What Happens When You Move Abroad and Hate It There? | 🌎 Black Women Expats

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  • @denisedixon-george3866
    @denisedixon-george3866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    I enjoyed your video. I’ve been living in Nigeria for a year now & love it here. Though English is the main language, I’m learning the local languages. I always wanted to come to Africa & I’m so grateful I finally made it here.

    • @azimaben5236
      @azimaben5236 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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    • @azimaben5236
      @azimaben5236 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I visited Cost Rica 2021 for my Bday w family n tow. We had a lovely week. Costa Rican were hospitable. Would visit again. Love
      your show. Thanks!

    • @chocon8818
      @chocon8818 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@azimaben5236 Next time you go you will find out how racist they are in Costa Rica. The black population of the country live mostly on the Atlantic coast. Whenever tourist ask about visiting the people in the central valley tell them not to go there because the blacks that live there are savages and crime is rampant. The truth is crime is rampant in the central valley not on the Atlantic coast.. Go to any Costa Rican jail and see that there are barely any blacks in their jails.

    • @jsarp1310
      @jsarp1310 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Excellent glad u like it ur welcome home 🏡 to my country anytime

    • @lindajohnson1873
      @lindajohnson1873 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I’m so glad that you’re in Nigeria and living your best life!! One day, I hope to move to a West African country.

  • @jones2277
    @jones2277 2 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    if you think it's hard traveling to these places as a black American, imagine how hard it is for Africans. i have a friend who went to France and the waitstaff was hostile to her when she spoke French, but when she spoke in English, they suddenly became welcoming and friendly. a lot of places equate Americans with money, regardless of race.

    • @joycewilliams1017
      @joycewilliams1017 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Who wants to play games, not me. They can keep that foolishness. Umma keep keep keeping on.

    • @VEE-rd7cu
      @VEE-rd7cu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      The French are very snobby about speaking 'French' language correctly; no matter where you are from.

    • @sickofit5547
      @sickofit5547 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      They are so stupid because most Americans are poor no matter the race. Especially some of these wp.

    • @BluntressVidaLoca
      @BluntressVidaLoca 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sickofit5547 facts

    • @donnalittle7134
      @donnalittle7134 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The nerve of the Colonizers and loan sharks, better yet sharecropper of Black nations con artists of France!
      That little country gets $$$ from many Black countries.

  • @teddydavis2339
    @teddydavis2339 2 ปีที่แล้ว +214

    Love your honesty. I just want to remind our black sisters and brothers that if they consider Europe, most of those countries are extremely racist, including Portugal. I've lived in 5 European countries and experience racism in every single one of those countries. Just do your research. So much information can be found on the internet. We mustn't romanticize about being black in a white country.

    • @StephaniePerry
      @StephaniePerry  2 ปีที่แล้ว +106

      I agree with not romanticizing other places. But I've never been treated as poorly abroad as I have in the US. That's why I advocate for Black women leaving the US.

    • @saramatthews7159
      @saramatthews7159 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      Ive lived in Germany for two years and never encountered any negative experiences as a black woman. There were a few negative experiences I encountered in Italy, but overall had a great time. I felt safer as a black woman in Europe as opposed to the United States.

    • @AT-gu8by
      @AT-gu8by 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Exactly!

    • @umberwyld
      @umberwyld 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Lived in Germany for a year and a half. Aside from a few microaggressions we loved it there. Do you think if we moved to a country in Africa we would be treated better? Imo i don't think so, you might not run in to any racism but you will face tribalism.

    • @WapajeaWalksOnWater
      @WapajeaWalksOnWater 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @@umberwyld I've been to 2 African countries 4x and was always treated beautifully. I enjoyed Germany, but felt spiritually unsafe in Italy.

  • @travelwithjennylynd6786
    @travelwithjennylynd6786 2 ปีที่แล้ว +159

    A note to those considering moving to Caribbean countries - they are not immune to colour prejudice. In fact, as a dark skinned Caribbean woman I faced discrimination while growing up and I found more job opportunities and social equity while living in the United States. Of course everyone's experience will be different, but I've found some Caribbean countries still too close to the "Plantation mentality". "Shadie-sm", "Hair texture - ism", "Age-ism", and other "isms" still play a factor in career opportunities. Be sure you are financially independent when you show up. Some Caribbean countries treat the "white tourist" better than black ones. From personal experience, I would not want to return to Dominican Republic and Barbados.

    • @sadeanthony2760
      @sadeanthony2760 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Facts

    • @AlwaysLisaLisa
      @AlwaysLisaLisa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Speak! Raised in PR same thing.

    • @edrisatherley2082
      @edrisatherley2082 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Will like to do some house sitting in the USA to start out first and if it workout then I will like to go to other places.

    • @cocoblac
      @cocoblac 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I have to correct you there Barbadians do not treat white tourist better than black tourist it is a small island and they are the most courteous and educated people you would ever wish to meet. I tend to treat all people with politeness and with good etiquette which means I’m friendly and have empathy whether a person is mature or young blue or pink or tall or short, wealthy or poor and I am half Barbadian.

    • @BaldGirlWillTravel
      @BaldGirlWillTravel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      I experienced this in Saint Lucia. Will not return. My parents are from 🇹🇹 and there is a LOT of colorism there. But I swear I was back on the plantation in St Lucia. Oooh Chile.

  • @BaldGirlWillTravel
    @BaldGirlWillTravel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    The thing is that if you want to live like an American outside of America you’re never gonna be happy anywhere. You’re not gonna find the same things that you would have in America. You will have to make some adjustments and if you can’t then you need to stay in America and have all the amenities with a side of white supremacy and privilege. No matter where you go you have to take yourself with you and the most important change you have to make is in your mind. I live in Mexico and I’ve had to make a lot of adjustments but I was prepared to do that before I arrived. I’ve visited nine different places to decide where I wanted to live and pick the place that worked best for me and I’m very happy. But Mexico is not for everyone no country is for everyone. I didn’t move here to make friends and I like my own company. If I get homesick I visit my family in the states and it immediately reminds me of why I left. I live in a city that’s very popular with American Expats and yet I have very little interaction with any of them because I choose not to. And I don’t have to. But the point is that you have to make the mental adjustments. Otherwise you won’t be happy anywhere. If you see racism under every rock and corner then you’re going to be miserable. Yes there’s anti-blackness everywhere but every single time someone doesn’t do what you want them to do or doesn’t say yes to some thing you want them to say yes to doesn’t mean it’s racism. A lot of us really have to work on our minds more than anything else. Because wherever you go you have to take yourself with you.

    • @StephaniePerry
      @StephaniePerry  2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I know the exact feeling of going back to the US and IMMEDIATELY being reminded why I left. There’s a lot of unlearning to do for Americans who want to move abroad.

    • @JudiVentress
      @JudiVentress 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes!! Amen!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

    • @WapajeaWalksOnWater
      @WapajeaWalksOnWater 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I lived in the jungle of Hawaii for 9 months, with no street lights, taxis or stores. I slept in a gazebo with no lock on the door, and loved every minute of it.

    • @gabriellew.1164
      @gabriellew.1164 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      White supremacy is everywhere and Black people, especially native Black Americans, know what racism is, what it looks like and how it feels! The question is, how much of it will you react to!!! I myself don't give a flying F'ck who doesn't like me or black people! Just don't put your hands on me or any other nasty overt bs...

    • @deborahballard7662
      @deborahballard7662 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      AMEN! MY MOM WOULD SAY THAT, IF YOU HATE YOURSELF! YOUR NOT GOING TO GET ALONG WITH ANY PEOPLE. You can't keep running, the world isn't going to change until JESUS CHRIST COMES BACK TO DESTORY, AND RULE AS KING.

  • @bw4ut
    @bw4ut 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    In Paris, yr. 2000… was having a great time for days THEN… we heard the loud voice of a woman yelling, demanding to speak to a manager! Followed the voice and sure enough it was a white American. Those Parians just blew her off, like where does she think she is…

    • @JudiVentress
      @JudiVentress 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Smh. Sadly, it just takes one. And, what was embarrassing for me were the loud melinated Americans I heard in Italy. Omg people, you're not "back at home." We are guests and ambassadors. And, for us, it's to our advantage to change their perception of "blacks" they saw in "Good Times" etc. That was part of the marketing and branding of black people all over the world. 😑

    • @greenpill7320
      @greenpill7320 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I've been living in Paris for 5 years I hate it here and can't wait to get back to America. France ain't shit

    • @greenpill7320
      @greenpill7320 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@JudiVentress they never watched good times

  • @lindabrown0
    @lindabrown0 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Americans, white or black often find it very difficult to settle permanently in any place outside of North America. The standard of living and conveniences that they're are accustomed to are very difficult to replicate in 3rd world countries!!! Yes, people want to get away from the racism of the USA but you really have to be committed to want to live long-term in many of the "havens" you might be attracted to......... New to your channel but very interested in the topic.

    • @singlewomenretiringabroad
      @singlewomenretiringabroad 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hmmm...I think it depends on the person, their personality and their reason(s) for moving to a new country. Doing careful due diligence can mitigate some of the risks. I moved to Panama in 2023 and have had no regrets. Yes, being in a third world country with virtually no amenities might be quite difficult for some.

  • @Aba_Ifeoma
    @Aba_Ifeoma 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I'm here on the replay, and THUROUGHLY enjoying the sisterhood in the chat and Stephanie's voice/ commentary, and it feels like home 🥰 Is that strange?? I love y'all so much☺🥲

    • @StephaniePerry
      @StephaniePerry  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It's not strange. Love you too Aba. 💗💗

  • @christinec.2376
    @christinec.2376 2 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    hola.. sooo sorry I missed the live. I just got back from 17 days in Panama, Old Panama City, (Santa Ana). NO expats there! LOL! it was the immersion I needed to see if I felt okay without english speakers... I totally did and I felt more relaxed than I have in a very long time! everyone kept speaking in spanish to me, probably because no tourist would pick that area to stay in, and I look no different than a lot of Panamanians. I did just fine, my poor spanish(Duolingo) and their poor english, I really enjoyed my time. It's a little gritty, which was fine with me, for the short time. fresh produce up and down the street, cheap shops like a open-air flea market. I enjoyed sitting in the different squares hours at a time, just relaxing, people-watching, knitting and snacking. Spent my birthday and Christmas there, getting my 1st part of my Pensionado visa while there. I believe I'll do just fine there, as a base. :)

    • @SoniT
      @SoniT 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I'm in Panama too! I've been here six months and I love it so far.

    • @indiradeja4218
      @indiradeja4218 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Wow that's how I imagine a place id want to go, real living... Happy you had that experience.

    • @DebRhynes
      @DebRhynes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@SoniT what area's do you like/live...I am interested in Panama.

    • @honeychick4ever280
      @honeychick4ever280 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I ❤️Panama I had a great time there and the food is diverse. You get traditional Panamanian and Caribean food. Food is delicious. I will be back soon🇵🇦❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @ivyd5485
      @ivyd5485 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ah Panama! My husband’s country. Ciudad Viejo Panama 🇵🇦 is not touristy but you get a real sense of how Panamenos live.

  • @WEBVDO
    @WEBVDO 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I lived in Hawaii for 25 years. You gotta know where to go to eat and it helps if you befriend "local" people and eat in their homes.
    There are also many other nationalities livng in Hawaii. I was married to a man from the island nation of Tonga for 3 years. He introduced me to people from Fiji, Palau, New Zealand, China, Japan, Filipines, Viet Nam. I hafta say that the food of other cultures in Hawaii are authentic. Hawaii is where I discovered that the Chinese food I ate in Detroit wasn't really authentic Chinese food.

    • @solinspired4428
      @solinspired4428 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      What about Island fever? I heard after a while you get Island fever.

  • @kimmilton2783
    @kimmilton2783 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Hi Stephanie! 😀 I just wanted to tell you that you look absolutely beautiful today! As a black woman, I really do love seeing black women wearing their own beautiful natural hair. Your hair is absolutely gorgeous! 😀 Your skin is beautiful too. Keep on living your best life. Thank you for being a great example for progressive minded black women.

    • @Dmoon1234
      @Dmoon1234 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree. She is spectacular looking to me.

    • @marriejames01
      @marriejames01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes very beautiful. It’s easy to see she’s happy and stress free by looking at her hair and skin.

    • @saramatthews7159
      @saramatthews7159 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree she is absolutely beautiful and glowing.

    • @acajudi100
      @acajudi100 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am Muslim, and my hair is natural, but we wear scarves. Natural is supper easy to care for, if kept short.

  • @Loud2013
    @Loud2013 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My dad believed you should at least learn basic greetings to show respect, so I can say hi how are you in about six languages 😂😂😂😂 it really helps tho seriously

  • @AD-wm5ju
    @AD-wm5ju 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Stephanie Perry, I sure appreciate you! Thank you for the channel! It’s refreshing and inspiring!

    • @laurenharris6549
      @laurenharris6549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      And Real !!!! Thanks for reporting on the everyday stuff !!!

  • @jacquelinechambers6624
    @jacquelinechambers6624 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I landed in Antigua and I hated it. I had went there to live and I really didn’t like it but I stayed and tried to adjust. But it was difficult for me. I ended up coming back to the states. The politics and the corruption. The whole set up was unbearable

    • @farisasmith7109
      @farisasmith7109 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I've been in Antigua for over ten years now. I snowbird ( stay during winter months) and return in the spring. And yes to live here is an acquired taste , lol. My family is here and I still have times where I can't understand why it is the way it is. But , it is what it is! And most of those things I can overlook or just have learned to deal with. But don't give up on the Caribbean. There is an island out there that may be what you're looking for. Maybe a US virgin island like St Croix is great . Has all the American stores , US currency. Better infrastructure. I hope you find what you're looking for. And on behalf of Antigua I sincerely apologize! Lol

    • @GlitterHippie2
      @GlitterHippie2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I can understand this; I'm half-Antiguan and I lived there part time growing up into my late teens. I went back to visit right before Rona and was shocked at the infrastructure and how bad the roads were, the prime minister is on another level.

    • @JudiVentress
      @JudiVentress 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Try another island if you want the Caribbean experience. Also try visiting a few places. Stay for a few weeks of the "beaten path." Go to the local shops, read the newspaper. Do what the locals do to get a feel for a place before you commit. Blessings to you on your journey. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽🥰

    • @PHlophe
      @PHlophe 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jacqueline i actually thought you were jamaican , which surprised me that you find it hard to adjust to regular life there.

    • @PHlophe
      @PHlophe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jacquelinechambers6624 i see, your last is so common in jamaica that's why .

  • @VEE-rd7cu
    @VEE-rd7cu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I like your response, "change your location or change your mind"; the latter is the most important for Americans!

  • @oyaami1874
    @oyaami1874 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Boarding the flight home from Hong Kong was the best part of my holiday there.

  • @kh-uw6um
    @kh-uw6um 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Stephanie I agree with the comment about your voice...I first heard you on someone else's video and I was drawn to you over all if the others! It is true about Philippino nurses...it's their thing and most are good at it and have a pleasant bed side manner. My mother was a nurse for 25 years and has said the same wherever she worked. This was a good topic. I don't have the passion to travel the world as much because of our world situation but maybe things will change

  • @jania4237
    @jania4237 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Gurl! I no longer like traveling, I found that you don't get what you pay for! Everyone targets ripping off anyone who has "tourist" written on their forehead! I hate not being in control! So, now I stay home and visit places and spend my hard earned money eating good in the neighborhood.

    • @imagesinla8575
      @imagesinla8575 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Good for you! There's no place like home.

    • @LOCkedinLouisiana
      @LOCkedinLouisiana 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      THIS is my major concern. Everyone thinks Americans are rich.

    • @snaggledaggle7027
      @snaggledaggle7027 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@LOCkedinLouisiana Probably because Americans ARE rich, COMPARED to the people in most parts of the world.

  • @Maiden_Warrior_Crone
    @Maiden_Warrior_Crone 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is so helpful! I've had this happen. I hated Chiang Mai so much (aesthetics), but managed to stay for 3 months by focusing on the things that I liked (dentist, fruit, new air-conditioned mall, beautiful apartment). I tried moving to Hội An, Vietnam, but I hated it so much I had to leave after 4 days. I lasted only overnight in Medan, which was the most frightening experience (aggressive men) I've ever had outside of the States.

  • @trulocks
    @trulocks 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Stephanie, your hair is gorgeous!!!

  • @imdifferent7294
    @imdifferent7294 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I loved this video. Thanks for sharing travel information for Black women

  • @gg13308
    @gg13308 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    weather is my #1, and walkability is my #2, then I can gauge food and outdoor stuff...etc ..it will be interesting when I start my scouting trips

    • @laurenharris6549
      @laurenharris6549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      1. sanitation 2. noise 3.drinkable water🤪

  • @larabraver
    @larabraver 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    My young son and I moved to Lisbon and Cascais, Portugal. We really enjoyed it, but after 3.5 months (we were going to stay 6 months/yr), we moved back to the US and Canada because my son was homesick partly because I was homeschooling him and so didn't have as many friends as he was used to. I was also feeling isolated despite going to markets, the beach, library, etc and making local friends but I was willing to stick it out for another month or two. Ultimately, my son won out.

    • @dr.phillips2008
      @dr.phillips2008 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I was thinking about moving there. I have a 5 year old and I was concerned about the cost of international schools. What were your concerns as a blk woman there. If it weren't for your son would you have stayed???

    • @larabraver
      @larabraver 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@dr.phillips2008 Yes, but there’s some nuance to that. I’d have put him in a school as originally planned. However, I was recovering from work-burnout so I wasn’t quite ready for navigating a new school, school runs, packing lunches, homework etc. Also, we’d have moved to Lisbon or another more diverse neighbourhood; we were the only blacks in our mainly Portuguese one. I went to a meetup with some black women in Lisbon and it felt good to talk to people in the same boat. I wish you and your little one the best!

    • @dr.phillips2008
      @dr.phillips2008 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks so much for the insight 🙏🏽 it's nice to get another perspective of the place. I think we might go for a visit to see what it's like and if it's gonna work for us. I have noticed that if I am away for a while I start to miss hamburgers so I am not sure if moving out the country is a gr8 idea 🤔 lol 😆

    • @larabraver
      @larabraver 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@dr.phillips2008 lol, I can relate. I was missing African food so much that I had a catering company ship me some from the UK. It came cooked and deep-frozen. Cost a fortune but was worth every bite! 😅

    • @larabraver
      @larabraver 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@dr.phillips2008 Take a long visit to get a good idea; I’d say minimum of 3 wks.

  • @smm3476
    @smm3476 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When you're in a place you don't like you make the most of it. Create some goals to make the place feel worthwhile for you (for example I'm going to learn X language to make myself more marketable when I leave, I'm going to find as many off the beaten path things to do so I can give that info yo future travelers, etc). I'm in a place now for work that I do not like and my mindset is "what am I going to do so at the end of this I've leveled up as a person?"

  • @youtubestolemyoriginalhandle
    @youtubestolemyoriginalhandle 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    The no flushing of toilet paper is common in a lot of South American countries. Although Steph has very generously stated that proper etiquette is that the paper is placed in a plastic bag and taken outside to the trash, in actuality my experience with people of those cultures is that its more likely to be balled up and thrown on the floor right there next to the toilet. It is what it is

  • @maureengolding2980
    @maureengolding2980 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Perception is everything. I lived on the east coast and a black American told me not to go to Grand Canyon, Arizona. Lots of tourist, friendly, I met a girl that lives in China and we had good conversation all day.

    • @utamu777
      @utamu777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I understand why they said that. I had a lot of racist experiences in Arizona, though the Grand Canyon park itself wasn’t bad. The areas outside of it however were very uncomfortable

  • @smm3476
    @smm3476 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your smile is so lovely. I realized by the end of this every time you laughed I laughed too! You radiate light and warmth.

  • @y.c.8632
    @y.c.8632 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Same for me in Paris. I’ve been twice and my expectations were too high. I didn’t think to research beforehand. There was only one Middle Eastern spot we stumbled on the that blew my mind. When I got back, a woman who owns an amazing local French restaurant I go to, told me I had to make friends with French people to get amazing meals at their homes. I decided to research before I go. Maybe I have to go above a certain price point to get amazing food? But yeah, it was surprising. Been to other places and nearly every place I walked into aimlessly the food was often incredible.

    • @kblackson4130
      @kblackson4130 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Paris is not the same as the rest of France

    • @y.c.8632
      @y.c.8632 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kblackson4130 Yes, you are right about that.

    • @saramatthews7159
      @saramatthews7159 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I travelled to Paris over 15 years ago and felt it was so overrated...and a dirty city. It was interesting going up the 🗼 but extremely underwhelming for me.

    • @y.c.8632
      @y.c.8632 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@saramatthews7159 I was shocked at the smell of urine all around that area of the Eiffel Tower.

    • @JudiVentress
      @JudiVentress 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Also, Paris is not the same as it WAS in the "1900s" (🤣) ... Back in the 80s, ahhh, Pareee was very nice. Romantic. Affordable. (The French were still snobbish about their French language. Others are usually forgiving when I attempt to speak their language.) Anyway, I visited again in 2018 and was very disappointed. 😔

  • @celesteadeanes4478
    @celesteadeanes4478 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    it is important to know what you dont want to understand what you do want
    I needed YEARS of rest after breaking my health
    during this pandemic the fact of lock down was a welcome condition, I have had time to THINK and write .
    I may even transition into a on line presence.

  • @Nabisoul28
    @Nabisoul28 2 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    Thank you for your honesty it is so refreshing. I started traveling overseas when I was in the military at 20 years old. I'm in the process of getting my US passport renewed as in 2023 I am relocating permanently to Chiang Mai Thailand. What I found in Asian countries when I was in Costa Rica. Anywhere I went as a black woman, the local people were so accommodating and welcoming and like you said, when they figure out that you're not a rude American they just embrace you and you become a part of wherever you're living. it's wonderful. Over the years I've learned that living with an abundance of white Americans is just not a piece producing way to live so it is so nice not to live with them I love everybody will always love everybody I just don't choose to live with people who are arrogant. Keep up the excellent work I'm listening to you every time you make a new live. Sending you much love and kindness. Iris

    • @StephaniePerry
      @StephaniePerry  2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Thanks so much for your kind words Iris. 💗 And best of luck on your move to Chiang Mai! I agree that we need to move away from white Americans for our own peace of mind.

    • @angeebb3080
      @angeebb3080 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      So true! White people don't like peace and I hate the spirit of entitlement.

    • @celesteadeanes4478
      @celesteadeanes4478 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      God even does NOT love everybody. Look it up. I sure aint better than Him.

    • @MsLadyT1105
      @MsLadyT1105 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I loved living overseas in Japan. I was there for 3 years. I came back to America to take care of my father. I’m actually home sick and want to go back to Japan.

    • @michonnegrimes880
      @michonnegrimes880 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I LOVE Thailand and what began my love affair with SE Asia. I visited for 3 weeks back in 2003 and enjoyed every moment there even with the heat and humidity. I felt so free!! I visited Bangkok, Chiang Mai (so enjoyed CM) , Phuket, Surat Thani, Chumpon, and Pattaya. I had an excellent time then and would love to visit. I have spent time in Vietnam, Cambodia and Indonesia. And I agree about the arrogance of some white American travelers and expats that I find appalling when I travel.

  • @youtubestolemyoriginalhandle
    @youtubestolemyoriginalhandle 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I spent a substantial amount of time in Hawaii and everyone envied me for living in 'paradise'. Thought I was out of my mind when I told them how much I disliked it. Definitely due to several of the points you mentioned. Also, just not enough Black people to network with

  • @cherylwin9364
    @cherylwin9364 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’ve had great experiences with the Filipino Nurses I’ve worked with in New York, they are friendly ,hard working and very Bright. They love to share their food with others and make you feel like family. This was my experience as an AFRICAN AMERICAN RN. WORKING WITH MY FILIPINO COLLEAGUES ❤😊❤

    • @singlewomenretiringabroad
      @singlewomenretiringabroad 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same experience...also and RN who has worked with Filipino nurses.

  • @wallybong4928
    @wallybong4928 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you Stephanie. You’re saying what I’m thinking.
    Every time. Haven’t sorted out my own blaxit but I watch you when I need a kick in the pants.

  • @nicholetaimi5331
    @nicholetaimi5331 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Found by accident. Enjoyed every minute of it. You have such a great down-to-earth personality.

  • @evelynaustin9679
    @evelynaustin9679 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am a Afro American Muslim in Istanbul Basaksehir. I find the shopkeepers are nice but the locals are indifferent. My husband and I are going to look in Antalya where the weather is warmer and there are more expats. My problem is I haven’t met too many people.

  • @Raven-ug8uw
    @Raven-ug8uw 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    First time. Beautiful hair. Beautiful girl. Love ur manner. Happy adventures!

  • @AjaArrow
    @AjaArrow 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I'm leaving Merida in the early spring because I refuse to spend another summer sweating my life away.

    • @Lorrainebaby12
      @Lorrainebaby12 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Girl! I was there one whole summer and I was sweating In my sleep lol. That heat is disrespectful. I wish you luck on your next destination

    • @BaldGirlWillTravel
      @BaldGirlWillTravel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I don’t know how you made it so long. Bless your heart. I visited in November and knew I couldn’t do it.

  • @OldEarthWisdom
    @OldEarthWisdom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I was living in Mexico for a year but I was missing my full-time nomad van life that took me all over the US, Canada and all the way up to the artic circle. I returned to the US and got back on the road but the US felt sooooo dangerous that I sold my van and returned to Mexico. I got my residency visa and plan to make this my home base for the rest of my life. I don't like the white expats here but luckily I have made friends with black women expats and Mexicans. Thanks for your channel. I LOVE it... even though I am an old white woman... who never fit in with those people.

    • @FrankiJ1
      @FrankiJ1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Where in Mexico? I’m researching MX at the moment. I currently live in Dallas, MX isn’t too far.

  • @TrueOrigins1618
    @TrueOrigins1618 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Costa Rica on the Caribbean side (WHERE THE BLACK PEOPLE) is flipping AWESOME.

  • @ban6096
    @ban6096 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I've lived overseas for about 15 years and when you go to a place there are cultural things and attitudes that are still hidden from you. Yes, it's good to go on an exploration trip and speak to as many people as possible. TH-cam is great for finding out both the positives and the negatives of a place. A cultural point -----some cultures have a very strong insider and outsider difference. So, people may be friendly enough but in the end, you'll not be able to enter into the hearts of the people and therefore you won't make friends for life. Therefore, give a place at least a year or three before making a permanent decision to live there.
    Vietnam was fine to live in for a couple of years but it's hard to date a sincere man or get married to a sincere man. Period.
    By the way, according to the Nomad Capitalist Andrew Henderson, Malaysia in 2022 has reinstated the My Home Program but it is much more complicated and requires more income now.

  • @terribooberry2488
    @terribooberry2488 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    We really need to start our own Wakanda …. after all life imitates art 🥰

    • @beverlyashby8618
      @beverlyashby8618 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They are building a beautiful Wakanda in Ghana.

    • @gabriellew.1164
      @gabriellew.1164 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Black America, Not that made-up Disney BS!

    • @utamu777
      @utamu777 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hmm, wakanda would probably be mostly female… Not that many black men would want to live there lol

  • @regionalskygirl
    @regionalskygirl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Watching the replay right now - brava! this is providing so much great information! Heads up, as soon as the man on the airplane started coughing/sneezing .... tell the Flight Attendant that he/she is sick, and you think they have c*vld. My response it that I will walk by, taking a really good look and listen, followed by a trip to the cockpit informing the captain that I don't feel save. More happens after that, but please know that you would NOT have had a sick person sitting next to you. (wink)

  • @newkienewkie8921
    @newkienewkie8921 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I stayed in Montego Bay Jamaica for 6 months and although the food is great, it became monotonous. It was frustrating being charged more because I was a foreigner.

    • @solinspired4428
      @solinspired4428 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      When you say monotonous can you give an example of what became monotonous other than the food? Thx

    • @newkienewkie8921
      @newkienewkie8921 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@solinspired4428 people mostly men asking for money.

    • @angellapink6667
      @angellapink6667 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sorry you felt that way

  • @sunshine32151
    @sunshine32151 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    I enjoyed this conversation so much. I also learned in Europe a harsh lesson, black people are disliked around the world, some places more obvious then others, some places less. We have to use wisdom because it is disheartening at times, unless you are one who can not see the offenses (Which I have met some people, what offends ME, they don't notice, pretend not to notice or brush it off). I'm older and I just can't take it. I would recommend before anyone move 1000% outside the USA, try and move to a chocolate city for example DMV (District Columbia/Maryland/Virginia) first, see if you can get a federal or state job and see if traveling on extended vacations will fill the itch, then you can go and come from the states and not be permanently gone.

    • @sunshine32151
      @sunshine32151 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Just to further explain, the reason I say federal/state job is the stability of benefits and salary. It is a numbers game, mass applications is they key, saying you are an expert to all questions on the questionnaire is a must, but volume applications, apply for everything and you will get a job. I mean like 300 jobs not 10 jobs.

    • @terib5467
      @terib5467 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Good to know. I'm looking to move to DMV

    • @sunshine32151
      @sunshine32151 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@terib5467 Also racism is everywhere, but I find when you are in a chocolate city it is not as blatant....while certain states it is blatant and an everyday battle. A chocolate city is totally different from Minnesota, Utah, Montana, some parts of the south, some parts of California. I still experience racism; but not hardly visible as it is "TOO MANY" black people with good jobs here in the DMV and too many social networks, churches, Meet up Groups to join and to have a community.

    • @kblackson4130
      @kblackson4130 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@sunshine32151 you cannot get a “state” job and live outside the country 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @StephaniePerry
      @StephaniePerry  2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      I've never been treated as poorly abroad as I have in the US. That's why I advocate Black women moving abroad. It's better out there.

  • @Missey200134
    @Missey200134 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Great discussion, but I disagree with there not being Filipino nurses in Baltimore. The hospitals I've worked for all had several Filipino nurses, male and female. I also work with one now in the private practice in Anne Arundel County, Maryland. They are all very kind and loved to bring food to work.

    • @laurenharris6549
      @laurenharris6549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I worked with Filipino people while I was stationed in Japan and the US, as well as having many good Filipino friends. Yes they bring good tasting food to all parties and events and, my friends taught me how to make a few Filipino dishes 😋

    • @edwinascantlebury6435
      @edwinascantlebury6435 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Great Nurses.Well trained.and caring.

    • @DouradaBambina
      @DouradaBambina 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Filipinos stay with their peers only. No socializing with other groups.

  • @kblackson4130
    @kblackson4130 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Paris is great for pastries! The best food in France is in Bordeaux, Lyon and southern “country” regions. You bring up a great point about the food!

  • @michellesterlingpmp1502
    @michellesterlingpmp1502 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Hi Stephanie,
    Malaysia still has the MM2H Program. It's changed a bit but that said....I'm sorry the heat and humidity was a real problem.

  • @chall5353
    @chall5353 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I agree about Playa de Carmen, I have friends from Philly who moved there years ago and invited me to come but I haven't yet. Other friends moved to the Costa Rica rain forests for a year, then came back to the U.S.

  • @doucelait1
    @doucelait1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is the first time I’ve noticed your merchandise when watching your videos.🤗 Great stuff.

  • @OfficialSearchEngine
    @OfficialSearchEngine 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Just subscribed. I'm in Germany now for about a year and love it. I'd like to eventually land an apartment here and also in England. Great video.

  • @AkoAdanna
    @AkoAdanna 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I really enjoyed Medellin; we stayed for just over a month in the town of Envigado (a short drive to Medellin) and it can give you that small town vibe while being in very close proximity to the city. The local food in Medellin though was TRASH! The foreign food places were delicious though! Next on my Colombia list is Cartagena.

  • @ramonagray8411
    @ramonagray8411 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I was ready to leave South Korea the second day. Tried to change our flight,was unable to.

    • @creoleladee
      @creoleladee 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Realy? Why was that? Please share more of your experience.

  • @Godlovesyou77777
    @Godlovesyou77777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    You are so beautiful I just admire natural beauty.🙂🗝️

  • @WapajeaWalksOnWater
    @WapajeaWalksOnWater 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I have always enjoyed Jamaican food in the U.S., but stayed in Jamaica for 3 months, and did not enjoy the food in any restaurant at all. I only enjoyed jerk chicken on the street, but was so shocked and disappointed at the restaurants from Kingston to Montego Bay.

    • @WapajeaWalksOnWater
      @WapajeaWalksOnWater 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ChanaElisheva Thanks for the heads up, I won't be going there, cause I travel to eat

    • @solinspired4428
      @solinspired4428 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow

    • @solinspired4428
      @solinspired4428 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ChanaElisheva Why is everyone cooking gmod foods and with horrible vegetable oils now? Disappointing!

    • @WapajeaWalksOnWater
      @WapajeaWalksOnWater 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@solinspired4428 I guess whats being sent to their markets, but its awful, I agree

    • @WapajeaWalksOnWater
      @WapajeaWalksOnWater 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@solinspired4428 Even as a child, in the 50s, I remember my mama taking the bus to go buy food downtown in Chicago. She was from Mississippi, and was used to fresh produce. She said the food sent to our neighborhood was outdated, and not fresh enough for us.

  • @kemberlijennings816
    @kemberlijennings816 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just found your site yesterday and LOVE LOVE LOVE the fact that I don't have to stay in the US forever!!! Keep these coming, with all the others, I have a lot to learn!!!

  • @angeladogan26
    @angeladogan26 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I guess I’m weird because how other people act towards me does not phase me. As long as they are not violent what do I care about their stupidity? I did not travel to necessarily make friends outside of my friends who live there. Men in Antalya follow your lead. You can shut down any come-on easily. They are not aggressive in their pursuit at least they weren’t with me. Maybe if I were younger it would be different. I would never know about arrogance since I would never get close enough to experience it enough to matter. Just sharing my experience based on my personality.

  • @layla8647
    @layla8647 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    “Pooping 💩 around the WORLD 🌎 is a multi step process” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣!

  • @doucelait1
    @doucelait1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I didn’t like the French food either and my cousin is from Guadeloupe. She lived there took me around and even she was like 😬. Beautiful place but not for my tummy.

  • @justcallmebon2684
    @justcallmebon2684 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My mom works in a hospital in Baltimore and she’s surrounded by Filipino nurses. I’m a physician who’s worked in NY and NJ and same things. I didn’t know there were hospitals in the US without them 😂🤣

  • @oyaami1874
    @oyaami1874 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I loved travelling throghout Europe ( Italy, Spain, Portugal, France, Sicilly Ireland, Wales Scotland) mostly because the natives loved telling me how much they hated the Brits. Slightly racist as I was born and raised in England but they assumed I was Jamaican.

  • @Maremare680
    @Maremare680 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m totally agreed with your thoughts on Paris food. And we weren’t even traveling on a budget.

  • @ClassicallyMish
    @ClassicallyMish 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I loved Mainland China. Beijing, Sichuan and Xi’an are my favorite places to live. I still communicate with my Chinese framily now that I’m back in the US waiting until they open again.
    Over the last 8 years we’ve been invited to weddings, home dinners, stay overs, parties and celebrations. Learning the language and staying out of the expat areas is key to learning to love a country.
    Hong Kong is not on my favorite list because the colonization is still fresh.

    • @JudiVentress
      @JudiVentress 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did you say "framily"? 🤭

    • @ClassicallyMish
      @ClassicallyMish 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      We started as friends and over a decade we’ve become family

  • @twanacisse2156
    @twanacisse2156 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hi love your videos. Glad to see so many sisters traveling. I have not travel since college days before and at Rutgers. I am disabled with a spinal injury yet still want to travel. Because my background in international history and politics I am not shocked by the racist treatment of people of color and of Black women. My dream is to one day go to Italy. However, I was warned by my professor from Rome just how bad the racism is in different parts of Italy. Yet, still I want to go but I am aware I must be careful.

  • @marilynpeoples5099
    @marilynpeoples5099 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    LOL !!!! I’m in Lake Chapala now!!!!! Everything you have said IS SO TRUE!!! I came to experience the weather… unimpressed, but totally understand why it brings joy to Americans and Canadians. I actually prefer Costa Rica for weather.

  • @pgcfriend
    @pgcfriend 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Don't travel to France in July or August. Those months are when families take their vacations. They are normally 4-5 weeks. Many places are closed for a month. My husband is a lovely Frenchman. His niece is a pastor who takes her vacation in August. I tell folks that her church members better not get married or die in August.

  • @shasante
    @shasante 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love Love your videos and how culturally sensitive you are...I am Indian (east) and have travelled a lot in Latin America, I realize how much my brown skin was always a "privilege" traveling in many countries as I blended in and got local prices :) You read my mind exactly when talking about importance of food..Btw, has anyone told you that you look like Ireti Doyle, the Nigerian actress? And why no mention of African countries when talking about relocation destinations?

  • @kh-uw6um
    @kh-uw6um 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Oh I liked your version of the vision board...yours was the 1st one completed fully and quickly. It was my 1st time using Canva so thanks for that too!

  • @terribooberry2488
    @terribooberry2488 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I would like to see you doing things in the country where you settle.

  • @Dmoon1234
    @Dmoon1234 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Yeah. My goal is to not experience any kind of racism. Unfortunately anti-Blackness is global. There is no place really that I can insulate myself from that. Perhaps maybe parts of Africa and the Caribbean but with the exception of Portugal (big maybe) in Europe and definitelty not Asia, I cant think of a safe place.

    • @michellesterlingpmp1502
      @michellesterlingpmp1502 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Hiya
      I traveled extensively throughout my career. Sadly anti-blackness is also in places thoughout the Caribbean (i.e. shadism) that said, some of my challenges came from pure ignorance.
      I decided to be an ambassador for my culture and my skin color (dark brown not 'black') while being a Jamaican Canadian. I experienced that it really is the people you interact with, the neighborhood and the time.
      I found after people dealt with me individually they were comfortable enough to look past the Americanist, over sexualized and criminalization of people of dark brown complexions.
      Going to a place more than once gave me that experience.
      Hope you find great travel experience in your near future.

    • @monas
      @monas 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      You will face classism and a form of racism in the Caribbean from other black people. Believe me I am in Caribbean.
      They tell you how your hair is picky picky(aka nappy), they will tell you how your nose is broad as an insult, tell you how you mouth is long as an insult to say your lips are big. They will insult your skin tone. People here view lighter skin as higher class.

    • @orangemoonglows2692
      @orangemoonglows2692 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@monas very sad to me that in majority black countries blackness is not valorized.

    • @OfficialSearchEngine
      @OfficialSearchEngine 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@monas Thanks for the heads up. I definitely will not be going to the Caribbean. I'm currently in Germany for about a year now and have not gone through such nonsense. Stay safe.

    • @PureSweetness
      @PureSweetness 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@monas That is a trained behavior. It comes from the generation before who passed it on due to illeracy to parental self insecurity, emotions n mental awareness.
      I can say after relocating to another country as young mother with no high school education on my own with no family I was impossible to break. Nothing negative stop me instead it pushed me forward. When i look back I realized i was on a mission to prove everyone who said i would never or could not wrong. If u told me anything positive I thought u were lying because of all the negativity that was shoved into me at an early age groomed me that way. I was masculine but a female. However, I am thankful that I was open to receive and not set in my ways and was willing to address these issues. Which sadly I passed on to my child who fortunately was also able to see my change and adjust as much as possible. A child live what they learn.
      I had friends who had parents who showed them the opposite 🤔 and I always wondered about it. Because all my siblings and I were treated the same way.
      So the older carribean generation has a slave mentally mindset of which they literally raised strong children to with stand any situation that may bring you down not realizing the danger.
      I must say that I survived ever situation I went through when I relocated because I did not allow anything to get in my way. So we have to be open to received in order to take lemons and make lemonade.
      The new generation is very well traveled and has more information to educate themselves.

  • @farisasmith7109
    @farisasmith7109 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    How in the world did they let him get on the flight visibly ill? Somebody didn't do their job on that airline. My cousin said you can test possible for about a month or so. Glad you didn't get really sick. I'm in the Caribbean (Antigua). And yes, the Americans that come here don't want to follow the hand washing and mask rules. You aren't allowed into anywhere without washing your hands and masking up. A few were on the news getting fined and arrested for disorderly conduct. I've been here going on three years straight and I do love many things about it, but there are also many things that make me crazy. Poor roads, occasional blackouts, slow internet. I usually stay 6 months in the USA during the summer and leave as soon as the temperature starts to drop below 65°. I rebuke winter!

    • @StephaniePerry
      @StephaniePerry  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      They don’t care that their refusal to follow the rules is harming others. They’re the worst.

  • @acajudi100
    @acajudi100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Earthquakes were the deal breaker for beautiful Acapulco. I hang with the locals, because I do speak Spanish as a second language.

    • @StephaniePerry
      @StephaniePerry  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m nervous about earthquakes in Mexico City.

  • @Zikomo7
    @Zikomo7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I’m a little worried about what’s going to happen in the next election. In terms of leaving, I’m interested in Mexico City. Or someplace warm with a strong economy where I won’t feel like a giant. Ideally I’d see at least one other black person a week (I’m from Arizona so I can deal with being a minority. I just don’t want to be the only one)

    • @StephaniePerry
      @StephaniePerry  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I really like what I’ve seen of Mexico City so far!

    • @Zikomo7
      @Zikomo7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@StephaniePerry are there other black people? Places to buy wigs and ethnic hair care products? I know there’s a Sephora so I’ll be able to have makeup. Stuff like that is important to me haha
      Also can you live without a car? I’m in Chicago now and I love only having to drive 2-3 times a month.

    • @JudiVentress
      @JudiVentress 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Check out Veracruz. The home of Yaspar Ganta. I want to visit there because he was the African who fought the Spaniards successfully year after year. They finally relented and gave him the land. His decendents are still there. This was told to me by "a brother who studies." So, I want to see & feel the area for myself. I think it wise to visit several places for a few weeks to actually live among the locals. And see how you feel afterwards. Happy travels! 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽🥰

    • @Zikomo7
      @Zikomo7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@JudiVentress oh wow it looks really beautiful. Thanks for the recommendation

  • @DrCrystalHarris
    @DrCrystalHarris 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks for this great topic. It’s so helpful. The thing I want to avoid is feeling like missed out on the immersion already learning French and Spanish for a year. Hate that I missed the live stream.

    • @PHlophe
      @PHlophe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Crystal, we stan a queen with Phd

  • @dr.phillips2008
    @dr.phillips2008 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Glad that I found ur channel- I was thinking about moving to Portugal and I am concerned about the move. When doing my research, all that I see is great things about the place so ppl what is the real deal??? Is it as great as it seem on the internet?

    • @dchrysostom
      @dchrysostom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You should visit first…

  • @zebratroopfan6695
    @zebratroopfan6695 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Spent 10 days in France and loved the food. I didn’t eat any street food but the restaurants we visited were great. Although it was expensive.

  • @phyllisa2932
    @phyllisa2932 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Hi Stephanie, I watched lots of TH-cam videos and MX became my top pick for retiring abroad. About 3 months went by before someone mentioned the whole not flushing toilet paper issue!I became disheartened with trying to decide if I would be able to live with that in MX. I'm already picky about the brand of tp I use! Lol
    I took my 1st trip to Puerto Vallarta in Oct 2021 and took those little doggie bags we use when we walk our pets. I put my tp in them, tied it up, put in little trash can and tossed it each day AND it was fine!! 👍🏾 So MX is back at #1 on my list and I'll be loading up on doggie bags! Lol 😉
    Thanks for keeping it real!

    • @StephaniePerry
      @StephaniePerry  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you were able to get used to it. It isn't a problem for me either. When do you plan to move?

    • @phyllisa2932
      @phyllisa2932 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@StephaniePerry I'm looking to exit the US in 2024. I'll be retiring. My plan is to take a couple vacations each year in several areas of MX then spend 2-3 mouths in my top two cities before deciding when I'll start my home base. I've been following you, Adelia & Shida for about 9 months now and you all have giving me so much confidence that as a single, Black woman of a certain age (60+), I can do this!! You ladies are all AWESOME!!! 🏆👸🏾🥰

  • @SJP43
    @SJP43 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    European food is not good. I lived in Germany, Uk, Spain, France etc… not good. I enjoy home cooked meals so that’s not a deal breaker. I don’t enjoy eating out most places because I’m particular lol.

  • @marciaevans8376
    @marciaevans8376 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I am literally laughing out loud. The only good food I remember from Paris is one restaurant we stumbled upon. Overall Paris didn't have good food.

  • @aimeepaterson4423
    @aimeepaterson4423 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Dear Stephanie, PORTUGAL❤️Is An AMAZING Country, At ALL Levels. Beautiful, Remarkably Pretty Towns/Cities….Colourful Buildings, Fabulous, Kind, Helpful & Friendly Portuguese People. The Culture Focuses Very Much On Family Life & Work/Life Balance. Slow Pace & Healthy Nutrition. Farm To Table Produce. Consistently Voted Top 5 For High Quality Of Life. SAFE Too. I’ve Been Here Several Years; I’m Extremely Happy & Fulfilled. LISBON COAST Is Stunning & Sophisticated. NEVER ALGARVE Because It’s Full Of “Wrong* English Expat Crowd.👎🏻 I💗PORTUGAL.

    • @destinygodley
      @destinygodley 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      this sounds amazing thing can be different for a woman of color.

  • @JudithLawrence718
    @JudithLawrence718 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I saw an older gentlemen wanting to go home from hospital and was having a hard time testing positive a month😀 after recovering from covid. He said that he used a q tip to clean his nostrils with water thoroughly before they came in to do the test.

  • @eotc7980
    @eotc7980 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    OMG! I went to Kigali, Rwanda, and it was terrible! 🙁 They do not consider us there people, none of the folks I met from all over Africa had any respect for me, and they were trying to take advantage of me in every way possible. There is no way that those are the creator's people and that that is the creator's land. WE HAVE BEEN LIED TO and you won't know it until you get there. Please inform me if you have had a better experience ANYONE.

    • @courtney3173
      @courtney3173 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      💔. Yeaaa I think more people are starting to realize a lot of continental Africans don’t have the same “we’re all family” mentality others in the diaspora have. Plus because of government corruption and/or underdevelopment caused by colonization many are struggling. So they’re gonna overcharge especially since they don’t consider us their people so they don’t feel they owe any loyalty. It is what it is unfortunately. Sorry you had a bad time 🤎 I wanna go to West Africa just to touch down where my ancestors would have been but I’m not expecting much human interaction.

    • @angrycannibal6625
      @angrycannibal6625 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sadly when one has been screwed over, they look for victims. Go to any poor neighborhood in the US and watch even the children try to take advantage of you.

    • @marydavis7978
      @marydavis7978 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I traveled to Tanzania three times in 2021! Beautiful country beautiful people lots of fresh fruits and vegetables feels good to shop with my People! Each time I have been treated with the up most kindness and courtesy! They treat African Americans women like Queens! Maybe that because I've been told I look Tanzanian! I'll be traveling to Kigali in March have heard nothing but beautiful things about Rwanda! 😃😃😃

    • @eotc7980
      @eotc7980 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@marydavis7978 well I’m happy you had that experience. I heard nothing but wonderful things then I arrived and was very saddened! Very happy for you and thank you so much for sharing 💕

    • @zeewann
      @zeewann ปีที่แล้ว

      Hmmm. Not my experience in Kigali at all. My major issue was with the bugs. Yes there are panhandlers, but those are in every country.

  • @Aba_Ifeoma
    @Aba_Ifeoma 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Prayers up for a clear covid test Sis!

    • @sandybanks2865
      @sandybanks2865 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Imagine something so awful you need a test just to see if you have it ….

  • @nichellepeters5195
    @nichellepeters5195 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I researched Costa Rica for 6 months (probably not long enough) and had the worst experience EVER. the people were politely COLD. 🥶 I was there in a 1 year lease. I left the country in 7 months 😢 I was so upset I was so isolated the few friends I DID make were 2 of the sweetest most wonderful Venezuelans and 1 Latin guy who was part Asian. Let me explain. I got ripped off when I first got there by an American lady who as it turned out ran a "fake" travel company called Bijigual Real Estate or something like that we talked for months and she moved me to a ghetto ass dangerous neighborhood 🤔 I left and moved to a nice condo place after losing over $700 to a nasty landlord who refused to help me out after that lady scammed me. I should've left then. I was set to retire there.. Dream crushed.. no English speakers so that was extremely hard too.. yes I understand Spanish and have never stopped learning it.. Lack of convenience wasn't my issue getting scammed by an American and then being treated like dirt by that landlord wasn't my expectation. I was so embarrassed 😳 I had to contact my then boyfriend and ask for money to be let out of my situation then I moved to the much nicer condo but my experience was so sour at that point that I just couldn't get my head together and it was all ruined. The rest of the stay (in Alejuela) I was very lonely and when I reached out for friendships I was dismissed. Couldn't find a friend to save my life.. The low prices, food and daily fresh fruit was awesome and my sweet dog who came with me, kept me company but otherwise 3 years later I never talk about my experience because it was that emotionally painful. I am a military veteran who survives off disability pay at the time only $1500 a month now I earn a bit more thank God increased disability rating. 🙏🏾😉 I want to go to Italy (my dream country) just a visit but I am now very terrified to do so. I wanted to move there but after my past disaster, no way ! 😔 Burned. 🔥

    • @courtney3173
      @courtney3173 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Costa Rica is top of my list to move to. I’ve been watching The Global Black Girl and she said the same about the San Jose area people being reserved. I think she said there’s lots of German descendants in the area and they tend to keep to themselves. I’m pretty introverted so as long as they aren’t rude I’m hoping it’s not too bad. Plus The Global Black Girl along with other Black women are creating a community in I think Escazu so there’s gonna be familiar culture. If Italy is on your heart strong you should visit and if you like it relocate. Even if you don’t like it at least you tried and found out good luck to you 🤎✨

    • @marilynpeoples5099
      @marilynpeoples5099 ปีที่แล้ว

      Been traveling to Costa Rica for years… as a culture they are very conservative, but when engaged they are very charming and accommodating. But I also speak , adequate Spanish which I do enjoy using…. that may have been a factor in the negative experience.

    • @marilynpeoples5099
      @marilynpeoples5099 ปีที่แล้ว

      Be careful… how local can you go? I haven’t slept in a month because of the roosters, truck noise, cobblestones and ever-present dust.😐

    • @marilynpeoples5099
      @marilynpeoples5099 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oaxaca city has a small town feel, but there is a mall…and a Walmart.

    • @marilynpeoples5099
      @marilynpeoples5099 ปีที่แล้ว

      Noisy season in Mexico??? During Christmas, January and Easter.

  • @atlnla4112
    @atlnla4112 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Just stumbled on this vid. But you mentioned Bangkok, and I wanted to respond. First to preface, I've been in China for 6 yrs, my second trip to Thailand was in 2020 and was in Phuket 10 months and had the best time. Which is now my potential final destination. For me, the people were friendly; heat was an issue, but I go to the pools or beach when in Phuket, or stay inside. And mainly for long term living, low cost of living. Thailand can give you enough "western" food and restaurants, but also easy enough to get foreign food.

  • @bergema2
    @bergema2 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don’t know how this channel popped up but I found it interesting 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @ealing26
    @ealing26 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am a British Asian man. In 2019, I spent only 2 hours in Italy and then left. I felt extremally unwelcomed there .In a cafe they asked for my passport; as they might assumed I was a refugee. At the train station, a cashier threw my debit card into my face, rather than gently passing in to me. At a restaurant the waiter took his time to take my order, although the restaurant was empty. I hated Italy so much that I decided to leave the country 2 hours after arriving there.

  • @vwalker9192
    @vwalker9192 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Stephanie, I loved Istanbul. Try to visit there when you go to Turkey. The food in Istanbul is amazing. I rode the buses and went to a bank. I even won a dance contest in a huge international supper club! Hated France, especially Paris. Won't go back there.

    • @AdimuKP
      @AdimuKP 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I didn't care for France that much either.
      But will give it another try

    • @smm3476
      @smm3476 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      We went to Istanbul because it was one of the only places open when we were able to travel and I LOVE IT. The general culture is one of warmth and charisma. If you are respectful they are so welcoming. And they love children. Every member of my dark skinned black family felt fully accepted and the only unpleasant experiences I had were with tourists.

  • @susanshaver912
    @susanshaver912 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I loved Puerto Rico, except for the heat and humidity! Otherwise I would definitely have gone back. Most of Central and S America you don't flush the toilet paper. It would plug up the sewer system. Yup - get used to it. It's pretty embarrassing to have to be the one that plugged up the system! Yes, change your mind, accept the system.

  • @treasured_remembrance
    @treasured_remembrance ปีที่แล้ว

    It’s so funny. I just realized that the main reason I feel stuck is the stupid lease I’m in right here in the good old USA.😂 I’ve hated it pretty much since I moved in but understood it to be a stepping stone to my launch out. Unfortunately the conditions have dropped and I’ve learned I will never again be trapped in a year lease IF I can help it. I’d rather bop around month to month.

  • @musicaflowerchild5540
    @musicaflowerchild5540 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I would like to live in a place where it is not disgustingly hot all of the time. I'd have to feel safe and feel like I didn't have to watch all of my belongings all of the time to keep someone from stealing them. I'd like laidback people who are genuinely friendly, I need the ocean or a really large lake and good places to hike and camp. All religions, not just one. Good health care, and transportation. A decent police force. English speakers would be nice. Wineries, good food. Not many Muzungus.

    • @kaydenpat
      @kaydenpat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Try visiting Ghana. Not sure if they have wineries though.

  • @mshamida08
    @mshamida08 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Customer service reps are scared to confront individuals due to the hostility that they encounter from individuals who are showing symptoms.

  • @FemFantastic2.0
    @FemFantastic2.0 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I lived on and off in El Salvador for three years in La Palma. There are no black people there, lol! I was treated like a lady everywhere and now I am thinking about being a snow bird there when I retire.

    • @creoleladee
      @creoleladee 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      El Salvaador?! The country many are fleeing due to poverty, violence and gangs? Well, alright then.

  • @ladyofspa
    @ladyofspa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Kinda like college at first might hate it. But by the second year LOVED it💜💚💛💙

  • @honeychick4ever280
    @honeychick4ever280 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Greece and Belize is on my list

  • @user-gu6vf3je1d
    @user-gu6vf3je1d 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Awesome topic. Relatable. Part 2 please.

  • @kevinmacon1779
    @kevinmacon1779 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hey sis love info. I big on vision boards. Can u give me info on traveling companion s or group s to travel with....I want to do more traveling but Don t want to alone to new foreign countries. God Bless sis.

  • @Stasharenee
    @Stasharenee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Interesting channel. First time here. I would be interested in hearing all of the places that you have visited. Quite impressed with the list so far.

  • @doctork1708
    @doctork1708 ปีที่แล้ว

    Noise is common throughout most of Latin America. All the things you mentioned, including rooftop dogs. Lived in Ecuador with my dog for 2 years. Cherry Bombs going off 12+ hours a day 365 days a year. My dog was a nervous wreck. All the other noise, too. Another issue I struggled with was the stranglehold of religion.

  • @maureengolding2980
    @maureengolding2980 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I had fun in Cancun. The people are friendly. I love Canada, people are friendly.

  • @terribooberry2488
    @terribooberry2488 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Running errands , eating, walking around …..you know what I mean.