Is Spoiling Your Filipina Partner A Big Mistake?
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I know you mentioned typhoons a few times. Can you make a video on that topic? How often did you have to deal with that? Do you need a 4x4 vehicle to drive when areas are flooded? What type of places to avoid staying during a typhoon? Seasons to avoid traveling there? How many philipinos/expats die from typhoons each year?
Another bit of advice: Her family supported themselves before you met her ... Keep it that way after you meet her.
Facts
Yes, but the family most likely supported themselves with her help. My wife was an OFW before we met. So she paid for most of her family's needs for several years. Then her family helped her pay for her second degree. You have to understand it is a different family dynamic here. I understand your point but also understand that families are set up differently here. It's part of the draw of the women here. Being family oriented has positives and negatives.
100 %
Ok if you want to use that logic and feel like you absolutely have to. Then just pay OFW wages to family and not riches.
@@timetosee9251 so true
I think spoiling anyone is a mistake.
Now hold on there a minute! What about me?
@@saulgoodman7221😂
Agreed! Especially if they don't know better.
@@saulgoodman7221 the dog on your profile photo, absolutely. Not people though. We can spoil ourselves.
Yep!
If you give her too much, too easily, she will lose respect & appreciation for you. The two most important things a man needs in a relationship.
you're darn right!
Never spoil woman unless she is your wife and only then sparingly.
thanks for the info about the checklist!! I found a gem of a province girl; she never asked for a dime, and politely refused several attempts to buy her things when we first met during my first visit this past October. she's the real deal. I'm a lucky man!!
Gio, this was a great vlog but why did that black bar keep appearing over you during it?
I love this video, and you are 100% correct. Me and my wife do not see a need for a Maid, we still shop at Ukay Ukay, i do give her a money so she can do things like get her nails done or hair but its in the budget. We are expecting a baby in March and so many people have come out of the wood work and asked if we need a Nanny or a house keeper. I was like hell no, i can raise my own son and clean my own house and my wife agrees. We feel that if you invite those things into your life your asking for trouble. I also feel that its ok to set a budget for your Filipina to be able to get the things in life like hair done nails some shoppee but be strong and tell her if she spends it all then you will have to wait until the next month. I personnelly feel providing her with a better life is a good thing but like you said. Dont let it go over board. Thank god i have a women that isnt into name brand things and love the ukay Ukay shops. Great Vidoe
I’m with you, me and my Filipina wife both decided we don’t want a maid in our house. We both appreciate our privacy. She doesn’t spend any money on makeup except some light colored lipstick. Once a month she has her nails done unless something happens that causes damage to one of them. She cooks every day except once a week when we have date night. She is so appreciated for our date night, I do help with everything from cooking, cleaning and laundry. We did buy a used car but still use or E-bike more often then the car.
Thank you Gio for warning future expats.
Myself I got lucky, ex UK army, never wanted to marry, have children.
Suppose took the blue pill before knowing it existed.
Myself have travelled to Thailand, Philippines many times. Generaly meet women on dating sites before hand, stating holiday fun only, agreeing finances first.
Works for me, and the ladies, no b/s, give small gifts, good food, have fun.
There are allways fun women to meet, no need to b/s having good house, salary, love you etc.
Enjoy your now married life, future happiness.
I lived on a farm as a youth where we raised pigs and chickens and grew our own veggies, so we had an abundance of food to eat. The rule was always take what you want but eat what you take.
Yes, absolutely!!! My mother would agree with that statement as well, but sadly she eats with her eyes. She also had her gallbladder removed almost a decade ago too so I'm telling her to grab small portions, but it ends up in the fridge for tomorrows meal so it's all well in the end.
Now, contrast that with my school days, those garbage cans were full of food at the end of lunch period.
Imagine dating in the Philippines, without watching these videos first. Hopefully I’m ready lol
Women are the same worldwide. If at your age you have no game or skills you’ll fail.
@@Midwest10 My age ? I’m 37, how old are you 😂
Having an American income while living in the Philippines is gold, makes you a real catch. I’d hardly say it’s the same
Gio man did you hit the nail head !! Entitled spoiled people destroy not just one life but both in a relationship, most rich people can recover but wow what a hard lesson!
Very nice video Gio... You are always a voice of reason, good information and logic. Thanks.
I think that I was raised in the same way you were Gio! I don’t like to experience waste of anything, especially food and especially in the Philippines! I am subscribed!
Been to the Philippines a few times back in the 80/90s while in the US Navy. First time was with bar girls. The other 3 times I was there were spent scuba diving. I'm heading to Bohol in Feb/Mar 25 to go scuba diving and check things out. I will be relocating to the PI within 2 years. My barber is married to a Filipina from Bohol. Gary and I have become good friends. They are moving "home" in 2 years. I used to work for Alorica call center as a Sys Admin here in the US. I spoke with Alorica ladies every day thru video chat. Many speak perfect English and are gorgeous. I would love to find an "Alorican Girl." Subbed and looking forward to checking out your content.
Each of your videos I have watched has provided quality information, and this one certainly is no exception. Thank you for this essential reminder.
Wow, thank you!
You are so right . one is surprised how quickly a girl from poor circumstances can completely lose the ability to show the slightest gratitude.
Great topic and great message. The key is balance which after a number of years there may have been acquired through your own personal experience. The new guys, including myself, are the ones who have the potential to mess things up, being overly generous and protective. And then if the relationship breaks down maybe the Filapina will go in search of another overly generous foreigner. I’d like to see a similar video from the opposite perspective, as well as more specific examples of what to do and what not to do. Maybe you could plant the idea in Maya, just a thought…
yes its true some filipina are spoild but not all
Agree sis...some foreigners think its all 🤦🏻♀️
Best listen to your own advice. Marriage is the long game for Filipinas. Family is counting on it. Buy her a house and forget life insurance. That's her stake in the relationship when you kick off. Give her kids. They all want them.
What do you mean "buy a house and forget life insurance "?
Great video!I agree 100%!
I think it can be about having common goals and understanding finances. Always have to have a budget and savings plan. I refuse to live paycheck to paycheck. That type of insecurity causes stress.
Such a gd true vid Gio it couldn't have been better said !!!!!
Congrat in advance on making it to 50K! That's a big number!
Thanks so much!
I thoroughly enjoy & appreciate these videos.
I made mistake spoiling my ex. We had maid, yaya, gave her money every month! She totally took advantage of me!
Thx a Ton for the Post.
Yes, it is a mistake. A big mistake!
Happy Holidays! Cheers! 🎄🍷🎉
Merry Christmas to you and yours, from me and mine thank you for all your help with helping me get here. A year and a half has been awesome..
Happy holidays!
You're right, thank you.
I could not download the pdf. I am traveling next month. Really could use your list.
Thanks for another great Video!
Merry Christmas Gio, Maya and Nora.
Merry Christmas 🎁
Yeah I went to China when I was 39 to meet my 22 year old wife. We married by the time I was 40 and she was 23. Yeah I was not even trying to date after my 2nd divorce. My sights were set on Asia and I just happened to be doing a lot of business trips to China and fell in love with Chinese girls! ❤❤Now my 3rd divorce and I am set on a Filipina even younger than my ex wife when we met. She is 20 I am 57…I don’t feel old aside from being too fat and I am working on that!
Some never learn
4th ones the charm
Why do you keep on getting married?
What a clown, lol
Gr8 points buddy
Good Video Gio.
Good advice .
Thank Gio, I have done the same as you but with Thai girls. Easy to feel sorry for them, but some will take advantage of your kindness and generosity, I’m at the point where I don’t trust any woman. It’s difficult to find that balance of giving to much or not enough
Love your videos Gio.
Stay safe. Typhoon coming your way.
In my case,not only spoiling ,she just fell in love with another local guy, because my easy kindness made her feel that she deserved a better one after she thought she got more ability,such as graduation from the college.
Guilty! And I’m still working on it! But a lot of it is just upgrading to my lifestyle and travel habits - nicer condos, hotels, restaurants, etc.
yes, a bad mistake I have made and many others. it's one thing to be nice to them but another thing to give them so much. the best thing for a single man in the Philippines is to not do anything special for them. having a cup of coffee with them or McDonalds meal is ok but the shopping and treating them to high price meals unless she is your wife is a big no.
Fully agree Gio, good info. Btw any chance you could introduce me to the ai Filipinas in your thumbnails? 🤔😅 ..... joke lang
sure lol
The AI photos drive the point through. Nice work.
Entitlement is a spiritual thing. You should spoil each other as much as possible by doing your job and duty to each other. If that’s not possible you have deeper issue, however some discipline is part of your role and duty also.
That's why I would never marry them. I will give a girl a good life so long as she does the same. When she stops, she's gone.
Hey Brother, I made that exact same mistake with my filipina .
She's everything you described, and I had the same mindset as you.
Anyway, I went to visit her back in January and spent an amount I'm ashamed to say.
We're still together me back in the states with plans to go back this February.
So, is there any way to 'unspoil' her now because she can't understand why I throttled so far back now on how much money I send her?
Thank you.
Thank you
Im living a life like this in Mexico, but these videos are making me want to move to the Philippines
Gio I appreciate your honesty I’m 59 coming to meetings 2 women in the Philippines. 38 and 26. I’m
Not trying to turn them into western women at all. I’m going to be gentlemen. But I’m talking the pill
Salamat for the info and another relevant topic…im finally here retired in Bacong with my fiancé …also hope to meet you and Maya at some point …we stayed inside most of the day too lol
yes, the game changes for us older expats in the Philippines. for me at 57 age when I get to the Philippines, I feel young all over again however sometimes you have to say no.
Hello gio I was in a LDR with a Filipina, been to see her twice met the family anyway I cut the money back in July 2023 , and today Im single , lesson learnt
And if you don’t live in or near a big city there’s no slim pickings at all.
Gio,, I been watching Ur Platform for awhile now & U have good topics and give great advice about Filipinas & the Philippines. So I'm in the 🇺🇸 been to the Philippines last year met my Filipina girlfriend and would like to know from ur opinion what's a reasonable amount of giving to a poor Filipina??? I do the basics like make sure her Load is on and I do special occasions like birthday and hoilday only is that Spoiling her from being poor from your topic of this video???
I'd say a few thousand pesos a week
Omg Soo true ..I would be in great shape now if wasn't trying to impress
...unless the dinner was horrible
Any woman anywhere is going to push the boundaries. It's just in their DNA! It's up to the man to set reasonable boundaries and enforce them to keep the relationship healthy and prosperous. Unfortunately modern Western women consider this "controlling" and will make your life a living heck until you cave in to their nonsense or get a divorce.
My Filippina wife is 25 years younger than me.And she is absolutely beautiful, but she does not come from a poor family, she has a university degree. And I met her in my home country, which is Norway, and we also got married here. But we moved down to the Philippines and lived there until Covid came, then we went back home, there we had a little daughter who is 3 years old now and goes to kindergarten here and I want her to grow up in Norway too, but both I and my wife has always worked and taken care of our daughter herself, also the housework, and we could hardly imagine letting someone else do this for us. We go on holiday to the Philippines in the summer and we are having a great time after over 5 years of marriage I am 61 years old and my wife is 36 years old. My advice is to find a lady who has at least a college education if you want to avoid all these problems with ladies from all Asian countries
Where do you get your rain gear? I ordered two from lazada jacket fine paints so short
Amazon, I bought quality gear.
They don’t only pull on your heart strings 😁
I'm a cynic, yet handed over a couple of hundred dollars to a young lady who only got more encouraged. Sent her packing.
Found the cleaning a toilet so amusing. As an overpaid Constractor, I travel a lot, and almost without fail I have cleaned railway toilets, just to then use them. Oxford has No1 world ranked university, but its toilets are regularly crap. So think covid gloves, wipes, alcohol gel ~ so figure 5 minutes at $90/hr at the time, is like a $7-50 bill, I should have sent the rail company. Unlike Airports, McDonalds, Wetherspoons pub etc, there is minimal cleaning rota, as evidenced by no posted rota on the wall.
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😅I can’t agree with you more. I just went through this.
I was introduced to my two Medellin girlfriends in the year 2021. I give each a monthly $$ peso amount. The Medellin cost of living is about 15% higher than Dumaguete / Cebu. However the infrastructure and medical care is much better in Medellin . Except; I haven’t yet found preventive dental care like the outstanding Green Apple.
Casi todas las Paisas son putas
Nothing wrong with it as long as your bank roll can afford it. If your not some broke expat and have the money, you can actually use it to your advantage.
If it flies, floats, or fuc@s, you are best off renting it. In Thailand you cannot buy the land. So if you pay for the house and the land is in her name and you 2 get in a fight, it's you against the whole village. Better to keep her on a short leash. When the spark is gone, it is time to move on.
You must say no, the same you must do with your children.
If you say YES TO EVERYTHING YOUR NO! MEANS NOTHING ..MY VIEW.
Better to test someone with 20 or 30k than lose a million to someone that doesnt deserve it. Lost more money on cars than 99% of my girlfriends. The one I spent a million on No regrets I may give her more in the future.
Gio, I love your content. I really do. I am getting married to someone from Mandaue. But why do you say "my Filipina"? Is she not your wife? I hear that alot in this type of content and seems like alot of westerners say that like they are a possession. Much love to you...
My mom raised 6 boys while my dad was away in the military sometimes a year at a time. She didn’t t have any maids or house keepers helping her, so my family depends on helping each other. No way do I bring a stranger into my home to clean or do laundry and I don’t know if they would do it to my satisfaction or my Filipina wife’s
I grew up with maids and after I got married we hired one as well. It's great, no need to do menial stuff so I can concentrate instead on my wife and kids. You just don't know how to use them to your advantage. It's like a CEO doing janitorial work. They delegate that work instead and concentrate on more important things. Besides, two income households are required nowadays so Domestic Helpers are very good to have
YES !
Any nationality there has to be a balance
Hahaha I can see the subtle signs of AI images...good utilization of it though.
Yes
Too Many Super Save a Girl's Here in the Philippines! lol I spoil my wife too, but within common sense! lol
I agree
YA YOUR RIGHT. DA THEY REMIND ME OF THESE SLUGS I DATED IN THE USA. BESIDES I CANT THINK OF ANY WAY TO TAKE MY MONEY WITH ME WHEN I DIE. I WOULD RATHER LEAVE IT HERE TO THESE LADIES
It’s called passive aggressive
In the West we've almost adopted a form of Goddess worship. Where women are pedestalized and every ounce of our strength is geared toward constantly trying to plz them and satiate all their emotions and desires. It's not healthy. I have to work for everything I have. Nobody should be handed things. Teaches people they don't have to work hard for what they want. If I'm being a foolish father or husband I shouldn't be rewarded. Just like a woman shouldn't be validated or rewarded for poor behavior or lack of diligent duty. I learned from my 1st marriage as a young man. I WILL NEVER again spoil a woman unless she earns it, just like I don't get what I desire unless I earn it. It breeds a sense of entitlement and lack of appreciation.
Dies she hand wash your laundry? We have a lady come in and do it for around 600 to 1,000 pesos
Is it possible to get cavities in your eyes? ... all that eye candy! Oh yeah, I enjoyed the topic, too. 😆
a wise man once said ...
You can't have any pudding if you don't eat your meat!
HOW can yah have any pudding IF you don't eat your meat!!??
🤔🙀😹
Dont be a Simp
When I decided to marry my girlfriend I made certain upgrades. I use an iPhone 14 Pro. My kids in the States use the same. So my girlfriend is on an iPhone 14 Pro (used since we are one year from the 16). There is a common sense middle ground.
It's called the individual, not the race.
Of course and I said that many times in the video.
Yes have seen so many spoilt ex poor filapinas also. Totally ruined, far but reasonable is me. Nice advice Mr Gio
Philippines = rain rain rain I lived there for 3 years. That's why I appreciate the sunny and clear days living in Jomtien Beach Thailand.
And I’m spoiling my daughter
YES. Don't do it unless ROI is guaranteed. You will only waste your money. Instead, protect and increase funds in your bank account. You will be glad you did. Trust me.
HUGE MISTAKE - NO MEANS NO, NO, NO
Yeah keep an eye out for that I got a girl😂🎉😂😂😅 over there I rented her an apartment so she can get away from her family and I got her through college her and her sister didn't cost that much because they had scholarships but anyway I got them through college now it's raining so much over there they can't go look for work
Please allow me to generalize; Phillipine people are happy people. 🎉
What happened with the black square? censorship
I apologize, I missed that on my editing.
I just say I have no budget.
My motto is don’t put them on a pedestal. I am flabbergasted to see guys do this. It is one thing if the girl is hot but most of these girls are just average looking and you wouldn’t have any interest if you were age 25.
You can say yes I never said no to my wife in my life but she never abuses it Even if she has 100k in the bank, she wont buy a pair of shoes without asking me and I have never said no in 30 years. Recently I offered her a new car, but she knows I am building a building in Hanoi for 2 more years so she declined. I bought two condos in Tokyo and a new BMW Her character has not changed at all. My Japanese uncle at his peak was worth 10 million and he spent 99% of his money on his wife and 2 kids His wife made 2 million and has a PhD Her character is just fine I know billionaires that have excellent character Money does not make your character bad It just amplifies Buffet will give 98% of his money to charity. If I had 100 million I could easily spend 20 on my family and give 95% charity Money is a tool It is people, often women that are evil They are accountable for not following God's law.Money from simps is not the real problem It is just a lack of character or piety.
invisible in usa: 1.Have post grad degree. 2.In shape/no shed over my tools = 1000 swipes = 1 coffee date
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Talk about all the earthquakes there