Coach, I am a success story! I wanted to give back to at least let those know who are struggling with this, that things can get better, even if you can apply a fraction of the knowledge contained in your content. A huge thank you to you and coach Margaret for “being there” for me in such a tough time. Your workbooks were very helpful. Separated from fiancé for 2 months , we are back together going on 3 months and things keep progressing forward! Quality of relationship has gone way up. I could go on and on but wanted to thank you and let others know too. I need to be vigilant in continuing the work! Calling myself out so I don’t become complacent again.
Hey Craig. Your videos are truly amazing. Im in a situation were I've lost my ex. I learned from you I've had underlying causes with my childhood and seperation anxiety. I chose to use drugs and alcohol and gambling as a copeing mechanism. For many years my ex tried and tried to make it work as I didn't see the writing on the walls. But since this has all happened I truly realize what's most important to me it's my wife and daughter. I'm clean now 42 days. I've been doing lots of therapy. Unfortunately I'm not at a place financially to do therapy or get it work books. Your pod casts are truly amazing and have helped me so much. I believe in everything you say and wish I could have found you along time ago. Thanks for making things clear to me.
Real talk. I let my wife go and i moved on, once I was gone she tried to return to the house, I said hell nah, I'm not a dog to go back to eat what I regurgitate. Plenty of females out there to be crying over one. The show must go on.
The part at the very end where Coach Margaret reminds us that silence doesn't mean anything negative about us~~I'm crying. Thank you, dear one, and rest in peace.
Reattracting your ex... think of it like this: When you see a stray dog, if you run after it and chase it in order to catch it, the dog will run in the opposite direction because it feels threatened, overwhelmed and afraid. If, instead, you take your time and have a warm and calm presence, the dog will begin to trust you. It’ll be more likely to approach you. By building that trust and letting the dog come to you, the dog can realize that you actually do have something to offer: food!! Just a little analogy I like to think about in regards to the mistake of ‘chasing’ your ex.
and to my last one :D being chased and running is only fun if you know someone is behind you, who just wants to get you. but if the chaser will focus on themselves and not on you often only then the chased one will start to shift their focus and can see like you said in your dog analogy what the other person can actually offer and their value :) so zero contact does work :))
alc I feel that way too! I can’t believe that he chose someone else over me after being together for 6 years and cheating on her with me. He had my name tattooed on him and everything. I can’t believe it was all fake to him.
Wow that is crazy! I doubt his new relationship will last. I’m so sorry 😕can’t even imagine that. It’s been almost 7 months since my breakup and I’m finally on the other side. ❤️Although I would take him back in a second..
I just have to say…when people express “the break up has been on their mind” and “they’ve thought about and decided it’s over for awhile”….umm how about COMMUNICATING with the one you’re dating!!! The person who decided to make yours! Communication can help soooo many issues but people don’t understand that I swear!
Craig mentioned on an old video that if your ex wants to leave you have to say "OK, let me know if you change your mind". Obviously the concept is to just give them the break-up. Yesterday I met with my ex, with whom I share a daughter. After discovering this channel I have done everything to improve my self, remove all my anxious behaviours as much as possible and a long etc. After a great day hanging out with our baby girl I told her, hey, I want you to come for dinner with me. There was an awkward silence and then her usual "I'll see". At the end of the day I told her ok just let me know for later. She said she wouldn't come. So i said good bye to my daughter and simply told my ex "ok, let me know if you change your mind" 😂😂 It came out of nowhere, completely natural. I kind of entered a meditation state just to digest it. 😂😂😂 A few mins later I got a text. We are having dinner tonight.
Awesome, hope it goes well. When things ended for me I left the guy a voicemail since I knew he was going to be cowardly and not pick up the call and said I am not going to do anything to interfere with your new relationship but where does this leave our friendship..... (no response from him is his response. Learned from mutual friends he is now engaged, but I am struggling with the fact that she has 2 kids (6 &11) when we had multiple conversations about kids and he was always firm on being good without any kids since he was turning 40. I just hope if they go through with the wedding she is honest about she left a 6.5 year marriage. They started dating right around when her divorce was finalized.
We rekindled and are very close now. But i outgrew the romantic part of it. While there is a deep fraternal love in there now we are just focused on the coparenting. She lives in a different country now and long distance wouldn't work for us. But we have always a great time when we meet and discuss ooenly about the little one when necessary. I went on to have other partners. The lessons from craig have been life savers every time. I am frankly happy with the outcome.
Definitely am becoming a better person since my breakup back in October 2019. I’ve lost about 32kg now. I’m the physically strongest and fittest version I’ve ever been. I used to be addicted to weed, depressed, anxious and all around unmotivated and on antidepressants. Now, I exercise 6-7 days a week. I no longer take medication. I have built really great habits with my diet and other lifestyle factors all the while in a pandemic! I’m generally and genuinely the happiest person I’ve ever been.. without my ex! Hell I nearly have a 6 pack abs! All in the space of about 8 months! 😁
Really going through it tonight. I’ve lost count of the days. I hope everyday I hear from him. We were best friends. It’s really crazy how fast you can go from being someone’s everything to absolutely nothing. I’m not giving up on him though. I truly loved him with everything in me.
Right, I don't see how someone you had many intimate conversations with can just turn off their feelings like a faucet although the guy in my case has/had (don't know since we have talked in 7 months and he is with someone else) really low self esteem and would make comments saying he wasn't worthy of me.
It driving me crazy. I was always getting texts saying "you don't know how much I love you" then a week later getting dumped to try to fill a fantasy relationship with a guy she chased for years.. She sent me to the curb and he didn't give her the time again.
I spent the last 7-8 hours leaving TH-cam on auto-play, and listening to your videos as I do art. The two of you helped me though a very traumatic breakup with someone a severe avoidant attachment (abandoned at birth, sexually abused at orphanage), as you can imagine, it was one of the worst breakups, and all the events that lead to it, that took me a couple years to heal from. It's been about 5 years, and I've come such a long way from then, and I've helped so many people by recognizing avoidant / attachments in people, and directing them to your channel. I miss both your voices from time to come, and come back to listen, even if I'm single and in a very stable & happy place. I owe the two of you so much, 💜.
Every single day at 7pm I have to go out. Every night I go for a drive because when we were together I went to her place usually at 7. I just can’t stay home. I go crazy. This was one of the biggest questions on my mind. Thank you for talking about it.
I can feel when he misses me. Sometimes when he gets up for work; other times when it get around the time he used to call me. How I know the difference. When I miss him my heart ache! When he misses me. I feel it in the pit of my stomach.
My ex can be silent all she wants to be. After taking Coach Craig and Margaret's professional advice on improving yourself I took my mind off of her. And now I am looking forward to closing on a $15.2 million commercial real estate deal. When she was with me she said, "I'll believe that when I see it." I will mail her a copy of my investment portfolio and she can read it and weep. And cry about what she lost while she is with her current broke serial cheating boyfriend. They belong together. What goes around comes around. My value is out of her league and I am dating a better woman with a secure attachment style. Who is neither needy or broke. Thanks Coach Craig and Margaret!
My ex dumped me. Discarded me like a piece of trash. Kicked me out of our apartment. I had to scramble to find a new place to live. Am I sad? Nope, I'm super angry. I can do better. There are other fishes in the sea.
Seeing everyone feeling the same. It helps knowing I’m not alone in this. I wish there was like a Facebook group for us to just vent or not feel alone during difficult times.
Hi Karen How are you going? If we had a Facebook group it would have a large membership. It's very difficult going through a breakup I'm now 7 months into it and it still hurts
I mean you know the best thing is you can say you try you put everything into it if any work I didn't work out you know my asking about two months ago is like she was hiding things it's like she went out a couple dates and she step over the guy's house she's trying to get me jealous but I didn't get upset and looked at it all I told her you know what you made your bed lay in your bed I walked away
I will tell you when your ex get cold your ex get sneaky it don't matter what you do remember you got the man upstairs he's going to hand everything for you you step back you take care of yourself or you go to the gym you workout read some books start a business get yourself okay you and Don do your heart you know you're not a bad person you know everybody has Dennis certain people like think certain way to certain people take things and twisting and turning and stay sitting down in human kitten they do things they wait
Hey coach. So me and my ex broke up abt nine months ago he has still keep in contact and wanted to remain friends however I went no contact for 3 months of the break up and he reach out and wanted to see me so I agreed. However last I knew after our breakup he told me he was in a relationship with someone else yet still being in a relationship he came and saw me and we did things he regretted in the morning. Now it so happens to be is that I’m expecting he doesn’t know and he still with the girl after me what am I to do now. How do you explain a baby when u in a relationship which was the rebound relationship?!
How many feet is a child involved now that's going to be a hard situation I mean some women get pregnant by a rebound and sometimes you know nina not going to work out because if using a long time and is attempting to see about now I'm 9 years can just walk off another new relationship someone women's gold with the emotions and feelings when something happens they sit down and think they still regret it was 3 easy simple things get a sit-down talk about a problem resolved it I'll go to counseling remember if you walk away from a man the man won't take you back it feels like you've been to him and he deserted him when he needs you that moment
If it is sit down and talk to you about the problem they don't want to then we're not their daily on thing things ain't go to where they're expecting this had to run back I advise any man you don't take the woman back tell me was it honest with you
Haven't hear about her for about 2 years now. These days have been hell, the memories and moments of our 5 year relationship are coming back. But I know this will pass too
I hope my ex misses me. 3 years together, I walked away he was living a double life. Have not heard from him on a year; he tries breaking into my email once a month sometimes twice. He knew the password and yahoo always ask if I am trying to log in. He thinks I am dating online but no I am living my happy quiet life.
Only 30 days since he and I last spoke but it’s getting easier thanks to these videos. He used to call me every morning at a certain time and I find myself looking at the clock around that time. So proud I didn’t reach out yesterday for Father’s Day! #babysteps #keepgoing
Coach Craig and Margaret helped me get through one of the most difficult times of my life, and trust me guys. There is light at the end of the tunnel. And the harder you work, the closer you get to it. I'm now happily in another relationship, but I wanted to check in and thank you guy personally, one more time. I couldn't have done it without your knowledge and encouragement
@@Wifeyytalks You probably won't like my answer, but not exactly. There were moments where it seemed like we would eventually rekindle, but nothing ever came of it. And in my case, I'm now glad that it didn't. After using the lessons i learned from this channel, I ultimately realized it wasnt a healthy relationship for me in the first place. Ive now been in another relationship for 11 months now and couldnt be happier. Truth is nothing can guarantee your ex will come back, every person and situation is different. But i can tell you this channel (amongst a few others) will give you the best chance for that to happen, while still improving yourself for a better future Best of luck
I feel I’m not alone thanks to you, Coach Craig, Margaret and you guys ! I just had checked my ex’s what’s app account to make sure if he was alive and I found he was on line ! If he is alive, I say it’s enough. I won’t do anything else.
Your videos have kept me sane. I used to watch them, but when i watched them, i was depressed and sad. Now that i started watching your videos again i feel, so much better. I have a newfound perspective every time i watch them. Thank you Coach craig and Coach Margaret. I'm doing my best to become a better person. I went through a breakup a year ago. Now I am slowly getting my confidence back. Thank you so much. God bless you wonderful human beings.
“You were the memory. You were the key. You were so strong, you made a whole other person. God - he always wanted to find you. You know, to get you right. To just see you one last time. And he wanted me to be able to do the same. To find you in here or... just, go down another iteration... Figure out how to do it right.” “A great love is a lot like a good memory. When it's there, and you know it's there, but its just out of your reach, it can be all that you think about. And you can focus on it, and try to force it. But the more that you do, the more you seem to push it away. But if you're patient, and hold still...Maybe. Just maybe, it'll come to you.” "Never say goodbye. If you don't say goodbye then you aren't really gone, you just aren't here right now." Just some stuff that has been meaningful to me at the moment, I figured might help others too.
We broke up in August of 2019! Its been dead silent since then! Im staying physically fit! I finished medical school! And started a new job! I feel great! Butttt i feel lonely and miss her a bit! But her lost not mine! Ill find someone great im sure :)
Allot of people are lonely out there so don't let it get to you. Been there, still there. Lol Just keep your mind occupied with other hobbies, interest, activities etc. It will get better and never go looking for a relationship. You can put yourself in a position where the chances of meeting someone is greater, but never make it your sole purpose. Life has a funny way of changing on a dime and nothing, I mean NOTHING ever stays the same....Life is full of surprises when we least expect it.
She dumped me. I did 5 months no contact, I then saw her and her mum in supermarket, I felt like I'd seen a ghost. She said hello, I said hello, her mum said nothing. She then carried into the shop. She still owes me 700 and has not said anything since.
Fr ask for your money back. If she said she’ll eventually pay it confront her about it. Don’t be mean just be real with her bro. If she said she ain’t paying it then leave it to the wheel of karma.
Same i will be honest I’ve changed so much physically mentally and emotionally, i lost 45pounds i put alot of muscle, and i have no desire to post pictures online, I deleted social media.
One legged Pigeon that’s interesting, I went through a similar high intense energy phase in the first month of my breakup. I had no appetite and couldn’t sleep from the fear and separation anxiety. I was comparing myself to this big dude that my ex dumped me for. I bulked up and leaned down with extremely rigid diet/training protocols since I didn’t crave “cheat foods” anyways. I saw that guy’s face in my mind, every rep in the gym, every step on the treadmill. 5 months later it was a total rebuild. She reached out to me and and we hooked up for one blissful month behind his back. Things didn’t work out for me after that but it was worth it.
IASOU2005 great looks like you were one on a few that changed for the better,I’m glad the breakup happened, because i was trapped in the body of a old men but the mind of a child, now i feel like I’m trapped in the body and mind of a men, sorry English is not my first language, but congratulations and achieving it physical work outs are hard but are so rewarding at the end, i also trained when I’m fasting.
You have to remember that if you want to obsess over them, it is actually healthy because it shows that you have feelings for them.If you're not too fussed about obsessing with them, then its probably not right.
This is the coolest channel for physiotherapy so far, I have checked several channels, terrible too much movement ,pictures which do not make any meaning at all to me. I'm stressed I need cooler advise not pictures and slang. Thank you coach Craig and Coach Margret for helping many.
Thank you so much. Your videos has helped and my ex and I are back together and closer than ever. We only knew each other for 2 months before we dated for a month and a half. He broke up with me because I was making all the mistakes you described in other videos. My anxiety level was super high and i acted out... well 2 months later he reached out and we have been together since. It was terrible during nc and I felt I was dying, but I was getting through it and even came to the fact that we may not ever speak again.. thanks again!!!!
Omg! Really?! I don’t know if I’ll hear from him or he will want to rekindle the relationship... I have no idea how to act once they reach out initially? Thoughts ? When did you board the subject of getting back together?
I am in the exact situation of u, after 3 years...if u want to vent or share ur opinions on useful topics I have created my channel here for these reasons plus I am seeking for a cultural exchange If u are ever interested to have a look thanks and best wishes!
She left and told me she loved me and wouldn't ever love anyone else but couldn't be in a relationship anymore. Haven't heard from her in 3 months. And she hasn't replied to any message I've sent throughout lockdown/COVID-19. All hope is gone.
I dont want her back she broke up with me while she was seeing someone already and then got married a year later splashing all over fb I wished her good luck but good riddance to the Narcissist.
In my recent interactions with my ex, I felt I have shown her that I have changed. Not on purpose, but because I truly have changed. Whether they see it or not, that's not my concern. I changed for me, and I feel damn good about it.
Exact situation I ran into, she loved me, had no complaints but overnight (literally) she didn't want to talk, was very anxious and let me drown in doubt for almost two weeks. She didn't find someone else, but her drawbridge was up, closed tight and locked. During this time, I realized I could not make her happy, an anxious avoidant. So I felt forced to end the relationship for her future happiness. It really hurts but she needs the freedom and happiness.
spot on again guys! Keep up the great work. same situation with my ex, it's been a year, no contact since february, shes got a new bf and still posts about me indirectly on social media a few times a week. now im talking to a bombshell who worked in healthcare for 10 years and is 10x better than my ex. I'm not mad about it. go no contact! i was crushed and now exactly a year later feeling great about life
My Break up was on new years eve. It hurt alot since she it was my first relationship. Do i miss her after her behavior during the Last months? Yes, a bit. Do i want her? Maybe. Do i NEED her? No! People make mistakes and you can learn from everyone. From time to time my ex reaches out, but i dont chase her. I stay friendly, but not needy. When she is silent i dont care. Life is to short to wait and to cry. It takes some time for sure, but time heals all wounds. The break up was the most important experience in my life. I started to grow, learned and took time for myself. Time is the most important ressource in our life. We all have one life only. So spend your time wisely. Stay in no contact, do what makes you happy, try new hobbies. Life is getting better. When she (or he) reaches out have fun. As our coach is always telling. I know its hard, but stay strong.
My ex is Indian I'm latina he dumped me on Tuesday July 16th 2024 when I went to his apartment not invited because he stop replying to me suddenly, I think he left me to be with another Indian women, he told me that if his friends find out about me having an affair with him that his friends would tell his family and that his family would not approve of me because I'm a different race, he said I'm not his girlfriend, to leave him, that he doesn't want to hurt me but he already did by leaving me, I was crying in front of him telling him that I don't want to leave him that I love him, he was crying too and I don't know why, I got mad and told him that if he leaves me I will hate him, I couldn't control my tears them he gpt my phone and ordered my Uber driver, i went to see him all the way in West Covina were he lives with other indian guys , i spend $ 80 dollars on Uber
My ex of four year's dumped me for good now I feel it in my heart. I was always to blame and I think he has a NPD. We've had more break-ups apart then we've had together. Each break-up would be for 3 months it seemed like, but he was always true..i was only his go to back up. Then the cycle would start up again. We've emailed communication during this last 3 months of being apart. I'm now in NC and staying that way. I can't keep doing this cycle.. he'd always come back and stupid me would run back. Now I'm grieving and wondering if he is even at all. So it's basically over and I see how toxic we were together.. I'm anxious he's avoidant..a crazy mix for us and I've accepted that. I think I've wasted 4 years of my life.. breaking up soooo many times. I really should have dumped him a long time ago but I didn't know then what I know now..thanks to Craig and Margaret..Good stuff!!
He was Avoidant, Bi-polar, passive aggressive and slow..wth was I thinking!! Now I know what I don't want in a man!! Signed, getting better and finding happiness elsewhere...
We were more than a couple, for 8 years we were best friends, we were a team. We were dive buddies for life. She is family to me, what am I to her? Currently, persona non grata. It hurts to feel her sudden absence so deeply and I'm having a hard time shaking it off. I'm angry that she's shut things down so completely and refuses to talk. I need to check myself before I wreck myself.
My divorce happened in April 2019, around 2 months after my ex-wife cheated. She reached out in August or September, trying to have a friendly chat, but since she was still with the other guy, I told her to get lost. Since then, she tried talking to me and tried to "apologize" another 2 or 3 times, but she was still with her rebound, so, no chance. The last time she tried contacting me eas almost 2 months ago, by text, saying ahe is sorry and that she and the other guy aren't together anymore. I told her to call and apologize, like an adult, and answer some questions, but she didn't want to, so I politely told her to piss off. Moral of the story: Forget them. They chose to leave. They chose to hurt you. They chose their parh, so let them walk it. Alone.
Could you please do a video from the perspective of the person who does the breaking up, even though they still love their partner, because they know it was the best thing for their own self-respect. There are lots of reasons for breaking up with someone, but it would be great to listen to advice for the person who did the breaking up, but heartbroken they had to do it. Infidelity, emotional cruelty, emotional neglect - all reasons why people walk away. I just notice a lot of your advice is for people who were broken up with, not the other way around.
I watch every topic multiple times and they’ve been really helpful. I was wondering if there can be a video on ‘how to negotiate your needs’, although a lot has been covered in ‘communication’ videos. As our exes are not the one working on themselves. They wouldn’t consider your needs if not communicated well. But sometimes it doesn’t matter how well you ask for your own needs it’s still their part on the other side.
Any one else here struggling with their aniexty. 7 weeks NC, post BU. I've got the workbooks and working on myself daily but I get waves of being crippled by aniexty and not being able to move Update! - im now 6 months NC. Finished the work books, 4 months with a local therapist and regularly going to the gym and dating someone new. Ive done so much work on me I'm really at a place whereby I dont care if she reaches out or not. Im like a new person. Thankyou coach craig. Time really does heal everything in NC.
HSP Craig has a video talking about how to not beat yourself up after a break-up. If I were you, I would read the book ‘attached’ which is recommended by Margret in one of the videos. Improve yourself and you will feel better. I was in your shoes but I feel so much better now. Trust the process.
HSP It took me a long long time to come to this point. I thought he was everything I ever wanted. However, no matter how great a person he is, the fact that he doesn’t want to continue the relationship with me, doesn’t want to pay any efforts in this relationship and he is okay with ending this relationship make him simply not the right one. I believe romantic relationships should lead to marriage and I want my marriage to be unbreakable and long-lasting. So, I have come to a conclusion that he is simply not the right one. And I want to believe, I will meet someone better and someone who loves me with all his heart.
One week in and I’m in terrible shape. Never been through anything like this before. He’s been in touch about practical things - picking up clothes, etc & ends messages with ‘take care’. I’m overwhelmed & struggling to find coping mechanisms. I’m about to lose my home, I have no living family & feel very alone.
None of this really applied in my situation, but I do appreciate the content. I am continuing down the confusion river with zero answers or understanding. I am the confident one, I am the attractive one, I am the loving and sweet one…. And here I am alone, knowing nothing substantial about what happened. I don’t really care, I just miss my person.
It's been my 2nd days of "REAL" no contact rules with my ex after break for 2 months ago... No checking on her social media, no checking whether she's online on whatapps, Facebooks and Instagram.... It's been devastating for me, really really hard for me to continue on doing these... We've been together for almost 8 years 😢😭😢😭
Married 23 years together 26 years. She was in my life everyday. I'm only 44 but this is the first time i can remember her not been there. Worst thing is the kids, my youngest will turn 11 on Xmas eve and we had a tradition we did every year and this will be the first year i wont be doing it as I'm on mt own. Apart 4 months and she has someone else. All i want to do is cry everyday it hurts. I want to hate her badly but no matter how much I try i still love her. Its not fair, why can't I flick the same switch she did ?
thats harsh she was probably stepping out and had the guy lined up 44 is a prime age for a man from what i hear in having career in order i suggest you focus on your personal growth find were you are lacking in life if its financial physical or mental health and work on it daily. It will be hard and you will still have heavy emotions but give it time and the pain will start going away best of luck
Im doing no contact with my ex she lives 1 1/2 away. Prior to the break up she detached emotionally and physically. After 3 years of dating she broke up with me but wanted to remain friends. Two weeks after she dumped me we were hanging out as friends. That failed miserable she wanted to feed me bread crumbs to string me along. I made a comment about her second cellphone, that I never had the number to. She called me unstable and childish saying I shouldn't be concerned about her phone. She wanted gf treatment without the commitment. She told me through text never to contact her again. She knows I don't have family in Florida and very little friends. I feel so alone. Im seeking therapy and getting closer to God.
He doesnt reach out because his "new relationship moved in" two months after meeting on line while we were still together 12 years... and she is still married...
Hi Craig and Margaret, please consider doing a video about retroactive jealousy. I would like to know how to deal with it. It hurts my relationship with the love of my life. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge ❤️
Thats ok if they tell you its over and why, but if they just walk away and nothing is said... thats quite annoying and especially if your married and they refuse to give you a divorce
Perhaps you can discuss techniques for moving on? It's been a year of no contact, i'm 100% she'd moved on, i'm 100% certain I don't want and shouldn't want her back both because of the toxicity of the relationship and because of developments in her life since the breakup that make us incompatible, but I can't seem to get rid of my attachment to her and just leave her behind and go on with my life.
I broke with my girl a week go and feel like I’m dying. I reached out to her and she told me I lost her this time and it killed me. She told Mabe if I work on myself we can be together again.Now I’m applying the no contact rule. I hope it works.
Thats at first Then you cannot sleep ,eat & cry alot.Then you wake up & start living your life ,& start to live & start feeling better each day.Start getting use to not being with. Them .You feel great about being single! If they come back great & if they don't oh well life goes on Thats it!
I hate that I am in still I'm love with my ex. I hate that I miss him. I hate that he chose to monkey branch when we just had a baby. I hate that our older kids are hurting because of his selfish decision and he's choosing to play victim instead of trying to repair his relationship with them and take accountability for hurting them. I hate how mean he is to us when he chose to hurt our family.
One month of NC. Today I accidentally viewed her story on Snapchat. I didnt view her story for the entire month. I feel crappy that it happened today. I have since learned that you can mute stories. Hopefully that doesnt set me back too much.
Hello Craig, thank you for all the work you do and share with us. I wanted to ask if you could make a video what to do and how to handle the situation when they do reach out finally? To again, not to come out like very needy or too much etc. Giving different scenarios and how to handle them. Thank you :-)
U Literally spoke my heart out... Thank u Soooooooo much Craig And Margaret ❤ U guyz r d saviours and d guardian Angels 😇🙌 Thank you once again... Keep making more videos they are so helpful and motivational ❤ Love From India ❤
My wife of 5 years left and I’m just devastated!! Now I don’t know weather to go no contact or continue contact with her...I’m so confused!! I’m glad I have a Skype appointment coming up with you coach 😢
Coach, I am a success story! I wanted to give back to at least let those know who are struggling with this, that things can get better, even if you can apply a fraction of the knowledge contained in your content. A huge thank you to you and coach Margaret for “being there” for me in such a tough time. Your workbooks were very helpful. Separated from fiancé for 2 months , we are back together going on 3 months and things keep progressing forward! Quality of relationship has gone way up. I could go on and on but wanted to thank you and let others know too. I need to be vigilant in continuing the work! Calling myself out so I don’t become complacent again.
Awesome! Thank you for sharing!
So happy for you 😍
This is wonderful news 😊
Hey Craig. Your videos are truly amazing. Im in a situation were I've lost my ex. I learned from you I've had underlying causes with my childhood and seperation anxiety. I chose to use drugs and alcohol and gambling as a copeing mechanism. For many years my ex tried and tried to make it work as I didn't see the writing on the walls. But since this has all happened I truly realize what's most important to me it's my wife and daughter. I'm clean now 42 days. I've been doing lots of therapy. Unfortunately I'm not at a place financially to do therapy or get it work books. Your pod casts are truly amazing and have helped me so much. I believe in everything you say and wish I could have found you along time ago. Thanks for making things clear to me.
Congratulations!!
I don’t want my ex back. I don’t want someone who doesn’t want me.
I just want to stop being sad about it. Heartbreak is annoying af
It is demeaning to want someone who doesn’t want you
You and me both
We must not desire someone who doesn't desire us ...it's absolutely depressing
It's so aggravating.
Real talk. I let my wife go and i moved on, once I was gone she tried to return to the house, I said hell nah, I'm not a dog to go back to eat what I regurgitate. Plenty of females out there to be crying over one. The show must go on.
Anyone who is hurting (like me) I just want you to know that I would love to give you a hug and say it will be ok. It will all be ok.
Thank you ❤ 10 years relationship ended .. 1 month 2 days of no contact , I feel my heart is burned
I’m sorry 😐 you’re not alone. Keep watching the videos and work on you, best possible outcome will happen
It be ok...it not you..work on being better version of what she left..
12 days NC 🥴🥴🥴🥴
WHERE IS MY ANXIOUS SQUAD? You’re not alone, guys. It would get better, promise 👑
MOM plus FOUR *virtual hug* you’re okay ❤️
😕 I'm here
🙋♂️ Got broken up with because of my separation anxiety 9 days ago. It's been bad :/
Pieter Fret I feel you! ❤️ try to learn how to put yourself first, it helps
HEEEEEEY MAAAAN! High five! Hahaha we're transforming this sh*t to something funny haha 😂
The part at the very end where Coach Margaret reminds us that silence doesn't mean anything negative about us~~I'm crying. Thank you, dear one, and rest in peace.
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Reattracting your ex... think of it like this:
When you see a stray dog, if you run after it and chase it in order to catch it, the dog will run in the opposite direction because it feels threatened, overwhelmed and afraid.
If, instead, you take your time and have a warm and calm presence, the dog will begin to trust you. It’ll be more likely to approach you. By building that trust and letting the dog come to you, the dog can realize that you actually do have something to offer: food!!
Just a little analogy I like to think about in regards to the mistake of ‘chasing’ your ex.
Cats are more like that
Dog = ex.😂 All I read. M a mess now hahaha...
and to my last one :D
being chased and running is only fun if you know someone is behind you, who just wants to get you. but if the chaser will focus on themselves and not on you often only then the chased one will start to shift their focus and can see like you said in your dog analogy what the other person can actually offer and their value :) so zero contact does work :))
I mostly like the concept that my x is a stray dog. Actually stray dogs have always been nicer then him.
Love this!!!!!
My ex isn’t on any social media and it’s such a blessing! I have no way to know anything and I love it. 🙏🏽
Same!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Same with me but it makes it worse because I always wonder what he’s up to lol
I feel I’d rather not know 😔I think of it like he’s not who I thought he was because who I thought he was would never have chosen to leave me. 😩
alc I feel that way too! I can’t believe that he chose someone else over me after being together for 6 years and cheating on her with me. He had my name tattooed on him and everything. I can’t believe it was all fake to him.
Wow that is crazy! I doubt his new relationship will last. I’m so sorry 😕can’t even imagine that. It’s been almost 7 months since my breakup and I’m finally on the other side. ❤️Although I would take him back in a second..
I just have to say…when people express “the break up has been on their mind” and “they’ve thought about and decided it’s over for awhile”….umm how about COMMUNICATING with the one you’re dating!!! The person who decided to make yours! Communication can help soooo many issues but people don’t understand that I swear!
Craig mentioned on an old video that if your ex wants to leave you have to say "OK, let me know if you change your mind". Obviously the concept is to just give them the break-up.
Yesterday I met with my ex, with whom I share a daughter. After discovering this channel I have done everything to improve my self, remove all my anxious behaviours as much as possible and a long etc.
After a great day hanging out with our baby girl I told her, hey, I want you to come for dinner with me.
There was an awkward silence and then her usual "I'll see".
At the end of the day I told her ok just let me know for later. She said she wouldn't come. So i said good bye to my daughter and simply told my ex "ok, let me know if you change your mind" 😂😂
It came out of nowhere, completely natural. I kind of entered a meditation state just to digest it. 😂😂😂
A few mins later I got a text. We are having dinner tonight.
Awesome, hope it goes well. When things ended for me I left the guy a voicemail since I knew he was going to be cowardly and not pick up the call and said I am not going to do anything to interfere with your new relationship but where does this leave our friendship..... (no response from him is his response. Learned from mutual friends he is now engaged, but I am struggling with the fact that she has 2 kids (6 &11) when we had multiple conversations about kids and he was always firm on being good without any kids since he was turning 40. I just hope if they go through with the wedding she is honest about she left a 6.5 year marriage. They started dating right around when her divorce was finalized.
thats great. She is very ambivalent.
We rekindled and are very close now. But i outgrew the romantic part of it. While there is a deep fraternal love in there now we are just focused on the coparenting. She lives in a different country now and long distance wouldn't work for us. But we have always a great time when we meet and discuss ooenly about the little one when necessary. I went on to have other partners. The lessons from craig have been life savers every time. I am frankly happy with the outcome.
@@None_of_your_business666nice
Make her pay cause your paying child support dummy, lol.
Definitely am becoming a better person since my breakup back in October 2019. I’ve lost about 32kg now. I’m the physically strongest and fittest version I’ve ever been. I used to be addicted to weed, depressed, anxious and all around unmotivated and on antidepressants. Now, I exercise 6-7 days a week. I no longer take medication. I have built really great habits with my diet and other lifestyle factors all the while in a pandemic! I’m generally and genuinely the happiest person I’ve ever been.. without my ex! Hell I nearly have a 6 pack abs! All in the space of about 8 months! 😁
Good Job Brother!
Congrats!
Good lad
Good for you! I'm one month and one week out and lost 30LBS trying my best to love me. Good luck and keep up the good work!
Well done!! Respect :)
this is the worst thing a human can go through
yes but in a few months you feel they arent good for you and you want the idea of relationship more than them
Really going through it tonight. I’ve lost count of the days. I hope everyday I hear from him. We were best friends. It’s really crazy how fast you can go from being someone’s everything to absolutely nothing. I’m not giving up on him though. I truly loved him with everything in me.
I feel your pain😔 stay strong💙
Who broke up with who?
Right, I don't see how someone you had many intimate conversations with can just turn off their feelings like a faucet although the guy in my case has/had (don't know since we have talked in 7 months and he is with someone else) really low self esteem and would make comments saying he wasn't worthy of me.
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It driving me crazy. I was always getting texts saying "you don't know how much I love you" then a week later getting dumped to try to fill a fantasy relationship with a guy she chased for years.. She sent me to the curb and he didn't give her the time again.
I spent the last 7-8 hours leaving TH-cam on auto-play, and listening to your videos as I do art. The two of you helped me though a very traumatic breakup with someone a severe avoidant attachment (abandoned at birth, sexually abused at orphanage), as you can imagine, it was one of the worst breakups, and all the events that lead to it, that took me a couple years to heal from. It's been about 5 years, and I've come such a long way from then, and I've helped so many people by recognizing avoidant / attachments in people, and directing them to your channel. I miss both your voices from time to come, and come back to listen, even if I'm single and in a very stable & happy place. I owe the two of you so much, 💜.
Every single day at 7pm I have to go out. Every night I go for a drive because when we were together I went to her place usually at 7. I just can’t stay home. I go crazy.
This was one of the biggest questions on my mind. Thank you for talking about it.
I feel you bro miss her so much 😥
I feel you
I’m sentimental too. Times of day get to me.. my 1:00 lunch break .. 💔
yes - create some new memories and routines around that time. Yes - keep going on drives. Build new memories and stay busy.
I can feel when he misses me. Sometimes when he gets up for work; other times when it get around the time he used to call me. How I know the difference. When I miss him my heart ache! When he misses me. I feel it in the pit of my stomach.
Sometimes loving them means letting go.....
Sad but true :(
4real!!!
@@juliettarotreading2108 stop that nonsense
My ex can be silent all she wants to be. After taking Coach Craig and Margaret's professional advice on improving yourself I took my mind off of her. And now I am looking forward to closing on a $15.2 million commercial real estate deal. When she was with me she said, "I'll believe that when I see it." I will mail her a copy of my investment portfolio and she can read it and weep. And cry about what she lost while she is with her current broke serial cheating boyfriend. They belong together. What goes around comes around. My value is out of her league and I am dating a better woman with a secure attachment style. Who is neither needy or broke. Thanks Coach Craig and Margaret!
Good on you mate
Waste of time to reach out to her. Moving on is better
My ex dumped me. Discarded me like a piece of trash. Kicked me out of our apartment. I had to scramble to find a new place to live. Am I sad? Nope, I'm super angry. I can do better. There are other fishes in the sea.
Well done, but at the same time I'm sure Craig would read what you're saying at have some interesting findings from it!
Well done good on you pray blessings on blessings
They don't want to hurt you, so they give you the silent treatment to make you feel better about the situation.
The "we're online at the same time" comment felt like a personal attack, lol.
Lol
Couldn't agree more!😆😆😆
😂💀 same… turn it off
It's really really accurate 😂
Seeing everyone feeling the same. It helps knowing I’m not alone in this. I wish there was like a Facebook group for us to just vent or not feel alone during difficult times.
Hi Karen
How are you going? If we had a Facebook group it would have a large membership. It's very difficult going through a breakup I'm now 7 months into it and it still hurts
There are quite a few pages such as you describe.
Let us know if you like this one by subscribing to the channel ❤️
I mean you know the best thing is you can say you try you put everything into it if any work I didn't work out you know my asking about two months ago is like she was hiding things it's like she went out a couple dates and she step over the guy's house she's trying to get me jealous but I didn't get upset and looked at it all I told her you know what you made your bed lay in your bed I walked away
I will tell you when your ex get cold your ex get sneaky it don't matter what you do remember you got the man upstairs he's going to hand everything for you you step back you take care of yourself or you go to the gym you workout read some books start a business get yourself okay you and Don do your heart you know you're not a bad person you know everybody has Dennis certain people like think certain way to certain people take things and twisting and turning and stay sitting down in human kitten they do things they wait
Hey coach. So me and my ex broke up abt nine months ago he has still keep in contact and wanted to remain friends however I went no contact for 3 months of the break up and he reach out and wanted to see me so I agreed. However last I knew after our breakup he told me he was in a relationship with someone else yet still being in a relationship he came and saw me and we did things he regretted in the morning. Now it so happens to be is that I’m expecting he doesn’t know and he still with the girl after me what am I to do now. How do you explain a baby when u in a relationship which was the rebound relationship?!
How many feet is a child involved now that's going to be a hard situation I mean some women get pregnant by a rebound and sometimes you know nina not going to work out because if using a long time and is attempting to see about now I'm 9 years can just walk off another new relationship someone women's gold with the emotions and feelings when something happens they sit down and think they still regret it was 3 easy simple things get a sit-down talk about a problem resolved it I'll go to counseling remember if you walk away from a man the man won't take you back it feels like you've been to him and he deserted him when he needs you that moment
If it is sit down and talk to you about the problem they don't want to then we're not their daily on thing things ain't go to where they're expecting this had to run back I advise any man you don't take the woman back tell me was it honest with you
Haven't hear about her for about 2 years now. These days have been hell, the memories and moments of our 5 year relationship are coming back. But I know this will pass too
I hope my ex misses me. 3 years together, I walked away he was living a double life. Have not heard from him on a year; he tries breaking into my email once a month sometimes twice. He knew the password and yahoo always ask if I am trying to log in.
He thinks I am dating online but no I am living my happy quiet life.
@@aliceallmon2409 happy quite life is the best
Try 15 years. But we are not with them for a reason. And they know the same thing. It takes 2 people.
Only 30 days since he and I last spoke but it’s getting easier thanks to these videos. He used to call me every morning at a certain time and I find myself looking at the clock around that time. So proud I didn’t reach out yesterday for Father’s Day! #babysteps #keepgoing
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I would hit rock bottom without your videos... Thank you for helping me getting through the hardest break up of my life 💓
Coach Craig and Margaret helped me get through one of the most difficult times of my life, and trust me guys. There is light at the end of the tunnel. And the harder you work, the closer you get to it. I'm now happily in another relationship, but I wanted to check in and thank you guy personally, one more time. I couldn't have done it without your knowledge and encouragement
Thepunisher but did ur ex ever come back to u?
@@Wifeyytalks You probably won't like my answer, but not exactly. There were moments where it seemed like we would eventually rekindle, but nothing ever came of it. And in my case, I'm now glad that it didn't. After using the lessons i learned from this channel, I ultimately realized it wasnt a healthy relationship for me in the first place. Ive now been in another relationship for 11 months now and couldnt be happier. Truth is nothing can guarantee your ex will come back, every person and situation is different. But i can tell you this channel (amongst a few others) will give you the best chance for that to happen, while still improving yourself for a better future
Best of luck
I never want to talk to them again. Ever. Toxic evil will have no place in my life
I feel I’m not alone thanks to you, Coach Craig, Margaret and you guys ! I just had checked my ex’s what’s app account to make sure if he was alive and I found he was on line ! If he is alive, I say it’s enough. I won’t do anything else.
I honestly don’t feel like I can cope with this anymore. I have never felt pain like this.
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i hope you’re doing better 🤍
Your videos have kept me sane. I used to watch them, but when i watched them, i was depressed and sad. Now that i started watching your videos again i feel, so much better. I have a newfound perspective every time i watch them. Thank you Coach craig and Coach Margaret. I'm doing my best to become a better person. I went through a breakup a year ago. Now I am slowly getting my confidence back. Thank you so much. God bless you wonderful human beings.
Silence speaks volumes
“You were the memory. You were the key. You were so strong, you made a whole other person. God - he always wanted to find you. You know, to get you right. To just see you one last time. And he wanted me to be able to do the same. To find you in here or... just, go down another iteration... Figure out how to do it right.”
“A great love is a lot like a good memory. When it's there, and you know it's there, but its just out of your reach, it can be all that you think about. And you can focus on it, and try to force it. But the more that you do, the more you seem to push it away. But if you're patient, and hold still...Maybe. Just maybe, it'll come to you.”
"Never say goodbye. If you don't say goodbye then you aren't really gone, you just aren't here right now."
Just some stuff that has been meaningful to me at the moment, I figured might help others too.
@@yswen828 don't read into things too much. There really isn't a hidden meaning most of the time
If you ex hasn’t said goodbye to the r’ship, it’s still possible to work things out?
We broke up in August of 2019! Its been dead silent since then! Im staying physically fit! I finished medical school! And started a new job! I feel great! Butttt i feel lonely and miss her a bit! But her lost not mine! Ill find someone great im sure :)
Allot of people are lonely out there so don't let it get to you. Been there, still there. Lol Just keep your mind occupied with other hobbies, interest, activities etc. It will get better and never go looking for a relationship. You can put yourself in a position where the chances of meeting someone is greater, but never make it your sole purpose. Life has a funny way of changing on a dime and nothing, I mean NOTHING ever stays the same....Life is full of surprises when we least expect it.
@@thetempleunfinished if i could "heart react your comment i would lol
You sound like a badass 😊 good for you!
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She dumped me. I did 5 months no contact, I then saw her and her mum in supermarket, I felt like I'd seen a ghost. She said hello, I said hello, her mum said nothing. She then carried into the shop. She still owes me 700 and has not said anything since.
Ask your money back
Fr ask for your money back. If she said she’ll eventually pay it confront her about it. Don’t be mean just be real with her bro. If she said she ain’t paying it then leave it to the wheel of karma.
No contact for 1 year + now. Still Moving forward.
Same!!
Same i will be honest I’ve changed so much physically mentally and emotionally, i lost 45pounds i put alot of muscle, and i have no desire to post pictures online, I deleted social media.
One legged Pigeon that’s interesting, I went through a similar high intense energy phase in the first month of my breakup. I had no appetite and couldn’t sleep from the fear and separation anxiety. I was comparing myself to this big dude that my ex dumped me for. I bulked up and leaned down with extremely rigid diet/training protocols since I didn’t crave “cheat foods” anyways. I saw that guy’s face in my mind, every rep in the gym, every step on the treadmill. 5 months later it was a total rebuild. She reached out to me and and we hooked up for one blissful month behind his back. Things didn’t work out for me after that but it was worth it.
IASOU2005 great looks like you were one on a few that changed for the better,I’m glad the breakup happened, because i was trapped in the body of a old men but the mind of a child, now i feel like I’m trapped in the body and mind of a men, sorry English is not my first language, but congratulations and achieving it physical work outs are hard but are so rewarding at the end, i also trained when I’m fasting.
@@Dad_Brad Dude... you hookef up again? Why? She obviously has no integrity whatsoever, going behind both your backs.
You have to remember that if you want to obsess over them, it is actually healthy because it shows that you have feelings for them.If you're not too fussed about obsessing with them, then its probably not right.
if the individual is a burning narcissist, they will never care about anything
Very True
Yeah 😔
This is the coolest channel for physiotherapy so far, I have checked several channels, terrible too much movement ,pictures which do not make any meaning at all to me. I'm stressed I need cooler advise not pictures and slang. Thank you coach Craig and Coach Margret for helping many.
It’s good to look back at videos like this so that we can understand more on every perspective.
I just wrote to Margaret and mailed it today, a "handwritten letter"-- yes!! Love you guys!
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NOT THE HANDWRITTEN LETTER 🤣
To all that’s going through break ups and heartbreak. Please do me a favor trust in GOD and he will bring peace to you .
Thank you so much. Your videos has helped and my ex and I are back together and closer than ever. We only knew each other for 2 months before we dated for a month and a half. He broke up with me because I was making all the mistakes you described in other videos. My anxiety level was super high and i acted out... well 2 months later he reached out and we have been together since. It was terrible during nc and I felt I was dying, but I was getting through it and even came to the fact that we may not ever speak again.. thanks again!!!!
Omg! Really?! I don’t know if I’ll hear from him or he will want to rekindle the relationship... I have no idea how to act once they reach out initially? Thoughts ? When did you board the subject of getting back together?
Kimiya Jalali Me too for you sweetheart! ❤️
Eromosele Evenly How do you know?
For 3 years she was my best friend. I was loyal and good to her. Now I've heard nothing for 4 months.
I am in the exact situation of u, after 3 years...if u want to vent or share ur opinions on useful topics I have created my channel here for these reasons plus I am seeking for a cultural exchange If u are ever interested to have a look thanks and best wishes!
5 years my ex was my best friend.. then he met soneone else and left me for her... 4 months since for me too.. it sucks...
She left and told me she loved me and wouldn't ever love anyone else but couldn't be in a relationship anymore. Haven't heard from her in 3 months. And she hasn't replied to any message I've sent throughout lockdown/COVID-19. All hope is gone.
@@kgmfencing9835 I'd say you have a better chance than me if you go No Contact. No reaching out at all.
4 months and 2 days and absolutely nothing.
It means she’s done. Sometimes what we want just isn’t meant to be.
I dont want her back she broke up with me while she was seeing someone already and then got married a year later splashing all over fb I wished her good luck but good riddance to the Narcissist.
Yep I feel your pain
Same thing happened to me..its been 3yrs and still healing
u will find somebody better u dont need such a person in your life
That’s soooo F’d up!! 😡 So sorry that happened to you!
In my recent interactions with my ex, I felt I have shown her that I have changed. Not on purpose, but because I truly have changed. Whether they see it or not, that's not my concern. I changed for me, and I feel damn good about it.
I love this video!!!! Thank u soo much!!!!! I def needed it after complete depression and anxiety this whole weekend! 😊😊😊
Exact situation I ran into, she loved me, had no complaints but overnight (literally) she didn't want to talk, was very anxious and let me drown in doubt for almost two weeks. She didn't find someone else, but her drawbridge was up, closed tight and locked. During this time, I realized I could not make her happy, an anxious avoidant. So I felt forced to end the relationship for her future happiness. It really hurts but she needs the freedom and happiness.
spot on again guys! Keep up the great work. same situation with my ex, it's been a year, no contact since february, shes got a new bf and still posts about me indirectly on social media a few times a week. now im talking to a bombshell who worked in healthcare for 10 years and is 10x better than my ex. I'm not mad about it. go no contact! i was crushed and now exactly a year later feeling great about life
Am I the only one that LIVES to see what Margaret’s hair is gonna look like in each video?? I’m loving the blow out 😍
Been through this. My energy is depleted. Advice in this video is excellent.
"We're online at the same time". I can relate and I dont know whether to laugh or cry :')
hahah omg same😂😢😂😢
My Break up was on new years eve. It hurt alot since she it was my first relationship. Do i miss her after her behavior during the Last months? Yes, a bit. Do i want her? Maybe. Do i NEED her? No! People make mistakes and you can learn from everyone. From time to time my ex reaches out, but i dont chase her. I stay friendly, but not needy. When she is silent i dont care. Life is to short to wait and to cry. It takes some time for sure, but time heals all wounds. The break up was the most important experience in my life. I started to grow, learned and took time for myself. Time is the most important ressource in our life. We all have one life only. So spend your time wisely. Stay in no contact, do what makes you happy, try new hobbies. Life is getting better. When she (or he) reaches out have fun. As our coach is always telling. I know its hard, but stay strong.
My ex is Indian I'm latina he dumped me on Tuesday July 16th 2024 when I went to his apartment not invited because he stop replying to me suddenly, I think he left me to be with another Indian women, he told me that if his friends find out about me having an affair with him that his friends would tell his family and that his family would not approve of me because I'm a different race, he said I'm not his girlfriend, to leave him, that he doesn't want to hurt me but he already did by leaving me, I was crying in front of him telling him that I don't want to leave him that I love him, he was crying too and I don't know why, I got mad and told him that if he leaves me I will hate him, I couldn't control my tears them he gpt my phone and ordered my Uber driver, i went to see him all the way in West Covina were he lives with other indian guys , i spend $ 80 dollars on Uber
I really needed this tonight ♥️ 2 weeks into no contact and the pain has been unreal.
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How are you now ? Xx
My ex of four year's dumped me for good now I feel it in my heart. I was always to blame and I think he has a NPD. We've had more break-ups apart then we've had together. Each break-up would be for 3 months it seemed like, but he was always true..i was only his go to back up. Then the cycle would start up again. We've emailed communication during this last 3 months of being apart. I'm now in NC and staying that way. I can't keep doing this cycle.. he'd always come back and stupid me would run back. Now I'm grieving and wondering if he is even at all. So it's basically over and I see how toxic we were together.. I'm anxious he's avoidant..a crazy mix for us and I've accepted that. I think I've wasted 4 years of my life.. breaking up soooo many times. I really should have dumped him a long time ago but I didn't know then what I know now..thanks to Craig and Margaret..Good stuff!!
He was Avoidant, Bi-polar, passive aggressive and slow..wth was I thinking!! Now I know what I don't want in a man!! Signed, getting better and finding happiness elsewhere...
Thank you Margaret and Craig for your words of wisdom.
We were more than a couple, for 8 years we were best friends, we were a team. We were dive buddies for life. She is family to me, what am I to her? Currently, persona non grata. It hurts to feel her sudden absence so deeply and I'm having a hard time shaking it off. I'm angry that she's shut things down so completely and refuses to talk. I need to check myself before I wreck myself.
My divorce happened in April 2019, around 2 months after my ex-wife cheated. She reached out in August or September, trying to have a friendly chat, but since she was still with the other guy, I told her to get lost. Since then, she tried talking to me and tried to "apologize" another 2 or 3 times, but she was still with her rebound, so, no chance. The last time she tried contacting me eas almost 2 months ago, by text, saying ahe is sorry and that she and the other guy aren't together anymore. I told her to call and apologize, like an adult, and answer some questions, but she didn't want to, so I politely told her to piss off.
Moral of the story: Forget them. They chose to leave. They chose to hurt you. They chose their parh, so let them walk it. Alone.
@@peaceogbole3072 Hey, dumbass, read what I actually wrote. I don't want some stupid "psychic" or witch doctor's number. Go away.
This is one of your best videos...compassionate, accurate and honest. Thank you
Could you please do a video from the perspective of the person who does the breaking up, even though they still love their partner, because they know it was the best thing for their own self-respect. There are lots of reasons for breaking up with someone, but it would be great to listen to advice for the person who did the breaking up, but heartbroken they had to do it. Infidelity, emotional cruelty, emotional neglect - all reasons why people walk away. I just notice a lot of your advice is for people who were broken up with, not the other way around.
Yes, please!
Here here
I watch every topic multiple times and they’ve been really helpful.
I was wondering if there can be a video on ‘how to negotiate your needs’, although a lot has been covered in ‘communication’ videos. As our exes are not the one working on themselves. They wouldn’t consider your needs if not communicated well. But sometimes it doesn’t matter how well you ask for your own needs it’s still their part on the other side.
Craig, please do a talk on why you wouldn’t go back to a cheater and why we shouldn’t either.
Any one else here struggling with their aniexty. 7 weeks NC, post BU.
I've got the workbooks and working on myself daily but I get waves of being crippled by aniexty and not being able to move
Update! - im now 6 months NC. Finished the work books, 4 months with a local therapist and regularly going to the gym and dating someone new. Ive done so much work on me I'm really at a place whereby I dont care if she reaches out or not. Im like a new person. Thankyou coach craig.
Time really does heal everything in NC.
I wonder who are those carrots disliking such an amazing content! Thank you for your help Craig, Margaret, you are wonderful!
Why do people always say it's their loss! Why is it a loss to them if they dont want you?
They do want you but on their toxic terms and are incapable of meeting your needs or standards of a healthy relationship...
Happy 100k subs Coach Craig
Because they are simply not the right person. Let them go
Reborn Xi thats great :) it also took me a long time. Craig and Margaret saved me while i was shattered
Accepting it is sooo hard! But once you do it becomes so much easier
HSP Craig has a video talking about how to not beat yourself up after a break-up. If I were you, I would read the book ‘attached’ which is recommended by Margret in one of the videos. Improve yourself and you will feel better. I was in your shoes but I feel so much better now. Trust the process.
HSP It’s gonna be fine
HSP It took me a long long time to come to this point. I thought he was everything I ever wanted. However, no matter how great a person he is, the fact that he doesn’t want to continue the relationship with me, doesn’t want to pay any efforts in this relationship and he is okay with ending this relationship make him simply not the right one. I believe romantic relationships should lead to marriage and I want my marriage to be unbreakable and long-lasting. So, I have come to a conclusion that he is simply not the right one. And I want to believe, I will meet someone better and someone who loves me with all his heart.
4 months no contact. 😱I wish I can get him outta my head. God help me
sending u strength. hope things have gotten a little easier
Update?
This makes total sense! This is an important video.
i think i've grown, i don't care t get my ex back. i know my worth. i just want better and to keep them.
Soooo great...
Four months and she’s still relieved even though we had a great relationship.
Content in this video is so valuable. Will certainly refer to this in the months ahead. Thank you both!
One week in and I’m in terrible shape. Never been through anything like this before. He’s been in touch about practical things - picking up clothes, etc & ends messages with ‘take care’. I’m overwhelmed & struggling to find coping mechanisms. I’m about to lose my home, I have no living family & feel very alone.
A much needed video. This makes me feel calmer. Thank you for the explanation of the grief process, too.
None of this really applied in my situation, but I do appreciate the content. I am continuing down the confusion river with zero answers or understanding. I am the confident one, I am the attractive one, I am the loving and sweet one…. And here I am alone, knowing nothing substantial about what happened. I don’t really care, I just miss my person.
It's been my 2nd days of "REAL" no contact rules with my ex after break for 2 months ago... No checking on her social media, no checking whether she's online on whatapps, Facebooks and Instagram.... It's been devastating for me, really really hard for me to continue on doing these... We've been together for almost 8 years 😢😭😢😭
Yes I still in love with her and want her back, trying to get a chance to fix this up but I end up doing nth...
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I’m a new viewer to these videos and even those these are old, what I love from the two of you is your sensitivity and compassion.
Thank you Coach Margaret and Craig... You are the light of the end of the tunnel!!!
Rip Margaret 😢 I wanted coaching with you. Such a maternal energy.
Great Craig and Margaret!!!!
Married 23 years together 26 years. She was in my life everyday. I'm only 44 but this is the first time i can remember her not been there. Worst thing is the kids, my youngest will turn 11 on Xmas eve and we had a tradition we did every year and this will be the first year i wont be doing it as I'm on mt own. Apart 4 months and she has someone else. All i want to do is cry everyday it hurts. I want to hate her badly but no matter how much I try i still love her. Its not fair, why can't I flick the same switch she did ?
thats harsh she was probably stepping out and had the guy lined up 44 is a prime age for a man from what i hear in having career in order i suggest you focus on your personal growth find were you are lacking in life if its financial physical or mental health and work on it daily. It will be hard and you will still have heavy emotions but give it time and the pain will start going away best of luck
I am sorry you’re going through this. All our broken hearts are w you!
Motwaccoe did ur ex ever come back?
Build your confidence to help yourself. Don’t do it for anyone else.
Both of you are great to listen to and learn from. Comforting and full of great information. Thanks for what you do.
Im doing no contact with my ex she lives 1 1/2 away. Prior to the break up she detached emotionally and physically. After 3 years of dating she broke up with me but wanted to remain friends. Two weeks after she dumped me we were hanging out as friends. That failed miserable she wanted to feed me bread crumbs to string me along. I made a comment about her second cellphone, that I never had the number to. She called me unstable and childish saying I shouldn't be concerned about her phone. She wanted gf treatment without the commitment. She told me through text never to contact her again. She knows I don't have family in Florida and very little friends. I feel so alone. Im seeking therapy and getting closer to God.
He doesnt reach out because his "new relationship moved in" two months after meeting on line while we were still together 12 years... and she is still married...
Hi Craig and Margaret, please consider doing a video about retroactive jealousy. I would like to know how to deal with it. It hurts my relationship with the love of my life. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge ❤️
Thats ok if they tell you its over and why, but if they just walk away and nothing is said... thats quite annoying and especially if your married and they refuse to give you a divorce
Perhaps you can discuss techniques for moving on? It's been a year of no contact, i'm 100% she'd moved on, i'm 100% certain I don't want and shouldn't want her back both because of the toxicity of the relationship and because of developments in her life since the breakup that make us incompatible, but I can't seem to get rid of my attachment to her and just leave her behind and go on with my life.
I broke with my girl a week go and feel like I’m dying. I reached out to her and she told me I lost her this time and it killed me. She told Mabe if I work on myself we can be together again.Now I’m applying the no contact rule. I hope it works.
I'm really sorry to hear that, i hope you are doing well.
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Thats at first Then you cannot sleep ,eat & cry alot.Then you wake up & start living your life ,& start to live & start feeling better each day.Start getting use to not being with. Them .You feel great about being single! If they come back great & if they don't oh well life goes on Thats it!
I hate that I am in still I'm love with my ex. I hate that I miss him. I hate that he chose to monkey branch when we just had a baby. I hate that our older kids are hurting because of his selfish decision and he's choosing to play victim instead of trying to repair his relationship with them and take accountability for hurting them. I hate how mean he is to us when he chose to hurt our family.
i hope you’re doing better ❤️
Margaret is aunt on my head she just amazing!!
"Every second is an eternity" . Still 2 years later after a 10 year relationship. It's torture on Earth.
Craig can you please think about
Doing a video on LDR, Travel and this ongoing COVID situation.
This is the hardest situation many of us face today
Love you and coach Margaret; helping me for 6 months. Thank you for pod casts
One month of NC. Today I accidentally viewed her story on Snapchat. I didnt view her story for the entire month. I feel crappy that it happened today. I have since learned that you can mute stories. Hopefully that doesnt set me back too much.
Hello Craig, thank you for all the work you do and share with us. I wanted to ask if you could make a video what to do and how to handle the situation when they do reach out finally? To again, not to come out like very needy or too much etc. Giving different scenarios and how to handle them. Thank you :-)
3 week's and it will be 2 years of no contact. Good luck
U Literally spoke my heart out... Thank u Soooooooo much Craig And Margaret ❤ U guyz r d saviours and d guardian Angels 😇🙌 Thank you once again... Keep making more videos they are so helpful and motivational ❤ Love From India ❤
Nice to see a fellow Indian 👋
My wife of 5 years left and I’m just devastated!! Now I don’t know weather to go no contact or continue contact with her...I’m so confused!! I’m glad I have a Skype appointment coming up with you coach 😢