So bio-dad basically ignored his kids unless he wanted to show off, prioritized his new kids over them, then cut them off completely because the man who was actually there for them wanted to adopt them....but then wanted to come back once he was alone and had nobody else? Story 2...I did not expect it to be Jennifer realizing that she was wrong and not in the right place to be married. I'm glad she did tho, and I hope she gets the help she needs.
Agree with your statement on Story 2. Most stories the Jennifer would double down on their bs. This Jennifer actually admits her problem and is seeking help for it and rightfully staying away from relationships in the meantime
Story #3 - That bride is a fucking genius, lol. I like her. By inviting OP and one other cousin from the would-be groom's side to the party, her ex knows there are people in his family who know the real story. He can't blame OP for causing this, nor can he twist this back on the bride, because he knows OP will be able to call him out. And even if OP is discredited in some way, there's another cousin who can confirm. They can keep his reaction under control with nothing but a sly smile and a knowing glance in his direction. As long as they have that card to play, he can't twist the truth without being exposed as a humongous dumb ass. I'm just in awe of how clever women can be in these social situations. I wouldn't have come up with that in a million years, but they have this dude under their thumb with no effort at all. And there was no grand conspiracy to enact this, just a casual dinner that was already planned and paid for. As effortless as it is diabolical... I have no doubt that bride can have any husband she wants, she's got her shit together. Respect.
Becky's description of the event made me crack up. He literally had no idea that she wasn't his Texan ex, The mis-naming thing should have been the deal breaker, I think.
Seriously WTF, I seen how tattoos are done on various shows, and know it takes a decent amount of time to do them. This would extended the wedding and made things way awkward! Plus where he was going to have it applied? He have to remove his tux and shirt to get it on his arm alone. Add the bride wedding dress, and...oooh wow... I just got a headache from thinking of how big of a disaster this would become.... Now i know what other people mean when they say the stupidity they see or learn of causes their heads to hurt. Also the mom I'm sure has no idea how much trouble and unsafe ti would been and embarrassing this would been for everyone!
First story: I think that essentially NC is good for both parties. Seems like OP wasn't (and isn't) a good dad, but OP shouldn't be surprised that he wasn't too keen on continuing any sort of relationship after she and her sister that they want another man as their father. And him adopting his then-wife's kid is different. Legally, you can have lots of children, but (afaik) only two parents
If there was any part of him that was worth a shit he would have seen that request to allow the step dad to adopt as the ultimate wake up call that he was a total failure as a man.
Tattoo Story: You just say "no." The qualifying and excuses are unnecessary. You don't explain. You don't dissemble. You don't worry about feelings. You just so "no" anyone who asks. "You're going to give me a tattoo at my wedding." No. I'll give you a tattoo as a wedding gift but not at the wedding. (From here on, no other word is necessary) I'd really appreciate it. I have it planned out. No. Mom calls. Why don't you just get your sh--hello? Hello?! Done.
If i was who i was and had kids and messed them up, i would let them be adopted by the person who showed them true love when i couldnt. pride and dna shouldnt stand of the way to right your wrongs.
I understand dad was standoff, but his kids told him that they wanted another man to be their father and sign away his rights to them.... And expected that would fly and he shouldn't be upset. His own kids essentially told him to get out the way as another dude is a better father and they didnt want him anymore.... and he should be ok with that...
Instead of being mad that your kids don't see you as a capable father, how about you ask yourself why it is that they feel that way? You literally give off Principal Skinner vibes w/ that "am I out of touch? No, the children are" ass take
He wasn’t much of a father in the first place, why would he get mad when the kids want to get adopted by their real dad? He didn’t have the right to get buttmad like that, then show back up 4 years later like it’s all good lmao
1st story: so the 12 year old sister as you always say this child had enough common sense to not want to go and be around this man his family anymore because they were mistreating her and she NOTICED it. Took actions and decided to cut her losses. But op on the other hand looked at it a lot different because they are family and I guess she was okay with the abuse now you the sister was younger than her in knew better, but opie didn't? This right here this situation right here shows that children notice certain behavior and situations and they can remove themselves from those situations some just choose to stay, for what reason I don't know maybe their weak-minded brainwashed whatever. I'm also trying to figure out what Opie's angle is because she decided to allow this other man to adopt her and when she claimed that her her daddy relationship was supposed to be so good but not reality she was benefiting from her father's attention. And I really don't feel sorry for Opie.
@fonandoozmando5961 He was the one who pushed them away first. If he actually cared he would have actually spent time with OP and OP's sister. It seems like to me that the reason the adoption happened was because the step-father was there and was more of a dad to them than the biological father was. To be truthful, it seems like it wasn't a healthy relationship for either side and that going NC was the best for both sides.
...... I don't know, maybe a better parent and neglect his kids? I love how you're paying attention to how OP 'made him' give up his paternity rights but not him neglecting and scapegoating his kids. Also, he could've said no? Just saying.
If the biodad would be a better father than the stepdad and never neglecting them, the children would never ever think of even considering that. He reaped what he sowed, he neglected the kids in favor of his new wife and monster stepdaughter.
The dad was the one who wanted to focus on his new family, and gave up contact with his kids just because he felt threatened by another man who actually acted like a father to his kids. Daddy dearest made his bed, now he's gotta lie in it.
Op is definitely the AH in the first story. I don't understand the whole adoption thing but what Op and her sister did is wrong. Even though the biodad was crap but 🤷🏼, they will ended up regretting everything in the future once they mature a bit more.
He cheated on his ex-wife, let his step daughter bully his biological daughters, only prioritized them when he needed them, then after years of staying no contact he decided to call up the kid after his second wife left him, and OP is the AH? Are you serious?
This situation is quite complicated, and it's hard to determine who is truly at fault. On one hand, it's clear that the father wasn't very good at his role. On the other hand, the reaction he had was predictable. After all, being told that another man is seen as a father figure would naturally upset anyone. The father’s shortcomings are obvious, and it makes sense that OP didn't feel a strong bond with him. But it seems naive for OP to think she could present him with documents declaring someone else as her father without expecting a strong emotional response. While OP’s actions weren’t necessarily wrong, they showed a lack of maturity and foresight. She should have known that this news would hurt and anger her father. His reaction, though intense, was understandable given the circumstances. OP needed to be better prepared for the fallout of her decision.
@@SexManNordin True about this situation being a bit complicated but there's always a lack of maturity between both ends. The father only reached out to op because he had no one, I don't know if he regretted his actions as he chose the step family over his bio kids which is something I can relate to. However, I think her friend's shouldn't really delete the message even though op asked them to. It doesn't really feel right but in the end it's always up to Op to decide how she should deal with this.
So bio-dad basically ignored his kids unless he wanted to show off, prioritized his new kids over them, then cut them off completely because the man who was actually there for them wanted to adopt them....but then wanted to come back once he was alone and had nobody else?
Story 2...I did not expect it to be Jennifer realizing that she was wrong and not in the right place to be married. I'm glad she did tho, and I hope she gets the help she needs.
Agree with your statement on Story 2. Most stories the Jennifer would double down on their bs. This Jennifer actually admits her problem and is seeking help for it and rightfully staying away from relationships in the meantime
Story #3 - That bride is a fucking genius, lol. I like her.
By inviting OP and one other cousin from the would-be groom's side to the party, her ex knows there are people in his family who know the real story. He can't blame OP for causing this, nor can he twist this back on the bride, because he knows OP will be able to call him out. And even if OP is discredited in some way, there's another cousin who can confirm. They can keep his reaction under control with nothing but a sly smile and a knowing glance in his direction. As long as they have that card to play, he can't twist the truth without being exposed as a humongous dumb ass.
I'm just in awe of how clever women can be in these social situations. I wouldn't have come up with that in a million years, but they have this dude under their thumb with no effort at all. And there was no grand conspiracy to enact this, just a casual dinner that was already planned and paid for. As effortless as it is diabolical... I have no doubt that bride can have any husband she wants, she's got her shit together. Respect.
I can guarantee that the bio dad wouldn't have said anything to his former daughter if his second ex-wife hadn't left him.
LULZ Matty was gonna tattoo his ex's birthday on his chest on the day of their wedding 😂. What a complete loser.
🎶 All my exes live in Texas 🎶 😂
Becky's description of the event made me crack up. He literally had no idea that she wasn't his Texan ex, The mis-naming thing should have been the deal breaker, I think.
Seriously WTF, I seen how tattoos are done on various shows, and know it takes a decent amount of time to do them.
This would extended the wedding and made things way awkward!
Plus where he was going to have it applied?
He have to remove his tux and shirt to get it on his arm alone.
Add the bride wedding dress, and...oooh wow... I just got a headache from thinking of how big of a disaster this would become.... Now i know what other people mean when they say the stupidity they see or learn of causes their heads to hurt.
Also the mom I'm sure has no idea how much trouble and unsafe ti would been and embarrassing this would been for everyone!
That "Matt" is the biggest loser. Oh my word! How do you get your Lady's b-day wrong then tell her SHE IS WRONG when she corrects you?
Guy is obviously still in love with his ex and is projecting it onto his new ex
Becky dodged a bullet on that one, I think!
And gained a new friend in OP! 😄
I’m glad OP’s friend in the 2nd story got away from that toxic relationship!
First story: I think that essentially NC is good for both parties. Seems like OP wasn't (and isn't) a good dad, but OP shouldn't be surprised that he wasn't too keen on continuing any sort of relationship after she and her sister that they want another man as their father. And him adopting his then-wife's kid is different. Legally, you can have lots of children, but (afaik) only two parents
If there was any part of him that was worth a shit he would have seen that request to allow the step dad to adopt as the ultimate wake up call that he was a total failure as a man.
Tattoo Story: You just say "no." The qualifying and excuses are unnecessary. You don't explain. You don't dissemble. You don't worry about feelings. You just so "no" anyone who asks.
"You're going to give me a tattoo at my wedding."
No. I'll give you a tattoo as a wedding gift but not at the wedding.
(From here on, no other word is necessary)
I'd really appreciate it. I have it planned out.
No.
Mom calls.
Why don't you just get your sh--hello? Hello?!
Done.
If i was who i was and had kids and messed them up, i would let them be adopted by the person who showed them true love when i couldnt. pride and dna shouldnt stand of the way to right your wrongs.
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Jennifer is CRAZY...
I understand dad was standoff, but his kids told him that they wanted another man to be their father and sign away his rights to them....
And expected that would fly and he shouldn't be upset. His own kids essentially told him to get out the way as another dude is a better father and they didnt want him anymore.... and he should be ok with that...
As their father though he should try to understand where they were coming from, and to appreciate the care their step father had given them
He literally adopted his wife's daughter but his daughters being adopted by a man who actually cared about them is not ok ????
Instead of being mad that your kids don't see you as a capable father, how about you ask yourself why it is that they feel that way? You literally give off Principal Skinner vibes w/ that "am I out of touch? No, the children are" ass take
He wasn’t much of a father in the first place, why would he get mad when the kids want to get adopted by their real dad? He didn’t have the right to get buttmad like that, then show back up 4 years later like it’s all good lmao
Shut up doormat😂😂
Matty was increasingly delusional it sounds like.
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A tattoo on ya wedding day? Wtf?
1st story: so the 12 year old sister as you always say this child had enough common sense to not want to go and be around this man his family anymore because they were mistreating her and she NOTICED it. Took actions and decided to cut her losses.
But op on the other hand looked at it a lot different because they are family and I guess she was okay with the abuse now you the sister was younger than her in knew better, but opie didn't?
This right here this situation right here shows that children notice certain behavior and situations and they can remove themselves from those situations some just choose to stay, for what reason I don't know maybe their weak-minded brainwashed whatever.
I'm also trying to figure out what Opie's angle is because she decided to allow this other man to adopt her and when she claimed that her her daddy relationship was supposed to be so good but not reality she was benefiting from her father's attention. And I really don't feel sorry for Opie.
Jennifer lol
1st story :
"Yea dad, can you sign away your rights? We want to feel like we belong to this man"
"How dare he ghost us abandon us"
BRUUUUUUUUUH
The biological father wasn't really a father to begin with. The step-father was actually there for them.
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Yes,but you can't push away someone and then complain when they ghost you
@fonandoozmando5961 He was the one who pushed them away first. If he actually cared he would have actually spent time with OP and OP's sister. It seems like to me that the reason the adoption happened was because the step-father was there and was more of a dad to them than the biological father was. To be truthful, it seems like it wasn't a healthy relationship for either side and that going NC was the best for both sides.
Even if biodad wasn't perfect, what exactly did they think his reaction to being ghosted and asked to give up his paternity rights to them would be?
...... I don't know, maybe a better parent and neglect his kids? I love how you're paying attention to how OP 'made him' give up his paternity rights but not him neglecting and scapegoating his kids. Also, he could've said no? Just saying.
To be fair if my kids came up to me and said I want our stepdad to adopt us I'll cut contact too and never talk to them
But you also wouldn't alienate them first
But would you have even treated em so garbage that they reached that extreme to begin with?
@@sharkeatinpizza there is a persian proverb that said:whoever goes to judge alone came back satisfied
@@sharkeatinpizza
Depends are they failures
If the biodad would be a better father than the stepdad and never neglecting them, the children would never ever think of even considering that. He reaped what he sowed, he neglected the kids in favor of his new wife and monster stepdaughter.
Who else think the kids in the first story are AH?
Just you
The dad was the one who wanted to focus on his new family, and gave up contact with his kids just because he felt threatened by another man who actually acted like a father to his kids. Daddy dearest made his bed, now he's gotta lie in it.
@@sadnesswithasideofsalt well, they ask him to resign his parental rights... So...
@arianalimoradi6331 Why would they expect him to care? He's clearly shown that he doesn't. They were just cordial enough to give him a heads up
@@arianalimoradi6331he adopted his step daughter so….
Op is definitely the AH in the first story. I don't understand the whole adoption thing but what Op and her sister did is wrong. Even though the biodad was crap but 🤷🏼, they will ended up regretting everything in the future once they mature a bit more.
He cheated on his ex-wife, let his step daughter bully his biological daughters, only prioritized them when he needed them, then after years of staying no contact he decided to call up the kid after his second wife left him, and OP is the AH? Are you serious?
This situation is quite complicated, and it's hard to determine who is truly at fault. On one hand, it's clear that the father wasn't very good at his role. On the other hand, the reaction he had was predictable. After all, being told that another man is seen as a father figure would naturally upset anyone.
The father’s shortcomings are obvious, and it makes sense that OP didn't feel a strong bond with him. But it seems naive for OP to think she could present him with documents declaring someone else as her father without expecting a strong emotional response.
While OP’s actions weren’t necessarily wrong, they showed a lack of maturity and foresight. She should have known that this news would hurt and anger her father. His reaction, though intense, was understandable given the circumstances. OP needed to be better prepared for the fallout of her decision.
@@SexManNordin True about this situation being a bit complicated but there's always a lack of maturity between both ends. The father only reached out to op because he had no one, I don't know if he regretted his actions as he chose the step family over his bio kids which is something I can relate to. However, I think her friend's shouldn't really delete the message even though op asked them to. It doesn't really feel right but in the end it's always up to Op to decide how she should deal with this.
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