NARCISSISM AND THE DL MAN

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  • @rodentcafeteria
    @rodentcafeteria 2 ปีที่แล้ว +207

    The kicker is the guy you fell in love with never existed. You basically fell in love with yourself, because during the initial love bombing stage, he was mirroring you.

    • @lorenathorpe8909
      @lorenathorpe8909 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Exactly!

    • @candacemontgomery9495
      @candacemontgomery9495 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      😂😂wow, is that it

    • @elleeme9451
      @elleeme9451 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I believe that. I think possibly I projected onto him, too. What I wanted. Then you find out the truth. Doesn't take too long really.

    • @1977pinkpanther
      @1977pinkpanther ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Wow straight facts

    • @Esraleylaplt
      @Esraleylaplt ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Waauw thissss reaction 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙏🏼

  • @marieburroughs6640
    @marieburroughs6640 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    A covert narcissistic man that is down low and jealous is WILD and borderline dangerous.

    • @prunelle9051
      @prunelle9051 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Not bordeline dangerous, DANGEROUS. Not only that, they usually have a cluster of disorders together... so yeah, without any puns intented... could be bordeline too amongts other things. RUN RUN RUN.

    • @tyriahmalveaux-y3j
      @tyriahmalveaux-y3j 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@prunelle9051 my istuation is diff typical financial abuse the if you say something oh you can just up and leave and hes a decade older than me lol but logically they know you cant leave its just a like "shut up or youll be homeless"

  • @carolynattles6167
    @carolynattles6167 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    I was so hurt when I found out that my ex is a down low and a narcissist man. He was so COLD 😢

  • @ingridm85
    @ingridm85 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    FACTS!! A friend of mine last year divorced her husband who was a fuck boy and she caught him not only cheating w women but men too. That absolutely broke her, she knew about the women that's why she left but to see him paying men for sex was too much.

    • @missfayesworld303
      @missfayesworld303  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thanks for sharing

    • @testtest2609
      @testtest2609 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Fukboi is a term originated by men for men like that...they created these DL men and the labels too.

  • @LaurieSyme-l6y
    @LaurieSyme-l6y ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I was a virgin when I married my now ex, and I now know he is a man on the DL. He always hated “regular” sex, it was always perverted, he was violent with me sexually. My intuition was raging. Thank you for talking about these private things!

  • @LoveDeeWilliams
    @LoveDeeWilliams 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Thank you for sharing your story, I been divorced from a Narc for 4 months. I actually think he was sleeping with his male friend.

    • @sharongomes7219
      @sharongomes7219 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I wouldn't doubt it! My x blew me off because "his childhood" friend (a male) was flying in from Florida n he HAD to be there the whole time for him.

  • @Jerry-xs1uz
    @Jerry-xs1uz หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you Ms. Faye. I'm a black man and I volunteer at a Men's Shelter in Atlanta and have also in Los Angeles California. I have seen this Jezebel spirit in these downlow (mainly black males) following the same pattern. It may be a different state, but that same Jezebel spirit is in these black men across the board. Thank you.

  • @His.Heart.
    @His.Heart. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    yes, the Jezebel spirt , yes maam❤

  • @D1271-e5c
    @D1271-e5c ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I swear this channel came up as a message from God to open my eyes. This entire story sounds familiar to my life. This man is horrible and has taken full advantage since the passing of my parents. Thank you Miss Faye

    • @missfayesworld303
      @missfayesworld303  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you for sharing

    • @susannafranklin5391
      @susannafranklin5391 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This video is 10 years too late for me. All truth! I lost everything l had to a narcissist. We broke up and l discoverd he was on the down low. Helped me know why he always tried to have anal sex. He always wanted me on my stomach. I lost my house, my savings my rental property!

    • @SmokinAngel-w7x
      @SmokinAngel-w7x ปีที่แล้ว

      @@missfayesworld303Thank you

    • @paulettemorris3118
      @paulettemorris3118 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too

  • @nataliesoultanov5338
    @nataliesoultanov5338 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Just subscribed ! You are a angel for helping women like myself ! I’m grateful and in tears dealing with a man right now I will rebuke him out of my life

  • @zxvnmiu9148
    @zxvnmiu9148 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I dated one for eight yrs and you are so on point

  • @barbrapayne3636
    @barbrapayne3636 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Hey Miss Faye I'm sorry you had to get smacked in the face and find out you were messing with a DL man that's very painful especially since you were with him for five years, I could not imagine the pain that you experience from that SMH, it's bad enough to get cheated on with another woman that mess really hurts, but a man? that s*** cuts really deep...

  • @ohsnapitsmom
    @ohsnapitsmom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Just discovered you and love you already. I went through it too. The hardest and most devastating thing I’ve ever experienced in my entire life - and I lost my husband of 26 years to a longterm illness.
    Being in a relationship with a narcissist was WAY harder to heal from! As horrible as it was, and how long it took to recover, Im so much stronger wiser and better now. It’s taken me a few years now to be able to say that I wouldn’t trade that experience for anything. I couldn’t be where and who I am today without having experienced that…and walking out the healing process afterward.
    Blessings to you, Miss Faye 💗

  • @edwinaarmstrong1803
    @edwinaarmstrong1803 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Some were spoiled as a child.

  • @X______indiaaaa
    @X______indiaaaa ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I’m currently dating one who keeps denying he like trans but Instagram was filled with bare transexual. I’m literally experiencing what you’ve gone through. I wish I was able to come sit and garden and talk with you.

    • @TheRealDebbieH
      @TheRealDebbieH 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It is your first red flag. Make screen shots and send to a secret email. Just in case he's a narc your evidence saves you.

  • @deanaderrick3474
    @deanaderrick3474 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Oh Ms Faye I guess I was in that world too for 27 long long years. What I love about you is the no B'S. It makes me laugh and brings me joy in the midst of hearing my own story repeated. I'm so grateful for you.

  • @minajeetjemineetje3002
    @minajeetjemineetje3002 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Yes they even say the same things! I am also convinced it is spiritual..

  • @Starlove-dn3ed
    @Starlove-dn3ed 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Yes he always keeps coming back and my dumb ass always keeps accepting him back u are exactly Right I can't stop crying right

  • @newavatar2947
    @newavatar2947 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I used to belong to one of those secret clubs you refer to 20:26 in late 90s about 30 men. We would go fishing and hiking and rent a cabin for the weekend. Mostly married men who were very kind and sweet family-oriented but couldnt shrug it off anymore

  • @LoveDeeWilliams
    @LoveDeeWilliams 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Yes demonic spirit, yes, I totally agree

  • @jellybean3599
    @jellybean3599 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    You have a lot of wisdom. Thank you mama. They do follow the same pattern. This demon created this delusion to destroy you….powerful.

  • @deanaderrick3474
    @deanaderrick3474 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Now I get why he could never come to church and see the awesome things I was doing as choir director and share in that joy with me. And was bringing that "best friend" up in my house! I kept the job, abd got rid of him.

  • @Starlove-dn3ed
    @Starlove-dn3ed 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I have lost everything and gained all back by myself and keep still dealing with him and nothing changed about him improving himself then I wonder why I can't make him happy now I noticed he gets along with males more then female's I'm taking your advice in right now starting NOW

  • @IslaBonita007
    @IslaBonita007 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You're such a beautiful person Miss Faye, inside and out. God bless❤

  • @cup_o_TMarie
    @cup_o_TMarie ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thank God for you Miss Faye🙏You remind me of my people back home in New Orleans🥰You, my dear sister, are a true gift💝I just subscribed👏🔥
    And this stuff is for real! I’ve known a few men like this. They’re more often spreading disease.
    They’re too ashamed to live the lifestyle out front & want the ego stroke of the societal boost of keeping it in the closet. They’re just pretending with the “family” or married life.
    Jezebel spirit indeed🤪🙄🙀

    • @BNyaB
      @BNyaB 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      👍👍👍

  • @lindab8791
    @lindab8791 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Everything you are saying is so accurate!

  • @SongsToAbba
    @SongsToAbba 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Yes the discard is truly a blessing ❤❤

  • @anitagales3344
    @anitagales3344 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hello yes ma'am you are absolutely right,I experienced this myself and didn't know want a narcissist was until I met him he was everything you just said smh,but I was strong enough to recognize the red flag ,but I got rid of him quickly,he tried to come back around when my son's were not there ,but this is true thanks for the info,,I wanted a good relationship but he wasn't the one

  • @latorriatapp4885
    @latorriatapp4885 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My ex discarded me and now he’s living with the guy I saw him taking very good care of He bought him a car and feed him good everyday Here’s the kicker his mother ask me do you think my son is gay and that kept my mind wondering is is mother trying to tell me something

  • @maryannspicher
    @maryannspicher 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’ve been through several toxic relationships. They make you toxic if you stay. I didn’t like who I turned in to with some of them. When you’re comfortable with toxic, it seems normal oddly. So you choose another toxic one. And here they all seemed so different from one another but all ended the same. My last ex 2 years ago, I told him straight to his face all I need now is a gay man to complete the cycle 😂 I laughed with him about this. I’m not laughing anymore…

  • @Carol-jx5yv
    @Carol-jx5yv 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you miss Faye you’re channel came up on TH-cam the other day, and I’m so glad it did you are an absolute brilliant source of information, I am subscribing to your TH-cam channel, thank you again miss Faye, from Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

  • @LandandHomesHawaii
    @LandandHomesHawaii ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Ms Faye. You are an angel sent from God. YOu have opened my eyes and shown me all about what I was dealing with and why I fell for it. we love you Ms Faye. 💟

  • @arlesterbrownlee6569
    @arlesterbrownlee6569 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks for sharing your wisdom and transparency. You are looking very lovely today. Love your hair trim!

  • @mahoganylove5757
    @mahoganylove5757 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Deep! 😔

  • @Gemini_Dreams
    @Gemini_Dreams 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Good information! Thanks for sharing your story! I’ve subscribed to your channel. 💐

  • @janicedaniels5333
    @janicedaniels5333 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you miss faye 😊

  • @jacoyia2011
    @jacoyia2011 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks so much ❤

  • @blackliongirl2402
    @blackliongirl2402 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you! 💐

  • @Kevin-er1pp
    @Kevin-er1pp 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great video Miss Fay.....

  • @LinuxHurts
    @LinuxHurts 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It sounds like the women who are attracted to these guys have deep issues themselves--they need to look at their upbringing and examine their childhood relationship and how it affects their later choices. This whole discussion shows that abandoning TRADITIONAL VALUES has a price...

  • @deannatucker4429
    @deannatucker4429 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I’m pretty sure I got this dl dude his boyfriend is getting outta the pen soon on parole pretty sure they are lovers he quit having intimacy with me doesn’t take me dancing or physical affection anymore porn addiction and found out about his extensive criminal history clothed in sheep’s clothing

  • @TheRealDebbieH
    @TheRealDebbieH 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Love you. I think parents should tell their daughters and sons about this kind of thing when young. Kids need to know about narcissim and sexual education as deemed appropriate by parents for their age. I do think it's a sin for relatives of a DL man to allow his lies. I might guess they don't say because they all had a similar trauma for a similar reason.

  • @clairewilliams7762
    @clairewilliams7762 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My dad did this to his ex fiance , she owned her house and he didnt own his so she lost our reallt

  • @lauraquigley9332
    @lauraquigley9332 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Omg yes preach it Ms.Fay I love you you are so knoweable you are so correct 💯 percent yes they are so mean the nerve of them nit telling us they like men to they are gay yes I've been so loveing and played wife to all these stupid men yes mist of the men I've been with and they all wanted iral sex disgusting I'm done with them I want to grow older alone but at least I'll be safe and happy.

    • @africanglobalnomad
      @africanglobalnomad ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Asking you to engage in o and a zexi is a RED flag for DL men 😂. Women engage in it because they think it’s to spice up the relationship and being adventurous but beware - they are telling you that they can get it from men too 😂.

  • @basicdose.9872
    @basicdose.9872 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    5 years.

  • @jeanettewilliams3730
    @jeanettewilliams3730 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Speak your wisdom .❤❤❤

  • @lauraquigley9332
    @lauraquigley9332 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I know and knew I'm 54 years old now.

  • @nancybthescratcher6327
    @nancybthescratcher6327 ปีที่แล้ว

    Enjoying the conversation

  • @Nonnasword247
    @Nonnasword247 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    New subscriber!👍🏿

  • @michelleelfazzate178
    @michelleelfazzate178 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Omg I'm sorry you was deceived like this ❤

  • @siouxgirl2703
    @siouxgirl2703 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    💜🐷💜 He keeps coming back, hes a cheater....those are some true words. We were married 10 years, cycling on and off the past 20 after the divorce. The minute i have someone else serious and he swoops right in. Hes good for about 3 months then the BS starts.

    • @terjemarken2411
      @terjemarken2411 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Is he into other men you think?

    • @siouxgirl2703
      @siouxgirl2703 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@terjemarken2411 not at all.

  • @jessicaladson3205
    @jessicaladson3205 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    16:11 BLESSED TO GET HIS A** AWAY 😂SOON

  • @jeannetteembry2216
    @jeannetteembry2216 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That's what I didn't feel....he was hollow!

  • @RA-Auset_InnerG
    @RA-Auset_InnerG ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Ive always been a little Scared to watch gay porn I guess I gotta be a little more curious and watch while I'm still single I'm divorced from a narcissist and I'm glad I'm powerful enough to energetically heal my CELLPH from anything ❤❤❤ but still don't want to have to heal I'd rather repel these types of people From the start

    • @JessicaHillenbeck
      @JessicaHillenbeck 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You don't have to watch that filth - just know it is NOT normal, NOT natural

  • @lilianfraites4555
    @lilianfraites4555 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Why is the sound soooooo low!?

  • @lauraquigley9332
    @lauraquigley9332 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Say it loud yes we were virgins when we got married.

  • @Jerry-vo3zc
    @Jerry-vo3zc ปีที่แล้ว +1

    💯💯💯✌️✌️✌️

  • @dfuk66
    @dfuk66 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @jeremiahwest8465
    @jeremiahwest8465 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    👍

  • @JohnSmith-rv6nf
    @JohnSmith-rv6nf 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If you believe these are demons, do you believe that conversion therapy works?

  • @solventtofreedom7361
    @solventtofreedom7361 หลายเดือนก่อน

    If he is seriously in love ❤️ with you, he'll buy you a house 🏠

  • @bkstandard882
    @bkstandard882 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What?! Some men have ED and can only ejaculate via oral. It's not necessarily true.

    • @testtest2609
      @testtest2609 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Where does ED come from? ED starts from psychological problems....like all diseases it starts as an emotional problem from trauma then hardens to a physical illness over time.

    • @testtest2609
      @testtest2609 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oral is a gay act. There used to be warning for Victorian pr0stïtutes not to do oral for men since it was an act for men by men. Also they warned doing it will run in her family...they knew about generational trauma. I also know a DL man who says oral is for the boys...with women he does PIV & cunnilingus only.

    • @susannafranklin5391
      @susannafranklin5391 ปีที่แล้ว

      Someone sold you a bunch of bs! Keep on with him and check back in a few years when you take your rose colored glasses off

    • @ak-47intelligence75
      @ak-47intelligence75 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Once he gets it in the backdoor, he's gonna be alright..

  • @spalding5198
    @spalding5198 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She seems quite obsessed with dl men. Hmmmm….

    • @africanglobalnomad
      @africanglobalnomad ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Because most of you are 😂

    • @spalding5198
      @spalding5198 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@africanglobalnomad thus-your failed logic merely validates my original point. Let me break it down for you:
      A person may be obsessed with consuming donuts, which aren’t a healthy choice or nutritional; but that’s not the fault of the donut-it’s the fault of the person who doesn’t take the time and consideration to make wise choices that would be healthy. Don’t blame the donut, and don’t make foolish, sweeping comments that “most of you (men)” are on the dl. You can prove that donuts are not nutritional by facts, but your dl assessments are just you operating out of your “feelings”. Good day-and stop obsessing over dl men, bc by thinking that most men are dl (and I am not), you may just overlook the gift that is standing right in front of you in line at the Kriapy Kreme. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @testtest2609
      @testtest2609 ปีที่แล้ว

      Natural as she was harmed by one for 5 years. Secks by fraud used to be criminalized and called seduction.
      They tried a blak man in NJ recently for a r4ape by fraud for deceiving a white woman to sleep with her. This law should be applied to all men but you know in racist America it will be applied to blak men mainly.

    • @micheleparker3780
      @micheleparker3780 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      She is very honest about having been in a relationship with a man who was not only on the DL, but was a narcissist, too. She's speaking from EXPERIENCE 🙄

    • @SunnnySkies
      @SunnnySkies ปีที่แล้ว

      So what are the sex y’all dl men do????