Things Women Do That Don't Mean She Likes You (But You Think It Does)
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She only talks to you when she needs something. But when she doesn't need anything from you she ignores you.
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So stop replying
Thanks, got a coupla women who occassionally text me, its now obvious that they just want attention when they want it. I will be saying goodbye to them in the new year. New start.
@@oldtymer9106 I've come to realize that if a woman doesn't fill a role, she doesn't have a place in your life. Mother, sister, wife/girlfriend, aunt, boss/manager, etc. This equally applies to women.
@@jimmyjuju A lot of shifting in the way I will look at women in the future going on. Thank you all.
1. She viewed your Instagram story only, no reaction
2. She gave you her Instagram handle
3. She’s nice to you
4. She messaged you to ask for a favor
Thanks 4 the summary. Saved me 10 mins, gotta appreciate that :)
Thanks, this needs to be pinned, female babble might contain nuggets of wisdom at times, but goddamn is it unbearable.
Saved me from a pointless video as I don’t use Instagram or social media really.
All 4 = walk away, she isn't the one.
Thank you for the spark notes versions. Saves me time and let's me know if the video was worth watching or not.
When you STOP thinking or be worried if they like you or not...life becomes easy and stress free.
A smart / MATURED man knows well NOT to give a damn weather girls desire him or no
@@mikhailabdurrachman2443 Agree!
My biggest advice for guys struggling. Either be direct and go after what you want, don't be hurt, or be rude when rejection comes, it's a numbers game. Or focus on yourself and increasing your value, the right girl will come into your life eventually and the best version of yourself will get his chance to meet her
Honestly... what I really want is alpha......
It's not a game. Well, it actually is a game called the stock market. But yes, the only thing that's been on my mind the last 3 months is alpha. That is my goal for the year.
why didnt u accept me school of my dreams ;-;
Best straightforward advice on here. Its OK to acknowledge that things ARE very difficult for most men in the dating market - its important to not immediately blame ourselves for poor results, as long as you know you are putting your best version of yourself forward.
Yeah but when you have a perfect way to reject you but instead choose to ghost you is bullshit. I thought there was a common interest from a younger woman. But when I reached out she straight up ghosted. She could of easily used our age gap as a way to reject me. We had report, a connection a chemistry. So she could of easily used the age gap, but instead to chose the most hurtful way is ghost.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her...
@jay pritchett wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
@jay pritchett Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
You felt the need to post this comment on multiple videos...?
Supreme scam.
Hang in there man have faith
She plays with her hair when she's around you but you found out later it's a habit of hers. She invites you to coffee but you always end up paying for her coffee and only talks about herself.
Only talking about herself is soooo true!
I have autism/I am autistic.
Playing with my hair *is a form of involuntary stimming I have!!!*
No! My involuntary stimming, due to my autism *IS NOT FLIRTING!!!*
A woman once TOLD me to SMELL her hair. Wierdo.
This video is really important for us. We have to learn about different “choosing signals” that women give us. Everyone is different and not everybody likes you or finds you attractive.
"Everyone is different"
And THAT is why ALL dating advice needs to be thrown in the dump like the garbage it is.
@@tailgunner2 Not correct. If everything is a skill, a beginner should have a couple of heuristic ideas to retreat to, basics so to speak, with the intention of at least damage control that can be applied almost everywhere. If we had to throw them to the garbage, teachers wouldn't have a meaning. Someone with experience can do that though because these basics are already internalised.
@@evilherojoseph I apologize in advance. The moment a retort begins with "If", and includes "should" I simply stop reading. These are words used to form opinions. I do not respond well with opinions being used when someone "feels" I'm wrong, therefore I must be wrong.
What is not an opinion:
Everyone is different.
General dating advice is impossible to execute, due to differences.
Do not rely on perceived common traits. Something as simple as a strawberry can be one person's dessert, and another person's death!
"Should be internal" indeed. I'll give your dues, you have quite the imagination. Thank you for replying.
@@tailgunner2 no one knows what you’re talking about, get a grip
@@tailgunner2 Good luck trying to face existence without forming a model/projection of it in your mind beforehand, on which you build upon based on experience.
Seeing the good kind of women that are now attracted to me is a sign of how I’ve grown the past several years.
Love to hear it!
You mean you have money just say it
Sometimes it's an intuitive, gut feeling when you know a girl likes you. Almost like a weird invisible connection, that's kind of hard to explain. But as Courtney says, pay attention to what she does more than anything.
Not all of us are gifted with that level of telepathy.
That "gut feeling" is more often wrong than it is right.
Afterall, "gut feeling" and "fear" is no different than "caution" and "cowardice", how are we supposed to know the difference?
Ime attraction works like this but when a girl really loves/likes you she will hide it like crazy because they are super affraid of rejection.
True!
It all depends on the person.
Sometimes it klicks, sometimes it doesn't...
Different people, different signals...
@@tailgunner2 I mean, I wouldn't say I'm gifted in that. But it has happened before, sometimes it's more obvious than not. I especially notice it when I am not attracted to the girl. That's a good time to also read visual signals instead of just going off instinct.
At least for me the signal is either positive or negative. If she displays open vs closed body language. If she's closer to you in proximity vs distanced from you.
What I learned from this video:
How do you know if a girl likes you? Assume she doesn't and that she's just using you to get ahead in life. What a great confirmation.
Did u watch the whole vid?
I’ve always found that when a woman has liked me, I just knew it. It was really obvious. But I haven’t dated in 10 years as of this month. And unless I find the absolute perfect woman, and I’m super picky now because I love being single, I probably won’t date for at least 3 years when my daughter turns 18. I’d rather not be tempted to spend time with a woman when I can spend my free time with my daughter. Who knows though I have a hard time picturing myself in a relationship now because I love being single so much, and I don’t mess around with women either, so maybe I’ll just stay single.
These things I’ve experienced prior to this video. Unfortunately us guys tunnel vision when our crush does these things but our friends see it. When they say something we tend to brush it off until we get crushed by the hard truth. Dating for people on the autism spectrum and have Asperger’s is a struggle but isn’t impossible. Just gotta be patient and consistent
Well your first point sure has me cracking up. Yes you have a follower, not a secret admirer. 100% accurate
Hahaha 😅
Yep, if she didn't like your IG story/comment/ask an intriguing question about your IG story then she's not interested. I learned this.
@@shermanngjazz yeah when she doesn't want to publicly comment on your post but send your post to your DMs and then gives you her comments and the conversation never stops, you can tell she wants your attention but she doesn't want all of these side viewers coming in and flooding her inbox because oh my God I saw a girl online
No time for mind games. I generally tell women straight up that they aren't worth it and walk away if I feel like I'm being strung along.
The key to this is to focus on yourself instead of them, then you will have way more than one showing you attention.
I have been with women who don’t show me much social media attention and unable to get with ones that have shown a lot of attention so one thing does not always lead to the other.
You don’t have to speculate, it will be easy to tell if she really likes you when she wants to meet you without a condition other than getting closer to you.
I’m glad you mentioned Autism Having disabilities can be difficult with Social life
As someone with Asperger’s I agree! God bless my friend!
I'm so used to women not liking me, even by chance she that she really does. My brain always makes the assumption that she doesn't.
When the chads / tyrones don't wanna deal with them no more, those washed up hot girls who overlooked you back then Will send you the "hey big head" text 😏
@@mikhailabdurrachman2443 Skin tone is irrelevant.
Yep I’m so used to getting next to no attention from females so when one does it makes me immediately think she’s interested. But I have to see at least 5 sign’s before I’ll allow myself to feel she’s interested. Even then in every instance it was fake interest.
@mikey it's NEVER about skin tone. It's about FEELING. They ONLY wanna date you if they can no longer attract the type of guys They DESIRE
@@mikhailabdurrachman2443 "blocked 'big head'"
"If someone likes you, YOU WILL KNOW" is such a huge thing. I'm over 30 and that was my last addition to the list of things that HAVE to happen, to make relationships work.
There are a lot of PUAs telling people tricks to make someone "fall for you even if they rejected you/didn't like you at first". This is how you get someone to maybe sleep with you, or be with you for 2 months and shamelessly jump on one of your friends later on. I've seen both men and women drop everything in their life away, just to grab a scrap thrown at them by the person of "their type" and rationalizing every stupid thing they do as something positive.
Example 1: one of my female friends would be with a guy for a few years but there were a few guys, for whom she would lie and cheat just to spend some time with these guys, in false hope, that it would turn into something more... It never did. She'd tell me things like "he told me to go home, and he didn't talk much, he's so mysterious and he probably was worried, because it was late" and I was like "hell no, they didn't care about you, please, get a hint.", but she didn't listen and I kind of walked away for a few months, because I couldn't watch this trainwreck.
Example 2: My guy friend's gf would touch me and tell me VERY "suggestive" things, when he went to the bathroom or to buy another beer, when I've had enough I asked him to walk out and smoke a cig one on one. I told him everything, he wanted to storm back there and tear the place apart, and I told him to just breath in and out, enjoy the cig, think about what he's going to say and then talk to her. 10 min later I'm standing there with him and her, and she's telling him I'm a liar and I made it all up out of jealousy or sth. and he believed her. All I did was tell him, that I've known him for more than 10 years and he can go ahead and live in delusion and see where it gets him. (you can guess what happened later between them)
Be the guy he/she's a little bit obssessed with. If she's not overly enthusiastic about you, even if she continues to date you, it's not going to end well. There's always someone better looking, making more money or just more in tune with her/him, but if you are that special person for them, it won't matter. Some people wonder "why is such a hot girl with such a dorky guy, in a star wars t-shirt, not that tall, overweight etc.". Well, maybe really likes Star Wars or they have something in them (chemistry, feeling comfortable, other million things), which makes her happy about him and no expensive suit, fat bank account or perfect haircut can replace it.
TL;DR: Don't waste your time with someone, who just "likes you a lot". Look for someone who loves YOU. It's far better to be alone, than to live with someone on "stand by" mode. Everyone is different and you'd be surprised how trivial or seemingly insignificant things make other people attracted to you.
This is a fact. They want to make it seem like men have to be damn near perfect to be worthy of love. Men need to start understanding that they bring intrinsic value and they just need to build on it and acknowledge they have it. Take pride in being a man in a society that demonizes you for being one!
"Some people wonder "why is such a hot girl with such a dorky guy, in a star wars t-shirt, not that tall, overweight etc." Well, maybe really likes Star Wars or they have something in them (chemistry, feeling comfortable, other million things), which makes her happy about him...". Wrong. It's the same reason you mentioned above "If she's not overly enthusiastic about you, even if she continues to date you, it's not going to end well." She's most likely not into him at all in 9/10 cases and ready to replace him anytime
Haven’t watched this yet, but: 1. Looked in your direction 2. Served you in a store she works at (her job) 3. Says Hello politely 4. Walked into a room you are in 5. Breathing. 6…… etc. so funny having people think other people like them for no apparent reason.
😂
Look, if she breathes near me, i know for a fact shes looking to be mrs. Pikawarps
@@CourtneyRyan
Woman: exists
Me: She definitely wants to sleep with me
Many years ago, knew a guy who once thought his buddy's girlfriend was into him because her nips got hard when they were chatting. It was like 40 degrees 😂 Yes, we ruthlessly mocked him for years.
@pikawarps5881 oh yeah 100% mate 🤣
Yes! You said it all at the end.
People are what they DO, not what they SAY.
Should they match? Yes, absolutely
Keep it simple guys, if she likes you, you will know. She'll make effort to be around you/talk to you and be available to you, that's it. If she gets distant or becomes hit and miss, just let her go, she either stopped liking you or is playing games
Regardless, don’t ever get married.
Big props for mentioning autism and poor nonverbal communication recognition. Your content really stands out and it shows that you care about actually helping your audience.
Thank you so much for being kind 🥹 I care deeply and reading comments like this make me smile. I appreciate it!
Ohh don't be so naive, she reads the comments mentioning how she nevers mentions autism or disabled men, mentions them once and then guys like you think shes some great advocate for struggling below average men when really she sits laughing at her micropenis body shaming bullshit, driving massive portions of these men to worsened mental illness.
Helping her audienfe ufck off
@LTS 69 Yeah. What a bunch of losers, amirite?
Autism can be reversed to a large extent. I have reversed mine by 50%. On rare occasions, some days it is fully reversed 100%, and I go from awkward to be the life of the party and seduce the hottest women easily. Those days are limited though. However this has showed me you can reverse your autism.
Mad respect to Courtney for mentioning autism in this video. 👏🏻 I’m on the spectrum myself and I’ve always struggled with these things. Being human is tough sometimes lol but I really appreciate the advice! 🙌🏻💯
@Adam Black Edition - What are you talking about? I was literally diagnosed with ‘Aspergers’ in 2009. 🙃
Autism can be cured. I have healed my high functioning autism by 50%. Went from being extremely awkward to be able to have a few women interested in me, although they aren't hot lol. So no excuses. Still a work in progress. Glory to God.
@@chiragrulze Not cured, but you can learn how to handle certain situations better. Glory to Lord Vader.
@@asmurk1276 I know it can be pretty much fully cured. I know because I have radically improved mine, infact I have had days where I show literally no signs of autism, where I can socialise in a group, be the life of the party, make everyone laugh, even charm and seduce most women including hot women very easily. However such days are short lived, and most days I am not capable to do that. This shows me it is possible. You just have to get your hormones and neurotransmitters in balance and heal the brain. That's what I've been doing. So autism is not an excuse to not get hot women. God has given every man the ability and potential to make his life however he wants it.
@@chiragrulze part of your brain is larger than normal peoples you can’t cure yourself. You have advantages others don’t your smarter than most people off the rip. Plus you can really add mystery to your angle by just being you because you’ll do stuff and answer questions differently than others. It’s all about knowing how to play your cards.
My bigger problem was not being more responsive to the obvious signs that a woman was interested. There was a period in my life when women were throwing themselves at me, but I was too incredulous to believe they were interested. I was saying to myself, "why is she saying or doing that? Is she crazy?" I turned away a lot of good women, and wasted my time chasing a lot of bad women.
That really comes down to self esteem and confidence. Were you subconsciously setting yourself up to fail?
Ugh! Guys! STOP GUESSING what women are thinking. Grow a pair and do not text her, CALL HER and ask her out on a date! Make it clear to her IT'S A DATE! If she likes you she will accept your invitation and if she is not interested in you, she will let you know it!
It's that simple Courtney Ryan! Why the games?
Courtney, this is something I struggle with all my life still to this day. I think this typically happens with me and some of us men because we don’t have a lot of women that like to talk to us whether it’s romantic or even for friendship, and when a woman finally does talk to us it really sticks out to us, and naturally we began to think that the woman likes us as you described.
This is based off of my personal experience, so everybody’s experience might be a slightly different ….
I can almost bet you that you have a scarcity mindset and that's probably what causes you to make all the wrong moves and Chase a girl off. Every guy's been at that point. I look back to mistakes I've made with girls and I can pinpoint every mistake now that I'm older and understand the way things operate. If you meet a girl you're probably desperate to keep her talking to you so you're going to be as nice as possible and you probably even to an extent would let her run you over which is a complete turn off to women and drives them right up and get you friendzoned if you're even lucky to not get dropped completely. You have to treat a girl like you have no problem losing her. That will make her wonder what's going on in your life that maybe you possibly have other women lined up. Seriously I like Courtney Ryan's channel and I think she helps guys out some but he need to go over to the red pill community and really see how female nature really truly is. Good luck to you.
@@prepordietryin9119, I don’t think seriously the scarcity mindset is an issue for me because I was only in that mindset for a short time in my adult years and right now and even when I was a kid Im not in that situation and yet then and now I only a have a few women that even bother to talk or approach me. The ones that do I most definitely talk to them, but for some reason because they seem a lot more kind and friendly than the other women it almost to me seems like they probably like me and a lot of times I would try to ask him out or something, so I don’t end up regretting not even seeing if I had any chances with them.
@Prepordietryin You're right. One thing I disagree about RP though is they seem to believe that you have to be a bad boy to get women. This hasn't been my experience. The most effective thing for me has been just treating women the same way I would a friend. I don't tell her she's pretty or special or anything like that. I don't do special favors. But I am nice to her. Just like I would be with anyone. I just don't chase women. I think that's a lot of mens problem, they chase. It's ironic, there have been times in my life where I legitimately didn't want anything to do with women. Just 100% indifferent towards them. And those were the times when women would chase me the most. I honestly believe that women *want* to be the one who chases a man, regardless of what they say. They want to believe that they won a man over. That's validation for her. But when he chases, her female mind instantly puts that man in a lower category of desirability. Like it was too easy for her.
@Prepordietryin sorry bro but that's absolute bullsh*t. I had situations where women have wanted to be friends with me and I wasn't "trying" to keep the conversation going. The reason why those friendships fizzled out was because I didn't want to advance those friendships myself. I didn't put enough effort. Also, this "scarcity mindset" argument is a fallacy as well because the statistics show that men have less dating options than women do. But that has to do with dating, it has nothing to do with making friendships with women.
You pretty much hit the nail on the head brother
“If she likes you, you will KNOW” EXACTLY! Time to use that higher level Courtney Ryan discernment. No over analyzing, no games! Courtney dropping wisdom and yes...I have been pulling the door open for awhile now not pushing!!
“They will show interest if they are interested in you”. If only this were true. I don’t show my interest to anyone because I assume it will not be reciprocated. I’m sure I’m not the only one.
Interesting video Courtney!
Personally, it doesn’t matter to me anymore because I’ve been hit with a million rejections and overtime I internalized this by thinking nobody likes me. Therefore, I see every interaction at face value. I think it’s helped me a lot and being single forever isn’t the worst thing in world. I’ve discovered that I’m a better person today than I was yesterday and that’s what matters in life!
-Thanks,
-Anthony
Anthony, I have a daughter. There are a few things to pay attention to in a woman. If there's no dad in her life, most girls raised by single moms are damaged. Don't feel sorry for yourself if you felt rejected. My mom's dad dropped dead in front of her a little before she turned 9, she abandoned me to the foster care. She mentioned to me her mom did the same thing. I learned something from my daughter that the dad is her first bond with a man. Whenever that's been severed, she will be damaged. The first thought that crossed my mind with my daughter, I better not betray that bond.
The very reason God punished Adam for turning his back on Eve allowing her to become manipulated by the devil.
I have been doing the same thing Anthony. Courtney has great content though and it would really interesting to see what she has to say about MGTOW
@@bornaghadamzan2223 I don't hate women. It's simple: If I don't find a relationship, then it's fine. I am comfortable being alone.
Taking things at face value is probably wise generally
I can say from experience that Courtney is absolutely right. I have had 2 separate experiences where I was at social dances. I had never met these women before. We basically just made small talk throughout the song we danced to, but as soon as I sat down for a break she was on her way to sit next to me and chat.
Unfortunately, these two women were not what I was looking for in a partner and were not my type. However, it is true that when a woman likes you, you will know. I try to open up and get some other girls at these dances to open up because I might be interested, but they don't reciprocate much. Perhaps my conversation skills could use some work or more likely they aren't that interested, if at all.
Though I will say that sometimes women can be very misleading. I met a girl while walking my dog one day a few months ago. She chatted while we pet my dog and I asked her on a date before parting ways. She said yes and as I was going to hand her my phone to give me her number, she handed me hers. People only hand their physical phone to people they trust. I thought this was a sign that she was pretty interested. It turned out she wasn't that interested because when I called to make plans, she didn't answer and didn't call back. I moved on from that, out of sight out of mind. However, it still rubbed me the wrong way. That was a real mixed signal.
This is why girls can't just be nice and friendly all the time! Don't ask them out just because she talked to you ONCE!
@@driver0s228 That doesn't make sense. What you are implying is unless you run into the same person regularly, then you shouldn't invite them on a date.
That strategy doesn't work, especially if I work from home and do not get out as much as I used to. If I think I could find some connection with someone, I am going to ask them to meet for coffee sometime regardless of how long I've known them.
It isn't the rejection, but the clear unwillingness to say no when you mean no. If you aren't interested then I am not interested either. Don't hand me your phone like you actually want my number.
@@robertholtz769Same thing literally happened to me! Confusing af
@John Foley I did chat with both girls where that happened. I was sitting out for a song to take a break and I had nice conversations with them. I just did not take things further because I want interested in them.
All of these are true, just love yourself and someone will be out there for you.
What IF you are NOT attracted to the people who desire you?
@@mikhailabdurrachman2443
That’s a question I cannot answer my friend
Wrong. You just have a better chance of someone wanting you. Nothing in life is guaranteed
I've been on pretty much every side of this equation, lol.
That is...
1. Wondering if a girl likes me. 🤔
2. Having a girl wondering if I like her. 😎
3. Missing hints that the girl actually does like me. 😖
15 years of marriage and recently divorced, i want a relationship but i'm so disillusioned now. Idk what im trying to say but thank you for the insight Courtney!❤
Take it from someone who has been divorced: I STRONGLY recommend not jumping back into dating too quickly. You gotta give yourself time to mourn, grieve and heal even if you think you don't need to. Those difficult feelings WILL sneak up on you and will put a huge strain on a new relationship. How much time? Well, depends but could be years, was 4 years for me (she cheated) and I'm glad I took that time.
@@thefox47545 well, im much happier without her, it was toxic and now i have peace in my house. Your advice is appreciated and taken into consideration, but i don't wanna pass up the possibility for love, i do miss it
There is no set rule for this. I had checked out of marriage for 7 years. I was in therapy for the last few years, and I was in pretty good shape mentally when it finally ended. However I jumped into dating right away and it was a mistake. I needed time to settle into my new place. I had a multiple month transition relationship with a girl in her 20s during the time I was trying to figure myself out. Also a mistake but a necessary step. After 4 months, I jumped back into dating. There were 3 good possibilities, but one was the woman I had been waiting for. In love with the most drama free woman ever.
@@jarenkiser8050 bro be cool. Take time for yourself by yourself. Bouncing back to dating is a sign of something deeper that you're not happy by yourself. Take a lot of time, don't look for a relationship.
@@eoinMB3949 i feel as tho i love within me and i want to share it with a women who reciprocates, i thought i had that but 15 years, now i know that it was all a lie, manipulation, deception. For a women whose only intent was to keep me under her foot, to hell with her! She effed me over and i want real love!
It is NOT always obvious haha. My last two long term relationships came from times where I was a little confused at the beginning. I had to be a little persistent but they were essentially accepting of my advances which I guess should be obvious...but when you're first starting to see someone there is a little bit of "do they/don't they". If they will make time to go on a date with you or reschedule, green light. If they make excuses or avoid a date, red just move on
Well when you got three girls texting you good morning every single day that's an easy indicator that they like you🙃
Yeah for sure! That’s a very bold sign 😂
Teach us your skills
@@PartheNaan repair&rebuild your mental fortitude then I'll open up free classes 💪
Ok stud
@@drip369 lmao, get a load of this guy
Courtney, you have saved lots of lives with this one. Remember guys you have only one life. Women are not worth messing up that one life. The right one with add to your majestic life not take it away nor take it for granted. Just as there are immature men there are immature women.
Most professionals I work with, female and male, are nice people. Being nice is just hopping over the low bar. I love the part about "if they like you, it's obvious" ... I mean, the whole point of the video initially was that it was not, right?
If she works as cashier, server, bartender, front desk employee she's being paid to be nice. If she's really interested, she'll let you know. Otherwise, just practice being friendly and when you're business is done .. move along
I have asked this question to my female friends, as well as other men: “Why do men think women like them just because they are nice”. One of my female friends told me that there was a study conducted in which men believed if the woman is attractive, they immediately think she likes him. Whereas if the woman was unattractive to them, they just believed she was being nice. That comes across straight up conceded and borderline narcissistic. To think ONLY the good looking girls like you, and that you must be such a catch. It is a level of delusion that is rather impressive as apparently humbling oneself does not exist among men.
Now when given this study and question to men, the answers actually mirror the “delusion” aspect. It is their fantasy, which they want to believe in so much. One man actually used the word fantasy that he builds within his own mind…much like narcissism.
The other one that annoys me is when men think if you don’t maintain eye contact, its because you like them. No, hun, I don’t maintain eye contact because I’d rather look at everything else because you actually make me uncomfortable and I am looking for the closest exit. I never hold eye contact with people very long. Men and women. But I would think the same study concept applies to their delusion of “if its a good looking woman, she likes me”.
Frankly, if I did have interest, it will immediately subside with a mindset like that. Arrogance is not appealing. And NO woman “likes” you if they just met you. They do not KNOW you to like you. Attraction is different than liking.
I'd like to touch on the 1st two points. Courtney just made a great case for people to just get rid of social media. At best its confusing, at worst it's toxic.
This is a treasure trove of great information, Courtney. I'll definitely be going back to this video for reference. I also really appreciate you saying that sometimes it's hard for people to read signs even though they're obvious. My heart was hurt by a girl in high school which made me think I was unlovable, so I missed lots of obvious signs that women liked me just because I was damaged.
U fan of her she is alright cool Gurl for real cool TH-cam Pic man dudeeee!
@@user-ou9ei7oi4h 👍
Very well said
“ When you watch what someone does. instead of what they say. you will see things so much more clearly.”
That's why it's best to ALWAYS assume girls aren't interested in one (as a guy)
I just came across you by accident.
And once again I am so happy within myself,I DONT NEED ANYONE TO MAKE
ME FEEL COMPLETE!!
Men that see all these small things and obsess over it and wonder if this means she likes them, really need to abandon this obsessive simp trait, in a recent video of mine "How To Get A Girlfriend(When You Have Social Anxiety)" I went over this because I use to do it but one time instead of being obsessed, I focused on my art which was poems at the time and I put that emotion into that instead of releasing it outwards and it worked and she became my girlfriend, you're going to scare women away if you act like an obsessive simp
I gotta try this, thank you.
Will check it out thank you
@@tommygunn6901 welcome
Nothing is ever easy, listen not only to what she says, but the way she says it (Is the tone of voice warm and inviting, or is curt and sharp. As the lady says, watch the body language!)
Look, if she's interested she'll make it obvious and you'll know it. Trust your gut, be brave and go for it!👊
If you look like Kevin Costner then she WILL have a degree of interest in you. If you look like Steve Harvey then she definitely don't desire you
I trusted my gut and 9 signs yes 9. And she ghosted.
DO NOT waste a minute on a woman that doesn’t reply to a call or a text. It doesn’t matter if she gave you her number and you didn’t even ask for it. If she doesn’t reply she’s not interested and I would add, she’s also rude and inconsiderate.
Cortney: “if the waitress smiles doesn’t mean she likes you, she just wants a FAT tip”
Guy: “ yeah that’s what I mean Courtney” 😂
And if she has ADD or ADHD you better have those old school clackers because those were fun toys 😉 😉
MONEY TIP! 😂 I’m laughing.
Would you rather be served by non smiling people?
@6’7 BLACK MAN 14 INCH BLACK COCK very measured response
Lol. I was laughing when courtney said it. I was like "yep that's exactly what she wants, if you know what I mean." Anyways, there is a restaurant close by that has a sign that says "please put the tip in, see how it feels" for the tip jar lol
Hi Courtney the one thing I wanna add to the just being nice part, and this was my experience I learned from myself. When you are in school, and a girl says "I Wanna Be Your Friend Because You're My Classmate." She's just being nice. How do I know??? Here's a true story, about 8 years ago, I met a woman in college and she told me the exact same thing. So I went thinking she liked me because she was giving me a lot of attention. Fast forward 7 years later, I ended up not liking her friends because they've either done shady things, say things about me in my face and behind my back, or have been fake with me. When I tried telling her what her friends have done, that woman I was friends with showed no empathy and no remorse started hurting me revealing her true colors. What was crazy was a year later, my cousin told me the same thing you're telling us "Sometimes Women Are Just Nice Just To Be Nice, They're Are Not Nice To You Cause They Like You." When my cousin said that and think back why my former friend that woman wanted to be my friend. That's when I put 2 and 2 together. My point...
If a woman wants to be your friend just because of class, that's a red flag. She's just judging you based on a class, she's not judging you as a person. By person meaning they're not liking your values or you.
Edit: I have Autism Spectrum and ADHD too so this helped alot
There was a single girl in my class that when she sent me a FB friend request said, "I'm adding you because you're in my class." Not knowing what that meant I took it as a regular friend request as others in class have also sent requests. We had normal interactions during the semester and at the end she unfriended me, nobody else unfriended me, and she didn't unfriend anyone else. Funny because I never sent her any signs of interest yet it seems she wanted to make sure I didn't have ANY mode to communicate with her anymore. It hurt even though I wasn't interested (she was attractive but I didn't want to date because I only wanted to focus on school). She didn't even want me to be her friend even though I treated her well like I did everyone else. Women are weird.
@@thefox47545 so true. Sometimes it could be hard to read women
at 4:20, Not sure if anyone has picked up but Courtney has become so much more direct, transparent and upfront. I believe we are entering a new chapter of Courtney Ryan, especially with that growing subscriber count. It's great and it's adding a flair of comedy to her videos. Keep up the amazing work you're doing for your audience.
Yea she caught me off guard when she said that but I appreciated her honesty.
I've had lots of most/girls not make it obvious. I made a move and they said, "yeah, I liked you!"...women think it is obvious, but no, it isn't
Courtney, please consider covering this topic: text messaging today’s dating women. I am a bit older, and I enjoy flirting with women in person and I’m good at it, but over text it can sound a bit cringe. From there it only gets worse i.e. sounds needy, then it just stagnates to who will holdout to reply next, first, last, whatever.
I have noticed that some ladies reply strictly from their watch and my text are responded to with a string of emojis, while other ladies read the text on their wrist or phone and reply appropriately.
I think this is a valid TH-cam subject for you to look into and deliver some insight. A lady friend of mine once told me in confidence that she agreed to meet up with someone over a dating app, but before they could actually meet, she was done with this guy because he was too pushy, or needy, or vulgar or whatever.
Guilty.
Guys and their complete sentences, spelling and punctuation… also guilty.
Ladies with just an expression: Yikes
I’m not sure if you covered this before.
Thanks!
Im a 43 yr old male and this video is perfect timing Courtney as theres a cute waitress at the restaurant/bar I work at and lately weve been talking and she asked for my number because she said she needed the windows tinted in her car (I have a business and work at the bar part time) but the day after, she said she wouldnt have the money for a while but then she starts texting me late after work and the day after I was sick at work to tell me "I hope you feel better". She also constantly is asking me if I need help at work and complementing me. Problem is she took really long to text back a couple times and once not til the next day and I havnt heard from her since monday night when we worked together so Im starting to think she isnt interested. I dont wanna keep texting her and she hasnt really asked me many questions either. Thanks for what you do Courtney. Its been helping me lately. Take care
You're 43. If you want a date ask for one. This type of texting is for high school kids.
@@MikeyP109 I barely know her. I'm trying to get to know her while we're at work. This hasn't even been going on very long. I'm not scared to ask a girl out
Just to add a woman’s perspective in addition to Courtney’s as well - even in an unlikely scenario where a girl DOES like you, but maybe isn’t showing it in a way that you’re picking up on… this is a huge indicator that in the future there may be some massive communication problems/differences in love language/attachment styles. I think of it in the same vein of “if you’re already fighting two weeks into a relationship (which should be the honeymoon phase), it doesn’t bode well for the next 20 years”. If you already have issues establishing mutual interest and attraction in the beginning, that really isn’t a great foundation for a relationship.
🙌🏼 this!
Key words “unlikely scenario”
When people want something, they usually find a way to make it happen, especially for trivial tasks. If they don't want it to happen, or something else in their life is higher priority, then they do something else... or make excuses.
Women have the annoying habit of playing games. They say Yes, when they mean No, say No when they mean Yes. Or... No can mean, Not here, Not right now, or Just Not With You.
Men are left to figure it all out, and are often excoriated when they get it wrong. If most women were a great prize, then that might be OK. Most aren't, though. Combine that with the punitive nature of modern marriage, especially for the ever-increasing number of divorces, and many men are Noping the f*ck out of the whole deal.
Women have a lot of work to do if they want to win quality men back, and I don't see that happening any time soon. I worry for the future of Western society. There will be big changes on the horizon, and I really don't believe all of them will be pleasant, for men OR for women. But, so it goes... 🙄
The favor one in my experience usually means she doesn't. I've noticed when she does like you, she will probably be hesitant or shy in asking but obviously has no issue asking a dude she has no attraction for. She also probably knows he will do anything to please her and takes advantage of him.
After the years of dating and then too many years of marriage, I can say with certainty that when a girl wants to spend a lot of time you, shows interest, etc., it doesn't necessarily mean they like you either. It just means that they want something that will consume way more of your time and resources than you will wish you had spent. In comparison, the friendly stripper, the kind waitress, and the friends, who occasionally need help moving a heavy piece of furniture, might not seem like such a bad deal.
Lol...say what you will about hookers & strippers, but at least you KNOW what they want!
So much good advice. Where was someone like you 50 years ago. So many young men had no one for advice back then.
I don't need a sign, I already know she doesn't like me
Yep from now on anyone that does show interest will be me with high suspicion
This is one of the best dating advice videos i've ever seen ! Making everything clear, simple and easy instead of making everything so unnecessarily complicated !
Great info! I’m married but I find the psychology of attraction really fun to observe. I try to help friends out a lot when it comes to confidence which is of utmost importance. I have a friend that is probably a male 9, yet he is always mopey and sad. Casting so much negativity and sad emotions. No one is ever going to find that attractive. I am a 7 in my opinion, with a good fashion sense and the ability to not curse every 5 seconds like a lot of guys do. Guys need to pay attention to the signals. She is always giving signals. Dating these days is a lot harder on women I think but it’s an interesting time we live in!
Oh and get in the gym guys. Don’t try to get super huge but get lean and dress and smell nice. Muscle comes with time and recovery. Be patient and you will beat the competition. And make it a competition, because it is. With yourself!!
Tricky topic..but very important one. Can save a heart break ! 🤕
Courtney is the big sister we all wish we had. So grateful for Courtney.
“Do ya like me?!!” 😂
This is why I watch your videos during my lunch break @ work. Very helpful, creative & funny!
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If she wants to talk to you, she will. If she doesn't, she will be "too busy/not sure what her schedule is etc"
The problem is she only wanna deal WITH you if she can't get the hot guy she DESIRE
I've been at my gym now for nearly two years. I noticed a girl there when I started who I thought was attractive (a 9 for sure and I'm picky) but pretty much left it at that and didn't really notice her much after. After 6 months she accidentally (or maybe "accidentally") cut me off saying sorry to which I replied no worries. From that moment my attention towards her grew significantly. I've probably got 20 years on her (although I look no more than 10 years older) so trying anything was out of the question for me, although I couldn't help thinking "what if"? Anyway I had pretty much resided to the fact that it would never be, and then about 3 months ago she walked over to where I was sitting (resting in between sets) and stood not much more than a meter from me in front of the cable machine I was using looking like she was about to use it while looking at her phone for a good twenty seconds (just standing there in all her glory!), fully knowing that I was using it because she walked a direct line to me for about 30 meters and saw me use it on her way arriving just after I had finished! She then looked at me and asked if I was using it to which I replied yes I am. She then said she would use the one next to it (it was one of those two cable set ups and I was only using one of them). We both did our sets, again not more than a meter apart. I only saw her once after that and I figure she's left the gym. Am I reading too much into it to think that she might have been trying to get my attention to start a conversation and that was a last ditch effort as she knew she was leaving the gym? I'm 50/50 on it. Just curious more than anything as I've already decided I'm not the guy who hits on random women knowing full well that a relationship would never work and a bit of fun would more than likely be the outcome. Plus I'm too busy for a relationship of any kind at this point in my life. I find my general indifference toward women to be somewhat paradoxical because on one hand I'd like to be with a woman yet on the other I know that I need to be single for a while to pursue more pressing aspects of life
You sound just like me bro. I’m not a pessimist or a misery loves company kind of guy so I’ll let you in on something. I had a girl like that too at my old gym. She was a amazing redhead. However just to let you know at least from my similar experience, she’s most likely a gym thot and looking for attention. My girl probably left the gym after awhile of this going on and probably so did yours.
It’s cool bro. When one leaves, more arrive.
You're so right. My ex-wife still mostly calls when she needs something (many years later). Wish I had this 5 yes ago.
This tone is what people need. Keep it up!
Hard truths that I don't want to accept fully.
Great post. Some harsh but necessary truth for us guys, we really tend to overestimate potential interest.
Another fantastic video! Thanks Courtney!
It’s a hard slap of reality, but much needed. Thanks!
I feel like she sometimes makes these videos to vent at us and to tell us to "stop thinking with your pants"! I respect that.
I had an elementary school classmate who contacted me out of the blue one day. I thought she wanted to reconnect. All she wanted to do was sell Herbalife.
I hope you sold her on Amway instead. 🤣💀
I've tried for self betterment for 30 years, (unable to change)
I don't think I'm able to carry on self improvement, (pointless)
To add to your last point, one thing my therapist once suggested instead of thinking hey does this girl like me ask yourself if you actually like her. If all you are doing is worrying if someone likes you are you even thinking if you like them and that is an important question to be asking yourself for any gender but especially for men.
Take this a constructive criticism. I am not having a dig at you. You start by saying everyone's experience is different what's obvious to you is not to others. This is true I agree. Later you say if an introverted girl is interested in you, YOU WILL KNOW. Not true. I found out at the END of my time at High School that I was popular enough to have been a player if I wanted instead of the dark brooding thinking guy I was. Other women I find out FROM THEIR FRIENEDS they are interested.
I will admit it gets easier as women get older, they DO get more obvious but there is a period of time where the good guys not wanting to be creepy haven't got a shot in hell of knowing where they stand. This can destroy confidence and reduce experience. If you are handsome, you can flirt and joke and if they laugh even if you aren't funny, that's probably the only reliable indicator you have. The older high quality women are all in relationships. By the time some guys know the rules and orient themselves to get into dating, the game is over.
I have met too many men thinking a women being polite to them is a woman hitting on them. So they push until she is just either scared or pissed off and will later say she was a crazy girl.
It's annoying to have to insult or scream at a man to make him go away, they seems to enjoy pissinf off women and thinking their cute angry being. There is no words to discribe how fu**ing annoying, humiliating it is not to be taken seriously. Not all men do that but trust me I've witnessed way too many folks doing that
Love this video. Chuckled a few times at some of your comments,, Courtney.
For me, a woman likes you when she approach you to chat. Ask you for a dance. When seated at a concert she sees you, and comes over to sit by you. When you arrive somewhere, and she she sees you, she will smile and wave when she is able to. She send you a message initially.
It it does not mean she wants to get intimate with you. That is other signals she will send. But when someone asks her for a ride to a busstop, and she replies she will after she has a dance with a good friend of hers and points to you.
That all means she likes you.
my honest opinion: I have yet to come across any of your videos where I have not learned something valuable. I may not always use all the advice, or the opinions you give, but I always come out rethinking how I interact with women, what I should think vs what I think about, how I should act, and so much more. Thank you, Courtney. I find your content extremely valuable!. 😊
Welp, I guess that means no truly available woman has ever liked me genuinely. That's reassuring.
The 3rd Agreement,,don't make assumptions...learned this the hard way over past year.
Every point here is good and sound. If only we'd known all these things when we were young! Energy expended on incompatible or uninterested people; opportunities missed; dysfunctional relationships that went on too long - we've all known these things. A friend once got royally upset because his girlfriend left him for a guy who was nice, but who had BO. His pain was unmissable, but he had to just let it go and stop ruminating. When he did, he met someone perfect for him and vice versa.
I'm so bad at reading signs from women, it's gotten to the point that the only time I'll assume she wants to have sex with me is if she actually says, "Hey!......wanna have sex with me?" (and even then, it's not a given)
I would have to agree. You know when someone is attracted to you. If you have to ask yourself if she is attracted to you, then most likely she's not.
Once again I came across you by accident,but I need no one to make me
feel happy and complete
This video reminds me of the time when I thought a women was into me because she was super friendly, gave me LONG hugs, sat on my lap, told me how great I looked. Then, I look over and she is saying the exact same thing to a 70 year old guy :D
Most men need to know how to spin plates, also if you have mutual people incommon, if she friendzones or is only nice to you talk to her female friends.
Easy solution. Assume every woman is not, I repeat not interested in you.
If they're interested in you, they'll have to make it apparent.
Personally, I'm polite but ignore them for the most part. The ones that actually want my attention will get in an obvious way.
5:01 she messed you for a favor. My mother would do this. More and more of us are growing up with single mothers. Look at how she acts and not what she said.
Some of y’all out there are pushing a door that says “pull”
A coworker of mine said that another coworker has a crush on me and that it's "so obvious" but I have seen no signs at all.
There was a girl who was my classmate in acting school. At first she wanted me to sit next to her in class. That's how it started. We slowly got to know each other, we went out a few times. It escalated to a point where she said things to me like "I miss you" and "I love you". But when I finally tried to move our relationship to the next level, she was like: well, she only thought of me as a friend... I pretty much don't believe in signs anymore. :D
Okay, now that one is weird.
I agree with you totally. I was married twice. My partners were ok. Before and after the marriages I still could not discover any interesting sign from women. Before means I was in my twenties and after means I am now in my sixties. If they are nice to me I do the same thing back, nothing more and nothing less. I just don't have any expectations from women. They are who they are and I am who i am. The right person???? I would not know who . It is often imagination and Hollywood fairy tales. Don't get me wrong. Someone can surprise me stepping into my life but.... I am not waiting for no one and do my own things I like. I wish for you someone nice comes along.
@@g.j.schreuder7152 Thank you, sir! I wish the best for you, too!
This is clearly geared towards younger men.. I do not do instagram nor will I ever do it . I don't sit and contemplate if a waitress likes me when I go out to eat . I just enjoy my meal . I never really worry much if a girl likes me or not . I am 47 ....not a young spring chicken . I enjoy everyday and just work on myself .
A lot of these questions unfortunately arise because those who are asking are "deprived" of women who genuinely like them. Opportunity for growth
If you ask her out and she responds with "MAYBE we can get together and ______ SOMETIME." If she's being vague like this, she has NO plans to actually see you.
See my problem is that I'm not unattractive but I do have two glaring flaws that put women off being short, and an average earner. So for me I never have problems having a chat and making a girl laugh but I have never been able to determine whether they find me entertaining in the moment or they want me to shoot my shot so I er on the side of caution and don't ever ask any girl out irl cause I don't want the smoke if she rejects me in a way that could effect other aspects of my life. Running the numbers was fine in school but these days it could literally get you jailed if a girl decides you have offended her by thinking you had a chance.
Girls can even say “ Love you”( instead of goodbye)when you’re parting after a time together but it doesn’t mean she loves you ! It’s more a habit that she may say that to people she likes as friends etc. Guys might get confused with these words.
'Only sends a text when she wants or needs something.' I've been going through that for years with the one I have deep feelings for. :(