I bought the full test from them on the 2nd of May but still didn't received it. I wrote several mails to know the reason or in order to have a refund. But nothing. In the mean time they got the money (€246!!!) . I think all this is not serious.
maybe they were being forced to wear a mask because the shop felt entitled to suffocate them and so waiting around was additional and unnecessary abuse. there is zero evidence of any benefit and lots of evidence of harm. covid is simply nacassistic abuse of epic proportions. "the virus" does not exist and is simply part of peoples own bodies healing process skapegoated to recruit people to become abusers participating in suffocating, isolating, poisoning, terrorising and killing.
I've encountered these kinds of jealous narcs throughout my life. When I was working in TV news, they sabotaged my career! They told me I was worthless and incompetent and this went on for so many years that I succumbed to their bullying and started believing I didn't know how to do my job even when I was winning Emmy Awards for my reporting. Now when I think back on it, I realize that if I had really been worthless and incompetent, they would not have wasted so much energy on trying to destroy me. Clearly they saw me as a threat. I had worked hard, VERY hard, to get where I was, and some of the ones who attacked me were straight out of college and just felt entitled to it.
And your story of the rich man caused me to remember way back when I was dating. I dated some wealthy men and was blown away by how entitled they were, how self-absorbed they were and how completely insensitive. One of them was working in TV sales and making a six figure income. At the time, I was making $15,000 a year as a TV reporter (in small markets, they don't pay much!). All he did on our dates was complain about money. He complained about how much alimony he had to pay to his ex wife and how he was probably going to have to sell "one of his trucks." One of his trucks. I was driving an old, rusty, broken down Chevy Chevette at the time. He always insisted on dutch treat whenever we went out, but honestly that didn't bother me because at least then I didn't feel like I "owed" him sex.
@Helena GG wow, thank you! I get depressed thinking about it because I walked away from my career after taking too much abuse. They had me convinced that I couldn't do my job. Even the awards I won were not enough to break that conditioning. But I'm glad it inspired you.
You are so right, everything you say here is on point. I dated a narcissist who had friends that were narcissistic, leeches. They all drink a lot. One of them got cirrhosis of the liver and I kid you not, asked me if I would get tested to see if I was a match so that I could give them part of my liver! They even feel entitled to your organs!
“What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is mine”. He used to say that all the time. After continuous education on these individuals I’ve become more introverted. When you reminisce on your past you realize you’ve encountered these individuals since childhood. And you’ll notice it with present day encounters. I feel sad and empowered by this knowledge.
This is so true and an excellent video. Most narcissistic people do not understand a mutually reciprocated relationship or the dynamics of healthy relationship values, principles, and boundaries. The entitlement is real, along with expectations that have not been discussed or agreed on. Additionally, these people always shame and stonewall opinions or perspectives outside their own. They will use people, friends, and family, groom them into supply, and discard them whenever they don’t benefit from the relationship, or if they are asked to give. Especially, if that individual sets a boundary. It’s important to set boundaries early, but it’s never too late to set a boundary. Stand firm on your beliefs and let toxic and entitled people out of your life by any means necessary.
My mom feels entitled to my marriage and my husband’s time. I’m shamed for not nagging my husband to help her around her home more. “Son in laws should help their mother in laws.” Sure, but at whose expense? It doesn’t help that it’s hard for us to be around her negativity and so we muster up the strength to deal with her which takes energy away from our own lives. She was never able to make a marriage work (she’s had 5) and she doesn’t have any of her kids in her life and I’m constantly told how lucky I am to have a husband while raising our son because she didn’t have that. Though I remember her bragging about how she preferred to be a single mom so I’m confused as to who is the lucky one… Little does she understand, I made choices to pick the right man for me and start a family. My life is extremely safe, routine, consistent, and full and because hers isn’t, she lashes out and shames me for how “lucky” I am. I did however learn what NOT to do and how NOT to act from her, so she did help in a lot of ways.
All of these examples have happened to me. All of them. I genuinely feel like not having taught to say "No", or allowed to say "No" as a child made it hard for me to say No as an adult.
"What's mine is mine, and what's yours is also mine." That sounds like the government, federal reserve, and IRS in one quote! Spot on as always Meredith! 👍👍👍
I love the whole image from the very generic “blah, blah,blah” and other silly words you use to describe the whatever the topic is that episode. I absolutely love the swearing. It’s not vulgar or over the top. It’s real, no facades, no masks. Means at least to me, that your on the same page same level as I am. And that you’ve been there bc there is a little emotion behind it. And that makes the connection. I’ve learned a lot and I’ve only just found you a couple weeks ago
Its crazy you just mentioned the hypervigilance of needing an "immediate response!!!!" Whenever I am working out my mom tries to have a conversation with me... (And i know what shes doing... I guess the word is just blatant... DISRESPECT!) So i think the last time i explained it to her like my breathing is obviously panting i cant talk when I'm working out... And wouldnt you know it she again used this against me nonetheless... All she is doing is pushing me away.... And i think the most confusing part is when SHE ACCUSES ME of the same thing and says something like "I cant drop everything im doing because you said jump... And i say how high" or you know, whatever... BUT GOD I REALLY WISH THESE PEOPLE HAD THEIR OWN IDENTITIES.... I AM SO SICK OF BEING SCAPEGOATED INTO BEING THE BAD GUY JUST BECAUSE THEY THINK THEYRE ENTITLED TO MINE!!!! 😩😩😩😩😩 ugh. Lol. Sigh!
I wish I had found inner integration before I testified in crown court against my psycho narc ex in March. I would have taken the stand in a completely different way. His barrister tore me apart for 2 days just for my ex to refuse to take the stand. The police and judge could see what he was the judge told him " you are a controlling, manipulative violent man" but he played the victim via his barrister and the jury only found him guilty of 1 of 5 charges. I'm devastated that he'll be out of prison in December but at least his conviction for " controlling or coercive behaviour in an intimate relationship " will be flagged up if his next supply applies for "Clare's law" in the UK. Thank you thank you thank you, your page is keeping me alive right now in this dark place
Watch for the narcissist smile (or feeling of being superior) when they are getting what they want, you'll know it when you see it. Not all people who are entitled are narcs, selfishness and entitlement is a problem in our society.
Great point about the types who help you out in a tough situation and then act like own you. I lived with one like that for a year. Incredibly abusive Jekyll & Hyde who tried to control every aspect of my life even though I was paying my share of the rent. She even helped herself to my pain medication and would bully, rage, and shame me if I told her I needed all the meds I'd been prescribed for a severe pain condition I had at that time.
You are amazing! Where have you been all my life! Your videos have explained so much to me and reversed years of self doubt, internal craziness and stress from being gang stalked, unfairly fired, made to look and act crazy. A Psychologist who was trying to help me years ago warned me of "Poking a rabbit with a stick": A few people poke a caged rabbit with a stick, then when it runs around acting crazy and even starts foaming at the mouth form exhaustion, they call in the boss and say look, the rabbit has rabies.
Hi Meredith! Thank you for your continued excellent videos! I really appreciate your clarity on the word "privelage". I've noticed this sort of behaviour a lot, particularly in the (online) political sphere. Regardless of political leanings, the act of silencing someone's POV in this manner (and the backup it so often receives) is unsettling. Please keep up the good work!
I told them to hit the road they don’t stop violating and stalking abusing and harassing me for years. This is quite seriously criminal. No one helped out totally isolated ☹️
Wow, my mom goes nuts when i dont answer her texts. I have 2 toddlers and i hate being a slave to my phone and she knows this. But itll be texts, then calls and then texts that if i dont answer she will call the police for a welfare check. Mind you itll only be like 5 hrs or overnight (!!). And one time she called my landlord and he sent maintenance to check on me! I was so embarassed and felt yes like a slave. I can tell she tries to check on me still, by asking me questions she thinks ill answer, bc she cant stand her own thoughts that i *must be dead* just bc im not answering.. im fine with her seeing what im up to but i get panicky when i feel forced 😔
That's not OK. You need to tell her you will answer her back when you can and she is not to call or text and expect any response from this time to this time as you will be sleeping and spending family time. And if she still keeps up with her crazy of calling the landlord, welfare check etc you will block her completely so she can't call or text... then you can use an app with a random number if u ever need to talk to her or you can email her or use a social media app. She will mote than likely step on this boundary many times. If you can't bring yourself to put down a hard boundary then how about a designated day and time every week to talk that's preset and that's your boundary. Any other time she wants to chat randomly she needs to know you will be busy and won't hear back until that time and day each week and no need to panic. Put it in writing and save it and her answer and show your landlord, maintenance or welfare/cops if she calls them so they know its manipulation on her part and no need to come. And if she starts saying crap to upset you just say u need to go calmly and hang up.
Turn the phone off when you can. Turn it on when you have time. Your children need you. If grandmama gets mad tell her your children are your priorities. I take it she didn't make her children her priorities? IDK but our parents it seems try to make us them. Rise above their ways give your children your all they are our future. Peace
@@philliperskine4986 thank you 💜well, i didnt feel neglected by her as a child, but she did like to meddle (still does) and control (i see now). Once i had kids, i started to feel she wanted to take them over, in a sense. She insinuates that my ways of wanting to raise them isnt worth trying and should default to what she knows, ugh its a battle. I tell her how i feel then she denies and says im doing a great job. I think thats gaslighting...
Awesome video, as usual from Dr. Meredith Miller. I subscribed in 2017 and I have enjoyed a loooong list of great videos from her. *_Thanks so much, as your knowledge has made a positive difference in my life._*
If there is a pattern of people using you, is it okay to just stop talking to them? If you keep saying hi and being friendly, they just assume you are okay with them treating you like you don't matter. If you somehow try to explain that you feel msitreated, some people will just call you crazy.
I say still Hi to show them kindness. If they reach out to have to go more in connection I say, I can't do like nothing happen... it's up to them to correct themselves, show understanding....and even then I need my time to trust again. Some excuse them and still repeat... so I move on.
Yep they drain you of everything mentally, physically, and financialy...and they don't even care ...yeah I have resentment ...and am learning how to never allow myself to have these type of people in my life
I’ve learned a lot over the past year trying to understand a toxic narcissistic relationship I’m in. One thing I have found when setting boundaries is that I need to “be okay” with how he is going to respond. Before I commit myself to that boundary, I think to myself “I know how he is going to react. He’s going to give me the silent treatment or he won’t talk to me for weeks but that’s okay.”
There are four types of character in human beings: One that says: “mine is mine, and yours is yours”: this is a commonplace type; and some say this is a sodom-type of character. [One that says:] “mine is yours and yours is mine”: is an unlearned person (am haaretz); [One that says:] “mine is yours and yours is yours” is a pious person. [One that says:] “mine is mine, and yours is mine” is a wicked person.
My ex called me a moron then when i said bye, he texted that he was joking and i get mad at stupid stuff and i shouldve known he was joking bc his coworkers do (he wasnt joking, he said it when i told him i walked with the kids and he didnt believe we werent around a bunch of ppl, said i was being careless!). Basically its my fault he had to call me a moron.......
For as long as narcissists are continuing to be getting something from someone far more than the little drips and crumbs that they are offering as gifts in return they are the best hard working folks around. However the minute a person who is having to continue being around any narcissist must be disagreeing with them by starting to admit to the narcissist and later to others in public too about how they are not at all happy about how they are being treated and/or neglected by the narcissist[s] then their trashing of people begins.
Love your top and your arms of steel. I am so sick of the people using "privileged & woke" community. I have been around the block, traveled the world, have many acquaintances of so many backgrounds, tasted so many different foods, listened to so many different beautiful music, have recovered from a 17 year abusive relationship, am always learning, love your videos.....so you get the drift, I wish people would just Live and Let Live and work for their own shit and stop the whining, Thank you for letting me share :)
Great sponsor. You never know with these people. What a great technique to prove cheating (unfortunately) in some cases with narcissist relationships people are stuck in. A token to freedom in some way.
When my ex-best friend betrayed me, she never acted entitled with me until we rented a house together and felt like she was entitled to move out without giving notice nor paying her last month's rent, despite being wealthy. While living together, she felt entitled to go into my 16 year old daughter's room and steal her birthday money from family & money she'd earned babysitting for rent though - even though I was paying the agreed upon amount of $800 rent every single month plus my share of utilities. When she convinced me to rent a house with her, she told me she needed help with her dog and daughter while she worked full time, and wanted to do a work trade, which I agreed to, and kept track of my time working. I met all the agreements I made, but after we moved in together, she started complaining that she was paying rent for my daughter's room for me. It made no sense at all whatsoever. She is completely cookoo. I asked her SO many times if she was sure and she assured me over and over again that she was sure she wanted to rent a house together. I had turned her down for previous offers, but this offer made sense - I thought. I was trying to recover from a life-threatening illness too, and long story short, the whole situation caused a catastrophic relapse. I still haven't been able to recover back to the point I was at before I rented that house with her. I was doing pretty good again for 8 solid months, expanded my diet, and everything. Now, I can't even hardly eat anything again, and I"m completely home bound and stuck and can't leave my apartment without having a relapse. I would haver rather someone beat me into a coma than what she did to me.
A few years ago we went to a pharmacy with our twins looking for diapers. However at that time there was an acute shortage of them in the whole city and we couldn't buy. My wife got extremely upset and placed our two small kids on the main counter of the pharmacy and made them piss all over it. The clerk called the police, everyone was astonished by my wife behavior and I had to calm things down. Nowadays we are separating and I'm pretty sure that she's a narcissist.
narcs favorite thing to say "everything comes so easily to them, they never work for anything they get. i work way harder and i have nothing" i swear if you ARE privledged and have wealthy family that is willing to help out when needed they will hate that even more!
As soon as you say No that's when the jekyll comes out Then they name call and twist your words to make them seem like you are doing them wrong It is sad and draining and confusing. Emotionally I wish I was not so weak and I could heal from my trauma but I feel broken
When you have money as you are responsible with it, and they've blown all theirs on psyhcic hotlines and they rage and guilt you for not lending money. Just because you have it and they have not paid back on time in the previous past... (My sister who hates boundries, in no contact nowadays)
I believe narcissists with their sense of entitlement cannot feel or experience gratitude, because (real) humbleness is a prerequisite to feel gratitude.
Meridith,thank you for your videos. I am in the middle of separation and divorce. The entitlement could be hidden from the covert narcissist. My ex wrote on a court document "It is not unfair that the person earning more money would provide more for the family as a whole". In turn he would not work extra hours, keep staying at minimum salary job all his life. He makes himself entitled now to my pension I worked hard for and he is trying to get away with debts we accumulated? I am glad I am getting to this end of this 33 years relationship and marriage. The only regret at this time, I should have done this years ago.
Thank you for the clear example of people misusing the word “privilege”. This happened to me twice, from separate people, within a few months back in 2017. One was a coworker that had NPD, that disagreed with an opinion I had. I told her off and distanced myself from her and set clear strong boundaries thereafter. The harder one was a friend I have had since college. Her wife and her had just found out that they were having triplets and I expressed concern for her financially and she told me how privileged I was. The relationship has never been the same. I was shocked because though my partner and I are comfortable now, I spent most of my life struggling to get to this point and my college friend knows that. I knew at the gut level that both of these people were using this word wrong. I told the college friend that I was going to sit this particular movement of “call out culture” out. The damage has been done though, I rarely talk to her now and when I do she seems resentful about everything.
I totally had this in a job about 3 years ago. I still haven't recovered. I was scapegoated and made to feel bad for not going to an event that one of my co-workers was having. Well there's a lot I do to manage my own health, and well-being. I felt shamed for saying no I couldn't go. And because this person was my Superior I thought they were right. They wouldn't accommodate my autoimmune disease. All I asked for was to have a schedule that was consistent, like 8 hours a day 5 days a week. And then damn I listen to myself and think oh am I acting entitled. Mother fuck anyways thank you you've helped me a lot. 🤪
My sister ON MY BIRTHDAY sent me tons of of texts demanding I put my property / house into her drugged sons name. No joke. Then the nasty mean F U messages started I reminded myself when I have the tendency to talk to her again. . Makes me very sad that I have to cut her off completely. We don’t have any other family at all.
9:18 a worse situation isn't helping. Just speaking about personal life. Judging between sleep deprivation and a place where the police have warned I'm not safe to be due to race and criminal activity isn't about entitlement to decline. (I look like the entitled guy in the video still frame and often wear a similar shirt) (sometimes videos are recommended based on what is occurring in my life, nothing to do with the content creator. Like when Mack Miller was a passenger in my car but didn't want to disclose who his celebrity girlfriend that just dumped him was, but TH-cam recommended all Ariana Grande videos)
Privileges like system privileges. As in what a user is permitted to do. That's what I had in mind. A better way to get my point across would have been " Get off my lawn ". The internet is being used for what feels like lawn violations.
Patterns prevail! He hid money, stole from work, cheated, replaced me, and then blamed me for “not accepting him for who he is”. As if anyone on this planet would go for that shit! His POS mother backed him on everything. I’m convinced Narcs are actually made through spoiling and lack of discipline as children. He was repugnant!
What if your sister, as you’re struggling to save your home and business from a scammer, on your birthday, suddenly demands you leave everything to her son (will) or she will cuss and block you forever ? In nasty text messages ? Not funny
MsYogaGrrrl aloha and thank you 😊 I am always admonished now it’s the trained flying monkey or whatever (son) we are all the family we have in the world . We only have each other no one else is real family etc etc . This time I am adamant.
As for the scammers, also so -called family/ ohana and know them for years. I suppose I needed these lessons on the school of life to see my blind side/ weaknesses. Still dealing with Bs legal/financial scam issues .
Ex: 😠 "Sign these gift letters so I can get this mortgage." Me: *reads documents* Me: 😕 "Um... I didn't gift you those 10s of thousands of dollars for the house. I gave you that money because were planning on owning it together. Now that I'll never live in that house, you need to repay me before I sign this or it's illegal loan fraud." Ex: 😡 "THE HOUSE IS MINE!!! YOU WERE NEVER ON THE TITLE!!!" Me: 🤨 "But I've paid thousands and you've yet to put a single penny into the house..." Ex: 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬 Me: 😑 *calls lawyer*
When you spoke of privilege my mind went to the people who chastise celebrities for having opinions on important matters. To me it always seems to be comments made out of jealousy and victimhood.
the song from charlie and the chocolate factory [original movie] '' want it now''comes to mind. It's like they literally want the whole world and believe it''belongs''to them.
How do you know if your partner is a narcissist or if your relationship is just bad... ok r how would I know if I was the narcissist and that's the problem? I'm in a really tough spot right now and I have 3 young kids to consider but the one thing that is clear is how unhappy our circumstances are and I cant do it anymore. Been together almost 11 years. Please offer some advice, thank you. Your videos have been so helpful to me recently
Hola, Meredith. En algún video, ¿podrías hablar sobre la *sensación de vacío?* Puede atenuarse a veces, pero nunca desaparece. Saludos, espero que andes bien por ahí :)
I think another manifestation is evident in some who are very anti-authoritarian ... it’s as though they feel above the law and how dare they get issued a ticket by police or have any kind of censure from an employer or other person in authority.
My ex-husband forced me to pay for an overseas trip after he didn't work for 3 months and I had just bought him a car so he could work. I bought him a one way ticket and filed for divorce.
People in politics are that entitled and talk others being "capitalists". When my business took off,they vilified me by saying that I am a capitalist. I had been a creative and had tried alot of times to create businesses. They did want to benefit from the business by selling things to me but called me a capitalist.
The people who don’t want to see you doing well and succeeding are usually deeply afraid of their own mediocrity so they want everyone else lowered to their level. You’ll always be able to recognize them by the hypocrisy. They feel entitled to use your success for their advantage but put you down for your achievements.
Girl, I love you so much, your voice is beautiful and strong and confident and wise and I love you for that. You are helping me through a very ugly situation, and every time I listen to you I calm down and I feel that I can make it through. Thank you from the bottom of my heart thank you ❤️💚💛
I am having trouble with the narcissist return. We go through the let go process, friend zoned, but it’s like a cycle of abuse he comes back. How can I communicate in a way that is friendly that won’t trigger a negative response?
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Its not narcissism proof for a bloke to wanna see his new bird after going out for the night.
@@stefan2005stefan Not any one thing is proof of narcissism
I bought the full test from them on the 2nd of May but still didn't received it. I wrote several mails to know the reason or in order to have a refund. But nothing. In the mean time they got the money (€246!!!) . I think all this is not serious.
@@ilag4909 sorry for what happened to you.. she's been corrupted and devolved. it seems they all do, sooner or later.
maybe they were being forced to wear a mask because the shop felt entitled to suffocate them and so waiting around was additional and unnecessary abuse. there is zero evidence of any benefit and lots of evidence of harm. covid is simply nacassistic abuse of epic proportions. "the virus" does not exist and is simply part of peoples own bodies healing process skapegoated to recruit people to become abusers participating in suffocating, isolating, poisoning, terrorising and killing.
One of these "entitled" people even told me that's what she does, and that it's normal! So I started doing it to her, and she was furious! 🤪
Haha it only works in one direction!
@, Ha ha! That's so true! 😂
That's awesome 😂
@@notagain779 what does furious mean?
@@ebonywofford9480 , Furious meaning extremely angry.
I've encountered these kinds of jealous narcs throughout my life. When I was working in TV news, they sabotaged my career! They told me I was worthless and incompetent and this went on for so many years that I succumbed to their bullying and started believing I didn't know how to do my job even when I was winning Emmy Awards for my reporting. Now when I think back on it, I realize that if I had really been worthless and incompetent, they would not have wasted so much energy on trying to destroy me. Clearly they saw me as a threat. I had worked hard, VERY hard, to get where I was, and some of the ones who attacked me were straight out of college and just felt entitled to it.
And your story of the rich man caused me to remember way back when I was dating. I dated some wealthy men and was blown away by how entitled they were, how self-absorbed they were and how completely insensitive. One of them was working in TV sales and making a six figure income. At the time, I was making $15,000 a year as a TV reporter (in small markets, they don't pay much!). All he did on our dates was complain about money. He complained about how much alimony he had to pay to his ex wife and how he was probably going to have to sell "one of his trucks." One of his trucks. I was driving an old, rusty, broken down Chevy Chevette at the time. He always insisted on dutch treat whenever we went out, but honestly that didn't bother me because at least then I didn't feel like I "owed" him sex.
@Helena GG wow, thank you! I get depressed thinking about it because I walked away from my career after taking too much abuse. They had me convinced that I couldn't do my job. Even the awards I won were not enough to break that conditioning. But I'm glad it inspired you.
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They smear and devalue. They might as well praise you.
You are so right, everything you say here is on point. I dated a narcissist who had friends that were narcissistic, leeches. They all drink a lot. One of them got cirrhosis of the liver and I kid you not, asked me if I would get tested to see if I was a match so that I could give them part of my liver! They even feel entitled to your organs!
Wow!!
that's crazy
JackfnHammered WOWWWWW! Now that is one I have never heard of before. I am so sorry. They all SUCK!
“What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is mine”. He used to say that all the time. After continuous education on these individuals I’ve become more introverted. When you reminisce on your past you realize you’ve encountered these individuals since childhood. And you’ll notice it with present day encounters. I feel sad and empowered by this knowledge.
Erica Monèt
Great truth to what you say. I couldn’t agree more. Please take care
I heard the same thing.
Erica Monèt been there sister.
So true..
With entitlement there is always a double standard at play.
Absolutely!
Exactly!
“Everything is mine, people are just holding it until I need it”
Damn… that hits.
This is so true and an excellent video. Most narcissistic people do not understand a mutually reciprocated relationship or the dynamics of healthy relationship values, principles, and boundaries. The entitlement is real, along with expectations that have not been discussed or agreed on. Additionally, these people always shame and stonewall opinions or perspectives outside their own. They will use people, friends, and family, groom them into supply, and discard them whenever they don’t benefit from the relationship, or if they are asked to give. Especially, if that individual sets a boundary. It’s important to set boundaries early, but it’s never too late to set a boundary. Stand firm on your beliefs and let toxic and entitled people out of your life by any means necessary.
My mom feels entitled to my marriage and my husband’s time. I’m shamed for not nagging my husband to help her around her home more. “Son in laws should help their mother in laws.”
Sure, but at whose expense? It doesn’t help that it’s hard for us to be around her negativity and so we muster up the strength to deal with her which takes energy away from our own lives.
She was never able to make a marriage work (she’s had 5) and she doesn’t have any of her kids in her life and I’m constantly told how lucky I am to have a husband while raising our son because she didn’t have that. Though I remember her bragging about how she preferred to be a single mom so I’m confused as to who is the lucky one…
Little does she understand, I made choices to pick the right man for me and start a family. My life is extremely safe, routine, consistent, and full and because hers isn’t, she lashes out and shames me for how “lucky” I am.
I did however learn what NOT to do and how NOT to act from her, so she did help in a lot of ways.
Thank you, Meredith! Your videos help me stay strong in keeping my distance from certain family members.
All of these examples have happened to me.
All of them. I genuinely feel like not having taught to say "No", or allowed to say "No" as a child made it hard for me to say No as an adult.
"What's mine is mine, and what's yours is also mine." That sounds like the government, federal reserve, and IRS in one quote! Spot on as always Meredith! 👍👍👍
Totally agree 🌼
You look absolutely lovely, that top looks gorgeous on you.
I’m imagining she’s wearing cute pj pants or comfy parachute pants with fuzzy slippers that we can’t see 😂
I love the whole image from the very generic “blah, blah,blah” and other silly words you use to describe the whatever the topic is that episode. I absolutely love the swearing. It’s not vulgar or over the top. It’s real, no facades, no masks. Means at least to me, that your on the same page same level as I am. And that you’ve been there bc there is a little emotion behind it. And that makes the connection. I’ve learned a lot and I’ve only just found you a couple weeks ago
Meredith! You look great! Your arms are GOALS. I’m getting Linda Hamilton in Terminator 2 vibes. Strong inside AND out.
Hahaha I hear that sometimes and when I have to kick ass I get into Sarah Connor mode 😂
You've helped me so much on my journey. You seem so healthy and someday I want to be that healthy physically mentally spiritually. Thank you 🙏🏾
You are a smart, classy and really awesome person and everything you're saying is stellar.
Its crazy you just mentioned the hypervigilance of needing an "immediate response!!!!" Whenever I am working out my mom tries to have a conversation with me... (And i know what shes doing... I guess the word is just blatant... DISRESPECT!) So i think the last time i explained it to her like my breathing is obviously panting i cant talk when I'm working out... And wouldnt you know it she again used this against me nonetheless... All she is doing is pushing me away.... And i think the most confusing part is when SHE ACCUSES ME of the same thing and says something like "I cant drop everything im doing because you said jump... And i say how high" or you know, whatever... BUT GOD I REALLY WISH THESE PEOPLE HAD THEIR OWN IDENTITIES.... I AM SO SICK OF BEING SCAPEGOATED INTO BEING THE BAD GUY JUST BECAUSE THEY THINK THEYRE ENTITLED TO MINE!!!! 😩😩😩😩😩 ugh. Lol. Sigh!
I wish I had found inner integration before I testified in crown court against my psycho narc ex in March. I would have taken the stand in a completely different way. His barrister tore me apart for 2 days just for my ex to refuse to take the stand. The police and judge could see what he was the judge told him " you are a controlling, manipulative violent man" but he played the victim via his barrister and the jury only found him guilty of 1 of 5 charges. I'm devastated that he'll be out of prison in December but at least his conviction for " controlling or coercive behaviour in an intimate relationship " will be flagged up if his next supply applies for "Clare's law" in the UK.
Thank you thank you thank you, your page is keeping me alive right now in this dark place
This explains mother In LAW and sister in laws actions towards me
Watch for the narcissist smile (or feeling of being superior) when they are getting what they want, you'll know it when you see it. Not all people who are entitled are narcs, selfishness and entitlement is a problem in our society.
OMG, my ex boyfriend has all of these traits. I got away, but he damaged my life for years.😥
He can only damage what you allow in your mind and present. He is the past. You are repaired and better now with him removed.
Same with me. I think I learned a lot. I´m stronger and more awake. I´ve lost some "friends" also because i´m more awake now.
Great point about the types who help you out in a tough situation and then act like own you. I lived with one like that for a year. Incredibly abusive Jekyll & Hyde who tried to control every aspect of my life even though I was paying my share of the rent. She even helped herself to my pain medication and would bully, rage, and shame me if I told her I needed all the meds I'd been prescribed for a severe pain condition I had at that time.
Thank you for this great info, I love this topic. I have dealt with quite some parasitic very entitled narcissist in my life.
You are amazing! Where have you been all my life! Your videos have explained so much to me and reversed years of self doubt, internal craziness and stress from being gang stalked, unfairly fired, made to look and act crazy. A Psychologist who was trying to help me years ago warned me of "Poking a rabbit with a stick": A few people poke a caged rabbit with a stick, then when it runs around acting crazy and even starts foaming at the mouth form exhaustion, they call in the boss and say look, the rabbit has rabies.
It’s been years NO EMPATHY my life has lost its meaning
Hi Meredith! Thank you for your continued excellent videos!
I really appreciate your clarity on the word "privelage". I've noticed this sort of behaviour a lot, particularly in the (online) political sphere. Regardless of political leanings, the act of silencing someone's POV in this manner (and the backup it so often receives) is unsettling.
Please keep up the good work!
I told them to hit the road they don’t stop violating and stalking abusing and harassing me for years. This is quite seriously criminal. No one helped out totally isolated ☹️
Wow, my mom goes nuts when i dont answer her texts. I have 2 toddlers and i hate being a slave to my phone and she knows this. But itll be texts, then calls and then texts that if i dont answer she will call the police for a welfare check. Mind you itll only be like 5 hrs or overnight (!!). And one time she called my landlord and he sent maintenance to check on me! I was so embarassed and felt yes like a slave. I can tell she tries to check on me still, by asking me questions she thinks ill answer, bc she cant stand her own thoughts that i *must be dead* just bc im not answering.. im fine with her seeing what im up to but i get panicky when i feel forced 😔
That’s horrible!
That's not OK. You need to tell her you will answer her back when you can and she is not to call or text and expect any response from this time to this time as you will be sleeping and spending family time. And if she still keeps up with her crazy of calling the landlord, welfare check etc you will block her completely so she can't call or text... then you can use an app with a random number if u ever need to talk to her or you can email her or use a social media app. She will mote than likely step on this boundary many times. If you can't bring yourself to put down a hard boundary then how about a designated day and time every week to talk that's preset and that's your boundary. Any other time she wants to chat randomly she needs to know you will be busy and won't hear back until that time and day each week and no need to panic. Put it in writing and save it and her answer and show your landlord, maintenance or welfare/cops if she calls them so they know its manipulation on her part and no need to come. And if she starts saying crap to upset you just say u need to go calmly and hang up.
Turn the phone off when you can. Turn it on when you have time. Your children need you. If grandmama gets mad tell her your children are your priorities. I take it she didn't make her children her priorities? IDK but our parents it seems try to make us them. Rise above their ways give your children your all they are our future. Peace
@@nikkipieronek271 thank you for the advice💜
@@philliperskine4986 thank you 💜well, i didnt feel neglected by her as a child, but she did like to meddle (still does) and control (i see now). Once i had kids, i started to feel she wanted to take them over, in a sense. She insinuates that my ways of wanting to raise them isnt worth trying and should default to what she knows, ugh its a battle. I tell her how i feel then she denies and says im doing a great job. I think thats gaslighting...
You are spot on, I love the way you explain very well.
thank you for all the examples - they really help explain a lot - be safe and stay healthy - thanks again - SD, CA
Awesome video, as usual from Dr. Meredith Miller. I subscribed in 2017 and I have enjoyed a loooong list of great videos from her. *_Thanks so much, as your knowledge has made a positive difference in my life._*
Your Content is Soooooooooo healing you helped save my mind, please don't ever stop this is your calling!!
If there is a pattern of people using you, is it okay to just stop talking to them? If you keep saying hi and being friendly, they just assume you are okay with them treating you like you don't matter. If you somehow try to explain that you feel msitreated, some people will just call you crazy.
Definitely! We can’t teach people how to be decent human beings when they’re determined not to be.
I say still Hi to show them kindness. If they reach out to have to go more in connection I say, I can't do like nothing happen... it's up to them to correct themselves, show understanding....and even then I need my time to trust again. Some excuse them and still repeat... so I move on.
Duh 🙄
Another informative video. Thank you for helping us all. 💝
Yep they drain you of everything mentally, physically, and financialy...and they don't even care ...yeah I have resentment ...and am learning how to never allow myself to have these type of people in my life
I’ve learned a lot over the past year trying to understand a toxic narcissistic relationship I’m in. One thing I have found when setting boundaries is that I need to “be okay” with how he is going to respond. Before I commit myself to that boundary, I think to myself “I know how he is going to react. He’s going to give me the silent treatment or he won’t talk to me for weeks but that’s okay.”
Excellent insight!
I hope you are aware that this is not healthy
There are four types of character in human beings: One that says: “mine is mine, and yours is yours”: this is a commonplace type; and some say this is a sodom-type of character. [One that says:] “mine is yours and yours is mine”: is an unlearned person (am haaretz); [One that says:] “mine is yours and yours is yours” is a pious person. [One that says:] “mine is mine, and yours is mine” is a wicked person.
My ex called me a moron then when i said bye, he texted that he was joking and i get mad at stupid stuff and i shouldve known he was joking bc his coworkers do (he wasnt joking, he said it when i told him i walked with the kids and he didnt believe we werent around a bunch of ppl, said i was being careless!). Basically its my fault he had to call me a moron.......
You make an excellent point. We've somehow made them lash out, and now the believe that we need to be punished.
For as long as narcissists are continuing to be getting something from someone far more than the little drips and crumbs that they are offering as gifts in return they are the best hard working folks around. However the minute a person who is having to continue being around any narcissist must be disagreeing with them by starting to admit to the narcissist and later to others in public too about how they are not at all happy about how they are being treated and/or neglected by the narcissist[s] then their trashing of people begins.
they are like tapeworms. They will never leave anyone alone.
I hate their smug smile. They really think thevy'e fooled everyone. EVIL
Love your top and your arms of steel. I am so sick of the people using "privileged & woke" community. I have been around the block, traveled the world, have many acquaintances of so many backgrounds, tasted so many different foods, listened to so many different beautiful music, have recovered from a 17 year abusive relationship, am always learning, love your videos.....so you get the drift, I wish people would just Live and Let Live and work for their own shit and stop the whining, Thank you for letting me share :)
Amazing points you made . 🙏
Thanks for the video, I had no idea about entitlement, so I will try to look out for this behavior from now on... thanks again.
Thank you for sharing! This is so clear and is an exact description of the narcissists in my life.
This is excellent content, thanks!
Your videos are so informative, so well structrured, and so valuable! Many thanks Meredith!
Great sponsor. You never know with these people. What a great technique to prove cheating (unfortunately) in some cases with narcissist relationships people are stuck in. A token to freedom in some way.
When my ex-best friend betrayed me, she never acted entitled with me until we rented a house together and felt like she was entitled to move out without giving notice nor paying her last month's rent, despite being wealthy. While living together, she felt entitled to go into my 16 year old daughter's room and steal her birthday money from family & money she'd earned babysitting for rent though - even though I was paying the agreed upon amount of $800 rent every single month plus my share of utilities. When she convinced me to rent a house with her, she told me she needed help with her dog and daughter while she worked full time, and wanted to do a work trade, which I agreed to, and kept track of my time working. I met all the agreements I made, but after we moved in together, she started complaining that she was paying rent for my daughter's room for me. It made no sense at all whatsoever. She is completely cookoo. I asked her SO many times if she was sure and she assured me over and over again that she was sure she wanted to rent a house together. I had turned her down for previous offers, but this offer made sense - I thought. I was trying to recover from a life-threatening illness too, and long story short, the whole situation caused a catastrophic relapse. I still haven't been able to recover back to the point I was at before I rented that house with her. I was doing pretty good again for 8 solid months, expanded my diet, and everything. Now, I can't even hardly eat anything again, and I"m completely home bound and stuck and can't leave my apartment without having a relapse. I would haver rather someone beat me into a coma than what she did to me.
They shut my life down for years!!!
I really miss these wonderfull vlogs!!
A few years ago we went to a pharmacy with our twins looking for diapers. However at that time there was an acute shortage of them in the whole city and we couldn't buy. My wife got extremely upset and placed our two small kids on the main counter of the pharmacy and made them piss all over it. The clerk called the police, everyone was astonished by my wife behavior and I had to calm things down. Nowadays we are separating and I'm pretty sure that she's a narcissist.
narcs favorite thing to say "everything comes so easily to them, they never work for anything they get. i work way harder and i have nothing" i swear if you ARE privledged and have wealthy family that is willing to help out when needed they will hate that even more!
Thank you so much 🇲🇽 Greetings 🖤
Thank you for speaking out about the misuse of the word "privileged."
Thank you 😊 for your helpful information I will start to use these ideas in use 👍
As soon as you say No that's when the jekyll comes out
Then they name call and twist your words to make them seem like you are doing them wrong
It is sad and draining and confusing.
Emotionally I wish I was not so weak and I could heal from my trauma but I feel broken
They FREELOADED from my life totally STEALING it for years. I can’t get rid of it 😞
My dad used to say "What's mine is mine & what's yours is mine." to my mother. I thought HE made it up.
Thanks!
Thank you you hit that on the nose sweetie. Love you so much ❤️💕💕❤️💕
I have family members that are both overt and covert, switching back and forth to get what they want at whatever cost to their target.
When you have money as you are responsible with it, and they've blown all theirs on psyhcic hotlines and they rage and guilt you for not lending money. Just because you have it and they have not paid back on time in the previous past... (My sister who hates boundries, in no contact nowadays)
I believe narcissists with their sense of entitlement cannot feel or experience gratitude, because (real) humbleness is a prerequisite to feel gratitude.
Exactly...
I mean, can’t possibly practice gratitude, when you genuinely feel entitled to anything and everything to begin with. It’s disgusting.
Thankyou 🌞
So true 🌹
The way to deal with it is - no contact right ?
Meridith,thank you for your videos. I am in the middle of separation and divorce. The entitlement could be hidden from the covert narcissist. My ex wrote on a court document "It is not unfair that the person earning more money would provide more for the family as a whole". In turn he would not work extra hours, keep staying at minimum salary job all his life. He makes himself entitled now to my pension I worked hard for and he is trying to get away with debts we accumulated? I am glad I am getting to this end of this 33 years relationship and marriage. The only regret at this time, I should have done this years ago.
Wow thank you for sharing this with others!
This video is right to the point.
What happened to your podcast and TH-cam videos? We miss you.
On pause while I’m in transition and figuring out the path forward through the increasing censorship and information control.
Thank you for the clear example of people misusing the word “privilege”. This happened to me twice, from separate people, within a few months back in 2017. One was a coworker that had NPD, that disagreed with an opinion I had. I told her off and distanced myself from her and set clear strong boundaries thereafter. The harder one was a friend I have had since college. Her wife and her had just found out that they were having triplets and I expressed concern for her financially and she told me how privileged I was. The relationship has never been the same. I was shocked because though my partner and I are comfortable now, I spent most of my life struggling to get to this point and my college friend knows that. I knew at the gut level that both of these people were using this word wrong. I told the college friend that I was going to sit this particular movement of “call out culture” out. The damage has been done though, I rarely talk to her now and when I do she seems resentful about everything.
You mean so much to me. I want to gain back my family's respect
I totally had this in a job about 3 years ago. I still haven't recovered. I was scapegoated and made to feel bad for not going to an event that one of my co-workers was having. Well there's a lot I do to manage my own health, and well-being. I felt shamed for saying no I couldn't go. And because this person was my Superior I thought they were right. They wouldn't accommodate my autoimmune disease. All I asked for was to have a schedule that was consistent, like 8 hours a day 5 days a week. And then damn I listen to myself and think oh am I acting entitled. Mother fuck anyways thank you you've helped me a lot. 🤪
My sister ON MY BIRTHDAY sent me tons of of texts demanding I put my property / house into her drugged sons name. No joke. Then the nasty mean F U messages started I reminded myself when I have the tendency to talk to her again. . Makes me very sad that I have to cut her off completely. We don’t have any other family at all.
9:18 a worse situation isn't helping. Just speaking about personal life. Judging between sleep deprivation and a place where the police have warned I'm not safe to be due to race and criminal activity isn't about entitlement to decline. (I look like the entitled guy in the video still frame and often wear a similar shirt) (sometimes videos are recommended based on what is occurring in my life, nothing to do with the content creator. Like when Mack Miller was a passenger in my car but didn't want to disclose who his celebrity girlfriend that just dumped him was, but TH-cam recommended all Ariana Grande videos)
Privileges like system privileges. As in what a user is permitted to do. That's what I had in mind. A better way to get my point across would have been " Get off my lawn ". The internet is being used for what feels like lawn violations.
Patterns prevail! He hid money, stole from work, cheated, replaced me, and then blamed me for “not accepting him for who he is”. As if anyone on this planet would go for that shit! His POS mother backed him on everything. I’m convinced Narcs are actually made through spoiling and lack of discipline as children. He was repugnant!
What if your sister, as you’re struggling to save your home and business from a scammer, on your birthday, suddenly demands you leave everything to her son (will) or she will cuss and block you forever ? In nasty text messages ? Not funny
MsYogaGrrrl aloha and thank you 😊 I am always admonished now it’s the trained flying monkey or whatever (son) we are all the family we have in the world . We only have each other no one else is real family etc etc . This time I am adamant.
As for the scammers, also so -called family/ ohana and know them for years. I suppose I needed these lessons on the school of life to see my blind side/ weaknesses. Still dealing with Bs legal/financial scam issues .
Ex: 😠 "Sign these gift letters so I can get this mortgage."
Me: *reads documents*
Me: 😕 "Um... I didn't gift you those 10s of thousands of dollars for the house. I gave you that money because were planning on owning it together. Now that I'll never live in that house, you need to repay me before I sign this or it's illegal loan fraud."
Ex: 😡 "THE HOUSE IS MINE!!! YOU WERE NEVER ON THE TITLE!!!"
Me: 🤨 "But I've paid thousands and you've yet to put a single penny into the house..."
Ex: 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
Me: 😑 *calls lawyer*
you are awesome... you should have way more subscribers!
If you see the pattern , pull the plug. I love it.
Eye-opening
When you spoke of privilege my mind went to the people who chastise celebrities for having opinions on important matters. To me it always seems to be comments made out of jealousy and victimhood.
the song from charlie and the chocolate factory [original movie] '' want it now''comes to mind. It's like they literally want the whole world and believe it''belongs''to them.
My daughter is an overt narcissist like her bio dad, is it genetic?
That is the best infomercial about getting tested.. genius
Meredith, do you know of any genuine narc abuse therapist who takes insurance..I’m in Portland OR.
Thank you!
How do you know if your partner is a narcissist or if your relationship is just bad... ok r how would I know if I was the narcissist and that's the problem? I'm in a really tough spot right now and I have 3 young kids to consider but the one thing that is clear is how unhappy our circumstances are and I cant do it anymore. Been together almost 11 years. Please offer some advice, thank you. Your videos have been so helpful to me recently
exactly my ex. i loved her w all my lif but i cannot resolve her..
Wow, and in my perspective it looks as if you have worked hard to achieve some very desirable traits!
You just described our neighbors....
Sorry your mother pulled that despicable stunt Meredith, just disgraceful.
Hola, Meredith. En algún video, ¿podrías hablar sobre la *sensación de vacío?*
Puede atenuarse a veces, pero nunca desaparece.
Saludos, espero que andes bien por ahí :)
I think another manifestation is evident in some who are very anti-authoritarian ... it’s as though they feel above the law and how dare they get issued a ticket by police or have any kind of censure from an employer or other person in authority.
You look so beautiful! I feel so blessed to have found your channel. You are so helpful to so many people . Thank you for sharing your knowledge!!!
They think they own me????
My ex-husband forced me to pay for an overseas trip after he didn't work for 3 months and I had just bought him a car so he could work. I bought him a one way ticket and filed for divorce.
😁
People in politics are that entitled and talk others being "capitalists".
When my business took off,they vilified me by saying that I am a capitalist.
I had been a creative and had tried alot of times to create businesses.
They did want to benefit from the business by selling things to me but called me a capitalist.
The people who don’t want to see you doing well and succeeding are usually deeply afraid of their own mediocrity so they want everyone else lowered to their level. You’ll always be able to recognize them by the hypocrisy. They feel entitled to use your success for their advantage but put you down for your achievements.
Girl, I love you so much, your voice is beautiful and strong and confident and wise and I love you for that. You are helping me through a very ugly situation, and every time I listen to you I calm down and I feel that I can make it through. Thank you from the bottom of my heart thank you ❤️💚💛
I am having trouble with the narcissist return. We go through the let go process, friend zoned, but it’s like a cycle of abuse he comes back. How can I communicate in a way that is friendly that won’t trigger a negative response?
Any response is supply. Negative or positive, you are feeding them what they seek. Cut off, don't respond.
Dont communicate.end of. Free yourself.xxx
Explicit alternatives to " get off my lawn " would trigger the algorithms.