This is my Dad and he’s the bravest man I know. His journey and his courage to fight his PTSD is such an inspiration to anyone struggling with the same issues. I’m very proud to call him my Dad and I will always look to him when I wonder how to conduct myself as a gentleman.
And there he is my big brother Robbie who I'm extremely proud of, and fully support him and his family during their ongoing journey in setting up a home in France. Loved the video bro, and whilst I have been privy to your personal journey dealing with PTSD, this video made me feel like you were telling it me for the very first time. Quite emotional in parts I must admit, and wanted to reach through the screen to reassure you that 'I got you, don't worry'. Your tougher than most (more than you think) and I will always look up to you no matter what x
Rob my daughter suffers from complex PTSD and I had no idea until this video just how much she must be suffering thank you so much you have helped me to help and understand her anxieties and mood swings . i will be more attentive to everything now that to the family was her just being really horrible to all of us. I know she started treatment but her councillors kept being changed or moved to another place and she found this so disheartening she stopped attending. I again thank you I can help my daughter because of you.
Hi Rob. Jane and I have just sat and watched this video. The usual platitudes and " great videos ". doesn't really cut it. You've been of service to the country and to your community for over thirty years. You've continued to give service by creating this video. Having read all the comments so far it's already practically helped some people. These videos are on here forever and I think that in the future it's going to continue to help people to cope and most importantly start to understand the complex way that trauma of all sorts takes a toll. It takes big shiny balls to open up like this and I commend you for your courage.
Wow. Thank you Colin. I really appreciate your kind words. For the first time, I am not bothered about the low view numbers. The kind words have made it all worth while 👍🇫🇷
Rob, it is a hard topic to talk about but very much an important one. I commend you for your bravery in talking about it on youtube! I'm the wife of a medically retired Fire Captain in the States who also suffers from C-PTSD. He retired after 28 years in EMS and has always said that the kids were the worst. It takes a special kind of person to do the job that both he and you have done, thank you for that and for being willing to speak on what I know is a hard subject to be open with random strangers on the internet about.
Hats off to you Rob. We've just watched this video and really feel for your honesty and integrity. France is amazing, and I hope it gives you everything you need in life. Gary.
My husband also suffers from PTSD from living in Belfast Northern Ireland, growing up during the troubles. He married me and moved back to the USA, then we moved back in 2005 to a small country town called Balley Castle, and he had such panic attacks we were only there for 9 months and had to come back home and he does fantastic in the US and everyone at work loves him. It's the Irish accent and he loves it lol much love from Oklahoma USA Jackie 🇺🇸💖
Rob,I’m one of the “lurkers” that follow you as well as many other channels…in other words, I watch, will try to like (but fail too much!), and rarely comment… But, thank you for posting this video about PTSD. I’m a retired ICU RN. My daughter was a nurse on a cardiac thoracic unit. She was formerly married to a Ranger in the US Army who was diagnosed with PTSD, but never sought treatment. We all have some form of PTSD because of our careers, but very few of us will seek treatment/answers for our “feelings”. Thank you for being so open about your experiences with PTSD. I’ll be here still “lurking”, but I will be here for your channel. My best to you and your family. I hope you all will find peace and happiness in your new home.
I was in an abusive marriage 20 years ago and I still have PTSD episodes based on certain triggers. I take daily anxiety RX. I’ve recreated my life only socializing with family to restrict my vulnerability. Unless you’ve experienced PTSD people don’t really understand it. I feel your pain and praise your openness.
I have just one word for it. RESPECT. It takes courage to talk so openly about the problems you have/had. The professions you had are "manly" jobs in which it is not "allowed" to show your emotions. But if it weren't that manly, you might have been doing your job. About 14 years ago I had a NLP-session to cope with some "hidden" problems. Couldn't/wouldn't talk about it, but after those sessions it came easier to talk about and I could give it a place. I wish you al the best and will follow you on your channel on your queeste in France.
Prince William talked about his experience as search and rescue. He recognized the need for mental health services for first responders. Here in Canada we are hearing more and more about the experiences of first responders and it’s heart breaking. Thanks for sharing.
(Moira Ashton) Respect to you Rob, thank you for sharing this, I'm sure it will help others, it must have been difficult for you to talk about. Wishing you all the best for the future, ❤
Brilliant exposition of your condition. Hopefully this will benefit a lot of people and help people understand this condition. I have a son with mental health condition. You are doing a great job God bless you.
Rob , it’s Mark from Widnes. Just wanted to tell you are a strong brave man by talking and completing this video! I fully understand how you feel and the aspects from suffering in regard to work etc . Never feel that you are alone and unable to talk or share
I saw this pop up and waited until I had some time spare to watch it fully. Thank you so much for doing this video it resonates with me. I have many friends suffering from PTSD and I know how debilitating it is. You have my full support and I will share this video as much as I can. AJ
How brave of you to share your story. I'm a PTSD survivor and watching construction helps me focus on new beginnings! Life can be complex but if we do get the right kind of help there is hope and tomorrow will always come with new opportunities! Take care of yourself
Thank you for being so open and honest. More help is needed and understanding. You have helped me to understand how my son felt with his PTSD. Keep your vlogs coming as we are enjoying your journey
Just found you Rob. Thank you so much for posting this. I will certainly be following you now. My son was in the forces and was diagnosed with PTSD. Bless you for this post. ❤
Hey mate, you were amazing. You are amazing. You are seen things that no person should have to deal with time after time. I had a neighbour who had PTSD following the Iraq conflict. He went off the rails growing, using and supplying drugs. It cost him is family and did had to do time. I never fully understood what he had gone through until you described it. I think I can partially understand the plight of sufferers now.
@@retirement-adventures Hey, thank you so much for watching the video. It really means a lot to me. And thank you for your kind words and I’m so glad that the video has helped in your understanding 👍🇫🇷
Thank you for being so honest and sharing your story. I wish you and your family happiness and success in France. I think your story will help so many people. Thank you again. Look forward to seeing what you all get up to. 😊❤ Stay strong and safe and keep doing your informative and interesting TH-cam clips. ❤😊😊 Big❤😊
Wow Rob. Very powerful, from another Rob, we have so many parallels. Some of my experiences are different from yours. Thank you for sharing, it helped me understand better but also stirred up emotions and feelings as I was watching. It never goes away, and I suffered silently covering it all up for decades. Putting that facade up. I eventually contacted my Gp who put me in touch with the NHS Veterans team. I also had therapists being changed which did not help. But those sessions really helped me cope much better. Thank you for sharing your story. If any other Veterans or those still serving are currently struggling with PTSD, don’t suffer. There are lots of people and groups who can help. Speak with your Gp and get referred to the veterans NHS. I found that getting in touch with other Veterans has helped. Breakfast clubs, British Legion, drop in centres for a coffee and a chat. Also talking with my wife. All for Veterans. Good luck all, thank you for your service 🫡 Rob, 🏴
Hey. Rob, thank you so much for your comment and kind words. I’m glad it helped but sorry it stirred up some emotions mate. Really glad you sought help 👍🇫🇷
Rob I came across your TH-cam by chance. My husband and I are looking to retire to France and a quieter life. I am a serving officer and completely relate to everything you have said. Thank you for sharing and raising awareness. I currently support the student officers within our force and feel very passionate about mental health issues and making sure they have a safe space to talk. Looking at retiring in a few years and France definitely looks like the place to go for a calmer, quieter life. I am also early fifties and feel I have done my time. Please be proud of all you have achieved and all those people you have helped……we deserve a quieter life now! X
Wow, thank you Sharon. Glad you happened across our channel and I'm really pleased you watched this video. I'm so glad that you retaking to student Officers about mental health. Good luck on your retirement and moving over to France. Hope you keep watching our crazy vlogs. Thanks Rob X
Maximum respect to you Rob, not just for your service but for your courage and your honesty about your condition. I subscribe to your channel because me and my wife Jayne plan on retiring to the Charente region in a few years time, however I have been moved and impressed by your willingness to share what is very clearly still a difficult subject for you to discuss. I hope you continue to get as much happiness as you’d want from your life in Charente and I for one will continue following your story as it unfolds with a newfound respect and admiration. Best of luck with everything and I hope to be lucky enough to meet you in person when we eventually get there. Stay strong mate.
thumbs up from me. im in my 50's living in central france. with a french man, been here 13 years. same here, mental health struggles..I did criminology degree then social work with a view to dealing with child welfare but a year into a 2 year social work ma, external issues highlighted masking and my counselling at uni questioned my career path. as it happened 6 years later met my other half online. best move for me and I watched this because of the overarching issue of dealing with a mental health issue in France. Its pros and cons. Yes I love the fact that I could start again, away from reminders. It did have its difficult moments but Im happy now. Thank you so much for speaking from your heart. Bon chance..
Thanks Mellia for your comment and telling me your story. Really appreciate it. Hopefully my video helped a bit. Please share it in social media if you think it may help others 🇫🇷🇫🇷
I believe that this blog will create momentum, building slowly but surely . Some may not have 'ticked the box' as they're unsure what to do! However, if they've watched it, you've opened their eyes for themselves & others. Once again, all my respect to you & thank you.
Rob thank you for your story, your history. My goodness it’s true we don’t realise how much we take the Police, Ambulance and other Emergency Services for granted. After all they are humans like anyone else. The beautiful thing is Rob you’ve done something about your particular suffering. You’ve been diagnosed, you know what it is, and thank goodness you talked about it with your wife. You guys did the best thing moving to France. I like your vlogs because you’re funny and I always dreamt of living in rural France in a Chateau( pretty unrealistic), but oh well dreams are free 😁
Pity Party, never heard that before. I don’t pity you on the contrary, i think you are so brave. I think you have an amazing wife and a strong loving relationship. Due to your unselfishness to protect the community, you became sick from horrific events. I hope France brings you some peace and loads of happiness, and may i say thankyou for all that you have done. ❤
Hi Teresa, thank you so much for your kind and lovely words. I really appreciate you watching and taking the time out of your day to comment. Hoping that you have a great day. Rob :)
Thank you for sharing Rob , I seem to remember an old saying when I was in the Army back in the eighties which was “Stag on “ sadly I think we carry this on through our civvy life and not accept there’s actually issues going on deep down , I’d love to share a beer with you one day mate 🍻
I have been following your vlog for some time, and not sure how I missed this particular one, and it came up in my feed today. I want you to know that in my humble opinion, you are extremely brave to bare your soul the way you just did. I can tell you in all honesty, this was one of the first TH-cam videos that I sat and watched the whole thing and didn't fast forward it a little bit or keep checking the time. I'm sure this will help someone. This was informative, and very eye-opening to someone looking in from the outside. Bravo for you on a job well done, and thank you for your service
@@glennmartin346 Wow Glenn, thank you so much for much for watching it and thank you even more for commenting with your kind words. I’m glad that TH-cam is still pushing this video out. Hopefully the video is helping people and from the comments I think that it is. Somebody has given it a thumbs down thong which I find disappointing Thanks again and thanks for watching 👍🇫🇷
@@Escapetofrance-Charente Sometimes people don't understand the thumbs up/down meaning. I think some click down if they think it is sad, rather than awarding the content itself. Enjoy the day. (and the sun (For now )
Thank you so much for sharing your story Rob. I'm sure this video will encourage others to reflect upon their own mental health struggles and seek support. ❤
❤ Thank you for your honest thoughts and self reflection. I am an early subscriber and thoroughly enjoy your content, journey to/in France, and your lovely family! Please continue to share your life experiences and thoughts with us. Looking forward to your next video!
Wow, just watched the latest vlog. Thank you so much for posting this. I served in the forces and never had to suffer like you. I love your usual vlogs and always watch. Keep up the good work and pass on my best wishes when you see Colin next. Cheers
This was difficult and I must admit that I couldn't watch it all. While I have never experienced anything like this and do not have PTSD I was once engaged to an ex-DCI from the Met who I now realise must have suffered from PTSD for similar experiences to yours as a policeman. He is no longer with us and I must admit to now being sad that I did not recognise what was causing his drinking and unsociable behaviour - which caused our break-up.
Thanks for the comment. Please don’t be sad. A lot of people didn’t see it coming with me either. I was very good at masking. Don’t blame you for not watching it to the end. It’s a tough watch I know. Please keep watching. The other videos are more light and polite 👍🇫🇷
Hi there.. well done on posting such a personal vlog..many of us who have worked in the emergency services and myself included as a retired cardiac nurse ; witness trauma, tradgey and death on a very regular basis and looking back we "cope" in a sort of Heath Robinson way... until something ( usually mundane ) triggers in your head .. fellow sufferers of PTSD can relate to this vlog and get comfort to realise they're not alone and support and therapy is there. Thankyou for bravely opening up this topic ❤
I wish you and your family every happiness in France. It's such a beautiful country and there are so many layers to explore! Thanks for sharing your story x
Hi Rob, thank you for bravely sharing your story. I hope France and your bonkers neighbours are helping you with your recovery. We are only round the corner if you need us. ❤
Rob it seems wrong to say I enjoyed your video, but I did. It was very informative. We have been in France for 3 years now. We were actually in the middle of an earthquake last June, just between La Rochelle and Niort. I know how much that affected how we felt every time there was a loud noise for months afterwards. You have given me some things to think about.
Hi Dave, thanks for the comment and your kind words. Trauma affects us all and in different ways. My startle reflex is really bad so balloons are not allowed in the house Incase they go pop. Take care Rob
Much respect to you for both sharing this video and for your years of public service. From the comments, I can see that your experience and explanation of PTSD is already reaching people and helping them or their relatives. Bravo. It takes so much courage to share our feelings truthfully. We watch your videos and love seeing your progress adapting to your new life. May you find the peace you sought when moving here to France.
Thank you for talking about your experiences with PTSD which was truly informative and extremely brave. I hope you continue working towards an amazing life in France x
I was diagnosed with CPTSD only 2 years ago, and I'm in my early 60's. Mine was from childhood trauma and lived with it not knowing why I was like I was. Also the depression/anxiety that come with it. When it was explained to me the why ...it was like a huge weight lifted from my shoulders. I'm watching this with my husband as he would like to know more about how it effects me. I'm fighting back the tears listening. I did the EMDR. But I have many regrets as my children growing up had to deal with my outbursts, but as they are now adults and understand why, but it still leaves me with huge guilt. But thankyou for sharing your story, helps immensely.
Hey thanks for your comment and your openness and honesty. I know exactly what you mean about the guilt in the outbursts. I just sat down with the older kids and apologised to each of them and explained the reasons why. It also helped that they could see i was received professional help. Maybe get your kids to watch this video? Thanks for watching 🇫🇷👍
My kids were the ones urging me to get help as one is a Nurse...she saw the signs. I have apologised to them for my behaviour. Just to add to my mental health I found out I have ADHD, so lots more coffee ☕️ has helped ease that.👌🏻
@Escapetofrance-Charente All my kids have varying degrees of ADHD and also my three of my grandchildren, only two need the medication, I manage mine with Coffee, it's calms the noise in my head so I can function... sort of. I gave coffee up a few years ago having drunk it since a child, but back on it again and have one just before bedtime otherwise no sleep as brain is in turbo mode😜😁
Thankyou for sharing Both my husband and I have CPTSD ... after our service in "the job" We've just bought our French home in Deux-Sèvres.. so not far from you guys. The reason we chose France is that we have space! ... in the UK we feel suffocated with over population ... we can't wait to live I France full time! Keep up the videos... ❤
Love love love this episode, thankyou for sharing and we really honour your vulnerability, its so good for people who have been through trauma that there is still life and joy beyond it .
Hi Rob. Marc mentioned you and thought I’d come check you out. I’m so happy I did. Will love to follow you and your family on your journey in France. Had a hard time finding you tho because you have same name as a very popular vlog and his is only one that comes up when searching under your name. Maybe add something to your name for searchers? Anyway this amazing post you did should come up anytime anyone does a search of PTSD. You are Amazing and this will help so many people! Now we have to figure out how to get you Known on TH-cam!
Hi Kathy. Thanks for your lovely comment. It means amor. I didn’t realise I got a mention from Marc as I’m a video behind him. I’m glad you are catching up with the videos 👍🇫🇷
Rob. It's a difficult watch. I have undiagnosed ptsd caused by how I was treated by employers (Police). My career path is similar to yours - Traffic and firearms, Sgt 2005, insp 2009. Rtc at work. I did not get the care and reasonable adjustments and became a whistle-blower. I had a nervous breakdown and was treated for paranoia. Their gang was bigger than mine. I was already deemed fit for post, so I kept my pension, but I didn't stand a chance. I was sacked at 28 years, exemplary service. My now ex husband (due to the stress), was serving too and also has diagnosed ptsd and was pensioned off too. We were both Insp and were used to make an example. I now listen to an audio book in the wee small hours when my brain ticks..... I have changed my name as I had my details leaked to the press and was trolled. That's why I'm going to France too
Wow, what a journey and not a particularly good one. Hopefully you are in a good place. France is amazing, especially rural France. Different place of life and very few triggers. Stay strong 👍🇫🇷
thank you to be so open about it .... and i realy hope for you that ,that also helps you to make a little bit better to coup ..........EMDR is wonderfull thing for many people ....(also for my husband )
Hi Rob, I'm glad I have found you again. It's been a long time. I had no idea what you have been though but understand why. I too know a little bit about this thought truma growing up in our family. I am glad you are happy over there. If you ever need to talk I will always be here for you. Xx stay happy Cous. Cath xx 😊
Hey Cath, how on earth did you find me? So glad that you did though. Please email me at robmorland09@googlemail.com and I’ll give you my French number xx
Oh yea I forgot to say I think my ex husband had PTSD he was physically/ verbally abused by his father and older brothers and bullied at highschool. Maybe other things happened to him too. We were married for 31years. At about 25 years he had a complete mental breakdown out of the blue it was. Diagnosed with Bipolar. Over 15 years of hell for myself and my children as he wouldn’t take his medication. He tried taking his own life, assaulted me and was in and out of the Psychiatric hospital, a couple of police arrests, in the end one night someone assaulted him he ended up months in hospital with a brain injury. Fast forward now I have a nice man he has a lovely lady we all get on great and we have Christmas and all family events together. Life is definitely not a straight road, but a long winding one. Hence the song by the Beatles.
Hi Rob, I'm new (all thanks to Mark on another channel). I found this video content extremely interesting. I've experienced EMDR treatment, but it was different to how you describe. Thought it "cured" me but realise it didn't, even though it helped. If you have any further knowledge on how the brain copes with stuff, please share as you explain things so well. Thanks. L
Wow, what an amazing comment. I’ve had 60 sessions of EMDR split over three bouts. It is a continuing process unfortunately. Thanks for watching though 👍🇫🇷
As avid watchers of all your vlogs we want to say well done on putting this out there. It was really inciteful and I am sure others with PTSD or even undiagnosed PTSD will find inspiration from your words. Unfortunately for you it won't mean we won't be coming to you for more advice in the near future 😂
Hi Donald, no idea that there are people that watch all our vlogs, but it’s really nice to know. And thank you for your kind words. They really mean a lot 👍🇫🇷
Morning. I’ve just watched this after seeing your comment on a later vlog re the thumbs down. Ignore that idiot. you’ve been incredibly brave discussing your history and I’m sure it will help others. Life here in the Charente is sooooo very different to life in the UK, but like you, we live it (some of it does take some getting used to!!). We’re just the other side of Angouleme so if you ever fancy grabbing a coffee that would be great.
Hi Rob I enjoy watching your vlogs and rarely comment, but this video I felt you needed to know your subscribers are supporting you 🤗. I can imagine this video was emotionally traumatic for you in declaring your PTSD. You were courageous , open, honest and informative. That takes such strength of character you’re an inspiration so well done you love 🤗You have a life you and your family seem to be enjoying and from what you say it is totally the opposite to your life in the uk so keep doing what makes you happy. Enjoy your family, your life in France and be happy 🤗🤗xx
I’m so privileged that you have commented so thank you so much. It’s regular viewers like you that keep me going. Believe me, I’ve felt like sacking it so often, so thank you for sticking with us 👍🇫🇷
@@Escapetofrance-Charente Don't give up love your doing a great job. We watch mainly as we're hoping to move to the charente and take inspiration from you and your family and for someone that doesn't normally do DIY my hubby said your doing a great job getting stuck in so good luck. Please don't give up 🙏 xxx
I have heard of studies of guided psilocybin therapy for PTSD in the US. Is it available in France? I will look for the interview with a soldier who went through it and add another comment.
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This is my Dad and he’s the bravest man I know. His journey and his courage to fight his PTSD is such an inspiration to anyone struggling with the same issues. I’m very proud to call him my Dad and I will always look to him when I wonder how to conduct myself as a gentleman.
Wow. Just wow. Thank you so much Dids. That’s the nicest compliment I’ve ever had in my life. And I’m proud to be your Das x 👍🇫🇷
And there he is my big brother Robbie who I'm extremely proud of, and fully support him and his family during their ongoing journey in setting up a home in France. Loved the video bro, and whilst I have been privy to your personal journey dealing with PTSD, this video made me feel like you were telling it me for the very first time. Quite emotional in parts I must admit, and wanted to reach through the screen to reassure you that 'I got you, don't worry'. Your tougher than most (more than you think) and I will always look up to you no matter what x
Love you bro x That’s an amazing comment x
Rob my daughter suffers from complex PTSD and I had no idea until this video just how much she must be suffering thank you so much you have helped me to help and understand her anxieties and mood swings . i will be more attentive to everything now that to the family was her just being really horrible to all of us. I know she started treatment but her councillors kept being changed or moved to another place and she found this so disheartening she stopped attending. I again thank you I can help my daughter because of you.
Wow. Thank you so much. This comment and the rest have made the video worthwhile 👍🇫🇷
Hi Rob. Jane and I have just sat and watched this video. The usual platitudes and " great videos ". doesn't really cut it.
You've been of service to the country and to your community for over thirty years. You've continued to give service by creating this video. Having read all the comments so far it's already practically helped some people. These videos are on here forever and I think that in the future it's going to continue to help people to cope and most importantly start to understand the complex way that trauma of all sorts takes a toll.
It takes big shiny balls to open up like this and I commend you for your courage.
Wow. Thank you Colin. I really appreciate your kind words. For the first time, I am not bothered about the low view numbers. The kind words have made it all worth while 👍🇫🇷
Rob, it is a hard topic to talk about but very much an important one. I commend you for your bravery in talking about it on youtube! I'm the wife of a medically retired Fire Captain in the States who also suffers from C-PTSD. He retired after 28 years in EMS and has always said that the kids were the worst. It takes a special kind of person to do the job that both he and you have done, thank you for that and for being willing to speak on what I know is a hard subject to be open with random strangers on the internet about.
Thank you 👍🇫🇷
Hats off to you Rob. We've just watched this video and really feel for your honesty and integrity.
France is amazing, and I hope it gives you everything you need in life.
Gary.
Cheers Gaz. That means a lot. 👍😀
My husband also suffers from PTSD from living in Belfast Northern Ireland, growing up during the troubles. He married me and moved back to the USA, then we moved back in 2005 to a small country town called Balley Castle, and he had such panic attacks we were only there for 9 months and had to come back home and he does fantastic in the US and everyone at work loves him. It's the Irish accent and he loves it lol much love from Oklahoma USA Jackie 🇺🇸💖
Hey thank you. Sometimes it just takes a change of scenery. Glad you are both doing great 👍🇫🇷
Rob,I’m one of the “lurkers” that follow you as well as many other channels…in other words, I watch, will try to like (but fail too much!), and rarely comment…
But, thank you for posting this video about PTSD. I’m a retired ICU RN. My daughter was a nurse on a cardiac thoracic unit. She was formerly married to a Ranger in the US Army who was diagnosed with PTSD, but never sought treatment. We all have some form of PTSD because of our careers, but very few of us will seek treatment/answers for our “feelings”. Thank you for being so open about your experiences with PTSD. I’ll be here still “lurking”, but I will be here for your channel. My best to you and your family. I hope you all will find peace and happiness in your new home.
👍🇫🇷Thanks for lurking 😀
I was in an abusive marriage 20 years ago and I still have PTSD episodes based on certain triggers. I take daily anxiety RX. I’ve recreated my life only socializing with family to restrict my vulnerability. Unless you’ve experienced PTSD people don’t really understand it. I feel your pain and praise your openness.
Thank you Sally for your comment and sharing something really personal. You are very brave. Please keep watching 👍🇫🇷
I have just one word for it. RESPECT.
It takes courage to talk so openly about the problems you have/had.
The professions you had are "manly" jobs in which it is not "allowed" to show your emotions. But if it weren't that manly, you might have been doing your job.
About 14 years ago I had a NLP-session to cope with some "hidden" problems. Couldn't/wouldn't talk about it, but after those sessions it came easier to talk about and I could give it a place.
I wish you al the best and will follow you on your channel on your queeste in France.
Hey, thank you so much for your comment. I’m so glad that you sought help my friend. Stay strong and please keep watching 👍🇫🇷
Prince William talked about his experience as search and rescue. He recognized the need for mental health services for first responders. Here in Canada we are hearing more and more about the experiences of first responders and it’s heart breaking. Thanks for sharing.
(Moira Ashton) Respect to you Rob, thank you for sharing this, I'm sure it will help others, it must have been difficult for you to talk about. Wishing you all the best for the future, ❤
Brilliant exposition of your condition. Hopefully this will benefit a lot of people and help people understand this condition. I have a son with mental health condition. You are doing a great job God bless you.
Aww thank you so much. That means the world to me 👍🇫🇷
Rob , it’s Mark from Widnes. Just wanted to tell you are a strong brave man by talking and completing this video! I fully understand how you feel and the aspects from suffering in regard to work etc .
Never feel that you are alone and unable to talk or share
Thanks Mark. I was the beat Bobby in Ditton for a few years.
Thanks for your kind words mate. Really appreciate them
I hope your sharing this will encourage others to seek help. Thank you
I saw this pop up and waited until I had some time spare to watch it fully. Thank you so much for doing this video it resonates with me.
I have many friends suffering from PTSD and I know how debilitating it is. You have my full support and I will share this video as much as I can. AJ
Thank you mates I really appreciate your kind words and support. Really means a lot.
Take care Andy. Hopefully one day we can meet up for a beer 🍺 👍🇫🇷
How brave of you to share your story. I'm a PTSD survivor and watching construction helps me focus on new beginnings! Life can be complex but if we do get the right kind of help there is hope and tomorrow will always come with new opportunities! Take care of yourself
Thank you for watching and thank you for your kind words. Take care
Thank you for being so open and honest. More help is needed and understanding. You have helped me to understand how my son felt with his PTSD.
Keep your vlogs coming as we are enjoying your journey
Awww thank you so much for that. Don’t worry, the blogs are still coming lol
Just found you Rob. Thank you so much for posting this. I will certainly be following you now. My son was in the forces and was diagnosed with PTSD. Bless you for this post. ❤
OMG and wow for the comment. Thank you so much for following us. Best of luck to your son. Hope he is getting help 👍🇫🇷
Hey mate, you were amazing. You are amazing. You are seen things that no person should have to deal with time after time. I had a neighbour who had PTSD following the Iraq conflict. He went off the rails growing, using and supplying drugs. It cost him is family and did had to do time. I never fully understood what he had gone through until you described it. I think I can partially understand the plight of sufferers now.
@@retirement-adventures Hey, thank you so much for watching the video. It really means a lot to me. And thank you for your kind words and I’m so glad that the video has helped in your understanding 👍🇫🇷
Thank you for being so honest and sharing your story. I wish you and your family happiness and success in France. I think your story will help so many people. Thank you again. Look forward to seeing what you all get up to. 😊❤ Stay strong and safe and keep doing your informative and interesting TH-cam clips. ❤😊😊 Big❤😊
Wow Rob. Very powerful, from another Rob, we have so many parallels. Some of my experiences are different from yours. Thank you for sharing, it helped me understand better but also stirred up emotions and feelings as I was watching. It never goes away, and I suffered silently covering it all up for decades. Putting that facade up. I eventually contacted my Gp who put me in touch with the NHS Veterans team. I also had therapists being changed which did not help. But those sessions really helped me cope much better. Thank you for sharing your story.
If any other Veterans or those still serving are currently struggling with PTSD, don’t suffer. There are lots of people and groups who can help. Speak with your Gp and get referred to the veterans NHS.
I found that getting in touch with other Veterans has helped. Breakfast clubs, British Legion, drop in centres for a coffee and a chat. Also talking with my wife. All for Veterans.
Good luck all, thank you for your service 🫡 Rob, 🏴
Hey. Rob, thank you so much for your comment and kind words. I’m glad it helped but sorry it stirred up some emotions mate.
Really glad you sought help 👍🇫🇷
Rob
I came across your TH-cam by chance. My husband and I are looking to retire to France and a quieter life.
I am a serving officer and completely relate to everything you have said. Thank you for sharing and raising awareness. I currently support the student officers within our force and feel very passionate about mental health issues and making sure they have a safe space to talk.
Looking at retiring in a few years and France definitely looks like the place to go for a calmer, quieter life. I am also early fifties and feel I have done my time. Please be proud of all you have achieved and all those people you have helped……we deserve a quieter life now! X
Wow, thank you Sharon. Glad you happened across our channel and I'm really pleased you watched this video.
I'm so glad that you retaking to student Officers about mental health.
Good luck on your retirement and moving over to France.
Hope you keep watching our crazy vlogs.
Thanks
Rob X
Watching another video now! So glad I’ve found you!
Keep the videos coming….you are creating a reality to my dream ❤
@@SharonDuberley awww bless you. Such a lovely thing to say 🇫🇷👍
Maximum respect to you Rob, not just for your service but for your courage and your honesty about your condition. I subscribe to your channel because me and my wife Jayne plan on retiring to the Charente region in a few years time, however I have been moved and impressed by your willingness to share what is very clearly still a difficult subject for you to discuss. I hope you continue to get as much happiness as you’d want from your life in Charente and I for one will continue following your story as it unfolds with a newfound respect and admiration. Best of luck with everything and I hope to be lucky enough to meet you in person when we eventually get there. Stay strong mate.
What a lovely comment. Thank you so much. Good luck in your new adventure and yes would love to meet up when you are over 👍🇫🇷
thumbs up from me. im in my 50's living in central france. with a french man, been here 13 years. same here, mental health struggles..I did criminology degree then social work with a view to dealing with child welfare but a year into a 2 year social work ma, external issues highlighted masking and my counselling at uni questioned my career path. as it happened 6 years later met my other half online. best move for me and I watched this because of the overarching issue of dealing with a mental health issue in France. Its pros and cons. Yes I love the fact that I could start again, away from reminders. It did have its difficult moments but Im happy now. Thank you so much for speaking from your heart. Bon chance..
Thanks Mellia for your comment and telling me your story. Really appreciate it. Hopefully my video helped a bit.
Please share it in social media if you think it may help others 🇫🇷🇫🇷
All my respect to you!
I believe that this blog will create momentum, building slowly but surely . Some may not have 'ticked the box' as they're unsure what to do! However, if they've watched it, you've opened their eyes for themselves & others. Once again, all my respect to you & thank you.
Rob thank you for your story, your history. My goodness it’s true we don’t realise how much we take the Police, Ambulance and other Emergency Services for granted. After all they are humans like anyone else. The beautiful thing is Rob you’ve done something about your particular suffering. You’ve been diagnosed, you know what it is, and thank goodness you talked about it with your wife. You guys did the best thing moving to France. I like your vlogs because you’re funny and I always dreamt of living in rural France in a Chateau( pretty unrealistic), but oh well dreams are free 😁
Amazing comment, 🙏 glad the videos make you smile. I’ll do my best to be funny/funnier 👍🇫🇷
Pity Party, never heard that before. I don’t pity you on the contrary, i think you are so brave. I think you have an amazing wife and a strong loving relationship. Due to your unselfishness to protect the community, you became sick from horrific events. I hope France brings you some peace and loads of happiness, and may i say thankyou for all that you have done. ❤
Hi Teresa, thank you so much for your kind and lovely words. I really appreciate you watching and taking the time out of your day to comment.
Hoping that you have a great day.
Rob :)
Thank you for sharing Rob , I seem to remember an old saying when I was in the Army back in the eighties which was “Stag on “ sadly I think we carry this on through our civvy life and not accept there’s actually issues going on deep down , I’d love to share a beer with you one day mate 🍻
Thanks for your comment Nigel. They still use stag on to this day unfortunately. A beer sounds good to me 👍🇫🇷
I have been following your vlog for some time, and not sure how I missed this particular one, and it came up in my feed today. I want you to know that in my humble opinion, you are extremely brave to bare your soul the way you just did. I can tell you in all honesty, this was one of the first TH-cam videos that I sat and watched the whole thing and didn't fast forward it a little bit or keep checking the time. I'm sure this will help someone. This was informative, and very eye-opening to someone looking in from the outside. Bravo for you on a job well done, and thank you for your service
@@glennmartin346 Wow Glenn, thank you so much for much for watching it and thank you even more for commenting with your kind words. I’m glad that TH-cam is still pushing this video out.
Hopefully the video is helping people and from the comments I think that it is.
Somebody has given it a thumbs down thong which I find disappointing
Thanks again and thanks for watching 👍🇫🇷
@@Escapetofrance-Charente Sometimes people don't understand the thumbs up/down meaning. I think some click down if they think it is sad, rather than awarding the content itself. Enjoy the day. (and the sun (For now )
Thank you so much for sharing your story Rob. I'm sure this video will encourage others to reflect upon their own mental health struggles and seek support. ❤
Thanks Bev. Fingers crossed that the video will help 👍🇫🇷
❤ Thank you for your honest thoughts and self reflection. I am an early subscriber and thoroughly enjoy your content, journey to/in France, and your lovely family! Please continue to share your life experiences and thoughts with us. Looking forward to your next video!
Been following your channel for awhile and just came across this. Thank you so much for your honestly and clear explanations. Very very helpful.
Thanks Ellen, appreciate you watching and going back to have a look. Please share it on social media if you think it may help somebody 👍🇫🇷
You’ve got brilliant emotional intelligence Rob. Great video and explanation of PTSD. I learned a lot from it. Thanks for being brave mate. Corky 👍👍
Thank you so much ☺️ 🐓🇫🇷
Thanks for sharing ❤
Well done for opening up about your condition I have such respect for you.Enjoy your new life in France x😊
Wow thank you 👍🇫🇷
Such an important topic to touch on, you have done so well on your delivery.
@@jackiestewart5062 Thanks Jackie, that means a lot
Wow, just watched the latest vlog. Thank you so much for posting this. I served in the forces and never had to suffer like you. I love your usual vlogs and always watch. Keep up the good work and pass on my best wishes when you see Colin next. Cheers
This was difficult and I must admit that I couldn't watch it all. While I have never experienced anything like this and do not have PTSD I was once engaged to an ex-DCI from the Met who I now realise must have suffered from PTSD for similar experiences to yours as a policeman. He is no longer with us and I must admit to now being sad that I did not recognise what was causing his drinking and unsociable behaviour - which caused our break-up.
Thanks for the comment. Please don’t be sad. A lot of people didn’t see it coming with me either. I was very good at masking. Don’t blame you for not watching it to the end. It’s a tough watch I know.
Please keep watching. The other videos are more light and polite 👍🇫🇷
Hi there.. well done on posting such a personal vlog..many of us who have worked in the emergency services and myself included as a retired cardiac nurse ; witness trauma, tradgey and death on a very regular basis and looking back we "cope" in a sort of Heath Robinson way... until something ( usually mundane ) triggers in your head .. fellow sufferers of PTSD can relate to this vlog and get comfort to realise they're not alone and support and therapy is there. Thankyou for bravely opening up this topic ❤
Aww thank you Julie. Really appreciate you taking the time to comment 👍🇫🇷
It's good you can talk ❤
thank you for sharing it must have been hard recalling your memories
You’re welcome Kath and thank you for your comment 👍🇫🇷
I wish you and your family every happiness in France. It's such a beautiful country and there are so many layers to explore! Thanks for sharing your story x
Awww thank you so much. We are in love with France and are so excited about living here. And thank you for your kid words 👍👍
Hi Rob, thank you for bravely sharing your story. I hope France and your bonkers neighbours are helping you with your recovery. We are only round the corner if you need us. ❤
Thanks Cathy, you are such lovely neighbours. See ya soon 👍🇫🇷
Rob it seems wrong to say I enjoyed your video, but I did. It was very informative. We have been in France for 3 years now. We were actually in the middle of an earthquake last June, just between La Rochelle and Niort. I know how much that affected how we felt every time there was a loud noise for months afterwards. You have given me some things to think about.
Hi Dave, thanks for the comment and your kind words. Trauma affects us all and in different ways. My startle reflex is really bad so balloons are not allowed in the house Incase they go pop.
Take care
Rob
Much respect to you for both sharing this video and for your years of public service.
From the comments, I can see that your experience and explanation of PTSD is already reaching people and helping them or their relatives. Bravo. It takes so much courage to share our feelings truthfully.
We watch your videos and love seeing your progress adapting to your new life. May you find the peace you sought when moving here to France.
Wow. I think that’s the best comment we’ve had. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and for watching. Take care and laterzzz 👍🇫🇷
Thank you for talking about your experiences with PTSD which was truly informative and extremely brave. I hope you continue working towards an amazing life in France x
Thank you Hilary. You are very kind with your words 👍🇫🇷
I was diagnosed with CPTSD only 2 years ago, and I'm in my early 60's. Mine was from childhood trauma and lived with it not knowing why I was like I was. Also the depression/anxiety that come with it. When it was explained to me the why ...it was like a huge weight lifted from my shoulders. I'm watching this with my husband as he would like to know more about how it effects me. I'm fighting back the tears listening. I did the EMDR. But I have many regrets as my children growing up had to deal with my outbursts, but as they are now adults and understand why, but it still leaves me with huge guilt. But thankyou for sharing your story, helps immensely.
Hey thanks for your comment and your openness and honesty. I know exactly what you mean about the guilt in the outbursts. I just sat down with the older kids and apologised to each of them and explained the reasons why. It also helped that they could see i was received professional help.
Maybe get your kids to watch this video?
Thanks for watching 🇫🇷👍
My kids were the ones urging me to get help as one is a Nurse...she saw the signs. I have apologised to them for my behaviour. Just to add to my mental health I found out I have ADHD, so lots more coffee ☕️ has helped ease that.👌🏻
@@justme3971 funny you should say that about ADHD as my wife thinks I have that too.
@Escapetofrance-Charente All my kids have varying degrees of ADHD and also my three of my grandchildren, only two need the medication, I manage mine with Coffee, it's calms the noise in my head so I can function... sort of. I gave coffee up a few years ago having drunk it since a child, but back on it again and have one just before bedtime otherwise no sleep as brain is in turbo mode😜😁
@justme3971 Sounds awful. I only have one coffee a day. Maybe I should have more lol
Thankyou for sharing
Both my husband and I have CPTSD ... after our service in "the job"
We've just bought our French home in Deux-Sèvres.. so not far from you guys. The reason we chose France is that we have space! ... in the UK we feel suffocated with over population ... we can't wait to live I France full time!
Keep up the videos... ❤
Bienvenue and thank you. Loads of space here. You’ll love it 👍🇫🇷
Love love love this episode, thankyou for sharing and we really honour your vulnerability, its so good for people who have been through trauma that there is still life and joy beyond it .
Thank you so much for your kind words 👍🇫🇷
Hi Rob. Marc mentioned you and thought I’d come check you out. I’m so happy I did. Will love to follow you and your family on your journey in France. Had a hard time finding you tho because you have same name as a very popular vlog and his is only one that comes up when searching under your name. Maybe add something to your name for searchers? Anyway this amazing post you did should come up anytime anyone does a search of PTSD. You are Amazing and this will help so many people! Now we have to figure out how to get you Known on TH-cam!
Hi Kathy. Thanks for your lovely comment. It means amor. I didn’t realise I got a mention from Marc as I’m a video behind him. I’m glad you are catching up with the videos 👍🇫🇷
Very interesting and moving post ... Thankyou
Thanks Les 👍🇫🇷
Well done for sharing lad, it must be hard for you both. Take care we love watching you❤
Thank you so much. We love that you love watching 👍🇫🇷
Rob. It's a difficult watch. I have undiagnosed ptsd caused by how I was treated by employers (Police). My career path is similar to yours - Traffic and firearms, Sgt 2005, insp 2009. Rtc at work. I did not get the care and reasonable adjustments and became a whistle-blower. I had a nervous breakdown and was treated for paranoia. Their gang was bigger than mine. I was already deemed fit for post, so I kept my pension, but I didn't stand a chance. I was sacked at 28 years, exemplary service. My now ex husband (due to the stress), was serving too and also has diagnosed ptsd and was pensioned off too. We were both Insp and were used to make an example. I now listen to an audio book in the wee small hours when my brain ticks..... I have changed my name as I had my details leaked to the press and was trolled. That's why I'm going to France too
Wow, what a journey and not a particularly good one. Hopefully you are in a good place. France is amazing, especially rural France. Different place of life and very few triggers.
Stay strong 👍🇫🇷
RESPECT is the only word i can say.
Thank you so much Marie. That is so kind of you to say. 👍🇫🇷
thank you to be so open about it .... and i realy hope for you that ,that also helps you to make a little bit better to coup ..........EMDR is wonderfull thing for many people ....(also for my husband )
Thank you so much. I thought it was witchcraft at first but quickly bought into it after the immediate positive effects 👍🇫🇷
It'll get better with time, you're on the right road.
Thank you so much 👍🇫🇷
Welcome,hope you heal soon love your videos xxx
Thank you so much. Love that you love the videos 👍🇫🇷
Hi Rob, I'm glad I have found you again. It's been a long time. I had no idea what you have been though but understand why. I too know a little bit about this thought truma growing up in our family. I am glad you are happy over there. If you ever need to talk I will always be here for you. Xx stay happy Cous. Cath xx 😊
Hey Cath, how on earth did you find me? So glad that you did though. Please email me at robmorland09@googlemail.com and I’ll give you my French number xx
👍 Keep going Robbie M, you’re doing a sterling job x
Cheers son x
Click delay click 👍🇫🇷
Such courage - thank you Rob. Xx
Oh yea I forgot to say I think my ex husband had PTSD he was physically/ verbally abused by his father and older brothers and bullied at highschool. Maybe other things happened to him too. We were married for 31years. At about 25 years he had a complete mental breakdown out of the blue it was. Diagnosed with Bipolar. Over 15 years of hell for myself and my children as he wouldn’t take his medication. He tried taking his own life, assaulted me and was in and out of the Psychiatric hospital, a couple of police arrests, in the end one night someone assaulted him he ended up months in hospital with a brain injury. Fast forward now I have a nice man he has a lovely lady we all get on great and we have Christmas and all family events together. Life is definitely not a straight road, but a long winding one. Hence the song by the Beatles.
Wow, what a story. I’m glad you got through it and you are happy now 👍🇫🇷
Hi Rob,
I'm new (all thanks to Mark on another channel).
I found this video content extremely interesting.
I've experienced EMDR treatment, but it was different to how you describe.
Thought it "cured" me but realise it didn't, even though it helped.
If you have any further knowledge on how the brain copes with stuff, please share as you explain things so well.
Thanks. L
Wow, what an amazing comment. I’ve had 60 sessions of EMDR split over three bouts. It is a continuing process unfortunately. Thanks for watching though 👍🇫🇷
As avid watchers of all your vlogs we want to say well done on putting this out there. It was really inciteful and I am sure others with PTSD or even undiagnosed PTSD will find inspiration from your words. Unfortunately for you it won't mean we won't be coming to you for more advice in the near future 😂
Hi Donald, no idea that there are people that watch all our vlogs, but it’s really nice to know. And thank you for your kind words. They really mean a lot 👍🇫🇷
Morning. I’ve just watched this after seeing your comment on a later vlog re the thumbs down. Ignore that idiot. you’ve been incredibly brave discussing your history and I’m sure it will help others. Life here in the Charente is sooooo very different to life in the UK, but like you, we live it (some of it does take some getting used to!!). We’re just the other side of Angouleme so if you ever fancy grabbing a coffee that would be great.
Thank you for your comment and taking the time to watch this video too. We would deffo be up for a coffee next time we are up that way 👍🇫🇷
Hi Rob I enjoy watching your vlogs and rarely comment, but this video I felt you needed to know your subscribers are supporting you 🤗. I can imagine this video was emotionally traumatic for you in declaring your PTSD. You were courageous , open, honest and informative. That takes such strength of character you’re an inspiration so well done you love 🤗You have a life you and your family seem to be enjoying and from what you say it is totally the opposite to your life in the uk so keep doing what makes you happy. Enjoy your family, your life in France and be happy 🤗🤗xx
I’m so privileged that you have commented so thank you so much. It’s regular viewers like you that keep me going. Believe me, I’ve felt like sacking it so often, so thank you for sticking with us 👍🇫🇷
@@Escapetofrance-Charente Don't give up love your doing a great job. We watch mainly as we're hoping to move to the charente and take inspiration from you and your family and for someone that doesn't normally do DIY my hubby said your doing a great job getting stuck in so good luck. Please don't give up 🙏 xxx
@@denisetaylor4099 Thank you so much Denise. I’ll stick with it 👍🇫🇷
You're going to be ok.
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I have heard of studies of guided psilocybin therapy for PTSD in the US. Is it available in France? I will look for the interview with a soldier who went through it and add another comment.
@@NimmiCat Hey there, not heard of it before so please add another comment if you find the interview
Thanks
20:58 ✅
@@Zerina-i6m had to watch and fast forward to 20:58 lol. Thank you 👍🇫🇷
Know that you have helped me.
Bless you for saying that. Thank you sooo much 👍🇫🇷
Try bal-a-vis-x, it helps to calm a person. I do it and I have medical, trauma and anxiety PTSD. So much fun! NOT!
Never heard of that. Will research it first. Thank you 🇫🇷👍