How to react when someone insults you? Dealing with Rude People - Personality Development Tips
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- How to react when someone insults you? Dealing with Rude People - Personality Development Tips
Hey, welcome back to Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world and improve your personality and soft skills training. Well, today we are going to talk about how to deal with insults and how we can respond to them. An insult is nothing but when someone speaks to you or treats you with disrespect. Have you ever been at the receiving end of an insult? That’s not a very pleasant thing, is it? Well, what do you do when you are insulted? Do you insult the person straight back? Or do you break down and cry? Or do you simply leave the place and avoid the person who has insulted you altogether? Well, today's Personality Development video is going to teach you about how you can respond effectively to people who insult you or make fun of you. This life skill lesson is a glimpse of our personality Development course conducted at our learning centre in Mumbai.
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Skillopedia - Skills for the real world : very nice trips I really don't know how to react when ppl act rude to me so i just ignore it and walk away. Sometimes it is harder when ppl insult me but they did not point to my name as when i walk into the place they are and they start talking shits out without naming to me but i can know they are insulting me.
niecybaby1960
She's speaking to all of us in general. So it doesn't matter what race you are...
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Can you also make the video in Hindi and Urdu?
" When someone puts you down, they are already below you."
I love this one. Thank you!
@@cynthiad.9569 .....You're Welcome. Happy Weekend!!
100% true
I told my crush why I like her because she is asked the reasons. Then I trust her and tell the reasons why I like her. Now she spread them in the school. Now everyone humiliated me. Please tell me how to get over this. Please guys. If things gets worst I don't know how to handle. 😭😭😭😭💔💔 I feel like I'm a fool because I trust her😭😭 please help me. What I do to this😭
Its always better to look up,down is dangerous.
rude people are the weakest , notice how fast they lose their mind when you reply to them even though they started it
@@arandomdude5682 should of told them to eat shit and die...
pardon my french
Facts, some people start talking sh*t and when u talk back then they say, ok that’s it stop it or stuff like that
Vampiresoap nah bullies just have a crush on you
@balla x
Or they have something going on at home and they’re surprised that you react because they can’t even react when it comes to facing the person who has done the same to them
Nora B. nah nigga they gay
I have been bullied for years. I can’t get rid of person in my life . Initially I cried and got depressed a lot. I was depressed for a long time. Then eventually I accepted the situation. I actually started ignoring the person who bullied me. I started walking away instead of responding to the bully.. I actually developed habit of developing the anger in me to success. I got successful by setting goals for myself and acheived them. I grew in my career concentrating on work., lost weight . I converted negative energy to positive energy. I became a successful confident person. I did not allow bully to win over me . I told myself . Be brave, be strong and fight . Don’t give up. Success will be yours,
I have the same problem I have to see this person everyday and the insults are deadly. It make me depressed and this person get even more upset if I respond.
I am guessing this person is your spouse. It is truly difficult to shut down bullying because you live with that person 24/7.
I find that mean, evil, rude people have the lowest self-esteem and has jealousy deep within their spirit. They admire you
They insults us because they know we are better then them
@Buggs Bunny Probably in his head he is intimidated by the idea that being white is superior to other races and feels insecure about that.The reason for him to say it is he intended to mock white race by refferring that they always see themselves superior.That is the picture he wanna see
They insult you bcoz they are sure you are not going to give back
That's hella true!
They hate us because they ain't us!
My former friend Adam is a sob
If someone dislikes you for no reason, then give them a slap. Now they dislike you for a reason.
gökûl prásàdđ so funny! But I would be dragged out by security 🤨
Hahahahaha good one
Sense of humor
My man
EXACTLY!!!!!!
The real maturity comes from understanding of others feeling.
So true! I have mastered this. I don’t get upset at other people’s insults simply because I understand that’s it’s coming from a place of insecurity most of the time.
1. Express how you feel - “I feel insulted by what you said”
2. Ignore the insult - move onto something else or walk away
3. Return the ‘insult’ with a joke
4. Report the insult - tell someone else who would listen to you
5. Do some self care good for yourself every time you are insulted
Thanks for summing this up
In short v can just take it.... And get insulted repeatedly
@@aartipatel6033 ...so that you become strong enough to handle any insults.. That's good in fact..
I cant think of something hurtful to say back.
3) is the best solution
That’s why I stopped working at offices since ten years and that’s why I like Amazon Prime and ordering online. The less you deal with people, the more peaceful your life would be. We live in an evil world.
Murad Osman I totally agree!!
Very good comment.
True!
I totally agree!
"We live in an evil world.,"
100% true and this evilness will increase day by day.
A victim of this evil world.
When you ignore them, they don’t stop. I had a neighbor who was bullying me all the time, I ignored him and he continued until I stood up to him. He was in shock that I was not afraid of him any,ore and I felt he became scare of me instead. That’s how you deal with a bully, you confront them.
Yep. Confrontation is the only thing a lowlife understands. Ignoring your bully tells them they’re right about whatever they just said. Besides, not putting a bully in their place means they’ll feel free to come back time and again because...what’s stopping them?
Exactly! Same happened to my mother's abusive, maniac husband and his family.
Right, avoidance isn’t the solution
Yes, bullies are also cowards.
Yeah same here my boss wife bullied mi for long time auntil the extent of depression and anxiety but she didn't care but one day l said enough is enough right now she fear me not bullied any more.
I learned the best line... it's simply this when someone makes a rude comment....
"ARE YOU OKAY???" I think this line is fantastic because it deflects it back to the person and makes them think what the heck is going on!
You could even add the line ...You don't seem okay !!!
Its TRUE!!
THAT LINE THROWS THEM OFF SO MUCH! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Even though I agree with the "silent treatment" I feel like giving a rude person a 'slap' once in a while and showing them their place is a great thing. *You savagers out there, keep going you good.*
there are so many good people in this comment section, i wish we all meet and hug and live together
Hahaha, true
Yeah love you guys
Remember the great Coca-Cola song ‘I Like to Teach the World to Sing in Perfect Harmony’ ? We need to do that more often, don’t we?
You need money?
@@brendond.3158 Yes
I don’t agree with ignoring an insult either. Because the person continues to insult and never stops.
That's true
The fact is some people have a prejudice towards a certain person because of their nationality, Race, Religion
And I agree it never stops untill you face them head on!.
True
Ciara Wetherell so true
@@llewbach77That's discrimination.In Ontaro Canada the thing to do is file a complaint with The Ontario Human Rights Comission.In America If you can prove that someone discriminated against you you can SUE THEM.
The advice was good, but the comments made a lasting impression on me. I have dealt with so many bullies over time, and if people started showing each other more respect, and work together rather than always putting others down the world would be a much better place. To all the people who have experienced bullies I wish we could all unite, and gather all the bullies and put them on some deserted island, and leave us all alone.
I want to throw all the rude and bully people from a high mountain
😊
They are confident bc they are behind a screen. If it was real life then i would leave a lasting impression on their worthless faces
When i was young i never got bullied, but when I got older an maximised my potential, I got bullied an ever since it hasn't stopped,
I say this all the time. All evil people should be on a different planet lol
When it comes to such people, I learned and went through a lot.
As people differ you know exactly who to respond and who to ignore. I left many communities because of wicked people and every time I left I feel more peaceful believing that God will fight on my behalf.
My God is a fighter.
People act superior to boost their self esteem.
Marie Williams so true, it’s so inmature.
Please tell this to my classmates
I naturally have a pretty good self esteem, sometimes my self esteem gets too high but I don't realize it until the moment is over. Although I have a higher self esteem, I still get very sensitive when someone insults me or asks what I am doing, I also cry if someone comforts or compliments me.
Like pewdipie
It's so immature
I hate those PPL who are consistently talking loud in front of you to insult u indirectly , provided they r fools n failures themselves and teachers don't even scold them ! Hit like if U agree
Rise infinity right they talk loud cause they desperately want to be paid attention to
THEY WANT ATTENTION!! TO LET EVERY ONE TO KNOW THEY IN THE ROOM!!😒😒😒
100 percent Correct
@@SincerestSawa the those people are called jerks
i hate them really i am gonna to change my school bus because some foolish lol and dumb rough boys always always talk in loud voice and just try to always make comment on me i hate the and want to kill them
Agree to most of the points mentioned here. But ignoring the insult is not always a good thing to do. From my experience i'd say that it will only lead to welling up of negative emotions inside you until one day it wil all burst up especially if an introvert is at the receiving end. That might even lead them to depression. The best way is to keep calm and give it right back probably in a humorous way! Right then and there!
i had took it up burned for 12 yrs, then the person said something right after my grandpa funeral and I reacted very heavily..
Yess!
I have been on the receiving end of insulting people. It is very hurtful. I avoided these people altogether. It's jealousy and Insecurity. Confrontation and ignoring , walking away are the best ways to deal with these kind of people. I take a walk and get exercise; it makes me feel good
Jealousy is the main reason
really
NO ITS NOT IDIOT
@@meganwalker3831 yes it is, you're probably a bully yourself
Yup, most of them are
Exactly wright 👍
I am good at ignoring people, I don't hate people I love them but when I see people who are haters and gossipers I tend to stay far and that is why they hates me.
Haist i totally agree 👍 they are everywhere...
Yaaa me tooo
Me 2! BRO
I agree.
Me too
I just stare at them and it's fascinating to see how they just melt away 😊😊
So true. I have done that!
When you ignore this kind of people they try to say something more harsh so that you react, I have been facing this kind very often. And these people never ashamed of their deeds.
I was insulted very badly today by a person whom I trusted, just walked away from that place, felt sad for a while now feeling better 😊
Take care
I can relate.. it was tough but when I cut off my life from that person my life got better
My boyfriend’s X abused me for no mistake of mine !!! Before even getting into relationship I did ask both my guy n his x are they over with the relationship... and both agreed ... after few months later this X of his comes back and insults me so much .. that I thought of ending my life .... when checked with my guy .. he coolly tells me that no she din abused me ever neither scolds him ( I never hurt pple ) but other pple hurt me so much that I get into depression...( I seriously don’t know whom to trust and whom should I let go )
Hope I find peace myself !!!
That happened with me also...
@@ashishpal8208 Shut your mouth...
The #1 Mistake is when dealing with those kinds of people is "Being nice". Show them your dark side. It doesn't have to inbolbe violence or being necessarily rude but be assertive.
Agree
How?
💯💯🙌🏻
Yes it does
But if that's not in your blood /nature? How would your react to it as if it's killing your personal life too....
My goodness
It is incredible being in all of your presence. I am amazed at how some folks jump on someone ( just because their opinion is different) and they completely ignore that their opinion is different to yours yet you aren't doing the same by jumping on them. Sigh
I’m glad I found this video & comment section💞
I am glad I found this , last day I was insulted by my family member , it all makes sense . Thank you 😊
Ignoring an insult will just make the person do it over and over again..
I believe it is important to let the person know powerfully..
VP True as hell
really ?
What you will give, will return back to you at some point of time.
It(insult) had came back to a person that i know. He used to insult others.
True...it's necessary to let them know n take out our anger so that the thing is not repeated further ...
If someone insults the tree repeatedly he will definitely get tired
Because The tree just ignore that all the time
people insult because they are bitter. they insult you because they are not able to get something from you .
I liked your thought
Nyla Sarmiento thank you!
Nyla Sarmiento accurate
I think they also do it to exert power and control over you.
Exactly!
I needed this just a few days ago I tried to guide a new employee and she was like waiting for me to say anything to her so she rained insults calling me black monkey coming from the mountain and I look like devil because am black. In my entire life I have never come across narcissist it's horrible being insulted because of your color,and the fact that I couldn't respond to her insults that's when she stood like if she was ready to slap me ......I couldn't hold back so I gave a her the *devil* eyes and said to her she can insult me because she is insecure but if she try to point me leave alone slapping I will mash her and fold her like chair then swallow her like a devil she stated so lately she seems afraid and she can not face me so never let the person insulting you to get away with it stand your ground and show them you are human too and the world has enough space for everyone to stand on
Something that has helped me lately. I look at the majority of people and think these people have absolutely no importance in my life. Especially people I work with, none of them are my friends, their not my buddies, they are just people that work at the same place I do. Therefore they are not important enough for a response. Bullies hate not being important enough for a response. If they give you their opinion, ask them. Is that your opinion? If they say yes tell them their opinion means nothing to you, their not that important in your life. Silence is the best, but remind yourself this person has zero importance in my life. My family and friends are all that matters when it comes to opinions.❤❤❤
Bully: you look ugly
Me : Excuse me I am a human not a mirror
Good humour
Look up the word "Human" it means sea monster....lol
@@brendond.3158 It means Homo sapiens which is a person or a thing like you or me lol if you mean something different please give proof or site the evidence I'm kinda curious
@siddharth meena You must be her dream crush then.
Thug life
Stop caring about what ppl think of you ! 🤗🤗🤗
It's hard not to
Nicole Gacha exactly..people are assholes. So they like to target you. So i stopped showing them my weak points.
Easier said then done
I literally can't. Your advice is good but they literally sit near me just to make fun of me, and I get so mad. It's hard to calm myself down from that.
@@marysimon9982 yes same is happening with me actually they gave me perticular name and just make fun of me every day shout the name loudly in class room to make every one laugh on me but i can't do any thing , but i keep my nerves so clam just to avoid those stupid peoples
True . It is good to ignore the person who insults you and take it lighthearted
Yeah u are right buddy. 🙂
Which state are u from?
I find most people who insult you, don't give a damn how you feel.
I’ve learned that those people seek a reaction. They want you to stoop to their level. I’ve also learned that if you just simply ignore them and treat them as they don’t exist, they get even more upset until they burn themselves out.
True
true , treat them as they don’t exist that's what I do she don't like that lol
Thanks.
But ignoring is not always the solution. Confronting them immediately is right. We Shouldn't be quiet for the first time so that it doesn't happen again
yes correct
Respond, not react. Stay calm. Thank you!
I always do that
i stay calm but they say i am scared they on insta bitch i didnt even want to fight i was nice like 1. i am not free for you bull shit
@@Nawalsamer04 same here this is just means that ur smart and ppl who think u were scared are just dumb af that they didn't get it
Yeah I need to work on that
@@universethetruth8827 same here
It's not always feasible to talk back to them. The best way is to not take on their energy, theyr toxic energy actually. If you smile & remain detached, you've won...
I just thought of the thing I'm going to say to my boss when she insults me. "Insults are not constructive or instructive. If you want me to learn something, I respond best to constructive critique."
*REMEMBER* those who insult you or being rude to you :
- They hate themself
- They hate their job, their life
- They see your life pretty happy and not so much stressful and you are reminder that what kind life it would be if they would choose differently.
- They really doesn't about you or your life, they just want someone to put down, insult, and being rude to you, because they know that they aren't alone with putting you down, insult or being rude. So they have support for putting you down.
- They are weak!
So put the useless ‘person’ in their place and be done with them.
Totally agree!!!!!
Life is not easy when your close ones behave like that and you can hardly do anything except keep calm and suffer internally.
I actually I think they need hug 🤗
LoL, amen. Weak people are everywhere. I seriously doubt those money whoremongers would ever survive (especially women) on naked and afraid,
Sometimes getting yourself out of an environment that harbours insults is the best thing you can do for yourself, comebacks to insults and staying calm don't always work.
That doesnt work as well. I had a bunch of women chasing & stalking me on social media to harm me more. Never give up your ground. Hit back hard...and they will scoot. Bullies are shitty people with trash for self esteem.
@@boltb3706 It worked for me. I walked away from a family that I had been very close to for years. The husband was having mental health issues and was on all kind of meds. He used to be fun, but then he changed; and one day I just hung up the phone and cut the whole family out. The other members of the family were hurt the most.
I also left a job that I loved. Not many people can say look forward to going to work every day. I did, until my supervisor had a plan to wash me out like he has done to others. It was a losing battle. I retired early and took my pension. The story is much longer in regard to this. My evaluations were exemplary, otherwise. Records show I left in good standing. Big changes were made after I left. There was an investigation as to why I left. Karma is real.
I believe using humor is the best defense. Also, not everyone but u got to feel Yourself better. Just knowing, u r making the best of the time u've got, does more than enough.
The mandatory isolation that the CoVid has brought into my life has made me so happy.
Revealing how you feel is like giving them access to the key to hurt you when they wish. This is dangerous if you are dealing with a Narc.
I agree with the narcissistic part and if you are with a narcissist telling them how you feel is the worst thing you can do but you can use this technique with a friend who you know very well and if their actions affected you negatively in that case this can work.
Why world is full of wicked rude insecure people.Good people r doing good for themselves without hurting anyone.Goodness without mental power is a weakness. People should develop there logical powers to cope up adverse situations.karon
That’s what I was thinking
I told my narc mom I hate seafood.
Now she makes sure it's available all time.
Exactly!!!!!
I think putting bullies in their place should be taught at school. Bullies are the ones with the problem.x
Unfortunately the schools have been corrupted as they have focused on teaching immoral bases than healthy development of young people
I agree
Well said. But unfortunately schools, principals and teachers encourage this behaviour by being pessimistic out of fear of parents' reaction.
But they talk about bullies in school now and kids they know from the age of four.
@@muradosman9998 agree and have seen it.
We have a lot of these people in this world especially at work, I've learned my lesson, when someone insult you, be calm and smile in a that make them fear and look directly in their eyes to see their truth. They insulting you because you are more intelligent than them, you have a strong personality, you can by your words make them really count if you some day talk. I struggled a lot from these negative people so i choose to be away from them and not give them any opportunity insult me again then i reported insult for the management director and he's doing the right thing but in companies you can not do actions every time because it will low your professional status, so you have to make sure that the truth about them will be revealed some day. Don't worry about them they will be known some day with their lies and conspiracies.
Ignoring them is very effective. It sends a signal to them that they are insignificant and mean nothing to you. That drives them crazy and sometimes they will get more aggressive with the attacks. But it puts a public spotlight on them and their behavior. Now everybody looks at them like they have issues. I did this inadvertently not knowing the effects at first, but it's a game changer now.
I believe that people who makes fun of others are completely insensitive because they would not ever realises how their rude comments affect badly to others..
Charu Sharma true👍🏻
if they are insensitive how do they enjoy that....?
@@break_8260 They do it on purpose.
Charu yes like my niece made fun of me. I told her that hurt my feelings and all she said was your too sensitive and made fun of me for the same thing that night the next day and the next day. I know I’m fat without the constant insults. One time I told her I lost 5 pounds since thanksgiving. I’m still overweight but she needs to stop insulting me.
Well, they need to stop.
Responding to an insult might be the solution at a workplace but except for those places, responding always works against us. I have always tried to explain myself whenever I felt insulted hoping that the person opposite to me would accept his/her mistake but instead they got so satisfied, they start insulting even more. That is the worst feeling ever.
Dont respond or explain. Use the same language that they used for you...raise a hue & cry....see them scoot.
Never explain yourself to people who have no respect for you. Let them know painfully that You Ain't got time for their disgusting stupidity. Sorry that happened to you. They're beneath you And they know it. Insecurities are loud.
@@larajones175 exactly
It’s their parents’ fault. Bullying is inherited. Parents bully their kids, and when their kids become parents, they bully their kids, and so on. Misery root leads to misery leaves.
true
I HAD THIS VERY PROBLEM AND I REPOTED IT, THANK YOU KEEP ON MY DEAR LADY, SINCE THEN SHE DONT COME AND PASS IN MY SPACE ,NO MORE I AM SO VERY GLAD FOR YOUR STURDES, WE LOVE YOU, GOD BLESS YOU.
Insult is a blessing, the one insulting you are miserable people
"In order for you to insult me I would have to value your opinion."
blacktee31 true this!!!
blacktee31 ❤️
blacktee31 exactly
my thought too,
blacktee31 That is so good. Brilliant response!!!! Great advice.
when someone insults us The only thing we need is support and today nobody supports the true and honest person
But atleast we can have a ray of hope
THERE IS NO SUPPORT. NOT A ONE. IT'S REALLY SAD.
We don't need support , you need to be able to absorb the attitude of person insulting you, you just need to accept the nature of person and move on.
@Kayla Nguyen glad you liked it , i experienced this situation and this was the best i could do for my benifit and the other persons benifit..
Thats so true
“Leaders can let you fail and yet not let you be a failure.” Sharing some love from small TH-camr
I’ve learned this . I’ve learned to adjust. I’ve been hurt and mocked to death by someone whom I never expected would do to me. I’ve learned a lot from this person and I’m now numb and free from it. Insulting someone seems make him happy and gain confidence and so I let him be without being affected by it.
Absent you have singed he gets annoyed I spoke for justice what to do
4 reason why insult you:
1 insecure, dont feel good about themselves, so they want to control others by putting them down.
2 jalousy
3 lack of understanding of your ability/problem
4 they like you and playful tease you
1 Stay calm, breath a few times first
2 Tell how you feel and that it has concequences what they do (also for the relation)
3 ignore insult completly, change topic, walk away
4 humor, in a nice way
5 report
6 self-care 😄 to feel good
7 document yourself, what you like about yourself, strenghts, achievements, character..
Cus you cant speak english
Nice. I got an idea. Thanks.
Thanks man. U saved me 12 minutes 👍
Thanks man!!! God bless u
4 th reason just made happy. Thanks.😣
The funniest part is, those people who insult others do not have the least of the capability to understand the smart and funny responses we make... it's actually funny too😂😂😂
Even I'm tired of it.🤣🤣🤣
A young coworker who was insulting/mocking me in staff meeting with 15 staffs.Im 62 yrs. A playful teasing is okay if the person says only teasing you.Thank you... self care is the key.
What about narcissistic people.. they insult u, taunt u and manipulate u to break u down.. it’s good to teach them a good lesson and move on.. being good to them will motivate them to do more harm to others… that’s what I have learned in life
Very true, because they only respect power
Yeah only tit for tat 👌👌🙃
Jealousy is the real cause, is correct.
Wow , so your saying my mother is jealous of me mind blown
"I wonder why you feel the need to say..." is one thing a psychologist told me I could say. Also, "why would you say that to me?" puts it right back on the aggressor and demands an answer. Very powerful.
Ohhhhh thank you
Even then, they still answer back that you are like this or like that so that is the reason why they talk to you like that. No care in the world.
They insult you because they are pointing out your flaws before you point out theirs. Usually because someone has been doing that to them or making them feels not worthy... Or to take negative attention away from themselves in order that they don't get picked on.
When someone older than me insults me, I don't normally get mad, I just walk away but what hurts me most is when I'm insulted by someone younger than or below my age....
Me it is the reverse. When a child is disagreeable I speak to the child that he is disrespectful or I ignore them but I don't get annoyed because I know they are children and that they are still learning but when it is someone older than me it really annoys me because I believe someone who is older should show an example and not belittle you. When it is an adult I don't give excuse because they are not children and at their age they should know what they are doing.
Me too. I sometimes have to ask to see their driver's license before I know how to respond.
How people treat you is a reflection of who they truly are.
Not like that
amen to that
Hello Patsey you said that
Yes 100% truth. Experienced by me. I know a person(family member) who insults cause he's rich and thinks he is superior and above all. He does the same to many people.
Hello Pat
Ignoring an insult is not much good.. cz if once u ignore it they will do it again.. better shut their mouth that time only
But how to do that😔
Quite right. Should not be ignored.
My mind never works at that time n later i think y i didnt say this n that😔😔
@@honeykhan1085 same here😢
Honey Khan even i feel same like u, wt to do for that?
My great take away is to ignore and change the subject totally unrelated to the insults to make the rude person that you're not affected and write a journal of positivity about yourself
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This video is useful as it describes the kind of person who insults me directly and she also stimulates other colleagues to insult me in the workplace. She has the same manner and actions exactly mentioned in this video. She attacks me many ways and pretends like she does nothing.
Dont just walk away ...they might think you're scared....also being calm is most important...what the other person says isnt bible....respond without being aggressive
Aggreed
Yes You Said Right 😌
best policy talk to all not to them who hurt you dressup well and walk gracefully
Maybe the other person did say something about the bible.
Sometimes you have to walk away. If you don't want to end in prison. Because that is what they want. They don't care to destroy your life. Because they are not happy with their lives. Please walk away from them 🙏
Just take it in stride. Always be positive, show that it isn't affecting you. Avoid insecure and ignorant people once they expose themselves. A lot of people lack basic social and communication skills. Do not invest in anyone who has personal, emotional or mental issues.
Some ppl want ignore treatment some ppl want fight back treatment.Know the bully nature and react accordingly but stay calm in the fight.
We were crossing the English Channel on vacation ( on a tour ) and I mentioned to a rude student from Michigan one time that the English Channel was by comparison to Lake Superior kind of shallow. “”by comparison””. Just small talk…. A pleasant / teaching / fun comment coming out of my mouth. I was at that time a “sailor” ( merchant marine ) on the Great Lakes. Reminder ➡️ the student lived in Michigan which is surrounded by the Great Lakes🤔👍. I off the cuff mentioned that Lake Superior is at its deepest point more than 1330 feet deep. The “rude”student listened intently to me and then in a very RUDE fashion she said to me “”WHY DON’T I BELIEVE YOU”” with “piercing” eyes looking straight into my eyes. She caught me off guard. I was surprised by such a socially ignorant comment….so I did not reply….I just looked at her with amazement considering her rudeness and social ignorance. At that time the internet was not as available as it is now , so I did not tell her to “google it. I didn’t say anything in return. As an after thought I thought to myself that I could have simply told her to go to the library were she lived “”IN MICHIGAN…BY THE GREAT LAKES”” and do some fast research and find out how deep ( 1,330+ feet deep ) Lake Superior really is and then get back with me and tell me what she found out. 😂😂😂😂😂. I should have done that. Now to anyone reading this….have a little fun and “”google”” how deep Lake Superior near Michigan really is. ….rude socially ignorant people are actually kind of “”STRANGE””. I got great joy out of writing this just now. 😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉
Very true, rude people are strange or weird because they make no sense and god knows what they try to achieve by making such comments
I honestly think the absolute best thing you can do when someone insults you, especially when it’s someone bullying you, is to smile. It doesn’t matter how harmful their words are, just smile, even if you have to fake it. By doing this, you aren’t giving them the response they wanted and this makes them angry. From them being angry you have now taken control and turned the tables, but don’t just insult them like they were doing before, simply then walk away (STILL SMILING) knowing that you have automatically just won :)
Then you just look like a goof, or you look like you are embarrassed by what they said.
That's not a good suggestion I guess bcz the other person's will think he will smile again if we abused him again
So they will continue
They will insult again and again because they want to mistreat us publicly and when we smile we are just accepting their misbehavior
Smiling at someone bullying you is taking too much energy. It’s not for me. If I am boiling inside and have to fake a smile I would look stupid. I talk back instead. Let them have it. Tell them to F off. Show them I am not afraid and not going to put up with it.
I like this advice and would like to elaborate, I think it would be good to smile but also say something like "Okaaaayyyy and arch your brows while your'e saying it with a tone that reads as if you think they're weird." So when you walk away, you give them the feeling that you think they're weird, which they are. Then smile and walk away, like get me away from this crazy person. lol
That neighbour of mine, had no idea of who he was dealing with. I wrote an extremely strong letter to management who then
wrote this neighbour a very strong warning. HE NOW RESPECTS ME.
Does he really respect you, or does he just fear consequences?
He probably fears the consequences🤔 but that still means he got him off his back💁🏿
In real life there is usually not enough time to take a few breaths to calm yourself.
Never ignore insults and disrespect. Never. They will just think you’re stupid and will cross boundaries every time. Instead politely call them out and ask them what do they really mean. You have to show people like this that you will not tolerate such behaviour.
Simply ignore
It really works and the person gets angry about themselves
Yep lol. They get even more angry
"Responding an insult is much better than reacting to it" - thank you very much! This is powerful to me 😊
Some people will do it just to get a rise out of you . And when you stand up for yourself justifyingly so with good reason in a positive manner, they feel offended and will play the " victim card". Abusive people most often fall into this category.
Someone another buck tooth Beth got it in for me
So good to listen to these tips....I was really going through all the examples u mentioned and was wondering why people are behaving like this? So.. thanks for ur enlightening video. For my mental peace and well being soon going to quit the job....Stay blessed and keep enlightening.... people going through these situations can be benefitted
Excellent points. In many cases, insulting comes from insecurities or jealousy. For me personally, I tend to not ever become angry. My strategy is, I withdraw from that relationship with a friend or co-worker. If it is a family member, I will have less interactions with them.
Stay calm.
Express yourself.
Simply ignore.
Use humour.
Report insults.
Indulge in self care.
Document yourself.
thanks for the short memo!
lesson learned,
you got it well.
ready to be bullied again and confront bravely .
good job buddy . you are a fast learner. haha😂😂
Missed one Whoop that ass :)
Ginger Teddy absulately agree with you
I am 111th liker of your comment!😄
Ignoring has always worked for me. You disarm the other person completely because you take away their power by not giving him/her the reaction he/she is looking for.
Ignore is the best!
Tried that this girl still keeps doing it everyday at class because shes jealous of me.ignoring doesnt work
True especially with close relatives -
1-ignore
2-distance oneself physically & if that’s not possible-mentally
Law 22
Yeah I need to work on my acting skills, because I get easily triggered by peoples disrespectful comments and would love to just be aloof and act like it doesn’t harm me but instead it really takes a toll on me and I will be thinking about it. Arghh why can’t we be nice to each other it makes so much more fun when you spend time with people in a loving environment
They are insulting because they are jealous or try to make themselves feel good. But a good comeback reply can help as well but it's best to get away from the toxicity. Your peace and your day is best without the rude people.
Regulator I've found that it's usually about making themselves feel better and a man called HG Tudor, who has many excellent videos, states that it's akin to a drug when his kind get a positive, or negative reaction from their put downs etc.
I totally agree with not having any further contact with the person, IF possible, which I've done with many people, including family members, so-called friends and neighbours. 😊
Girl your music was bomb and at the right volume, not overpowering the discussion..thank you!.yes I believe journaling your progress is very good & self care is very important to withstand the constant abuse of negativity & insulting speech..and being quiet really makes those wheels spin in their head..they can't quite figure you out & that's a good thing bc they don't need to!
That's why I mind my own Affairs and live Private and peaceful
Same here.
Same me
Buggs Bunny what?😂
Same bro
That happens to private person as well, that is me.
I'm 22 year old, i have been stammering since my childhood.. till now most of the people mocking at me when i speak. I was always trying to hide my stammering, now i have accepted my self as I'm.. After accepting my self as a stammerer if someone mocking at me so i even mock with them on my stammering..
And i am a person who stammer so what? But I'm good activity listener.
Its ok twin...l stamer too... Am 24
@@jauimperfect1132 we are blessed to have stammer.😊
Never worry about those things which are just gifted to by nature.because u can just never change the nature so accept it and never get affected by what ppl have to say
It never hurt others buddy. People those who hurt others they have the disability.
U know, my uncle was a stammer, but i loved him. He was the most nicest person among my paternal relatives. Value urself, be confident, surround ur self with people who love u. Dont spoil ur time thinking y they cannot accept u with ur dissability.
Miss skillopedia I love the way you maintained that SWEET smile on your face throught the video. I felt like my true sister was advicing me as I can feel you were also being genuine throughout the video. I could see that in your eyes and body langauge altogether.
Thank you. My eldest daughter has done this for 25 years. I am so worn out. This has open my mind. Very helpful
I was in the same difficulties before he helped me few days ago okay..., contact Dr wilson,🏃🏃...,he do alot of work okay.., and keep to his words
Telling someone how you feel about the insult actually it gives them the satisfaction that they need.
Fatian Berisha yes.,
right
I agree completely!….it’s more ammunition for them to think of new ways to hurt you.
Do it infront of someone they pretend to be a good person
My favorite way of disarming someone who's trying to insult me is to say, completely unironically, "Thank you." It almost always throws them off and gets them to leave me alone. But then again, I have a super thick skin when it comes to insults and don't mind taking the self burn. And it doesn't work against everyone. But it works often enough that I consider it a useful tool for my toolbox.
i used to get bullied n insults ...i used to cry alone but now i m gonna fight back
Thats right bro they just jealous...
You should stand up foryourself
Thanks for this. It's helped me realise the bully at work is insecure and jealous of me. Thanks for boosting my self esteem, that was a great lesson xx
If someone say
"Failure"
Just say
"I m not interested in ur autobiography" #Englishpitamah
Kya baat kya baat kya baat very true line 👏👏👏
Thats a good one! 🤣👌
I also read this one:
' I'm not your mirror' 😃
Very helpfull to say to a bully!!
“They hate us because they ain’t us” 😉😉 Btw, I love the tips. These are very helpful specially in work situations. Thank you!
What I say is “ It’s different until it’s you. And if you ever experienced any negative emotions, I’d hope you would use that to help people and not hurt them. End a cycle, don’t continue one’” then they’d stop and think.
This week for the first time I come across your video. I saved it to watch in a quiet hour. I did it! And I loved it. Thanks for share with us your knowledge.
My greatest weapon is ignoring them. This makes the other person feel even more insecure about themselves than they already do. By ignoring them, I'm sending a message of "hey, I'm better than you and you're not worth my time." This infuriates them and they simply shut up, after which, they now want to get to know me better as a friend, but my answer is always "no", why give them knowledge about myself that they will try to use against me.
I totally agree 👍
Love me hate me but don't ignore me!
It doesn't infuriate them. They just turn up the heat, because they know you don't stand up for yourself.
@@Kelle0284 same, they do it again and again just to get your reaction.
What you do when you meet these kind of people, because I’m tired of this bullshit.
I find that if I ignore them, they feel they've got away with it and keep doing it
You gotta fight back. If the insults / taunts are consistent you must counter-attack, else you're a goner. I had. Reduced them to tears. Enjoyed it!
this doesn't work..!
@Tani_Leo if you do the same there is no difference in you and them..! although it's a matter of perspective! every person is different and something that works for someone might not work for someone else.!
I would have simply focused on my work if i were at your place,.this works for me....!
Reasons :
Insecurity
Jealous
Lack of understanding
Teasing is cool
How to respond:
Stay calm ( most important )
Express how uh exactly feel ( ismei complaint aayegi )
Simply ignore ( by changing topic or just walk away ) one of the wisest thing to do✨
Use humor
Report the insults if based on gender , sexuality, religion, disability
Indulge in self care..
Journal ..