Lewis Howes REVEALS The One SKILL You Need to be SUCCESSFUL | Impact Theory
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 มิ.ย. 2024
- Your life story begins as a child no matter who you are. Though our experiences are all uniquely different, pain and frustration from whatever reason usually leaves you scared, angry, and sometimes bitter. When Lewis Howes came face to face with his anger and rage, he got to work on understanding himself, his triggers and how he could improve everyday.
After years of practice, he is sharing with you what doing the inner work involves and how feedback has become a critical part of his success. From sharing his 2 secret skills for success to exposing how his healing came along side a few f*ck you letters, this episode is packed with solid advice and exploration of what it takes to find great coaches and be great!
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SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Lewis Howes
1:22 | Most Important Skill, Vision
2:45 | Developing Vision
5:48 | What People Are Missing
7:50 | Preparing for Something Greater
9:45 | Perfect Storm for a Break Down
13:27 | Healing from the Shame
14:40 | F*ck You Letters & Darkness
17:28 | Prepared and Facing the Pain
20:44 | Need for Mind, Body, & Emotions
28:07 | Relationship Lessons
32:22 | Delaying Sexual Connection
35:29 | Connection Over Values First?
38:16 | Having Kids & Being Authentic
40:25 | Power of Therapy & Triggers
43:13 | Find Great Coaches & Feedback
44:27 | Practice of Taking Feedback
47:06 | Withstanding Physical Pain
48:02 | Finding Good Coaches
51:17 | Stacking Blind Spots
54:28 | Way of Language Learning
57:02 | Earn Your Respect
59:37 | Defining Greatness
QUOTES:
“You've never mastered really anything, you can be great at something but there's always another level in sports to be better.” [3:53]
“We underestimate what people might be going through inside, even if they look like they have it all figured out on the outside.” [12:06]
“If you don't know how to manage the beast inside, you could really be struggling.” [12:20]
“I only let myself lean into the darkness until I know that now it's in danger of being corrosive.” Tom Bilyeu [15:05]
“To just know, if someone wanted to do something, I would be able to take care of myself, that gives me inner peace, that eliminates anxiety” [18:16]
“The discipline of doing something painful every day, I think, is one of the most important disciplines that any human being can have. Whatever that pain looks like for you, I believe we must lean into the pain every day.” [18:36]
“It's not enough to do the work in the past. It's a continual process in the present. That makes me feel at peace every day.” [24:19]
“Love is not enough for a long term committed, healthy relationship to fully work.” [29:28]
“I'm willing to grow and improve but I'm not going to just do something to create peace.” [39:51]
“The ability to have a beginner's mind, find and surround myself by great coaches, and be unapologetic in asking for feedback. Feedback has been a huge indicator of my success.” [43:55]
“Just because someone's giving you feedback doesn't mean it's true about you. So, don't take it personally. And see where is the truth in there, and how can you apply it” [45:16]
Follow Lewis Howes:
Website: lewishowes.com/
TH-cam: / lewishowes
Twitter: / lewishowes
Instagram: / lewishowes
What question would you like to ask Lewis Howes?
Mike I don't have any questions for him! I appreciate all these different episodes. Believe it or not it helps me understand certain things that otherwise I couldn't. Stay blessed Mike! And have you heard about $amc? 🦍🦍🦍🦍🦍
His book "The mask of masculinity" already answered so many questions I didn't know I had!
How to motivate ourself to focus on our goal or purpose when our mind is trying distract us from it ?
How do you overcome so much opposition?
What can you do strengthen the belief in your self
I love Lewis because he never stops learning- about himself, about relationships, about people, business, life. He's aggressive about his own personal development and it's paid off. Love you Lewis. (and Tom) :)
Never stops learning is something I did when I started the journey of stopping nailbiting habit. This really changed the way I was able to solve this issue. Now after finding the solution, we decided it's time to help others. We started posting videos on our youtube channel and this is something we are really excited about. (Especially the smile we see on people's faces after they are able to stop :))
Wonder if Lewis is a Taurus? He reminds me of me alot
I enjoyed watching two grown men not afraid to show their vulnerable side. You guys are amazing! Thank you for your continued contribution to bettering this world! 🙏
Worth Watching and Worth Listening...though Tom wd do much better without the 4 letter word he uses so often. He wd win Respect by not being obsessed with it...🙏
@𝙿𝚒𝚗𝚗e𝚍 𝚋𝚢 Tom Bilyeu Please stop using the four letter word U use so often. Requested U several times...it's embarrassing to do a Grp listening bcoz of Ur obsession with it... We want to Respect U.
From an Earnest Teacher 🙏
@@choukkarsadhana I respect him. Maybe you need to respect yourself enough to not feel the need to tell others what they need to do inorder for you to respect them? Is that what you tell your students ms/mr teacher? no wonder students are so confused these days, having the likes of you as their teacher. Let people decide how and if they want your respect
Using the word ‘fuck’ keeps him real and not down the dreaded main stream path that kills shows like this!!! You like this because it’s two real people talking and real people swear!
This is a dream come true..two of my favorites in one space 💕
Whats ur IG..need to DM u
Me too ❤️❤️❤️
Soooo true!!!
I agree with you. Lewis Howes was a person who really motivated myself when I started the journey of stopping nailbiting habit. I invested more than $10k into myself, different courses, consultants, teachers -- after some time I was able to control my urges and stop nailbiting habit for good. Now we help other people stop nailbiting habit, hundreds of success stories. We even post videos on our TH-cam channel on how to stop and control those urges. Anyway, Lewis Howes is a legend himself!
Couldn't agree with you more Alina. Love these guys and there path
Big admirations to both Tom and Lewis for speaking out loud for their emotions and struggles.
I am trying to show my partner that showing vulnerability is actually a strength but it is so hard for him to open up.
As someone said before “ it is very hard to pull someone Up if they don’t want to move and grow “
I love Lewis’s ! His calmness in speaking gives me a calm inspiration and motivation in a world of so much anxiety ❤️
Two of my favorite people! 😵 I've had the good fortune of realizing my dream of meeting someone I admired by spending a full hour with Lewis 7 years ago and I must say he is a fine man!! Love his podcast, but there is something even sweeter that happens when he's the one being interviewed. What a precious interview this was. 😍✨
Had the pleasure of meeting both of them in person and they are as genuine, kind, inspiring, and real as they come. Love this interview!
Wow this is a really honest side of @lewishowes I haven’t seen. So refreshing. He either needs someone his age with an old soul, or an older partner who is their own person whose values align.
This is like 👀 seeing Clark Kent and Superman in the same room, its messing with my mind, lol!
Excellent conversation gentlemen 🙏!
Interesting..who is who?
For Real!
I love both of those. They both helped me to stop nailbiting disorder and they both inspired us to start a company where we now help other people stop nailbiting and picking for good. We even post free videos on how to stop to our TH-cam channel :) These guys are awesome!
This is by far the BEST interview I’ve seen between my two most favorite human beings ever. Thanks for sharing your deepest thoughts and experiences on life/love/mindset but also the struggles that come from it. I’ve got so much value out of it 💖💙🥰
Great interview. I mostly liked Tom's sense of genuine respect and attentiveness
Yessss!
Definitely, its his dedication to listen and understand.
Agreed. Tom is on another level…
I feel like I can relate to Lewis a lot. I've been told that I can see patterns in life and I've had internal anger/hurt/resentments/life ending thoughts pent up (still do to some extent). I'm trying to grow and figure out what I really want to do and how to apply myself, but I keep getting stuck in my own head. Getting help is honestly where I'm heading, but as Lewis was speaking at the beginning, I literally was like "omg it's me". So thank you Tom for having Lewis on, it's helped me feel not so alone and that there is a future for me.
I'm just so incredibly thankful for everything both of you share. So life affirming.
Thank you. Loved this interview. Amazing to feel the authenticity oozing from Lewis and the compassion from Tom. ⭐💙⭐
Tom and Lewis in the same video? I feel like I hit the jackpot. Thanks for this 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Out of AFRICA 🌍🌍🌍 WE AGREE 💯❤️❤️❤️💯❤️❤️❤️
I want to preface by saying that I absolutely love your content!! You make me feel closer and closer to legendary, even if it’s in minuscule amounts each time I watch. I wanted to just say that this particular show was just amazing and hit home in so many ways!!
Loved every minute!! Thank you 🙏🏻 for your hard work and commitment to the content you put together!!
probably the best talk I've listened to with you two. Thank you Lewis for the honesty!! Incredible. And I love how you seem to learn from each other every time
It's been so amazing watching both these men for over a year just lead by example, clearly doing their best to practice what they preach and how they are showing up at this particular moment. Thank you both for putting yourselves out there for us, for doing all you do, you've both been very inspiring and life-changing!
Love these two together. Great interview. “Lean into the pain”. “Constantly trying to improve my mind and heal the soul.”
I wish this episode was like 3 hours long. Great conversation and insights.
Thank you to both of you for everything you guys do💕
Fantastic. Do consider watching this video- th-cam.com/video/nyGLzC9vwfY/w-d-xo.html
Lewis, I commend you for your authenticity. Even when caught off guard with a question, you still ran with it. Nice job
Gosh ... I love love this interview between the two of you ... the openness, the honesty, the perspective
I just gained so much respect for you Lewis. I've been watching you for years...
To hear where your journey has lead you, it's almost scary how similar our stories are...
I always watched this guys on youtube and am very happy when I hearing from them. So thank you for all Tom and Lewis you help me for everything I do.
I admire the way Lewis has worked on himself ! Very motivating
I just want to say thank you Lewis for all you do! He reminds me so much of my children being in special Ed and how he came through that ability to believe in yourself! That we can; seeing our vision and believing it… and how he pushed through it all!! I have no questions just a thank you Lewis !
So insanely grateful for impact theory. Getting emotional. Thank you Lewis for sharing about how you changed yourself to make someone happy. I do that harddd. I’m trying to change that. 2. Tom, I’m like you and watch TH-cam to learn but I struggle so much with using the information immediately at 5-10%. How do you do it!? 😅. Love both of your content 🙏🏽
Lewis Howes thank you for being so honest and upfront about relationships. I absolutely respect you for embracing therapy and having the willingness to grow as a person. Too many people hold on to their baggage like a security blanket instead of growing and becoming better because of it. Thank you!
Love this video, the interview, the questions asked, everything, great content ❤️
This was a wonderful interview. I love the growth mindset that Lewis has and always wanting to take the feedbacks and apply changes for a continual growth! Bravo!
Bravo - agree!! Growth mindset is something I had when I worked on stopping nailbiting habit. It went so well that we thought it's good idea to start recording and posting videos on your TH-cam channel, topic? How to stop nailbiting and nailpicking habit for good.
You guys are
Awesome!!!
Thank y’all for lighting a candle to illuminate the human lives!
God Bless!
I love you both. This was a GREAT and inspiring interview. Listened while I worked out too. Thank you!! 💜💜💜
Suoer powerful ! Thank you to Tom for bringing in Lewis again , Thank you to Lewis for sharing so openly , the relationship advise about live is not enough definitely hit home ! ❤️
I love Lewis. Thank you for sharing your story. You are truly an inspiration.
Wow I really enjoyed this episode! I've followed both Tom and Lewis for quite sometime and they are both definitely someone I aspire to be like someday
Tom - you have a unique gift of exuding a genuine interest in your interviewee and attentive listening skills. It's very inspiring and admirable. ❤
Lewis - I'm very sorry to hear about you and Yanet. I'm sure there is someone better-suitted for you out there! ❤
Two of the men I look up to the most. Amazing!
Both of you, Tom Bilyeu and Lewis Howes are awesome, providing super valuable content! Thank you so much for your dedication and amazing contributions! 🙏😃
I FULLY understand the pulling you forward feeling in your chest! Wow! It's the only thing that's kept me going when I didn't wanna
“Time is infinite .....,” don’t limit yourself . Amazing ! Thank you Lewis .
Me encanta verlos juntos, por fin!! Esta entrevista quería ver desde hace meses!! GRACIAS por compartir!!💕
I watch both of you ALL the time. This was so very raw. And informative. I love you both! 💗 Thanks for the inspiration AND information÷
Feedback for Lewis and Tom: You are both the best interviewers I’ve seen online. I’m so grateful to TH-cam for giving you the platform or we’d all still be stuck watching news anchor interviews 🥱
Thank you Tom for this Wonderful, Inspiring interview with Lewis...I love you both💖
Lewis. You're really an inspiration to me. I love your raw and open story and how you are improving it.
Interesting point Lewis brings up about taking input from anyone and everyone and using it constructively. For a long time I've used the same general idea. The instances I still struggle with is when someone approaches and, under the thinly-veiled guise of "constructive criticism," begins to insult, knowingly and in bad faith, the topic at hand. They just want to try to minimize you and try to make you as small as possible. I despise people like that, and always feel compelled to call them out on it and ask them if such regressive behavior is really benefiting their life.
I think both Lewis and Tom shared interesting perspectives on paid coaching. I used to think that coaching is the only way to uplevel ourselves but over the years, I find that it’s only a good option depending on the season of life you’re in. If you are seeking outside support a coach is great, but if you’re in a season of silence and solitude, you’re better off self studying or attending a quiet solo retreat.
While I do agree with having coaches to spot blind spots and give us feedback, we still have to be in a state of willingness to receive it. I don’t suggest people hire out coaches without self reflecting on their current needs and goals. I also believe coaching is beneficial if you find the right match and your expectations are clear. But many people hire coaches without enough self awareness and that usually ends up painting a negative light on paid coaching, or the coach themselves did not properly vet their clients.
Two of my fave! Awesome episode! I can listen all day 💙
I like both your shows.
What a beautiful interaction you two have.
I learned the longer I wait the better too! Figured this out 7yrs ago and dating has been soooo much easier and less of a waste of time. Still haven't found someone with a similar mindset that's even willing to talk about said subjects.
Probably the most real and relatable interview with him, so far. So much of what he mentioned regarding relationships, I feel too. Even the value list. I love that idea.
These two amazing people together, uff! This is going to be awesome 🙌🏾🙏🏾♥️
Great interview. I love the trust in between you both. Thank you 🤍
You guys are so awesome, I love you both; thank you!! 🙏🏼❤️
This inspired me. I gave up a few years ago ...this spoke to my heart. I feel inspired action!!! Thank you and love to everyone who is on the oath of growth however that looks
Love these two amazing guys, they have and continue to change the world for better
Hey gents! I’m not sure if someone else commented on the language learning method you guys were talking about but it’s called the ‘natural’ or ‘direct’ language learning method. Thanks a million for a great conversation!
DAMN good content!! Love you both like brothers and share the work you both have done almost DAILY, and have for years, at Goodinthehead. Thank you both for your consistent contributions. Your work has inspired me and everyone I know IMMENSELY. P.S. Tom-I learned Greek in 6 months...lived there for two years as a Mormon missionary in an old life, under old beliefs. LOVED it. Still speak it, but don’t know many Greeks here in Arizona...lol. It’s possible, but I love how you prioritize your energy...keep doing YOU, brother. You both are AMAZING. 🙏🔥🤘
Absolutely great episode and love Lewis Howes. Thank you for sharing this.
two of my fav people, couldn't ask for more..loved it to pieces
Refreshing to see him be so open and honest... Maybe it's because he's finally on the other side of the interview table, but I really appreciated seeing this side to Lewis. Great interview. Learned more than I have from anything the school of greatness offered before.
I loved watching this interview so, so, so much ✊🏽💙
It’s very interesting how much my Life parallels Lewis. I literally just got into a fight on the basketball court a few weeks back. I have all this pent up aggression and I have these triggers. I served 5 years in prison and never went back. Worked for a Music /magazine, went to film school, owned a skate shop and yet I feel tethered to the past emotion that don’t allow me to fully realize myself…but this was a great interview. Thank you.
Great podcast guys. Can completely relate the feeling of wanting/needing to control my aggression when it's been a tool I've "needed" for so long.
love these dialogues, thank you guys
Love the learning that happens with both of you. Thank you guys!
Thank you for the breakdown on the scroll bar, easy to get what you need
Tom thank you for bringing Lewis to talk about his stories and experience!
Wow Lewis!!! Love the concept “available for healing.” That sounds like a book title!!
I like this concept as well! Something I was using when I stopped nailbiting habit-now helping others do the same through the free videos we post on our TH-cam Channel on day-to-day basis.
Absolutely loved this interview!
Such a profound conversation between two awesome guys........
thank you for another amazing guide through life. you helped so much with writing thank you or the inspiration.. much love
A wonderful conversation ❤ thank you for sharing 🤝
Tom, thanks for always having such meaningful discussions & interesting ideas on your channel.
I like how Lewis describe his life on how he was difficult with his friends. I will use that approach when I see my friends, because I was difficult too.
This is awesome.thank you both ❤
Biggest 3 take aways... 1 Tom's interviewing skills has increased 10 x because he allows Lewis to speak and not interrupt him. 2 Lewis's biggest SUPERPOWER is the way he articulates his feelings. 3 Welcome back Tom on IMPACTING your viewers. Classic
Those aren't takeaways though
Thank both 👌👌👌great podcast, love your honesty, vulnerability,I didn't need TV,you give me a lot so greatful for you, appreciate it everything, especially your time for us 🙏❤️👌😊
You both are my 2 biggest idols on regards of personal development. Every time I see you guys have an interview is like the fist time you watch a movie with all avengers together as a kid 😁💙
I loved everything about this!!
Best takeaway: humbleness and a growth mindset are hot!
I agree its important concept to win in life
Great comment Felicia. I feel the same.
True!
LOVED THE INTERVIEW. YOU GUYS ARE GREAT..
Amazing! To of my favoritts in one show. Love it.
So glad to see the two best men I love ❤️ having conversation together!
Have watched each of their TH-cam Learned so much from you two. Thank you 😘😘
Wow. Lewis being vulnerable is bloody inspiring. Powerful.
I wasn’t expecting this at all. I met Lewis at creative live around 9 years ago to launch my online business . He was one of it first mentors so at awe how much he has grown and matured. This is powerful
The book “Attached”
It’s a great book for any relationship and fix any issue I total recommend. I have been reading many self development books and that’s one of my favorite!! 🛑❤️
Lewis dropping gems on this one. Great episode!
Greatness meets impact i been waiting for these
Holy hell! Lewis Howes is spot on when talking about what's needed more in relationships. Values, goals, visions, mindsets, these are all as accumulatively as important as love is!
Very good!!! Great input and lessons for life.
i love watching you guys talk im subscribed to both of your channels. thanks for the advice and sharing your experiences.
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The two of you are the only talk show hosts that I consistently watch. It’s great to see the two of you together. 🧡 And I don’t think Lewis will stay single for long. ☺️He seems like the perfect partner.
I love Lewis Howes. He is so inspiring. Great interview
best b'day gift ever🎉 i waited for this interview for soo long 🙌😊
Powerful conversation. There is nothing simple about life and the depths of pain we sometimes suffer must be healed and we must choose to continue forward. Be Unbroken!
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Both of u guys ur impacting this world 👏
You guys are amazing!!!!
I felt that same thing my whole life. Same place. You are not crazy. Your story matches mine completely!