13:58 "You need hardship to grow you" really left an impression on me because I always lament hardship. You are 100% right about my needing a push to get me to do something. 1:11:40 "Things that take others a year take them 10." This is so true for me. This is such a well crafted video. The concept behind using a song to illustrate a trait and then the explanations that you offered were incredible. Thank you so much for the time you invested in researching information and making this video.
9er here. Just learned last week about the enneagram. It has all become clear why I do what I do. Your videos are amazing. Helps that you are a 4. I'm 30 years married to a 4. Now I see why the hell of life has been what it is. Now we are learning to live. Thank you for your videos. I'm waking up!
Sorry for the delay! Been a crazy last few months in the weeds. But I’m so glad you got some thing out of this and that it will help in your relationship as well. What a journey you guys must’ve been on and be on. Keep chipping away my friend. Love that you found this and that it is already doing it’s work on you. Hope you are following my Instagram if you’re on it, @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy Again, sorry for the delay Drew
Best explanation of my 9-self yet! You are helping me to harness my power appropriately and kick butt for justice for myself and the world! Thank you - Thank you‼️
Sorry for the delay. Things have gotten backed up and I’m just getting to a ton of responses. But this is awesome! Glad you are leaning in. And hope you continue to. I’ll keep at it if you keep at it. Hope you are following my Instagram if you’re on it, @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy Thanks again, Drew
Really found this powerful and a very accurate description of the inner workings of a nine. I consider myself a 9w1. I skimmed the enneagram about 20 years ago. Surprise-I didn’t go deep. I’m in the 3rd third of my lifespan now. Time to wake up, dust off the cobwebs and make the most of time I have left. My last notation I made-I do have the fire and grit to go the distance. Many thanks to you 🙏
That is awesome! Keep going in this point in your life, the ego is so much less in control. Which is an awesome part of aging, of course. Thanks for engaging and letting yourself be moved by the content. Drew
Holy schnikies, how did I not find this sooner?!?! This hit home with me on so many levels and I can't thank you enough!! Done in true Type 4 fashion!! 😁
I love when someone breaks out "schnikies" - brings me back. You are so welcome, I loved doing these. So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks again Drew
It is so damn good! I feel the feels each time. More enneagram 9 content coming this week brother. Thanks for watching and get ready for the subtypes 🙌🏼 Drew
that is SO true - I love the environment, and I hate when others are held down & ruled over. I need to listen to that song again! On a larger note, a lot of this info was tough to hear.... I can't imagine where to even begin. Thanks for a thorough picture of the 9 territory Drew. I just found your channel and the videos have been terrific.
@@janea7482 thank you so much my friend. And thanks so much for watching! Glad it helped If interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks again for reaching out Drew
Dear Drew, you ought to have thousands of subscribers - you are such a blessing in the way you work with your knowledge and GREAT SKILLS OF A COMPASSIONATE AND CHALLENGING PSYCHOTHERAPIST! - I have known the Enneagram for almost 2 decades now and was not really sure, which num,ber I was mostly "constituted of" - NOW I finally know ;-)... - thanks so much from Pat :... after 1 and a half hour of listening here, I will listen to the 9 tracks closely the next days
@@drewnewkirk I just now see your very kind feedbyck, Drew. I have decided to watch all your overviews about the 9 types for you really dive deep into ALL TYPES - I also listened to some subtype videos of yours. I have also lsitened to some other ENNEAGRAM experts - YOU, DREW NEWKIRK stand out for your deep and yet "easy" to grasp differentiated, superbly articulated explanations and MOST IMPORTANT your empathetic emotional ways make it much more easier for people to listen attentively to some "hard facts" - thanks again, dear Drew!
I didn't understand why I love most of those songs until you spelled it out for me lol. The one point that moved me the most was selecting my best path forward by deselecting others. I'm not going to feel that strongly towards anything because I am interested in many things.. But not everything deserves my focus and energy as I need to use my gifts wisely. I have a 974 so there's more than just the 9 that is scattered and unrealistic lol. Tysm for investing an hour and a half into this I really benefitted. -9w8 sx/so
Love it! This makes me get a buzz of joy. Definitely go watch my enneagram 4 overview I just put out, think it’ll help you really integrate the tritype 4 in to your system. Also. Just put out a 4&7 combo video that may help with both the 4 and 7 integration. Anyway, enough of me telling you to watch me 😂 Thanks for appreciating the work Drew
Excellent content. Top tier. Kudos on bringing all your strengths to bear on such a pivotal and life-changing area of self-development and understanding
I love this damn statement because on a personal level it is what happened for me. Bringing my strengths and passions to bear towards teaching Thanks for affirming and seeing that Q
Having discovered myself as a type 9 recently, I heard "Once in a Lifetime" and thought it resonated with me. I was even thinking of it before you listed it as one of the songs, so I was pleased to see you mentioning it! Also, if you're into fantasy/horror, Clive Barker wrote a novel called "Weaveworld", which has a very type 9 moment in it. I don't want to spoil it, but it's definitely worth reading or listening to if you haven't read it.
Hello Drew❤ Karolina 9w8 here. I am very thankfull for this big chunky informative video. So much enlightening for me, and all resonates with me. I am glad and gratefull, that before knowing of enneagram I was working on my growth, so I it is not the worst with me😅. But this, is like taking away the fog from my glasses. Thank you Thank you Thank you 🎉🎉🎉
Its a joy to do these Karolina... So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks again Drew
Great video. Nines, enjoy your power that you have, Don't be small be big be proud. you can really make a big difference in a lot of people's lives By helping them see the truth With your empathy and Compassion And your ability To see things in different perspectives And all sides. You can't help everyone and not everyone wants to be helped. You may piss some people off but if you help that person it's worth it , even if they , never talk to you again. A covert narcissist really changed my life and believe it or not. Made me a stronger person. I learned not to take everybody at face value, Took up boxing,weight. Lifting eating healthy really helped of my self-esteem. And I I'm a little cocky now but that's OK I needed it. Right now I'm even debating religious facts with my super religious co-worker. Who's a enneagram 1, istj. We're actually friends, but boy, can we both be stubborn? LOL.. But it's good that's what you need nines
Thanks for watching my friend! If any little tidbits came through that’s awesome with all the time you’ve been in it already. Hope something helped. Hope you are following my Instagram if you’re on it, @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy Drew
Hi. 🙋🏻♀️ This was fantastic! I love all the analogies. And your series on the 9 subtypes was awesome too. I’m married to a 7 and am looking forward to that series as well.
My goal is to gain gratitude and joy being a nine. Also, to be I hope open to having a relation while being satisfied being single. I want to be a positive happy person. It's rather challenging but I am trying. Thank you for the video.
That is a great "hope" right there! Keep going... So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks again Drew
I've been thinking about which enneagram number I am and I thought probably 9. This video resonates alot! I am particularly fond of music too so perfect for me.
I’ve been so behind on responding to TH-cam messages, my apologies 🙏🏼 I’m working on a book this year and fully immersed. Thanks for watching and definitely connecting to the music aspect, I’m always trying to squeeze music in wherever I can 😉 If you’re interested in being on my mailing list drop your email on instagram @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy or drew@drewnewkirk.com hopefully I’ll continue to create some cool stuff to share
Thanks Stacy. I’ll be doing every number and all their subtypes. Might take me until spring to get to the 3’s but I’m already preparing diligently. 8’s are next but slowly and surely 3’s are going to be done and I’m really excited about them. Drew
oooh my....! Right timing - thank you. Good songs. Also I'm intresting to hear more details about when nines moving towards three (and six). ("Dispatch - Out Loud " i see it as a nine song..)
I did add some of the 6 & 3 movement content right? Just not enough 😉 Maybe I’ll circle back soon and put one out on that trio. Thanks for appreciating it - love a right timing sitch Drew
@@drewnewkirk oh yes please. I think that for the nine because it's so into resonate with all the other types , narrow the path a little is helpfull. I have parents that are both 4 (my guess) and i was seeing my self as a four... i m stil trying to conclude to my enneagram and funny thing, my first guess was 9...Any way sorry for mabling. Happy to see more content from you.
Wow. Really excellent and impressive, Drew. Thanks much. I guess all things in their own time, but man, what I would have given to have taken this information in many years ago. Ha! Or even a month ago, given that I sold my home of 43 years and have taken far longer than most people would have to vacate, because .. well, you nailed many of the reasons 😉😝😬😂 Thank you again.
Ugh. At least it sold. So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks again Drew
Not sure of my enneagram number. I just can’t understand why people aren’t so respectful and considerate towards others like in a default setting 😀! Do to others what you would like others do to you. So simple… That’s why it’s easier to say “fuck you” without saying it to people’s faces. It saves me a lot of energy, it gives me power… and it feels pretty good because since I am not doing what you want anymore, NOW “you” have to SEE me!
This process can definitely be a pain in the ass to nail down - hang in there and enjoy playing in the playground! I appreciate your struggle Thanks for watching! If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Either way, appreciate you popping in 😉 Drew
Omg same! For so long I thought I was a 4w5, but now the 9w1 seems to describe me better. I think a difference that made me lean to the 9 more was asking myself if I tend to dwell in melancholy (a characteristic of a 4), and I do kinda but not for too long. I tend to want to move away from negative emotions after a while and distract distract distract, which is NOT what a 4 does. Hope that helps a little! Just be really honest with yourself.
thank you for this! Not all western religions got it wrong Matthew 10:39 39 He that findeth his life shall lose it; and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.
I’ve been so behind on responding to TH-cam messages, my apologies 🙏🏼 I’m working on a book this year and fully immersed. Yet, Christianity in its birth is not a western religion, it’s very eastern and that specific verse definitely hits the mark. I love that one, good choice. On that front, I’d say it’s not the religion but the religious (a portion) that get it wrong, eastern and western 😉 If you’re interested in being on my mailing list drop your email on instagram @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy or drew@drewnewkirk.com hopefully I’ll continue to create some cool stuff to share
Have you ever seen a 9 who was struggling with derealization? Like feeling like they're almost in a dreamlike state, not totally present. That's something I've been struggling with constantly for some years now and it seemed to totally come out of the blue and I've been wracking my brain trying to figure out where it came from so I can hopefully overcome it. And lately I've been listening to a lot of enneagram stuff and I keep hearing mentions of 9s experiencing disassociation, so I'm really curious if you've seen that before or if you have any insight at all into that. Thanks!
I’ve been so behind on responding to TH-cam messages, my apologies 🙏🏼 I’m working on a book this year and fully immersed. As for the dissociation, definitely see it. It’s like a 9 is in a fog and not with us for a bit. With close friends and clients I’ll give them this feedback and often recommend a deep meditation practice where they lock in to being present, they may need to cater it to them as a nine specifically, so maybe some traditional meditations don’t work so you’d have to be creative. Hope that helps. If you’re interested in being on my mailing list drop your email on instagram @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy or drew@drewnewkirk.com hopefully I’ll continue to create some cool stuff to share
9 here. Let me be blunt, I am having a hard time understanding what you are saying. It reminds me of trying to explain computer science to someone who only knows how to check their email.
No doubt Johna. Sometimes the message isn’t easy to deliver either 😂 But worth hearing so we can get at the cracks and crevices. Enjoy the ride and let those feels be felt. Thanks for watching Drew
It is on my list for sure I’ve got to get all the numbers and subtypes done first which takes a ton of time But it is definitely on my radar for future attack 😂 Drew
Awesome, my request is a bit for selfish reasons. ! I find people have a difficult time understanding my 9w8 , very SX instinct personality. Would love to hear your take on 9w8. Your content is both informative and entertaining. Great communication style which kept me on your every word . Do u ever plan on talking about the instinctual variant stackings ? (Sx/so so/sx etc) Keep up the amazing work
@@bradbohn1956 as a person with a best friend who’s a 9w8 I wouldn’t mind understanding it better myself. Complicated lot you guys are 😂 As for the variant stacks, it’s not as much on my radar as I think it’s very in the weeds, which I like, but haven’t built my foundation on TH-cam for me to go there yet. If I keep at it though I’m sure I’ll get to it, how many years from now though 🤷♂️
@@drewnewkirk your work is so relevant! I was especially thrilled u did a 4s and 9s videos. Both of my long term relationships were with 4w3s (one 7 year and one 3 year) Thanks again for your heartfelt, emotionally intelligent videos! Much needed in the sometimes dry (imo) Enneagram community.
Oh good, he's gonna turn his guns off of SP 4s and instead try to help me get my hands around the problem that is my teenage kid. Nice to be out of the line of fire for a bit.
This is all the things 😂 You are officially given reprieve my friend…. Till about 5-10 hours when I drop the video on the 4’s and 9’s in relationships and set the crosshairs on both you and your son 👊🏼 Prepare with a good breakfast and some meditation Drew
@@drewnewkirk Any help at this point. I've always been a go get it kind of guy. Stand on your own. Be of service. Good isn't something you are, it's something you do. That girl will waste her life in her bedroom if I let her. I'm at a loss here...
@@user-yc1vi7pu6w ugh. I hear you. I’ve been at this a long time and have worked with many teens. But often, guns again, I end up working with the parents instead as it is difficult to watch something you don’t have as much control/ability to change as you’d like. It’s a very entrapping experience for sure.
13:58 "You need hardship to grow you" really left an impression on me because I always lament hardship. You are 100% right about my needing a push to get me to do something.
1:11:40 "Things that take others a year take them 10." This is so true for me.
This is such a well crafted video. The concept behind using a song to illustrate a trait and then the explanations that you offered were incredible. Thank you so much for the time you invested in researching information and making this video.
9er here. Just learned last week about the enneagram. It has all become clear why I do what I do. Your videos are amazing. Helps that you are a 4. I'm 30 years married to a 4. Now I see why the hell of life has been what it is. Now we are learning to live. Thank you for your videos. I'm waking up!
Sorry for the delay! Been a crazy last few months in the weeds. But I’m so glad you got some thing out of this and that it will help in your relationship as well. What a journey you guys must’ve been on and be on. Keep chipping away my friend. Love that you found this and that it is already doing it’s work on you. Hope you are following my Instagram if you’re on it, @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy
Again, sorry for the delay
Drew
@@drewnewkirk 💙💙💙
The character George in "It's a wonderful life" goes on a journey a type 9 can relate to
Wow, George has such nine energy now that I think about it. Reminds me of a couple friends, I know. Well played!
Drew
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Best explanation of my 9-self yet! You are helping me to harness my power appropriately and kick butt for justice for myself and the world! Thank you - Thank you‼️
Sorry for the delay. Things have gotten backed up and I’m just getting to a ton of responses. But this is awesome! Glad you are leaning in. And hope you continue to. I’ll keep at it if you keep at it. Hope you are following my Instagram if you’re on it, @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy
Thanks again,
Drew
Really found this powerful and a very accurate description of the inner workings of a nine. I consider myself a 9w1. I skimmed the enneagram about 20 years ago. Surprise-I didn’t go deep. I’m in the 3rd third of my lifespan now. Time to wake up, dust off the cobwebs and make the most of time I have left. My last notation I made-I do have the fire and grit to go the distance. Many thanks to you 🙏
That is awesome! Keep going in this point in your life, the ego is so much less in control. Which is an awesome part of aging, of course. Thanks for engaging and letting yourself be moved by the content.
Drew
Holy schnikies, how did I not find this sooner?!?! This hit home with me on so many levels and I can't thank you enough!! Done in true Type 4 fashion!! 😁
I love when someone breaks out "schnikies" - brings me back. You are so welcome, I loved doing these.
So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks again
Drew
9 here. I already loved a good chunk of these songs but the live version of Enjoy the silence got me moving!!! Great video! Thanks man.
It is so damn good! I feel the feels each time. More enneagram 9 content coming this week brother. Thanks for watching and get ready for the subtypes 🙌🏼
Drew
that is SO true - I love the environment, and I hate when others are held down & ruled over. I need to listen to that song again! On a larger note, a lot of this info was tough to hear.... I can't imagine where to even begin. Thanks for a thorough picture of the 9 territory Drew. I just found your channel and the videos have been terrific.
@@janea7482 thank you so much my friend. And thanks so much for watching! Glad it helped
If interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks again for reaching out
Drew
Dear Drew, you ought to have thousands of subscribers - you are such a blessing in the way you work with your knowledge and GREAT SKILLS OF A COMPASSIONATE AND CHALLENGING PSYCHOTHERAPIST! - I have known the Enneagram for almost 2 decades now and was not really sure, which num,ber I was mostly "constituted of" - NOW I finally know ;-)... - thanks so much from Pat :... after 1 and a half hour of listening here, I will listen to the 9 tracks closely the next days
Amazing. Unfortunately getting viewers on TH-cam isn’t easy but your affirmation really helps me keep inspired
Really appreciate it
Drew
@@drewnewkirk I just now see your very kind feedbyck, Drew. I have decided to watch all your overviews about the 9 types for you really dive deep into ALL TYPES - I also listened to some subtype videos of yours. I have also lsitened to some other ENNEAGRAM experts - YOU, DREW NEWKIRK stand out for your deep and yet "easy" to grasp differentiated, superbly articulated explanations and MOST IMPORTANT your empathetic emotional ways make it much more easier for people to listen attentively to some "hard facts" - thanks again, dear Drew!
@@budgiespat7883 oh wow! This is really humbling to read. I appreciate you my friend. Thanks for sharing that, it keeps me inspired
I didn't understand why I love most of those songs until you spelled it out for me lol. The one point that moved me the most was selecting my best path forward by deselecting others. I'm not going to feel that strongly towards anything because I am interested in many things.. But not everything deserves my focus and energy as I need to use my gifts wisely. I have a 974 so there's more than just the 9 that is scattered and unrealistic lol. Tysm for investing an hour and a half into this I really benefitted.
-9w8 sx/so
Love it! This makes me get a buzz of joy. Definitely go watch my enneagram 4 overview I just put out, think it’ll help you really integrate the tritype 4 in to your system. Also. Just put out a 4&7 combo video that may help with both the 4 and 7 integration. Anyway, enough of me telling you to watch me 😂
Thanks for appreciating the work
Drew
Excellent content. Top tier. Kudos on bringing all your strengths to bear on such a pivotal and life-changing area of self-development and understanding
I love this damn statement because on a personal level it is what happened for me. Bringing my strengths and passions to bear towards teaching
Thanks for affirming and seeing that Q
Im a 9. Thank you so much for doing this. You see us. ❤
Having discovered myself as a type 9 recently, I heard "Once in a Lifetime" and thought it resonated with me. I was even thinking of it before you listed it as one of the songs, so I was pleased to see you mentioning it!
Also, if you're into fantasy/horror, Clive Barker wrote a novel called "Weaveworld", which has a very type 9 moment in it. I don't want to spoil it, but it's definitely worth reading or listening to if you haven't read it.
“Weaveworld” is such a good title
Soooo 9
Hello Drew❤ Karolina 9w8 here. I am very thankfull for this big chunky informative video. So much enlightening for me, and all resonates with me.
I am glad and gratefull, that before knowing of enneagram I was working on my growth, so I it is not the worst with me😅.
But this, is like taking away the fog from my glasses.
Thank you Thank you Thank you
🎉🎉🎉
Its a joy to do these Karolina... So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks again
Drew
Great video. Nines, enjoy your power that you have, Don't be small be big be proud. you can really make a big difference in a lot of people's lives By helping them see the truth With your empathy and Compassion
And your ability To see things in different perspectives And all sides. You can't help everyone and not everyone wants to be helped. You may piss some people off but if you help that person it's worth it , even if they , never talk to you again. A covert narcissist really changed my life and believe it or not. Made me a stronger person.
I learned not to take everybody at face value, Took up boxing,weight. Lifting eating healthy really helped of my self-esteem. And I I'm a little cocky now but that's OK I needed it. Right now I'm even debating religious facts with my super religious co-worker. Who's a enneagram 1, istj. We're actually friends, but boy, can we both be stubborn?
LOL.. But it's good that's what you need nines
I feel personally attacked... er, I mean, uh, seen... I feel seen.
Ha! Great response
You’ve been had 😂
Great video. Have been studying the Enneagram for a while now but there’s always more to learn.
Thanks for watching my friend! If any little tidbits came through that’s awesome with all the time you’ve been in it already. Hope something helped. Hope you are following my Instagram if you’re on it, @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy
Drew
Hi. 🙋🏻♀️ This was fantastic! I love all the analogies. And your series on the 9 subtypes was awesome too. I’m married to a 7 and am looking forward to that series as well.
Thank you so much! I’m almost finished with 7’s and should be filming them this weekend. Stand tight, I’m coming for that 7 in your life 😉
Drew
My goal is to gain gratitude and joy being a nine. Also, to be I hope open to having a relation while being satisfied being single. I want to be a positive happy person. It's rather challenging but I am trying. Thank you for the video.
That is a great "hope" right there! Keep going... So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks again
Drew
This is so informative and I'm really enjoying the integration of legendary and timeless music in your videos, Drew..
It was hard to choose. So many worked 🤯
@@drewnewkirk I can imagine! My vote goes to DM Enjoy the Silence in Berlin, too!
I've been thinking about which enneagram number I am and I thought probably 9. This video resonates alot! I am particularly fond of music too so perfect for me.
I’ve been so behind on responding to TH-cam messages, my apologies 🙏🏼
I’m working on a book this year and fully immersed.
Thanks for watching and definitely connecting to the music aspect, I’m always trying to squeeze music in wherever I can 😉
If you’re interested in being on my mailing list drop your email on instagram @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy or drew@drewnewkirk.com hopefully I’ll continue to create some cool stuff to share
Drew, I am learning so many nuances. Thank you so much!! Are you a 4w3 or 4w5? I've heard you say both, i think.
I love studying the 9's, as a 4.
4w3. SX, SP, SC
I hope you do the 3 enneagram and wings eventually too. Liking your videos.
Thanks Stacy. I’ll be doing every number and all their subtypes. Might take me until spring to get to the 3’s but I’m already preparing diligently. 8’s are next but slowly and surely 3’s are going to be done and I’m really excited about them.
Drew
As a nine i did grow up with an unhealthy and overwhelming 8, it was.. too much.
Recovery is a chore and a joy my friend…
The Notorious B.I.G - Juicy
oooh my....! Right timing - thank you. Good songs.
Also I'm intresting to hear more details about when nines moving towards three (and six).
("Dispatch - Out Loud " i see it as a nine song..)
I did add some of the 6 & 3 movement content right? Just not enough 😉 Maybe I’ll circle back soon and put one out on that trio. Thanks for appreciating it - love a right timing sitch
Drew
@@drewnewkirk oh yes please. I think that for the nine because it's so into resonate with all the other types , narrow the path a little is helpfull. I have parents that are both 4 (my guess) and i was seeing my self as a four... i m stil trying to conclude to my enneagram and funny thing, my first guess was 9...Any way sorry for mabling. Happy to see more content from you.
@@vanodnak no worries. Totally understand. I’ll be putting out something today that I think will maybe help a tiny bit
yoh I can't wait for that 3rd video on 4s and 9s
They’ll mostly be on 9’s with a very small taste of 4. They’ll be the enneagram 9 subtypes
@@drewnewkirk my gf is a 9 and I is a 4 so all and any insight is appreciated 😂 can always work on being a better partner.
@@nitishsingh993 always my friend
Always!
Wow. Really excellent and impressive, Drew. Thanks much. I guess all things in their own time, but man, what I would have given to have taken this information in many years ago. Ha! Or even a month ago, given that I sold my home of 43 years and have taken far longer than most people would have to vacate, because .. well, you nailed many of the reasons 😉😝😬😂 Thank you again.
Ugh. At least it sold. So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks again
Drew
Not sure of my enneagram number. I just can’t understand why people aren’t so respectful and considerate towards others like in a default setting 😀! Do to others what you would like others do to you. So simple…
That’s why it’s easier to say “fuck you” without saying it to people’s faces. It saves me a lot of energy, it gives me power… and it feels pretty good because since I am not doing what you want anymore, NOW “you” have to SEE me!
Good processing. Now the hard work of being more assertive starts 😳😉
im either a 9w1 sx or a 4w5 so. i relate to both and have gotten both results on the tests lol
This process can definitely be a pain in the ass to nail down - hang in there and enjoy playing in the playground! I appreciate your struggle
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Drew
Omg same! For so long I thought I was a 4w5, but now the 9w1 seems to describe me better. I think a difference that made me lean to the 9 more was asking myself if I tend to dwell in melancholy (a characteristic of a 4), and I do kinda but not for too long. I tend to want to move away from negative emotions after a while and distract distract distract, which is NOT what a 4 does. Hope that helps a little! Just be really honest with yourself.
thank you for this!
Not all western religions got it wrong
Matthew 10:39
39 He that findeth his life shall lose it; and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.
I’ve been so behind on responding to TH-cam messages, my apologies 🙏🏼
I’m working on a book this year and fully immersed.
Yet, Christianity in its birth is not a western religion, it’s very eastern and that specific verse definitely hits the mark. I love that one, good choice. On that front, I’d say it’s not the religion but the religious (a portion) that get it wrong, eastern and western 😉
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Have you ever seen a 9 who was struggling with derealization? Like feeling like they're almost in a dreamlike state, not totally present. That's something I've been struggling with constantly for some years now and it seemed to totally come out of the blue and I've been wracking my brain trying to figure out where it came from so I can hopefully overcome it. And lately I've been listening to a lot of enneagram stuff and I keep hearing mentions of 9s experiencing disassociation, so I'm really curious if you've seen that before or if you have any insight at all into that. Thanks!
I’ve been so behind on responding to TH-cam messages, my apologies 🙏🏼
I’m working on a book this year and fully immersed.
As for the dissociation, definitely see it. It’s like a 9 is in a fog and not with us for a bit. With close friends and clients I’ll give them this feedback and often recommend a deep meditation practice where they lock in to being present, they may need to cater it to them as a nine specifically, so maybe some traditional meditations don’t work so you’d have to be creative. Hope that helps.
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Amazing !
9 here. Let me be blunt, I am having a hard time understanding what you are saying. It reminds me of trying to explain computer science to someone who only knows how to check their email.
I like you. Its an unconscious thing. You seem caring. You are enneagram 4, do you know your mbti? What are your thoughts? Thanks again!!
Hey cool. I'm a 4 w 3 and my husband is a 9 w 8 or 1 ?. What a challenge! Think this will help. Thanks.
More coming your way today to help Karin!
Drew
That was a little difficult to hear, especially the part about withholding honesty, i got emotional. But amazing job truly. Thank you.
No doubt Johna. Sometimes the message isn’t easy to deliver either 😂 But worth hearing so we can get at the cracks and crevices. Enjoy the ride and let those feels be felt.
Thanks for watching
Drew
Can you do a 9w8 video ? 😁
It is on my list for sure
I’ve got to get all the numbers and subtypes done first which takes a ton of time
But it is definitely on my radar for future attack 😂
Drew
Awesome, my request is a bit for selfish reasons.
! I find people have a difficult time understanding my 9w8 , very SX instinct personality. Would love to hear your take on 9w8.
Your content is both informative and entertaining. Great communication style which kept me on your every word .
Do u ever plan on talking about the instinctual variant stackings ? (Sx/so so/sx etc)
Keep up the amazing work
@@bradbohn1956 as a person with a best friend who’s a 9w8 I wouldn’t mind understanding it better myself. Complicated lot you guys are 😂
As for the variant stacks, it’s not as much on my radar as I think it’s very in the weeds, which I like, but haven’t built my foundation on TH-cam for me to go there yet. If I keep at it though I’m sure I’ll get to it, how many years from now though 🤷♂️
@@drewnewkirk your work is so relevant!
I was especially thrilled u did a 4s and 9s videos. Both of my long term relationships were with 4w3s (one 7 year and one 3 year)
Thanks again for your heartfelt, emotionally intelligent videos! Much needed in the sometimes dry (imo) Enneagram community.
@@bradbohn1956 trying to make the enneagram sexy Brad! It isn’t boring and shouldn’t be delivered as such.
Oh good, he's gonna turn his guns off of SP 4s and instead try to help me get my hands around the problem that is my teenage kid. Nice to be out of the line of fire for a bit.
This is all the things 😂 You are officially given reprieve my friend…. Till about 5-10 hours when I drop the video on the 4’s and 9’s in relationships and set the crosshairs on both you and your son 👊🏼
Prepare with a good breakfast and some meditation
Drew
@@drewnewkirk Any help at this point. I've always been a go get it kind of guy. Stand on your own. Be of service. Good isn't something you are, it's something you do. That girl will waste her life in her bedroom if I let her. I'm at a loss here...
@@user-yc1vi7pu6w ugh. I hear you. I’ve been at this a long time and have worked with many teens. But often, guns again, I end up working with the parents instead as it is difficult to watch something you don’t have as much control/ability to change as you’d like. It’s a very entrapping experience for sure.
@@drewnewkirk Well I appreciate your work brother. It has meant a lot to me.
@@user-yc1vi7pu6w I’ll keep at it. Hopefully there will be more tools in it for you 👊🏼 Thanks for being on the ride!