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I am a terrible snob with entertainment, music, content etc. I also have the cold-blooded side, the venom and the acid tongue, when people wrong me, perceived or real.

Type 9 here, not really winged I oscillate between defiance and compliance. I find myself this Saturday morning binge-watching your videos. Thank you so much for your loving insight and advice. This subtype fits me to a T. From my perspective, it is hard to find what is meaningful when the general feeling is that life has no meaning! I have spent over the past year looking inward and all I see is darkness, the void, emptiness. Will that change? Who knows... I do this meditation to empty thoughts from my mind because I am annoyed with my tendency to play out future impossible worst case scenarios in my head (6 ?) or replaying past hurts in my head and negative thoughts to those who betrayed me in the past.

For the longest time I thought I was a five because they like solitude and want to preserve their energy. The SP type sounds a lot like that. What changed my mind was my aversion to conflict which fives don't seem to be afraid of. Thank you for this enlightening information.

What an awesome video! Insightful, caring, gentle guidance...LOVED IT! Thanks so much, friend :)

How is Drew doing?

I'm 34 min in: finding delight in anger??? As a One!? If only you talked the same about envy for Fours. Like someone else said. You don't know what kind of demons you're stirring. Just because "anger" sounds like a sexier sin than "envy" it doesn't mean it really is: for Ones is JUST as damaging as envy is for Fours. Please consider this.

I think the example of a tantrum over a fallen hotdog might be more sx. They're the "shameless" subtype, more expressive and at times aggressive in their expression. Social instinct of Any type is more keenly aware of social dynamics, and where shame comes in with type 4 I think social four would not want to embarrass themselves, which is why I think they're one of the subtypes that expresses intense emotions and thoughts through the intermediary of art most often, it's socially minded and has greatest shame about what others perceive among the fours

I had wild experience with sx 8 woman,she just stumbled upon me and was intensely aroused,acting strategicly and dominant but somewhat softly to not scare its prey(me)😅😅A dangerously intense huntes.

Amazing !

I laughed so hard listening to this, but I agree with you.

You're a social 9

This is one of the most accurate descriptions I’ve heard on my type. 😅. I feel like I do pretty well at the “not give to get”, but I’m definitely more motivated to give so I won’t feel bad or out of obligation to help. I had a manipulative and subtly controlling 8 w 7 dad and our relationship operated this way. Oh I’m self-pres by the way.

Brand new… I have been studying anagram for over 20 years and just picking it back up again. The way that you language things is brilliant… Thank you!

Im 1w9 sx/sp

Thank you for this information

skipadahooo!!!! sp?: 🤣

Your enneagram videos, and in particular these ones on the subtypes, are just fantastic. So many descriptions that are right on target for me as a social 9. And I really like that you emphasise to take part of the other subtype videos for 9s.

Awesome Drew! Keep creating. Here to remind you that it will be worth it. Keep writing on your path through life and remind yourself of why you are doing it. So looking forward to read when you are done. Go for that finish line and stretch out for that emotional depth and closure. Endings & new beginnings. Tick tock goes the clock and scribble scribble, dibble dabble, the pen is meant to waddle. From ink to paper you will gladly become a shaper.

i love this video, it’s the best one describing fives out of all the ones i’ve seen to date, which is a LOT. eveyone else gets really cartoony with their biases against fives (which really anyone can do, but we fives get it a lot lol). thank you! ❤

Great takes and insights Drew. I resonate with what you bring up here. Beauty & wonders, depth & sunder, forming abundance. I am deeply glad to feel and see our tribe of soulful ones go beyond the above and below. I sometimes feel that we 4s can simply lift others through our being and breathing. To all wonderful 4s: Keep creating and keep doing what makes you happy in life. "We have the power to give others oxygen and strength to swim up to their own surfaces from their own depths." - KB

I feel like I am a type 8 when I am not in an emotional relationship. But when I am emotionally vulnerable, I am a type 4. Is that possible?

It being 2024, is there still the idea of a retreat for 4s? ;)

I had someone who was 4, we are deep but maybe somehow differently. I also dont know that I am 9 or 4, I tend to be eccentric as well and very creative. But he was unhealthy because he wanted to save me, I hadnt opinion because he was offended...so I blocked him finally he took a role as a teacher and we werent equal..

Trusted the algorithm. Now I landed here. Through my years I have felt that we 4w5s are the expanding awareness through the many spaces of creality. To all 4s out there, I can warmly recommend looking into non-duality. Unite the mother and father inside. Because yes. They deeply loved one another you see. Otherwise you would not be here. Aha! Now envision all those parts merge inside, you are whole. You always have been. Even when you feel fragmented or scattered. Lost? It just means that you have created and expanded new space. And with that you can now continue to thrive and create. tend to it. water it and witness it all grow. From cell to cell with its electric homeostasis of it all. Where you focus your awareness, growth happens. Merge and grow beyond. The best of vibes to you all. K

It is so strange, because I think I’m at a turning point in my life. This particular period is very crucial, since I’m about the publish my first novel that I put some of my own feelings and experiences. Those experiences that I felt ashamed of, because of the way they made me feel. But if the people who read my book, would understand it or could gravitate towards it, my core believe would be shooked Because I create and was always fascinated by intimate one on one relationships, I thought of myself as a 4 sx subtype. I just realized years later that I’m a 4 so. No wonder why I feel that I’m the one with the less knowledge in every college class, even though that couldn’t be farther from the truth…

Thank you I feel very seen

“We can’t be addicted to the search of arrival.” 👏

“Failure for a 4 is doing nothing. Waiting too long…” I am a 4 and I seem to be frozen in this state right now and I can’t seem to shake it.

Hahahah you said sorry I’ve been intense. And I was like ……. Huh this was intense ? Lol thank you - your fellow four

Omg wow absolute life changing video thank you

Why are 1s considered more in harmony when they lean into their 1s but less healthy when they lean into their 4s and why are 4s considered more healthy as they lean into 1s and less healthy when they lean into 4. Are we attributing certain numbered personality types to be inherently less healthy?

Yes me

I like you. Its an unconscious thing. You seem caring. You are enneagram 4, do you know your mbti? What are your thoughts? Thanks again!!

Absolutely brilliant. ✨ Thank you for your gift to the world. If you ever need anyone to support what you are doing, from an Enneagram 8 to a Enneagram 4, Let's connect. Dan Brue @ Actually Connecting Podcast

"King of Pain" by The Police and countless other songs have meant so much to me over the years. You are doing amazing work ❤

4w5 INFJ here 👋🏾 Love the video! Very accurate.

Fuck I feel so called out

Eli Jaxon Bear, who teaches the enneagram from the perspective of spiritual awakening says, your type is a case of mistaken identity! This a hard pill to swallow for the ego.. but what if it's true, and we are not our type?

Honestly thought i could be an 8, no, just a sexual 4 😂

Dear are you a Generator 3_5?

Tom Petty's "Wildflower" has always resonated with me as an 8.

An omg I'm sorry but you are so beautiful exposing yourself i wanna marry you and help people foreveeeeer 🥰

THANK YOU SO MUUUUUUCHHHHHH SHHHEEEEEEEETTTT I'm sharing for purpose OR I'm sharing for ego I'm not very into sex, can I be a person that wants people and manipulate them but not using sex???? Cuz I really don't intk seduce. I'm very intelectual I can share things to help people on a community level like a priest and I'm also disney princess, and also one to one understanding them so fast and it's so so so easy. People are so easy to interact its fun. Thank youuuuuu I see I'm very troubled but I'm not using this to harm and I can be super helpfullllll

Feel like I’m fighting a war in my head between go doing (mainly) then withdrawing because of feeling missing/lost/obsessed

1h11mn So true... while many of the other types move upwards as they mature...up to the mountaintop... to transcendence and to the spirit, the movement of the four is often down into the Vales and the valleys of "ensoulment" (Hillman) and "embodiment." The path of the Boddhisattva... Often the four dreams of things that go downward.... the decent down the stairs, to the basement, to the valley.... down the ladder... the ski lift goes down the mountain. I think that this comes mostly from the fact that the four personality is formed through exposure to trauma. That trauma tends to push the four to dissociate early in life and often times upward into their heads...their intellect, their spirtual side. So they tend to be disembodied early and out of touch with their bodies. As teens they can feel a pull towards notions of purity and righteousness... religiosity. So the maturation process is coming to terms with their "clod of earth" ....their "hairy jiggly meatedness" ...always down, down, down in the earth, the body... the moistness. That's probably why so many fours become therapists as.they become more and more ensouled....the Chiron archetype is very active here....like Chiron in his cave..we are at home in the realms of suffering and helping others make meaning in their suffering.

This is so interesting as a 4 married to an 8. That anger was a huge point of tension early into our relationship but as we've been together almost a decade now, I see that anger isn't always anger for them. Anger is sadness, jealously, shame, etc. All the negative emotions look like anger. But with a tiny bit of digging/prodding, the true emotion comes out and he usually just needs a good cry/vent session and he's back to being a loving and loveable goofball. But boy, I tell ya the truth. Year 1-3, I just say him As an a**hole without reason.

It's amazing how many similarities we have. I started getting into Freud originally, I've been following Jung in terms of Shadow Work/Archetypes and just started diving into Enneagram. I've been struggling for a while and have been super hard on myself. Regardless of the time spent on inner work more still needs to be done. Now that I've been looking into Enneagram and Type 4 it makes complete sense what I do and why I do it. Thank you for taking the time to create all of this content.

Best 5 video I’ve seen personally. Thank you

You speak beautifully!

Pls do video on 2 and 4 enegram relationship