What If My Ex Finds Someone Else When I Go No Contact

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  • What if my ex finds someone else when I go no contact? Often times we become very afraid that our ex will move on and find someone else during no contact. It can happen and it feels like you will never have another chance with them.
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  • @kirkv2262
    @kirkv2262 6 ปีที่แล้ว +552

    I don’t care if my ex forgets about me or find somebody else. She made her decision . While I’m getting stronger and looking like the man of steel she is getting overweight and acting immature. Her loss. She’ll never find anybody like me again.

    • @Aliexei
      @Aliexei 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Kirk V That right!

    • @meeraraj0
      @meeraraj0 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yes!! 💙💚💛💜

    • @deweycouto6922
      @deweycouto6922 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Kirk v....great outlook man...im trying to get there myself...but coach does...a great job here...

    • @michellpalacio4
      @michellpalacio4 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      That what I say about my ex he will never find someone like me.

    • @fgtcg8078
      @fgtcg8078 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      It’s true, us as Guys need to remember that our ex isn’t perfect there were things that they do/ or not do that piss us. We can find someone better trust me you just have to keep looking.

  • @meeraraj0
    @meeraraj0 6 ปีที่แล้ว +304

    The greatest self discipline that it took to watch someone go and not be reactive is a war like no other. It made me stronger than even dads death.

    • @monkizaki1440
      @monkizaki1440 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Wow........ More Power to you!

    • @benjunior1678
      @benjunior1678 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I agree. More power & blessings to you.

    • @ToeKneeMedia
      @ToeKneeMedia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Truly hell

  • @afterastrum
    @afterastrum 4 ปีที่แล้ว +245

    Think about this: if they get with someone else soon after a breakup, I know it may hurt, but really think about it logically. Why would you want someone back who can just flip from you to someone else like you’re nothing? Regardless of the brain chemistry going on or whatever, there is a total lack of respect from them. So respect yourself. If they come crawling back in the future, respect yourself, and don’t let them back into your life. You will find someone who wouldn’t split your heart into two like that. That ex doesn’t deserve you.

    • @qarreeayantumekonnen1205
      @qarreeayantumekonnen1205 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Happy I came across your comment.

    • @tinamkrkmn
      @tinamkrkmn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😍

    • @Wildanimal864.
      @Wildanimal864. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s usually not about you it’s about them….they have issues and probably are using the new person to cope with your loss . They aren’t as evil as you think with self work on both sides it’s sometimes good to consider getting back together. But you gotta get outta the butthurt……no pun intended.

  • @outroseok
    @outroseok 2 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    seeing your ex give attention to someone else takes the breakup and increases the pain by 1000% it’s straight up awful, it was my biggest fear going into this breakup and now it came true. I truly don’t wish this pain on anyone.

    • @alanzo428
      @alanzo428 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      My ex literally told me on the phone 6 hrs before she broke up with me in person that she wasn't gona break up w me. One week before the break up we were talking about engagement rings, wedding venues, and children. Some people have the capacity to treat other humans like socks or disposable cups. Sorry that happened to you but always remember that karma will come to them weather u want it to or not

    • @Swift_007
      @Swift_007 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know it's hard but time will heal you properly

    • @robert8211
      @robert8211 ปีที่แล้ว

      Any update?

    • @SAMBITTARAI96
      @SAMBITTARAI96 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can relate to it as this is what happened to me

    • @user-il1if6fn4m
      @user-il1if6fn4m 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      7yrs later, breaks up with me out of the blue, says he doesn't know what's he's looking for. Liar. Had already found someone from his past and in 2 weeks posted 'in a relationship' . Now has blocked me from FB. He was my best friend and I miss him. Don't want him back as in a romantic way bit miss my friend so much.

  • @carolloraine223
    @carolloraine223 5 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    I'm no longer on social media.
    For me personally, It's a waste of time.

    • @Outsider_aa
      @Outsider_aa 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I just did the same, started to feel better soon after

    • @ett2
      @ett2 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Deleted mine today.

    • @abbybella2884
      @abbybella2884 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I deactivated mine 3 days ago. And i feel good. I only have instagram but only positive vibes that I followed.

    • @dripsa
      @dripsa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My job involves social media. It's doubly difficult :(

    • @TravelHall74
      @TravelHall74 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same here

  • @sianmegginson8110
    @sianmegginson8110 6 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    Great advice . If someone finds someone else during no contact they are a rebound because some people I have known have to have someone in their lives no matter who they are. After personal growth I realised when that person came back I no longer wanted him as I had changed the person I was and no longer liked them. The reason you go no contact is usually for a good reason.

    • @stevendoesnt663
      @stevendoesnt663 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You are the same person just time made you feel different !

    • @ceesarjoust3794
      @ceesarjoust3794 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@stevendoesnt663 not really, people do change. I wish to change to be in the position of this hound lady.

    • @Manu-od8du
      @Manu-od8du 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Only if they still have feelings for you, if not it is not a rebound relationship. I think that many find someone when they are ready to start loving again

    • @KiLLoRChiLLoR
      @KiLLoRChiLLoR 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Manu-od8du How can you love someone else so fast again if you didnt put in the work and listen to your own body and just flee into a new relationship to feel something again which was missing.
      Thats not healthy and not a sign of self love.
      If you only were together for some months okay then maybe, but never after at least one year.
      Its like you should give urself at least 3 months.

    • @danielbrown8602
      @danielbrown8602 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Aisha updates?

  • @abdiellawrence397
    @abdiellawrence397 6 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    She found someone else, but they broke up. Oh well. 😂😂😂

    • @benjunior1678
      @benjunior1678 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      👍😁

    • @dannybarly441
      @dannybarly441 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's your victory!! Congratulations 🎊👏👏!!!

  • @MarshallSmith27
    @MarshallSmith27 5 ปีที่แล้ว +187

    I go for runs when I'm stressed out. it helps a lot but today she unfollowed me and no amount of running helped

    • @radchad992
      @radchad992 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Marshall Smith hey man I know that pain. Life is getting knocked down but you get back up. For me getting back up was like a dragging myself with one arm and crawling then a stumble but I got up. It’s not easy but you WILL bounce back better than you remember

    • @iveheardthenews
      @iveheardthenews 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      My ex unfollowed me on everything and man did that hurt. Going through the same thing!

    • @lenscapewithbry
      @lenscapewithbry 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Any updates

    • @kmarie-eb4th
      @kmarie-eb4th 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@radchad992 I am finding it very hard to pick myself up at all. I want to do positive things and exercise but I am struggling to do anything at all and am almost paralyzed in shock, sadness and feeling worthless. Any suggestions.

    • @justinwarren9355
      @justinwarren9355 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      kmarie 2251 drop me a message on truebloke@hotmail.com and I will give you some advice/support. I have been broken up recently but was also 2 years ago by the same person. The difference between how I dealt with it before and now are massive- I am more at peace.

  • @smallfish5193
    @smallfish5193 6 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    This is completely true. I listen you when I go to bed and fall asleep every night.

  • @DanielleFerreira-kt7ix
    @DanielleFerreira-kt7ix 6 ปีที่แล้ว +136

    My ex got married during no contact... 6 months after he broke up with me and we'd been together for 5 years... but it wasn't no contact's fault. I believe in no contact, it really is the only way. If it won't do, pestering our exes never will. No contact is our best chance.

    • @Ssengel69
      @Ssengel69 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      D D that's horrible to hear! I'm sorry you are going thru this. I was in a 6 year one and I'd be sick to my stomach if that happened to me. But do you really think as a marriage like that will last tho? Truly doubtful it will.

    • @DanielleFerreira-kt7ix
      @DanielleFerreira-kt7ix 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you for your answer! That's what I think! The other girl has nothing to do with his life, she's from his home country, but they have completely different life stories! Now, she's from one of the "banned countries" and she can't go to the US and he can't go to her country for some reasons. They have to meet in another place, they are having a distance marriage! Can this thing work?? I'm not waiting for him to come back to me, but I just wanted to understand what happened!

    • @tmsn123
      @tmsn123 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      6 months then married? Really? I've hard time seeing that lasting forever though.

    • @DanielleFerreira-kt7ix
      @DanielleFerreira-kt7ix 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeah! Six months after he broke up with me. They are both from the same country, but he left more than 5 years ago, they were acquaintances, he lived in two different countries after he left his hometown, we had this explosive/Romeo and Juliet, 5 year relationship, after he broke up with me, he reconnected with her online, they met, got married in 6 months and now she can't go to America (banned by Trump's immigration law) and he can't go to their country because of political reasons as well. They got married in a third country and are now running a long distance marriage. One may say, maybe they were talking during these years, I know they were not because she never liked any of his pictures or anything on fb, he had blocked her bc he didn't like her and she liked him. After we broke up, I started seeing her likes on his and his mom's pics. How messed up is that? I swear, I'm not trying to get back with him, I just wanted answers, I just think he made a wrong move. Ok, if it didn't work with me, fine, but what's it about this rush marriage with someone who lives in another continent?? I mean it, I'm just trying to understand! Thanks for writing!

    • @amy720sj
      @amy720sj 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My thoughts are he just like the feeling of being lonely and unloved so he decided to jump on a new girl who'd show him love and affection like u did. My bets are they won't be married for long and all he's looking for is your kind of love which only you are able to give. Talk to coach he knows better!

  • @CoachCraigKenneth
    @CoachCraigKenneth  6 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    Hey guys if you like this topic, be sure to give the video a thumbs up!

    • @BlakeFan
      @BlakeFan 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Coach Craig Kenneth This is exactly what happened to me, just 2 hours ago! Oh I am so broken right now I feel this physical pain and weight on my chest that I can’t even breathe!

    • @teresafulloption3873
      @teresafulloption3873 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Blake Fan I hug You, I feel U, I know that it is hard to believe but time will help, felt the same, please do pray. Now there is a guy in the picture ( not Craig:) a real friend, in the perspective far better than my ex, believe it or not but I started to feel something nice, life is better again...
      ....I kept my dignity, keep yours...and my ex?he looks bad-that is all I have to say.
      take care of yourself, Avoid alcohol, listen to Craig in the morning.
      🐍 just one thing - are you willing to give up to yourself for this person? your deeds, your bright side, every time you Fed a hungry homeless dog, every Smile. .. seriously?, for the person who could be so hartless-could you advice somebody to change, suffer, for her/him.
      this person will pay for it... with time, meanwile-go for a walk, there are nice people-just like me - wating for you out there:*💋

    • @tmsn123
      @tmsn123 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      This happened to me. I went no contact.. I thought everthing was perfect with her new boyfriend. It looked like it on social media. 3 Months later she broke up with her new boyfriend and called me. She said she missed me and wanted to have sex with me. She said she felt more relaxed around me. And that she'd never forget me. I still want her back. But thing was really difficult for us for special reasons. Our age difference etc. I'm 27, she just turned 19. We were together for 2 years. Because of our age difference our relationship has always been a secret. She also said she loved her new boyfriend, but she loved me more and was really uncertain about the new guy. Though she wouldn't go "no contact" with him to get me back. I told her she need to find out what she feels for the new guy and it's for the best that we wait for the time to be more right for us. I don't know if I should move on with someone new, or wait. I then told her to go back to him so she can find out what she really feels. So she did. I just went "no contact again" and hope that she will come back in maybe 6 months. Though I am afraid she might be over me by then...

    • @herrklamm1454
      @herrklamm1454 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Coach Craig Kenneth oftentimes I’ve noticed you say oftentimes often.

    • @sula1529
      @sula1529 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BlakeFan are you ok now?

  • @Nsands81
    @Nsands81 6 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Just focus on you and making you happy. Be the one who makes you happy

  • @craigmerrila7767
    @craigmerrila7767 5 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    My ex did find someone during NC.
    Out of my hands.
    I'll just keep working on myself.
    It's a marathon not a sprint

    • @lenscapewithbry
      @lenscapewithbry 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      craig merrila any updates?

    • @kmarie-eb4th
      @kmarie-eb4th 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I admire your resilience and confidence. Way to go!!!

    • @craigmerrila7767
      @craigmerrila7767 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@lenscapewithbry she's still with some guy. Honestly, ive not looked at her fb in over a year or ever asked mutual friends what she's doing..i still think of her every day which I feel sabotages any new potential dates.
      I'm healthier, look better, more emotional mature, with a better job, nicer home than when she met me..and she has no idea.
      But I just have to deal with my inability to stop thinking about her.
      It's been 2 years.

    • @KiLLoRChiLLoR
      @KiLLoRChiLLoR 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@craigmerrila7767 much respect, never stop going for your dreams - how long do you guys were together?
      And do you date new women?

    • @craigmerrila7767
      @craigmerrila7767 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@KiLLoRChiLLoR I do date..but I think if her. It frustrates me that I do, which makes me feel I have attachment issues.
      Sad

  • @carolloraine223
    @carolloraine223 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    It just wasnt meant to be.
    Send a silent Blessing and move on.

  • @DG-uu8ej
    @DG-uu8ej 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I was sceptical about all of this, and then I reached out to my ex, not to get him back but just to talk as a friend, end only then I realised what I have done, so yes, no contact does work, and yes, your ex will reach out :)

  • @betherealdeal
    @betherealdeal 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Don’t fear anything don’t fear anyone

  • @marcuslopez9373
    @marcuslopez9373 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I got to the point where I stopped giving a damn. I made peace with my ex breaking up with me. It was a tough moment in my life. It's been 3 years since my ex broke up with me. Thank God I've been able to push through that tough moment in my life. Also, thank God for my friends that have always been there for me. God Bless you Coach Craig and Coach Margaret.

  • @catastrophenoise
    @catastrophenoise 6 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    3 months no contact now and weird is now after all this time, i don't think he was the right one for me, now i see all his red flags, i couldn't see that before. i was too much into him and was blind. it was my hardest break up, i fell so deep, in a deep black hole and to be honest i'm still suffering and i try to figure out why.. putting all the puzzles together to finally move on. during a break up you learn so much about yourself, it's interesting. i wouldn't know what to do if he will contact me (which i don't believe will ever happen, he is too proud).. i would be confused, but hopefully i'm then strong enough to say ..goodbye..

    • @iamfrankcaceres
      @iamfrankcaceres 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Cat Caet who did the dumping?

    • @ronaldmark2118
      @ronaldmark2118 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I had to tell myself I wouldn't go back to her even if she wanted me back. That no it would just be the same sh*@ as before. A long distance relationship. Endless texts or no texts no calls.

    • @abbybella2884
      @abbybella2884 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Cat Caet we both have the same story.

    • @abbybella2884
      @abbybella2884 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My boyfriend dumped me

    • @eppeep42
      @eppeep42 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey! any updates? how are you?

  • @gabrielakunz6404
    @gabrielakunz6404 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    My ex broke up with me one hour after he sended me a text that said "I love you" then I moved to Mexico for a few months because I was devastated and I needed to see my family. But he promised me that he wouldn't meet anybody else that he needed to work on his self and that he wasn't interested. Few days after that a friend showed me he was on tinder, I confronted him and he told me that he had tinder just to boost his ego not to meet someone else. Well that wasn't true because my friend told me he was asking her to meet her.
    He hasn't talked to me yet and I don't think we'll ever do that. It hurts... I did everything for him. 💔

    • @brenlynrosedellosa9237
      @brenlynrosedellosa9237 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm in the same situation. How are you doing? Did you get back with your ex?

    • @QIKWIA
      @QIKWIA 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      🤨HE'S A STRAIGHT UP LOSER ..MOVE ON..RUN..AND BE THANKFUL THAT YOU DODGED THAT BULLET.

  • @donniesdesertcannabis9246
    @donniesdesertcannabis9246 6 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    The love of my life of 9 years broke up with me about 2 months ago, out of the blue, I was devestated , more devastated than I've ever been. I'm finally turning the corner and I'm actually starting to like being single and i ALMOST don't give a shit what, and who she does. I'm focused on me and my well being and focusing on work and my dogs.

    • @stevendoesnt663
      @stevendoesnt663 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Out of the blue !!! Damn...This women technique pisses me off! No Ballz, (obviously), no dignity to confront and talk the shit out ! Just make their own made up ideas with usually huge help from her girlfriends (very gossiping and entertaining for em!) in her parallel reality!

    • @formangrilling111
      @formangrilling111 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      davy boy fucking seriously. Babygirl broke up with me from one perfect moment to a crying disaster. All on face time with only a few months till she graduates. She’s dating only one month after breaking up and throughout the whole breakup she would want to talk because “she wasn’t ready”. Four years sleeping I’m the sane bed and sharing future plans and what’s not. Some women are just ruthless and brutal lmao

    • @activitylog1655
      @activitylog1655 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Update?

    • @peachblossom.phlox3403
      @peachblossom.phlox3403 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      My ex also broke up with me all of a sudden it felt like. He said he wasn't happy but he never told me he was feeling this way. I wish he would of said something and we could have talked and worked on us 😞😞

    • @soldierofgod349
      @soldierofgod349 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same 16 years together and she was happy the day I left out to go somewhere I get a message saying she’s leaving! By the time I got back home she was gone with my 4 year old daughter,this was a month ago,I’m dying everyday

  • @examplejohn5781
    @examplejohn5781 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Got my heart broken for the 1st time at 26 year old, after a 6 year relationship. Seen a lot of things since i was a kid but never felt as hurt as now. I took things as granted, and was shocked and confused when the reality hit me in the face like a cold slap, as i got dumped. Learned that loyalty is not the only thing that keeps a good relationship afloat, i was not emotionally present for myself so how could i be for one another. The fiction you build in your head while thinking your lost love, can be a lot harsh than reality itself. Only thing you can change now is yourself so why not focus on that.

    • @brenlynrosedellosa9237
      @brenlynrosedellosa9237 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How are you? Did you get back with your ex?

    • @examplejohn5781
      @examplejohn5781 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@brenlynrosedellosa9237 Have not seen her ever since

    • @brenlynrosedellosa9237
      @brenlynrosedellosa9237 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@examplejohn5781 I hope I get through this. What did you do? Did she tried reaching out again?

  • @koolhandlukemakemyday8812
    @koolhandlukemakemyday8812 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I did no contact, and within two weeks of the break up, she’s in a relationship already after over a year of being together. She and her 10 year old son has had issues due to dad being a drug addict. She said I can’t be in a relationship right now. She told me that she was failing as a parent to him. I was in total support of them getting help. Oh, I was this such an amazing man. Talked about marriage and moving in together. I was the best man she had ever been with. The best lover, most understanding and loving man to her and her son. What a gut wrenching feeling! I’m so blown away!

    • @henryjazz173
      @henryjazz173 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Any updates?

    • @mmt2310
      @mmt2310 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Update?

  • @jessepushor9967
    @jessepushor9967 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    70 days no contact doubt she will come back she seems all happy with the rebound

  • @silveryrealm
    @silveryrealm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    happened to me. now they live happily ever after and I cry at nights, sometimes all night. so NO contact should be for a limited time.

    • @mjs0112
      @mjs0112 ปีที่แล้ว

      I hope you are feeling better now.

  • @kellyperkins6568
    @kellyperkins6568 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    He is now dating my friend, I felt like I was dying when you d out about this. She was telling everybody we're best friends me her and my boyfriend talk together and everything.soon as we broke up. They started kicking it. He was cheating on me close a week before, everybody was coming and telling me things about them I have cryed every seens then I'm crushed. She even said we were never friends.,that was too justify, the things that my ex,and her got going. I'm so torn,so much but the grace of my father, up a I've I'm going to make it, through this season I'm going threw b, blessed I'm out.

  • @ronnnikki3649
    @ronnnikki3649 6 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I'll save the long story, but I just found out my ex is talking to another girl at our church. Messy. I'm going to mind my business and stay silent and work on me. And attend a new church, lol. Thank you for the motivation to make ME the #1 focus!

  • @keivahummel
    @keivahummel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Been watching you two for years and after yet another breakup with my ex, I took your recommendation to listen to the playlist at night and it’s been so helpful. I’ve felt just a little less anxiety when I wake up to your voices and reminders.💕thank you all so much!

  • @ponokunishima1
    @ponokunishima1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    That’s one of my worst fears and feelings. Last night was the first time my stomach was literally in knots and I couldn’t really breathe. Didn’t really have a panic attack, but I just broke down and cried. You can only wonder if your ex is going through the same way. I do think so, if you’ve been with the person for years, in my case, 5 years.

  • @robinforrest1736
    @robinforrest1736 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I can’t be their best option for many reasons. I don’t live in Florida, his girlfriend has a degree and a better job and a nice place to live and he loves her not me. But I will continue the work. You two are really life savers

  • @LiLgPnoy15
    @LiLgPnoy15 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You two are like members of my family. I absolutely love you two. If you come to the bay area, you got a place to stay, no charge!

  • @Designbluejv
    @Designbluejv 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Oh man that’s how I felt when I saw his new profile picture! Never again!

    • @ramonm35
      @ramonm35 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Wow! Your gorgeous his loss😊

  • @mura0
    @mura0 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    love these two together, specially Margaret. It is called rebound when is short(how short) after the breakup. Question is how long after the breakup it is not considered a rebound, 6 months, one year? because every relationship could be called a rebound at its beginning.

  • @petecoventry6858
    @petecoventry6858 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have gone NC after finding out she was on a dating site - and especially after she said she was on there "just to chat" and was lonely! - The fact she was telling me this just made me think that she was keeping me around until she replaced me - so I walked out the door.

  • @agapevillanueva320
    @agapevillanueva320 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wow thank you so much coach Margarette and coach Craig for ur wonderful video/advice on how to handle massive anxieties brought by my recent break up with my bf. I've seen him dating with someone else that made me broke up with him and it's totally overwhelming pain. Ur video on this particular topic helps me feeling better and hoping to become stronger n better person. Thanks again to you both coaches. I love listening to ur channel. GOD bless n stay safe.😊😍

  • @ginag7844
    @ginag7844 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Oh my goodness! I love being able to listen to you now after the trauma and be able to laugh at things that made me sob months ago. Like the idea that “Two weeks ago he said he loved me and wanted to marry me and now he is so cruel.” When Margret mantienes that it made me laugh so hard and it felt so good. Because it’s so true. But for me now it’s silli and funny when months back it was like the end of the world. I needed up going to intensive treatment after the break up. I had the panic attacks and the anxiety etc. I also fell a sleep listening to the videos and felt understood. I am at peace now thank God. Thank you guys as well.❤️

  • @scotttaylorlmt1994
    @scotttaylorlmt1994 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Ok so here is a question. I’m starting to realize that by breaking up with me my ex-girlfriend gave me a very precious gift. I was lost and lonely when I was with her from inner anxiety and wasn’t in the growth mindset. Now that I’m growing and exploring I can see how we diverged and see that the break up was for the best for us both. One day maybe in a year or more I thought it would be nice to send her a bouquet with a note that simply says “Thank you” would that be appropriate if she initiated no contact with me?

    • @Swift_007
      @Swift_007 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good to know that your situation has improved buddy. As for your question, I prefer to let time speak for you.

  • @simplykaran7214
    @simplykaran7214 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Your videos always bring me back to life after suffering lots of Separation Anxiety from my Ex, who did moved on with her new husband of Nigeria two months ago! This is third month for their relationship and I don't know what to expect and I'm in no contact rule with her, and last I talked with her was almost four weeks ago, when she was in Nigeria with her newly married husband!

  • @empathwriter8700
    @empathwriter8700 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I don’t have my ex on social media, but as I see him in school he’s texting all the time. So I have a guess he has someone, since he perhaps thought that the grass is greener on the other side. I’ve come to the conclusion that it hurts a bit but I don’t feel threatened at all, I also don’t feel unloveable or anything negative. It’s just interesting to see it happen.

  • @hanielstones
    @hanielstones 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Whenever I see my Ex and the other one Online (God dang it Facebook, do you really have to shove it on my face?) I go and watch this along with the other Rebound vids. I don't want to unfriend nor block those two, I want to toughen my way out of this. But heck I got to admit, seeing them go online/offline simultaneously really leaves me shaking from time to time... just like now

    • @zhrafantomar7052
      @zhrafantomar7052 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did ur ex come back?

    • @hanielstones
      @hanielstones 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Nope lmao but that's ok. Dang 8months had passed eh, I didn't even notice that I stopped counting. Things really do get better

  • @lordninoswifey
    @lordninoswifey 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    We were together 8 years (engaged for the last 4 of those). I found out without meaning to that he found someone 9 months after he broke up with me. I know that's a lot longer than a rebound and it didn't happen "quickly", but 8 years together made me think finding someone under a year later was kind of fast. I'm so sick to my stomach thinking that someone else has taken my place, but I'm sure it's better that I found out already.

    • @adrij4961
      @adrij4961 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did they ever reach out?

    • @user-il1if6fn4m
      @user-il1if6fn4m 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So sorry, my story is similar except he went to "her" house the nite we broke up

    • @Miswhitness0520
      @Miswhitness0520 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What ever became to this situation?

  • @damonbrown4861
    @damonbrown4861 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    But most of them block you so you can't even see anything, you never mention this fact... so I can't see anything at all... for us blocked people this really sucks 🙄🙄🙄

    • @zhrafantomar7052
      @zhrafantomar7052 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah it sucks I'm blocked after two months of NC

  • @kerrymillar1267
    @kerrymillar1267 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So glad you’re putting this into words. You feel like you’re going to die and you’re in a fog. You feel like it’s never going to get better. It does it slowly gets better when you focus on yourself.

  • @Afternoon99
    @Afternoon99 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    When we still have feelings for someone but we can no longer be together, even small things they did on social media still effect us. The number of post in their profile is up but they make it private and we can’t see the picture we still feel sad about it. Been 6 months after the break up and I still feel connection from him even we haven’t talk ever since. I feel it would take me 2 years to move on completely from him. The break up was a mess

    • @monicaleond
      @monicaleond 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hope you are doing better

    • @iPodvidmaster
      @iPodvidmaster 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      HMU I’ll get you over it quickly;) u cute

  • @lielastrong2026
    @lielastrong2026 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I watch your videos while sleeping as well, how insightful to remark this trend Craig and Margaret!

  • @lettie1569
    @lettie1569 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Omg, the profile picture situation is exactly what happened to me yesterday. Im laughing of nervousness 😂😂

  • @Barbara.H.
    @Barbara.H. 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It is hard. One day he says that he would never break up with me and i am the best thing that happened to him. And the next day he broke up with me.

    • @jenniebruno9476
      @jenniebruno9476 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Text and consult him now on whatzap..

    • @jenniebruno9476
      @jenniebruno9476 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      +2348170991722
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    • @jenniebruno9476
      @jenniebruno9476 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Let me introduce to you a man that helped me get back my ex.... Who is a genius..

  • @marystacey2216
    @marystacey2216 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Craig ,Margaret I just cant stop crying

  • @adrij4961
    @adrij4961 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Margaret your earrings are the CUTEST I’ve ever seen! You look gorgeous 🤍

  • @sanlaw584
    @sanlaw584 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Please do a video of the difference between chances for long term relationships + short term ones.

  • @luiseleon93
    @luiseleon93 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I deactivated my social media accounts today . For me and not for her . I’m going through the break up for reals now.

  • @TheCHILDRENofTV
    @TheCHILDRENofTV 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    That fog feeling is what I’m going through right now

  • @saarivang270
    @saarivang270 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I go to the gym and is worse now. I'm going through a break up atm and my body wont take in any food. So I just drink my protein shakes. She is constantly on my mind.

    • @taylorgardn1144
      @taylorgardn1144 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sa Vang give yourself another week and you’ll be doing much better. Take it week by week and give yourself time. Although it’ll feel like nothing is going for you give yourself time

  • @nathanescala1860
    @nathanescala1860 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don't want her back , she dumps me and see someone else? where's the true love there? i'm Done

  • @callumwalker8183
    @callumwalker8183 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Hi Craig, What if your ex has already moved on after I spent three months trying to patch things up? When we broke up officially, she was on tinder and talking to guys the same/next day? Why would no contact work on someone that doesn't want you?

  • @davidcharles6043
    @davidcharles6043 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    One of my favorite videos! Especially like the introductory commentary

  • @viruz7776
    @viruz7776 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    my ex did forget about me though

  • @MOTwaccoe
    @MOTwaccoe 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I came off all social media 5 years ago because my life is mine and I don't care what other people are doing. I split from my wife of 23 years 4 months ago and lockdown came in. I still refuse to use social media. I do miss her and not been available at home for my kid's.i am still in love with her but it is fading. So I don't have the problem of stalking her lol. Ban all social media we would all be better off without it

    • @inserter400
      @inserter400 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi I am also separated from my wife of 25 years I could never say I am over her because I thought so much of her and loved her with complete passion and still do.
      But I have respected her decision and given her what she wanted.
      God bless

  • @DtFluffy
    @DtFluffy 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Bout to be three months and I feel like shit not a day does by where I don’t think about her

    • @williambr88
      @williambr88 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You gotta work on yourself. Start working out if you don't already. Quit alcohol, cigarettes, weed whatever it is you do. Start eating healthy and start living your best life. If you start doing these things in another three months you will find someone better and will barely think about your ex. Trust me it takes work, but in the end you will be a better person.

    • @QIKWIA
      @QIKWIA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      DEtaching from a soul tie with an ex is one of THE HARDEST THINGS to do in life, but its not impossible.
      Pray on it.🙏🏿
      Ask God to release you from this toxic bond with this person.. mentally, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually and physically!
      ✌🏿
      NEVER let soneone make you an option all the while uou make them a priority!
      👊🏿Yah dig?😊

  • @LonelyRider87
    @LonelyRider87 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yeah. I was wishing loved ones Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 & I scrolled past his messenger icon accidentally as I was finding people. He changed his first name & his profile picture. When I knew him he stubbornly refused to touch that picture & I was attached to it. For 5 minutes I was so upset. Then I flipped it around. Maybe he's growing & changing. Good for him!
    The dating someone else is a whole nother can of worms when you're poly. It just comes with the territory. It may cost me him. I just have to accept it and mind my own business, like Coach says, it's the only mature thing to do.

  • @grunge_surf_witch_uk9130
    @grunge_surf_witch_uk9130 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Two months since split I did no contact as he seemed happy leaving… he did find someone else don’t know if she was already on the scene. ? He moved on so quick after years together….She’s his ideal woman from all the things he said he wanted in a women I’m absolutely devastated he posted them laughing I couldn’t believe it…. I feel sick heart chest pain can’t eat sleep,still not talked to him for two months…. Feel like I’m dying in so much emotional pain and stomach churning non stop.

  • @zinkr5470
    @zinkr5470 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was a pretty dynamic duo for this particular topic helped alot. Thank you

  • @MegasTeque
    @MegasTeque ปีที่แล้ว

    It's hopeless, when they go, they go.

  • @membering
    @membering 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for this video. I'm going through this right now and it honestly feels like Hell. Pure Hell 24/7. I can't stop crying most days. I want to try and do my best but just feel so so sad. Right now I'm just trying to not get fired from work.

    • @jamesrayson7010
      @jamesrayson7010 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hey I was on ur boat 3 weeks ago the day after I got broken up with I started a new job and wanted to cry in my bosses face I couldn’t pay any attention and couldn’t wait for lunch breaks to cry, what changed? I’m glad you asked, I thought crying is not going to help me move forward with life and even get her back, but by first of all staying calm and knowing as long as she’s in this new relationship she’s not growing but me spending time with myself I can grow and become better while she stays stagnant and rebound relationships do not work even though I see her get in his car I play is cool because I’m a better person by working on myself not jumping into another relationship :)

    • @aliacoo
      @aliacoo 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      TM G Just found out this morning that he is seeing someone else. We had been together twelve years! I had been in no contact for three months. Good luck to you.

    • @membering
      @membering 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      aliacoo good luck to you as well hun ❤

    • @noubietube3062
      @noubietube3062 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Update?

  • @theoneandonlylinman
    @theoneandonlylinman 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    i cant think at all. im falling behind in my studies. all i want is to talk to him to clear some things up so i can get my head clear

  • @Msdiamondbby
    @Msdiamondbby 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Story of my life rn he found someone during no contact he’s posting how perfect she is it hurt so bad

  • @claudiagiacometti8237
    @claudiagiacometti8237 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    If I was dumped as I have been after 5 years, in another state with no job and having to start all over again with nothing, and he hooks up with someone else rebound or not, and then wants me back? No way
    You either want me or you don't.
    Space and time is fine, but not someone else

  • @Sevoflurane2014
    @Sevoflurane2014 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    He described this fog you feel and ive felt this for 4 months now. Ive never been the same person. And i don't think I ever will be. Its literally changed my entire personality. It feels absolutely awful to know my ex jumped to a new relationship the same week we broke up with a low hanging fruit with a guy below me and has been with him 4 months and is probably going to marry him. I have the worst luck. I mean what are fhe odds she found her soulmate the same week????

  • @sarasilver1133
    @sarasilver1133 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Margaret said “I hope you’ve been clear that you didn’t want the breakup...” Uh oh! My only response was “I’m sorry you feel that way. If this is what you want, I understand.” He asked for a break, I was trying to do the right thing by giving him that space/break. That was a month and a half ago. Does he think I’m not interested??? He hasn’t reached out, and I am in no contact. What should I do?

    • @marymake9485
      @marymake9485 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sara Silver we’re the same ! Keep no contact! We can do this I’m on 47 days of no contact

    • @lenscapewithbry
      @lenscapewithbry 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      How are you doing? Any updates

    • @activitylog1655
      @activitylog1655 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Update?

  • @AB-kc2ms
    @AB-kc2ms 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What if they started their relationship long ago (cheated on me) and now they are just flowing?

  • @daquariusgreen9326
    @daquariusgreen9326 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My ex moved on and got pregnant 🤦🏽‍♂️. Hurt but it is what it is.

    • @mvfplanet
      @mvfplanet ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wish you are doing well.

  • @dannycolwell8028
    @dannycolwell8028 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My ex found me. Never reached out to her exes or got back with them.

  • @Vjbc_in_KC_opinionated_grandma
    @Vjbc_in_KC_opinionated_grandma 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How do you forgive yourself for being so foolish? I need to be able to forgive myself.

  • @Manu-od8du
    @Manu-od8du 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He did and he is now engaged with an old friend of mine and they are living together

    • @inserter400
      @inserter400 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Harsh..... Hope you are coping

  • @AnthonyDickerson
    @AnthonyDickerson 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My ex-girlfriend has found 3 someone's and still going lol. it is what it is though, as always great video good information.

  • @summerscents8284
    @summerscents8284 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Is once a cheater always a cheater true? Hope Craig and Margaret can shed a light on this.

  • @PNEUMONIAx
    @PNEUMONIAx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She broke up with me but didn't blocked on Facebook i did 2 months later or something like thar, because my uncle told somethings about her past we were drunk and high i let his words get to me and i blocked her, we haven't talk to each othet since

  • @lizp637
    @lizp637 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dumped after 9 yrs together. I've been devastated the last 3.5 months of nc. Recently found out he'd actually moved on 2 months after our split if not before. Just pure evil of him I think! As painful as its been she can have him. He'll never change, they never do, infact they only get worse as they grow older! Shes put a pic up of them together but he hasn't, I'm still on his fb!
    I was 100% to what I've discovered is a very selfish man with Narcissistic traits!
    Good riddance!

  • @inserter400
    @inserter400 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Has anyone on here ever got back with an ex who went with someone else ?
    How did you get past that when you got back together ?

  • @jenniferjuneau7329
    @jenniferjuneau7329 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don't get why someone would put themselves through this kind of torturing...checking their social media to see their ex with someone else...makes no sense and is stress inducing. I just blocked mine from all social media. He doesn't exist. He's dead to me.

    • @gitarthisaikia5492
      @gitarthisaikia5492 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I also do.Even I make a decision stay away from social media for 3/4 months ..I block him everywhere for only my peace mental health.

  • @Zfsdestroyer
    @Zfsdestroyer 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    About to enter month 4 of no contact, have been using this time to work on myself as i should be. Nov is going to be a tough month, her birthday is this friday and it is going to suck to not reach out, our anniversary is 2 weeks after, and then thanksgiving where we have spent the past many years with family and having fun. I have a feeling she is in a rebound too. she walked away from our 6 yr relationship.

    • @HengTony
      @HengTony 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      stay strong mann

  • @chrisgoomba9735
    @chrisgoomba9735 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I heard through the grapevine that my ex wants to eventually maybe reach out to me. Idk when but it was said when this semester is over and she gets her emotions an thoughts together She broke up with me after 3 months of dating. I got clingy, needy and sometimes she thought I was upset at her because she was sick (She has been taking seizure meds for the past 5 years and they really take a toll on her mentally and physically.) I never meant to lash out or give her that impression but thats what she picked up
    She said she doesnt want to date me again and also is worried that If she reaches out I'll just make it about getting back together and not fully understanding what I did wrong and why she broke up the relationship in the first place. She is on tinder again and she also blocked me on social media during the breakup. How can I keep my cool if she reaches out and why exactly would she want to talk to me after saying that she never wants to date me again?

  • @christopherbullens5494
    @christopherbullens5494 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    With how. My ex gets mad and pissed. And never works out problems just walks away her 2 nd marriage won’t last

  • @jayslackta760
    @jayslackta760 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love the videos! Can you do a video on long distance relationships? My 10 year relationship just ended because i needed to start a new life in another state looking for my purpose on this earth. And she had too much anxiety to live in a different state. So we broke up because i realized my needs were never gonna be met with 650 miles between us. I wasnt done with her, and shes not done with me. But it dosen't make sense to be together. Thanks coach!

  • @laurazabedra5669
    @laurazabedra5669 ปีที่แล้ว

    I know my worth I will continue to work on myself - there loss

  • @glennkeese7922
    @glennkeese7922 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I suspect my ex went back to her ex before me. But she was only with him 4 months, with me a year. With several months between us. All friends say he became a stalker and was pretty nasty though. I have not said any negative or nasty things about her.

  • @ponokunishima1
    @ponokunishima1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What if your sisters friend introduced you to someone and you yourself feels that it’s going too fast and it’s too early to see people, because I just got broken up 4 weeks ago tomorrow, I think, I can’t remember, it feels so long.

  • @findingmoraisinmiralife6313
    @findingmoraisinmiralife6313 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don’t know what to do? My wife wants nothing to do with me. What should I do? Contact me

  • @marystacey2216
    @marystacey2216 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Craig ,Margaret, I need you ,your like parents to me

  • @TravelHall74
    @TravelHall74 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm glad because I've been wanting new suits and brand Corvette and spending all my money on me thank you jesus.

  • @noneya2355
    @noneya2355 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi , my situation is a bit complicated. I live in the U.S and decided a few months ago I wanted a change and felt I wanted to try to move to Spain. During this time I got on a dating site from this place and met an amazing guy. He was the sweetest soul I’ve ever met. Well I planned a trip there and spent two weeks over there. After I came back we still kept talking everyday and he came to see me 4 months later. During all this time I’ve been confused about the relationship which caused me to act cold around him. Now he has been back to his town for a week and has been acting cold. I asked if I did anything wrong and he says no. I apologized for being cold and explained why I was being cold. But still he has been distant. Yesterday he posted a Instagram story showing they were at a concert with God knows who. I didn’t react. I’ve let it be. I don’t know what I should do. I’m so hurt.

  • @patricssenfuma1890
    @patricssenfuma1890 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for work you doing you help me

  • @SharonKellyNutriGirl
    @SharonKellyNutriGirl หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love Margaret. RIP. ❤

  • @uwaridiomari3991
    @uwaridiomari3991 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s happened to me but he told me we can be friends but we can be together like before i don’t understand

  • @inserter400
    @inserter400 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    CK
    Is that something we need to prepare for if we are looking to reconcile with our EXs ? Our EXs being with someone else.
    How do you prepare for that ?

  • @TheM0B11
    @TheM0B11 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    my ex is getting better, im getting better. i wanna be with her still tho been 4 weeks. not a messy breakup, we werent nasty but she wanted it....kills me to see her possibly with someone better

  • @arsjth
    @arsjth 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    hey coach Kenneth.
    I am interested to know why no contact has been so successful in your practice yet another coach I know of says no contact rarely works.

  • @joshcourtois9556
    @joshcourtois9556 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Happens to me but it was a great thing. Im a much better person today.

  • @user-gd1ut1ib9l
    @user-gd1ut1ib9l 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    my ex and I broke up last year and he had a rebound but then he went back to me and we worked it out and now recently we broke up again and he's back with his rebound from last year

  • @mihnea7888
    @mihnea7888 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You guys are amazing. Thank you so much!

  • @DayDayMusic
    @DayDayMusic 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    HELP!!!! My ex finally reached out and said it was over cause she seen me after the breakup "having fun with other girls" and she "will have fun with hers". however the chat ended with she will meet me on her day off next week to talk. I said cool when? she asked what day i wanted her to take off from work to talk...kind of extreme to do id say but okay. i said Tuesday she said alright..i said great how's 4 or 5 pm? never got a reply. ...today I creeped on her facebook, she was dolled up in a selfie with the caption " Take her to the O" (ORLANDO) which is a hour drive away. it comes off as she's on a date....and when i look at the times we was texting and the night this happen , she would of been texting me the whole time she was on this date. from 5pm to midnight our messages was going on. idk what to think , Or how to feel about this. is she trying to be spiteful at me or does she still care???