Getting your ex back has to do with .1 no contact .2 mentality. If you believe you can never get your ex back then you most likely never will. They have to see you’re the type of person they don’t want to lose for good! You’re amazing and they saw that once, let them see it again ❤️
this video is critical pay attention ive watched it at least 5 times coach craig really does want to see you succeed its not about ignoring your ex its about taking the time to rebuild your confidence and putting yourself in the best position to show the one you love that with or without them that youll grow and continue to be a better person and itd be in their best interest to hop on the growth train ;)
I was in a relationship with this guy for four years. Then one day he bought another woman to his house after being with me two weeks before. He never told me it was over or anything like that. I think that was the worst time of my life. I couldnt understand how he could do something like that. When I tried talking to him he didnt want to talk to me or see me. So I didnt bother him again. Then after a year he came back and said he was sorry for what he did to me and wanted to get back together. So I decide to give him another chance. Even tho I love him I did not trust him again. So recentlly we had an agument and he told me its over. So I said its ok and I havent contacted him since. I just had this feeling he was just using me for his selfish reasons. Thats how I came across your videos and these videos really help me alot. So thank you so much. For now I am going to let everything go. Thanks again.
You go into detail and depth that other "coaches" don't. You talk about the "why". You go 7 layers deep. And I cannot tell you how much I appreciate this. THANK YOU Craig.
Trying so hard to do no contact but it’s absolutely killing me!! I’ve never been in this situation before and it’s mind blowing!! So hard to focus and function but these videos are definitely helping! Thank you so much!!
I like how you emphasize the fact that we should not INITIATE contact with our exes, as opposed to flat out ignoring them. This is a very good distinction between what a lot of coaches out there are endorsing about the NC rule.
It makes no sense to ignore a person that you want Back. What kind of message does that send them? People need to use common sense when listening to online advice!!!
I feel like he’s warming up- we see each other occasionally and he’s not seeing anyone else. He’s still having doubts- I can tell bc he’s not opening up emotionally. He’s not ready but I’m OK with that. I’m focusing on myself and my growth. Finding my happiness within and not conditional on his hot/cold behavior. For the first time in my life I feel happy alone. That’s a major victory to me. I’m excited about the things that are unfolding....continuing to be patient, hopeful and believing in my happily ever after.
Craig You seem like a genuine dude that really cares about helping people! Thoughts and prayers for you and Margaret’s family she was one of a kind and truly heaven sent.
I see you have tons of questions for me. Best way to get them answered is with a coaching. I simply do not have enough time to get to them here. I only have 3-4 hours of free time a day! Just go to AskCraig.net and I will be happy to help!
Coach Craig Kenneth why are all the videos I wat h about women who dump men. Do the same rules apply to men that dump women? My ex told me we are soul mates. We had an amazing relationship, except when we fought. Go from the most loving couple to hatred. Thars our past coming up. Our last fight was horrifying. 4 days before were talking about getting married. We were engaged.no set date. After our fight he freaked out started breaking throwing thi ge. He left the house quit his job and left. Co tacked me several times to say I won't be hack except my stuff. Everyone including me were shocked. Do same rules apply for men. If I'm his soul mate and we were gaga for 3ach other 2 half years i to it. Like still honeymoon phase. Why would he do this I'm broken. Cant stop texting calling pleading. Haye to say it but I'm the catch. Hes attractive but has nothing. I'm successful, intelligent, attractive,kind, loving, but when attacked because of my childhood traumas i attack back with nasty words. As did he. Idk what to do.
Coach Craig, can you do a video on the role of mutual friends post breakup? We had friends in common. Sadly, the people I met through him decided I was a horrible person and without even asking for my side, they just cut me loose (When it comes to breakups, my ex likes to play victim). Anyway, we still have a couple of friends in common. I'm nervous around them and avoid them, because I don't want to know what he and my replacement are up to. I'm also always fighting the urge to ask for updates, fearing the worst.
There are a lot of videos speaking to men trying to get women back- a lot of how women react and what they are looking for. Will you pretty please do videos explaining men’s reactions. Thank you!
Was just about to write the same! It sounds all of the successful stories are about the woman who run after her ex. The other side should be focused as well.
"We can be friends and she'll see what a super catch I am and..." Nope. That, my friend, is a bigger sucker bet than trying to fill an inside straight flush.
Wow, I can't thank you enough. These videos I have watched have really helped me. When I found out my ex was dating someone else I flipped out, I told her much I loved her and was there anything I could do to make it work. I am starting no contact today, I hope I didn't already blow it.
Ohhhhh no. That story could have been me. Thanks for hitting us metaphorically on our heads😊. I have kept no contact for 5 weeks and he already reached out. As I have an anxious attachment, I do all in my power not to break the rule. I am so much happier now. I feel less anxious because I have myself back.
7 weeks now since I've reached out, 4 weeks since she has. Going no contact is still hard and I don't want it but it's kind of fun in a strange way. See how long I can go until we get back together or if it all falls apart for good. She's the one who dumped me so she needs to earn me back.
Matty Matt same boat man 5 weeks today. For me this is the second break up. Was with this girl for 4.5 years. The first time i was still going to school with her so i got to see her, and talk to her. She was not interested in talking or anything till I asked her if we could talk. She told me she didnt want to talk. I told her, “fine, im done and i will move on. I left class right after that and 10 minutes later she texted me asking to talk. I did everything wrong that time around, showing my weakness, begging, etc. this time around was not as terrible as that time. But I have been no contact since the day she broke it off. I work with her dad whom i am very close with which is another difficulty in the situation. I dont talk to him about anything but work. Currently im pursuing the career i have been wanting to for some time, cant wait to get out of my current job. I learned that you should never work with your gfs family! Her birthday was 2 weeks ago and i stayed silent! This is extremely painful to experience but im learning from it and wont ever give my power away in a relationship again. My birthday is next month. We will see if she reaches out. If she wants any sort of reconciliation, she is going to have to work for it! Thats what i did wrong the first time. I didn’t make her respect me. Keep me updated on your situation, i am intrigued on a outcome. Best of luck to you man
Not a dam peep from her. I don’t think she will talk to me ever again. Never how I wanted it to be, but im at the point where i don’t give a shit anymore especially because of how she treated me. It is easier to see why I wasn’t happy in the relationship now than 2 months ago. She prob fuckin some other dude, good for her i got my turn.
@@HAPPYPANDA53 thanks for the update. Im sorry. I have been broken up with my ex for 31 days now. Together for 2 yrs. Its the 2nd time, first time was in september last year for a few weeks. She dumped me. I did everything wrong the week during break up, but since then about 25 days NC now. Extremely painful, because i love her...
just have to say…. So true. When I wanted him back, he started with allllll these feelings and blame and I couldn’t handle it I just wanted it to be over. Pay close attention - be calm - be patient with your ex and woo them again !!
This makes sense- I remember in the beginning when my ex pursued me and asked me out in the beginning of our relationship, he later told me I had him guessing and that he felt “off balance” w me bc he didn’t know what I was thinking or how I’d be...he said I was a mystery to him. And that is when he pursued me! Since our break up, I tried pleading, bargaining and then limited contact via text for 6 weeks...none of it worked. Now I am on strict NC and determined to stay here!!
When my ex dumped me, I begged and pleaded for him to keep me. It didn't work. I felt embarrassed and lost my self-respect. It's been a month of NC. I still haven't heard from him. I fear he will never reach out again.
thank u coach Craig...was firm with my plan for no contact...he texted me and invited me for dinner after 9 days ... we became friends ...shud say reunited finally can sleep well and felt forgiven... fingers crossed on our relationship though but at least we are in good terms with him again... thank you coach Craig for everything...your videos were with me for almost 1 month and a half... coz I keep on breaking it since the break up you helped me a lot coach and ur vids comforted me ...what m trying to say is well we are successful...we did it !!! thanks a lot ..more power..Godbless !!
Serby Drobnjakovic Yes that’s very true I do think that’s my position She doesn’t care abt me 😌 That’s ok It’s her problem I’m doing my very best too move on
Craig...great work. I think one thing has been overlooked in many videos...the reason "types" for the breakup...and the reality of reattracting them. Did they breakup with the "situation/circumstances" or the "person" ? That's an important concept for us to understand when trying to rebuild a relationship. Also, I'm at a loss....initially, I broke up with her....but a week later, she came back to pick up remaining things, spent the night in my bed...then left the next day, after I went out of town that morning. It has been NC for several weeks..almost 3 months. I'm having to watch and attempt to interpret your information, but from both sides of the fence...AM I the one who broke it off, or is it in her mind...that she broke it off with me?...See my dilemna ??? Great work...best of all the info out there !
I agree 100% of what you're saying here and I'm glad you're not one of the coaches that teach that "30 day no contact" bullshit cause it's actually counter productive and it's still covert pursuing the ex and also NOT ignoring the ex when they reach out. I have talked to so many people that ignored the ex when they reached out and later regretted it. This is a time to strike the iron while it's hot as they say. I did the ignoring my ex 3 years ago when she reached out and I waited til the next day, and she already was passed her "missing me" by that time, so I know from experience how this all works and it's proven.
Jack Bravo is he saying ONLY reply IF they reach out first?? i thought no contact is 100% no contact, do you wait a few days or weeks after the break up??
Gena Weingarten no contact means no contact. If they reach out, wait 24hrs before returning same medium of communication (that is if a message was sent, reply by same, if by call, return the call) by doing this, you would've raised the Separation Anxiety in them to its peak. However, when you get to see your partner, do not express how much you've missed him, as he's the one who had broken up with you ;this way, you would use the indirect direct approach of winning him back, as he would be the one all over you. Be sweet, let your character show you've improved on whatever he must've complained about in your personality, before the break-up ;but don't over express your feelings of missing him. Mirror his emotions towards you, but ensure you display yours at a lower percentage...
Hi, just read your comment. I am going through a recent break up, my girl broke up with me about 4 months ago. I am trying the no contact rule. But my question is, after your ex passed her "missing you" phase when you connected with her again, what followed that?
Wish I watched this sooner. I settled for friendship hoping to develop into something more. Of course nothing came of it. She split up with me before we got serious, but we moved fast before the split. Now we rarely talk to the point I forced myself to move on.
Craig, you don’t know how badly I needed to hear 9:48. Every no contact video I see assumes that the proverbial door was left open, and I panicked every time I heard it because I said something that politely closed the door to walk away with dignity. I haven’t heard anyone say what you said at 9:48. It’s been nearly two months since, and just hearing that helped because I was kicking myself for not telling her “contact me if you change your mind.” Even better when you said you WANT her to think you’ll never contact her again. Don’t know how I didn’t see this video before. So unbelievably comforting. Thank you thank you thank you. Edit: I kept watching the video. “You probably made them feel trapped, you probably acted insecure...” Craig this is your best video. You’re addressing my situation and giving me the OK to move forward with the knowledge that she can still come back, and that this was all part of the process even if not. Thank you.
No contact rules in my opinion Everyone has a different situation, so starting no contact while is pretty simple there are things u can do before no contact like letting her know you want her, example: on the last time I had a conversation with her before going no contact, I told her I lover her and I knew she don't feel the same way and that I was going to move on, than I went no contact.. If no contact works with time she will remember the last thing you told her, it's important what he said, do not initiate contact for whatever reason, for me this is very hard because we have a son and we live in the same building so we see each other ofter, but I will try to avoid her, and I will not initiate contact with her, we have a schedule for when I pick up my son so I won't have to text her when I pick him like I been doing lately. This going to be hard for me because lately I been feeling very attached to her, but it's my only option, whether this works or not it'll help me move on or get her back regardless. Am doing no contact. Also improve your look, everything is about looks. The better you look the more she will notice your change and begin to wonder about you. So improve your style and this will help you be more confident as well, start going to the gym and getting in shape this will help you a lot too. And most importantly if you struggle badly with thoughts of her and stalking her and she just doesn't get out ur head, listen to motivational speeches and topics on this no contact to keep head clear and meditate. Work on moving on because there is chance that you won't get her back.
No contact works! Craig doesn't lie on this. Let me explain; So my ex broke up with me 4 months ago, basically ghosted me (mind you, I knew NOTHING about N.C..). And I was sad, I reacted because I was hurt and texted way too much. Then, I started watching their videos here and finally mustered up the strength to do no contact...to work on myself and heal. 33 days later...I got a phone call. It was him. He said he just "wanted to make sure I was okay"...in my mind I was like wtf as soon as I started to let go he calls after having me blocked for months. So just for everyone else looking to do no contact, it works. I smiled and cried but since I did no contact, I had time to grow stronger and now I am not bowing at his feet and screaming I want you back! No, instead I just told him that I was doing good. Asked him how he was doing. It went well. I even cut the conversation short, not that I wanted to...but because I didn't want him to think ghosting me and popping up months later after I tried so hard will make me say I miss you so much! No, instead I kept my composure and kept my feelings in check. I remembered my own worth and the conversation ended well. Maybe he will call back, maybe he won't. But my changing what he expected me to do changed his thoughts. I followed Craigs advice and after more than 30days no contact but less than 45days he reached out on his own. Even told me he thought about me All the time. I was shook like I thought he didn't think of me at all because he never tried to reach out before no contact. Amazing lol...it was so hard at first when I began but work past the discomfort and heartache. It could work for you. There is something to it. Manifest your reality. If they call back good (maybe) and if not you rebuilt yourself in the no contact time. I am such a bigger fan of this channel now...🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Craig, you have saved my life man. You are getting me through this “break” that my girlfriend wanted. I do not contact her at all. She calls me to see how I am doing about every three or four days. I keep the conversation short less than 10 minutes and only talk about fun light things. I never talk about the relationship.
Jose Ramos I recommend you don’t talk to her at all. No contact doesn’t mean that you just don’t contact her, it’s no contact between the 2 of you. If you want her back, talking every other day or so is just not going to let her miss you enough. Especially for anything more than 2 minutes if it’s nothing important or in your favor. Just a tip.
Kenya Hughes Thank you. But I have heard Craig say not to ignore her texts or calls. Even during no contact. He does say to keep the conversation light and fun and short.
Veronica Hamilton The idea is to make contact on and off until she heals and you finish up in good terms then express you love her and want to work it out, then go no contact.
How do you know when your ex actually really does want to be with you, and not just want to know that they "have you" and lose interest again? I feel like you can never really trust them again and feel like you have to walk around being hard to get...
Coach Craig Kenneth what if you broke up with my bf & you want him bk but u NEVER reached out to him & he contacted me 6weeks later but keeps coming bk & leaving so he contacts me & by text every 2 wks sometimes every 3wks & drunk texts me & u keep giving him the green light but he doesn’t try to c u. He’s very insecure so I try to act interested when he acts interested & says he misses me a lot but then he goes mia again & has done this for 7 months even followed you on social media & I’ve never checked or followed him bk but still nothing 😏this is so frustrating he doesn’t leave me alone but yet never asks to c me even tho I hint when he seems to say certain things... what can I do?? I never tell him how I feel I just respond bk to text & I flirt bk. Also he’s an Avoidant personality & has a lot of anxiety & depression & insecure. I’m Anxious attachment style. 😰I miss him & regret breaking up with him.
Coach Craig Kenneth need your help here. My ex bf thought I dumped him during our argument but I didn’t, I reached out to him and explained trying to patch things back 1 week later but he refused and told me it’s over saying 3 times of break up is enough (although in reality is 2 times). I’ve done all the apologizing and explaining, doing favors, and when it all didn’t work after 2.5 months of efforts, I finally went NC for 1 week. Then I was caught in an accident, he instantly came over to help me last week (his family member told me he was nervous that night when he received my text that I got into an accident), I think he still cares for me a bit, but he doesn’t seem to want to talk when I tried to make small talks while he sends me home that night. I suggested let’s be friends, but my ex bf didn’t respond to it and has been ignoring my texts. What should I do now Craig, any chance to patch back? Please help & thanks.
:( It's very har, we just broke up last week. She ended it. A woke up every morning crying. I always talk to her before sleeping because I was really feeling terrible. I told her if she can talk to me if I'm sad, she agreed. How stupid am I right??? She texted me yesterday, she told me not to drink too much. I didn't ignore her, I told her that I won't. But now after watching your video, I am seeing things clearly. I am thankful that I found you sir. I told her I love her and that I want to work things out with her and I'll try to contact if she changes her mind. I won't reach out again, I wont initiate contact. If she texts me again, I'll try to handle it cooler. "You life is a movie, you are the star of your own movie, not her" -Craig
I just wanted to thank Craig for these vids really helped me out! when my ex did contact me kinda didnt know what to do but dont let the anexity get to you and treat it like your good with or without them. Found myslef again and am working things out with my ex Thanks craig
Once again coach Craig I think you're kind of solidifying my thoughts that nobody's going to be able to have a healthy relationship unless I go to college for
Too much b******* behind all this s*** like Jesus Christ I'm trying to have a relationship that doesn't have the stupid ass f****** mind games yeah I'm supposed to play these in order to have a healthy relationship this is what so f***** up about those society that we live in
@@CoachCraigKenneth can you please do this video from female perspective as well? If the dumpee is woman? As you have talked a lot about what is attractive to women… but what about men?
I am this girl!!! ^^* But I wasn’t heartless and he cheated on me a couple times. I regret the cheating but I’m anxiety triggered and it’s been a year . And he still doesn’t have interest. I’m heartbroken
My ex and I broke up in January and found out he moved away to another state in June without telling me. I told him I wanted to discuss somethings before he move away, then he replied saying he will come back to visit his parents in December. First of all, I do not want to see and/or talk to him at all if that’s his intention of coming back. I got plans for him and he will be shocked.
Canada here. Thank you again Coach Craig for a exception tutorial video. This one has to one of your very best. Keep up the good work my friend. Cheers, Rob Jelinski
As a woman, I must make one correction - unclear feelings in a mature man are highly unattractive. Why? Because I have big life dreams and I cannot afford to unnecessarily expend a drop of time and energy on a man who doesn't know what he wants. Every second and thought given to an undecided man is a distraction away from my life goals as well as from other prospects. The number one qualification to be with me is to want to be with me and to express it clearly. Not like a desperate dog, but like a grown man: here's where I'm heading and this is why I want you. That is probably the most attractive expression of intention a man could ever give to me, because then I know a) he has a clear direction in life, and b) he knows how I will fit into that direction, therefore, he will value me. And vise versa. So I don't know if that clarifies anything for anyone out there, it might not work on every woman, but it will work on the independent woman who has dreams and is perfectly fine being single. You have to give her a reason to change her single status and to take time away from her dreams and to give it to you. And if you're unclear or fickle, she won't step away from her dreams in order to wonder what's going on with you.
this may be the case for you, some women its the opposite. they dont want the person to be too into them or too committed to early, they want their own time free from their "loving" partner.
(No contact success story) hi i used the rule and it worked! After 7 days she contacted me and wanted to hangout. She apologized for being an asshole and asked me to forgive her. We hit it off really well and she wants to leave the guy she's with to be with me. We are starting over again as friends and we are rebuilding our relationship. I'm really happy she came back, now i believe we will be much closer now then before.
Calvin Mclain See I couldn't be with a woman who was with someone right after you and would talk to you behind his back, because she probably did the same thing to you and she's very well gonna do it again.
i had avoidant attachment style but after she break up , it broke me and still thinking about her everyday for a year , but no way i am contacting her again ,after she pulled back a month later i reached out with a little anger and after another month i reached out for closure for a real break up ,i pushed her for a answer and she finally was able to say "i finished , you do the same" then i cleanly finished without anger or anything . then we are not talking since then for 10 month , but i know she is stalking , but maybe afraid to reach out to me
I feel like I was made to thrive in reattracing her. I never feel the need to talk about the breakup, my first instinct was to have fun and try to get some closeness going on
Love this guy...I guess I found you a bit too late.. I'm 40 yo and suffering for my girl. I sent her flowers twice already and letters....not easy. Lots of other coaches preach the same No-contact-rule and I was thinking that that it would apply even if she contacts me. Thanks for clarifying that IF, she contacts me I should answer her and not show I'm excited about it. We are playing that game right now of who's got the most interesting day by using IG stories...I notice she watches my stories..all of them...today It will be the first day that I will ignore and not watch her stories...it is SO HARD... I want to press that button so bad....shes on vacation in Italy and I want to see what is happening. This is hard.
I met this girl on fb shes from Georgia im from Philadelphia we clicked instantly she was always texting me 90% of it was her we started to ft and i remember after a face time she hung and text me that she just wanted to let me know she really likes me, i fell for her right there, but only said i feel the same. Over the years ive done much work on myself. Some time went on its been about month now, she told her mom about me her best friend and we even set a plan for me to come see her in March for mg my vacation she would say how she cant wait to see me and cant wait till i get there it felt so good. Then New years came and a few days later everything changed she said shes not sure about the long distance, i told her we knew it would be hard but we can do it i basically told her we shouldn't give up. But she wasn't responding to anything i was saying so i backed off. A week later my birthday hit on the 10th and she said nothing to me . I have to admit I really didn't care too much about that I just figured she didn't wanna send mixed feelings. A mont went by we havemt talked at all i sent a few messages literally 2 in that time saying i hope shes ok and to take her time and figure out what she wants to do. Then last week i told your ghosting me and it doesn't feel great. She responded that she didn't know what to say. I told her just talk to me. And she responded with the same, thing as in the beginning there is so much unknown and risk. And i told her your going to have that anyway. She didn't respond until the next morning when she said she is sorry but she just can't do it. My heart was broken, and i let her know that in a way. But i told i would respect her decision and let her go even though i didn't want to and i gave some push back just no alot. I don't know why i care so much for a girl i never met and only talk to for a month but her gone now os the worst pain i felt in years. Anyway she ended up unfollowing me on ig, undded me on snap, bu i could still follow her but i did it right back, and took her off fb which idt she wanted it to go that far but it did, the next day i messaged her on ig and said i didn't want it to end like this it didn't make any sence, She said please jusy stop and leave it alone we never even met or anything jusy leave it alone, at this point i no im pissing her off and she's done, but i told her how can i just back off when i promised her i wouldn't do that and she said i better not, but hey that last month so idk, im chocked up problem is we are so far i think she's just going to for get me and not miss me, im going crazy here . He profile is set to private i can see what shes doing i can only see if shes active or not because of the last message i sent, which was i just want her to be happy and ill aways be here for her, its been a week and some change now im in no contact i know i have stay focused on myself im also a TH-camr with a pretty decent following so she can always see what I'm doing. Idk i have know one to talk to i feel crazy telling people about how i feel because i never met her and we only talked for a month. But man twe connected on so many levels the spark was there it was nuts now its gone.
Hi Craig, great video :) but you only talk to men :) there is no video that talks to women and what they should do if their ex contacts them. It must be different scenario right ?? cause men do use women for sex as you mention in other videos, so if you are a woman and your ex starts getting back for sex it does not mean you are back together ... it can end up being a situation where he comes back again and again for sex casually where you as a woman bonds again and in the end you get attached again when the guy comes and goes freely .... can you please do a video for women on the exact scenario you talk here ? Meaning what to do if your ex (guy) comes back with an indirect - direct contact and how to handle pleaseee??
I still dont get the logic or psychology behind it. I mean if your gf broke up with you she already accepted that loss especially when they said they dont want to hear from you or see you ever again. Unless they're being pretentious.
2 days no contact ugggg after 4 months of his so called I don't know.......as time slowly passes for me I know I'm not as important as I thought 18 years married would make me to him. The other women was a complete shock to me........if I can even make it to 30 days I hope at that point my self worth will be able to just let it go .....thank you your videos have been a tremendous comfort.....and I listen to your videos as I lay down for the night ....thank you..........i laughed myself to sleep last night when you were talking about checking Facebook and so on......(not that I do that lol)
I have been watching your videos Craig for probably a month now maybe more. Sadly I didn't find them until I made a lot of mistakes. I let him put me in the friend zone because I was so desperate to keep him in my life. I went through a lot of emotions and I struggle to go to work every day. We were long distance and most of our time together was on the phone after work. I have had so many emotions including wanting to die. I was fantasizing about it. I still watch even though it's been three months and there is not really a sign he will come back to me the way I want him to. He has always kept in touch but he refuses to call me because we fought about sex all the time. (the lack of it for various reasons ofc) I told him the sex was just a bonus what we had was a connection that neither of us understood. He refuses to go back. Said he let me go so I could be happy. He however has not moved on either. I like to think that the emails are his way of showing me he still loves me. He even admitted to missing me..something he has not said in many months. He used to say how can I miss you when we talk every day? That always stung. When I tried to give him space he thought I was ignoring him but really I was just trying to stay busy thinking it would make him miss me and be happier that I wasn't crowding him. I think we have a lot of issues to work out so I continue to sort of talk it out via email. Is this relationship hopeless or am I giving him what he wants which is the friendship thing he asked for so he can eventually phase me out? I would skype or email but honestly I can't afford you. Thank you for the videos. It helps soothe my anxiety attachment style
I love no contact , I will make Bollywood movie of no contact and I will cast the role in it my self and Craig will be directing that movie and Victoria will be producer and Margaret (rip)will be writer. We all love Margaret ❤
been following you craig alot, going thru a hard breakup right now and your videos have brought some serious relief to my anxiety. when you talk about no contact until they do, even if it's a her birthday or holidays? wouldn't it seem like I just dont care at all? I ask cause her birthday is coming up in 2 months and unsure if I should message her at all and say happy birthday, from what I've watched on your videos I shouldn't I just want to be sure that I'm doing the right thing. thanks again craig for the videos.
I’ve been in NC for about 5 months now except for one text regarding some insurance paperwork about a month ago and it’s been 9 months since the breakup. I thought I was finally getting over him but yesterday and today have proved otherwise. I just want to move on already and stop thinking about him!😫😫😫 Also, yesterday and today I’ve been contemplating breaking NC, so I came here for encouragement and to stop myself from doing it. Thanks for the videos.
This is the video that I finally decided to subscribe. Your other videos aren't my personality style but what you said in this one bonded with other youtube advice therapy I am choosing and you were to the point. I appreciate it. I am very broke with 20 dollars to my name getting out of this mess. How much is your skype or any options available as I make income and try to get more help
X wife contacted me today after 2 weeks....i was lost...so before i did anything i found your vid and i was so happy i did....i replyed shortly after. just as my dinner hr was over......short replyes and after 2 text i ended the text saying dinner was over half to go........i feel i did this very well.....great vids.....
I've never understood why people chase to get back together. It ended so move on. Does it suck/hurt? Of course! But ultimately the same issues are going to reoccur. Invest your energy in yourself and eventually meeting someone new.
It would be helpful to know the difference if the one using the direct/indirect were the man who ghosted then sends a message to say hello out of the blue over a year later to see how the woman is and how work's going (even though he knows she is taking time off). Thank you, Craig.
My ex broked up with me when she was in USA. We are from Ecuador and I remember she told me "I hope I don't regret breaking up with you" . She's coming back to Ecuador soon. And a few weeks ago she texted me on whatsapp and I kept the conversation short. Then she liked my instagram photo that I uploaded last year. And finally a few days ago she Liked again another pic and she commented " Cool You look very beautiful" and I didn't replay back.So all of that signs makes me thing she wants to get back with me, also makes me thing she misses me, Its very confusing. I miss her to. I got this feeling that after she's done all of this I need to contact her to ask her out. Help Craig!! Help me Guys.!!
Thanks for all the AWESOME ADVICE Craig!!!! Do you have a video about no contact, but when there is a child involved? How to use the "no contact", but also be able to co-parent? I am trying to get my daughter's mom back in my life and I am extremely confused...
Hi Craig, I got the indirect direct contact (telephone call) after 4 months, aaaaaand yes! I did the "oh yeah, oh yeah" jig complete with the air pump action. Good new I did present myself as jolly and happy to hear from her which I did say. She asked which part of the country I was in and wanted to know if I was in the capital. Why? so that if I was around and interested would go for an afternoon talk session with her at a place she had introduced me to as they were having one that day (forgive me for withholding details). I replied in a very "oh boy I forgot" kind of tone and mentioned I had planned to attend but forgot and now was out of town, which I was. Then as I did not want to quickly schedule a meet with her and did not earlier have the opportunity to give her the the "call me if you change your mind closing" I chose to try both and told her to please let me know when the next one is due (i.e. call me) and I will purpose to come to town attend it (off course to see her too) of which she replied she would in kind of a slight head tilt (I have a wild imagination - could not really see her) from the sound of it. She then added a little small talk added to which I gave short answers and let her know I was in the middle of something, thanked her for calling and said it was nice to hear from her and hang up. FYI I will not be contacting her (don't get me wrong I'm dying to do so) till she calls if she wants to. I came across your videos about a month ago by chance and got quite a bit of positive and very helpful coaching from them. I if its ok I can send you an email with the detail for you to analyze the sequence of event. Never know it might help someone else get to where I am.
Great video as always Craig 🙂 Soooo... here is my case. Been looking ur videos for a month. She broke up a month ago. I was a wreck for a day then decided to bounce and get better. Then, following the advice of another coach I decided to play the good flirty friend and make her laugh. At some point I realised...its "kinda" working but shes not experiencing any separation anxiety. She doesnt have that nothing burger yet. She told me she was impressed how strong I was and she had a renewed sense of respect for me and all. BUT. Im not satisfied. I want her to see what its like. So tond her i needed space stayed silent for a week and today I contacted her telling her I see myself forced to refuse her friendship offer. I said Im worth more than that I dont want to place myself in the friendzone and I wish her the best. This was 2years relationship also its long distance shes in her country im in France. We know each others since 8 years shes crazy about me Im just not interested in being friend again in fact I never was. She didnt take it well shes probably crying right now. I think she is experiencing the break up for real now. My only concern is that this whole thing is a big bet from me. She might be able to redirect her feelings on whichever douchebags online who is gonna be nice enough to her and listening to her crap. Its gonna be easy to manipulate her or make me pass for an asshole lol. I wasnt perfect and so wasnt she. I want her crawling back 😂 anyway... We texted a bit after I told her she was a wreck and realised she lost me. I was a bit cold but not angry or bitter I was just explaining my reasons. One of them was " i cant pretend to be friend with someone I have feelings for". Hope it wasnt a turn off to say that. It sure wasnt hypocrite i always say what i think it leads to lots if problem lol. Anyway thanks to you and Margaret for your job. Sadly im poor i cant afford coaching session I would like someone answering me though 😂 even someone from the comment section. Good luck everyone though.
She’s weird lol. Wrote me a letter breaking things off with us today. In one of her many sentences said she never liked her new guy, “J”, but he gave her attention even when she liked me. I was playing it safe, slowly feeding her more and more of myself but it just shows that women are an emotional roller coaster.
I'm in a long distance relationship and my ex sent me a long heart felt message stating he wanted to break up. Nothing stating anything about me doing something to cause it... but more so him feeling lost in what he wants.( I know situations that were brought up before the break up that would bring such emotions to him) Regardless of the reason, i didn't message him back ever because I wanted to be in the right head and heart space. It's been almost 2 weeks now I don't know if I need to send him something to not be an ass or if I go on with the no contact rule. Advice needed !
My ex was getting cold but didnt ultimately end it. We kind of had a blow up over the phone one night. She said she didnt feel the same way about us anymore, and the next day i returned her house key, got the few things of mine from her house. I told her that if we were meant to be we will find our way back to each other..if not, we should go our seperate ways. My question is, do i stay in no contact until she contacts me? I ultimately decided to go no contact and left, but it was her, who was pulling away.
Hi Craig, loving the videos. Can you do a Video on The Bonding Chemicals released in the Brain that you were talking about in this video. And More Videos with kids involved in a Broken Home, and how it will affect them in later life. Thanks.
after a short time of no contact with my ex. I completely realise that I can live without him and I can be more happy with my own companionship. I don't want to him to come back anymore.
Hey man. I don't know how to approach this but I noticed how recent this is. My ex, she let me down super softly. I hated it. It's like she left me over a few weeks. I would have liked it blunt. Not even a week later she's dating what I thought was my best friend. We have a beautiful 19 month old son. I have no clue how to handle it all. I'm falling apart. You are not alone tho. I guess I just want you to know you are not worthless. Betrayal sucks. My eyes are raw. Sending love your way dude. Stay strong
Good one... 30 days NC is coming up after a somewhat botched meet up a month ago...plus, her birthday is at day 36 of NC....hard to stay the course. Gotta be strong... good review video. Where I messed up during the meet up after 40 days apart (long distance also, she's in Bogota, I'm in Florida) was, had I mirrored her reactions somewhat, things would be fixed by now probably... instead, I was intent on pouting and being cynical (i.e: rubbing her nose in it...) that I missed all her hints, hair flips, smiles and innuendos... hard to stay NC this 2nd time around because of her birthday, and the idea she will probably spend that time with (she says she is seeing someone, but I don't buy it...) rebound.... the mischievous guy in me wants to disrupt her birthday mindset...put her off balance...make my contacting her color or influence her birthday...especially if she is seeing someone.... what do I do??
In my case I broke up 1 week ago, and he is trying to see me, text me. I can not ignore him 100 percent, and now he wants to see me tomorrow. But I told him that,am not ready, as the wound didn't still cure. So what shall I do in this case ? Thanks in advance for your reply
Thanks voor your advice Coach and all the effort you put in your videos. There is only one thing I don't realy understand. I always hear from a lot of experts (including you) that we shouldn't contact her and so on but at the same time "she will see on social media by her stalking for example, that we're doing great". Does that mean that we just don't contact that person but at the same time don't delete them from our social media. I always thought that the most effective way was when we realy delete that person from all our platforms especially when she "wants to be friends"?
I didn’t accept friendship, I was so upset I didn’t leave the door open by saying you could talk to me if you change your mind. I just said be happy 😩🤦🏽♀️. Now he has moved on
Hey. My ex contacts me over WhatsApp when I have been in No Contact for about a week and the message turns out to be a link to a Quora answer about what you should do in your 20s. I don't even know how to reply to that as it is totally foolish and so I open the chat after a day or so and leave it at that, with no reply. Now I am wondering what was that. I am still in no contact. I really want that girl but that was just downright stupid.
its a shame i didnt discover your videos year ago. I pushed my ex right in to other guys hands obviously without knowing it. But I guess we all have to learn. good stuff coach.
It’s been 1 week since I started a no contact. Can I ask a question? I wanted to text my ex’s mom: “I am wishing for you and Alex’s health and safety. I know you guys live in downtown San Diego and some violent protests can saturate city downtowns. I am hoping you guys’ safety wouldn’t be compromised.” I don’t know if I should send this or not since I don’t want to restart my no contact rule and just want to give my ex the space and time he wanted from me. Please, help.
Hi Craig, I commented six days ago that I got the call. Well since then I maintained the no contact but, continued listening to your videos and boy was I lucky. Evidently I have had no coaching from you and my responses will not be as well refined as they could be if I had your coaching and analysis. While watching your videos I came to realize I had missed some of the "finer" points. I recall her crestfallen reply when I said I was not in town and that she would also not want to expose her venerability. I had not set a definite date but asked her to call me again to confirm the next talk session. I was keeping her waiting. Was i right ....I don't know anyway this time I made the indirect/direct call. I asked her how the session and had she confirmed the next session? to which she replied (cant describe the voice tone but friendly) aaaw I thought you were calling to tell me your in town. I reminded her that I thought I knew the date but needed her to confirm. I now realize how both of us were nervous at the time and our communication may have been rushed and fuzzy due to the excitement and anxiety mixed together. Being a lot more calmer this time and since I had made the call I then took the opportunity to tell he that I will be in town the following weekend and if she lets me know her availability I would be happy to meet her for a cup of tea but.....IF and only IF she is buying the tea to which she laughed and replied she will buy and plenty of it. So the date is set. My comments may sound overly optimistic but, rest assured I'm cautious guy and may be sometimes over analyze stuff however, I must say your Videos are valuable. I just dream of how a coaching session with you and Margaret would turn things around. I don't mean just for the relationship but for my personal life. Keep up the good work both of you someone is getting much needed help. I believe in the Ether/Force it exists.
I love this, and I'm sure that's the best tea she ever had, and ofc her interest level was very high, can tell by the her response about her buying the tea. Always look out for your best interest first😎✊
Craig My ex broke up with me on the 30th November. I have not initiated any thing and I am in no contact. But I want to tell her to know I still love her and I want us to work out is four week not long enough or should I wait for longer. P.s I have watched so many videos and you have saved me as a man and I am now working on self improvement. Thank you!!!
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Getting your ex back has to do with .1 no contact .2 mentality. If you believe you can never get your ex back then you most likely never will. They have to see you’re the type of person they don’t want to lose for good! You’re amazing and they saw that once, let them see it again ❤️
faaaq! thanks Joel, I needed that. Now I can get back to work! Peace, love and happiness for all!
this video is critical pay attention ive watched it at least 5 times coach craig really does want to see you succeed its not about ignoring your ex its about taking the time to rebuild your confidence and putting yourself in the best position to show the one you love that with or without them that youll grow and continue to be a better person and itd be in their best interest to hop on the growth train ;)
Ruins of Alph thank you. I needed that..lol
I was in a relationship with this guy for four years. Then one day he bought another woman to his house after being with me two weeks before. He never told me it was over or anything like that. I think that was the worst time of my life. I couldnt understand how he could do something like that. When I tried talking to him he didnt want to talk to me or see me. So I didnt bother him again. Then after a year he came back and said he was sorry for what he did to me and wanted to get back together. So I decide to give him another chance. Even tho I love him I did not trust him again. So recentlly we had an agument and he told me its over. So I said its ok and I havent contacted him since. I just had this feeling he was just using me for his selfish reasons. Thats how I came across your videos and these videos really help me alot. So thank you so much. For now I am going to let everything go. Thanks again.
what if she kinda pushed you to agree to want to break up and then you agreed to break up. Do you still use no contact?
David of course. She is dumping you when she does that. Nobody acts that way unless they want to end the relationship.
Yes this videos is the most important one watch it 10 x
You go into detail and depth that other "coaches" don't. You talk about the "why". You go 7 layers deep. And I cannot tell you how much I appreciate this. THANK YOU Craig.
he and Margaret are the absolute best
"baaby I can't live without you" oscar worthy delivery Craig
Lol
Lol yes that was good. Good advice. Keep your level of excitement lower.
Trying so hard to do no contact but it’s absolutely killing me!! I’ve never been in this situation before and it’s mind blowing!! So hard to focus and function but these videos are definitely helping! Thank you so much!!
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Update?
I like how you emphasize the fact that we should not INITIATE contact with our exes, as opposed to flat out ignoring them. This is a very good distinction between what a lot of coaches out there are endorsing about the NC rule.
It makes no sense to ignore a person that you want Back. What kind of message does that send them? People need to use common sense when listening to online advice!!!
Stacey, any word from your ex?
I feel like he’s warming up- we see each other occasionally and he’s not seeing anyone else. He’s still having doubts- I can tell bc he’s not opening up emotionally. He’s not ready but I’m OK with that. I’m focusing on myself and my growth. Finding my happiness within and not conditional on his hot/cold behavior. For the first time in my life I feel happy alone. That’s a major victory to me. I’m excited about the things that are unfolding....continuing to be patient, hopeful and believing in my happily ever after.
Craig
You seem like a genuine dude that really cares about helping people! Thoughts and prayers for you and Margaret’s family she was one of a kind and truly heaven sent.
Agree i don’t want his darn friendship
And I’m not going to be a 2nd option
Same here. When I go back to move the couch this thurs, I'm going to be very clear that I'm looking for a partner, not a friend.
I see you have tons of questions for me. Best way to get them answered is with a coaching. I simply do not have enough time to get to them here. I only have 3-4 hours of free time a day! Just go to AskCraig.net and I will be happy to help!
Coach Craig Kenneth why are all the videos I wat h about women who dump men. Do the same rules apply to men that dump women? My ex told me we are soul mates. We had an amazing relationship, except when we fought. Go from the most loving couple to hatred. Thars our past coming up. Our last fight was horrifying. 4 days before were talking about getting married. We were engaged.no set date. After our fight he freaked out started breaking throwing thi ge. He left the house quit his job and left. Co tacked me several times to say I won't be hack except my stuff. Everyone including me were shocked. Do same rules apply for men. If I'm his soul mate and we were gaga for 3ach other 2 half years i to it. Like still honeymoon phase. Why would he do this I'm broken. Cant stop texting calling pleading. Haye to say it but I'm the catch. Hes attractive but has nothing. I'm successful, intelligent, attractive,kind, loving, but when attacked because of my childhood traumas i attack back with nasty words. As did he. Idk what to do.
Coach Craig, can you do a video on the role of mutual friends post breakup?
We had friends in common. Sadly, the people I met through him decided I was a horrible person and without even asking for my side, they just cut me loose (When it comes to breakups, my ex likes to play victim).
Anyway, we still have a couple of friends in common. I'm nervous around them and avoid them, because I don't want to know what he and my replacement are up to. I'm also always fighting the urge to ask for updates, fearing the worst.
There are a lot of videos speaking to men trying to get women back- a lot of how women react and what they are looking for. Will you pretty please do videos explaining men’s reactions. Thank you!
Agreed, yes please
Yes! Get Margaret up in here about this lol
Was just about to write the same!
It sounds all of the successful stories are about the woman who run after her ex. The other side should be focused as well.
Mens reactions are pretty straightforward
Do you only cater for men?
You say you regressed....but after hearing the story you shared...it gave me HUGE insight. Thank you 🙏🏼
"We can be friends and she'll see what a super catch I am and..."
Nope.
That, my friend, is a bigger sucker bet than trying to fill an inside straight flush.
The master of breakups and relationships ... Great video as usual. Thank you!
Craig is absolutely on another level!
I've been reading a lot about this stuff. It's so important to follow these rules. It will make you or break you. Very good advice, Craig. :)
Wow, I can't thank you enough. These videos I have watched have really helped me. When I found out my ex was dating someone else I flipped out, I told her much I loved her and was there anything I could do to make it work. I am starting no contact today, I hope I didn't already blow it.
PianoMan4Life1982 how did it go King?
Ohhhhh no. That story could have been me. Thanks for hitting us metaphorically on our heads😊. I have kept no contact for 5 weeks and he already reached out. As I have an anxious attachment, I do all in my power not to break the rule. I am so much happier now. I feel less anxious because I have myself back.
7 weeks now since I've reached out, 4 weeks since she has. Going no contact is still hard and I don't want it but it's kind of fun in a strange way. See how long I can go until we get back together or if it all falls apart for good. She's the one who dumped me so she needs to earn me back.
Matty Matt same boat man 5 weeks today. For me this is the second break up. Was with this girl for 4.5 years. The first time i was still going to school with her so i got to see her, and talk to her. She was not interested in talking or anything till I asked her if we could talk. She told me she didnt want to talk. I told her, “fine, im done and i will move on. I left class right after that and 10 minutes later she texted me asking to talk. I did everything wrong that time around, showing my weakness, begging, etc. this time around was not as terrible as that time. But I have been no contact since the day she broke it off. I work with her dad whom i am very close with which is another difficulty in the situation. I dont talk to him about anything but work. Currently im pursuing the career i have been wanting to for some time, cant wait to get out of my current job. I learned that you should never work with your gfs family! Her birthday was 2 weeks ago and i stayed silent! This is extremely painful to experience but im learning from it and wont ever give my power away in a relationship again. My birthday is next month. We will see if she reaches out. If she wants any sort of reconciliation, she is going to have to work for it! Thats what i did wrong the first time. I didn’t make her respect me. Keep me updated on your situation, i am intrigued on a outcome. Best of luck to you man
Not a dam peep from her. I don’t think she will talk to me ever again. Never how I wanted it to be, but im at the point where i don’t give a shit anymore especially because of how she treated me. It is easier to see why I wasn’t happy in the relationship now than 2 months ago. She prob fuckin some other dude, good for her i got my turn.
Im better than that, taking at least a year to myself. I disregarded myself for 4 years.
@@HAPPYPANDA53 thanks for the update. Im sorry. I have been broken up with my ex for 31 days now. Together for 2 yrs. Its the 2nd time, first time was in september last year for a few weeks. She dumped me. I did everything wrong the week during break up, but since then about 25 days NC now. Extremely painful, because i love her...
Why did she break up with you? Update
just have to say…. So true. When I wanted him back, he started with allllll these feelings and blame and I couldn’t handle it I just wanted it to be over.
Pay close attention - be calm - be patient with your ex and woo them again !!
This makes sense- I remember in the beginning when my ex pursued me and asked me out in the beginning of our relationship, he later told me I had him guessing and that he felt “off balance” w me bc he didn’t know what I was thinking or how I’d be...he said I was a mystery to him. And that is when he pursued me! Since our break up, I tried pleading, bargaining and then limited contact via text for 6 weeks...none of it worked. Now I am on strict NC and determined to stay here!!
When my ex dumped me, I begged and pleaded for him to keep me. It didn't work. I felt embarrassed and lost my self-respect. It's been a month of NC. I still haven't heard from him. I fear he will never reach out again.
thank u coach Craig...was firm with my plan for no contact...he texted me and invited me for dinner after 9 days ... we became friends ...shud say reunited finally can sleep well and felt forgiven... fingers crossed on our relationship though but at least we are in good terms with him again... thank you coach Craig for everything...your videos were with me for almost 1 month and a half... coz I keep on breaking it since the break up you helped me a lot coach and ur vids comforted me ...what m trying to say is well we are successful...we did it !!! thanks a lot ..more power..Godbless !!
This is gold. No contact puts them in the position of chasing you. It works .
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Not for everyone
@@mattykay1137 for everyone trust me. If it doesn't work then they don't care about you. So it's pointless.
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Yes that’s very true
I do think that’s my position
She doesn’t care abt me 😌
That’s ok
It’s her problem
I’m doing my very best too move on
Craig...great work. I think one thing has been overlooked in many videos...the reason "types" for the breakup...and the reality of reattracting them. Did they breakup with the "situation/circumstances" or the "person" ? That's an important concept for us to understand when trying to rebuild a relationship. Also, I'm at a loss....initially, I broke up with her....but a week later, she came back to pick up remaining things, spent the night in my bed...then left the next day, after I went out of town that morning. It has been NC for several weeks..almost 3 months. I'm having to watch and attempt to interpret your information, but from both sides of the fence...AM I the one who broke it off, or is it in her mind...that she broke it off with me?...See my dilemna ??? Great work...best of all the info out there !
I agree 100% of what you're saying here and I'm glad you're not one of the coaches that teach that "30 day no contact" bullshit cause it's actually counter productive and it's still covert pursuing the ex and also NOT ignoring the ex when they reach out. I have talked to so many people that ignored the ex when they reached out and later regretted it. This is a time to strike the iron while it's hot as they say. I did the ignoring my ex 3 years ago when she reached out and I waited til the next day, and she already was passed her "missing me" by that time, so I know from experience how this all works and it's proven.
Jack Bravo is he saying ONLY reply IF they reach out first??
i thought no contact is 100% no contact, do you wait a few days or weeks after the break up??
Gena Weingarten no contact, unless they reach out...lol
Gena Weingarten no contact means no contact. If they reach out, wait 24hrs before returning same medium of communication (that is if a message was sent, reply by same, if by call, return the call) by doing this, you would've raised the Separation Anxiety in them to its peak. However, when you get to see your partner, do not express how much you've missed him, as he's the one who had broken up with you ;this way, you would use the indirect direct approach of winning him back, as he would be the one all over you. Be sweet, let your character show you've improved on whatever he must've complained about in your personality, before the break-up ;but don't over express your feelings of missing him. Mirror his emotions towards you, but ensure you display yours at a lower percentage...
Hi, just read your comment. I am going through a recent break up, my girl broke up with me about 4 months ago. I am trying the no contact rule. But my question is, after your ex passed her "missing you" phase when you connected with her again, what followed that?
Wish I watched this sooner. I settled for friendship hoping to develop into something more. Of course nothing came of it. She split up with me before we got serious, but we moved fast before the split.
Now we rarely talk to the point I forced myself to move on.
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Craig, you don’t know how badly I needed to hear 9:48. Every no contact video I see assumes that the proverbial door was left open, and I panicked every time I heard it because I said something that politely closed the door to walk away with dignity. I haven’t heard anyone say what you said at 9:48. It’s been nearly two months since, and just hearing that helped because I was kicking myself for not telling her “contact me if you change your mind.” Even better when you said you WANT her to think you’ll never contact her again. Don’t know how I didn’t see this video before. So unbelievably comforting. Thank you thank you thank you.
Edit: I kept watching the video. “You probably made them feel trapped, you probably acted insecure...” Craig this is your best video. You’re addressing my situation and giving me the OK to move forward with the knowledge that she can still come back, and that this was all part of the process even if not. Thank you.
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Wow! one great video.....I will win the academy award for being indifferent .. thanks again Craig. We are all so lucky to have found you and Margaret.
No contact rules in my opinion
Everyone has a different situation, so starting no contact while is pretty simple there are things u can do before no contact like letting her know you want her, example: on the last time I had a conversation with her before going no contact, I told her I lover her and I knew she don't feel the same way and that I was going to move on, than I went no contact.. If no contact works with time she will remember the last thing you told her, it's important what he said, do not initiate contact for whatever reason, for me this is very hard because we have a son and we live in the same building so we see each other ofter, but I will try to avoid her, and I will not initiate contact with her, we have a schedule for when I pick up my son so I won't have to text her when I pick him like I been doing lately. This going to be hard for me because lately I been feeling very attached to her, but it's my only option, whether this works or not it'll help me move on or get her back regardless. Am doing no contact.
Also improve your look, everything is about looks. The better you look the more she will notice your change and begin to wonder about you. So improve your style and this will help you be more confident as well, start going to the gym and getting in shape this will help you a lot too. And most importantly if you struggle badly with thoughts of her and stalking her and she just doesn't get out ur head, listen to motivational speeches and topics on this no contact to keep head clear and meditate. Work on moving on because there is chance that you won't get her back.
No contact works! Craig doesn't lie on this. Let me explain;
So my ex broke up with me 4 months ago, basically ghosted me (mind you, I knew NOTHING about N.C..). And I was sad, I reacted because I was hurt and texted way too much. Then, I started watching their videos here and finally mustered up the strength to do no contact...to work on myself and heal. 33 days later...I got a phone call. It was him. He said he just "wanted to make sure I was okay"...in my mind I was like wtf as soon as I started to let go he calls after having me blocked for months. So just for everyone else looking to do no contact, it works. I smiled and cried but since I did no contact, I had time to grow stronger and now I am not bowing at his feet and screaming I want you back! No, instead I just told him that I was doing good. Asked him how he was doing. It went well. I even cut the conversation short, not that I wanted to...but because I didn't want him to think ghosting me and popping up months later after I tried so hard will make me say I miss you so much! No, instead I kept my composure and kept my feelings in check. I remembered my own worth and the conversation ended well.
Maybe he will call back, maybe he won't. But my changing what he expected me to do changed his thoughts. I followed Craigs advice and after more than 30days no contact but less than 45days he reached out on his own. Even told me he thought about me All the time. I was shook like I thought he didn't think of me at all because he never tried to reach out before no contact.
Amazing lol...it was so hard at first when I began but work past the discomfort and heartache. It could work for you. There is something to it. Manifest your reality. If they call back good (maybe) and if not you rebuilt yourself in the no contact time. I am such a bigger fan of this channel now...🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
He used the "indirect-direct approach", btw..😇
awesome
sucha a gooooood video... love ur sense of humor Coach.. 😍 Keep it up!
Thanks Farah :)
Craig, you have saved my life man. You are getting me through this “break” that my girlfriend wanted. I do not contact her at all. She calls me to see how I am doing about every three or four days. I keep the conversation short less than 10 minutes and only talk about fun light things. I never talk about the relationship.
Jose Ramos I recommend you don’t talk to her at all. No contact doesn’t mean that you just don’t contact her, it’s no contact between the 2 of you. If you want her back, talking every other day or so is just not going to let her miss you enough. Especially for anything more than 2 minutes if it’s nothing important or in your favor. Just a tip.
Kenya Hughes Thank you. But I have heard Craig say not to ignore her texts or calls. Even during no contact. He does say to keep the conversation light and fun and short.
What if the woman breaks it off because of something the man did? Using no contact could ruin his chances since she has felt betrayed in someway.
Veronica Hamilton The idea is to make contact on and off until she heals and you finish up in good terms then express you love her and want to work it out, then go no contact.
How do you know when your ex actually really does want to be with you, and not just want to know that they "have you" and lose interest again? I feel like you can never really trust them again and feel like you have to walk around being hard to get...
Why r u so good at your job
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Coach Craig Kenneth what if you broke up with my bf & you want him bk but u NEVER reached out to him & he contacted me 6weeks later but keeps coming bk & leaving so he contacts me & by text every 2 wks sometimes every 3wks & drunk texts me & u keep giving him the green light but he doesn’t try to c u. He’s very insecure so I try to act interested when he acts interested & says he misses me a lot but then he goes mia again & has done this for 7 months even followed you on social media & I’ve never checked or followed him bk but still nothing 😏this is so frustrating he doesn’t leave me alone but yet never asks to c me even tho I hint when he seems to say certain things... what can I do?? I never tell him how I feel I just respond bk to text & I flirt bk. Also he’s an Avoidant personality & has a lot of anxiety & depression & insecure. I’m Anxious attachment style. 😰I miss him & regret breaking up with him.
Coach Craig Kenneth need your help here. My ex bf thought I dumped him during our argument but I didn’t, I reached out to him and explained trying to patch things back 1 week later but he refused and told me it’s over saying 3 times of break up is enough (although in reality is 2 times). I’ve done all the apologizing and explaining, doing favors, and when it all didn’t work after 2.5 months of efforts, I finally went NC for 1 week.
Then I was caught in an accident, he instantly came over to help me last week (his family member told me he was nervous that night when he received my text that I got into an accident), I think he still cares for me a bit, but he doesn’t seem to want to talk when I tried to make small talks while he sends me home that night.
I suggested let’s be friends, but my ex bf didn’t respond to it and has been ignoring my texts. What should I do now Craig, any chance to patch back? Please help & thanks.
:( It's very har, we just broke up last week. She ended it. A woke up every morning crying. I always talk to her before sleeping because I was really feeling terrible. I told her if she can talk to me if I'm sad, she agreed. How stupid am I right??? She texted me yesterday, she told me not to drink too much. I didn't ignore her, I told her that I won't. But now after watching your video, I am seeing things clearly. I am thankful that I found you sir. I told her I love her and that I want to work things out with her and I'll try to contact if she changes her mind. I won't reach out again, I wont initiate contact. If she texts me again, I'll try to handle it cooler.
"You life is a movie, you are the star of your own movie, not her" -Craig
I just wanted to thank Craig for these vids really helped me out! when my ex did contact me kinda didnt know what to do but dont let the anexity get to you and treat it like your good with or without them. Found myslef again and am working things out with my ex Thanks craig
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This is one of the best videos I’ve seen. Thanks Craig for sharing. You really break down the no contact rule, well.
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I love taking notes from this guy !!
Great advice on the no contact rule and how to respond when they contact you.👍🏼
Once again coach Craig I think you're kind of solidifying my thoughts that nobody's going to be able to have a healthy relationship unless I go to college for
Too much b******* behind all this s*** like Jesus Christ I'm trying to have a relationship that doesn't have the stupid ass f****** mind games yeah I'm supposed to play these in order to have a healthy relationship this is what so f***** up about those society that we live in
I’m still stuck with trying to figure out who dumped who?!
I'm going thru a break up now craig and I'm loving all the great advice.
Thank you Jade, if you ever want my help personally sign up for a coaching. I'm happy to help :)
Coach Craig Kenneth
Hi Coach love your work
@@CoachCraigKenneth can you please do this video from female perspective as well? If the dumpee is woman? As you have talked a lot about what is attractive to women… but what about men?
I am this girl!!! ^^*
But I wasn’t heartless and he cheated on me a couple times. I regret the cheating but I’m anxiety triggered and it’s been a year . And he still doesn’t have interest. I’m heartbroken
I'm sorry. I hope things are better, now.
My ex and I broke up in January and found out he moved away to another state in June without telling me. I told him I wanted to discuss somethings before he move away, then he replied saying he will come back to visit his parents in December.
First of all, I do not want to see and/or talk to him at all if that’s his intention of coming back.
I got plans for him and he will be shocked.
Canada here. Thank you again Coach Craig for a exception tutorial video. This one has to one of your very best. Keep up the good work my friend. Cheers, Rob Jelinski
As a woman, I must make one correction - unclear feelings in a mature man are highly unattractive. Why? Because I have big life dreams and I cannot afford to unnecessarily expend a drop of time and energy on a man who doesn't know what he wants. Every second and thought given to an undecided man is a distraction away from my life goals as well as from other prospects. The number one qualification to be with me is to want to be with me and to express it clearly. Not like a desperate dog, but like a grown man: here's where I'm heading and this is why I want you. That is probably the most attractive expression of intention a man could ever give to me, because then I know a) he has a clear direction in life, and b) he knows how I will fit into that direction, therefore, he will value me. And vise versa.
So I don't know if that clarifies anything for anyone out there, it might not work on every woman, but it will work on the independent woman who has dreams and is perfectly fine being single. You have to give her a reason to change her single status and to take time away from her dreams and to give it to you. And if you're unclear or fickle, she won't step away from her dreams in order to wonder what's going on with you.
Ingal Adler What you say is very different than what you react too.
St2045 Exactly never ever take women advice from a women
Ingel, - This is such excellent advice. You sound exactly like my ex., independent, wants a plan, focus, etc. I think I will try your advice ...
this may be the case for you, some women its the opposite. they dont want the person to be too into them or too committed to early, they want their own time free from their "loving" partner.
(No contact success story) hi i used the rule and it worked! After 7 days she contacted me and wanted to hangout. She apologized for being an asshole and asked me to forgive her. We hit it off really well and she wants to leave the guy she's with to be with me. We are starting over again as friends and we are rebuilding our relationship. I'm really happy she came back, now i believe we will be much closer now then before.
Calvin Mclain See I couldn't be with a woman who was with someone right after you and would talk to you behind his back, because she probably did the same thing to you and she's very well gonna do it again.
@@tylerjohnson3195 yeah your right dude. She went back to him a week later.
What if your ex is male and an avoidant attachment type?
Exactly!!
Or female. Works both ways.
i had avoidant attachment style but after she break up , it broke me and still thinking about her everyday for a year , but no way i am contacting her again ,after she pulled back a month later i reached out with a little anger and after another month i reached out for closure for a real break up ,i pushed her for a answer and she finally was able to say "i finished , you do the same" then i cleanly finished without anger or anything . then we are not talking since then for 10 month , but i know she is stalking , but maybe afraid to reach out to me
This was one great video!! Literally everything you need to know in one video! Shared and saved!
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I can’t afford the sessions coach. What can I do?! I really need to sit down with you and talk about my situation. #SOS
Naeem Chishti keep watching his videos as much as you can! They really are very helpful! You learn so much.
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I feel like I was made to thrive in reattracing her. I never feel the need to talk about the breakup, my first instinct was to have fun and try to get some closeness going on
Love this guy...I guess I found you a bit too late.. I'm 40 yo and suffering for my girl. I sent her flowers twice already and letters....not easy. Lots of other coaches preach the same No-contact-rule and I was thinking that that it would apply even if she contacts me. Thanks for clarifying that IF, she contacts me I should answer her and not show I'm excited about it. We are playing that game right now of who's got the most interesting day by using IG stories...I notice she watches my stories..all of them...today It will be the first day that I will ignore and not watch her stories...it is SO HARD... I want to press that button so bad....shes on vacation in Italy and I want to see what is happening. This is hard.
I met this girl on fb shes from Georgia im from Philadelphia we clicked instantly she was always texting me 90% of it was her we started to ft and i remember after a face time she hung and text me that she just wanted to let me know she really likes me, i fell for her right there, but only said i feel the same. Over the years ive done much work on myself. Some time went on its been about month now, she told her mom about me her best friend and we even set a plan for me to come see her in March for mg my vacation she would say how she cant wait to see me and cant wait till i get there it felt so good. Then New years came and a few days later everything changed she said shes not sure about the long distance, i told her we knew it would be hard but we can do it i basically told her we shouldn't give up. But she wasn't responding to anything i was saying so i backed off. A week later my birthday hit on the 10th and she said nothing to me . I have to admit I really didn't care too much about that I just figured she didn't wanna send mixed feelings. A mont went by we havemt talked at all i sent a few messages literally 2 in that time saying i hope shes ok and to take her time and figure out what she wants to do. Then last week i told your ghosting me and it doesn't feel great. She responded that she didn't know what to say. I told her just talk to me. And she responded with the same, thing as in the beginning there is so much unknown and risk. And i told her your going to have that anyway. She didn't respond until the next morning when she said she is sorry but she just can't do it. My heart was broken, and i let her know that in a way. But i told i would respect her decision and let her go even though i didn't want to and i gave some push back just no alot. I don't know why i care so much for a girl i never met and only talk to for a month but her gone now os the worst pain i felt in years. Anyway she ended up unfollowing me on ig, undded me on snap, bu i could still follow her but i did it right back, and took her off fb which idt she wanted it to go that far but it did, the next day i messaged her on ig and said i didn't want it to end like this it didn't make any sence, She said please jusy stop and leave it alone we never even met or anything jusy leave it alone, at this point i no im pissing her off and she's done, but i told her how can i just back off when i promised her i wouldn't do that and she said i better not, but hey that last month so idk, im chocked up problem is we are so far i think she's just going to for get me and not miss me, im going crazy here . He profile is set to private i can see what shes doing i can only see if shes active or not because of the last message i sent, which was i just want her to be happy and ill aways be here for her, its been a week and some change now im in no contact i know i have stay focused on myself im also a TH-camr with a pretty decent following so she can always see what I'm doing. Idk i have know one to talk to i feel crazy telling people about how i feel because i never met her and we only talked for a month. But man twe connected on so many levels the spark was there it was nuts now its gone.
Hi Craig, great video :)
but you only talk to men :) there is no video that talks to women and what they should do if their ex contacts them. It must be different scenario right ?? cause men do use women for sex as you mention in other videos, so if you are a woman and your ex starts getting back for sex it does not mean you are back together ... it can end up being a situation where he comes back again and again for sex casually where you as a woman bonds again and in the end you get attached again when the guy comes and goes freely .... can you please do a video for women on the exact scenario you talk here ? Meaning what to do if your ex (guy) comes back with an indirect - direct contact and how to handle pleaseee??
I still dont get the logic or psychology behind it. I mean if your gf broke up with you she already accepted that loss especially when they said they dont want to hear from you or see you ever again. Unless they're being pretentious.
Who gives this video a 👎, this is amazing advise !! Thanks coach craig!
2 days no contact ugggg after 4 months of his so called I don't know.......as time slowly passes for me I know I'm not as important as I thought 18 years married would make me to him. The other women was a complete shock to me........if I can even make it to 30 days I hope at that point my self worth will be able to just let it go .....thank you your videos have been a tremendous comfort.....and I listen to your videos as I lay down for the night ....thank you..........i laughed myself to sleep last night when you were talking about checking Facebook and so on......(not that I do that lol)
I have been watching your videos Craig for probably a month now maybe more. Sadly I didn't find them until I made a lot of mistakes. I let him put me in the friend zone because I was so desperate to keep him in my life. I went through a lot of emotions and I struggle to go to work every day. We were long distance and most of our time together was on the phone after work. I have had so many emotions including wanting to die. I was fantasizing about it. I still watch even though it's been three months and there is not really a sign he will come back to me the way I want him to. He has always kept in touch but he refuses to call me because we fought about sex all the time. (the lack of it for various reasons ofc) I told him the sex was just a bonus what we had was a connection that neither of us understood. He refuses to go back. Said he let me go so I could be happy. He however has not moved on either. I like to think that the emails are his way of showing me he still loves me. He even admitted to missing me..something he has not said in many months. He used to say how can I miss you when we talk every day? That always stung. When I tried to give him space he thought I was ignoring him but really I was just trying to stay busy thinking it would make him miss me and be happier that I wasn't crowding him. I think we have a lot of issues to work out so I continue to sort of talk it out via email. Is this relationship hopeless or am I giving him what he wants which is the friendship thing he asked for so he can eventually phase me out? I would skype or email but honestly I can't afford you. Thank you for the videos. It helps soothe my anxiety attachment style
When is the right time to speak your true feelings? Once you are in a relationship again?
I love no contact , I will make Bollywood movie of no contact and I will cast the role in it my self and Craig will be directing that movie and Victoria will be producer and Margaret (rip)will be writer.
We all love Margaret ❤
This knowledge has to be passed on to the future generations! One day there shall be only securely attached people walking this earth!❤
been following you craig alot, going thru a hard breakup right now and your videos have brought some serious relief to my anxiety. when you talk about no contact until they do, even if it's a her birthday or holidays? wouldn't it seem like I just dont care at all? I ask cause her birthday is coming up in 2 months and unsure if I should message her at all and say happy birthday, from what I've watched on your videos I shouldn't I just want to be sure that I'm doing the right thing. thanks again craig for the videos.
Update?
Hi Craig I've only just discovered you...you are amazing. Are your videos mainly aimed at the man getting the woman back??
I’ve been in NC for about 5 months now except for one text regarding some insurance paperwork about a month ago and it’s been 9 months since the breakup. I thought I was finally getting over him but yesterday and today have proved otherwise. I just want to move on already and stop thinking about him!😫😫😫
Also, yesterday and today I’ve been contemplating breaking NC, so I came here for encouragement and to stop myself from doing it. Thanks for the videos.
I love You Craig, You really help to manage my anxiety. Thank You! :)
Right? I listen to him and Margaret all the time. They help relieve my anxiety and put me at ease.
This is the video that I finally decided to subscribe. Your other videos aren't my personality style but what you said in this one bonded with other youtube advice therapy I am choosing and you were to the point. I appreciate it. I am very broke with 20 dollars to my name getting out of this mess. How much is your skype or any options available as I make income and try to get more help
X wife contacted me today after 2 weeks....i was lost...so before i did anything i found your vid and i was so happy i did....i replyed shortly after. just as my dinner hr was over......short replyes and after 2 text i ended the text saying dinner was over half to go........i feel i did this very well.....great vids.....
I've never understood why people chase to get back together. It ended so move on.
Does it suck/hurt? Of course! But ultimately the same issues are going to reoccur. Invest your energy in yourself and eventually meeting someone new.
Thank you ! Coach Craig .. Love this topic you are alway on point and you always have an answer to my problem. ❣️
I think my ex watched your videos. And it worked! SMH
@Joseph Jowen Oliva yes, we want to know
Yes tell us
It would be helpful to know the difference if the one using the direct/indirect were the man who ghosted then sends a message to say hello out of the blue over a year later to see how the woman is and how work's going (even though he knows she is taking time off). Thank you, Craig.
My ex broked up with me when she was in USA. We are from Ecuador and I remember she told me "I hope I don't regret breaking up with you" . She's coming back to Ecuador soon. And a few weeks ago she texted me on whatsapp and I kept the conversation short. Then she liked my instagram photo that I uploaded last year. And finally a few days ago she Liked again another pic and she commented " Cool You look very beautiful" and I didn't replay back.So all of that signs makes me thing she wants to get back with me, also makes me thing she misses me, Its very confusing. I miss her to. I got this feeling that after she's done all of this I need to contact her to ask her out. Help Craig!! Help me Guys.!!
You say don't chase the person who broke it off but what if the dumper has no other options and was treated poorly?
Thanks for all the AWESOME ADVICE Craig!!!! Do you have a video about no contact, but when there is a child involved? How to use the "no contact", but also be able to co-parent? I am trying to get my daughter's mom back in my life and I am extremely confused...
Hi Craig, I got the indirect direct contact (telephone call) after 4 months, aaaaaand yes! I did the "oh yeah, oh yeah" jig complete with the air pump action.
Good new I did present myself as jolly and happy to hear from her which I did say. She asked which part of the country I was in and wanted to know if I was in the capital. Why? so that if I was around and interested would go for an afternoon talk session with her at a place she had introduced me to as they were having one that day (forgive me for withholding details).
I replied in a very "oh boy I forgot" kind of tone and mentioned I had planned to attend but forgot and now was out of town, which I was.
Then as I did not want to quickly schedule a meet with her and did not earlier have the opportunity to give her the the "call me if you change your mind closing" I chose to try both and told her to please let me know when the next one is due (i.e. call me) and I will purpose to come to town attend it (off course to see her too) of which she replied she would in kind of a slight head tilt (I have a wild imagination - could not really see her) from the sound of it. She then added a little small talk added to which I gave short answers and let her know I was in the middle of something, thanked her for calling and said it was nice to hear from her and hang up. FYI I will not be contacting her (don't get me wrong I'm dying to do so) till she calls if she wants to.
I came across your videos about a month ago by chance and got quite a bit of positive and very helpful coaching from them. I if its ok I can send you an email with the detail for you to analyze the sequence of event. Never know it might help someone else get to where I am.
Great video as always Craig 🙂
Soooo... here is my case. Been looking ur videos for a month.
She broke up a month ago. I was a wreck for a day then decided to bounce and get better.
Then, following the advice of another coach I decided to play the good flirty friend and make her laugh.
At some point I realised...its "kinda" working but shes not experiencing any separation anxiety. She doesnt have that nothing burger yet.
She told me she was impressed how strong I was and she had a renewed sense of respect for me and all.
BUT. Im not satisfied. I want her to see what its like. So tond her i needed space stayed silent for a week and today I contacted her telling her I see myself forced to refuse her friendship offer. I said Im worth more than that I dont want to place myself in the friendzone and I wish her the best.
This was 2years relationship also its long distance shes in her country im in France.
We know each others since 8 years shes crazy about me Im just not interested in being friend again in fact I never was.
She didnt take it well shes probably crying right now. I think she is experiencing the break up for real now.
My only concern is that this whole thing is a big bet from me. She might be able to redirect her feelings on whichever douchebags online who is gonna be nice enough to her and listening to her crap.
Its gonna be easy to manipulate her or make me pass for an asshole lol.
I wasnt perfect and so wasnt she. I want her crawling back 😂 anyway...
We texted a bit after I told her she was a wreck and realised she lost me. I was a bit cold but not angry or bitter I was just explaining my reasons. One of them was " i cant pretend to be friend with someone I have feelings for". Hope it wasnt a turn off to say that. It sure wasnt hypocrite i always say what i think it leads to lots if problem lol.
Anyway thanks to you and Margaret for your job.
Sadly im poor i cant afford coaching session I would like someone answering me though 😂 even someone from the comment section.
Good luck everyone though.
She’s weird lol. Wrote me a letter breaking things off with us today. In one of her many sentences said she never liked her new guy, “J”, but he gave her attention even when she liked me. I was playing it safe, slowly feeding her more and more of myself but it just shows that women are an emotional roller coaster.
I'm in a long distance relationship and my ex sent me a long heart felt message stating he wanted to break up. Nothing stating anything about me doing something to cause it... but more so him feeling lost in what he wants.( I know situations that were brought up before the break up that would bring such emotions to him) Regardless of the reason, i didn't message him back ever because I wanted to be in the right head and heart space. It's been almost 2 weeks now I don't know if I need to send him something to not be an ass or if I go on with the no contact rule. Advice needed !
My ex was getting cold but didnt ultimately end it. We kind of had a blow up over the phone one night. She said she didnt feel the same way about us anymore, and the next day i returned her house key, got the few things of mine from her house. I told her that if we were meant to be we will find our way back to each other..if not, we should go our seperate ways. My question is, do i stay in no contact until she contacts me? I ultimately decided to go no contact and left, but it was her, who was pulling away.
Do these rules apply to fearful avoidant attachment style people?
Ooooo yes :)
I'm a queen of no contact lol
Day 7 of NC. Gets alittle easier each day with more clarity as I sit back and analyze. It's her loss.
How do I cause a fear in him that he'll lose me, to not feel so secure that he has me???
This is an excellent video. I won't take the Ford Escort. Thanks Coach Craig! Glad I saw this video!
Hi Craig, loving the videos. Can you do a Video on The Bonding Chemicals released in the Brain that you were talking about in this video. And More Videos with kids involved in a Broken Home, and how it will affect them in later life. Thanks.
Can you also do one about How to Bonde with an Avoidant. or How to Make an Avoidant Bonde with you. Thanks.
after a short time of no contact with my ex. I completely realise that I can live without him and I can be more happy with my own companionship. I don't want to him to come back anymore.
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You are amazing :) thank u for everything you are doing ,it's so helpful
Hi Craig, Thank you for all your sessions which I listen to every day morning afternoon and night... Who is breaking up who the cheater or the cheated
I went no contact for 2 months and my husband called me to tell me his new girlfriend is 3 months pregnant
Hey man. I don't know how to approach this but I noticed how recent this is. My ex, she let me down super softly. I hated it. It's like she left me over a few weeks. I would have liked it blunt. Not even a week later she's dating what I thought was my best friend. We have a beautiful 19 month old son. I have no clue how to handle it all. I'm falling apart. You are not alone tho. I guess I just want you to know you are not worthless. Betrayal sucks. My eyes are raw. Sending love your way dude. Stay strong
Good one... 30 days NC is coming up after a somewhat botched meet up a month ago...plus, her birthday is at day 36 of NC....hard to stay the course. Gotta be strong... good review video. Where I messed up during the meet up after 40 days apart (long distance also, she's in Bogota, I'm in Florida) was, had I mirrored her reactions somewhat, things would be fixed by now probably... instead, I was intent on pouting and being cynical (i.e: rubbing her nose in it...) that I missed all her hints, hair flips, smiles and innuendos... hard to stay NC this 2nd time around because of her birthday, and the idea she will probably spend that time with (she says she is seeing someone, but I don't buy it...) rebound.... the mischievous guy in me wants to disrupt her birthday mindset...put her off balance...make my contacting her color or influence her birthday...especially if she is seeing someone.... what do I do??
In my case I broke up 1 week ago, and he is trying to see me, text me. I can not ignore him 100 percent, and now he wants to see me tomorrow. But I told him that,am not ready, as the wound didn't still cure. So what shall I do in this case ?
Thanks in advance for your reply
Thanks voor your advice Coach and all the effort you put in your videos. There is only one thing I don't realy understand. I always hear from a lot of experts (including you) that we shouldn't contact her and so on but at the same time "she will see on social media by her stalking for example, that we're doing great". Does that mean that we just don't contact that person but at the same time don't delete them from our social media. I always thought that the most effective way was when we realy delete that person from all our platforms especially when she "wants to be friends"?
I didn’t accept friendship, I was so upset I didn’t leave the door open by saying you could talk to me if you change your mind. I just said be happy 😩🤦🏽♀️. Now he has moved on
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Hey. My ex contacts me over WhatsApp when I have been in No Contact for about a week and the message turns out to be a link to a Quora answer about what you should do in your 20s. I don't even know how to reply to that as it is totally foolish and so I open the chat after a day or so and leave it at that, with no reply. Now I am wondering what was that. I am still in no contact. I really want that girl but that was just downright stupid.
its a shame i didnt discover your videos year ago. I pushed my ex right in to other guys hands obviously without knowing it. But I guess we all have to learn. good stuff coach.
What was your actions?
Around 16:50 he encourages the guys to get intimate right away. But, I can't imagine this would be good advice for a woman trying to win a man back.
It’s been 1 week since I started a no contact. Can I ask a question? I wanted to text my ex’s mom: “I am wishing for you and Alex’s health and safety. I know you guys live in downtown San Diego and some violent protests can saturate city downtowns. I am hoping you guys’ safety wouldn’t be compromised.” I don’t know if I should send this or not since I don’t want to restart my no contact rule and just want to give my ex the space and time he wanted from me. Please, help.
Hi Craig, I commented six days ago that I got the call. Well since then I maintained the no contact but, continued listening to your videos and boy was I lucky. Evidently I have had no coaching from you and my responses will not be as well refined as they could be if I had your coaching and analysis.
While watching your videos I came to realize I had missed some of the "finer" points. I recall her crestfallen reply when I said I was not in town and that she would also not want to expose her venerability. I had not set a definite date but asked her to call me again to confirm the next talk session. I was keeping her waiting. Was i right ....I don't know anyway this time I made the indirect/direct call. I asked her how the session and had she confirmed the next session? to which she replied (cant describe the voice tone but friendly) aaaw I thought you were calling to tell me your in town. I reminded her that I thought I knew the date but needed her to confirm. I now realize how both of us were nervous at the time and our communication may have been rushed and fuzzy due to the excitement and anxiety mixed together. Being a lot more calmer this time and since I had made the call I then took the opportunity to tell he that I will be in town the following weekend and if she lets me know her availability I would be happy to meet her for a cup of tea but.....IF and only IF she is buying the tea to which she laughed and replied she will buy and plenty of it. So the date is set.
My comments may sound overly optimistic but, rest assured I'm cautious guy and may be sometimes over analyze stuff however, I must say your Videos are valuable. I just dream of how a coaching session with you and Margaret would turn things around. I don't mean just for the relationship but for my personal life.
Keep up the good work both of you someone is getting much needed help.
I believe in the Ether/Force it exists.
I love this, and I'm sure that's the best tea she ever had, and ofc her interest level was very high, can tell by the her response about her buying the tea. Always look out for your best interest first😎✊
Why most of your videos are about “she brake up with you”? not he break up with you “? Remember I didn’t say all, I said most.
Craig
My ex broke up with me on the 30th November.
I have not initiated any thing and I am in no contact.
But I want to tell her to know I still love her and I want us to work out is four week not long enough or should I wait for longer.
P.s I have watched so many videos and you have saved me as a man and I am now working on self improvement.
Thank you!!!