The part where you talk about Japanese guys flirting aggressively is so relatable! I went to a club with my friends and random guys kept coming up to me calling me cute and trying to grab my cheeks (on my face lol). In Osaka I went to a club again and some guys were touching my hair and tried to hug me as soon as they started talking to me, and one of them even tried to kiss me! As an American who’s been living in Japan for a while, that was a huge shock for me
I can't stop laughing while watching this. I can't imagine Japanese guys would behave in a very hilarious manner when drunk. 笑笑 I also have no idea that such simple words of appreciation or gratitude would mean so much to them. Thank you for sharing this interesting topic Santi san, it really made my day. 😅😅
Tonight I am in dating school. I’m doing my best dating in Japan and not having luck finding anything serious. So I’m studying hard tonight! Thanks for the content! And yes... grinding is definitely hard flirting. Haha
Bro with the T-Pain references, you are the man. Upload some more videos! I am going to Japan next month and going to bring my best Texas swagger for a trial!
Santiさん、すぐに回答してくれたね。ありがとう〜！😊 It is a bit odd compared to my own culture. If an American did the exact same form of flirting, I'd think he was flattering me or just being nice. Haha, it's hard for me to tell. The way you explained Japanese flirting, it feels more sincere since they don't express their feelings often. I actually only ever liked one guy who lived in Japan and he would say exactly those comments. I didn't think he liked me though, so I wish I knew this before giving up lol. But maybe it wasn't meant to be. 😅 I really appreciate the time you took to make this. I look forward to more content too!
SANTI SAN PLEASE HELP AHHAHA when you described how japanese people flirt at work, i just realized that my coworker (man) was flirting with me. My reaction as Filipina when he said that i really became good at our job (because i am a newbie), I gave him a confused look and in my head i thought he was lying 🤣 but now I kinda like him too, but he seems to be avoiding me now what should I do? 🥺🤣
This wasn't what I was expecting haha To me flirting is mostly complimenting someone to make them notice you but this is definitely another, darker side to flirting and picking up dates or hookups
I keep laughting about your face reaction ほんとに面白い😄i love your character, i really interested about japanese culture because i am living here in japan❤️i wish you would noticed me..🇯🇵🇵🇭
I'm so excited to watch this video because my boyfriend is always flirting with me but I never really know what to say without being awkward or too aggressive
such an interesting video. i recently moved to japan and i am planning to go for new year party to a club thats why i searched about the club culture i Japan and came across this video. Now i will be aware about such people, thanks to you.
I am a European and in my homeland the term: nice is defined as a person who is kind and affectionate to others. So if a Japanese, knowing a bit about the culture of my country, tells me that I am: nice, can I think that he is just giving me a compliment, but he does not see me as a woman, or will it always be a flirt for him?
@@GlendaRammitsu Good morning Santisan. Thank you for your answer. It would be exciting to make friends with a Japanese. But I wonder if it would be possible. I'm worried that my friendship would only be a burden to him. Because what could I offer to a friend who lives thousands of kilometers away from me?
I'd rather get wasted on "something else" than alcohol. The after effect is the worst for alcohol. But hey, personal preference. I think I can't mix with Japanese especially the ones who drink alot. think they can't flirt with me tho because i don't drink hahaha. i prefer to have fun when sober. anyway, I'M GLAD YOU DON'T DRINK Santi-san!
I think the aggression of guys when they are drunk is a release from not being able to relate to girls when they are sober. All that pinned up oppression comes out strongly when their inhibitions are released when drunk. It's very simple logic really. Nota good, but easy to understand.
the only reason why i have googled this is because i am in tokyo since 3 days and i have seen that NO ONE looks at another person! i have been to many countries and i have always seen people flirting, but i cant see it in japan :0
@@japaneseman My question is about something that I think some people, Westerners especially, will hear when they express interest in moving to Japan, usually from other Westerners and rarely Japanese, and that’s “You’ll never be Japanese.” It’s usually meant to disparage the person expressing interest in living in Japan. Obviously, only a crazy person would think they could ever just physically become Japanese by moving to Japan but I think what they mean is “You’ll never be Japanese, not even socially or culturally.” The implication is that you’ll always be “the foreigner”, you’ll never be Japanese. As a born and raised American, this idea is a little foreign to me since I’ve always felt that anyone from anywhere can move to America and be pretty much accepted as socially and culturally American within a decade at most if they really want to, race and politics aside. You can please give your own experience in America. It’s difficult for me to think that in countries like Japan, someone could never be accepted as even socially or culturally Japanese after living there for a long time and adapting perfectly to the culture. I’ve asked Japanese people about this and they usually just say something like “I think it’s the language” or “I think it’s the social norms” (like the type you’ve described in your videos). But that still feels a bit like dodging the question. So I guess my question is: Is it true that no matter what, foreigners will always be merely foreigners in Japan and will never be Japanese or is that something that falsely circulates among bitter Westerners with an axe to grind? Ultimately, I think it’s not so important for people wanting to live in Japan but it would be a lie to say that those who hear it don’t think about it, I think. Thanks in advance if you answer this question.
Great video. I think you could be flirting if you say "your hair looks cute" in the US as well, it depends on how you compliment. Flirting is a little more subtle and entertaining than talking an dancing. It's more like showing interest and putting meaning in what you do with a woman, creating a good vibe/connection. Teasing, as in joking or critizing in a playful manner, is considered flirting, and in this case there should be a high level of context (smiling, laughing, eye contact, and making light physical contact if/when appropriate). But flirting in short and in my opinion, implies being playful and showing interest in a romantic way at least in the Americas.
You are great! Thanks for clarufying these things because Ive been to Japan so many times and I never understood the behaviour of men. I think Japanese men are great but it was hard for me to find out if they were really genuine or under some kind of pills.
I never thought I would come back to this video AGAIN until I have been talking to one of colleagues from Tokyo who moved to Singapore for the work. BTW I will move to Singapore soon for the relocation as well so I will meet him very soon.🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶
What you advised in the video seems like I was flirting with the coworker oh my god all I wanted to do is just asking about the details when moving to a new city…..😰😰😰😰😰
If I need a reason to flirt I'd rather ask "Do you like this song, too?" or "Do you know a good restaurant?" or something like that. It's not really flirting yet, but maybe you can get to know each others after a while. At least I guess that's better than just touching boobs or saying "hey, you're hot".
Hi Santi-san,I hope you are having a good day! I just got interested after i watched a video where a JP "idol" girl shaved her hair as an apology after the public found out that she was dating secretly.I just may ask if does an "Idol" in japan that strict when it comes to dating? btw i love your channel 🤍
My man who is Japanese on the very first day straight up told me I could do whatever I want to him. Since that day I do . Took him half a year and he was like go big or go home. Lol
hey, since there's no proper way to say 'you' in japanese, how does one even compliment a stranger? like you see a girl near the bar and want to say something like 'I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi' how would you say it without knowing her name?
I love you because you so direct. Japanese To make eye contact is also flirt too?? I don’t get it !! Sometimes I miss some words when think in japanese.🤦♀️ Santi you need know Brasilian slang (SALVE) 🤟✌️. like .. what’s up ,hi, Shout out. 🇧🇷 SALVE SANTI ✌🏼.
To be honest, as a westerner clubbing is just as terrible here. Bottom line is just stay away from clubs you won't meet nice people of either gender there.
From my experience, Japanese men don't flirt 🙈it is very scary to be honest. No love bombing, nothing but some are attentive though I have to give them that.
@R LR Ha ha, I have many first hand encounters. It might be too long to share here, but what Santi said about drunk men at pubs and clubs is basically all true so you're just gonna have to take his word for now 😅👍.
Hi Santi san, I just left my office and few days later, my japanese supervisor (who has been working closely with me, text me abt he wants to hire me as his secretary although he knows i am a person more than a secretary). He texted me later after those texts: 'just kidding'. Did he flirt? By being his secretary does that mean being his GF? I am so confused
@@japaneseman he did mention about lunch, but probably with other colleagues. Anyway, two days before I left the office, he got drunk and told us that the next day he wouldn’t come to the office in the morning. He gave me gift, different than what the office colleagues prepared for me. Then, i knew from my team, he said to her that i was so special. Then two days later after i quit, he texted me asking job related question and added he wanted to hire me as his secretary… What does that mean? He left me guessing
Hi Santi. Just wondering if you have an email address? I'm doing research on Japanese romantic culture. Would love to speak with you about it. It is a paid interview :-) thank you so much
A Japanese woman touching a mans butt is that means that this woman is flirting?? I experience it this woman I’ve known for a couple of months. One time she came to me out of nowhere she came from my back then she touch my butt i was shocked 😅 but it’s ok no big deal for me. But i just what to know if she flirting on me?
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Santi-san I think you should teach seminars to Japanese men on how to flirt with women. I really enjoyed this video. 😊
I will!
Off topic but I recently found your channel and enjoy the content. I've always had a fascination with the Japanese culture. New member.
Awesome, thank you!
I love the way you demonstrate a Japanese culture honestly. Haha a nice Japanese vlogger🙌
The part where you talk about Japanese guys flirting aggressively is so relatable! I went to a club with my friends and random guys kept coming up to me calling me cute and trying to grab my cheeks (on my face lol). In Osaka I went to a club again and some guys were touching my hair and tried to hug me as soon as they started talking to me, and one of them even tried to kiss me! As an American who’s been living in Japan for a while, that was a huge shock for me
Sounds like Giraffe in Namba to me. 😂
I can't stop laughing while watching this. I can't imagine Japanese guys would behave in a very hilarious manner when drunk. 笑笑 I also have no idea that such simple words of appreciation or gratitude would mean so much to them. Thank you for sharing this interesting topic Santi san, it really made my day. 😅😅
I agree. I was laughing too. I can’t imagine the Japanese men being drunk and trying to flirt 😂😂😂
Omg! 😂🤣😂🤣😂 This video cracked me up!
Aww Santi San changed his puppy picture. 😊
16:37 🤣🤣🤣the switch on flirting mode Hahaha I can't!
14:35 LOLOLOL. You should do stand-up! 🤣🤣
Tonight I am in dating school. I’m doing my best dating in Japan and not having luck finding anything serious. So I’m studying hard tonight! Thanks for the content!
And yes... grinding is definitely hard flirting. Haha
Does anyone else find Santi's hands and forearms incredibly nice? 😍
Bro with the T-Pain references, you are the man. Upload some more videos! I am going to Japan next month and going to bring my best Texas swagger for a trial!
I got hooked with your content starting from the "high context vs low context culture" video! This is very useful for navigating the 日本人の考え方. 😁
Santiさん、すぐに回答してくれたね。ありがとう〜！😊
It is a bit odd compared to my own culture. If an American did the exact same form of flirting, I'd think he was flattering me or just being nice. Haha, it's hard for me to tell. The way you explained Japanese flirting, it feels more sincere since they don't express their feelings often.
I actually only ever liked one guy who lived in Japan and he would say exactly those comments. I didn't think he liked me though, so I wish I knew this before giving up lol. But maybe it wasn't meant to be. 😅
I really appreciate the time you took to make this. I look forward to more content too!
P.S. I don't go to clubs often but if I feel like it, I'll definitely avoid the one in front of Don Quijote 😆👍
I was cracking up the entire video 😂
The title should The Mr.Hyde of japanese People..lol
SANTI SAN PLEASE HELP AHHAHA when you described how japanese people flirt at work, i just realized that my coworker (man) was flirting with me. My reaction as Filipina when he said that i really became good at our job (because i am a newbie), I gave him a confused look and in my head i thought he was lying 🤣 but now I kinda like him too, but he seems to be avoiding me now what should I do? 🥺🤣
Lol sis he doesn't like you, just plain motivating you at work
I guess you could say yes grinding is flirting 😂
grinding.......I am at a loss for words.......
14:17 this was the funniest thing I’ve seen all day. Please do stand up comedy santi-san omg
Santi be like:
"Wo wo wo wo wodefu*kk is thiss!?"
"Vvvvvvvvery craizeehh"
🤣 omg you're so funny. Your video made my day! Thanks 😊
This wasn't what I was expecting haha
To me flirting is mostly complimenting someone to make them notice you but this is definitely another, darker side to flirting and picking up dates or hookups
Everyone litteraly praising Santi san to do stand up while I'm still stuck screaming at 6:11... 🎶 Let me hold you... 🎶 PERIOD 🤩❤️😎
That's still my jam! 😄
“Come caress my booodyy, you got me going crazyyyy” 🤣🤣🤣 boy got taste!! 😂😂
Flirting is really fun.
Nice choice of singers love them too.
I don’t even try flirting with my native language, not to mention with Japanese language 😂😂😂😂
I keep laughting about your face reaction ほんとに面白い😄i love your character, i really interested about japanese culture because i am living here in japan❤️i wish you would noticed me..🇯🇵🇵🇭
I'm so excited to watch this video because my boyfriend is always flirting with me but I never really know what to say without being awkward or too aggressive
such an interesting video. i recently moved to japan and i am planning to go for new year party to a club thats why i searched about the club culture i Japan and came across this video. Now i will be aware about such people, thanks to you.
I am a European and in my homeland the term: nice is defined as a person who is kind and affectionate to others. So if a Japanese, knowing a bit about the culture of my country, tells me that I am: nice, can I think that he is just giving me a compliment, but he does not see me as a woman, or will it always be a flirt for him?
@@GlendaRammitsu Good morning Santisan. Thank you for your answer. It would be exciting to make friends with a Japanese. But I wonder if it would be possible. I'm worried that my friendship would only be a burden to him. Because what could I offer to a friend who lives thousands of kilometers away from me?
i think flirt caz his mindsed is japanese anyway, but yea its tough one
14:30 LMAOOO
I died laughing! 😂🤣😂
I’m the one who always flirting him lol😂😅
Grinding is “I’m taking you home tonight” in America
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Lol…I really enjoyed ur video Santi san…very big yes because some Japanese guys baka Mitai if drunk in club or isakaya.
I like your sincerity. Thank you!
Learning so much right now 😌
I'd rather get wasted on "something else" than alcohol. The after effect is the worst for alcohol. But hey, personal preference. I think I can't mix with Japanese especially the ones who drink alot. think they can't flirt with me tho because i don't drink hahaha. i prefer to have fun when sober. anyway, I'M GLAD YOU DON'T DRINK Santi-san!
Santi-san ,very interesting videos😁😆 i like it.. you give me another idea😊. i didn't know that kinds of compliment is flirting in japan😂😂. LMAO.
I think the aggression of guys when they are drunk is a release from not being able to relate to girls when they are sober. All that pinned up oppression comes out strongly when their inhibitions are released when drunk. It's very simple logic really. Nota good, but easy to understand.
the only reason why i have googled this is because i am in tokyo since 3 days and i have seen that NO ONE looks at another person! i have been to many countries and i have always seen people flirting, but i cant see it in japan :0
Flirting...
Japanese: Thank you for working hard.
Filipino: Good morning. Wow, you're blooming today.
Hahaha, I loved the Filipino way xD
,😲thats Japanese flirting? Saying thank you?!!!!!!
Your channel is great. Where is the best place to submit questions?
Here
@@japaneseman My question is about something that I think some people, Westerners especially, will hear when they express interest in moving to Japan, usually from other Westerners and rarely Japanese, and that’s “You’ll never be Japanese.” It’s usually meant to disparage the person expressing interest in living in Japan. Obviously, only a crazy person would think they could ever just physically become Japanese by moving to Japan but I think what they mean is “You’ll never be Japanese, not even socially or culturally.” The implication is that you’ll always be “the foreigner”, you’ll never be Japanese. As a born and raised American, this idea is a little foreign to me since I’ve always felt that anyone from anywhere can move to America and be pretty much accepted as socially and culturally American within a decade at most if they really want to, race and politics aside. You can please give your own experience in America. It’s difficult for me to think that in countries like Japan, someone could never be accepted as even socially or culturally Japanese after living there for a long time and adapting perfectly to the culture. I’ve asked Japanese people about this and they usually just say something like “I think it’s the language” or “I think it’s the social norms” (like the type you’ve described in your videos). But that still feels a bit like dodging the question. So I guess my question is:
Is it true that no matter what, foreigners will always be merely foreigners in Japan and will never be Japanese or is that something that falsely circulates among bitter Westerners with an axe to grind? Ultimately, I think it’s not so important for people wanting to live in Japan but it would be a lie to say that those who hear it don’t think about it, I think. Thanks in advance if you answer this question.
Great video. I think you could be flirting if you say "your hair looks cute" in the US as well, it depends on how you compliment. Flirting is a little more subtle and entertaining than talking an dancing. It's more like showing interest and putting meaning in what you do with a woman, creating a good vibe/connection.
Teasing, as in joking or critizing in a playful manner, is considered flirting, and in this case there should be a high level of context (smiling, laughing, eye contact, and making light physical contact if/when appropriate). But flirting in short and in my opinion, implies being playful and showing interest in a romantic way at least in the Americas.
だね！俺もNY時代に沢山学んだぜ😁
You are great! Thanks for clarufying these things because Ive been to Japan so many times and I never understood the behaviour of men. I think Japanese men are great but it was hard for me to find out if they were really genuine or under some kind of pills.
I never thought I would come back to this video AGAIN until I have been talking to one of colleagues from Tokyo who moved to Singapore for the work. BTW I will move to Singapore soon for the relocation as well so I will meet him very soon.🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶🥶
What you advised in the video seems like I was flirting with the coworker oh my god all I wanted to do is just asking about the details when moving to a new city…..😰😰😰😰😰
😅 i love your introduction speech 😆🤭
You should do a video on which clubs are good in Tokyo!!!
I really want to but i have some stalkers so i dont want to drop a hint for them... but just not near donqi ho te in roppongi lol thats not my speed
If I need a reason to flirt I'd rather ask "Do you like this song, too?" or "Do you know a good restaurant?" or something like that. It's not really flirting yet, but maybe you can get to know each others after a while. At least I guess that's better than just touching boobs or saying "hey, you're hot".
Hi Santi my loves! haha. Can I join your membership even if I'm currently in Philippines?
Yes of course carina!
One time I was told that their heart was hot when I was with them... still wondering what that means 😆
My heart gets hot when you comment
@@TheChilledTiger 😁 hey now!
I always thought it was either flirting or maybe he had heart burn ...
@@wingedstarz probably flirting, I couldn't imagine telling a girl I have heart burn and that being a turn on.
You got my thumb Bro, if I can I will give all my thumbs 😅
Hi Santi-san,I hope you are having a good day! I just got interested after i watched a video where a JP "idol" girl shaved her hair as an apology after the public found out that she was dating secretly.I just may ask if does an "Idol" in japan that strict when it comes to dating?
btw i love your channel 🤍
ok, let me try👍
@6:53 Did you say Buffalo University?
I think indian people are similar as japanese when they want to mean they don't like it
Ayyyyy Kevin little that’s a good song
My man who is Japanese on the very first day straight up told me I could do whatever I want to him. Since that day I do . Took him half a year and he was like go big or go home. Lol
now... that drunk agressive behaviour sounds fun... :D
with my temper they would end up having their drink on top of their heads :D
hey, since there's no proper way to say 'you' in japanese, how does one even compliment a stranger? like you see a girl near the bar and want to say something like 'I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi' how would you say it without knowing her name?
I love you because you so direct.
Japanese To make eye contact is also flirt too?? I don’t get it !!
Sometimes I miss some words when think in japanese.🤦♀️
Santi you need know Brasilian slang
(SALVE) 🤟✌️.
like .. what’s up ,hi, Shout out.
🇧🇷 SALVE SANTI ✌🏼.
🤣🤣Enjoyable
1000000 true!
To be honest, as a westerner clubbing is just as terrible here. Bottom line is just stay away from clubs you won't meet nice people of either gender there.
From my experience, Japanese men don't flirt 🙈it is very scary to be honest. No love bombing, nothing but some are attentive though I have to give them that.
I remember japanese flirt, you are my last sun 😳
....but I always try to be warm and friendly to others, even my professors ~ now I wonder if everyone thought I was like a チャラい売り専 😭 ??
They are camera-conscious.
Ladies...if ur attracted to a Japanese guy drunk him, and he's yours...lol..
From personal experience, trust me, that's not what you want.
@R LR Ha ha, I have many first hand encounters. It might be too long to share here, but what Santi said about drunk men at pubs and clubs is basically all true so you're just gonna have to take his word for now 😅👍.
面白い‼️
In front of what hotel?????? 😳🤨 lol man ...sounds hectic.
Hi Santi san,
I just left my office and few days later, my japanese supervisor (who has been working closely with me, text me abt he wants to hire me as his secretary although he knows i am a person more than a secretary). He texted me later after those texts: 'just kidding'. Did he flirt? By being his secretary does that mean being his GF? I am so confused
hmm idk but he said kidding, so he was kidding I guess? if he flirt, he will ask you out 👍
@@japaneseman he did mention about lunch, but probably with other colleagues. Anyway, two days before I left the office, he got drunk and told us that the next day he wouldn’t come to the office in the morning. He gave me gift, different than what the office colleagues prepared for me. Then, i knew from my team, he said to her that i was so special. Then two days later after i quit, he texted me asking job related question and added he wanted to hire me as his secretary…
What does that mean? He left me guessing
ok, now i feel it is just business, not really romance👍 so, let it go, unless you want it👍 good luck!
@@japaneseman I understand. Thank you, Santi san!
AHAHAHA Kevin little
I have a Japan man interested in me. How do I know if he is serious about me?
I just made a video about it^^ take a look th-cam.com/video/8GAo7PaHw6U/w-d-xo.html
😍😍😍
Hi Santi. Just wondering if you have an email address? I'm doing research on Japanese romantic culture. Would love to speak with you about it. It is a paid interview :-) thank you so much
A Japanese woman touching a mans butt is that means that this woman is flirting?? I experience it this woman I’ve known for a couple of months. One time she came to me out of nowhere she came from my back then she touch my butt i was shocked 😅 but it’s ok no big deal for me. But i just what to know if she flirting on me?
For dogs
You have good I like dogs and I am groomer
in front of donki huh😏
YOU'RE SO OLD, THOSE SONGS ARE OLD. I'm old too.. 😒
なぜ、私が話した日本人は、「自分で考えるよりも、ストレートに聞いてほしい」と言ったのでしょうか。