So tell us, what are you doing to embrace more ease starting now? Leave a comment! If it's house sitting 🏡, get your New House Sitter Toolkit here: housesit.vaycarious.com/toolkit
Stephanie I am happy to report my driveway is looking amazing and I didn’t have to lift a finger.😊 Thank you so much for the inspiration to look at and implement more ease. Still shopping for a housekeeper but I am diligent about crossing that off too!
Ppl say "Folks don't want to work anymore.". The thing is PPL ARE TIRED!! Work at the office, work at home, grocery shopping, car care blah blah blah. No, I'm tired and I'm am not doing it anymore. I'm chilling more. It's hard emotionally, but I'm fighting through it until it's becomes natural.
By choosing to being childfree (for life!), choosing the right partner, travelling often and for long periods, having a housekeeper (despite it only being ourselves and 2 cats), rejecting religious indoctrination and having my hairdresser come to me!
Hiring people to clean your house stimulates the economy. There’s nothing wrong with that. My family had a housekeeper until I got to the 9th grade. And as an adult I use them, guilt-free. The lady I use now owns the business with her daughter👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I’ve had a housekeeper for the last 20 years and lawn service. Next on my list is laundry service and a private chef because I’m not cooking and eat out 3-4 days a week anyway. After that will be a personal stylist because I hate shopping. Do it ladies!! You deserve it. Love this Chanel!!!😍
My first step of ease has begun with moving out of my apartment to one of my loved ones. They are allowing me to save up and start my sabbatical journey. I will no longer be the family member that provides a platform for others to move in until they get on their feet, it’s my turn now.
I would like to recommend a book: Sacred Pampering Principles: An African-American Woman's Guide to Self-care and Inner Renewal by Debrena Jackson Gandy
I’m in my early 50s, and wow, I am tired! The mere idea of ease (especially for us) was blasphemous my entire life. I was made to feel lazy for not wanting to work day in and day out, but also for not wanting to raise children. So, here I am, burnt all the way out from caring for other people (including a disabled spouse), never feeling like I could say “no” at work, and pretty bitter. I feel like I got robbed of a life I was meant to have, and now because I blew money taking care of things that weren’t my responsibility, I feel like I have to keep working at least another eight years. I don’t know if I can take eight months, much less years! I do have my house cleaned once a month, my dog taken for hikes a couple of times a week, and have outsourced the full time care for my spouse. I just don’t want to do all the things all by myself anymore.
It's good to hear that you have outsourced the things that you can so far. If you do need to work for another 8 years, is there a change you can make that can make working easier on you?
In my psychotherapy practice, I often talk with Black women about the strong black woman myth and the ways in which they can release those expectations, establish healthier boundaries, and embrace more self-compassion, which all seem to be ingredients of the "ease" you discuss. Thank you for bringing these conversations into an open space for others to learn from. As a woman, wife, and mother, I've never been into doing. all. the. things. I'm just not wired that way, and for me, learning to accept that part of my personality and not get sucked into the hustle culture is my own path toward ease. My husband is very easy-going and so we work very well together. Hoping to spend significant chunks of time abroad in the near future.
As a single mother, taking full-time college classes exhausted me. I hired a housekeeper who would also cook. It was phenomenal. I look forward to doing it again.
Vacations with children are a must!....not focusing on grown men is a vacation. 2nd thought, hiring ppl to work has been a life saver for me. More time in the hot tub.
Stephanie, I have watched every second of you and these women and had a flashback to a time when I paid for a home cleaning service and for my home to be professionally organized. Tonight, I’m starting my list: Embrace Ease. THANK YOU for giving Black women the tools to escape to a better reality.
Social work is hard work, but the rewards and success stories keep us hostage in the midst of the chaos in social work. I’m truly burnt out and finally realizing that I need out.
I'm burnt out and frustrated. I'm taking care of an aging parent and trying to fix things that have been difficult for him to manage. It is exhausting. And there is no appreciation. I am ready to put that burden down, but I don't know how. I feel stuck and I need to get moving. I have to find a way to get help . I never even thought about getting someone clean or yardwork. I've joked that I need a chef, housekeeper, landscaper and handyman. I didn't seriously think about getting people do do these things.
I recently retired and did not fully understand my frustration and weight of 50 years of work ‘stuff’. Now hearing you articulate the feelings, now I’m ready to move abroad for 6 month jaunts each year. The mental relief is my goal for the last chapters of my life. Thanks!!!
When I almost worked myself to death, my family survived mostly on prepared meals & bagged salads from Trader Joe's. We stocked some favorites & meals that could be heated within minutes using a kitchen timer even by my child when I was too weak to stand up. This concept is a wise decision to make earlier than later. Owning a vehicle, washer & dryer, etc. are very helpful when affordable. Care Bear Syndrome is real. It's very neccessary to say NO when people take too much & reciprocate little or nothing. Struggle Love should not be tolerated.😊
I recently applied to get the advanced TSA pre-check. I would like to travel more in the future and I hate standing in line at security, taking off my shoes and whatnot. Once I'm approved, I can glide right on thru and leave the crowd behind.
I like this video. Iron sharpening iron. You are providing coaching to another business woman. Black women business owners need this type of support. That would make a good business for you Ms. Perry. Enjoying your channel. Learning to dream again.
You look very pretty in that black and white top, Stephanie. I don't know if it's a complete dress or what, but you look smashing. Your hair is beautiful! Thanks for the video.
Thanks again Stephanie! What you and your friends are doing is revolutionary!! My daughter watched this video with me and said she was glad we won’t be shoveling snow this year.😆😆 It’s been a long time coming.
Yes, Steph! I actually took my clothes to a local "mom n pop" laundry business in Jamaica. I battled with doing it because I was raised to "wash my own clothes." However, it is a great service and the business owners loved the $$$. I do tip "well." Lol! I did, however, wash my own underwear. Teehee 😆
Gonna take more weekend camping/glamping sabbaticals in my Roadtrek RV instead of using my Saturdays & Sundays to "catch up" on work emails, etc---without feeling guilty.
Ooo! I am pleasantly surprised to see a post by a fellow woman of color who mentions RV living and boondocking. I don’t have an RV yet, and was worried that as a woman alone, especially a Black woman, it might not be the safest idea, but I’ve subbed your channel for ideas and inspiration! 👍🏾
Thank you for mentioning & covering emotional labor is killing me. Its taking a toll on my physical & mental health. Its non-relatives thats the worst.
Pre prep meals are at Sam's club and it purchase them as well as the rotisseries chicken. Costco is at the Christians mall area in Newark. I have lawn service, don't shovel snow and looking for a good house keeper in Dover De. The one I tried from Groupon was really bad. I retired 2 years ago to write and start my own business. I like the ease life, trying to help other women join the Ease life and stop stressing .
Thank you, thank you. Stephanie, you have no idea how you have impacted my life, my daughter and a few of my friends. I am 67 and def was ready to get off the struggle bus. Started a coaching biz for women over 60, a youtube channel and spin instructor (my form of fun) Left my job as an auditor, hired someone to clean my house, returned to traveling. Once I got paid to do what I was giving to people for free it was easy to leave... never thought it would be possible. As a result, my daughter is not taking a seat on the struggle bus and travels and has lived abroad (as has her brother but Black women are the focus here lol) AND... your influence on me has in turn influenced a group of my friends, many who have embraced a life of ease. Just wanted you to know that your influence runs deep and wide! LOVE YOU! Sign me ... a binge watcher, Denise
Perfect message and nice to see you Stephanie during the week--plus on Saturdays! Love you, your community and your boldness in conveying your message!
Great talk with everyone regarding taking action towards more ease. The wheels in my head are always turning, but for me to have more ease is to start with getting Rosanna's BBF planner to help get my ideas out of my head, next become a house sitter, and complete my 2022 vision board. Yes taking these actions will take effort, not work, towards future ease for me.
I Had To Pressure My Mom Into Early Retirement From Social Working Was Stressful Just Started Back To Work My Niece Cooks My Meals Bought Me Wig Just Like My Hair
Thanks for this mastermind video on ease. I got my notes and I’m ready 😁 Right now I get a monthly massage. But upping the ante when I exit the US. That personal chef is sounding perfect for me! Also a personal trainer.
@35:29 She is into eliminating poverty and systemic racism. That is alot. BW tend to be into Social Justice programs alot. Glad she mentioned how she is struggling in this area.
I watched this video last night. Thank you so much for having this conversation. I was in the process of applying for a higher paying position at my job. The money would be good but it’s not necessary. My peace of mind is more important. I am officially creating a life of ease for myself. I’m getting off of the the struggle bus. I feel kinda bad though lol. My manager has talked me up to the other hiring manager and everyone is expecting me to apply.
Have took time from work due to family, school and now I am just really figuring out what I want to do and strategizing my passions as a Lifestyle brand and do it while I work towards my goals. Definitely want to travel .... I enjoy your channel, it is so encouraging !
I own a cleaning company, so my staff clean my home at cost. I have my groceries delivered. I am likely going to hire a dog walker soon too. I am ALL about comfort and I don't feel bad about it one bit. I am going to be focusing on business growth so that I can further elevate my luxurious with ease and comfort.
She better get that housekeeper!!! You're helping to pay someone's bills, and black women work hard to make ends meet and if they can afford to work less at home, do it!
The guilt of Living in ease and using services that others are privileged to experience normally is heavy. Thank you for helping to alleviate some of it.
Stephanie, I am sooooo glad I found your channel! Now I am seriously thinking of moving to the Caribbean because of the information you have provided. Also, you have given me so many other ways to incorporate EASE into my life. My first is establishing boundaries. THANK YOU!
I created ease by outsourcing snow removal services, switching to a career that allowed me to work from home, and not allowing people to use me as a crutch (I am gangster about this one). During the pandemic, I discovered online grocery shopping and delivery/pickup. This has been a real time saver for me and I make sure to purchase more prepared meals a few times a week, since I no longer have folks to cook for. I am currently looking for someone to do my yardwork on a permanent basis. I already have a family friend who helps with larger projects around my home (garage and basement cleaning). I love my easier life and am always looking for ways to make my life even easier. Also, I am single after the end of a long term relationship, and that is also making my life much easier by freeing up mental space. My ultimate goal is to snowbird to a warmer climate; pre-pandemic I traveled often to the Caribbean and took cruises so to live in a warmer climate during the winter is the ultimate plan.
I'm working on a mobile career so I can travel. I moved from New Jersey to Ga an the weather is so pleasant. All week, in December, temperatures have been in the 70's.
Your videos are invaluable!!!! I've just discovered them and have watched 2 or 3 of them thus far. They give me such hope that I can and should pursue my heart's desires. But I must confess that I am a procrastinator of the highest degree and can be quite methodical and overthinking and/or just straight up too lazy to take action. I don't think you have a video to address these issues, but I do appreciate what you have provided, and I will continue to view more and pray it sparks my motivation to get started and see where it all leads. I'm facing some aging challenges and some physical limitations, but with the knowledge your videos are providing, it gives me hope that there's something I can still make happen for myself with such limitations. It may be like trying to redirect an aircraft carrier, but ultimately, this ship can be turned around. Perseverance, commitment, and God's grace is what's needed. Thank you. 🤗
I've been a major procrastinator too. I find that accountability partners really helps me make progress. Plus it's easier to put effort into something that you really want instead of something that you just feel like you "should" do. And I think aging is another reason for Black women to get residency abroad. Healthcare is better in other places. The cost is lower and the treatment can be better. I think growing older in a country that views healthcare as a basic human right is important.
Listening to the replay in 2023... yes to @happyinAlaska on the extra labor of relationships and marriage. This is why I divorced and just skipped to a sperm bank to create my family. It's one thing if you marry a person interested in being a partner who also carried weight. But not a person who is physically a man with the expectation to be a taker... yo be taken care of and not contribute to doing household upkeep or splitting primary care duties for children. If I am expected to don't alone LET ME GO DO THAT! Without having to manage and entire grown person's needs physically, emotionally and sexually. I aGLADLY and enthusiastically became a single mom (to 2) ON PURPOSE. My household is happy and peaceful and mommy is present.
I live in Michigan & absolutely hate WINTER. I get the blues every year, especially after having lived in Georgia before 😢 This channel is helping me work on my exit strategy.
Wow!!!!!! You hit it about the emotional labor and relationships draining black women. I find also that in many of relationships I have people want me to become invested emotionally. I refuse anymore…. So be it!
I just love this video! I’m alway busy working 2-3 jobs. I’m looking forward to beginning to embrace ease because of these videos. Thank you Steph for creating this channel
I agree Queen; my mom always cooked homemade EVERYTHING!!!! I DO NOT want to do that, and I DO NOT ever want to; however, my siblings shame me and make me feel so bad for it.
Watching hours later while logged onto remote work. Love 💘 love 💘 love 💘 this! These interviews were amazing 👏. Just what I need to hear, this has me so cised that I'm on the "right path."
Same as here, I am the youngest, so my sisters think and said that I am the youngest and strong and must take care of others, including themselves, I worked very hard to be where I am, I still work on myself, find time to exercise, walk, eating nutritious, still earn, love myself, I want to live for my self, rest, travel with friends, laugh together, and sometimes people want to make me feel guilty about the way I choose to enjoying my life. Thank you, what are the books that you suggest I read?
It is, Kamase. Lots of people live off of their US Social Security benefits abroad. Mexico and Ecuador are popular because of their low cost of living and great weather.
@@StephaniePerry ...I love you, Stephanie Perry; I sincerely do! You're the only person I've seen who actually lives the phrase "There's no such thing as CAN'T!"
Yes! Highly recommend to binge watch Stephanie's channel!!! She makes recommendations to other channels as well with Black women who are currently doing it!
Stephanine, I LOVE your hair!! Random I know lol...and I LOVE this particular video! Such an inspiration to listen to so many women's stories...U have made my heart smile to see so many black women gathered with love, kindness and good intentions 👊🏾🥰
I’m gonna quit feeling guilty or letting others have me feel guilty for embracing things that make my life easier! Ima look into a house cleaner I just need a soft clean and mop once a week
Honey, I look forward to the day when I can GLADLY and UNAPOLOGETICALLY relinquish all cleaning and cooking responsibilities. lol And yes, Team Boycott Winter over here!
I ran across your video about a month I am interested in getting past negative thinking about myself and others for that matter. The women you interact with soon-to-be career-oriented or are self-made I am far from that I am 66 years old, threw away a nursing career, take care of my mother who is demented, take care of my younger grandchildren to make life easier for my children because Child Care is so expensive. I have no talents no gifts, not very motivated but I really love thinking that I could go abroad and live for a little while away from everyone. I don't own anything. So I'm interested in positive confirmations and changing. Is there something I could do to 66 years of age
Hi, how would you suggest I live with some ease as a single mom with one 17 yo son and 2 teenage boys (in foster care) that I care for daily? I recently became a stay at home mom and in my early 50s. I don't see myself leveling up unless I live with some or more ease...
So tell us, what are you doing to embrace more ease starting now? Leave a comment! If it's house sitting 🏡, get your New House Sitter Toolkit here: housesit.vaycarious.com/toolkit
Congratulations on your article in Black Enterprise!!!
I'm scheduling a couple of hours a weekly to plan my goals to embrace my new life with this program. My prayers have been answered!
Stephanie I am happy to report my driveway is looking amazing and I didn’t have to lift a finger.😊 Thank you so much for the inspiration to look at and implement more ease. Still shopping for a housekeeper but I am diligent about crossing that off too!
I use to say all the time "doing too much"
I've adapted to a life of more ease by cutting out the carebear syndrome.
Ppl say "Folks don't want to work anymore.". The thing is PPL ARE TIRED!! Work at the office, work at home, grocery shopping, car care blah blah blah. No, I'm tired and I'm am not doing it anymore. I'm chilling more. It's hard emotionally, but I'm fighting through it until it's becomes natural.
By choosing to being childfree (for life!), choosing the right partner, travelling often and for long periods, having a housekeeper (despite it only being ourselves and 2 cats), rejecting religious indoctrination and having my hairdresser come to me!
❤ I love this!
This!
Hiring people to clean your house stimulates the economy. There’s nothing wrong with that. My family had a housekeeper until I got to the 9th grade. And as an adult I use them, guilt-free. The lady I use now owns the business with her daughter👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
“Learning how to say no and not feel guilty about it”. Powerful.
Life changer. 💗
Yes.
I’ve had a housekeeper for the last 20 years and lawn service. Next on my list is laundry service and a private chef because I’m not cooking and eat out 3-4 days a week anyway. After that will be a personal stylist because I hate shopping. Do it ladies!! You deserve it. Love this Chanel!!!😍
Love it!
My first step of ease has begun with moving out of my apartment to one of my loved ones. They are allowing me to save up and start my sabbatical journey. I will no longer be the family member that provides a platform for others to move in until they get on their feet, it’s my turn now.
Yes Diamond! 💗
I'm an AA in Yaoundé, Cameroon. I have someone to cook, clean, wash dishes and clothes. As a first born, I was tired before I left home for college.
I would like to recommend a book: Sacred Pampering Principles: An African-American Woman's Guide to Self-care and Inner Renewal by Debrena Jackson Gandy
Thanks so much! I'll look for it now!
Thank you. I just ordered based on your recommendation and the title.
@@TheBecksHemmings did you like the book ?
I’m in my early 50s, and wow, I am tired! The mere idea of ease (especially for us) was blasphemous my entire life. I was made to feel lazy for not wanting to work day in and day out, but also for not wanting to raise children. So, here I am, burnt all the way out from caring for other people (including a disabled spouse), never feeling like I could say “no” at work, and pretty bitter. I feel like I got robbed of a life I was meant to have, and now because I blew money taking care of things that weren’t my responsibility, I feel like I have to keep working at least another eight years. I don’t know if I can take eight months, much less years!
I do have my house cleaned once a month, my dog taken for hikes a couple of times a week, and have outsourced the full time care for my spouse. I just don’t want to do all the things all by myself anymore.
It's good to hear that you have outsourced the things that you can so far. If you do need to work for another 8 years, is there a change you can make that can make working easier on you?
In my psychotherapy practice, I often talk with Black women about the strong black woman myth and the ways in which they can release those expectations, establish healthier boundaries, and embrace more self-compassion, which all seem to be ingredients of the "ease" you discuss. Thank you for bringing these conversations into an open space for others to learn from. As a woman, wife, and mother, I've never been into doing. all. the. things. I'm just not wired that way, and for me, learning to accept that part of my personality and not get sucked into the hustle culture is my own path toward ease. My husband is very easy-going and so we work very well together. Hoping to spend significant chunks of time abroad in the near future.
I'm like you Tori. I've never been one to do the most either. I'm glad you're helping Black women see another way. Welcome! 💗
This! The strong black woman trope is killing black women. I had a heart attack at the age of 47... learn the hard way to embrace ease.
@@Baruch1girl So happy you're here to share your story💕
🙏🏽 you’re so right!!! Conditioning from childhood is real!!!
We're breaking those chains Venus! 💗
As a single mother, taking full-time college classes exhausted me. I hired a housekeeper who would also cook. It was phenomenal. I look forward to doing it again.
Vacations with children are a must!....not focusing on grown men is a vacation. 2nd thought, hiring ppl to work has been a life saver for me. More time in the hot tub.
Hot Tub Time ALL THE TIME!! 🙌🏿
Stephanie, I have watched every second of you and these women and had a flashback to a time when I paid for a home cleaning service and for my home to be professionally organized. Tonight, I’m starting my list: Embrace Ease. THANK YOU for giving Black women the tools to escape to a better reality.
You're so welcome Arnell. Thank YOU for being part of this community. Keep moving in the direction of your dreams. 💗
I agree ☝️
Social work is hard work, but the rewards and success stories keep us hostage in the midst of the chaos in social work. I’m truly burnt out and finally realizing that I need out.
I'm burnt out and frustrated. I'm taking care of an aging parent and trying to fix things that have been difficult for him to manage. It is exhausting. And there is no appreciation. I am ready to put that burden down, but I don't know how. I feel stuck and I need to get moving. I have to find a way to get help . I never even thought about getting someone clean or yardwork. I've joked that I need a chef, housekeeper, landscaper and handyman. I didn't seriously think about getting people do do these things.
Stephanie!! I took the leap (and tried to take a sabbatical) and moved to Eurasia. Life is much easier here. Thanks for your influence!!
Hey Vega!! Wonderful! If you're near Turkey, I'll be there April - June. 💗
I recently retired and did not fully understand my frustration and weight of 50 years of work ‘stuff’. Now hearing you articulate the feelings, now I’m ready to move abroad for 6 month jaunts each year. The mental relief is my goal for the last chapters of my life. Thanks!!!
When I almost worked myself to death, my family survived mostly on prepared meals & bagged salads from Trader Joe's. We stocked some favorites & meals that could be heated within minutes using a kitchen timer even by my child when I was too weak to stand up. This concept is a wise decision to make earlier than later. Owning a vehicle, washer & dryer, etc. are very helpful when affordable.
Care Bear Syndrome is real. It's very neccessary to say NO when people take too much & reciprocate little or nothing. Struggle Love should not be tolerated.😊
Bedina, I hope you're no longer working yourself to exhaustion. How are you now?
100!
I recently applied to get the advanced TSA pre-check. I would like to travel more in the future and I hate standing in line at security, taking off my shoes and whatnot. Once I'm approved, I can glide right on thru and leave the crowd behind.
Yes! I need to do this too Lori. 💗
It’s a game changer
I like this video. Iron sharpening iron. You are providing coaching to another business woman. Black women business owners need this type of support. That would make a good business for you Ms. Perry. Enjoying your channel. Learning to dream again.
Thank you so much for your kind words. 💗 Yes to living your DREAMS!
You look very pretty in that black and white top, Stephanie. I don't know if it's a complete dress or what, but you look smashing. Your hair is beautiful! Thanks for the video.
Thanks again Stephanie! What you and your friends are doing is revolutionary!! My daughter watched this video with me and said she was glad we won’t be shoveling snow this year.😆😆 It’s been a long time coming.
😆😆 I know she was!! Thank you so much for sharing with us! 💗💗
Lawn care and snow removal. Check. Housekeeper. Check. Eliminating stressful relationships - in process. Plan for January 2023 - snowbird.
Yes, Steph! I actually took my clothes to a local "mom n pop" laundry business in Jamaica. I battled with doing it because I was raised to "wash my own clothes." However, it is a great service and the business owners loved the $$$. I do tip "well." Lol! I did, however, wash my own underwear. Teehee 😆
Very good first step Makeda!!
Gonna take more weekend camping/glamping sabbaticals in my Roadtrek RV instead of using my Saturdays & Sundays to "catch up" on work emails, etc---without feeling guilty.
More joy, no guilt. 💗
Ooo! I am pleasantly surprised to see a post by a fellow woman of color who mentions RV living and boondocking. I don’t have an RV yet, and was worried that as a woman alone, especially a Black woman, it might not be the safest idea, but I’ve subbed your channel for ideas and inspiration! 👍🏾
Thank you for mentioning & covering emotional labor is killing me. Its taking a toll on my physical & mental health. Its non-relatives thats the worst.
What's your plan to cut them off Jill? We can't keep living like this.
Yes I have cut off a few. & some just left. Much better in my life. Thanks.
Pre prep meals are at Sam's club and it purchase them as well as the rotisseries chicken. Costco is at the Christians mall area in Newark. I have lawn service, don't shovel snow and looking for a good house keeper in Dover De. The one I tried from Groupon was really bad. I retired 2 years ago to write and start my own business. I like the ease life, trying to help other women join the Ease life and stop stressing .
While living abroad is a far-off dream, my two takeaways are: hiring a housekeeper and a cook! Thanks so much for this conversation.
Yes to more ease however we can get it. When's the first day for your housekeeper to come ShaQuan?
@@StephaniePerryHi Stephanie 👋🏾 I've had a someone to clean for about two years- but I just upped the frequency to bi-weekly😀
I started having my yard work done by someone else! Yes 🙌🏽
Thank you, thank you. Stephanie, you have no idea how you have impacted my life, my daughter and a few of my friends. I am 67 and def was ready to get off the struggle bus. Started a coaching biz for women over 60, a youtube channel and spin instructor (my form of fun) Left my job as an auditor, hired someone to clean my house, returned to traveling. Once I got paid to do what I was giving to people for free it was easy to leave... never thought it would be possible. As a result, my daughter is not taking a seat on the struggle bus and travels and has lived abroad (as has her brother but Black women are the focus here lol) AND... your influence on me has in turn influenced a group of my friends, many who have embraced a life of ease. Just wanted you to know that your influence runs deep and wide! LOVE YOU!
Sign me ... a binge watcher,
Denise
Definitely can relate to feeling drained by making time for dating
Dating the wrong person is a whole job. I'm ready to start dating someone who'll help lighten my load, but I really have no idea how to find this.
Such a good point about moving away from doing freelance emotional labor...
Perfect message and nice to see you Stephanie during the week--plus on Saturdays! Love you, your community and your boldness in conveying your message!
👋🏾 Key Keren! Thanks so much for being part of this amazing community. 💗
Great talk with everyone regarding taking action towards more ease. The wheels in my head are always turning, but for me to have more ease is to start with getting Rosanna's BBF planner to help get my ideas out of my head, next become a house sitter, and complete my 2022 vision board. Yes taking these actions will take effort, not work, towards future ease for me.
I LOVE these steps Tracy! Maybe we'll do an online vision board party in December. 💗
So glad to hear it! Hot tip: if you sign up for he BBF Planner mailing list there's a promo code 💃🏾
I Had To Pressure My Mom
Into Early Retirement From
Social Working Was Stressful
Just Started Back To Work
My Niece Cooks My Meals
Bought Me Wig Just Like My Hair
Thanks for this mastermind video on ease. I got my notes and I’m ready 😁
Right now I get a monthly massage. But upping the ante when I exit the US. That personal chef is sounding perfect for me! Also a personal trainer.
Do you have your go date?
Jan 17, 2022 😁
@35:29 She is into eliminating poverty and systemic racism. That is alot. BW tend to be into Social Justice programs alot. Glad she mentioned how she is struggling in this area.
Congrats on being recognized by Black Enertprise!🎉 Thank you for addressing this vitally important topic. Struggle Life.👋🏽
I watched this video last night. Thank you so much for having this conversation. I was in the process of applying for a higher paying position at my job. The money would be good but it’s not necessary. My peace of mind is more important. I am officially creating a life of ease for myself. I’m getting off of the the struggle bus. I feel kinda bad though lol. My manager has talked me up to the other hiring manager and everyone is expecting me to apply.
Have took time from work due to family, school and now I am just really figuring out what I want to do and strategizing my passions as a Lifestyle brand and do it while I work towards my goals. Definitely want to travel .... I enjoy your channel, it is so encouraging !
Persons who will only call when they have a problem.
I own a cleaning company, so my staff clean my home at cost. I have my groceries delivered. I am likely going to hire a dog walker soon too. I am ALL about comfort and I don't feel bad about it one bit. I am going to be focusing on business growth so that I can further elevate my luxurious with ease and comfort.
Wow missed the live!! But yes im trying to get to a life of ease. Eldest child, growing up doing just enough was considered lazy
She better get that housekeeper!!! You're helping to pay someone's bills, and black women work hard to make ends meet and if they can afford to work less at home, do it!
The guilt of Living in ease and using services that others are privileged to experience normally is heavy. Thank you for helping to alleviate some of it.
Stephanie, I am sooooo glad I found your channel! Now I am seriously thinking of moving to the Caribbean because of the information you have provided. Also, you have given me so many other ways to incorporate EASE into my life. My first is establishing boundaries. THANK YOU!
Your last guest! She is hysterical! She is on point. Just try it! Pride be damned. Allow yourself the luxury of time
Absolutely right!
I created ease by outsourcing snow removal services, switching to a career that allowed me to work from home, and not allowing people to use me as a crutch (I am gangster about this one). During the pandemic, I discovered online grocery shopping and delivery/pickup. This has been a real time saver for me and I make sure to purchase more prepared meals a few times a week, since I no longer have folks to cook for. I am currently looking for someone to do my yardwork on a permanent basis. I already have a family friend who helps with larger projects around my home (garage and basement cleaning). I love my easier life and am always looking for ways to make my life even easier. Also, I am single after the end of a long term relationship, and that is also making my life much easier by freeing up mental space. My ultimate goal is to snowbird to a warmer climate; pre-pandemic I traveled often to the Caribbean and took cruises so to live in a warmer climate during the winter is the ultimate plan.
I'm working on a mobile career so I can travel. I moved from New Jersey to Ga an the weather is so pleasant. All week, in December, temperatures have been in the 70's.
Your videos are invaluable!!!! I've just discovered them and have watched 2 or 3 of them thus far. They give me such hope that I can and should pursue my heart's desires. But I must confess that I am a procrastinator of the highest degree and can be quite methodical and overthinking and/or just straight up too lazy to take action. I don't think you have a video to address these issues, but I do appreciate what you have provided, and I will continue to view more and pray it sparks my motivation to get started and see where it all leads.
I'm facing some aging challenges and some physical limitations, but with the knowledge your videos are providing, it gives me hope that there's something I can still make happen for myself with such limitations. It may be like trying to redirect an aircraft carrier, but ultimately, this ship can be turned around. Perseverance, commitment, and God's grace is what's needed. Thank you. 🤗
I've been a major procrastinator too. I find that accountability partners really helps me make progress. Plus it's easier to put effort into something that you really want instead of something that you just feel like you "should" do.
And I think aging is another reason for Black women to get residency abroad. Healthcare is better in other places. The cost is lower and the treatment can be better. I think growing older in a country that views healthcare as a basic human right is important.
Listening to the replay in 2023... yes to @happyinAlaska on the extra labor of relationships and marriage. This is why I divorced and just skipped to a sperm bank to create my family.
It's one thing if you marry a person interested in being a partner who also carried weight. But not a person who is physically a man with the expectation to be a taker... yo be taken care of and not contribute to doing household upkeep or splitting primary care duties for children.
If I am expected to don't alone LET ME GO DO THAT! Without having to manage and entire grown person's needs physically, emotionally and sexually.
I aGLADLY and enthusiastically became a single mom (to 2) ON PURPOSE.
My household is happy and peaceful and mommy is present.
I live in Michigan & absolutely hate WINTER. I get the blues every year, especially after having lived in Georgia before 😢 This channel is helping me work on my exit strategy.
I can’t imagine living in a cold environment such as Alaska. NY winters have me eager to leave this job and retire in Mexico. Seattle sis😩
Wow!!!!!!
You hit it about the emotional labor and relationships draining black women. I find also that in many of relationships I have people want me to become invested emotionally.
I refuse anymore…. So be it!
Congratulations Stephanie! Such wonderful news.
Thanks AJ! 💗
I just love this video! I’m alway busy working 2-3 jobs. I’m looking forward to beginning to embrace ease because of these videos. Thank you Steph for creating this channel
Loved this video Stephanie and your guests! More Ease in my life is my goal!! Thank you Ladies!
Yay! Glad you’re talking about this subject. I’ve always been in to the leisurely life. I ALWAYS make time for leisure! :) Keep promoting this life.
I sure will! 💗
I agree Queen; my mom always cooked homemade EVERYTHING!!!! I DO NOT want to do that, and I DO NOT ever want to; however, my siblings shame me and make me feel so bad for it.
Thank you so much for making this video. The lady in Alaska is so relatable to how I feel about hiring help to clean my house.
Girl this was soooo good!! What a blessing!
My God in heaven. Thank. you for this show.
Watching hours later while logged onto remote work. Love 💘 love 💘 love 💘 this! These interviews were amazing 👏. Just what I need to hear, this has me so cised that I'm on the "right path."
Brava Dr. Martin!! I’m sure I’m not the first to congratulate you with your new expected title. Fabulous work! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
great followup and examples of where we are with ease adoption!
Same as here, I am the youngest, so my sisters think and said that I am the youngest and strong and must take care of others, including themselves, I worked very hard to be where I am, I still work on myself, find time to exercise, walk, eating nutritious, still earn, love myself, I want to live for my self, rest, travel with friends, laugh together, and sometimes people want to make me feel guilty about the way I choose to enjoying my life.
Thank you, what are the books that you suggest I read?
Wafflecat is a lot like me, but I'm a lot older. I've always felt like the work environment did not fit my lifestyle.
Stephanie, you look so beautiful with your natural hair. 😍
Thank you Stephanie for sharing this video. It is so inspiring! Loved Angela's spirit! I'm going to say no more and sleep more.
Love this series. You look lovely as usual ✨🌸🕊💯
Thank you so much! 💗
Seattle is beautiful!!!
If I'm a woman who lives exclusively on Social Security Retirement benefits, is it an option to leave America?
It is, Kamase. Lots of people live off of their US Social Security benefits abroad. Mexico and Ecuador are popular because of their low cost of living and great weather.
@@StephaniePerry ...I love you, Stephanie Perry; I sincerely do! You're the only person I've seen who actually lives the phrase "There's no such thing as CAN'T!"
Yes! Highly recommend to binge watch Stephanie's channel!!! She makes recommendations to other channels as well with Black women who are currently doing it!
Great message. Thank you
Stephanine, I LOVE your hair!! Random I know lol...and I LOVE this particular video! Such an inspiration to listen to so many women's stories...U have made my heart smile to see so many black women gathered with love, kindness and good intentions 👊🏾🥰
I’m gonna quit feeling guilty or letting others have me feel guilty for embracing things that make my life easier! Ima look into a house cleaner I just need a soft clean and mop once a week
this was so helpful Stephanie. thks so much
Its nice to have a housekeeper to do cleani ng i love that i did that before
I enjoyed this Thankful I am a subscriber I love what u are advising to our Blk sheros I am strategizing a plan for myself.
I love Janeffa Perkins energy!
Thank you. Thank you. I needed this.
Very inspirational...
I think I missed you today. It is July 8, 2023 to hear you and see you on your other TH-cam videos Take care
Love 💘 your channel
Thanks Victoria! Welcome. 💗
Honey, I look forward to the day when I can GLADLY and UNAPOLOGETICALLY relinquish all cleaning and cooking responsibilities. lol And yes, Team Boycott Winter over here!
We're giving it ALL up! No more! 💗
I need a better job, or to hit the lottery. 😔
What do you need in order to get a better job Tiffany?
I ran across your video about a month I am interested in getting past negative thinking about myself and others for that matter. The women you interact with soon-to-be career-oriented or are self-made I am far from that I am 66 years old, threw away a nursing career, take care of my mother who is demented, take care of my younger grandchildren to make life easier for my children because Child Care is so expensive. I have no talents no gifts, not very motivated but I really love thinking that I could go abroad and live for a little while away from everyone. I don't own anything. So I'm interested in positive confirmations and changing. Is there something I could do to 66 years of age
Love this message! I think I’m first 😊
I wish I'd had your email address! Maybe you can be in a pt. 2 video. 💗
Janeffa is so much fun!!!! Concrete advise from all interviewed.
I’m here for the private chef
Hi, how would you suggest I live with some ease as a single mom with one 17 yo son and 2 teenage boys (in foster care) that I care for daily? I recently became a stay at home mom and in my early 50s. I don't see myself leveling up unless I live with some or more ease...
I would look for a side hustle.
I can speak to relationship ease, for sure!
Janeffa Perkins was great!
❤️ Beautiful Blessings
Thanks for this video
Great video
Hello. In case someone listing equates house sitting to ‘maid’, they are not the same
Exactly! House sitting is luxurious 😍! Sit back, chill & just make sure their house is not on fire or get robbed. Oh & walk the dog 🐶 sometimes 😆!
What... You were in the Army??❓ HOOAH ☺️
What's is your gospel grown up gap ministry?