@@Tvaikahyes. it is no secret that the people running major social media platforms actually weaponize human psychology to exploit people into more engagement. pair this with the crushing weight of capitalism making it harder to access meaningful hobbies, third spaces, and connection with nature and yeah. Its not the phones. Its this entire damn world. id love to go outside but its all developed area. Its too loud and too bright for my disability. Would love to go on a trip but i cant afford a car anymore. And theres no public transport where i live. Im not an outlier
You’re so right about that choice being taken away because with TH-cam you essentially choose which video you want to watch but on TikTok the algorithm feeds you whatever it wants
TH-cam is still algorithmic and I have some... issues... with it. But I agree it's MORE traditional and probably less directly harmful (as long as you stay off TH-cam Shorts, lol).
@@shamelessnerd I've heard of extensions that get rid of the TH-cam home page so you have to search for stuff yourself! (i haven't tried any but it's good to know they exist)
Which makes TikTok's algorithm superior I came across videos that helped me a lot and learned so many things from random videos on my TikTok FYP vs the meta algorithm .
It's not true that nobody understands. Lots of people have it, or used to have it. You are not alone. It is very untrue, however, to say that "everyone is depressed". That is insulting; it diminishes and invalidates actual depression. It's like saying "everyone's a little autistic", or "we all have a little cancer/diabetes/PTSD". All equally ridiculous.
@@Ayverie4 Cry. I could go on and on about my sob story, how I suffered more than you, but, it remains the same. Existence in the material is a battlefield and you must fight with everything you got, or submit to atrophy, which depression is, pain and suffering.
Just about every old person understands. Nobody escapes life without getting it some time or another. The older you are, the more of your friends have died while you are still here.
you're right about the inconveniences of the early internet leading to learning -> the other day i sat down with my laptop and as i opened chrome i thought eh my new tab page is so boring and ugly. after an hour of scrolling through the extensions store i ended up not liking a single one. at that moment i downloaded the one i hated the least and moved on. couple of days passed and i looked at me new tab page once again thinking "how come nobody has yet made and published an extension i like". then it hit me - come on you're capable of making one yourself. ever since then i've been researching and writing in html and css,, so full of joy every time i open a new tab and the extension made specifically for me - by me - pops up. and watching this video made me realize - not only have i picked up a new skill to develop, but i've done so without really consciously planning to do so. that's genuinely so cool.
Listening to you talk about boredom and brain fog reminded me of something I scribbled in my journal a few days ago. "The world I live in has systematically hunted boredom to extinction, replacing it with this acid, static, fog that corrodes away under the skin, impossibly viscous to escape. But who does this rot benefit? Certainly not me. Did we starve boredom down to ashes simply because we could not bear the discomfort?"
@@MHKaneHK it’s interesting the way the boredom breeds another discomfort, too. The foggy state of overconsumption and never really knowing if we’re doing what we want or what social media wants.
@@kimnotkardashiani dont think its just boredom. Its not wanting to see the deeper problems of this world. Why we are making less money and its harder to survive. Why multiple gen-cides are currently happening. Why more of our life is getting sucked by work and work and work. nothing left to enjoy nothing left to live. We are scared to make real changes, scared to challenge the system that uses cops and money and fabricated poverty to scare us into submission to the elite. so we numb out with our phones. Bread and circuses is real.
As a 1998 baby, I really appreciate this. I feel like in 2012 everything changed and I developed a true internet addiction. Embarassingly, it was tumblr and instagram and snapchat. I still find myself getting frustrated when Pinterest and Tiktok can't infinitely generate something very niche and particular and then remember that's something my brain could do. As a human I can create something unique to my consciousness. Algorithms and AI can't process millions of seconds of sensory input and my specific neuroses and make whatever art it is that I'm craving from social media. I've done random days here and there without social media and I feel that sense of calm boredrom because now I have the choice to do literally anything but scroll and go on whatever algorithmically decided rabbit hole the internet wants me to go on. 10/10 loved this video
Thats a badass way to put it we can create the club inside our heads metaphorically. Theirs things everyone truly desires locked up in there, and the evil of the world subverts your destiny by replacing these inner desires for life with an external satisfaction from the material world
@@vincentcaudo-engelmann9057 that plus it was five years after the first smartphone hit the market, I would be willing to bet that was when enough people became phoneposters that it started reshaping the internet.
You just unpacked the contents of my 'purse' from my whole 20s. That was the norm for leaving the house; I'd have a book, notebook, pens, music device, and depending on where I was going that day maybe a camera too. And you've just made me realise that now I carry none of them. Not even a pen. One thing I didn't do then that I've since adopted is journaling. Started in 2022, and it has been literally life-changing for me, and changed for the better my relationships with my family, and interaction with all around me.
I agree. I’ve also noticed how sarcastic and bitter I’ve become. Everything is to make a joke. Even if it’s rude or inappropriate. I never would have done that as a happy child. I had a filter and I knew better. I was nicer to others too, I wasn’t mean to others even if I thought it. I noticed you seem similar. I’d consider working on it too. It’s helped me feel a lot better myself
Reflection is truly both key and lock. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge; hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
Yup, bitterness is rampant these days. Makes sense, we're novelty addicts, always waiting for the next thing to light up our brain for a moment. When reality doesn't provide that our addiction makes us feel shitty so we feel the need for easy pleasure to comfort us even more. Vicious cycle. Recently, learning that bitterness was dominating my life helped me begij to shift my mindset. Still a long ways to go to get to harmony but that's fine, took a while to fry my brain this crispy, of course it will take time to change. Good luck to you :)
I've been bouncing between videos around this topic for a while now and this is the first I've seen that so eloquently and concisely ties all of it together. I'd be surprised if the video doesn't blow up. You have a real knack for this stuff.
this is the first time someone telling me its my phone that it actually worked. why? because you used evidence to support that claim. thank you so much for sharing your discoveries with us.
Well constructed, thoughtful, informative, scientifically backed. I've seen so many videos on TH-cam talking about quitting social media and "dopamine detox" and so on, but this is the only video I've watched so far that really made me want to rethink my relationship with the internet. All the other videos tackled this issue from a standpoint of discipline and productivity, but this video absolutely resonated with me on an emotional level. I now remember WHY I wanted to stop using my phone so much in the first place- I just wanted to feel happy and excited and fulfilled again like I did in my childhood years. Thank you so much man, you really did something here.
Solid piece of content. Offered me purely by... algorithm. I'm born in '91 and can strongly relate to your early Internet experience. I never was able to pit it in these words. Thank you
Thank you for this! I am a parent of someone your age, who is a brilliant "nerd". I have spent his life defending him to others who think that he isn't what they want him to be... Keep on being YOU! Your content helped me understand even more about my beautiful son, and myself! Keep up the great "work", as what you shared here needs to be heard by many.
@@shamelessnerd thanks for posting about how the internet was before it was spoiled. I'm right around your age and I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who misses the days before smartphones. Not because a smartphone is a bad tool, but because a device that's more than just some locked-down apps lets you be more creative and produce things instead of just consuming.
GG bro your content aligns perfectly with what I need rn... I'm a 94 kid so very similar experiences.. Been trying to get my childhood brain back after 15 years of over stimulation, internet, drugs all that shit and it's getting there, content like this helps heaps.. so thankyou.. Literally couldn't sleep last night so got the pencils textas n drew Dexter all the way through to completion with color inking... Sat there for 2 hours without even looking up.. till 3.30 am That's how I knew, it's all coming back.. Legend bro.. best wishes and keen to see where you take us with your content xx
Ive been listening of a lot of tiny creators (500-50k views) last few days (youtube keeps recommending them) and this one was well done. Fairly concise, meaningful and relevant. I feel like I mostly dont have these problems. But I am never bored. But I am also chipping away at my real projects everyday too. I mostly spend time on youtube, playing video games with friends, spending time with wife or programming. There are snippets of 2-5 hours of complete time wasted but I regret it and it doesnt really happen again. But I really liked your video less so for me, but more as a prompt to reflect on how to raise future kids.
Such an amazing video. I got rid of almost all of my social media this past summer and had never been happier. I redownloaded it upon my return to college because I felt like I was missing out. Now, the addiction had returned and I am not as happy again. This video inspired me to try a detox again. Thank you
@@alyssarussell145 I had the exact same experience for years. Would quit, relapse, quit, relapse. Finally I just stopped and haven’t looked back! You can do it!
I'm confused, how did you quit anything? You're a youtube creator. That is social media. You are making media and reading comments, a full social exchange is occuring. It's better than scrolling on facebook, but it's still wildly more stimulating than many many other forms of creative action. The internet accelerates all the processes. Writing a book is social media too, but it's slow. Fast social media is the problem. TH-cam is that 100%
@ I think this is totally valid. I’ve been really excited about the response to this video and thus have probably overdoing the amount of time I’ve spent on here the last few days, responding to comments and stuff. Another thing I’ll have to try to find balance on. But by “quit” I just mean I’ve quit all scrolling timelines on social media, and worked really hard to use the internet like the newspaper, like I mentioned in the video. I think everything exists on a spectrum-and TikTok exists on the far end of one side, and like, hobby forums exist on the other side. Just trying to be closer to the latter.
9:05 this!!! I’ve noticed this!!! My boss’s 15 year old daughter goes to a private school where they provide iPads instead of Chromebooks like the rest of our district. She helped me with a task and I was telling her what to edit and she didn’t know basic computer skills like dragging a window to the side and snapping it so you can split the screen or basic Microsoft word use. It was surprising but makes sense. Everything just works now. I definitely want to teach my future children tech literacy
Omg the first 30 seconds perfectly depicts my view of social media now that I’m a teacher, freshly graduated. Not suffering from depression anymore, though. I hope life gives you the chance to help you feel like you aren’t alone and gives you the confidence to become mentally clear of that numbing feeling. I’ve been through it, it’s not fun. But you will get through it too. Trust in that ❤
I really appreciate this video. I don't mean to focus on the negative, but I think that I do experience withdrawals and have often been critical of myself for not being able to sustain the time away from social media that I've tried to commit to. I think it's an individual situation with me and my mental health. The boredom is there, of course, but I also start spiraling pretty badly. I've been on this 'journey' for about two years, and I will not give up; I can't give up because I want to have a better life, a better overall mental state, and to reclaim the 'outside' world (everything beyond social media). Thank you for sharing your video, it was very helpful and I have also been thinking about the early 2000s a lot, so it was cool to see that reflected to me.
I think it's different for everyone but don't judge yourself too harshly. you will get where you want to be eventually but even if you don't it's okay. you are trying and that's all that matters. good luck to you :)
I get “withdrawals” as well and it’s caused by a combination of problems which makes it really difficult to circumvent. (Mainly OCD and C-PTSD but also being chronically ill and autistic) I’m stuck at home most of the time so the internet is my only real social interaction. it’s a double edged sword because without it I feel totally isolated, but with it I feel crazy. When I do get off my phone, I feel way worse, just in a different way. I’m still trying to figure it out myself so I don’t have any answers for you but I feel you and I wish you luck.
I love the way you shot Toronto - hate that I always assume the content I'm watching is American, but love the surprise when it's from home. So many 'content creators' talking about this kind of stuff now, but you talk about it from the perspective of a artist. Connecting it back to childhood and those modes of learning -- It's one hundred percent possible to do this, and be successful with it. Like with any addiction, there will be challenges and slip ups -- in my case, a current weening off period. I'm more hopeful now than I have been in a long time.
I've been doing this already for a while to help with autistic burnout, and it really does work. Another great thing to do is when you do use TH-cam, to try to always finish the video, or at least pause it, before reading the comments, and to only use the comment section to Absorb others opinions and then Express your own, but never re-engage in the same comment thread. I just leave that sh*t at 9+ and I have resigned to truly not caring what other people think, and am so at peace and moisturized from this practice. Highly recommend. (The exception being the videos that you're actually curious about discussing when you're randomly thinking about it later and wanna check the discussion because you actually care about the topic. I think engaging that way helps with deeper absorption and understanding of topics and material.)
man this brought me back to my first internet experiences back in 2006 and the golden years I had with it through 2010. you hit the nail on the head, I think. I also think that it built critical thinking and literacy through needing to determine what could be a scam/virus/whatever, or what videos were worth watching or were just view farming (trying to find free club penguin memberships taught me a lot lol)
This was an absolutely incredible video. I spent all morning reading for the first time in months and months and months and months, and it felt so beautiful. Like I was in a different world. A different timeline. I haven't been so inspired in a long time, and I've tried finding so many resources for quitting that damn phone. This one is the only one that had that spiritual tint that was able to reach me
Wow that part about boredom is actually eye-opening! I’ve never thought of it this way. Omw to get bored and finally do something useful instead of scrolling
This is an amazing video. The pace of the talking, nuance in vocabulary, and the analogy. I would’ve thought this was scripted you’re an amazing speaker.
I am a 98 kid and had the same experience as you. I am also a middle school teacher who noticed the kids lack of troubleshooting and active learning process. What's interesting to me is asking them who has parents that dont let them scroll. Or dont let them use their phone freely. Those students are more patient and better listeners. Thanks for sharing
I’ve been struggling for months to come up with an idea for a book I’ve been wanting to write, and this video actually inspired me, thank you so much. I’m a younger gen z, so I grew up in between the “Wild West” of the internet like you describe here, and the more modern, MrBeastified internet. The biggest difference between me and my younger brother, only 5 years apart, is pretty traceable to the kind of content we consumed as kids. I watched early Vsauce videos, some creepy ghost stuff that slipped through the parental controls; my brother watched slime-unboxing, cocomelon type stuff. That kind of stuff shows later in life.
@@thewokestoner8528Yeah, it’s a good guess, but that’s not what made her struggle to come up with an idea for her book, nor is it really relevant to the book, beyond the fact that they both happen to relate to social media in two totally different ways. One is burning her out, and the other, is making her brother’s attention span shorter according to some idea I heard about someplace from some dude who thinks that shot duration effects the attention span of people watching lots of that sort of content on a daily basis(can’t give any sources cause I forgot who the guy is. Maybe it was saberspark or blueeyepatchwolf/sabersomething with some dude with a British accent behind it all, but it definitely was comparing bluey and cocomelon side by side in duration of their shots at one point in the video).
When I started going to college, I was dealing with my parents divorce and a recent breakup with my highschool sweetheart. I had also recently started smoking weed, so I had many things at once pushing me toward loneliness and boredom. I play the guitar, and at the time, I’d really started to push myself to learn songs I could play/sing. I learned so many new songs within a few months and I’m impressed with myself for it to this day. I haven’t been nearly as into learning since, even during covid. I want to so bad, but the natural motivation is missing and pushing myself to play more just feels painful. I’ve been really trying to find that spark again though, I hope I find it soon.
I've been talking about this so much trying to understand my own predicament as a 00s baby and WOW the way you put it into words is soooooooooo satisfying, thank you for this
Investing before this gets 2.3 million views. No but seriously you showed so much potential for your channel this video is perfect. I hope you keep this up.
We might be the same person... figuring out HTML to make wallpapers, downloading boatloads of music on mediafire (I was a Panic!, ATL, NeverShoutNever gal too...), playing Club Penguin and Neopets. I couldn't agree more with your points, and they speak exactly to my experience. So awesome to have had this placed in my algorithm! Thank you for sharing your message!!!
95’ baby here who has also struggled with debilitating anxiety and depression at times and I can 100% agree that my mental health is very closely tied to my media consumption. Thank you for the thoughtful reminder that the Internet is a wonderful tool when used intentionally but we need to remain aware of the motives that these companies have for keeping us “engaged” and ultimately the true cost we pay. Cheers! ✨
I am an semsitve person, and the way your audio sounds is soo calming wihtin the loud and gapless way people edit their video on TH-cam with no breathing room, keep it up
Man, this content is AMAZING. Even as a kid living through the early 2010s, I still feel like this applies to myself and others my age. Hate to sound stereotypical but I hardly ever see kids outside or just, doing nothing like I used to do. Even when we had phones, we were still bored, and we didn’t try to mask anything. Keep this up you’re special bro.
Just wanna say... really proud of you for doing this thing. Hard to get out of that staring contest with the void once you get into it. I'm going to enjoy life today that much more because of this video ❤ I hope Gen Z is the benefactor of our steadily rising global consciousness and that we can be the responsible older siblings/stewards that millennials didn't have
Same, just based on the quality of it I wouldn’t have been the least bit surprised if that number was in mils instead of ks. Only a matter of time if he keeps putting out stuff like this
Very insightful stuff. I’m 10 years older than you but share many parallels since the internet didn’t show up until I was in my late teens. It was 1980-2000 were golden years with the perfect balance of analog and the emerging digital world.
This video came about four years too late for me, but it's still awesome to hear you articulate what I also figured out. This is a seriously well done video.
I was having this similar connection last year and it’s nice to see you bringing it up. You’re 100% right. My experience has been the same, although I’m probably not the strongest right now. I am choosing to flush my mind with good things now.
Sounds like we had very similar upbringing, only 1 year difference. This has been on my mind for awhile now, and I've always had the tools available and around, but hearing that taking a break from the internet has worked for you is enough to convince me to try it myself
Really really loved this video! I have pretty recently done basically the same thing. Bought a dumb phone, found my old iPod classic and a digital camera, and always carry a bag with essentials like a book and knitting. I have some problems with changing to a physical calendar and that I used to get notifications for stuff on my Apple watch (I have ADHD), but I feel like the free time gained, plus the calmness and inspiration it gives me makes it worth it!
Great stuff. I'm an artist with a small community, and I frequently get into conversations about how to find that motivation to create, and stick with it. I try to relay some version of the information you're giving here, but it never seems to get any traction. I feel very fortunate to have grown up when and where I did, and to have had the opportunity to develop the understanding I have now. I truly wish I could help other people the same way.
I took on electronics and PC hardware tinkery back in highschool, and I have to say, the chase of trying to hunt down the solution to an oddly specific problem to make a device work feels great. I've been building retro PCs for modern gaming lately, not Pentium but more like Core 2 Quad/Phenom II X6 stuff, and the pursuit of the project gives me life. I'm at my happiest when I'm exploring the limits of what is possible with such outdated hardware, building/rebuilding the system on a hardware level, looking up spec sheets and benchmarks and comparing them, and troubleshooting the odd issues that can come with such odd usecases. Sounds tedious, perhaps even frustrating from time to time, but it's my heaven. 11/10 would recommend tinkery. Very rewarding.
Would love to see the video on the notebooks. More videos on this topic would be helpful. I am in the field of education as well and struggle with what you're talking about.
amazing video, I've been on my own journey of rediscovering my life and this just motivated me to keep going to push forward. I've talking about this stuff before but you went so in depth, you had both extremely compelling examples from your own life as well as actually studied data, a combination of wisdom and knowledge. I wish everyone on the internet could watch this video
yessss! in the past month i've started going less digital and started using my phone as little as possible and it has felt so good. especially being away from social media because it can be so toxic and just brain numbing.
@@livinlikelarrie Social media in particular is just inarguably a net negative to me. I would really struggle to accept any argument that there is a person truly having only positive effects on their lives from using social media. Glad it’s going well for you!!
This was a really brilliant video! I really like the recommended habits mentioned towards the end of the video, i felt many parts of the video directly speaking to me. it's sad how we're unknowingly sabotaging our own potential (i got deja vu typing this last sentence; i've definitely journaled about this topic when i was 14 and wanted to take a step to shift my lifestyle for the better but i was probably captured by my tiktok fyp the second after i was done journaling and didn't take any step forward). it really is time we go back to deciding for ourselves what we like and what is worth our precious time. anyway, thank you for this piece of art!
Solid video dude, came to the same conclusion myself and have deliberately made my life a little inconvenient to regain the power of choice and intention. Still too early to say if i’ve felt any profound changes but having all this time back has been nice
really great video! i'm always trying to incorporate digital minimalism into my life and some months are way easier to do it than others. i deleted my social media profiles ~3 years ago but the compulsive act of checking the phone for texts and emails is still there. last night was the first time in a while that i intentionally decided to read and journal an hour before bed and not check my phone at all. i woke up this morning in a good mood and feeling rested so i want to make it a habit of disconnecting before bed. this doesn't need to be repeated but it really is that damn phone!
95 kid here, super well constructed video. Been thinking a lot about this during holidays, basically we do not choose what to think due to algoritms. Time to be more concious about it.
For me it’s been reading books and learning about different topics. I found that I’m more curious always asking why like a child. Also just enjoying the little things. You gotta stop and just enjoy something even for a bit. I like to do this with the stars in the night sky. No matter how many times I’ve seen the same constellations it fills me with a sense of awe and childlike curiosity. Just take a breather sometimes slow up and breathe and look around you. You are alive and one day you will not be so take as much in as you can.
4 minutes in, decided to try something different this time. I usually comment as soon as I get a + or - impression, but this time I'll write it out as I watch. I'm Also a millenial and also a teacher. Like you said, I know barely anyone will read this if anyone at all, but it's something I've got to do to reward myself. First lesson learned: I'm now a master of unfinished projects because I rarely ever got that lesson about stimulatory knowledge. Most of the time, whenever I engaged in such endeavors, I'd be either punished, reprimanded or outright blocked from attempting something new, over time I developed voth inferiority and imposter syndromes. Knowing this will definitely help me heal those traumas! Second lesson: I literally cannot remember the last time I was bored. Thinking a bit harder, it was in early 2021... I was recently trying to get back into my hobbies, but I'm never bored enough to even consider doing them. I think it's about time I reintroduce even more inconvenience in my life, reducing screen time just won't be enough. Third lesson: When you narrated your story about the vicious algo-work-obligations cycle, I realized I'm not in a very unique or rare situation. Even though I abandoned my phone, now I'm addicted to my computer. I listen to so much Ram Dass, but I never embraced his "be here now, tell the truth, love everything you are aware of" philosophy. Time to reclaim my life from big tech! Thanks for watching? No, THANK YOU for showing me the answer I'd been looking for the past 13 months!
Best video on the internet. I so game programming.. much the hard way (using Java & LibGDX) and it has forced me to research and try things on my own, as in stimulus learning. Thank you. Now time to go outside!
Oh. I can say what it is. I discovered it randomly. It's just yoga exercises. You can really feel like a child after them. Not the brain, though, but just the body.
i still feel like i was left out just because our family broke and now, 2 decades later i'm still part of that brocken thing, lack behind in nearly all parts and there's no way to connect with others anymore. Even my closest friends are horrible.. boredom.. those questions arent haunting me. i feel alone on this panet with no one fighting at my side and thus there's no purpose in trying to fight anymore. for what? for whom? everyone is on their own!
I've been toying with the idea of quitting social media and lowering my internet connection for years, I knew all of the things you've mentioned in this video either because i heard it online over and over again or because it's something I had picked up and ruminated over...the concept that might make me cross over is literally the title of the video: I feel like no one is talking about it or understanding what I mean (because I cannot fully put it into words) but I'm not me anymore, the world has become this facsimile of a society and I'm just some grown up cosplaying as myself but no choice I make feels deliberate or my own. For the longest time it has been brushed under the idea that "that's just part of growing up" I'm becoming the adult I despised as a teen and not because "I know better now" but because I'm copying or reacting to a script I've been given. I lacked general purpose or theme this year, since I am on the right track to fix my fucked up sleep it might be time to give a genuine shot at my internet addiction
I occasionally get time where I'm without social media, usually on vacation. I'm not bored even if I don't do anything. My brain is taking the time to reset. I remember boredom. That itch takes weeks to come up. The restlessness. It's both terrible and, like you said, really kinda great.
This is a very important sentiment. One I think that mirrors the work of Cal Newport. I need a break from it and this video was the extra push I needed. Thank you.
Thank you for making this video. It took things I have been wondering about and presented them in a way that just makes sense and speaks to me. I have been trying to be bored more often, and started reading books and playing video games again (when before I had zero interests at all in life). (now just some yapping) I have been thinking (dreaming lol) about getting a flip phone but I don't think that I can deal with not having the up-to-date tech. Unfortunate that you need a modern smartphone for so many things (ex. I use cashapp often, mobile banking, authenicators(?), etc). I do have a cheap $70 digital audio player (DAP?) but I always default back to Spotify since I have a larger selection available for whatever mood I'm in, whereas my space is limited on the audio player and I only have my favorite songs (and it is lower quality sound). I need to start learning again through boredom. I am trying! I started learning Chinese and doing some other stuff. I want to get into painting but y'know, $$$
I'm born 1981. I lived though a time where computers were boxes on a desk without connection to anything other than the electric outlet and a TV. I also lived though the time of dial up modem, and a time with cable internet, and finally a time with wireless intent in your pocket. In my experience, each time had its own benefits for learning. Except the last. I also distinctly remember when (for me) internet switched from being a place where you actively went to find things out or discover things to a place where you're served things. Internet is still one of the most amazing invention and machine we have created, but it has become incredibly hard to weild properly. Comercial interests has made sure that you're easily loosing control of your own free will.
I had a mini crush on my middle school history teacher & you guys physically resemble each other and based on the childhood you described we probably would’ve been friends .. (born 2002) this video is so cool , well edited and helpful I’m glad you got out of the loop and made this coz I’m doing that now too
i’ve actually been doing something very similar and removed a lot of those attention stealing apps from my phone and i agree, i definitely see the difference! this is a very remarkably underrated video and it puts it all in a better way than i could :^)
maybe our parents were right, it is that damn phone
The worst part of growing up is begrudgingly realizing how often your parents were right about stuff.
They weren't. The issue is the bloated, endless content-mill design of the platforms.
@@Tvaikahyes. it is no secret that the people running major social media platforms actually weaponize human psychology to exploit people into more engagement. pair this with the crushing weight of capitalism making it harder to access meaningful hobbies, third spaces, and connection with nature and yeah. Its not the phones. Its this entire damn world.
id love to go outside but its all developed area. Its too loud and too bright for my disability. Would love to go on a trip but i cant afford a car anymore. And theres no public transport where i live. Im not an outlier
@@Tvaikahding ding ding
It's how the apps on the phone were designed to maliciously fuck us, not necessarily the phone itself.
You’re so right about that choice being taken away because with TH-cam you essentially choose which video you want to watch but on TikTok the algorithm feeds you whatever it wants
TH-cam is still algorithmic and I have some... issues... with it. But I agree it's MORE traditional and probably less directly harmful (as long as you stay off TH-cam Shorts, lol).
@@shamelessnerd I've heard of extensions that get rid of the TH-cam home page so you have to search for stuff yourself! (i haven't tried any but it's good to know they exist)
Nope. You are still picking from videos youtube put on the feed. They are still stealing your time and brain power.
Which makes TikTok's algorithm superior I came across videos that helped me a lot and learned so many things from random videos on my TikTok FYP vs the meta algorithm .
I don’t know, TH-cam been showing me to much right wing shit
Depression is sooo hard nobody understands what it steals from you. It's not about staying positive. You know you've changed, it's extremely painful.
Everyone is depressed. Its about fighting against the Atrophy which makes joy.
It's not true that nobody understands. Lots of people have it, or used to have it. You are not alone. It is very untrue, however, to say that "everyone is depressed". That is insulting; it diminishes and invalidates actual depression. It's like saying "everyone's a little autistic", or "we all have a little cancer/diabetes/PTSD". All equally ridiculous.
@@Ayverie4 Cry. I could go on and on about my sob story, how I suffered more than you, but, it remains the same. Existence in the material is a battlefield and you must fight with everything you got, or submit to atrophy, which depression is, pain and suffering.
Just about every old person understands. Nobody escapes life without getting it some time or another. The older you are, the more of your friends have died while you are still here.
@@NimrodTheEternalI bet you cry at nights, tough guy
you're right about the inconveniences of the early internet leading to learning -> the other day i sat down with my laptop and as i opened chrome i thought eh my new tab page is so boring and ugly. after an hour of scrolling through the extensions store i ended up not liking a single one. at that moment i downloaded the one i hated the least and moved on. couple of days passed and i looked at me new tab page once again thinking "how come nobody has yet made and published an extension i like". then it hit me - come on you're capable of making one yourself. ever since then i've been researching and writing in html and css,, so full of joy every time i open a new tab and the extension made specifically for me - by me - pops up. and watching this video made me realize - not only have i picked up a new skill to develop, but i've done so without really consciously planning to do so. that's genuinely so cool.
@@5OFIJA This is so cool! Modern internet success story lol.
Listening to you talk about boredom and brain fog reminded me of something I scribbled in my journal a few days ago.
"The world I live in has systematically hunted boredom to extinction, replacing it with this acid, static, fog that corrodes away under the skin, impossibly viscous to escape. But who does this rot benefit? Certainly not me.
Did we starve boredom down to ashes simply because we could not bear the discomfort?"
@@MHKaneHK Jesus Christ I love this
that is really good
@@MHKaneHK it’s interesting the way the boredom breeds another discomfort, too. The foggy state of overconsumption and never really knowing if we’re doing what we want or what social media wants.
@@kimnotkardashiani dont think its just boredom. Its not wanting to see the deeper problems of this world. Why we are making less money and its harder to survive. Why multiple gen-cides are currently happening. Why more of our life is getting sucked by work and work and work. nothing left to enjoy nothing left to live. We are scared to make real changes, scared to challenge the system that uses cops and money and fabricated poverty to scare us into submission to the elite. so we numb out with our phones. Bread and circuses is real.
Would you (or anyone here) be interested in collaborating on a writing project together? I have a similar idea that sounds really close to this 👀
As a 1998 baby, I really appreciate this. I feel like in 2012 everything changed and I developed a true internet addiction. Embarassingly, it was tumblr and instagram and snapchat. I still find myself getting frustrated when Pinterest and Tiktok can't infinitely generate something very niche and particular and then remember that's something my brain could do. As a human I can create something unique to my consciousness. Algorithms and AI can't process millions of seconds of sensory input and my specific neuroses and make whatever art it is that I'm craving from social media. I've done random days here and there without social media and I feel that sense of calm boredrom because now I have the choice to do literally anything but scroll and go on whatever algorithmically decided rabbit hole the internet wants me to go on. 10/10 loved this video
Smartphones became ubiquitous.
Thats a badass way to put it we can create the club inside our heads metaphorically. Theirs things everyone truly desires locked up in there, and the evil of the world subverts your destiny by replacing these inner desires for life with an external satisfaction from the material world
It was the Facebook IPO. 2012 is it.
@@vincentcaudo-engelmann9057 that plus it was five years after the first smartphone hit the market, I would be willing to bet that was when enough people became phoneposters that it started reshaping the internet.
You just unpacked the contents of my 'purse' from my whole 20s. That was the norm for leaving the house; I'd have a book, notebook, pens, music device, and depending on where I was going that day maybe a camera too. And you've just made me realise that now I carry none of them. Not even a pen.
One thing I didn't do then that I've since adopted is journaling. Started in 2022, and it has been literally life-changing for me, and changed for the better my relationships with my family, and interaction with all around me.
Us being constantly attention-grabbed and not bored is definitely causing the creative disconnect so many people experience
I agree. I’ve also noticed how sarcastic and bitter I’ve become. Everything is to make a joke. Even if it’s rude or inappropriate. I never would have done that as a happy child. I had a filter and I knew better. I was nicer to others too, I wasn’t mean to others even if I thought it. I noticed you seem similar. I’d consider working on it too. It’s helped me feel a lot better myself
Reflection is truly both key and lock.
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"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge; hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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Yup, bitterness is rampant these days. Makes sense, we're novelty addicts, always waiting for the next thing to light up our brain for a moment. When reality doesn't provide that our addiction makes us feel shitty so we feel the need for easy pleasure to comfort us even more. Vicious cycle. Recently, learning that bitterness was dominating my life helped me begij to shift my mindset. Still a long ways to go to get to harmony but that's fine, took a while to fry my brain this crispy, of course it will take time to change. Good luck to you :)
this video was perfectly titled. I wouldn't have clicked it if you called it 'get off your phone'
I've been bouncing between videos around this topic for a while now and this is the first I've seen that so eloquently and concisely ties all of it together. I'd be surprised if the video doesn't blow up. You have a real knack for this stuff.
@@oyecomovach4995 So nice, thank you so much.
this is the first time someone telling me its my phone that it actually worked. why? because you used evidence to support that claim. thank you so much for sharing your discoveries with us.
Well constructed, thoughtful, informative, scientifically backed. I've seen so many videos on TH-cam talking about quitting social media and "dopamine detox" and so on, but this is the only video I've watched so far that really made me want to rethink my relationship with the internet. All the other videos tackled this issue from a standpoint of discipline and productivity, but this video absolutely resonated with me on an emotional level. I now remember WHY I wanted to stop using my phone so much in the first place- I just wanted to feel happy and excited and fulfilled again like I did in my childhood years. Thank you so much man, you really did something here.
Solid piece of content. Offered me purely by... algorithm.
I'm born in '91 and can strongly relate to your early Internet experience. I never was able to pit it in these words. Thank you
Thank you for your kind words!
Thank you for this! I am a parent of someone your age, who is a brilliant "nerd". I have spent his life defending him to others who think that he isn't what they want him to be... Keep on being YOU! Your content helped me understand even more about my beautiful son, and myself! Keep up the great "work", as what you shared here needs to be heard by many.
This is super super sweet. Thank you so much :)
@@shamelessnerd thanks for posting about how the internet was before it was spoiled. I'm right around your age and I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who misses the days before smartphones. Not because a smartphone is a bad tool, but because a device that's more than just some locked-down apps lets you be more creative and produce things instead of just consuming.
GG bro your content aligns perfectly with what I need rn...
I'm a 94 kid so very similar experiences..
Been trying to get my childhood brain back after 15 years of over stimulation, internet, drugs all that shit and it's getting there, content like this helps heaps.. so thankyou..
Literally couldn't sleep last night so got the pencils textas n drew Dexter all the way through to completion with color inking... Sat there for 2 hours without even looking up.. till 3.30 am
That's how I knew, it's all coming back..
Legend bro.. best wishes and keen to see where you take us with your content xx
@@whatyousaydere That’s so awesome! It’s a cool feeling when like you said you can feel it coming back.
What is Dexter ?
Ive been listening of a lot of tiny creators (500-50k views) last few days (youtube keeps recommending them) and this one was well done. Fairly concise, meaningful and relevant.
I feel like I mostly dont have these problems. But I am never bored. But I am also chipping away at my real projects everyday too.
I mostly spend time on youtube, playing video games with friends, spending time with wife or programming.
There are snippets of 2-5 hours of complete time wasted but I regret it and it doesnt really happen again.
But I really liked your video less so for me, but more as a prompt to reflect on how to raise future kids.
Such an amazing video. I got rid of almost all of my social media this past summer and had never been happier. I redownloaded it upon my return to college because I felt like I was missing out. Now, the addiction had returned and I am not as happy again. This video inspired me to try a detox again. Thank you
@@alyssarussell145 I had the exact same experience for years. Would quit, relapse, quit, relapse. Finally I just stopped and haven’t looked back! You can do it!
I'm confused, how did you quit anything? You're a youtube creator. That is social media. You are making media and reading comments, a full social exchange is occuring. It's better than scrolling on facebook, but it's still wildly more stimulating than many many other forms of creative action. The internet accelerates all the processes. Writing a book is social media too, but it's slow. Fast social media is the problem. TH-cam is that 100%
@ I think this is totally valid. I’ve been really excited about the response to this video and thus have probably overdoing the amount of time I’ve spent on here the last few days, responding to comments and stuff. Another thing I’ll have to try to find balance on.
But by “quit” I just mean I’ve quit all scrolling timelines on social media, and worked really hard to use the internet like the newspaper, like I mentioned in the video. I think everything exists on a spectrum-and TikTok exists on the far end of one side, and like, hobby forums exist on the other side. Just trying to be closer to the latter.
@@shamelessnerd That's cool, I get ya now. Good luck :)
9:05 this!!! I’ve noticed this!!! My boss’s 15 year old daughter goes to a private school where they provide iPads instead of Chromebooks like the rest of our district. She helped me with a task and I was telling her what to edit and she didn’t know basic computer skills like dragging a window to the side and snapping it so you can split the screen or basic Microsoft word use. It was surprising but makes sense. Everything just works now. I definitely want to teach my future children tech literacy
Omg the first 30 seconds perfectly depicts my view of social media now that I’m a teacher, freshly graduated. Not suffering from depression anymore, though. I hope life gives you the chance to help you feel like you aren’t alone and gives you the confidence to become mentally clear of that numbing feeling. I’ve been through it, it’s not fun. But you will get through it too. Trust in that ❤
I really appreciate this video. I don't mean to focus on the negative, but I think that I do experience withdrawals and have often been critical of myself for not being able to sustain the time away from social media that I've tried to commit to. I think it's an individual situation with me and my mental health. The boredom is there, of course, but I also start spiraling pretty badly. I've been on this 'journey' for about two years, and I will not give up; I can't give up because I want to have a better life, a better overall mental state, and to reclaim the 'outside' world (everything beyond social media).
Thank you for sharing your video, it was very helpful and I have also been thinking about the early 2000s a lot, so it was cool to see that reflected to me.
I think it's different for everyone but don't judge yourself too harshly. you will get where you want to be eventually but even if you don't it's okay. you are trying and that's all that matters. good luck to you :)
@@aielianna thank you
I get “withdrawals” as well and it’s caused by a combination of problems which makes it really difficult to circumvent. (Mainly OCD and C-PTSD but also being chronically ill and autistic) I’m stuck at home most of the time so the internet is my only real social interaction. it’s a double edged sword because without it I feel totally isolated, but with it I feel crazy. When I do get off my phone, I feel way worse, just in a different way. I’m still trying to figure it out myself so I don’t have any answers for you but I feel you and I wish you luck.
I love the way you shot Toronto - hate that I always assume the content I'm watching is American, but love the surprise when it's from home.
So many 'content creators' talking about this kind of stuff now, but you talk about it from the perspective of a artist. Connecting it back to childhood and those modes of learning -- It's one hundred percent possible to do this, and be successful with it. Like with any addiction, there will be challenges and slip ups -- in my case, a current weening off period. I'm more hopeful now than I have been in a long time.
I've been doing this already for a while to help with autistic burnout, and it really does work. Another great thing to do is when you do use TH-cam, to try to always finish the video, or at least pause it, before reading the comments, and to only use the comment section to Absorb others opinions and then Express your own, but never re-engage in the same comment thread. I just leave that sh*t at 9+ and I have resigned to truly not caring what other people think, and am so at peace and moisturized from this practice. Highly recommend. (The exception being the videos that you're actually curious about discussing when you're randomly thinking about it later and wanna check the discussion because you actually care about the topic. I think engaging that way helps with deeper absorption and understanding of topics and material.)
After watching the video, I felt as if I had received life advice from an older brother I never had. Thank you
man this brought me back to my first internet experiences back in 2006 and the golden years I had with it through 2010. you hit the nail on the head, I think.
I also think that it built critical thinking and literacy through needing to determine what could be a scam/virus/whatever, or what videos were worth watching or were just view farming (trying to find free club penguin memberships taught me a lot lol)
This was an absolutely incredible video. I spent all morning reading for the first time in months and months and months and months, and it felt so beautiful. Like I was in a different world. A different timeline. I haven't been so inspired in a long time, and I've tried finding so many resources for quitting that damn phone. This one is the only one that had that spiritual tint that was able to reach me
Wow that part about boredom is actually eye-opening! I’ve never thought of it this way. Omw to get bored and finally do something useful instead of scrolling
one of the best videos i've watched in a while and I can totally relate. it's a tough journey unplugging ourselves.
This is an amazing video. The pace of the talking, nuance in vocabulary, and the analogy. I would’ve thought this was scripted you’re an amazing speaker.
I am a 98 kid and had the same experience as you. I am also a middle school teacher who noticed the kids lack of troubleshooting and active learning process. What's interesting to me is asking them who has parents that dont let them scroll. Or dont let them use their phone freely. Those students are more patient and better listeners. Thanks for sharing
I’ve been struggling for months to come up with an idea for a book I’ve been wanting to write, and this video actually inspired me, thank you so much. I’m a younger gen z, so I grew up in between the “Wild West” of the internet like you describe here, and the more modern, MrBeastified internet. The biggest difference between me and my younger brother, only 5 years apart, is pretty traceable to the kind of content we consumed as kids. I watched early Vsauce videos, some creepy ghost stuff that slipped through the parental controls; my brother watched slime-unboxing, cocomelon type stuff. That kind of stuff shows later in life.
Kinda sounds like you just have beef with your brother. I mean Vsauce isn't the epitome of educational content lol
@@thewokestoner8528Yeah, it’s a good guess, but that’s not what made her struggle to come up with an idea for her book, nor is it really relevant to the book, beyond the fact that they both happen to relate to social media in two totally different ways. One is burning her out, and the other, is making her brother’s attention span shorter according to some idea I heard about someplace from some dude who thinks that shot duration effects the attention span of people watching lots of that sort of content on a daily basis(can’t give any sources cause I forgot who the guy is. Maybe it was saberspark or blueeyepatchwolf/sabersomething with some dude with a British accent behind it all, but it definitely was comparing bluey and cocomelon side by side in duration of their shots at one point in the video).
No she doesn't sound like that . I can totally understand what she means as im from the same age as she is
When I started going to college, I was dealing with my parents divorce and a recent breakup with my highschool sweetheart. I had also recently started smoking weed, so I had many things at once pushing me toward loneliness and boredom. I play the guitar, and at the time, I’d really started to push myself to learn songs I could play/sing. I learned so many new songs within a few months and I’m impressed with myself for it to this day. I haven’t been nearly as into learning since, even during covid. I want to so bad, but the natural motivation is missing and pushing myself to play more just feels painful. I’ve been really trying to find that spark again though, I hope I find it soon.
Similar situation here. I'm just so burnt.
It’s okay to feel burnt, you’re experiencing a lot. But you must know that you are loved, and your existence is a gift in this world
I've been talking about this so much trying to understand my own predicament as a 00s baby and WOW the way you put it into words is soooooooooo satisfying, thank you for this
Great video man! You deserve more recognition. Your authenticity and relatable nature are really captivating. Keep doing what you're doing!
Investing before this gets 2.3 million views.
No but seriously you showed so much potential for your channel this video is perfect. I hope you keep this up.
We might be the same person... figuring out HTML to make wallpapers, downloading boatloads of music on mediafire (I was a Panic!, ATL, NeverShoutNever gal too...), playing Club Penguin and Neopets. I couldn't agree more with your points, and they speak exactly to my experience. So awesome to have had this placed in my algorithm! Thank you for sharing your message!!!
"Discipline. Consistency. Deadlines. Creativity. Reflection. Repeat." --an award-winning author
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95’ baby here who has also struggled with debilitating anxiety and depression at times and I can 100% agree that my mental health is very closely tied to my media consumption. Thank you for the thoughtful reminder that the Internet is a wonderful tool when used intentionally but we need to remain aware of the motives that these companies have for keeping us “engaged” and ultimately the true cost we pay. Cheers! ✨
Incredible video! Instant subscribe. I call this overall idea "slow living." It feels amazing, like you're awake again.
holy shit, i think this video is gonna change my life
@@5livelaughlove same, I’m thinking of doing more phone detox days now
I am an semsitve person, and the way your audio sounds is soo calming wihtin the loud and gapless way people edit their video on TH-cam with no breathing room, keep it up
Man, this content is AMAZING. Even as a kid living through the early 2010s, I still feel like this applies to myself and others my age. Hate to sound stereotypical but I hardly ever see kids outside or just, doing nothing like I used to do. Even when we had phones, we were still bored, and we didn’t try to mask anything.
Keep this up you’re special bro.
Need this video to be shown to every person that abuses their screen time, including me. This helps so darn much
Just wanna say... really proud of you for doing this thing. Hard to get out of that staring contest with the void once you get into it. I'm going to enjoy life today that much more because of this video ❤ I hope Gen Z is the benefactor of our steadily rising global consciousness and that we can be the responsible older siblings/stewards that millennials didn't have
Damn I thought this channel had more subscribers. Good job man
We'll get there. ;) Thank you homie!
Same, just based on the quality of it I wouldn’t have been the least bit surprised if that number was in mils instead of ks. Only a matter of time if he keeps putting out stuff like this
Very insightful stuff. I’m 10 years older than you but share many parallels since the internet didn’t show up until I was in my late teens. It was 1980-2000 were golden years with the perfect balance of analog and the emerging digital world.
This video came about four years too late for me, but it's still awesome to hear you articulate what I also figured out. This is a seriously well done video.
great! I really like reading articles and watching long TH-cam video essays like this one, feels so much better then scrolling
You’re the breath of fresh air I needed to hear thanks man
This was incredible, I hope this video gets the attention it deserves
I love how this video pieced things together- I’m predicting this channel is going to blow up 🫶🏻
I was having this similar connection last year and it’s nice to see you bringing it up. You’re 100% right. My experience has been the same, although I’m probably not the strongest right now. I am choosing to flush my mind with good things now.
underrated video wtf i thought it had more views and you had more subs, you deserve it!
Sounds like we had very similar upbringing, only 1 year difference. This has been on my mind for awhile now, and I've always had the tools available and around, but hearing that taking a break from the internet has worked for you is enough to convince me to try it myself
Really really loved this video! I have pretty recently done basically the same thing. Bought a dumb phone, found my old iPod classic and a digital camera, and always carry a bag with essentials like a book and knitting. I have some problems with changing to a physical calendar and that I used to get notifications for stuff on my Apple watch (I have ADHD), but I feel like the free time gained, plus the calmness and inspiration it gives me makes it worth it!
Great stuff. I'm an artist with a small community, and I frequently get into conversations about how to find that motivation to create, and stick with it. I try to relay some version of the information you're giving here, but it never seems to get any traction. I feel very fortunate to have grown up when and where I did, and to have had the opportunity to develop the understanding I have now. I truly wish I could help other people the same way.
I took on electronics and PC hardware tinkery back in highschool, and I have to say, the chase of trying to hunt down the solution to an oddly specific problem to make a device work feels great. I've been building retro PCs for modern gaming lately, not Pentium but more like Core 2 Quad/Phenom II X6 stuff, and the pursuit of the project gives me life. I'm at my happiest when I'm exploring the limits of what is possible with such outdated hardware, building/rebuilding the system on a hardware level, looking up spec sheets and benchmarks and comparing them, and troubleshooting the odd issues that can come with such odd usecases. Sounds tedious, perhaps even frustrating from time to time, but it's my heaven. 11/10 would recommend tinkery. Very rewarding.
Would love to see the video on the notebooks. More videos on this topic would be helpful. I am in the field of education as well and struggle with what you're talking about.
amazing video, I've been on my own journey of rediscovering my life and this just motivated me to keep going to push forward. I've talking about this stuff before but you went so in depth, you had both extremely compelling examples from your own life as well as actually studied data, a combination of wisdom and knowledge. I wish everyone on the internet could watch this video
yessss! in the past month i've started going less digital and started using my phone as little as possible and it has felt so good. especially being away from social media because it can be so toxic and just brain numbing.
@@livinlikelarrie Social media in particular is just inarguably a net negative to me. I would really struggle to accept any argument that there is a person truly having only positive effects on their lives from using social media.
Glad it’s going well for you!!
This was a really brilliant video! I really like the recommended habits mentioned towards the end of the video, i felt many parts of the video directly speaking to me. it's sad how we're unknowingly sabotaging our own potential (i got deja vu typing this last sentence; i've definitely journaled about this topic when i was 14 and wanted to take a step to shift my lifestyle for the better but i was probably captured by my tiktok fyp the second after i was done journaling and didn't take any step forward). it really is time we go back to deciding for ourselves what we like and what is worth our precious time. anyway, thank you for this piece of art!
Why are you so underrated and so high quality? New subscriber, hoping to watch more vids like this
@bedheadproject That’s very nice! Thank you! There’s a ton of stuff on the way :)
This is a masterpiece. One of the greatest videos on the internet
i watched the intro and immediately subscribed. you seem super down to earth and you're super engaging! keep it up :)
We’re coming back to the old “broadcast yourself” type of TH-cam
Not really. Not at any meaningful number.
@@bumpytalon90 This is in a weird way maybe my favorite compliment I’ve ever received
Solid video dude, came to the same conclusion myself and have deliberately made my life a little inconvenient to regain the power of choice and intention. Still too early to say if i’ve felt any profound changes but having all this time back has been nice
This video is amazingly done, thank you! Your channel is gonna take off, I’m sure of it
really great video! i'm always trying to incorporate digital minimalism into my life and some months are way easier to do it than others. i deleted my social media profiles ~3 years ago but the compulsive act of checking the phone for texts and emails is still there.
last night was the first time in a while that i intentionally decided to read and journal an hour before bed and not check my phone at all. i woke up this morning in a good mood and feeling rested so i want to make it a habit of disconnecting before bed. this doesn't need to be repeated but it really is that damn phone!
Nice video, hope things continue to get better for you, mental health is tough.
95 kid here, super well constructed video. Been thinking a lot about this during holidays, basically we do not choose what to think due to algoritms. Time to be more concious about it.
This video is so beautifully put together, thank you 🫂
Wow this was extremely eye-opening and enjoyable to watch. Thanks !
I'm really glad to hear it! That's super nice of you to say. Thank you!
You must be children's favorite English teacher
@@running2348 Lol maybe for some! Some of my kids get angry about how much writing I make them do by hand 😬😬 This is super sweet though, thank you.
"Not that I've wanted to play Legos forever..." BS 😂😂😂❤
For me it’s been reading books and learning about different topics. I found that I’m more curious always asking why like a child.
Also just enjoying the little things. You gotta stop and just enjoy something even for a bit. I like to do this with the stars in the night sky. No matter how many times I’ve seen the same constellations it fills me with a sense of awe and childlike curiosity.
Just take a breather sometimes slow up and breathe and look around you. You are alive and one day you will not be so take as much in as you can.
Great video and thanks for being so open and honest about your journey.
‘96 kids were the frontier of this new world we live in
4 minutes in, decided to try something different this time. I usually comment as soon as I get a + or - impression, but this time I'll write it out as I watch. I'm Also a millenial and also a teacher. Like you said, I know barely anyone will read this if anyone at all, but it's something I've got to do to reward myself.
First lesson learned: I'm now a master of unfinished projects because I rarely ever got that lesson about stimulatory knowledge. Most of the time, whenever I engaged in such endeavors, I'd be either punished, reprimanded or outright blocked from attempting something new, over time I developed voth inferiority and imposter syndromes. Knowing this will definitely help me heal those traumas!
Second lesson: I literally cannot remember the last time I was bored. Thinking a bit harder, it was in early 2021... I was recently trying to get back into my hobbies, but I'm never bored enough to even consider doing them. I think it's about time I reintroduce even more inconvenience in my life, reducing screen time just won't be enough.
Third lesson: When you narrated your story about the vicious algo-work-obligations cycle, I realized I'm not in a very unique or rare situation. Even though I abandoned my phone, now I'm addicted to my computer. I listen to so much Ram Dass, but I never embraced his "be here now, tell the truth, love everything you are aware of" philosophy. Time to reclaim my life from big tech!
Thanks for watching? No, THANK YOU for showing me the answer I'd been looking for the past 13 months!
I miss the early internet. You could discover so much, because there was stuff to find. Not “content”. *STUFF.*
Best video on the internet. I so game programming.. much the hard way (using Java & LibGDX) and it has forced me to research and try things on my own, as in stimulus learning. Thank you. Now time to go outside!
this video is AMAZING, i love how you speak and word things!! thank you for this ❣️
thank you for this video!Starting right now I'm going to take the plunge and go screen-free for a week to see how I feel!
Oh. I can say what it is. I discovered it randomly.
It's just yoga exercises. You can really feel like a child after them.
Not the brain, though, but just the body.
Me when I passively find this video because the algorithm recommended it for me instead of actively seeking it out.
this could be harder first few weeks but once i get used to it, i don't think i'll miss social media so thanks for this encouraging videoooo!
i still feel like i was left out just because our family broke and now, 2 decades later i'm still part of that brocken thing, lack behind in nearly all parts and there's no way to connect with others anymore. Even my closest friends are horrible.. boredom.. those questions arent haunting me. i feel alone on this panet with no one fighting at my side and thus there's no purpose in trying to fight anymore. for what? for whom? everyone is on their own!
I've been toying with the idea of quitting social media and lowering my internet connection for years, I knew all of the things you've mentioned in this video either because i heard it online over and over again or because it's something I had picked up and ruminated over...the concept that might make me cross over is literally the title of the video: I feel like no one is talking about it or understanding what I mean (because I cannot fully put it into words) but I'm not me anymore, the world has become this facsimile of a society and I'm just some grown up cosplaying as myself but no choice I make feels deliberate or my own. For the longest time it has been brushed under the idea that "that's just part of growing up" I'm becoming the adult I despised as a teen and not because "I know better now" but because I'm copying or reacting to a script I've been given. I lacked general purpose or theme this year, since I am on the right track to fix my fucked up sleep it might be time to give a genuine shot at my internet addiction
I occasionally get time where I'm without social media, usually on vacation. I'm not bored even if I don't do anything. My brain is taking the time to reset. I remember boredom. That itch takes weeks to come up. The restlessness. It's both terrible and, like you said, really kinda great.
This is a very important sentiment. One I think that mirrors the work of Cal Newport. I need a break from it and this video was the extra push I needed. Thank you.
Dude yes the times of filesharing were so educational in retrospective
And fun!
Thank you for making this video. It took things I have been wondering about and presented them in a way that just makes sense and speaks to me. I have been trying to be bored more often, and started reading books and playing video games again (when before I had zero interests at all in life).
(now just some yapping) I have been thinking (dreaming lol) about getting a flip phone but I don't think that I can deal with not having the up-to-date tech. Unfortunate that you need a modern smartphone for so many things (ex. I use cashapp often, mobile banking, authenicators(?), etc). I do have a cheap $70 digital audio player (DAP?) but I always default back to Spotify since I have a larger selection available for whatever mood I'm in, whereas my space is limited on the audio player and I only have my favorite songs (and it is lower quality sound).
I need to start learning again through boredom. I am trying! I started learning Chinese and doing some other stuff. I want to get into painting but y'know, $$$
I'm born 1981. I lived though a time where computers were boxes on a desk without connection to anything other than the electric outlet and a TV. I also lived though the time of dial up modem, and a time with cable internet, and finally a time with wireless intent in your pocket.
In my experience, each time had its own benefits for learning. Except the last.
I also distinctly remember when (for me) internet switched from being a place where you actively went to find things out or discover things to a place where you're served things.
Internet is still one of the most amazing invention and machine we have created, but it has become incredibly hard to weild properly. Comercial interests has made sure that you're easily loosing control of your own free will.
I had a mini crush on my middle school history teacher & you guys physically resemble each other and based on the childhood you described we probably would’ve been friends .. (born 2002) this video is so cool , well edited and helpful I’m glad you got out of the loop and made this coz I’m doing that now too
this is everything that is on my mind and I couldn't put to words beautifully said I am so grateful for this video
i’ve actually been doing something very similar and removed a lot of those attention stealing apps from my phone and i agree, i definitely see the difference! this is a very remarkably underrated video and it puts it all in a better way than i could :^)
so, its that damn phone
Thank you for unlocking so many core memories
Great insights! Thank you for sharing your perspective man. Cheers from Mexico City 🌞
This is amazing. Thank you! Boredom is key to learning.
@@jamesmarciv Thank you!
Thank you for reminding me of the true form of boredom.