i'd like to add that when he says 'white male culture,' he means 'white american male culture.' I'm a white man but I'm from the Czech Republic, and there is not very much culturally that I have in common with white men in America.
Sorry, @r.h.f.6073, I have to call a bit of "self-serving BS" on that comment. The predominant factor of the class is "MALE", and "white male" just connotes "males originally from Europe", many of whom ended up in America. And what is the legacy of "Old World Europe (white male)" history and culture ? Exploitation, colonialism, and slavery -- which was subsequently echoed in the "New World". The Czech Republic, formerly Czecho-Slovakia, formerly a charter member of the Holy Roman Empire, was entirely controlled by "white male" patriarchs of the Catholic Church value-washing of the politics of the Austro-Hungarian empire for centuries ! Ironic, isn't it, that it was the Protestant Reformation that put and end to Catholic Church political hegemony, and which became the basis for escaping religious persecution by daring to move to the New World. Do not think that, as a white Czech male, that you are somehow blissfully innocent of any of the history that has produced the world we have today. Again, the dominant characteristic is simply "male", since patriarchal dominance of politics, economics, culture and society has been a global phenomenon, regardless if the male is or was "white" or not. Reality check, bro !
As the saying goes, "If you want to know what it feels like to get wet, you don't ask a fish". These cultural blind spots are frequently misconstrued as racism... which exacerbates the problem. Also, every culture has its blind spots.
@@denisdaly1708 I believe itll produce the truth is you have multiple viewpoints in open-minded discussion. no scientific reasoning for racism, Sexism... Hmmmm possibly. i've heard some try to use facts about why men are superior at physical activities and other tasks that require aggressiveness
didn;t he say all cultures have blind spots? I believe he said something to that effect. But then went on to say that for THIS CHAT he is addressing those of WHITE MEN.
Ok, I have to disagree. I am a man from Afghanistan.. I was born in Afghanistan, raised and been living here all my life, I am not a white man and have not been around one. In the mean time I see most of what he described as “white man culture” in myself. I leave my emotions out of the way when dealing with something, I am at my most efficient and sharpest when I am alone, I would NEVER ask for directions if I am lost, while being aware that it is wrong and I don’t know why I do it, but still do it.. So I am more than sure it is not about culture of a white man, but I have no idea where it came from...
I agree with you, but I think that it mostly has to do with not 'white men' but rather the 'privileged.' I connect with him on some levels, but I'm definitely not a white man. However, I think you should focus more on his view of how our 'world' is a box and that we need to step outside of that box. It matters less of who you are right now exactly, but more what you want and will be in the future.
thats normal,thats how most men worldwide are,but in the west theres this trend to attribute everything the left sees as bad as being part of white male culture
“The word ‘privilege’ is a hard word for us as white men because we don’t feel privileged.” “There are things we haven’t had to navigate or negotiate or think about that other groups have.” All the comments on this video prove what he is saying about privilege. It’s as if discussing a group of people’s common behaviors observed in different regions of the world is in some way an attack on them. And what’s even more incredible is how dismissive everyone watching this is. One of the very things he discussed! Cultural growth can never begin until people stop trying to explain why they are different from the whole, and start challenging causation of barriers still in existence in today’s world. We all have so many opportunities to take a step back and ponder our perception. This speaker is highly underrated. His self awareness is absolutely incredible. Hats off to him. I would love to probe his thoughts.
The problem is that "privilege" has become the boogeyman for all of society's ills regardless of whether or not it actually applies to any given situation for a specific individual.
So using a couple of disagreements in a youtube comment section as evidence of privilege seems more like confirmation bias lol I find it strange that he implies that white men haven't examined there own culture because I thought thats what critical theory was about.
im from bajo flores argentina i see white children who are drugaddicts in the streets dying how are they privileged ? please where can we get this privilege im pretty sure there also romanian russian brazilian white kids who also need some of that
I love the term "White culture" each European country has 8ts own distinct culture, and within the countries each region has it's own sub culture. I'm sure in America a white guy from new York has a different way of seeing the world than a white guy from Dakota
In using the example of a fish in water that rarely has ro leave the comfort of his environment as a reflection of white male culture. Although some of what he is saying is true of most men, such as the need to "fix" whatever his wife is "talking about", that's pretty universal to men in general.
Down here in South Louisiana we have cajuns, they have a culture all their own. From their accent to how they place their words in a sentence. I love hearing them talk, especially if I am talking to them. They speak Cajun English, it is a really cool sounding accent to me. They are definitely a culture of their own. They are good people, they come from a culture that watches over their own, as we all should. The way they place their words in a sentence differently, it is a very interesting thing to witness. Just thought I would share this information with you as to the cool culture we have in South Louisiana. I know other places have their own special culture, it seem all places do. Later.
Cajuns rock in Louisiana. They don't look at you as a Race but a person. I grew up in New Orleans. I live in NE Louisiana and people here just live like Humans with a few spoil apples in the bunch. A Culture doesn't have to be based on Race but the people you have things in common with.
This isn't negative criticism, simply an addendum to his intentions, but speaking as a POC, to those of you would say "this is so helpful and eye opening", you should watch this video with a person of color and read the comments with them so you can see they percieve it. I'm glad he gave this talk, and I'm glad you've taken something from it, but until you watch it with someone else, the lesson is incomplete.
THANK YOU! I honestly was having a really hard time with conceptualizing how to phrase this idea in the comments. Seeing this really lifted a huge weight off of my shoulders! Thank you so much! But absolutely!
There is no one white culture. I live in the Netherlands, most of us are white, our culture is vastly different to russians or albanians where most people are also white.
@@kidforeverplz That doesn't really help though because there is just as much diversity between disparate "white" cultures as there is between them and every other racial grouping. So why add the "white" modifier in the first place?
@Edwin morgan If he meant Americans then why didn't he say Americans? It sounds like the man in the video is the one engaging in underhanded tactics, not the OP.
I went to a meetup at a bar in Bangkok on my latest birthday, but didn't feel like drinking. Then a white man asked me why I would want to come to a bar if I didn't drink. I told him that it was because I came here alone, and didn't want to walk back to the bus station alone at night when being a bit drunk. He was surprised by my answer and wondered why I was so worried about such a thing. As a man from North America, he must have forgotten that it was pretty dangerous for a girl in a developing country to walk on the street at night, let alone being drunk.
@@icemachine79 What's your point in relation to what I said? I'm just telling her to carry some form of defence like I would my sister or mother. I'm not going to stop advocating that just because you're insecure about how people regard the prevalence of violence in our society.
NO NEED for criticism for this presentation, rather Melanated, european or otherwise...THIS WAS FREAKIN AWESOME! & The number of Dislikes is an Clear indication of exactly what this speakers intended msg was to reveal- IGNORANCE (on all lvls)!
It's not that they dont know, it's the fact that they chooses not to know so when they are confronted they act all oblivious, it's like the oldest trick in the book. Seen it many times and called them out for it.
The obliviousness comes from the idea that they think they have to do something about everything. A cultural misguide that result in false perceptions of life and situations around them.
Did you even listen to the talk? Honestly we aren't aware of many of these privileges. You should be more open minded and empathetic. The speaker even said that most people assume we are aware and you're just confirming this.
Hi, sending Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤️ this touched my heart and put tears in my eyes, thank you for speaking out thise words of love words of truth words of life
White people need to embrace the positives of their culture instead of only the negatives. White people are the only group that seem to want to self destruct.
As a white master, and I dont just mean over other races but also within the white race, I played this video on mute.....looking out my windows on the 100th floor, across the vast lands I dominate. How magical.
Honestly across the USA if you have a corporate job or basically any job that you can be promoted in it is better to be a self supporting individual rather than being “weak” and needing others help.
@@Michael-st9ky HAHAHAH. California people are unique? Do you consider fakeness and being shallow as unique? You people only allow one viewpoint and bastardize all others in ever aspect. If there was one state that was "team player" it would be commiefornia. Maybe diversity of appearance but definitely not diversity of opinion.
If some of you actually listened to what he was saying, the only problem you'd have is the part of what he's saying that you identify with. None of us like changing. None of us wanna feel wrong. But if you're wrong, you're wrong. Is it wrong to be your white selves? Absolutely not. Is the system that was created to benefit you wrong? Absolutely. Should you listen to the issues of people, that don't look like you, that are affected by this system? Yes. I served this country, and fought for the constitution, knowing damn well that the constitution wasn't written with me in mind. The line that said "all men are created equal" didn't mean me. That was when we were considered 3/5 human. Understanding that may lead some of you to understand that our reality has been different from yours from the start. Once you get that, and realize we just wanna be treated the same way the world treats you, maybe you wouldn't be so mad. But who am I, right?
@@EugeniusTay Yes, because you speak as though nothing has changed in the past 232 years. We already know the Constitution was exclusionary to a LOT of folks. But that's why Amendments were added over the past 200 years including several that directly addressed its racial disparities. The system was changed to include you long before you were born.
> Understanding that may lead some of you to understand that our reality has been different from yours from the start Dude, you have experienced the ONE and the ONLY reality - your own. > That was when we were considered 3/5 human You have never be considered 3/5 human. So why we? Are you a real person, an individual or just avatar of numeros generations that lived and died ages ago?
No balls... In love, infatuated with the trendy cultural marxism. Blinded with the indefensible "critical race theory" and the manufacture of racial crisis.
This is the kind of message that will start to heal this country. I really appreciate his ability to self-reflect to reach a new level of understanding of other people in this world. Thank you sir! We must all self-reflect and try to make this world a better place for all of us. The survival of the human race is what's at stake.
I'm a white male... and I dont feel like I owe anybody anything because if it. I've never received any preferential treatment bc of my skin tone. Wht cant people be judged in their character and actions instead of appearance?
"The survival of the human race is what's at stake" Nah, population doubles every 50 years, 4 billion, 8 billion, next jump 16 billion. We are unstoppable.
I have always said why don't people look at a person for themselves, life is fragile, and stop seeing people through what you think they are or you have heard they were.
When I was in group encounters a couple of decade ago, I brought up the idea of "don't gossip about the incoming person" it taints me toward them even before I have met them... Is this wrong, or right?
@@mr.horrorchild4094 The goal with Critical Race Theorists is achieve a revolution and usher in a social utopia. I for one welcome our new communist overlords - I hope I get a nice and cozy cell in the gulag!
To everyone saying there is no “white culture” I believe he’s using the word “culture” in a different sense, not in the way a certain ethnic group does. Its in the way people would say something like “campus culture” in reference to a college, i.e. a shared way of life/mindset of people in the same place. So he’s referring to White *American* male “culture”
Some things are _just_ a point of view. Other things are _absurdly obvious._ Some people seem unable, or unwilling, to understand the difference or even to know there is one.
I have met many kind-hearted Anglosaxons but the many Anglosaxons who are putting up a rugged, “rational”, “stoicly no feelings” front in denial of their own vulnerabilities while unfairly transferring their frustrations and fears unto others are just one of the hardest groups of people to wake up.
Ok I don't get the other comments on here. I agree with everything that was said as a white Male myself. I personally believe I have been able to step out of the box of what my culture is many times with a simple resolution that I think all people of all backgrounds should at least attempt to do and that is try putting yourself in others shoes. If you don't understand where they're coming from then ask questions. You can never learn and improve your understanding of things if you don't ask. Doesn't mean that you are a different person just that you are a more informed one. I think all people should watch this and just think about why others feel the way they do.
Mitch Butcher and that's why Africans in America are more educated and attain higher professions and more degrees than whites here. That's pathetic considering you're the majority.
As I listen to this dissertation I started thinking about how many times I had to check my emotions, hatred, and disbelief of white people at the door to be able to give my family a fighting chance in a world of white culture. I surely hope that the world play attention to this video because it did make me feel like the world can be better for all.
Yeah white people are the only ones that FEEL that they can enjoy other cultures but all other "minorities" can't get in and enjoy white cultures without being marginalized. White people are born thinking their superior and don't realize it
@@allinspiriation6140 "Whites are born thinking THEY'RE superior...and don't realize it!" So we think we're superior, but we're unaware we think it? What?! Can you start making sense now, please?
@@jaydamalley3398 Yes it's downloaded. The way you carry yourself around police officers Job interviews Gun ranges You can walk around with privilege. (You live like your above judgement and scrutiny) and honestly white people are above judgement in society
@@jaydamalley3398 they could of phase this better but if you have to actively step back to see how world views you you are privilege and the being born part is wrong but at an early age the same reason why young minorities just think they less than is exactly why whites think they more than, if you grow up seeing idols depicting people who look like you ad when they depict others in minor roles or as separate entities where they are focus you have no choice but to try when you get older to mentality reeducate oneself on the privilege nature of ones life.
He does point out some key issues which people may have heard before. The message may have been heard before, but do they actually listen and put it to practice or just ignore it.
We are all exposed to politicization and agendas in much of the communication we experience, but I think this speaker is trying to bring awareness and to expand consciousness for those white men who could benefit. Having said that I would like him to make the the point in future talks that ALL majority cultures have privilege. Go to Japan. Go to China. Go to Somalia. You will find very strong cultural assumptions in all these places based on the fact that the majority culture's norms are like the air that people breathe. Adding this context would help lessen the element of judgement that always shadows this discussion.
He addressing white males specifically because he sharing his experience and perception as a white male. Damn the white mans ego is dangerous and diabolical. SMH
Yes, spread that self-hatred and guilt-ridden masochism as the bloody road for Marxists to trod upon to the [clearly] yet untested road of Communism! Teach other cultures to hate themselves and to turn one another in to the State to be re-educated! Once everyone is of the hive mind there will finally be peace. Right?
@@edwinamendelssohn5129 Minorities face even harder struggles when it comes to the other 'isms'. We hear about the white working class even though minorities are poorer on average. Nobody said it's about life being 'easy'. If you're in the 1st world, that's already a big slice of luck.
Thanks for sharing 'white' culture too! Good or great that you mention that we have cultural biases. We all have them and glad I recognize my biases, but not act out on any discrimination. Good talk.
The Most High separated us all for a reason! Using that separateness to ignore or belittle others is where the trouble lies. White men are unaware of their culture? I beg to differ! They know exactly who they are just like all of the rest of us do. It's not a hidden fact! If he's just come to a realization it's because he was asleep in ignorance. We all wake up and look in the mirror and see "me." Problem is others tend not to see others as clearly! 'Nouph said...I'm out.
15:48:00 mins -How come that love did not give back that stolen land and share the wealth as a result of the invasion of Azania? The majority of the indigenoous people living in extreme poverty in their own land while the invaders live in luxury.
I do little else but examine my own "white" culture. It's so enormous, so many-storied, so full of beauty and horror, wisdom and error, violence and love, selfishness and sacrifice, hope and sadness - so full of everything, in short, which makes up this vast tapestry of human life - that I doubt I'll ever finish.
I'll give this guy credit for trying to open the minds of those that want them to remain close.There is understandings to many gang lifestyles which usually happens by members in these gangs caring ONLY about what the gang wants, did you hear me, "They Care Only About WHAT THE GANG WANTS! Even though when they're alone they know they're doing wrong they refuse to accept what they know is true because the idea of being on top trumps your safety and your rights!
11:48 - "Privilege is not something that I chose... others assume that we, as White men, know about our privilege, and that we see it. And they assume that we just don't care, or want to hoard our privilege, so they attribute negative intent unto that privilege." -Michael Welp
this has given me some insight into the male cultivated mindset. We all come from our culture and learn things that need to be unlearned such as auto-responses. We all feel that is the beauty of an individual. We are all many parts helpful in the world and harmful. Take down the roadblocks to unity because we are not born with them, just look at how children play
Its all a spiritual journey y'all. He has been able to do shadow work and face the traits that he has been conditioned to exhibit. When we were all babies, we didn't give af about race or anything like that. It was LEARNED. Please love yourself to know that you CAN change and be a better person. I see alot of comments saying " but ALL cultures need to improve... etc" "but ALL people blah blah blah". The man even mentioned that in the video that everyone has work to do but he is speaking to the experience he knows - as a white man himself. Of course, if someone chooses to misunderstand, they will miss the point. It's on YOU to accept what resonated with you but just have an open heart. You know how much of a relief it is to feel that even if someone doesn't know you, they will do there best to connect with you from the heart? No matter the race? That's what HUEmans need. Let your ego shrink a lil bit and understand he wasn't attacking you, he was speaking from the heart. Anyways, real ones know wassup. Peace.
Doing wrong is not under a unique header of skin color. This is so ridiculous to even attempt to explain. What's cogent here is politics. That's where the smell is coming from. @Unfinished Business
As a white female I have learned my culture from the predjuges of coloured people.i thank them because I have become stronger. I also have learned most about my self from my relationship with God .
Love what's being done here but we need to dive deeper. The point of diversity is not to help 'other races' or incentivize learning through personal gain - the point of diversity is to accept the inevitable, to learn more and find a genuine connection with differences in order to better our collective community as a whole. This is a great start, but does not quite get to the meat of the issue, which is the lack of questions being asked, and the genuine interest to learn more. As a white male you come from a position of power, and it's difficult not to elect yourself as the leader in charge of change. I do agree that it is the responsibility of those with certain privileges to use that platform to expose certain biases - let's just make sure that this doesn't become the only end goal. We do not need heroes, we need empaths.
_"The issue is a lack of questions being asked"_ And then you just assert white men come from a position of power. Have you - by any chance - ever 'questioned' that claim?
@@jaydamalley3398 This is my point - when we only frame conversations to the benefit of the majority, we lose sight of the minority (ya know- the portion that makes diversity) more questions need to be asked pertaining to diverse experiences - we have history books that answer a plethora of cis-gen white male questions.
dont forget race and gender, but dont let it be your god. look at someone more than just who they are physically. look at them as a being with sentiance.
Treat others as you would like to be treated. That's all that's necessary. Some might try to make it seem like rocket science or that we need new laws and new regulations, just stop conning people. Treat others as you would like to be treated. Problem solved.
I might suggest a modification, "Treat others as they would like to be treated." That can remove assumptions about my way being the right way of seeing the world and also help me listen to and honor other people's experience.
@@4thblindmouse I get what you're saying Kurt but let's make this simple for everyone, let's all treat each other with respect, empathy, care, and love. Can't we agree that those are universal things that everyone wants.
@@4thblindmouse I would like to be treated better than you. Please ensure that you bow to me when we meet, and preface your conversations to me with the affirmation that Jesus Christ is Lord.
Mr. Welp. I am very impressed with your sermon. It allows me to focus on the character traits of white men that is and always have been imperfection. I still believe many white men accept "Priviledge" as a right, not a flaw in his character. Mostly I believe 95 % if all the white men who listened to this will give it less than 5% of his time to reflect on it. SAD.
Racists like you are why no one takes this pseudo-scientific nonsense seriously, thanks for the helpful reminder that people who think of races as collectives are just bigots.
I have to admit that I am grateful to be white.....and 6'4".....and blonde......and blue eyed.....and a good business man.....and smart......and making a good living......and always having a good woman......what else should I be?
So... you believe that being a white man makes you invincible? Okay... first of all, yes, women FEEL less safe going places at night, and you FEEL safe doing so. Now you can feel all kinds of ways about something, but your feelings are not necessarily reflective of reality. So there is a question needing asked, that you've not asked of yourself. Are you actually as safe as you feel, and are women actually in as much danger as they feel? Also, if not, then what has led you to feel this way? You see, the reality is that the most likely crime to occur against someone walking alone at night is a mugging, and the majority of muggings target men. YOU are actually in the greater danger in this scenario. But you didn't know that did you? You didn't actually look at the stats, I did. That's how I know. So, what has led you to believe otherwise, what has inflated women's fears and deprived you of the knowledge of the dangers you face?
nice comment. What you said is true, but your side-stepping the actual conversation here. Whats actually factualyl true here with stats isn't relevant to the focus of this conversation. This conversation is about how different groups of people feel, looking at various cultures. Its harder to grasp because its less tangible, but yeah try watching it again dude.
@@washburnandtheriver4607 And my point is if you think people feeling this way is a problem in need of solving, tell them the damn truth so they know to feel differently. Instead, to give an example, rather than tell women they actually don't have to feel so panicked about going to the car at night, we instead have people who inflate those fears, intentionally. Why? Well, because people who are afraid look for solutions to their fears, and the people peddling the fear also often peddle the "solution", which of course usually comes in the form of, "you need to get on board with this project or political position, I am pushing". That is the whole bit, the whole gimmick, in its entirety, laid bare for all to see. And yet, I already know many will refuse to see it for what it is.
Great points made here, especially when he said something like, “I realized that when I said I treat everyone the same, others hear that they need to fit into my cultural box.”
I appreciate where he’s attempting to go with this, but I don’t think anyone should speak on behalf of others. I’m fairly certain there are plenty of cultures with men who are taught not to cry and don’t ask for directions. I also know women who don’t need to make excuses for not coming to meetings-they’re either resourceful in different ways, or just as willing to get in a cab. That said, if this made anyone willing to look at internal misconceptions, prejudices, etc. then I applaud his attempts to get “it” right.
We can take any conversation and manipulate it as we see fit. I think you know the difference between 1 person getting on TH-cam and a country voting for representatives.
@@jordancritic4475 this man has a PHd and he is offering an idea of how to experience people outside of your culture. It either resonates with you or not. Tedx might not be the right place for you.
He’s literally saying all “white” people think the same and act the same which is definitely not true. “White” American does not have the same as culture as German, Russian, Hungary etc... culture. Just like African Americans don’t have the same culture as African culture or Malaysian culture etc... just because u have the same skin complexion don’t make u think the same and act the same.
white men huh? not diverse enough for you? or did he mean ALL white men of scotish, english, dutch, german, swiss, french, swedish, norwegian, russian, polish decent? seems like a bit of a generalization don't ya think... the self hate is unreal
Actually, my 30 years work experience, in a multicultural environment, was the opposite of what you are saying. We were working together, having lunch together and few times a year taking a beer together after work. Yes, there were some people who decided to have lunch with people from their communities, but that was their own choice, not because they were excluded from the bigger multicultural group.
Did you watch more than the first five minutes? He was talking about south africa when talking about the lunches. I would hope we are not like the people who just ended apartheid
He speaks of diversity. Every culture is different. If you believe diversity is a good thing and you want people to respect it then respect the values of other countries. If other societies don't agree with diversity then respect their values and dont force your values on them
i'd like to add that when he says 'white male culture,' he means 'white american male culture.' I'm a white man but I'm from the Czech Republic, and there is not very much culturally that I have in common with white men in America.
Critical Race Theory is confusing. Just leave your brain at the door and it's best not to ask any questions.
Sorry, @r.h.f.6073, I have to call a bit of "self-serving BS" on that comment. The predominant factor of the class is "MALE", and "white male" just connotes "males originally from Europe", many of whom ended up in America. And what is the legacy of "Old World Europe (white male)" history and culture ? Exploitation, colonialism, and slavery -- which was subsequently echoed in the "New World". The Czech Republic, formerly Czecho-Slovakia, formerly a charter member of the Holy Roman Empire, was entirely controlled by "white male" patriarchs of the Catholic Church value-washing of the politics of the Austro-Hungarian empire for centuries ! Ironic, isn't it, that it was the Protestant Reformation that put and end to Catholic Church political hegemony, and which became the basis for escaping religious persecution by daring to move to the New World. Do not think that, as a white Czech male, that you are somehow blissfully innocent of any of the history that has produced the world we have today. Again, the dominant characteristic is simply "male", since patriarchal dominance of politics, economics, culture and society has been a global phenomenon, regardless if the male is or was "white" or not. Reality check, bro !
As the saying goes, "If you want to know what it feels like to get wet, you don't ask a fish". These cultural blind spots are frequently misconstrued as racism... which exacerbates the problem. Also, every culture has its blind spots.
This is why openness and conversation are key. great quote
They produce racism though. And sexism as well.
@@denisdaly1708 I believe itll produce the truth is you have multiple viewpoints in open-minded discussion. no scientific reasoning for racism, Sexism... Hmmmm possibly. i've heard some try to use facts about why men are superior at physical activities and other tasks that require aggressiveness
didn;t he say all cultures have blind spots? I believe he said something to that effect. But then went on to say that for THIS CHAT he is addressing those of WHITE MEN.
You just illuminated your blind spot.
Ok, I have to disagree.
I am a man from Afghanistan..
I was born in Afghanistan, raised and been living here all my life, I am not a white man and have not been around one. In the mean time I see most of what he described as “white man culture” in myself.
I leave my emotions out of the way when dealing with something, I am at my most efficient and sharpest when I am alone, I would NEVER ask for directions if I am lost, while being aware that it is wrong and I don’t know why I do it, but still do it.. So I am more than sure it is not about culture of a white man, but I have no idea where it came from...
I agree with you, but I think that it mostly has to do with not 'white men' but rather the 'privileged.' I connect with him on some levels, but I'm definitely not a white man. However, I think you should focus more on his view of how our 'world' is a box and that we need to step outside of that box.
It matters less of who you are right now exactly, but more what you want and will be in the future.
wendy Zhang well said
The USA has decided that white men are the only people that should take responsibility for anything. Everyone else gets to blame someone else.
thats normal,thats how most men worldwide are,but in the west theres this trend to attribute everything the left sees as bad as being part of white male culture
@@wendyzhang3190 he from afghanistan how privileged u think he gon be
“The word ‘privilege’ is a hard word for us as white men because we don’t feel privileged.”
“There are things we haven’t had to navigate or negotiate or think about that other groups have.”
All the comments on this video prove what he is saying about privilege. It’s as if discussing a group of people’s common behaviors observed in different regions of the world is in some way an attack on them. And what’s even more incredible is how dismissive everyone watching this is. One of the very things he discussed!
Cultural growth can never begin until people stop trying to explain why they are different from the whole, and start challenging causation of barriers still in existence in today’s world. We all have so many opportunities to take a step back and ponder our perception.
This speaker is highly underrated. His self awareness is absolutely incredible. Hats off to him. I would love to probe his thoughts.
The problem is that "privilege" has become the boogeyman for all of society's ills regardless of whether or not it actually applies to any given situation for a specific individual.
So using a couple of disagreements in a youtube comment section as evidence of privilege seems more like confirmation bias lol I find it strange that he implies that white men haven't examined there own culture because I thought thats what critical theory was about.
im from bajo flores argentina i see white children who are drugaddicts in the streets dying how are they privileged ? please where can we get this privilege im pretty sure there also romanian russian brazilian white kids who also need some of that
I love the term "White culture" each European country has 8ts own distinct culture, and within the countries each region has it's own sub culture. I'm sure in America a white guy from new York has a different way of seeing the world than a white guy from Dakota
Make it plural then if it bothers you that much.
@@kidforeverplz great reply. Thanks
@Trelise' Avery-Moore perspective of different groups shape the culture
In using the example of a fish in water that rarely has ro leave the comfort of his environment as a reflection of white male culture.
Although some of what he is saying is true of most men, such as the need to "fix" whatever his wife is "talking about", that's pretty universal to men in general.
shark wolf Your statements cite a difference without a significant meaning. Wasn’t worth your time to write it.
Just hang out with people from different cultures; it's pretty easy to realize you have your own culture when you're surrounded by somebody else's lol
You think that would be common sense, but I guess not🤷 And alot of the things he named as "White culture" just sounded like men stereotypes.
Down here in South Louisiana we have cajuns, they have a culture all their own. From their accent to how they place their words in a sentence. I love hearing them talk, especially if I am talking to them. They speak Cajun English, it is a really cool sounding accent to me. They are definitely a culture of their own. They are good people, they come from a culture that watches over their own, as we all should. The way they place their words in a sentence differently, it is a very interesting thing to witness. Just thought I would share this information with you as to the cool culture we have in South Louisiana. I know other places have their own special culture, it seem all places do. Later.
Cajuns rock in Louisiana. They don't look at you as a Race but a person. I grew up in New Orleans. I live in NE Louisiana and people here just live like Humans with a few spoil apples in the bunch. A Culture doesn't have to be based on Race but the people you have things in common with.
Exactly why diversity is so important
@@Dreadlock1227 ew no.
This isn't negative criticism, simply an addendum to his intentions, but speaking as a POC, to those of you would say "this is so helpful and eye opening", you should watch this video with a person of color and read the comments with them so you can see they percieve it. I'm glad he gave this talk, and I'm glad you've taken something from it, but until you watch it with someone else, the lesson is incomplete.
WORD!!!
@@JhutaNabi !a
My point still remains. I try to be friends with everyone and the minorities are the ones that seem to not want to be friends.
nope nope nope how else do you explain cruelty?
THANK YOU! I honestly was having a really hard time with conceptualizing how to phrase this idea in the comments. Seeing this really lifted a huge weight off of my shoulders! Thank you so much! But absolutely!
There is no one white culture. I live in the Netherlands, most of us are white, our culture is vastly different to russians or albanians where most people are also white.
Same with all other colors. Just say "white cultures" if it makes you feel better.
BINGO
@@kidforeverplz That doesn't really help though because there is just as much diversity between disparate "white" cultures as there is between them and every other racial grouping. So why add the "white" modifier in the first place?
@Edwin morgan If he meant Americans then why didn't he say Americans? It sounds like the man in the video is the one engaging in underhanded tactics, not the OP.
@Edwin morgan Yes, you do have a prodigious lack of critical reasoning.
I went to a meetup at a bar in Bangkok on my latest birthday, but didn't feel like drinking. Then a white man asked me why I would want to come to a bar if I didn't drink. I told him that it was because I came here alone, and didn't want to walk back to the bus station alone at night when being a bit drunk. He was surprised by my answer and wondered why I was so worried about such a thing. As a man from North America, he must have forgotten that it was pretty dangerous for a girl in a developing country to walk on the street at night, let alone being drunk.
@@icemachine79 I would still carry pepper spray or a taser if legal.
@@icemachine79 What's your point in relation to what I said? I'm just telling her to carry some form of defence like I would my sister or mother. I'm not going to stop advocating that just because you're insecure about how people regard the prevalence of violence in our society.
@@icemachine79 mhm, I respectfully disagree with b) otherwise you wouldn't have felt the need to sound off with that lil' factoid
@@icemachine79 tldr
You shouldn’t have told him you were alone; you leave yourself pretty vulnerable that way
NO NEED for criticism for this presentation, rather Melanated, european or otherwise...THIS WAS FREAKIN AWESOME! & The number of Dislikes is an Clear indication of exactly what this speakers intended msg was to reveal- IGNORANCE (on all lvls)!
It's not that they dont know, it's the fact that they chooses not to know so when they are confronted they act all oblivious, it's like the oldest trick in the book. Seen it many times and called them out for it.
facts and truth spoken here
I definitely approve of your message - the truth.
Willful ignorance.
The obliviousness comes from the idea that they think they have to do something about everything. A cultural misguide that result in false perceptions of life and situations around them.
Did you even listen to the talk? Honestly we aren't aware of many of these privileges. You should be more open minded and empathetic. The speaker even said that most people assume we are aware and you're just confirming this.
Hi, sending Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤️ this touched my heart and put tears in my eyes, thank you for speaking out thise words of love words of truth words of life
It's clear from most of these comments, that there is still a lot of work to do.
Amazon Prime stop drinking cow's milk
Not an argument
What kind of work?
@@janisrogers4934 work on understanding whats happening, why its working and who wins if nothing changes
White people need to embrace the positives of their culture instead of only the negatives. White people are the only group that seem to want to self destruct.
As a white master, and I dont just mean over other races but also within the white race, I played this video on mute.....looking out my windows on the 100th floor, across the vast lands I dominate.
How magical.
Lmao yes i quite often do the same but i always have a bottle of good scotch.
🤣🤣🤣😈
Lmmfao...what's the intention of such a commentary response???
So funny
@@karebear9827 he's giving you an insight into the life of the average white man. This is how we live.
This was a very helpful video. I appreciate that I never felt gas-lighted or condemned. We need more talks like this. I am thankful for TEDx Talks.
Yes, we do. I hope, though, that most people here agree that the identity politics need to go.
@@BythepeopleForthepeople203 e
I love this comment 🥰
Lol indeed..self hate is real when you get to be on Tedx lol
@@BythepeopleForthepeople203 Well said!
Thank you so much for this, Michael. I hope and pray that this won't look like a secret in 2024. It takes white men to stand up and tell "it".
Sorry for going off at a tangent, but how well does your culture balance being "a rugged individualist" and being "a team player"?
In the USA, it Depends on your state, but here in California is extremely on the side of individualism and uniqueness
Honestly across the USA if you have a corporate job or basically any job that you can be promoted in it is better to be a self supporting individual rather than being “weak” and needing others help.
Not well. We are poor team players. That's one of the reasons COVID 19 is out of control here. Some say, "It's my right not to wear a mask."
@@Michael-st9ky HAHAHAH. California people are unique? Do you consider fakeness and being shallow as unique? You people only allow one viewpoint and bastardize all others in ever aspect. If there was one state that was "team player" it would be commiefornia. Maybe diversity of appearance but definitely not diversity of opinion.
@@Matt-ro7cb based
His comment is right on about that his view of the world is wrong, it's just incomplete. That could be said of all of us.
Indeed
Amen!
True dat!
If some of you actually listened to what he was saying, the only problem you'd have is the part of what he's saying that you identify with. None of us like changing. None of us wanna feel wrong. But if you're wrong, you're wrong. Is it wrong to be your white selves? Absolutely not. Is the system that was created to benefit you wrong? Absolutely. Should you listen to the issues of people, that don't look like you, that are affected by this system? Yes. I served this country, and fought for the constitution, knowing damn well that the constitution wasn't written with me in mind. The line that said "all men are created equal" didn't mean me. That was when we were considered 3/5 human. Understanding that may lead some of you to understand that our reality has been different from yours from the start. Once you get that, and realize we just wanna be treated the same way the world treats you, maybe you wouldn't be so mad. But who am I, right?
I really love your comment. I honestly never thought of this issue from that perspective in its entirety. You just shifted my paradigm.
You were alive when the Constitution was written?
@@icemachine79 Out of everything I said, that's the question you had?
@@EugeniusTay Yes, because you speak as though nothing has changed in the past 232 years. We already know the Constitution was exclusionary to a LOT of folks. But that's why Amendments were added over the past 200 years including several that directly addressed its racial disparities. The system was changed to include you long before you were born.
> Understanding that may lead some of you to understand that our reality has been different from yours from the start
Dude, you have experienced the ONE and the ONLY reality - your own.
> That was when we were considered 3/5 human
You have never be considered 3/5 human. So why we? Are you a real person, an individual or just avatar of numeros generations that lived and died ages ago?
This is incredibly insightful
No balls... In love, infatuated with the trendy cultural marxism. Blinded with the indefensible "critical race theory" and the manufacture of racial crisis.
Everything that has ever happened to me,
has changed my life, and transformed me
into the man I am today.
He gets it. Bravo! This video should have MILLIONS of views!
@Islam is cancer he gets what your feeble mind couldn't pick up on. You willful ignorance is showing.
TheKayleeanna they would rather kill him dead than to examine them selves period🤔
@Islam is cancer You still didn't get a definitive answer from these peeps... Deflection seems to be all they can muster. :/
This is the kind of message that will start to heal this country. I really appreciate his ability to self-reflect to reach a new level of understanding of other people in this world. Thank you sir! We must all self-reflect and try to make this world a better place for all of us. The survival of the human race is what's at stake.
I totally agree with you..the ultimate human test is the acceptance is seeing the self in each other.
I'm a white male... and I dont feel like I owe anybody anything because if it. I've never received any preferential treatment bc of my skin tone. Wht cant people be judged in their character and actions instead of appearance?
Uh no, it’s gonna do the opposite or at least nothing helpful. Trust me.
this planet would be better off without the human race..
"The survival of the human race is what's at stake"
Nah, population doubles every 50 years, 4 billion, 8 billion, next jump 16 billion. We are unstoppable.
I have always said why don't people look at a person for themselves, life is fragile, and stop seeing people through what you think they are or you have heard they were.
You mean like 'white' or 'privileged'?
dont forget about race and gender, but dont let it be your god
So true.
When I was in group encounters a couple of decade ago, I brought up the idea of "don't gossip about the incoming person" it taints me toward them even before I have met them... Is this wrong, or right?
we all need to come together and try to understand each other
There are successful people, and then there are people who want the successful people to question their success.
Why would I want to be questioned about my success? Please answer, I want to know.
Thank you for sharing this! Many times, individuals just don't know how to start the conversation of race, privilege and bias.
Why would you start it and with whom? To what end? what are you hoping to achieve?
@@mr.horrorchild4094 The goal with Critical Race Theorists is achieve a revolution and usher in a social utopia. I for one welcome our new communist overlords - I hope I get a nice and cozy cell in the gulag!
To everyone saying there is no “white culture” I believe he’s using the word “culture” in a different sense, not in the way a certain ethnic group does. Its in the way people would say something like “campus culture” in reference to a college, i.e. a shared way of life/mindset of people in the same place. So he’s referring to White *American* male “culture”
Tareya Eason it has BECOME a culture...
then a progressive white guy from the Vermont shares the same mindset than a white conservative guy from the Mississippi ?
we can't buy this.
Yes. Vermont and Missisippi are the same in the way you can move move through life in thar culture of privilege. Notice I said nothing about race....
Timeless!
Love this! I feel this is what America needs right now. Opening up! And being willing to listen when they open up! Thank you for sharing this!
All InOne 123w
@@icemachine79You are not brave to hear the truth so you are actually part of the “choir”.
It would be a good idea to take this program to the congressmen on the hill. What the top is filtering down is destroying our country. God help us.
He's a nice man.
So gullible 😂
the first organ of creation in the womb, is the heart
love is, the greatest force, for change
🤔🤔🤔
Today I learned one white man s peaks on behalf of all white men, 10/10 talk.
And not all white men agree. Not saying he is wrong.. Saying he is way to sissy.
lol keep watching it until it starts to make sense, give it time, dont give up!
There are people who act as if their point of view is absolute reality. -- which to me is the ultimate in authoritarianism and arrogance!!!
So called 'white' people are sooo obsessed with their pink colour.
Is he acting that way? Or is that YOUR perception of it... ask yourself why his point of view is so unbelievable to you.....
Some things are _just_ a point of view. Other things are _absurdly obvious._
Some people seem unable, or unwilling, to understand the difference or even to know there is one.
Kasnar Burns You sounds to me that you are a closed minded White guy.🤔
Great talk Michael.
I have met many kind-hearted Anglosaxons but the many Anglosaxons who are putting up a rugged, “rational”, “stoicly no feelings” front in denial of their own vulnerabilities while unfairly transferring their frustrations and fears unto others are just one of the hardest groups of people to wake up.
This was an EXCELLENT TALK! I appreciate his willingness to dive deep into himself.
white democrats have always oppressed minorities
@@JohnDavid-vh3rn this has nothing to do with democrats. It's about different cultures and how they affect people of different diversities.
Do you dive deep into yourself?
“Invisible culture box” “unconscious bias”... said a mouthful right there!!!!
Ok I don't get the other comments on here. I agree with everything that was said as a white Male myself. I personally believe I have been able to step out of the box of what my culture is many times with a simple resolution that I think all people of all backgrounds should at least attempt to do and that is try putting yourself in others shoes. If you don't understand where they're coming from then ask questions. You can never learn and improve your understanding of things if you don't ask. Doesn't mean that you are a different person just that you are a more informed one. I think all people should watch this and just think about why others feel the way they do.
Cause you're a human being? It isn't because you're a white male, it's because of who you are as an individual.
Skool Wifi you are not well informed 😌
Jon Mitchell it's just white guys like fixing problems ???
@@rykson161 they like believing they can fix problems. Thats all men not just white!
@@mobstamaniac Clever alt right, white nationalist tactics.
What a courageous man to do so much self reflection and to teach his messages to others. Truly moving.
Natalie Mclaughlin but how many will learn from him? 🤔
@@deevahlyshus are you open to learning? Or just looking one way?
@@edwinamendelssohn5129 your comment is laughable 🤣
@@deevahlyshus it's an honest question.
south Africa today has one of the highest murder rates in Africa, high child death rates, wild income inequality.
aka the inmates are running the asylum
What's your point?
Mitch Butcher and that's why Africans in America are more educated and attain higher professions and more degrees than whites here. That's pathetic considering you're the majority.
Gregory Francois white ppl are more entrepreneurial. They own the busineses these ppl get the degrees for.
African on African crime?
cool story
As I listen to this dissertation I started thinking about how many times I had to check my emotions, hatred, and disbelief of white people at the door to be able to give my family a fighting chance in a world of white culture. I surely hope that the world play attention to this video because it did make me feel like the world can be better for all.
Great talk.. Humility.. .. He's a learner and genuinely cares about being a better human being
Most white people don't care. They just enjoy power and gaslighting everyone.
The people that don’t get it, never will. They don’t want to.
Likewise you are lost in your own ideological hall of mirrors.
@@iankclark sounds like the Trump administration and all of its cohorts!
@Jack Percy You guys sound like religious ideologues. You know that, right? You can't handle any questioning of your beliefs.
I don't think there is one "White American culture" nor do all White Americans belong to a culture with European origins.
Yeah white people are the only ones that FEEL that they can enjoy other cultures but all other "minorities" can't get in and enjoy white cultures without being marginalized. White people are born thinking their superior and don't realize it
@@allinspiriation6140 "Whites are born thinking THEY'RE superior...and don't realize it!"
So we think we're superior, but we're unaware we think it? What?!
Can you start making sense now, please?
@@jaydamalley3398 Yes it's downloaded. The way you carry yourself around police officers
Job interviews
Gun ranges
You can walk around with privilege. (You live like your above judgement and scrutiny) and honestly white people are above judgement in society
@@jaydamalley3398 they could of phase this better but if you have to actively step back to see how world views you you are privilege and the being born part is wrong but at an early age the same reason why young minorities just think they less than is exactly why whites think they more than, if you grow up seeing idols depicting people who look like you ad when they depict others in minor roles or as separate entities where they are focus you have no choice but to try when you get older to mentality reeducate oneself on the privilege nature of ones life.
@@allinspiriation6140 ok Karen
Great speaker. Great human being.
He does point out some key issues which people may have heard before. The message may have been heard before, but do they actually listen and put it to practice or just ignore it.
We are all exposed to politicization and agendas in much of the communication we experience, but I think this speaker is trying to bring awareness and to expand consciousness for those white men who could benefit. Having said that I would like him to make the the point in future talks that ALL majority cultures have privilege. Go to Japan. Go to China. Go to Somalia. You will find very strong cultural assumptions in all these places based on the fact that the majority culture's norms are like the air that people breathe. Adding this context would help lessen the element of judgement that always shadows this discussion.
He addressing white males specifically because he sharing his experience and perception as a white male. Damn the white mans ego is dangerous and diabolical. SMH
Yes, spread that self-hatred and guilt-ridden masochism as the bloody road for Marxists to trod upon to the [clearly] yet untested road of Communism! Teach other cultures to hate themselves and to turn one another in to the State to be re-educated! Once everyone is of the hive mind there will finally be peace. Right?
@@kinyunjarmon8575 it’s more fragile than glass.
What he called different experience we know as struggle
William Stewart cuz it isn’t itchy to you.
Aman AND I WILL SECOND THAT MOTION☑️
And no white men struggle? And please don't say not due to race. That's determining that one struggle is worse than another.
@@edwinamendelssohn5129 Minorities face even harder struggles when it comes to the other 'isms'. We hear about the white working class even though minorities are poorer on average. Nobody said it's about life being 'easy'. If you're in the 1st world, that's already a big slice of luck.
@@patrickobannon8924 where's you evidence?
Powerful.
Thanks for sharing 'white' culture too! Good or great that you mention that we have cultural biases. We all have them and glad I recognize my biases, but not act out on any discrimination.
Good talk.
Loved it. I particularly liked how you articulated a White Male Culture. That's a great way to frame the whole diversity discussion.
John Malkovich under cover!! Busted!!
MrBabujinga 🤭really?
Oh wow!
It's a positive start.
The Most High separated us all for a reason! Using that separateness to ignore or belittle others is where the trouble lies. White men are unaware of their culture? I beg to differ! They know exactly who they are just like all of the rest of us do. It's not a hidden fact! If he's just come to a realization it's because he was asleep in ignorance. We all wake up and look in the mirror and see "me."
Problem is others tend not to see others as clearly!
'Nouph said...I'm out.
Dam some wisdom bombs. I Cant watch your back if we are looking the same way. Have an understanding of different perspectives
It sounds to me as if you have some very real prejudices of your own.
Sounds to you....I know.
Mark Tyrrell putting words in someone’s mouth
Mark Tyrrell typical neanderthal reply
Thank you
I love this speech a lot! It even helped me to better understand things from the other side!
Same!
such a good Ted talk
15:48:00 mins -How come that love did not give back that stolen land and share the wealth as a result of the invasion of Azania? The majority of the indigenoous people living in extreme poverty in their own land while the invaders live in luxury.
@12:09 THANK YOU
I do little else but examine my own "white" culture. It's so enormous, so many-storied, so full of beauty and horror, wisdom and error, violence and love, selfishness and sacrifice, hope and sadness - so full of everything, in short, which makes up this vast tapestry of human life - that I doubt I'll ever finish.
Thanks
I'll give this guy credit for trying to open the minds of those that want them to remain close.There is understandings to many gang lifestyles which usually happens by members in these gangs caring ONLY about what the gang wants, did you hear me, "They Care Only About WHAT THE GANG WANTS! Even though when they're alone they know they're doing wrong they refuse to accept what they know is true because the idea of being on top trumps your safety and your rights!
Given this recent race-related shooting, this conversation for Whites is now more important than ever.
And when it's race related committed by another race??
11:48 - "Privilege is not something that I chose... others assume that we, as White men, know about our privilege, and that we see it. And they assume that we just don't care, or want to hoard our privilege, so they attribute negative intent unto that privilege."
-Michael Welp
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"People say sometimes that beauty is superficial. That may be so. But at least it is not so superficial as thought is."
Great Ted Talk Michael Welp.
this has given me some insight into the male cultivated mindset. We all come from our culture and learn things that need to be unlearned such as auto-responses. We all feel that is the beauty of an individual. We are all many parts helpful in the world and harmful. Take down the roadblocks to unity because we are not born with them, just look at how children play
What the f1uck does this have to do with women. It's a white male smacking another white male. Ya bit1ch get out our politics and affairs!
Its all a spiritual journey y'all. He has been able to do shadow work and face the traits that he has been conditioned to exhibit. When we were all babies, we didn't give af about race or anything like that. It was LEARNED. Please love yourself to know that you CAN change and be a better person. I see alot of comments saying " but ALL cultures need to improve... etc" "but ALL people blah blah blah". The man even mentioned that in the video that everyone has work to do but he is speaking to the experience he knows - as a white man himself. Of course, if someone chooses to misunderstand, they will miss the point. It's on YOU to accept what resonated with you but just have an open heart. You know how much of a relief it is to feel that even if someone doesn't know you, they will do there best to connect with you from the heart? No matter the race? That's what HUEmans need. Let your ego shrink a lil bit and understand he wasn't attacking you, he was speaking from the heart. Anyways, real ones know wassup. Peace.
It's always heart-warming when someone actually gets it. Mindfulness at its best. Great talk!
Everybody has strengths that are abusable. Even minorities.
Minimizing differences... lol. He said that would happen in the Tedx Talk.
@Bob Bobberson strength and weakness is subjective. What you see and how you see it is based on your social experiences.
Some of this "Priveledge" is entirely based on social class and income level
You dare say something that should be common sense? BLASPHEMY!!!
Consider band-aids.
Seems the commenters are TRIGGERED
Smell weakness?
Doing wrong is not under a unique header of skin color. This is so ridiculous to even attempt to explain. What's cogent here is politics. That's where the smell is coming from. @Unfinished Business
Seems OP is afraid to say witch commenters they're fantasizing about being triggered.. So @Geritopia : I smell fear.
@@sweetsamia6257 I seriously doubt you'd apply that "logic" to crime statistics. You can't fight racism with bigotry.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 The word you needed was "which" not "witch".
You are a rare gem. God bless you for your understanding of life.
As a white female I have learned my culture from the predjuges of coloured people.i thank them because I have become stronger. I also have learned most about my self from my relationship with God .
Love what's being done here but we need to dive deeper. The point of diversity is not to help 'other races' or incentivize learning through personal gain - the point of diversity is to accept the inevitable, to learn more and find a genuine connection with differences in order to better our collective community as a whole. This is a great start, but does not quite get to the meat of the issue, which is the lack of questions being asked, and the genuine interest to learn more. As a white male you come from a position of power, and it's difficult not to elect yourself as the leader in charge of change. I do agree that it is the responsibility of those with certain privileges to use that platform to expose certain biases - let's just make sure that this doesn't become the only end goal. We do not need heroes, we need empaths.
_"The issue is a lack of questions being asked"_
And then you just assert white men come from a position of power. Have you - by any chance - ever 'questioned' that claim?
@@jaydamalley3398 This is my point - when we only frame conversations to the benefit of the majority, we lose sight of the minority (ya know- the portion that makes diversity) more questions need to be asked pertaining to diverse experiences - we have history books that answer a plethora of cis-gen white male questions.
dont forget race and gender, but dont let it be your god. look at someone more than just who they are physically. look at them as a being with sentiance.
Well done!
Treat others as you would like to be treated. That's all that's necessary. Some might try to make it seem like rocket science or that we need new laws and new regulations, just stop conning people. Treat others as you would like to be treated. Problem solved.
I might suggest a modification, "Treat others as they would like to be treated." That can remove assumptions about my way being the right way of seeing the world and also help me listen to and honor other people's experience.
@@4thblindmouse I get what you're saying Kurt but let's make this simple for everyone, let's all treat each other with respect, empathy, care, and love. Can't we agree that those are universal things that everyone wants.
signed, let's enforce it now.
@@4thblindmouse I would like to be treated better than you. Please ensure that you bow to me when we meet, and preface your conversations to me with the affirmation that Jesus Christ is Lord.
C Bard = der "So einfach ist das!"-Mann 😂
Basically he's trying to help white men understand and get rid of their cognitive dissonance.
What a great talk... i hope a lot of people see this
Mr. Welp. I am very impressed with your sermon. It allows me to focus on the character traits of white men that is and always have been imperfection. I still believe many white men accept "Priviledge" as a right, not a flaw in his character. Mostly I believe 95
% if all the white men who listened to this will give it less than 5% of his time to reflect on it. SAD.
And your source on the 95% stat is...? :P
96%
Racists like you are why no one takes this pseudo-scientific nonsense seriously, thanks for the helpful reminder that people who think of races as collectives are just bigots.
I have to admit that I am grateful to be white.....and 6'4".....and blonde......and blue eyed.....and a good business man.....and smart......and making a good living......and always having a good woman......what else should I be?
@@pwilki8631Be brave enough to see your own insecurities.
So... you believe that being a white man makes you invincible?
Okay... first of all, yes, women FEEL less safe going places at night, and you FEEL safe doing so. Now you can feel all kinds of ways about something, but your feelings are not necessarily reflective of reality. So there is a question needing asked, that you've not asked of yourself. Are you actually as safe as you feel, and are women actually in as much danger as they feel? Also, if not, then what has led you to feel this way?
You see, the reality is that the most likely crime to occur against someone walking alone at night is a mugging, and the majority of muggings target men. YOU are actually in the greater danger in this scenario. But you didn't know that did you? You didn't actually look at the stats, I did. That's how I know.
So, what has led you to believe otherwise, what has inflated women's fears and deprived you of the knowledge of the dangers you face?
Great point. These are conversations that need to be had.
Well said.
Its cuz he goin call the police. He tellin.. XD
nice comment. What you said is true, but your side-stepping the actual conversation here. Whats actually factualyl true here with stats isn't relevant to the focus of this conversation. This conversation is about how different groups of people feel, looking at various cultures. Its harder to grasp because its less tangible, but yeah try watching it again dude.
@@washburnandtheriver4607 And my point is if you think people feeling this way is a problem in need of solving, tell them the damn truth so they know to feel differently.
Instead, to give an example, rather than tell women they actually don't have to feel so panicked about going to the car at night, we instead have people who inflate those fears, intentionally. Why? Well, because people who are afraid look for solutions to their fears, and the people peddling the fear also often peddle the "solution", which of course usually comes in the form of, "you need to get on board with this project or political position, I am pushing".
That is the whole bit, the whole gimmick, in its entirety, laid bare for all to see. And yet, I already know many will refuse to see it for what it is.
Great points made here, especially when he said something like, “I realized that when I said I treat everyone the same, others hear that they need to fit into my cultural box.”
And he's still doing it... That's exactly what this talk was.
Stop generalizing all white men.
Clearly you miss the point
Most people self sabotage. If you wait long enough you’ll get what your waiting for.
I appreciate where he’s attempting to go with this, but I don’t think anyone should speak on behalf of others. I’m fairly certain there are plenty of cultures with men who are taught not to cry and don’t ask for directions. I also know women who don’t need to make excuses for not coming to meetings-they’re either resourceful in different ways, or just as willing to get in a cab.
That said, if this made anyone willing to look at internal misconceptions, prejudices, etc. then I applaud his attempts to get “it” right.
What do you mean by "it"?
That's funny. In the United States we elect people to speak on behalf of others. We call them politicians.
We can take any conversation and manipulate it as we see fit. I think you know the difference between 1 person getting on TH-cam and a country voting for representatives.
He's acting as a proxy.
@@jordancritic4475 this man has a PHd and he is offering an idea of how to experience people outside of your culture. It either resonates with you or not. Tedx might not be the right place for you.
He’s literally saying all “white” people think the same and act the same which is definitely not true. “White” American does not have the same as culture as German, Russian, Hungary etc... culture. Just like African Americans don’t have the same culture as African culture or Malaysian culture etc... just because u have the same skin complexion don’t make u think the same and act the same.
Very good talk. I appreciate his candor.
Thank you!!!
Thank u!!! where can I find more information about setting up a course like the one you are talking about?
white men huh? not diverse enough for you? or did he mean ALL white men of scotish, english, dutch, german, swiss, french, swedish, norwegian, russian, polish decent? seems like a bit of a generalization don't ya think... the self hate is unreal
Actually, my 30 years work experience, in a multicultural environment, was the opposite of what you are saying.
We were working together, having lunch together and few times a year taking a beer together after work.
Yes, there were some people who decided to have lunch with people from their communities, but that was their own choice, not because they were excluded from the bigger multicultural group.
You're missing the point.
Did you watch more than the first five minutes? He was talking about south africa when talking about the lunches. I would hope we are not like the people who just ended apartheid
@@kidforeverplz No, I think the guy in the video is the one missing the point here.
Peace to this man...
The cult of TED promoting the religion of Critical Theory
Hypothesis.
and thats a white man thing aswell lmao We should examine our culture with a literacy theory from our culture lol
He speaks of diversity. Every culture is different. If you believe diversity is a good thing and you want people to respect it then respect the values of other countries. If other societies don't agree with diversity then respect their values and dont force your values on them
Came here for the comments. I was not dissappointed! :D
Wow, well I'm glad you're entertained by this!!! SMH!!!
Culture is a context for people who do not understand where love comes from