My Wife Spends Money Like Crazy!

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  • @Zumcho
    @Zumcho 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1913

    10K on elective surgery?! That lady is already getting ready for her single life lol.

    • @andreahunter2471
      @andreahunter2471 2 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      Not necessarily. Low self esteem or loneliness and feelings of not being in control is often medicated with spending, plastic surgery, entertainment, stimulating the dopamine and oxytocin and euphoric feelings one isn’t getting during emotional, psychological, spiritual personal crisis. Yes, fantasies of imminent singlehood is still also a possibility, but I think she needs to be in therapy before any determination of her real desires and status of the marriage are made. There are FOUR YOUNG children involved…she might just be having a mommy meltdown and her husband is the rock who will see her through if he can get courage, wisdom and good counseling

    • @Zumcho
      @Zumcho 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@andreahunter2471 totally. I can see that side too.

    • @kingartem
      @kingartem 2 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      @@andreahunter2471 Doesn’t excuse the overspending whatsoever, his wife seems to have zero interest in making it work.

    • @andreahunter2471
      @andreahunter2471 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@kingartem pursuing appropriate counseling with compassion for a person’s condition is not the same thing as “excusing bad behavior” or even taking responsibility for it if you choose to take a patient, forbearing response to getting assistance rather than just judge,condemn, convict and cut and run or banish. If she chooses to do that, herself, there are still four children who need a mommy and a daddy to figure something out to restore a faith in love as the prevailing solution.

    • @dagobert1234321
      @dagobert1234321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      @@andreahunter2471 I think a more appropriate question is, what’s his name? That surgery ain’t for him..

  • @freshmex85
    @freshmex85 2 ปีที่แล้ว +252

    Sadly this guy is still in love with someone who wants nothing to do with him.

    • @thebullgator
      @thebullgator 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Unfortunately, so many people don’t understand what the word love means. Love requires truth and protection and as men we are required to lead. This man sounds weak and he needs to kindly put his foot down and follow Dave’s advice.
      1 Corinthians 13:4-7
      "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

    • @chcarroll5164
      @chcarroll5164 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Dude can't stop talking, blah blah blah, and is not listening to logic. Pushing the button at 6:30 was way overdue, no helping this whipped loser.

    • @MMG-g9w
      @MMG-g9w หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@thebullgatorAmen!! ❤ Jesus is Lord!!

  • @marcenelj
    @marcenelj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1122

    Dave calling another grown man honey always gets me.. 😆 🤣 😂

    • @mambofuego5101
      @mambofuego5101 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      🤣Well… it’s pretty appropriate.. Simp IS a “honey”.

    • @samfuchs5863
      @samfuchs5863 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      😂

    • @dasheffield5596
      @dasheffield5596 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Isn’t that kinda suspect 😳?

    • @TheCaligrown87
      @TheCaligrown87 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It’s classic.

    • @chrism70283
      @chrism70283 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      I kinda feel like he is more used to having this kind of conversation with a woman about her husband and “honey” just came out 😂

  • @cristalcruzzin1756
    @cristalcruzzin1756 2 ปีที่แล้ว +697

    She’s getting ready to leave you bro!!! Start separating the money and get a lawyer!

    • @grit2785
      @grit2785 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      She already met someone!

    • @webfreakz
      @webfreakz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Elective surgery is a boobjob?

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      He's in denial. He's a weak man and she lost respect for him a long time ago.

    • @improvisedsurvival5967
      @improvisedsurvival5967 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Hide some $ for yourself. Get a lawyer and follow his advise he’s gonna help you in this divorce not her. It’s over bro

    • @pjf3837
      @pjf3837 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      She is going to take him to the cleaners.

  • @rolandoflores2806
    @rolandoflores2806 2 ปีที่แล้ว +244

    I’ve been listening to Dave since 2017, I don’t think I’ve ever heard him say someone’s marriage was over (outside of domestic abuse situations)

    • @michaelhigh8348
      @michaelhigh8348 ปีที่แล้ว

      “For better or for worse “ is why

    • @parkwood6334
      @parkwood6334 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      The husband is not listening when he's told his marriage is in crisis.

    • @sierra7534
      @sierra7534 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I've been listening to Dave since 2009 and this is the first time I've heard it too

  • @rolandoflores2806
    @rolandoflores2806 2 ปีที่แล้ว +397

    $10k elective procedure? She’s getting her new body for her new boyfriend.
    Move on brother

    • @mrworkowt5419
      @mrworkowt5419 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Exactly!!!!

    • @catherinewilke5583
      @catherinewilke5583 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yep new boobs or a tummy tuck probably. Needs to take her dating profile photos 😂

    • @bryceoleski5680
      @bryceoleski5680 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We all know what $10k of elective surgery gets you. She's leveling up physically to find or entertain an already selected new man.

    • @MichaelArgenta
      @MichaelArgenta 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I THOUGHT BOOBS COST 4 000 $

  • @takeitback-financial2808
    @takeitback-financial2808 2 ปีที่แล้ว +414

    Being on the same page with money is a must before ever getting married.

    • @kingartem
      @kingartem 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      💯

    • @mambofuego5101
      @mambofuego5101 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Men should not get married… and if they do… they MUST get a hard-core prenup…

    • @juniorgod321
      @juniorgod321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yes, but sometimes the garden tool you marry turns to the next page:)

    • @TheJozuaSmit
      @TheJozuaSmit 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Yeah when I started dating my wife, quite soon while dating she asked me if I had any debt. Thought it was a little bit of a weird question at the time. Now I understand how important that really was. Happy to say we were and are on the same page.

    • @Joenzinator
      @Joenzinator 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mambofuego5101 Prenups only make sense for people who already have significant assets. If you push one otherwise, then YOU are the one saying you aren't fully committed to the marriage, and are condemning it to failure.

  • @trent797
    @trent797 2 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    The wife is hitting the self-destruct button on this marriage. She is trying to sabotage this relationship from the inside out. Get a divorce yesterday.

    • @improvisedsurvival5967
      @improvisedsurvival5967 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      She already has another simp lined up to pay for her spending.

    • @RearviewMirror-ij2pr
      @RearviewMirror-ij2pr 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yep. And there is a good chance that she is already coddling the kids against him. And the courts will side with her. Plain BS

    • @adipratapsinghaps
      @adipratapsinghaps 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How much down and how much a month?

  • @jamalparkinson6827
    @jamalparkinson6827 2 ปีที่แล้ว +415

    This is beyond repair. He needs to hire a good divorce lawyer and brace for impact.

    • @da11king
      @da11king ปีที่แล้ว +2

      There s always a slim hope for reconciliation 😅

    • @dummgelauft
      @dummgelauft 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Pun intended, I'm sure.😅

    • @toomuchgolf1674
      @toomuchgolf1674 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      A pilot comments. "Brace for impact"! Ha!

  • @carni4873
    @carni4873 2 ปีที่แล้ว +859

    This dude is nothing more than an ATM for his wife.

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 2 ปีที่แล้ว +84

      And his wife's boyfriend

    • @stefancoban59
      @stefancoban59 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@Originalman144 I'd bet my money u are right =))

    • @jordangarrick669
      @jordangarrick669 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Yup....And a lot of other men are in a similar position. I've been there, too. The situation always gets worse, not better

    • @carni4873
      @carni4873 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jordangarrick669 Yep.

    • @christophercolumbus8944
      @christophercolumbus8944 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      isn't that what all we are to women ?

  • @ChristopherT1
    @ChristopherT1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +350

    My ex stole thousands in cash and was in $15k in debt after we separated. We were debt free with a large emergency fund. I was the only one working. This advise is 100% accurate.

    • @rebeccaoprea9917
      @rebeccaoprea9917 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      This is the case with many exes especially when they’re the ones earning less or nothing at all . One of them always spirals out of control .

    • @thelastfreshwaterfish
      @thelastfreshwaterfish ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Yeah, similar thing with my soon to be ex wife. Relationship fell apart due to her insane spending which affected the whole family - when she realized divorce was coming, she stole my credit cards and ran them up. Nothing I could do because we were still married. You think you know someone...

    • @howlbeast
      @howlbeast ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sorry to hear man.. you should’ve filed a theft fraud report! No sympathy give them the jail time they deserve

    • @racebannon96
      @racebannon96 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@thelastfreshwaterfish Sorry you had to go through that. I hope you can recovery. Nothing is worse than a betrayal.

    • @Mark-qv4bn
      @Mark-qv4bn 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@rebeccaoprea9917 I wouldn't even consider anyone who wasn't working. Not going to happen.

  • @BrianaBudgets
    @BrianaBudgets ปีที่แล้ว +194

    I’m assuming this 10k surgery was an augmentation and that is soooo textbook. Getting an augmentation on your husband’s dime right before leaving him is the oldest trick in the book.

    • @formula112967
      @formula112967 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Correct, but if you read some of the comments from other women, they are justifying the wife getting the surgery.

    • @BrianaBudgets
      @BrianaBudgets ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@formula112967I don’t see how you could justify that.

    • @Dit1160
      @Dit1160 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oldest trick of the boob…the only real boob is hubby

    • @GDuncan8002
      @GDuncan8002 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      ​@@BrianaBudgets Low quality women choose low quality friends and they can justify anything.

    • @formula112967
      @formula112967 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@BrianaBudgets It's called The Sisterhood.....women justify bad female behavior all the time, because the women defending the bad behavior usually do the same bad behavior themselves eventually.

  • @Merman642
    @Merman642 2 ปีที่แล้ว +260

    I get where the guy is coming from. He thinks he can fix the marriage by limiting spending to less than they make. Admitting that his marriage is over is a hard thing to say out loud.

    • @robertschaefer5459
      @robertschaefer5459 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@caliopeknows844 exactly, getting into heaven is contingent on staying married

    • @elkellenhabla
      @elkellenhabla 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So when a couple has a bad day they’re no longer married? That’s silly. There are healthy marriages and there are unhealthy marriages. A marriage doesn’t cease to exist the moment it turns for the bad. It just mean you’re in the middle of some mess and you need to fix it.

    • @LaCrux
      @LaCrux 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@elkellenhabla I’ve been married for 10 years and I love my wife. But I don’t love anybody enough to allow them to steal from me. Essentially that’s what she’s doing. She’s stealing from him and stealing from their children’s future. I’m not letting anyone do that. I’ll leave you before I let you bankrupt me, regardless of how long we’ve been together.

    • @elkellenhabla
      @elkellenhabla 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@LaCrux I hope you included that in your vows. “For better or worse, sickness and health, unless you steal from me. Then I’m OUT!!!”

    • @Sheryl777
      @Sheryl777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@robertschaefer5459 Not always ...the bible does say there are certain stipulations where the couple doesn't have to stay married. No, I'm not going to look them up so I can post them, but there are plenty of sites online that have those scriptures to look at though if anyone wants to.

  • @claudiacanales2662
    @claudiacanales2662 2 ปีที่แล้ว +287

    I feel for this guy! 😢He sounds like he is genuinely nice and trying to make it work. I hope he finds a good woman that appreciates and respects him!!!

    • @icelandic_mughal2223
      @icelandic_mughal2223 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nice works only in books. He’s a cream puff and has no spine.

    • @williamhodges3941
      @williamhodges3941 ปีที่แล้ว

      He's a sucka!

    • @ruthirwin8222
      @ruthirwin8222 ปีที่แล้ว

      That would be adultery

    • @worldwidemike24
      @worldwidemike24 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      He also being delusional

    • @Chet_24
      @Chet_24 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Better look in Asia or South America then. Very few good women in the US.

  • @alisagraham6513
    @alisagraham6513 2 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    She doesn't care. No respect, no restraints, selfish, don't want to communicate. She has the audacity....

    • @jeanmccallum-xs8rk
      @jeanmccallum-xs8rk 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, she sounds awful.

    • @0annonymous
      @0annonymous 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Getting something done that's an absolutely necessity is one thing, but UNNECESSARY surgeries should be OUTLAWED
      Stuff like this is why I personally would never want a joint account to put all of our money into only for that account to be drained by someone in the household, ESPECIALLY at a time you MOST NEED something
      The only thing you should have a middle account for is for those bills and to contribute money into after bills when someone in the household needs something and you can transfer money to that particular account to help that person

  • @spidergirl7290
    @spidergirl7290 2 ปีที่แล้ว +382

    Wife in this call: "I do want to make this marriage work."
    Wife in this call actually means: "I do want my husband to continue to work to finance my fairytale spending. The marriage is the only way I can force my husband to keep wasting money on me."

    • @adamseidel9780
      @adamseidel9780 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      “I want to make this guy pay for my new chest so I can get a different guy shortly after”

    • @andreahunter2471
      @andreahunter2471 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Even if this is exactly what’s going on, with four young kids involved, there is just still so much more to unpack than anyone here, including Dave, can do with the very little details known. It’s all guesswork, now, and they really need a counselor to help guide them to the reality of their situation so they can pursue viable solutions.

    • @spidergirl7290
      @spidergirl7290 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@andreahunter2471 I won't play devil's advocate for this woman or make excuses for her, when the caller made it clear that his wife behaves like she's single. It's even worse that there are kids involved. There's counselling, but some things can be taken at face value, too.

  • @girlmom5580
    @girlmom5580 2 ปีที่แล้ว +340

    I’ve been married over 21 years, and you absolutely have to be on the same page when it comes to money. You’ve got to work as a team. I hate when people think it’s okay to make big purchases behind their spouses back, or just spend tons of money in general. So glad that isn’t how my relationship of nearly 30 years works. We’re in a good position because we work as a team. There is no “I” in team.

    • @arnycazaz2126
      @arnycazaz2126 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      DONT SING VICTORY

    • @Subaruktm
      @Subaruktm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Than Kobe said :” yeah but there is a me in that motherf….r”

    • @amydoran9987
      @amydoran9987 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes

    • @andrewcross8244
      @andrewcross8244 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That’s why 75% or more marriages end in divorce

    • @user_abcxyzz
      @user_abcxyzz ปีที่แล้ว

      Why bother getting married. It seems like you have to constantly work together. I'd rather do my own thing and not have to get permission or have to consider their opinion on matters. I'm confident in my decision making so I don't need any idy else's input unless it's from an attorney

  • @roadrunner9622
    @roadrunner9622 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    He needs to cut off all accounts immediately. She's executing her exit strategy, and milking him dry in the process.

  • @milsy8154
    @milsy8154 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    As a Canadian myself, you can tell hes one of us

    • @dummgelauft
      @dummgelauft 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      And an Ontarian to "boot".

    • @michaelh2282
      @michaelh2282 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Most definitely he's Canadian. He apologizes not only for himself but even for his soon-to-be ex-wife.

  • @muhammadalavi2913
    @muhammadalavi2913 2 ปีที่แล้ว +294

    What a nice guy, doesn’t deserve this at all! Dave straight ripped him, but he needed to hear it.

    • @xix967_5
      @xix967_5 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed completely

    • @alexnadon6999
      @alexnadon6999 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jja7038 wow. I'm Canadian. And that is further from the truth

    • @waflletoast11
      @waflletoast11 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      he does deserve it he let this go on long too far.

    • @sonojon0
      @sonojon0 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Agreed. Men need to show other men tough love to understand and move forward

    • @mitchhedberg4415
      @mitchhedberg4415 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      of course you only hear his side of the story

  • @Winston0Boogie
    @Winston0Boogie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    Is anybody else embarrassed for the poor guy? This call is just painful to hear.

    • @0annonymous
      @0annonymous 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I wouldn't say necessarily embarrassed so much as it's disgusting and disappointing
      It can be frustrating at the checkout if you go to buy food or other necessities only to have your transaction declined because the money's NOT THERE
      This can happen every so often, and that's what can be frustrating, even ANGERING
      Imagine trying to get something you absolutely NEED RIGHT THEN, ONLY to find out you CAN'T get it 😞 😭
      It's bad enough if you THOUGHT you had the money and you went over a little bit and had to put some things back
      However, imagine someone else sharing that account with you and draining that account, then when you need something you can't get it right when you MOST NEED it
      No way would I want to SHARE my account, ONLY to have my money DRAINED
      If the other party needs something, then I'm gladly go get it for them if I could afford it, or maybe I can transfer money to the reserved spending account we use for bills AFTER those bills are PAID

  • @heathj7794
    @heathj7794 2 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    You know it's over when even Dave says it's over. Listening to this guy still try to cover for his wife is sickening

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Dave is not the gospel for marriage or finances. Grow up

    • @mgnoodle2589
      @mgnoodle2589 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Covering for his wife because he loves her.

    • @BRTowe
      @BRTowe 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@mgnoodle2589 I'm sure that's true. It's still over and he's in denial.

  • @Lon1001
    @Lon1001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +163

    His wife is spending all their money making herself pretty for the next guy. He needs to stop the bleeding by lawyering up and starting the divorce. I'm glad Dave can say it when he sees it, when a woman (or some men too) check out they are done for good. BTDT paid much for the tshirt. The guy is in the denial stage of grief right now and doesn't even know it, even when being told straight by Dave.

  • @theDawsonEffect
    @theDawsonEffect 2 ปีที่แล้ว +165

    He’s been too nice for too long. If he tries to man up now she’s just going to resist. “Happy wife happy life” is a horrible marriage quote to live by.

    • @autumnjerene
      @autumnjerene 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      "Happy spouse, happy house" is the new saying. It's more effective if both partners are trying to please the other.

    • @theDawsonEffect
      @theDawsonEffect 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@autumnjerene now that’s a quote I can get down with! 👌🏾

    • @johnpichla9557
      @johnpichla9557 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That's what beta simps keep telling themselves 🤣

    • @angelasepi657
      @angelasepi657 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She's definitely playing him as they're crashing together.

    • @mjs805
      @mjs805 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      He's Canadian. Being nice is all they know. Seriously though, he's dealing with a little girl, not a woman. I feel sorry for the kids.

  • @atdepaulis
    @atdepaulis 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Wow… that line at the end Dave.. I was just listening for background noise and tidbits of financial help… but that was like a message from God I needed to hear. “You have to stop being scared that you are going to cause the marriage to end by pushing it to succeed “ 🙌

    • @annasimons389
      @annasimons389 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yeah the guy has some good hillybilly wisdom :)

  • @spencersmith312
    @spencersmith312 2 ปีที่แล้ว +235

    My goodness! That dude was in total denial! I’m glad Dave hung up on him! Wow!

    • @1lespaulfreak
      @1lespaulfreak 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Dude's a simp, I couldn't stand listening to him.

    • @scottlee38
      @scottlee38 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      LOL
      Cant save a Simp!

    • @cozetteoconnor1289
      @cozetteoconnor1289 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So funny to see you here! I was just listening to your Disney teachings on how it’s antichrist, which I definitely see especially living in Florida. Pray for the church, that they would not corrupt their mind watching that satanic garbage! It should be something that is absolutely clear in the church.

    • @waflletoast11
      @waflletoast11 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@scottlee38 Amen women will always be crazy its up for the men not to be simps.

    • @herbalhypnocoach6987
      @herbalhypnocoach6987 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@1lespaulfreak That's exactly what his wife said too!!

  • @turtels6764
    @turtels6764 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    She is Actively trying to get rid of her husband without being the one to call it off herself. She wants him to snap so that she can blame him for their marriage not working. He should seek counseling and calmly leave her behind. He's just not getting it.

    • @smoothy569
      @smoothy569 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      yeah strategically plan it out

  • @nic_ccc3366
    @nic_ccc3366 2 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    Very sad to see this, even sadder when it seems like the guy has no idea what to do or is in denial. If your wife doesn't think you have any say in how she spends $10k, there's a serious problem. I fear Dave's right though, the wife is done with the marriage.

    • @improvisedsurvival5967
      @improvisedsurvival5967 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Dave is wrong about the marriage counseling. He needs a divorce lawyer immediately and follow your lawyers instructions. He’s gonna build a case on your behalf to get you the best deal.

    • @Sunmoonstars976
      @Sunmoonstars976 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He's completely in denial.

    • @robertdebakey2870
      @robertdebakey2870 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      She probably got that surgery for another guy.

  • @choicemeatrandy6572
    @choicemeatrandy6572 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    It's always hard when someone is told a relationship is over and he knows it but his heart hasn't caught up-to it. Happens to the best of us. Happened to someone I knew, the wife stopped working, got him to pay all her loans, get her a good job at his company, then she filed for divorce in December.

  • @relentlessenterprises9238
    @relentlessenterprises9238 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I would hope this guy listens to this call again and sees his pattern of finding excuses and "potential possibilities" in order to not face the reality of what his intuition is already telling him. I get it, it's hard, and I've been there myself.. but when you know the future. Putting it off is just going to make everything more complicated and harder.

  • @mirabella2154
    @mirabella2154 2 ปีที่แล้ว +169

    Stop marrying women that are not wife material. 🙄

    • @spidergirl7290
      @spidergirl7290 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Full stop!

    • @markg999
      @markg999 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      This...women that all they have to offer is good looks...they aren't marriage material at all.

    • @skycaptain95
      @skycaptain95 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      So... Stop marrying anyone altogether? Got it.

    • @grit1679
      @grit1679 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      They pretend to be wife material long enough to get a ring on their finger. It's called a "bait-and-switch".

    • @GrgAProduction
      @GrgAProduction ปีที่แล้ว

      @@grit1679just listen to the guy in the call. He is in DENIAL. Everything she does and he still tries to rationalise it and ‘get her back on track’ .. she is GONE!!! He is blind!! And this is how most men are. All this internet theory keyboard warrior talky talk, but let’s be real… most men are suckers.

  • @flotaylor8170
    @flotaylor8170 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    If I hadn’t heard that he was from Toronto, this minute he started talking, I would have been like “he’s canadian!” 😂 🇨🇦

  • @blackworldtraveler3711
    @blackworldtraveler3711 2 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    The most dangerous woman to divorce.

    • @maretvilla1531
      @maretvilla1531 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      And he knows it. Reminds me of a celebrity blind item website who recently said actor Jason Mamoa is trying to fix his marriage because he can't afford the divorce. Most men would stay just for that.

    • @shalzsoulz3656
      @shalzsoulz3656 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Its cheaper to keep her

  • @St4ked
    @St4ked 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Sound like u got a trophy 🏆 wife, my boy

  • @itsbkinthemix
    @itsbkinthemix 2 ปีที่แล้ว +190

    I love the aggravation Dave exhibited when he muted that guy 😂

    • @tvrao878
      @tvrao878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      6:25

    • @gcromer903
      @gcromer903 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You saw that too!

    • @fade2black244
      @fade2black244 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      That was hilarious. Because he doesn't STOP talking and LISTEN.

    • @n121pp67
      @n121pp67 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Took him too long he should have muted 30 secs into the call. Some people will talk and talk to justify the wrong things, this is that guy.

  • @jimmyrobinson01
    @jimmyrobinson01 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It’s hard. I get it. I have been through it. This marriage is dead. He doesn’t get it nor did I. Acceptance is truly the hardest part when a marriage is over.

  • @Rashaadthegr8
    @Rashaadthegr8 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Marry a Dave Ramsey fan. It's really no other option.

    • @kingartem
      @kingartem 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Agreed!

    • @AdriannaIX
      @AdriannaIX 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I showed Dave Ramsey to my husband, and he said, "Debt free is pretty much what I've always done." It's such a blessing to be on the same page.

    • @nildabridgeman8104
      @nildabridgeman8104 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😄😆😂.. my sides hurt

  • @deborahjackson6108
    @deborahjackson6108 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    She gives him just enough to keep him holding on….

  • @ramonaearnest4709
    @ramonaearnest4709 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I wish I would have known this years ago! Lucky I finally figured it out and got out! Life is good! Absolutely the best advice ever! I see many people go through this and never figure it out!

  • @kingartem
    @kingartem 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Respect is completely broken, this woman has zero interest in making this marriage work- it’s time to make the hardest decision and admit it’s over.

  • @GixxerRider1991
    @GixxerRider1991 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This call reminded me so much of my ex girlfriend. The problem doesn't always manifest itself in the form of frivolous spending, but when someone refuses to see a therapist, they are admitting that they are not mature enough to take responsibility for their shortcomings and work on them. Until someone decides to look in the mirror, they will never have a healthy relationship with themselves or anyone else.

  • @mycaddigo
    @mycaddigo ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Dave is so gifted that he has a 2 min conversation and knows all details future past etc ..

    • @createone100
      @createone100 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah, well I’m not entirely sure about that.

    • @mackeejack6731
      @mackeejack6731 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      LOL. People aren’t special. Everything thinks their situation is so special and no one can possibly understand because it’s soooo nuanced. Please

  • @1lespaulfreak
    @1lespaulfreak 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    This caller personifies the "Nice Guy" described in Dr. Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" - He gives to get, he makes his wife his emotional center, and he lets his wife's mood & feelings guide what he does - he's always reacting to her. When he makes her happy, then he's a good boy.
    Over time, the wife begins to resent her husband being afraid for voicing his own preferences, since he acts like he's in constant dread of losing his wife's affection. And when she doesn't show reciprocal appreciation for all the nice things he's done for her, he gets mad & resentful towards her, and the downward spiral continues.

  • @mitchellgrand3724
    @mitchellgrand3724 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love it when dave gets fired up! That guy was pissing me off too! Just not listening. The way Dave pushes the cut off button shows hes pissed off. Lol that lady is getting ready for her new toy boy

  • @NomadicRVLiving
    @NomadicRVLiving 2 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    I've been married twice. Single problems are so much easier than married problems!

    • @gmarie3053
      @gmarie3053 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You didn’t lie. But relationship happiness beats single happiness every time

    • @GDuncan8002
      @GDuncan8002 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amen brother. I'll never put a woman's name on my assets again.

    • @formula112967
      @formula112967 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@gmarie3053 Who told you that? .....most women can make you feel lonely. I divorced a cheating lying women 26 years ago, and haven't felt lonely since.

    • @smoothy569
      @smoothy569 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@formula112967 sorry for that, but there are good women out there

    • @chrislovell7448
      @chrislovell7448 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      you didn't learn the 1st time guy? Geeeeez.

  • @hjsimpson
    @hjsimpson 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Lots of men don't realize their woman doesn't respect them (and never has). Total lack of control of their marriage and their own life. Tough to hear.

  • @alexisjankowski3281
    @alexisjankowski3281 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This woman better wake up and hold onto this guy for dear life. He said, “We are spending too much” when it clearly is her, he’s still connected with her. Her selfish behavior isn’t going to land her a better guy. Her future is bleak and she doesn’t want to face reality.

    • @OtisFlint
      @OtisFlint ปีที่แล้ว

      She thinks shes going to return to the single life and options she had before marriage...10 years and 4 kids later. She'll be a pump and dump at best.

  • @maggiew6200
    @maggiew6200 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Well gosh I feel like an angel 😇 here because my husband thinks im overspending to spend $20 on Amazon without talking to him first lol 😂🤑

  • @MrNiceGuy500
    @MrNiceGuy500 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    I’m fortunate my wife earns like crazy and saves like crazy

    • @katemiller7874
      @katemiller7874 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Is she a good mother or us that all that’s important to you.

    • @angelasepi657
      @angelasepi657 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are.

    • @carojames6776
      @carojames6776 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You chose well.

    • @EadsB7002
      @EadsB7002 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      exactly...and if she did spend a lot, at least she is bringing in her own income! I cannot even believe the lunacy of some of these people... allowing the other spouse (who usually doesn't even work) spend crazily while they're living on one income. SMH.

  • @fauxbro1983
    @fauxbro1983 2 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    Time to sell the wife. The foundation of a relationship is respect and trust. She doesn't respect you, therefore there is no relationship

    • @GDuncan8002
      @GDuncan8002 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There's a third foundation for women: assets.

  • @elmarsupial6483
    @elmarsupial6483 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    He is in denial big time, marriage is over.

  • @dillonbooker7222
    @dillonbooker7222 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Every day I'm reassured that my decision to stay single was the right thing to do by hearing these stories. Ive worked too hard in life to be drug down by another person.

  • @Originalman144
    @Originalman144 2 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    This dude is weak, she lost respect for him a long time ago and he refuses to realize it. She's walking all over him. He needs to wake up!

    • @GrgAProduction
      @GrgAProduction ปีที่แล้ว

      No wonder. He is a fkn sucker and she knows it. During this call it is totally clear why she knows she can milk him dry. He is a pushover in total denial. She is just bread crumbing him until she has him completely dry.

    • @dummgelauft
      @dummgelauft 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And he could be flying one of the people here, on an airplane..

  • @dp4kallday
    @dp4kallday 2 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    Shes getting ready to leave you lol

    • @KEANUWHITE
      @KEANUWHITE 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      Reason for the surgery, need to tune up for the next guy in the future

    • @johnpichla9557
      @johnpichla9557 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Dude getting red 💊 pilled. 🤣

    • @I_like_turtles_67
      @I_like_turtles_67 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      She went and got the bolt on and got a tune up before she rides on the the 🐓 🎠

    • @saintfrancis9619
      @saintfrancis9619 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@johnpichla9557 no it’s just common sense

  • @BallAintLife123
    @BallAintLife123 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Very rare that Dave suggests divorce

  • @bigcatdaddy7573
    @bigcatdaddy7573 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This dude needs to wake up! This guy’s about as sharp as a bowling ball!

  • @wadeharris348
    @wadeharris348 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I've been divorced and I can tell you it's best to just talk it out and be open and honest. It's always how you say it to each other. Just say you're stressed and you could really use her help. If she still says **** you and doesn't want to work it out it's best to part ways. I'm trying to give good advice because knowing what I know now, it's always good to just be open and honest. Everybody has needs and wants but it's best to keep it out in the open as far as what you want out of life.

    • @wadeharris348
      @wadeharris348 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This same thing happened to me and I should have been more open. Just keep a clear line of communication.

  • @sethwilson6321
    @sethwilson6321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    In the words of dave him self, " a child's mentality is i want it! i want it!" she has a childs mentality and she needs her own reality check. dont let her pull you down.

  • @lawv804
    @lawv804 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    She getting ready to divorce him.

  • @brownsfan222
    @brownsfan222 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This guy is a simp. I’ve been there. She’s not interested in staying but doesn’t want to give up her current life and knows she won’t have as much without him.

  • @CJ2023Incognito
    @CJ2023Incognito 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    5:25 Dave calling that guy honey because he is acting like a little B-tch. 😂

  • @jennifershray4962
    @jennifershray4962 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Some people are to scary to pull the plug on the relationship themselves. They act out until the other person is forced to do it themselves, even though they are the ones who are holding out.

  • @Nickstuff100
    @Nickstuff100 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The second she got elective surgery because she wanted it, and it wasnt agreed upon. Its over. Shes trying to male herself look attractive for other men, not you.

  • @BrettABarker
    @BrettABarker ปีที่แล้ว +2

    We need an update! Call him back please!

  • @Elizabeth-uj8vn
    @Elizabeth-uj8vn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Dave: you participating in crazy does not make crazy go away.
    Me: 😅

  • @EatMyPropwash
    @EatMyPropwash ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im a pilot…. $300k a year is standard pay for me, plus about $60k per year doing aircraft management, and she makes $110k. If my wife outspent $470k a year I’d be wondering where my dream car and destination house is at….

  • @bufftammy735
    @bufftammy735 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    She's getting ready to leave and is draining everything first.

  • @gammayin3245
    @gammayin3245 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have a tendency to spend too much. As a single female, in 2008 I saw my own trajectory of heading towards financial ruin and Googled 'financial independence' to find out what helps are available. Financial Peace University popped up and I took the nearest class. I continue to fight this self-destructive tendency 16 years later and have recently (in the last 2 months) balanced my budget. It is a continuing struggle but I have the same determination to be successful at this as I was in finishing my bachelor's degree and landing a career. IDK why I am this way - maybe something sub-conscious from childhood? My parents went bankrupt twice. Anyway, I know that I am a steward of this income I receive every month and send my thanks to Dave and his team for all the financial education!

  • @BryceCorbitt
    @BryceCorbitt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I got the same "You care too much about money" argument from my ex girlfriend, emphasis on the ex.

  • @mr.constitution
    @mr.constitution 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Bro is such a betamale. Letting his wife bankrupt him then she is gonna leave him and take the house in the divorce too. Grow a pair!

  • @YummyFood454
    @YummyFood454 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Man loves her too much and she is using him. This is hard to listen to and I hope the best for this man

  • @JAutomated
    @JAutomated 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I knew a guy who paid for a boo job, and she used it to find a new man. Unbelievably selfish.

  • @Madoriko
    @Madoriko ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I don't think I've seen Dave hit the mute button like that before 😂

  • @Stanthemilkman
    @Stanthemilkman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I bet this didn't come out of no where. He never said no, terrified of her wife's emotions. She hold him in complete contempt.

  • @kaelaleedaley
    @kaelaleedaley 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Oh Gosh, praying for this family xx

  • @0annonymous
    @0annonymous 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is why you don't want joint accounts
    The only thing you should be using a shared account for is for household members to contribute toward bills, and use THAT particular account to pay household bills
    Anything left over is for your individual NEEDS and and some extras here and there
    You can also use your leftover money to build or rebuild an emergency savings

  • @seanallenfitness
    @seanallenfitness 2 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    I literally couldn’t finish watching this. This guy is a total push over.

    • @llallogen7380
      @llallogen7380 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      He's scared of losing someone he loves and has convinced himself that there is a chance she loves him. It's heartbreaking

    • @kadeemleslie2988
      @kadeemleslie2988 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Pushover = being in love huh?

    • @MikeyPaper
      @MikeyPaper 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kadeemleslie2988 found the simp.

    • @binks3371
      @binks3371 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      its not just about his wife but kids as well

    • @truthtelleranon
      @truthtelleranon ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@kadeemleslie2988Yes. Men are in love. Women are in business.

  • @flashgordon6510
    @flashgordon6510 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Poor guy. He sounds like a great guy who is willing to fight for his marriage, and she's throwing away happiness with both hands.

  • @JSM.
    @JSM. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    Dave: Dude, she's done; she is screaming in your face she is done. Man, it is over. It has been over !
    Gorge: You should have not gotten married

    • @Emophilosophy
      @Emophilosophy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Although Dave is viewed as the cynic or I guess the critic in most situations, as well as makes use of being straight to the point, I feel like gorges comment is more of the type of millennial cynicism that I and many others have. Not to mention the baby steps and Dave’s companies advice in general sorta comes with a lot of premises that only apply to his generation so much; such as marriage.

    • @terryrose4804
      @terryrose4804 ปีที่แล้ว

      George's comment (and most) are not necessary. A child jumps in like that.

  • @PoyTroy
    @PoyTroy ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Once she got plastic surgery for over 10k the marriage was over. That’s called a “mommy makeover” and she’s doing that to resale herself in the dating world and find a new man. Dave was right. That marriage is over. Mans needs to find a good divorce lawyer or he’ll be raked over the coals. And she’ll have the home with the kids. And kick him out. And have a new man living there. Happens to a lot of men out here. Sorry to hear brother

  • @DisabilityExams
    @DisabilityExams 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This guy is out of touch with reality.

  • @jtlegionnaire6310
    @jtlegionnaire6310 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Wouldn't shock me if shes cheated too, blatant disrespectful behavior.

  • @danak4064
    @danak4064 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Lol at 6:25 Dave turning off the excuses

    • @millsathn
      @millsathn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      🤣🤣🤣 thank god

    • @kurtjames9487
      @kurtjames9487 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You can actually hear his hand slap the desk!

    • @treeroofgrass
      @treeroofgrass 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      The guy doesn’t know when to shut up 😂😂

  • @GrumpyCat-mw5xl
    @GrumpyCat-mw5xl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    My ex her hobby was spending money even though she has never held down a job.

  • @hannahhelton3789
    @hannahhelton3789 2 ปีที่แล้ว +204

    I watch these to make sure it’s not my husband calling the show 😜

    • @KEANUWHITE
      @KEANUWHITE 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Get it together girl lol

    • @Raec123
      @Raec123 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      😂

    • @Crew4Life
      @Crew4Life 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      🤣😂😂

    • @ilai7893
      @ilai7893 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @Hannah Helton I gather you forgot to write "again" 🙃

    • @djpuplex
      @djpuplex 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      At least your honest.

  • @abnersosa8842
    @abnersosa8842 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    She is already seen some one else. Collect all evidence of her reckless behavior and contact your lawyer ASAP. You are trying to save the marriage when she already left you and is just making sure is secured before letting you know. Separate kindness from weakness

  • @luisriba8082
    @luisriba8082 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    “A wise woman build her home. A foolish one will destroy it. “ Bible proverb.

    • @dariuss.3500
      @dariuss.3500 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The bible fake lol

  • @Wall2000x
    @Wall2000x 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    There is a very good chance she has somebody on the side. He needs to consult a very good divorce lawyer. Split everything except the surgery 50/50. Do it now.

  • @jasmineosinski521
    @jasmineosinski521 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Divorce her. Done.

  • @bernicezappala7958
    @bernicezappala7958 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Take the blinders off. Emotionally she’s long gone. Her physical body stays around for YOUR money!

  • @charlesagnew3801
    @charlesagnew3801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    She’s for the streets!!

    • @samantharcregan23
      @samantharcregan23 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Streets don’t want her

    • @tubenachos
      @tubenachos 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes and/or he completely stopped courting her for several years

  • @pinkyshoes22
    @pinkyshoes22 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Why did this guy even call? He’s already made up his mind to let this woman do whatever she wants

  • @rayhill5767
    @rayhill5767 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I married a pilot and had 4 kids
    WHY AM I NOT HAPPY?! Whaaahh!😢

  • @kirkraszman7998
    @kirkraszman7998 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This guy needs to stop walking on eggshells. His wife is done, and is only there for the money. She probably is screwing around on him as well. So sad that they have kids involved in this mess.

  • @angiehache6010
    @angiehache6010 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The most canadian call ever

  • @brucethomson1771
    @brucethomson1771 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's so hard to the pain in that mans voice 😢he is still in love with her . I will pray for him and wish I could buy him 😢

  • @jennyberger6688
    @jennyberger6688 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Oh man…… she doesn’t care about your respect honey.

  • @raebean6018
    @raebean6018 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Oh man. Poor bloke is in total denial. She has ended it in her head. You need to take the lead and leave mate - put your kids first. Don't be concerned that you push her over the edge - she's already over the edge!

  • @linhaton4957
    @linhaton4957 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    2K over budget each month! Crazy.

  • @paisley1134
    @paisley1134 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This dude is making up so many excuses for his wife. Foolish. It's irritating listening to him. Why did he call ? WAKE UP! You are nothing but a money source right now.