Honestly dude, although the quality of your highly produced videos is AMAZING, these authentic sit down videos are just as rewarding to watch, and honestly, in many ways, even more so. Don’t hesitate to sprinkle these in with your usual content whenever you feel the need to.
"You embrace the suck and then you are transformed by it. You feel good about yourself because you are no longer living in this anxious denial." This describes what is procrastination at his finest and how it really makes you feel. And how you do feel when you do what you promised yourself and how proud you are
I absolutely agree with you. I am 26 years old and 'don't know what to do when I grow up'. For two years now, I have been trying to overcome this chronic indecision, anxiety and over-analysis about my future career. Leading me to create a wall between me and action, blocking me. These last two weeks I have been 'doing' for real. And I don't know the reason why, really... It may be that I have accumulated the right awareness, the tools I needed, or it may simply be that this is my moment. Or maybe tomorrow I'm going back to see my old friend: overthinking. But for now, I'm having fun by 'embracing the suck'. Thank you for sharing this with us 💜
It's okay luv, I'm more or less the same as you, just 6 years younger and you can do it, extend embracing the suck, I feel like the less people I have whom I listen to, who are actually here to make me taste the reality, the more I'm able to stay sane and disciplined towards my goals.
It's so weird how much I needed to hear this today and almost surreal that I was feeling the same way and coming to a realization that I need to strip everything away and just focus on the fundamentals of what I need to do to achieve what I want. Thank you.
I relate 100% to this. This want, almost need to be authentic, and honest, and true to yourself, by putting out a video like this. But there's something within that is terrified of it. I think what it is, is the fear of "Nobody cares" If I just sit down in front of the camera and say things that have been on my mind, and what I'm thinking about them.. there's this overwhelming feeling, put into words by a voice within that shouts "Who do you think you are?" "Why would anyone want to watch this?" "Why would anyone care what you think?" I'd say we're all on a journey of self acceptance, and starting to feel confident in ourselves, and giving ourselves the benefit of the doubt, that "maybe I am good enough" And this is a huge step you've taken toward it, Joey! Keep growing, keep improving :)
Something that I can keep thinking is time feels so fast when I'm procrastinating and when I stop procrastinating it feels like I'm doing whatever important thing too slowly or inefficiently. It's good to tell myself it's okay to slow down and it's okay to be bored and it's okay to be woefully inefficient. It's still 100 times more productive than watching TH-cam for the sixth hour.
Joey, I have been watching you for over a year now, and this is easily one of my favorite videos you've made. It's equally as useful to me as "Inaction is a Slow Death". Both have great usefulness, in their own way. I love the "podcast" style videos I can put on in the car on the way home from work, or while I'm studying for my next certification, etc. I also love the extremely high production value videos that I can't look away from the screen for a second. Do what feels right at the present moment, and the message will come across naturally. I needed to hear this message from you today, and I appreciate it. Be well, and hope to see a new video soon.
Up until about 2 hours ago I was in a year plus long relationship with a girl I love very much, but who has severe bipolar disorder and other mental issues. She's told me that she's ending our relationship every week for the last 3 weeks. Last time she did this she came back the very next day. Part of me just didn't want to be single again and I've been unemployed and struggling with alcohol since January and I needed the support. I had the very same thought as the title of this video. I found your channel maybe a year ago when I was trying to pull myself out of a rut and now that I'm right back in one I find this recommended on my front page. I'm ready to try and get well again. You may not always feel it but you do a real service to humanity with your videos. Thank you.
Deeply relate to this feeling. I run my own automation business. I am currently using downtime between client projects to work on turning some systems into products I can sell to start moving away from just client services; and it is killing me how many times I finish an iteration to only go "oh well now I need to add x to get this feature complete." Its a fools errand. I know half of this shit is going to change when I get it into testers hands so why am I letting myself keep pushing off getting this into reality? I really needed to see this one today, Joey. Thank you. Big fan of your work and appreciate the energy you bring to every piece of content you put out, especially this one. "The fool is always preparing to live."
This has gotten to be one of the best videos I’ve ever watched in a very long time on TH-cam. I have been watching productivity videos, overthinking and complicating every single aspect for the sake of eventually studying hard for my medical exams. This video is what motivated me to stop looking for “The Best Studying Method” and put in the actual hard work, even if it sucks. Thank you for being honest and genuine. Sometimes simple videos like these are what causes the most significant impact on others.
I've been working on a video for almost 3 weeks now and it's been killing me the amount of times I've disliked or wanted to change something so subtle. Wanting to perfect things can be a great mindset but it can also get addicting and negative to your workflow at the same time. I really needed to hear this and can relate to your struggle.
"Inaction Is A Slow Death" struck me in a way I've never been able to really explain to others. I have the quote itself burned onto a decorative board outside my bedroom to remind me at the start of every day. I've fallen into a bit of a depressive rut lately due to, truthfully, running from the suck. I needed this video, thank you
For me personally this is one of the most inspirational videos of yours. Talking unfiltered of your own struggle, laying open your emotions and share your thoughts on the things that are on your (and probably many people's) mind, holds a value which cannot be achieved by perfectionism but only by pure honesty. The motivation I feel from watching your videos comes from a place of my problems, emotions and thoughts being acknowledged by someone out there and giving me a direction we all wanna move to: foward. And this is the way I see you moving with this video.
Wow amazing point! I'd much rather watch a low production video where the message is much stronger than opposite. Great job getting the point across, needed to hear this.
Thank you for this video, I think this one gave more value than some of your more "polished" videos, and the part when you talk to "me" and ask, I begin to think, and actually right before I watched this video, I did something... I have been procrastinating writing for a long time and I struggle to do it consistently as I always hear people say. "oh you have to do it every single day" etc. but I push it away and do stuff like Instagram to hide away from the reality, but I just started writing now, it is not much, but I did it and feel good about it. I am so afraid of failure and the part about leaving the comfort of escaping into the internet, TH-cam, films, Instagram, etc. I am trying to forget who I am and the uncomfortable things, because I am not happy with my life, but as soon as I do the boring and hard work, I get one step closer to my dream goal of making feature films. I did another thing today, I have a small business, and I can not get clients, so I decided to just go out and hand over my business cards, I hesitated in my car and prospered it, but I finally stepped out of my car and went to the first company, introduced myself and my service, they kindly declined, as I thought would happen, I did the same thing to 2 other companies with the same result, and I feel great. I am pushing my comfort zone a litt le every time I do this, and I get so much more progress than I else would not have now today, IT is often hard to accept that small steps are not visible at the moment, but a year from now, you will see the pay-off to bigger or lesser extent, I always want stuff to happen fast and easy, find the easy #cheat-way" to get to where I wanna be, but it never works. No matter what the gurus on TH-cam tell you. Doing the hard work, suck, so I am hiding my life inside algorithms designed to do so, we only have one life, and it is better to understand and realize that and not waste it living in a virtual world. I am telling you this, and yet, maybe tomorrow ai will do exactly that, maybe a lot of maybe a little, but I might hide inside the world of TH-cam for hours and Instagram and not take baby steps towards my goal of making films, but I am trying, and that is all that matters, those small steps, I do take, hopefully, will pay off even tho it might be very very slow at times. You are honest and real, and I am so grateful for you and that you are helping people like myself. Amazing video. And wow... I felt vulnerable now that I shared personal stuff, but who cares. YOu should not live your life based on what others might think about you, I kind of hope someone I know reads this, just so that I can show them that I don't care, If people laugh and makes fun of me, so be it :-)
I didn't expect to relate to this to such a point. I also feel that the central idea, the origins of a concept I want to talk about starts to blur into the background when I get into editing or sometimes even recording phase. I was very apprehensive about whether I should simply open a camera and talk or keep my perfectionistic attitude to "keep improving every time," despite it ironically limiting my content output greatly. The same train of thought also kills off my passion on the video concept because it takes so long to complete that the euphoria of the "Aha!" moment dissipates and I lose the enthusiasm to convey my thoughts. Thanks for reminding me of this, I believe that sometimes we really do need someone else to tell us what we know onto our faces. Take care. I even edited this comment multiple times to find better words to communicate myself, so starting here by refusing to edit it further, I'll go back to the more genuine and authentic outlook.
as much as i love the inaction is a slow death video, this is genuinely my favorite video on this channel. it just feels so raw and truly spoke to me about exactly what i’m dealing with
Joey, your videos have always been a motivating catalyst for me. A reminder to always push through and keep going while giving me new perspectives. Thank you for everything!
I recently came to this exact conclusion myself. I have been going through some financial difficulty, frustration at work, and a daughter that is getting unexpectedly divorced. I said to myself that I still need to live my life and move on. Simply getting exercise has been transformative and haven't been feeling this good in months. I was meant to see this video today. Thank you!
I love your transparency on this video Joey. Being a perfectionist myself, I spent 4 weeks on a single video and it because of too much overthinking about the script, B-rolls, tight edits, music and etc. I am a non-native English speaker so I tend to write a script for my videos. I admit that I have a bit of insecurity on my verbal ability to speak English but really, the main reason why it took me 4 weeks to finish my video is procrastination. So thank you for this. Like I said in the past, you're one of the reason why I picked up my camera and start a TH-cam channel. You inspire me! 🙏
I appreciate how you're calling yourself out. As much as I love your videos I've seen, I tend to view most self-improvement content out there these days as somewhat of a distraction, but I'm glad I caved and clicked this one as I think you hit the nail on the head. Most of us like to theorize and strategize to the point of distraction, and it's not for some time until we realize that all that is simply a diversion from what needs to be done. It's yet another dopaminergic force of gratification at play - thinking about doing the hard things without actually doing them. Our brains get a little bit of a reward from it, which is of course dangerous since it's completely unearned. The thinking becomes a form of perceived effort that we placate ourselves with, and we drift further down the hole of inaction since we trick ourselves into feeling as if we have done something concrete and meaningful.
I can relate to this. What has really helped me is to Mind map Personal Development Books and start reflecting on the ideas and tools that are useful when you fall into these slumps. When we feel afraid, question our motives and spend more time planning and preparing we're not taking action as quickly as possible due to fear of failure. The problem isn't the fear it's the paralysis that comes with it. Get past the pain of failure and enjoy the pleasure of learning from it. There is no such thing as perfect. Appreciate you sharing this video. I feel your struggle. Pain and discomfort leads to action which helps you move forward.
My man, I feel this in my soul lol. I'm a musician, and all the songs I write take ages to finish. Partly because I'm doing it all myself, but mostly because I can't stand any sort of imperfection, and even the slightest thing that can be better will ruin an entire take, and I will slave for hours to make it "perfect" and end up making almost no progress. I'm getting better about it, but it's one of my biggest weaknesses
I was talking to my mom the other day and she mentioned a personality trait I have, the exact one you’re talking about. She told me before I ever do anything new, I always observe others and try to perfect it before I start the task. For example, when I was little I’d watch my brothers and see how they’d do something before I try it myself. She’s absolutely right. I’ve never been one to take big risks and dive right into the deep end without having an idea of what I’m getting into. We overcomplicate these simple things and make them a big deal, when in reality they’re not. I asked her if she thinks it’s a bad thing, and told her how it stresses me out sometimes. She reassured me and told me that’s why I am what I am today, an engineer. As an engineer you have to pay attention to the smallest of details. You don’t have room to make mistake after mistake. That costs time, money, and if not caught soon enough, lives. She told me it’s a part of who I am, and that I don’t have to fight to be someone I’m not. We all have our strengths and weaknesses; some of us are going to be good at certain things, and others aren’t. She told me how my brother is the complete opposite to me. He’s a happy go-lucky type of guy that will jump into anything without giving it any thought whatsoever. Growing up he would always do the stupidest stuff when he first tried things because he didn’t care if he got it wrong. He knew he would end up learning how to do it if he kept trying, so he would try and try and try again until he got it right. He would look stupid in the beginning of course, but people admired him because he would try before anyone else. He gives other’s courage and encourages them not to care about looking dumb. If you mess up, you mess up, it’s okay. It’s not the end of the world. He’s a leader that’s a great people person. He used his strengths to his advantage, and is now a manager for a corporate giant and is truly passionate about his job, and shares his passion with his employees. I’ve been lucky to grow up alongside my brother and watch the way he does things, and I’ve been lucky to have my mother with her wisdom. If there’s one thing I can give anyone advice on, it’s to find your strengths and know them well, but also find your weaknesses and be able to admit to them. That doesn’t mean you can’t work on them, but remember, everyone is going to have them. My brother would be a terrible engineer, and I could never work in the position he’s in now. All of us don’t have to be the same. Some are introverts, some are extroverts; some like structure, others like the feeling of being free; some like reading books or learning nerdy new concepts; others like sports or the thrill of an adrenaline rush. In the end, there isn’t a side that’s right or wrong. It’s just about being YOU. People have different ways of doing things, and that’s okay!! The world works the way it does because of these differences. Be different, be you. Let others be different, and accept them for those differences :)
Hey man! I am so grateful I came across your comment. Upon reading your message, I realized I am almost the same as you in how we try to have an idea of accomplishing or doing something before actually executing. I am also a software engineer btw. I agree with everything you have said, everyone is different due to their respective strengths and weaknesses. I feel scared or vulnerable when I want to try new things or explore new opportunities but, I always have this mindset of trying to see if there was anyone else who was in a similar position and accomplished that goal or objective. It's crazy how our minds are alike and how we are not alone, its great to understand our very own nature. I also do have a close friend who is just like your brother, who doesn't care how the world views him, he is unexplainably himself and does whatever he wants without regard for other people's opinions. Sometimes I wish I could be like my friend and do things without hesitating, but maybe this is one of those things I have to work on myself. I feel like these types of people are way happier because they accept themselves more than the average.
@@mashstick7415 I agree it's nice to have people you can relate to :). I 100% get you on the feeling that sometimes you wish you could be more like your friend. I've felt that with my brother a lot, the feeling that he's always happy because he accepts himself for who he is and can jump right into anything, but I try to remind myself it's good that we have our differences. In some situations good things come from hesitating or overanalyzing, as with engineering (hi fellow engineer btw!!) it's always better to make sure everything is correct before going through with it. In other instances too, like choosing a place to eat or asking yourself if you really need something before buying it. I bet your friend hates your personality sometimes the same my brother hates mine, but deep down they love you for it and know it balances them out. Put yourself in your friends shoes and think about all the times something good has come from your personality, and imagine how he wants to change that small piece of his to be more like yours. The same way you look up to his courage and realize you want to be more like him is the same way he looks up to you for your careful analysis of certain situations and says "man I wish I could think like him sometimes". All of us are trying to be the best version of ourselves :)
@@bonsai3245 Spot on brother 100%. We all want someone's crumbs of their best personality to make us perfect but that is energy-consuming. The balance you mentioned is really an important analogy as well. Have a great day bro :)
I felt like you are telling this to me directly, man to man. This exact same thing I was slowly starting to realize was going on in my mind again and again I just wanted to hear it from someone, with clarity. Thank you
I wish there was a “love” button on TH-cam. This video was such an eyeopener for me and it was cathartic to know that though it is sucky to just go do whatever we want to be better at, it isn’t as complicated as we think it is. Thank you for the authenticity and the vulnerability you presented in the video. It was concise, to the point, and comforting in a realistic way.
Thanks man, I needed to hear this. I feel like this is a video I should almost watch once a week just to center myself, and get myself focused, and back on track. I try to be a genuine, honest person because those are traits I value, but I can get stuck sometimes trying to say the "best" thing, or take the "right" action. The thing is, life is rarely black, and white. There's a whole lotta grey sometimes, and that's ok. Sometimes there is no "best" option, but by moving forward we can still make progress. Your video was a good reminder of that. On a unrelated note, I'm 3 and a 1/2years sober and when I first got sober, there were 2 phrases that I would repeat to myself often.. 1. Embrace the suck, and 2. The only way out is through. Early recovery is rough, but you have to push through it to get to the smooth side. It's a cool, beautiful thing once you do, and I'm living more today then I have in a long time. For anyone out there struggling with addiction, don't give up hope, because there are ways out. I'm proof
I understand and appreciate the willingness to take a step up back and not always put on a show to entertain the audience and rather convey the message directly. You can do this from time to time to align with your vision. Your videos have made a positive impact on me and I try to relate to it as much as I can, it starts to make sense and paves a path as a guideline for me. Thank you.
I find it so helpful to have this reminder. “Stop avoiding the thing. Go do the thing.” I’ve found once I just DO something my mental clarity is better too, cause it’s no longer following me around and taking up headspace and starting negative thought patterns of “should’ve, could’ve” etc
Hey man I just wanted you to know that your videos helped me turn my life around, and I now feel excited about my future, and I’m studying hard, multiple hours a day, and really enjoying life overall. I think it’s really important that you realise just how big an impact your advice has on people’s lives, thank you
"Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly." I can't remember where I first heard this quote, and it felt so backwards to me at the time, but the example given was to compare it to brushing your teeth. It would be better to do a poor job at brushing your teeth twice a day than not do it at all. The same goes for most things. I had a tendency to put aside my language studies because I didn't have the time or mental energy to devote to an engaged, active study session where I was learning new concepts, and this eventually led to dropping the studies all together, but this quote encourages me to keep going. Even if all I have is five minutes to practice my reading or pronunciation or review the basics, it keeps the language fresh in my mind so I'm ready for those days I can keep learning. Thank you for the video!
So relatable, overcomplicating things literally paralyzes me. I got screwed up by my co-founders after I put in a lot of effort to help us establish a solid base. I reach a point when I stopped doing anything just reflecting on my life and how I neglected my health, social life to pursue my dream. 5 months and I still on this in state, I hope you can make a video about burnout, thank you
This is the constant battle that we have to fight against ourselves. When i had to finish a huge assignment for school, I uninstalled TH-cam (the only social media i use) and it helped me massively in concentrating my mental strenght on my work. However, I still watched a bit of TH-cam on my PC every now and then while doing my work, which left me wondering wether we can truly shut out inner demons off. It seems like we can´t, but thats just my experience.
I never comment under a video but ten minutes ago, I was in a complete deny of the reality I'm facing and the work I absolutely need to do, and this since two hours. Bam, opened TH-cam, your video slaped my soul and put me back in track. Thank you for this raw speech that I think a lot of us can rely to
oh man, 30 seconds in and I could not relate more. I have a small game development TH-cam channel that I agonize over every little detail of making sure that my videos are not only coherent and completely correct but that in my eyes all those little minor details are perfect, and it is truly crippling to the channel as a whole because of how little content I end up putting out. I originally made the channel with the intent of being able to basically share the knowledge i had and help remind myself of why / how I did some things in the past so it would never get lost. Whenever I am not making content I feel the need to be, but not from an overbearing 'if I don't get it done then I'm a failure' or anything like that, I just genuinely want to put more content out, and it's frustrating to go around in circles sometimes. Especially because I can compare with friends who started channels at similar times and put out content they don't worry about the quality of, but see massive returns from it. You're right, a fair amount are a flop, but then getting one or two viral videos eventually they end up several x my channel in no time. I've been selling myself on the idea that the more I do the easier it'd become, but with 2.3m subs and many videos that you have out, its troubling to see the same struggles still exist. I know it's what I want to do, but I think I also need a frame of mind shift. Appreciate you making these videos 🤜🤛
I have come here looking for your “ how to get out of a rut “ video when i thought let me see his recent posts and oh my god THIS IS THE MOST RELATABLE video i have ever watched it was what i was looking for, i got super anxious at the beginning because i could relate so bad, thank you for this unfiltered “ just do it” kind of video
This is so relatable for me I can't even describe it. I'm writing rap poetry for 17 years already which I've used as a catharsis and coping mechanism after I lost my father at the age of 9. As you imagine a lot of years have passed and my writing and rapping ability over the years went through the roof as I can compare myself with people that I'm listening to. Now I'm 32 and I'm still CONTEMPLATING the idea of starting, just putting out a few songs and see where it goes, but what is stopping me continuously is the perfectionism in me which never gets off.
@@benlipscombe4445 Thanks man, sorry to hear that as well. Wanna exchange contacts so that we can actually exchange maybe 1 song and say our opinions if it is good or bad without holding back? I am not from the US, but I rap half english and half Macedonian, which is my Language
this might sound dumb, but just do it. fucking do it. if it goes poorly it goes poorly! Even if it go completely wrong, you’ll learn what you can improve at or what you did well at. Imagine if it goes great though! More people listen to it then you ever dreamed, unless you post it you will never see how you can succeed or how you can learn and grow.
@@eduq1910 thanks man, it doesn't sound dumb at all, it sounds wise. That's what I'm planning on doing, already made the decision and I'm fully working on it now. I kinda know that it'll be a success at some point, I might reach back here in the comment and share the channel with you so that you can give it a listen as well. Thanks for the encouragement, appreciated.
I really wish I knew more people like you in real life... I regularly procrastinate, and I do exactly what you mentioned here - I spend hours researching supplements, workouts, watching videos etc instead of just going to the gym. All of your videos resonate with me so much. Thank you for making content and I'm all for some more 'unfiltered' and less scripted videos :)
I'm like him. Make a calendar and just go through the things on your list. Plan them and it'll be fun to do, then just do them as they pop up. Don't question it, just do it. It's better if it's far away from the home so you have to travel, this way you are put into the mindset of "ah, well I'm already here."
@@kindauncool Thanks for the comment! I am doing that recently - I've been using Sunsama and Google Calendar. You're right - quite often I'm lazy about going out but once I'm actually out, I enjoy it.
You probably know a lot more people like this in real life than you think - you just don't talk about these things with them. You might be surprised at what's already out there with the people you are friends with - you just need to bring up the topic.
As I came to the end of the video, I found myself in tears. This is quite emotional for me as I struggle with going after my goals. Perfectionism is just a disease that eventually stops you from doing what you need to do. You just need to do it and then reap the rewards. PS - never stop what you’re doing. I’ve been watching you for the past three years and my mindset as well as my life has changed drastically. Continue being you and spreading good. 🙌🏽 thank you Joey
I needed this Joey. I’ve been struggling for the last few months to think of an idea for a short film I’d love to write and direct. But I’ve been overcomplicating things by waiting for the PERFECT idea to come to me… which at the end of the day benefits me in no way because it only paralyses me. Thanks for this reminder dude.
This video literally could not have came at a more perfect time. I definitely struggle with trying to have everything perfect before performing in some way, but lately it’s been out of control especially with some of my new ventures.
This unapologetic honesty was everything. No wise words, no beautiful sceneries. Don‘t get me wrong, they can be meaningful as well. But I would always prefer something as raw and genuine as this. Thank you, I needed exactly this.
Your voice is honestly like medicine man. You're so incredibly relatable and I've yet to find another person that hits core problems the way you do. Glad to see you posting content like this to push through limiting personal beliefs (and I haven't even finished the video). Side note: have you ever considered offer psuedo-therapy coaching services, because I'd take them up.
Honestly so relatable. I kept making excuses but recently I've come to accept that sometimes, everything sucks. Thank you for what you do, from Marseille with love.
I knew this would hit it home but wow. I'm terrible for being a major overthinker & I can't stress enough how important 'just doing it' is. Fitness has been a major roadblock for me because I must find the best workouts and time frames etc etc. I also think it's v important to say the message isn't to ignore the advice that makes e.g. workouts better, but that the core of most things is super simple, and it doesn"t matter how good your supps are, or how specific a workout is if it stops you from doing the basics (go gym, lift heavy stuff) Also the stress leading up to things is always worse than actually doing the thing. Love you dude, can't wait for the next video
The last question you asked just hit me hard. Thank you Joey. I'm a woman in my 30's and actually never miss any of your videos. I even rewatched many of them. You brought me so many precious advices that helped me overcome my burnout (medically diagnosed). Learning piano, reading more, working out... It applies to EVERYTHING I do. You cannot imagine the amount of time I wasted watching piano lessons and piano progressions on TH-cam... It naturally came to me a week ago that I should just do my stuff. It was not perfect but felt so much better than doing nothing.
I always watch your videos when im cleaning my room so it gives me something to think about and because its hard for me to just sit down and watch something. In this video in particular I really appreciate how you ask us questions about ourselves, when I hear those questions you ask I immediately stop cleaning, pause the video, write the question down, and answer it. It has helped my journelling significantly :) in future videos, maybe at the end, giving us questions to ask ourselves related to the video or something similar? maybe you already do this but I may not have noticed. Anyways, keep up the great content, it truly does help people and I hope you realize how much your account has made a difference in peoples lifes.
Perfectionism has been one of my greatest battles in life. I was doing really well with imperfection for a while, but learning more about filmmaking and developing a sneaky attachment to the quality of my creations really messed up my momentum. As a result, I haven't posted on my main channel in over a year now - it totally sucks. It's gotten to the point where I'm just like "screw it, let's just go back to having fun instead of caring about how professional things look." This in conjunction with using some critical techniques to work through my inner resistance and blocks have allowed me to get back into the game to work on videos again. The creative process doesn't need to be as serious as I make it out to be, and like you, something goes from an honest thought to a full on production. As you mentioned, there's a time and place for production value, but not everything needs to be some over the top film. If I'm shipping more raw messages more frequently (even if it's less polished), it'll allow me to have way more of a positive impact on the people I'm creating for than if everything is totally polished but takes an eternity to make. P.S. Also really appreciated that you subtly left the video imbalanced and didn't fix it. And guaranteed almost no one noticed, and it ended up being one of my favourite videos from you in a while. All the best, Joey.
Thank you for making this video. I look up to you a lot and am trying to get myself to be brave enough to put myself out there. I always tell my husband “I just want to make videos like Joey does,” but I feel this constant resistance and have gotten in the habit of “prolonging the inevitable,” as you put it. Knowing you feel this way helps me more than maybe any other video you made has, which is saying a lot. I really appreciate what you do and aspire to make even a fraction of the impact you make. Thank you.
I couldn't be happier to see a specific video the day it was released. Glad to know how you're actually doing/feeling. Thank you for the content! You are my absolute favorite creator and it's 90% because of the words you speak, not the footage
“Embrace the suck”, i’m gonna use that phrase SOO MUCH from now on 😹💕 I love all your videos, it doesn’t matter if it’s a huge production or just you talking to the camera. You always do amazing, so just relax and do as your heart tells you. 💖
Can’t thank you enough for this video. I am very stuck, but your words really had an impact on me. I needed (and need them), and I will listen to this video everytime I lose my will. Thank you!
it is insane how you upload when i need it. I hope that gives you some sort of. Idk. Happiness. Im having the same issue. i’ve been stuck trying to edit my own videos, and build up other things. now i have a client and im stressed out. I know i can do it but i feel like i cant if i dont see it in my mind. i need to have the intro and outro done and everything. but it’s impossible and i get stuck. its so dumb and self sabotaging
@@betterideas thank you brother i will, ive always known exactly what i need to do. i feel like everyone does. We just don’t, maybe i want my own struggle, or maybe im scared of what i can do when im 100%. or maybe im just lazy. either way i know im capable of doing what i WANT too. i really gotta get out of my way. and this helps.
Honestly these kind of videos are what I need. Ever since I was 5 years old I've had this fantasy story I've wanted to write. I'm 27 now and I still haven't published it or even finished it. I've been obsessively planning it and perfecting it for so long and the problem is that obviously as I get older my opinion changes and thus my story changes with it. And that's the thing, as long as I keep changing as a person my story will never be finished. By now I could have just written different stories but I've been so obsessed with making this one story perfect that I have little to show for it besides thousands of notes that give me anxiety. I really need to just write it and accept it even if it doesn't meet my impossible expectations.
Your an aspiring author too? Im 23 and I've been trying too write a fantasy book since I graduated high school back in 2019. I suffer the same stuff as you do with writing.
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 Yeah I'm an aspiring author, although my dream goal is to publish my story as a webcomic as well. I started learning to draw seriously back in 2019 and made a promise to myself to finally start creating it after 1-2 years of practice and well...that hasn't happened either cause I still don't think I'm good enough. We can't let time continue to pass.
@@Harbiter I like drawing too. I've become pretty good at that over the years. But I'm not a professional. I don't think I'm cut out for that webcomic stuff you mentioned. My illustrations I think are good but defiantly not like anime or other advanced drawings. It maybe the type you find in children's books or chapter books for adolescence. I used to want to wrote comics on my stories but my perfectionism got there best of me so it became almost impossible for me. So I decided to write regular chapter books.
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 That's similar to how it was for me. As a kid I loved to draw but I never thought I would be on a professional level so I just gave up and thought I should just write a novel. But during late 2019 I had a quarter life crisis or something and decided I would draw every day until I felt like an artist. And somehow I drew for 400 days straight...and I improved, but I was extremely burnt out and couldn't draw for like 3 months afterwards. But the experience made drawing a webcomic suddenly feel more attainable. I still don't think I'm good but there's Manwha like Tower of God that starts off with rough art and improves with time. As well as the original One Punch Man webmanga that has terrible art and became hugely popular anyways. So I'm probably "good enough" to start if I get over my perfectionism.
You have no idea how much I relate right now. And I'm kind of in the a same struggle with my videos. I love your honesty and unfilteredness. You take a great step telling your perfectionism to slow the f down :) Thank you for reminding me to try to do the same. It's hard, but if you lack progress, kind of necessary, I guess?! This helped me so much. Gonna start editing now 😊
Watched this and started it over and watched it again. Perfectionism is such a killer of motivation for me sometimes. I get in my head about how to why to what to blah blah until i overwhelm myself that I just give up doing it or find something else to do that i know how to do well. Love the content man. Thank you.
Honestly, unfiltered or not, I look forward to you posting so much. It might be unhealthy but in the past, a lot of your videos have just turned on this switch inside of me and I've kind of grown to crave that feeling. So, I hope this realisation makes you put yourself out here more because, much like me, I'm sure a lot of other people need it. All the better if it's your authentic self. Thank you, Joey.
broo it feels good that someone else gets me on this, although i feel sorry you’re going through it too. my brain operates like this!! i can’t just speak my mind i have to make sure what i’m saying is the best way to say it before it comes out of my mouth to everybody!!
Being based is a very good thing. I like knowing what peoples opinions are, it makes you become better friends with the friend you want to be friends with and pulls you apart from the people that don't matter.
being unfiltered is so refreshing on youtube
Hoping to be as unfiltered as possible going forward :)
Seriously
Unfiltered jumpcuts!😊
@@thebarkingsnail I was about to say the same thing lol
for SURE
Honestly dude, although the quality of your highly produced videos is AMAZING, these authentic sit down videos are just as rewarding to watch, and honestly, in many ways, even more so. Don’t hesitate to sprinkle these in with your usual content whenever you feel the need to.
Fax
*_“Embrace the succ.”_*
- Better Ideas, 2023
This quote will go down in history.
Sorry but this is a very popular term amongst navy seals, nonetheless it’s still very powerful! Spread the message!!
This WILL go down in history
*sigh* goes to comments
Originally by David Goggins in his book "Can't hurt me" 2018
Navy Seals Hell week's favorite quote
"You embrace the suck and then you are transformed by it. You feel good about yourself because you are no longer living in this anxious denial."
This describes what is procrastination at his finest and how it really makes you feel. And how you do feel when you do what you promised yourself and how proud you are
I absolutely agree with you.
I am 26 years old and 'don't know what to do when I grow up'. For two years now, I have been trying to overcome this chronic indecision, anxiety and over-analysis about my future career. Leading me to create a wall between me and action, blocking me. These last two weeks I have been 'doing' for real. And I don't know the reason why, really... It may be that I have accumulated the right awareness, the tools I needed, or it may simply be that this is my moment. Or maybe tomorrow I'm going back to see my old friend: overthinking. But for now, I'm having fun by 'embracing the suck'.
Thank you for sharing this with us 💜
It's okay luv, I'm more or less the same as you, just 6 years younger and you can do it, extend embracing the suck, I feel like the less people I have whom I listen to, who are actually here to make me taste the reality, the more I'm able to stay sane and disciplined towards my goals.
It's so weird how much I needed to hear this today and almost surreal that I was feeling the same way and coming to a realization that I need to strip everything away and just focus on the fundamentals of what I need to do to achieve what I want. Thank you.
Joey has an uncanny habit of delivering exactly the message I need to hear in the moment
I relate 100% to this.
This want, almost need to be authentic, and honest, and true to yourself, by putting out a video like this.
But there's something within that is terrified of it. I think what it is, is the fear of "Nobody cares"
If I just sit down in front of the camera and say things that have been on my mind, and what I'm thinking about them.. there's this overwhelming feeling, put into words by a voice within that shouts "Who do you think you are?" "Why would anyone want to watch this?" "Why would anyone care what you think?"
I'd say we're all on a journey of self acceptance, and starting to feel confident in ourselves, and giving ourselves the benefit of the doubt, that "maybe I am good enough"
And this is a huge step you've taken toward it, Joey!
Keep growing, keep improving :)
guess who 👀💣
@@ArchitSach Ahahha you find me everywhere ;)
Big fan @Sahaj Talwar your videos have literally been a godsend for me man. Helping me "make my dreams a reality, one day at a time"
@@devlish6524 Pleasure to hear that, my brother. Appreciate you!
@@ArchitSach ayeee Me Too 😂
Something that I can keep thinking is time feels so fast when I'm procrastinating and when I stop procrastinating it feels like I'm doing whatever important thing too slowly or inefficiently.
It's good to tell myself it's okay to slow down and it's okay to be bored and it's okay to be woefully inefficient. It's still 100 times more productive than watching TH-cam for the sixth hour.
I liked your comment, thank you
That's nice
everyone has a monkeybrain, what it finds boring, gets slow . You may not even realize but the monkeybrain part of you has already decided.
Well said
thank you for that comment, really
Joey, I have been watching you for over a year now, and this is easily one of my favorite videos you've made. It's equally as useful to me as "Inaction is a Slow Death". Both have great usefulness, in their own way. I love the "podcast" style videos I can put on in the car on the way home from work, or while I'm studying for my next certification, etc. I also love the extremely high production value videos that I can't look away from the screen for a second. Do what feels right at the present moment, and the message will come across naturally. I needed to hear this message from you today, and I appreciate it. Be well, and hope to see a new video soon.
Up until about 2 hours ago I was in a year plus long relationship with a girl I love very much, but who has severe bipolar disorder and other mental issues. She's told me that she's ending our relationship every week for the last 3 weeks. Last time she did this she came back the very next day. Part of me just didn't want to be single again and I've been unemployed and struggling with alcohol since January and I needed the support. I had the very same thought as the title of this video.
I found your channel maybe a year ago when I was trying to pull myself out of a rut and now that I'm right back in one I find this recommended on my front page. I'm ready to try and get well again.
You may not always feel it but you do a real service to humanity with your videos. Thank you.
Deeply relate to this feeling. I run my own automation business. I am currently using downtime between client projects to work on turning some systems into products I can sell to start moving away from just client services; and it is killing me how many times I finish an iteration to only go "oh well now I need to add x to get this feature complete."
Its a fools errand. I know half of this shit is going to change when I get it into testers hands so why am I letting myself keep pushing off getting this into reality? I really needed to see this one today, Joey. Thank you. Big fan of your work and appreciate the energy you bring to every piece of content you put out, especially this one.
"The fool is always preparing to live."
This has gotten to be one of the best videos I’ve ever watched in a very long time on TH-cam. I have been watching productivity videos, overthinking and complicating every single aspect for the sake of eventually studying hard for my medical exams. This video is what motivated me to stop looking for “The Best Studying Method” and put in the actual hard work, even if it sucks. Thank you for being honest and genuine. Sometimes simple videos like these are what causes the most significant impact on others.
I've been working on a video for almost 3 weeks now and it's been killing me the amount of times I've disliked or wanted to change something so subtle. Wanting to perfect things can be a great mindset but it can also get addicting and negative to your workflow at the same time. I really needed to hear this and can relate to your struggle.
it's going to be great!
I can't believe I'm seeing you comment on this video bro
Love your content
make a Lego moc based on this struggle
Perfectionism kills productivity. I know that well enough as a writer haha!
"embrace the suck" is the realest thing you've ever said
"Inaction Is A Slow Death" struck me in a way I've never been able to really explain to others. I have the quote itself burned onto a decorative board outside my bedroom to remind me at the start of every day. I've fallen into a bit of a depressive rut lately due to, truthfully, running from the suck. I needed this video, thank you
Inaction is a Slow Death has straight up changed the way I view my life. Thank you for making these video. You change lives one video at a time.
For me personally this is one of the most inspirational videos of yours. Talking unfiltered of your own struggle, laying open your emotions and share your thoughts on the things that are on your (and probably many people's) mind, holds a value which cannot be achieved by perfectionism but only by pure honesty. The motivation I feel from watching your videos comes from a place of my problems, emotions and thoughts being acknowledged by someone out there and giving me a direction we all wanna move to: foward.
And this is the way I see you moving with this video.
Wow amazing point! I'd much rather watch a low production video where the message is much stronger than opposite. Great job getting the point across, needed to hear this.
Thank you for this video, I think this one gave more value than some of your more "polished" videos, and the part when you talk to "me" and ask, I begin to think, and actually right before I watched this video, I did something... I have been procrastinating writing for a long time and I struggle to do it consistently as I always hear people say. "oh you have to do it every single day" etc. but I push it away and do stuff like Instagram to hide away from the reality, but I just started writing now, it is not much, but I did it and feel good about it. I am so afraid of failure and the part about leaving the comfort of escaping into the internet, TH-cam, films, Instagram, etc. I am trying to forget who I am and the uncomfortable things, because I am not happy with my life, but as soon as I do the boring and hard work, I get one step closer to my dream goal of making feature films.
I did another thing today, I have a small business, and I can not get clients, so I decided to just go out and hand over my business cards, I hesitated in my car and prospered it, but I finally stepped out of my car and went to the first company, introduced myself and my service, they kindly declined, as I thought would happen, I did the same thing to 2 other companies with the same result, and I feel great. I am pushing my comfort zone a litt le every time I do this, and I get so much more progress than I else would not have now today, IT is often hard to accept that small steps are not visible at the moment, but a year from now, you will see the pay-off to bigger or lesser extent, I always want stuff to happen fast and easy, find the easy #cheat-way" to get to where I wanna be, but it never works. No matter what the gurus on TH-cam tell you.
Doing the hard work, suck, so I am hiding my life inside algorithms designed to do so, we only have one life, and it is better to understand and realize that and not waste it living in a virtual world. I am telling you this, and yet, maybe tomorrow ai will do exactly that, maybe a lot of maybe a little, but I might hide inside the world of TH-cam for hours and Instagram and not take baby steps towards my goal of making films, but I am trying, and that is all that matters, those small steps, I do take, hopefully, will pay off even tho it might be very very slow at times.
You are honest and real, and I am so grateful for you and that you are helping people like myself. Amazing video. And wow... I felt vulnerable now that I shared personal stuff, but who cares. YOu should not live your life based on what others might think about you, I kind of hope someone I know reads this, just so that I can show them that I don't care, If people laugh and makes fun of me, so be it :-)
Thank you for actually getting good subtitles done! Makes such a big difference to have them available over the auto ones.
I didn't expect to relate to this to such a point. I also feel that the central idea, the origins of a concept I want to talk about starts to blur into the background when I get into editing or sometimes even recording phase. I was very apprehensive about whether I should simply open a camera and talk or keep my perfectionistic attitude to "keep improving every time," despite it ironically limiting my content output greatly. The same train of thought also kills off my passion on the video concept because it takes so long to complete that the euphoria of the "Aha!" moment dissipates and I lose the enthusiasm to convey my thoughts. Thanks for reminding me of this, I believe that sometimes we really do need someone else to tell us what we know onto our faces. Take care.
I even edited this comment multiple times to find better words to communicate myself, so starting here by refusing to edit it further, I'll go back to the more genuine and authentic outlook.
Thanks for filming all of this. Showing your true self on here is just impactful.
You are so spot on here. Thank you! As a perfectionist trying to get out of that box, I needed this today. 😊
as much as i love the inaction is a slow death video, this is genuinely my favorite video on this channel. it just feels so raw and truly spoke to me about exactly what i’m dealing with
Joey, your videos have always been a motivating catalyst for me. A reminder to always push through and keep going while giving me new perspectives. Thank you for everything!
Thanks for this unfiltered version, i can relate to it much more. Though the other stuff is excellent, this by far makes one feel leveled.
I went through this too man. Its hard to snap out of it but its important to just stay true to ourselves.
This kind of authentic reflection of yourself is what keeps me around man
Extremely authentic to something like a production. Well said joey
You must have the guts to share these things. Thank you for such honesty.
your channel is beautiful, has genuine messages, and is so easy to listen to - since you can explain so well
This is an incredible message because it is so simple it this overly complicated life
I recently came to this exact conclusion myself. I have been going through some financial difficulty, frustration at work, and a daughter that is getting unexpectedly divorced. I said to myself that I still need to live my life and move on. Simply getting exercise has been transformative and haven't been feeling this good in months. I was meant to see this video today. Thank you!
Wow I really needed to hear this today. Thank you!
I love your transparency on this video Joey. Being a perfectionist myself, I spent 4 weeks on a single video and it because of too much overthinking about the script, B-rolls, tight edits, music and etc. I am a non-native English speaker so I tend to write a script for my videos. I admit that I have a bit of insecurity on my verbal ability to speak English but really, the main reason why it took me 4 weeks to finish my video is procrastination. So thank you for this. Like I said in the past, you're one of the reason why I picked up my camera and start a TH-cam channel. You inspire me! 🙏
I appreciate how you're calling yourself out. As much as I love your videos I've seen, I tend to view most self-improvement content out there these days as somewhat of a distraction, but I'm glad I caved and clicked this one as I think you hit the nail on the head. Most of us like to theorize and strategize to the point of distraction, and it's not for some time until we realize that all that is simply a diversion from what needs to be done. It's yet another dopaminergic force of gratification at play - thinking about doing the hard things without actually doing them. Our brains get a little bit of a reward from it, which is of course dangerous since it's completely unearned. The thinking becomes a form of perceived effort that we placate ourselves with, and we drift further down the hole of inaction since we trick ourselves into feeling as if we have done something concrete and meaningful.
I can relate to this. What has really helped me is to Mind map Personal Development Books and start reflecting on the ideas and tools that are useful when you fall into these slumps. When we feel afraid, question our motives and spend more time planning and preparing we're not taking action as quickly as possible due to fear of failure. The problem isn't the fear it's the paralysis that comes with it. Get past the pain of failure and enjoy the pleasure of learning from it. There is no such thing as perfect. Appreciate you sharing this video. I feel your struggle. Pain and discomfort leads to action which helps you move forward.
That was the deepest I’ve seen from you so far man, keep it up. Literally this brought tears to my eyes. God bless you.
My man, I feel this in my soul lol. I'm a musician, and all the songs I write take ages to finish. Partly because I'm doing it all myself, but mostly because I can't stand any sort of imperfection, and even the slightest thing that can be better will ruin an entire take, and I will slave for hours to make it "perfect" and end up making almost no progress. I'm getting better about it, but it's one of my biggest weaknesses
I prefer this style of video as I can relate to you much easily. I appreciate you being real/vulnerable.
I was talking to my mom the other day and she mentioned a personality trait I have, the exact one you’re talking about. She told me before I ever do anything new, I always observe others and try to perfect it before I start the task. For example, when I was little I’d watch my brothers and see how they’d do something before I try it myself. She’s absolutely right. I’ve never been one to take big risks and dive right into the deep end without having an idea of what I’m getting into. We overcomplicate these simple things and make them a big deal, when in reality they’re not. I asked her if she thinks it’s a bad thing, and told her how it stresses me out sometimes. She reassured me and told me that’s why I am what I am today, an engineer. As an engineer you have to pay attention to the smallest of details. You don’t have room to make mistake after mistake. That costs time, money, and if not caught soon enough, lives. She told me it’s a part of who I am, and that I don’t have to fight to be someone I’m not. We all have our strengths and weaknesses; some of us are going to be good at certain things, and others aren’t.
She told me how my brother is the complete opposite to me. He’s a happy go-lucky type of guy that will jump into anything without giving it any thought whatsoever. Growing up he would always do the stupidest stuff when he first tried things because he didn’t care if he got it wrong. He knew he would end up learning how to do it if he kept trying, so he would try and try and try again until he got it right. He would look stupid in the beginning of course, but people admired him because he would try before anyone else. He gives other’s courage and encourages them not to care about looking dumb. If you mess up, you mess up, it’s okay. It’s not the end of the world. He’s a leader that’s a great people person. He used his strengths to his advantage, and is now a manager for a corporate giant and is truly passionate about his job, and shares his passion with his employees.
I’ve been lucky to grow up alongside my brother and watch the way he does things, and I’ve been lucky to have my mother with her wisdom. If there’s one thing I can give anyone advice on, it’s to find your strengths and know them well, but also find your weaknesses and be able to admit to them. That doesn’t mean you can’t work on them, but remember, everyone is going to have them. My brother would be a terrible engineer, and I could never work in the position he’s in now. All of us don’t have to be the same. Some are introverts, some are extroverts; some like structure, others like the feeling of being free; some like reading books or learning nerdy new concepts; others like sports or the thrill of an adrenaline rush. In the end, there isn’t a side that’s right or wrong. It’s just about being YOU. People have different ways of doing things, and that’s okay!! The world works the way it does because of these differences.
Be different, be you. Let others be different, and accept them for those differences :)
Hey man! I am so grateful I came across your comment. Upon reading your message, I realized I am almost the same as you in how we try to have an idea of accomplishing or doing something before actually executing. I am also a software engineer btw. I agree with everything you have said, everyone is different due to their respective strengths and weaknesses. I feel scared or vulnerable when I want to try new things or explore new opportunities but, I always have this mindset of trying to see if there was anyone else who was in a similar position and accomplished that goal or objective. It's crazy how our minds are alike and how we are not alone, its great to understand our very own nature. I also do have a close friend who is just like your brother, who doesn't care how the world views him, he is unexplainably himself and does whatever he wants without regard for other people's opinions. Sometimes I wish I could be like my friend and do things without hesitating, but maybe this is one of those things I have to work on myself. I feel like these types of people are way happier because they accept themselves more than the average.
Perfectionism is rooted in childhood so go tell her that
@@mashstick7415 I agree it's nice to have people you can relate to :). I 100% get you on the feeling that sometimes you wish you could be more like your friend. I've felt that with my brother a lot, the feeling that he's always happy because he accepts himself for who he is and can jump right into anything, but I try to remind myself it's good that we have our differences. In some situations good things come from hesitating or overanalyzing, as with engineering (hi fellow engineer btw!!) it's always better to make sure everything is correct before going through with it. In other instances too, like choosing a place to eat or asking yourself if you really need something before buying it. I bet your friend hates your personality sometimes the same my brother hates mine, but deep down they love you for it and know it balances them out. Put yourself in your friends shoes and think about all the times something good has come from your personality, and imagine how he wants to change that small piece of his to be more like yours. The same way you look up to his courage and realize you want to be more like him is the same way he looks up to you for your careful analysis of certain situations and says "man I wish I could think like him sometimes". All of us are trying to be the best version of ourselves :)
@@bonsai3245 Spot on brother 100%. We all want someone's crumbs of their best personality to make us perfect but that is energy-consuming. The balance you mentioned is really an important analogy as well. Have a great day bro :)
I felt like you are telling this to me directly, man to man. This exact same thing I was slowly starting to realize was going on in my mind again and again I just wanted to hear it from someone, with clarity. Thank you
I wish there was a “love” button on TH-cam. This video was such an eyeopener for me and it was cathartic to know that though it is sucky to just go do whatever we want to be better at, it isn’t as complicated as we think it is. Thank you for the authenticity and the vulnerability you presented in the video. It was concise, to the point, and comforting in a realistic way.
Thanks man, I needed to hear this. I feel like this is a video I should almost watch once a week just to center myself, and get myself focused, and back on track. I try to be a genuine, honest person because those are traits I value, but I can get stuck sometimes trying to say the "best" thing, or take the "right" action. The thing is, life is rarely black, and white. There's a whole lotta grey sometimes, and that's ok. Sometimes there is no "best" option, but by moving forward we can still make progress. Your video was a good reminder of that.
On a unrelated note, I'm 3 and a 1/2years sober and when I first got sober, there were 2 phrases that I would repeat to myself often.. 1. Embrace the suck, and 2. The only way out is through. Early recovery is rough, but you have to push through it to get to the smooth side. It's a cool, beautiful thing once you do, and I'm living more today then I have in a long time. For anyone out there struggling with addiction, don't give up hope, because there are ways out. I'm proof
I understand and appreciate the willingness to take a step up back and not always put on a show to entertain the audience and rather convey the message directly. You can do this from time to time to align with your vision. Your videos have made a positive impact on me and I try to relate to it as much as I can, it starts to make sense and paves a path as a guideline for me. Thank you.
Exactly what I needed to hear today… Thank you!
very relatable.
I find it so helpful to have this reminder. “Stop avoiding the thing. Go do the thing.” I’ve found once I just DO something my mental clarity is better too, cause it’s no longer following me around and taking up headspace and starting negative thought patterns of “should’ve, could’ve” etc
Hey man I just wanted you to know that your videos helped me turn my life around, and I now feel excited about my future, and I’m studying hard, multiple hours a day, and really enjoying life overall. I think it’s really important that you realise just how big an impact your advice has on people’s lives, thank you
Appreciate that Thomas 🙏
"Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly."
I can't remember where I first heard this quote, and it felt so backwards to me at the time, but the example given was to compare it to brushing your teeth. It would be better to do a poor job at brushing your teeth twice a day than not do it at all. The same goes for most things. I had a tendency to put aside my language studies because I didn't have the time or mental energy to devote to an engaged, active study session where I was learning new concepts, and this eventually led to dropping the studies all together, but this quote encourages me to keep going. Even if all I have is five minutes to practice my reading or pronunciation or review the basics, it keeps the language fresh in my mind so I'm ready for those days I can keep learning.
Thank you for the video!
So relatable, overcomplicating things literally paralyzes me.
I got screwed up by my co-founders after I put in a lot of effort to help us establish a solid base. I reach a point when I stopped doing anything just reflecting on my life and how I neglected my health, social life to pursue my dream. 5 months and I still on this in state, I hope you can make a video about burnout, thank you
This was 100% the kick in the arse I needed, and thank you for reminding me to let go of the stress.
I needed this.
This is the constant battle that we have to fight against ourselves. When i had to finish a huge assignment for school, I uninstalled TH-cam (the only social media i use) and it helped me massively in concentrating my mental strenght on my work. However, I still watched a bit of TH-cam on my PC every now and then while doing my work, which left me wondering wether we can truly shut out inner demons off. It seems like we can´t, but thats just my experience.
I never comment under a video but ten minutes ago, I was in a complete deny of the reality I'm facing and the work I absolutely need to do, and this since two hours. Bam, opened TH-cam, your video slaped my soul and put me back in track. Thank you for this raw speech that I think a lot of us can rely to
oh man, 30 seconds in and I could not relate more. I have a small game development TH-cam channel that I agonize over every little detail of making sure that my videos are not only coherent and completely correct but that in my eyes all those little minor details are perfect, and it is truly crippling to the channel as a whole because of how little content I end up putting out.
I originally made the channel with the intent of being able to basically share the knowledge i had and help remind myself of why / how I did some things in the past so it would never get lost. Whenever I am not making content I feel the need to be, but not from an overbearing 'if I don't get it done then I'm a failure' or anything like that, I just genuinely want to put more content out, and it's frustrating to go around in circles sometimes. Especially because I can compare with friends who started channels at similar times and put out content they don't worry about the quality of, but see massive returns from it. You're right, a fair amount are a flop, but then getting one or two viral videos eventually they end up several x my channel in no time.
I've been selling myself on the idea that the more I do the easier it'd become, but with 2.3m subs and many videos that you have out, its troubling to see the same struggles still exist. I know it's what I want to do, but I think I also need a frame of mind shift.
Appreciate you making these videos 🤜🤛
I have come here looking for your “ how to get out of a rut “ video when i thought let me see his recent posts and oh my god THIS IS THE MOST RELATABLE video i have ever watched it was what i was looking for, i got super anxious at the beginning because i could relate so bad, thank you for this unfiltered “ just do it” kind of video
This is so relatable for me I can't even describe it.
I'm writing rap poetry for 17 years already which I've used as a catharsis and coping mechanism after I lost my father at the age of 9. As you imagine a lot of years have passed and my writing and rapping ability over the years went through the roof as I can compare myself with people that I'm listening to. Now I'm 32 and I'm still CONTEMPLATING the idea of starting, just putting out a few songs and see where it goes, but what is stopping me continuously is the perfectionism in me which never gets off.
Sorry about your dad. Im in the exact same situation both parent and music wise!
@@benlipscombe4445 Thanks man, sorry to hear that as well. Wanna exchange contacts so that we can actually exchange maybe 1 song and say our opinions if it is good or bad without holding back?
I am not from the US, but I rap half english and half Macedonian, which is my Language
this might sound dumb, but just do it. fucking do it. if it goes poorly it goes poorly! Even if it go completely wrong, you’ll learn what you can improve at or what you did well at. Imagine if it goes great though! More people listen to it then you ever dreamed, unless you post it you will never see how you can succeed or how you can learn and grow.
@@eduq1910 thanks man, it doesn't sound dumb at all, it sounds wise. That's what I'm planning on doing, already made the decision and I'm fully working on it now. I kinda know that it'll be a success at some point, I might reach back here in the comment and share the channel with you so that you can give it a listen as well. Thanks for the encouragement, appreciated.
"the perfectionism in me never gets off"
what a quote :)
This couldn't have come at a better time.Thank you!The hard part is just being,now time for me to start shaping up
"But instead of living in a triumphant pain, you live in a degenerative pain" what a quote, I love it.
I honestly love your videos. it's like you always know what I need to hear, when I need to hear it. never stop making them.
I really wish I knew more people like you in real life... I regularly procrastinate, and I do exactly what you mentioned here - I spend hours researching supplements, workouts, watching videos etc instead of just going to the gym. All of your videos resonate with me so much. Thank you for making content and I'm all for some more 'unfiltered' and less scripted videos :)
I'm like him. Make a calendar and just go through the things on your list. Plan them and it'll be fun to do, then just do them as they pop up. Don't question it, just do it. It's better if it's far away from the home so you have to travel, this way you are put into the mindset of "ah, well I'm already here."
@@kindauncool Thanks for the comment! I am doing that recently - I've been using Sunsama and Google Calendar. You're right - quite often I'm lazy about going out but once I'm actually out, I enjoy it.
You probably know a lot more people like this in real life than you think - you just don't talk about these things with them. You might be surprised at what's already out there with the people you are friends with - you just need to bring up the topic.
Wow. This was genuinely very helpful. Please always be this genuine and speak the cold truth. We need to hear this
As I came to the end of the video, I found myself in tears. This is quite emotional for me as I struggle with going after my goals. Perfectionism is just a disease that eventually stops you from doing what you need to do. You just need to do it and then reap the rewards.
PS - never stop what you’re doing. I’ve been watching you for the past three years and my mindset as well as my life has changed drastically. Continue being you and spreading good. 🙌🏽 thank you Joey
I needed this Joey. I’ve been struggling for the last few months to think of an idea for a short film I’d love to write and direct. But I’ve been overcomplicating things by waiting for the PERFECT idea to come to me… which at the end of the day benefits me in no way because it only paralyses me. Thanks for this reminder dude.
This video literally could not have came at a more perfect time. I definitely struggle with trying to have everything perfect before performing in some way, but lately it’s been out of control especially with some of my new ventures.
I just love the fact that I bump into your videos when I really need some mental boost and clarity. You helped me a lot in the past 3-4 years.
This unapologetic honesty was everything. No wise words, no beautiful sceneries. Don‘t get me wrong, they can be meaningful as well. But I would always prefer something as raw and genuine as this. Thank you, I needed exactly this.
I think we all needed to hear this rn! ❤
He probably made this video in a dissapointed mindset but it is actually pretty good and helps you learn from his struggle of perfection
I needed this. Sharing an imperfect in the moment thought Is usually more relatable than a whole production.
Your voice is honestly like medicine man. You're so incredibly relatable and I've yet to find another person that hits core problems the way you do. Glad to see you posting content like this to push through limiting personal beliefs (and I haven't even finished the video). Side note: have you ever considered offer psuedo-therapy coaching services, because I'd take them up.
Thank you, this video was exactly what I needed right now.
Honestly so relatable. I kept making excuses but recently I've come to accept that sometimes, everything sucks.
Thank you for what you do, from Marseille with love.
I knew this would hit it home but wow. I'm terrible for being a major overthinker & I can't stress enough how important 'just doing it' is. Fitness has been a major roadblock for me because I must find the best workouts and time frames etc etc.
I also think it's v important to say the message isn't to ignore the advice that makes e.g. workouts better, but that the core of most things is super simple, and it doesn"t matter how good your supps are, or how specific a workout is if it stops you from doing the basics (go gym, lift heavy stuff)
Also the stress leading up to things is always worse than actually doing the thing. Love you dude, can't wait for the next video
Love the videos, helps me with everything
U can't imagine how much I wait for your video . Thanks
The last question you asked just hit me hard. Thank you Joey. I'm a woman in my 30's and actually never miss any of your videos. I even rewatched many of them. You brought me so many precious advices that helped me overcome my burnout (medically diagnosed).
Learning piano, reading more, working out... It applies to EVERYTHING I do. You cannot imagine the amount of time I wasted watching piano lessons and piano progressions on TH-cam...
It naturally came to me a week ago that I should just do my stuff. It was not perfect but felt so much better than doing nothing.
"Embrace the suck"
in all seriousness love how raw this video's message is. thanks for being transparent
I enjoyed watching your videos while I was in a rut. I am finally out. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
I always watch your videos when im cleaning my room so it gives me something to think about and because its hard for me to just sit down and watch something. In this video in particular I really appreciate how you ask us questions about ourselves, when I hear those questions you ask I immediately stop cleaning, pause the video, write the question down, and answer it. It has helped my journelling significantly :) in future videos, maybe at the end, giving us questions to ask ourselves related to the video or something similar? maybe you already do this but I may not have noticed. Anyways, keep up the great content, it truly does help people and I hope you realize how much your account has made a difference in peoples lifes.
Perfectionism has been one of my greatest battles in life. I was doing really well with imperfection for a while, but learning more about filmmaking and developing a sneaky attachment to the quality of my creations really messed up my momentum. As a result, I haven't posted on my main channel in over a year now - it totally sucks. It's gotten to the point where I'm just like "screw it, let's just go back to having fun instead of caring about how professional things look." This in conjunction with using some critical techniques to work through my inner resistance and blocks have allowed me to get back into the game to work on videos again. The creative process doesn't need to be as serious as I make it out to be, and like you, something goes from an honest thought to a full on production. As you mentioned, there's a time and place for production value, but not everything needs to be some over the top film. If I'm shipping more raw messages more frequently (even if it's less polished), it'll allow me to have way more of a positive impact on the people I'm creating for than if everything is totally polished but takes an eternity to make.
P.S. Also really appreciated that you subtly left the video imbalanced and didn't fix it. And guaranteed almost no one noticed, and it ended up being one of my favourite videos from you in a while. All the best, Joey.
Thank you for making this video. I look up to you a lot and am trying to get myself to be brave enough to put myself out there. I always tell my husband “I just want to make videos like Joey does,” but I feel this constant resistance and have gotten in the habit of “prolonging the inevitable,” as you put it. Knowing you feel this way helps me more than maybe any other video you made has, which is saying a lot. I really appreciate what you do and aspire to make even a fraction of the impact you make. Thank you.
1:49 "inaction is a slow death" is one of the most accurate sentences said in history
I couldn't be happier to see a specific video the day it was released. Glad to know how you're actually doing/feeling. Thank you for the content! You are my absolute favorite creator and it's 90% because of the words you speak, not the footage
“Embrace the suck”, i’m gonna use that phrase SOO MUCH from now on 😹💕
I love all your videos, it doesn’t matter if it’s a huge production or just you talking to the camera. You always do amazing, so just relax and do as your heart tells you. 💖
this is a powerful video and it is just you roasting yourself and us at the same time. very authentic, thank you!
He can’t keep getting away with this!!!
Can’t thank you enough for this video. I am very stuck, but your words really had an impact on me. I needed (and need them), and I will listen to this video everytime I lose my will. Thank you!
it is insane how you upload when i need it. I hope that gives you some sort of. Idk. Happiness. Im having the same issue. i’ve been stuck trying to edit my own videos, and build up other things. now i have a client and im stressed out. I know i can do it but i feel like i cant if i dont see it in my mind. i need to have the intro and outro done and everything. but it’s impossible and i get stuck. its so dumb and self sabotaging
If I (the greatest procrastinator of all time) can do it, you can too. Just don’t think. Think as you go, not before.
lol it's weird I searched up this channel again and turns out he literally just uploaded
@@betterideas thank you brother i will, ive always known exactly what i need to do. i feel like everyone does. We just don’t, maybe i want my own struggle, or maybe im scared of what i can do when im 100%. or maybe im just lazy. either way i know im capable of doing what i WANT too. i really gotta get out of my way. and this helps.
Thank-you so much man, I needed to hear this... I was really going through a bad moment. I needed to embrace the suck and move past the denial stage
Honestly these kind of videos are what I need.
Ever since I was 5 years old I've had this fantasy story I've wanted to write. I'm 27 now and I still haven't published it or even finished it.
I've been obsessively planning it and perfecting it for so long and the problem is that obviously as I get older my opinion changes and thus my story changes with it. And that's the thing, as long as I keep changing as a person my story will never be finished. By now I could have just written different stories but I've been so obsessed with making this one story perfect that I have little to show for it besides thousands of notes that give me anxiety.
I really need to just write it and accept it even if it doesn't meet my impossible expectations.
Your an aspiring author too? Im 23 and I've been trying too write a fantasy book since I graduated high school back in 2019. I suffer the same stuff as you do with writing.
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 Yeah I'm an aspiring author, although my dream goal is to publish my story as a webcomic as well. I started learning to draw seriously back in 2019 and made a promise to myself to finally start creating it after 1-2 years of practice and well...that hasn't happened either cause I still don't think I'm good enough.
We can't let time continue to pass.
@@Harbiter I like drawing too. I've become pretty good at that over the years. But I'm not a professional. I don't think I'm cut out for that webcomic stuff you mentioned. My illustrations I think are good but defiantly not like anime or other advanced drawings. It maybe the type you find in children's books or chapter books for adolescence. I used to want to wrote comics on my stories but my perfectionism got there best of me so it became almost impossible for me. So I decided to write regular chapter books.
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 That's similar to how it was for me. As a kid I loved to draw but I never thought I would be on a professional level so I just gave up and thought I should just write a novel.
But during late 2019 I had a quarter life crisis or something and decided I would draw every day until I felt like an artist. And somehow I drew for 400 days straight...and I improved, but I was extremely burnt out and couldn't draw for like 3 months afterwards. But the experience made drawing a webcomic suddenly feel more attainable.
I still don't think I'm good but there's Manwha like Tower of God that starts off with rough art and improves with time. As well as the original One Punch Man webmanga that has terrible art and became hugely popular anyways. So I'm probably "good enough" to start if I get over my perfectionism.
3:30 ty for saying this - I keep falling into that loop and the simple, based reframing was exactly what I needed to hear.
You have no idea how much I relate right now. And I'm kind of in the a same struggle with my videos. I love your honesty and unfilteredness. You take a great step telling your perfectionism to slow the f down :) Thank you for reminding me to try to do the same. It's hard, but if you lack progress, kind of necessary, I guess?! This helped me so much. Gonna start editing now 😊
Watched this and started it over and watched it again. Perfectionism is such a killer of motivation for me sometimes. I get in my head about how to why to what to blah blah until i overwhelm myself that I just give up doing it or find something else to do that i know how to do well.
Love the content man. Thank you.
Being somewhat of a perfectionist, I'm rarely satisfied with my work, no matter how big it is. I could definitely use this.
You are learning about yourself publicly. You have some great perspectives. Simple.
Honestly, unfiltered or not, I look forward to you posting so much. It might be unhealthy but in the past, a lot of your videos have just turned on this switch inside of me and I've kind of grown to crave that feeling. So, I hope this realisation makes you put yourself out here more because, much like me, I'm sure a lot of other people need it. All the better if it's your authentic self.
Thank you, Joey.
broo it feels good that someone else gets me on this, although i feel sorry you’re going through it too. my brain operates like this!! i can’t just speak my mind i have to make sure what i’m saying is the best way to say it before it comes out of my mouth to everybody!!
Being based is a very good thing.
I like knowing what peoples opinions are, it makes you become better friends with the friend you want to be friends with and pulls you apart from the people that don't matter.
Thanks for the raw sincerity. Much appreciated