Why Do People Love to Comment on Women’s Weight Gain?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ก.ย. 2020
- Where does society's need to fat shame women come from, and what does being body positive mean?
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It's Okay to be fat or thin until...you don't have health problems...
Yes
Exactly👍
Yes true
Correct!
@Eilya Khan yeah lol 😂💜
not only that, this clash between western ideals and ours has led to a dilemma....if someone is skinny in a family they are always shamed and told to eat more, theyre called sticks and things like that....and when someone is a lil chubby(like, not even overweight, a lil chubby) theyre asked to lose it. arey bhai chahthey kya ho hum ladkio se?
Exactly, they should just let ourselves be as we are. And only should interfer or say something when it is affecting our health, be it being skinny or be it being chubby or overweight.
@@namjooniesdimples4906 It should also be done respectfully. I've seen a lot of family members pick on girls who are chubby or skinny and then when they feel hurt they say that you have to lose or gain weight and that you should be glad that we're telling you now and you don't have to hear this from some random person. And that is not okay.
@@anaswaraharidasan519 Agreed.
@Kat J well they want 24 inch waist along with DD cup girls...i mean those things arent even real...if u have boobs and butt ur gonna have a lil tummy, and if u have a 24 inch waist ur most likely not a DD cup.if u work out maybe then u will get something out of it, but girls tryna work out is also discouraged (personally i had to beg my dad to teach me how to pushup but my bro had to do it even if he didnt want to) kya baat hai society aapne toh hamari wat laga di.
@@nirair9650 I have small waist. And my body is slim. And everyone in my family Shames me by saying that you only have breast in your body.gain some fat 🙄
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Until it hit patriarchy 😂
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Ghnta , men also gets criticised for there weight gain
I was just a 6 year old kid when I started gaining weight and my nickname in school was moti gendi sand.Even once my teacher said to me in front of whole class " ise toh me mar mar kr patla kar dungi ". They never think these kind of words can really affect a 6 year old kid. Sometimes even my family irritated me you are fat don't eat rice nd all.
I just wanna tell every individual out there you are not fat,thin ,dark or fair.
Just love yourself and nurture yourself.
This is what I realized all these years. Others opinion really doesn't matter.
What you feel about yourself that's most important.
Just be happy
I appreciate how these kind words are coming from someone who other people weren't kind to. You're a decent human being, I'll give you that.
Just be happy kehke junk food zyada mat khalena
Exercise bhi karo halan ki shuruaat me koi tumhara mazak bhi udaye
ATB
I just wanna send you tonnes of love and warm hugs. I have been body shamed a lot too but I try not to focus on that and instead try aand take care of myself.eat good workout and stay happy. People are gonna love you for who you are and what you achieve in life rather than your weight or face... They are important but that's not it... Ps I have lost around 8 to 10 kg..don't know what I weigh now coz I don't have a weighing machine here in lockdown and honestly weight-loss will never bring that missing factor...if someone still says something mean it still hurts... Loving yourslef is a full time job and take pride doing it.❤️
Fasting is the quickest way to lose weight
This need to be changed... Even I remember how I used to call my healthy friends moti and all... And when I started gaining weight... I realized I was so much wrong. Still can not believe that I just spent 16 years of my life by bullying someone. Tab dimg nhi tha yr... Ab smjh ata hai I was so wrong.
I'm a woman I'm not a court hanger. -Taylor Swift
I remember that interview!
Stan the queen
I feel so cringed when kareena says " iam sooo fat " and cries 🤢🤢🤢
Well said and the dialogue which is from kabir Singh
she herself is conditioned by the bollywood body standards. I feel bad for these actresses, many of who joined the industry at a very young age and have been body shamed for so long.
She said "I was" so fat.
@Namrata Rai she said I "was" ... In her interview where she is talking about her childhood photo bcoz she used to be pretty fat then.
@@namratarai4393 You should watch the original arjun reddy. There's a scene there in the 2nd half which they cropped out from the hindi remake. Arjun met his friend Shiva's sister's future husband... The guy lives in foreign and just returned. Upon meeting he just kept on talking about all the ugly fat aunty type air hostess he saw during the flight. For which Arjun said to Shiva are u sure this guy would be a good match for your sister... he is so openly body shaming!
By that scene the director was trying to establish the contrast of Arjun's character pre & post his breakup. Just search kabir singh deleted scene on youtube and you can find it there as well. It's sad to see zyadatar logon ko samajh hi nehi aaya ki ye movie exactly kehna kya chahta hai! Misogyny, sexism and blah blah😪. All you gotta do is watch that flick again with an open mind and from the protagonist's perspective😌
Yaar that healthy chic dialogue from Kabir Singh, how dare anyone let the write, director and for that matter Shahid and Kiara themselves, get away with such a vile, disgusting statement. I feel sick to my stomach everytime that clip comes somewhere.
Kabir Singh was the most boring movie ever excluding the problematic script.
That whole movie is a promotion of patriarchy.
@@tulikahathi4746 the way that movie was so mainstream and successful says a lot about our society.
It was basically. 2.5 hrs glorification saga of a "genius" who basically cruises through life being an asshole of the top order just because everyone around him keeps justifying his boorishness. Matlab kuch bhi! The only thing I feel was left was for Kiara's character to wear a dog collar. And sadly, I truly believe she would have meekly done so if he had demanded that out of her.
That's why I never liked that movie. Good thing I have friends who have decent taste in movies so they didn't recommended me this. Ulta they said "It's a BS movie made ever"
I used to be an overweight teen. Everyone in my school used to bully me for that. Not just people in school but relatives too. It used to hurt me a lot. Then one day I decided to take the matter in my hands. I decided to workout. I remember I used to workout twice a day. Do squats & push-ups during study breaks. And finally my hardwork paid off!! I felt I achieved my dream body. People stopped body shaming me. People who used to find me unattractive started asking me out. But one problem was there: I developed an eating disorder. I literally used to starve myself. I fainted many times cause of that.
And I wasn't happy. Like I lost weight, people stopped making fun..but I still felt empty.
Then I realised I just did all this not for myself but for my bullies.
I started doing more research about being healthy & stuffs. Then I realised being skinny is also not healthy. I started eating properly (of course I avoided junk food) & I continued working out. And this time I did all these for MYSELF.
So whoever reading this. Doesn't matter whether you are girl or guy. If you are overweight... workout for yourself...for your health..not to impress people. Trust me, it will help you in future.
And don't lose patience. It will take time. Be consistent. If a lazy person like me can do it, YOU CAN ALSO DO IT. 💪🏼
How many month you take to loss ur weight
Appreciate this post. This takes effort. respect.
This is wholesome, I'm glad you worded this for everyone
We need to increase protein while cutting on carbs. That way you don't develop eating disorder
I am a victim of body shaming all over my life
You are beautiful ❤️
Girl you are beautiful.
Same girl, same.
@@lebowski7854 agree!
@@lebowski7854 yea , absolutely!
"No one is born ugly, we are jus born in a judgmental society" Kim Namjoon BTS
(TO ALL THE HATERS)
I HAVE REACHED AT THAT AWESOME STAGE NOW WHERE I DON'T HAVE TO PRETEND. I CAN JUST BE MYSELF AND NOT GIVE A DAMN ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT ME.
IN THE END YOU'RE GONNA JUDGE ME ANYWAY.
SO WHATEVER!!..
" HATERS GONNA HATE,
PLAYERS GONNA PLAY.
LIVE YOUR LIFE MAN!" BTS
Another bts fan here 😕😕... Listen kiddo there are certain things in humans we cannot change.... They are called basic human tendencies.. And judging being one if them.. The human race wouldn't have made their progress this far had they not had the basic ability to judge... Pls do not aspire for a strawberry world(utopian vision)
@@prayagvijayan6302 I am a 36 year old mother of 2.....so not a kiddo. And an ardent fan of BTS. Yes as a human we have every right to judge a situation....so that we make the right decision by accessing what is right or wrong, safe or dangerous. It is basic for our survival. However it doesn't give the right to anybody to judge a woman on the basis of her looks, body weight or any other beauty standard set by the society. During the lifetime humans body goes through a lot of changes. And as a mother of 2 saying it from experience after going through pregnancies. Does that give you a right to judge me just because we live in a judgmental society? No. Just because it keeps happening and people keep doing it. Its not okay, its not normal. You need to change your mind set and need to grow up...kiddo.
@Jeseentha Yes they are. Their music has helped me go through a very dark time when I lost my mother to depression.
People laugh at me for following a bunch of effeminate guys who put on make up and are followed by pubescent and pre pubescent girls. But BTS are much more than their pretty faces.
Their music talks about depression, struggles of being judged, and growing up, of being hated etc...to mention a few. People think they are so famous that they had it easy. They didn't. They worked really hard and fought for what they have achieved. They trained for 2 to 3yrs before debuting surviving only on bread and water sometimes, lived in a cramped room in bunk beds all 7 of them.
Kim Namjoon( RM), the leader has an IQ of 148. He falls in the top 1% category of Koreans. But he loved music more. His mother broke his computer and threw his lyrics coz she never wanted him to be a musician. RM is called ugly. J Hope and Jimin are called fat and ugly...so they go into intermittent fasting, sometimes fainting due to extreme hunger and fatigue while going through rigorous training for perfecting their choreography. Suga and Jungkook left their family to pursue music. Mind it Jungkook was only 13 then. They are constantly judged and hated. They were the underdog of K pop. Where the are now..they have earned it all.....
Sorry for the long comment. I just love them for wat they really are and not just for their pretty faces. Although I am too old for it...its undeniable that they are easy on eyes.
P.S. Don't worry about your grammar. I am a grammatically challenged person as well..lol.
@@prayagvijayan6302 and that's why you don't judge without knowing anything.
Kiddo.
@@helpiamstuck5439 🔥🔥
Correction to the title" Why people love to comment on people's body shape and size"!
It's not just weight gain that is commented on. Or women who are the victims. Both genders are taunted but women are more affected. Thin girls and boys are always called stick, skeleton, sookha and asked whether they don't get any food at their home. I have been called a skeleton as long as I can remember. My husband is also thin. So now I am asked why I don't cook him anything and he is asked why he is not getting more bulid. My cousin who is dark in complexion is always commented by others to apply this and that to improve her complexion. So body shaming is in the very fabric of this society. It doesn't no matter whether you are a girl or a boy, thick or thin or dark, you will always be scrutinized for something or the other. Develop a don't care attitude and you are golden!
Yeah well said dear....being too slim my parents always had to find random comebacks when they were criticized harshly over me being stick thin..😓😓
You are absolutely Right. But the people who get fat by eating more fastfood should rasist themselves for this.
Absolutely I'm a boy and when I was young I was fat people used to call me motu😥
True that. My brother was so thin back then and I was fat ( I am still fat and I don't care😌). I still remember an aunty who asked my amma whether I ate everything that belonged to my brother🥴🙄 and that hurt me and my whole family. Thank God I had great family who support and defend us.
Years passed and now my bro eventually got a little fat. Some aunties have problem with that too🙄. I mean wth is wrong with all these people? 😂🤦
And yeah... Me and my bro just don't care about all those shitty comments made on us...
We live our life happily kicking off all those body shaming comments 😊
iT's ThE PaTriArChY, aNd NoT tHe eXceSSivE eaTiNg.
The host is sooo cool! I completely agree with this!
People need to let people be...you are no-one to comment on someone’s weight and skinny/fat shame them.
But she always takes serious matter very lightly
it's nice to be reminded by someone about my weight gain, so that I can put some extra effort
Ok like how weak and entitled you have to be that you get offended when people call you fat or comment on it. I have been called a fat elephant infront of an assembly of 200 people. Like this is weakness and narcissism at it's peak. What a bunch of weaklings.
I remember I've been fat shamed since I was 9-10 years old .... But still I am the same..
You’re then a fabulous diva.
I have been fat shamed pretty much ALL my life, it's very annoying
Apart from this.. U look Pretty
Very good dear 😊
@@namratarai4393 ❤
These days even guys are made fun of for being overweight...
People are even shamed for being 'too skinny'. Society sucks.
@@lebowski7854 Whahahaha nice joke you made there mate
Overweight comes with health problems so it's good that society stresses on perfect body shape
Isi bahane excercise bhi ho jayega sabhi ka
@@MO-fg2cm yeah right but there is something to do with body frame as well...
Fat men and short men were body shamed all the time. Only, we did not have this fancy jargon.
If someone shame anyone, remember that those people are following the herd and you don't need to follow them at all. Be naturally unique 😉.
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don't be obese though
@@AbhinavChoudharyOfficial why, Sir? Why do I need your opinion on what should I be?
@@priyankakarwar ok then. As you wish, Be obese. Diabetes will be waiting for you
@@AbhinavChoudharyOfficial So, only obese is the reason for diabetes? So, skinny people won't get diabetes?
What kinda stupid analogy you have made. Get well soon.
I stopped using the word golu.
Thank you Swaddle .
I appreciate it
Appreciate it.
Golu was the pet name of skinniest guy in our class ... 😂
Appreciate it.
These people just don't wanna let their own insecurities get the best of them so they feel the need to let it out and bash other people.
Exactly an observation which was needed. 👏
So true
even i also got angry when i see that scene in kabir singh
The entire movie is horrible
everyone did...
@@srijaniroychowdhury7683 true i dont know how it got such popularity such a sexist movie
@@shreya446 mm
Same here bruh
Yeah it's so wrong to keep reminding people about their weight. Please focus on your own life
Yass desi auntis love doing tht tho ngl 😢😢
@@aena5995 oh yeah 🤦... We can't change their mentality...so don't care about them dear😊
someone reminded me and I started working out. I actually turned out pretty well.
@@aena5995 I think we blame aunties too much. Actually even our own friends and we ourselves at some point body shamed people
Was just crying over my weight and the next thing you know youtube recommends me this. Great. Just great.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't do that but the more you think about it, the more it'll start to gain power over you.
You can be a perfect person with nearly every talent and people will still bash you for something. You need to be happy with what you have, not others :)
@@dreamer9375 Thank you for such amiable words really :) It's just that I have been trying to lose weight for some time now and recently it started to feel like I have been making no progress at all and it gets frustrating after all the hard work I'm putting into it, but I really appreciate you, thank you
Most people who advocate "health & fitness" don't realize that fitness comes in all shapes and sizes. There's no one ideal of "fit physique".
so true
@@lebowski7854 True
All shapes??? Really🙄🙄🙄🙄...
@Avisha M that's not medically true🙄🙄🙄🙄
@Shlok Chitnis ever watch their documentary or ever bothered to see their avg. Life expectancy???
Am I the only one who didn't watch Kabir singh for how shitty it's trailer was?🤔
Nope u r not alone... couldn't bring myself to watch tht movie
@@sonalibiswal3755 Feels good to know about a girl with higher self esteem.
Kabir Singh was an absolute form of stupidity. And It's a Shame that not only some man want to be like that character but also women want someone like him. Other than Shahid's acting and the music, it isn't a moralistic film to look at.
I'm with you 😊
I am never going to watch shit
It's not patriarchy, it's marketing to sell products.
yes the marketing is rooting in patriarchy. The reason why these products are selling is because of patriarchy
It is !
@@ruchikasamudrala6489 Then isn't everything because of Patriarchy? Since society is so.
The swaddle is complete feminist
And sometimes too much
Body shaming also works for men not it's only about women .
And if the women has some work other than (like being in modeling like field) where her physical appearance doesn't matter much then she is appreciative without any discrimination about her weight .
And if there's some discrimination it's with men too ..
@@ruchikasamudrala6489 the beauty industry is very much dominated by women's opinions and also _by_ women. Female celebrities are followed mostly by women. Their opinions are for women. If you want to see what men like, in general slightly fatter women are preferred. There's many who like exclusively thick women. Men are generally less picky when it comes to body(see OkCupid study).
Winter nights and sleeping under blanket with my fat body is love😂
😂I agree..
@@flavouredglucossdsuga 🤣yeah.. we are polar bears without furr.
@@shrishtisinghofficial lol🤣
The girl in 3:22 is the first lady I saw in a photo with underarm hair and I must say.
She looks Absolutely Gorgeously Beautiful... Wow m moved by her beauty though m a Straight Person.🌼
Sahi mei!!
I am a male , people comment a lot on us too on on our weight gain . I think you all should also consider us too .
definitely. i have seen it
We feel you! Fat shaming on either a man or women isn't cool y'all! As long as you're healthy it's good. People always tryna look down on each other. Remember, "Beauty is in the eyes of beholder"
@@kdjoshi726 fat males are always stereotyped in movies .
@@biswarupray9671 exactly, these are issues common to both men and women, but all that swaddle does is just cater to the women's half of the issues and ends every video with "its all coz of the damn PATRIARCHY"
No dude. This channel is all about women.
Not just limited to weight...their entire appearance
Any change or difference or rather if they see a woman looks different from what an "ideal beautiful woman" should look like they start with the trolling.
Women are expected to uphold the perceived beauty standards of society and are subjected to ridicule a lot more than men
so true..apart from my apparent weight gain, another favourite highlight would arre you have become darker and this a perennial comment ...hahaha
@Akshay Satish Even if they are unattractive, nobody has any right to belittle them. What someone looks like should not be anybody's concern. And how conveniently you have equated body shaming to ridicule of unemployed men. Those are literally two different things.
'Thinness became synonymous with a woman's attractiveness and emotional health' caught my eye. I agree with almost everything you said but while it's true that it's absolutely wrong to associate beauty with thinness, an overweight person is physically and mentally not healthy so that is not altogether incorrect. Yes, many skinny can also be unhealthy. Being thin doesn't automatically make you healthy but being overweight or obese does make everyone extremely unhealthy and susceptible to life threatening diseases.
Our ancestors from our race had thick thighs & hips, it's completely normal! 💕
That's because they made use of their leg muscles. I don't know if it has any back up by science or not, but the muscles we use, develop. And when we are not using them actively, they look like fat.
So I hate my ancestors
Now also for marriage proposal the boys family lift the finger by saying "Are Ladki to moti hai Shaadi hone ke baad bachhe paida Karegi Aur Moti hojayegi....."
Why do people go on girls weight see her heart... How good and sensitive she is.. Why we girls/women don't adjust to boys character?
Is my thought right?? 😃
I strongly agree with out. Our society has always focused around how the girl is, chahe ladka kaisa b ho. And the sad part is that this bias is being reinforced today also :(
Why do girls see the bank balance of the boy "see his heart" Not his salary😁
@@shrinivaskarekarnitsurat6837 stop acting like y'all don't ask for the girl's salary. Oof.
@@haechanradioenthusiast9015 so y'all also stop acting as if u don't see the man's weight, height or any other physical feature
@@shrinivaskarekarnitsurat6837 Weight height kaun dekhta hain janab? Hum ya ap log?
My cousins and relatives used to make fun of me when I was 9-10 years old whenever I visited them during summer holidays. Then I stopped visiting them after couple of years. It's not like I was not playing back then. I am born like that. Now I don't even talk to them. Peace of mind 😄
Your channel does help in overcoming stereotypical thoughts! The last sentence about patriarchy is so true. Patriarchy is the root of female suppression in everyway, may it be the beauty standards or living standards! I hope videos like yours do make a difference on a large scale. All the best!❤
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Not gonna lie, Aish is looking like a queen in that thumbnail. Also, I don't think it has anything to do with patriarchy. It's true that girls get body shamed way more but fat boys get bullied too.
you guys always cover such important issues, it's remarkable. commenting on someone's weight and shaming them for it has become a norm and people don't even realise that they are saying a bad thing. being skinny doesn't necessarily mean that one's healthy and being chubby doesn't necessarily mean that one's unhealthy. similarly being chubby doesn't mean that the person is lazy too.
Sorry, but I don't think sridevi or kajol were ever overweight. They were voluptuous. Voluptuous women were always considered attractive. I could even play the devil's advocate and say that skinny women who had no curves were made to feel less feminine. Even with the fat acceptance, we cherry pick where we want the curves to be ( no plus sized model has a big tummy). My point is, why emphasize on weight only? Why can't people just let people be however they are?!!!
That part of the video does seem kind of wrong.
@Gaurav whattt? How is she overweight..?
The day each woman accepts herself exactly the way she is, fat ,thin, tall, short, fair, dusky .... whatever plus accepts the other woman exactly the way she is and loves herself and each woman she meets, these things will surely reduce to a great extend....
And what about getting your lazy ass off and go do some freaking work
@@jammyrapper7426 fyi, you are more jobless . Your comment shows that
I just love this channel. The confidence gets boost up from 10% to 100%. This type of channels we teenagers need. Well done.
I must say you guys provide us a different point of view.
Your videos are just what today's world needs. A change in thinking. A change in perception of seeing thing. Your videos make wonders. It helps us grow as beings.
Thank you for existing!
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Listen It is not RELATED to Patriarchy in any way! Dissing anyone is wrong, and this comes from both the side Male And Female
Also Maintaining a Healthy weight is extremely important. Your body fat percentage, your muscle mass, lean mass all of this is important.
And exercising is important as well
Also No Junk foods!
See there are various factors which can lead to a person being overweight not just one, so it makes no sense that a fat person is fat only bc he or she eats too much
As told the word patriarchy came for the point that a woman needs to b thin for her man. Like men won't like u if u r fat and men will like u if u r thin. But centuries back women who were fat were taken as absolute beauty coz men find them beautiful. The Beauty comes from the eyes of men. I watched some ancient Chinese dramas where the girls r slim and gorgeous but if u see old pics the girls were actually fat who were considered to be beautiful. With men eyes and marketing policies everything changed fat was beautiful now its ugly. Now coming to junk food and exercise, till the time food was considered to be the likes being fat was status. There r thin ppl who eats yet never gets fat and there r fat ppl like us who blows like balloons by taking a sip of water. Anyways its true that being fat not only it brings fatshaming also there r very few guys who like fat ladies. I got rejected 6 times for being fat by the guys I liked over yrs bt do have an ex who was handsome coz he liked fat girls. BEAUTY AND BODY IS JUST A CONCEPT OF EYES. NOTHING MORE...
Her part about patriarchy means that in society, people say that a girl needs to be ideal for marriage. Both girls and boys are shamed for being overweight but boys aren't told that no one will marry you if you're fat.
Like, in a lot of places, girls grow up constantly being told that they have to get married and if they don't get married soon, they will be a burden to their parents. Imagine telling someone like this, "tumhara weight zyada hoga to tumse koi shaadi nahi karega".
Her point about patriarchy didn't mean that boys don't suffer from the same problem. But patriarchy poses another different kind of problem to the girls.
I totally agree with this ..... but we need to maintain certain weight to stay healthy
your health is not tied to your appearance. a "fat" person can have a healthy weight. same goes for a "thin" person. you cannot judge someone's size as a parameter to judge their health. healthy bodies come in all shapes there is no one ideal
@@mj-xo heart attacks , arthritis , muscle pain zyada hote hai fat people Ko
@@MO-fg2cm true. but obesity is not the only reason for such things. and clinically obese doesn't mean fat. and it is also not a basis for judging obese or "fat" person.
@@mj-xo @Mishri Joshi Clinically obese is not fat? Obesity is literally defined as abnormal or excessive accumulation of fat that presents a risk to health. All fat people are not necessarily obese. But all obese people are absolutely and definitely fat.
I agree with you. I don't like it when women are shamed for their weight but at the same time some effort and exercise goes a long way for your body not only from outside but from the inside too.
been body shamed my whole life, worst thing most of it comes from fellow women.
Facing the same problem ! First they say don't wear short and cover the body and then they criticise the covered body ! all we can do is to provide a better environment for the future generation cz Apna time to cut Gaya !
Thank you. As a chubby woman in her 20s and as someone who is not planning to loose weight, I've only been shammed, ignored and seen as someone who cannot take care of her health. I hope this vdo will be able to put some sense into ppl who ill treat others for their body shape, colour, height or background
Don't give yourself fancy nicknames to make feel better of yourself
@@Ms.-Lily since when was Pyari Lal a fancy name? U actually thought that this name had only one meaning and that too only in ur language?
@@pyaariiilalfromindia8716 nope! I meant the 'chubby' one
@@Ms.-Lily if u ain't chubby, u don't have the right to tell me what words I can or can't use. In fact even if u look different or not, u have no right to tell my how to address myself. So go bother somebody else.
In my opinion never get under weight or overweight regardless of gender. It's not for your figure, it's for your health.
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Amazing ad and message. Kudos! Keep going
Really hope to live in the times when swaddle' s true motives are seen being adapted in Indian society and mindsets. What an amazing effort Team Swaddle. Keep it on.
The thinner women are shamed too.. According to my experience..
Anyways thank you swaddle for the quality content!!
Yes.. I'm a slim girl but I have good body shape.. No one cares about that, always shames me because I'm slim
@@TheKatChat47 yeah right? They're like.. You wont be attractive becauss you're bony. Like it doesn't matter if you are confident in your own body. They always wants you to feel insecure
Same here. People need to understand that there is a thing called as BMI. Ones purpose should be to maintain that index to remain healthy. Overweight hona bhi acha nhi h and underweight hona bhi acha nhi h. World needs to get educated.
People comments on politicians ,celebrities even their neighbours and relatives..
It is their habit..
I'm also dealing with people. As I'm thin so people think that I don't have potential or strength to do the big things. And people constantly giving their opinions how I should increase my weight and telling me what I should have to eat. I'm happy with what I have. And I don't feel shy or shameful on my body. Even people call me flat chested I really don't care about this at all
Can totally relate. I was fat shamed as a 12 year old and made me more self conscious at social events.
I am so happy with the content that Swaddle delivers. Every morning I watch a video of them and then sit to study so as to remember that I need to study very hard so stop these stereotypes
Thank You
Swaddle
i think every girl has been fat shamed or thin shamed (body shamed )at least once in their lives . its something we have been lived with from centuries now for us women . lets bring a change to peoples perspective of the ideal body type . if you are fat or thin why do we care? every body is unique and beautiful in its own way !! and people who dont like you just because of ur body are just to narrow minded to how beautiful you are : )))
I have seen girls being shamed for being skinny as well as girls being shamed for being fat .
The society is sometimes hopeless
Each time I see your video, my mind opens up broader . Thank you for the amazing facts !!
thankyou for giving me new perspective in thinking!!1
Well...this video comes right when i was wondering about my weight gain...lets say....i need to thank swaddle😁
This is the best youtube channel I came across. All knowledge they tell with realating to history. Best 👏👏
It is a great thing that you are pointing out how the body size doesn't matter. I know trend need to be broken and stuff but it is not only the women who face it but the men as well we can't ignore that fact. And every trend comes to us from movies we can't blame them in a way bc we choose to adapt them if we take movies as a source of entertainment and not something to inculcate in our lives that would be a great thing but that rarely happens and it is good initiative that you have taken for making people realise there is a thought process that doesn't have to be influenced by the movies
a good body is different from a fat body. I personally have taken comments on me being fat and some of my friends have been told so the same thing in public & private as well. No one should be fat unless they have a medical condition, but that doesn't mean one should be skinny, there is a very big range in between.
More videos needed please
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I was dark and skinny till my early teens and was shamed for it, gradually started gaining weight and lots more disturbing comments were made about my body and weight. Like since childhood I hv never felt comfortable in my own body and skin. Comments from our close ones like family, friends, relatives and partners hurts even more. I hope people come to realise that commenting on someone's appearance and comparing to that of animal's learn how they are hurting others and traumatizing them for life.
I feel blessed that my parents have always said that I'm perfect and never asked me to change!! It was always the society that commented on my skinny body..while I'm absolutely healthy and I eat a lot. I have gained some weight but that doesn't show on my body...which means it's my natural body type and I can't do anything about it..my family loves me the way I am..I'm comfortable in my skinny body..I do yoga and meditate..and I'm happy ❤️ I hope everybody gets the same support from their loved ones and be more confident about who you truly are!! You are beautiful ❤️
bruh, we should not fat shame anybody but being fat can cause a lots of health issues, i am 14 and my weight is 60 kgs.. and it's not OK
Boy or girl are you?
@@Ms.-Lily girl probably
How Ironic , i was body shammed , but they were all girls......
I love how you guys do so much of research and put up each video ❤️❤️❤️❤️ amazing work . Loads of love from my side ❤️
I am 13 and 4 kgs "overweight" according to my age ...and I am constantly told to reduce weight. And I am like -"What? Yesterday you told me that I was growing thin, so eat up. Today you are telling me to stop eating too much. And when I exercise, you tell me to go study. When I study, you tell me do some physical activities " Bhai Chahate kya Ho? I was not only fat shamed by my Parents, but teachers, classmates, and "friends "...since I was 7..And this year, I lost some weight due to Study Pressure, and now they are telling me that "Stop taking pressure, you will get thin and those girls look like sticks " .Even my eight year old brother is told often about how is growing fat or skinny. Like -Bruh.
How is it linked to patriarchy?
Fat shaming happens across genders..
it is often considereed "normal" for middle aged men to be chubby compared to their twenties whereas women even though undergo many physiological changes especially after child birth and stuff are expected to look slim.
i am not denying the fact that men are not fat shamed..... i'm just saying that women are more pressurised to look a certain way by their male counterparts
@@shreya5225 Every problem women face is somehow linked to Patriarchy.
Although It's rude to comment or shame a person just because they are fat, but beware of that trend of glorifying obesity which is prominent in west all in name of body positivity.
Just as women find short men undesirable, it's the same with women who are overweight. which infact a person can manage.
@@shreya5225 and also noone pressurizes middle aged woman to look certain way.
@@kaushaljoshi7472 thanks for your honesty Kaushal. This channel and it's supporters somehow try to boil every problem down to patriarchy. As a woman myself, it annoys me. It's not ok to body shame people but it's perfectly alright to encourage your loved once to have a healthy, balanced lifestyle
@@kaushaljoshi7472 this is called living in denial my friend
I don't body shame anybody but is it not great to have a fit and flexible body which can be earned through yoga and exercises?
If you want to change your body, it's fine. It's your body. The point is people shouldn't shame others for not having a specific body type.
Changing your body for the health benefits is not wrong. People expecting others to change their body to suit an ideal body type is Wrong.
It's not just abt weight, it's about health. If u are healthy but a little chubby is fine, but if the weight is taking a toll on your health, it's time to rethink and make positive changes for your overall well being.
The ideas conveyed are so important yet ignored topics of our society!!
Kudos to you all✨
Thought provoking 👍
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"Real problem is with the patriarchy!" Totally!!!
Another Great video swaddle ! Also The "body weight" becomes so much worse in teens , I am chubby and often feel extremely self-conscious while hanging out with my friends and family
A very good channel for bringing light to our society, more and more number of men should watch this content . Duh.
Men's r obsessed with slim bodies as that symbolizes Beauty💃🏻💃🏻! khud Mard bhale hi baksurat ho woh chalega society ke liye😤😤😤..
Exactly! Just look at those matrimonial ads they always start with the same s*** Slim, fair, beautiful, working woman, so and so height and someone who looks after the family. Education and the other important qualifications are either written at the end or skipped altogether. Most men would reject a female who's either too slim or too fat. And we girls are made to "ADJUST" by saying look at his job or look at his qualifications..he'll keep you happy forget about his looks you can work on those things after you get married. Like ek project hi diya jata hai hume shadi ke naam pe. Pati aur uske ghar walo ko kaise khush rakhe..ye kare ya woh...a life long exercise jismein aurat ghisti rehti hai 😒😒😒
@@DarshKP666 this is why marriage is a very stupid thing. Women are forced into some stranger's house and made to look after them, their families and also have to have sex with them. What the hell?!
If you wanna marry someone, you should choose for yourself and then take time! Marriage should be about partnership, not servitude! I have no interest in ruining my life for the sake of a man and his family or even for my own family.
My life is precious and matters the most. I wish all woman would understand that!
@@Ms.-Lily I agree👍🏼👍🏼!!
@@DarshKP666 bitter Truth 😩😩..
@@lawfulhusbands I agree. I don't want to be called a "feminazi" as most would call it but the definition of marriage in our country is pretty bad especially for women.
Women are asked to be virgins, should be educated, should be beautiful(slim, tall, fair), should know all household duties like cooking, cleaning & taking care of kids, should produce a kid if and when asked for and should also do all household duties while being pregnant or nursing the child.
Job kar rahi ho toh salary ka kuch hissa apne parents ko dene ki bajay pura pati aur sasural walo ko do kyunki ab beti parayi ho gayi na.
And if she's a student or a working woman she is asked to stop those things kyunki ab maa ban gayi ho issi ke liye toh shadi ki hai na? Ab bache sambhalo baithke and ghar ka kaam maat bhulo woh bhi karo.
Baccho ki achi parvarish karo tabhi achi bahu banogi...
I mean I don't want to sound bad but ladki ki life iske alwa aur kuch nahi hoti. And this is a common scene in most households doesn't matter how modern they are or how educated they are.
And when we question this the most common answer we get is yahi aurat ki life hoti hai, adjust karna padta hai, sab western influence ki wajah se bigde ho, bahar ki countries mein dekho kitne divorce rates hai humare desh mein toh yeh sab nahi hota.
Yaar divorce ki baat inke kano mein nahi jati na wahi toh problem hai.
Aise dhundne jao toh na jane kitne aise couples milenge jo happily married nahi hai. Divorce chahiye dono pati patni ko par family nahi hone deti...and most cases mein aurat physically aur mentally harrassed feel karti hai kyunki unki needs aur awaz koi sunta hi nahi.
Sirf roles play karte karte zindagi kat jati hai pehle beti-behen phir biwi-ma
This girl is amazing
Very apt!!! Love watching every videos of swaddle. Would love to watch the alternate video i.e " skinny shaming "
As someone who's been fat shamed and looked down upon due to being "overweight" and "dark skinned", watching videos like these is a delight!!! Thankyou so much for posting content like this... and telling us (and uncountable people like me) that someone cares!!!
Here's one TH-cam channel that goes on bashing the patriarchy....❤.
Slim girls, zero size, also faces body shaming 🙄🙄
Yeah it's always a lose-lose situation
Basically, what I have learnt is, other people are unhappy for other people, no matter whatever the reason is. The best thing is to ignore such people and focus on ourselves
Beautiful depiction.😊 No one will ever gonna understand what it takes to handle so much pressure of undergoing through this weight loss journey until you'll be the part of the same emotional imbalance. ❤ Embrace and work on yourself Ladies rather than fixing yourself in a narrow corner of someone's mind. 👍🙋🏻♀️
Swaddle I've been in an awe with your work for a very long time, and specially after seeing this video, I don't really thing I could resist but to say that I would be extremely happy if I get an opportunity to work with your team.
So almost every comment is from women. My question is " where are the men?" They need to watch it before rejecting a girl saying she is too big.
Maybe you are right. But in the modern world, women also reject men for his short height, his income. Women put forth more conditions on the table if you ask me. whereas men usually go for the looks only.
@@kaushaljoshi7472 true that!
@Sudarshana Chakra yes,you got a point
@@kaushaljoshi7472 exactly
Why is it wrong though?
I got everything except the the thing with patriarchy? What does it have to do with patriarchy? :/
exactlyyyy that's what upset me as well
Swaddle is the best page on TH-cam! Their videos always make sense! Thank you for bringing up amazing content guys❤️
Wowwww just love this video ❤️.... thank you for talking about this topic ✨✨
Your videos keep on empowering women 💞
Why do people love to comment on men's income?
They should make a video about it
As a girl I will say they should make a video in this. It will b interesting 🌼
See patriarchy has been harsh on men too.
They're forced to get education and be the income-earner bread winner of the family whether he likes it or not. They're forced to be tough and are shamed if they act like anything that isn't "manly".
Income, manliness, balding, height, fertility are some of the common things men are always criticized about. The whole society has almost always how should we put someone down/ shame them
Gaining weight was always unhealthy for both men and Women but somehow western world saw a market to capitalize thus this shaming started
I was always chubby as a kid but that soon transformed into teenage obesity. Throughout my childhood and teenage years, my family, especially the women of my family, were the biggest body shamers I knew. They would just say really cruel things without directing me properly as to how to lose weight or get fitter and stronger. That only made me eat more and use food as a crutch rather than take care of my health.
And now 10 years later, when I have finally lost the weight by changing my relationship with food and developing healthy eating habits, the same people make fun of me for eating healthy, for not validating their unhealthy food choices by not joining them.
I can never forget how torturous my young years were, thanks to my fam, and now when I’m in better shape, all they can say is why don’t you eat something.
Happened with anyone else?
I believe that, if a doctor or your family or any one close advices you to lose weight RESPECTFULLY and POLITELY, it is for your own good as fat is obviously not good for health but the problem comes with the shaming. People need to stop being disrespectful and judgemental about weight or fat. Some people have a thicker body shape like apple or pear body shapes and getting shamed for that is what gets on my nerves most.
BTW, I love your channel. It actually reflects on society and not only shames Indian culture blindly ❤
This video definitely made some good points, call me triggered or whatever but blaming patriarchy entirely is far-fetched, as if boys aren't bullied for being slim, black or overweight it's more of a mindset of our growing societies who loves to bash anyone weaker than them & corporate, private lifestyle industries are preying on this thoughts, it's subtle but clever marketing.
EXACTLY, i am sick of swaddle ALWAYS blaming the patriarchy for every damn thing, i am a woman and i am tired of them ending it with "its all coz of patriarchy"
@@blinkforever6279 are you a woman?
Woah! Nice to see an opinion from other side, anyway these ideologies are from 3rd wave of Feminism, which has more of a radical men-bashing approach rather than equality.Individual politics and female superiority is their kick.
@@showwick6546 ikr
Even though this video shows us the truth,it is not the end of the story...
Nowadays while being comfortable with our body is associated with normalising being overweighted. It is right to be yourself but we must understand that you are not naturally overweight...it is the result of your unhealthy lifestyle. So... while we shouldn't push ourselves to gain zero figure or six pack abs, we should try to keep our body healthy and under control...
I love this channel because they point out certain things which we, as women, might have overlooked; which were wrong and still continue to be, other than the obvious issues. Genesis of issues are often overlooked and just considered to be the way of living these days, which needs to be challenged. Makes me wonder that there might actually be less things left "not to challenge" than "to challenge".
It's not just about women ...body shaming is something many men also go through....they are shamed for not having a desired body or abs or jaw line and what not ....we need to address this issue for both genders .
Comments are done by women only 😂😂😂😂😂
Man wtf 🤣🤣🤣🤣I was agreeing with all your points and in the end you ended with patriarchy 😂😂😂
Even the video didn’t have any aspect of patriarchy.
Man and woman both as a corpulent are marginalised in our society. Cut the crap of women only. I’m a skinny guy I know what flimflam we have to face on regular basis.
But ending again with patriarchy 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
True lol i thought the same! The ending was unexpected.
Men and women are both shamed for either being skinny or for having put on weight.
But her point about patriarchy was that if a woman is fat, most of her relatives would turn to her and say something like, you're so fat, you'll never get married.
For men, the family doesn't think weight has anything to do with the desirability for marriage. Not for marriage.
In society, most of the girls grow up hearing 'tumhe to shaadi kar ke sasural jaana hai' and that if she didn't get married at the proper age, she would be a burden to her family. Imagine telling a girl like that 'tumne weight lose nahi kiya to tumse shaadi kon karega?'
Patriarchy plays a role in fat shaming of women on the accounts of desirability for the market of marriage.
@@khushbooprasad6519 well yes those points are indeed valid!
Khushboo Prasad you yourself are saying ‘most of her relatives’ are those relatives only men? No I’ve even seen women doing the same things asking girls to loose weight .I understand their relatives point but squaring those relatives to men is not what I’m buying
Khushboo Prasad when it comes to wedding even from girls side relatives comment on a guy being skinny I know it because I am skinny I’ve faced this. So squaring patriarchy to society is not right.
This is such a underated channel. It deserves much more popularity and subscribers. Hope it gets what it deserves ❤️❤️
Kaafi Thought provoking.. I like how you do your research! Keep posting such videos more frequently