@@justpassingby3409 sorry to hear what happened. Good you learned your lesson. Stay away from women like this. They’re horrible who cares if she’s hot or popular
I was recently in a situation like this not too long ago with a coworker. Thought she was interested but quickly realized she actually liked my attention because she hung out with me a ton, then completely went cold when another guy came around. I cut my losses and moved on only for her to start feeling some type of way and having the nerve to ask "Why didn't I come after her?" That let me know I made the right decision 😂
Definitely childish tendencies. They actually find it very attractive if you do "come and save her" but it's such a toxic way to treat men who do respect women's decisions. She's not mature. Tells you all you need to know
Time stamps: 0:37 You don’t see her 1:47 It’s one sided 2:15 Fishes for Compliments 3:08 Gives you Instagram @ 3:33 Asks for Stuff 4:08 No Emotional connection Best wishes lads:)
You're so right, Courtney. I decided a long time ago to stop staying in one-sided relationships (even one-sided friendships), and I've been much better off since then. I lost a few "friends" because of it, but I have no regrets.
The No Emotional Connection point is a sure sign. I went out with a woman years ago who never made the effort to get to know me as a person. I, on the other hand, made the effort to know everything about her and her drama. Long story short I cut my losses and ran.
Wanting someone who puts in the same amount of effort and energy as you isn’t being needy, don’t ever feel like that. If anything, it shows that you know what you want and you know your self worth. Don’t settle for less, actions speak louder than words. There’s someone out there who will appreciate you for you without draining you for your attention.
I was talking to a girl for two years, went into it not knowing much. She took advantage of me, nothing was enough for her. Fast forward, I’m now with someone who reciprocates and is a keeper. Looking back on it, I’ve realized so much to where now these women don’t phase me. Those two years taught me a BIG lesson 💪🏾
Yep 3 years for me and she longed for my glance. Sounds like a nutcase. Since I gave up on her I found the sweetest girl who is so kind and sweet with a good heart and she has emotional intelligence. The problem is she's 30 years younger. But heck I'll take that over a woman my age who is cold as ice.
Honestly the best kind of relationships are the ones where you both can safely get off social media and be yourselves. I feel a lot of being used revolves around social media attention.
If you go out.. There are girls a restaurants, nightclubs etc that is payed to get your attention, to make you use more money in there, and "brand" the place. Here in Copenhagen it is so, that like 7 out of 10 girls in the bar and on the dancefloor, are payed to be there "entertaining" the guys.
@andersnielsen6044 yea that's the bs and that's how ppl get hurt. I was at a bar like that and I told security they shouldn't do stuff like that especially to black men. We don't like being played. I wad at a Latin bar
Yes, these are good tells, and thank you for sharing Courtney. On a practical note, I would suggest to guys that watch this to work on pulling back generally when you see behaviour you don't like. Desire lives in the space between people; give her room to chase you. Don't you want to be in a relationship where you're loved and wanted! Pull back, let her win you over, not as a game or a gimmick, but genuinely, if she's using you, treating you badly, or you're just unhappy. And by that same token, if your going to compliment her, if you're going to buy her a gift, escalate off a positive, not a negative, and certainly not silence. By actively move towards joy day to day you'll lose the people who aren't right for you, and just as importantly create the relationships you want to be a part of. Thanks again for sharing Courtney!
I hear ya - George! Great Content - by Courtney! Fellas, if you want a woman to Chase you - never give her the Validation that she’s looking for! That’s your Power over her - Never hand your Power over to anybody - it’s yours to Keep! If you do, it’s basically Over! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
A great way to figure out who a woman truly is character wise, or anyone for that matter, is observe how they treat someone who can do absolutely nothing for them. If they treat them poorly, especially behind their back, like talking trash about them or etc; that's all you need to know.
This has always been my experience with women. From the time I was a youngster to today. Women only want attention from me but give their hearts and body’s to others. I finally learned a new word in the English language. “NO”. I finally learned to say, “no”. My wallet thanks me. My heart while lonely is not always broken. Sweetheart, all girls are like this. All of them.
If you are always buying a woman at work or college lunch or coffee and she gossips about her fellow co-workers or college students, avoid her. I had this happened to me at a previous job. If she's gossiping about other people she's gossiping about you, too
What if we're in a gym and this girl gazes at me through mirrors and what not. But then she comes with her male gym buddy (I'm guessing her husband) Also I never talk to her , because I'm maintaining distance because that's strange if that is her husband + she's ogling in the gym
@@lavatr8322 If she gazes at you, go up to her, ask her out, if she’s interested then she’ll say Yes, if she’s not, move on. Don’t get caught up over one Girl.
Best advice I learned from personal experience. Do not let yourself be emotionally attached too soon, give someone limited exposure of yourself. But don’t let yourself go anything beyond casual till you get the date. Dating is for getting to know someone and if they’re not putting an effort, I don’t think you should put effort in at all until you get the date. Best thing you can do, is ask out a girl once and if she says no, you move on. There is no asking out more than once unless she starts putting in the effort that she did not put it in when you were getting to know her on a casual level. Do not give parts of yourself that someone does not deserve all upfront. Reserve that for someone who truly puts the effort in and leave dating as they get to know phase. My mentor told me that being one on one with someone is truly how you get to know someone.
Courtney long time but and it's good to see ya 😄This video is a time saver and you just helped solved 90% of the hurdles guys deal with in dating. 9 times out of 10 they just using a guy for attention. As guys become more confident in their abilities and meeting different types of women; they can easily spot these women who are time wasters because they all have the same patterns when dating them. Anyways, I'm proud of all your growth on TH-cam. I'm out trying to better my life right now but I could never forget ya friend. I wish you continued success and happiness ✨️
@@CourtneyRyan Yeah! I been hanging there Courtney. Lots of ups and plenty of downs but things are looking great for me. I even landed a snack sponsorship for my channel/brand. So I'm never too far away from your channel. Just trying to get myself together. It's good to get a reply from you and I hope you are always well 🤍 Thanks for everything!
If she's, from work or school, only calling you to pick her up after her boyfriend kicks her out of his car, you pick her up to take her home, never says thank you for picking her up, and then at school or work she ignores you. She's using you.
Very helpful, especially when I was told by her that she had a boyfriend and yet she was the one sending those strong signs of wanting me to talk to her. So ever since watching this video I've stopped completely talking and trying to get to know her more. If your in a relationship , then you shouldn't be sending any signs to anyone but the person who your in an relationship with.
Truth. I saw a random Redditor sum it up another way, saying that the best dating advice she ever got was simply: “If they like you, you’ll know. If they don’t, you’ll be confused.”
I had a coworker come up to me and asked to hang out. I said yes and we started texting each other that night. I met up with her the next day at her house and we chatted for a while. The next day i texted her and she didnt seem as interested anymore but still texted me anyway. We texted for another 2 weeks where I constantly asked to see her again but she was always busy. I told her that I had feelings for her but she said she wasnt ready for a relationship at the moment. I eventually got to a point where I started watching your videos and I realized that she just wanted someone who would say she was pretty and tell her how great she was. I broke it off yesterday. I dont have time to waste.
Absolutely sound advice, any man worth his salt knows that women like Courtney described in this video are nothing but bad news. If I get even a wiff of any of these games or feel that I am being somehow used, that girl is toast...
Actually just happened to me. After almost 5 years someone finally paid attention to me. I was exstatic and asked her out for some coffee on our time off. She said yes but then retracted and ghosted me. So I tried to avoid her and she comes to my office and starts crying saying she is being the adult by talking about it. Well.. she has a lot of potential and is quite a looker. But its all meaningless if she can't just be honest with the people around her. Plus telling me she is still attracted to me. I'd love to have a fun date but she piled too much baggage up. I'm devastated since it's the first real time I asked someone out in such a long time. But hey, I'm working out now. So that's good. Thanks for the video. They always help :)
Bro, you might not like this, but she probably retracted and ghosted you as she found someone else and went out with him. And when that guy dumped/ghosted her, she came back to you crying and all. Unfortunately this is a very common thing with some women. Don't be fooled by her looks, she has to care for you to make you feel good. From what you said, you are probably just the "in between" guy for her till she finds the next guy. This is not to say that you are not good, but that she is an opportunist who just uses guys. Good to hear you are working out, just work a bit on your mindset and don't be in a scarcity mindset. Believe in yourself and don't commit fully too early in a relationship. I believe good things are coming ahead for you. Wishing you all the very best my friend 🙏
You said it's the first time that you asked someone out in a long time, so the experience wasn't a total waste of time if you haven't asked someone out in a while because you were nervous about it, now you have the confidence to ask other people out as well. I'm gonna be completely honest with you from personal experience - never compromise or overlook anything that a woman does based on the fact that she's hot - I've done that before and the truth is that no matter how physically attractive someone is initially, that physical attraction wears off pretty quickly once you're in their presence a lot. Lol you almost become desensitised to it and that's when their character and personality is meant to sustain longevity. So if you compromise based on physical attraction but later it turns out that she actually has horrible character and no personality, you're gonna feel like crap later. I do see that you didn't let that sway you so keep that principle going forward.
This is really killing me inside! It's hard whether she's being friendly or she's really flirty. And I don't want to come off as a creep or whatever when trying to make the first move.
All men who are successful with women must get over approach anxiety. Think on this. Is it the man who keeps looking at a girl but doesn't act, or the man who sees a girl, walks over and starts engaging her in conversation that is more likely to be thought of as a creep? It's the first guy, because he is communicating interest by looking, but lacks the confidence to approach and that is unnerving to a woman because it projects low value and weakness, which she "translates" to creepiness. So, when you see that attractive girl, approach and engage immediately. This is the congruent, confident, high value move. And creeps are none of these things so...you're not a creep.
@@kenrickbautista6141 she has videos, like one called "She likes you" Gotta notice genuine attention, and desire, and feed it. The opportunity to "make your move" will show up.
Great advice Courtney. Too bad I didn't know this 45 years ago. Nice to know I "eventually" figured it out. Coincidentally just happened to need the "refresh", and it's nice to see the kind of stuff other guys have to deal with these days. Always so challenging. ;)
This is why I don't like texting now. If you just wanna be pen pals, go somewhere else and not waste my time! The max range of an excuse is ZERO METERS
That's so True Some girls do like too just Want Attention from you And a girl That Does That too you She's just Wasting your Time with a girl like That 💯
The easiest way to avoid the Instagram thing, is don't have one. Lol I only have a Fakebook account, and I haven't used it in more than a year. It makes life a lot more pleasant to not deal with social media, and all the BS that comes with it.
Extremely helpful video. Pretty much most of the women I've met in my life fall into this category. Where to meet women who AREN'T like this and how to approach them would be another helpful video I think 🤔
I was watching a video recently where a guy was interviewing females on whether they prefer a dad bod or a six pack. Most of them said dad bod. Their reasons were very consistent with one another. They said it makes them feel better about themselves with less pressure to have to look good. This is the definition of insecurity. Relating to this subject the need for attention or a chronic method for getting attention is insecurity.
I agree with this. Also, a lot of women are drawn to a niche. Maybe a skater boy image, men with tattoos, musicians, etc. If the niche is very unique and she can't help it, looks will be the last thing she cares about. If the niche and personality match, he could be the ugliest dude in town.
@@stevensaleh6955 absolutely. Looks are often times a detriment to the male. Females are many times quick to label a good looking dude that takes care of himself. So, many of the females in the video i watched said the guy would most likely be perceived as too into himself if he looked good. By middle age the female regrets her decision
Yup, totally agree. Those guys are just easier and they like that. Easier to control and everything. I've had women tell me before that they won't be with me because, in other words, I'm too much for them. I'm out of their league. I've had women who don't normally hit the weights but did at the time to try to keep up and then stop once we were nothing but the point here, really is that a lot of women don't wanna feel challenged by us so they lower their standards. It's pathetic really
I have a girl in my class which I had contact with. I was always the one asking for a meet up and she always made excuses and sometimes didn't even replied. One time she was at my place to visit my cats but I never got the chance to see her dog. In school she always wanted me to give her my Hotspot and she often did the dog eyes thing. After a few months I realized what she was about when even her close friends didn't like her. I stopped being in contact with her which is awesome! Keep your heads up kings!
Courtney thank you giving us all as men these precious information. those are unique . actually we all know girls apply all these tips tactics onto us we are all aware of these but somehow we may forget often time :)
I don’t allow these types of behavior from women anymore…I used to. The moment I see a few or some of these signs, its a no no from me. Time to move on.
What’s happen to society? In the old days, if you liked someone, you’d go up to them, have a conversation and tell them how you felt. There were no mind games, no guessing games, no trying to play detective and figure out what the hell the person was thinking. Today’s generation has made it a hell of a lot more complicated when in actuality, it doesn’t have to be. Save the fun and games for when you’re in the relationship. Stop messing with peoples hearts and feelings by having them try to figure you out before hand. And we wonder why there’s so many failed relationships and divorces today. Too many games being played. Do yourself and everyone a favor and just have the damn courage to tell someone how you feel. So what if they don’t feel the same way. At least now you know, and you can stop wasting each other’s time and move on. No good can come from mind game playing. There’s nothing intriguing about possibly messing with someone’s feelings. Be the man, or woman, step up, and communicate with your mouth. Period.
Gotta get in here as a sacrifice to the algorithm gods. Guys, listen to your girl, boost her dreams, be her her biggest hype man. The good ones will return the favor, but someone who make you chase, and treats your time like a play thing isn’t worth the time.
She should be your biggest hype man first and most consistently. Definitely support her desires but she should be boosting your dreams because it is your responsibility to carry the load and not hers
I'm all for honoring women that deserve it and giving them a life and experience that keeps them comfortable and free to be themselves but putting them first is the wrong way to go because women love leaders and if you treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan so you should be out there fulfilling your dreams so that you can provide and she can perfect
I've been dealing with women since I was a teenager so I definitely know all of the natural signs, especially having had my first kiss and first grade and I don't want Courtney to know how young I was when I went and did the other thing. The Instagram handle is a modern key point hahaha definitely eye contact, physical touch, facing you with the body, laughing at things you say, trying to be just as witty and response, there is a multitude of things women will do to show you that they want more of your attention because if they are trying to use you they will use manipulation tactics instead of natural behaviors
I so relate to this my ex I believed never really liked me or actually had feelings for me she only cared to get attention for herself I can go on and on this was a great video Courtney
Women have teasing abilities, I have realised that in the gym.. It's something inbetween wanting Attention / Validation and Teasing ... You can never ever Guess. I ignore Everyone
The issue is, Courtney, if a woman is vying for a man's attention, without having any interest in him whatsoever, there is clearly something psychologically wrong with her. She's not normal. Why does she feel such a desperate NEED to be validated, especially if it's a man she barely knows? What's going on there?
The harsh reality is that's most women on dating apps now. They used to be a good tool to communicate with women who were more serious about meeting. But now the majority of women on apps just chat and go through the motions for validation. I personally don't get it and see it as a waste of time.
She wants your attention. If she wanted you she wouldn't waste time. The way some of these girls are around me really makes me lose respect for them for how fake and leading they are.
Easy Solution: decrease or stop paying attention to her specifically for the purpose of pursuing the relationship. If she actually likes you, she will talk to you and make time. If she doesn’t, she’ll go and get that attention elsewhere
I updated my wardrobe a little bit (made a quick short if you want to check it out) I’m perfectly fine giving someone ego boost if they deserve it. Today I had a girl tell me she wanted to be invited to dinner, and I said even I have restaurants where I eat for free I don’t like interested people. And moved on. But you can weed out and sometimes people appear who are deserving your energy. Mirroring our light should be ok, it doesn’t break it when we encounter people not open to love. We just keep giving love to people and they eventually loose that warmth in the long run.
Peeled one user off just to fall into the claws of another. Learned a lot and it never happened again. Pay close attention to what comes back. It doesn't have to be equal, as long as the flow is steady and cheerfully given. More than just a few grudgingly discarded breadcrumbs.
I had a female friend whom I would text her a joke every now and then and that was our only social interaction. We made plans to hang out twice and she canceled out both times. She’s gone.
A while ago I met this girl through social media. In the beginning she was the one reaching out to me everyday, a few times a day. At some point she slowly started showing her true colors. She was crazy. Out of sudden she called me a liar and was like ''why are you talking to me, I'm a weird person'' etc. (huge red flag!) I felt bad for her due to her bad experience with her exes, so I tried to calm her down, which was a huge mistake. I should of blocked her and moved on. Anyway, I managed to calm her down, but things never became like they used to be. She wasn't the sweet girl I met. After a few days she did this weird thing again. I got sick and tired of it. I pointed it out to her that she wasn't okay and told her I'm done. The moment I did that, she showed her true colors for real this time. I'm glad I didn't waste alot of my time with her.
"why are you talking to me, I'm a weird person'' - There are plenty of damaged people out there for whom the very sign that someone likes them, is a red flag that that person isn't worthy. Because they dislike themselves, if you like them then they come to despise you.
@@simontmn Thats what happened at the end. In the beginning she was a whole different person. Those type of people are the least ungrateful ones. You try to help them due to their bad experience. They end up trying to screw you over. Fun fact, she called me someone with multiple personalities while she was the one behaving like that. Quite ironic honestly.
Dear genuine Nice Guys, I hope you're taking notes because this applies to you. As for the agenda driven Nice Guys, women are gonna suss you out anyway. Just be straight up about your intentions, you'll win some and you will lose some.
I would be really intrigued to see you do a video about signs your boss likes you. I know that’s kind of tricky but I would love to see you explore that whole ordeal
When I was internet dating, I considered any suggestion to message with Snap or Insta as coming from a bot account, promoting a paid client. So, if someone gave me a social media acct instead of digits, things would end right there.
Its very easy to tell if she talks to you for attention. Dont talk to her for a few days. If she doesnt text you she uses you for validation/attention. Usually when a girl really likes you, she will call or text you within 24 hours the last time you 2 have spoken. If she is a bit upset or mad, that also tells she likes you.
Yes this quite true. I've noticed that If a woman only contacts you after a long time, months or years, have passed, she is just using you for validation or attention and was probably seeing/dating guys during that time of no contact. A woman whose truly interested will try to maintain the lines of communication on a consistent basis.
Any time someone exhibits parasitic behaviour (i.e. take and give nothing in return), that's a sure bet you're being used. This also applies to platonic relationships, not just romantic ones.
Even though this behavior can exist anywhere, American girls in general have developed what is probably one of the biggest reputations for themselves of being this selfish and narcisistic. The girls and women I'm going for are from Europe (won't name the country to avoid competition) where these issues are virtually nonexistent and is one plus side to considering the idea of entering an international relationship instead of being stuck with those of the same society, but those who are curious enough and willing to work a little may just reap tremendous rewards. This video is among those where for once girls are taking a bit of the heat. It's not always the guy's fault that girls act this way. If I'm being honest, it's more like the fault of the parents. They should be ashamed that their kids ended up this way and it's a reflection of their failure to properly dicipline them. Any parent in their right mind would want to raise their kids so that they can make critical decisions, have a good future so that hopefully, one day, they can meet their grandkids. Wasting time on meaningless relationships and next thing you know, it's too late, and then you'll wonder why you wasted your life.
I agree, these horror stories I hear from American men re American women barely relate to what I've seen in London from English women, and not at all from European & Eurasian women.
@@simontmn True. Too many stories about the dating scene in the US proves how screwed up things are there. Of course not everyone, but most people there sound kind of nuts, so much so that it might not even be worth the risk of trying to date them. International couples are becoming more of a thing and hopefully I end up in one myself
@@michaelrespicio5683 My gf (as of one month) was born in Kazakhstan, grew up in Siberia, lived here in London since 2000. She's 47, I'm 49. She's fantastic; beautiful, bright, and very demure. We are both divorcees each with 1 child, and we've both only been with 2 people our entire lives (spouse, + 1 post-spouse relationship). I feel we've started out on a wonderful journey together.
Lol I most be an odd ball. I'm an American girl but would rather be living anywhere but here. Dating here in the states is confusing and messed up. I hate it. I feel sorry for my guy friends, most of their wives or girlfriends are bloody crazy and I can't stand being around them. I will straight up call out my girlfriends if their being an ass to their partners.
It's not necessarily true that if they spend time with you that they want to be with you...some girls hang out , suck up the attention and perks of courtship but still drop the friendship line on you like a rock...
Thank you so much for your videos!! Unfortunately,I just cut it off with this girl I’m seeing, but it needed to be done. Thank you for the video, I actually really really needed to hear this…
Courtney, I only wish this video was out last year 😂. I humbly admit, I was a complete simp and I had this situation with a girl for 6 months. I was incredibly in denial when she flaked on me. Spoke on ft only twice and towards the end would say she couldn’t talk cause she was going to sleep but she was clearly on snap. 😂I feel I’ve definitely evolved as a person after watching people like yourself. Thanks a bunch, always fun to watch. 🙏
I had somebody like that last year. It was hard to discern because she did exactly what you said, even if I leave it alone, she would shoot me a message. Turns out that yes, she did loved my attention. I took her on dates, said nice things, made her laugh, even bought flowers and birthday gift. But at the end when I pushed her to get an answer I got that "There is 0% chance for her to be with me". Was very confused about the whole situation because I never had somebody like that at all and that would be that starved for atention to the point that she would willingly keep somebody that she said it was "0%". Until I read more about narcissism. And she looks like a textbook example.
Based on the title of the video I thought my situation with a girl was going to hit every point, but actually the opposite happened, very pleasant surprise.
There is one situation like that to worry about. When she has several options he keeps the ones with lower priority at a distance. When her first priorities don't work then she switches to plan B or C. Not saying this happened to you, but it's quite common.
Well, the good news is that I don't get much of this kind of behavior, so clearly no one has targeted me for attention this way. The bad news is that no one is asking for my compliments, even when I *do* have something very kind to say.
Yep… happened recently with me. We dated shortly, but she would flake more times than we went out. Even met and had dinner with her parents in December. Too many cancellations though; more than the airlines during a blizzard; smh.
Your describing one of my work colleagues who calls me it does matter bother her what time durring the day. One day a colleague who I've been been friends with for a long he sits near me when I'm working form the office said I should stop answering her calls. I just take it as sign I'm better than her at the work we do. I'm glad I'm not dating or living with her.
Your account just got verified or I just didnt notice getting lost in your insightful Content! Yoiu have definitely improved my perspective towards everything 😀.
The IG one made it for me. That’s why I never ask for IG. If she likes you and wants to truly get to know you she will give you her number easily. Plus it’s more mysterious.
A woman recently approached me . I knew who she was beforehand. Her face lit up like a Christmas tree when I said her name . That was all it took. She never even asked me my name. Never asked a single thing about my life. I knew then she only wanted my validation. Pretty sad and shallow way to live . To bad.
You know people. You have to be rejected to see the full picture. I've known her for 15 years. 2 years ago I fell in love with her. Once she broke up with him we started hanging out a lot. Dive deep into conversations. Until I told her how I felt Of course I walked away and focused on me. But the more away you go the more you realize. I was the only close available man to her. I filled the absence of the ex. She just liked my attention and validation. Once I walked away I noticed that she still texted me and interact on socials. But I didn't gave in until she stopped. Probably another dude fell in to the traps. Congrats on him. Let him chase her. So for 15 years I was the go to guy for support. Not anymore. Other women can enjoy me.
does she like you or does she like the attention? 1- you don't see her 2- it's one sided 3- fishes for compliments 4- gives you instagram, instead of her phone number 5- asks for money/gifts 6- no emotional connection
The timing for this is perfect, and I hope it's not true 😉. I really liked this woman too, darn it anyway. Oh well, I guess it's going to have to be her loss- Thanks for the vid!
Yep, once I had a women I went out with and thought it was going well, and then she started making excuses for not wanting to get together but would still text me for advice or to chat. She moved so I was okay with it. But she would often come back to my city so I noticed despite multiple text chats a week, if asked her out when she was here, she would say yes, but then "something would come up" and could not hang out. After months of this she said she would definitely get together with me next time she was here, but when she came in she said her mom was sick. (was, but...) Said she was too depressed to hang out and was taking care of her, yada. (by then I was definitely onto she was stringing me along) But then, because I was social media friends with her, she posted pics of her out with some other guy and seemed to have no problem at all having fun. Not too depressed huh? I called her out on it, unfriended her, and have not spoken to her since. Lesson learned.
Great video, and I completely agree. Also, the whole Instagram handle thing also holds true in online dating (at least for me). If she's sharing her handle on her profile.. *SWIPE!* ❌🤮
This woman I liked at my job was like this we only had one conversation and I don't think I was too subtle with my feelings or something because she started being giving me less energy then before but to everyone else she was still talkative
Easy way to find out if she likes you is to look at what she does when you two just sit on the other sides of the room while saying nothing . If she is interested, she will start to look at you for no reason. There is the eye contact but if a girl is shy she won't look in your eyes so you can't depend on that.
The sad thing is many men haven't experienced true desire from a woman so they'll lack knowledge of what real interest looks like as reference. And they won't give it up because they get some of her attention too despite wanting more. Sad stuff really.
It's always best when the woman shows more interest in you than you do in her. Why? Because no woman respects a man who is always available. It sounds weird, maybe even bad, but the truth isn't supposed to sound nice
I once had that situation, once I started moving on; we were at the same social function for a mutual friend. I was speaking with another woman, I noticed she was looking in my direction. Then turning away when I noticed, she was looking at my direction. I was thinking, 'Is she jealous ?' Maybe she is, and as you said she liked the attention, but now she's not getting it. Please advise if you can, thank you.
You might not like hearing this, but she probably sees you as "fan" since you have probably treated her as a celebrity. Yes, she might be jealous seeing you talk to other women, but that is her ego getting hurt rather than love for you. You need to up your value and self respect and work hard on improving yourself. And as far as this woman is concerned, if she wants you then she has to make the effort to reach out to you and even then you shouldn't go back to her immediately or be the same "fan" that you were earlier. Let her now do some good things for you and give you attention to win you if she really loves and respects you. Either ways, I wish you the very best my friend. God helps those who help themselves, and you deserve love if you give love 🙏
@@Sarkartraining LMAO 🤣 🤣 🤣. Yes, I did moved on, I do have self-respect, and so on. One month does not constitue love. Remember, we are men. We have built great engineering structures, besieged city walls. There's more women than men. We really don't have to chase women, women have to chase us.
So it depends on the woman every woman is different but I do know when you are online on a dating site women do waste your time and are only there for the attention of men. I have written in my profile that I'm not looking for a pen pal or a text buddy or a female friend so they don't waste my time and they steal waste your time and their time and spend their money which is expensive and a waste if you don't plan to meet with someone.
She only talks to you when she needs something and pretends to be nice to you. If she doesn't do anything in return, stay away from her.
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Sad but true
Oh yeah man, it’s happened to me but I learned my lesson
@@justpassingby3409 sorry to hear what happened. Good you learned your lesson. Stay away from women like this. They’re horrible who cares if she’s hot or popular
My sister💀
I was recently in a situation like this not too long ago with a coworker. Thought she was interested but quickly realized she actually liked my attention because she hung out with me a ton, then completely went cold when another guy came around. I cut my losses and moved on only for her to start feeling some type of way and having the nerve to ask "Why didn't I come after her?" That let me know I made the right decision 😂
Boom! That's a wrap! And hey, nice to see you on this channel too lol
OOOF! Good for you for moving along lol
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Bro!!!!!!!! I’m going through this shit right now
Definitely childish tendencies. They actually find it very attractive if you do "come and save her" but it's such a toxic way to treat men who do respect women's decisions. She's not mature. Tells you all you need to know
Fellas, I don't mind repeating this as it may help a lot of people, choose women who choose you and invest in those people whom invest in you
Time stamps:
0:37 You don’t see her
1:47 It’s one sided
2:15 Fishes for Compliments
3:08 Gives you Instagram @
3:33 Asks for Stuff
4:08 No Emotional connection
Best wishes lads:)
Definitely Belongs to the Streets 💥
Not all heroes wear capes
Thank you Time Chad
You're so right, Courtney. I decided a long time ago to stop staying in one-sided relationships (even one-sided friendships), and I've been much better off since then. I lost a few "friends" because of it, but I have no regrets.
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The No Emotional Connection point is a sure sign. I went out with a woman years ago who never made the effort to get to know me as a person. I, on the other hand, made the effort to know everything about her and her drama. Long story short I cut my losses and ran.
Yeah, sad but really true
At least you had sex with her.
Wanting someone who puts in the same amount of effort and energy as you isn’t being needy, don’t ever feel like that. If anything, it shows that you know what you want and you know your self worth. Don’t settle for less, actions speak louder than words. There’s someone out there who will appreciate you for you without draining you for your attention.
Definitely. The biggest green flag is that you get back as much as or more than you put in. You put in 100, you get back 110. :)
I was talking to a girl for two years, went into it not knowing much. She took advantage of me, nothing was enough for her. Fast forward, I’m now with someone who reciprocates and is a keeper. Looking back on it, I’ve realized so much to where now these women don’t phase me. Those two years taught me a BIG lesson 💪🏾
I was in a similar rut... Did my absolute best for this girl I really grew to like... Got me nowhere, and I left...
Yep 3 years for me and she longed for my glance. Sounds like a nutcase. Since I gave up on her I found the sweetest girl who is so kind and sweet with a good heart and she has emotional intelligence. The problem is she's 30 years younger. But heck I'll take that over a woman my age who is cold as ice.
Honestly the best kind of relationships are the ones where you both can safely get off social media and be yourselves. I feel a lot of being used revolves around social media attention.
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If you go out.. There are girls a restaurants, nightclubs etc that is payed to get your attention, to make you use more money in there, and "brand" the place. Here in Copenhagen it is so, that like 7 out of 10 girls in the bar and on the dancefloor, are payed to be there "entertaining" the guys.
@andersnielsen6044 yea that's the bs and that's how ppl get hurt. I was at a bar like that and I told security they shouldn't do stuff like that especially to black men. We don't like being played. I wad at a Latin bar
I follow alot of good men dating coaches. You by far are my number one woman dating coach for advice. Helps to have a woman’s perspective.
Thank you so much. I’m glad! 🤍
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Yes, these are good tells, and thank you for sharing Courtney. On a practical note, I would suggest to guys that watch this to work on pulling back generally when you see behaviour you don't like. Desire lives in the space between people; give her room to chase you. Don't you want to be in a relationship where you're loved and wanted! Pull back, let her win you over, not as a game or a gimmick, but genuinely, if she's using you, treating you badly, or you're just unhappy. And by that same token, if your going to compliment her, if you're going to buy her a gift, escalate off a positive, not a negative, and certainly not silence. By actively move towards joy day to day you'll lose the people who aren't right for you, and just as importantly create the relationships you want to be a part of. Thanks again for sharing Courtney!
Such great and authentic content, Courtney! Listen up, guys! Don’t waste you time with women who show low-interest.
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I hear ya - George! Great Content - by Courtney!
Fellas, if you want a woman to Chase you - never give her the Validation that she’s looking for!
That’s your Power over her - Never hand your Power over to anybody - it’s yours to Keep! If you do, it’s basically Over!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Interesting how Corey Wayne calls non-existent interest as ‘low interest’. He’s quite obviously a Beta, and I’m surprised no one can see it.
A great way to figure out who a woman truly is character wise, or anyone for that matter, is observe how they treat someone who can do absolutely nothing for them. If they treat them poorly, especially behind their back, like talking trash about them or etc; that's all you need to know.
This has always been my experience with women. From the time I was a youngster to today. Women only want attention from me but give their hearts and body’s to others. I finally learned a new word in the English language. “NO”. I finally learned to say, “no”. My wallet thanks me. My heart while lonely is not always broken. Sweetheart, all girls are like this. All of them.
Bein lonely is way better than being with wrong people ppl man,coz there’s nothin more lonelier thn tht
If you are always buying a woman at work or college lunch or coffee and she gossips about her fellow co-workers or college students, avoid her. I had this happened to me at a previous job. If she's gossiping about other people she's gossiping about you, too
Unless you're happy to be gossiped about, I guess.
@@simontmn I guess it's what she says about you. LOL.
Why would you always buy a girl lunch or coffe lol
If she likes you, she will find excuses to text you or hang out with you, otherwise, just block her, and move on.
What if we're in a gym and this girl gazes at me through mirrors and what not.
But then she comes with her male gym buddy (I'm guessing her husband)
Also I never talk to her , because I'm maintaining distance because that's strange if that is her husband + she's ogling in the gym
@@lavatr8322 If she gazes at you, go up to her, ask her out, if she’s interested then she’ll say Yes, if she’s not, move on. Don’t get caught up over one Girl.
Focus on yourself, your health, and your business goals!
Best advice I learned from personal experience. Do not let yourself be emotionally attached too soon, give someone limited exposure of yourself. But don’t let yourself go anything beyond casual till you get the date.
Dating is for getting to know someone and if they’re not putting an effort, I don’t think you should put effort in at all until you get the date. Best thing you can do, is ask out a girl once and if she says no, you move on. There is no asking out more than once unless she starts putting in the effort that she did not put it in when you were getting to know her on a casual level.
Do not give parts of yourself that someone does not deserve all upfront. Reserve that for someone who truly puts the effort in and leave dating as they get to know phase. My mentor told me that being one on one with someone is truly how you get to know someone.
Courtney long time but and it's good to see ya 😄This video is a time saver and you just helped solved 90% of the hurdles guys deal with in dating. 9 times out of 10 they just using a guy for attention. As guys become more confident in their abilities and meeting different types of women; they can easily spot these women who are time wasters because they all have the same patterns when dating them. Anyways, I'm proud of all your growth on TH-cam. I'm out trying to better my life right now but I could never forget ya friend. I wish you continued success and happiness ✨️
Georgio! So good to see a comment from you. I hope you’ve been doing well 🤍
@@CourtneyRyan Yeah! I been hanging there Courtney. Lots of ups and plenty of downs but things are looking great for me. I even landed a snack sponsorship for my channel/brand. So I'm never too far away from your channel. Just trying to get myself together. It's good to get a reply from you and I hope you are always well 🤍 Thanks for everything!
Nice simping giorgio. High level simp hahaha
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@Vey Melinda, shut
She just wants attention,
She don't want your heart,
And you should've known this
from the very, very start.
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I quit calling gorgeous looking woman pretty long time ago ;; just look at pretty woman
I know that song
Today your energy seems amazing. You seemed genuinely happy while shooting this video. Thanks for sharing such awesome content!
Awww thank you! ❤️
If she's, from work or school, only calling you to pick her up after her boyfriend kicks her out of his car, you pick her up to take her home, never says thank you for picking her up, and then at school or work she ignores you. She's using you.
Very helpful, especially when I was told by her that she had a boyfriend and yet she was the one sending those strong signs of wanting me to talk to her. So ever since watching this video I've stopped completely talking and trying to get to know her more. If your in a relationship , then you shouldn't be sending any signs to anyone but the person who your in an relationship with.
Yeah I had this. "I love him! I'm going to marry him! *sex text sex text sex text*" - I believe they did break up pre-marriage. 😂
@Jay L *you're (you + are)
@@riproar11 don't understand your response.
@@jasonlui You wrote "If your in a relationship" - correct is you're or you are, not your
@@simontmn that because i'm dyslexic
Great advice, especially loved the tip to evaluate if the relationship is one-sided. Thanks for this video!
Your videos are so helpful, Courtney. Thank you for taking the time.
I’m so glad! It’s my pleasure 🥰
@@CourtneyRyan Personally I love how you actually read your comments! With 324K subs that is a mark of a high quality TH-camr! 😂
Simple: if you’re confused about her liking you, she doesn’t like you.
Truth.
I saw a random Redditor sum it up another way, saying that the best dating advice she ever got was simply:
“If they like you, you’ll know. If they don’t, you’ll be confused.”
I had a coworker come up to me and asked to hang out. I said yes and we started texting each other that night. I met up with her the next day at her house and we chatted for a while. The next day i texted her and she didnt seem as interested anymore but still texted me anyway. We texted for another 2 weeks where I constantly asked to see her again but she was always busy. I told her that I had feelings for her but she said she wasnt ready for a relationship at the moment. I eventually got to a point where I started watching your videos and I realized that she just wanted someone who would say she was pretty and tell her how great she was. I broke it off yesterday. I dont have time to waste.
Absolutely sound advice, any man worth his salt knows that women like Courtney described in this video are nothing but bad news. If I get even a wiff of any of these games or feel that I am being somehow used, that girl is toast...
Actually just happened to me. After almost 5 years someone finally paid attention to me. I was exstatic and asked her out for some coffee on our time off. She said yes but then retracted and ghosted me. So I tried to avoid her and she comes to my office and starts crying saying she is being the adult by talking about it.
Well.. she has a lot of potential and is quite a looker. But its all meaningless if she can't just be honest with the people around her. Plus telling me she is still attracted to me. I'd love to have a fun date but she piled too much baggage up.
I'm devastated since it's the first real time I asked someone out in such a long time. But hey, I'm working out now. So that's good. Thanks for the video. They always help :)
Stay away she's poison. Went through other guys first, then lures you in and suddenly goes cold. Clearly, she's weighing her other options.
Bro, you might not like this, but she probably retracted and ghosted you as she found someone else and went out with him. And when that guy dumped/ghosted her, she came back to you crying and all. Unfortunately this is a very common thing with some women. Don't be fooled by her looks, she has to care for you to make you feel good.
From what you said, you are probably just the "in between" guy for her till she finds the next guy. This is not to say that you are not good, but that she is an opportunist who just uses guys.
Good to hear you are working out, just work a bit on your mindset and don't be in a scarcity mindset. Believe in yourself and don't commit fully too early in a relationship. I believe good things are coming ahead for you. Wishing you all the very best my friend 🙏
My alarm bells are ringing lol This girl is a user. Please stay vigilant brother 👌🏼😂
You said it's the first time that you asked someone out in a long time, so the experience wasn't a total waste of time if you haven't asked someone out in a while because you were nervous about it, now you have the confidence to ask other people out as well.
I'm gonna be completely honest with you from personal experience - never compromise or overlook anything that a woman does based on the fact that she's hot - I've done that before and the truth is that no matter how physically attractive someone is initially, that physical attraction wears off pretty quickly once you're in their presence a lot. Lol you almost become desensitised to it and that's when their character and personality is meant to sustain longevity. So if you compromise based on physical attraction but later it turns out that she actually has horrible character and no personality, you're gonna feel like crap later. I do see that you didn't let that sway you so keep that principle going forward.
@@dinopadayachee8289 Very well said and explained
This is really killing me inside! It's hard whether she's being friendly or she's really flirty. And I don't want to come off as a creep or whatever when trying to make the first move.
Sometimes it’s really hard to tell but I hope this helps!
@@CourtneyRyan think it did. Thanks.
All men who are successful with women must get over approach anxiety. Think on this. Is it the man who keeps looking at a girl but doesn't act, or the man who sees a girl, walks over and starts engaging her in conversation that is more likely to be thought of as a creep? It's the first guy, because he is communicating interest by looking, but lacks the confidence to approach and that is unnerving to a woman because it projects low value and weakness, which she "translates" to creepiness.
So, when you see that attractive girl, approach and engage immediately. This is the congruent, confident, high value move. And creeps are none of these things so...you're not a creep.
@@jleano609 oh, thank you. 😌
@@kenrickbautista6141 she has videos, like one called "She likes you"
Gotta notice genuine attention, and desire, and feed it. The opportunity to "make your move" will show up.
Great advice Courtney. Too bad I didn't know this 45 years ago. Nice to know I "eventually" figured it out. Coincidentally just happened to need the "refresh", and it's nice to see the kind of stuff other guys have to deal with these days. Always so challenging. ;)
This is why I don't like texting now. If you just wanna be pen pals, go somewhere else and not waste my time! The max range of an excuse is ZERO METERS
Right!!!
The phone is for setting up dates.
That's so True Some girls do like too just Want Attention from you And a girl That Does That too you She's just Wasting your Time with a girl like That 💯
The easiest way to avoid the Instagram thing, is don't have one. Lol I only have a Fakebook account, and I haven't used it in more than a year. It makes life a lot more pleasant to not deal with social media, and all the BS that comes with it.
I think I needed these things told to me years ago... I'm thinking about all the red flags from previous relationships/talking to girls.
Extremely helpful video. Pretty much most of the women I've met in my life fall into this category. Where to meet women who AREN'T like this and how to approach them would be another helpful video I think 🤔
I was watching a video recently where a guy was interviewing females on whether they prefer a dad bod or a six pack. Most of them said dad bod. Their reasons were very consistent with one another. They said it makes them feel better about themselves with less pressure to have to look good. This is the definition of insecurity. Relating to this subject the need for attention or a chronic method for getting attention is insecurity.
Makes sense lol smh
I agree with this. Also, a lot of women are drawn to a niche. Maybe a skater boy image, men with tattoos, musicians, etc. If the niche is very unique and she can't help it, looks will be the last thing she cares about. If the niche and personality match, he could be the ugliest dude in town.
@@stevensaleh6955 absolutely. Looks are often times a detriment to the male. Females are many times quick to label a good looking dude that takes care of himself. So, many of the females in the video i watched said the guy would most likely be perceived as too into himself if he looked good. By middle age the female regrets her decision
I just want to be healthy and have a sixpack as a consequence :(((
Yup, totally agree. Those guys are just easier and they like that. Easier to control and everything. I've had women tell me before that they won't be with me because, in other words, I'm too much for them. I'm out of their league. I've had women who don't normally hit the weights but did at the time to try to keep up and then stop once we were nothing but the point here, really is that a lot of women don't wanna feel challenged by us so they lower their standards. It's pathetic really
I have a girl in my class which I had contact with. I was always the one asking for a meet up and she always made excuses and sometimes didn't even replied. One time she was at my place to visit my cats but I never got the chance to see her dog. In school she always wanted me to give her my Hotspot and she often did the dog eyes thing. After a few months I realized what she was about when even her close friends didn't like her. I stopped being in contact with her which is awesome!
Keep your heads up kings!
Courtney thank you giving us all as men these precious information. those are unique . actually we all know girls apply all these tips tactics onto us we are all aware of these but somehow we may forget often time :)
Self-Centered people will grind you down until you are depressed and miserable, then they will leave you because you are depressed and miserable.
I don’t allow these types of behavior from women anymore…I used to. The moment I see a few or some of these signs, its a no no from me. Time to move on.
Great tips Courtney. Very good for men to know, and be aware of; especially before you fall too far too fast.
What’s happen to society? In the old days, if you liked someone, you’d go up to them, have a conversation and tell them how you felt. There were no mind games, no guessing games, no trying to play detective and figure out what the hell the person was thinking. Today’s generation has made it a hell of a lot more complicated when in actuality, it doesn’t have to be. Save the fun and games for when you’re in the relationship. Stop messing with peoples hearts and feelings by having them try to figure you out before hand. And we wonder why there’s so many failed relationships and divorces today. Too many games being played.
Do yourself and everyone a favor and just have the damn courage to tell someone how you feel. So what if they don’t feel the same way. At least now you know, and you can stop wasting each other’s time and move on. No good can come from mind game playing. There’s nothing intriguing about possibly messing with someone’s feelings. Be the man, or woman, step up, and communicate with your mouth. Period.
Ummmmmmmmmm…..manipulation and mind games have been a thing since the very beginning of time.
Gotta get in here as a sacrifice to the algorithm gods.
Guys, listen to your girl, boost her dreams, be her her biggest hype man. The good ones will return the favor, but someone who make you chase, and treats your time like a play thing isn’t worth the time.
Love this! Thanks Christopher!
She should be your biggest hype man first and most consistently. Definitely support her desires but she should be boosting your dreams because it is your responsibility to carry the load and not hers
I'm all for honoring women that deserve it and giving them a life and experience that keeps them comfortable and free to be themselves but putting them first is the wrong way to go because women love leaders and if you treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan so you should be out there fulfilling your dreams so that you can provide and she can perfect
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I've been dealing with women since I was a teenager so I definitely know all of the natural signs, especially having had my first kiss and first grade and I don't want Courtney to know how young I was when I went and did the other thing. The Instagram handle is a modern key point hahaha definitely eye contact, physical touch, facing you with the body, laughing at things you say, trying to be just as witty and response, there is a multitude of things women will do to show you that they want more of your attention because if they are trying to use you they will use manipulation tactics instead of natural behaviors
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@@SkillzKillzBR lol what ?
@@LatimusChadimus >>how young I was when I went and did the other thing
@@SkillzKillzBR oh oh I see lol I was about 50 weeks away from being a teenager when it happened for me
How?
Great question. In this case who I've seen once and am messaging once a day in essay format (both ways), I *really* hope she's genuinely interested.
I so relate to this my ex I believed never really liked me or actually had feelings for me she only cared to get attention for herself I can go on and on this was a great video Courtney
Women have teasing abilities, I have realised that in the gym..
It's something inbetween wanting Attention / Validation and Teasing ...
You can never ever Guess.
I ignore Everyone
The issue is, Courtney, if a woman is vying for a man's attention, without having any interest in him whatsoever, there is clearly something psychologically wrong with her. She's not normal. Why does she feel such a desperate NEED to be validated, especially if it's a man she barely knows? What's going on there?
Narcissism
A good relationship is reciprocal. If it's anything else move on.
The harsh reality is that's most women on dating apps now. They used to be a good tool to communicate with women who were more serious about meeting.
But now the majority of women on apps just chat and go through the motions for validation. I personally don't get it and see it as a waste of time.
She wants your attention. If she wanted you she wouldn't waste time. The way some of these girls are around me really makes me lose respect for them for how fake and leading they are.
Easy Solution: decrease or stop paying attention to her specifically for the purpose of pursuing the relationship. If she actually likes you, she will talk to you and make time. If she doesn’t, she’ll go and get that attention elsewhere
I updated my wardrobe a little bit (made a quick short if you want to check it out) I’m perfectly fine giving someone ego boost if they deserve it. Today I had a girl tell me she wanted to be invited to dinner, and I said even I have restaurants where I eat for free I don’t like interested people. And moved on. But you can weed out and sometimes people appear who are deserving your energy. Mirroring our light should be ok, it doesn’t break it when we encounter people not open to love. We just keep giving love to people and they eventually loose that warmth in the long run.
Peeled one user off just to fall into the claws of another. Learned a lot and it never happened again. Pay close attention to what comes back. It doesn't have to be equal, as long as the flow is steady and cheerfully given. More than just a few grudgingly discarded breadcrumbs.
I had a female friend whom I would text her a joke every now and then and that was our only social interaction. We made plans to hang out twice and she canceled out both times.
She’s gone.
Love the topic and video! You always give the best advice !!💗💗
Heeeellllo😍
Wow. This just happened to me and I just cut it off. On point. Especially everything you said in the beginning
This is so helpful. Thank you sis
Thank you for this Courtney 😔 hit home. But thx for your guidance. Very much appreciated 🙏🏻
A while ago I met this girl through social media. In the beginning she was the one reaching out to me everyday, a few times a day. At some point she slowly started showing her true colors. She was crazy. Out of sudden she called me a liar and was like ''why are you talking to me, I'm a weird person'' etc. (huge red flag!) I felt bad for her due to her bad experience with her exes, so I tried to calm her down, which was a huge mistake. I should of blocked her and moved on. Anyway, I managed to calm her down, but things never became like they used to be. She wasn't the sweet girl I met.
After a few days she did this weird thing again. I got sick and tired of it. I pointed it out to her that she wasn't okay and told her I'm done. The moment I did that, she showed her true colors for real this time. I'm glad I didn't waste alot of my time with her.
"why are you talking to me, I'm a weird person'' - There are plenty of damaged people out there for whom the very sign that someone likes them, is a red flag that that person isn't worthy. Because they dislike themselves, if you like them then they come to despise you.
@@simontmn Thats what happened at the end. In the beginning she was a whole different person. Those type of people are the least ungrateful ones. You try to help them due to their bad experience. They end up trying to screw you over.
Fun fact, she called me someone with multiple personalities while she was the one behaving like that. Quite ironic honestly.
@@ThenameisOskar "she called me someone with multiple personalities while she was the one behaving like that" Projection is REALLY common!
@@simontmn Yup
Dear genuine Nice Guys, I hope you're taking notes because this applies to you. As for the agenda driven Nice Guys, women are gonna suss you out anyway. Just be straight up about your intentions, you'll win some and you will lose some.
I would be really intrigued to see you do a video about signs your boss likes you. I know that’s kind of tricky but I would love to see you explore that whole ordeal
When I was internet dating, I considered any suggestion to message with Snap or Insta as coming from a bot account, promoting a paid client. So, if someone gave me a social media acct instead of digits, things would end right there.
Facts
Its very easy to tell if she talks to you for attention. Dont talk to her for a few days. If she doesnt text you she uses you for validation/attention. Usually when a girl really likes you, she will call or text you within 24 hours the last time you 2 have spoken. If she is a bit upset or mad, that also tells she likes you.
Yes this quite true. I've noticed that If a woman only contacts you after a long time, months or years, have passed, she is just using you for validation or attention and was probably seeing/dating guys during that time of no contact. A woman whose truly interested will try to maintain the lines of communication on a consistent basis.
Any time someone exhibits parasitic behaviour (i.e. take and give nothing in return), that's a sure bet you're being used. This also applies to platonic relationships, not just romantic ones.
Even though this behavior can exist anywhere, American girls in general have developed what is probably one of the biggest reputations for themselves of being this selfish and narcisistic. The girls and women I'm going for are from Europe (won't name the country to avoid competition) where these issues are virtually nonexistent and is one plus side to considering the idea of entering an international relationship instead of being stuck with those of the same society, but those who are curious enough and willing to work a little may just reap tremendous rewards.
This video is among those where for once girls are taking a bit of the heat. It's not always the guy's fault that girls act this way. If I'm being honest, it's more like the fault of the parents. They should be ashamed that their kids ended up this way and it's a reflection of their failure to properly dicipline them. Any parent in their right mind would want to raise their kids so that they can make critical decisions, have a good future so that hopefully, one day, they can meet their grandkids. Wasting time on meaningless relationships and next thing you know, it's too late, and then you'll wonder why you wasted your life.
Mail order brides aren't anything new. Most men don't choose to go down that road though.
I agree, these horror stories I hear from American men re American women barely relate to what I've seen in London from English women, and not at all from European & Eurasian women.
@@simontmn True. Too many stories about the dating scene in the US proves how screwed up things are there. Of course not everyone, but most people there sound kind of nuts, so much so that it might not even be worth the risk of trying to date them. International couples are becoming more of a thing and hopefully I end up in one myself
@@michaelrespicio5683 My gf (as of one month) was born in Kazakhstan, grew up in Siberia, lived here in London since 2000. She's 47, I'm 49. She's fantastic; beautiful, bright, and very demure. We are both divorcees each with 1 child, and we've both only been with 2 people our entire lives (spouse, + 1 post-spouse relationship). I feel we've started out on a wonderful journey together.
Lol I most be an odd ball. I'm an American girl but would rather be living anywhere but here. Dating here in the states is confusing and messed up. I hate it. I feel sorry for my guy friends, most of their wives or girlfriends are bloody crazy and I can't stand being around them. I will straight up call out my girlfriends if their being an ass to their partners.
It's not necessarily true that if they spend time with you that they want to be with you...some girls hang out , suck up the attention and perks of courtship but still drop the friendship line on you like a rock...
Thank you so much for your videos!! Unfortunately,I just cut it off with this girl I’m seeing, but it needed to be done. Thank you for the video, I actually really really needed to hear this…
Courtney, I only wish this video was out last year 😂. I humbly admit, I was a complete simp and I had this situation with a girl for 6 months. I was incredibly in denial when she flaked on me. Spoke on ft only twice and towards the end would say she couldn’t talk cause she was going to sleep but she was clearly on snap. 😂I feel I’ve definitely evolved as a person after watching people like yourself. Thanks a bunch, always fun to watch. 🙏
Appreciated hearing your experience.
@@Introvertedalpha I’ve clearly had to learn the hard way 😂
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i'm a girl watching this cause i wanted to know how do i look and i'm definitely not just wanting attention based on this video, i'm for real
In a world full of fake b.s , it's challenging to meet someone who's genuinely interested in you. Nonetheless I still keep the faith and just do me.
I totally agree about unfollowing their IG.
Everybody, men or women do your best not to hurt other people's feelings if you can.
I had somebody like that last year. It was hard to discern because she did exactly what you said, even if I leave it alone, she would shoot me a message. Turns out that yes, she did loved my attention. I took her on dates, said nice things, made her laugh, even bought flowers and birthday gift. But at the end when I pushed her to get an answer I got that "There is 0% chance for her to be with me". Was very confused about the whole situation because I never had somebody like that at all and that would be that starved for atention to the point that she would willingly keep somebody that she said it was "0%". Until I read more about narcissism. And she looks like a textbook example.
Boy you dodged a bullet lol NPDs are not wifey material
Cluster b disordered woman...
Can't wait to listen to this while working out later.
Enjoy! 💪🏼
Based on the title of the video I thought my situation with a girl was going to hit every point, but actually the opposite happened, very pleasant surprise.
There is one situation like that to worry about. When she has several options he keeps the ones with lower priority at a distance. When her first priorities don't work then she switches to plan B or C. Not saying this happened to you, but it's quite common.
Well, the good news is that I don't get much of this kind of behavior, so clearly no one has targeted me for attention this way. The bad news is that no one is asking for my compliments, even when I *do* have something very kind to say.
Yep… happened recently with me. We dated shortly, but she would flake more times than we went out. Even met and had dinner with her parents in December. Too many cancellations though; more than the airlines during a blizzard; smh.
Your describing one of my work colleagues who calls me it does matter bother her what time durring the day. One day a colleague who I've been been friends with for a long he sits near me when I'm working form the office said I should stop answering her calls. I just take it as sign I'm better than her at the work we do. I'm glad I'm not dating or living with her.
Courtney’s got our backs. Leave the time wasters alone.
Your account just got verified or I just didnt notice getting lost in your insightful Content! Yoiu have definitely improved my perspective towards everything 😀.
The IG one made it for me. That’s why I never ask for IG. If she likes you and wants to truly get to know you she will give you her number easily. Plus it’s more mysterious.
Those are the types to not be friends with as I have been through this myself
If she don't help you earn a dollar or save a dollar, then she ain't worth spending a dollar on.
Wow 🤩 thank you so much for sharing these signs 👌👌👌👍
A woman recently approached me . I knew who she was beforehand. Her face lit up like a Christmas tree when I said her name . That was all it took. She never even asked me my name. Never asked a single thing about my life. I knew then she only wanted my validation. Pretty sad and shallow way to live . To bad.
You know people. You have to be rejected to see the full picture. I've known her for 15 years. 2 years ago I fell in love with her. Once she broke up with him we started hanging out a lot. Dive deep into conversations. Until I told her how I felt Of course I walked away and focused on me. But the more away you go the more you realize. I was the only close available man to her. I filled the absence of the ex. She just liked my attention and validation. Once I walked away I noticed that she still texted me and interact on socials. But I didn't gave in until she stopped. Probably another dude fell in to the traps. Congrats on him. Let him chase her. So for 15 years I was the go to guy for support. Not anymore. Other women can enjoy me.
When you told her you like her how was her reaction ? Was she indifferent.?
does she like you or does she like the attention?
1- you don't see her
2- it's one sided
3- fishes for compliments
4- gives you instagram, instead of her phone number
5- asks for money/gifts
6- no emotional connection
The timing for this is perfect, and I hope it's not true 😉. I really liked this woman too, darn it anyway. Oh well, I guess it's going to have to be her loss- Thanks for the vid!
Yep, once I had a women I went out with and thought it was going well, and then she started making excuses for not wanting to get together but would still text me for advice or to chat. She moved so I was okay with it. But she would often come back to my city so I noticed despite multiple text chats a week, if asked her out when she was here, she would say yes, but then "something would come up" and could not hang out. After months of this she said she would definitely get together with me next time she was here, but when she came in she said her mom was sick. (was, but...) Said she was too depressed to hang out and was taking care of her, yada. (by then I was definitely onto she was stringing me along) But then, because I was social media friends with her, she posted pics of her out with some other guy and seemed to have no problem at all having fun. Not too depressed huh? I called her out on it, unfriended her, and have not spoken to her since. Lesson learned.
Nicely 👍
Great video, and I completely agree.
Also, the whole Instagram handle thing also holds true in online dating (at least for me). If she's sharing her handle on her profile.. *SWIPE!* ❌🤮
This woman I liked at my job was like this we only had one conversation and I don't think I was too subtle with my feelings or something because she started being giving me less energy then before but to everyone else she was still talkative
I am 59 years old and lol I just realized outside of the Instagram part this is my wife by description.
Easy way to find out if she likes you is to look at what she does when you two just sit on the other sides of the room while saying nothing . If she is interested, she will start to look at you for no reason. There is the eye contact but if a girl is shy she won't look in your eyes so you can't depend on that.
The sad thing is many men haven't experienced true desire from a woman so they'll lack knowledge of what real interest looks like as reference. And they won't give it up because they get some of her attention too despite wanting more. Sad stuff really.
Yeah but nobody cares about lonely men
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Only time she talks to me is when its about her work or she is slightly bored..she never asks how i am or anything..yeah im leaving
So true. Also, love the shirt
It's always best when the woman shows more interest in you than you do in her. Why? Because no woman respects a man who is always available. It sounds weird, maybe even bad, but the truth isn't supposed to sound nice
I once had that situation, once I started moving on; we were at the same social function for a mutual friend. I was speaking with another woman, I noticed she was looking in my direction. Then turning away when I noticed, she was looking at my direction. I was thinking, 'Is she jealous ?' Maybe she is, and as you said she liked the attention, but now she's not getting it. Please advise if you can, thank you.
Appreciated hearing your experience.
You might not like hearing this, but she probably sees you as "fan" since you have probably treated her as a celebrity. Yes, she might be jealous seeing you talk to other women, but that is her ego getting hurt rather than love for you.
You need to up your value and self respect and work hard on improving yourself. And as far as this woman is concerned, if she wants you then she has to make the effort to reach out to you and even then you shouldn't go back to her immediately or be the same "fan" that you were earlier. Let her now do some good things for you and give you attention to win you if she really loves and respects you. Either ways, I wish you the very best my friend. God helps those who help themselves, and you deserve love if you give love 🙏
Looking just once doesn't really mean anything. She could just be curious. If you catch her looking many times, then that is different.
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Yes, it was several times.
@@Sarkartraining
LMAO 🤣 🤣 🤣. Yes, I did moved on, I do have self-respect, and so on. One month does not constitue love. Remember, we are men. We have built great engineering structures, besieged city walls. There's more women than men. We really don't have to chase women, women have to chase us.
So it depends on the woman every woman is different but I do know when you are online on a dating site women do waste your time and are only there for the attention of men. I have written in my profile that I'm not looking for a pen pal or a text buddy or a female friend so they don't waste my time and they steal waste your time and their time and spend their money which is expensive and a waste if you don't plan to meet with someone.