Brené Brown on Surrounding Yourself With People Who Take Pleasure in Your Joy
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- Brené Brown explained the difference between taking pleasure in someone else's pain and taking pleasure in someone else's joy, and how it's important to surround yourself with people who do the latter. The best-selling author also chatted about joining TikTok, her new HBO Max series "Atlas of the Heart," and gave advice on how to deal with your emotions when it feels like the world is falling apart.
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As a 4th grade teacher, I find the language in Atlas of the Heart transformational to my work with students. We NEED to lean into this learning to cultivate an education system (and world) where all kids can thrive!
My daughter just received her Bachelors Degree in Education to teach English & I will order her that book!
Just bought and can see it is an asset 💯‼️♥️
Amen!!
Didn’t know about it !!! Thanks for sharing!!!
@@peggygibbons479 Such a good idea!! I hope she loves it! Congratulations to her! What an achievement and an exciting adventure she has ahead!
"In the absence of connection there is always suffering" -- profound and universally true.
Yes Dr.Gabor Mate nails this *Self Connection, First (withIN)*
is the Key to All else in Life, including Connections with others.
The first & most profound Trauma is DISconnection from Self. All pain & suffering stems from this. ♥️♥️♥️
100% Agree ❤️🩹
Brene is a champ, love how vulnerable Ellen is in this conversation.
I was thinking the same thing
Her Father told her to KEEP away from him when she admitted to being a lesbian. She suffered!
Let’s start out with actually giving this woman the credit she deserves in the title of this video…. DR. Brene Brown.
SO TRUE!!! Really Ellen-like
@@Pebblesmas usually people with PhDs get a little uncomfortable when the PhD part is mentioned. I would know as literally everyone at my job except myself has a PhD
@@TheSpiderbat44 exactly. I have a doctorate and I was taught to never ever mention it. If somebody else wants to mention it, fine, but generally we don’t do it in front of each other. We only do it in writing.
Brenè’s books, podcasts, and TED Talks have changed my life. Guided me into therapy and inspired me to start my self work. So grateful.
what are her podcasts?
The woman is gold 🙏🏾
Listen!!!! I feel the same way!!!!
It was wonderful watching Ellen struggle through her own discomfort with being vulnerable and open about her emotions, just being in Brene's presence. She didn't try and hide behind her humour really at all. That was inspiring and relatable for me.
I love how Dr Brown replied with, "action" when Ellen asked about ideas for managing "feeling everything." I myself identify as an empath and for years I have spiritually bypassed taking action. Things really improved for me when I started studying anxiety and, later on, mindfulness and especially the neuroscience of mindfulness. Taking those actions, with additional support from a mental wellbeing expert, was a real gamechanger. What shifted mainly was my tendency to somehow "blame" others and situations for how I was feeling. I understood what was happening and learned how to self-regulate. Yes, even when it's "energy" you feel, it's your brain and the rest of your nervous system that interpret it, and you usually don't know it's happening so you're always "on edge." I can't recommend taking action strongly enough. And yes, I still identify as an intuitive and an empath, but the anxiety and panic attacks have practically vanished.
What does taking action entail?
@@cuca_ What I describe in my post, for example.
The 'freude freude' concept Brene talks about is actually one of the four Buddist Brahmaviras. It is called 'moodhita', finding joy in others happiness. It is a Sanskrit and Pali word that has no English equivalent. Moodhita is followed by most practising Buddhists.
“Freudenfreude” 🙂
I "cleaned house" with friends, I got rid of the "flame blower outers", and geez my life is 100% better already. Yay for more time for the sharing lots more joy and genuine connection with others! 😀
YAS!
Do you mind sharing the characteristics of those you “kept” and the characteristics of those you “cleaned out”?
I could listen to this woman for hours. So wise ❤️🙏
What a beautiful interview. I loved how deep the conversation went. Ellen asked wonderful questions and Brene is full of wisdom!
A lovely human being. What a perfect timing with all that's happening in the world. Thanks for sharing!
I too have been dealing with feeling guilty for joy because of all the people suffering right now in the world. Thank you for the advice. Allowing myself joy is what this world needs more of 🌎 ☮️
Yes! Be in your Joy. Be a Standard to other. For me a real teacher teaches out of experience. So other can See you and the way how you live full of Joy and then you inspire them I or not. Because there are also people they realy like to suffer because they get something out of it. Maybe that Sounds hard but I realy know such people. They realy habe to ask themself " how does it Serve me?" Ans to be very honest.
"Some mornings I play Wordle and then I just want to go back to sleep and wake up till the next Wordle is ready. I don't want to face the world." Same. Most days.
I can see tears in Ellen's eyes.
She's really emotional here with Brené!
Thank you for saying this , “We need to lean into Joy and Love during the difficult times we are living in.” I agree, but sometimes it feels hard to do. I deeply appreciate your affirmation.
Hearing you two talk lifts me out of my sadness and gives me real hope.
I am empathetic too and feel everything too and it’s hard to explain to others who don’t. You’re not alone I’m that! 💜💜💜💜
And it's hard to identify which is your own emotion and which is from someone else's
You're not alone either...same here...
I think we should also learn emotional language from other cultures because as a chinese american, I find that in the chinese language there is a lot more nuance for emotions than english.
Interesting to know about this...
Byron Katie and Dr Shefali should be heard also in this shows. They are very powerful woman with a important message for human kind.
"NO!!! man, I am not a feeling person!!!" "WOW... that's so many feelings" Loving Mrs. Brown, she has been on this Earth for a while ✨💕🌎
I love you Brene and am grateful for your influence in my life!
Brene is an amazing interviewee and public speaker. Such rich experience she delivers when she speaks. Remarkable! Thank you ❤️
I really love this interview. Ellen being vulnerable , Brene continuing to shine her light on shame and vulnerability 🤍 I no longer have the tolerance for inauthentic BS and being saturated with reality tv (which appears to be far from reality) if it’s meaningful, it’s engaging to me. 🙏
100% agree with you❤
Like many, I feel the global vibes too…and I’m leaning in to deepen my connection with new and current flame protectors.
(Love that metaphor🙌)
Sending love to anyone reading this❤️
This woman has built an empire on common sense principles that we all already are aware of deep down.
She articulates it in a way that is relatable and memorable.
Brene is so amazing! 😍 I love how playful she is with Ellen hahaha
Brene is the complete package! It proves that the best people are extremely complex!
Here’s how to fix all the problems of the world….. quit social media immediately! Here’s a startling revelation….Talk to people in person, face to face. You’ll start to feel a lot happier.
What a beautiful interview! Her every though resonated so much with me. I agree so much on the importance of language and broadening of the vocabulary to be able to express all kinds of emotions that we feel.
Brene is such a beautiful blessing to humanity
Yep, I have a hard time excepting my joy & living in that joyous moment.
I just heard Brene say no flame blower outers as something came across my desk that could have blown out my flame. Thank you for what you do and your messages
Ellen is very emotional and honoured to have Brene and really connected with her work.
Yeah we need to put more love and joy out there - the more the better
There’s no half-assin with Brene even gotta motivational hiney sticker 😂💪🏽
Your Victory is my Victory ! Lean into Love and Joy and Connection !!! This takes working on ourselves loving ourselves . Thank you for this information 🦋💖🥰🙏
I absolutely agree! Lean into joy as often as you can to balance the light blowers.
Brene, your share of the tattoo was so raw and funny. Thank you for your vulnerability
This is an underrated topic I must say.
Great interview. We need to lean into joy and love and connection in these difficult times in the world. Great words and profound and touches my soul.
Community is so important I believe this was the key to our ancestors, our grand parents their grandparents.. etc. We can't do this alone it's a together effort competition is not the answer its sharing and caring. Thank you for your speeches they really hit home and justify that u I'm on the right path! Structure is also key we have to learn that everyone has some routine and to respect their needs and boundaries. This is something I'm really starting to learn. Thank you 😊 💓 ☺️ God Bless 🙏
Thank you to Brené Brown for her beauty and talent.
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I wish this series was on Amazon Prime so more could take advantage of it. Not all of us have HBO.
There are only truly 2 emotions of which all other emotions stem from - Fear and Love.
Yes, the others are almost like ' sub-emotions'
Donnie Darko probably has something to say about that.
Yay Brené. I look forward to watching the series on HBO Max.
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Excellent speaker and talk about motivation and realization! Wow!!
Brené for President... of the WORLD!
I love her she's funny and witty and makes everything in life so simple Hey I knew the meaning of shadenfreude!💗
Brene brown for president
I wish I could be friends with everyone that loves to celebrate other people's joy... It would look like the ending of that Blind Melon song!
Wow! Recommended you to so many people Brene. I never knew fraudenfraude is a thing?! It's the best. Since becoming an acting coach I've found I have more of this. I love it. Lights everyone up. Love the flame blowing analogy, thank you x
Hi Pipps, -just an aside- living in Germany I believe it should be Freudenfreude. Freude is the German word for joy. Schaden translates into damage and "Schadenfreude" is actually the German word for malicious joy. Freudenfreude (which is actually not being used in everyday language, but perfectly understood) would be Joyjoy -joyaboutjoy. I find it so cute how the pronounce the German words. Love it
got chills when I watched this! So powerful!
Hi 👋
Love the messages Brene talks about ❤️
I think so many of us were raised with "walk it off" my mom made worry an art and then denied it made her miserable.. sad times
This was quite enlightening for me. I feel very deeply and thought there was something wrong with me.
I’m the same way. I thought it was a Pisces thing. I want to order this book.
@@HH-gv8mx I'm also Pisces and it's definitely a burden sometimes! (OK most of the time) ❤
Nope, nothing wrong with you. Wrong with the people who don’t allow themselves to feel.
I'm here to say I love Ellen Degeneres.
I love Brene!!!! Have listened to many of her 📚
Thank You Ellen for having Brene … soo many Aha moments reading the book 💯❣️🙏🏻
I am just like you Ellen. I feel all of it. I love BB! Thank you!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you - my wife has been moved by you for years and so when I saw this opportunity to learn frm you I took it - thank you again
I adore Ellen & her show; it WILL be missed by me.😍
Yes I don’t think anything will ever replace the work Ellen has done and what her show does for so many people.
Need to lean into love joy and connection ! yes Brene' Brown that is so good!
She is so great, love her TedTalk.... so inspiring.
Read Rene’s books too!
@@S0ngsyngr Yes, she writes how she talks and it is lovely.
Thank you!
Ellen’s got a massive crush on Brené. It’s hilarious 😂❤️😘😘
I enjoyed this. Brene is obviously talking about women, not really about men. Women inject emotion into everything which is fun at times. I'm a stoic. I have thoughts. Sometimes those thoughts provoke emotions. Mostly they don't.
“Dada probably knew that already” 🤣
I think I’ll need to buy that book!
You won’t regret it!!! It’s phenomenal/transformational/ and quite literally BEAUTIFUL! She filled this book with tons of quotes and pictures! I keep mine on the coffee table b/c I love it that much!
I LOVE BRENE!!!!!!
It was not just for 4th graders but also for adults who never graduated emotionally ❤
Also, Brene has become more beautiful
Thank you Brene and Ellen.
I live me some Brene Brown!!🥰🥰
Ellen and Brene u rock.
omg i love her so much
JOY comes from GOD and by being joyful from God we can conduct ourself with Love ❤️, Kindness & Grace to all others~ 💕 👸
Thank you both so much!
Amazing interview!
ellen asking really personal emotional questions like these was really inspiring for me, Love Brenè's work she is such a bright human she is heling so many people and I love to see ellen step out of her shell
Love you Brene
This was a wonderful interview I enjoyed it very much. So many good things to think about especially the idea that we are more of a feeling human than an intellectual human. I’ve been in discussions about understanding what feelings are and what emotions are. So I have that question. . .are we feeling humans and then have an emotional response to the feeling? Can we change the emotional response to the feeling?
Hi there
WOW. Love Brene.
Wonderfully insightful. Thank you!!
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Brilliant. Absolutely Brilliant!
In the anbsence of connection is suffering
Champion of Language, Dr. Brene' Brown 🙏
😔 I have been in therapies for 10 years..my daughter is 10 now and I am sad because I still struggle with my mental illness..how can I teach her the tools on her level when I barely even grasp them..
Brené Brown is amazing. Don't listen to your children. It's parents privilege to embarrass their kids!
Wow this was impressive.
I've only just discovered Brene. How can I only start watching her in videos! I am interested in learning more!
Check out her Ted Talks on shame and vulnerability. Also, her books are wonderful
The entire audience is MASKED, and the show is all about connecting emotionally as humans. Love it.
Dr.Gabor Mate shares *Self Connection, First (withIN)*
is the Key to All else in Life, including healthy Connections with others.
The first & most profound Trauma is DIS-connection from Self. All pain & suffering stems from this. ♥️♥️♥️
I love it!
Open your heart to God. He is the answer to everything
Great show!
Aha moment WOW... Thank you. . Guilty of ShodinFroya (sp.) esp. with the recent Oscars Incident:) Wow - thank you for pointing this out.. Great message I needed to hear:) Thank you for getting me back on track)
With much respect I believe it's schadenfreude.
That is a really honest and courageous thing to admit. Good on you.
All the world is a stage. Grab joy and gratitude. Don't worry or even receive what you see portrayed on media. Look around you and lean into the connections that are right in front of you. Wishing you joy in the journey!!
What if you can communicate it, but someone can't hear you?
Ellen has been the victim of Schadenfreude for a few years now and people don't even seem to be aware they're doing it. That shows how Brené Brown is right.
People who take pleasure in your joy = Compersion. A common term in Polyamory where we are happy when our partners (and their partners or Metas) experience happiness. Good relationship & Deep Connection YES!
💚🙏 porshie & elli
💚🙏 brene