The ADHD diagnosis that changed my life. What happened, how my life got so bad and what I'm doing.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ม.ค. 2024
- How two separate psychiatrists in two different countries diagnosed me, just one day apart. And for anyone out there wondering if they or their loved ones might also have undiagnosed ADHD, this video is for you.
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I am so proud of you, Ollie, that you went to the doctor, got a diagnosis and are treating it. That itself is so huge. It will make a difference for you and all your loved ones. Warm wishes from snowy Chicago.
What she said from Pittsburgh USA
Yes, Ollie, what she said! Knowing answers to your concerns and frustrations and commiting to therapy is more than halfway to getting to where you want to be!
Best wishes for a much less stressful, more hopeful, peaceful, and healthier 2024 & beyond! You've got this! 🎉
From Barbara in the Pacific Northwest, USA 🇺🇸
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. You are reading my mail. 😳☺️
I used to think that I was a 'good' person, that I was fair and caring and never consciously hurt anyone until one day I realised that it was a lie. I had neglected myself, put myself last (a remnant of my protestant upbringing maybe) and that I had hurt myself in the process. I am very forgiving until it comes to myself but I am working on it each day, a bit late in the day but it's important to look inwards and if you are not your best then you cannot be your best for others and so forth. How touching this 'confession' dear Oliver, I do wish that you find peace and harmony and you take more time for you. Wishing you and you lovely family much love. xoxoxo
Thank you for sharing I'm ADHD and found out late in life and learned to deal with it.bit I am now older and feel like you did looking for things getting so exhausted and all along it's right in front of you Im debating going and getting medicated most of my children are also adhd
Please seek help there’s no Shane in that but rather bravery imo
Could you please give the clinic or Dr name you seen in the UK. My son have all ADHD symptoms, but through NHS, we are not going no where. Glad you feeling better and all is working out for you. Thank you.
My husband, daughter, both son in laws and 2 grandchildren have ADHD. I know your struggle is real. Take care.
OLLIE,…we are listening and sending you much courage. So happy you have discovered what is going on.
Thank you. So am I and in fact, we all are!
Thank you so much, it is definitely good to know and to start putting things in place to make daily life a little less frustrating!
Ollie, you hid it well and that takes a lot of energy as also the condition. Thank you for being so open and courageous to share this with all of us . The biggest step was to face your fears and see a doctor and you did it. The worst is over. There are many highly creative and intelligent individuals who go through this. Thank you so much for sharing your experience it will help many others out ther. 💝🌈🇨🇦
@@MagicalModernistMansion "...putting things in place..." no pun intended??.. Honestly, I STILL spend about 30% of my day looking for things! I was diagnosed at 40, have muddled along for 3 decades, but after seeing the award winning short film "Shiny Objects" on youtube, I've decided to be newly assessed, and hire an ADHD coach. I'm a very healthy 72 year old, but obviously my years are numbered. The understanding of ADHD has come so far, I know I'll benefit from that, and expect these final numbers of years will be fun and productive! Love and encouragement to you and your beautiful family. ☺
@@MagicalModernistMansion The grieving part and sadness is apparently all normal after a diagnosis. TH-cam brought me to you because of your ADHD post. I'm struggling with a fairly new diagnosis in my 50's. It's a relief to hear of other people's experiences. You don't feel so isolated & alone which is how I felt for decades. Thank you Ollie. Subscribed. X.
I’m so happy you now know how to live in peace. We all love you Oliver. And you’re not alone.
Ahh my thoughts too. Sending ❤ Oliver. Keep strong hunny bunny.
When you said you got the diagnosis and then said “it explains so much” it was a powerful statement. Bravo for the courage to realize you needed help and acting on that. This video is probably the most important one you will ever make. Best wishes on your journey.
Thank you so much
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Honestly, as someone who has moderate to severe ADHD, I'm really surprised (and also not!) that you hadn't been diagnosed before, because it seemed pretty clear to me just from seeing you on your vlogs that you probably had ADHD. And to be honest, given how many of the TH-camrs I follow have disclosed their ADHD diagnoses, I think there is probably a pretty high proportion of TH-camrs who also have ADHD. I'm glad more people are talking about it and that more people are getting help because of it.
Can you share a couple of the symptoms you saw in the vlogs? I have no idea how to recognize this in others or in myself. TIA.
Ditto this, I'm just waiting for Dans diagnosis now.
@@margaretstanton7567 It's not really something I can point out in a single video. More like things that come out over time that I just recognize as being part of having ADHD when it's all together. And none of this is bad or a criticism. Super creative, messy studio (though he tidied it for the tour after they moved in, but he mentioned it was always messy otherwise), impulsive ideas/decisions, hyperfocus on projects, big energy around new projects but then having a hard time keeping up with them sometimes even if you want to do them, and other stuff. Incredibly hard working but people don't always see/recognize the effort. And also an energy of always moving, even when sitting still. Little physical things. And for TH-camrs, they'll often have some of the best content, but uploading might be inconsistent sometimes unless they have a lot of outside support and extra motivators/deadlines. Hyperfocus is actually a really helpful trait for video editing (I can speak from experience).
Everybody has a different type so it'll look different for everyone, and people can have any or all of this stuff without having ADHD. But all together, consistently over time, this kind of stuff in anyone's behavior starts to become pretty clear as possible ADHD to folks who have ADHD or are super familiar with it.
It's also worth noting that ADHD symptoms can also be symptoms of things like thyroid disorder, depression, anxiety, and other stuff (and depression/anxiety are commonly found with folks who have ADHD, especially undiagnosed ADHD, because we are constantly being criticized and told we are too much/not good enough/etc). So it's important to rule out other causes of symptoms. ADHD symptoms are always present from childhood, rather than appearing out of the blue. But a lot of folks get overlooked for diagnosis because of stereotypes, particularly in generations like mine and Ollie's. Boys with inattentive or combined type, girls in general, gifted kids who compensate for ADHD in various ways that mask it... a lot of us are diagnosed later in life.
Bottom line, if you think you might have ADHD, then if it's possible for you, consider seeing someone who specializes in ADHD who can help with diagnosis or ruling it out. Diagnosis can be really surprisingly helpful.
Also, the TH-cam channel How to ADHD has a huge number of very helpful videos for people just discovering their diagnosis, or that of a loved one. And ADHDLove is another great one.
@@joannerichardson533 I'm working on trying not to speculate about anybody's diagnosis in YT comments. If folks want to talk about this kind of stuff in their videos, or invite people to suggest possible causes for stuff they're going through, they will. Otherwise it can be really jarring and difficult to have people openly speculating about your health in comment sections when you haven't brought it up. And that can have impacts on mental health whether or not they show those impacts in their videos. Plus, Dan seems pretty private about personal stuff. I just brought up thinking Ollie had ADHD because he chose to talk about it publicly.
@@flibbertygibbette Thank you so much for the insight! This is very helpful. All the best to you.
I was late diagnosed last year at 45. I felt like I was losing my mind or had dementia. It is quite common for women this age to be diagnosed as they go into peri-menopause. Research is coming out about the links between the hormonal changes in women during adolescence and peri-menopause and the worsening of ADHD symptoms. My sister told me she had been diagnosed and her symptoms and I went straight to the doctor. It still took 18 months to get an appointment with the psychiatrist and cost over $800. Medication and a mental health professional to help me with strategies has been life changing for me. Especially with managing the anxiety that often comes along with ADHD.
I was diagnosed in my 30s and finally had a word for my condition. I knew from 5 that I was different, a mix of adhd and later dyslexia. I'm used to the adhd but as i get older the dyslexia is getting worse and the bad news is people with adhd are 3 times more likely to get dementia.
I"m in the mid-50s and was recently diagnosed. I saw a TikTok talking about girls and women masking ADHD and I started crying; so many things made sense. My daughter has it too, and we were talking that when she was school, it was thought only boys had ADHD. Luckily society is changing, and her company even has a support group for people with ADHD.
SAME! Perimenopause has taken the ADHD symptoms I’ve somehow managed all these years (I’m 47) and magnified them tenfold. Some days I truly think I’m losing my marbles. Looking into hormone therapy to hopefully regain more control of my brain and life. Wishing you well on your journey back to finding yourself too!
I was in my early 50's when diagnosed with ADHD plus on Autistic spectrum - mildly. Meds lifted the fog.
@@hereandthere6001I think that's from stress though and depression.medication
My youngest sister was diagnosed this year at the age of 62. She said she always knew there was something different about her. She was relieved, but sad about the fact that our parents never knew. They never knew why she was so disruptive as a child and it wasn't her fault.
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I was diagnosed right before turning 40...I know what you mean about the relief, feeling like things make sense! But also the mourning, because I realized exactly how much of my potential had been lost to the lack of diagnosis. I'm not able to take medication but even just having the knowledge helps to find coping mechanisms. Thanks for talking about this...too many people still think adult ADHD doesn't exist.
I was diagnosed at age 35. Life changing to finally know why somethings are so hard. I'm very glad you have some answers and strategies to help you cope. Neurodivergents Unite!!!
My gosh Ollie, you’re such a brave person to tell everyone- that takes a lot of strength and acceptance. I did notice that you had put on a lot of weight and you both weren’t looking very happy before the end of last year. I thought it was the weight and stress of the house. Camilla would be lot happier too I would say with the outcome ,because you look amazing ….you really do. You look as if you’ve just turned a page into happiness. Well done and I’m so pleased
Thank you for your kind words. They mean a great deal.
My husband and eldest son both have adhd. Husband is a high earner and son is at a top Uni. Like yourself both are very, very intelligent, but it is everything outside that’s the issue. I have to say, there was an episode where you went out for lunch with Stephanie, and I think you left the car on, left the keys behind and the phone. All so chaotic, I did think hmm adhd. There is no cure, but it is wonderful to understand the difficulties, and a partner (like the wonderful Camilla), who can help when things get difficult.
ADHD is hard! It is such a frustrating condition. Good luck Ollie!
Oh yes you are right I remember that very well! lol I think looking back a lot of things make more sense now!
I remember that one also...and thinking, thank goodness I'm not the only one!@@MagicalModernistMansion
@@MagicalModernistMansion adhd medication can help, but can also be pretty dangerous. My eldest son was taking Ritalin during A levels, (started in yr12). During his final biology exam, mid exam actually, he started feeling unwell. Ambulance came, he was rushed to hospital with a suspect heart attack. One of the side effects of adhd medication is anxiety and panic attack. He stopped taking adhd medication. I believe Michael Pethericks ended up in the hospital too (he thought he was having a stroke).
My son is a rower (national level), and to compensate for the non meds, he is rowing 25 hrs a week for his Uni team(exercise = dopamine etc). If the medicine start causing issues, please do think about an intense sport like tennis, cycling, even surfing! It does help.
Ps. NOT lecturing anyone, just sharing our story.
I'm so glad you went to the doctor Oliver. I was diagnosed as a child and took a break from medication for about 10 years after I left college, but last year I got back on the medication because I started to notice how hard everything was for me to do. Medication and organization tactics are so helpful. Thanks for sharing with everyone to destigmatize ADHD
Would you mind telling me what kind of medication you were on? My doctor tried putting me on Vyvanse, but the pharmacy can’t fill it. She first put me on the opposite kind of medicine that is for if you’re not hyper but that did nothing for me at all. Nothing changed after I started taking it everything felt the same same.
I need to call my prescription insurance and see what they will cover, but I don’t know the names of all of them .. not very many of them I don’t know
My goodness, it must be such a relief. Not an easy road ahead but I feel with the support of your loved ones I am confident you will conquer this and I must say, your demeanour is so different. More focused gaze and easy flowing chat. Thank you for letting us in and sharing. I wish you all the best.
Thank you for sharing ❤
My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD 12 months ago when she was 20 years old.
Life changing for her after commencing on her medication, Psychiatrist, GP & following her favourite TH-cam ADHD groups.
Initially she cried after the first day on her medication because of the huge difference, she said ‘mum do I have ‘dementia’ ?
She has moved on and now fully embraces her Neurodiverse Brain 🧠 ❤
Ollie, so pleased you got help. Wishing you a much less stressful life from here forward.
My grandson has adhd and has been taking mild meds for a few years now and he’s only 12. The meds turned everything around and results were noticed immediately-like you he’s an aspiring artist and very sharp. Thank you Ollie and Many Blessings!!
Your honesty is so important! We watch all our vlogger friends living interesting lives, but we can forget that what we’re actually watching, is your life after editing. You’re not alone, and by sharing, we aren’t either. Good to see you back - and thank you.
I've found that stress ,big stress like yourself buying a home ,moving, starting a whole new TH-cam job etc all at once can really aggravate the ADHD into an level. I found that simplicity and routine as much as humanly possible help the most . For instance if I have to pack to move house I stop cleaning, reschedule appointments ,or cooking big meals .cutting out extra things to focus on doing the priority thing. Good luck and God bless ❣️
Hey, Ollie. What a beautiful video. You are a brave person, and also very kind. I'm glad you found clarity and ease with your meds. You and Camilla are wonderful beings. So glad you found an answer and so proud you let others know, so it helps them too! Kudos dear Ollie! Happy New Year to you all! (and LOVE the new kitty!😻)
Thank you for highlighting the mental toll undiagnosed ADHD takes. I did not think I could live anymore before getting my diagnosis and medication two years ago at 38. Unfortunately my uncle was not as lucky. Too many doctors prescribed him antidepressants over the years rather than exploring the underlying cause to the point he did not seek help in crisis because nothing worked before. It’s still a hard slog with diagnosis but self compassion has been the greatest gift I have been able to offer myself through this process as I now understand why I procrastinate etc.
I have known for years that I have it, but I have never gone to a doctor to talk about it. That 13 year thing is sobering though. I think my biggest challenge is difficulty sleeping, and it’s not that unusual to be awake all hours. I imagine a doc could help with that. You’ve inspired me to look for a referral. Thank you.
My husband found out he had ADHD, towards the last years of his life. He seemed to manage well, but not ever at peak. He lost a job due to his diagnosis. I'm happy you have found out and the treatment is working well.
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Thanks for sharing this with all of us. Both of my sons were diagnosed with ADHD as children. Now, as adults, they are having different effects and ways of managing it on their own. I am glad that you are working things out. It's great!
Thank you Oliver for sharing what is going on in your life! So often bloggers will only show us the good, also for a man to go and be proactive in his health quest is brilliant. I can’t get my husband to go to the doc! I look forward to seeing how you and your family are getting on but only when you feel up for it! Love from a Brit who lives in Australia 🤗
Thank you for your courage. You are helping more people than you will ever know.
You look and sound better. Not that you were 'bad' before, but I would say scattered and distracted easily. It is impressive Ollie that you have recognised that you were not functioning at your optimum and that things could be better and that you reached out for help. This is the part that many people struggle with. Not only are you doing what is best for you, but you are showing through your actions what is the right thing to do for your children. Strong men need to understand that to be strong means asking for help. Well done and I am sure that you not only have the support of your family and friends but of your world-wide friends like me, willing you on and lifting you up to be the best Ollie you can be !
Dear Ollie, I so admire you for making this video. Firstly, my sincere condolences on losing Dante, your beautiful Birman. Your cats are an important part of your life, as they are in mine, and their illness and loss is such a traumatic event. Secondly, I am SO glad you have been able to see dedicated specialists in order to receive your ADHD diagnosis and move forward positively.
Your previous UK experience of ‘5 minutes and out of the door’ said it all for me. It is a very sad state of affairs.
Obviously we are strangers, but your honesty hammers home the point that we all ‘see’ people only on a very superficial level and have no clue as to what is really happening in their lives.
I wish you well Ollie, including Camilla and all your family. No-one is left untouched by such these things are they?
In closing, I must say you looked so well in your video, relaxed and charming. The perfect Gentleman. All my good wishes to you. Annette
Hear hear. ❤ 😊
To the loveable, wonderful Ollie! How wonderful of you to share this. It is so helpful to many people. You are just a good person, and your beautiful wife is so supportive to be by you. ❤ My daughter lives in Valencia, Spain, also agrees on the medical care. She loves it and the attention they have given her. 👌🏼
Thank you, Ollie, for sharing your experience with us, welcome to the club!! I was also diagnosed as an adult, I was in my 40s when I was diagnosed with ADD-inattentive (common in females). Those of us with the condition, before diagnosis, likely have suffered with varying degrees of “the cycle of disapproval“ from ourselves as well as from others. Not measuring up can be painful. Learning that all of that was not our fault is so freeing. I’m so glad that you found medication that helps. Thank you for sharing this too, it’s such a powerful message; and it’s so life-changing. It helps to know we’re not alone and it’s common with creative folks like us, as you said 😊.
Thank you for sharing. A few friends of mine suspected I may have ADHD but I was reluctant to tell my doctor. I will discuss it at my next doctor's appointment. I live in the USA and when your healthy insurance isn't the best the doctor rarely goes above and beyond to helping figure out what is wrong so that is why I have not pushed the issue.
I met Stephanie recently and told her how brilliant Travels with my Friend is and how you were slightly nervous at the start of the series and how you just settled down and were brilliant!!!!!!! You make me want to visit places I have never been interested in !!!
You really are such a lovely man. You are so genuine and viewers can recognise that.
I’m so glad you have your diagnosis and now can really get into your stride.
Cannot wait to see more of you on the screen bringing a lot of pleasure to a lot of people. ❤
Thank you so much
Thank you, thank you, thank you for making this video. I was diagnosed as an adult at around 37years old when the specialist diagnosing my daughter with autism and adhd told me I should be assessed as well. When I saw my gp about something else a few weeks later and mentioned it, she said "oh, I thought you knew". My daughter had been on public waitlists for 18mths to see a specialist. I was seen in 2 weeks and diagnosed after a 2hr intensive assessment that included having my mum there to answer questions. It changed my life. Unfortunately I have more recently discovered that the efficacy of medication wanes over time and we are more prone to burnout. It's an ongoing journey. But at least when you know what's happening you have a much better chance of working out how to get through it. I'm so glad that you have found out about this superpower you have and are getting the support you need, as well as sharing your story to help others! It's brave and honest. Well done Ollie!!!! 🎉❤
Ollie what about Camilla? How does she feels?
I feel that we only talk about adhd suffers and forget about their partners or parents. I have 2 at home, my husband has an important job at a multinational, but at home he can’t even pay a bill, book a trip, do his taxes, never bought me a present (he forgets). I have to do all of his admin, everything for the house and so on.
Was the Spanish home an impulse buy? I ask because my lovely husband once bought a house in France on impulse. At the moment He decided we should renovate our Surrey home, huge vast endless renovation….
Oliver Strong, this was a lovely , very very lovely video to watch! I have a daughter who I got diagnosed at the age of 8 years with ADHD, and therefore I am so interested in hearing you talk about this, creating openness and being informative. I agree with you, the medication is close to miraculous. And so valuable to learn strategies, and that people KNOW so that they are less impatient with you. Thank you for this. Be happy, be creative, live long and well! x
My husband was diagnosed about three years ago. It's made a huge difference for him to have the diagnosis and treatment. Part of accepting and integrating this into his life was wondering about what could have been had they known he had this as a child. Eventually he settled on grateful to have at least found out now as it explained so much for him. Ollie, I'm so glad that you sought help and have found a solution and I'm certain that your family is so pleased to have you feeling good again too.
I need to do a digital detox myself 😅 I'm going to look into a phone like that one you've shown!
I am the grandmother of 3 absolutely wonderful grandchildren who have ADHA and because they have been diagnosed early are living their best lives now. They are all creative and happy children who now get extra help at school because of the diagnoses. So as you had said Ollie it is important to seek help. You can live a happy and productive life.
Ollie, I'm new to your channel. I first " discovered" you when you were visiting Stephanie Jarvis at LaLande. When you put a fascial mask on, I nearly fell out of bed with laughter. Then, when you speak of the history of locations you and Stephanie travel to, I have learned so much. This post of yours appeared in my feed today. THANK-YOU FOR SHARING. It may feel very vunerable to share, especially to such a large audience. The peace of mind that you have given yourself no doubt carries over to Camille and the family. CHEERS TO YOU for taking that first step and seeing a doctor. Wishing you continued success from Pennsylvania. ❤😊
Ollie I was going to say that that helps focus on your art, that’s a positive!8’ dyslexic and got diagnosed at uni and struggled all through school! It explains why I find time hard to manage and be organised and read time tables! Yet give me something creative or ikea flat pack and can do that easy peasy!
Thank you for sharing. You are so right to get a diagnosis and understanding the mind is something that I think more and more of us will do until it just is normal. We are all diverse, one way or another!
Yes, there are definitely some strengths to conditions like this! I think the knack is getting the most out of the strengths while trying to minimise the downsides!
Dear Ollie. This is the story of my life. I was 50 before I realised this for myself. It changed everything. Just knowing what was causing the problems was life changing. Helen
Gosh Ollie, sorry to hear you’ve been struggling. But I’m so glad you’re feeling better and have answers! I have the hyper-focus thing, although I don’t think I have ADHD. I have horrible anxiety and worry issues, but I have meds for it. But I understand about the internal thoughts that never quit. Your brain gives you your art though, and it’s a magical gift! I do hope for better times for you now.
Thank you for sharing your journey Ollie. I was diagnosed with ADHD about five years ago. I am 66 years old now. When you talked about mourning all the time that was spent struggling, I really related. I don't think I had thought of it in quite that way before. But you're right. It's like, how much more I could have accomplished over the years? It is still a struggle from time to time, but nothing like it used to be. Good luck. It will get better and better. Leisa
Oh dear Ollie..
I’m 71, undiagnosed but totally typical ADHD from childhood for as long as I remember.
My two children have inherited it, as have my two grandchildren.
I’m not going through the process of diagnosis here in Australia because it is so expensive. I’m concerned about my younger family. It’s thousands of $$ to get diagnosed here.
I’m taking as many supplements as I can, as is my daughter. We are hoping we can help the grandkids this way. It is helping both myself and my daughter.
Thank you for baring your soul.
I do hope your family and extended family are with you during this time. My husband (75) has been amazing. He is a retired professional man , we have been married for 52 years and he is actually pleased that I can finally understand myself. Obviously we are retired from the workforce by now, but he has always supported me, my odd ideas that have actually helped us, and my down times that didn’t.
I do hope your revelation will help others.
Cheers from Oz🐨🐨
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This is my experience ; We see a private adhd specialist every 6 months for my eldest son. I will be honest with you, all they do is to label you, and for my son recommended medication ONLY for when he is at school, not during holidays etc . For my son the specialist recommended Ritalin. They have to check his heart, weight, blood pressure every 6 months because of the medication. They recommend CBT therapy, where you can work on life strategies. (He has since given up on medication, and uses sport to compensate).
My husband (46), also has adhd. Specialist did not recommend medication. She said medication is not the answer, and he has to work on strategies with a cbt therapist.
My point is, before spending thousand on a diagnosis, think about what you really want from it.
For the children I would definitely get the paper, only because it gives extra perks at school/university. (Extra exam time, quiet room etc). The specialist is there only to label you, the strategies Ollie is talking about, he probably got from books, reading online etc.
This vlog has just given me a lightbulb moment, I worry about my eldest son so much, he is loving, successful but there is an issue that causes real problems that I don’t understand, he can be very personally destructive & I’ve just realised that he may have this disorder, thank you so much for sharing & I do hope you deal with your ADHD positively & overcome it’s negativity ❤
Thank you. My nephew had ADHDA and a weak heart. He simply over worked. Constantly working through the night. He died at a young age of a heart attack leaving a 4 year old and a 7 year old and a very grieving wife and parents behind. He was my favourite nephew. So, I thank you for speaking about AdHDA. It may save a life.
Ollie everyone’s brain works differently . I was a leftie converted from right handed and found difficult to convert and reversed things but learned I had such compassion for others . I could anticipate others needs as a Nurse of those critically ill. 30 yers in I used my god given talent for the better .
I don't have ADHD but as I am a retired nurse and much older than you, I have in the last 6years returned to 'back to basics' putting my needs first and only using my phone, emails facebook and Y tube etc for a certain time length only each day and returned to reading a book and doing art as in painting, drawing and craft work which I love. I found this so much more rewarding than being at everyones beck and call 24/7, be it family members or friends. You are working and niw it seems have decided to gain back your 'Me time' which is so wonderful to see. If the medication has worked for you then go for it Ollie, do what is best for you and everyone else in your family will benefit. Well done, sp proud of you 💕🇦🇺
Just knowing and having the right tools is half the battle! Wishing you success! 🎉
I'm a retired middle school teacher and taught many ADHD children through the years. Many parents did not want to medicate their children. I understand that. However, I saw the huge difference it made on the children who were medicated in their self esteem mainly. They were more successful both academically and in life
They got into trouble less. SO MANY whose parents finally relented in high school or college for them to receive the medication were angry that they had to suffer through so many years trying to manage on their own. All of them asked their parents why they waited so long. People who don't understand ADHD often accuse parents and teachers of not wanting to discipline or understand children and just want to drug them for peace and quiet. I truly don't believe a single parent or teacher I've known feels that way. The struggle is real. ADHD people and their loved ones know there's a problem or an issue. They want to be good. They want to please and be successful. It often broke my heart. Hats off to you, Ollie, for seeking answers, for taking corrective steps, and for sharing. People think it's a young child problem, but it's with you forever. Lord knows hiw many people you may have helped with your message! 🎉❤🤗
How fabulous. My career involved working with many youngsters with ADHD, ADD and Autism. Having a diagnosis was such a relief for both the child, parents and siblings. Unfortunately lately in Scotland the drugs for such children have been scarce…meaning it’s a nightmare for the families and school. Nature and nurture also play a part in managing ADHD. Unfortunately some kids don’t have the benefit of a structured upbringing which doesn’t help. Ollie, you look wonderful, you are a lovely chap, you deserve to feel happy.
Thank you Ollie. I am 46 & am fasting the possibility I have ADHD. You have inspired me to just go to the doctors and get checked. Thank you
I have adult adhd as well. Just yesterday i went to a friends house with some other friends with our dogs and the 3 other ladies were all sitting on the couch. Not me, up and playing with the dogs to the point they had to tell me to sit down. My book club book was on Wednesday and i didn’t start it until Sunday. I obviously need to go on meds! Oliver I’m so proud of you!
You are so brave, Ollie! My husband and daughter had ADHD. There seems to be a strong genetic link. You are now consciously able to recognize ADHD tendencies in your children. Take care of yourself! We love sharing your journey but nothing is more important than life! If TH-cam is stressful, let it go or only share as you are able. We can wait! Sending hugs and prayers to you and your family. Life is too short to waste a day!
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I discovered I had ADHD late in life,, it shook me to the core,,, good for you,, to reach out for help , and a blessing you have your family,,,, take care and keep well
Relatively speaking you’ve lived a long time without knowing what was going on. I guess we all think everybody is like that. But how wonderful that your meds are “lifting the fog” as you put it! Hats off to you Ollie, for having the courage to see the doctor.
Ollie I’m so glad you have found a solution that helps with your ADHD, You are a lovely man sending love from Canada ❤
I understand exactly!
Are you exercising? Are you exercising?
I am kinesthetic. When I couldn't write a coherent sentence, treading water in the pool, one hour, I created a paper in my mind, so complete, I wrote it instantly for an A grade.
If I don't sleep, or drink water, I decline.
Staying on my feet, I do quite better.
Well done you and well done Camilla. Brilliant that you've talked about it. ❤
I completely relate to this!! I was diagnosed late last year in my late 50's after years of struggle and not understanding why I was so damn good at procrastination and not being able to keep my focus on anything for long (or hyper focusing on some things). It never even occurred to me that I might have it, until my daughter who was in university took a psych course and afterwards called me to say, "Mum, you have ALL the signs of ADHD!" Now in treatment and things are turning around. I wish us both well. I have every faith that you will have great success in your treatment and many many happy paintings to come.
Oliver, Diagnosis is information. Information is power. It's a hurdle accepting that something isn't right with yourself. That leap can seem impossible. I'm glad you acted on your worry. I'm glad you took the time to find out. You sound quite positive now.
I'm so glad you took the time to recognize that something wasn't right and went through the tests to figure it all out. It doesn't make it go away but knowing you have it means you can learn how to cope and I'm also so glad your medication helped so dramatically.
You should know that you probably helped dozens, maybe 100s of people with this post. I am always so touched by people who are frank about their situations. All of us have challenges. You are brave enough to articulate it, seek help, and remain positive that you are working towards a better life. Congratulations.
I think having something that has a name somehow a huge relief. Suddenly the WHY of your issues fall into place. You’re not nuts, you are Neuro divergent - do you have a superpower, but one that comes with its own sets of kryptonite.
Love you, Ollie! You got this. 💖🌟
I. So impressed with you talking about your journey. Thank you for saying it's okay and to not be ashamed
You can tell with the tone of your voice how relieved you are yet excited to talk about this . As a nurse I hear many stories of late diagnosis and how lives are turned around well done Ollie x
Thank you for sharing. There are so many people who are not dealing with these type of issues out of fear and I hope some will see your video and take action. We all deserve to live our best lives.
I wasn't diagnosed until my 40s and only because I had a very attentive doctor. There are many who suffer in silence for years, lead their lives halfway "successfully". But the efforts and doubts/fears, often not seen even by very close people. I've never talked about the fact that it's not possible for me to read through books or structured according to a working manual. What you can see in Ollie is the restless hands - that's often the case with ADHD sufferers. But it doesn't have to be - there are not only those who are restless on the outside, but those who never switch off on the inside. Always under tension. In any case, I wish ollie that it continues to develop so well
That was done so beautifully and spoken so eloquently! Thank you for sharing. Love ya Ollie!
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Ollie, this brought me to tears, both happy and sad, for so many reasons. I went through the hardest year of my life last year helping my 14-year-old daughter to get diagnosed and treated for ADHD and mental health issues brought on by her brain’s struggle, and a lot of your story resonates so strongly with what we’ve been through. Seeing how she has suffered even in her short life so far makes my heart absolutely break for you that you lived with this without knowing for so long, and the emotional point it drove you to. Yet I was also then tearing up with happiness that you’ve finally gotten the diagnosis and treatment you need, and that you seem so light and happy. Good on you, mate! Proud of you and happy for you. And thank you, thank you for such an open, honest, and beautiful discussion of the topic. Truly it is so important for all of us to share these experiences and know we are not alone. Thank you, Ollie!
“Knowing” Camilla as I do, from afar, through your vlogs, I am sure she does not want to center herself in this narrative. But these journeys are also EXTREMELY difficult for the people who love and support the undiagnosed and the struggling. I’m sure she’s had to shoulder many burdens that she wouldn’t have had to otherwise, and it’s very painful and very scary to watch a loved one struggle so. So just want to say, Camilla, I see you! Thank you for all you have done and still do for Ollie and I feel for your suffering, too. I hope you are now having some relief and optimism for the future! We’d love to hear the story from your perspective, too, and hear what you’ve been through, if you want to share.
Appreciate you both! Every blessing.
A beautiful tribute to those who live with partners and children who have ADHD . They are definitely the silent ‘wind beneath the wings ‘ of their loved ones & invariably do the double & triple duty shifts ensuring the family unit stays on course. Camilla is extraordinary and dear Ollie is very blessed to have the love and support of such an intelligent and capable partner .
Your own story is testament to the old Chinese saying “ women ( esp mothers ) hold up half the sky . The heavy half “ . Look after yourself xx
Thank so much for sharing this. I am 65 and have started to think that I may be suffering from early dementia but a part of me wonders if it is indeed ADHD and that my addiction to my phone might be some of the problem. During Covid, I started to follow so many TH-cam channels and now I can’t seem to stop looking at my phone. The timer idea is brilliant. I’m going to try to use it. And I might look for that book. Thanks again.
I thought same about dementia but it was ADHD - I'm recently diagnosed in my 50's. Hormones can negatively impact ADHD.
I am so glad you shared your experience and I wish you the best going forward. I was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder in my 40’s. There is a lot of overlap between ADHD and ASD. I understand the feeling of relief and sadness at the same time.
I was fortunate to be able to spend a couple weeks and Chateau de Laland last year. I think many people who attracted to it are neurodiverse, and I love seeing a place where our quirks are not only accepted, but celebrated. I don’t know what it is about Stephanie, but I do think there is something about her puts neurodivergent people at ease.
Ollie thank you for sharing. I suffered from all the things you mention but eventually had a complete breakdown. I was so overwhelmed with so many things. I liken my problem to a jigsaw puzzle that had been thrown up in the air and landed on the floor in hundreds of pieces. Pieces of my brain that I recognised individually but I could not piece together. I was made redundant from my job with all the extra stress that that brings with it.
Its been a really rough few years since then but now at 67 my financial situation has improved but I have developed a learned helplessness. The need to control all aspects of my life is getting worse. My mind wants to do so much. Its so active its exhausting!!
But I feel paralysed to act and I end up doing nothing.
Your video today has made me realise that if someone like you can be suffering like you were then its not just me being a lazy lump but maybe I too need to reach out for help. Thank you xx
Welcome to my world! Yup I have it and have had it my entire life. Unless you do live with it, many could never imagine what it's like to live with. My entire life teachers, my parents and others would call me stupid, yell at me to pay attention, concentrate, focus ... It has never been easy. Someone would always be frustrated with me. It wasn't until I found my passion and taught myself to keep notes, learn memory skills and find what helps me to "learn", then things got better. The bright side is, I too am very creative which gave me an outlet and a way to calm and relax and reduce anxiety. I remember as a kid just staring out the window and I felt like I was outside of my body, with no one around me and nothing was happening. Then all of a sudden I'd "snap out of it" and realize an entire day or a time frame has been entirely lost. Alongside this I had Alice in Wonderland syndrome badly as a kid, but has since mostly disappeared, which is linked to migraines which I do have. They are now finding that there may be a correlation to ADHD. I am also very intuitive and a very strong empath, again such things can all be linked together in some manner, not for all but for some. No one ever knew what these things were when I was a child so I was labeled as a "bad kid" or "stupid". I just thank god I never took any of that too personally, nor internalized it. Mostly because I always went forward, I didn't focus on anyone, or anything people would say. So in that case ADHD kind of saved me in a way. I knew I was happy and smart. I could do or would do anything I put my mind to do. It gets better just knowing why you do the things you do and yup "some" meds help.
Your life Ollie is going to be so much happier and of course also for the rest of your family.
Have missed you all and hoping to see a lot more of you in the future.
My kids all have HDHD and I can really relate to your experience. Each child had different primary symptoms, one definitely experienced the hyper focusing, another was exceptionally physically, and the other had the opposite of hyper focus in that she struggled to engage in a task,and they all struggled to maintain interest at times.
Great that you are dealing with this as an adult and aren’t fighting the recommendation for medication. This is a huge step in accepting your illness. What’s the alternative…leeches? I know a woman with ADHD who had to be riding her exercise bike, while listening to music in order to have sufficient focus just to read a book.
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You are a star. Hugs to you and your lovely family.
In your corner Ollie! My daughter was diagnosed as an adult…life changing
I’m so glad you’ve found out what’s been going on and now are getting treatment. It’s wonderful you are sharing your experience! ❤
Thank you for sharing, for many reasons. Explaining your absence of course, but more importantly that you feel comfortable to share with us and to inform and explain more about this conditon. Thank you and welcome back.
I love the little timer and suitcase with chargers in. Bravo Ollie, very brave 🙏
I've always thought you were a good man, Ollie. I'm so glad life is much better for you and dear Camilla. Please take special care. Best always, David
Oh Ollie huge hugs to you - welcome to my world never mind “i could write a book “ i could write a library !
3 out if 4 of my young adult children have adhd - my 23 and 26 year only diagnosed at 20 at uni and now have co morbid mental health issues due to years of nobody listening - my 20 year old was diagnosed at age 9 but even his journey been and still is horrific its a long journey within the uk - medications are a great help - but the diagnosis alone helps you to understand yourself - i had a feeling of great loss esp when my son was diagnosed at age 9 and lost many friends but i guess they were never true friends! Onwards and upwards huge hugs ❤
You sweet sweet man! Thankyou so much for sharing this with us all.
Ollie Ollie what a lovely gentleman you are.........thank you so much for having all that common sense to realise so😢mething wasn't quite right. Many of us are wired differently and I for one will get the book. I'm 84 this year and life has to get easier. Lots of love and thank you so much. Love to Camilla too. Xx
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. There are so many people struggling with ADHD and they don’t even realize they have it. It’s so helpful to get the support needed both in medication as well as systems and tools. I wish you the best as you move forward. Onward and upward Ollie. The best is yet to come!
Thank you for sharing Ollie ❤ I’ve always thought you already knew 😢 With the realisation of having ADHD comes a lot of self-forgiveness, self-acceptance and better self-esteem. I found out 2-3 years ago and my meds for depression and anxiety have decreased so much as a result. I’m more gentle on myself and I’ve stopped trying to meet others expectations of who I should be and tried to just focus on who I actually am and get to know myself. I no longer doubt my sanity on a daily basis, i no longer beat myself up mentally for not being “good enough” for certain people, I’m no longer exhausting myself by trying to be someone else and failing. I still find it hard because 50+ years of incorrect programming is hard to correct but hopefully now I’ll have a few extra years to do so and actually start living my real life. Thank you again for sharing this ❤🙏
I can relate to your symptoms so much, including taking hours to compose emails (even responding to texts is difficult for me). I’m trying the strategies route before trying medication because we are trying to start a family this year. You’re right about the lists, if I don’t write one I wake up with a foggy mind and can’t take out of it what needs to be done that day. Also the hyper focus - if I’m interested in something I can go days on that without food even. Other times even my own breathing can disturb me. Thank you for sharing your diagnosis - in my part of the world any deviation from the norm is looked down upon so it helps to show, especially an adult with a successful career with the same condition.
I am so glad you found some relief in the diagnosis and that the medication is working for you. I have read ADHD 2.0 but I would highly recommend reading the book "Brain Energy" by Christopher M. Palmer, MD.
My husband calls his ADHD his superpower because he's incredibly successful at what he does in part because of it.
I'm so grateful there are people honest like you , not afraid facing your shadows ! and most of all you can help others by telling your story .In this crazy world I do wonder how many of us have survived so far!
I have watched the Magical Modernist Mansion since inception. I have been drawn to its unique and aesthetic content esp. your living in the Catalonian area of Spain. Thank you for sharing your ADHD diagnosis and the amazing improvements you are experiencing now that you know and on a treatment regime. The fluidity of your speech and overall presentation is noticeable. I am thrilled for you!!!
Thank you so much for sharing this so honestly with us.
My son and daughter have been given this same diagnosis recently.
Although high academic achievers, they have struggled with coping with similar problems (and worse) than those you have mentioned. They have also tried to use practical stratagems to help the in their professional life, but finding the correct medication and at the right dose has been a very arduous journey to say the least …
And yet, despite all of its difficulties, I am convinced that ADHD makes you a very special human being, through and through .
Thanks for sharing. So glad you took action and sending positive energy for your healing journey! The complexity and tech distraction of modern life is impacting so many folks, both those with and without ADHD.
Ollie thanks for your video. It will help a lot of people. I was not diagnosed with ADHD until I was in my 50's and I also was very relieved. All these behaviors were 1) not my fault and 2) were treatable. It was as if my whole life up until my diagnosis became instantly crystal clear to me. Don't look back with regrets, be glad the issue is figured out and continue to live your life forward, which is, after all, all we can really do. So glad you went to see the doctor.
I have a sister and my nephew with ADHD. No shame Ollie we are glad you told us. New kitten looks like he grew a little.
I only discovered last week that there was different types for this condition and needed to go to the doctor to seek help. My NHS GP could refer me but they do not have anyone in our region that can diagnose the condition. So I now have to go through the private route.
Everything in this video, you describe, is exactly how I feel and over the last few years it really has gotten worse. Thank you for sharing this.
Congrats on the courage to get a diagnosis.
WOW!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I feel that something has been off for me for many, many years. I was never diagnosed with anything. When I confided in friends years ago, one of them said…well you probably have compensated somehow over the years, why worry about it now. I thought about what she said later and realized I WANT to know because maybe there will be ideas to help me. I also have a relative who may have the same thing….when you said the words “hyper focused”…..he does that. I need to figure this out.
Oliver, I hope and 🙏 that as you go through your days, things become easier as you apply what you’re learning to your daily life.
so happy you got diagnosed hope this changes your life - knowledge is power - thinking something is not right but not knowing what it is and thinking you are the only one going through it is just awful.