5 Texting Signs He's Not Actually Interested (feat Simmi Singh) (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

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    Your phone buzzes. He’s texted you back. Great, right?
    Right??
    Well, it depends.
    I’ve seen too many women fall into the trap of thinking that a guy is chasing simply because he sends a few Whatsapp messages.
    The truth is, if you know the signs to look for, it’s pretty clear if he’s just messing around, or if he’s serious about pursuing you.
    Use these red flags as your guide and you’ll instantly know what he really wants...
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  • @ya__basic
    @ya__basic 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3749

    I hate texting. I hate texting. I haaaaaate texting. It has literally ruined the whole dating scene. Good old talking on the phone does it for me!

    • @anjagoller
      @anjagoller 5 ปีที่แล้ว +73

      You're right. It has made us very impatient. In former days you just waited for the time you ran into the guy again and now you text and if you don't get answers right away that is a bad sign. What if a guy just wants to learn to know you the old fashioned way? Just meeting in public some times before he starts to show more interest... I really don't know whether texting a lot or not means so much.

    • @judy9521
      @judy9521 5 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      I’m with you. If he doesn’t want to talk on the phone after a few text messages . I’m done with him. Bye!

    • @ya__basic
      @ya__basic 5 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      @@anjagoller I would also like to suggest men to just not use texting as their primary form of communication. Communication is one of THE most important key in any relationship. 55% of communication happens through body language alone. Texting is a poor mode of communicating because it's soooooo easy to misinterpret even a stupid emoji and that can ruin a budding romance. It's very one-dimensional. Men - Please use texting as little as possible and call a woman instead. We don't give you our numbers to become penpals. We LOVE hearing your voices!

    • @stellarstar9340
      @stellarstar9340 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Shruti Singh I really enjoy texting. I actually don't prefer talking on the phone more than texting.

    • @amrit9249
      @amrit9249 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      For me I prefer to talk on phone cause I keep doing some work and my hands became busy on that moment and replying late isn't a great thing... so yeah good old talking

  • @brookebenton8192
    @brookebenton8192 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2383

    #1 tip: Quit chasing guys who don't want you!

    • @JustineMfulama
      @JustineMfulama 4 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      So true! If you have to beg, convince and prove yourself... He ain't the one!

    • @kaoshi_kutie
      @kaoshi_kutie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +87

      It's harder when their pursuing you showing lots of interest then dissapear completely or the interest starts to drop and you have done nothing wrong! 🙄😩

    • @galacticlavalamp6338
      @galacticlavalamp6338 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yeah it’s a sad feeling

    • @melissadavis3862
      @melissadavis3862 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Good point don't chase men

    • @thoughttank5107
      @thoughttank5107 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      👏👏 AMEN
      so there was this guy, If he text and I no reply straight away for a legit reason like I was at work, he be mad, and say I m bad at communication then when I initiate and iniate, its complain complain. Then I stop cuz I m like ure turn, NEVER even texts. Then me just texts right, and its also my fault that we were not talking. 🙄🤦 What a headache I tell ya.

  • @Layla-rr6bn
    @Layla-rr6bn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +602

    For most of us women, we all have a deep down gut feeling when a guy isn’t interested. We just don’t want to admit it to ourselves and need reassurance that we’re right. What we all need to do is start trusting our feelings and stop wasting time and energy on these guys who aren’t interested!

    • @jeyasheelarakkinimj6534
      @jeyasheelarakkinimj6534 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      correct ,absolutely

    • @ptolemeeselenion1542
      @ptolemeeselenion1542 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Most of your "gut feelings" aren't gut feelings at all, tbh.

    • @Ira.1
      @Ira.1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ptolemeeselenion1542 then what are they?

    • @gigi9301
      @gigi9301 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Ira.1 I think ptolemee is saying that they are Real Feelings. It actually is most of the time very obvious when a guy is no longer interested, but we have a difficult time letting go, because at one time...He WAS interested and we thought he was The One. We look past broken promises and him not paying attention to any details. Ughhh. It's happening to me right now with this guy. WHY do I have such low self-esteem that I need to put myself through this crap?? What the Hell is Wrong with me? So this guy wants to break up with me. I asked him please let's see if it will work just a while longer I miss you. OH My God. I should record myself and listen to how pathetic I sound.

    • @tessamarie8698
      @tessamarie8698 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That’ feeling is a sixth sense and we were given it for a reason

  • @estherlylianna278
    @estherlylianna278 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1727

    If a guy really likes u he will always find time for you no matter what situations

    • @jsolomon566
      @jsolomon566 4 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      if he likes you AND he is emotionally available

    • @izqwiz1746
      @izqwiz1746 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Same for the women to

    • @kalakatana503
      @kalakatana503 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Exactly babe, EXACTLY

    • @annasperl6530
      @annasperl6530 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Esther Lylianna When I ask what he is doing he writes and don’t even ask me what I’m doing? Wtf

    • @estherlylianna278
      @estherlylianna278 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Annasper L then leave him u deserve better honey

  • @danielagomez2223
    @danielagomez2223 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2623

    My entire dating life described in five points....

    • @babebabe3351
      @babebabe3351 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Daniela Gomez tell me abt it hahahaha

    • @Awesome-qj2tb
      @Awesome-qj2tb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Daniela Gomez 😂

    • @gracemaina5929
      @gracemaina5929 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @salmaportillo321
      @salmaportillo321 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Oh my god that’s exactly what I was saying!! 😂😣💔

    • @dlr7308
      @dlr7308 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Daniela Gomez girl i feel you..😭

  • @SylviaVivian
    @SylviaVivian 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5163

    Hahahaha he made me wait 4 hrs, I’ll him wait 7 😂😂😂

    • @VocalLifeDisney
      @VocalLifeDisney 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sylvia Vivian Qaaal

    • @corylackner
      @corylackner 5 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      Omg that's 100% me 😂😂 SHAME ON ME 😂

    • @qtq7680
      @qtq7680 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sylvia Vivian omg I do this lol

    • @GMD0602
      @GMD0602 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@margaret_16 hahaha you've inspired me...to be a savage.

    • @selfoclock4625
      @selfoclock4625 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      we've all been there I guess...but I share one thing women must know on my channel. I truly hope it resonates with more women out there.

  • @srimulyani6919
    @srimulyani6919 4 ปีที่แล้ว +425

    "If you're the kind of women who keep texting him back even though he never ask you out shame on you " ouch Matthew that's hit me on the head 😅😅now I'm gonna dig a hole to hide 🙈🙈

    • @ivy3839
      @ivy3839 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Same I need to hear it 😅

    • @thatexcalifornian6124
      @thatexcalifornian6124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yep. Same

    • @drgoodwell1082
      @drgoodwell1082 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This is the best dialogue that pops u my mind when a man texts me

  • @samanthamelendez8851
    @samanthamelendez8851 4 ปีที่แล้ว +448

    Any man really interested will take the time to communicate.

    • @izqwiz1746
      @izqwiz1746 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Women should the same

    • @demoniahecate7859
      @demoniahecate7859 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      iz qwiz! ambition Well I sadly do

  • @Dwightinho56
    @Dwightinho56 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2619

    I feel sorry for the younger generation that has to go through communicating digitally instead of just picking up the phone and actually talk. Men who do these texting games are weak in my opinion and not worth my time.

    • @redfather5342
      @redfather5342 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Or maybe you are boring every thot of that

    • @connieyoung4239
      @connieyoung4239 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      I won't answer my phone unless its a text. I hate phone calls!

    • @FrauIndian
      @FrauIndian 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      The younger generation does NOT have to commuincate digitally instead of just picking up the phone and talking. Many choose to but some do not go that route.

    • @annaspears198
      @annaspears198 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yuppp

    • @basicbase749
      @basicbase749 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Younger or older generation, douchebags have always been there, just had a different way to behave in the older generation 😂

  • @lumadylia
    @lumadylia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1583

    I realized I was in the blue few days ago ... I was talking to this guy who started barely answering texts (sending an emoji isn't replying), so I called it off. I guess having standards means ending up single...

    • @sahiranaz4378
      @sahiranaz4378 5 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Lol. Yeah, at times, thats exactly what it means

    • @TheWilDOn31
      @TheWilDOn31 5 ปีที่แล้ว +124

      No, it doesn't mean that. It means making room for better men to come along

    • @sunfishdana
      @sunfishdana 5 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      Pretty much.
      Im not going to settle. If a guy can't communicate properly from the get go I sure as hell don't want to spend my life with him.

    • @davidw2433
      @davidw2433 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      For men it definitely does. Only need to have 1 standard and you'll be single for life, and that standard is nothing serious with promiscuous women. All good men have this standard.

    • @preetgill5881
      @preetgill5881 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ya I guess 🙄

  • @svp5310
    @svp5310 3 ปีที่แล้ว +329

    Forget everything. I want a friend like Matthew Hussey. A best friend.

  • @lovellytshotshi345
    @lovellytshotshi345 4 ปีที่แล้ว +118

    When he said “Simmie, the colors. Look at the colors” I DIEDDD 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣the deadpan look killed me

  • @KDrop84
    @KDrop84 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1462

    Can you snap my phone in half please. I’m going nuts over here.

    • @nisrinzhani1847
      @nisrinzhani1847 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      KDrop aflam
      And

    • @PatriciaSilva-qm1em
      @PatriciaSilva-qm1em 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😆😆😆🤣🤣🤣

    • @amrit9249
      @amrit9249 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wonder it was that easy try it by yourself now a days most of the phones are enough durable to survive that ofc only with bare hands

    • @alisongreed1320
      @alisongreed1320 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same here

    • @MusicFanx82
      @MusicFanx82 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ugh, me too!

  • @mfay6933
    @mfay6933 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1365

    Well....fuck.....

    • @MrNightpwner
      @MrNightpwner 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      Sure, dinner first though?

    • @sheilablake4858
      @sheilablake4858 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      MrNightpwner 🤣🤣 with a sense of humour like that there’s no way your single?

    • @MrNightpwner
      @MrNightpwner 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@sheilablake4858 your sarcasm is so on point it hurts my feelings

    • @mfay6933
      @mfay6933 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@MrNightpwner well if you'd ever text me back amd not leave me in the blue 😂😂

    • @pioneerofdesihiphop1682
      @pioneerofdesihiphop1682 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nice 🤤

  • @aditiagrawal5321
    @aditiagrawal5321 4 ปีที่แล้ว +424

    WHY CAN'T JUST PEOPLE SPEAK UP WHAT IS IT IN THEIR MINDS? Ridiculous.

    • @91clarie
      @91clarie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Probably why I've been single for years cause I'm upfront about everything

    • @ekasteviajulip6917
      @ekasteviajulip6917 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Why can't they just be honest.

    • @atsuyak768
      @atsuyak768 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@91clarie same
      Yet his actions still don't like up with his words

    • @arthurmorgan2906
      @arthurmorgan2906 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Well honestly this is mostly problem for women, they cant speak up whats in their minds... we men are known for being direct, at least men that are not childish...

    • @Nina-jc3be
      @Nina-jc3be 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      They don't speak up because they like using other people instead of being honest.

  • @utopiasimmpin3729
    @utopiasimmpin3729 5 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    I used to be “In the Blue” with almost everyone (friends and family) but when I became busy with uni and work, it all changed

  • @leysantosaa5605
    @leysantosaa5605 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2095

    if a guy really likes u HE WILL PURSUE U!

    • @mayen655
      @mayen655 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Princess M, Preach!

    • @MrZepp22
      @MrZepp22 5 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      As a guy, I can confirm this.
      This is what I did to a girl I really liked; hanging out with her, texting her, flirting, throwing hints, asking her out etc. She knew I was on a mission, but she was either too nervous/shy or simply didn't know how to respond to that or wasn't really interested at the moment, so I stopped pursuing her. She noticed and told me I've changed, I basically told her it would be better for us to stay friends. After I told her that, she started pursuing me, but I wasn't interested anymore.

    • @steve00alt70
      @steve00alt70 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Not really they can be naturally lazy. Im like that i dont do it on purpose cause im doing something else. If i txt back i txt back Im just laidback, if she pesters me by keep txt every 5 mins its a complete turn off tho.

    • @vizk7352
      @vizk7352 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      True that!

    • @aa-jm7js
      @aa-jm7js 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      It depends on why he is pursuing. It depends on what he is wanting, why he is wanting it, who can give that to him, how he is going to get it, etc. If whatever he is pursuing isn't there any more then is he really into the person or something he can get from them, etc. etc.?
      A guy that isn't pursuing might like someone too, or even more...it just all depends on what's going on.
      In some people's lives you might be their stepping stone or a pillar top.

  • @brianacrawford9273
    @brianacrawford9273 5 ปีที่แล้ว +541

    Ex- Tinder veteran here. I recently discharged myself from dating apps but even I gotta remind myself to stay outta the blue....via text and in person. #NeverOverInvest

    • @ozGhicman
      @ozGhicman 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I can't even get one match 🤔

    • @boomerangsruckflug8513
      @boomerangsruckflug8513 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@ozGhicman check your photos and create a good statement. This is extremely important to get matches on Tinder.

    • @Palangkikay
      @Palangkikay 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hahaha

    • @pradeep2662
      @pradeep2662 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      whats good bitches..

    • @brianacrawford9273
      @brianacrawford9273 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Ozghicman Those matches aren't worth your time

  • @evab.6240
    @evab.6240 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    1: Especially if it's someone who is always looking at their phone in real life.

    • @adv2522
      @adv2522 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Right

  • @yantongseah9095
    @yantongseah9095 4 ปีที่แล้ว +419

    He made me wait a week and still said “I do really like you”
    Me: what a toxic person

    • @Iiamli007
      @Iiamli007 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      In my case he even often never answered. But still I texted him, hoped that he would appreciate my effort, my honesty. But then I realized that he doesn't deserve me. so I blocked him. And soon I met the one that treat me like a princess.

    • @yantongseah9095
      @yantongseah9095 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yulianti Pratiwi That’s good to hear that u met someone who treat u like a princess!!! Happy for you!

    • @yantongseah9095
      @yantongseah9095 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Actually more than a week. Lmao. He said he hate being on the phone that much. “

    • @diptibhowmik2790
      @diptibhowmik2790 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Stayy awayy From people like that. His Just playing with u 🙂

    • @yantongseah9095
      @yantongseah9095 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Dipti Bhowmik God damn. He really was. After 1 year and then he disappeared and I just knew he got in a relationship with other girl lately. It feels disgusting when someone said a lot of commitment. And then disappeared like nothing happened.

  • @contr4dixion
    @contr4dixion 5 ปีที่แล้ว +243

    I'm a teacher /instructor. I get busy on hours at a time. But if my love interest texts me, I'd most likely reply within the same day, during lunch break, before I sleep, or right after I wake up.

    • @redfather5342
      @redfather5342 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Do u do this with everyone

  • @naz.ot7
    @naz.ot7 5 ปีที่แล้ว +408

    I wish I had watched this video 4 years back. It's savage. 😂

  • @chica1luna242
    @chica1luna242 5 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    His face when he says “for god’s sake” lol....priceless!

  • @soufbeauti
    @soufbeauti 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The fact that this video appeard after 2 years is enough proof

  • @biancabogdan2177
    @biancabogdan2177 5 ปีที่แล้ว +424

    I can’t wait for you all to watch Matthew’s videos without being anxious and sad about some dude who was clearly not invested in you from the start ( red flags ). And watch his videos with joy and happiness because you don’t have to deal with that dude anymore and you’ve grown so much now that you’re happy with who you are and no one can’t take that away from you

    • @pradeep2662
      @pradeep2662 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      the problem with modern women is they are too expensive and the economy doesnt help either.. so it makes sense that guys dont wanna go out with you peeps that often.

    • @maryrnbsn5114
      @maryrnbsn5114 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@pradeep2662 the problem actually is that guys PERCEIVE what is not true because if insecurities they have. I'm down to earth (lady chatterley is a goofy name a friend suggested I'm kinda shy).

    • @MonaLisaFaceMusic
      @MonaLisaFaceMusic 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Te Amo not sure if that comment could be more out of touch. How does that sentiment explain all of the women who have jobs, take care of ourselves, and merely want good company-reciprocation-trust-honesty and love? Ever hear of, “you get what you give”?

    • @laurabertrand2252
      @laurabertrand2252 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yassssss

    • @kokibesheva8657
      @kokibesheva8657 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      that's the right attitude..👏❤️

  • @444gothicgirl
    @444gothicgirl 5 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    The guy I’m dating now always says “Ide like to see you again” after our dates. No other guys I’ve met so this, it’s solid and I love it.

    • @444gothicgirl
      @444gothicgirl 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      john smith but I have

    • @davidw2433
      @davidw2433 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      If he started being overly physical with you early on he's most likely not wanting anything serious only sex.

    • @anyapi987
      @anyapi987 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@davidw2433 I like your comments.
      What if he says things about sex early on? It turns me off. Sends weird GIFs... Just no. If he liked a bit more and was looking for serious he would not do this

    • @davidw2433
      @davidw2433 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@anyapi987 if he brings it up on his own then probably just wanting sex.

    • @ceyciemateo9411
      @ceyciemateo9411 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too. Then GHOST

  • @_jenahlie_5370
    @_jenahlie_5370 4 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    He made me wait for hours, i'm making him wait seven
    This is me😂 lol

  • @cabeninteriors2697
    @cabeninteriors2697 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    My particular fave is when the guy your dating messages "heh babe how are you"?, You reply, and he doesn't check his messages for five hours to see what your answer was. Really gives you that warm fuzzy aww he really cares feeling! 🙄🤔🤦

  • @swedishgirl2506
    @swedishgirl2506 5 ปีที่แล้ว +651

    Being busy is fine, but texting and falling off the face of the earth in the middle of a short interchange... i get sick of it. I said jokingly, "your habit of texting and tossing your phone into the sunset is duly noted." I tried to be nice but then said "nice knowing you." He replied immediately about how he's bad at texting back. I never replied. It's so rare to find a decent guy that's witty in person and actually texts back or whatever.

    • @Brea890
      @Brea890 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      That is savage 😂😂😂

    • @swedishgirl2506
      @swedishgirl2506 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@Brea890 Thank you, I guess so. I was just sad to end it, cause my first impression of him was that he was really witty and matched my energy.

    • @williamizm3745
      @williamizm3745 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Meanwhile you will not text back some other guys lol . Women...

    • @azzyfilmz3886
      @azzyfilmz3886 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      You men are just manipulative bunch

    • @Jayonce_
      @Jayonce_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      I'm gonna steal that line lmao. I'm experiencing the same awful thing. He hasn't replied to my text in 4 freaking days, but has time to check my stories and like my pictures. It's clear to me now he's an asshole.

  • @nataliewilson463
    @nataliewilson463 5 ปีที่แล้ว +306

    Great video Matthew! Makes me hate 90% of people even more 😅. I was falling into this exact situation with a guy recently, and he kept saying “I’ll let you know” to “plans”, I got fed up, then removed him from all of my social media. Haven’t heard from him in a month, and I have never felt more free. 😊

    • @karolinaxooox
      @karolinaxooox 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      naw this literally just happened to me recently! Been 1 week now he doesn’t talk to me

    • @ayanita761
      @ayanita761 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same here

    • @Mish4Mello
      @Mish4Mello 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It’s going around it seems. Same thing happened to me. My mistake was giving him excuses like, “he’s just not into his phone as much as most people.” 🙄 It would take him a week to text me but he would reply to my texts within a reasonable timeframe. He was nice enough in the end to tell me that he wasn’t emotionally invested.

    • @nataliewilson463
      @nataliewilson463 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Mine went from quick replies and talking all the time, to many many hours in-between, to no communication at all. I asked if we were friends or talking, and he said just friends, and I said that's fine just don't flirt with your new found female friend (I tried to play it cool because of his mixed signals from the beginning tbh). The following texts convos made me feel like he was confused and scared, and honestly I was too, but then that's when we stopped talking, and I then removed him from my social media. Part of me feels like 7 months was wasted to have us ending up with no communication at all or a true sense of closure, and I am disappointed, but not mad. Lessons were learned though.

    • @CRFSUIGENERIS
      @CRFSUIGENERIS 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      👏 cue George Michael’s “Freedom”

  • @taliavoider
    @taliavoider 5 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    “Or he’s a child.” 😂😂😂

  • @sharwalcott1996
    @sharwalcott1996 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    This is spot on👌👌👌👌👌after being ghosted by someone I was dating ,and rereading our conversations I realized...I was in the blue 😲😭 The best thing I've heard as of yet is, if he likes you... you will know !If he doesn't you'll be CONFUSED!

    • @dr.jenniferma3914
      @dr.jenniferma3914 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You can also be getting "dry texts" without realizing. Responses are dull and don't encourage you to keep the conversation going. I think that's another huge flag.

  • @blablacars2175
    @blablacars2175 5 ปีที่แล้ว +560

    After watching this video I must admitted that he is not interested 😑 shame on him and shame on me lol

  • @kathleencohen5485
    @kathleencohen5485 5 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    When I love and trust a man, I always wind up getting myself slaughtered. Always. PEACE.

  • @reelmermaid8844
    @reelmermaid8844 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Thank you for finding a way to inject some satire and humour into the kind of situations no one really wants to address. Peace from Canada!

  • @RojitaCali
    @RojitaCali 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Texting, in my opinion literally sucks the life out of any potential.. anything! It's so completely ridiculous dating these days. First, there's the "hookup culture" that we seem to be drowning in. Then, a lack of interest in intimacy and getting to know one another. Instead, it's "oh send me a picture, oh do you have an IG"? what is this? I feel like it's a job interview, or an audition for a magazine or a TV show. Why can't a man, just be a freaking man? Ask me out, if you don't like me, say so, I'm a big girl. Stop with the ghosting. Why are people so afraid to be vulnerable and say how they feel? It's been a hard, but valuable lesson. I will continue to value ME, and be okay with being "alone" until somebody comes along who's worthy enough of my time and affections. 💜 #selflovefirst.

  • @BeccaSmith124
    @BeccaSmith124 5 ปีที่แล้ว +202

    And this is the same for just friends. If a potential girl friend doesn't message you back until days later can you really think shes best friend quality?
    It is the same with boyfriend/girlfriend etc. Do not waste time on anyone who does not respect the meaning of time, interaction, and quality.

    • @RennersPT-C
      @RennersPT-C 5 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      The flip side is when u know somebody well and built trust and respect in the friendship that this txt analysis doesn't exist and not getting instant replies isnt offensive because u understand ppl have lives, work, kids, partners etc. U'll talk when u talk. If its urgent.. call.

    • @Cantetinza17
      @Cantetinza17 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I also think that way about emails. I don't have social media and I would think that we were good enough friends that when things happen in your life you would at least email me if you can't text or call. I hate when they say, "I posted it on FB". Really? Since i don't have FB I'm just gonna be left in the dark?! "K-bye".

    • @annstar2793
      @annstar2793 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes- most of these relationship advice/whatever skills apply to friendships and all relationships. Respect, effort, communication, showing up.

  • @CB30001
    @CB30001 5 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    3:36 Matthew is Gordon Ramsey of dating advice 😆

  • @officialrainaa6117
    @officialrainaa6117 4 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Android users can’t relate to the “in the blue” 😂😂😂

  • @crownedone8837
    @crownedone8837 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    For some reason it made me feel uplifted watching him intently listen to what the crew member had to say. That kind of genuine listener is hard to come by these days!

  • @tawniejuanita2941
    @tawniejuanita2941 5 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    My life in the past 2 weeks with this guy summed up in just 5 min... I really needed to hear this... thank you so much!

  • @kristind8756
    @kristind8756 5 ปีที่แล้ว +237

    Yikes. I have a lot of blue. I’ll be destroying my phone in 3...2..

    • @skmudaliar9898
      @skmudaliar9898 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      😂😂😂😂

    • @theresaswift1855
      @theresaswift1855 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yesssss im throwing the whole damn phone away 😂

    • @shimeretruss3711
      @shimeretruss3711 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Don't throw your phone away for assholes just start blocking the wrong ones

    • @Iiamli007
      @Iiamli007 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@shimeretruss3711 agree! That's what I did. He ignored me so I blocked him. My life being much better since and I have met my dream man. And the first man that ignored me, now he is chasing me.

  • @humancreatureee
    @humancreatureee 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    After watching this video, I already know he’s not interested with me 😭 while he literally shows he’s interested in me, physically. Time to move on.

    • @zazuzazz5419
      @zazuzazz5419 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That happened to me. It was like making out with The Cheshire Cat. 🎯 😻

  • @helenamerekoulias8652
    @helenamerekoulias8652 5 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    THANK YOU FOR THE EYE OPENER! I needed to hear this! not going to lie, it hurts but the truth hurts😭

  • @slbellue6874
    @slbellue6874 5 ปีที่แล้ว +566

    Your hair is great. You're very good looking no matter how you do your hair. I love the style you have.

    • @sheilablake4858
      @sheilablake4858 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      SL Bellue Shame about the eyebrows!

    • @Bejewelle88
      @Bejewelle88 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Your eyebrow is great! We love you anyway! lol!

  • @PheebSue
    @PheebSue 5 ปีที่แล้ว +293

    I personally don’t find a man attractive when he spends his all hours texting me even when he’s at work!

    • @jenbodhi1133
      @jenbodhi1133 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same

    • @ling4460
      @ling4460 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Same I need a balance it's actually quite annoying lol

    • @joditucker4682
      @joditucker4682 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Ditto. I do not have the need or time to text all day unless it is of the hot steamy nature. I happen to be lucky enough that my guy feels the same. If we have a lot to say we call or see each other. I have dumped more than one man for blowing up my phone with text messages.

    • @leoseara995
      @leoseara995 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The guy I like or used to like started texting me after 7 pm .. sometimes I had to wait for over 8 hours and he didn't even apologize or smth

    • @ashleAcMorrie261
      @ashleAcMorrie261 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sis thats not normal anymore either he is narcissistic or toxicity obsessed

  • @justinengland9814
    @justinengland9814 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Texting means very little until you meet. People make their own judgement about you or a fantasy about you and them.... Meet them do not get into a text relationship! Regardless if you are male or female....

  • @swatiarora5188
    @swatiarora5188 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    The day I realised I was n blue ...I stopped messaging forever

  • @Hawk_Leigh
    @Hawk_Leigh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    3:34 what I've wanted to do SO MANY TIMES to my friend's phone when she's talking to guys that aren't good for her. Really great video, Matthew! Loved the little theater here, and the editing was perfect. Jameson's naming "Buzzard" was very clever btw I fully support it.

  • @hanngo2484
    @hanngo2484 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Matthew, ya didn’t have to attack me like this.

    • @JustineMfulama
      @JustineMfulama 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Haha he always hits a nerve 😂

  • @therealmissglamBAM
    @therealmissglamBAM 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    That looks like a beautiful living room. That phone snapped has me UPSET

  • @CS-hy6es
    @CS-hy6es 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    someone always needs an honest friend like this who wants the best and sees for you...

  • @Brainstorm69
    @Brainstorm69 5 ปีที่แล้ว +318

    Great advice. I think all these signs point towards judging actual behavioral patterns of people and what they say about their emotional investment rather than what they say.

    • @phoenixkali
      @phoenixkali 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thanks ! That's just confirmed the last guy that "doesn't want a relationship"(followed by list of excuses) but "really like to be friends(with benefits?)". Then all I got after would be a 'hook' text every couple of weeks, but I think he was taking the piss so I didn't bite, but send back an equally inflammatory response. He scored 4 out of 5 on this, glad I didn't get too blue and just got on with my life and made new, better friends who respect my standards

    • @redevous
      @redevous 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Exactly

    • @dominantpersona3326
      @dominantpersona3326 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      This is bad advice... Dont listen to this guy, females

  • @Mangoetart
    @Mangoetart 5 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    3:35 to 3:40 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
    This channel has not just changed my equation with men, I have started to respect myself so much more...It has changed my life, Thankyou Mathew! I was always taught being a woman I dont need to respect myself in anyway. Thanks a lot for teaching me self love!

    • @davidw2433
      @davidw2433 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Who taught you that?

  • @blackbird655
    @blackbird655 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    These 5 rules are sacred now!! Learned them the hard way! But hearing them like this....wauw...makes it so much easier to clear out my phone!! No more wasting time on the wrong people! Love it😊

  • @markbrister1104
    @markbrister1104 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    "Ratio of investment" ...superb, the antidote to "bread-crumbing"

  • @0827.a
    @0827.a 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    i just realized i was experiencing being in the blue, buzzard texting and no hard plans... yikes

  • @karinabradley4734
    @karinabradley4734 5 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    I hope you feel so proud of yourself and the life you’ve built Matthew, making these videos has such a positive impact on so many peoples’ everyday lives. Thank you!

  • @iMusikkForeva
    @iMusikkForeva 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I loved this collab, y'all were hilarious yet informative 😂 more with Simmi please!

  • @joeylaird77
    @joeylaird77 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This is hilarious. You’re in the blue 😂 We’ve all been in the blue

  • @EmeliaSings
    @EmeliaSings 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    "That's very offensive to my people" bloody great haha

  • @rafaela1787
    @rafaela1787 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    When you described "in the blue", I really felt that shit😂

  • @sclairev7669
    @sclairev7669 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love how your talks are like a hit on my head with the phone you just broke.

  • @juliazoilo8603
    @juliazoilo8603 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Now it clears up the cloud of vagueness. Thank you Matthew and Jameson!

  • @SquatSimp
    @SquatSimp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    Do more videos like this!!! Loved the conciseness and entertainment skit style

  • @teresamcmurrin8672
    @teresamcmurrin8672 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Excellent advice, as usual!
    Though, when we were courting (kinda--we were still maintaining we were "just good friends"...), I was "in the blue". He texted me pretty often, and usually replied quickly, but I wrote tomes, he just a line or two. I realized there might be something more than friendship going on when I discovered he had an older flip phone that used the keypad rather than a keyboard--and further, his fingers were cracked and bandaged from the cold. But he still kept texting, even though it hurt! Wasn't long after that discovery that we finally 'fessed up about our feelings for each other.

  • @angelicaarteaga9311
    @angelicaarteaga9311 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Texting should not be your 1st choice of communication, it just wasn’t meant for that

    • @edelweissj.191
      @edelweissj.191 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank your for that comment !

  • @rikaryu5411
    @rikaryu5411 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Well, he didn't make my day. But you did, Matthew! Thanks for a bit of a cold shower. I was supposed to feel blue after facing the reality but it was so hilarious that I actually feel great now and laughing out loud at this video and at myself lol 😂

  • @briannegrear9891
    @briannegrear9891 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I loved this video! I needed this advice about three months ago but never too late to learn something new.

  • @drey6361
    @drey6361 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Why didn't I discover this channel sooner! Great advice and definitely a huge mind opener.

  • @karlasimental6694
    @karlasimental6694 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I love when he says “for God’s sake” lmao. It’s hilarious!

  • @maggieonsecurity
    @maggieonsecurity 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The "buzzard" bit was cute! Loved yours and Jameson's banter. 😂😂😂😂

  • @yishyabyard6898
    @yishyabyard6898 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Very funny! Also very good tips to help us learn from the jump if someone's interested or not. I thought the tips were definitely on the side of "duh, common sense" but it's easy to lose sight of that being caught up in the hoopla of trying to get to know somebody and get to that next step in dating.

  • @divinevine9413
    @divinevine9413 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    OMG I need this! I text back easily while he took a day or two to reply even though he's online

  • @simply_nidhi
    @simply_nidhi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Matthew: “Breaks phone”
    Simmi: "Thanks I needed that”
    😂😂😂😂

  • @oneoutoftheninety-nine.3314
    @oneoutoftheninety-nine.3314 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Lol! Thanks for making it funny! I can finally laugh because I am free of heart ache. Broke up with my short term boyfriend today! Feel fine!! Breakthrough!!

  • @shreyapalodhi5268
    @shreyapalodhi5268 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    That "in the blue" thing happens with me quite often. I kind of knew it was not alright and finally got the message. Why even bother texting back someone if you are not interested at all?

  • @drey6361
    @drey6361 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm never over investing ever again. I have learned my lesson, thank you so much!

  • @charlotteknutsen7262
    @charlotteknutsen7262 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm ALWAYS so excited to receive a text from my boyfriend. And even though he just 2 days ago "out of the blue" he seriously proclaimed that he wants to be my life partner and I feel the same about him. BUT the strange and extremely confusing and complicated conflicting thing is...still he still takes literally hours to respond to my texts.

  • @e_kychkina9170
    @e_kychkina9170 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It’s true anyway, no matter who you are: a guy or a girl.
    It’s never a good sign to find yourself out in the bluebell fields receiving answers with a pigeon mail.

  • @user-xy4ff5yp7b
    @user-xy4ff5yp7b 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Sometimes I wait a while to text back because I don’t want to burn out the conversation early on. It’s because I care about the conversation we’re having. But I agree I don’t do that all the time - that would be weird

  • @vgamemaster99
    @vgamemaster99 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for this! This really made things easier to recognize by making these concepts concrete.

  • @promua_chechel8781
    @promua_chechel8781 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love this lol dating online can be tricky so I appreciate this video. I sent this message to the guy and I felt free and happy lol thank you for your advice :)
    Hi Dr X, Was nice connecting with you. But, at this point, I will have to disconnect 😉 I am sure you will find someone you’re interested in and you will look forward making plans with and actually meeting. Time is precious as you know 🤓 Wishing you the best Dr . X 😉 Have a wonderful weekend ! 😊

  • @erraxxi
    @erraxxi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi Matthew! Been watching your videos and i want to thank you for doing these videos and for giving us these tips and advises when it comes to dating,love,texting etc. so excited for your next advices and tips 😊

  • @skeptic33
    @skeptic33 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    That video made my day honestly😂😂😂😂❤❤not only helpful bt SUPER funny

  • @amandawillis5632
    @amandawillis5632 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Spinal Tap vibes when he was talking about the phone "buzzing" LOL. Nigel 💯🤣😎

  • @endahayusili3681
    @endahayusili3681 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Matching costums. Blue and grey. Suitable with the subject on your conversation. Great video anyway!

  • @BubblesNKM
    @BubblesNKM 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Wow. Absolutely needed to hear this. Legitimately been in these exact situations for almost all of my dating experience.

    • @selfoclock4625
      @selfoclock4625 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Time to switch it up girl! You know you're a queen who deserves nothing but the best. Never chase a man. Period.

    • @davidw2433
      @davidw2433 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@selfoclock4625 if I'm doing all the work I'll lose interest, so will most other men worth anything. In the beginning 1st few weeks the guy should do most of the work but after that she makes no effort, to text first or get together I'll think she only wants something causal.

  • @williamizm3745
    @williamizm3745 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Texting is to schedule a meet up. That’s it I don’t text unless we are deep in a relationship. Stupid getting to know some one over text.

  • @Lmilue
    @Lmilue 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    🤣😂😅 Loved the sarcastic music and direct core value of depreciation. Spot on each time.

  • @karenvictor2355
    @karenvictor2355 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾... Bravo... Thank Youuu. This video has confirmed all the reason why certain guys don't deserve my time or attention. All bullet points have been checked off. I AM going to have a fantastic dsy.

  • @annam.3300
    @annam.3300 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Matthew, I swear you are genius!

  • @annrocks1952
    @annrocks1952 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Hahahahaha!!! This made me laugh so hard! I wonder how many girls watch this and confront their man at home and their dude is now pissed as hell. Before anyone jumps to a conclusion here, remember that it is very possible that women just talk a lot more than men. It doesn’t mean shit if you text more. If a guy is into you, you will know. You don’t need a TH-cam video to tell you. Guys are simple, if they want to be with you, they will be with you.

  • @gracevll7432
    @gracevll7432 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i think we all need a friend like matthew in our life :)

  • @LOLhappinessTherealS
    @LOLhappinessTherealS 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Omg. My guy didn't hit the checkmarks. Im soo happy 😭💕. Next level: consistency

  • @isas6473
    @isas6473 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Need MORE videos LIKE THIS!!!! OMG PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE 🙏

  • @Mulmulmist
    @Mulmulmist ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You saved my life in many ways. Thank you

  • @jenniferbibi1972
    @jenniferbibi1972 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video cured my depression. Thanks Matthew!

  • @annagallagher2498
    @annagallagher2498 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I agreed when an individual is authentic wants to get to know a person he/she makes plans & meet

  • @catgirl3242
    @catgirl3242 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Damn I need this!! Thanks Matthew for slapping me with reality 😭😂