My Wife Spends Money Like Crazy!
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10K on elective surgery?! That lady is already getting ready for her single life lol.
Not necessarily. Low self esteem or loneliness and feelings of not being in control is often medicated with spending, plastic surgery, entertainment, stimulating the dopamine and oxytocin and euphoric feelings one isn’t getting during emotional, psychological, spiritual personal crisis. Yes, fantasies of imminent singlehood is still also a possibility, but I think she needs to be in therapy before any determination of her real desires and status of the marriage are made. There are FOUR YOUNG children involved…she might just be having a mommy meltdown and her husband is the rock who will see her through if he can get courage, wisdom and good counseling
@@andreahunter2471 totally. I can see that side too.
@@andreahunter2471 Doesn’t excuse the overspending whatsoever, his wife seems to have zero interest in making it work.
@@kingartem pursuing appropriate counseling with compassion for a person’s condition is not the same thing as “excusing bad behavior” or even taking responsibility for it if you choose to take a patient, forbearing response to getting assistance rather than just judge,condemn, convict and cut and run or banish. If she chooses to do that, herself, there are still four children who need a mommy and a daddy to figure something out to restore a faith in love as the prevailing solution.
@@andreahunter2471 I think a more appropriate question is, what’s his name? That surgery ain’t for him..
Dave calling another grown man honey always gets me.. 😆 🤣 😂
🤣Well… it’s pretty appropriate.. Simp IS a “honey”.
😂
Isn’t that kinda suspect 😳?
It’s classic.
I kinda feel like he is more used to having this kind of conversation with a woman about her husband and “honey” just came out 😂
She’s getting ready to leave you bro!!! Start separating the money and get a lawyer!
She already met someone!
Elective surgery is a boobjob?
He's in denial. He's a weak man and she lost respect for him a long time ago.
Hide some $ for yourself. Get a lawyer and follow his advise he’s gonna help you in this divorce not her. It’s over bro
She is going to take him to the cleaners.
$10k elective procedure? She’s getting her new body for her new boyfriend.
Move on brother
Exactly!!!!
Yep new boobs or a tummy tuck probably. Needs to take her dating profile photos 😂
This dude is nothing more than an ATM for his wife.
And his wife's boyfriend
@@Originalman144 I'd bet my money u are right =))
Yup....And a lot of other men are in a similar position. I've been there, too. The situation always gets worse, not better
@@jordangarrick669 Yep.
isn't that what all we are to women ?
Sadly this guy is still in love with someone who wants nothing to do with him.
Being on the same page with money is a must before ever getting married.
💯
Men should not get married… and if they do… they MUST get a hard-core prenup…
Yes, but sometimes the garden tool you marry turns to the next page:)
Yeah when I started dating my wife, quite soon while dating she asked me if I had any debt. Thought it was a little bit of a weird question at the time. Now I understand how important that really was. Happy to say we were and are on the same page.
@@mambofuego5101 Prenups only make sense for people who already have significant assets. If you push one otherwise, then YOU are the one saying you aren't fully committed to the marriage, and are condemning it to failure.
This is beyond repair. He needs to hire a good divorce lawyer and brace for impact.
There s always a slim hope for reconciliation 😅
Pun intended, I'm sure.😅
I’ve been listening to Dave since 2017, I don’t think I’ve ever heard him say someone’s marriage was over (outside of domestic abuse situations)
“For better or for worse “ is why
The husband is not listening when he's told his marriage is in crisis.
The wife is hitting the self-destruct button on this marriage. She is trying to sabotage this relationship from the inside out. Get a divorce yesterday.
She already has another simp lined up to pay for her spending.
Yep. And there is a good chance that she is already coddling the kids against him. And the courts will side with her. Plain BS
How much down and how much a month?
I’m assuming this 10k surgery was an augmentation and that is soooo textbook. Getting an augmentation on your husband’s dime right before leaving him is the oldest trick in the book.
Correct, but if you read some of the comments from other women, they are justifying the wife getting the surgery.
@@formula112967I don’t see how you could justify that.
Oldest trick of the boob…the only real boob is hubby
@@BrianaBudgets Low quality women choose low quality friends and they can justify anything.
@@BrianaBudgets It's called The Sisterhood.....women justify bad female behavior all the time, because the women defending the bad behavior usually do the same bad behavior themselves eventually.
My ex stole thousands in cash and was in $15k in debt after we separated. We were debt free with a large emergency fund. I was the only one working. This advise is 100% accurate.
This is the case with many exes especially when they’re the ones earning less or nothing at all . One of them always spirals out of control .
Yeah, similar thing with my soon to be ex wife. Relationship fell apart due to her insane spending which affected the whole family - when she realized divorce was coming, she stole my credit cards and ran them up. Nothing I could do because we were still married. You think you know someone...
Sorry to hear man.. you should’ve filed a theft fraud report! No sympathy give them the jail time they deserve
@@thelastfreshwaterfish Sorry you had to go through that. I hope you can recovery. Nothing is worse than a betrayal.
@rebeccaoprea9917 I wouldn't even consider anyone who wasn't working. Not going to happen.
I feel for this guy! 😢He sounds like he is genuinely nice and trying to make it work. I hope he finds a good woman that appreciates and respects him!!!
Nice works only in books. He’s a cream puff and has no spine.
He's a sucka!
That would be adultery
He also being delusional
Better look in Asia or South America then. Very few good women in the US.
What a nice guy, doesn’t deserve this at all! Dave straight ripped him, but he needed to hear it.
Agreed completely
@@jamesjodon7038 wow. I'm Canadian. And that is further from the truth
he does deserve it he let this go on long too far.
Agreed. Men need to show other men tough love to understand and move forward
of course you only hear his side of the story
His wife is spending all their money making herself pretty for the next guy. He needs to stop the bleeding by lawyering up and starting the divorce. I'm glad Dave can say it when he sees it, when a woman (or some men too) check out they are done for good. BTDT paid much for the tshirt. The guy is in the denial stage of grief right now and doesn't even know it, even when being told straight by Dave.
I’ve been married over 21 years, and you absolutely have to be on the same page when it comes to money. You’ve got to work as a team. I hate when people think it’s okay to make big purchases behind their spouses back, or just spend tons of money in general. So glad that isn’t how my relationship of nearly 30 years works. We’re in a good position because we work as a team. There is no “I” in team.
DONT SING VICTORY
Than Kobe said :” yeah but there is a me in that motherf….r”
Yes
That’s why 75% or more marriages end in divorce
Why bother getting married. It seems like you have to constantly work together. I'd rather do my own thing and not have to get permission or have to consider their opinion on matters. I'm confident in my decision making so I don't need any idy else's input unless it's from an attorney
I get where the guy is coming from. He thinks he can fix the marriage by limiting spending to less than they make. Admitting that his marriage is over is a hard thing to say out loud.
@@caliopeknows844 exactly, getting into heaven is contingent on staying married
So when a couple has a bad day they’re no longer married? That’s silly. There are healthy marriages and there are unhealthy marriages. A marriage doesn’t cease to exist the moment it turns for the bad. It just mean you’re in the middle of some mess and you need to fix it.
@@elkellenhabla I’ve been married for 10 years and I love my wife. But I don’t love anybody enough to allow them to steal from me. Essentially that’s what she’s doing. She’s stealing from him and stealing from their children’s future. I’m not letting anyone do that. I’ll leave you before I let you bankrupt me, regardless of how long we’ve been together.
@@LaCrux I hope you included that in your vows. “For better or worse, sickness and health, unless you steal from me. Then I’m OUT!!!”
@@robertschaefer5459 Not always ...the bible does say there are certain stipulations where the couple doesn't have to stay married. No, I'm not going to look them up so I can post them, but there are plenty of sites online that have those scriptures to look at though if anyone wants to.
She doesn't care. No respect, no restraints, selfish, don't want to communicate. She has the audacity....
As a Canadian myself, you can tell hes one of us
And an Ontarian to "boot".
My goodness! That dude was in total denial! I’m glad Dave hung up on him! Wow!
Dude's a simp, I couldn't stand listening to him.
LOL
Cant save a Simp!
So funny to see you here! I was just listening to your Disney teachings on how it’s antichrist, which I definitely see especially living in Florida. Pray for the church, that they would not corrupt their mind watching that satanic garbage! It should be something that is absolutely clear in the church.
@@scottlee38 Amen women will always be crazy its up for the men not to be simps.
@@1lespaulfreak That's exactly what his wife said too!!
Is anybody else embarrassed for the poor guy? This call is just painful to hear.
You know it's over when even Dave says it's over. Listening to this guy still try to cover for his wife is sickening
Dave is not the gospel for marriage or finances. Grow up
Covering for his wife because he loves her.
Stop marrying women that are not wife material. 🙄
Full stop!
This...women that all they have to offer is good looks...they aren't marriage material at all.
So... Stop marrying anyone altogether? Got it.
They pretend to be wife material long enough to get a ring on their finger. It's called a "bait-and-switch".
@@grit1679just listen to the guy in the call. He is in DENIAL. Everything she does and he still tries to rationalise it and ‘get her back on track’ .. she is GONE!!! He is blind!! And this is how most men are. All this internet theory keyboard warrior talky talk, but let’s be real… most men are suckers.
I've been married twice. Single problems are so much easier than married problems!
You didn’t lie. But relationship happiness beats single happiness every time
Amen brother. I'll never put a woman's name on my assets again.
@@gmarie3053 Who told you that? .....most women can make you feel lonely. I divorced a cheating lying women 26 years ago, and haven't felt lonely since.
@@formula112967 sorry for that, but there are good women out there
you didn't learn the 1st time guy? Geeeeez.
Wife in this call: "I do want to make this marriage work."
Wife in this call actually means: "I do want my husband to continue to work to finance my fairytale spending. The marriage is the only way I can force my husband to keep wasting money on me."
“I want to make this guy pay for my new chest so I can get a different guy shortly after”
Even if this is exactly what’s going on, with four young kids involved, there is just still so much more to unpack than anyone here, including Dave, can do with the very little details known. It’s all guesswork, now, and they really need a counselor to help guide them to the reality of their situation so they can pursue viable solutions.
@@andreahunter2471 I won't play devil's advocate for this woman or make excuses for her, when the caller made it clear that his wife behaves like she's single. It's even worse that there are kids involved. There's counselling, but some things can be taken at face value, too.
I love the aggravation Dave exhibited when he muted that guy 😂
6:25
You saw that too!
That was hilarious. Because he doesn't STOP talking and LISTEN.
Took him too long he should have muted 30 secs into the call. Some people will talk and talk to justify the wrong things, this is that guy.
The most dangerous woman to divorce.
And he knows it. Reminds me of a celebrity blind item website who recently said actor Jason Mamoa is trying to fix his marriage because he can't afford the divorce. Most men would stay just for that.
Its cheaper to keep her
Sound like u got a trophy 🏆 wife, my boy
She is Actively trying to get rid of her husband without being the one to call it off herself. She wants him to snap so that she can blame him for their marriage not working. He should seek counseling and calmly leave her behind. He's just not getting it.
yeah strategically plan it out
Shes getting ready to leave you lol
Reason for the surgery, need to tune up for the next guy in the future
Dude getting red 💊 pilled. 🤣
She went and got the bolt on and got a tune up before she rides on the the 🐓 🎠
@@johnpichla9557 no it’s just common sense
Very sad to see this, even sadder when it seems like the guy has no idea what to do or is in denial. If your wife doesn't think you have any say in how she spends $10k, there's a serious problem. I fear Dave's right though, the wife is done with the marriage.
Dave is wrong about the marriage counseling. He needs a divorce lawyer immediately and follow your lawyers instructions. He’s gonna build a case on your behalf to get you the best deal.
He's completely in denial.
She probably got that surgery for another guy.
He’s been too nice for too long. If he tries to man up now she’s just going to resist. “Happy wife happy life” is a horrible marriage quote to live by.
"Happy spouse, happy house" is the new saying. It's more effective if both partners are trying to please the other.
@@autumnjerene now that’s a quote I can get down with! 👌🏾
That's what beta simps keep telling themselves 🤣
She's definitely playing him as they're crashing together.
He's Canadian. Being nice is all they know. Seriously though, he's dealing with a little girl, not a woman. I feel sorry for the kids.
She gives him just enough to keep him holding on….
Missionary once a month. Bj on his birthday 😁
Marry a Dave Ramsey fan. It's really no other option.
Agreed!
I showed Dave Ramsey to my husband, and he said, "Debt free is pretty much what I've always done." It's such a blessing to be on the same page.
😄😆😂.. my sides hurt
I’m fortunate my wife earns like crazy and saves like crazy
Is she a good mother or us that all that’s important to you.
You are.
You chose well.
exactly...and if she did spend a lot, at least she is bringing in her own income! I cannot even believe the lunacy of some of these people... allowing the other spouse (who usually doesn't even work) spend crazily while they're living on one income. SMH.
He is in denial big time, marriage is over.
this is so sad this guy is fighting so hard to defend her, she left the marriage before him like 80% do. This man is used to flying planes and acting calm even if they are going down.
Ain't that the truth.
This is not sad. This is a fkn grown man that doesn’t know simple human psychology and is in total denial. He is a total sucker. He is getting baboozled by her bread crumbing until she has all the money. I have zero sympathy for this. He needs to grow some balls and sink the ship.
She getting ready to divorce him.
I don't think I've seen Dave hit the mute button like that before 😂
It's always hard when someone is told a relationship is over and he knows it but his heart hasn't caught up-to it. Happens to the best of us. Happened to someone I knew, the wife stopped working, got him to pay all her loans, get her a good job at his company, then she filed for divorce in December.
This!!!!!
Wow… that line at the end Dave.. I was just listening for background noise and tidbits of financial help… but that was like a message from God I needed to hear. “You have to stop being scared that you are going to cause the marriage to end by pushing it to succeed “ 🙌
yeah the guy has some good hillybilly wisdom :)
Lol at 6:25 Dave turning off the excuses
🤣🤣🤣 thank god
You can actually hear his hand slap the desk!
The guy doesn’t know when to shut up 😂😂
Time to sell the wife. The foundation of a relationship is respect and trust. She doesn't respect you, therefore there is no relationship
There's a third foundation for women: assets.
Respect is completely broken, this woman has zero interest in making this marriage work- it’s time to make the hardest decision and admit it’s over.
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This dude is weak, she lost respect for him a long time ago and he refuses to realize it. She's walking all over him. He needs to wake up!
No wonder. He is a fkn sucker and she knows it. During this call it is totally clear why she knows she can milk him dry. He is a pushover in total denial. She is just bread crumbing him until she has him completely dry.
And he could be flying one of the people here, on an airplane..
I literally couldn’t finish watching this. This guy is a total push over.
He's scared of losing someone he loves and has convinced himself that there is a chance she loves him. It's heartbreaking
Pushover = being in love huh?
@@kadeemleslie2988 found the simp.
its not just about his wife but kids as well
@@kadeemleslie2988Yes. Men are in love. Women are in business.
The most canadian call ever
I would hope this guy listens to this call again and sees his pattern of finding excuses and "potential possibilities" in order to not face the reality of what his intuition is already telling him. I get it, it's hard, and I've been there myself.. but when you know the future. Putting it off is just going to make everything more complicated and harder.
I watch these to make sure it’s not my husband calling the show 😜
Get it together girl lol
😂
🤣😂😂
@Hannah Helton I gather you forgot to write "again" 🙃
At least your honest.
Whew it’s not my husband calling the show 😅❤️
She’s for the streets!!
Streets don’t want her
Yes and/or he completely stopped courting her for several years
Very rare that Dave suggests divorce
Dave: Dude, she's done; she is screaming in your face she is done. Man, it is over. It has been over !
Gorge: You should have not gotten married
Although Dave is viewed as the cynic or I guess the critic in most situations, as well as makes use of being straight to the point, I feel like gorges comment is more of the type of millennial cynicism that I and many others have. Not to mention the baby steps and Dave’s companies advice in general sorta comes with a lot of premises that only apply to his generation so much; such as marriage.
George's comment (and most) are not necessary. A child jumps in like that.
2K over budget each month! Crazy.
This caller personifies the "Nice Guy" described in Dr. Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" - He gives to get, he makes his wife his emotional center, and he lets his wife's mood & feelings guide what he does - he's always reacting to her. When he makes her happy, then he's a good boy.
Over time, the wife begins to resent her husband being afraid for voicing his own preferences, since he acts like he's in constant dread of losing his wife's affection. And when she doesn't show reciprocal appreciation for all the nice things he's done for her, he gets mad & resentful towards her, and the downward spiral continues.
wow the accuracy of this!
Been there. Never again!
Wouldn't shock me if shes cheated too, blatant disrespectful behavior.
She already has
I’d say she has and does
Definitely a cheater.
Yeah, where do you think all the money's going
Oh man…… she doesn’t care about your respect honey.
Dude is about to be DESTROYED.
I married a pilot and had 4 kids
WHY AM I NOT HAPPY?! Whaaahh!😢
This woman better wake up and hold onto this guy for dear life. He said, “We are spending too much” when it clearly is her, he’s still connected with her. Her selfish behavior isn’t going to land her a better guy. Her future is bleak and she doesn’t want to face reality.
She thinks shes going to return to the single life and options she had before marriage...10 years and 4 kids later. She'll be a pump and dump at best.
“A wise woman build her home. A foolish one will destroy it. “ Bible proverb.
No ………..is a complete sentence.
My ex her hobby was spending money even though she has never held down a job.
I wish I would have known this years ago! Lucky I finally figured it out and got out! Life is good! Absolutely the best advice ever! I see many people go through this and never figure it out!
This call reminded me so much of my ex girlfriend. The problem doesn't always manifest itself in the form of frivolous spending, but when someone refuses to see a therapist, they are admitting that they are not mature enough to take responsibility for their shortcomings and work on them. Until someone decides to look in the mirror, they will never have a healthy relationship with themselves or anyone else.
I'm surprised they didnt blame him for her recklessness
That's what I thought given it's Dave's show
Right
Why?
@@LittleMopeHead Dave tends to blame the men rather than the women as it comes to finance/marriage issues.
Maybe the thousands of comments from the viewers pointing out they're SIMPS finally got through. Lol 😂😆
Dave is giving less simp advice now. Did he just get red-pilled because of all of the comments?
Well maybe...regardless... GOOD for Dave on realizing.." yes...the female CAN be the problem here too..infact in matters of betrayal MOST OFTEN she is the core problem these days"
Dave Presses that mute button hard asf 💀💀💀
😬😬😬
Lmfao people just won't stop talking to listen. I wish I could slam my finger on a button for a lot of people in my life 😂
Lots of men don't realize their woman doesn't respect them (and never has). Total lack of control of their marriage and their own life. Tough to hear.
Can one arrest a spouse for "theft" if they behave the way his wife is?
I love it when dave gets fired up! That guy was pissing me off too! Just not listening. The way Dave pushes the cut off button shows hes pissed off. Lol that lady is getting ready for her new toy boy
I bet this didn't come out of no where. He never said no, terrified of her wife's emotions. She hold him in complete contempt.
Man loves her too much and she is using him. This is hard to listen to and I hope the best for this man
Also, that "elective surgery" is almost certainly for the amusement of other men.
I knew this guy was Canadian when he said " aboot"
Dave is so gifted that he has a 2 min conversation and knows all details future past etc ..
Yeah, well I’m not entirely sure about that.
LOL. People aren’t special. Everything thinks their situation is so special and no one can possibly understand because it’s soooo nuanced. Please
This guy is out of touch with reality.
My wife makes more money than I do and spends less than I do. And I thought I was frugal.
Well...so far...she sounds good to me and definitely a rare gem.
I wish you well and hopefully she doesn't change for the e worst against you someday.
Poor guy... That's devastating...
In the words of dave him self, " a child's mentality is i want it! i want it!" she has a childs mentality and she needs her own reality check. dont let her pull you down.
You know Dave is mad when he starts calling men “honey”
Dave’s gonna need physical therapy on his index finger after that hang up!
😂😂😂😂😂
His fingers are red from the PRESSURE!!....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My FEEDBACK: I like the OLD jingle better. 🤔
Get a legal separation at the least! That limits your financial losses.
Oh Gosh, praying for this family xx
Dave: you participating in crazy does not make crazy go away.
Me: 😅
LAWYER. NOW!
You're calling Dave Ramsey but what you need is marriage counseling.
trying to treat the symptom and not the real issue
Caller said his wife won't go. He needs a divorce lawyer.
Ummmm..no a DIVORCE LAWYER!!!
Elective surgery is to attract someone else. Walk away and save your own future.
We need an update! Call him back please!
Some people are to scary to pull the plug on the relationship themselves. They act out until the other person is forced to do it themselves, even though they are the ones who are holding out.
She knows it is over and she is spending what they have saved TOGETHER because she doesn't want to have to spend it on divorce lawyers. She is getting some cosmetic work done so she can level up and meet a better man, who is much wealthier and generous. She is preparing for her exit. If it were me, I'd buy jewellery and stash it somewhere. Then resell it later.
Yeah, sounds to me like she's fine letting her doormat soon-to-be-ex fund her hypergamy as long as he can. It's hard for a man to accept that level of deliberate financial and emotional abuse but it happens all the time.
Yes yes and YES!!!
@@Lon1001 Well - HE shouldn't have 'financially and emotionally abused HER' then. No reason at all for her to accept that. :) After all THEY got themselves out of debt and he said 2k over what WE make not I make. WE make good money. Not "I" make money and she doesn't, nor did he say that she earns less than him. He definitely didn't say it was her fault. She is wise to PIVOT on her stilettos and get out. They didn't say they were actually broke, just that he felt they were "heading that way". It takes a lot of savings to cut through 2k a month, over a 'couple of years'.
The next guy needs to be a bigger pushover.
'Wouldn't buy jewelry, decreases in value more than cash piped in the ground.
I've been divorced and I can tell you it's best to just talk it out and be open and honest. It's always how you say it to each other. Just say you're stressed and you could really use her help. If she still says **** you and doesn't want to work it out it's best to part ways. I'm trying to give good advice because knowing what I know now, it's always good to just be open and honest. Everybody has needs and wants but it's best to keep it out in the open as far as what you want out of life.
This same thing happened to me and I should have been more open. Just keep a clear line of communication.
I got the same "You care too much about money" argument from my ex girlfriend, emphasis on the ex.
This guy is too nice
Dude is in denial that his wife is a user of their money as if there is no care in the world. Smh
He needs to LISTEN
She knows what's she is doing ,, she is done witht he marriage and is taking every penny she can knowing that you have retirement and other money that she will get once she leaves you. She will also ask for spousal support based of her spending now ..you need to leave before she buries you
The caller seems like a good dude....he deserves better
Call John Deloney instead