"Thankfully" I had a crazy summer with all kinds of different drugs, I'm 18, noe I've learned and experienced what I wanted, so it's an end of a chapter for me (drug use). I could never imagine myself addicted to anything, especially after I tried lsd. If anyone is reading, stick yourself to weed and shrooms/lsd. Trust me you won't need anything else
@@null_spacex wow strange! I have the "power" to try anything, as many times as I want, not get addicted, drop it off anytime, etc etc. But i have a good life in regards to job, money, family etc so maybe I just don't have a reason to get addicted anyways. And if you're ever addicted to anything, consider taking acid. That stuff is a medicine for real. The best of the best substance I've ever taken.
Wasted my life between like 20-27 with just smoking, playing games, eating garbage food and being in a comfortable, yet very toxic relationship. You're 100% on point with this one fam!
@@harvey3190 Be thankful you didn’t have any kids together. Just never get back with her and work on yourself, I know it hurts but push through it bro!
As an introvert, the social circles discussion applies to me the most. Although I spend most of my time “alone”, Im working, learning, or at the gym, but having the right relationships and friendships is key to a successful man. So for me the discomfort for me is making new friends and finding successful people who are receptive to someone trying to be their friend where there isn’t some obvious financial or social benefit involved is difficult.
It's going to be harder as an adult regardless. Vast majority of people aren't going to care about you in anyway unless you can benefit them in some way. It's actually easier to make friends when younger because there are less biases, less trauma, less reasons to be skeptical, more incentive for them to make friends too. Most people that are are not really unlucky and lose friends they once had or have issues connecting with people because of personality issues have already enough people in their life through friends they already have and family that you will find it very fucking difficult to give anyone any reason to consider giving any time to you. You would have to be really amazing they couldn't resist you thus if you were really amazing you wouldn't be so friendless to begin with hell people would even come up to you try to be around you removing the need for you to have to try so hard. The truth is most people end up lonely who are alone in their 30s. Get used to it so that you aren't disappointed if it doesn't pan out for you. I hope it does though. That's life. Ironically the people that would understand you the most and probably want to be friends because for your situation will never meet you because they themselves are having the same issues and dealing with the same BS preventing them from connecting to anyone else either.
I feel the same way! I work 55-60 hours, I work on my hobby outside of work, and I’m at the gym 3-4 days a week. I know these are good habits but I feel just like you in that there is no use in that without the ability to network.
No new friends, no new friends, no new friends no no new. Bro all you need is a few good ass friends🙏 i work 50 hrs a week in my career and have all started a side hustle to turn into a main source of income because i dont like my career. Stay focused in the gym and away from toxic people and youll be good. Keep going. Im 25
I cut most social media out of my life after a friend gave me some help about 3-4 months ago and I can’t remember the last time I was this happy. Fuck socials
Me too man, I only have TH-cam to watch videos like this, educational videos only. I have instagram only to text my friends but I don’t look at content on there.
Very motivational reality check for many young men including myself, I’m only 16 been working out for 2 months quit video games completely, quit porn don’t drink do drugs or party and don’t plan to, and the content you produce is seriously educational in changing other people my age also going through a self improvement ark after realizing how comfortable we’ve become. I feel like your channel will blow up amidst other young men looking for a voice of knowledge and I wish you the best man, keep up the content
Hey, just one question. I’m 15 and I’ve been working out for a few months as well. I want to quit video games as well (and any other comfort such as social media). The only problem is I find it so hard on what to replace it with. I feel like I don’t really know what to do other than work out, play video games and mindlessly scroll social media. Any advice? Edit: just to be clear, I don’t struggle in quitting video games and social media, I struggle on what to replace it with. I feel like I have no hobbies at all other than working out and playing video games.
@@V1Salvocarry on doing those things but make sure you have a balance I feel like many of these videos are aimed at people 21+, however the earlier you realise these things, the better Enjoy your youth because you’ll never have such freedom again, unless you are rich, financial freedom, but you still must work for it Overall, if you can maintain a balance in your life with things that trigger lots of dopamine for little work (social media, video games) with things that are not instantly gratifying (working out, speaking to girls, side hustles, education) then you are ahead of most 15-18 year olds As for finding a new hobby, try new things, put yourself out your comfort zone and you may end up finding something you love, even if you didn’t expect it (martial arts, music, sports, film and photography) Hope this helps
@@V1Salvo dawg u are 15 just have fun but as u find ur passion in life/what you want to do for work, keep these things he said in mind so that you won't slack off and so you can be way more successful earlier on.
Bro I needed this! I was 24 when I got my job I always wanted. Turned out it wasn’t as great as I thought. I was going through the years smoking weed, stopped working out, and going to this shit job. 26 now and finally decided to go back to school, hitting the gym, and abstaining from drugs. Going to hop back on this grind 💪🏽💯 comfort kills
You make a very good point about video games, tapping into male psychology. Something I would add is that perhaps we prefer video games to real life because there’s no actual consequence if we fail in a video game, whereas taking risks in real life actually involves putting something on the line.
Everyone is going to die, enjoy yourself before you do. Self improvement is great and all especially if your lazy and dont do anything. But if you work like a normal person you have a right to do what you want after being a slave to society.
Simply going to work isn't enough. You still need to eat right. Work out. And avoid porn. Actually be productive in your free time. That's not to say you can't have fun. But. Life's about more than just enjoying yourself
Really what a reality shocker video, good job Jack. I think the most important lesson to take from this is being disciplined. It is exactly the opposite of comfort since you have an inside guy telling you to stop wasting good time
Not all of this applies to me, but it's true that when you spend too much time in your comfort zone and don't challenge yourself at all, it bites you in the ass and you get more and more stuck in your ways as you get older. I'm closing in on 40 and I'm living proof of this. I should've been a lot more proactive in my younger days, but I wasn't and I'm paying for it every single fucking day. It's too late for me, but I hope the younger portion of your audience is listening good.
@@ChrisTheAspergerGuy He was a drinker and went into Depression. Indians like me are eager to move to United States to make a living even if it's through Mexico border. And you have complaints ? Bro it's difficult only till your first Million Dollar bag, things flow after that. Watch Manny Khoshbin's interview
@@exoticindiaa Just because I don't have to cross a border and didn't have a drinking problem, it doesn't mean I don't have a right to complain. We all have our problems. Also, I don't know how much you know about the U.S., but shit's pretty bad here right now. If you think you're gonna make big money here, you might be disappointed. My country isn't what it's hyped up to be. Trust me. Best of luck if you do move here, though.
@@ChrisTheAspergerGuy Bro, as much as I understand your frustrations, you're being very negative and moaning about your situation. You're 40, not 60. If it's eating you up so badly, dedicate the next 5 years to completely changing your life. Gym every day, make more money, quit alcohol, tobacco and fast foods if any of those are a habit, listen to guys like Andrew Tate/Rich Cooper every day to get you motivated. 40 isn't old, you're middle aged and if you have this mentality that 'its too late for me, boo hoo' then you're gonna stay the same and will be posting whiney comments like the one above. Don't like America? Then leave. I'm from England and currently living in Thailand. I'm a few years younger than you, that's it. You have no excuses unless you're severely disabled. I'm guessing you aren't.
One thing I recommend that has helped me a lot is very simple; Just get a regular “old school” alarm clock. That way when you wake up, the first thing you do isn’t going on your phone to turn off the alarm where you’ll be tempted to be sucked into it.
@@heckedge exactly, I just turn off the alarm and start doing some stuff, not using my phone during the first 1 to 2 hours of my days makes everything better for me, I'm more focused and my vision isn't blurry. Only use your phone if you need to do something very specific, like calling for an appointment, etc (when you just woke up)
27 this year and watching your videos made me feel so behind in life. BUT, I've gained motivation and confidence to start changing for the better so thank you!
I’ve been preaching this for so long, I’m glad I found a channel where my views are reflected back to me instead of hearing my friend telling me how I am “thinking too hard“
Most guys can't handle the truth. They prefer to be losers because it's easy and comfortable. Don't waste your breath trying to help them if they aren't receptive. Do what you know is right and watch them get jealous when you start winning
@user-xv5gt6lm9f This was a hard pill for me to swallow. I'm 23 and have lived on my own for ages, however, Discord has ruined me. My home town friends I grew up with are exactly the same as when I met them. I've learned and experienced so much more than them and try to preach about the world we are all missing out on, everything I try to bring up is hit with this, stop thinking about it so hard, just enjoy yourself. I finally deleted Discord as the only thing holding me back were those "friends".
@@Alixznder Im 17 and yes ive had this problem for a long time. They keep saying its not that serious. Expect it is. It is literally life or death, every single day. They are not understanding and i will no longer waste my energy trying to explain. its not worth it.
I've learned it's way easier dealing with things right away rather than waiting 20 years before I'm forced to do it. I recently moved across the US to Phoenix this year. Didn't really know anyone out here. But now I've met new social circles and found new dates and things like that. Only because I forced myself out of my comfort zone. That took 10 years to build up to it though. I'm still not completely comfortable now, but I get bored when I'm comfortable. It's weird. I have to get uncomfortable to find exciting things for my life and purpose. It gives u courage. I think a good check on ur life progress is how comfortable u r. It's ok to be comfortable for a little while after u earn it. But it should get boring and motivate u to do something greater or interesting. It's a good habit to have.
For me it makes me angry when people coddle themselves and waste their potentional because I spent my 20s trying to fight against trauma, manipulation and constant set backs. IF I had the comfort of just being able to chill and focus on my goals rather than being in constant fight or flight node I would have achieved a lot by now. There are so many people with privileges like a good education, a supportive family etc that don't even know how fortunate they really are...
Thats a problem I would like to point out, while is natural to feel envious of people who don't have hardships because "if I were them I could be so much better" that is actually false Hardship is what actually builds character, if you had it easy from the start you wouldn't be half the person you are today So when you see someone young taking it easy, no problems all the time of the world, you can actually think at how much behind they are, they still need to find a problem, than get over and only than start growing, but when that will happen? At 30? 40? So even trough may not feel right, be gratefull about the problems you had that allowed you to grow up earlier than most people nowdays
Jack you’re a G, even though your videos might not get the same views as they used to, you are still helping to change lives for the better, money and views aren’t everything, never forget that and keep up the good work.
I just turned 22 this past December and I really looked in the mirror. I wasted 3yrs of my life by being an introvert and being in my comfort zone. I was a bum and was working with my mom because I didn’t wanna go to school or find a job. I was depressed ever since I left HS because I gotten really fat and it made me insecure. All I did was hide from my problems and when someone would bring up “ so what do you wanna do for your career” I’d get super defensive. I started a new job about 2 months ago and I’m glad my sister helped me get out of my hole. She saw what I was becoming and wanted the best for me. I’m working on finding my career and trying to get back into the gym/school. School isn’t for everyone but if you know what you wanna do then go for it.
I'm 23 right now and have been feeling a bit too comfortable lately... This video really caught my attention and made me realize, I need to make a change in my life. I hope It's not too late since 30's are just around the corner
Why would you get yourself into stuff that will make your life uneasy and discomfortable? What do you expect to happen? Every person's goal is to have a comfortable life. Grow up lol
Meanwhile a girl will show her ass and pay off all that debt without having to break a sweat. Face it we already live in socialism it just benefits women the most
I struggle years too with that. I highly recommend that you pay attention to how you consider this bad habit. I did too thought that one relapse was gonna ruin my whole self for at least a week or so. Guess what it happened that very way. Guilt and ruined mentality are optional. You’re a human being 5mn of porn can’t do you that harm. Keep quitting that’s for sure. But don’t dramatize. At least it’s my advice. If you stick to discipline to quit in my opinion you also have to be wise enough to be able to loose. And loose well sometimes, letting go. It’s okay. It ruined me before so I had to say it.
You in reality are so strong as a human being that you can go on a porn binge for a month and just after that go on your life, take charge, meet women etc. But only if you let space for it to happen and not feel doomed and trapped by what you did. 1) okay enough whatever happens 2) let’s ditch bad habits and build good ones. Peace
Needed to hear this right now. I usually have trouble getting through these types of videos but this was very digestible. You speak in a way that doesn’t put a person down, but rather lifts them up.
Social circle and videogames got me brah. Dropped both for about 2 years and got into medical school. But a social circle stunts your growth, don't be close friends with guys unless there's an objective to complete... it's a waste of time. 21 - 24 was a brutal growth period for me, but now I fall back onto the skills/mentality I developed during that time.
15:15 I completely agree about commission sales jobs. I’m 32 now and I’ve made millions doing commission sales. If you are 18, you need to start TODAY. I recommend software sales, medical device sales, pharmaceutical sales, insurance sales, mortgage sales, financial sales and real estate sales. You don’t even need to waste time in university if you don’t want to.
I wish I had people around growing up who knew how to teach about the value of productivity. People don't sell it right. Not being productive can actually make you feel bad once you get used to being productive, especially if people actually have a demand for what you're producing, could be anything. It feels fulfilling for a very long time.
me to man.. social circle is the key i think.. all my friends have a house wife and shit and i don't.. so all i do is work and after work play video games all the time... i'm 27
Gaming was my main source of comfort and then it wasn’t. My main social circle was also a big source of comfort. I left that social circle and although I was a little depressed at first I feel much better now months later. This hit me at 22. I am now 50 pounds lighter, finished college and plan to go into the police academy once I lose 20 more pounds.
Sleeping in on week ends throws off the whole week end most of the time sadly. Don't stay up all night on Friday because it ruins the whole rest of the week end.
I feel very lost as a 27 year old, I'm going to a trade school next week and I'm nervous but I know that in the long run working multiple dead end minimum wage jobs aint gonna do me any better as I get older.
I’m 26 and in the same boat. Got laid off my job due to reduction of force doing stone restoration getting paid pretty well to now having to accept a minimum wage paying entry level hvac position. Just curious what are you going to school for?
I always was up till morning and slept till noon on the weekends, smoking as much weed as I could and consuming as much media as I could. Then I wondered why I had absolutely no energy during the week at work lol
I can’t tell you how much I needed to hear this. Especially going into the new year, my resolution for 2023 is to start living up to my promises to myself. Loved to video my man👌
I love these new advice videos. It’s more direct and polarizing than the usual advice videos you uploaded in the past. It really helps a lot Jack. Keep it up 🙏🏻
Ive given up booze, bars, pointlesss films, and limiting weed, but my vice is overwatch. Im 41 but you nailed why, I miss sports i miss working with guys in a group/unit. I played soccer growing up, competitive gaming fills that void
in my early 23's and im so glad to have this mindset, at the be beggining of the year i started exercise, stoped watching all these p*rn sites, working 2 jobs, all i need is to improve my social skills becouse of social anxiety, and hopefully find a partner until summer😅. thank u for the video man, glad to learn something everyday.
I've played videogames my whole life and about 5 or so years ago when my PS4 died it really hit me. I told my buddy "holy shit dude I've lived in more worlds than my own". I also came up with a quote for all gamers out there: "My character in game is lvl 100 but MY character is still lvl 1".
I know I'm already a bum. And this fake "Comfort" still has and produces so much discomfort. To the point of wanting to die because of how much pain I was in. Thanks for the video
My NYE plans: . Uninstalled games from my PC - no more video games . Reducing social media - during my lunch breaks, i m going take myself for a walk . Stopping drink alcohol - max have two beers. .Stop energy and soft drinks drinks . When going and leaving work i m not going to listen to music (have headphones in my ears) . Delete Online dating apps - approach more, started to get use to it where i am approaching but just need to work on my game part.
@@enrapturedgoose5317 it's just forces me to go out and meet. I feel like especially in my area I don't get many matches and if I do I can't show case other attributes and I hate texting
@liquid when someone has headphone in it makes then unapproachable and unsocial I find. Plus I can hear conversations, for example if a beautiful is lost in the city and is asking for directions I can but in.
I agree with most of this. I'm particularly glad that you're bringing more awareness to how alcohol destroys our brains, especially when we're under 25.
Thank you bro, I really needed this. I'm not a bad looking dude, I have drive, I workout hard, my problem is that I don't really interact with people especially girls. I'm not scared of them it's just that I don't really see the need to talk to them, however I do want to have a partner and how would attract them without talking to them? I need to step out of my comfort zone and talk to them and people in general. There's something in my heart that tells me to go and talk to girls and other people, but I keep ignoring it because of fear of looking dumb. Not anymore it stops today's, I will talk to them.
Hey man love the message you're spreading, couldn't agree more, its unfortunate that 90% of the world doesn't think like this. And even with these videos they'd make up some bullshit to rationalize disagreeing
Once the part about useless tv shows hit, I was so curious as to what you would say is acceptable and what is not. I’m currently watching the sopranos for the second time and when you said HBO, AND THEN Sopranos, I grinned too hard. Keep these videos up, you’re the perfect definition of what the 1% man is today, and the other 99% must take advantage of your content. Life changing stuff here, much love Denmo.
Probably that's why i wasn't born in a very well-privileged family so i gotta work hard everyday. I feel like God avoided me from the comfort substances. Thx Jack for these thoughts
I felt this in my core. Just came back from my workout and i chose to eat a chocolate croissant and drink an energy drink instead of a healthy snack Tbh they didn’t even taste that good after exercising, imma change that from now on
He definitely has the right idea in mind but only take his words with grains of salt. Go workout. Go meet new people. Go work hard for money. But don’t put so much toxic pressure on yourself. Go eat that donut once in awhile. Go play that game and immerse yourself. Go watch that show and enjoy a fun night. Take life in grains of satisfaction and also be willing to work hard. Don’t have this idea that you need to hustle 24/7 in order to be happy. Just don’t be a lazy fuck. Hustle culture is toxic and when you put so much pressure on yourself to be consistent all the time; there will be moment when you aren’t consistent and that shame will creep on you hard. Be accepting of your strengths and weaknesses and be open minded and forgiving. You don’t need to be the richest, smartest, charismatic, or greatest person in the room. You just need to be yourself and not give up on you! Heres to a good year everybody 🥂
^^^^^ absolutely fking agree. don’t burn yourself out, this life is short, so of course work hard as hell and achieve your dreams, but do not forget to enjoy the ride. Cheers to a good year as well🎉!
I'm 18 and deleted all of my video-games just this year to stop my "Game Addiction" , and i could study for an hour now; I hope i won't go back to that thing and next one to leave is social media.
I grew up playing almost every generation videogame console so i feel like ill always have a passion and love for them. Same goes for movies & tv shows I love them a lot and consider them a hobby. Hobbies/passions are a big part of what builds our character/personality, no?
@Jayvin I don’t really play them all that much anymore since I am getting older and need to move onto other things but I am still passionate about them and always will be
Thx Jack. Watched it yesterday and today I got up at 6am, went to the gym. Did my thing and the first time i looked at my phone was at 10:30am. Felt amazing
Video games and p0rn are the biggest killers for men, completely destroys your motivation to go out and meet people especially women. I stopped watching p0rn a month ago and haven't looked back. I've also significantly reduced my time playing video games to just 2 hours on Sunday nights as I was playing WAY too much and endlessly grinding on things that didn't even matter; I've been using that time spent playing games for going out on walks, going to malls, reading etc. My head has never felt clearer.
I just turned 24 and I’m doing pretty good and I’m comfortable. I’m so happy I watched this vid. It made me realize if I jus take a break n chill inna year I’ll be broke for sure. I needed to see this. Thank you brotha
My third job (I was around 22yo) as an underpaid construction worker really motivated me wake up and start preparing myself for the future. I progressed in that work for several years, earning good money, but I never stopped learning. Now I'm in my way to become a firefighter. I have seen friends whom I used to envy a lot, because they have confortable jobs where they earned good money, but now I see in them like mediocrity reflected. They have no ambition, their job is purposeless, dead-end road...and even though they don't say it I perceive they have realised it as well, just that they won't change, that's too hard.
Thanks for the video man, I used to be on the straight and narrow but the overwhelming stress at one point in my life led me to take it easier a lot more, I still had the ability to get it done when needed but I wasn’t pushing myself enough. On top of that the pandemic was the perfect excuse for a lot of us to just stop trying at anything as if life was on pause. Recently I’ve done a few things I found really hard, I’ve fixed my car, fixed my laptop, got back into going hard at the gym and now have to finish university over the next few months and I need to go hard to get it done well.
Sleeping in and immediately smoking weed was the worst thing I would do on weekends. Work some bullshit job for 5 days only to numb myself at the first opportunity.
As a 24 year old. TH-cam, music, and gaming is definitely my addiction. When I am not working most of the time I am doing one of those activities. It is a problem and occasionally I do more than one of those at once. Such as when I listen to music while watching a TH-cam video, while working, and I usually accomplish next to nothing with all that stimulation.
Good video-although I have one issue. For me, working out is a time wasting cope as well. It's not genuinely something uncomfortable and I thoroughly enjoy it. Obviously it's beneficial for out of shape guys, but once you reach a certain level of fitness, the returns start to diminish. I'm addicted to the rush of the experience so I pour many hours into it, even though it's not too rewarding. It would be better if that energy were poured into working on creative projects or making large amounts of money, but I find trying to focus on that stuff literally painful. I assume I'm not the only one who has fallen into this trap.
The hardest part about getting fit isn't getting fit, but maintaining that fitness. It's a lifestyle, and yeah too much of anything is bad for you. But always need to fit in exercise during your day/week
Totally agree and it's also taught in the military. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Works in a lot of things, especially combat sports. When I get the sense that I'm getting comfortable I will do or push myself in to uncomfortable places to test one's self. Don't ever get soft.
Lol at "Salaried job bad". I still don't understand this weird fetishization of "entrepreneurship". The average business owner in the US makes 68k a year. And that does not include benefits. The average business owner with at least 20 years experience makes 75k vs average business owners with less than 20 years making around 60k. This means that 20 years of "hustle" for the average business owner improved his salary by 15k. Meanwhile entry level engineers average 61k while 10 years experience average 110k. That's 49k in 10 years of "comfort". The way you make money means nothing. All that matters is that you have meaning, purpose, growth, and are financially stable enough to support the family you desire.
I recently let go of my social circle cause I didn't like the direction they were headed in, they were partying and stuff and I just wasn't for me. I was wondering where can I find healthier friends cause the people I always end up running into did the same stuff my last social circle did and I just have to end it there
Facts man. I wish I had some friends I could spend time with learning a paid skill like copy writing (which I’m going to start learning Monday after Christmas) with. Having 2-3 people to work with together on it would help us all succeed.
@@Adays700 most "friends" nowadays don't want their friends to succeed so they don't want to be involved in any money-related business venture with their circle.
when it comes to me and comfort, i often want to work 'comfortably'. what i mean by that is if i just know that i'm doing good for where i am at working hard and climbing my way to success, then i feel good that i am in a good spot. of course it shouldn't last long as i know i should take it up a notch as soon as i can. and then i'd feel good again for making progress.
One thing you didn’t mention as a very common vice that men consume and overly indulge in is pornographic content. If consumed in excess, it becomes one of the leading causes to demotivated young men and adds to the overdose of comfortability. Men are less inclined to seek beautiful women in person and would rather watch them get naked online because it’s so much easier to just press the dopamine button.
When you consistently fail at meeting women in real life you really have no chouce but to consume pornography. Some us just were never meant to interact with women because we're not seen as normal. I'm 25 and not a single girlfriend despite all my efforts.
@@armandocool97 Did you actually try though? Like seriously try? I'd bet you could get a girlfriend if you seriously tried and maybe lowered your standards
Great video this is what I needed to hear. Being comfortable is getting me nowhere in life and I need to limit myself and do more things that make me uncomfortable
This new year's Eve I decided that me and my friends will go to a club instead of being at home. Which is for all of us "leaving the comfort zone" Noone of wanted to go there. And a thing that makes me laugh is that I asked 3 girls to dance 1st Girl said: I want to go sleep, *left* 2nd Girl : I'm lesbian, she wasn't but she probably didn't want to meet anyone new or she thought that I want her for only the one thing (which is true) 3rd girl: I'm dancing with my friends. But as usually some 50 yo granny was showing interest in me. Still after 3 hours of sleep I'm happy that I made this decision and approached more girls than in whole 2022.
Discomfort is inevitable. You can either choose to do it on your terms, or you can wait for it to come have it's way with you.
beautiful way to put it
I like this ..
So effin true
Exactly. It's called "unavoidable suffering." Stay strong guys.💪
I'm saving this quote 🙌
I spent 18 - 25 abusing substances. Then at 25 I learnt to code and now I'm 27. I'm not where I want to be but I'm getting there.
All the best in your journey to success G
@@ceejtalkslive you as well bro bro
"Thankfully" I had a crazy summer with all kinds of different drugs, I'm 18, noe I've learned and experienced what I wanted, so it's an end of a chapter for me (drug use). I could never imagine myself addicted to anything, especially after I tried lsd. If anyone is reading, stick yourself to weed and shrooms/lsd. Trust me you won't need anything else
@@LuisC7 man, I can get addicted to anything. It's fun but if I want a healthy and successful life I just can't do anything lol
@@null_spacex wow strange! I have the "power" to try anything, as many times as I want, not get addicted, drop it off anytime, etc etc. But i have a good life in regards to job, money, family etc so maybe I just don't have a reason to get addicted anyways. And if you're ever addicted to anything, consider taking acid. That stuff is a medicine for real. The best of the best substance I've ever taken.
Wasted my life between like 20-27 with just smoking, playing games, eating garbage food and being in a comfortable, yet very toxic relationship. You're 100% on point with this one fam!
You are behind.
How to unfuck such fuck up, feels like I am at a point of no return. Gf of 2 years cheated and left and I am at a really shitty place in my life.
@@harvey3190 Be thankful you didn’t have any kids together.
Just never get back with her and work on yourself, I know it hurts but push through it bro!
As an introvert, the social circles discussion applies to me the most. Although I spend most of my time “alone”, Im working, learning, or at the gym, but having the right relationships and friendships is key to a successful man. So for me the discomfort for me is making new friends and finding successful people who are receptive to someone trying to be their friend where there isn’t some obvious financial or social benefit involved is difficult.
It's going to be harder as an adult regardless. Vast majority of people aren't going to care about you in anyway unless you can benefit them in some way. It's actually easier to make friends when younger because there are less biases, less trauma, less reasons to be skeptical, more incentive for them to make friends too. Most people that are are not really unlucky and lose friends they once had or have issues connecting with people because of personality issues have already enough people in their life through friends they already have and family that you will find it very fucking difficult to give anyone any reason to consider giving any time to you. You would have to be really amazing they couldn't resist you thus if you were really amazing you wouldn't be so friendless to begin with hell people would even come up to you try to be around you removing the need for you to have to try so hard. The truth is most people end up lonely who are alone in their 30s. Get used to it so that you aren't disappointed if it doesn't pan out for you. I hope it does though. That's life. Ironically the people that would understand you the most and probably want to be friends because for your situation will never meet you because they themselves are having the same issues and dealing with the same BS preventing them from connecting to anyone else either.
Agreed, let’s be friends.
I feel the same way!
I work 55-60 hours, I work on my hobby outside of work, and I’m at the gym 3-4 days a week.
I know these are good habits but I feel just like you in that there is no use in that without the ability to network.
No new friends, no new friends, no new friends no no new. Bro all you need is a few good ass friends🙏 i work 50 hrs a week in my career and have all started a side hustle to turn into a main source of income because i dont like my career. Stay focused in the gym and away from toxic people and youll be good. Keep going. Im 25
@@guitarman0365 man I'm 15 and have 0 friends. I hope it gets easier
I cut most social media out of my life after a friend gave me some help about 3-4 months ago and I can’t remember the last time I was this happy. Fuck socials
Glad to hear brother. Quarterly goals
Me too man, I only have TH-cam to watch videos like this, educational videos only. I have instagram only to text my friends but I don’t look at content on there.
@Emil he said most
Except for TH-cam huh, she's got her hooks in you deep
I hear ya. TH-cam is the only half way "decent" platform anymore.
Very motivational reality check for many young men including myself, I’m only 16 been working out for 2 months quit video games completely, quit porn don’t drink do drugs or party and don’t plan to, and the content you produce is seriously educational in changing other people my age also going through a self improvement ark after realizing how comfortable we’ve become. I feel like your channel will blow up amidst other young men looking for a voice of knowledge and I wish you the best man, keep up the content
Hey, just one question. I’m 15 and I’ve been working out for a few months as well. I want to quit video games as well (and any other comfort such as social media). The only problem is I find it so hard on what to replace it with. I feel like I don’t really know what to do other than work out, play video games and mindlessly scroll social media. Any advice?
Edit: just to be clear, I don’t struggle in quitting video games and social media, I struggle on what to replace it with. I feel like I have no hobbies at all other than working out and playing video games.
@@V1Salvocarry on doing those things but make sure you have a balance
I feel like many of these videos are aimed at people 21+, however the earlier you realise these things, the better
Enjoy your youth because you’ll never have such freedom again, unless you are rich, financial freedom, but you still must work for it
Overall, if you can maintain a balance in your life with things that trigger lots of dopamine for little work (social media, video games) with things that are not instantly gratifying (working out, speaking to girls, side hustles, education) then you are ahead of most 15-18 year olds
As for finding a new hobby, try new things, put yourself out your comfort zone and you may end up finding something you love, even if you didn’t expect it (martial arts, music, sports, film and photography)
Hope this helps
@@V1Salvo dawg u are 15 just have fun but as u find ur passion in life/what you want to do for work, keep these things he said in mind so that you won't slack off and so you can be way more successful earlier on.
Dont push yourself. Have fun. I did when i was 16 and dont regret it. Im 23 now but im getting life together.
Wouldn’t cut out on the partying but u gotta enjoy that whilst your young. Just do it in moderation
Bro I needed this! I was 24 when I got my job I always wanted. Turned out it wasn’t as great as I thought. I was going through the years smoking weed, stopped working out, and going to this shit job. 26 now and finally decided to go back to school, hitting the gym, and abstaining from drugs. Going to hop back on this grind 💪🏽💯 comfort kills
You make a very good point about video games, tapping into male psychology. Something I would add is that perhaps we prefer video games to real life because there’s no actual consequence if we fail in a video game, whereas taking risks in real life actually involves putting something on the line.
Everyone is going to die, enjoy yourself before you do. Self improvement is great and all especially if your lazy and dont do anything. But if you work like a normal person you have a right to do what you want after being a slave to society.
Yeah, thats how I see life. Sometimes people overcomplicate their mindset.
This
Everyone is going to die. So don’t waste it. Would be the more wise advice
@@Moneyman-33 don't waste it on working endlessly
Simply going to work isn't enough. You still need to eat right. Work out. And avoid porn. Actually be productive in your free time. That's not to say you can't have fun. But. Life's about more than just enjoying yourself
This is very true, comfort is addictive
Really what a reality shocker video, good job Jack. I think the most important lesson to take from this is being disciplined. It is exactly the opposite of comfort since you have an inside guy telling you to stop wasting good time
absolutely brother
Not all of this applies to me, but it's true that when you spend too much time in your comfort zone and don't challenge yourself at all, it bites you in the ass and you get more and more stuck in your ways as you get older. I'm closing in on 40 and I'm living proof of this. I should've been a lot more proactive in my younger days, but I wasn't and I'm paying for it every single fucking day. It's too late for me, but I hope the younger portion of your audience is listening good.
Don't worry bro, Dave Batista woke up in his late 30s. And look where is he now.
@@exoticindiaa Yeah, but he doesn't have the problems I have.
@@ChrisTheAspergerGuy He was a drinker and went into Depression. Indians like me are eager to move to United States to make a living even if it's through Mexico border. And you have complaints ? Bro it's difficult only till your first Million Dollar bag, things flow after that. Watch Manny Khoshbin's interview
@@exoticindiaa Just because I don't have to cross a border and didn't have a drinking problem, it doesn't mean I don't have a right to complain. We all have our problems. Also, I don't know how much you know about the U.S., but shit's pretty bad here right now. If you think you're gonna make big money here, you might be disappointed. My country isn't what it's hyped up to be. Trust me. Best of luck if you do move here, though.
@@ChrisTheAspergerGuy Bro, as much as I understand your frustrations, you're being very negative and moaning about your situation. You're 40, not 60. If it's eating you up so badly, dedicate the next 5 years to completely changing your life. Gym every day, make more money, quit alcohol, tobacco and fast foods if any of those are a habit, listen to guys like Andrew Tate/Rich Cooper every day to get you motivated. 40 isn't old, you're middle aged and if you have this mentality that 'its too late for me, boo hoo' then you're gonna stay the same and will be posting whiney comments like the one above. Don't like America? Then leave. I'm from England and currently living in Thailand. I'm a few years younger than you, that's it. You have no excuses unless you're severely disabled. I'm guessing you aren't.
One thing I recommend that has helped me a lot is very simple; Just get a regular “old school” alarm clock. That way when you wake up, the first thing you do isn’t going on your phone to turn off the alarm where you’ll be tempted to be sucked into it.
or just develop the self control to not instantly scroll on your phone 👍
@@heckedge Well I also just like the feel and look of vintage alarm clocks
@@heckedge exactly, I just turn off the alarm and start doing some stuff, not using my phone during the first 1 to 2 hours of my days makes everything better for me, I'm more focused and my vision isn't blurry.
Only use your phone if you need to do something very specific, like calling for an appointment, etc (when you just woke up)
I’m so passionate about this stuff. I love this jack
It destroys men of all ages. Being too comfortable can be deadly.
absolutely man but especially noobs
27 this year and watching your videos made me feel so behind in life. BUT, I've gained motivation and confidence to start changing for the better so thank you!
Honestly I looked at your channel, artists like you give me so much inspiration to keep going, if that helps at all!
@@n8th9n3 Thats awesome! Keep going and all the best! :)
I’ve been preaching this for so long, I’m glad I found a channel where my views are reflected back to me instead of hearing my friend telling me how I am “thinking too hard“
welcome homie. Check out all my other uploads they are gonna resonate with you hard
Yes thanks Denmo
Most guys can't handle the truth. They prefer to be losers because it's easy and comfortable. Don't waste your breath trying to help them if they aren't receptive. Do what you know is right and watch them get jealous when you start winning
@user-xv5gt6lm9f This was a hard pill for me to swallow. I'm 23 and have lived on my own for ages, however, Discord has ruined me.
My home town friends I grew up with are exactly the same as when I met them. I've learned and experienced so much more than them and try to preach about the world we are all missing out on, everything I try to bring up is hit with this, stop thinking about it so hard, just enjoy yourself. I finally deleted Discord as the only thing holding me back were those "friends".
@@Alixznder Im 17 and yes ive had this problem for a long time. They keep saying its not that serious. Expect it is. It is literally life or death, every single day. They are not understanding and i will no longer waste my energy trying to explain. its not worth it.
I've learned it's way easier dealing with things right away rather than waiting 20 years before I'm forced to do it. I recently moved across the US to Phoenix this year. Didn't really know anyone out here. But now I've met new social circles and found new dates and things like that. Only because I forced myself out of my comfort zone. That took 10 years to build up to it though. I'm still not completely comfortable now, but I get bored when I'm comfortable. It's weird. I have to get uncomfortable to find exciting things for my life and purpose. It gives u courage. I think a good check on ur life progress is how comfortable u r. It's ok to be comfortable for a little while after u earn it. But it should get boring and motivate u to do something greater or interesting. It's a good habit to have.
For me it makes me angry when people coddle themselves and waste their potentional because I spent my 20s trying to fight against trauma, manipulation and constant set backs. IF I had the comfort of just being able to chill and focus on my goals rather than being in constant fight or flight node I would have achieved a lot by now. There are so many people with privileges like a good education, a supportive family etc that don't even know how fortunate they really are...
Thats a problem I would like to point out, while is natural to feel envious of people who don't have hardships because "if I were them I could be so much better" that is actually false
Hardship is what actually builds character, if you had it easy from the start you wouldn't be half the person you are today
So when you see someone young taking it easy, no problems all the time of the world, you can actually think at how much behind they are, they still need to find a problem, than get over and only than start growing, but when that will happen? At 30? 40? So even trough may not feel right, be gratefull about the problems you had that allowed you to grow up earlier than most people nowdays
100%. ruins peoples lives sometimes
That's why I'll always stays humble. There's always someone having it harder
@@brunoreis4455 I don't know who you are but big thanks. You give me different view of my problems. Damn! I need this
Jack you’re a G, even though your videos might not get the same views as they used to, you are still helping to change lives for the better, money and views aren’t everything, never forget that and keep up the good work.
I just turned 22 this past December and I really looked in the mirror. I wasted 3yrs of my life by being an introvert and being in my comfort zone. I was a bum and was working with my mom because I didn’t wanna go to school or find a job. I was depressed ever since I left HS because I gotten really fat and it made me insecure. All I did was hide from my problems and when someone would bring up “ so what do you wanna do for your career” I’d get super defensive. I started a new job about 2 months ago and I’m glad my sister helped me get out of my hole. She saw what I was becoming and wanted the best for me. I’m working on finding my career and trying to get back into the gym/school. School isn’t for everyone but if you know what you wanna do then go for it.
I'm 23 right now and have been feeling a bit too comfortable lately... This video really caught my attention and made me realize, I need to make a change in my life. I hope It's not too late since 30's are just around the corner
You are but a minnow in the sea of life, all the time in the world, I assure you.... But still, don't squander it. Go live.
Why would you get yourself into stuff that will make your life uneasy and discomfortable? What do you expect to happen? Every person's goal is to have a comfortable life. Grow up lol
I've sacrificed the past few years sleeping on a family member's couch to pay down $70k of student loans since July 2020. I'm 26 now.
absolute animal. Share that in the discord with the boys
Meanwhile a girl will show her ass and pay off all that debt without having to break a sweat. Face it we already live in socialism it just benefits women the most
@@Denmosocial❤❤
bro this is the video ever guy needs. Nothing but the hard truth here. This is what builds a man.
share it with your other friends brother. They will appreciate it later
Easy choices - hard life,
hard choices - easy/better life
well said
There is no way to actually prove this lol.
PMO has been my biggest issue and has got a lot better - but literally 5 mins of PM can completely destroy my energy and psychology
I struggle years too with that. I highly recommend that you pay attention to how you consider this bad habit.
I did too thought that one relapse was gonna ruin my whole self for at least a week or so. Guess what it happened that very way. Guilt and ruined mentality are optional.
You’re a human being 5mn of porn can’t do you that harm. Keep quitting that’s for sure. But don’t dramatize. At least it’s my advice.
If you stick to discipline to quit in my opinion you also have to be wise enough to be able to loose. And loose well sometimes, letting go. It’s okay. It ruined me before so I had to say it.
You in reality are so strong as a human being that you can go on a porn binge for a month and just after that go on your life, take charge, meet women etc. But only if you let space for it to happen and not feel doomed and trapped by what you did.
1) okay enough whatever happens
2) let’s ditch bad habits and build good ones.
Peace
Needed to hear this right now. I usually have trouble getting through these types of videos but this was very digestible. You speak in a way that doesn’t put a person down, but rather lifts them up.
all good brother share it with your friends I'm sure they need to hear it aswell
Ive made so much progress in the last year but i only just realized that I've become complacent. Thanks for the reminder
good man proud of you G
Social circle and videogames got me brah. Dropped both for about 2 years and got into medical school. But a social circle stunts your growth, don't be close friends with guys unless there's an objective to complete... it's a waste of time. 21 - 24 was a brutal growth period for me, but now I fall back onto the skills/mentality I developed during that time.
I’m 22 & this video was a mind fuck. So many basic principles but it just clicked in my head. You have to earn comfort
here to help G. Join our discord
You are genuinely an amazing person dude. I'm glad you made this channel and you're an inspiration to me.
thanks brother trying my best. Share it with your friends to help them out aswell
@@Denmosocial I will, so many of us need to wakeup
Jacks what we need in the self-improvement space
here to help not sell snake oil
What are the benefits of snake oil?
15:15 I completely agree about commission sales jobs. I’m 32 now and I’ve made millions doing commission sales. If you are 18, you need to start TODAY. I recommend software sales, medical device sales, pharmaceutical sales, insurance sales, mortgage sales, financial sales and real estate sales. You don’t even need to waste time in university if you don’t want to.
Hey that sounds like an interesting career path but where would one start at 18-19?
Pro-tip: you can still play video games. Cut out open world and multiplayer shit and treat gameplay sessions the same as watching a movie.
Nah video games are for losers
This video just confirmed what I've been feeling for a long time, I'm off all social media just need to start working out & stop watching TH-cam.
thats right brother! Time to make the move
I wish I had people around growing up who knew how to teach about the value of productivity. People don't sell it right. Not being productive can actually make you feel bad once you get used to being productive, especially if people actually have a demand for what you're producing, could be anything. It feels fulfilling for a very long time.
One big eye opener was when I was spending hours playing Sims 3 improving a Sims life when I wasn't improving mine. The irony!
hit the nail on the head bro. That lesson taught itself lol
I’m watching this while playing video games all day. I’m 25
this may lead to you being depressed and lonely in your 30s my man
me to man.. social circle is the key i think.. all my friends have a house wife and shit and i don't.. so all i do is work and after work play video games all the time... i'm 27
Gaming was my main source of comfort and then it wasn’t. My main social circle was also a big source of comfort. I left that social circle and although I was a little depressed at first I feel much better now months later. This hit me at 22. I am now 50 pounds lighter, finished college and plan to go into the police academy once I lose 20 more pounds.
pretty good story aside from the police academy part, for the most part a total bum waste of time career
@@shirafudee No shame to anyone who wishes to pursuit a similar goal. Police is needed. Who knows, he might be the change that the police needs.
@@JayyyCloud Thanks for that! It honestly wasn’t something I ever intended on pursuing until very recently.
What's with the smug weirdo pissing over the LE career?
@@gavins9846 Just think he should get a career that actually changes the world. Economist, philosopher, anything, really...
You’re the man brother, thank you for awaring people
I made it aware to you, time for you to make it aware to your friends
holy crap man so glad I found your channel.
all good brother. Now that you found it, share it with your friends to help them too
@@Denmosocial yes sirrr
Definitely you’re best improvement video yet. Very well explained!
Sleeping in on week ends throws off the whole week end most of the time sadly. Don't stay up all night on Friday because it ruins the whole rest of the week end.
absolutely man it basically makes each weekend a write-off
I feel very lost as a 27 year old, I'm going to a trade school next week and I'm nervous but I know that in the long run working multiple dead end minimum wage jobs aint gonna do me any better as I get older.
you'll be fine brother. within 4 years-ish you become a journeyman, 5-6 years a master aka you can start your own business/company.
I’m 26 and in the same boat. Got laid off my job due to reduction of force doing stone restoration getting paid pretty well to now having to accept a minimum wage paying entry level hvac position. Just curious what are you going to school for?
@@SH_187 Going for electrical. 7 months 5 days a week. And they help find employment.
@@potatokaiyote nice, that’s cool good luck
I always was up till morning and slept till noon on the weekends, smoking as much weed as I could and consuming as much media as I could. Then I wondered why I had absolutely no energy during the week at work lol
haha well atleast you know now brother
I can’t tell you how much I needed to hear this. Especially going into the new year, my resolution for 2023 is to start living up to my promises to myself. Loved to video my man👌
Absolutely hit the nail on the head here. Excellent video.
share it with your friends brother
I love these new advice videos. It’s more direct and polarizing than the usual advice videos you uploaded in the past. It really helps a lot Jack. Keep it up 🙏🏻
taking over in 2023. Thanks for the feedback my man
Ive given up booze, bars, pointlesss films, and limiting weed, but my vice is overwatch. Im 41 but you nailed why, I miss sports i miss working with guys in a group/unit. I played soccer growing up, competitive gaming fills that void
This is definitely what more guys around my age need to listen to.
sounds like you need to send this video to them mr coyote
in my early 23's and im so glad to have this mindset, at the be beggining of the year i started exercise, stoped watching all these p*rn sites, working 2 jobs, all i need is to improve my social skills becouse of social anxiety, and hopefully find a partner until summer😅.
thank u for the video man, glad to learn something everyday.
I've played videogames my whole life and about 5 or so years ago when my PS4 died it really hit me. I told my buddy "holy shit dude I've lived in more worlds than my own". I also came up with a quote for all gamers out there: "My character in game is lvl 100 but MY character is still lvl 1".
Moment you realize that the comfort you once felt is a cell with no way out.
-Millenia Thinker
I know I'm already a bum. And this fake "Comfort" still has and produces so much discomfort. To the point of wanting to die because of how much pain I was in. Thanks for the video
I lowkey needed this video. Stumbled across it during my morning scrolling
funny how the universe lead you here eh
My NYE plans:
. Uninstalled games from my PC - no more video games
. Reducing social media - during my lunch breaks, i m going take myself for a walk
. Stopping drink alcohol - max have two beers.
.Stop energy and soft drinks drinks
. When going and leaving work i m not going to listen to music (have headphones in my ears)
. Delete Online dating apps - approach more, started to get use to it where i am approaching but just need to work on my game part.
all good plans apart fromwhats wrong with online dating apps? If you're meeting girls then you're meeting girls, why does it matter how you find them?
@@enrapturedgoose5317 it's just forces me to go out and meet. I feel like especially in my area I don't get many matches and if I do I can't show case other attributes and I hate texting
@@Christians9955 ah makes sense. Hope you continue to crush it brother
@liquid when someone has headphone in it makes then unapproachable and unsocial I find. Plus I can hear conversations, for example if a beautiful is lost in the city and is asking for directions I can but in.
@@enrapturedgoose5317 thanks, you as well
These type of videos should be number one 😆
absolutely haha
I agree with most of this. I'm particularly glad that you're bringing more awareness to how alcohol destroys our brains, especially when we're under 25.
Thank you bro, I really needed this. I'm not a bad looking dude, I have drive, I workout hard, my problem is that I don't really interact with people especially girls. I'm not scared of them it's just that I don't really see the need to talk to them, however I do want to have a partner and how would attract them without talking to them? I need to step out of my comfort zone and talk to them and people in general. There's something in my heart that tells me to go and talk to girls and other people, but I keep ignoring it because of fear of looking dumb. Not anymore it stops today's, I will talk to them.
Lol
Hey man love the message you're spreading, couldn't agree more, its unfortunate that 90% of the world doesn't think like this. And even with these videos they'd make up some bullshit to rationalize disagreeing
all good brother do me a solid and share it with your friends to spread the word
@@Denmosocial Gotta get the word out some way I guess
Once the part about useless tv shows hit, I was so curious as to what you would say is acceptable and what is not. I’m currently watching the sopranos for the second time and when you said HBO, AND THEN Sopranos, I grinned too hard. Keep these videos up, you’re the perfect definition of what the 1% man is today, and the other 99% must take advantage of your content. Life changing stuff here, much love Denmo.
This was the best video you ever made. Thanks brother, this is exactly what I needed right now!
thanks Tristan if you think so please share it with your friends
@@Denmosocial Sure thing Jack. Take care
Probably that's why i wasn't born in a very well-privileged family so i gotta work hard everyday. I feel like God avoided me from the comfort substances. Thx Jack for these thoughts
Who are the privileged people? They would only hang out in suburbs and certain bars on Main Street to avoid poor people?
Love your honesty man. Your advice is 100% true.
I felt this in my core. Just came back from my workout and i chose to eat a chocolate croissant and drink an energy drink instead of a healthy snack
Tbh they didn’t even taste that good after exercising, imma change that from now on
all good brother atleast now you know better and can make the necessary changes
I've been tackling this for a while. Every young man needs the message here.
share this with your friends then brother
He definitely has the right idea in mind but only take his words with grains of salt. Go workout. Go meet new people. Go work hard for money. But don’t put so much toxic pressure on yourself. Go eat that donut once in awhile. Go play that game and immerse yourself. Go watch that show and enjoy a fun night. Take life in grains of satisfaction and also be willing to work hard. Don’t have this idea that you need to hustle 24/7 in order to be happy. Just don’t be a lazy fuck.
Hustle culture is toxic and when you put so much pressure on yourself to be consistent all the time; there will be moment when you aren’t consistent and that shame will creep on you hard. Be accepting of your strengths and weaknesses and be open minded and forgiving.
You don’t need to be the richest, smartest, charismatic, or greatest person in the room. You just need to be yourself and not give up on you!
Heres to a good year everybody 🥂
^^^^^ absolutely fking agree. don’t burn yourself out, this life is short, so of course work hard as hell and achieve your dreams, but do not forget to enjoy the ride. Cheers to a good year as well🎉!
I'm 18 and deleted all of my video-games just this year to stop my "Game Addiction" , and i could study for an hour now; I hope i won't go back to that thing and next one to leave is social media.
Lol, you don’t have to stop playing video games. Just play in moderation.
I grew up playing almost every generation videogame console so i feel like ill always have a passion and love for them. Same goes for movies & tv shows I love them a lot and consider them a hobby. Hobbies/passions are a big part of what builds our character/personality, no?
@Jayvin I don’t really play them all that much anymore since I am getting older and need to move onto other things but I am still passionate about them and always will be
Haven’t watched your videos in a long time but wow . Thank you for this video. It’s definitely the ONE.
if so please share it with your friends brother. Wake them up too
Me watching this video after playing games till 3 AM last night and doing nothing productive with my time: 👁️👄👁️
lmao self awareness level 9000
Saved this video! Great reminder for 2023, thank you
You should make a video about why ambition makes you lonely and how to deal with this
That's a good one
great idea. I will
Great topic
Thx Jack. Watched it yesterday and today I got up at 6am, went to the gym. Did my thing and the first time i looked at my phone was at 10:30am. Felt amazing
dude thats amazing. Please share that in the Monkmode section of our Discord!!
Video games and p0rn are the biggest killers for men, completely destroys your motivation to go out and meet people especially women.
I stopped watching p0rn a month ago and haven't looked back. I've also significantly reduced my time playing video games to just 2 hours on Sunday nights as I was playing WAY too much and endlessly grinding on things that didn't even matter; I've been using that time spent playing games for going out on walks, going to malls, reading etc. My head has never felt clearer.
keep up the good work bro. Get on monkmode too
I just turned 24 and I’m doing pretty good and I’m comfortable. I’m so happy I watched this vid. It made me realize if I jus take a break n chill inna year I’ll be broke for sure. I needed to see this. Thank you brotha
Oh n P.S. when I wake in the morning I check my phone second at least first is a mean ass shit on the toilet
My third job (I was around 22yo) as an underpaid construction worker really motivated me wake up and start preparing myself for the future. I progressed in that work for several years, earning good money, but I never stopped learning. Now I'm in my way to become a firefighter.
I have seen friends whom I used to envy a lot, because they have confortable jobs where they earned good money, but now I see in them like mediocrity reflected. They have no ambition, their job is purposeless, dead-end road...and even though they don't say it I perceive they have realised it as well, just that they won't change, that's too hard.
New content, just as high quality! Thank you for helping people. Thank you!
Do enjoy your pickup/funny videos too! Surprised you made a video like this and just as good of content.
"Salaries are what they give you to crush your dreams." - Mr. Wonderful.
they can be brother. I dont hate on salaries tho both my parents were on salaries
Thanks for the video man, I used to be on the straight and narrow but the overwhelming stress at one point in my life led me to take it easier a lot more, I still had the ability to get it done when needed but I wasn’t pushing myself enough. On top of that the pandemic was the perfect excuse for a lot of us to just stop trying at anything as if life was on pause.
Recently I’ve done a few things I found really hard, I’ve fixed my car, fixed my laptop, got back into going hard at the gym and now have to finish university over the next few months and I need to go hard to get it done well.
Sleeping in and immediately smoking weed was the worst thing I would do on weekends. Work some bullshit job for 5 days only to numb myself at the first opportunity.
As a 24 year old. TH-cam, music, and gaming is definitely my addiction. When I am not working most of the time I am doing one of those activities. It is a problem and occasionally I do more than one of those at once. Such as when I listen to music while watching a TH-cam video, while working, and I usually accomplish next to nothing with all that stimulation.
It’s all about moderation really.
Good video-although I have one issue. For me, working out is a time wasting cope as well. It's not genuinely something uncomfortable and I thoroughly enjoy it. Obviously it's beneficial for out of shape guys, but once you reach a certain level of fitness, the returns start to diminish. I'm addicted to the rush of the experience so I pour many hours into it, even though it's not too rewarding. It would be better if that energy were poured into working on creative projects or making large amounts of money, but I find trying to focus on that stuff literally painful. I assume I'm not the only one who has fallen into this trap.
The hardest part about getting fit isn't getting fit, but maintaining that fitness. It's a lifestyle, and yeah too much of anything is bad for you. But always need to fit in exercise during your day/week
Yea I workout now to maintain my gains just as much as my mental health.
didn’t want to click on this video at first but definitely worth the watch & hella relatable. good stuff
thats how it usually goes. Whats good for us hurts at first
Im addicted to the media i cannot lie
if your gonna consume content you may aswell consume the right content
Totally agree and it's also taught in the military. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Works in a lot of things, especially combat sports. When I get the sense that I'm getting comfortable I will do or push myself in to uncomfortable places to test one's self. Don't ever get soft.
Lol at "Salaried job bad". I still don't understand this weird fetishization of "entrepreneurship". The average business owner in the US makes 68k a year. And that does not include benefits. The average business owner with at least 20 years experience makes 75k vs average business owners with less than 20 years making around 60k. This means that 20 years of "hustle" for the average business owner improved his salary by 15k.
Meanwhile entry level engineers average 61k while 10 years experience average 110k. That's 49k in 10 years of "comfort".
The way you make money means nothing. All that matters is that you have meaning, purpose, growth, and are financially stable enough to support the family you desire.
I agree brother. Salaried jobs are underrated I'll have to do a video on them at some point
Comfort is destroying society not just men.
agreed bro
Bro, I found your channel yesterday and became your subscriber. Your advices are precious, thank you for sharing them!
I recently let go of my social circle cause I didn't like the direction they were headed in, they were partying and stuff and I just wasn't for me. I was wondering where can I find healthier friends cause the people I always end up running into did the same stuff my last social circle did and I just have to end it there
same here
Facts man. I wish I had some friends I could spend time with learning a paid skill like copy writing (which I’m going to start learning Monday after Christmas) with. Having 2-3 people to work with together on it would help us all succeed.
@@Adays700 most "friends" nowadays don't want their friends to succeed so they don't want to be involved in any money-related business venture with their circle.
when it comes to me and comfort, i often want to work 'comfortably'. what i mean by that is if i just know that i'm doing good for where i am at working hard and climbing my way to success, then i feel good that i am in a good spot. of course it shouldn't last long as i know i should take it up a notch as soon as i can. and then i'd feel good again for making progress.
A lot of people know what to do, but choose not to!
yup well said homie
I needed this a lot bro, it hurts to fall down sometimes, but the climb back up will be worth it and I promise to myself to work hard
all good brother now share it with your friends to help them too
One thing you didn’t mention as a very common vice that men consume and overly indulge in is pornographic content. If consumed in excess, it becomes one of the leading causes to demotivated young men and adds to the overdose of comfortability. Men are less inclined to seek beautiful women in person and would rather watch them get naked online because it’s so much easier to just press the dopamine button.
When you consistently fail at meeting women in real life you really have no chouce but to consume pornography. Some us just were never meant to interact with women because we're not seen as normal. I'm 25 and not a single girlfriend despite all my efforts.
@@armandocool97 Did you actually try though? Like seriously try? I'd bet you could get a girlfriend if you seriously tried and maybe lowered your standards
Great video this is what I needed to hear. Being comfortable is getting me nowhere in life and I need to limit myself and do more things that make me uncomfortable
I'd argue pornography is a larger issue than given credit for.
It’s a new year and try to not but yeah I agree
For me: 18-25 religion... 25-30 alcohol... 30-34 getting my shit together....
everyone has a different journey
I wish my journey involved more cowbell🔔
Thanks for the advice. 1M subs soon. The grind is real, keep it up. If you give up, then you have to cut your hair and eat it for breakfast.
ill be cutting my flow soon anyway but I agree dawg road to 1 million
Good video!! Phone in black & white is CRAZZYYYYY but ima try it
its wild bro lets see how long you last
This new year's Eve I decided that me and my friends will go to a club instead of being at home. Which is for all of us "leaving the comfort zone" Noone of wanted to go there. And a thing that makes me laugh is that I asked 3 girls to dance 1st Girl said: I want to go sleep, *left* 2nd Girl : I'm lesbian, she wasn't but she probably didn't want to meet anyone new or she thought that I want her for only the one thing (which is true) 3rd girl: I'm dancing with my friends. But as usually some 50 yo granny was showing interest in me. Still after 3 hours of sleep I'm happy that I made this decision and approached more girls than in whole 2022.
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