INFP's thoughts on ENFJs
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ธ.ค. 2022
- I love ENFJs! The ones i know are lovely, such understanding and thoughtful people who give their all to better people's lives :) I give some personal thoughts on how ENFJs can live a happier life, today i get to be the one giving you advice!
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ENFJ here and I want to say that all INFPs are beautiful people and I love them all. Society thrives because of all you INFPs. Much love to you all❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👍
Thank you! 😊
Hey Ingrid, I really appreciate this, and fitting you're posting this today, as the only (as far as I can surmise) ENFJ friend I ever had passed on 6 years ago to this day! We knew each other 25 years, and she's the person who accepted AND understood me more than anyone I've ever known. Indeed...we would go so deep in conversation, it would actually make the room feel different to where you were totally unaware of the setting, we'd be so lost in each others thoughts really. Fascinating to hear about the ones you've known and the contrasts between them. Indeed, they really are tuned in to us, and yes, the forwardness at times can feel a bit much, though ultimately thankful for it as it often comes at just the right time, at least from what I've experienced. For sure though, yes, both types have much to offer each other mutually. It was very much the case with my friend and I, and it's one of many things I miss about her. Thanks much for sharing this. This gave me a nice lift here. ☺ -Carm
Thanks, i love ENFJs and their deep thoughtfulness and care. They really understand INFPs in a way few do.
I've got an ENFJ twin sister and am constantly finding myself surrounded by ENFJs...they're very warm, honest and loyal, while at the same time, I've definitely sometimes found them difficult and visa-versa, often for exactly the reasons you'd think...overall I love them all though and feel very warm and comfortable with them, and lots of fun. The occasional ENFJ just gets so caught up feeling shame in terms of the Fe world, and wondering why, for instance, an INFP isn't feeling ashamed for, say, not fitting in...but INFPs really do need to have ENFJs around, I think, to have someone to look out for them, protect them even...
Wow that's great, I'd love to be twins with an ENFJ! Like you said INFPs can be tremendously helped and "protected" by an ENFJ. They are so fun and supportive and really care for INFPs whereas other types might overlook them.
Okay I just clicked in this video, cause you seemed so cute from the thumbnail 🤍🤍 wanted to say that 👍🏻
I think I know just one ENFJ, and they're the best person I know, I aspire to be more like them, to me they seem like the most well-balanced person I know. But they're so kind and busy that I worry sometimes if they take enough time for themself. I hardly get to spend time with them since they know so many people and they're always busy, which hurts a little. I want to be a better friend to them, I guess I want to feel a little special to them because I value them so much. But I know that probably won't happen, and I'm starting to accept that. The fact they don't reach out to me as much I take as a sign that they are starting to prioritize the people that mean most to them, which is a good thing! So we might not see each other as much, or we might never see one another again but I have learnt so much from them. Especially since they're a lot healthier than me. Getting to know them has opened my eyes to so many things and they're so wonderful. They are the only person who makes me feel like an equal - not talking down to me, not 'dumbing down' topics (unlike my INFJ sister who makes me feel a little dumb sometimes, though unintentionally) but instead they are understanding and always make an effort to help people. Since I only know one ENFJ I really don't want to generalize, but I admire them so much. Everything you said is so spot on!
Yeah ENFJs seem to have it all and be very balanced and lovely. However it's hard to meet up with ENFJs, which can be a bit frustrating as an introvert, especially if you value quality time as a love language. But that's good that your ENFJ has learned who they want to spend their time with.
I think I only know one ENFJ, but funnily enough she happens to be my twin sister, and she’s great, for a while there was that sibling rivalry that sorta just happens and exists but now I think we get along much better, but on top of that, because we’re as close as we are, the Fe “caregivership” or whatever you want to call it can be quite smothering at times, for example she’ll often try to make decisions for me (though admittedly she’s right and they’re often “better” decisions, for example making sure I get work done even though I don’t care about said work in the slightest). She tends to struggle to make decisions for herself, though, its as if she rarely knows what she wants, and often ends up asking whoever’s around what she should do. She’s also quite extroverted but that is usually counterbalanced by my introverted parents’ (INTJ father and ISFP(?) mother) understanding of my longing for moments of solitude. TL;DR 8/10, a bit smothering and also very Fe but otherwise very sweet and caring individuals.
You summed it up nicely! Love ENFJs to bits but their Fe can be a bit much at times 😂
I'm an INFP with an ENFJ twin sister, haha...I wonder if this is a thing!
We have the same name and mbti type… 😳 great video! :)
Hey Ingrid. I know of at least 4 or 5 ENFJs, and I suspect at least a couple more are ENFJs. I find them to be variable, and I have different thoughts on them. In general, I believe they can be great, even amazing people with whom I can have a good synergy. At their worst, some of which I have seen and experienced, they are a nightmare! Here are some thoughts and observations:
One ENFJ I know really turned his life around. He used to be unhealthy in the Fe-Se loop by being reckless. He has gone through so much personal development, and he does so much good for others! It was because of him that I have been able to reconnect with so many friends while making new friends.
The others I know or suspect to be ENFJs are women. One ENFJ I know was something of a twin flame. She ended up being a toxic friend by whom I felt disrespected. We parted ways and have not seen each other in 2 and a half years. Another ENFJ is a friend from school who wants to give a lot of love but ends up not being as loving to herself. Another ENFJ seems somewhat melancholic, and her Si blind spot shows with certain physical issues.
The two I suspect are ENFJs are fun people to be around. I struggle a bit with seeing their discomfort when I show emotions with which they feel discomfort, or I don't seem to show emotions. They can be prone to being so stimulated by things from the outside, so there can be struggles to connect with them a bit.
That's great you know so many ENFJs and who are so different! It is true there can be some discomfort around which emotions are "acceptable" or not and be a bit too extroverted to connect with, but like you said overall wonderful people!
Personally, I clash with the fe function. The only FJs I really get along with are ISFJs so I can't really say I like them too much but it's good that you can get through to them lol.
Yeah no i know it can be hard with Fe types. I think as long as they are accepting of your Fi being strange to them it's ok, but some just will never like Fi and those people i can't stand. However i would give the benefit of the doubt.