I only say don't blame the affair partner, if the affair partner doesn't know and is told by the cheater, that the cheater is single. Clearly that is not the case in this story
That happen to me a guy I was sleeping with and spent 2 nights at a hotel with had a girlfriend the whole time we were seeing each other and a month after the hotel nights his auntie told me he had a girlfriend I was so disgusted with myself the moment I got home I throw up stopped talking to him the other day he messaged me and said we should catch up and spend time with each other I left him on read because he still has a girlfriend and that's a no to me they hide their relationship status so well and same with woman too
Last Story: My comment isn't really relevant to OP's situation, it just reminded me of a similar event that happened with a friend of mine which was hilarious. My buddy has one of those "intrusive" mothers. She's a born-again Christian, despite a more sordid past. But in her old age, she did a full 180°, put down her tie-dyed shirts and pot habit and went for her Bible and took it to an extreme. Like throwing things at people outside of abortion clinics extreme, despite this woman's own uterus having been scraped more often than an Alaskan windshield, lol. Funny how her attitude on that only changed AFTER menopause... but I digress. After he was married, his father left his mother (he wasn't on board with her radical new lifestyle change), so his mom moved in with her son and his new wife. My friend however was raised in her former Hippie lifestyle, and his wife is similarly inclined. So the situation had all the makings of a bad TV sitcom, lol. His mother would pound on their bedroom door anytime they had sex and interrupt them, as she now believed sex for any reason but procreation was a sin... But she didn't stop there, any time she thought they just "might" have sex, she would interrupt them, waking them up at all hours of the night. It's not like she was hearing anything, she was just relentless. He tried the diplomatic approach, they even joined a church group (not really) as a pretense to slip away to a motel for some private time. But his wife was getting fed up with it. So what does his wife decide to do? She decides she's a Nudist now. The second she got home from work, she'd strip off all her clothes, buck naked and start doing Yoga in the living room, and just stay naked until she had to leave for work the next morning. Drove my friend crazy, as he's watching his wife do naked Yoga and he can't touch her, so that lit a fire under his ass while making his mother deeply uncomfortable. His mother tolerated it (with a lot of vile comments and relentless condemnation) for a few weeks. So she upped the stakes, and invited her husband's Hippie father over for dinner (he's no stranger to nudity either, he thought it was funny). So now her Christian fanatic mother-in-law not only has to watch her son drooling over this girl, but now her ex-husband too, lol. The very next day, they got home from work to find her things packed, she had moved to Florida with her sister because they have "better churches" down there, lol. You have to hand it to the ladies, their passive-aggressive game is truly next level. Most guys would have delt with it by saying "You need to leave now", not orchestrated their own private cold-war for weeks to exert some kind of dominance, lol.
i'm gonna keep this level of passive aggressiveness in my back pocket if ever i have a partner whose mother is that insane. thank you for enlightening me of this option
i hope everyone reading this has a happy life going forward and never have to deal with shitty people like that cheating ex husband and that filthy poor excuse of a woman. shame on both of them and i hope she also gets her karma one day just like the ex for ruining a potential family
MiL with Cancer: Son should get MIL to get a HEL to help with expenses. That way, he can still inherit the house and it will reduce the financial burder on them.
Story 1: You lose them the same way you got them
Story 1: she should have exposed the affair to their workplace so they could have been fired
I only say don't blame the affair partner,
if the affair partner doesn't know and is told by the cheater, that the cheater is single.
Clearly that is not the case in this story
That happen to me a guy I was sleeping with and spent 2 nights at a hotel with had a girlfriend the whole time we were seeing each other and a month after the hotel nights his auntie told me he had a girlfriend I was so disgusted with myself the moment I got home I throw up stopped talking to him the other day he messaged me and said we should catch up and spend time with each other I left him on read because he still has a girlfriend and that's a no to me they hide their relationship status so well and same with woman too
Story 1 : Karma is a b*tch
Last Story:
My comment isn't really relevant to OP's situation, it just reminded me of a similar event that happened with a friend of mine which was hilarious.
My buddy has one of those "intrusive" mothers. She's a born-again Christian, despite a more sordid past. But in her old age, she did a full 180°, put down her tie-dyed shirts and pot habit and went for her Bible and took it to an extreme. Like throwing things at people outside of abortion clinics extreme, despite this woman's own uterus having been scraped more often than an Alaskan windshield, lol. Funny how her attitude on that only changed AFTER menopause... but I digress.
After he was married, his father left his mother (he wasn't on board with her radical new lifestyle change), so his mom moved in with her son and his new wife. My friend however was raised in her former Hippie lifestyle, and his wife is similarly inclined. So the situation had all the makings of a bad TV sitcom, lol.
His mother would pound on their bedroom door anytime they had sex and interrupt them, as she now believed sex for any reason but procreation was a sin... But she didn't stop there, any time she thought they just "might" have sex, she would interrupt them, waking them up at all hours of the night. It's not like she was hearing anything, she was just relentless.
He tried the diplomatic approach, they even joined a church group (not really) as a pretense to slip away to a motel for some private time. But his wife was getting fed up with it. So what does his wife decide to do?
She decides she's a Nudist now. The second she got home from work, she'd strip off all her clothes, buck naked and start doing Yoga in the living room, and just stay naked until she had to leave for work the next morning. Drove my friend crazy, as he's watching his wife do naked Yoga and he can't touch her, so that lit a fire under his ass while making his mother deeply uncomfortable.
His mother tolerated it (with a lot of vile comments and relentless condemnation) for a few weeks. So she upped the stakes, and invited her husband's Hippie father over for dinner (he's no stranger to nudity either, he thought it was funny). So now her Christian fanatic mother-in-law not only has to watch her son drooling over this girl, but now her ex-husband too, lol. The very next day, they got home from work to find her things packed, she had moved to Florida with her sister because they have "better churches" down there, lol.
You have to hand it to the ladies, their passive-aggressive game is truly next level. Most guys would have delt with it by saying "You need to leave now", not orchestrated their own private cold-war for weeks to exert some kind of dominance, lol.
i'm gonna keep this level of passive aggressiveness in my back pocket if ever i have a partner whose mother is that insane. thank you for enlightening me of this option
i hope everyone reading this has a happy life going forward and never have to deal with shitty people like that cheating ex husband and that filthy poor excuse of a woman. shame on both of them and i hope she also gets her karma one day just like the ex for ruining a potential family
Tell hubby you'll come back when his mother leaves.
MiL with Cancer: Son should get MIL to get a HEL to help with expenses. That way, he can still inherit the house and it will reduce the financial burder on them.
Tell him to choice between his mom and you
saddly this is more of a lose lose now, you cant just kick out a old woman who is just at her final months, even if she is an asshole