Why Can’t Women Earn More Than Their Husbands?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ธ.ค. 2020
- This week, we explore the gender stereotypes around paid work, and why society feels threatened by a woman who earns more than her husband.
Edited by: Neha Shekhawat
Presented by: Rajvi Desai
Research: Quoyina Ghosh
Produced by: Shrishti Malhotra
Creative Supervisor: Karla Bookman
Want to learn more about the research in this video? Check out these readings:
-Ghosh, Jayati. Never done and poorly paid: Women's work in globalising India. Women's Unlimited, 2009.
-Ramaswamy, Vijaya. "Aspects of women and work in early South India." The Indian Economic & Social History Review 26, no. 1 (1989): 81-99.
-Coffey, Diane, Payal Hathi, Nidhi Khurana, and Amit Thorat. "Explicit prejudice." Economic & Political Weekly 53, no. 1 (2018): 47.
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What we realised while working on this video was that there aren't many portrayals of stay-at-home dads in cinema. Most of the dads are shown caring for their kids at home either because the partner has died (Marlin in Finding Nemo, Tom Hanks in Sleepless in Seattle, Liam Neeson in Love Actually) or left (Will Smith in Persuit of happiness) or somehow they've been forced to (Baby left at door- Hey Baby, Big Daddy). However we did find a few like Anders Holm from The Intern, but then again he is shown cheating on his wife as she wasn't home much because of her 'busy schedule'. Even in Ki And Ka, the fact that he is a stay-at- home husband is the entire plot of the movie. Let us know who's you fav stay-at- home dad/husband or if we missed anyone.
I watched this short film staring nakul Mehta and sanaya Irani where the husband stays at home taking care of his 2year old daughter while his wife is doing night shift job. Lovely short film th-cam.com/video/pZiz2ro4z9I/w-d-xo.html
@Neha Shekhawat can u give any updates about your dissent 2020 intiative? I'm eager to know.
BTW,great video
@Animesh Raj cool I definitely needed a nanny for me coz I'm a child!
Can you make a video about how women are ' required' to change their surnames after marriage
@Animesh Raj Well the way u treated me hmm I might (not) want to hire u
My mom actually earns more than my dad. She's a doctor and he's a vet. My dad has always acknowledged that because he knows my mom works harder and puts in longer hours. And that's why he feels it right to help around the house chores. Im proud of both of them.
That is so good to hear :)
This type of Understanding what we WANT.. This is #Feminism
Now that's called mutual understanding!
Fell proud to be the daughter of such a great father . 😇😇
@@byethere Haha he is obsessed with Swaddle. Jobless a**hole
In no way Is this 'Overthinking'. Everyone should be thinking like this.
No one cares
And that's very sad. :'(
@@hardeeprajput6564 you probably care bcoz you're copying this "no one cares" literally everywhere 😂😂
@@theswiftie6654 so true😂😂😂
No one cares
Indian movies just so rubbish and negatively influence the people's mindset over generations
There was an instance in this vdo where a women says "Mishra khandan ki bahu kaam nhi karti, parmpara h hamari" is taken from "shadi m zaroor ana". It is a really nice movie on the same topic of a girl having an ambition and her in-laws were not ready for it and how things change. Do watch it.
@@yashaswigupta8421 Yeahh It's my favourite movie!!
@Mayurakshi Ghose Dude..... You mean ekta Kapoor ke stupid serials(Rasode me kaun tha😂)?? Sony TV has some really great shows..... Watch them.... Mere dad ki dulhan, ek duje ke vaaste 2, etc etc
@Mayurakshi Ghose yup true👍🏻
agree
I earn more than my husband and it's a thing we have never even thought about. Any money you earn is for both to live a comfortable life together. Why does it even matter!!
i guess its for the money-minded folks out there. Only healthy and true relationships find meaning and value of eachother and not their wallet.
Swaddle just brings pseudo femenist idea.
@@hardeeprajput6564 Why are you watching this channel
@Bumblesnuff buffallobath ❤️
You'd be surprised to know how much it matters to a lot of women, and even men.
It is not only about females doing paid jobs and men having issues regarding low pay jobs compared to their spouse. I met men arranged by parents and they wanted a working women as a partner. I was impressed as i belong to an upper class society and they usually don't "allow" women to work. but then i asked a question that so that means u (male partner) r okay to do work at home? I mean i am not a robot ryt. I can't work outside home and thn inside home all by myself. They thought i am arrogant and rude and bitchy women😪.
Girl I hope you are out of that situation 😊
maybe you are
Dude u deserve better .
Lol they gave to permission to work out and you wanted to take his job! 😂😂😂 I'm mean couldn't you have framed it like would you be willing to help me with chores at home after work? You seem arrogant and bitchy with the kind of notion that you put forward in front of them!
IKR! Like... I met a few mens & they said they want a women working both in office & home. I mean... what are you? Kids?
While I was looking for a match, the three women who rejected me all cited the same reason, that I earned less than them.
Work hard and enjoy ur life with friends,these bishes ain't worth of us mate
@@bibinthomas5282 Exactly
Welcome to the real world - Women don't find men who earn lesser than them attractive. It shows a lack of competence.
I love how Swaddle uses language to put forth an idea.
You use your words wonderfully to make sure that you bring men and women up without pitting them against each other or belittling one of the groups like I've seen so many people do nowadays
Amazing work, keep rocking
Idea. That is clear pseudo femenist dream land
@@hardeeprajput6564 I don't understand what you're saying bhai, I'm just complimenting them for being amazing with words
Most feminists end up marrying a government clerk by paying dowry system
@@shrishri5587 stfu dude! Why do u ask for dowry anyways bloddy gold diggers!
Aint no woman willing to kill her ambition for a govt. Clerk!
@@shrishri5587 ?
Forget men accepting women earning more... I have seen women reject marriage proposals just becoz she earns more than the groom/man
You'll get here answers like "she needs higher standard of living" like she can't afford higher standard of living from her own higher income 🤷
Yeah.. This is what I wanted to say... Society and family does want higher paying wife but also... Wife doesn't want lower paying husband.....
ikr.i am a female and i have seen so many cases on this.there are many hypocrisy women who bash dowry but want a man who is rich
@@Aditi-mb3qm why don't you simply say that women are nothing but gold diggers
@@flyingbanshee8592 because she want to say women are never at fault and not taking thier own fault for something is the mentality of inferior people.
I have seen my properly working friend struggling with household and also at work...its a 2 edged sword if she does bad at work its because she is a female..and if bad at household her husband asks her to quit job..it was completely inhuman amount of work..such topics are often neglected and becomes primary reason for early end of women's career
No one cares
@@hardeeprajput6564 shut up, people can share what they want to as long as they don't hurt anyone.
@@sukeeratsidhu8133 No one cares
@@hardeeprajput6564 i hope no one cares about your sis and daughter too
@@hardeeprajput6564 Average Indian be like: Women has careers.
My mom is a government servant and my dad works in private sector. Mom has a high salary and usually runs the house. But while making any decisions in house matters she is usually shut down by saying "we let u continue your job, Government servant hai to jyada have me mat udd"
WHEN DID ANYONE ASK THEIR PERMISSION?? Like hello, this is my moms life, if she wants to continue job then its her decision. The same applies to other women too. If they want to continue their jobs after marriage then its their decision and they dont need to ask for anyone's permission. And some jealous a$$es get ashamed when their women counterparts earns more money than them coz then they "loose" their superiority.
Marriage is an institution which needs effort from both sides. Both can help run the house by earning and doing household chores too. Both can divide expenses and chores, no big deal. Good dynamics/compatibility is very important.
Omg. I know. But I'm so glad that we guys have a nuclear family so any decision is made by us only. Women are still treated like second beings
Haha if u think about it she has more power and influence over society as a govt officer so maybe he should shut up before she snaps.
Then encourage your mom to take divorce & find a rich husband rather than living with your obviously loser dad who can't even earn as much as his wife.
Your dad got some big cojones man!
Yes but your dad can marry non working woman
Most underrated channel on youtube.
But with most informative videos. People don't consume truth.
@@xclarakar1756 hell yeah
Uuh am so.sick of seeing this comment
@@shrikaripeddamatham exactly. This what is the problem of society. Females speak against women issues when content is made for their upliftment.
So true behen
Even if family In laws agree with working of their daughter in law , they expect that the household work is still to be done by her also. Same kind of situation is being faced by my elder sister. Her job is from 7-7 and in night when she comes ,first thing she do is to make dinner for all. before marriage, she never did the housework after or before going work.
Most of the educated ladies I see are like this. Since saying no make them bad infornt of whole family, they won't open their opinion. And some other women think this our duty🙄
@Uminder Saundh it happens mostly in joint family ... that's why I support and favour the neuclear family concept.
Marriage should be abolished
@@lindamary1647 i like your idea
Then who will cook food??
Yay love the pink hair!
Ikr😭 I'm having a major crush on her 🤐
@kim namjoon made me straight again She has the vibes ✨✨✨
@@yourregularkpopstan5949 ikr!! I wonder which parlor she went to cuz it's so well done and doesnt look fried
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 None of your concern✨
yep the pink hair
Fun Fact: My mum earns more than my father and my grandma earns the most money in our family even more than my grandpa😂😂😂
Edit: And the men in our family are pretty cool with it, my dad even jokes around with my mom about how she’s the boss😂😂😂
Great👍🏻
🆆🅾🆆 !!!
Wow! That's so amazing 👏😍
Well that's what a simp does... 😂😂😂
@@rama7966 and what has being an incel gotten you?
There is a new kind of pressure emerging in society nowadays , also talk about that , I have seen many people who wanted a earning women , but but but along with earning outside they also want her to do all household chores , so working outside the house as well inside , what kind of attitude is this ? Instead every person should take his responsibility on his own , whether women or men unless they are small children or old people , , why society still wants working women to also do all household chores n to be not helped by anyone , n what's this hell word' help ', all persons should atleast try to do their work on their own , yea sometimes they can also help each other ,
Exactly
This will change if parents change their perception of raising their kids
Yeah exactly
Your topics are very powerful
Yeah
_What Women should Do_ As they *by design* cannot live in minimalism.. Yeah.. Man can spend their whole day in Vest( Ganji, inner garment) avg cost ₹400/pc and Woman's bras avg cost ₹1200/pc.. Add menstrual hygiene cost add basic makeup cost ₹500-1000 pm
This (Real life) data might explain Why Woman needs more money--> they started Working to bear with atleast her expenses--> now people *expect her to work & take care of house* = No support from the family/in-laws
_Waiting for your opinion on this Cycle_
Omg.. ganji vs bra price plus sanitary pads.. never thought about it. Such a disparity !! True ..
Use menstrual cups. They are more hygienic, leakfree, cost effective and eco friendly.
Hey stupid not all women do makeup. And most of the women don't do makeup in tamilnadu. And boys spend a lot of money in bikes/car and the fuel and gadgets and shoes and many more. So keep ur data with urself
I mean it's so true recently in my friends relatives a couple got divorced because the husband started feeling insecure because of the idea that his wife earning more than him was destroying his manhood pride. And then my friend were discussing how it's important for women to have less income than man in a marriage to have a stable marriage, I was so pissed off by their mindset
@@RaviVerma-bv3iy yes obviously it's ego but it was his believe that it was his manhood pride
@@fashionbyarpita9215 it's came I'm existence because mostly men earn more and if women earn more it make rare thing in society which people don't like
@@fashionbyarpita9215 usually larki prefer karti hai equal or higher not lower. Default hypergamy. Rare case hai jaha larki kisi aise Larke se shaadi kare jo larki se kam kamata hoga.
@@fashionbyarpita9215 if a women feels she is above a man she won't respect him .
Atleast he took action, maybe his wife starting changing her behavior becoz she's earning more , woman usually are power hungry
It's simple and like this, If wife ownes 50% of household income then why not men owns 50% of household works?
product of social conditioning. If society can stop teaching “providing” is a man’s job. Like there are cultures where a man moves into woman’s place after marriage and the woman is considered the head. (Takes the responsibility of the family). Finance and stuff.. so how about we teach new generations that there are no fixed roles. Whoever is capable of doing can take on whatever role. She has more income, she can be the head. Stop with this man’s role or woman’s role. When the word is partner. Why does it matter or should it matter? Who is providing to the house financially
Many women try to find a man with more income. Both men and women should try to change the way of their thinking.
Every body would want someone who earns more money if this stupid mindset did not exist!
I completely agree with you.
I will do the total opposite.
@Syed Rehan Ali Khan not all women.
@Syed Rehan Ali Khan Not everything is a fact.
3:38 Ab bolo Swaddle doesn't care about men.
Exactly. No one should be forced to attain strict gender stereotypes. Ek hi life hai. Jaise jeena hai jiyo🔥🔥🔥🔥
If they did care about men, they would have gone beyond that. Why is it that channels and groups like these never go beyond 'men can cry' or 'men need not earn'? How about lack of legal rights for men and all those laws which either don't provide protection to men, or are misused like anything?
Nice try, but this was too condescending.
Nice try, but this was too condescending.
Kha kiya. Hit on masculinity bola. Ye nahi bola biwi pressure kitna deti he. Pseudo femenist
I was just shocked to see the guys reaction after hearing that nidhi bisht's income was 6500 ....it made me remember of a guy in school who used to give the same reaction when i used to get 5 marks less from him in any subject...
😂
Don't freinds compete?
@@randomaccount5601 she ain't complaining.. Just sharing a memory from her childhood.
No one cares
@@randomaccount5601 actually he wasn't my friend...he was a marks counter
And this, is one of my *proud* daughter moments, my dad is everything to me, my role model, my inspiration, my motivation to pursue my dreams
He cooks, does the laundry, babysits, and he was the one who left his family to marry my mom, tbh my mom even weighs more than him and is older to him but he still loves her unconditionally, I'm proud of my dad
We all are sis
Lol
Lol
@@shauryajain675 what's funny in that?
Great!❤️
Even though the women in India are being employed and educated more than often their success overshadowed by their husbands. Like she should be on a lower rank than the man, she should earn less.
Even if it is about getting opportunities, many women are denied a bigger opportunity because of longer working hours and her not being able to be the house maintainer.
Like even if she works home should be the priority to her and she must choose household if the choice comes between household and work.
Why?
@@2031976vikrant because caring for household has been her primary duty and (acc to some orthodoxes) should always be.
Because they simply can't have it all.
Either be carrier minded and forget the family or have family and forget the courier
@@aditivarshney9901 We can always change that, if we want to, it's no body's business to tell a couple how to divide work.
Aunty chodo Bharat agar itna problem he to.
@@hardeeprajput6564 You don't get to decide if I should get to live in India or not.
Secondaly, I was putting a situation about how it is for women here.
Third, yes I know we are working to change and I hope to be a part of that change.
And fourth you can decide to agree or disagree with me. That's your choice but you can not caste me out of my birth nation just because I have the capability to put forth an Opinion.
_Theme of the Video_
1) You work, let her work too. *Don't judge people just based on their Income/job choices* (say if have to work overtime)
2) Roughly EQUAL House Work/Family Time.. *Because no one is a Machine.*
3) Adjust with the situations.. *UNDERSTANDING is the Key* Keep this thing in mind, her career can too be Important for her.
You're a blessing 🙏🙏🙏
True
Simple thing that many people can't understand
hey, I want to ask a question to you, Suppose a partner(of any gender) himself/herself happily chooses to become a homemaker only, and the other partner(of any gender) earns, then how should they manage and share the house works and in about how much ratio? What is your opinion on this situation? AND suppose if one partener have a very long outside working hours(example - 7am to 10pm etc.) And other partener have less working hours, then how they should share house hold resposibilities? What is your opinion on these things? Please answer..
@@adwaitab.3622 hey can you also answer my above question, if you want..
@@BCS-IIITK it can't be her choice, because of we girls are wanting equality like the boys then just the way earning and contributing is mandatory for them, it also needs to be mandatory for girls too
Patriarchy is so deep that ..even girl won't date guy who earn less than her n her parents will never agree for marriage
How did this happen. When we know patriarchal ideologies are which root cause of sexism and what it is doing is harm then aren’t people change the whole system. This is an insult to the women yet women themselves support the system. Do people even understand this is a social construct which can be changed and rebuild. I hate the culture and society that I born into. All it’s doing is penalizing for my gender. I’m a dominant person myself, I would like to lead in relationships but this society seems the opposite to me. It’s not that don’t have freedom to do with my life but don’t want to participate in an institution which stands for oppression. No. Marriage rates are going down. That’s a good thing. Would gladly see in disappear than stand on toxic. I never understand why society wants a man provide/head of the household where either is equally capable of doing it. Maybe it should be case by case situation. I personally want to be the lead, provide, protect my man, and invite him to my house. He lives under my roof. That’s who iam personally. That’s how I always imagine growing up and I realized the society I’m born into is the opposite. “Saying what is woman getting mean extra money”. Man supposed to lead. My blood boils like anything. I want to lead, I’m supposed to make more money, i supposed be the breadwinner not him, I buy the house, he is there as a partner. That’s all. WhT he is bring is what I call extra. But in the society... I’m everything what I wished for is the opposite. That’s why I hate the society that I’m born into and cultures should change over time though. I hope that happens.
Hypergamy
Feminist outlets blame patriarchy and male ego for Female hypergamy... we should make money a lot of money indeed to get a avg girl with avg looks and education and income who will be loyal and respectful partner . Because women take what favours them in feminism. Join red pill
There is a popular Malayalam web series - karikku.
They discussed this topic in an episode titled "family pack" where a stay at home dad gives reason why he chose to do so. It was a positive change and ignited many discussions in social media.
When I asked my father what he thought about a woman earning more than her husband , he said
" Haan toh achcha hee hai na , husband ko kam kamaana padega! He can benefit from his wife's money"
He then said "Usme kya hai, it's all about mindset."
No shame in it. No nothing .
And honestly, I stan ✊
Larki shaadi nhi karegi . Bolna aasan hai karna mushkil.
as per my experience with men,these days they don't want to take the pressure of whole sole bread winner..they want women to earn also and work at home also.they will not marry unemployed woman.They will not take burden of an unemployed woman even with dowry because few lakhs is not sufficient to cover her life long expenses.Problem is they can't tolerate women earning more than them or equal to them but also not too less, still expects her to work as per convenience of the family needs like location of job timings of job...the family and man will never adjust to woman professional needs,desire to grow..
put short-women should earn but should stay within limits set by his father or husband.
First half of your comment was quite impressive but trust me we (generalising modern men) don't mind if wife earns more of even hell more than what we do or asks us to be the homemaker while they work to earn the bread but women or their families won't let a woman so highly qualified or makeing so much money marry someone who makes less money than she does just think if a make around 5lcks per month her family demands a groom who has a penthouse or villa and makes around 6-10 lcks per month. This the sad truth, the harsh reality.
@@boyfromthemountains absolutely true....I totally agree.
@@boyfromthemountains so so true. A woman's own family members don't like it if the guy is earning lesser.
@@shrishri5587 Lol, I'm a feminist and my current life is better than ur poor future.
@@revathirajesh5033 baap k paise pe life to achi hi hogi chinno raaani .
The trend in reduced paid "domestic service roles" in Britain after the world war industrialisation also tells us that "servants" never did like that job. I saw a 4 part BBC documentary on the subject that was revealing!
Please could you tell me the name of the documentary? it sounds really interesting!
@@caaaaats9890 BBC documentary "Servants: The True Story of Life Below Stairs" presented by Dr. Pamela Cox.
Oh I'm so happy for you cause you're going to enjoy these hrs...
Kyu ki aadmiyo ko wahi society bolti hai "biwi ke kamayi pe khata hai"
Know the other side as well.
No objection on woman earning more than man.
My mother is the only person who earns in my home. So do many women in my family and neighborhood. The men are okay with this. They respect the women too.
My father is no more but when he was alive my mother used to earn more than him. She paid for his medicines,my school fees, food n other stuff. My father was an alcoholic so he never really supported us financially. My mother used to cook food for us in the morning then doing labour work all day. After coming she had to cook the food n even after all these my father used to beat her.
He said that she is characterless n why she needs to work,its dishonourable for him n all.
He is dead now. And no one cares.
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 tf? Who said i hate him??
@Worldwide Handsome thanks ami💜
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 lol who the tf told i hate him?? But its just like... I don't love him. I've disliked him for what he did n since he is dead we are actually living a peaceful Life.
@Mayurakshi Ghose i really don't understand this.... that why people thinks that someone is dead so we should overly respect them. Idk about them but i recognise people by thier deeds or personality not by... they sre dead or alive. I mean it doesn't make sence at all.
You're hair is nice 😱😱
ikr its so prettyy
@Abhigyan Nawani i mean that's a hard colour to pull off but she does it well.
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 no
The HAIRSTYLE is really nice..... But the COLOUR!! Why did she do this to her hair.... I hate the colour!
@@byethere sure thing
Random- that girl's hair looks just divine 💖
Yo u back ! Yeah man true
Btw did u share any story with swaddle 's dissent 2020 initiative?
@@chaitanyadandale4569 yo!! Yes I was just thinking what should I write, a few options to choose from.
@@AdityaAnand-oy3nc Well did wrote it? Coz when I asked them they said they have wrapped it up like few days ago . Means not demotivate but u can ask em personally 🙂
@@chaitanyadandale4569 sure thank you for reminding me!! I just did 😸💖
@@AdityaAnand-oy3nc So what did they say?
The problem is with women mainly , women or their families never tend to get married to a man who earns less than her. Even women often compare themselves based on the amount of their husband's income.
Women also wants a Men who earns more than her i have seen this practically.
At my home Papa had to left his jobs to look after myself , and my Mom earns ..And its not a big issue ..
For swaddle no essential topic are issues.
It's not a big issue in your house doesnt mean other people dont suffer.Yours is an exception, not the norm.
@@suhanisingh8602 not a big isse
my mum was always the primary breadwinner, and earned more than my dad, her being in govt. healthcare and him being in the private sector. It's perfectly normal and okay.
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 What's wrong with you?
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 she's a nurse, and no she doesn't. jeez.
private sector can be quite erratic career path, with certain period of job loss.
I can take a joke, but don't mock occupations, especially front line health care workers and especially now. k bye.
No but swaddle wants men to tend at home and women to earn.
@@aleenascaria6851 he must be in a bad private sector job.Had he been in some good company no way a nurse would have made.more money than him
My mom earns about 30,000 more than my dad. I'm happy that my dad acknowledges it and is proud of her ❤️
What is ur dad's earning
@@adithyavimal3724 1.05 lakh
@@disgusting2669 so u r rich 😂
@@adithyavimal3724 no bro.. 😅 I'm middle class
In city the cost of living is also high.
@@disgusting2669 what is ur parents job
All the people boasting about their mum making more money than their dads have to consider one thing that the previous generation have family values that the current generation don't posses & no girl who earns will choose a man who earns less than her it's just a fact.
Peoples boasting about their mums making more money than their dads should ask their parents or grandparents for that matters ... 'what was the situation at the time of their mum & dad got married !' ... I am dame sure, they will get shell shocked.
My mom is a working women too , infact she completed her studies after giving birth to my younger brother , i am so happy and blessed to have a family like this :)
J-hopeeeee
No one cares
@@mounthelicon4027 yeah , thank you , i edited the comment :)
@@sahanajkhatun1248 haha yeahhhh
@Worldwide Handsome Thanks seokjinah!!
When my parents got married initially they both were unemployed after marriage my mom got government job but my father was unemployed all his friends made fun of him telling that ur lucky ur wife is earning n ur sitting in home n eating i still feel bad about times till now my mom earns more than my dad but not a single day she disrespected him neither he did i am so happy for them 😊
Thanks for this, I'm happy to see that even pressure for men is addressed here rather than only speaking about what women have been deprived of. Keep going team. Equality is always a boon to all gender
My mom had a govt job. And was the chief bread winner.
But yea, taking care of children have always been with women
A mind set that a feminist doesn't think about men s definitely wrong she said it's a pressure on a men and I totally agree to that. I am just 13 but still there is a hell amount of burden on me to responsibilities my father is worried about my future and once I listened mum and father talking my mother asked what about my sisters future and you cannot imagine what he answered he said how come I know about her future let her be a teacher. My father always told me to join the army when I get big and he is telling me since I was in 5 th and my sister is in 6 th grade he didnt even asked her if she was interested in army. It is the bizzare truth of our society we will definitely change this perspective.
Good job guys love you videos love from delhi❤
True 💯.
I don't really think of myself as a feminist or anything but just want my rights and want others to get theirs regardless of who they are what their gender is, what are their beliefs of where they belong or anything dosen't matter, ther'e just people like me and you and than I started discovering feminism and yes they stand for all that 'equality' even I'm becoming fascinated with it.
In nations lyk india if the wife earns significantly more than the husband then the husband has to go through a lot of disrespect from the society nd not her wife...
thats the reason a lot of indian husbands dont want their wife to earn more..
but in the west its quite normal now for the wife to earn more
so such things r rare there...
Bro kuch knowledge share katta hu
In west 80 percent divorce ladki deti hai
Jusme se pata chala 55 percent just divorce beacise hey start earning kore than man
They say we cant respect a person who earn less than us
Koi india ki bakchodu nahi hai
Ladkia apni galti ladko pe thop deti hai
Mosly woman whichever country you go choose a man who earn more than them
Or ye inhe sexist nahi lagta kioki ye toh biological reasons ki vajah se hai
Lekin agar ladka ladki ko sex body count ki vajah se karde toh galat hai
Jab nahi dekhengi evolutionary biological reasons ki vajah se hai
Jake Peralta in Brooklyn Nine Nine is one of the BEST husbands on screen! Him and his wife, Amy, work at the same police station and when she gets promoted for a position that they were both hoping for, he tells her "I knew you were always gonna be my boss."
Jake is happy with her success and while they maintain their rivalry even as spouses, they respect each other and also celebrate the other's victory.
@Mayurakshi Ghose yaasss!!! I love how the show confronts serious topics like toxic masculinity, sexuality, racism etc in a very humorous yet lovely way! It really teaches you a lot.
* I want it that way.... *
@@rsharma7221 tell me WHYYYY
My mom earns much more than my dad!!
or India ke youth umemployed he.
@@climatechange4428 ...so is that her mom's fault..??
@@climatechange4428 padhai ki hoti toh kama lia hota. Dusro ki mummy ko dosh na dena hota fir
@@climatechange4428 wdym matlab ladkiyan kam kerna chor de even when they deserve it bcoz so called youth is unemployed
Padhai karo agar tum deserve kerte hoge to tumhe mil jaegi job
Mujhe samajh nhi ata logo ko ye ku lagta hai ki ladki hai to usse easily job mil jaegi ya usse mehnat nhi kerni padegi
Main ladki hu aur mai din raat padh rhi hu neet ke lie and when I will crack it .I will literally kill that person who will say ki tum ladki ho islie tumhara selection ho gya and main ladka hu to nhi hua
I want to roam in foreign countries in future and if my wife or gf doesnot earn money, it will be difficult to do it😂
thats mean though🤣🤣
Fun fact why don't you start working for the kind of life you want instead of being a leach on someone else's money be it your wife/parents etc.
@@rsharma7221 chill its a joke.... I meant to say that if we both earn, then it would be easier or else I (the man) would have more pressure financially.... My wife working would help me
@Monster of Aces do you do this when you earn some money?
"Why cant women earn more than her husband" leads to "why women dont want a men who earn less then her"
And this vicious circle keeps on
The point is that providing a common platform is need of humans not of only women
I am glad to say i come from a family where this notion is unacceptable there was a time when my dad couldn't work due to an accident and my mother supported us for atleast five years and my father revers that also is thankful bcoz from the beginning of the marriage finances were divided equally between them there was a tym my mom earned more than my dad i was so proud of that everyone was including my dad
Ask wheter women agree to marry guys who earn lower than her??
Yes sir! I earn 3 times more than my husband . It was my choice and no regrets 😊
@@prati18 Not everyone thinks like you Mam 🙏
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Yes actually many girls want guys like that coz that way the husband won't become overbearing restricting other movements of the girl in the name of him being the superior bread winner.
Also as a Girl I don't want my husband to suffer work stress and 0 enjoyment. He should not suffer for psuedo societal biased norms
@@prati18 I really love how you brag about earning more. Really you partner must very proud of you.
First of all, amazing videos, secondly, I hope you pay more attention to improving these issues and abandoning these ideas rather than the 'issues' itself. We all know the issues, but we want that the society, our parents, see these videos and bring a change in themselves. We the new generation might bring these changes, but the current society and parents need to change. Thanks for the videos!
Men are pressurized to work and women are asked to stay at home,such a hypocrisy.society sirf larkiyon ke sath bura nhi kar rha hei,larko ko pressurize kar kar ke unka ambition pe asar dalta he,stop comparing both genders,we all know no gender is independent..
@Worldwide Handsome hey u might have mistaken my words.the last line was not for swaddle people. it is for the world u compare both the genders👍.I infact supported what they have said😂
These videos are a delight to watch and i learn so much from these. Amazing work!
PS: I love your hair.
School to chutiya he jo tum yaha aya gye
My mother is also more successful in terms of recognition and career than my father. But we as a family never thought about it 😂. Maybe I live in a woke household
Thank you for this video Swaddle!!! Edit: Thank you for all of your amazing videos!!
I earn more than my husband and he not only encourages this but he also appreciates this. I'm so thankful to have him in my life.
Girls, time for us all to become the first billionaires in our families, and ignore people who think otherwise!😁😁
Love u girl❤️
You Go girl 👍let's make this world a better place 😊
Idk ,ur chances of dating a man richer than u decreases
My mother earn considerably good amonut than my dad but this was never even a talk among my family or relatives. I dont understand wat so big deal about it.
This should be a general thinking video
Not overthinking
Great one 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
My chachi works more hours than my chachu so he does the house chore mostly because chachi comes home late so she is not able to do house chores and i like the kind of relationship they have they treat each other equally and respect decisions of one other BUT THE BIGGEST ENEMY IS my mom and other relatives WHO criticise them for bieng like this they say patani ka gulam banke betha hai admi hoke patani ko apne vash mai rakhna chahiya i am truly disgusted by what they say to that couple but i always tell them and argue that this is normal but i always get a chappal but i never stop because i know that staying quiet wont happen and also my chachu and chachi ignore these people and that is why they have a halethy relationship with less fighting arguement ek dusre ko tana marna they never do this i also want a relationship something like this in future🙂
My love and appreciation for swaddle has increased ten folds.. I needed this.
You depend on online content for appreciateion. Please see a doctor you are showing symptoms of depression
@@hardeeprajput6564 You depend on belittling people you hardly know for entertainment, please see a doctor you are showing signs of narcissism.
@@hardeeprajput6564 this is so rude omg, did you even get what her comment said?
@@hardeeprajput6564 You are depending on online content to spread hate.
Please see a doctor, you are showing signs of depression.
And yet many refuse to accept marriage offers from men who earn less!
True absolutely true. Now be ready to face wrath of pseudo feminist
This is so good. Thank you for sharing the insights.
Women can earn more , my mother does.
But women in India generally also seek husbands who earn more, check matrimony sites.
A girl rarely marries a boy earning less or in less prestigious job than her, why ?
Though good she portrayed the Indian women were kept home as they did not have freedom and it was based on the holy texts but when it came to the western world the same situation became there women safety and their wealth ... how can this hold true? And I come from a caste based on matriarchal system. And if you had even a little knowledge in In the ithihasas she could have seen how teh women took control in eery matters.. they build and ruined the kingdom.. they were heard.. ..
I will definitely marry a woman who will earn more than me bcoz after getting backs in all my subjects I know I will get job nowhere
My friend's dad stays at home he is a house husband and his mom is a working lady.... My mom and dad both work...
This channel is so informative! Just wish their videos come on trending soon!👏👏👏
Love the pink hair !😍
Good becoz the topic was pure borimg.
Ur hair is lukin just as good as ur content💓✨ PERFECT
Absolutely loved the ending.... ❤️❤️❤️
Those toxic men can't handle when women are a bit higher than them in any field.
Hey..many girls doesn't want lower paying husband... They to be blame too....
@@priyampriti7906 so what are u saying. Men can blame wives for having higher salaries and women can blame husbands for lower salaries. women blaming husbands with lower income is one issue. And men blaming wives for higher salaries is another issue. Both are problematic. Do not dismiss off both. They both need to be changed. Countering one problem with another is not a solution.
@@pyaariiilalfromindia8716 keetitt iyaal oru commie anenn thonann 😂😂
Also make a video on how men should equally help working wives with household, parenting and emotional support without saying "i'help but main kaam toh tumko hi karna padega" even when the man and woman work for same hours, the household responsibilities must be heavily taken care by the women ... I mean why?
You have to understand that women's have option to work and men are forced to work most of women work in those jobs which they want which is thier dream jobs if they didn't able to achieve thuer dream job they have option to stay home but men don't have that option if they don't able to do thier dream job they have to do job even the job they don't like that the main reason men are in both high and low paying job men make majority in high risk job women don't do work if they don't get desirable job
There is actually an hindi serial - Kuch Rang Pyaar Ke aise Bhi (2016-2017) which portrayed stay at home husband/dad in its 2nd season. The characters were played by Shaheer Sheikh and Erica Fernandes. The show was very popular and It's first season had ended abruptly and fans brought back the show (2nd season) in a public demand.
I didn't know why this serial was so famous now i know
Only traditional roles are the best one because there is a saying"Old is Gold". But there are some feminine men who want to be like housewives. It is their hormonal problem not social.
✨FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE✨
No one cares
@@hardeeprajput6564 aww
@@hardeeprajput6564 well you do🙄🙄
@@hardeeprajput6564 Who asked you fool?
@@hardeeprajput6564 such a sad life you lead
Bcoz no women will respect her partner if he is house husband.
Just like no man respects a house wife
The best topic so far Swaddle!!!❤️
Actually, women themselves want husband to earn more. Or as close to her salary as possible
I am happy to have parents who have an equal power dynamic . My mom's earn more than my dad and both of parents take care of the house and my younger sibling .
This is not overthinking.. it's actually true.. our society gets upside down when a wife earn more then their husbands..this also puts huge pressure on men.. ladies remember being financially independent is better then anything ,also men remember a strong mother would raise strong daughters. The way we act would determine our next generation
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Love this channel. ❤❤❤
Go to shadhi.com and other matrimonial websites, you will find women demanding for men who earns more than them. It is not just the male ego. Generally women prefer a man who is equally or more successful than her. That's human nature.
A working man doesn't have any problem marrying a women who doesn't have a job(there are exceptions) But a working women always tends to choose a working man who is successful in his career (there are exceptions).
Oh yesss....absolutely!!!!!
There are reasons for that, us women we're never really taught financial independence and told that our jobs are just a 'hobby', it's really sad, even my parents are like that. They want me to work but always tell me if someone needed to sacrifice their job, I would have to do it because men won't do it (that's what they say)
Also you know what the state of women's education is rn, even urban houselholds don't encourage women to study a lot, let alone work
It is not the woman who prefers a more successful man but it's the family. While searching for a husband, the girls' family looks for men who are financially more stable than their daughter so that the husband can " take care" of her. We often hear or see parents scolding their male child to get a job or else no one will marry him. This puts pressure on both the sides. It should completely normal for people to find a woman earning more than her husband or the husband being homeband (like housewife).
@@jvamsikrishna3914 yes!
Being in the US at the moment, what I see here is also pretty sad. Women are not just encouraged to work here, they are kind of forced as households aren't able to survive without their work, many times men just run away from responsibilities putting the pressure of work both inside and outside the house on women alone.....:(
No one cares
@@hardeeprajput6564 u did to comment
Have you ever heard about child support and you know how much westerner women cheat most of the time children were not of the same man.
That's why us have more children without Father why would they take responsibility of another's child.
If they really wAnt other men's child they will be adopting from orphanages.
I think you only talk to Western.
women there.
You live in us and you don't know that
I have no problem .
You are doing a great work. Keep going ☺️
Working women for the win
Yes and do house hold chores too
you people are doing amazing work.....most of my knowledge about feminism comes from your channel....now i understand what my sister is going through when my parents keep forcing her for marriage.....and it's mostly due to society's pressure that they are worried...personally i don't care if my sister marries or not....i like her being home with me..
OMG. please change your tone. It sounds like INCEST
@@climatechange4428 😂😂😂
You guys are amazing 😄.
1:07 Sangam literature is mentioned . It depicts the culture of Tamilians.
My family never compared girls and boys (including my bhabhi) for how much they are earning or whether they are earning or not. My extended family (paternal and maternal) have tried to create a rift between us on this very issue but I am proud of my parents that they treat girls (me and bhabhi) and boy (my brother) they same.
Infact my dad considers it offending to ask someone's salary. He also thinks that in today's world people can give their children a better life if both partners are earning.
Proud of my family ❤️
No one cares about he.
@@climatechange4428 clearly you do. So much pain you took to reply to my comment... Which btw was not directed to you😂😂😂
You are doing a great job
This video was much require for our patriarchal Society.Thank u for sharing this video 😍😘
Even if any man is progressive and say that he is okay with his wife earning more than him, the 'society' and mostly his family will be like 'biwi ke paison pe jee rha hai'
Trust me mujhe koi aisa nai bole GA kyu ki kafi mufad insan hu kasam se 1 badle 4 sunna du ga! 😂😂😂 But koi low-income earners se shadi nai Karna Pasand Kar te!
No one cares
Swaddle it is an open challenge show me single girl who will say I will marry a guy on lower position then me or having lower pay scale. You can't hide the truth.
ohh i can show u then ... My aunt is earning much more than my uncle and even after knewing this fact she married him and manyy more examples ... Dont get it what kind of mentality u r having
I know of a friend who's wife earns around 20lpa and he earns 6 lpa. it's common nowadays.
There you go! You asked one girl!
Got 10 such examples!
Your egos are always hurt. Hain n?😂
Still I don't understand why you visit this channel. Oh ya, to spread negativity
@@mirroruniverse9331 aim: to generalise females😂
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Not only I loved this topic of overthinking, but I also loved Rajvi's hair colour!! Go girl!