground with the turkeys" 😉
may the Lord keep and bless you Kimberly... God's daughter.
-pastor Cashy
@@Kick-y9mHow beautiful Gods beauty all over both Kimberly and your response Thank you Amen to prayer for you sister in Christ You are his beloved Praise God for his everlasting love towards his children❤
Dear Jesus, please give her and the rest of us dealing with narcissistic situations, the strength to disengage and hide in You.
Help us to abide under Your wings. Psalm 91.
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Thank you so much for the encouragement. You are precious in His site!! ❤❤❤
I Choose God's Peace over Toxic Chaos.
Gods love and trust is something you NEVER have to question!
I choose God's peace please Lord! In Jesus' name I pray amen 🙏🏻💜
I surrender daily to God.
Awesome! Way to go! ❣️🥰
I choose God's peace over toxuc chaos.
GOD is almighty and he is my Safety ❤
I choose God's peace over Toxic relationship.
This message is transforming for those of us who have to deal with a toxic relationship. My favourite scripture from Psalm 46 is “Be still and know that I am God”. It is the foundation of my faith in Him. He has saved me from so much stress and sadness. Praise Him.
Thank you your words resonate with my marriage where I have been told I am a bad wife. I have raised 5 children with only one hand & on a farm where I have worked so hard.
I feel worthless & unable to please my Calvinist husband who tells me maybe Jesus didn’t choose or die for my dad. He wouldn’t let our children sing Jesus loves me because he doesn’t love them because they are rotten filthy sinners.
I am going to withdraw from these confrontations & leave it to God to solve & trust Him for His love that I am worth something
Lord i am praying for Anne as she as well praying in her marriage with children and work on the farm. You are giving her the power to do your will Father not mans,if he the husband is that don't know you open the eyes of his heart,
And I join you in prayer that God will soften her husband's heart and he will see the error of his ways
That Anne will have a.peace joy and strength that surpasses all understanding ❤ in Jesus name 🙏 AMEN
Remember that the good Shepherd leaves the 99 to look for the one. You are loved greatly. The church is the bride of Christ. He has redeemed you and you are beautiful in his sight.
Stay strong, Anne Marie. Our Lord Jesus died for all. We are all sinners and all have evil hearts according to God's word. It is by the blood of Christ that He shed on Calvary, which gives us salvation and makes all of us worthy, so long as we repent and are obedient to His word. God bless you, Anne ❤ 🙏
Look up Zep 3:17. He rejoices over you with singing! You are his handiwork and daughter and very valuable to Him!!
I choose Gods peace over toxic chaos. Amen. God please teach me wisdom and be with me through this journey to peace. 🙏
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos! 😅
I chose Gods peace over toxic relationships
I understand completely now. I choose God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. I have became spiritually weakened and now understand how to deal with it. I will let God handle what has always out of my reach.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I choose God's peace over toxic behaviors. I surrender all of it to you, Father God. In Christ Jesus. Amen!!!! 💯❤
Distance yourself from those toxic people they are eating spirits and distractions and easily we can lose our salvation!
This year I made a choice to disconnect from whoever and let God handle my battles 👆🏼🗣️🔊
I step back. I choose Gods Peace ✝️
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos and manipulation. God is my anchor I will not be shaken by them. Thank you Lord ❤❤
I choose peace over toxic chaos.
I choose God peace over toxic choas. Amen
My mom choose peace and expired last Sunday. This video is where she was😢
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This is true wisdom.
I choose God's peace over toxic chaos.
Jesus is king 👑
I fell for the lovebombing of a Narcissist and am unhappily married to him for 26 years. Now I await the Rapture so I can be with my LORD & Saviour.
I can understand that. Try to find some purpose of God for your life, despite the situation.
It s a test down here .
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thank you so much for your kind words. I appreciate very much.
Winds of ego. Storm of pride. Luv it.
I choose GOD'S PEACE❤