Is Marriage Just For White People?: Rick Banks at TEDxStanford
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 มิ.ย. 2013
- Rick Banks looks at the ways race, the law and morality intersect and affect our society today.
A graduate of Stanford University and Harvard Law School, Professor Rick Banks teaches and writes at Stanford about family law, employment discrimination law, and race and the law. His recent book, Is Marriage for White People? was featured in The Economist, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, NPR, CNN and ABC News'
Nightline. Banks' current projects look at the causes and consequences of the educational underperformance of boys, African Americans in particular, and make the case that universities have a moral obligation to promote social mobility and racial inclusivity. He has been a member of the Stanford Law School faculty since 1998.
I know a number of attractive, intelligent (MSc educated), professional, wonderful black women that are not only unmarried, but also haven't even been in a steady relationship for over 15 YEARS! Its a great great shame. Sisters, please do everything that you can to esteem yourselves, drop your fears and your prejudices and go and enjoy life. Get out there and meet the men you desire and get what you want and need. GO DO IT.
Great advice
@Melvin whitehead what does that even mean? Whats wrong with what they said??
Yes....stop letting life pass you by.
Unfortunately, too many want a man who is 6ft tall, 6 figure income, and...> 6 inches. Not to mention ALL the checkmarks ✔ on the list of criteria for a male suitor to have in order to put a ring on it. There is an exception though for the men they are Attracted to...swag, controllable, or cute faced with long locks.
Blue Finally Gets A Clue 💯
It means Black women need to get over the wanting to date Black men only and expand their dating options to "other brothers" if they ever plan to find a mate who is compatible.
Yep
That's how I found my husband. We're crazy about each other. I'm so glad I didn't limit myself by race.
divinelynaptural his stats are wrong. a simple Google search proves him wrong.
Preach it!
I don't entirely agree with the "explaining black hair care" argument for why black women don''t date interracially. There are intergenerational stories that survive to this day about white slave-masters and black women. But I did have to chuckle. about the hair. I'm white, my wife is black but I never knew how deep black hair care was until I had to get our granddaughter ready for an outing. OMG after an hour of work, she was crying, I was crying and all I had was one sad-looking afro-puff.
47f0 😂
Afro puff is NEVER SAD!
😂👍🏽
Heartbreaking that you didn't know how to do your daughter's hair. I hope that changed. 😊
You're already offending 90 percent of BW and all you said was your experience. BW can't handle any criticism what so ever. Good luck bro, you're in for a long and extremely bumpy ride....
The professor is a great speaker..
Yes he is.
Absolutely
This was interesting, but I really think we need to talk more about the intervention side of things. America's 40% out of wedlock birth rate is a disaster. No wonder the middle class is shrinking.
wedlock is not an issue but single parents are
Read his book. It has an extensive bibliography.
It's so weird when Americans talk about children outside of wedlock as if that was someone wrong.
@@AR-dr1sb there are single parents because of a lack of wedlock.. Please get off the internet if that seriously went over your head. People are going to have partners and that leads to children, the issue is the lack of legal and financial commitment before deciding to being children into this world, a major lack of stability in the home a child grows up in nowadays, across the US majority.
We can’t force people to get married, but we can STRONGLY INCENTIVISE IT....why don’t we focus on that? How does focusing on education solve anything?
Family law attorneys make far too much money in the court system to allow change. In addition, politicians know that by having people in debt after a divorce, they have to work much harder to live.
Because more education translates into higher socio economic status. Poor people don't get married, if they do those marriages are more prone to divorce.
If you think the price of education is high, try the price of ignorance. Education increases career prospects, increases options and mobility. Education is important.
I don't think we should be trying to control people and get them to live their lives the way you want them to, be that marriage or some other life decision.
Edjumication increases debt in which BW are extremely high in and their total average assets are just $5 smh.
Currently the student loans debt is 1.6 trillion in which 2/3rds are owned by women. BW own the most out of that for the most worthless degrees with the lowers ROI.
Who wants to marry into that!!!???
@@RC-fe9py But it's BM who bring BW down financially........
Love his book💌
Great talk!!
I really identified with what you said about what your dad said about suiter criteria....it seems as though now desire trumps duty. I had an assoicate of mine just about fall off the planet and coudln't understand why I kept my family together because he felt my significant other was not the fairytale man.
Esther Perel discusses that in depth. The whole expectation that one relationship is seen as a replacement for what a community used to offer people back in the day. Perspective eh?
Marry your best friend. I did. 33 years now. And never have kids. We didn't. I got fixed at 26. All are friends that had kids are divorced.
Congratulations on your marriage. In your comment are you saying to people that they should not worry about legacy and raising children to become good people on the earth? Sounds like the Peter Pan syndrome.
@@candyxoxo19 Youre reaching
Aman!! I’ve always said this
@@ms.bubs4fun506not really. The purpose of marriage for MOST People is to raise a family which includes having Children. Stop acting like this is a strange concept 😅
I bought the book 📖 and reading this today
did you read the book? how is it?
How is it?
@@lovelydae7455 good so far
Yes.
This implies to every African woman
What a beautiful talk. But what is your opinion of all of these issues today? Are there changes or still the same? What is your innermost desire regarding these very issues at this point in time? Would you like to redress these issues again?
A talk like this in continuum will help to blur the issues of border and prosper the relationship across borders and different mostly when it is given by a man of high intellect like you. Thanks for the talk and do not relent your efforts.
So what does that mean? I have no clue seriously.
The truth
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This title is click bait... Great talk, but I'm slightly disappointed.
I agree
Why the disappointment?
It's the name of his book.
Shawnelle Martineaux I understand. The title was misleading though. Perhaps he answers the question “is marriage for white people” in the book, because he doesn’t give a clear answer in this talk.
A more suiting title for his talk may have been “The role of marriage in our society & how time, history, & context shape our decisions about marriage” or “Marriage in America over the years - my mix race perspective”. I probably wouldn’t have clicked or watched the video , but that’s my point... A good talk but (to me) the title was misleading.
Porsche Abraham So you were seeking for him to suggest that marriage is a western institution? Lmao
Its always Jermaine's fault
7 out of 10 woman unmarried.
3 in 10 unlikely to get married at all.
uhm..you're missing the statistic of the ones who actually are married.
@Anne Day still doesn't say anything about the ones who are married....
By definition, the statistic is stating that 3 out of 10 women are married.
7/10 women being unmarried means that 3/10 are married.
@@AGJ117 whoops 😂
3/10...he didnt miss anything. Of that lot, some are inter racially married. Some are not. Most marry down within the "race".
He lost me in the first 20 seconds, I hate that thing men do when they are scared of their wives.
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"...jail. That's where we warehouse people for whom we don't have an economic use."
Wrong. That's where we warehouse people who have between convicted of felonies. That's fact and that's not the same thing at all.
I think you missed the connection between incarceration and economic opportunity and sustainability. There are too many in jail trying to provide for their families at young ages (18-25) in particular.
Wrong it's where the US sends people and throws them into institutional slavery since chattel slavery is no longer legal.
Many people end up in jail because they cannot provide for their families and so try to do so through criminal means...which is a shadow of economic waste and is an externality. Society pays for producing people who cost others while not compensating them. That waste has been largely created by policies which stymie market freedom...
@@shawnellemartineaux6212 I like to hear more of this
@@shawnellemartineaux6212 most criminals are not providing for families. This is a common fallacy. Most criminals aren’t even living their lives in a familial unit, let alone providing…this is the same demographic that argues loudly against child support and marriage
This is a very poor video. His numbers were wrong by a simple Google search. It seems as if he made up his stats to please one group. Fact checking this video point for point, other than his own personal stories and he would be wrong on everything. Interesting.
Nope. Go check Pew Research stats.
ALL his stats are listed in his book. It takes up HALF the book.
@@shawnellemartineaux6212 He used google to discredit an Ivey Legue professor Jesus Christ.
This guy is something else. He's ridiculously inaccurate and ashamed of his family while using his platform to promote self hate.
Where?
He’s telling the truth. Sit down and listen
Okay so y'all always crying nobody's using self-hate he's telling the truth and I just can't handle it
What does your wife say about his words?
He is telling the truth