Best Places To Meet Great Women, What Girls Notice In A Guy & Standing Out In DMs
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 มิ.ย. 2024
- In this video, Hallee and I give you tips on messaging girls online and creating natural conversation in real life and much more! We answer your questions and give advice on the situations you guys have submitted. Thank you to everyone who participated on my Instagram!
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Courtney, dating apps are a waste of time for most guys. A high percentage of women on dating apps are just there for the attention and validation.
Dating apps are "temperature checks" for women
I agree. I just talk to people face to face, including hot women. No games.
Fake profiles. Fake "site agents" to drum up your interest.
@@LA-wv7gf I never ask for someone's Facebook.
I just ask for her phone number. If she wants to give it to me, fine. If she does not want to, this is also fine.
@@LA-wv7gf My question is why are you on Facebook? It is also a pile of BS...
The best way for men to use dating apps is to never use dating apps.
What sets you apart as a man is having the balls to approach women in person in a cool way. That is primal, it will never change.
You mean it is best for men who are below a solid 7/10 in looks and who are not at least 5'11 and can just lie and say they are 6'0..
Using a dating app is like panning for gold in an outhouse.
@@michaelangst6078 women aren’t that judgy over physical attraction. You just have to be slightly taller and be well kept (in shape and well dressed). It’s only an issue if you are a 3-4/10 at your best physique and extremely short.
Women prefer confident guys who are fun to be around
You know it aint black and white. Dating apps or approaching in real life. Internet is definitely not only stupid dating apps. I met interesting women on internet out of dating apps....
@@arthurmorgan2906 Before or after the coronavirus?? I had a decent amount of success from 2017 to 2019 on dating apps and pretty much 0 success last year and this year. I think the average women's standards have increased ten fold because of the virus
As an old guy, all of these things were just the way we did things years ago. I met my wife at a burger joint. What I feel sorry for young people now in days is that it has become much harder for a young man to just chat a girl up because of all the man hating, me too, toxic masculinity crap. I was a very shy young man and if I had to date now in days I would be petrified of the backlash if a woman didn't want me to approach.
B's. Is all femenist Bs. U are lost my man. Don't listen to these girls. These girls wouldn't last with me 5 minutes on a debate
If this is an authentic post, thank you for writing it and putting things into perspective... although some things are better left in the past, sometimes it feels like I'm going crazy having to deal with the dating scene these days and I wish it could be simpler like the old days!
@@erikanderson1720 as an older single guy, it's very authentic
Its not even about that at this point, to be blunt. The reality is that these women all want 10% of men. Most of them are never going to get that 10%. Its never going to happen, but this massive group of women isn't going to settle for the other 90% of men.
You aren't wearing some bougie, fancy outfits or suits and driving a $60k Mercedes (any expensive vehicle will do) and making $100k+ a year, own a home and/or some property? Sorry brother, you just lost the dating game and the marriage game. That's the facts and reality of most modern women. Make enough money and you might stand a chance, doesn't matter how confident you are. Women want resources, it's biologically hardwired into their brains. There is no way around this and since women are earning so much more, their options narrowed because most younger and even men in their 30s aren't making the same and typically far less. They don't want and or are not interested in a man who makes less than them. It is what it is.
OMG join a DOJO & learn to fight. Eat clean. Raise your Testosterone naturally. Go get what you want in life... You don't need to talk to women much in the beginning, just be on your grind chasing excellence in your life, being mysterious is easy & it simply drives women crazy... Genuine humor, Sarcasm, Witty Flirtatious Banter is always fun.
The most recent date I went on with a woman came from me being in Whole Foods, and she definitely "approached" me in the way only women can: she talked out loud about an apple, giving me the open door to initiate a conversation. You can definitely meet women in places like a grocery store, bookstore, Target, or any other places where high quality women may be present. Avoid clubs, bars, and dating apps unless you're that Chad looking guy.
I hear ya - AJ Taylor! …Great tips - by Courtney & Friend!
If a girlfriend is what you’re after, then - you have to go to the places where women are. And one of the best places for that is a yoga class.
You’ll have a much better shot at landing a quality woman - because these women are very much into their bodies looking good, and living a healthy lifestyle.
And not only that, there’s not that much competition, you’re not going to find a lot of guys there.
I’ve dated women I met at yoga classes, and I find them to be the best type of women to date. I could mention how flexible they are - but I won’t! Lol
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
its hard now with everyone wearing masks
Women in clubs, bars, these days are usually of the worst kind, prospectors exploiting common men while chasing the chads
"Grocery store, book store, target" even at these places they only notice you if you're a chad.
You went on a date with a girl that was talking to a fruit.... what
Dating apps put women on a pedestal. My most successful relationships were meeting someone outside these apps.
My fitness centre has a strict rule about not harassing women, clearly stating that men must respect women's space and behave appropriately! It's dangerous to approach women in public for nonprofessional or other than legitimately transactional reasons...
Dating apps are the casino, the house is female. The house always wins.
Thanks for sharing your insights.
men to that reverend!
True, I've also found out that the real gems, the diamonds in the ruff so to say, are not on dating apps but are found in real life.
I was at a bar, dancing with my friends, trying to be respectful of the women around me. Girl beside me bumps into me a few times, so I make sure she's okay, then keep doing my thing. End up chatting with a different girl later in the night and when I ask for her number she goes "aren't you gay, my friend was trying to make a move on you earlier but couldn't get your attention, so she thought you were gay" Apparently bumping into me twice was her way of making a move, noted...
Remember women can’t be overt they fear rejection and their mating strategy is different than a man
Why do you have to be gay because you aren't interested? That's what I would like to know....maybe she was just UAF.
She should've made the move then
I don't blame you for not noticing or understanding what she was doing. 🤣🤦♀️that was a really sad attempt to getting your attention. I wonder if she was shy or drunk?
I would have turned to face you, touch your arm, make full eye contact. Be as Obvious as possible to get your attention. Because It's impossible to ask/talk over music. Just sounds like mouse fighting over loud music 🤣
Bruh 😂 These females are something else. "Maybe instead of just making it clear I want him.....I should bump into him a couple of times and that should do it!" "Theres no way he'll miss the signal and assume I'm just the typical drunk girl at the bar....." LMFAO
#1 ignore most advice including this. #2 delete social media. #3 be patient and look for face to face opportunities.
listen to how disturbed she was at the thought of having to abandon social media to have an LTR she was absolutely mortified by that.
If you're not 100% onboard with her using as many social media accounts as she wants you're the bad guy, downright creepy. You're disqualified already if thats your opinion before you've even spoken to her.
@@Syncrotron9001 , oh well pal. If you want to waste your time with narcisstic young gals who are addicted to their phone and social media you're gonna be deeply disappointed anyhow cuz those girls are shallow and usually play the field anyway.
If you want to find someone with substance deleting all social media and dating apps is a good approach.
I like being present and living in the moment. Social media is trash that brainwashes folks and makes them stupid.
Just slide into her DM's with your C.V, and a five part cover letter about what makes you unique for the role of boyfriend. Citations of specific points of humor and previous references are a must lol
haha i was thinking after there example of messaging is to "say something funny" but didn't have an actual thing funny to say, that dudes are gonna slide in saying "something funny" as there opener.
@@johnsmith-kt7ef I've never had a good opener from a woman yet lol
MLA format?
She still isn't going to read it.
@@mkd3351 Women don't need openers...
Don’t DM women.. don’t give out free attention. Meet women in public and get off the apps.
hard now with covid, people avoiding places and everyone wearing masks
@@kellymulderino7156 You still need to be attractive either way.. a 5/10 looking dude has to have amazing social skills and be able to make random people laugh with ease to have any type of shot at cold approaching random women in public and having it go smoothly
@@michaelangst6078 sadly thats not enough
@@kellymulderino7156 it's been enough for me to have sex with a few quite attractive women though over the years.. It hasn't been enough for me to have anything long lasting with very attractive women though, but to be fair, unless you're like top 2% guy, most very attractive women don't want to settle with even an 8/10 looking dude if he is not willing to spend money on em
App's a snare, public is where you go for the kill. Nothing wrong with furthering one's reach, just don't think just because messages are nice that you know the person.
To the "not dating right now. Will she change her mind?" question - in my experience, if a woman gives you anything short of an enthusiastic "Hell Yeah" then that is a "no". Women are very kind in their "rejection".....but most of us men do not understand what women are saying at that point. You may or may not agree, but this is 100% the case in my experiences.
#truth
Thanks for sharing your insights.
I agree Cary
Women are people too, and they gotta feel something. If you over think it, she'll feel it and next you. Social media has killed being sociable so definitely put the phone away and get comfortable talking to anyone and everyone. Women are people too.
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Exactly, I keep saying that this generation is the worst when it comes to professional communication. Connections can only happen in person not on smartphones.
@Anthony Manzio "Mind you this 35 years old hot tall Russian doctor single mom decided after 20 years later to stalk me" Was she 15 when you met her, or is she 55 now?
@Anthony Manzio everyone's so obsessed with red flags.
@Anthony Manzio There is a wide margin of women who will consider it a red flag if you dont own a smart phone.
I had luck at Barnes and Noble and Starbucks, meeting a woman. I don't go out to pick up on a woman. If I find a woman attractive out of the blue, I'll let her know I like her by giving her the look I'm attracting to her. If she looks back that she's attracted to me, I would invite her over for coffee and she says yes, if it feels right I might ask her out. For some reason this worked for me.
If anyone used this method on me I would have not noticed. When i meet someones eyes i immediatelydart my eyes away. It is not a thing i can control. I seriously wish i wasnt like that. I think i made people think i wasnt interested bc of it
@@olga7193 Practice some eye-contact! It really helps
@@tiktalix3820 Yes, I agree - I suffer from anxiety too and so I need to work consciously on stuff like eye contact. It is doable!
@@olga7193 Try to pay attention next time. He will be smiling at you and like have that spark in his eyes. Not good at explaining this. I think some women do this too but they have a short smile and stare at him a little longer. Men move their eyes more, looking left to right and a smile.
I had some luck at Borders while it was in business.
I'm from another generation, we meet people everywhere, the advantage of face-to-face is that we learn to read the person, posture, look, tone of voice. The internet is partly to blame, but people pretend to forget the propagated culture of fear that man is a monster, every man is a dangerous predator. Dating apps are like menus and product catalogs, something lifeless, empty, pure cheap marketing to trick others and gain validation to satisfy the ego.
you've heard the term foodie call right? Women have done it so much there's a term for it in popular culture.
A man in LA did that a fe times named Paul Gonzales and he was arrested and charged and his name is (somewhat) known worldwide as the (male) face for punishing dine and dashers.
They know whats going on here and have been purposely looking the other way while (not men) dines and dashes because it increases sales at restaurants and therefor taxation.
"LEO have a duty to enforce laws NOT protect you" thats case law from the top. You're paying for a service they arent legally obligated to provide WHILE they pick and choose when to enforce the law.
Appreciated hearing your insights.
feminism and the sexual revolution were weapons to destroy the family and make women unfit for marriage
Courtney saying that dating apps is the future is preposterous. It worked for you, but just because some people win the lottery, that's not reason to say lottery is the future of earning serious money. No ladies, it's not hard to approach people in person, particularly at places like a gym. Just make it known you're interested in the guy and if he likes you he'll approach. On the other hand if you're walking around with headphones and bitch face on, don't be surprised no one (unless he's a complete moron) approaches you.
If you rely on dating apps you're setting yourself up for wasted time, frustration and questions such as 'where are all the good guys/girls'?
@@MikeKillian based on what? U talking out ur ass dawg 😂
Not really , I don’t approach at all. Months ago this Cute white girl been looking and smiling at me hard it I never approach. It’s crazy and stupid what women do with a ton of body language signs instead of just coming up to the guy and say hi, then as the guy I’ll take care of the rest and help carry the conversation. It’s 2022 , it’s nothing masculine or feminine about approaching, it’s just approaching. But women want to be the one in power and to be able to choose and not get rejected and that’s why they don’t approach
They reveal the truth in the first 90 seconds of this video "Women are bombarded with messages you need to stand out"
Very little effort on her part, but you've got to prove yourself. This alone proves how biased social media and online dating are. STAY AWAY
I don’t think she meant “bc it worked for her” but bc this is reality and no one is approaching anyone in public or face to face anymore.
I’ve dated and been approached by men before social media was a thing or invented. I can’t even fathom online dating if I were single but apparently this is what’s reality these days and for future dating, which is very unnatural! It’s interesting that the very people who created social media, OF and dating platforms were predominantly men and it’s working against men!
Online Dating and Apps work for women, but they don't work for mot men. So if you're a woman then yeah i'd highly recommend dating apps, but unless you are a top % man I wouldn't recommend it. Unless you hope to get lucky (which you might).
I don't understand why women say they would never approach a guy. It's like a one sided thing. I'm 48 years old and married with 2 kids. My wife and I met at a hotel lounge where I was staying at on business. I was sitting at the bar and this woman named Jenny who was sitting in the corner with a few of her friends approached me. She asked me if I wanted to sit with her and them, and I said sure. After about 10 minutes, her friends left and Jenny and I talked for about 2 hours. Too make a long story short, Jenny and I got married 7 months later and we are still married today 19 years later with 2 kids ages 17 and 14. Things are going great and I could not be any happier, and it all started with her approaching me!
Hard to not look at Hallee's smile !
For anyone suffering through the situation detailed about an ex and a rebound. The following has always stuck with me:
“If they’re choosing someone else to get over it, and you’re choosing yourself, you’re winning in the end”
… perspective matters
that makes no sense. She'll still dump you to chase down the ex regardless of how you feel about her.
Hi Courtney, I have to say that when it comes to in-person meetups Women often tend to be just as awkward and unaware of the courtship process as do men. For one thing, it's often said that men initiate the encounter, however, that is actually incorrect. Men initiate the VERBAL component of the encounter. There is a whole process of non-verbal communication which would normally initiated by WOMEN. Those being the non-verbal gestures/proximity/eye contact that a woman makes to indicate they are open to being approached.
However, I find more and more that everyone these days, and especially women, tend to live in their own "bubble" - further enabled via technology and smart devices. You've no idea how irritating it is to cast one's eye's about the room to connect with people - only to be met with attractive and available women, too busy 'fidgeting' with their mobile phones to even acknowledge one's presence in the room... But yea, nice tips. Liked this video.
a pretty simple analogy is like playing a video game. dudes play the game on hard mode from the get go and females play on easy mode w/ all the cheat codes.
I like how the end of the video was just about motivation and being a better self. Definitely appreciate it, ladies.
A good way to meet great girls is yoga. My 22 year daughter goes to yoga every night at different times and she says the classes are 95% women, and usually young women. Some guys from a sports team showed up to get more flexible and they really struggled to hold the poses that needed strength AND balance. After coming a couple of times they got chatting to the women and one found his girl friend there. Hot yoga in particular. There are a lot of drop-in classes that women try. My daughter attends yoga classes wherever she is, she finds the nearest studio and checks them out.
From my personal experience, I always find myself approaching women at the gym, mainly because, due to the fact that I love working out, I always find fit girls or gym girls to be incredibly attractive. I mean, who doesn't like a girl squatting a deadlift or doing a pull-up? However, if I want have a serious relationship, I want to have a connection or chemistry with that person I'm more interested in.
Also, I never go to bars because I'm never the biggest fan of alcohol. And I don't go to clubs, due to my somewhat introverted nature. Lastly, I never do online dating because I'm traditional doing it in person.
Well clubs don't teach you anything valuable in life and I am on your side with the lack of alcohol, even though I do drink little bit, I just don't see the point since the only actual benefit it has to the body is as an antiseptic but I wouldn't just limit yourself to the gym, I would get used to talking to girls anywhere and everywhere just like I would get used to talking to anyone and everyone because that is truly how you start to feel more comfortable, especially when you learn that people are just people and no one is really all that special and it's easier to relate.
@@drip369 yeah, you're right. I agree with what you just said.
@@kenrickbautista6141 thank you. Some things I've learned over time.
Wish this was the case. I go to 5 am CrossFit and there are a few women that go but I find them unattractive or they are unavailable.
@@Skadooshbag I see.
The best place to meet women is through active recreational activities.
I met tons of girls just going snowboarding, to shooting hoops in a ymca gym, hoops outside. Pick up soccer games, to co-ed baseball and dodgeball leagues. They are all active and fit women who were all pretty amazing.
thats a great idea. if you are. first tiler to an activity or a regular. because it is more genuine. you are their to have fun regardless if you meet someone. that should be the key thing donnt go places to specifically meet someone but be open if someone comes along. people can tell if you are just going place to meet people. they arent fully enjoying themselves, looking around like its a tresor hunt.
@@inesnathaliengoua yeah, keep it casual for sure, and it's extremely common to go for lunch or for a couple beers afterwards. Keep it casual there, too. It's about building chemistry really
this just doesn't apply to a lot of areas in this country. I've swung by the bball court every day this past week, there's one dude there sometimes. ONE. soccer is non-existent here, ymca non-exisstant, co-ed baseball and dodgeball? I mean there's a softball league but that's all dudes. Where the F do you live? You must live in a big BIG city.
@@alanparks3402 a town of maybe 75,000 people. Just don't go playing softball if you don't enjoy it. Something like a driving range or minigolf, even a bowling alley, it all depends where you live. Focus on doing what you enjoy.
I like meeting women at AA meating .. Mopst of them just go to becasue they have too..
Hallee is SO pretty and funny!! I like Court's pointers, which reminded me of a phrase I heard: "your instinct tells you to invest in a person you like, DON'T! invest in a person that invests in you" and that is very true.
The last three minutes of the video turned into a motivational talk!...Best line of the video, "Motivation and discipline are two completely different things." 💯🖤🙌🏾
I'm not sure why, but that one really stood out to me. It's not fire from the top of the mountain, but for some reason, I hadn't thought of it that way.
“Habit is second nature” Aristotle
Great advice as always! Thank you both!
Alex
I believe the best place is where your friends can introduce you to their friends. Or in a group where you have a circle of people and she knows this group, likes this group and you are important in this group.
Yeah that would nice. However life taught me the hard way that people aren’t very reliable. I’m introverted and don’t go out and I don’t really make friends. Most men my age are married with families and so they spend the majority of their time at home.
@Anthony Manzio I found it wasn't very hard to get dates (& I am under 5'9") - of course the average quality of those dates wasn't great, though one did lead to a one year relationship.
@Anthony Manzio I was 46 when I met a 37 year old, & we were together for a year. It was on a relationship site, not a swipe-right 'dating' app of course.
I enjoy listening to your comments even though I'm not in that stage in life. I really enjoy when Hallee is in a video with you. She brings a different and special vibe to the mix.
So funny when they were talking about a guy's wardrobe and that he shouldn't just wear shorts and a basic shirt with a Nike logo or something but these are very often what the guys I see in relationships wearing.
They’re talking BEFORE the relationship is established, not after. And you don’t know what happened before
@@AnCapDog144
She admitted she has a crush on justin bieber. If showed up in a dirty t shirt and tattooed up drunk . She would drop her husband in a second. What a joke listened to the hypocrite.
Key word relationship. They got the girl now wear whatever the hell they want.
@@Kris_P._Bey_Ken Correct
@@Kris_P._Bey_Ken
Wouldn't it be better to get the girl wearing what you want. Not pretending. Isn't thst why we're have 65% divorce rate
My Aunt married this one guy who became my "uncle". This same Guy once told my cousin and I that the best places to meet women are weddings, funerals, clubs and abortion clinics. I didn't take him seriously and I was 15 at the time, but my cousin took his words to heart tho. I realized even at that age that was terrible dating advice!
well not the weddings part, that is actually a place several people I know met their spouse
abortion clinics? 💀💀💀
Comment of the year
@@caiotorres6156 bro's cousin posted at the abortion clinic😭😭
Abortions clinics!!! 🤦🏽♀️🤣
I work at the airport and approach a lot of different people every day. ITs fun just approaching and engaging in conversations and seeing how ppl are nowadays with covid and stuff. I think its helps with social interaction, social skills, and approach anxiety.
Excellent advice ladies. Love when you all both do videos together ❤️❤️.
At the end of the day, attraction can not be negotiated. You either feel it or you don't!
Great insight!
You're either a Chad or not.
@@jeremyj7157 Is it possible to be a Chad and not do certain Chad things?
It's funny how we should never ever say "Hi what's up" as girls won't replybecause they are waiting for us to say something amazing, but EVERY first message I've gotten from women on bumble (where they have to text first) it's actually "Hi" or "Hi, how are you?"... Makes a lot of sense 👍🏾
Glad to see your channel growing so fast. Keep up the good content
Love the advice to do things you're interested in, and meet people that way!
Thank you both for this video. Since I been in the dating scene (most of my life) and I failed at everything socially. Never dated before but always tried to approach women and it goes severely wrong. Hoping I can learn more while remaining myself.
Great video. Love Hallee's input, abs takes.
I found out that a great way to improve self discipline is to challenge yourself to do something every day.
In November 2020 I was watching the movie The Dark Knight Rises, and in one scene Christian Bale as Bruce Wayne was doing Push-Ups in his prison cell. This struck a chord with me because I had not been able to do a single Push-Up for various reasons for over 40 years. It actually frustrated me, and made me think, "Why the hell can't I do a bloody Push-Up?!" Especially after having lost 140+ lbs recently.
So I decided to do at least 10 no matter if it was one at a time. So I did.
The next day I said, "Screw this baby steps crap! Any Bozo can do 10 Push-Ups one at a time!" So I CHALLENGED myself to do a minimum of 50 Push-Ups a day in Total, every day. That was on November 5th, 2020, and I have not missed a day since. In fact, since July of 2021, I have done a minimum of 100 Push-Ups a day without missing a day.
It's amazing how challenging yourself motivates you to keep going, and stay disciplined, because we do not want to disappoint ourselves.
I've also added 2 more daily challenges - to walk down & up a minimum of 120 stairs without any assistance, using the railing, etc (I have Peripheral Neuropathy, and Nerve damage in my legs & feet) as well as balance issues; and also to do a minimum of 50 Mountain Climbers (each leg) per day. Have not missed a day of either as well since.
So giving yourself a daily challenge can be extremely motivating, and helpful to increase your self discipline.
Good for you man! Your story motivates me. Hope you’re well.
@@mgtowacademy8433 Thank You, I really appreciate that. 😀 I truly feel fantastic.
@@jasonhurst8599 Excellent! Keep killin' it man
@@mgtowacademy8433 Thank you, I fully intend to keep on going, and improving. Don't know if it'll help me with the ladies lol, but I do feel a lot better. 😉
@@jasonhurst8599 Absolutely that is the way-you can't count on your own happiness if it's directly dependent on someone else's validation.
I’ve been telling this to a good guy who’s feeling down on himself. I think coming from you ladies will be easier than coming from me.
Your thumbnails always crack me up lol I KNOW you've laughed on more than one occasion while choosing which one you're gonna use. I bet those photo sessions are fun as hell for ya Courtney
Really enjoy these collaborations. You both give some amazing advice. Thank you.
I went to a comedy show, met a woman in the line for merch (we were both alone), had our first date tonight. It was so much fun! So much better and easier than apps.
Delete all dating apps. Learn to meet people in person. If a woman is a social media addict DO NOT MARRY HER.
Well said. Same goes for men who are social media addicts. Don't marry them, they are a waste of your time.
Right on, thank you 👍👍
Big red flag agreed.
Courtney I love your channel. You present all the questions us men never want to ask in a straightforward, respectful, and classy way.
Love your channel Courtney and thanks for being a wholesome woman!
Courtney I did exactly what u said and got a date with a girl at the grocery store parking lot! I just asked how she likes her new Rav4 and she got excited talking about it then I asked her to go to the dog park sometime and got her number. Boom!😊
Love these awesome collabs. Hailee is smart and amazing. About the self discipline bit: be a MASTER at one thing instead of being MEDIOCRE at several things. Excellent and inspiring as always 😜
These girls are lying 😂 The first thing women notice on your Instagram is your physical appearance and look ...
Money and lifestyle too
smart and amazing, lol.. just another next door girl who likes to do tik tok chalanges and netflix binges.. like when have you become so feminized to not demand more of weman. Do better, guys. Find a value in what they stand for not in how well they present themselves across the internet. There is nothing abotu her then her pyshical apperance, nothing. Get some standards. Untill you stop eating from their hands like some common hobos they will push their feminized world on us. Enough is enough.
This is literally what I was searching for all day and you got the new vid out 🤣
Be confident, work and focus on you, dress decently and remember timing and taking the risk is everything
Thank you for your videos Courtney! I’ve been watching you for a little over a year, and you’ve helped tremendously!
It’s my pleasure! Thanks for being here 🥰
Consider where you will meet the kind of partner you want. If you DON’T want to meet a girl that’s low quality, doesn’t do much with their life, just parties every or every other weekend and gets wasted, avoid nightclubs. Not to say you won’t meet good women for anything long term there, but the probability is just lower. Other parties can be fine though.
Ive been training in Muay Thai, MMA, and Boxing for a few years now and have noticed that most of the women at my gym that are regulars there are often far better and much more enjoyable to talk and connect to than some random girl from a trashy party or a girl already gets tons of attention just staring at their phone 12 hours a day on dating apps and Instagram. The women at my gym have discipline, tenacity, they’re in shape, and naturally have picked up on the humor we share them, and don’t have issues talking to men like a lot of women do because they actively expose themselves to a male dominated atmosphere, and they manage to be comfortable in it.
If you want someone with your own interests, go to where they are shared. Just go join a book club or something. Shoot, if you like video games just go to a tournament or meetup or something and make sure you’ve showered within the last three days, dress decently, have good social skills, and not be super awkward around women and you’ll stand out. Work smarter not harder, just pursue what you like and you’ll more than likely meet someone on the path you’re taking. Just don’t be too shy and pass up the chance. Women often don’t approach for the same reasons men often don’t approach. Fear of rejection, will it be awkward if I move it along too fast, do I really know this person enough to ask them for something more serious, etc.
meeting people doing an activity is the best. You are their to have fun/try some thing new/facea fear regardless if you meet someone or not. That should be the key thing, go to places to expend your horizons. Dont go places to specifically meet someone but be open if someone comes along. people can tell if you are just going place to meet people. they arent fully enjoying themselves, looking around like its a tresor hunt, etc. Not only that you are setting yourself up for potential disappointment if you didnt talk to anyone.
Funny, passionate, confident, artsy, stylish...
None of that matters. You can have it all, but Chad still wins.
I know Chads that are complete losers and addicts, but they have it so easy with women. Women give them sex so easily that it’s impressive and depressing at the same time.
^^This^^
Not really. My boyfriend isn’t a Chad and still wins in my eyes. He’s not that typical model type guy I usually go for or all the women go for and just an average marathon runner from NC. And I feel like I hit the jackpot with him. Adopt a different mindset. Try to date women you think are outside your league. Never know until you try.
@@krissymarie5270
That’s so sweet, to talk about your “just average” “jackpot” who isn’t ‘in the same league’ as you with such passion! You sound very content with him, like someone who has settled, and he must be thrilled.
All the while, you (and countless women with boyfriends) are here on dating videos, to find out where great guys go to find great women, what makes a man more attractive (than their own man), and how men can speak to you over DMs in ways that get you all hot and bothered (‘cause Brad certainly ain’t cuttin’ it!). Quite interesting, huh? Not really. You think you’re here proving us men wrong, while your “just average” marathon runner ‘who isn’t a model and others wouldn’t consider a prize’ must be brimming with pride over this type of description.
The title of this video is “Best places to meet great women, what girls notice in a guy, and how to stand out in your DMs”. So, Krissy Marie, let’s cut the bullsh*t and be perfectly honest, shall we? You are interested in knowing where men go to meet great women, the best places to do so where the men are more likely to be of higher noticeability and value, you want what stands out amongst the crowd in DMs and to communicate with the types who can slide into them in a way that really turns you on. And your “just average” boyfriend ‘wins’ (in your eyes)!? Hmmm...
Don’t worry. Chad is still out there. Best of luck.
Only when it is a "nice" guy like you, lol
In every relation that i have, it was really to much work that i lost my self.
Being single i improve myself way more faster, without taking care of a woman who demand too much...
And by listening to those videos being single is the life of royalty.
It all depends, is being single the rest of your life better than being with the 50-60% of toxic people out there? Yes, but is it better than having a loving spouse for life? Absolutely not. And I am living proof of that. The problem of course is trying to find the right person, which is damn hard now in days.
Hallee Hallee Hallee!! hahahah good to see you two together... I definitely enjoy meeting people in coffee shops and supermarkets.
Great video!
9:40 - She is 100% correct.
11:30 - Pride is the emotional reward of achievement.
I work PT at Meijer grocery store on weekends. I’m in the bakery and a lot of ladies do instacart or shipt personal shopping. Sometimes I see they need help finding an item and I help plus generate some small talk. It gets easier as you do it more.
We don't necessarily expect women to ever approach first. But her giving a look that suggest that she's interested, won't hurt anybody. Or maybe looking at his eyes or smiling... something. As men, we're used to the fact that we may appear scary to some women just for being a man, thanks to some women past experiences or because of stereotypes by society. Any guy who is not a player, even if he's attractive, won't approach a woman if she looks like she's trying to avoid him or avoid everyone. For example, he happens to be at her field of view, then sees her noticing him, but she quickly looks to her phone and never look at him again (at least when he's looking). Or having a barrier of friends around her, acting like she's always in a hurry or stressed, etc. I once got attracted to a woman and she was acting like that, so I said "Ok, she's not interested, is fine". Later a friend of her came to me and told me what if I invite her friend to dance. I was confused, she was acting like I was invisible but she sent her friend to ask? Was I supposed to read her mind to approach her? This is why men tend to approach first, but actually women do the 1st move, which is at least looking at his eyes or something.
I’m also amused to hear women talk crap on guys who approached them, yet hear them advise men that they should be approaching women. Weird.
The other thing I would say is that the gym is really a tough place to pick up a woman. 1). Everyone has headphones, so it’s awk. 2). Women wear very revealing clothes, but not with the same motivation as in a club. I see men looking and it’s creepy fr. 3). They just wanna get the work in. And 4). The phones. Just something I’ve noticed: not even being in the market to date, personally when I see a woman picking up her phone between every set, it feels to me like she is texting her man. That she’s taken. And does anyone wanna date someone that married to her phone anyway? Just some thoughts from the sidelines.
Watch Courtney Ryan's videos, Charisma on Command, Darius M, Far From Average so you can ditch this mindset and get somewhere. That last line says you're waiting for approval and that's the shit that gets no nowhere fast with women.
You can do it man, but you will have to let go of a lot of comfortable self sabotaging thoughts and habits.
@@shoukaiser Wait you talking about me? I mentioned a past experience, back when I was in college. I'm not dating right now neither need to, nor need advise. How can you say that forgeting about a girl who appeared to ignore me, is to ask for validation? And after I learned she did like me, I invited her to dance and dated her because I actually already liked her too, not because her friend suggested. (We both worked there.) The way I meet women "casually while going through experiences together and not by actively looking for one anywhere" works for me, why change it?
You brought a very good looking woman into your show. That is confidence on your part. Not everybody would do that. Made you look even better.
Making a connection with some chicks profiles is pretty difficult. I feel like a large portion of them have blank bios, very generic bios/prompts you can't build anything off of, and their pictures don't really show any personality either.
*Just ask :)*
*Add me on snap*
*I'll fill this out later..*
That's all they give you to work with.
Cos these are bots.
These days most women think you’re desperate if you DM first so I don’t do it anymore.
The real best ways to meet a long term partner is through friend groups, clubs, volunteer work, and family connections.
basically anywhere that doesn't have an HR ?
These are great places to meet people!
Don’t have any of those
Yeah, unfortunately, I don’t have any of those. The closest thing is family connections and that’s not working. I’ve let them know I want a girlfriend and possibly a wife but they just can’t. Although, I have to wonder if it’s because they CAN’T or they WONT.
Hallee and Courtney are both very down-to-Earth. That is one of my favorite traits.
You girls are so smart I love your advice. You give great advice!
I like a man is in physical shape, genuine, funny, and a man who respects his mother and sister. If he can't respect them, he might not have respect for women at all.
I fit the bill. What’s your number ??
we don't care what you like.😂
I bet Courtney will agree with Courtney here.
What if they are jerks and he's right to disrespect them?
My sisters are mega c#nts so I can't respect them
If you want to stand out to a woman, be attractive to her. You can be funny and charming, but it means nothing if she doesn’t find you physically attractive.
Wow congrats on 300k subs Courtney!😃
I think a bar and clubs easier to meet someone like you guys said than a gym or a coffee shop definitely thumbs up Courtney Ryan 😊
I feel like meeting someone at the gym is off limits cus if things go south between the relationship then you have might to switch gyms or your schedule for when you go🤷🏽♂️
Bro honestly I used to think that too but at the end of the day you can’t let a random girl that you met at the gym make you so uncomfortable that you have to switch up your schedule. Like bro just workout if it is so weird and so awkward she will switch her schedule. She has the same feelings of awkwardness as you bro and I’d she doesn’t your literally tripping over nothing
Ive met quality women and then a few weeks later, I learned different. The odds of finding a sane single woman after 30 is very low. All the good ones are already taken.
Get the divorced ones then.
The best advice I've heard is "She has to come to you".
I met my gf while driving Rideshare. I didn’t talk to her except to say hi and the usual.
I always wait a couple minutes and see if they are going to engage in any conversation. When they don’t I just drive and maybe put my AirPods in and listen to music at a low volume.
On this day, she didn’t really say much during that three minute period.
I listened to my music and just lately hummed like I normally do. After about a mile down the road she tapped me on my shoulder and started a conversation with me.
She was my last passenger and I had already marked myself as off-line when I complete that trip. She had to have a ride back but wasn’t sure how long it was going to take her. Everything seems to be going well so far so I just offered to log off and wait for her. She told me that I absolutely not do that. She didn’t want to put me out like that. I said it was no problem because while she was taking care of business I had comic book pages to color.
While we waited she asked to sit in the front seat so that we could talk and she wanted to see my artwork. I could tell that she really did genuinely like my work and we continue talking about our kids and family etc.
We exchanged numbers and she came back to the car again while we were waiting on the people doing work for her. Then an ambulance came and I thought maybe something had happened to her and finally she came back around the corner and told me that one of the workers had a heart attack. Which just made this all the more weird LMAO.
She is unbelievably gorgeous. We usually get double takes from men and women and it always makes me laugh. We will have been together for two years this June.
These girls are lying 😂 The first thing women notice on your Instagram is your physical appearance and look ...
The thumbnail says
Hallie: "Girl, did you see that?"
Courtney: "This is a shocker for me"
John John John tisk tisk tisk lmao Courtney did say at the end of the video to spell it right
🤣🤣🤣💀🙃🙃
it is amazing to see how well you can get on with each other, it looks like you are quite compatible and could become really good friends. A big hug for both of you. By the way, I really like you being so honest on these topics
What I’m realizing is I’m too scared to find that true love I don’t feel I would be able to provide, I’m a mess. I’ll keep trying to have a better relationship with myself. I might be good at some things but I’m a complete failure too.
Well thanks for the content. I guess I’m not ready yet. Been like this for years.
So yeah; the curse craves being human, but being human craves the curse.
Dood I’m so weird, but it makes sense.
I died, and now this hunger sustains me alive. Although I keep my humanity and I’m loyal, I need to hunt. So I can never be fully human or fully cursed. Will I find true love like this? I’ll just focus on the facts and be mindful about I need to take better care of myself and work on it.
You now what I’m doing lately; to go out and walk and do stuff I set the goal to clear branches in the way of the community etc, tomorrow I’m going to cut some more. I even fixed a not cared garden too if some neighbours without htthem knowing with a machete. And gardening scissors (clippers? ) at least that way I start to be more active (I can’t just base my cardio on sex (although I stopped because last girl got jealous even me being loyal, but she didn’t understand I needed me time and silent being for a month with mercury retro. Yeah. I’m a bit strange I know. But it’s fun hehe
Went back to some timberland shoes alike that are really sport shoes / trainers confortable. Brown , instead of always rocking the white Nikes.
I’m trying to combine a wardrobe as I told you.
I’m talking a lot, but I trust you in a way. I don’t know why. I’ll try to hold my hunger. I guess I miss having friends
When I was little I preferred to be chatting with the girls from class in the bench instead to being playing soccer with the guys. I love women. Maybe it’s because I was raised by two moms, my mother and 9 year old sister. My father was away hard working or with his girlfriend.
I found that getting to know how they where exploring with their bodies etc was super interesting more than kicking a ball around and shouting.
Maybe that also forged me in a way. Maybe that’s why I love watching you guys speak and express yourselves.
Your friend said salsa classes. That’s useful vertical sex
Courtney made a really good point, if you don't like online dating AND you don't put approach women in public places, your only two options that are left are meeting women at bars and clubs or joining a group activity like a dance class or some social group like a club. She also said if your not willing to approach women or do online dating, you will never find someone and i definitely fit in that category. Guys? What should we do if that describes us?
Need to build up a social circle and meet people in a comfortable setting.
@JB-kx9bx The only problem with this is that if you hang around mutual friends of friends the women in that group might tend to view you as more a “friend” and your chances of getting friend zoned goes up significantly. Unless you’re QUICK about making the first move.
Its awfull, but you adapt and change.
There is a curse on me: Every girl I talk to, she says she has a boyfriend.
2:27 - that’s so hard to do, talk to chicks at the gym. I’m there to relax & tone my body while listening to tunes. I believe majority are also there for exercising & not talking. I maybe wrong but from my experience I haven’t seen anyone interacting
When I'm in public, the gym whatever, sometimes I wish girls would be the ones to approach me. Because If I have to be the one to do it, I gotta worry about seeming creepy and it just feels impossible. To the ladies, I know it seems intimidating, but I guarantee 90% of guys would be super happy to be approached, and would be really friendly to you
stop being a wuss, you wuss!!
Last 5 people I asked out in person. 4 of them looked scared and one was nice but rejected me. It seems we live in a world we can trust strangers online than instinctually trusting your instincts about the vibe of the person in front of you. Lol. Use to be much easier before the pandemic and it was getting hard then.
I know this videos going to be good another Courtney and hallee video
❤️🥰 thank you!
@@CourtneyRyan your welcome
Yo why is this actually insightful advice, like they're thinking it through?
By Achieving a small goals during the day, will build the confidence and self-esteem. it's the smalls wins that you set to yourself and complete them.
When you get everything equally , sex , physical support, Emotional support. Love, caring., Understandng , respect and respect for others. The relationship substance last long not sure just being attractive is not enough, if man/women Dosent have this quality ,the real beauty comes from inside ,I am not sure how many people can understand this.
This is how you end up in the zona del amigos
@@sheerindefatigability7587 longasting not ending there will be patching in relationships but there should be patient.
Another ideal place to meet women is the museum. Take a trip there on your spare time and you just might meet a girl that shares your passion. That's how I met my ex-girlfriend. But, just a thought.
How did you go about meeting women at a museum?
@@servmlrcc It just happened. I went their one day, saw a prehistoric picture that I like, she went up to the picture, we've spoke about the art work and just hit it off.
Self-discipline: I know that I'm going to do anything in my power to not go to the gym, so I get up early, do every chore imaginable, then when it's all done and I'm annoyed because I have to go to the gym, I go. The anger/annoyance helps me weightlift my feelings away... then I go home and shower, feeling great about myself.
Thank you guys, I really related to a lot of this
I like making jokes incorporating things I notice in their profile or pictures. Like one I used today her profile said no hookups and a picture of drinking coffee so I said something like "What if I can get you the hookup on a sick caramel macchiato". No idea if it was actually a macchiato, that word is just funny to me lol.
Ladies, what do you think of the following places to meet women : 1 cooking classes 2 book clubs 3 salsa classes ? To my knowledge, these are places where the majority of attendees are women
So is college. Just because they’re there doesn’t mean they’re worth it. Just be yourself and get good at something. The women will follow
Great places!
@@rickyaz8640 It's a blend of two things. You have to improve yourself, so you are at least a comparable, if not better prospect than the other men (the steak portion of marketing, so to speak). Then you have to develop the right marketing message, and get in front of desirable women who are willing and able to accept a romantic relationship with you (the sizzle portion of marketing). Without one or the other, you will not be nearly as successful.
Church🤙 hot blondes everywhere
Work too in some cases but can be dangerous if you break up because you have to see this person daily which can be awkward.
Starbucks is a great place for me. I’m a freshman in college but dress different than pretty much everyone. I pay attention to my watches, rings, leather boots and jackets. Trust me dress out and give a girl any excuse to compliment you and she will, and it’s as open of an invitation as you’ll ever get. Every time I introduce myself to a girl I shake her hand and she compliments my ring. I’ve gotten two complements out of the blue on my shoes, also the stickers on the back of my laptop (90s Rock bands). Also sometimes just approaching out of the blue has worked for me. It’s a social public environment, if you have the confidence in a place like that they’ll usually give you a shot.
Love listening to Hallee
I like it when women comes up to me or put out something to show I can make a move. I grew up in a woman only house hold with my 7 woman and me the only male human. I don't like to be taken advantage of so women hate's when I tell them I will cook, clean and help around the house, and mental health and emtional vurnabulity is a big thing with me. I'm not all alpha male (don't really know what that is anyways) I just like to be chill and lowkey, I like to go 100/100. Nowadays woman want free charity, I want one that pays for me and I pay for her, we build something together, Is it too much to ask for or should I become the emtionaless tradtional guy?
The faster you become the "emotionless traditional guy", the more success you will have. Every other behaviour will put you in the misery, if not now, then later on in life. Your "transition" but will take at least a decade. Latest when youre 35, you will see, that most of people in general are trash, not only females of course.
@@milan51259 Yes of course there are bad people in the world, what the point of having darkness if there's no light, or war if there no peace. Or good if there was no evil. That whats makes these things truely valuable because the oppisite existed. I just don't like to be a rock solid dick with no emtions because science proven along with psychology that men die younger when there not emtional nor self caring and loving. I rather have 10 good years of a good relationship and emtional aviablity than 35 and older being a emtionaless jerk.
The gyms are the new bars/nightclubs and that is not good these days. Mostly guys creeping up on girls when they sort of work out.
But girls in the gym (some of them don't work out. Be honest). They get dolled up make up on and gym clothes and whatnot. And they only do selfies and videos to get like on Tic tok or IG.
GUYS DON'T BE A CREEP.
Congratulations 🥳 for 300k subs in advance Courtney ✨WIFEY👰🏼✨Ryan ❤️😍
Your Hair looks so good!
And yet, every single girl only says "hi" in their boring first messages
10:40 leg days can (literally) be hard to walk away from yet 3days a week I'm squatting. Adidas stands for All Day I Dream About Squatting 😅😂😂🤣 I think a sore serratus muscle group is worse and dreadful yet it's fun getting stronger, more skilled, and more resilient
Congratulations on 300K subs!
How beautiful you girls are I loved this so much😍💗
Awww thank you so much!
"I don't have a specific 'oh, they have to be doing this.'" Just be spontaneous (I need excitement), ambitious ($), passionate (about me), funny (entertain me), in great shape, be manly but dress effeminately. As always, the modern woman looks for characteristics instead of character.
I typically like their insights, but these responses just sounded like your average dating app profile.
She can demand these characteristics because she can and it weeds out the herd. Character is something that is subtle and revealed through dating and doing life together. No one is going to put on their profile how they would react/respond during a time of high stress or tragedy. Character is revealed later on.
no we like both characteristics + character :)
@Wholly Kkrapp me too but true character takes time to reveal - like the saying " don't judge a book by its cover." Some people who seem really sweet and quiet can actually be awful behind closed doors and other people who on the outside seem vain can actually be very caring people behind closed doors.