9:22 REALLY loved your comment about being unable to stand trite advice/comments, etc. I’m very sensitive to toxic positivity. Get outta here with your Good Vibes Only. 😂 Currently such an unhealthy 1w9 sx/sp that I mistyped as a 4. Finally figured it out but was looking for more explanation how the lines in health work between them because I was in my early 40s before I had any clue I’m creative. That’s also when I started melting down and gave up a lot of my usual “standards”. Coincidence? I think not.
actually being a therapist is a conjunction of both stress and heart points , you help people and do it right and i think there is no greater call than this for fours
I think the hardest part of my relationships with 1s as a 4 is that I don’t feel like they actually ever understand me but instead assume or judge too quickly that I am “insert whatever scary not safe ideology they disagree with”. So then I feel unsafe because they obviously are seeing me as an object that can be judged and not as a human that deserves grace over time as I consider and change my views based on people’s arguments and persuasions or am allowed to not change based on my own self identifications and loves that make me, me.
Totally understand that. But, that me frame this differently for a second. Imagine a bit healthier 1, yes a tad judgmental at times but just generally not overly interested in the uniqueness of you. This 1 can provide us a great positive constraint as we find security in who we are regardless of what others think. Ultimately you’ll have to feel safe enough with people because you believe in yourself and a 1 can be good at not indulging our emotions and need to be seen - thus allowing us to rely on our own security and strength of self. Anyway, long is the journey to health and security. I’m on the path with you
Hey Drew! You said exactly where in at in my journey. I seem to be in a constant battle of logical thinking and spiritual feeling of how to achieve my goals, and its left me in a "paralyzing point", but I'm continuing to watch your videos on 4s and continuing to learn more!
Keep grinding Chris. This video was great to do as that ability to blend these two numbers is crucial for both types. Glad you got something out of it 🙌🏼 Drew
''We have to find grace for ourselves!''🥺 This video was so encouraging, comforting, informative and helpful!! Thank you🙇♂ so much for your generosity in sharing all these precious wisdom, insight, information with us~! So so grateful🙌 to come across your channel!!🤩
The best talk ever on the Inner Critic. My friends are always telling me to “get out of my head” and my husband was always telling me “Don’t make room in your head for that (negative) stuff and don’t take things personally. I also find it hard to relax. Learning to “let go” is difficult but your talks integrating the enneagram with your wisdom have lifted my spirits. Having hit a Plateau of sorts, I especially appreciate the advice to integrate a bit of 7. As Nina Gordon says in Tonight and the Rest of My Life, “heavy wings can’t fly.” You hit everything spot on and some words, like grandiose really hit home; definitely to be mindful when it arises. Lastly, thanks for sharing Switzerland with us. Absolutely stunning. Enjoy!
Always rosemary, I appreciate doing these and getting to hear how the processing plays out for people. Love that quote, used it with a client today 😉 Drew
Really enjoying your videos! I’ve usually typed as a 4w5 but at times I wonder if I’m a 1 who has never accepted it and is really just a “wanna-be 4”. I’ve known a lot of 1s personally that I enjoy being around. However, with that said, I have at times had occasional frustrations with certain 1 qualities and I’m not sure if I am in denial of those qualities in myself or if I really am a 4 and feeling the frustration because of the natural differences between these two types that must be bridged. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!
Why are 1s considered more in harmony when they lean into their 1s but less healthy when they lean into their 4s and why are 4s considered more healthy as they lean into 1s and less healthy when they lean into 4. Are we attributing certain numbered personality types to be inherently less healthy?
I’d watch the video I did on the sexual 4’s and the video I just put out on the 8’s and 4’s comparisons, I try to come from the SX perspective on that video as well. Also, it’s good to watch those videos so you can integrate the SX part in to your system. We should always be investigating all 3 subtypes to be balanced Drew
9:22 REALLY loved your comment about being unable to stand trite advice/comments, etc. I’m very sensitive to toxic positivity. Get outta here with your Good Vibes Only. 😂 Currently such an unhealthy 1w9 sx/sp that I mistyped as a 4. Finally figured it out but was looking for more explanation how the lines in health work between them because I was in my early 40s before I had any clue I’m creative. That’s also when I started melting down and gave up a lot of my usual “standards”. Coincidence? I think not.
You melted UP amber 😉
actually being a therapist is a conjunction of both stress and heart points , you help people and do it right and i think there is no greater call than this for fours
Damn! I’ll take it. Thanks for the affirmation and I appreciate you engaging
Drew
I think the hardest part of my relationships with 1s as a 4 is that I don’t feel like they actually ever understand me but instead assume or judge too quickly that I am “insert whatever scary not safe ideology they disagree with”. So then I feel unsafe because they obviously are seeing me as an object that can be judged and not as a human that deserves grace over time as I consider and change my views based on people’s arguments and persuasions or am allowed to not change based on my own self identifications and loves that make me, me.
Totally understand that. But, that me frame this differently for a second. Imagine a bit healthier 1, yes a tad judgmental at times but just generally not overly interested in the uniqueness of you. This 1 can provide us a great positive constraint as we find security in who we are regardless of what others think. Ultimately you’ll have to feel safe enough with people because you believe in yourself and a 1 can be good at not indulging our emotions and need to be seen - thus allowing us to rely on our own security and strength of self. Anyway, long is the journey to health and security. I’m on the path with you
Hey Drew! You said exactly where in at in my journey. I seem to be in a constant battle of logical thinking and spiritual feeling of how to achieve my goals, and its left me in a "paralyzing point", but I'm continuing to watch your videos on 4s and continuing to learn more!
Keep grinding Chris. This video was great to do as that ability to blend these two numbers is crucial for both types. Glad you got something out of it 🙌🏼
Drew
Just what the doctor ordered for my wife and I. Thanks Drew, great channel!
No problem. Love when couples get something out of these together. Thanks for thanking me 😉
Drew
''We have to find grace for ourselves!''🥺 This video was so encouraging, comforting, informative and helpful!! Thank you🙇♂ so much for your generosity in sharing all these precious wisdom, insight, information with us~! So so grateful🙌 to come across your channel!!🤩
Thanks for watching and engaging with the content! Stay tuned for more
The best talk ever on the Inner Critic. My friends are always telling me to “get out of my head” and my husband was always telling me “Don’t make room in your head for that (negative) stuff and don’t take things personally. I also find it hard to relax. Learning to “let go” is difficult but your talks integrating the enneagram with your wisdom have lifted my spirits. Having hit a Plateau of sorts, I especially appreciate the advice to integrate a bit of 7. As Nina Gordon says in Tonight and the Rest of My Life, “heavy wings can’t fly.” You hit everything spot on and some words, like grandiose really hit home; definitely to be mindful when it arises. Lastly, thanks for sharing Switzerland with us. Absolutely stunning. Enjoy!
Always rosemary, I appreciate doing these and getting to hear how the processing plays out for people. Love that quote, used it with a client today 😉
Drew
Love this!! Keep em coming Drew!
You know it Ricardo! Ain’t gonna stop now
Keep watching and I’ll keep thinking and delivering
Drew
I’m so glad I found this! Thank you for explaining this so well.
No problem, it was my joy to do
Really enjoying your videos! I’ve usually typed as a 4w5 but at times I wonder if I’m a 1 who has never accepted it and is really just a “wanna-be 4”. I’ve known a lot of 1s personally that I enjoy being around. However, with that said, I have at times had occasional frustrations with certain 1 qualities and I’m not sure if I am in denial of those qualities in myself or if I really am a 4 and feeling the frustration because of the natural differences between these two types that must be bridged. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!
After this video, I think I need better friends 😂The kind that let me borrow their Switzerland pad❤️
Super hard having generous, holiday-house having, smart and kind friends who give these kind of gifts. I’d pass 😂
@@drewnewkirk I guess you're on the positive side of the 4, because the dark side would think they don't deserve such things👏
@@allisona9490 I’m pretty adamant about getting more and deserving it 🤷♂️
Lots of therapy
I almost want a tattoo after watching this video!
Liar!
Help from a fellow 4 in Sydney Australia
Cool.
Why are 1s considered more in harmony when they lean into their 1s but less healthy when they lean into their 4s and why are 4s considered more healthy as they lean into 1s and less healthy when they lean into 4. Are we attributing certain numbered personality types to be inherently less healthy?
Drew what is sx instinct for you have been i think i never met or felt i met any 4s in my life , like what is the vibe , im a self persevere 4
I’d watch the video I did on the sexual 4’s and the video I just put out on the 8’s and 4’s comparisons, I try to come from the SX perspective on that video as well. Also, it’s good to watch those videos so you can integrate the SX part in to your system. We should always be investigating all 3 subtypes to be balanced
Drew
Irrational inner critic
1 to loosen up
Overidentify with personal view
Emotion as a tool
Less access to emotion