"You embrace the suck and then you are transformed by it. You feel good about yourself because you are no longer living in this anxious denial." This describes what is procrastination at his finest and how it really makes you feel. And how you do feel when you do what you promised yourself and how proud you are
I relate 100% to this. This want, almost need to be authentic, and honest, and true to yourself, by putting out a video like this. But there's something within that is terrified of it. I think what it is, is the fear of "Nobody cares" If I just sit down in front of the camera and say things that have been on my mind, and what I'm thinking about them.. there's this overwhelming feeling, put into words by a voice within that shouts "Who do you think you are?" "Why would anyone want to watch this?" "Why would anyone care what you think?" I'd say we're all on a journey of self acceptance, and starting to feel confident in ourselves, and giving ourselves the benefit of the doubt, that "maybe I am good enough" And this is a huge step you've taken toward it, Joey! Keep growing, keep improving :)
Honestly dude, although the quality of your highly produced videos is AMAZING, these authentic sit down videos are just as rewarding to watch, and honestly, in many ways, even more so. Don’t hesitate to sprinkle these in with your usual content whenever you feel the need to.
Something that I can keep thinking is time feels so fast when I'm procrastinating and when I stop procrastinating it feels like I'm doing whatever important thing too slowly or inefficiently. It's good to tell myself it's okay to slow down and it's okay to be bored and it's okay to be woefully inefficient. It's still 100 times more productive than watching TH-cam for the sixth hour.
I absolutely agree with you. I am 26 years old and 'don't know what to do when I grow up'. For two years now, I have been trying to overcome this chronic indecision, anxiety and over-analysis about my future career. Leading me to create a wall between me and action, blocking me. These last two weeks I have been 'doing' for real. And I don't know the reason why, really... It may be that I have accumulated the right awareness, the tools I needed, or it may simply be that this is my moment. Or maybe tomorrow I'm going back to see my old friend: overthinking. But for now, I'm having fun by 'embracing the suck'. Thank you for sharing this with us 💜
It's okay luv, I'm more or less the same as you, just 6 years younger and you can do it, extend embracing the suck, I feel like the less people I have whom I listen to, who are actually here to make me taste the reality, the more I'm able to stay sane and disciplined towards my goals.
It's so weird how much I needed to hear this today and almost surreal that I was feeling the same way and coming to a realization that I need to strip everything away and just focus on the fundamentals of what I need to do to achieve what I want. Thank you.
I've been working on a video for almost 3 weeks now and it's been killing me the amount of times I've disliked or wanted to change something so subtle. Wanting to perfect things can be a great mindset but it can also get addicting and negative to your workflow at the same time. I really needed to hear this and can relate to your struggle.
Up until about 2 hours ago I was in a year plus long relationship with a girl I love very much, but who has severe bipolar disorder and other mental issues. She's told me that she's ending our relationship every week for the last 3 weeks. Last time she did this she came back the very next day. Part of me just didn't want to be single again and I've been unemployed and struggling with alcohol since January and I needed the support. I had the very same thought as the title of this video. I found your channel maybe a year ago when I was trying to pull myself out of a rut and now that I'm right back in one I find this recommended on my front page. I'm ready to try and get well again. You may not always feel it but you do a real service to humanity with your videos. Thank you.
Joey, I have been watching you for over a year now, and this is easily one of my favorite videos you've made. It's equally as useful to me as "Inaction is a Slow Death". Both have great usefulness, in their own way. I love the "podcast" style videos I can put on in the car on the way home from work, or while I'm studying for my next certification, etc. I also love the extremely high production value videos that I can't look away from the screen for a second. Do what feels right at the present moment, and the message will come across naturally. I needed to hear this message from you today, and I appreciate it. Be well, and hope to see a new video soon.
Deeply relate to this feeling. I run my own automation business. I am currently using downtime between client projects to work on turning some systems into products I can sell to start moving away from just client services; and it is killing me how many times I finish an iteration to only go "oh well now I need to add x to get this feature complete." Its a fools errand. I know half of this shit is going to change when I get it into testers hands so why am I letting myself keep pushing off getting this into reality? I really needed to see this one today, Joey. Thank you. Big fan of your work and appreciate the energy you bring to every piece of content you put out, especially this one. "The fool is always preparing to live."
This has gotten to be one of the best videos I’ve ever watched in a very long time on TH-cam. I have been watching productivity videos, overthinking and complicating every single aspect for the sake of eventually studying hard for my medical exams. This video is what motivated me to stop looking for “The Best Studying Method” and put in the actual hard work, even if it sucks. Thank you for being honest and genuine. Sometimes simple videos like these are what causes the most significant impact on others.
Thank you for this video, I think this one gave more value than some of your more "polished" videos, and the part when you talk to "me" and ask, I begin to think, and actually right before I watched this video, I did something... I have been procrastinating writing for a long time and I struggle to do it consistently as I always hear people say. "oh you have to do it every single day" etc. but I push it away and do stuff like Instagram to hide away from the reality, but I just started writing now, it is not much, but I did it and feel good about it. I am so afraid of failure and the part about leaving the comfort of escaping into the internet, TH-cam, films, Instagram, etc. I am trying to forget who I am and the uncomfortable things, because I am not happy with my life, but as soon as I do the boring and hard work, I get one step closer to my dream goal of making feature films. I did another thing today, I have a small business, and I can not get clients, so I decided to just go out and hand over my business cards, I hesitated in my car and prospered it, but I finally stepped out of my car and went to the first company, introduced myself and my service, they kindly declined, as I thought would happen, I did the same thing to 2 other companies with the same result, and I feel great. I am pushing my comfort zone a litt le every time I do this, and I get so much more progress than I else would not have now today, IT is often hard to accept that small steps are not visible at the moment, but a year from now, you will see the pay-off to bigger or lesser extent, I always want stuff to happen fast and easy, find the easy #cheat-way" to get to where I wanna be, but it never works. No matter what the gurus on TH-cam tell you. Doing the hard work, suck, so I am hiding my life inside algorithms designed to do so, we only have one life, and it is better to understand and realize that and not waste it living in a virtual world. I am telling you this, and yet, maybe tomorrow ai will do exactly that, maybe a lot of maybe a little, but I might hide inside the world of TH-cam for hours and Instagram and not take baby steps towards my goal of making films, but I am trying, and that is all that matters, those small steps, I do take, hopefully, will pay off even tho it might be very very slow at times. You are honest and real, and I am so grateful for you and that you are helping people like myself. Amazing video. And wow... I felt vulnerable now that I shared personal stuff, but who cares. YOu should not live your life based on what others might think about you, I kind of hope someone I know reads this, just so that I can show them that I don't care, If people laugh and makes fun of me, so be it :-)
I didn't expect to relate to this to such a point. I also feel that the central idea, the origins of a concept I want to talk about starts to blur into the background when I get into editing or sometimes even recording phase. I was very apprehensive about whether I should simply open a camera and talk or keep my perfectionistic attitude to "keep improving every time," despite it ironically limiting my content output greatly. The same train of thought also kills off my passion on the video concept because it takes so long to complete that the euphoria of the "Aha!" moment dissipates and I lose the enthusiasm to convey my thoughts. Thanks for reminding me of this, I believe that sometimes we really do need someone else to tell us what we know onto our faces. Take care. I even edited this comment multiple times to find better words to communicate myself, so starting here by refusing to edit it further, I'll go back to the more genuine and authentic outlook.
"Inaction Is A Slow Death" struck me in a way I've never been able to really explain to others. I have the quote itself burned onto a decorative board outside my bedroom to remind me at the start of every day. I've fallen into a bit of a depressive rut lately due to, truthfully, running from the suck. I needed this video, thank you
My man, I feel this in my soul lol. I'm a musician, and all the songs I write take ages to finish. Partly because I'm doing it all myself, but mostly because I can't stand any sort of imperfection, and even the slightest thing that can be better will ruin an entire take, and I will slave for hours to make it "perfect" and end up making almost no progress. I'm getting better about it, but it's one of my biggest weaknesses
For me personally this is one of the most inspirational videos of yours. Talking unfiltered of your own struggle, laying open your emotions and share your thoughts on the things that are on your (and probably many people's) mind, holds a value which cannot be achieved by perfectionism but only by pure honesty. The motivation I feel from watching your videos comes from a place of my problems, emotions and thoughts being acknowledged by someone out there and giving me a direction we all wanna move to: foward. And this is the way I see you moving with this video.
I had the same feelings. I asked my friends for help with this. After talking with guys that some of them were so, so overthinkers and got some really powerful answers, I changed my behavior. Practically, the answer is: Part 1 1. Let's say you randomly get something in mind. (going to the gym) 2. Take 10-15 seconds (use clock) to think to the absolutely worst case scenario, and best case scenario.(worst: didn't go to the gym or went to the gym and injured yourself, best: went to the gym and lifted hard) 3. Do something else that you enjoy for the next 5 minutes(use clock) and focus on enjoying what you do.(scroll some social media, eat something, sing, listen to some music, etc.) 4. Anything that will happen with your idea, will fit between the absolutely worst case scenario and your best case scenario. Your brain will be happy that you predicted the outcome. 99% of the people that are successful think like that. Part 2 Also if it's really really bad for you, the 2 minute rule will be amazing. Take your stopwatch/phone set it to 2 minutes and say out loud(or in your mind if it's awkward), I'm going to do X for 2 minutes. X=washing the dishes, working out in your room, clean the room, do your tasks / homework, read a book, etc. You will most likely end up doing that for more than 2 minutes, most of the time finishing your tasks, but even if you don't finish, (read Part 1), you at least fit between worst case scenario and best case scenario. Your brain will be happy.
I recently came to this exact conclusion myself. I have been going through some financial difficulty, frustration at work, and a daughter that is getting unexpectedly divorced. I said to myself that I still need to live my life and move on. Simply getting exercise has been transformative and haven't been feeling this good in months. I was meant to see this video today. Thank you!
Wow amazing point! I'd much rather watch a low production video where the message is much stronger than opposite. Great job getting the point across, needed to hear this.
I can relate to this. What has really helped me is to Mind map Personal Development Books and start reflecting on the ideas and tools that are useful when you fall into these slumps. When we feel afraid, question our motives and spend more time planning and preparing we're not taking action as quickly as possible due to fear of failure. The problem isn't the fear it's the paralysis that comes with it. Get past the pain of failure and enjoy the pleasure of learning from it. There is no such thing as perfect. Appreciate you sharing this video. I feel your struggle. Pain and discomfort leads to action which helps you move forward.
I was talking to my mom the other day and she mentioned a personality trait I have, the exact one you’re talking about. She told me before I ever do anything new, I always observe others and try to perfect it before I start the task. For example, when I was little I’d watch my brothers and see how they’d do something before I try it myself. She’s absolutely right. I’ve never been one to take big risks and dive right into the deep end without having an idea of what I’m getting into. We overcomplicate these simple things and make them a big deal, when in reality they’re not. I asked her if she thinks it’s a bad thing, and told her how it stresses me out sometimes. She reassured me and told me that’s why I am what I am today, an engineer. As an engineer you have to pay attention to the smallest of details. You don’t have room to make mistake after mistake. That costs time, money, and if not caught soon enough, lives. She told me it’s a part of who I am, and that I don’t have to fight to be someone I’m not. We all have our strengths and weaknesses; some of us are going to be good at certain things, and others aren’t. She told me how my brother is the complete opposite to me. He’s a happy go-lucky type of guy that will jump into anything without giving it any thought whatsoever. Growing up he would always do the stupidest stuff when he first tried things because he didn’t care if he got it wrong. He knew he would end up learning how to do it if he kept trying, so he would try and try and try again until he got it right. He would look stupid in the beginning of course, but people admired him because he would try before anyone else. He gives other’s courage and encourages them not to care about looking dumb. If you mess up, you mess up, it’s okay. It’s not the end of the world. He’s a leader that’s a great people person. He used his strengths to his advantage, and is now a manager for a corporate giant and is truly passionate about his job, and shares his passion with his employees. I’ve been lucky to grow up alongside my brother and watch the way he does things, and I’ve been lucky to have my mother with her wisdom. If there’s one thing I can give anyone advice on, it’s to find your strengths and know them well, but also find your weaknesses and be able to admit to them. That doesn’t mean you can’t work on them, but remember, everyone is going to have them. My brother would be a terrible engineer, and I could never work in the position he’s in now. All of us don’t have to be the same. Some are introverts, some are extroverts; some like structure, others like the feeling of being free; some like reading books or learning nerdy new concepts; others like sports or the thrill of an adrenaline rush. In the end, there isn’t a side that’s right or wrong. It’s just about being YOU. People have different ways of doing things, and that’s okay!! The world works the way it does because of these differences. Be different, be you. Let others be different, and accept them for those differences :)
Hey man! I am so grateful I came across your comment. Upon reading your message, I realized I am almost the same as you in how we try to have an idea of accomplishing or doing something before actually executing. I am also a software engineer btw. I agree with everything you have said, everyone is different due to their respective strengths and weaknesses. I feel scared or vulnerable when I want to try new things or explore new opportunities but, I always have this mindset of trying to see if there was anyone else who was in a similar position and accomplished that goal or objective. It's crazy how our minds are alike and how we are not alone, its great to understand our very own nature. I also do have a close friend who is just like your brother, who doesn't care how the world views him, he is unexplainably himself and does whatever he wants without regard for other people's opinions. Sometimes I wish I could be like my friend and do things without hesitating, but maybe this is one of those things I have to work on myself. I feel like these types of people are way happier because they accept themselves more than the average.
@@mashstick7415 I agree it's nice to have people you can relate to :). I 100% get you on the feeling that sometimes you wish you could be more like your friend. I've felt that with my brother a lot, the feeling that he's always happy because he accepts himself for who he is and can jump right into anything, but I try to remind myself it's good that we have our differences. In some situations good things come from hesitating or overanalyzing, as with engineering (hi fellow engineer btw!!) it's always better to make sure everything is correct before going through with it. In other instances too, like choosing a place to eat or asking yourself if you really need something before buying it. I bet your friend hates your personality sometimes the same my brother hates mine, but deep down they love you for it and know it balances them out. Put yourself in your friends shoes and think about all the times something good has come from your personality, and imagine how he wants to change that small piece of his to be more like yours. The same way you look up to his courage and realize you want to be more like him is the same way he looks up to you for your careful analysis of certain situations and says "man I wish I could think like him sometimes". All of us are trying to be the best version of ourselves :)
@@bonsai3245 Spot on brother 100%. We all want someone's crumbs of their best personality to make us perfect but that is energy-consuming. The balance you mentioned is really an important analogy as well. Have a great day bro :)
oh man, 30 seconds in and I could not relate more. I have a small game development TH-cam channel that I agonize over every little detail of making sure that my videos are not only coherent and completely correct but that in my eyes all those little minor details are perfect, and it is truly crippling to the channel as a whole because of how little content I end up putting out. I originally made the channel with the intent of being able to basically share the knowledge i had and help remind myself of why / how I did some things in the past so it would never get lost. Whenever I am not making content I feel the need to be, but not from an overbearing 'if I don't get it done then I'm a failure' or anything like that, I just genuinely want to put more content out, and it's frustrating to go around in circles sometimes. Especially because I can compare with friends who started channels at similar times and put out content they don't worry about the quality of, but see massive returns from it. You're right, a fair amount are a flop, but then getting one or two viral videos eventually they end up several x my channel in no time. I've been selling myself on the idea that the more I do the easier it'd become, but with 2.3m subs and many videos that you have out, its troubling to see the same struggles still exist. I know it's what I want to do, but I think I also need a frame of mind shift. Appreciate you making these videos 🤜🤛
I love your transparency on this video Joey. Being a perfectionist myself, I spent 4 weeks on a single video and it because of too much overthinking about the script, B-rolls, tight edits, music and etc. I am a non-native English speaker so I tend to write a script for my videos. I admit that I have a bit of insecurity on my verbal ability to speak English but really, the main reason why it took me 4 weeks to finish my video is procrastination. So thank you for this. Like I said in the past, you're one of the reason why I picked up my camera and start a TH-cam channel. You inspire me! 🙏
Joey, your videos have always been a motivating catalyst for me. A reminder to always push through and keep going while giving me new perspectives. Thank you for everything!
This is what i found out recently, after I burn out and got a MDD as a HSP i still have problem trying to comeback to work even tho It's been a year, I will talk to my mind that I want to be a better person who have to work, have to have responsibility and when I can't do my work I will be so depressed in that rabbit hole and blame myself until I am so stress. But now I know everything I have to do is to focus on a goal to complete my work not about to become a better person, I just unintentionally make it more complicated and making me more scared of my work, have more reason to blame myself which is a bad habit for MDD. And after I realize that the work becomes more easily to do and I feel free from myself for being too strict in the wrong point
So relatable, overcomplicating things literally paralyzes me. I got screwed up by my co-founders after I put in a lot of effort to help us establish a solid base. I reach a point when I stopped doing anything just reflecting on my life and how I neglected my health, social life to pursue my dream. 5 months and I still on this in state, I hope you can make a video about burnout, thank you
as much as i love the inaction is a slow death video, this is genuinely my favorite video on this channel. it just feels so raw and truly spoke to me about exactly what i’m dealing with
This is the constant battle that we have to fight against ourselves. When i had to finish a huge assignment for school, I uninstalled TH-cam (the only social media i use) and it helped me massively in concentrating my mental strenght on my work. However, I still watched a bit of TH-cam on my PC every now and then while doing my work, which left me wondering wether we can truly shut out inner demons off. It seems like we can´t, but thats just my experience.
"Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly." I can't remember where I first heard this quote, and it felt so backwards to me at the time, but the example given was to compare it to brushing your teeth. It would be better to do a poor job at brushing your teeth twice a day than not do it at all. The same goes for most things. I had a tendency to put aside my language studies because I didn't have the time or mental energy to devote to an engaged, active study session where I was learning new concepts, and this eventually led to dropping the studies all together, but this quote encourages me to keep going. Even if all I have is five minutes to practice my reading or pronunciation or review the basics, it keeps the language fresh in my mind so I'm ready for those days I can keep learning. Thank you for the video!
Hey man I just wanted you to know that your videos helped me turn my life around, and I now feel excited about my future, and I’m studying hard, multiple hours a day, and really enjoying life overall. I think it’s really important that you realise just how big an impact your advice has on people’s lives, thank you
Thanks man, I needed to hear this. I feel like this is a video I should almost watch once a week just to center myself, and get myself focused, and back on track. I try to be a genuine, honest person because those are traits I value, but I can get stuck sometimes trying to say the "best" thing, or take the "right" action. The thing is, life is rarely black, and white. There's a whole lotta grey sometimes, and that's ok. Sometimes there is no "best" option, but by moving forward we can still make progress. Your video was a good reminder of that. On a unrelated note, I'm 3 and a 1/2years sober and when I first got sober, there were 2 phrases that I would repeat to myself often.. 1. Embrace the suck, and 2. The only way out is through. Early recovery is rough, but you have to push through it to get to the smooth side. It's a cool, beautiful thing once you do, and I'm living more today then I have in a long time. For anyone out there struggling with addiction, don't give up hope, because there are ways out. I'm proof
I wish there was a “love” button on TH-cam. This video was such an eyeopener for me and it was cathartic to know that though it is sucky to just go do whatever we want to be better at, it isn’t as complicated as we think it is. Thank you for the authenticity and the vulnerability you presented in the video. It was concise, to the point, and comforting in a realistic way.
I appreciate how you're calling yourself out. As much as I love your videos I've seen, I tend to view most self-improvement content out there these days as somewhat of a distraction, but I'm glad I caved and clicked this one as I think you hit the nail on the head. Most of us like to theorize and strategize to the point of distraction, and it's not for some time until we realize that all that is simply a diversion from what needs to be done. It's yet another dopaminergic force of gratification at play - thinking about doing the hard things without actually doing them. Our brains get a little bit of a reward from it, which is of course dangerous since it's completely unearned. The thinking becomes a form of perceived effort that we placate ourselves with, and we drift further down the hole of inaction since we trick ourselves into feeling as if we have done something concrete and meaningful.
This is so relatable for me I can't even describe it. I'm writing rap poetry for 17 years already which I've used as a catharsis and coping mechanism after I lost my father at the age of 9. As you imagine a lot of years have passed and my writing and rapping ability over the years went through the roof as I can compare myself with people that I'm listening to. Now I'm 32 and I'm still CONTEMPLATING the idea of starting, just putting out a few songs and see where it goes, but what is stopping me continuously is the perfectionism in me which never gets off.
@@benlipscombe4445 Thanks man, sorry to hear that as well. Wanna exchange contacts so that we can actually exchange maybe 1 song and say our opinions if it is good or bad without holding back? I am not from the US, but I rap half english and half Macedonian, which is my Language
this might sound dumb, but just do it. fucking do it. if it goes poorly it goes poorly! Even if it go completely wrong, you’ll learn what you can improve at or what you did well at. Imagine if it goes great though! More people listen to it then you ever dreamed, unless you post it you will never see how you can succeed or how you can learn and grow.
@@eduq1910 thanks man, it doesn't sound dumb at all, it sounds wise. That's what I'm planning on doing, already made the decision and I'm fully working on it now. I kinda know that it'll be a success at some point, I might reach back here in the comment and share the channel with you so that you can give it a listen as well. Thanks for the encouragement, appreciated.
I never comment under a video but ten minutes ago, I was in a complete deny of the reality I'm facing and the work I absolutely need to do, and this since two hours. Bam, opened TH-cam, your video slaped my soul and put me back in track. Thank you for this raw speech that I think a lot of us can rely to
Your voice is honestly like medicine man. You're so incredibly relatable and I've yet to find another person that hits core problems the way you do. Glad to see you posting content like this to push through limiting personal beliefs (and I haven't even finished the video). Side note: have you ever considered offer psuedo-therapy coaching services, because I'd take them up.
I really wish I knew more people like you in real life... I regularly procrastinate, and I do exactly what you mentioned here - I spend hours researching supplements, workouts, watching videos etc instead of just going to the gym. All of your videos resonate with me so much. Thank you for making content and I'm all for some more 'unfiltered' and less scripted videos :)
I'm like him. Make a calendar and just go through the things on your list. Plan them and it'll be fun to do, then just do them as they pop up. Don't question it, just do it. It's better if it's far away from the home so you have to travel, this way you are put into the mindset of "ah, well I'm already here."
@@kindauncool Thanks for the comment! I am doing that recently - I've been using Sunsama and Google Calendar. You're right - quite often I'm lazy about going out but once I'm actually out, I enjoy it.
You probably know a lot more people like this in real life than you think - you just don't talk about these things with them. You might be surprised at what's already out there with the people you are friends with - you just need to bring up the topic.
I felt like you are telling this to me directly, man to man. This exact same thing I was slowly starting to realize was going on in my mind again and again I just wanted to hear it from someone, with clarity. Thank you
This video literally could not have came at a more perfect time. I definitely struggle with trying to have everything perfect before performing in some way, but lately it’s been out of control especially with some of my new ventures.
I find it so helpful to have this reminder. “Stop avoiding the thing. Go do the thing.” I’ve found once I just DO something my mental clarity is better too, cause it’s no longer following me around and taking up headspace and starting negative thought patterns of “should’ve, could’ve” etc
This unapologetic honesty was everything. No wise words, no beautiful sceneries. Don‘t get me wrong, they can be meaningful as well. But I would always prefer something as raw and genuine as this. Thank you, I needed exactly this.
I agree whith this. I do digi-art for fun. And for month i worked for a single image. And one time on a different channel (also health and art related? maybe you can guess) I heard "learn how to complete" You can polish your project your entire life, but it will not get as good, as you imagine it, so don't bother, finish it as it is". Yes put work in what you do, but don't overcomplicate it, don't focuse to mush on small details, its a good thing, but not the main one. In the end - quantity will produce quality. Not the other way around. As always - thank you for a good words, you helped me through the years to combat procrastination and depression. Pills doesn't bring it to the same level as your content do.
“Embrace the suck”, i’m gonna use that phrase SOO MUCH from now on 😹💕 I love all your videos, it doesn’t matter if it’s a huge production or just you talking to the camera. You always do amazing, so just relax and do as your heart tells you. 💖
Being based is a very good thing. I like knowing what peoples opinions are, it makes you become better friends with the friend you want to be friends with and pulls you apart from the people that don't matter.
I completely resonate with what you’re saying here. One of my favourite quotes to think of when I feel like I’m stagnating due to over-complicating everything is, “MOVE AND THE WAY WILL OPEN”. You don’t have to move fast, or straight, or perfectly…You just have to be MOVE. Taking steps without the expectation of where you’ll end up will, ironically, often lead you closer to where you want to be rather than calculating every little action because you think it will optimize the outcome. Because like we all know…inaction is a slow death.
As someone with the a similar type of personality I relate. I love to research things and look at every angle. But often times I found I would get burned out during the research phase and not even get to the activity or place of accomplishment I wanted because I was so stuck on perfecting it the first time. Recently, I have noticed a lot of "guru"s who talk about how to handle large life issues with things like family, friends, work and community, I've found videos where they admit they are horribly failing at this. One TH-camr I loved for advice on Fatherhood, Marriage, and Leadership is now going through a divorce, and this crushed me because I listen to his advice all the time. And then it actually started to hit me. Pure action backed by a little bit of thinking and research goes so much further than lots of research with little to no action. And I think this is why despite guys like us who want so badly to analyze, debate, discuss and review how life is going, and actually struggling to build a good life that they want because we aren't doing enough actions and were thinking too much. Just like that TH-camr who admitted he failed to put into practice what he often preached, he sounded like a good Sage and mentor, and in some ways he was, but he wasn't starting at the heart of "doing" first and foremost what he actually preached. And this is crucial because if a person is failing most in an area where they claimed to be an expert, were they ever really an expert? I'm realizing we need to learn what we can, do the research, read the book, watch the youtube video, then set it aside and not complicate life by overthinking about how well every little thing is going. And I think it is because research is easy. Its harder to be frustrated during just research or learning because nothing can go wrong yet. Your aren't doing the project or actually trying the task yet, so you feel as though your progressing but really your at step 1 still. Also I love your videos by they way, I do find them inspiring and encouraging!
I was literally having this same problem today, its such a coincidence you made this video at the same time. Overthinking is definitely not the way to go, just get out there, learn, and move on. Overthinking can just put you in such a rut and leads to a bad mindset if you stop making progress trying to make sure everything is perfect (when in reality, it will never be.)
Overthinking can often ruin things too. When I get to that point I just take a break for a week entirely from making things for money or work stuff. I just chill and do what I want in my free time and when I go back to that project I realize it’s not that big of a deal.
I relate 1000%. I am a videographer and I regularly procrastinate. Daily, in fact, because I am a massively suppressed perfectionist and have tons of anxiety about my finished product not being good enough, to the point where I don't only fear failure but I also fear success! Because success leads to expectations, and more work, work that could fail... It's bad! I have been seeing a therapist for a year and that is helping, but the problem with being aware of my anxiety and "feeling the fear" or "embracing the suck" is I see just how often it happens and that is very depressing! So it's a real struggle week to week but I'll get there. I have a book on my desk right here called "Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway", basically an eloquent way of saying "embrace the suck" haha! I'm doing my best to Just Start my tasks, and get something done to show my stakeholders. As you say, you and I both know how to craft incredible footage, but the folks just chatting into an iPhone are already Doing It and getting all the views whilst we languish...
Hey Joey, I completely understand this frustration. I am a Digital artist when im not working my job. There was a period in my life where i was forced to work out of state, completely cut off from amenities and conveniences; but still had my pc, a generator, and a lot of spare time to sort my shit out. The whole experience completely reset myself. One thing i learned from the whole experience, is that you should pursue your projects to completion, not to perfection. You will improve faster if you finish something when you know that anything added or changed would do very little to the end product. The only person who's going to notice it in the end, is you. 2. Hit the ground running after work. immediately get started on your projects while you are riding off the tail end of the energy from your work day. This will carry you into the project with a bit more gusto and focus. 3. GET UP EARLY. Wake up and get started on what you want to do after you get back from work, early in the morning. You will think about it more and want to do it after you get back, instead of just lounging around and doing nothing the rest of the day. 4. The Hardest Part is building up momentum. Keep working on everything as a routine, it will suck for the first couple days or few weeks, but once everything becomes a habit it's easy to keep going along with the momentum you've been rolling with. 5. Remove unncessisities. Keep everything you need to work on your projects within reach of you at all times, but remove any possible distractions that may pull you away from your work. You may have to unplug your internet modem and uninstall all your games, if you can't stay on focus enough. 6. Prep Prep Prep. After finishing up or taking a break on whatever you're working on, prep for the next day, write down some notes, sketch some ideas. Use that space of time in between to lay the ground work for your next project so you can keep moving forward. 7. REST. Properly block out some time to rest in order to get refreshed for the next day. throughout the week i sleep around 4-5 hours to recoup my strength and focus. I sleep in on either saturday or sunday, depending on the rotation, for around 10 hours to catch up. Then it's back to sorting out chores, work, and my own projects for the next week and beyond. Hope this helps lay down some points. You can even use this as a rubric for a video if you want to, be my guest! if it helps anyone else out there figure their life out, the better.
i don't know if i will be able to write this as i wanted, because english is not my first language. But i really want to say how much your videos are inspiring! I think that is mostly because your honesty about your process is what makes your content amazing and particularly special. I know only the "you" that you share in the media, but that is more than enough. It's huge. And its a relief to be reminded that we dont have to be "perfect" or with everything figured out, just acept things as they are and compromise with the things that we want and actually can do. I want to thank you for sharing your thoughts and your journey. And let you know that are people miles away that can relate to the things you say, probably more than you think :)
it is insane how you upload when i need it. I hope that gives you some sort of. Idk. Happiness. Im having the same issue. i’ve been stuck trying to edit my own videos, and build up other things. now i have a client and im stressed out. I know i can do it but i feel like i cant if i dont see it in my mind. i need to have the intro and outro done and everything. but it’s impossible and i get stuck. its so dumb and self sabotaging
@@betterideas thank you brother i will, ive always known exactly what i need to do. i feel like everyone does. We just don’t, maybe i want my own struggle, or maybe im scared of what i can do when im 100%. or maybe im just lazy. either way i know im capable of doing what i WANT too. i really gotta get out of my way. and this helps.
Ah man, I've had a video idea in mind for a month I KNEW would be next, and it's been a month of working on it because "It needs to be more detailed / It needs to be insightful / I need to choose my words better". The worst part is that not only is the video not getting done, but I feel irritable and frusterated about it daily. I could have had it done in 1 week and I'm sure I would have been happy with the outcome, instead here I am....watching this video perfectly describe why I'm procrastinating. Glad to know you go through the same thing as someone "successful" on youtube. Appreciate ya!
As I came to the end of the video, I found myself in tears. This is quite emotional for me as I struggle with going after my goals. Perfectionism is just a disease that eventually stops you from doing what you need to do. You just need to do it and then reap the rewards. PS - never stop what you’re doing. I’ve been watching you for the past three years and my mindset as well as my life has changed drastically. Continue being you and spreading good. 🙌🏽 thank you Joey
I knew this would hit it home but wow. I'm terrible for being a major overthinker & I can't stress enough how important 'just doing it' is. Fitness has been a major roadblock for me because I must find the best workouts and time frames etc etc. I also think it's v important to say the message isn't to ignore the advice that makes e.g. workouts better, but that the core of most things is super simple, and it doesn"t matter how good your supps are, or how specific a workout is if it stops you from doing the basics (go gym, lift heavy stuff) Also the stress leading up to things is always worse than actually doing the thing. Love you dude, can't wait for the next video
So true man! Loved this video and how it was one shot yet such a valuable and powerful message - which is the whole point you're getting across. Here's to showing up and doing a little more weight than last time. This is not a Personality discussion but Economists and business leaders were voicing concerns at the start of 2023 that the year could be a difficult one. JPMorgan Chase & Co. Chief Executive Jamie Dimon said that the Federal Reserve may need to raise interest rates to 6% to fight inflation, higher than the peak level between 5% and 5.5% in 2023 that most Fed officials penciled in after their December meeting. Although I read an article of people that grossed profits up to $500k during this crash, what are the best stocks to buy/short now or put on a watchlist
Emotionally-charged decisions to sell off large quantities of stocks or other investments now lock in your losses, removing any chance for future growth.
A 2022 Northwestern Mutual study found that 75% of U.S. adults admit their financial planning needs improvement. However, only 29% of Americans work with a financial advisor.
Very correct; the bear market has contributed significantly to the growth of my investment. I was able to quickly increase my portfolio from $180K to $572K. Essentially, I was just doing as my financial advisor instructed. You're good to go as long as you get competent assistance
@@floydchusset3143 Would it be okay if I asked you to recommend this specific advisor or company that you used their services? Seems you've figured it all out
@@elliotwilson8874 I won't pretend to know everything, though. Her name is LAURA GACE ABELS but I won't say anything more. Most likely, you can find her basic information online; you are welcome to do further study
This video made my day. I have been paying off crippling credit card debt (37 Grand) for the past 6 months working non stop during the day as a content creator for a construction company and driving Uber Eats another 30-40 hours a week in New York City. I have cut into the debt 15 grand paid off and that feels good. But I’ve been doing nothing but that. No social life no dating no travel. Today I woke up and decided I’m gonna take a long drive out of the city and clear my mind. I want to thank you for posting this because I need to be doing my content and video making which I love and my passion. Your just so on the money Joey!!!!! Thank you!!!!!
Oh man! This came at a perfect time. I’m in the same boat trying to drop my newest video. I’m afraid it’s not going to be good enough, not engaging enough, not cool enough. Idk, I totally understand what you’re saying, brother. It’s like, we want our craft to come out perfect in a non perfect world. Good luck bro, I know you’ve got this, why do our brains do this to us?? Thank you for this video! I’m not alone 💪
I understand and appreciate the willingness to take a step up back and not always put on a show to entertain the audience and rather convey the message directly. You can do this from time to time to align with your vision. Your videos have made a positive impact on me and I try to relate to it as much as I can, it starts to make sense and paves a path as a guideline for me. Thank you.
Joey you are strong and courageous doing this. I love you bro. Thanks for reminding me that LIFE SUCKS and the way to go forward is simple: Accept that it sucks and keep putting one foot in front of the other. I am running away from the fact that life sucks and want to seek out a better, comfortable life. But no. Greatness is taking the pain in the face, taking action, becoming transformed by it and gaining the strength to take; and finding my life in the process.
Thank you for making this video. I look up to you a lot and am trying to get myself to be brave enough to put myself out there. I always tell my husband “I just want to make videos like Joey does,” but I feel this constant resistance and have gotten in the habit of “prolonging the inevitable,” as you put it. Knowing you feel this way helps me more than maybe any other video you made has, which is saying a lot. I really appreciate what you do and aspire to make even a fraction of the impact you make. Thank you.
I needed this Joey. I’ve been struggling for the last few months to think of an idea for a short film I’d love to write and direct. But I’ve been overcomplicating things by waiting for the PERFECT idea to come to me… which at the end of the day benefits me in no way because it only paralyses me. Thanks for this reminder dude.
I'll start off with - "Hi, my name is Toqa and I'm a perfectionist." 🤦🏻♀ But seriously - I've been on the lookout for a new video from you! Edited or perfect or not, we want to see your content because it resonates with what I'm (and probably a lot of us) are going through on a daily basis. Real, raw, and unfiltered, thank you for the reminders, Joey!
Honestly, unfiltered or not, I look forward to you posting so much. It might be unhealthy but in the past, a lot of your videos have just turned on this switch inside of me and I've kind of grown to crave that feeling. So, I hope this realisation makes you put yourself out here more because, much like me, I'm sure a lot of other people need it. All the better if it's your authentic self. Thank you, Joey.
Thanks man... I need to hear this. One thing I'm avoiding is finishing a video about running a marathon that I shot 6 months ago, but I keep putting it off due to worrying that it'll suck. Got to push through...
Honestly these kind of videos are what I need. Ever since I was 5 years old I've had this fantasy story I've wanted to write. I'm 27 now and I still haven't published it or even finished it. I've been obsessively planning it and perfecting it for so long and the problem is that obviously as I get older my opinion changes and thus my story changes with it. And that's the thing, as long as I keep changing as a person my story will never be finished. By now I could have just written different stories but I've been so obsessed with making this one story perfect that I have little to show for it besides thousands of notes that give me anxiety. I really need to just write it and accept it even if it doesn't meet my impossible expectations.
Your an aspiring author too? Im 23 and I've been trying too write a fantasy book since I graduated high school back in 2019. I suffer the same stuff as you do with writing.
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 Yeah I'm an aspiring author, although my dream goal is to publish my story as a webcomic as well. I started learning to draw seriously back in 2019 and made a promise to myself to finally start creating it after 1-2 years of practice and well...that hasn't happened either cause I still don't think I'm good enough. We can't let time continue to pass.
@@Harbiter I like drawing too. I've become pretty good at that over the years. But I'm not a professional. I don't think I'm cut out for that webcomic stuff you mentioned. My illustrations I think are good but defiantly not like anime or other advanced drawings. It maybe the type you find in children's books or chapter books for adolescence. I used to want to wrote comics on my stories but my perfectionism got there best of me so it became almost impossible for me. So I decided to write regular chapter books.
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 That's similar to how it was for me. As a kid I loved to draw but I never thought I would be on a professional level so I just gave up and thought I should just write a novel. But during late 2019 I had a quarter life crisis or something and decided I would draw every day until I felt like an artist. And somehow I drew for 400 days straight...and I improved, but I was extremely burnt out and couldn't draw for like 3 months afterwards. But the experience made drawing a webcomic suddenly feel more attainable. I still don't think I'm good but there's Manwha like Tower of God that starts off with rough art and improves with time. As well as the original One Punch Man webmanga that has terrible art and became hugely popular anyways. So I'm probably "good enough" to start if I get over my perfectionism.
Honestly so relatable. I kept making excuses but recently I've come to accept that sometimes, everything sucks. Thank you for what you do, from Marseille with love.
Proves how much we need an concrete understanding of a particular asset as investors because playing the market blindly or solely of technical is a big risk. I've been quite unsure about jumping considering current market actions, at the same time I feel it's the best time to get started. Thoughts on assets with safe yielding returns?
@@bradsandler3526 I couldn’t agree more because for newer investors like me, it's always great to hear from a person who has gone through all andd yh yh I know loses are inevitable but It's unnerving to see your portfolio go from green to red but even if I were to pick a stock
@@bradsandler3526 Coming from someone who's witnessed consecutive ups and downs, debt, getting ripped off trading scams, get rich quick scheme, ponzi. Literal bankruptcy, you name it, Having a coach made it a lot more easier. I know how discipline is essential to grow. Matter of fact having received advice from my coach, I started my pod, a little ytube, and passively earn and hold a $293k ptf with Yvonne Annette Lively. So yes guys, life coaches are indeed important.
@@maryalchester Thank you for the info. Maria Teresa Tyler huh? I did find her site. Resume, background & qualifications looked impressive as well as detailed. Seems to know her stuff pretty good
Perfectionism has been one of my greatest battles in life. I was doing really well with imperfection for a while, but learning more about filmmaking and developing a sneaky attachment to the quality of my creations really messed up my momentum. As a result, I haven't posted on my main channel in over a year now - it totally sucks. It's gotten to the point where I'm just like "screw it, let's just go back to having fun instead of caring about how professional things look." This in conjunction with using some critical techniques to work through my inner resistance and blocks have allowed me to get back into the game to work on videos again. The creative process doesn't need to be as serious as I make it out to be, and like you, something goes from an honest thought to a full on production. As you mentioned, there's a time and place for production value, but not everything needs to be some over the top film. If I'm shipping more raw messages more frequently (even if it's less polished), it'll allow me to have way more of a positive impact on the people I'm creating for than if everything is totally polished but takes an eternity to make. P.S. Also really appreciated that you subtly left the video imbalanced and didn't fix it. And guaranteed almost no one noticed, and it ended up being one of my favourite videos from you in a while. All the best, Joey.
I couldn't be happier to see a specific video the day it was released. Glad to know how you're actually doing/feeling. Thank you for the content! You are my absolute favorite creator and it's 90% because of the words you speak, not the footage
I've been struggling with the same perfectionist mentality when it comes to creating. I'm always obsessing over broll, drone shots, well written scripts, etc. I've switched over to more unfiltered videos that come from the heart. Analytically they don't seem to do as well, however my overall mental health is better. Creating for the love of creating is an amazing feeling. Creating for the sake of analytical perfection, is dreadful.
*_“Embrace the succ.”_*
- Better Ideas, 2023
This quote will go down in history.
Sorry but this is a very popular term amongst navy seals, nonetheless it’s still very powerful! Spread the message!!
This WILL go down in history
*sigh* goes to comments
Originally by David Goggins in his book "Can't hurt me" 2018
Navy Seals Hell week's favorite quote
"You embrace the suck and then you are transformed by it. You feel good about yourself because you are no longer living in this anxious denial."
This describes what is procrastination at his finest and how it really makes you feel. And how you do feel when you do what you promised yourself and how proud you are
being unfiltered is so refreshing on youtube
Hoping to be as unfiltered as possible going forward :)
Seriously
Unfiltered jumpcuts!😊
@@thebarkingsnail I was about to say the same thing lol
for SURE
I relate 100% to this.
This want, almost need to be authentic, and honest, and true to yourself, by putting out a video like this.
But there's something within that is terrified of it. I think what it is, is the fear of "Nobody cares"
If I just sit down in front of the camera and say things that have been on my mind, and what I'm thinking about them.. there's this overwhelming feeling, put into words by a voice within that shouts "Who do you think you are?" "Why would anyone want to watch this?" "Why would anyone care what you think?"
I'd say we're all on a journey of self acceptance, and starting to feel confident in ourselves, and giving ourselves the benefit of the doubt, that "maybe I am good enough"
And this is a huge step you've taken toward it, Joey!
Keep growing, keep improving :)
guess who 👀💣
@@ArchitSach Ahahha you find me everywhere ;)
Big fan @Sahaj Talwar your videos have literally been a godsend for me man. Helping me "make my dreams a reality, one day at a time"
@@devlish6524 Pleasure to hear that, my brother. Appreciate you!
@@ArchitSach ayeee Me Too 😂
Honestly dude, although the quality of your highly produced videos is AMAZING, these authentic sit down videos are just as rewarding to watch, and honestly, in many ways, even more so. Don’t hesitate to sprinkle these in with your usual content whenever you feel the need to.
Fax
Something that I can keep thinking is time feels so fast when I'm procrastinating and when I stop procrastinating it feels like I'm doing whatever important thing too slowly or inefficiently.
It's good to tell myself it's okay to slow down and it's okay to be bored and it's okay to be woefully inefficient. It's still 100 times more productive than watching TH-cam for the sixth hour.
I liked your comment, thank you
That's nice
everyone has a monkeybrain, what it finds boring, gets slow . You may not even realize but the monkeybrain part of you has already decided.
Well said
thank you for that comment, really
I absolutely agree with you.
I am 26 years old and 'don't know what to do when I grow up'. For two years now, I have been trying to overcome this chronic indecision, anxiety and over-analysis about my future career. Leading me to create a wall between me and action, blocking me. These last two weeks I have been 'doing' for real. And I don't know the reason why, really... It may be that I have accumulated the right awareness, the tools I needed, or it may simply be that this is my moment. Or maybe tomorrow I'm going back to see my old friend: overthinking. But for now, I'm having fun by 'embracing the suck'.
Thank you for sharing this with us 💜
It's okay luv, I'm more or less the same as you, just 6 years younger and you can do it, extend embracing the suck, I feel like the less people I have whom I listen to, who are actually here to make me taste the reality, the more I'm able to stay sane and disciplined towards my goals.
It's so weird how much I needed to hear this today and almost surreal that I was feeling the same way and coming to a realization that I need to strip everything away and just focus on the fundamentals of what I need to do to achieve what I want. Thank you.
Joey has an uncanny habit of delivering exactly the message I need to hear in the moment
I've been working on a video for almost 3 weeks now and it's been killing me the amount of times I've disliked or wanted to change something so subtle. Wanting to perfect things can be a great mindset but it can also get addicting and negative to your workflow at the same time. I really needed to hear this and can relate to your struggle.
it's going to be great!
I can't believe I'm seeing you comment on this video bro
Love your content
make a Lego moc based on this struggle
Perfectionism kills productivity. I know that well enough as a writer haha!
Up until about 2 hours ago I was in a year plus long relationship with a girl I love very much, but who has severe bipolar disorder and other mental issues. She's told me that she's ending our relationship every week for the last 3 weeks. Last time she did this she came back the very next day. Part of me just didn't want to be single again and I've been unemployed and struggling with alcohol since January and I needed the support. I had the very same thought as the title of this video.
I found your channel maybe a year ago when I was trying to pull myself out of a rut and now that I'm right back in one I find this recommended on my front page. I'm ready to try and get well again.
You may not always feel it but you do a real service to humanity with your videos. Thank you.
Joey, I have been watching you for over a year now, and this is easily one of my favorite videos you've made. It's equally as useful to me as "Inaction is a Slow Death". Both have great usefulness, in their own way. I love the "podcast" style videos I can put on in the car on the way home from work, or while I'm studying for my next certification, etc. I also love the extremely high production value videos that I can't look away from the screen for a second. Do what feels right at the present moment, and the message will come across naturally. I needed to hear this message from you today, and I appreciate it. Be well, and hope to see a new video soon.
Deeply relate to this feeling. I run my own automation business. I am currently using downtime between client projects to work on turning some systems into products I can sell to start moving away from just client services; and it is killing me how many times I finish an iteration to only go "oh well now I need to add x to get this feature complete."
Its a fools errand. I know half of this shit is going to change when I get it into testers hands so why am I letting myself keep pushing off getting this into reality? I really needed to see this one today, Joey. Thank you. Big fan of your work and appreciate the energy you bring to every piece of content you put out, especially this one.
"The fool is always preparing to live."
This has gotten to be one of the best videos I’ve ever watched in a very long time on TH-cam. I have been watching productivity videos, overthinking and complicating every single aspect for the sake of eventually studying hard for my medical exams. This video is what motivated me to stop looking for “The Best Studying Method” and put in the actual hard work, even if it sucks. Thank you for being honest and genuine. Sometimes simple videos like these are what causes the most significant impact on others.
Thank you for this video, I think this one gave more value than some of your more "polished" videos, and the part when you talk to "me" and ask, I begin to think, and actually right before I watched this video, I did something... I have been procrastinating writing for a long time and I struggle to do it consistently as I always hear people say. "oh you have to do it every single day" etc. but I push it away and do stuff like Instagram to hide away from the reality, but I just started writing now, it is not much, but I did it and feel good about it. I am so afraid of failure and the part about leaving the comfort of escaping into the internet, TH-cam, films, Instagram, etc. I am trying to forget who I am and the uncomfortable things, because I am not happy with my life, but as soon as I do the boring and hard work, I get one step closer to my dream goal of making feature films.
I did another thing today, I have a small business, and I can not get clients, so I decided to just go out and hand over my business cards, I hesitated in my car and prospered it, but I finally stepped out of my car and went to the first company, introduced myself and my service, they kindly declined, as I thought would happen, I did the same thing to 2 other companies with the same result, and I feel great. I am pushing my comfort zone a litt le every time I do this, and I get so much more progress than I else would not have now today, IT is often hard to accept that small steps are not visible at the moment, but a year from now, you will see the pay-off to bigger or lesser extent, I always want stuff to happen fast and easy, find the easy #cheat-way" to get to where I wanna be, but it never works. No matter what the gurus on TH-cam tell you.
Doing the hard work, suck, so I am hiding my life inside algorithms designed to do so, we only have one life, and it is better to understand and realize that and not waste it living in a virtual world. I am telling you this, and yet, maybe tomorrow ai will do exactly that, maybe a lot of maybe a little, but I might hide inside the world of TH-cam for hours and Instagram and not take baby steps towards my goal of making films, but I am trying, and that is all that matters, those small steps, I do take, hopefully, will pay off even tho it might be very very slow at times.
You are honest and real, and I am so grateful for you and that you are helping people like myself. Amazing video. And wow... I felt vulnerable now that I shared personal stuff, but who cares. YOu should not live your life based on what others might think about you, I kind of hope someone I know reads this, just so that I can show them that I don't care, If people laugh and makes fun of me, so be it :-)
I didn't expect to relate to this to such a point. I also feel that the central idea, the origins of a concept I want to talk about starts to blur into the background when I get into editing or sometimes even recording phase. I was very apprehensive about whether I should simply open a camera and talk or keep my perfectionistic attitude to "keep improving every time," despite it ironically limiting my content output greatly. The same train of thought also kills off my passion on the video concept because it takes so long to complete that the euphoria of the "Aha!" moment dissipates and I lose the enthusiasm to convey my thoughts. Thanks for reminding me of this, I believe that sometimes we really do need someone else to tell us what we know onto our faces. Take care.
I even edited this comment multiple times to find better words to communicate myself, so starting here by refusing to edit it further, I'll go back to the more genuine and authentic outlook.
"Inaction Is A Slow Death" struck me in a way I've never been able to really explain to others. I have the quote itself burned onto a decorative board outside my bedroom to remind me at the start of every day. I've fallen into a bit of a depressive rut lately due to, truthfully, running from the suck. I needed this video, thank you
My man, I feel this in my soul lol. I'm a musician, and all the songs I write take ages to finish. Partly because I'm doing it all myself, but mostly because I can't stand any sort of imperfection, and even the slightest thing that can be better will ruin an entire take, and I will slave for hours to make it "perfect" and end up making almost no progress. I'm getting better about it, but it's one of my biggest weaknesses
Inaction is a Slow Death has straight up changed the way I view my life. Thank you for making these video. You change lives one video at a time.
For me personally this is one of the most inspirational videos of yours. Talking unfiltered of your own struggle, laying open your emotions and share your thoughts on the things that are on your (and probably many people's) mind, holds a value which cannot be achieved by perfectionism but only by pure honesty. The motivation I feel from watching your videos comes from a place of my problems, emotions and thoughts being acknowledged by someone out there and giving me a direction we all wanna move to: foward.
And this is the way I see you moving with this video.
I had the same feelings. I asked my friends for help with this. After talking with guys that some of them were so, so overthinkers and got some really powerful answers, I changed my behavior. Practically, the answer is:
Part 1
1. Let's say you randomly get something in mind. (going to the gym)
2. Take 10-15 seconds (use clock) to think to the absolutely worst case scenario, and best case scenario.(worst: didn't go to the gym or went to the gym and injured yourself, best: went to the gym and lifted hard)
3. Do something else that you enjoy for the next 5 minutes(use clock) and focus on enjoying what you do.(scroll some social media, eat something, sing, listen to some music, etc.)
4. Anything that will happen with your idea, will fit between the absolutely worst case scenario and your best case scenario. Your brain will be happy that you predicted the outcome. 99% of the people that are successful think like that.
Part 2
Also if it's really really bad for you, the 2 minute rule will be amazing. Take your stopwatch/phone set it to 2 minutes and say out loud(or in your mind if it's awkward), I'm going to do X for 2 minutes. X=washing the dishes, working out in your room, clean the room, do your tasks / homework, read a book, etc. You will most likely end up doing that for more than 2 minutes, most of the time finishing your tasks, but even if you don't finish, (read Part 1), you at least fit between worst case scenario and best case scenario. Your brain will be happy.
I recently came to this exact conclusion myself. I have been going through some financial difficulty, frustration at work, and a daughter that is getting unexpectedly divorced. I said to myself that I still need to live my life and move on. Simply getting exercise has been transformative and haven't been feeling this good in months. I was meant to see this video today. Thank you!
Wow amazing point! I'd much rather watch a low production video where the message is much stronger than opposite. Great job getting the point across, needed to hear this.
I can relate to this. What has really helped me is to Mind map Personal Development Books and start reflecting on the ideas and tools that are useful when you fall into these slumps. When we feel afraid, question our motives and spend more time planning and preparing we're not taking action as quickly as possible due to fear of failure. The problem isn't the fear it's the paralysis that comes with it. Get past the pain of failure and enjoy the pleasure of learning from it. There is no such thing as perfect. Appreciate you sharing this video. I feel your struggle. Pain and discomfort leads to action which helps you move forward.
This is an incredible message because it is so simple it this overly complicated life
I was talking to my mom the other day and she mentioned a personality trait I have, the exact one you’re talking about. She told me before I ever do anything new, I always observe others and try to perfect it before I start the task. For example, when I was little I’d watch my brothers and see how they’d do something before I try it myself. She’s absolutely right. I’ve never been one to take big risks and dive right into the deep end without having an idea of what I’m getting into. We overcomplicate these simple things and make them a big deal, when in reality they’re not. I asked her if she thinks it’s a bad thing, and told her how it stresses me out sometimes. She reassured me and told me that’s why I am what I am today, an engineer. As an engineer you have to pay attention to the smallest of details. You don’t have room to make mistake after mistake. That costs time, money, and if not caught soon enough, lives. She told me it’s a part of who I am, and that I don’t have to fight to be someone I’m not. We all have our strengths and weaknesses; some of us are going to be good at certain things, and others aren’t.
She told me how my brother is the complete opposite to me. He’s a happy go-lucky type of guy that will jump into anything without giving it any thought whatsoever. Growing up he would always do the stupidest stuff when he first tried things because he didn’t care if he got it wrong. He knew he would end up learning how to do it if he kept trying, so he would try and try and try again until he got it right. He would look stupid in the beginning of course, but people admired him because he would try before anyone else. He gives other’s courage and encourages them not to care about looking dumb. If you mess up, you mess up, it’s okay. It’s not the end of the world. He’s a leader that’s a great people person. He used his strengths to his advantage, and is now a manager for a corporate giant and is truly passionate about his job, and shares his passion with his employees.
I’ve been lucky to grow up alongside my brother and watch the way he does things, and I’ve been lucky to have my mother with her wisdom. If there’s one thing I can give anyone advice on, it’s to find your strengths and know them well, but also find your weaknesses and be able to admit to them. That doesn’t mean you can’t work on them, but remember, everyone is going to have them. My brother would be a terrible engineer, and I could never work in the position he’s in now. All of us don’t have to be the same. Some are introverts, some are extroverts; some like structure, others like the feeling of being free; some like reading books or learning nerdy new concepts; others like sports or the thrill of an adrenaline rush. In the end, there isn’t a side that’s right or wrong. It’s just about being YOU. People have different ways of doing things, and that’s okay!! The world works the way it does because of these differences.
Be different, be you. Let others be different, and accept them for those differences :)
Hey man! I am so grateful I came across your comment. Upon reading your message, I realized I am almost the same as you in how we try to have an idea of accomplishing or doing something before actually executing. I am also a software engineer btw. I agree with everything you have said, everyone is different due to their respective strengths and weaknesses. I feel scared or vulnerable when I want to try new things or explore new opportunities but, I always have this mindset of trying to see if there was anyone else who was in a similar position and accomplished that goal or objective. It's crazy how our minds are alike and how we are not alone, its great to understand our very own nature. I also do have a close friend who is just like your brother, who doesn't care how the world views him, he is unexplainably himself and does whatever he wants without regard for other people's opinions. Sometimes I wish I could be like my friend and do things without hesitating, but maybe this is one of those things I have to work on myself. I feel like these types of people are way happier because they accept themselves more than the average.
Perfectionism is rooted in childhood so go tell her that
@@mashstick7415 I agree it's nice to have people you can relate to :). I 100% get you on the feeling that sometimes you wish you could be more like your friend. I've felt that with my brother a lot, the feeling that he's always happy because he accepts himself for who he is and can jump right into anything, but I try to remind myself it's good that we have our differences. In some situations good things come from hesitating or overanalyzing, as with engineering (hi fellow engineer btw!!) it's always better to make sure everything is correct before going through with it. In other instances too, like choosing a place to eat or asking yourself if you really need something before buying it. I bet your friend hates your personality sometimes the same my brother hates mine, but deep down they love you for it and know it balances them out. Put yourself in your friends shoes and think about all the times something good has come from your personality, and imagine how he wants to change that small piece of his to be more like yours. The same way you look up to his courage and realize you want to be more like him is the same way he looks up to you for your careful analysis of certain situations and says "man I wish I could think like him sometimes". All of us are trying to be the best version of ourselves :)
@@bonsai3245 Spot on brother 100%. We all want someone's crumbs of their best personality to make us perfect but that is energy-consuming. The balance you mentioned is really an important analogy as well. Have a great day bro :)
oh man, 30 seconds in and I could not relate more. I have a small game development TH-cam channel that I agonize over every little detail of making sure that my videos are not only coherent and completely correct but that in my eyes all those little minor details are perfect, and it is truly crippling to the channel as a whole because of how little content I end up putting out.
I originally made the channel with the intent of being able to basically share the knowledge i had and help remind myself of why / how I did some things in the past so it would never get lost. Whenever I am not making content I feel the need to be, but not from an overbearing 'if I don't get it done then I'm a failure' or anything like that, I just genuinely want to put more content out, and it's frustrating to go around in circles sometimes. Especially because I can compare with friends who started channels at similar times and put out content they don't worry about the quality of, but see massive returns from it. You're right, a fair amount are a flop, but then getting one or two viral videos eventually they end up several x my channel in no time.
I've been selling myself on the idea that the more I do the easier it'd become, but with 2.3m subs and many videos that you have out, its troubling to see the same struggles still exist. I know it's what I want to do, but I think I also need a frame of mind shift.
Appreciate you making these videos 🤜🤛
I went through this too man. Its hard to snap out of it but its important to just stay true to ourselves.
I love your transparency on this video Joey. Being a perfectionist myself, I spent 4 weeks on a single video and it because of too much overthinking about the script, B-rolls, tight edits, music and etc. I am a non-native English speaker so I tend to write a script for my videos. I admit that I have a bit of insecurity on my verbal ability to speak English but really, the main reason why it took me 4 weeks to finish my video is procrastination. So thank you for this. Like I said in the past, you're one of the reason why I picked up my camera and start a TH-cam channel. You inspire me! 🙏
Joey, your videos have always been a motivating catalyst for me. A reminder to always push through and keep going while giving me new perspectives. Thank you for everything!
Thanks for this unfiltered version, i can relate to it much more. Though the other stuff is excellent, this by far makes one feel leveled.
Extremely authentic to something like a production. Well said joey
This is what i found out recently, after I burn out and got a MDD as a HSP i still have problem trying to comeback to work even tho It's been a year, I will talk to my mind that I want to be a better person who have to work, have to have responsibility and when I can't do my work I will be so depressed in that rabbit hole and blame myself until I am so stress. But now I know everything I have to do is to focus on a goal to complete my work not about to become a better person, I just unintentionally make it more complicated and making me more scared of my work, have more reason to blame myself which is a bad habit for MDD. And after I realize that the work becomes more easily to do and I feel free from myself for being too strict in the wrong point
So relatable, overcomplicating things literally paralyzes me.
I got screwed up by my co-founders after I put in a lot of effort to help us establish a solid base. I reach a point when I stopped doing anything just reflecting on my life and how I neglected my health, social life to pursue my dream. 5 months and I still on this in state, I hope you can make a video about burnout, thank you
as much as i love the inaction is a slow death video, this is genuinely my favorite video on this channel. it just feels so raw and truly spoke to me about exactly what i’m dealing with
This is the constant battle that we have to fight against ourselves. When i had to finish a huge assignment for school, I uninstalled TH-cam (the only social media i use) and it helped me massively in concentrating my mental strenght on my work. However, I still watched a bit of TH-cam on my PC every now and then while doing my work, which left me wondering wether we can truly shut out inner demons off. It seems like we can´t, but thats just my experience.
"Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly."
I can't remember where I first heard this quote, and it felt so backwards to me at the time, but the example given was to compare it to brushing your teeth. It would be better to do a poor job at brushing your teeth twice a day than not do it at all. The same goes for most things. I had a tendency to put aside my language studies because I didn't have the time or mental energy to devote to an engaged, active study session where I was learning new concepts, and this eventually led to dropping the studies all together, but this quote encourages me to keep going. Even if all I have is five minutes to practice my reading or pronunciation or review the basics, it keeps the language fresh in my mind so I'm ready for those days I can keep learning.
Thank you for the video!
You are so spot on here. Thank you! As a perfectionist trying to get out of that box, I needed this today. 😊
"embrace the suck" is the realest thing you've ever said
Hey man I just wanted you to know that your videos helped me turn my life around, and I now feel excited about my future, and I’m studying hard, multiple hours a day, and really enjoying life overall. I think it’s really important that you realise just how big an impact your advice has on people’s lives, thank you
Appreciate that Thomas 🙏
Thanks man, I needed to hear this. I feel like this is a video I should almost watch once a week just to center myself, and get myself focused, and back on track. I try to be a genuine, honest person because those are traits I value, but I can get stuck sometimes trying to say the "best" thing, or take the "right" action. The thing is, life is rarely black, and white. There's a whole lotta grey sometimes, and that's ok. Sometimes there is no "best" option, but by moving forward we can still make progress. Your video was a good reminder of that.
On a unrelated note, I'm 3 and a 1/2years sober and when I first got sober, there were 2 phrases that I would repeat to myself often.. 1. Embrace the suck, and 2. The only way out is through. Early recovery is rough, but you have to push through it to get to the smooth side. It's a cool, beautiful thing once you do, and I'm living more today then I have in a long time. For anyone out there struggling with addiction, don't give up hope, because there are ways out. I'm proof
I wish there was a “love” button on TH-cam. This video was such an eyeopener for me and it was cathartic to know that though it is sucky to just go do whatever we want to be better at, it isn’t as complicated as we think it is. Thank you for the authenticity and the vulnerability you presented in the video. It was concise, to the point, and comforting in a realistic way.
Thanks for filming all of this. Showing your true self on here is just impactful.
your channel is beautiful, has genuine messages, and is so easy to listen to - since you can explain so well
I appreciate how you're calling yourself out. As much as I love your videos I've seen, I tend to view most self-improvement content out there these days as somewhat of a distraction, but I'm glad I caved and clicked this one as I think you hit the nail on the head. Most of us like to theorize and strategize to the point of distraction, and it's not for some time until we realize that all that is simply a diversion from what needs to be done. It's yet another dopaminergic force of gratification at play - thinking about doing the hard things without actually doing them. Our brains get a little bit of a reward from it, which is of course dangerous since it's completely unearned. The thinking becomes a form of perceived effort that we placate ourselves with, and we drift further down the hole of inaction since we trick ourselves into feeling as if we have done something concrete and meaningful.
This is so relatable for me I can't even describe it.
I'm writing rap poetry for 17 years already which I've used as a catharsis and coping mechanism after I lost my father at the age of 9. As you imagine a lot of years have passed and my writing and rapping ability over the years went through the roof as I can compare myself with people that I'm listening to. Now I'm 32 and I'm still CONTEMPLATING the idea of starting, just putting out a few songs and see where it goes, but what is stopping me continuously is the perfectionism in me which never gets off.
Sorry about your dad. Im in the exact same situation both parent and music wise!
@@benlipscombe4445 Thanks man, sorry to hear that as well. Wanna exchange contacts so that we can actually exchange maybe 1 song and say our opinions if it is good or bad without holding back?
I am not from the US, but I rap half english and half Macedonian, which is my Language
this might sound dumb, but just do it. fucking do it. if it goes poorly it goes poorly! Even if it go completely wrong, you’ll learn what you can improve at or what you did well at. Imagine if it goes great though! More people listen to it then you ever dreamed, unless you post it you will never see how you can succeed or how you can learn and grow.
@@eduq1910 thanks man, it doesn't sound dumb at all, it sounds wise. That's what I'm planning on doing, already made the decision and I'm fully working on it now. I kinda know that it'll be a success at some point, I might reach back here in the comment and share the channel with you so that you can give it a listen as well. Thanks for the encouragement, appreciated.
"the perfectionism in me never gets off"
what a quote :)
I never comment under a video but ten minutes ago, I was in a complete deny of the reality I'm facing and the work I absolutely need to do, and this since two hours. Bam, opened TH-cam, your video slaped my soul and put me back in track. Thank you for this raw speech that I think a lot of us can rely to
Your voice is honestly like medicine man. You're so incredibly relatable and I've yet to find another person that hits core problems the way you do. Glad to see you posting content like this to push through limiting personal beliefs (and I haven't even finished the video). Side note: have you ever considered offer psuedo-therapy coaching services, because I'd take them up.
Thank you for actually getting good subtitles done! Makes such a big difference to have them available over the auto ones.
I really wish I knew more people like you in real life... I regularly procrastinate, and I do exactly what you mentioned here - I spend hours researching supplements, workouts, watching videos etc instead of just going to the gym. All of your videos resonate with me so much. Thank you for making content and I'm all for some more 'unfiltered' and less scripted videos :)
I'm like him. Make a calendar and just go through the things on your list. Plan them and it'll be fun to do, then just do them as they pop up. Don't question it, just do it. It's better if it's far away from the home so you have to travel, this way you are put into the mindset of "ah, well I'm already here."
@@kindauncool Thanks for the comment! I am doing that recently - I've been using Sunsama and Google Calendar. You're right - quite often I'm lazy about going out but once I'm actually out, I enjoy it.
You probably know a lot more people like this in real life than you think - you just don't talk about these things with them. You might be surprised at what's already out there with the people you are friends with - you just need to bring up the topic.
I felt like you are telling this to me directly, man to man. This exact same thing I was slowly starting to realize was going on in my mind again and again I just wanted to hear it from someone, with clarity. Thank you
This video literally could not have came at a more perfect time. I definitely struggle with trying to have everything perfect before performing in some way, but lately it’s been out of control especially with some of my new ventures.
I think we all needed to hear this rn! ❤
I enjoyed watching your videos while I was in a rut. I am finally out. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
I find it so helpful to have this reminder. “Stop avoiding the thing. Go do the thing.” I’ve found once I just DO something my mental clarity is better too, cause it’s no longer following me around and taking up headspace and starting negative thought patterns of “should’ve, could’ve” etc
This unapologetic honesty was everything. No wise words, no beautiful sceneries. Don‘t get me wrong, they can be meaningful as well. But I would always prefer something as raw and genuine as this. Thank you, I needed exactly this.
I agree whith this. I do digi-art for fun. And for month i worked for a single image. And one time on a different channel (also health and art related? maybe you can guess) I heard "learn how to complete" You can polish your project your entire life, but it will not get as good, as you imagine it, so don't bother, finish it as it is".
Yes put work in what you do, but don't overcomplicate it, don't focuse to mush on small details, its a good thing, but not the main one.
In the end - quantity will produce quality. Not the other way around.
As always - thank you for a good words, you helped me through the years to combat procrastination and depression. Pills doesn't bring it to the same level as your content do.
“Embrace the suck”, i’m gonna use that phrase SOO MUCH from now on 😹💕
I love all your videos, it doesn’t matter if it’s a huge production or just you talking to the camera. You always do amazing, so just relax and do as your heart tells you. 💖
Exactly what I needed to hear today… Thank you!
Being based is a very good thing.
I like knowing what peoples opinions are, it makes you become better friends with the friend you want to be friends with and pulls you apart from the people that don't matter.
I completely resonate with what you’re saying here. One of my favourite quotes to think of when I feel like I’m stagnating due to over-complicating everything is, “MOVE AND THE WAY WILL OPEN”. You don’t have to move fast, or straight, or perfectly…You just have to be MOVE. Taking steps without the expectation of where you’ll end up will, ironically, often lead you closer to where you want to be rather than calculating every little action because you think it will optimize the outcome. Because like we all know…inaction is a slow death.
very relatable.
As someone with the a similar type of personality I relate. I love to research things and look at every angle. But often times I found I would get burned out during the research phase and not even get to the activity or place of accomplishment I wanted because I was so stuck on perfecting it the first time. Recently, I have noticed a lot of "guru"s who talk about how to handle large life issues with things like family, friends, work and community, I've found videos where they admit they are horribly failing at this. One TH-camr I loved for advice on Fatherhood, Marriage, and Leadership is now going through a divorce, and this crushed me because I listen to his advice all the time. And then it actually started to hit me. Pure action backed by a little bit of thinking and research goes so much further than lots of research with little to no action. And I think this is why despite guys like us who want so badly to analyze, debate, discuss and review how life is going, and actually struggling to build a good life that they want because we aren't doing enough actions and were thinking too much. Just like that TH-camr who admitted he failed to put into practice what he often preached, he sounded like a good Sage and mentor, and in some ways he was, but he wasn't starting at the heart of "doing" first and foremost what he actually preached. And this is crucial because if a person is failing most in an area where they claimed to be an expert, were they ever really an expert? I'm realizing we need to learn what we can, do the research, read the book, watch the youtube video, then set it aside and not complicate life by overthinking about how well every little thing is going. And I think it is because research is easy. Its harder to be frustrated during just research or learning because nothing can go wrong yet. Your aren't doing the project or actually trying the task yet, so you feel as though your progressing but really your at step 1 still. Also I love your videos by they way, I do find them inspiring and encouraging!
I was literally having this same problem today, its such a coincidence you made this video at the same time. Overthinking is definitely not the way to go, just get out there, learn, and move on. Overthinking can just put you in such a rut and leads to a bad mindset if you stop making progress trying to make sure everything is perfect (when in reality, it will never be.)
Overthinking can often ruin things too. When I get to that point I just take a break for a week entirely from making things for money or work stuff. I just chill and do what I want in my free time and when I go back to that project I realize it’s not that big of a deal.
I relate 1000%. I am a videographer and I regularly procrastinate. Daily, in fact, because I am a massively suppressed perfectionist and have tons of anxiety about my finished product not being good enough, to the point where I don't only fear failure but I also fear success! Because success leads to expectations, and more work, work that could fail... It's bad!
I have been seeing a therapist for a year and that is helping, but the problem with being aware of my anxiety and "feeling the fear" or "embracing the suck" is I see just how often it happens and that is very depressing! So it's a real struggle week to week but I'll get there.
I have a book on my desk right here called "Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway", basically an eloquent way of saying "embrace the suck" haha! I'm doing my best to Just Start my tasks, and get something done to show my stakeholders. As you say, you and I both know how to craft incredible footage, but the folks just chatting into an iPhone are already Doing It and getting all the views whilst we languish...
"But instead of living in a triumphant pain, you live in a degenerative pain" what a quote, I love it.
Hey Joey, I completely understand this frustration. I am a Digital artist when im not working my job. There was a period in my life where i was forced to work out of state, completely cut off from amenities and conveniences; but still had my pc, a generator, and a lot of spare time to sort my shit out. The whole experience completely reset myself.
One thing i learned from the whole experience, is that you should pursue your projects to completion, not to perfection. You will improve faster if you finish something when you know that anything added or changed would do very little to the end product. The only person who's going to notice it in the end, is you. 2. Hit the ground running after work. immediately get started on your projects while you are riding off the tail end of the energy from your work day. This will carry you into the project with a bit more gusto and focus. 3. GET UP EARLY. Wake up and get started on what you want to do after you get back from work, early in the morning. You will think about it more and want to do it after you get back, instead of just lounging around and doing nothing the rest of the day. 4. The Hardest Part is building up momentum. Keep working on everything as a routine, it will suck for the first couple days or few weeks, but once everything becomes a habit it's easy to keep going along with the momentum you've been rolling with. 5. Remove unncessisities. Keep everything you need to work on your projects within reach of you at all times, but remove any possible distractions that may pull you away from your work. You may have to unplug your internet modem and uninstall all your games, if you can't stay on focus enough. 6. Prep Prep Prep. After finishing up or taking a break on whatever you're working on, prep for the next day, write down some notes, sketch some ideas. Use that space of time in between to lay the ground work for your next project so you can keep moving forward. 7. REST. Properly block out some time to rest in order to get refreshed for the next day. throughout the week i sleep around 4-5 hours to recoup my strength and focus. I sleep in on either saturday or sunday, depending on the rotation, for around 10 hours to catch up. Then it's back to sorting out chores, work, and my own projects for the next week and beyond.
Hope this helps lay down some points. You can even use this as a rubric for a video if you want to, be my guest! if it helps anyone else out there figure their life out, the better.
He probably made this video in a dissapointed mindset but it is actually pretty good and helps you learn from his struggle of perfection
i don't know if i will be able to write this as i wanted, because english is not my first language. But i really want to say how much your videos are inspiring! I think that is mostly because your honesty about your process is what makes your content amazing and particularly special. I know only the "you" that you share in the media, but that is more than enough. It's huge. And its a relief to be reminded that we dont have to be "perfect" or with everything figured out, just acept things as they are and compromise with the things that we want and actually can do. I want to thank you for sharing your thoughts and your journey. And let you know that are people miles away that can relate to the things you say, probably more than you think :)
it is insane how you upload when i need it. I hope that gives you some sort of. Idk. Happiness. Im having the same issue. i’ve been stuck trying to edit my own videos, and build up other things. now i have a client and im stressed out. I know i can do it but i feel like i cant if i dont see it in my mind. i need to have the intro and outro done and everything. but it’s impossible and i get stuck. its so dumb and self sabotaging
If I (the greatest procrastinator of all time) can do it, you can too. Just don’t think. Think as you go, not before.
lol it's weird I searched up this channel again and turns out he literally just uploaded
@@betterideas thank you brother i will, ive always known exactly what i need to do. i feel like everyone does. We just don’t, maybe i want my own struggle, or maybe im scared of what i can do when im 100%. or maybe im just lazy. either way i know im capable of doing what i WANT too. i really gotta get out of my way. and this helps.
Ah man, I've had a video idea in mind for a month I KNEW would be next, and it's been a month of working on it because "It needs to be more detailed / It needs to be insightful / I need to choose my words better". The worst part is that not only is the video not getting done, but I feel irritable and frusterated about it daily. I could have had it done in 1 week and I'm sure I would have been happy with the outcome, instead here I am....watching this video perfectly describe why I'm procrastinating. Glad to know you go through the same thing as someone "successful" on youtube. Appreciate ya!
As I came to the end of the video, I found myself in tears. This is quite emotional for me as I struggle with going after my goals. Perfectionism is just a disease that eventually stops you from doing what you need to do. You just need to do it and then reap the rewards.
PS - never stop what you’re doing. I’ve been watching you for the past three years and my mindset as well as my life has changed drastically. Continue being you and spreading good. 🙌🏽 thank you Joey
I knew this would hit it home but wow. I'm terrible for being a major overthinker & I can't stress enough how important 'just doing it' is. Fitness has been a major roadblock for me because I must find the best workouts and time frames etc etc.
I also think it's v important to say the message isn't to ignore the advice that makes e.g. workouts better, but that the core of most things is super simple, and it doesn"t matter how good your supps are, or how specific a workout is if it stops you from doing the basics (go gym, lift heavy stuff)
Also the stress leading up to things is always worse than actually doing the thing. Love you dude, can't wait for the next video
He can’t keep getting away with this!!!
This was 100% the kick in the arse I needed, and thank you for reminding me to let go of the stress.
I needed this.
This couldn't have come at a better time.Thank you!The hard part is just being,now time for me to start shaping up
So true man! Loved this video and how it was one shot yet such a valuable and powerful message - which is the whole point you're getting across. Here's to showing up and doing a little more weight than last time. This is not a Personality discussion but Economists and business leaders were voicing concerns at the start of 2023 that the year could be a difficult one. JPMorgan Chase & Co. Chief Executive Jamie Dimon said that the Federal Reserve may need to raise interest rates to 6% to fight inflation, higher than the peak level between 5% and 5.5% in 2023 that most Fed officials penciled in after their December meeting. Although I read an article of people that grossed profits up to $500k during this crash, what are the best stocks to buy/short now or put on a watchlist
Emotionally-charged decisions to sell off large quantities of stocks or other investments now lock in your losses, removing any chance for future growth.
A 2022 Northwestern Mutual study found that 75% of U.S. adults admit their financial planning needs improvement. However, only 29% of Americans work with a financial advisor.
Very correct; the bear market has contributed significantly to the growth of my investment. I was able to quickly increase my portfolio from $180K to $572K. Essentially, I was just doing as my financial advisor instructed. You're good to go as long as you get competent assistance
@@floydchusset3143 Would it be okay if I asked you to recommend this specific advisor or company that you used their services? Seems you've figured it all out
@@elliotwilson8874 I won't pretend to know everything, though. Her name is LAURA GACE ABELS but I won't say anything more. Most likely, you can find her basic information online; you are welcome to do further study
This video made my day. I have been paying off crippling credit card debt (37 Grand) for the past 6 months working non stop during the day as a content creator for a construction company and driving Uber Eats another 30-40 hours a week in New York City. I have cut into the debt 15 grand paid off and that feels good. But I’ve been doing nothing but that. No social life no dating no travel. Today I woke up and decided I’m gonna take a long drive out of the city and clear my mind. I want to thank you for posting this because I need to be doing my content and video making which I love and my passion. Your just so on the money Joey!!!!! Thank you!!!!!
Oh man! This came at a perfect time. I’m in the same boat trying to drop my newest video. I’m afraid it’s not going to be good enough, not engaging enough, not cool enough. Idk, I totally understand what you’re saying, brother. It’s like, we want our craft to come out perfect in a non perfect world. Good luck bro, I know you’ve got this, why do our brains do this to us?? Thank you for this video! I’m not alone 💪
The mind is corrosive. DO THE DAMN THING. LET’S GOOOO
@@betterideas LETS GOOOOO 💪💪
I prefer this style of video as I can relate to you much easily. I appreciate you being real/vulnerable.
I understand and appreciate the willingness to take a step up back and not always put on a show to entertain the audience and rather convey the message directly. You can do this from time to time to align with your vision. Your videos have made a positive impact on me and I try to relate to it as much as I can, it starts to make sense and paves a path as a guideline for me. Thank you.
Joey you are strong and courageous doing this. I love you bro.
Thanks for reminding me that LIFE SUCKS and the way to go forward is simple: Accept that it sucks and keep putting one foot in front of the other. I am running away from the fact that life sucks and want to seek out a better, comfortable life. But no. Greatness is taking the pain in the face, taking action, becoming transformed by it and gaining the strength to take; and finding my life in the process.
Love the videos, helps me with everything
Thank you for making this video. I look up to you a lot and am trying to get myself to be brave enough to put myself out there. I always tell my husband “I just want to make videos like Joey does,” but I feel this constant resistance and have gotten in the habit of “prolonging the inevitable,” as you put it. Knowing you feel this way helps me more than maybe any other video you made has, which is saying a lot. I really appreciate what you do and aspire to make even a fraction of the impact you make. Thank you.
Being somewhat of a perfectionist, I'm rarely satisfied with my work, no matter how big it is. I could definitely use this.
I needed this Joey. I’ve been struggling for the last few months to think of an idea for a short film I’d love to write and direct. But I’ve been overcomplicating things by waiting for the PERFECT idea to come to me… which at the end of the day benefits me in no way because it only paralyses me. Thanks for this reminder dude.
I'll start off with - "Hi, my name is Toqa and I'm a perfectionist." 🤦🏻♀
But seriously - I've been on the lookout for a new video from you! Edited or perfect or not, we want to see your content because it resonates with what I'm (and probably a lot of us) are going through on a daily basis. Real, raw, and unfiltered, thank you for the reminders, Joey!
Thank you, this video was exactly what I needed right now.
Honestly, unfiltered or not, I look forward to you posting so much. It might be unhealthy but in the past, a lot of your videos have just turned on this switch inside of me and I've kind of grown to crave that feeling. So, I hope this realisation makes you put yourself out here more because, much like me, I'm sure a lot of other people need it. All the better if it's your authentic self.
Thank you, Joey.
Thanks man... I need to hear this. One thing I'm avoiding is finishing a video about running a marathon that I shot 6 months ago, but I keep putting it off due to worrying that it'll suck. Got to push through...
1:49 "inaction is a slow death" is one of the most accurate sentences said in history
That was the deepest I’ve seen from you so far man, keep it up. Literally this brought tears to my eyes. God bless you.
Honestly these kind of videos are what I need.
Ever since I was 5 years old I've had this fantasy story I've wanted to write. I'm 27 now and I still haven't published it or even finished it.
I've been obsessively planning it and perfecting it for so long and the problem is that obviously as I get older my opinion changes and thus my story changes with it. And that's the thing, as long as I keep changing as a person my story will never be finished. By now I could have just written different stories but I've been so obsessed with making this one story perfect that I have little to show for it besides thousands of notes that give me anxiety.
I really need to just write it and accept it even if it doesn't meet my impossible expectations.
Your an aspiring author too? Im 23 and I've been trying too write a fantasy book since I graduated high school back in 2019. I suffer the same stuff as you do with writing.
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 Yeah I'm an aspiring author, although my dream goal is to publish my story as a webcomic as well. I started learning to draw seriously back in 2019 and made a promise to myself to finally start creating it after 1-2 years of practice and well...that hasn't happened either cause I still don't think I'm good enough.
We can't let time continue to pass.
@@Harbiter I like drawing too. I've become pretty good at that over the years. But I'm not a professional. I don't think I'm cut out for that webcomic stuff you mentioned. My illustrations I think are good but defiantly not like anime or other advanced drawings. It maybe the type you find in children's books or chapter books for adolescence. I used to want to wrote comics on my stories but my perfectionism got there best of me so it became almost impossible for me. So I decided to write regular chapter books.
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 That's similar to how it was for me. As a kid I loved to draw but I never thought I would be on a professional level so I just gave up and thought I should just write a novel.
But during late 2019 I had a quarter life crisis or something and decided I would draw every day until I felt like an artist. And somehow I drew for 400 days straight...and I improved, but I was extremely burnt out and couldn't draw for like 3 months afterwards. But the experience made drawing a webcomic suddenly feel more attainable.
I still don't think I'm good but there's Manwha like Tower of God that starts off with rough art and improves with time. As well as the original One Punch Man webmanga that has terrible art and became hugely popular anyways. So I'm probably "good enough" to start if I get over my perfectionism.
This hits the nail on the head. Something I've been struggling with is doing something poorly is still more productive than not doing it all.
Honestly so relatable. I kept making excuses but recently I've come to accept that sometimes, everything sucks.
Thank you for what you do, from Marseille with love.
Thank-you so much man, I needed to hear this... I was really going through a bad moment. I needed to embrace the suck and move past the denial stage
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I honestly love your videos. it's like you always know what I need to hear, when I need to hear it. never stop making them.
Perfectionism has been one of my greatest battles in life. I was doing really well with imperfection for a while, but learning more about filmmaking and developing a sneaky attachment to the quality of my creations really messed up my momentum. As a result, I haven't posted on my main channel in over a year now - it totally sucks. It's gotten to the point where I'm just like "screw it, let's just go back to having fun instead of caring about how professional things look." This in conjunction with using some critical techniques to work through my inner resistance and blocks have allowed me to get back into the game to work on videos again. The creative process doesn't need to be as serious as I make it out to be, and like you, something goes from an honest thought to a full on production. As you mentioned, there's a time and place for production value, but not everything needs to be some over the top film. If I'm shipping more raw messages more frequently (even if it's less polished), it'll allow me to have way more of a positive impact on the people I'm creating for than if everything is totally polished but takes an eternity to make.
P.S. Also really appreciated that you subtly left the video imbalanced and didn't fix it. And guaranteed almost no one noticed, and it ended up being one of my favourite videos from you in a while. All the best, Joey.
I couldn't be happier to see a specific video the day it was released. Glad to know how you're actually doing/feeling. Thank you for the content! You are my absolute favorite creator and it's 90% because of the words you speak, not the footage
I've been struggling with the same perfectionist mentality when it comes to creating. I'm always obsessing over broll, drone shots, well written scripts, etc. I've switched over to more unfiltered videos that come from the heart. Analytically they don't seem to do as well, however my overall mental health is better. Creating for the love of creating is an amazing feeling. Creating for the sake of analytical perfection, is dreadful.