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Feels kinda bad to admit, but I do have to force myself to spend time with friends sometimes just to make sure I'm not losing touch, even though it's a lot more comfortable to be alone.
it’s not just a beautiful face that makes us attractive so true like we need to love ourselves of how we are cause nothing can change that personality under us
@@Demon-wi9tx I can say the same. Some people are just more attractive physically. It's hard for me to get with anyone, being a black dude in the south of the USA... we still get a lot of bad attention down here.
@@TheBestLoser1 That's really unfortunate to hear brother, but you can't falter man. Even if it seems impossible, there are still women in MILLIONS that would accept you for everything other than your looks. Ofc keeping showering, regular hair trimming, a strong physique and all that keeps you sanitary is ALWAYS a + point, but that's exactly what'll help you find someone in this seemingly near-God forsaken world.
Timestamps: 0:26 I'll go next time! (Avoiding meeting up with people) 1:18 Look at me! (Being percieved as too full of yourself) 2:13 2 A.M. club (Sleep deprivation) 2:52 Glass half empty (Acting or being pessimistic) 3:40 Non - pickup lines (sexist or offensive jokes)
@@cosmic8040 , 31 hours. Way to make it obvious. 🤣 They could come up with other theories, like sleep deprived people don't have enough cognitive energy to be nice to others...
I'm pretty sure i definitely come of as arrogant and overly confident to a lot of people, which has hurt some of my relationships and absolutely put me in a position where i am viewed less favourably and as less attractive, I do know i have attractive traits and that i am generally doing well for myself. But my behaviour hasn't always been the best when it comes to presenting myself😅 Confidence is key, but quiet confidence is the way to have any door open without a key
The quiet confidence is what I strive for! I'm a mixture of self doubt or over confidence (to hide my self doubt). Humility and quiet confidence is just so attractive to me, that I want those traits for myself.
Going through a really hard time right now. My dads cancer has returned after a year but this time there’s nothing the doctors can do. He’s only got a certain amount of time left, and I’m spending as much time with him as I can. I’m trying to occupy myself and stay positive right now cause I also have to focus on graduating high school this semester. Your videos always help me figure out my mental health needs, I appreciate it! Edit: He passed away on March 7th, 2023.
Whatever happens know that at least some random guy on the internet truly wishes you the best life possible. Good luck with graduating! I personally know how hard losing a close loved one is and all i can say is that it’ll pass. You’ll remember all the fun times together, cry (a lot) but you’ll be happy to have experienced those happy moments, and that’s what matters in the end! at least that’s what i believe
Body hair isn't an unattractive habit for anyone despite what the thumbnail would have you believe. Edit: It’s cute how y’all need to freak out and remind me that opinion is in fact an opinion. Reminder, I don’t care about your opinions and that’s a fact.
@@mr.koibito How do i sound insecure? You're just being delusional if you think everyone finds hair attractive, that's just being self centred as hell.
As an introvert, I'm definitely number 1. Outside school, my friends invite me to drink and all that, so I can't avoid to say "no thanks, I'm not into that" so yeah, I mean I'd try but I don't like doing the things they do at those places, excessive drinking and making out with many strangers 😬, I do feel like I'm exaggerating and that maybe if I go I don't have to do those things, but I still say no 😢
Dw! U dont have to be someone ur not. Remember this video is just *stating* the habits - u dont need to be hard on urself to make urself likeable to others just cuz u have one of the listed habits. Be true to who u are and make changes for urself to be a better person not for pleasing people.
Hmm. I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I'm shy but I really wish people would invite me to stuff. It's so taxing to always have to be the one to reach out first. If someone does invite me for something, I never refuse!
@@listeningtomusicistalentidgaf Thanks, that's a lovely comment of yours < 3. Luckily I know my worth and because they're my friends they accept that I may not want to go (but it's so thoughtful of them to keep inviting me everytime, you know trying to do plans enjoyable enough for everyone when they can be made, and of course I'd go) but most of their plans are the ones I'm not truly comfortable in participating. My issue when I watched this video was remembering that not only my friends are like that, but apparently everyone around me is, so I do sometimes ask myself if I'm missing experiences and opportunities of meeting people / being likeable / attractive because of that 😕 *I have gone to a few parties and stuff and felt good but not my favorite activity to do*
That's fine to say no. Don't feel guilty that you don't wanna hang out with them. Real friends don't force you to come with them then force you to do dirty disgusting acts. What you did is actually better. I don't even want to hang out with those kinds of people. Vices don't mean fun for me. There's a lot cooler things to do rather than drinking and making out with strangers 😐
@@summerlove6579 well, i dont think u should feel as if ur "missing out on experiences" just cuz ur not doing what they are. There are so many better things to do than excessive drinking and making out with strangers. Also not everyone is like that. U might think that way cuz thats what ur willing to see. As the saying goes "people only see what they want to". Edit :- I would suggest either u change ur friend circle Or just try and do different things alone. But its all upto u anyways. Best wishes!!
Havent done this in a while so... Here are the ✨Timestamps ✨ 0:26 "i will go next time" 1:18 "look at me!" 1:59 "i'm a really good student-" 2:14 2 A.M club 2:53 glass half empty 3:40 non pick up lines
The strange thing in contrast to this video about optimism being more favorable: I as a person find it super grating to have either optimism or pessimism. I've been on all sides. I can at least relate more to pessimism due to my depression and anxiety and years of abuse. But the optimism where someone just tells you without a doubt that everything will be okay. You'll be fine. And all that stuff.. Makes me so pissed off... I'd rather someone say something like: you don't know that, it might just go well. Or, you'll be fine, people don't exactly have that much time and energy to put into trying to track you down and hurt you --(even though IRL that's happened to me in college where they did literally say they would hunt me down in my new school).
I agree. Being a person with bubbly personality is obv one thing who sees the good in others is one thing, but ppl who try and help others by giving them blind hope is a completely different story. They follow blind hope and trust even if they legit hurt themselves bc of it.
It is unattractive to me and to lots of other people, it collects bacteria and even smells harder than normal. You physically can't not have a bad armpit smell with hair there It always looks wet or puffy, both are horrid and disgusting, for both men and women, children and grownups Not everyone is attracted to that , deal with it Don't come at me for having a preference, the same way i won't come qt you for not feeling attraction to obeese people or literally anything else. End of story
Hey ❤ just letting you know that what I took from the thumbnail is that it's saying people who don't shave every day are unattractive, was this on purpose? Edit: In my opinion for all of those people with lower confidence, love shouldn't always be based on attractiveness, but on yours and the other person's emotions and kindness!
It's just showing that GENERALLY (not saying all), people think of armpit hair as unattractive. It's not saying that they are unattractive, it just shows the general opinion about it and how most people view it.
@@roseandjasmines A psychological channel shouldn’t encourage physical stereotypes of unattractiveness, especially since this one is culture-heavy. Hair in general have specific purposes and getting rid of it can cause numerous problems, and reinforcing that people who do not shave are perceived as unattractive is both unhealthy and unprofessional.
the thumbnail is effectively reeaaaaally maladroit. -_- It should be changed, according to me. (It just so genuinely skips years of feminism and... simple education about the normality of hair ?!? and so that hair CAN be appreciated, and even attractive, as such.)
@@domithebobcat oh please don’t start with this idiotic thing. Women with hair on their armpits are unattractive to ALL. Yes I know it’s different for men, but tbh seeing that there are women who think “hey men don’t shave so I don’t do it either!” Is pretty stupid. If you think you’re attractive like this, good luck. And btw there are things that are unattractive to all, it’s not like this channel can’t tell you about it. There are things in your body that you can’t change, but shaving is a CHOICE. And body hair are unattractive on some men too, that’s why they shave
honestly your videos make me happier and just help me. And yes i remember my first day of going back to school, worst but best thing when i commented. Thank you very much:]
It is unattractive to me and to lots of other people, it collects bacteria and even smells harder than normal. You physically can't not have a bad armpit smell with hair there It always looks wet or puffy, both are horrid and disgusting, for both men and women, children and grownups Not everyone is attracted to that , deal with it Don't come at me for having a preference, the same way i won't come qt you for not feeling attraction to obeese people or literally anything else. End of story
@@Themoofy bro why tf are you copy pasting these aggressive ass paragraphs here. This comment isn't even defending body hair, it just said the video had nothing to do with the thumbnail
Body hair is natural for everyone and we shouldnt make ppl feel ashamed for having it, even if people do find it unattractive. We should move to make ppl feel comfortable n their own skin
but it is also not healthy to not have your body hair shaved. Personally I find body hair on girls unatractive because of how it makes them look like they arent taking care of themselves. Though it is naturaul it can be quite gross. If you like girls who dont shave thats your type, not mine. 🙌💀
I don’t see how it would be unhealthy to not shave your body. All these sigma males on the internet keep speaking about mens needs and how men and women should be behaving in certain patriarchal ways due to their biology. They like to state their sexist ideologies and say they are the natural order of things, yet cannot grapple with the simple fact that most women grow body hair. We did not have razors, or tweezers, or waxing in the wild. It is not a chosen behavior to grow body hair like it is to shower, but yet we behave as though being unshaven is as unhygienic as being unbathed. If body hair is so disgusting, why can men have it? Why should it be permissible for only one gender, when it is natural for both. And besides, why should it matter what you want in a woman? Find a woman who shaves and date her. Stop trying to bully women who choose not to shave into being ashamed of their body hair.
One more thing I can add to this list is looking serious. I have heard this from multiple women before. Of course they said this was before they knew me. They said that I looked too serious. But I don't really like engaging in small talk with people I rarely know. 😅
Well, that’s exactly the reason I was approached. Because if I looked serious and rarely spoke with people it means I’ll speak with less ladies which is what she wants because she gets jealous! 😅
I asked a woman who would never say bad things about me. AKA my mom. She also said I looked like a snob. So it probably is true that my resting face sucks. 😆
as someone likely on the spectrum, you're right lol looking serious/RBF will attract some attention because a neutral expression should be neutral, but whatevs. as long as you're a nice person they'll get over it fast
@@hill2hell HOW CAN WE CHANGE THIS ABOUT OURSELVES, THO?!?! Man I gotta ask my family how my neutral face looks. It's probably the only reason why I'm not approached.
Sometimes people can change, you must love yourself and others around you. It doesn't matter how you look, just how you act and show yourself. Never be afraid to show yourself to the world!
More folks are just a little "funny looking"... AND there's some pretty awesome company in that!!! Anne Ramsey, Jack Elam, Robert Davi, Don Knotts, Danny DeVito, Alfred Hitchcock, Carol O'Connor, Jack O'Halloran, Buddy Hacket, Tim Conway, and the list just keeps going on and On and ON... Look ANY of them up, if you don't already know who they are. They're not the "Classically Beautiful People" but they were extremely well off, loved by many, and respected by pretty much everybody. Many of them LEANED IN to their particular "brand" of funny looking, and it might suck a little bit to get "Typed", as such... Aren't we ALL "Typed" somewhere??? Someone's even out there right now, making a judgment on a genuinely "Classically Beautiful" person right now. "S/He's completely out of _____'s league"... AND without a thought to what the "Classically Beautiful" person is thinking or likes or would even notice, the effort is deemed "waste" and dismissed. That's not the Beautiful Person's fault. S/He never got a chance either... SO if someone's going to pass a judgment entirely on looks, they're probably not worth any more of your time. It IS worth the time invested to find out, though. That's just basic civility, BUT it doesn't mean subjecting yourself to abuse or anything. Once you find out what someone's about, make your own mind up. It's why we get "free will". ;o)
@@Pyxis10 You accept the very reality that NOBODY is perfect... Every night, you go to a mirror if you can, and apologize to yourself for your shortcomings, mistakes, and the general screwing up... AND you FORGIVE yourself for being human, after all. AND every morning, you go back to that mirror, and you promise yourself that you've got a new day, and you WILL put forth lessons from yesterday and try to be just a little bit better... Sometimes it works out better than others, but we ALL slip up. Over time, if we put forth the effort, we GROW and adapt and change over the time. Over time, you'll notice you're apologizing for a lot less, and you've got a lot less to forgive yourself about... some of it even shrinks down and isn't so bad... It doesn't stop it from being a screw up, but it's not a monumental foul, and you ARE making progress. My mother taught me that. I still do it, every night and every morning, because I'm still fumbling shit, missing estimates, and getting frustrated and pissed off... mostly at myself, but when there are other people to here and see me getting pissed off, they feel like I'm angry at them... or that I'm plain old dangerous to be around. BUT I'm not as prone to losing my shit as I used to be. I haven't been outright violent in a long time... though I still scare people. I still don't always even have the ability to care if I survive the next few seconds, which can be uniquely powerful, but comes with equally dangerous. I'm only a work in progress, and I'll be a work in progress for my whole life... BUT apologies and promises or not... If you just aim IN EARNEST to keep trying and improving over time, you're doing alright. You CAN find your way. I believe in you. ;o)
Being myself is the worst advice possible in my case. Every time I'm "myself," people don't know what I'm talking about. I hate how hard it is to find a good community of people who have similar interests to me.
For me I don't post at all on social media, so it would be cool to show some confidence. I just don't know what to post? Lately my sleep schedule has been a little bad. Sleeping around at 4am. Yesterday I said "maybe next time". My attractiveness is going out the window 😅 haha
unfortunately, being pessimistic is a personality trait of those of us who suffer from depression, it is our way of seeing the world and it is very difficult to change; and getting rejected for it only makes it worse. I don't see a realistic solution to that. :(
Dude, why is the pic with the whole idea that any type of arm hair is unslightly or unattractive? Not cool y’all. Creating a stigma against body hair is insensitive, especially when it’s such a long stretch as some type of negative, dependent innate feature? It’s just really shocking when this channel has always been really sensitive and earnest in their hopes to bring mental health topics to the forefront. I really hope moving forward you can be more thoughtful in the clickbait you illustrate for engagement. Usually body hair disproportionately effects those who are non-white and in turn we are subversively casting shade on people who choose body hair over shaving every hair off and tbh I don’t think it’s fair. Body hair to me doesn’t matter but I DO remember getting picked on in THIRD grade for not shaving off my hair because mine was darker than other kids. It’s not even mentioned in the video so there’s really no need for it. Let this be a learning moment and evolve from it so that it doesn’t happen again.
@@mewesquirrel6720 elementary and middle school people are pricks. Sorry. I had been bullied throughout them for at least 6 years, and only one occasion was due to my armpit hair not having been shaved. I think it's a society pressure for us girls and women to shave everywhere, but it is really a personal choice, and if someone cannot comprehend it, they can find the door
Love your videos! I would love to see more on serious mental illnesses like bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, as those are more often misunderstood (and perhaps less common ones that have been given less attention).
I have health issues (that cause a lot of pain). So I often have to spend a lot of time at home relaxing and recovering. It also causes me to have to cancel often. Unfortunately its caused people to stop inviting me. I could have pushed myself to go more often than I did. I let the fear of the pain control me and now I'm alone. Trying to work in myself and change my life.
Be gentle with yourself Shannon.If ill health is making you unable to engage try not to make it harder by giving yourself a hard time.Everything changes!
I can tell that I stopped telling my own stressfull situations so often and I started to be a more positive person that just wants to laugh, have a good time with my friends and the words of ''Someday I'll be okay'' on my mind, 'cause that's the reason I'm still alive. Maybe I don't have so much friends, and it took me a few sessions with my psychologist but yeah, It's something that one and only one, yourself can change and maybe with the help of a proffesional or whatever makes you feel comfort.
*2:14** Yes but some people can't help having insomnia or other sleep problems, when it comes to people like us, it's not as easy as you think. As for someone who struggles with sleep alot, we don't choose not to sleep. we often want to sleep, but can't. Think about the insomniacs please, it's not something we can help.*
The first one is so true. I had never talked to this girl in my grade before, but this year we sat next to each other in two classes and are really good friends. It's crazy how just being near someone can cause two people to be friends.
It depends, just because you sit next to someone in a class doesn't mean they'll be your friend.. I sat next to absolute assholes in my class and to this day I still hate them, they only pushed my buttons for reactions and made fun of my appearance. My friend only got to sit next to me in later years and I only knew them because we worked together on a project.. _Anyway main point is don't expect every person next to you to enjoy your company._
I love being alone and cherish my time alone, so number one is definitely a problem for me. I still enjoy people’s company, but can’t do it for long. Hence, the single life 😂.
Aloneness can be more fruitful than relationships, especially if you know how to use your time alone. You can really grow as a person by being alone, while sometimes relationships can hinder your development, either because you have to conform to your partner's standards or because you are in a toxic environment. Anyway, being an introvert is cool 😎 especially since you don't have to constantly give yourself up to satisfy the norms of the crowd.
One that grinds my gears is when someone talks shit about others to you like you're expected to agree and double down. This was a hell of a deal breaker once and I still can't stand people like that
Now when I look myself in the mirror.. I see the changes which I have made within myself 1.look upright and speak with firm & confidence. 2.Do not pretend to act. 3.Act the way I am without pretending. 4.Accept the faults within myself. 5.Not regretting or exaggerating about things which occurred in past. 6.Valuing people who prioritise me. 7.Learning to accept why certain events/things didn't work out. 8.Take the lead and command the group. 9.Take risks. 10.Forgive people with a clean and honest heart.
1. As a introvert I am rarely interested in meeting up with people irl and I will never be the first person to suggest it. I don't want the extra attention most get from socializing often. Never really went to many parties and I declined most invites. Some people just don't go out often, it is nothing personal. Just assume someone like that may be a introvert and change your approach to get them to start hanging out with you to make them more comfortable at first if you really want to get to know them. Not saying introverts shouldn't compromise and never agree to go out but if your introvert friend is someone you have only said hi to once in a while at school without ever actually hanging out with them don't just suddenly expect them to open up and agree to go to a big social event right away. Get to know them first and they are more likely to agree cause they are more likely to trust enough go. 2. If you don't me I am one of the quietest people you will ever meet and if you are a good friend sometimes I never shut up. But I am never full of myself or at least I never intend to be if I ever am. If I'm talking a lot usually it is about some tv show or videogame with a friend just being a nerd that occasionally talks to much. 3. Doesn't matter if I sleep for 4 to 6 hours or if I sleep as long as 10 hours, I always look like the person on the right 🤣 I've been on regular sleep schedule getting 8 hours of sleep or more for over a year now and I still look like the pic on the right. 4. I'm actually very pessimistic cause if you prepare for the worst result to happen most of the time it won't happen. However I do think it it is unattractive to constantly talk about it to others constantly going on about your negative problems. You can be pessimistic and just keep those thoughts to yourself. I try my best to make sure I don't complain or even mention most of the problems in my life to my friends. 5. Never used a pickup line once in my entire life. Just not my style. How about just treating the person you are attracted to like a human being. When I used to game with friends at school it didn't matter if you were a guy or girl, as long as you were not toxic and just be friendly and chill everyone was treated and talked to the same way. If I want to talk to a girl I like I just do the same thing, no corny pickup line just talking to her like any of the guys or girls I would game with. So in some ways I think most gaming groups (at least from my day) were very healthy socially.
@@priella24 I mostly play the mmo Mabinogi and a few other mmos as well but I'm into almost any type of videogame. Pokemon, Zelda, Shantae, Stardew Valley, Final Fantasy, and anything with action, adventure, and a big world to explore is always a lot of fun.
@Incognito Potato Awesome, the thing I love about Stardew Valley is there are so many ways to play and enjoy the game. It really has something for everyone with lots of deep characters and adventures. Stardew Valley has as much content as a $60 dollar game so it is more then the $14.99 price tag.
As a hsp, I can relate to the first one maybe too much. I don’t like hanging out and being social at all after for example school, I just want to be alone.
the thumbnail is kinda misleading and dumb…. you shouldnt make people feel bad for armpit hair. its natural!! and the first example is kinda….. meh. i am chronically ill and unable to leave the house most days. i dont think this makes me less attractive, i wish i could hang out with others all of the time, i just can’t.
3:30 I’d say for me I’m more of a realistic person. I can tell if something’s unlikely or not. Especially based on past events of something similar has happened before.
the sleep deprived one is the stupidest point ive ever heard, not having 31 hours of sleep is nothing like staying up on your phone for a couple hours at night. if you saw a burnt out self hating person compared to a normal person with nothing wrong with them im 1000% sure id pick the one you’d thought wasnt homeless.
The pessimism is so me. I'm working on that though. My reality is steeped in pessimism. Poor my whole life, no friends, a slightly toxic family (some more toxic than others). This really brings you down.
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I wish I interacted with more people daily but I'm too shy so I just sit there in silence. I understand that this makes others perceive me as boring and uninteresting, but I cant help it.
Oh my gosh, I really hope some people hear about the sexist jokes one. I used to like this guy, but after a couple months he started making sexist and or offensive jokes to me, and let me tell you it is a huge no-no. I unintentionally started to dislike him and can totally blame it on that. 😅
same... i used to think that my friend was really attractive but not in a lover way, just friendly way, but he starts to make sexist jokes with me to be funny to the other friends and this makes me dislike him as a friend... i still talk a bit to him but im getting tired...
Timestamps 1). I'll go next time 0:26 2). Look at me 1:18 3). 2 A.M club 2:13 4). Glass half empty 2:52 5). Non-pickup line 3:39 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.💙💙💙💙💙
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the list of unattractive habits:* 0:25 (1) "I'll go next time!" 1:18 (2) "Look at me!" 2:13 (3) 2 A.M. Club 2:52 (4) Glass half empty 3:40 (5) Non-pickup lines
I subscribed to this channel to help understand my own mental health. Not to be told what society thinks is unattractive. This actually works against my mental health.
This video is more of a bad habits thing tbh. I'd say all of these things are objectively bad except maybe the first one (though I think you should avoid doing that commonly and if you really don't like to hang out you should just say it)
I'm most certainly 1. but I believe if I have to try hard to garner someone's love, I'll set the wrong expectations towards that person, because they'll never get to know me at my baseline. This is a "Dress up for the job" sort of situation. I know I want to be with another introvert, and so perhaps my venue isn't that party / outing / drinking night that friends are inviting me to... Maybe it's a forest, an anime convention, art club, or game night. I'm 30 so I've experienced much. Very often people fall out of love because one person was trying too hard to be someone they're not / uncomfortable being, and that's what attracted their partner, but once their partner really gets to know them at their baseline / natural state, they feel a bit scammed or unattracted to the person. I decline outings if they're not to my taste, because I can't imagine I'd meet someone compatible with me doing something I don't love. It's healthy to be an 'outgoing' introvert, but you should define what 'outgoing' means to you. Adventures take many forms.
the last is one of my friends- if I can even call it a friend. He allways do this jokes with me, not just with me but with everyone else, I tried to say it to him, but he allways thinks that everything I'm saying a joke too. (Plus: He liked me [or still likes, I don't know] since the start of 2022, and he allways think that after calling anyone "monkey", "homeless" or things like that all the time will make he be more attractive)
Having a lot of disorders in my head and + autism with a lot of adhd in it doesn't always help in social interaction, but the worst is having BDP. That make everything worst, it is a constant fight with this little voice in your head, always putting you down, wanting you to do bad things. But after a few years, I can confirm to people who have similar to me, you actually can have a good life. I wasn't believing it at first. But after a lot of introspection, I realise that this voice was just the little old me, who is scare of life. And the only thing I had to do, is understanding her, reconforting her, scolding her. This is still difficult today, but this is way less worst than before. You just have to stop to live in fear, concentrate yourself on who you really are and by that, you have to remember who you are when this voice is not here. And I realise I was a really good person, always there for the other, strong, smart, capable of a lot of thing, ambitionous... I can finally see who I am, something that you cannot do when your fear is eating you. More you fear something irrationnaly (like, scare to be left behind by your friends) more you fell in the pattern of your worst fear and then they become reality. But you did it yourself, not the others around you. But I say that, but to be honest, I am pretty lucky. Even if I have a list of diagnostic, everthing is on a little level. So, for somerone who experience a hard level of BPD, I hopes what I say can help, but I know this is a lot harder than what I live everyday. After all, not for nothing that some peoples around me said that to their own opinions, BPD is the worst mental illness for auto-destruction. You just kill yourself, everyday, because you don't understand that all that, in your head, is only memories of what people have said to you in the past. But someone sane and well in their skin never hurt other people like that, only people who are unhappy or unhealthy in their head do that. So, don't take it personnal, make peace with it.
Also I’ve found a way that works for me, for when people ask if I wanna do something. I will (if I don’t have energy that day) just say that I don’t have the energy that day, but that I’d love to find a day to do it with them. Perhaps in an upcoming weekend, or a day where I get off early and can still relax a bit at home beforehand.
I know that I tend to be pessimistic, I have a hard time avoiding it because I see so much bad in the world and when I try to be optimistic, I feel like I'm being phony...
Because being pessimistic isn't a bad thing. Sometimes, to some people, it is much better to be wary and see the world in its glory, as well as the pain it built that glory on. This video doesn't have any facts in it, it's just one massive opinion that society at large has. And our society is wrong, so, please, you do you. Don't force yourself to be something you're not, because you'll be more miserable.
Your cowoerkers are not your friends. If push comes to shove they will throw you to the wolves to save their job. Spend time with your friends if you want to socialise and keep work as work. Also have your friends hold you accountable to go out at least for dinner, sports or a coffee once a week if you tend to isolate.
Why has Psych2go started following red pill ideology? It's these "bad habits", "self improvement" "how to be attractive" things I'm talking about. The thing is, I don't think focusing on "fixing" these natural insecurities is inherently good for your mental health
why are you implying right wing red pillers are the only ones to follow these objectively superior behaviors? just because an insecurity is "natural" doesnt make it good
@@utopiandystopia1383 I don't think red pillers are the only ones doing this no. And what do you mean by objectively superior behavior? I think that continuesly trying to "fix" yourself and becoming a better version of yourself might lead to never feeling good enough and not accepting things as they are. I think that even if you have "bad habits" that make you "less attractive", it doesn't make you less lovable and make you unable to date someone. Sometimes self improvement can be beneficial, and sometimes not.
They have gone a bit grey and shallow with their material lately, at least that's what I feel. Maybe they ran out of stuff to talk about, maybe they just changed, but not in the good direction. Here I am, being pessimistic lol
0:25 and 1:18 (too often, look at me) i really need those things, Thank you, not because of attraction but way of communication to my friends and people
1:57 I have to disagree bc 2 says that they don’t like the attention but if they don’t why would they have to say it so directly “I’m smart” and 1 says “I’m a pretty good student” which is definitely more humble then “I’m smart”
Omg the sexist one is true ,back when I was a sophomore there was this girl in my class she was very cute and one of the smartest students (along with me not bragging I swear) but she had this awful behavior where she used to slap guys in the upper back with all her strength she did it once to me out of the blue and we couldn't do anything because we'll she was a girl and if you confronted her she would just say " oh you're a man you can take it " well everyone started ignoring her after that even the girls because they got mad at her nobody wanted to be around her anymore ,she stopped doing it when she slapped the big guy of the class so hard I bet you could hear it a block away he turned grab her hand and almost punch her in the face the teacher jumped to stop him and she started crying and HE got in trouble like wtf? She got away with everything but nobody from out class talk to her anymore
Schools have always been biased towards girls. When I was in high school I was actually s*xually harassed by a girl. Told the principal and all he did was tell her to not talk to me again... like, if I did that to her I WOULD BE EXPELLED OR IN ISS FOR MONTHS. Still ticks me off how she basically got a slap on the wrist for that. Besides that, schools' curriculums (particularly Literature and Writing) are proven to generally be geared towards what girls like more than boys. On a more personal matter, I hated reading because I grew up being forced to read soppy romances and stuff that made me cringe or bored. I only started liking reading after I finally found an ACTION-PACKED book series geared towards boys, written by a guy.
@@TheBestLoser1 man that suks 😓 and not only expelled they would actually push criminal charges and it'll be always in your record smh now that you say it it's true all literature in school is aimed towards girls 🤔 didn't realize until now 😳
@@takocat9618 Yeah. I graduated so I don't have to worry about this... until I get into college. Hopefully the college is far more mature. From what I can tell so far, they take both men and women seriously when it comes to fairness.
One may turn down invitations because one does not enjoy the company of the inviter. A pessimistic outlook may be a realistic outlook. Being too upbeat can often seem contrived.
i sleep enough but i have these huge dark circles under my eyes because I'm anemic and they won't go away :( the way people say that i always look tired is getting annoying
Ironically painful, I have trouble sleeping a lot. Melatonin, sleep aid amsr with a headband. Even cutting caffeine about 7hrs before bed still nets at least 1-2 disturbences in the night. Low-key I have a fantasy of falling asleep on a girls lap when I'm truly exhausted.
holy shj THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO Habits 1, 3 (a bit), 4 and 5 sometimes are in me. Your video helped me realize these are problems and i should work on them
Feeling awesome is not the same as looking awesome. I'm a man and I groom all my hair. ALL of it. It's not all removed, but the hair that's still there is kept neat and tidy.
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First one is the only defect i have and I'll fix it
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Not to be rude, but do you mean "Patreon", not "pattern"?
Feels kinda bad to admit, but I do have to force myself to spend time with friends sometimes just to make sure I'm not losing touch, even though it's a lot more comfortable to be alone.
Honestly same.
Same i like being in the dark binge watching yt eating food
Edit: ty for 37 likes! Hope you all have a amazing life!
This
Same...
Proud of you for making an effort my friend, you won’t regret it!
it’s not just a beautiful face that makes us attractive
so true like we need to love ourselves of how we are cause nothing can change that personality under us
Im ugly 🙂
@@HahaNotMyproblem thats what u think u are. We all keep the bar extremely high for ourselves.
Doesn't change the fact that people have base prejudice towards looks, especially near me.
@@Demon-wi9tx I can say the same. Some people are just more attractive physically. It's hard for me to get with anyone, being a black dude in the south of the USA... we still get a lot of bad attention down here.
@@TheBestLoser1 That's really unfortunate to hear brother, but you can't falter man. Even if it seems impossible, there are still women in MILLIONS that would accept you for everything other than your looks. Ofc keeping showering, regular hair trimming, a strong physique and all that keeps you sanitary is ALWAYS a + point, but that's exactly what'll help you find someone in this seemingly near-God forsaken world.
Timestamps:
0:26 I'll go next time!
(Avoiding meeting up with people)
1:18 Look at me!
(Being percieved as too full of yourself)
2:13 2 A.M. club
(Sleep deprivation)
2:52 Glass half empty
(Acting or being pessimistic)
3:40 Non - pickup lines
(sexist or offensive jokes)
Thx.
The sleep deprivation is just concerning
The 2 a.m club is relatable to almost everyone 💀
@@cosmic8040 , 31 hours. Way to make it obvious. 🤣 They could come up with other theories, like sleep deprived people don't have enough cognitive energy to be nice to others...
Sleep deprivation and pessimism are part of my bipolar disorder. Yay.
heavily disagree with the connotations of the thumbnail lmaooo
I hope it's click bait
I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING. LIKE AINT NO WAY
Agreed!!
@@UnstableYT-u7k say this louder!!!
Honestly I don't see why it would be a surprise to learn that most guys aren't statistically attracted to girls with arm hair
The overly confident one made me laugh not in bad way more like what if this happened to someone
It reminds me of everyone on Instagram
atleast i'm not having that habit, i have no confidence
I'm pretty sure i definitely come of as arrogant and overly confident to a lot of people, which has hurt some of my relationships and absolutely put me in a position where i am viewed less favourably and as less attractive, I do know i have attractive traits and that i am generally doing well for myself. But my behaviour hasn't always been the best when it comes to presenting myself😅
Confidence is key, but quiet confidence is the way to have any door open without a key
@@lilholm9446 teach me sensei
The quiet confidence is what I strive for! I'm a mixture of self doubt or over confidence (to hide my self doubt). Humility and quiet confidence is just so attractive to me, that I want those traits for myself.
“Not caring more about what other people think than what you think. That’s freedom.” - Demi Moore
That is not true. Hitler didn't care what people thought and look where that brought us!
Profiting off stupid people ain't illegal, though.
@@PinkiePie45838283734666o9 how does that relate
@@Slymation We care what others think of us, that's why we wear nice clothes, don't act like animals in public, etc.
That escalated really quickly, holy sh't.
Going through a really hard time right now. My dads cancer has returned after a year but this time there’s nothing the doctors can do. He’s only got a certain amount of time left, and I’m spending as much time with him as I can. I’m trying to occupy myself and stay positive right now cause I also have to focus on graduating high school this semester. Your videos always help me figure out my mental health needs, I appreciate it!
Edit: He passed away on March 7th, 2023.
In my prayers♥️wishing the best for you and your family
Sending prayers also!! Time is precious, the most precious thing we can give. 🙏🏿💓💗💓💗
Whatever happens know that at least some random guy on the internet truly wishes you the best life possible. Good luck with graduating!
I personally know how hard losing a close loved one is and all i can say is that it’ll pass. You’ll remember all the fun times together, cry (a lot) but you’ll be happy to have experienced those happy moments, and that’s what matters in the end!
at least that’s what i believe
I will pray for you guys!
I'm sending my prayers to your dad ♡
wishing the best for you!
Body hair isn't an unattractive habit for anyone despite what the thumbnail would have you believe.
Edit: It’s cute how y’all need to freak out and remind me that opinion is in fact an opinion. Reminder, I don’t care about your opinions and that’s a fact.
you dumb? Keep lying to yourself if you want but It is unattractive for many people.
@@vichael You sound like an insecure child.
@@mr.koibito How do i sound insecure? You're just being delusional if you think everyone finds hair attractive, that's just being self centred as hell.
yes it is
@@iamimana No it isn’t.
As an introvert, I'm definitely number 1. Outside school, my friends invite me to drink and all that, so I can't avoid to say "no thanks, I'm not into that" so yeah, I mean I'd try but I don't like doing the things they do at those places, excessive drinking and making out with many strangers 😬, I do feel like I'm exaggerating and that maybe if I go I don't have to do those things, but I still say no 😢
Dw! U dont have to be someone ur not. Remember this video is just *stating* the habits - u dont need to be hard on urself to make urself likeable to others just cuz u have one of the listed habits. Be true to who u are and make changes for urself to be a better person not for pleasing people.
Hmm. I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I'm shy but I really wish people would invite me to stuff. It's so taxing to always have to be the one to reach out first. If someone does invite me for something, I never refuse!
@@listeningtomusicistalentidgaf Thanks, that's a lovely comment of yours < 3. Luckily I know my worth and because they're my friends they accept that I may not want to go (but it's so thoughtful of them to keep inviting me everytime, you know trying to do plans enjoyable enough for everyone when they can be made, and of course I'd go) but most of their plans are the ones I'm not truly comfortable in participating. My issue when I watched this video was remembering that not only my friends are like that, but apparently everyone around me is, so I do sometimes ask myself if I'm missing experiences and opportunities of meeting people / being likeable / attractive because of that 😕
*I have gone to a few parties and stuff and felt good but not my favorite activity to do*
That's fine to say no. Don't feel guilty that you don't wanna hang out with them. Real friends don't force you to come with them then force you to do dirty disgusting acts.
What you did is actually better. I don't even want to hang out with those kinds of people. Vices don't mean fun for me. There's a lot cooler things to do rather than drinking and making out with strangers 😐
@@summerlove6579 well, i dont think u should feel as if ur "missing out on experiences" just cuz ur not doing what they are. There are so many better things to do than excessive drinking and making out with strangers. Also not everyone is like that. U might think that way cuz thats what ur willing to see. As the saying goes "people only see what they want to".
Edit :- I would suggest either u change ur friend circle Or just try and do different things alone. But its all upto u anyways. Best wishes!!
0:27 - “I’ll go next time!”
1:20 - “Look at me!”
2:14 - 2 A.M. club
2:53 - Glass half empty
3:41 - Non pick-up lines
Havent done this in a while so...
Here are the ✨Timestamps ✨
0:26 "i will go next time"
1:18 "look at me!"
1:59 "i'm a really good student-"
2:14 2 A.M club
2:53 glass half empty
3:40 non pick up lines
THANK YOU! I was going to do this and now I don’t have to 😁
@@sparklingdiamondkiwis4390 glad to be of service :D
Bro you just described me
(Thx for timestamps)
@@Carl.J.Sampson ur welcome!!
@@Carl.J.Sampson Oh my gosh, I’ve seen you somewhere before…
The strange thing in contrast to this video about optimism being more favorable: I as a person find it super grating to have either optimism or pessimism. I've been on all sides. I can at least relate more to pessimism due to my depression and anxiety and years of abuse. But the optimism where someone just tells you without a doubt that everything will be okay. You'll be fine. And all that stuff.. Makes me so pissed off... I'd rather someone say something like: you don't know that, it might just go well. Or, you'll be fine, people don't exactly have that much time and energy to put into trying to track you down and hurt you --(even though IRL that's happened to me in college where they did literally say they would hunt me down in my new school).
I agree. Being a person with bubbly personality is obv one thing who sees the good in others is one thing, but ppl who try and help others by giving them blind hope is a completely different story. They follow blind hope and trust even if they legit hurt themselves bc of it.
I can agree with this
Blind optimism is a bad thing. The in between of being optimistic but realistic as well is better.
Damn, bro I hope you're okay
@@narutouchiha8004 thanks dude, am in a better place. Hope you are well too
Get someone who loves you no matter if you , shaved or not.
The longer I live the longer I realize I may have to move to different parts of the country (or the world) just to find a good partner 🙃
It is unattractive to me and to lots of other people, it collects bacteria and even smells harder than normal. You physically can't not have a bad armpit smell with hair there
It always looks wet or puffy, both are horrid and disgusting, for both men and women, children and grownups
Not everyone is attracted to that , deal with it
Don't come at me for having a preference, the same way i won't come qt you for not feeling attraction to obeese people or literally anything else. End of story
@@Themoofy well I don’t think they were offering to date you man. But good to know what you like and dislike. 🎉
@@Themoofy lol who asked
@@ThemoofyExactly ! It’s disgusting !
Hey ❤ just letting you know that what I took from the thumbnail is that it's saying people who don't shave every day are unattractive, was this on purpose?
Edit: In my opinion for all of those people with lower confidence, love shouldn't always be based on attractiveness, but on yours and the other person's emotions and kindness!
It's just showing that GENERALLY (not saying all), people think of armpit hair as unattractive. It's not saying that they are unattractive, it just shows the general opinion about it and how most people view it.
@@roseandjasmines A psychological channel shouldn’t encourage physical stereotypes of unattractiveness, especially since this one is culture-heavy. Hair in general have specific purposes and getting rid of it can cause numerous problems, and reinforcing that people who do not shave are perceived as unattractive is both unhealthy and unprofessional.
the thumbnail is effectively reeaaaaally maladroit. -_- It should be changed, according to me. (It just so genuinely skips years of feminism and... simple education about the normality of hair ?!? and so that hair CAN be appreciated, and even attractive, as such.)
Yeah I don't like the thumbnail
@@domithebobcat oh please don’t start with this idiotic thing. Women with hair on their armpits are unattractive to ALL. Yes I know it’s different for men, but tbh seeing that there are women who think “hey men don’t shave so I don’t do it either!” Is pretty stupid. If you think you’re attractive like this, good luck. And btw there are things that are unattractive to all, it’s not like this channel can’t tell you about it. There are things in your body that you can’t change, but shaving is a CHOICE. And body hair are unattractive on some men too, that’s why they shave
honestly your videos make me happier and just help me. And yes i remember my first day of going back to school, worst but best thing when i commented. Thank you very much:]
the thumbnail is so different compared to the actual video lol
Ikr!!
yeah, I thought it was going to be about little details that most people find unnatractive, like body hair in certain places.
It is unattractive to me and to lots of other people, it collects bacteria and even smells harder than normal. You physically can't not have a bad armpit smell with hair there
It always looks wet or puffy, both are horrid and disgusting, for both men and women, children and grownups
Not everyone is attracted to that , deal with it
Don't come at me for having a preference, the same way i won't come qt you for not feeling attraction to obeese people or literally anything else. End of story
@@Themoofy bro why tf are you copy pasting these aggressive ass paragraphs here. This comment isn't even defending body hair, it just said the video had nothing to do with the thumbnail
@@Themoofy Jesus bro chill💀
Body hair is natural for everyone and we shouldnt make ppl feel ashamed for having it, even if people do find it unattractive. We should move to make ppl feel comfortable n their own skin
Yeah I was about to say that too.
The armpits is about hygiene though. In summer it can get sweaty and smell bad so it's better to shave it and use a deodorant
but it is also not healthy to not have your body hair shaved. Personally I find body hair on girls unatractive because of how it makes them look like they arent taking care of themselves. Though it is naturaul it can be quite gross. If you like girls who dont shave thats your type, not mine. 🙌💀
@@Kris10Lock How is it unhealthy?
I don’t see how it would be unhealthy to not shave your body. All these sigma males on the internet keep speaking about mens needs and how men and women should be behaving in certain patriarchal ways due to their biology. They like to state their sexist ideologies and say they are the natural order of things, yet cannot grapple with the simple fact that most women grow body hair. We did not have razors, or tweezers, or waxing in the wild.
It is not a chosen behavior to grow body hair like it is to shower, but yet we behave as though being unshaven is as unhygienic as being unbathed. If body hair is so disgusting, why can men have it? Why should it be permissible for only one gender, when it is natural for both.
And besides, why should it matter what you want in a woman? Find a woman who shaves and date her. Stop trying to bully women who choose not to shave into being ashamed of their body hair.
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One more thing I can add to this list is looking serious. I have heard this from multiple women before. Of course they said this was before they knew me. They said that I looked too serious. But I don't really like engaging in small talk with people I rarely know. 😅
Well, that’s exactly the reason I was approached. Because if I looked serious and rarely spoke with people it means I’ll speak with less ladies which is what she wants because she gets jealous! 😅
Great, now I wonder how people see me when I am not smiling. Do I naturally look too serious? Sad? Bored? I guess it depends on the person.
I asked a woman who would never say bad things about me. AKA my mom. She also said I looked like a snob. So it probably is true that my resting face sucks. 😆
as someone likely on the spectrum, you're right lol
looking serious/RBF will attract some attention because a neutral expression should be neutral, but whatevs. as long as you're a nice person they'll get over it fast
@@hill2hell HOW CAN WE CHANGE THIS ABOUT OURSELVES, THO?!?!
Man I gotta ask my family how my neutral face looks. It's probably the only reason why I'm not approached.
I'M HERE TO DEFEND MY ARM PIT HAIR
Armpit army!!!!!
Psychgo talking about the 2am club: “if this sounds like you, maybe you should rethink this habit”
Me: *watching this at 4:30am*
Sometimes people can change, you must love yourself and others around you. It doesn't matter how you look, just how you act and show yourself. Never be afraid to show yourself to the world!
More folks are just a little "funny looking"... AND there's some pretty awesome company in that!!!
Anne Ramsey, Jack Elam, Robert Davi, Don Knotts, Danny DeVito, Alfred Hitchcock, Carol O'Connor, Jack O'Halloran, Buddy Hacket, Tim Conway, and the list just keeps going on and On and ON...
Look ANY of them up, if you don't already know who they are. They're not the "Classically Beautiful People" but they were extremely well off, loved by many, and respected by pretty much everybody. Many of them LEANED IN to their particular "brand" of funny looking, and it might suck a little bit to get "Typed", as such... Aren't we ALL "Typed" somewhere???
Someone's even out there right now, making a judgment on a genuinely "Classically Beautiful" person right now. "S/He's completely out of _____'s league"... AND without a thought to what the "Classically Beautiful" person is thinking or likes or would even notice, the effort is deemed "waste" and dismissed. That's not the Beautiful Person's fault. S/He never got a chance either...
SO if someone's going to pass a judgment entirely on looks, they're probably not worth any more of your time. It IS worth the time invested to find out, though. That's just basic civility, BUT it doesn't mean subjecting yourself to abuse or anything. Once you find out what someone's about, make your own mind up. It's why we get "free will". ;o)
Exactly my point!!
What if you have some generally awful or dangerous personality traits?
@@Pyxis10 You accept the very reality that NOBODY is perfect...
Every night, you go to a mirror if you can, and apologize to yourself for your shortcomings, mistakes, and the general screwing up... AND you FORGIVE yourself for being human, after all.
AND every morning, you go back to that mirror, and you promise yourself that you've got a new day, and you WILL put forth lessons from yesterday and try to be just a little bit better...
Sometimes it works out better than others, but we ALL slip up. Over time, if we put forth the effort, we GROW and adapt and change over the time. Over time, you'll notice you're apologizing for a lot less, and you've got a lot less to forgive yourself about... some of it even shrinks down and isn't so bad... It doesn't stop it from being a screw up, but it's not a monumental foul, and you ARE making progress.
My mother taught me that. I still do it, every night and every morning, because I'm still fumbling shit, missing estimates, and getting frustrated and pissed off... mostly at myself, but when there are other people to here and see me getting pissed off, they feel like I'm angry at them... or that I'm plain old dangerous to be around.
BUT I'm not as prone to losing my shit as I used to be. I haven't been outright violent in a long time... though I still scare people. I still don't always even have the ability to care if I survive the next few seconds, which can be uniquely powerful, but comes with equally dangerous.
I'm only a work in progress, and I'll be a work in progress for my whole life...
BUT apologies and promises or not... If you just aim IN EARNEST to keep trying and improving over time, you're doing alright. You CAN find your way. I believe in you. ;o)
Being myself is the worst advice possible in my case. Every time I'm "myself," people don't know what I'm talking about. I hate how hard it is to find a good community of people who have similar interests to me.
For me I don't post at all on social media, so it would be cool to show some confidence. I just don't know what to post? Lately my sleep schedule has been a little bad. Sleeping around at 4am. Yesterday I said "maybe next time". My attractiveness is going out the window 😅 haha
Haha, it's fine
the thumbnail gives off mixed feelings …
bold of you to assume i WANT to be attractive
Bahaha same!!
unfortunately, being pessimistic is a personality trait of those of us who suffer from depression, it is our way of seeing the world and it is very difficult to change; and getting rejected for it only makes it worse. I don't see a realistic solution to that. :(
Stop wanting things you won't get, it's just wasted energy. People suck anyway, you don't need their approval.
Dude, why is the pic with the whole idea that any type of arm hair is unslightly or unattractive? Not cool y’all. Creating a stigma against body hair is insensitive, especially when it’s such a long stretch as some type of negative, dependent innate feature? It’s just really shocking when this channel has always been really sensitive and earnest in their hopes to bring mental health topics to the forefront.
I really hope moving forward you can be more thoughtful in the clickbait you illustrate for engagement. Usually body hair disproportionately effects those who are non-white and in turn we are subversively casting shade on people who choose body hair over shaving every hair off and tbh I don’t think it’s fair. Body hair to me doesn’t matter but I DO remember getting picked on in THIRD grade for not shaving off my hair because mine was darker than other kids. It’s not even mentioned in the video so there’s really no need for it. Let this be a learning moment and evolve from it so that it doesn’t happen again.
I think it's more if you don't watch your hygiene
@@mewesquirrel6720 body hair has nothing to do with hygiene though
@@ziinuka It kind of does I had to learn that the hard way in middle school
@@mewesquirrel6720 elementary and middle school people are pricks. Sorry. I had been bullied throughout them for at least 6 years, and only one occasion was due to my armpit hair not having been shaved. I think it's a society pressure for us girls and women to shave everywhere, but it is really a personal choice, and if someone cannot comprehend it, they can find the door
Love your videos!
I would love to see more on serious mental illnesses like bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, as those are more often misunderstood (and perhaps less common ones that have been given less attention).
Wow. Until I saw that thumbnail I really thought this was a channel with quality content.
It's relieving and eye-opening at the same time to know my only habit out of these is a bad sleep schedule.
YAY A NEW VIDEO!!💕💕
I have health issues (that cause a lot of pain). So I often have to spend a lot of time at home relaxing and recovering. It also causes me to have to cancel often. Unfortunately its caused people to stop inviting me. I could have pushed myself to go more often than I did. I let the fear of the pain control me and now I'm alone. Trying to work in myself and change my life.
Be gentle with yourself Shannon.If ill health is making you unable to engage try not to make it harder by giving yourself a hard time.Everything changes!
I can tell that I stopped telling my own stressfull situations so often and I started to be a more positive person that just wants to laugh, have a good time with my friends and the words of ''Someday I'll be okay'' on my mind, 'cause that's the reason I'm still alive. Maybe I don't have so much friends, and it took me a few sessions with my psychologist but yeah, It's something that one and only one, yourself can change and maybe with the help of a proffesional or whatever makes you feel comfort.
*2:14** Yes but some people can't help having insomnia or other sleep problems, when it comes to people like us, it's not as easy as you think. As for someone who struggles with sleep alot, we don't choose not to sleep. we often want to sleep, but can't. Think about the insomniacs please, it's not something we can help.*
You are now officially earthbound =]
The first one is so true. I had never talked to this girl in my grade before, but this year we sat next to each other in two classes and are really good friends. It's crazy how just being near someone can cause two people to be friends.
It depends, just because you sit next to someone in a class doesn't mean they'll be your friend.. I sat next to absolute assholes in my class and to this day I still hate them, they only pushed my buttons for reactions and made fun of my appearance. My friend only got to sit next to me in later years and I only knew them because we worked together on a project.. _Anyway main point is don't expect every person next to you to enjoy your company._
I love being alone and cherish my time alone, so number one is definitely a problem for me. I still enjoy people’s company, but can’t do it for long. Hence, the single life 😂.
Aloneness can be more fruitful than relationships, especially if you know how to use your time alone. You can really grow as a person by being alone, while sometimes relationships can hinder your development, either because you have to conform to your partner's standards or because you are in a toxic environment. Anyway, being an introvert is cool 😎 especially since you don't have to constantly give yourself up to satisfy the norms of the crowd.
0:34 Bold of you to assume people even invite me to hang out
One that grinds my gears is when someone talks shit about others to you like you're expected to agree and double down. This was a hell of a deal breaker once and I still can't stand people like that
Food For Thought: You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.
Ah, perfect timing for another psych2go video.
Ah yes, psych2go shaming natural body hair in the thumbnail of this video
Now when I look myself in the mirror..
I see the changes which I have made within myself
1.look upright and speak with firm & confidence.
2.Do not pretend to act.
3.Act the way I am without pretending.
4.Accept the faults within myself.
5.Not regretting or exaggerating about things which occurred in past.
6.Valuing people who prioritise me.
7.Learning to accept why certain events/things didn't work out.
8.Take the lead and command the group.
9.Take risks.
10.Forgive people with a clean and honest heart.
1. As a introvert I am rarely interested in meeting up with people irl and I will never be the first person to suggest it. I don't want the extra attention most get from socializing often. Never really went to many parties and I declined most invites. Some people just don't go out often, it is nothing personal. Just assume someone like that may be a introvert and change your approach to get them to start hanging out with you to make them more comfortable at first if you really want to get to know them. Not saying introverts shouldn't compromise and never agree to go out but if your introvert friend is someone you have only said hi to once in a while at school without ever actually hanging out with them don't just suddenly expect them to open up and agree to go to a big social event right away. Get to know them first and they are more likely to agree cause they are more likely to trust enough go.
2. If you don't me I am one of the quietest people you will ever meet and if you are a good friend sometimes I never shut up. But I am never full of myself or at least I never intend to be if I ever am. If I'm talking a lot usually it is about some tv show or videogame with a friend just being a nerd that occasionally talks to much.
3. Doesn't matter if I sleep for 4 to 6 hours or if I sleep as long as 10 hours, I always look like the person on the right 🤣 I've been on regular sleep schedule getting 8 hours of sleep or more for over a year now and I still look like the pic on the right.
4. I'm actually very pessimistic cause if you prepare for the worst result to happen most of the time it won't happen. However I do think it it is unattractive to constantly talk about it to others constantly going on about your negative problems. You can be pessimistic and just keep those thoughts to yourself. I try my best to make sure I don't complain or even mention most of the problems in my life to my friends.
5. Never used a pickup line once in my entire life. Just not my style. How about just treating the person you are attracted to like a human being. When I used to game with friends at school it didn't matter if you were a guy or girl, as long as you were not toxic and just be friendly and chill everyone was treated and talked to the same way. If I want to talk to a girl I like I just do the same thing, no corny pickup line just talking to her like any of the guys or girls I would game with. So in some ways I think most gaming groups (at least from my day) were very healthy socially.
You seem to be a nice person ^^ I'm very much into games too. What do you play?
@@priella24 I mostly play the mmo Mabinogi and a few other mmos as well but I'm into almost any type of videogame. Pokemon, Zelda, Shantae, Stardew Valley, Final Fantasy, and anything with action, adventure, and a big world to explore is always a lot of fun.
@Incognito Potato Awesome, the thing I love about Stardew Valley is there are so many ways to play and enjoy the game. It really has something for everyone with lots of deep characters and adventures. Stardew Valley has as much content as a $60 dollar game so it is more then the $14.99 price tag.
I accepted that I will never be in a relationship with Anyone & I have stopped trying.
As a hsp, I can relate to the first one maybe too much. I don’t like hanging out and being social at all after for example school, I just want to be alone.
1st comment, this is so me, thanks for this video, it's really helping me now
the thumbnail is kinda misleading and dumb…. you shouldnt make people feel bad for armpit hair. its natural!! and the first example is kinda….. meh. i am chronically ill and unable to leave the house most days. i dont think this makes me less attractive, i wish i could hang out with others all of the time, i just can’t.
Maintaining your Personal looks is attractive though is It not? Ergo shaving your armpit hair which takes a couple of seconds would be that
3:30 I’d say for me I’m more of a realistic person. I can tell if something’s unlikely or not. Especially based on past events of something similar has happened before.
the sleep deprived one is the stupidest point ive ever heard, not having 31 hours of sleep is nothing like staying up on your phone for a couple hours at night. if you saw a burnt out self hating person compared to a normal person with nothing wrong with them im 1000% sure id pick the one you’d thought wasnt homeless.
The pessimism is so me. I'm working on that though. My reality is steeped in pessimism. Poor my whole life, no friends, a slightly toxic family (some more toxic than others). This really brings you down.
I wish I interacted with more people daily but I'm too shy so I just sit there in silence. I understand that this makes others perceive me as boring and uninteresting, but I cant help it.
UR VOICE IS SO SOOTHING AND ATTRACTIVE HELP
Oh my gosh, I really hope some people hear about the sexist jokes one. I used to like this guy, but after a couple months he started making sexist and or offensive jokes to me, and let me tell you it is a huge no-no. I unintentionally started to dislike him and can totally blame it on that. 😅
So kitchen and sandwich is really that bad?
same... i used to think that my friend was really attractive but not in a lover way, just friendly way, but he starts to make sexist jokes with me to be funny to the other friends and this makes me dislike him as a friend... i still talk a bit to him but im getting tired...
now personally even if i sleep for 8+ hours i still look sleep deprived
Thank you for the information this helped me out a lot
This feels like it wrecks the meaning of
‘I feel like I’m the worst so i always act like I’m the best’
Timestamps
1). I'll go next time 0:26
2). Look at me 1:18
3). 2 A.M club 2:13
4). Glass half empty 2:52
5). Non-pickup line 3:39
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.💙💙💙💙💙
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the list of unattractive habits:*
0:25 (1) "I'll go next time!"
1:18 (2) "Look at me!"
2:13 (3) 2 A.M. Club
2:52 (4) Glass half empty
3:40 (5) Non-pickup lines
I subscribed to this channel to help understand my own mental health. Not to be told what society thinks is unattractive. This actually works against my mental health.
True. Tip one: sometimes only you know the right thing to do
This video is more of a bad habits thing tbh. I'd say all of these things are objectively bad except maybe the first one (though I think you should avoid doing that commonly and if you really don't like to hang out you should just say it)
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i used to like this channel but the more they post, the more i realize how some of their videos are actually more harmful than helpful
@@theclovis. I think so, Intuition will actually tell u if something is going well or wrong
Really great video!
I started trying some of your tips and tricks and now I'm more unattractive than ever!
10/10 would be unattractive again
I'm most certainly 1. but I believe if I have to try hard to garner someone's love, I'll set the wrong expectations towards that person, because they'll never get to know me at my baseline. This is a "Dress up for the job" sort of situation. I know I want to be with another introvert, and so perhaps my venue isn't that party / outing / drinking night that friends are inviting me to... Maybe it's a forest, an anime convention, art club, or game night. I'm 30 so I've experienced much. Very often people fall out of love because one person was trying too hard to be someone they're not / uncomfortable being, and that's what attracted their partner, but once their partner really gets to know them at their baseline / natural state, they feel a bit scammed or unattracted to the person. I decline outings if they're not to my taste, because I can't imagine I'd meet someone compatible with me doing something I don't love. It's healthy to be an 'outgoing' introvert, but you should define what 'outgoing' means to you. Adventures take many forms.
Your voice is so calm and soothing omg I love it ! I could listen to it for hours
I was literally wondering about that topic
the last is one of my friends- if I can even call it a friend. He allways do this jokes with me, not just with me but with everyone else, I tried to say it to him, but he allways thinks that everything I'm saying a joke too. (Plus: He liked me [or still likes, I don't know] since the start of 2022, and he allways think that after calling anyone "monkey", "homeless" or things like that all the time will make he be more attractive)
I like these videos since it helps with my selfcare
Having a lot of disorders in my head and + autism with a lot of adhd in it doesn't always help in social interaction, but the worst is having BDP. That make everything worst, it is a constant fight with this little voice in your head, always putting you down, wanting you to do bad things. But after a few years, I can confirm to people who have similar to me, you actually can have a good life. I wasn't believing it at first. But after a lot of introspection, I realise that this voice was just the little old me, who is scare of life. And the only thing I had to do, is understanding her, reconforting her, scolding her. This is still difficult today, but this is way less worst than before. You just have to stop to live in fear, concentrate yourself on who you really are and by that, you have to remember who you are when this voice is not here. And I realise I was a really good person, always there for the other, strong, smart, capable of a lot of thing, ambitionous... I can finally see who I am, something that you cannot do when your fear is eating you. More you fear something irrationnaly (like, scare to be left behind by your friends) more you fell in the pattern of your worst fear and then they become reality. But you did it yourself, not the others around you.
But I say that, but to be honest, I am pretty lucky. Even if I have a list of diagnostic, everthing is on a little level. So, for somerone who experience a hard level of BPD, I hopes what I say can help, but I know this is a lot harder than what I live everyday. After all, not for nothing that some peoples around me said that to their own opinions, BPD is the worst mental illness for auto-destruction. You just kill yourself, everyday, because you don't understand that all that, in your head, is only memories of what people have said to you in the past. But someone sane and well in their skin never hurt other people like that, only people who are unhappy or unhealthy in their head do that. So, don't take it personnal, make peace with it.
This really helps, I’m very thankful to come across this video 😄
Also I’ve found a way that works for me, for when people ask if I wanna do something. I will (if I don’t have energy that day) just say that I don’t have the energy that day, but that I’d love to find a day to do it with them. Perhaps in an upcoming weekend, or a day where I get off early and can still relax a bit at home beforehand.
I know that I tend to be pessimistic, I have a hard time avoiding it because I see so much bad in the world and when I try to be optimistic, I feel like I'm being phony...
Perhaps you see bad in the world because it is there to be seen.
Because being pessimistic isn't a bad thing. Sometimes, to some people, it is much better to be wary and see the world in its glory, as well as the pain it built that glory on. This video doesn't have any facts in it, it's just one massive opinion that society at large has. And our society is wrong, so, please, you do you. Don't force yourself to be something you're not, because you'll be more miserable.
2:15 me watching this at 1:50am:
Your cowoerkers are not your friends. If push comes to shove they will throw you to the wolves to save their job. Spend time with your friends if you want to socialise and keep work as work. Also have your friends hold you accountable to go out at least for dinner, sports or a coffee once a week if you tend to isolate.
Perhaps one simply prefers solitude.
This channel used to be so good now it’s just how to be attractive
Fix the thumbnail. You're suggesting that body hair is bad and I'd hate to think that Psych2Go believes in that stuff.
They didn't. Cope. Crazy feminists.
Love how the background music is fitting for this topic!
Thx psyhtogo for the information
I had and still have a problem with overly confidence and overshare
Why has Psych2go started following red pill ideology? It's these "bad habits", "self improvement" "how to be attractive" things I'm talking about. The thing is, I don't think focusing on "fixing" these natural insecurities is inherently good for your mental health
why are you implying right wing red pillers are the only ones to follow these objectively superior behaviors? just because an insecurity is "natural" doesnt make it good
@@utopiandystopia1383 I don't think red pillers are the only ones doing this no. And what do you mean by objectively superior behavior?
I think that continuesly trying to "fix" yourself and becoming a better version of yourself might lead to never feeling good enough and not accepting things as they are.
I think that even if you have "bad habits" that make you "less attractive", it doesn't make you less lovable and make you unable to date someone.
Sometimes self improvement can be beneficial, and sometimes not.
They have gone a bit grey and shallow with their material lately, at least that's what I feel. Maybe they ran out of stuff to talk about, maybe they just changed, but not in the good direction. Here I am, being pessimistic lol
0:25 and 1:18 (too often, look at me) i really need those things, Thank you, not because of attraction but way of communication to my friends and people
LEAVE ME AND MY ARMPIT HAIR ALON 😭😭😭
1:57 I have to disagree bc 2 says that they don’t like the attention but if they don’t why would they have to say it so directly “I’m smart” and 1 says “I’m a pretty good student” which is definitely more humble then “I’m smart”
Omg the sexist one is true ,back when I was a sophomore there was this girl in my class she was very cute and one of the smartest students (along with me not bragging I swear) but she had this awful behavior where she used to slap guys in the upper back with all her strength she did it once to me out of the blue and we couldn't do anything because we'll she was a girl and if you confronted her she would just say " oh you're a man you can take it " well everyone started ignoring her after that even the girls because they got mad at her nobody wanted to be around her anymore ,she stopped doing it when she slapped the big guy of the class so hard I bet you could hear it a block away he turned grab her hand and almost punch her in the face the teacher jumped to stop him and she started crying and HE got in trouble like wtf? She got away with everything but nobody from out class talk to her anymore
Schools have always been biased towards girls. When I was in high school I was actually s*xually harassed by a girl. Told the principal and all he did was tell her to not talk to me again... like, if I did that to her I WOULD BE EXPELLED OR IN ISS FOR MONTHS. Still ticks me off how she basically got a slap on the wrist for that.
Besides that, schools' curriculums (particularly Literature and Writing) are proven to generally be geared towards what girls like more than boys. On a more personal matter, I hated reading because I grew up being forced to read soppy romances and stuff that made me cringe or bored. I only started liking reading after I finally found an ACTION-PACKED book series geared towards boys, written by a guy.
@@TheBestLoser1 man that suks 😓 and not only expelled they would actually push criminal charges and it'll be always in your record smh now that you say it it's true all literature in school is aimed towards girls 🤔 didn't realize until now 😳
@@takocat9618 Yeah. I graduated so I don't have to worry about this... until I get into college. Hopefully the college is far more mature. From what I can tell so far, they take both men and women seriously when it comes to fairness.
Wtf why did she do that... Did she seriously think it was funny? Your not bragging I swear part was lol
@@TheBestLoser1 i hope so but the way things are going it's going to get crazier 😓
One may turn down invitations because one does not enjoy the company of the inviter.
A pessimistic outlook may be a realistic outlook. Being too upbeat can often seem contrived.
The 2AM club is hitting me hard as I watch this at 3:20 in the morning 😂💀
The fact I'm watching this at 2am
The one habit that makes me less attractive from the start: *Existing* :')
Same 😩🤙
Summary: Change everything unique about yourself to get a date. 👍
The only habit I have is sleep deprivation, but I don’t mean to stay up late on purpose.
Your videos always attracts me!!❤
Food For Thought: You can’t please everyone, and you can’t make everyone like you.
Your voice is so calm that I almost fell asleep
I want to be highly attractive physically, while repelling others socially. ☺
0:55 so I didn’t miss a single class in my school year but I’m still that introverted quiet kid who almost doesn’t talk to anybody
Thumbnail is a little misleading... 😅
i sleep enough but i have these huge dark circles under my eyes because I'm anemic and they won't go away :( the way people say that i always look tired is getting annoying
Ironically painful, I have trouble sleeping a lot. Melatonin, sleep aid amsr with a headband. Even cutting caffeine about 7hrs before bed still nets at least 1-2 disturbences in the night. Low-key I have a fantasy of falling asleep on a girls lap when I'm truly exhausted.
holy shj
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO
Habits 1, 3 (a bit), 4 and 5 sometimes are in me. Your video helped me realize these are problems and i should work on them
I have armpit hair and I feel awesome 😎
Ew
Feeling awesome is not the same as looking awesome. I'm a man and I groom all my hair. ALL of it. It's not all removed, but the hair that's still there is kept neat and tidy.
That's so scary man, the time on your phone was the same time on mine