@@carennawillmont3706 Grief is seldom just sadness, but is often a wild maelstrom of despair, rage, depression, numbness and dissociation....and sometimes sadness. Sometimes some shame in there too, which complicates things. Still grieving my dead son, twelve years on.
@@peggydwyer1932 I'm so sorry you lost your son and I'm quite sure your grief will be with you for a long time. Lean into it and really feel it. I do hope you heal eventually 🙏
That first woman's question resonated with me. When I became an adult I set boundaries for my mother and told her it wasn't okay for her to talk to me however she pleased just because she was my mother. She was outraged and after a bit of conflict, we didn't speak for three years. Finally, she apologized and we've been able to forge a better relationship since then, but I set boundaries with everyone and sometimes that means losing the relationship but I keep my self-respect.
Rapture folds I can relate to this, setting boundaries with a parent is very challenging, many awkward momonts, but it allowed me the chance to breathe again.
@@angelokalomiris3059 It's interesting, I came from a very dysfunctional home with both abuse and neglect and I was always jealous of my best friend whose parents were so loving and supportive and involved. I spent more time at his house than mine. I told him how freeing it was to finally stand up to my parents and tell them what was in my heart and he said he wished he had my guts. There were things he wanted to tell his parents but he would never have the courage. I guess the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
It amazes me that sometimes family members feel it is ok to treat a stranger kinder than a member of the family. Healthy boundaries are so important. Definately set them and hold your ground to honor yourself when others are not. Using the " it's not ok to .." & "it works when..." are really good to create a workable cooperative situation to establish new and healthier boundaries. .
You can maintain strong boundaries AND feel empathy for the person on the other side of the boundary you have set. Brene herself has said very wisely, “The most compassionate people I know are the most boundaried.” By the same token, a true boundary will not be threatened by the act of offering empathy to another.
Brene is amazing. So very thankful for her thoughtful, intelligent work. The truths she has uncovered in her research is changing my life, and as a married mom of three, transforming four additional lives as well! So excited about the curriculum she is talking about! I want to get this to my kids! - Jen Wile, York, PA
Generally if people have a lot of boundaries, I just steer clear. I believe this comes from my youth & a parent who was so emotionally ill & had such over the top, scarry reactions when accidentally triggered. But at least I understand where this comes from now. 💙❤️💚☺️
The answer to the first question, in my opinion is: Nip the evil in the bud. This means, if someone insults you the first time stop them the first time, not the second or third...... but the very FIRST time. The extra benefit is the immense peace of mind and no getting upset later. You are forming a habit pattern in them that will become just that a habit.😎
I found the Host was rude to the woman who asked the great boundary question, that made me uncomfortable./Enjoy much of Brene wisdom so I'll back and block out the host I guess.
She corrected him about the difference between television and streaming so kindly; she really could have shamed him. And he kinda earned some shame after he made that face.
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The answer to this woman's question is: "When you stop people pleasing, people stop being pleased...AND THAT'S OK."
I want to manifest people in my life that are like brene brown. One of the most authentic, intelligent, funny and big-hearted humans ever!
“People are hard to hate close up”
I FELT THAT!!!!!!!
"Next to shame, grief is the thing we fear the most" - WOW
Jennifer Duncan . Feeling sadness is not fun but healing.
@@carennawillmont3706 Grief is seldom just sadness, but is often a wild maelstrom of despair, rage, depression, numbness and dissociation....and sometimes sadness. Sometimes some shame in there too, which complicates things. Still grieving my dead son, twelve years on.
@@peggydwyer1932 I'm so sorry you lost your son and I'm quite sure your grief will be with you for a long time. Lean into it and really feel it. I do hope you heal eventually 🙏
That first woman's question resonated with me. When I became an adult I set boundaries for my mother and told her it wasn't okay for her to talk to me however she pleased just because she was my mother. She was outraged and after a bit of conflict, we didn't speak for three years. Finally, she apologized and we've been able to forge a better relationship since then, but I set boundaries with everyone and sometimes that means losing the relationship but I keep my self-respect.
Rapture folds I can relate to this, setting boundaries with a parent is very challenging, many awkward momonts, but it allowed me the chance to breathe again.
@@angelokalomiris3059 It's interesting, I came from a very dysfunctional home with both abuse and neglect and I was always jealous of my best friend whose parents were so loving and supportive and involved. I spent more time at his house than mine. I told him how freeing it was to finally stand up to my parents and tell them what was in my heart and he said he wished he had my guts. There were things he wanted to tell his parents but he would never have the courage. I guess the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
It amazes me that sometimes family members feel it is ok to treat a stranger kinder than a member of the family.
Healthy boundaries are so important. Definately set them and hold your ground to honor yourself when others are not.
Using the " it's not ok to .." &
"it works when..." are really good to create a workable cooperative situation to establish new and healthier boundaries. .
I would donate monthly 5 bucks to see positive world news. We need to see we are still decent humans everywhere. 🌺
Aloha
You can maintain strong boundaries AND feel empathy for the person on the other side of the boundary you have set. Brene herself has said very wisely, “The most compassionate people I know are the most boundaried.” By the same token, a true boundary will not be threatened by the act of offering empathy to another.
Love the part about forgiveness. What we judge in ourselves, we judge in others.
"It is not the responsibility of the people being targeted to set the table." Thank you so much Brene.
I love how authentic and loving she is.
Brene, I have been learning much from you so I need to thank you. You are an awesome lady.
Just being herself, she is healing the world. ❤️
Wow. Her take on Forgiveness strikes a chord with me: 5:02
Brene is amazing. So very thankful for her thoughtful, intelligent work. The truths she has uncovered in her research is changing my life, and as a married mom of three, transforming four additional lives as well! So excited about the curriculum she is talking about! I want to get this to my kids! - Jen Wile, York, PA
Boundaries are everything!!! Boundaries include losses...but that is OKAY. Amen sister! #hardconversations #boundaries #loss #monicaelainesolis
How does this have 0 comments? Wow. Brene is awesome! She has such a wealth of information. WIsh I had been there live. THANK YOU FOR POSTING THIS!!
Generally if people have a lot of boundaries, I just steer clear. I believe this comes from my youth & a parent who was so emotionally ill & had such over the top, scarry reactions when accidentally triggered. But at least I understand where this comes from now. 💙❤️💚☺️
Her work is phenomenal!
showing an accurate and deep understanding; great perceptive. Thank you for all the insightful information. 💡
Brene, you are the BOMB!!!
I love the way this lady thinks
The answer to the first question, in my opinion is: Nip the evil in the bud. This means, if someone insults you the first time stop them the first time, not the second or third...... but the very FIRST time. The extra benefit is the immense peace of mind and no getting upset later. You are forming a habit pattern in them that will become just that a habit.😎
I love this. I am working to instill this into companies through CFO work when I collaborate with CEO’s. Very inspiring to act with heart and head! 💗
Amazing.
Such important questions!! Such important responses!!!
I found the Host was rude to the woman who asked the great boundary question, that made me uncomfortable./Enjoy much of Brene wisdom so I'll back and block out the host I guess.
The most important sentence from the whole program is: "teachers are not among the, but are the most important leaders in the world"
Rafael C, agree, however more importantly teachers need to fly this flag individually and collectively and parents will be right beside you.
@@raewynurwin4256 I wish parents would really stand beside us but unfortunately I know many that won't
and often the worst
This woman knows. LISTEN up!
Love Brene Very easily to understand her
Loved this, so much clarity!
So funny when she said that she has a bachelors from UT Austin, a few people "whoop"......which is a Texas A&M tradition. But i digress.
Positive news network .... good news, what’s good in the world 20 years ago, no joking I had this idea! Please my dear human, please do it!
Forgiveness and grief
Wow, I struggle with forgiveness. I am really going to think about what she said here.
Such great questions - such great advice!
If you can find a healthy therapist. Not easy!
Boy you said a mouthful
Oh so true
That male interviewer, defines really well, what a condescending mansplaining personality is. ugh.
She corrected him about the difference between television and streaming so kindly; she really could have shamed him. And he kinda earned some shame after he made that face.
@William Oarlock how so?
@@TheAnniegoo you looked for the most benign things, hope you heard Brene's overall message.
What is the difference between Brenee Brown and Tony Robbins???
Brene Brown is highly more intelligent 🙂
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