I feel you. I recently realized I get anxious whenever anything goes right in my life and it’s because things used to always get taken away from me, especially when I was younger, as a form of punishment. It’s the same with people and opportunities in my life. I’m so scared that somethings going to change that I never really let myself fully feel it. It’s as if they’re gonna fly right through me. What helps me is to be present and only letting what’s around you to affect you. Of course it’s not always good and it’s okay to be sad sometimes. Thank you for sharing this and much love from this random stranger
Thank you for such an insightful comment. 💜 It’s tough moving through life in survival mode at all times. I think in ways it makes us stronger, but relaxing becomes difficult. Meditation, yoga, and being in nature has helped me a lot with it all.
I don't know why YT decided to show me this 1 day old video with 290 views from a creator that I've never seen, but I'm glad it did. Jesus, man, everything you just said hit home with me, and now I'm going to have to look into myself for a while. I'm in a weird spot in a relationship with a woman that i really do think i want to spend the rest of my life with, but i keep holding back. I keep telling myself that I'm not good enough for her, despite her disagreement with the idea. I keep trying to convince her that she can do better, but she keeps fighting for me and believing in me, and that's a first in my life. She makes me want to prove her right, but I'm terrified. "I'm almost not sure i want [love]" is a weird feeling when you know you don't want loneliness.
I'm also glad you found the video and resonated with it! Those baby steps to look inward are completely worth it and you can really learn so much. Rooting for you, friend :)
Dude I’m 20 right now and I really resonate with what you’re saying, especially the parts about anxiety and how it has affected the way you think (or overthink) about your relationships with friends and loved ones. Would you have any advice/things you would have done differently?
You’re still very young and have tons of life left to live! I would say my best advice is to just focus on yourself. Find a hobby or activity that improves your health and/or skills; working out/exercising is great not only for your physical but also your mental. Learning about philosophy also helped me a lot, stoicism in particular being a nice practical philosophy to help you realize what is and isn’t within your control. Meditation and being in nature helps me a lot. :) most of our lives are spent alone, so becoming your own best friend does wonders. You got this!
*Keep working on yourself and your thought patterns/perspective. Shame, guilt, self-awareness and mood swings = huge to be honestly aware of.*
Thanks for sharing. Nature makes me appreciate/navigate loneliness.
I feel you. I recently realized I get anxious whenever anything goes right in my life and it’s because things used to always get taken away from me, especially when I was younger, as a form of punishment. It’s the same with people and opportunities in my life. I’m so scared that somethings going to change that I never really let myself fully feel it. It’s as if they’re gonna fly right through me.
What helps me is to be present and only letting what’s around you to affect you. Of course it’s not always good and it’s okay to be sad sometimes. Thank you for sharing this and much love from this random stranger
Thank you for such an insightful comment. 💜 It’s tough moving through life in survival mode at all times. I think in ways it makes us stronger, but relaxing becomes difficult. Meditation, yoga, and being in nature has helped me a lot with it all.
you put it into words really well, I totally get you
I don't know why YT decided to show me this 1 day old video with 290 views from a creator that I've never seen, but I'm glad it did. Jesus, man, everything you just said hit home with me, and now I'm going to have to look into myself for a while. I'm in a weird spot in a relationship with a woman that i really do think i want to spend the rest of my life with, but i keep holding back. I keep telling myself that I'm not good enough for her, despite her disagreement with the idea. I keep trying to convince her that she can do better, but she keeps fighting for me and believing in me, and that's a first in my life. She makes me want to prove her right, but I'm terrified.
"I'm almost not sure i want [love]" is a weird feeling when you know you don't want loneliness.
I'm also glad you found the video and resonated with it! Those baby steps to look inward are completely worth it and you can really learn so much. Rooting for you, friend :)
Dude I’m 20 right now and I really resonate with what you’re saying, especially the parts about anxiety and how it has affected the way you think (or overthink) about your relationships with friends and loved ones. Would you have any advice/things you would have done differently?
You’re still very young and have tons of life left to live! I would say my best advice is to just focus on yourself. Find a hobby or activity that improves your health and/or skills; working out/exercising is great not only for your physical but also your mental. Learning about philosophy also helped me a lot, stoicism in particular being a nice practical philosophy to help you realize what is and isn’t within your control. Meditation and being in nature helps me a lot. :) most of our lives are spent alone, so becoming your own best friend does wonders. You got this!