@@h.9089 He's probably young and full of the feminist ideology he's been pumped with. I swear, I need to know what y'all are lifting in order to take you seriously. Homeboy probably can't even bench a 100lbs 😂😂😂
I'm in my early 30s and committed all of these traps in my 20s. Let me say I'm in better position now but it took sweat, blood, and tears to improve my situation.
So, there is hope, in my early 30s trying to get out of some of these traps( the education without a career, and overweight, I am working and finishing as quickly as I can with what I can. I am a year off for a marketing associates I know not the greatest, and then I figure eh why not get the sales bachelor’s while working, just so I can have a bachelor’s degree. Be mid 30s I know not the greatest spot in life. Though change what you can, accept what you cannot, have the wisdom to know the difference. Kind of given up on marriage, had a taste of a ltr it killed me inside. They talk about women being broken, rarely do they talk about men being broken. A career in sales could be worse. I honestly don't know where I'll end up at. Just trying to get out. As quickly as possible with the least amount of debt and preferably with a bachelor’s in something. I personally don't care anymore, I really don't as I said dead inside. On the outside very handsome guy. This photo is a couple of months old and a lot of pounds.) The chest is that broad though. I do have a broad one. Though my arms are bigger, my stomach smaller, my hair the same.
@@thestraycat69 yes I fell for alot of the traps... had a kid at 19 and another at 24... never went to school and worked alot of bad jobs like Toyrus and stuff. I basically thought my life was done. When I turned 28 something just hit me to go crazy hard. I started a clothing line and a YT channel. Didnt take long and I went viral... my first channel got to 200k in a year so I started this channel and got another viral video and this channel at 160k. In turn my clothing started flying. In a 3 year span I was making 15 dollars a hour with two kids to this year I made 130k. I'm 31 now and i think my 30s will be the best time of my life tbh
Same. 29, wasted my 20s until I stumbled upon self-improvement videos. Do you feel often depressed because of the tought that you wasted years and years? I feel like I can't escape that tought and it kills me.
@@Justissier don't worry you can get a lot more done in a single day than you think if you are disciplined and focused and put your time and energy into positive things and not distractions.
Iam turning 31 years old this year , the best thing i have done so far is to cut out negative people and drama from my life. I started doing this when I was 25 . Now I only hang with people who are positive with life in General 🙏👌
Wow that's so relatable I done the same thing, I don't trust many. People so yeah sometimes it's hard, finding the. Right people to, become friends with.
I had kids in my 20's I'm now 40 and having my 4th in two weeks. I did everything you said you can't and I didn't have to sacrifice my relationship with my kids or anyone else. If you know what you want at a young age go for it full froce
I just don't understand how can you know you want a kid when you are 20. You must've been incredibly lucky to find what makes you happy in high school. That's not the case in like 95% cases I think.
@@josefhrdlicka2251 I guess I was lucky but I definitely absolutely knew at a young age what I wanted out of life, I knew I wanted a beautiful woman a house and a good career for sure. As I got older and started wanting other things like antique cars. This stuff was not easy and i struggled at times. I will be honest I think not having some things as a small child contributed to me knowing what I wanted very early. Good luck on your journey in life it is a never-ending Journey until the day we all pass.
@@josefhrdlicka2251 and I will tell you this I lived in Pennsylvania I grew up in a very bad neighborhood, I took a vacation to Florida once with my family and met a very beautiful blond Beach babe, I knew at that time I wanted to have children with her and only her, guess what, once I turned 18 I moved to Florida I rekindled my relationship with her I have been with her almost 22 years, if you want something bad enough you will sacrifice what you have to to get it. If you do not have that kind of passion I wouldn't even bother with it
Why aren't channels like these more watched on TH-cam!. This guy puts out so much value about stuff most ppl don't want to hear , but SHOULD hear. Thank you!
I’m 26 and the scarcity just hit me, I miss feeling like abundance would last forever. A lot of that surrounds university. The thing I’m struggling with most is trying to accept that. But I need to so here we go haha
@@joshuasatterwhite9520 They probably mean the partying, networking, and the freedom of just being in college. Not to mention the experiences and amount of fun it truly can be. Eventually it all comes to an end though.
Looks like I'm doing pretty good at 29, having ticked all the boxes. It hurts to see some of my former friends stuck in their jobs which do have a higher ceiling but are just too lazy to climb the ladder and resort to playing video games, all day. We lost our common ground and thus lost touch to each other. That's when the scarcity mindset kicked in which forced me out of my comfort zone to find new friends. It's starting to pay off as I'm losing my overall shyness towards strangers. The only area I haven't seen any success is with women, however in hindsight I see it as a blessing in disguise as they probably would have held me back on my track, several times. The pleasures I denied to myself back then where (for the majority) converted into action at the workplace. I don't know if I will ever be successful with women in this life anymore but I accepted this valid path to walk. Maybe someone will eventually cross my way to convince me otherwise but I'm not going to force it.
at 29, youve handled everything else. just become friends with women and have them introduce you to their friends. if you have everything else going for you, you will be the prize. you've got this
You have to educate yourself self about female nature see them for who they are not what you think they should be, travel the world. Accept female nature and half of your problems with women will disappear. This will teach you to be a better judge of character.
I also gave up on woman completely Although it's pissing me off that i can advance in everything in life yet this is the only field i have no success I am 27 I been going to a gym for well over a year Really happy with my progress I completely stopped watching corn few years ago Never felt better I eliminated almost all the toxic people in my life And i am on final year of my master degree But still this one field remains enigma...
I'm pushing 30 now and man this is accurate, fell for almost all of these traps. The good news is you can still pull out of it, even if you feel behind compared to your peers.
I'm 25 now and just decided to go college. I'm glad I waited it gave me time to explore and try new things. I been in the army and worked as an EMT. I have a much better idea of what path I want to take then if I went right into college at 18.
Same here, I'm 26 and just start online college for my BS in Cybersecurity back in September. I wanted some life experience to figure out what makes me happy and makes good money in a career. So many of my friends rushed into college out of HS and it's bitten them hard now that they have a useless degree and complain on social media about it. I used to feel behind in life but not anymore, good luck with your studies!
Great video that every 16-18 year old needs to hear. It's hard to get a message across once someone fails is in there 30s-40s as too many people give up.
Loveeeeee #5! I realized that aspect of life last year and it's the sole reason why I'm developing myself now. Whether it's learning new skills, working out, etc., that mindset of abundance can bring you down later in life if you get so complacent. I tell this to my gf every time and she understands what I'm conveying. However, she always ends it with "we're so young." Yes, being in our early 20's we do have the time to experiment and discover ourselves during that timeframe. But for me, I believe that we should start ASAP when it comes to developing ourselves. By the time we hit 30, everyone's gonna look at us differently. There's such a huge shift psychologically when you hit that age. From that point forward, the things you were doing in your 20's don't fly once you hit that age. Ofc, everyone's life is different, and I don't expect everyone to reach their version of success or find their true calling before their 30's. But imo, the sooner you start the better. Delayed gratification for long term happiness is the way to go; no doubt!
Solid video man. I'm 28 and my son is almost 2 years old now. I can tell you first hand that having a child is HUGE. Pretty big friggen deal. It certainly makes it more challenging to accomplish your goals/dreams. That doesn't mean it's impossible. Although these traps are very real, it's certainly doesn't mean the end of your potential. Next year, I'll officially be opening my own training studio as a personal trainer. Then eventually, a full on gym. I also have other goals and ambitions in mind. Keep on keeping on, my dudes! It's all a mindset.
Bro go for it... trust me I have 2 kids... its literally almost impossible but not impossible. I'm 31 and own a clothing line and 2 YT channels that make together 130k. Even with the disadvantage of kids I made myself in the top 5% of all men in their 30s... most ppl 31 dnt even make 60k... This is just the beginning and you can do it too.
Thank you for this video Jack. I could already see myself falling into a couple of these tracks the way I lived through my first semester of university. I turned 18 last month, so I'm glad I came across this advice before it's too late to change my ways. *Apart from my 2 year old son in Dusseldorf, Germany 💀
Im 26 nearly now and after going through literally everything you've mentioned in the video, unfortunately including addiction, i can finally say im where i need to be and know what i want , i work as a millwright a steel mill and having progression in my career and having something to work towards, palpable results, goes a seriously long way in retaining your will to advance. Awesome video
Dude same here! I work for a company that makes all of the copper terminals for steel mills around the world. Somehow stumbled across a machinist job and it’s not bad. Learning a lot and finally being on a schedule has changed my life. I used to wake up at 2pm everyday. Feels good to finally do something
man this would've been a good video to watch at 17. I'm 28 now and getting a divorce after 11 year relationship and lost my career all in one week. Bring on the discomfort.
Bro you got this... I've been reading all these comments and telling yall it's okay. I'm 31 with 2 kids and when I was 28 I literally worked 2 jobs... one as a dish washer and the other at Home Depot... 15 an hour. 3 years later I made 130k self employed. You never know when life will flip but you gotta put the work in.
This man spits the truth! Take it from me, I'm 36 years old and I've lived through some of these traps that he's talking about, & I've witnessed my friends fall into these traps as well. Your 20's & 30's fly by. Take care of yourselves. We love you Jack!
Whoever had the idea and had done the work to put subtitles, thank you so much! It helped me a lot since my speaker is broken and also due to the fact that I am watching this at midnight at low volume
Thanks jack i am currently 23 and just quit my minimum wage job and got into the banking of the world and i am still living with my parents in order to save as much money as i can . So i definitely love seeing this video now before it is too late.
Jack, thanks for the video! My goal is it to become a airline pilot and im currently a full time student getting my cs degree and also working full time as a mailman and your videos helped me gain a better perception of how to balance life, work and studies better:)
I barely comment, but I am thankful for the quality videos you've been putting out lately. Been playing them in the background while doing some tasks/working out. You're killing it.
I have learned from my parents mistakes of having me as teens, having a kid at a young age is not only a HUGE challenge and very expensive, it makes the childs life not as good. I would rather wait until I am 100% prepared and knowing that my child will have a great childhood. My parents broke up when I was 1 so it doesn't bother me so much because I don't remember seeing them as a couple. But its no fun, my parents never got along when I was little but within the past few years i think my mother has been thankful of my dad for taking care of me. If you are curious my mother was 15 and my dad was 18. Another bad outcome of having a child that young is you will most likely drop out (that's what happened to my mom), you could get a GED but i don't even know if she did, she might still be working at fast food restaurants or gas stations. Thanks for the banger jack, its the people like you on youtube that will change people's lives. :)
This is sound advice I pretty much followed in my twenties instinctively which gives me much more freedom in my 40s than most people my age. A couple things I might add. In your twenties you also want to avoid debt on stupid things particularly credit card debt and car payments. The other thing is when you have the sense of abundance and feeling you have all this time in the world that’s when you take risks in business and learn valuable lessons and eventually one of those risks will pay off. Another thing that can help build yourself and accelerate your ability to achieve your goals is if you can do one enlistment or tour of duty in the military. You’ll learn so many things and build character and get additional resources for further schooling.
Have watched your videos for a while but never knew how aware you were of such important life principles. You’re a legend for making these kinds of videos, it will certainly save a lot of young men in need of sound advice.
I joined the Military as a teen. I learned a lot. I had a child at 21. Got divorced and don’t regret it. My Daughter was born before I left to Afghanistan. I was able to go to school, got two licenses ( crane operator and Truck driver), brewed beer and now I am 3d Printing. College is not a charity it’s a business and will steal your money. Trade schools are great .
I’m 18, and i have to say your advice is very significant to me. Many people emphasize the bigger steps while the little ones are the most important ones, thank you for enlighten me.
Great video, I couldn't agree more. Another trap I would suggest is to avoid Gambling. Greed is part of the devil's work, so preventing it all together is the best way to ensure you don't get trapped.
Great video Booze stuffed me up from 22 to 28 but I quit it and got my life around. I'm now 38, great job and pay, a child, no booze, house paid off. Main thing I learned is keep a clean mind but an aware mind and learn learn learn
Hello, i'm 23 from Latvia. I recently dropped out of college. I was majoring in biomedical technician job but dumped it because i didn't see my self doing it anymore. In the near future i plan to go to university to major in biology, because it is very interesting and diverse fields you can specialise in. Now i work in retail and serve in national guard in my country. I really envy those people who got things figured out very early on in life especially the older generation. For example, my dad has highschool education and he was very interested in video making and cameras and he got involved with some TV guys to be an apprentice. He eventually started working for national TV and is still working there after 30 years. He achieved it during 90's, when soviet system collapsed and it was chaotic. People without degrees could achieve a lot during those days. Now everything has to be very formal with higher education. I hope you all achieve your goals in your 20's and be greatful for oppurtunities that come to you! Good luck!
Great video mate. I'm in my early 30s. I fell for the trap of education. Got a BSc with the intention of studying medicine (pressure from parents!). In my last yr of my BSc undergrad, I decided Med school wasn't for me, so panicked, got a dietetics degree and became a Dieitian in the hospital setting. Although I didnt want to study medicine, I still wanted to work in a hospital setting as a healthcare professional. Dietetics seemed like a good idea at the time. I lasted 5 yrs in the profession, as I grew to loathe the job because of the inadequacies of the Healthcare systems in my country and my general lack of passion for the role (I feel like I rushed into the role without doing more background work). I'm now self employed in a different industry but fortunately I am able to transfer a lot of my knowledge to my current job. I'm content now, but overall, wish I took my time before going to Uni in my early 20s and make a more informed decision of a career path.
This sounds familiar to me. I'm in a similar spot. I'm also a dietitian and after 4 years of studying I passed for residency in a hospital in a neighbor city from where I live (I'm in my mid 20's) . Any chance you are from a south America country?
@@akin1989 cool. how are the job opportunities for dietitians in the UK? i always wondered... specially at hospitals, what's needed to get a job, is it very competitive?
After finishing high school in 2015 that same year i did not do anything. In 2016 i enlisted in the military. Been in for almost 7 years now. I'm just now trying to go to college. But it is good that i wsited because i now know i went to study Hospitality and Tourism and travel the world.
I agree with the education point. Definitely find out what you're passionate in. Experience different areas, realize how much being a busser or restaurant chain cook sucks and use it to drive to do more. For me, I worked at Red Robin and discovered EMS. I worked as an EMT for 6 years before realizing I was asking questions nobody could answer. At the ripe old age of 24 I went back to university to become a doctor and because I know I love medicine and I know it's a career I want to pursue I'm driven to complete it and do the hard things. One of the best decisions I've ever made. It also allowed me to appreciate money and putting in hard work more.
Hey Denmo, nice tips. Your final point on abundance: you mentioned getting older, not feeling as good. This is mostly dependent on lifestyle and diet decisions over time. I'm 29, but feel like I have the same energy as before. But definitely I have friends who are "slowing down", gaining weight, complaining about being in pain, etc. I'd almost say that's another "trap" that many adults fall into, thinking that as they get older they necessarily should gain weight and feel shittier
I know it's a long one but maybe some can relate... I'm halfway through my 29th year, I quit school after college and spent my 20s working "ok-paying" jobs, abusing alcohol and playing video games. I am angry at myself because I didn't see that I was wasting my time all theses years. I thought that that was how life was supposed to be, just work and have fun, so that's what I did for all my 20s, work, drink, party and play video games. I didn't realize I hadn't developed many important life skills, I only realized when I first stumbled on self-improvement videos a year ago... I am 29 but still feel like a teenager... Haven't really developed life, work and social skills, immature, avoiding responsibilities... All that development paused at 21 and it is just starting to resume, but now I have lower energy and ambitions, often feel depressed... It sounds stupid but It feels so hard to undo 8 years of bad habits, like quitting alcohol and trying to be more responsible. The only thing I feel I have accomplished in a year is going to the gym consistently and being sober for 4 months out of 12. I feel like I'm progressing way too slowly and it depresses me... I really wish I could have discovered self-improvement 10 years ago when I started my 20s or that my dad would have tought me the importance of having many skills and such...
Yeah bro I’m about to turn 29 this year, and I never really matured. People called me a teenager until couple years ago. My bro-in-law is only 1.5 years older and he looks like it. I feel so inadequate when I see myself and him. I feel I get disrespected a lot and I keep beating myself up (not literally). I don’t have bad habits like drugs, don’t have a child etc. But I waste all my time doing nothing. I don’t have any friend. I’m the guy that is always alone at the end of the day. And now it’s even harder to do anything, I’m low on energy to do anything.
I became 20 last year & I genuinely feel like I've lost "direction". My college is about to end & I feel the pressure of being successful. I've never felt this much pressure before. I've been a bright student, infact I'm a STEM student. Fortunately I have good skills in my field & already earn money through part-time. And college seriously feels like pyramid scheme. I agree with that statement so much. Most of my professors know nothing about industry, they can just "discuss things" but can't tell us about doing or implementing something in real life (which various companies want as a skill).
I'm 26, and I can tell, that I had lucky that I discovered few years ago what are my gifts. I have met people, who helped me out to improve skills when I wasn't looking for it. But honestly you can't just wait for the moment, you have to take matters into your own hands. I forgot about it during the pandemic. Now I'm creating my own life on my own rulles. It's hard to do ambitious things, but when you get the goals over and over, goal after goal, it should get easier over time. Plan big things, but focus on the day to day.
For the Low Ceiling job part, I would recommend High School Grads if they don’t know what to do, to get a job in sales. Naturally it won’t be the best paying out of school and no experience, but cold calling and setting meetings for whatever organization builds a life long skill that will stay with you, and you have a marketable skill for any employer now once you get good at it. It’s not easy, and depending on the organization you could very easily fall victim to learning bad habits or taking advantage of people, so something to look out for. But overall such a great way to spend time. Check out the sales subreddit for more info, lots of ways to break into sales. Just use the search bar and don’t ask obvious questions that can be searched and found
Thanks for the advice jack, currently in my second year of uni but Im confident in my plan and am maintaining high grades. Doing a double major in english and french, french being desirable for teaching in Canada. Ive always been set on education so i can motivate young people and I enjoy the classroom setting despite many issues within the education system that I want to better. But i will definitely keep in mind what you have to say about it!
Try not to reach the point where you regret that you not did something. Better to fail than to think “what if”. This can relate to everything: approaching a girl, backpacking, working out, creativity etc.
Good advice. Follow it if you still can. Just turned 28 and I fucked up on almost all of these. I remember watching videos like this when I was 23 and didn’t do anything significant with it. Now I’m 28 and terrified. Listen to this man if you’re young/early 20s or even earlier. Once you make a mistake like kids, you’ll wish you had listened.
I was a labor hand for 11months at a pipeline company when i was 19. Im now 20. They never wanted to give me a raise for breaking my back for them saving them over $20k because a gas pipe had a slit in it or because all the stuff I learn how to do. The more time I put in that job was the more I realized that everyone is competing with each other to show the boss who to give a .50cent to $1 raise to. The bosses were laughing at all of us and using us but I was the only one thinking about my way out. One day I got a call to go weld and I quit in my boss face at the end of the day. It shocked him, left his face froze. Then within the same month he lost most of his workers besides the ones who were brainwashed thinking they were still getting a raise. All I could do is laugh when I found out.
In all honesty, your videos hit very close to home, almost in an uncanny way. I live in a small italian town, so my environment and social circle is different from your average american viewer, but I must say that this video and your other videos speak to me, I needed someone to point these things out, because no one really talks to me about these matters in real life. Keep up these videos, I love the ones about the traps in the 20s.
The education part hits. I'm not American, but French, and what you say is similar here, probably worst. In France, university/college is somehow free (depending on your parents situation) for everyone, which cause young people to be over-degreed for the job market. I have a master, and in second year I realized all of what you said. I finished my master and decided to not doing a doctorat (PhD) even if my teachers said I was talented enough for it though. I realized I just wanted to be a humble librarian, because I always liked libraries and books, which is still related to what I studied (so this is not that bad !). I enjoyed my studies a lot, being the fun guy of my promo, I had good grades, I was interested in the subjects we studied, and still am, but maybe I'd have chose a different path if I had knew sooner who I am, instead of following what everyone elses do, just to unconsciously fit in.
I'm 27 turning 28 and I can attest to waiting before you go to college. I went too soon and now this late in the game I'm on self help. If you are under 25 or under 20 watching this FOLLOW THE ADVICE NOW!!! I'm old but its not to late and it absolutely works. wait for school, learn for free and get buff first and save a few stacks... then go to college buff with 30k in your pocket and it'll be WAYYYYYY better dudes.
@@xjoseramos3094 So, pre rona I was 24 turn 25 around this time, then lockdowns and depression snowballed. I made the mistakes of not caring about anything. I am at this point in my life making 12.50 an hour. I am being rather hard on myself and since past thanks giving I've gone from 400ish to 368 as of today. advice I can give... do not become a truck driver, holy fuck. back at a security job that lets me have basically free time to learn and do self help stuff. THE GRINDSET IS FUCKING EVERYTHING I should also state that this came from me addressing my narcissi tic hurtful entitled bullshit. Autism, bpd, validation, narcissisms, and trauma is a Lethal mix to ruin myself, honestly outside of me being a flagrant cunt, emotional and fat I didn't fuck up too bad but its not ok lol.
Going to say for the first trap about not having children thateven if you do fall into it there is hope just keep persevering and keeping yourself dedicated to your purpose while of course still dealing with what you have to. My father was 19 when I was born I was born in 2002 he now owns his own business where he's going to be opening a second location soon. I work with my father in the business he owns because its my best opportunity to make money and stay debt free and learn from a professional in their field and I'm incredibly lucky in my own opinion. Anyway I just wanted to share a bit and I wish everyone the best.
The problem I’m facing is letting go of the adventures I’d planned in my youth. I chose to go to college instead of the marine corps when I was 18, and now I’m graduating late and moving into the corporate office world. No matter how much people stress to me that I’m blessed and set for the rest of my life, I can not feel satisfied having never done something like the marine corps to subject me to a bunch of crazy experiences. I have cruised from school to work, but I want to leave it all behind to do something out of the ordinary for once. But I’m scared that at such a pivotal age I will be fucking my future and never able to financially recover
I got into the 2nd trap. Wasted 9 years in academics. But I'm happy my father was the one who guided me to deviate from a 9 to 5 job. Now I have a small business with a lot of potential, is giving me more interesting options in life and I'm enjoying the freedom that it gives me.(Sure, problems are more but I'm having fun solving them)
Amazing advice, taking advantage of your 20s is nothing i would've thought of, and instead i planned on moving towards a specific path, but find different paths and avenues in life seens for of an investment
I have a B.A and I just wanted to say YES. PREACH. I'm a first generation college kid so we didn't know better, but I'm getting back on track now. Some of these universities and colleges are out right scamming their students and see them as nothing more than money. The fact they offer some degrees without counselors or department saying anything about job prospects is crazy. History and philosophy classes are a joke and will become obsolete. None of my history or philosophy professors had a real job outside of teaching, but 20 year old me didn't question it at the time. This video sends out a great message.
Bro, the matrix is pushing young men to have kids at such a young age... Its shows how fearful they are of our generation. I think our generation is smart, not lazy.
Imo, i dont think it just necessarily 'the matrix' pushing us to have kids, but mostly our parents cos they had a child at a young age but didn't realise their times was much simpler back then and they were able to afford a house and have lots of kids as denmo also pointed out. We also get compared to our families from when they were in their 20s and say things like, "when i was in my 20s i was already married and had a house and had my first child etc". Which in turn sort puts us young lads under pressure and we end up into a depressing mindset on how we gone wrong. Im kinda going on a rant/tangent didnt mean to go long into it but thats just my 2 cents :)
Usually parents/grandparents push you to have kids because they're bored, or your biological clock will tick around 30, or yeah the govt does want you to pop out a few new consumers/taxpayers for the future.
I downloaded your “comfort” video on phone. So whenever I drove to and from work I listen to it instead of depressing ass music. Speaking of having a child. My long time friend once said to me he doesn’t regret having is 12 year old daughter however he does understand its drawbacks back. IT’S TIME!!! Time he could’ve spent making all the money he could. Instead he had to double down and get a less than stellar job to owner is child support payment. He got buzzed on booze and once told me he looks up to me. I’m the epitome of what he could’ve been and wanted to be. That’s when I realize everyone has insecurities even my friend who is good looking, in shape, great personalities and LITERALLY has girls throwing themselves at him. My problem is I don’t have girls throwing themselves at me. SMDH. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Do not go partying every week and getting wasted all the time or just being wasted. This will be detrimental to your health and finances in the long run. Do not smoke also!
I felt relieved when you brought up education. I dropped out of high school and literally everyone judged me for it but I’d say I’m doing just fine now. I have coworkers that have college degrees but I make more than them because I am their managers and I’m also not in debt. If you’re good at school and interested in it then I think you should be doing it obviously I don’t want to discourage people but if you’re feeling worthless because you dropped out… don’t, because I’m doing just as good as people that have and I didn’t even finish high school
You can also do all those single things with family too. Family gives you reasons to do more things. Also, there's less women to pick from in your 30s. There's also infertility problems for my generation and Gen Z once you pass 30. It's a global problem right now. I had to play devils advocate.
I'm 41 no kids never married despite having options and several pregnancy scares. I listened to the older men who told me this advice. They said don't get married whatever you do. And because I'm selfish and do not want to spend my time raising a child I chose to better myself. I started my business in my 30's after working for a company in my 20's while going to college to learn my trade. I spent my free time in the gym and sleeping and going out with friends. I had a few long term relationships but they all ended up being not really worth marriage or having kids with. I am so glad I chose to be happy in my solitude before it was too late. Now at 41 I have all my hair not a wrinkle on my face and I'm jacked and make great money. I don't have stress and I have women in their 20's throwing themselves at me. I suggest you all do the same. If you want a family great but I cannot stress enough the importance of waiting until you've lived you life and gained the experience necessary to do so. I traveled the entire country and lived in my truck and in a tent in national parks for a year in 2009. I came back and almost got married but I chose to end things. Sometimes I wonder what would have been but I am glad I made the right decision because I can still have kids any time I want. All I do now is work and workout and spend time with family and friends with the occasional date sprinkled in. I could not be happier. I am here to help young men make the right choice. You do not have t ok get married and settled for a mediocre wife, job or life. Get your shit together first! Then decide. There is no clock ticking
Great post Mike. I'm in exactly the same boat as a 41 year old, no kids, self employed, and in good shape. People often mistake me for late 20s or 30 max and they're shocked to find out my real age. Life is good. The only thing I would add is that if you're sure you don't want kids I would highly recommend a vasectomy. Guys like you are a prime target for women hoping to baby trap a guy. I got fixed last year and it was one of the best decisions I've made. The peace of mind it brings is priceless.
@@danielbezjak1479 I don't sleep around or with just any woman I can get. I enjoy my peace and solitude, so I will talk to several women at a time until I find one I like enough to start dating. For me to date a woman she has to be wife material for me.. she has to be someone that would want to have kids with. Anything less is not worth the risk or time. This keeps my dick clean and wallet fat. I have had my fun and don't need sex or women at all. If they didn't make it so easy I would not deal with them at all. So I have the D control and self discipline enough to avoid child support payments. I am not against having kids. Just not yet and not with just anyone. It's has to be easy and right and blessed by God. Until he puts that woman in my life, I am happy with the way things are and I'm excited about the future so I will not be getting snipped. I'm too much of a naturalist anyway. I don't even snip my dogs.. I don't want to take away my reproductive option just because feminism has ruined women
I absolutely disagree especially with number one, being a husband and father by the age of 21 has been the most fulfilling thing I've ever done in my entire life, I still get to the gym 5 days a week and I'm still able to take vacations and do all that I want to do, but it's even better because I get to do it with my wife
You might've been ready though. Most people rush into that stuff without really thinking it through, or even knowing themselves that well. For every person I know that was happy doing exactly what you did, I know 5 that ended up in divorce and having to pay child support to a woman who got married to someone else who has a much better-paying job than them.
I’m 21 right now, and I’ll tell you for a fact my life would be ruined right now if I have a child with my current girlfriend. It will also ruin her life too, who’s the same age as me. A small of group of people such as you enjoy being a father, but I doubt most people think of the same
@@piotrszpot3206 it hold you back but still if you want success you will get it. I had my first son at 19 and second at 24 and I'm 31 and make 130k a year self employed. The one good thing about having my son was it forced me to not go to school or party all day. Tbh if I went to school I would of never started my clothing company or started my YT channels which is the reasons I make all the money. Just 3 years ago I was broke af and washing dishes. Turned it all around quick and now since I had kids younger I'm able to do fun things with them and still be 31 while hes 12. My kids imo made me become successful I would of been like every other 31 year old just at some job I hate making no money
As a 30yr old now, I can tell you he's 100% right. I fell into a few of these traps moderately and have pulled myself out of them for a better future. I will add that it's not only about salary. You can do hard physical labor year long as a lineman or a electrician bending pipe outside and make 120/160k a year. Think you'll enjoy that when your 45 and tired of 0° weather strong winds (maybe 90° and humid) and back breaking work? Probably not, maybe some. Choose something that is beneficial for your health and your wallet. Remember, Noone will look out for yourself like you will. You will be wronged many times. Pivot and place yourself in a better position for the future.
Same. I'm 27. Last month it hit like a tone of bricks that I am literally getting closer to 30. I said wow, I better get my stuff together. 😤 I wasted the past 2 years doing nothing. But with this realization, I'm now moving in right direction at a quicker pace.
For someone who turned 20 recently what do you think is the proper balance between working towards your goals and partying/clubbing? I personally am satisfied with the track that I'm on in terms of career, fitness, relationships, and travelling but am feeling a bit of FOMO in terms of not partying or clubbing as my friend group at the moment isnt really into those things. You think partying and clubbing is something I can put off for a year or two, or should it be something I should be more intentional about doing to avoid fomo. Great videos btw really makes me reflect on what I want to achieve
enjoy the clubbing with your friends too as long as its not interfering with your goals. Youre not gonna be clubbing with your friends when you guys get older
You can definitely enjoy it while you can because when you get older its not going to be as cool and you’re not going to have as much energy. As long as youre staying focused and not letting it interfere with your goals, go have fun
thanks man appreciate it. Share it with your other 20 yr old homies. I'll do a video on that in the future but for now check out my older vids on partying
I didn’t really make the most of it as I didn’t enjoy it early in my 20s. I’m 25 now and sort of regret not making more of it and college in general. But it’s not as if I’m gutted by it
I'm already 31. Damn. Time flies by so quickly. If I can turn back time. I would have hustled more. If you are 21-27 years old. Your body is like Son Goku. In my early 30s I easily get tired now. Even with exercise and working out.
Jack, do you have any tips on getting over a first love and how you would approach dating afterward? [Two weeks ago] This girl (22f) and I (23m) had to split after 2 yearsbecause I wasn't ready to make the commitment to moving in with her right after college and we werent willing to do long distance. (Not financially, physically, or emotionally ready, among other things) I kind of feel like an ass right now since I was essentially the cause of the breakup and she didn't do anything outrightly wrong. Its even worse that be both care about eachother and cant have eachother without dealing with immense challenges. Now I'm struggling to believe that I can meet someone new that can love me to the same degree that she did, especially now that college is almost over. Does love really just come and go like that?
How long distance are we talking about? Love definitely can just come and go if you let it. If that is the girl you want to spend your life with. Then you need to figure out how to make it work. If not someone else will come, you just have to put yourself out into the community.
If you think that girl is worth it to you i would take the risk man what do you have to lose you’ll figure it out as you go you can’t figure it out before hand, first love hurts the most and it blinds you a bit
@@CSaenz44 didn't feel like including all the details or it wouldve been an essay. I would have no friends, would've gotten stuck in a career path I didnt want to do, it would be much much harder to save any meaningful amount of money. I would be stuck in my college town in the middle of nowhere for several more years (I really dont want to be here anymore) I would be sacrificing plans that I had for myself so that she could fulfill all her plans. Most of her friends and her sister will be there for a few more years, she has a really nice job there, and she likes the area alot. I would not be a happy person and that would definitely poison our relationship. We both agreed that we would rather end things while our love is beautiful rather than keep going with a high chance of things turning really sour. That way, we can still be friends and possibly get back together if our paths realign.
At 22 I just got hired on as a weatherization trade worker. Plenty of room for improvement through the company over time too. Didn't even need any certifications since they are one of the few companies in the area that train their workers still!
Self-help content for men that doesn’t reek of anti-women hate, so refreshing. We can’t build ourselves if we are talking about them 😎
someones gotta do it
@@Denmosocial denmo da 🐐
Sometimes its necessary when it comes to making more informed decisions about dating and what kind of woman to avoid.
@@h.9089 He's probably young and full of the feminist ideology he's been pumped with. I swear, I need to know what y'all are lifting in order to take you seriously. Homeboy probably can't even bench a 100lbs 😂😂😂
@@blastermaster7261 Hell yeah brother I hate gender equality and treating women as people
I'm in my early 30s and committed all of these traps in my 20s. Let me say I'm in better position now but it took sweat, blood, and tears to improve my situation.
thanks for the honest insight brother
So, there is hope, in my early 30s trying to get out of some of these traps( the education without a career, and overweight, I am working and finishing as quickly as I can with what I can. I am a year off for a marketing associates I know not the greatest, and then I figure eh why not get the sales bachelor’s while working, just so I can have a bachelor’s degree. Be mid 30s I know not the greatest spot in life. Though change what you can, accept what you cannot, have the wisdom to know the difference. Kind of given up on marriage, had a taste of a ltr it killed me inside. They talk about women being broken, rarely do they talk about men being broken. A career in sales could be worse. I honestly don't know where I'll end up at. Just trying to get out. As quickly as possible with the least amount of debt and preferably with a bachelor’s in something. I personally don't care anymore, I really don't as I said dead inside. On the outside very handsome guy. This photo is a couple of months old and a lot of pounds.) The chest is that broad though. I do have a broad one. Though my arms are bigger, my stomach smaller, my hair the same.
@@thestraycat69 yes I fell for alot of the traps... had a kid at 19 and another at 24... never went to school and worked alot of bad jobs like Toyrus and stuff. I basically thought my life was done. When I turned 28 something just hit me to go crazy hard. I started a clothing line and a YT channel. Didnt take long and I went viral... my first channel got to 200k in a year so I started this channel and got another viral video and this channel at 160k. In turn my clothing started flying. In a 3 year span I was making 15 dollars a hour with two kids to this year I made 130k. I'm 31 now and i think my 30s will be the best time of my life tbh
@@Tuelz... basically change it, rewrite the script. The first part I have to do is leave the loser mindset.
@@thestraycat69 yeah bro you got this
I’m 29 and I’m hungrier than ever cause I was depressed for most of my 20’s so I’m looking forward to the rest of my life.
epic to hear brother keep up the good work
Same same
Same.
29, wasted my 20s until I stumbled upon self-improvement videos.
Do you feel often depressed because of the tought that you wasted years and years? I feel like I can't escape that tought and it kills me.
@@Justissier I feel that way sometimes but all you have is now. the past and future don’t exist.
@@Justissier don't worry you can get a lot more done in a single day than you think if you are disciplined and focused and put your time and energy into positive things and not distractions.
Iam turning 31 years old this year , the best thing i have done so far is to cut out negative people and drama from my life. I started doing this when I was 25 . Now I only hang with people who are positive with life in General 🙏👌
Wow that's so relatable I done the same thing, I don't trust many. People so yeah sometimes it's hard, finding the. Right people to, become friends with.
Wow I learn my lesson too . I hangout with toxic from age 16 to age 22 .
I had kids in my 20's I'm now 40 and having my 4th in two weeks.
I did everything you said you can't and I didn't have to sacrifice my relationship with my kids or anyone else.
If you know what you want at a young age go for it full froce
Yeah. 20 years old used to be normal. Idc about the downsides.
I just don't understand how can you know you want a kid when you are 20. You must've been incredibly lucky to find what makes you happy in high school. That's not the case in like 95% cases I think.
@@josefhrdlicka2251 I guess I was lucky but I definitely absolutely knew at a young age what I wanted out of life, I knew I wanted a beautiful woman a house and a good career for sure.
As I got older and started wanting other things like antique cars.
This stuff was not easy and i struggled at times. I will be honest I think not having some things as a small child contributed to me knowing what I wanted very early.
Good luck on your journey in life it is a never-ending Journey until the day we all pass.
@@josefhrdlicka2251 and I will tell you this I lived in Pennsylvania I grew up in a very bad neighborhood, I took a vacation to Florida once with my family and met a very beautiful blond Beach babe, I knew at that time I wanted to have children with her and only her, guess what, once I turned 18 I moved to Florida I rekindled my relationship with her I have been with her almost 22 years, if you want something bad enough you will sacrifice what you have to to get it. If you do not have that kind of passion I wouldn't even bother with it
@@josefhrdlicka2251 life isn't about happiness. Grow up.
Why aren't channels like these more watched on TH-cam!. This guy puts out so much value about stuff most ppl don't want to hear , but SHOULD hear.
Thank you!
all good bro you were here before I sell out
I’m 26 and the scarcity just hit me, I miss feeling like abundance would last forever. A lot of that surrounds university. The thing I’m struggling with most is trying to accept that. But I need to so here we go haha
I hope you will overcome your adversity 👍🏼
Could you explain about the university bit?
@@kathrinat9824 yeah whachu mean by that
@@joshuasatterwhite9520 They probably mean the partying, networking, and the freedom of just being in college. Not to mention the experiences and amount of fun it truly can be. Eventually it all comes to an end though.
Im 20 and I feel that way
Looks like I'm doing pretty good at 29, having ticked all the boxes. It hurts to see some of my former friends stuck in their jobs which do have a higher ceiling but are just too lazy to climb the ladder and resort to playing video games, all day. We lost our common ground and thus lost touch to each other. That's when the scarcity mindset kicked in which forced me out of my comfort zone to find new friends. It's starting to pay off as I'm losing my overall shyness towards strangers.
The only area I haven't seen any success is with women, however in hindsight I see it as a blessing in disguise as they probably would have held me back on my track, several times. The pleasures I denied to myself back then where (for the majority) converted into action at the workplace. I don't know if I will ever be successful with women in this life anymore but I accepted this valid path to walk. Maybe someone will eventually cross my way to convince me otherwise but I'm not going to force it.
at 29, youve handled everything else. just become friends with women and have them introduce you to their friends. if you have everything else going for you, you will be the prize. you've got this
@@Djme2 Thank you for your kind words! That's really encouraging.
You have to educate yourself self about female nature see them for who they are not what you think they should be, travel the world. Accept female nature and half of your problems with women will disappear. This will teach you to be a better judge of character.
I also gave up on woman completely
Although it's pissing me off that i can advance in everything in life yet this is the only field i have no success
I am 27
I been going to a gym for well over a year
Really happy with my progress
I completely stopped watching corn few years ago
Never felt better
I eliminated almost all the toxic people in my life
And i am on final year of my master degree
But still this one field remains enigma...
@@kostam.1113 get your passport and travel it not you it the women in your country.
I'm pushing 30 now and man this is accurate, fell for almost all of these traps. The good news is you can still pull out of it, even if you feel behind compared to your peers.
Love your content man. As a 20 year old, you really helped me view the world from a different perspective. Keep up the good work!
thanks man appreciate it. Share it with your other 20 yr old homies
20 too it was good
I'm 25 now and just decided to go college. I'm glad I waited it gave me time to explore and try new things. I been in the army and worked as an EMT. I have a much better idea of what path I want to take then if I went right into college at 18.
good luck mate!
Same here man! I start this Monday. I am glad I waited. I was too immature in my early 20s to have the discipline to do school… or anything 😮
Definitely something I think people rush into way to soon. Then they end up with useless degrees.
Same here, I'm 26 and just start online college for my BS in Cybersecurity back in September. I wanted some life experience to figure out what makes me happy and makes good money in a career. So many of my friends rushed into college out of HS and it's bitten them hard now that they have a useless degree and complain on social media about it.
I used to feel behind in life but not anymore, good luck with your studies!
@@mithyc2948 Same to you man.
Great video that every 16-18 year old needs to hear. It's hard to get a message across once someone fails is in there 30s-40s as too many people give up.
It's not even only for men. Everyone needs to hear this
Loveeeeee #5! I realized that aspect of life last year and it's the sole reason why I'm developing myself now. Whether it's learning new skills, working out, etc., that mindset of abundance can bring you down later in life if you get so complacent. I tell this to my gf every time and she understands what I'm conveying. However, she always ends it with "we're so young."
Yes, being in our early 20's we do have the time to experiment and discover ourselves during that timeframe. But for me, I believe that we should start ASAP when it comes to developing ourselves. By the time we hit 30, everyone's gonna look at us differently. There's such a huge shift psychologically when you hit that age. From that point forward, the things you were doing in your 20's don't fly once you hit that age.
Ofc, everyone's life is different, and I don't expect everyone to reach their version of success or find their true calling before their 30's. But imo, the sooner you start the better. Delayed gratification for long term happiness is the way to go; no doubt!
Solid video man. I'm 28 and my son is almost 2 years old now. I can tell you first hand that having a child is HUGE. Pretty big friggen deal. It certainly makes it more challenging to accomplish your goals/dreams.
That doesn't mean it's impossible.
Although these traps are very real, it's certainly doesn't mean the end of your potential. Next year, I'll officially be opening my own training studio as a personal trainer. Then eventually, a full on gym. I also have other goals and ambitions in mind.
Keep on keeping on, my dudes!
It's all a mindset.
Bro go for it... trust me I have 2 kids... its literally almost impossible but not impossible. I'm 31 and own a clothing line and 2 YT channels that make together 130k. Even with the disadvantage of kids I made myself in the top 5% of all men in their 30s... most ppl 31 dnt even make 60k... This is just the beginning and you can do it too.
Thank you for this video Jack. I could already see myself falling into a couple of these tracks the way I lived through my first semester of university. I turned 18 last month, so I'm glad I came across this advice before it's too late to change my ways.
*Apart from my 2 year old son in Dusseldorf, Germany 💀
buddy sounds like a plan. Make sure you share it with your other 18 yr old homies too
Is child marriage legal in Germany?
@@EldhoseJoseph No but you can have a baby without getting married
Im 26 nearly now and after going through literally everything you've mentioned in the video, unfortunately including addiction, i can finally say im where i need to be and know what i want , i work as a millwright a steel mill and having progression in my career and having something to work towards, palpable results, goes a seriously long way in retaining your will to advance. Awesome video
Dude same here! I work for a company that makes all of the copper terminals for steel mills around the world. Somehow stumbled across a machinist job and it’s not bad. Learning a lot and finally being on a schedule has changed my life. I used to wake up at 2pm everyday. Feels good to finally do something
man this would've been a good video to watch at 17. I'm 28 now and getting a divorce after 11 year relationship and lost my career all in one week. Bring on the discomfort.
That's tough bro
Bro you got this... I've been reading all these comments and telling yall it's okay. I'm 31 with 2 kids and when I was 28 I literally worked 2 jobs... one as a dish washer and the other at Home Depot... 15 an hour. 3 years later I made 130k self employed. You never know when life will flip but you gotta put the work in.
So sorry to hear that Josh
Thank you all for the kind words. Everyday it does get a little easier.
This man spits the truth! Take it from me, I'm 36 years old and I've lived through some of these traps that he's talking about, & I've witnessed my friends fall into these traps as well. Your 20's & 30's fly by. Take care of yourselves.
We love you Jack!
Whoever had the idea and had done the work to put subtitles, thank you so much! It helped me a lot since my speaker is broken and also due to the fact that I am watching this at midnight at low volume
My editor adds subtitles when he can
Thanks jack i am currently 23 and just quit my minimum wage job and got into the banking of the world and i am still living with my parents in order to save as much money as i can . So i definitely love seeing this video now before it is too late.
Jack, thanks for the video! My goal is it to become a airline pilot and im currently a full time student getting my cs degree and also working full time as a mailman and your videos helped me gain a better perception of how to balance life, work and studies better:)
atta boy keep up the good work
I barely comment, but I am thankful for the quality videos you've been putting out lately. Been playing them in the background while doing some tasks/working out. You're killing it.
thanks bro thats how I consume content too. Perfect method
I have learned from my parents mistakes of having me as teens, having a kid at a young age is not only a HUGE challenge and very expensive, it makes the childs life not as good. I would rather wait until I am 100% prepared and knowing that my child will have a great childhood. My parents broke up when I was 1 so it doesn't bother me so much because I don't remember seeing them as a couple. But its no fun, my parents never got along when I was little but within the past few years i think my mother has been thankful of my dad for taking care of me.
If you are curious my mother was 15 and my dad was 18.
Another bad outcome of having a child that young is you will most likely drop out (that's what happened to my mom), you could get a GED but i don't even know if she did, she might still be working at fast food restaurants or gas stations.
Thanks for the banger jack, its the people like you on youtube that will change people's lives. :)
Agree with a everything besides…that depending if “the thing ur interested in when ur 20” was a 15yr passion,it will stick.
This is sound advice I pretty much followed in my twenties instinctively which gives me much more freedom in my 40s than most people my age. A couple things I might add. In your twenties you also want to avoid debt on stupid things particularly credit card debt and car payments. The other thing is when you have the sense of abundance and feeling you have all this time in the world that’s when you take risks in business and learn valuable lessons and eventually one of those risks will pay off. Another thing that can help build yourself and accelerate your ability to achieve your goals is if you can do one enlistment or tour of duty in the military. You’ll learn so many things and build character and get additional resources for further schooling.
I’m 26 and fell into most of these, but luckily I don’t have a kid, so it’s not too late to focus on my career.
now you know homie
Very simple advice, yet very necessary to be heard. Great video
cheers bro ill see you in Europe
Have watched your videos for a while but never knew how aware you were of such important life principles. You’re a legend for making these kinds of videos, it will certainly save a lot of young men in need of sound advice.
this is my passion project. Help others the way I wish I could be helped when younger
I joined the Military as a teen. I learned a lot. I had a child at 21. Got divorced and don’t regret it. My Daughter was born before I left to Afghanistan. I was able to go to school, got two licenses ( crane operator and Truck driver), brewed beer and now I am 3d Printing. College is not a charity it’s a business and will steal your money. Trade schools are great .
good man. Thanks for sharing
Is the child yours?
@@RJ12347 Yup
I’m 18, and i have to say your advice is very significant to me. Many people emphasize the bigger steps while the little ones are the most important ones, thank you for enlighten me.
Great video, I couldn't agree more.
Another trap I would suggest is to avoid Gambling. Greed is part of the devil's work, so preventing it all together is the best way to ensure you don't get trapped.
gambling , drugs etc.
they all come together under clubbing and partying
Thanks for sharing your knowledge on this video, and giving us a warning so we won't fall into the same traps.
do your friends a solid and share with them too
Great video
Booze stuffed me up from 22 to 28 but I quit it and got my life around. I'm now 38, great job and pay, a child, no booze, house paid off.
Main thing I learned is keep a clean mind but an aware mind and learn learn learn
Hello, i'm 23 from Latvia. I recently dropped out of college. I was majoring in biomedical technician job but dumped it because i didn't see my self doing it anymore. In the near future i plan to go to university to major in biology, because it is very interesting and diverse fields you can specialise in. Now i work in retail and serve in national guard in my country. I really envy those people who got things figured out very early on in life especially the older generation. For example, my dad has highschool education and he was very interested in video making and cameras and he got involved with some TV guys to be an apprentice. He eventually started working for national TV and is still working there after 30 years. He achieved it during 90's, when soviet system collapsed and it was chaotic. People without degrees could achieve a lot during those days. Now everything has to be very formal with higher education. I hope you all achieve your goals in your 20's and be greatful for oppurtunities that come to you! Good luck!
This guy is helping so many people. Thanks i watched this video.
share it with your friends brother
Appreciate for the effort put into this ….
Pickup videos are fire but these videos are just pure gold… definitely clicking on them more.
haha glad you found it entertaining my friend
Great list homie.
np bro share it with your friends
Great video mate. I'm in my early 30s. I fell for the trap of education. Got a BSc with the intention of studying medicine (pressure from parents!). In my last yr of my BSc undergrad, I decided Med school wasn't for me, so panicked, got a dietetics degree and became a Dieitian in the hospital setting. Although I didnt want to study medicine, I still wanted to work in a hospital setting as a healthcare professional. Dietetics seemed like a good idea at the time. I lasted 5 yrs in the profession, as I grew to loathe the job because of the inadequacies of the Healthcare systems in my country and my general lack of passion for the role (I feel like I rushed into the role without doing more background work).
I'm now self employed in a different industry but fortunately I am able to transfer a lot of my knowledge to my current job. I'm content now, but overall, wish I took my time before going to Uni in my early 20s and make a more informed decision of a career path.
This sounds familiar to me. I'm in a similar spot. I'm also a dietitian and after 4 years of studying I passed for residency in a hospital in a neighbor city from where I live (I'm in my mid 20's) . Any chance you are from a south America country?
@@Akkannee I'm from the UK.
@@akin1989 cool. how are the job opportunities for dietitians in the UK? i always wondered... specially at hospitals, what's needed to get a job, is it very competitive?
After finishing high school in 2015 that same year i did not do anything. In 2016 i enlisted in the military. Been in for almost 7 years now. I'm just now trying to go to college. But it is good that i wsited because i now know i went to study Hospitality and Tourism and travel the world.
I agree with the education point. Definitely find out what you're passionate in. Experience different areas, realize how much being a busser or restaurant chain cook sucks and use it to drive to do more.
For me, I worked at Red Robin and discovered EMS. I worked as an EMT for 6 years before realizing I was asking questions nobody could answer. At the ripe old age of 24 I went back to university to become a doctor and because I know I love medicine and I know it's a career I want to pursue I'm driven to complete it and do the hard things. One of the best decisions I've ever made. It also allowed me to appreciate money and putting in hard work more.
Hey Denmo, nice tips. Your final point on abundance: you mentioned getting older, not feeling as good. This is mostly dependent on lifestyle and diet decisions over time. I'm 29, but feel like I have the same energy as before. But definitely I have friends who are "slowing down", gaining weight, complaining about being in pain, etc.
I'd almost say that's another "trap" that many adults fall into, thinking that as they get older they necessarily should gain weight and feel shittier
I know it's a long one but maybe some can relate...
I'm halfway through my 29th year, I quit school after college and spent my 20s working "ok-paying" jobs, abusing alcohol and playing video games.
I am angry at myself because I didn't see that I was wasting my time all theses years. I thought that that was how life was supposed to be, just work and have fun, so that's what I did for all my 20s, work, drink, party and play video games.
I didn't realize I hadn't developed many important life skills, I only realized when I first stumbled on self-improvement videos a year ago...
I am 29 but still feel like a teenager... Haven't really developed life, work and social skills, immature, avoiding responsibilities... All that development paused at 21 and it is just starting to resume, but now I have lower energy and ambitions, often feel depressed...
It sounds stupid but It feels so hard to undo 8 years of bad habits, like quitting alcohol and trying to be more responsible. The only thing I feel I have accomplished in a year is going to the gym consistently and being sober for 4 months out of 12. I feel like I'm progressing way too slowly and it depresses me...
I really wish I could have discovered self-improvement 10 years ago when I started my 20s or that my dad would have tought me the importance of having many skills and such...
Yeah bro I’m about to turn 29 this year, and I never really matured. People called me a teenager until couple years ago. My bro-in-law is only 1.5 years older and he looks like it. I feel so inadequate when I see myself and him. I feel I get disrespected a lot and I keep beating myself up (not literally). I don’t have bad habits like drugs, don’t have a child etc. But I waste all my time doing nothing. I don’t have any friend. I’m the guy that is always alone at the end of the day. And now it’s even harder to do anything, I’m low on energy to do anything.
Saw my phone opened on TH-cam and your video was playing by mistake. This is a sign fr, and I'm 22.
buddy welcome to the family
Even though I still became a huge loser, I'm proud to say I've managed to avoid a lot of these things with the exception of low-skill jobs.
Drugs and alcohol point is HUGE..everyone needs to see this video
share it with your friends bro
I became 20 last year & I genuinely feel like I've lost "direction". My college is about to end & I feel the pressure of being successful. I've never felt this much pressure before.
I've been a bright student, infact I'm a STEM student. Fortunately I have good skills in my field & already earn money through part-time. And college seriously feels like pyramid scheme. I agree with that statement so much.
Most of my professors know nothing about industry, they can just "discuss things" but can't tell us about doing or implementing something in real life (which various companies want as a skill).
I'm 26, and I can tell, that I had lucky that I discovered few years ago what are my gifts. I have met people, who helped me out to improve skills when I wasn't looking for it. But honestly you can't just wait for the moment, you have to take matters into your own hands. I forgot about it during the pandemic. Now I'm creating my own life on my own rulles. It's hard to do ambitious things, but when you get the goals over and over, goal after goal, it should get easier over time. Plan big things, but focus on the day to day.
For the Low Ceiling job part, I would recommend High School Grads if they don’t know what to do, to get a job in sales.
Naturally it won’t be the best paying out of school and no experience, but cold calling and setting meetings for whatever organization builds a life long skill that will stay with you, and you have a marketable skill for any employer now once you get good at it.
It’s not easy, and depending on the organization you could very easily fall victim to learning bad habits or taking advantage of people, so something to look out for. But overall such a great way to spend time.
Check out the sales subreddit for more info, lots of ways to break into sales. Just use the search bar and don’t ask obvious questions that can be searched and found
I literally turned 20 two weeks ago and I love how TH-cam recommend this to me.
lmao youtube wants to help you bro. Share this with your homies
Thanks for the advice jack, currently in my second year of uni but Im confident in my plan and am maintaining high grades. Doing a double major in english and french, french being desirable for teaching in Canada. Ive always been set on education so i can motivate young people and I enjoy the classroom setting despite many issues within the education system that I want to better. But i will definitely keep in mind what you have to say about it!
Go get it brother. Stay blessed.
You´re a real one. Needed that video. Keep it up my G. U got my follow for sure
Try not to reach the point where you regret that you not did something. Better to fail than to think “what if”.
This can relate to everything: approaching a girl, backpacking, working out, creativity etc.
Good advice. Follow it if you still can. Just turned 28 and I fucked up on almost all of these. I remember watching videos like this when I was 23 and didn’t do anything significant with it. Now I’m 28 and terrified. Listen to this man if you’re young/early 20s or even earlier. Once you make a mistake like kids, you’ll wish you had listened.
I was a labor hand for 11months at a pipeline company when i was 19. Im now 20. They never wanted to give me a raise for breaking my back for them saving them over $20k because a gas pipe had a slit in it or because all the stuff I learn how to do.
The more time I put in that job was the more I realized that everyone is competing with each other to show the boss who to give a .50cent to $1 raise to. The bosses were laughing at all of us and using us but I was the only one thinking about my way out.
One day I got a call to go weld and I quit in my boss face at the end of the day. It shocked him, left his face froze. Then within the same month he lost most of his workers besides the ones who were brainwashed thinking they were still getting a raise. All I could do is laugh when I found out.
In all honesty, your videos hit very close to home, almost in an uncanny way. I live in a small italian town, so my environment and social circle is different from your average american viewer, but I must say that this video and your other videos speak to me, I needed someone to point these things out, because no one really talks to me about these matters in real life. Keep up these videos, I love the ones about the traps in the 20s.
The education part hits. I'm not American, but French, and what you say is similar here, probably worst. In France, university/college is somehow free (depending on your parents situation) for everyone, which cause young people to be over-degreed for the job market. I have a master, and in second year I realized all of what you said. I finished my master and decided to not doing a doctorat (PhD) even if my teachers said I was talented enough for it though. I realized I just wanted to be a humble librarian, because I always liked libraries and books, which is still related to what I studied (so this is not that bad !). I enjoyed my studies a lot, being the fun guy of my promo, I had good grades, I was interested in the subjects we studied, and still am, but maybe I'd have chose a different path if I had knew sooner who I am, instead of following what everyone elses do, just to unconsciously fit in.
thanks for sharing brother
I'm 15 and your videos really helped me a lot, thank you
no problem bro. Check out our highschool playlist and join the discord
I'm 27 turning 28 and I can attest to waiting before you go to college. I went too soon and now this late in the game I'm on self help. If you are under 25 or under 20 watching this FOLLOW THE ADVICE NOW!!! I'm old but its not to late and it absolutely works.
wait for school, learn for free and get buff first and save a few stacks... then go to college buff with 30k in your pocket and it'll be WAYYYYYY better dudes.
Bruh, you are 27-28 💀💀💀 mf said he is old 💀
You’re not old bro.
@@xjoseramos3094 i am horridly behind in life lol, changing that though
@@randomdude24525 what do you mean behind bro? I want to know.
@@xjoseramos3094 So, pre rona I was 24 turn 25 around this time, then lockdowns and depression snowballed. I made the mistakes of not caring about anything. I am at this point in my life making 12.50 an hour. I am being rather hard on myself and since past thanks giving I've gone from 400ish to 368 as of today.
advice I can give... do not become a truck driver, holy fuck. back at a security job that lets me have basically free time to learn and do self help stuff.
THE GRINDSET IS FUCKING EVERYTHING
I should also state that this came from me addressing my narcissi tic hurtful entitled bullshit.
Autism, bpd, validation, narcissisms, and trauma is a Lethal mix to ruin myself, honestly outside of me being a flagrant cunt, emotional and fat I didn't fuck up too bad but its not ok lol.
I've never felt abundance. But one thing I did notice is hat when I start running out of money is when I find the motivation to start businesses
Going to say for the first trap about not having children thateven if you do fall into it there is hope just keep persevering and keeping yourself dedicated to your purpose while of course still dealing with what you have to. My father was 19 when I was born I was born in 2002 he now owns his own business where he's going to be opening a second location soon. I work with my father in the business he owns because its my best opportunity to make money and stay debt free and learn from a professional in their field and I'm incredibly lucky in my own opinion. Anyway I just wanted to share a bit and I wish everyone the best.
good inspiration thanks for sharing bro
I'm 21 so this popped up right on time! I appreciate the advice man!
perfect man. Share it with your friends too
Thanks for the video Jack! Glad I found your channel. Keep inspiring and providing men with helpful advice bro!
hell yeah if it helps you share it with your boys
Jack u are helping a lot of young men with this content my brother! U a real one for this 💯 much love G ❤️ ✌🏼
Loving this channel and content on it Jack! Can't be the only one cause couple days ago when I checked this channel it was at half the subs
ROAD TO 100K BABY
The problem I’m facing is letting go of the adventures I’d planned in my youth. I chose to go to college instead of the marine corps when I was 18, and now I’m graduating late and moving into the corporate office world. No matter how much people stress to me that I’m blessed and set for the rest of my life, I can not feel satisfied having never done something like the marine corps to subject me to a bunch of crazy experiences. I have cruised from school to work, but I want to leave it all behind to do something out of the ordinary for once. But I’m scared that at such a pivotal age I will be fucking my future and never able to financially recover
join the corps and try to climb the ranks. You can always save that diploma for later.
I took your other channel less serious. This one is a refreshing perspective. Appreciate the good advice
no problem brother. Username checks out
I got into the 2nd trap. Wasted 9 years in academics. But I'm happy my father was the one who guided me to deviate from a 9 to 5 job. Now I have a small business with a lot of potential, is giving me more interesting options in life and I'm enjoying the freedom that it gives me.(Sure, problems are more but I'm having fun solving them)
Good for you King. Hope the small business keeps doing well.
@@Neithan thank you!
Amazing advice, taking advantage of your 20s is nothing i would've thought of, and instead i planned on moving towards a specific path, but find different paths and avenues in life seens for of an investment
love the new style of videos jack. keep it up. I am looking forward to more of these. 🙏
This was the best introduction to a video I've ever seen ever in any media.
I knew Denmo was Canadian as well when he said “Timmies” hahah
canadian spotted eh
@@Denmosocial Currently in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan eh
I have a B.A and I just wanted to say YES. PREACH. I'm a first generation college kid so we didn't know better, but I'm getting back on track now. Some of these universities and colleges are out right scamming their students and see them as nothing more than money. The fact they offer some degrees without counselors or department saying anything about job prospects is crazy. History and philosophy classes are a joke and will become obsolete. None of my history or philosophy professors had a real job outside of teaching, but 20 year old me didn't question it at the time. This video sends out a great message.
Bro, the matrix is pushing young men to have kids at such a young age... Its shows how fearful they are of our generation. I think our generation is smart, not lazy.
agreed brother. Very dangerous
Imo, i dont think it just necessarily 'the matrix' pushing us to have kids, but mostly our parents cos they had a child at a young age but didn't realise their times was much simpler back then and they were able to afford a house and have lots of kids as denmo also pointed out. We also get compared to our families from when they were in their 20s and say things like, "when i was in my 20s i was already married and had a house and had my first child etc". Which in turn sort puts us young lads under pressure and we end up into a depressing mindset on how we gone wrong. Im kinda going on a rant/tangent didnt mean to go long into it but thats just my 2 cents :)
Usually parents/grandparents push you to have kids because they're bored, or your biological clock will tick around 30, or yeah the govt does want you to pop out a few new consumers/taxpayers for the future.
I downloaded your “comfort” video on phone. So whenever I drove to and from work I listen to it instead of depressing ass music.
Speaking of having a child. My long time friend once said to me he doesn’t regret having is 12 year old daughter however he does understand its drawbacks back. IT’S TIME!!! Time he could’ve spent making all the money he could. Instead he had to double down and get a less than stellar job to owner is child support payment. He got buzzed on booze and once told me he looks up to me. I’m the epitome of what he could’ve been and wanted to be.
That’s when I realize everyone has insecurities even my friend who is good looking, in shape, great personalities and LITERALLY has girls throwing themselves at him.
My problem is I don’t have girls throwing themselves at me. SMDH. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
atta boy thanks for sharing. See you in the discord
Do not go partying every week and getting wasted all the time or just being wasted. This will be detrimental to your health and finances in the long run. Do not smoke also!
agreed its good for socializing in college/university but after that be more selective
True 100%
Bro, im from Poland and really this video speaked to me. God Bless You
bless you brother. Join our discord we got polish guys in there
I will be 18 tomorrow, time to start being an adult. Good video.
Don’t rush one bit “it’s not about the destination, it’s the journey it takes to get there💯
I felt relieved when you brought up education. I dropped out of high school and literally everyone judged me for it but I’d say I’m doing just fine now. I have coworkers that have college degrees but I make more than them because I am their managers and I’m also not in debt. If you’re good at school and interested in it then I think you should be doing it obviously I don’t want to discourage people but if you’re feeling worthless because you dropped out… don’t, because I’m doing just as good as people that have and I didn’t even finish high school
You can also do all those single things with family too. Family gives you reasons to do more things. Also, there's less women to pick from in your 30s. There's also infertility problems for my generation and Gen Z once you pass 30. It's a global problem right now. I had to play devils advocate.
God bless you ❤, From Nigeria 🇳🇬 just graduated 😊
shoutout to my ebo brothers
I'm 41 no kids never married despite having options and several pregnancy scares. I listened to the older men who told me this advice. They said don't get married whatever you do. And because I'm selfish and do not want to spend my time raising a child I chose to better myself. I started my business in my 30's after working for a company in my 20's while going to college to learn my trade. I spent my free time in the gym and sleeping and going out with friends. I had a few long term relationships but they all ended up being not really worth marriage or having kids with. I am so glad I chose to be happy in my solitude before it was too late. Now at 41 I have all my hair not a wrinkle on my face and I'm jacked and make great money. I don't have stress and I have women in their 20's throwing themselves at me. I suggest you all do the same. If you want a family great but I cannot stress enough the importance of waiting until you've lived you life and gained the experience necessary to do so. I traveled the entire country and lived in my truck and in a tent in national parks for a year in 2009. I came back and almost got married but I chose to end things. Sometimes I wonder what would have been but I am glad I made the right decision because I can still have kids any time I want. All I do now is work and workout and spend time with family and friends with the occasional date sprinkled in. I could not be happier. I am here to help young men make the right choice. You do not have t ok get married and settled for a mediocre wife, job or life. Get your shit together first! Then decide. There is no clock ticking
Thank you.
Just curious, what is that you do exactly? Amazing story btw
@@nickmaulfair1088 I'm a craftsman. High end remodeling and historical restoration
Great post Mike. I'm in exactly the same boat as a 41 year old, no kids, self employed, and in good shape. People often mistake me for late 20s or 30 max and they're shocked to find out my real age. Life is good. The only thing I would add is that if you're sure you don't want kids I would highly recommend a vasectomy. Guys like you are a prime target for women hoping to baby trap a guy. I got fixed last year and it was one of the best decisions I've made. The peace of mind it brings is priceless.
@@danielbezjak1479 I don't sleep around or with just any woman I can get. I enjoy my peace and solitude, so I will talk to several women at a time until I find one I like enough to start dating. For me to date a woman she has to be wife material for me.. she has to be someone that would want to have kids with. Anything less is not worth the risk or time. This keeps my dick clean and wallet fat. I have had my fun and don't need sex or women at all. If they didn't make it so easy I would not deal with them at all. So I have the D control and self discipline enough to avoid child support payments. I am not against having kids. Just not yet and not with just anyone. It's has to be easy and right and blessed by God. Until he puts that woman in my life, I am happy with the way things are and I'm excited about the future so I will not be getting snipped. I'm too much of a naturalist anyway. I don't even snip my dogs.. I don't want to take away my reproductive option just because feminism has ruined women
My first time watching one off this guys videos and I already know he’s Canadian, because of the casual mention of Timmys.
haha well spotted
I absolutely disagree especially with number one, being a husband and father by the age of 21 has been the most fulfilling thing I've ever done in my entire life, I still get to the gym 5 days a week and I'm still able to take vacations and do all that I want to do, but it's even better because I get to do it with my wife
You might've been ready though. Most people rush into that stuff without really thinking it through, or even knowing themselves that well. For every person I know that was happy doing exactly what you did, I know 5 that ended up in divorce and having to pay child support to a woman who got married to someone else who has a much better-paying job than them.
I’m 21 right now, and I’ll tell you for a fact my life would be ruined right now if I have a child with my current girlfriend. It will also ruin her life too, who’s the same age as me.
A small of group of people such as you enjoy being a father, but I doubt most people think of the same
@@ladasodaexplains3355 I think you're wrong. Being a parent is not as scary as it seems.
@@piotrszpot3206 it hold you back but still if you want success you will get it. I had my first son at 19 and second at 24 and I'm 31 and make 130k a year self employed. The one good thing about having my son was it forced me to not go to school or party all day. Tbh if I went to school I would of never started my clothing company or started my YT channels which is the reasons I make all the money. Just 3 years ago I was broke af and washing dishes. Turned it all around quick and now since I had kids younger I'm able to do fun things with them and still be 31 while hes 12. My kids imo made me become successful I would of been like every other 31 year old just at some job I hate making no money
You just gained another subscriber, I'm glad that internet exists!
As a 30yr old now, I can tell you he's 100% right. I fell into a few of these traps moderately and have pulled myself out of them for a better future.
I will add that it's not only about salary. You can do hard physical labor year long as a lineman or a electrician bending pipe outside and make 120/160k a year. Think you'll enjoy that when your 45 and tired of 0° weather strong winds (maybe 90° and humid) and back breaking work? Probably not, maybe some. Choose something that is beneficial for your health and your wallet.
Remember, Noone will look out for yourself like you will. You will be wronged many times. Pivot and place yourself in a better position for the future.
good man we can use more guys like you in our Discord
I’m 32 years old and I can tell you this video is 1000% spot on
Damn glad I found your channel at 19, thanks a bunch!!
buddy you are blessed. Share it with your other 19 yr old homies theyll be thankful
19 years old
Soon as you said rocket I knew you were from Canada because that's how my friend talks
this is the way
I’m 24, avoided most of these. But good reminders especially that last one about being aware of time
the last one hits the hardest tbh
I'm 24 as well. Time is the most that hits home
Same. I'm 27. Last month it hit like a tone of bricks that I am literally getting closer to 30. I said wow, I better get my stuff together. 😤
I wasted the past 2 years doing nothing.
But with this realization, I'm now moving in right direction at a quicker pace.
Greets from Germany, Den.
Can confirm all of your points with meanwhile 33, all on point. 👍
For someone who turned 20 recently what do you think is the proper balance between working towards your goals and partying/clubbing? I personally am satisfied with the track that I'm on in terms of career, fitness, relationships, and travelling but am feeling a bit of FOMO in terms of not partying or clubbing as my friend group at the moment isnt really into those things. You think partying and clubbing is something I can put off for a year or two, or should it be something I should be more intentional about doing to avoid fomo. Great videos btw really makes me reflect on what I want to achieve
enjoy the clubbing with your friends too as long as its not interfering with your goals. Youre not gonna be clubbing with your friends when you guys get older
You can definitely enjoy it while you can because when you get older its not going to be as cool and you’re not going to have as much energy. As long as youre staying focused and not letting it interfere with your goals, go have fun
thanks man appreciate it. Share it with your other 20 yr old homies. I'll do a video on that in the future but for now check out my older vids on partying
I didn’t really make the most of it as I didn’t enjoy it early in my 20s. I’m 25 now and sort of regret not making more of it and college in general. But it’s not as if I’m gutted by it
Denmo keep going men
Glad to come across your channel
welcome to the channel ahmed
What should you do about the feeling of abundance? What steps can you take?
The better Hamza, fr this content is actually creative unlike some people that keep reposting the same content over and over to farm views
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I make clothes what about fashion for college
I'm already 31. Damn. Time flies by so quickly.
If I can turn back time. I would have hustled more.
If you are 21-27 years old. Your body is like Son Goku.
In my early 30s I easily get tired now. Even with exercise and working out.
Great advice n real talk for young n older men to take control of your life.
Jack, do you have any tips on getting over a first love and how you would approach dating afterward?
[Two weeks ago]
This girl (22f) and I (23m) had to split after 2 yearsbecause I wasn't ready to make the commitment to moving in with her right after college and we werent willing to do long distance. (Not financially, physically, or emotionally ready, among other things)
I kind of feel like an ass right now since I was essentially the cause of the breakup and she didn't do anything outrightly wrong. Its even worse that be both care about eachother and cant have eachother without dealing with immense challenges.
Now I'm struggling to believe that I can meet someone new that can love me to the same degree that she did, especially now that college is almost over.
Does love really just come and go like that?
that is a question for the discord my man
How long distance are we talking about?
Love definitely can just come and go if you let it. If that is the girl you want to spend your life with. Then you need to figure out how to make it work. If not someone else will come, you just have to put yourself out into the community.
Bro, there are millions of girls out there. millions hotter better
If you think that girl is worth it to you i would take the risk man what do you have to lose you’ll figure it out as you go you can’t figure it out before hand, first love hurts the most and it blinds you a bit
@@CSaenz44 didn't feel like including all the details or it wouldve been an essay. I would have no friends, would've gotten stuck in a career path I didnt want to do, it would be much much harder to save any meaningful amount of money. I would be stuck in my college town in the middle of nowhere for several more years (I really dont want to be here anymore)
I would be sacrificing plans that I had for myself so that she could fulfill all her plans. Most of her friends and her sister will be there for a few more years, she has a really nice job there, and she likes the area alot. I would not be a happy person and that would definitely poison our relationship.
We both agreed that we would rather end things while our love is beautiful rather than keep going with a high chance of things turning really sour. That way, we can still be friends and possibly get back together if our paths realign.
This video is great. This is what the youth needs to hear right now
share it to your friends brother
I really like your intro .. so captivating. 👌 I can imagine the amount of work u put into it .
At 22 I just got hired on as a weatherization trade worker. Plenty of room for improvement through the company over time too. Didn't even need any certifications since they are one of the few companies in the area that train their workers still!