We must not ignore the red flags & learn from the people in our community. I thank my guest for being brave enough to tell her story, thank you all for created a space to be heard. Hit me up if you have a story
@@TrappinAnonymous I remember being a little girl in the car with my sister and a man with beads in his hair a short glitter mini skirt was standing outside the car , I got down on the floor and was so scared. It still scares me as a grown woman, it’s just not natural. I was hiding listening to this story, poor woman lived through it. This world is upside down 🫠
It is the best feeling ever!! People try and make it like a death sentence because you’re single! Nope I’m peaceful drama free and I don’t have to care about nobody but myself and my family 🙏
There's so much talk today about being a middle aged woman and single - how it's the worst fate in life. I divorced my abusive husband because my life LITERALLY depended on it. Middle age and single for many women means PEACE.
No one should judge this woman. She is doing a service for the rest of us. I see this as part of her cleansing process. She didn't have to share her experiences to cleanse but she did. I thank you for your openness.
@@RightToFreedomGirlChildren aren’t safe, PERIODT. There are predatory uncles, brothers, cousins, family friends all abound. The stepfather is among many who can harm a child. Society must change how Pedophilia is talked about and addressed. There should be more awareness of the effects of Pedophilia on a child’s psyche than focusing on Trans athletes or the rainbow flag issues discussed in K-12. Public Service Campaigns are necessary to raise boys and men’s awareness around sexual predatory behaviors.
You can't have a good marriage or create a life with anyone who never wanted you, but they need to have a spouse for community acceptance, and social approval affirmation as a man or woman. I've read about too many people finding out their spouse was secretly gay after that spouse's homophobic parents died. Their spouse serves them with divorce papers right after probate and the will has been read. The gay spouse literally moves on with their life by moving out after coming out to the heterosexual spouse. The ex-spouse usually demands approval and acceptance from their soon-to-be ex-spouse while denying they used them as a means to an end. Now the only acceptable public response is a loving accepting ex-wife/ husband. If you discuss your sense of betrayal, the outrage they felt after finding out they were married to someone who never truly desired them, plus the sexual disconnect and distance at times . The discarded spouse realized how their opportunity to have married someone with complementary needs, dreams, and a truly passionate and loving relationship they could've had with a different spouse is gone.
I was recently attacked by my husband for wanting to bake cookies for a wedding. He pushed me into a fireplace and my head bled very bad. My grandson saw everything. I stopped babysitting him. He’s a 3 year old. I’m in the process of getting divorced and I’m trying not to give him a clue of what’s about to happen.
Great for you💃🏾💪🏾🍍Remain safe. Many of them are snapping and killing the entire family. Go where he doesn't know. Your loved ones too. It's happening more each day.
Shout out to the wise and skilled young man conducting the interview. Done with genuine care and sensitivity towards the lady being interviewed 👏 very well done.
Single and celibate for 9yrs soon as I had ma daughter I knew the party was over💯I’m thinkn with ma heart ma mind and gut not ma vagina and I see she tried that and a surpent got to her🤦🏾♀️🙏🏾
Who would expect a woman to want this type of marriage. Nobody should endure this type of shit. But this doesn't represent the majority of black marriages so we need not push that narrative queen....respectfully
@@blackcherry6877 I get why you're making that statement but if this is what so many blk marriages possibly look like behind closed doors, what the heck do the marriages with others look like? The grass is never greener. For those that have been able to find a great love, lucky them. For those that haven't or won't, I wish life would've treated those folks a little kinder. Race does not matter. Men are literally men. I have a blk friend that live in Cali and married to a whyte man who makes the money. She stays home. Looking at her FB you would never think. Outside of the abuse, she cannot teach their sons about being blk. She was also told that if she left, he will take the kids because he has money. She believes he has children in the Philippines as he takes several business trips there yearly and she knows he "utilizes" the young woman workers there. Smh. Some of these stories, my jaw was on the floor...I had no advice to give. And then I see the stories in the whyte mom groups....man listen....it doesn't matter!!! I even saw a blk lady warning others about an Asian man she got pregnant by and how he treated her. She told blk women that she does not recommend Asian men smh. There's good people, there's bad people.
Thank u so much. I had a ex who always wanted anal over vaginal. It was the same with his ex's. He is known down the bottom as a bigdick dude but don't mess with him unless u like anal. To this day he claims no interest in men and no man has claimed sex with him..but after years I realized this sex lifestyle is not for me and moved on
@@123f89 that's why you're supposed to either get married to please God or be the biggest freak of a wife for your husband. Both pressure will calm his lil butt all the way down.
And this is why when men say you’re gonna be alone with cats I don’t take it as an insult. It’s actually a Flex because I’ll be damned if I deal with abuse, just to say I have a man
@@farmhouseonthemountain no one said that was the case for her. I spoke for myself that that’s the reason why I’m single because I’ve refused to go through what she went through. 😁
When I was young I thought I had to have a man. Smh at how naìve I was. Now at 52 I am so content and happy being single. Give me peace over a piece of man any day. Praise God that you made it out. Thank you for sharing your story 🙏🏾
From what I have heard about jail...I feel b this guy getting locked up at a youn age for 8 some odd yrs. Their is a possibility that someone raped him in there or the other way around....since he seemed to be a bully of sorts......or he may hav been sexually abused as a young child....who knows? However, what is known that he is truly mentally messed up as a result from jump street or from other traumas. It is a blessing that you are out of that horror now and you are willing to try to help others avoid or get out of what they may be going thru and how to get out of it before it's too late! You are one Brave woman!
I'm right there with you... Everyday, a more horrific matter exposed 😢. Especially when you learn the very child you gave birth to has not only slept with your husband, but now allows it to happen to her 9yr old daughter.
Very similar situation. Got out & moved to another state BEFORE outting him, stayed single and celibate for 3 years, while attending therapy.....Best decision of my life.
I was waiting on someone to say it. He got locked up at 16… He needs intensive therapy and to stay locked up for as long as it takes for his mentality to change
My ex did similar. Broke my face- and ended up murdering someone last Aug.. And he got all the charges dropped: ALL of them. I have no words . I’m glad you and your kids are okay. ❤
@TaraRiker: I'm so sorry you had to go through that and I PRAY TO GOD that you moved far away, where he can't find you...also, I hope you purchased a 🔫 "Pew-Pew" 🔫
People are ignorant to the fact that physical abuse changes your brain, it causes psychological issues. People act like they don't know that or their too lazy to Google why abuse victims stay.
This is my first time watching this channel. The interviewer is very sensitive and emotionally intelligent. He handled this with care. Great interview.
Most people explain that when people are truly evil. My ex, who is a Narcissist, got the Blackest eyes ever when he was choking me. He even started laughing maniacally. It's hard to explain it if don't see it with their own eyes. Might be a demon. Just pure evil. I had to escape him to save my life. I truly believe he would have k*lled me if I'd stayed any longer. The violence was definitely escalating and I've seen abusive marriages my whole life. I knew it wouldn't get any better.
@@DiannaHarriethit’s spiritual and not of this earth I also deal with a narcissist. This is what science calls an evil inhabiting a human 😮😮😮😮😮😮, I thank god I got away from him . The laughing maniacal tells you it’s not human 😢
1. Being a wife... didn't mean being rap3d!! 2. Being a kept woman comes with a LOT of sacrifices!! YOU ARE RIGHT!! 3. I'm so sorry about what happened to your daughter. That is one of the reasons why a LOT of women don't start dating again when they have female children. 😔 4. I'M SO GLAD that you said you asked your sons too. Too often we forget that our boys are in danger too, and it's not just our girls. SMH
I have a 31 yr old son and a 12 year old daughter and I never let no man be around either one of them except for their father and still payed attention to they ass when it came to my children
@@harrietboateng5239 “Kept” is a woman (traditionally) having a nice “soft” lifestyle, paid for by a man who in return expects her to be available for him. “Kept” is not a couple making a decision about how best to raise their family. It’s certainly not a woman looking after children, a home and a performing “wifely duties” for no pay and little appreciation.
@@harrietboateng5239 if I may... from what I was told years ago: being *Kept* is or was... like a #mistress; she lives separately from the man; in a place he pays for, be it rent or mortgage. He covers all her bills + gifts too. She's really not required to do any of the proverbial heavy lifting. A stay-at-home Wife & Mother does mucho heavy lifting, figuratively, emotionally and literally! She has to keep the house clean, food cooked, raised the babies, and cater to his needs: #ego, stroke that and his lions. The wife pays dearly! 'Some think cause she's not paying the bills she's getting off easy. Nope!
A lot of the comments are shaming this woman, as if no one’s ever made bad decisions or weren’t in their right mind. She’s extremely brave for telling her truth. Where’s the compassion?
There is compassion. Why did she marry a man who wanted to dive into her back door? If I am gonna get with a man who says he wants the back door before marriage, it's on me to accept that or walk away and not look back.
Those the ones that will be looking crazy when they go through it. Yes they dodging it now but by judging this woman they going to overlook the signs that she's put out there she's educating them why they judging her hope they don't have to go through it to understand it. But some people have to go through it to understand it instead of taking heed to what she saying
When she said her mother and father would fight and her children would see and or hear her and their father fighting that just shows how the generational curses repeat itself I pray to God that her children break that curse and don’t put their children through what they went through 😖!
Yup. He unfortunately got turned out in jail or beforehand and is now fully gay. But using women to hide his sexuality because he's still ashamed. There needs to be an investigation on the correlation between gay black men and jail/childhood sexual abuse. I think a good 80% of gay black men come from those two pools and we need to talk about it.
Awesome interview! I’m from Philly and I send all prayers and blessings to this woman and her family. Ladies we have to fully heal 1st before we can entertain another relationship let alone a marriage.
Breaking free is never easy. I been with my child’s father 3 years, just had my first child by him 2 weeks ago, I should’ve stopped fooling with him MONTHS INTO THE RELATIONSHIP. There was many red flags…However, I just found the courage to move back to my mama’s & change my number after he didn’t show up to my daughter’s birth & refuses to sign the birth certificate. Taking it one day at a time❤
He tortured her for having to stay with her and the kids He didn't want to be there anymore But he didn't want child support either It's a shame he didn't honor the mother of his children I'm so glad she chose to tell her story And you gave her a platform to speak her truth
Not true. He was the one fighting to keep her there so he could continue to abuse and take her. He tried to kill her for leaving him. What about that says he didn’t want to be there?! His whole intent in marrying her is so he could do what he was doing to her.
Why in the hell would marrying a man that already has a wife seem like a brighter idea? 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ The abuse her daughter endured knocked the breath out of me and made me tear up. It went from bad to worse.
I really like his line of questioning. He comes in right on time. He's also gentle with his words. This woman is very open and honest with herself and throughout this interview.🙏🏾.. She didn't out him. He outed himself when he scooped that Vaseline.
Wow! As a victim of being molested and having a daughter this is deep! I’m so close to my daughter it’s crazy I don’t even want to go to work so I won’t leave her. It affected my life forever. May Allah continue to bless your path.
Just got out of something similar. Found out the man I was dealing with was DL. I broke up with him. I'd rather be single the rest of my life than to continue on with someone like that.
I had a friend that this happened to.. I'm always suspicious of men that say, ' I'm not into breasts, I just want big asses'...😢 What visually separates men from women are breast
@@joyell821 Many BM are DL. You didn't know? Lol I'm being very serious. Many of them HATE women and would rather "be with" their homeboys. All you have to do is observe them more closely to see what I mean. 😊 My ex husband was DL...Still shocks me til this day. He was tall, muscular and masculine....TUH.
BINGO!!!!!! I feel the same exact way! Because t-trans can also have big butts, men can even have hips! Even with that back door mess, they won’t know the difference with a man or woman- because we all have that back door…. I don’t like men who literally don’t like the things on a woman, that make her a woman.
You were pregnant … He was in the basement with his “friend” and he asked to pass him the Vaseline& he handed it back to you with a glob missing 😳😳 NAH
My heart goes out to this woman. You can tell that she's emotionally, spiritually and mentally numb from all of SA and violence that she's had to endure. For the people in the comments making horrible jokes and not recognizing her situation don't think that this couldn't be you. We always ask people why they don't leave, we don't know her circumstances we don't know .❤
I immediately wondered, did she worry about STD's and if so, how did she reconcile the possibility of contracting something that could take her from her kids with choosing to remain in that situation? If not, how did she not entertain the possibility? I thank her for having the bravery and confidence to tell her story in the hope of helping other people. 🙏🏽
she knew but didnt care because he took care of her. conciously or unconsiously she knew being taken care of was payment for her tolerating his behaviour. only reason the marriage fell apart was because he tried to kill physically...if not,,,it would have continued.
She gets out of one marriage then jumps into another when she has a job and kids. She also jumps into another matriarch religion 😂 the §t00þidity of women with no commonsense is truly embarrassing 😢
@@davidbishop937 She's a g00fball. Went from one matriarchal marriage to another more insane one. Some people are afraid of themselves, especially when it comes to alone time Frightening 😱 📙👻
This is so deep. Ladies, please learn to love yourselves. Do the necessary work and heal so that you do not feel that you have to endue living in hell like this lady has unfortunately experienced. Wishing her peace and healing moving forward and thank you for sharing! 💖💖🙏🏾
He should absolutely be outed, exposed etc. NO sympathy for a chronic abuser, liar and cheater. That’s wild to ask if she thought it was right to out this Bastard🙄Where are the kind words, prayers for her and the kids. The only reason narcissist get away with their BS is because of the enablers ie family, friends. Also narcs count on the victim feeling so ashamed that they’re too embarrassed to tell anyone out of the fear of being judged💯💯💯
She’s very brave I know it must be hard saying these things but it helps woman see red flags . Thanks for sharing . Hope you have a great life after this . ❤❤❤
……I really loved how the interviewer handled this lady with warmth, kindness & most importantly respect but he definitely doesn’t understand why woman can’t or won’t leave-patriarchy is a hell of a drug
Goodness, this interview held my attention the entire time. Thank both of you for allowing this so that hopefully somebody will be helped by hearing her story! My God!
🚩🚩🚩🚩 I’ma young Gay guy in Atlanta , this Is MORE COMMON than these ladies think 😅 they swear it can’t be their man but it do be ! When he go to the store , work and or when u leave out they hit us up … I’m so serious ! … a lot of guys mess around with us on the low .. then kiss their wife and kids smh …. Ladies CHECK THEM PHONES & that phone u don’t know about … pay attention! What she said was 💯 right .. them homeboys watch out for 📝
I don't know how I got here but I thank God I did I have never been able to put my experience into words but the way we share the literal same story is beyond...thank you so much your bravery just let me know I'm not alone and I have battles with that for over 10 years
My mom's a SA and DV survivor so she raised us super tough and independent. I remember in my younger days going to jail for cutting a guy who thought that he was gonna hit me. I'm 100% sure that I would've HURT my husband (or probably been left), but DEFINITELY killed the rapist! Ladies, NO BLAMING, BUT we have to stop running and hiding behind these religions..Remember that wolves come in sheep clothing.. this is so disheartening! I commend her for having the strength to come up here and put her business on the front line. Prayers and healing to you and your kids❤️🫶🏽🙏🏽
The desperate women trying to hook up a woman. Some women know these men are wayward & stand back to see a train wreck! I've heard some of these Islam. Muslims with their eat once a day stuff are perverted. Flds you have to becareful with all organizations.
I saw so many in my family go through this that I promised myself I would never allow a man to put his hands on me. I thank God for my husband when I see stories like this.
As a Muslim woman this breaks my heart that something so horrible happened to my sister in Islam and her babygirl! Please don’t blame yourself for anything as the devil work through that man. You didn’t do anything wrong. I think it’s the fear of every woman who are divorce and have have daughters to protect our daughters from evil devilish acts done by adults who meant to protect them. When my sister got divorced my nieces were 4 and 7 years old and right then she decided that she wouldn’t ever get married because she said she couldn’t trust another man to be around her kids while she was at work. She wanted them to comfortable and relax in their house and never have to cover themselves head to toe in front of another who wasn’t their dad.
And she just let them be down there in the basement. 😮 If my husband in the basement with a "friend" he bet not ask me for no d vaseline. I'm staying right down there .
Thanks for having the courage and strength to do this interview. Please take courage and make sure YOU and your KIDS are ok. This world is dangerous and disgusting. Take care,
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry you and your children had to endure such pain. Thank God you are still here. Thank you TrappinAnonymous for sharing and being sensitive.
I got married 8 years ago with 7 kids 6girls 1boy My husband is the greatest I also watch my children and we talk about everything All men are not like this but I get where your coming from
My daughter's father died when she was 12. I never got her a stepfather or let a man move in with us to protect her. People have always looked down on me for not having a man. They cared more about me being so called undesirable than they did about my child's safety
Assalamu alaikum, as a mother and a woman my love for my daughter, her future and providing a healthy environment has been more powerful than any fear, marriage, man or any dire situation i been in. I refuse to be on my deathbed knowing that i altered and wired my child's brain to think abuse, dysfunction and avoiding red 🚩are the normal. May we all be empowered and committed to breaking every cycle inshallah 🤲🏾☝🏾📿
This whole interview upsets me from the first half to the second . The second half took me there and made me cry! This whole interview was hard to watch for me . I was trying to reach out to her and give her a hugged . I don’t even know her but I wanted to be there for her .
My 25 year old neighbor is the mother of 4 children of under 6 years old and her husband beats her and as we speak she needs surgery for her finger that he broke and all the things that he has done to her are too much too long for here but the denial that she is in is sad and dangerous because she still thinks that he loves her after beating her up. Women needs to do all the inner work to avoid these DL men that use women in so many ways.
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We must not ignore the red flags & learn from the people in our community. I thank my guest for being brave enough to tell her story, thank you all for created a space to be heard. Hit me up if you have a story
Are you gonna drop an interview with the daughter??? We’re all very interested ❤
Definitely waiting on Part 2
@TrappinAnonymous ❤ MAN U FINE😍😃 🎉
@@LOVELY-131girl I love listening to their testimonies 🥰 but he make u binge watch episodes back to back and rewatch em! Damn he fine…
@@TrappinAnonymous I remember being a little girl in the car with my sister and a man with beads in his hair a short glitter mini skirt was standing outside the car , I got down on the floor and was so scared. It still scares me as a grown woman, it’s just not natural. I was hiding listening to this story, poor woman lived through it. This world is upside down 🫠
Y'all! I was today years old when I realized that being single is a gift too! For real. 😢
Yes🎉🎉🎉🎉
Ameen
I luv it!!
better believe it
It is the best feeling ever!! People try and make it like a death sentence because you’re single! Nope I’m peaceful drama free and I don’t have to care about nobody but myself and my family 🙏
Lowering your standards lowers your life expectancy.
She is so blessed to be alive.
So true❤❤❤❤❤
There's so much talk today about being a middle aged woman and single - how it's the worst fate in life. I divorced my abusive husband because my life LITERALLY depended on it. Middle age and single for many women means PEACE.
Amen. ❤🙏🏽
PEACE....Amen
Amen
Yes! Amen!
Peace is irreplaceable...glad she made it out🙏🏾
No one should judge this woman. She is doing a service for the rest of us. I see this as part of her cleansing process. She didn't have to share her experiences to cleanse but she did. I thank you for your openness.
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And the fact that she took her ACCOUNTABILITY in the "situationship " and people not understanding that is beyond me... I commend her 💯
@Truther : Uh-huh and thirsty ones still talking aboit find a "good one" 🙄
@china6930 They were married and childhood sweethearts… what situation- ship???
@@RightToFreedomGirlChildren aren’t safe, PERIODT. There are predatory uncles, brothers, cousins, family friends all abound. The stepfather is among many who can harm a child. Society must change how Pedophilia is talked about and addressed. There should be more awareness of the effects of Pedophilia on a child’s psyche than focusing on Trans athletes or the rainbow flag issues discussed in K-12. Public Service Campaigns are necessary to raise boys and men’s awareness around sexual predatory behaviors.
She was never enough for him, because she wasn’t a man.
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Oh wow, you gotta a point
You can't have a good marriage or create a life with anyone who never wanted you, but they need to have a spouse for community acceptance, and social approval affirmation as a man or woman.
I've read about too many people finding out their spouse was secretly gay after that spouse's homophobic parents died. Their spouse serves them with divorce papers right after probate and the will has been read. The gay spouse literally moves on with their life by moving out after coming out to the heterosexual spouse.
The ex-spouse usually demands approval and acceptance from their soon-to-be ex-spouse while denying they used them as a means to an end. Now the only acceptable public response is a loving accepting ex-wife/ husband.
If you discuss your sense of betrayal, the outrage they felt after finding out they were married to someone who never truly desired them, plus the sexual disconnect and distance at times .
The discarded spouse realized how their opportunity to have married someone with complementary needs, dreams, and a truly passionate and loving relationship they could've had with a different spouse is gone.
He probably had men too
@@ednamason8336of course he did!
I was recently attacked by my husband for wanting to bake cookies for a wedding. He pushed me into a fireplace and my head bled very bad. My grandson saw everything. I stopped babysitting him. He’s a 3 year old. I’m in the process of getting divorced and I’m trying not to give him a clue of what’s about to happen.
Leave and never go back, stay strong
Great for you💃🏾💪🏾🍍Remain safe. Many of them are snapping and killing the entire family. Go where he doesn't know. Your loved ones too. It's happening more each day.
You’ve got this!
@@ddoubleu170 Wow, thanks for sharing. Speaking out is the first sign you're ready to move on. 🙏🏽
Stay safe. I 'll be thinking of you.
That man was using her to cover up that he was DL that’s why he couldn’t let her go
Smh
Like many narcs
She was his beard indeed smh
Yep. She was his masculinity.
Yep a coward trying to use her as his beard
I hope this saves somebody's life. She is soo brave for this. Thank you sis
That’s all I want! We gotta save ourselves. Thank you
Amen!! And to bring it to the public optics’s
Sooooo brave!!!
If won’t look how long she stays with him
Shout out to the wise and skilled young man conducting the interview. Done with genuine care and sensitivity towards the lady being interviewed 👏 very well done.
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@@ONLYLOVEIZATION
I agree
💯 REAL TALK 👌🏽 💖
RESPECT ✊️ 💜 🌹
I will have to disagree on this one ..
Ladies, sometimes it's better to stay single. I'm reminding myself, too. These stories are far too common, and our kids deserve better.
Single and celibate for 9yrs soon as I had ma daughter I knew the party was over💯I’m thinkn with ma heart ma mind and gut not ma vagina and I see she tried that and a surpent got to her🤦🏾♀️🙏🏾
It really is
Absolutely.
I agree
Amen😔🙏🏾
This is the marriage ppl think BW should want. The abuse women endure is insane. Absolutely not. This woman is lucky to be alive.
Very blessed... So many have lost their lost
Who would expect a woman to want this type of marriage. Nobody should endure this type of shit. But this doesn't represent the majority of black marriages so we need not push that narrative queen....respectfully
@@gigiFLOWER2023 *Lives*
This is what so many blkmarriages look like. That's why some BW are divesting to other groups of men,or just staying single.
@@blackcherry6877 I get why you're making that statement but if this is what so many blk marriages possibly look like behind closed doors, what the heck do the marriages with others look like? The grass is never greener. For those that have been able to find a great love, lucky them. For those that haven't or won't, I wish life would've treated those folks a little kinder. Race does not matter. Men are literally men. I have a blk friend that live in Cali and married to a whyte man who makes the money. She stays home. Looking at her FB you would never think. Outside of the abuse, she cannot teach their sons about being blk. She was also told that if she left, he will take the kids because he has money. She believes he has children in the Philippines as he takes several business trips there yearly and she knows he "utilizes" the young woman workers there. Smh. Some of these stories, my jaw was on the floor...I had no advice to give. And then I see the stories in the whyte mom groups....man listen....it doesn't matter!!! I even saw a blk lady warning others about an Asian man she got pregnant by and how he treated her. She told blk women that she does not recommend Asian men smh. There's good people, there's bad people.
This dude was trying to break her. He didn't like women.
This Interview is not about religion. It’s about abusive deceitful men. Thanks for watching
Yup
Thank you for sharing your story 🫶🏽
😢😔💔🙏🏾
Facts
Thank u so much. I had a ex who always wanted anal over vaginal. It was the same with his ex's. He is known down the bottom as a bigdick dude but don't mess with him unless u like anal. To this day he claims no interest in men and no man has claimed sex with him..but after years I realized this sex lifestyle is not for me and moved on
This happens in marriages more than we would like to admit
Yup, I’d say 50% of married men are DL
Sadly and it's a scary real reason why marriage is a turn off because somma these dudes think they own u and can do n e thing to you
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@@123f89 that's why you're supposed to either get married to please God or be the biggest freak of a wife for your husband. Both pressure will calm his lil butt all the way down.
@@ConnieMitchell-k3nwho gets married for god. Either one person is in love and the other for the finances
And this is why when men say you’re gonna be alone with cats I don’t take it as an insult. It’s actually a Flex because I’ll be damned if I deal with abuse, just to say I have a man
I'm alone with cats, dogs and I am at peace...
Why do you think that's what it was for her?
@@farmhouseonthemountain no one said that was the case for her. I spoke for myself that that’s the reason why I’m single because I’ve refused to go through what she went through. 😁
Just have to say this sister is brave and humble! She told her truth. No judgements just lessons learned. Thank you for telling your story ❤
When I was young I thought I had to have a man. Smh at how naìve I was. Now at 52 I am so content and happy being single. Give me peace over a piece of man any day. Praise God that you made it out. Thank you for sharing your story 🙏🏾
Yes me too been single for 5 years now
Yes!! Right there with you. These men will have you in the dumps, for real.
I am giving her BIG RESPECT!!! Happy for her! She is STRONG! She is HONEST! She is INTENTIONAL! She is HUMBLE! SHE IS BEAUTIFUL!
🎉🎉🎉 yes she is...❤ Respect for this sister ...
Absolutely ❤
She really is very strong, much respect to her!
From what I have heard about jail...I feel b this guy getting locked up at a youn age for 8 some odd yrs. Their is a possibility that someone raped him in there or the other way around....since he seemed to be a bully of sorts......or he may hav been sexually abused as a young child....who knows? However, what is known that he is truly mentally messed up as a result from jump street or from other traumas. It is a blessing that you are out of that horror now and you are willing to try to help others avoid or get out of what they may be going thru and how to get out of it before it's too late! You are one Brave woman!
Ive been celibate for 3yrs. I think ill just stay by myself
I'm right there with you... Everyday, a more horrific matter exposed 😢. Especially when you learn the very child you gave birth to has not only slept with your husband, but now allows it to happen to her 9yr old daughter.
Im close to 4yrs i dont have time for games
Or simply choose better
@@t.c.5456Choosing celibacy IS choosing better...
4 years.. I'm good on these dudes. No one is ever truly happy with them.
I am so happy you made it out
DV is so real
I am a survivor of over 30 years
You are strong and beautiful dear ❤️
Very similar situation. Got out & moved to another state BEFORE outting him, stayed single and celibate for 3 years, while attending therapy.....Best decision of my life.
I want to start therapy. I've been single about 3 years and celibate off and on for about 3-4 years.
He went to prison at a young age and got turned out🤦🏾♀️
Maybe before he went to prison because he was angry the way he pistol whipped that lady.
I was waiting on someone to say it. He got locked up at 16…
He needs intensive therapy and to stay locked up for as long as it takes for his mentality to change
Yup
@@inesplain8870Seems more like prison since he was r'ing her he may have been aggressively sexually attacked which commonly happens with young men.
Yes he must have been a homosexual
My ex did similar. Broke my face- and ended up murdering someone last Aug.. And he got all the charges dropped: ALL of them. I have no words . I’m glad you and your kids are okay. ❤
Damn... It's the system... But let them try it in another country they'd been murdered too.
@@Aina-u2k
Y E P 💯 ...When you know, YOU KNOW...There is definitely a secret society in the mix somewhere.
@TaraRiker: I'm so sorry you had to go through that and I PRAY TO GOD that you moved far away, where he can't find you...also, I hope you purchased a
🔫 "Pew-Pew" 🔫
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Woah 😮
Please don’t ask an DV victim why did they stay. She was abused and manipulated smh
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How will women understand why we stayed unless it’s being told.
Sometimes staying until you plan your exit saves your life. I know it did for me.
I'll ask cause not gone beat me and make me like it. I'm gone cause I'd be in jail for hot grits or worse
People are ignorant to the fact that physical abuse changes your brain, it causes psychological issues. People act like they don't know that or their too lazy to Google why abuse victims stay.
This is my first time watching this channel. The interviewer is very sensitive and emotionally intelligent. He handled this with care. Great interview.
A lot of predators hide under the guise of religion. Love and Light to all. May you get out sooner than later. 💜
I agree. I hate how often religion is used to abuse women and children.
Yes indeed.... the absolute truth it's disgusting if you ask me
This poor lady and her children went through hell and back . I pray for her and her children.
When she said his eyes were black and then snaped out of it, sounds like he was possessed by a demon.
Most people explain that when people are truly evil. My ex, who is a Narcissist, got the Blackest eyes ever when he was choking me. He even started laughing maniacally. It's hard to explain it if don't see it with their own eyes. Might be a demon. Just pure evil. I had to escape him to save my life. I truly believe he would have k*lled me if I'd stayed any longer. The violence was definitely escalating and I've seen abusive marriages my whole life. I knew it wouldn't get any better.
Narcissist the evil in them is unimaginable.
When anyone is separated from God, the enemy can get in and control your every action.
he is the demon wtf
@@DiannaHarriethit’s spiritual and not of this earth I also deal with a narcissist. This is what science calls an evil inhabiting a human 😮😮😮😮😮😮, I thank god I got away from him . The laughing maniacal tells you it’s not human 😢
1. Being a wife... didn't mean being rap3d!!
2. Being a kept woman comes with a LOT of sacrifices!! YOU ARE RIGHT!!
3. I'm so sorry about what happened to your daughter. That is one of the reasons why a LOT of women don't start dating again when they have female children. 😔
4. I'M SO GLAD that you said you asked your sons too. Too often we forget that our boys are in danger too, and it's not just our girls. SMH
I Appreciate Her Shareing Her Story. She Is A Very Beautiful And Brave Woman
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MOTHERS IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN NEVER LET A MAN LIVE WITH YOU OR WATCH YOUR CHILDREN!!
Never!!!!!
NEVER!!!
I have a 31 yr old son and a 12 year old daughter and I never let no man be around either one of them except for their father and still payed attention to they ass when it came to my children
EVER! IDC how many years you've "known" him
Why would he ask if she’s outing him? That’s why evil continues to reign, due to our silence. Due to not exposing evil doers.
It's just a question.
She was better off as a single mother
I promise to never judge a woman for being a single mother, especially, I do not know her and her family situation
FACTS
Yup she is
Truth be told, most of us are!
@@Passionatelyfruitsright she may not want to share a painful story or expose someone 😔
Being a stay-at-home wife and mother is not being "kept".
what is kept then?
@@harrietboateng5239 “Kept” is a woman (traditionally) having a nice “soft” lifestyle, paid for by a man who in return expects her to be available for him. “Kept” is not a couple making a decision about how best to raise their family. It’s certainly not a woman looking after children, a home and a performing “wifely duties” for no pay and little appreciation.
@@harrietboateng5239 if I may... from what I was told years ago: being *Kept* is or was... like a #mistress; she lives separately from the man; in a place he pays for, be it rent or mortgage. He covers all her bills + gifts too. She's really not required to do any of the proverbial heavy lifting.
A stay-at-home Wife & Mother does mucho heavy lifting, figuratively, emotionally and literally! She has to keep the house clean, food cooked, raised the babies, and cater to his needs: #ego, stroke that and his lions. The wife pays dearly! 'Some think cause she's not paying the bills she's getting off easy. Nope!
sure didn’t feel KEPT when I was doing it 😂
Maybe ‘trapped’ wife is more applicable in many cases
A lot of the comments are shaming this woman, as if no one’s ever made bad decisions or weren’t in their right mind. She’s extremely brave for telling her truth. Where’s the compassion?
I would never be with a gay man.
Thank you for saying that.
Absolutely. "Just to say you have a man" is such a gross thing to say in light of her story.
There is compassion. Why did she marry a man who wanted to dive into her back door? If I am gonna get with a man who says he wants the back door before marriage, it's on me to accept that or walk away and not look back.
Those the ones that will be looking crazy when they go through it. Yes they dodging it now but by judging this woman they going to overlook the signs that she's put out there she's educating them why they judging her hope they don't have to go through it to understand it. But some people have to go through it to understand it instead of taking heed to what she saying
My heart breaks for the kids raised in violent homes 9:45
When she said her mother and father would fight and her children would see and or hear her and their father fighting that just shows how the generational curses repeat itself I pray to God that her children break that curse and don’t put their children through what they went through 😖!
I’m glad I watched this all the way through. My mouth was on the floor at the end 😮
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Girl! I had to come back to yr comment by the end of this video 😮
Yes took me out!!
Just when I was thinking this is terrible it got worse 😢
Yes. Wow
HE'S GAY PERIOD
Yup. He unfortunately got turned out in jail or beforehand and is now fully gay. But using women to hide his sexuality because he's still ashamed. There needs to be an investigation on the correlation between gay black men and jail/childhood sexual abuse. I think a good 80% of gay black men come from those two pools and we need to talk about it.
I agree with you. I believe her husband was abused as a child or something happened in prison. Whatever it was it was violent.
@@perdybirdie80% of black men are 🌈 PERIOD!
@@chaunabatts1621 bingo.
Very from his first 17 year old stay in jail!!
Awesome interview! I’m from Philly and I send all prayers and blessings to this woman and her family. Ladies we have to fully heal 1st before we can entertain another relationship let alone a marriage.
Breaking free is never easy. I been with my child’s father 3 years, just had my first child by him 2 weeks ago, I should’ve stopped fooling with him MONTHS INTO THE RELATIONSHIP. There was many red flags…However, I just found the courage to move back to my mama’s & change my number after he didn’t show up to my daughter’s birth & refuses to sign the birth certificate. Taking it one day at a time❤
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ everything will be fine. I’m proud of your strength. Take your time to get to know your baby girl and heal.
@@AmberColeman-gq1wn thanks lovely 💓
Good for you for your courage!!!
Prayers for you and the children!❤
@@SonjaElizabethTeal thank you 😭💓 means a lot to hear encouraging words
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He tortured her for having to stay with her and the kids
He didn't want to be there anymore
But he didn't want child support either
It's a shame he didn't honor the mother of his children
I'm so glad she chose to tell her story
And you gave her a platform to speak her truth
He tortured her because he is a demon and a narcissist and hated himself and the family is always the enabler and they are wicked
Not true. He was the one fighting to keep her there so he could continue to abuse and take her. He tried to kill her for leaving him. What about that says he didn’t want to be there?! His whole intent in marrying her is so he could do what he was doing to her.
Why in the hell would marrying a man that already has a wife seem like a brighter idea? 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ The abuse her daughter endured knocked the breath out of me and made me tear up. It went from bad to worse.
I really like his line of questioning. He comes in right on time. He's also gentle with his words. This woman is very open and honest with herself and throughout this interview.🙏🏾.. She didn't out him. He outed himself when he scooped that Vaseline.
Wow! As a victim of being molested and having a daughter this is deep! I’m so close to my daughter it’s crazy I don’t even want to go to work so I won’t leave her. It affected my life forever. May Allah continue to bless your path.
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That's horrible. I'm glad you survived that sister. He was a sick demon. May God be with you through your life.
She's from Philly, I knew as soon I clicked on the story. This is really sad. You never know who you are married to.
Thank you for being compassionate and humorous at the same time. I was so nervous! I feel like a weight have been lifted
God did it.
@@TrappinAnonymousand to God be the Glory
Do you have a go fund? If not set up one I will donate. You should have some relief and just focus on loving and bonding with your children. 💕
@@sweetzmamakitchen7815I never had one or or thought about it! I appreciate the offer
As Salamu Alaikum Sister. Many blessings for you and yours Ameen.
Just got out of something similar. Found out the man I was dealing with was DL. I broke up with him. I'd rather be single the rest of my life than to continue on with someone like that.
Stop bringing these men around your kids. It’s always the mom’s significant other’s!!!! That poor baby
Exactly.
Wow I pray she heals mentally and emotionally ❤ thank you for sharing your story sister
I have so much respect for this womans bravery in sharing her story. Stay strong n blessed my sista.
My heart breaks for this Mom. The very thing she didn’t want happen, happened 😔 praying for her and her daughter
Sending love and healing out to her and her children because this is their trauma too.
I had a friend that this happened to.. I'm always suspicious of men that say, ' I'm not into breasts, I just want big asses'...😢 What visually separates men from women are breast
Well, that’s about 99% of Black & indigenous Hispanic men. Always lusting over cheeks.
Interesting that a lot of Blk men say this.
@@joyell821
Many BM are DL. You didn't know? Lol I'm being very serious. Many of them HATE women and would rather "be with" their homeboys. All you have to do is observe them more closely to see what I mean. 😊 My ex husband was DL...Still shocks me til this day. He was tall, muscular and masculine....TUH.
BINGO!!!!!!
I feel the same exact way! Because t-trans can also have big butts, men can even have hips! Even with that back door mess, they won’t know the difference with a man or woman- because we all have that back door….
I don’t like men who literally don’t like the things on a woman, that make her a woman.
Not really men don't have big butts . There's alot of signs a man is dl other than that
You can't love destruction out somebody.
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Truth be told...a demon is a demon
You were pregnant … He was in the basement with his “friend” and he asked to pass him the Vaseline& he handed it back to you with a glob missing 😳😳 NAH
Glob
Whew that said it all. That dude was DEMONIC
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😮😮this ish is mad wild yo😮😮
And she still stays with him 🤯🤬
My heart goes out to this woman. You can tell that she's emotionally, spiritually and mentally numb from all of SA and violence that she's had to endure. For the people in the comments making horrible jokes and not recognizing her situation don't think that this couldn't be you. We always ask people why they don't leave, we don't know her circumstances we don't know .❤
Don't feel bad she make this monster and now she Wana leave him
@@Designsbysommore He is the monster, sounds like someone can relate.
@user-ju2iz2bv5u Yet he has parents ?
This is Majority BM today I refuse and rebuke them all. That area is for exit only. Sorry Hubby
The sad truth
Same. This woman got mad at me because I said I have no empathy for men. And she is a Black worshipper. I, promptly, left her chat and unfollowed her.
Sad but true, most now want anal sex and act like it's the norm, it's not and I would never submit to something that I'm not comfortable with
That's exactly my thoughts...how sick and low life you got to be to go up the stinker/sewage pipe...men are just frkn disgusting
No it's not. All BM are not violent. DON'T MESS WITH FELONS.
This be why they’re so angry fr
This why who be angry?
@@crystalv.2418The DL men battling their demons with their sexuality. They're angry and I've seen it for myself
Exactly* Be gay as hell and too cowardly to live in their truth.
@crystalv.2418 Correct, he was frustrated by CHOOSING to keep up appearances of Christian, hetëro & her complaining about filling him
Yep!
If you are not being respected, you are not being loved.
This is too much. I feel sorry for the daughter.
GIRL!! 😮😢
Yes tooooo much 😢😢😢
I don't fuck with this lady. Her desperation to have a man got her daughter assaulted.
Right
I immediately wondered, did she worry about STD's and if so, how did she reconcile the possibility of contracting something that could take her from her kids with choosing to remain in that situation? If not, how did she not entertain the possibility?
I thank her for having the bravery and confidence to tell her story in the hope of helping other people. 🙏🏽
she knew but didnt care because he took care of her. conciously or unconsiously she knew being taken care of was payment for her tolerating his behaviour. only reason the marriage fell apart was because he tried to kill physically...if not,,,it would have continued.
I’m flabbergasted!!! I’m disgusted at what she and her daughter went through with these POS men!
Legit
She gets out of one marriage then jumps into another when she has a job and kids. She also jumps into another matriarch religion 😂 the §t00þidity of women with no commonsense is truly embarrassing 😢
She said thats why she stayed in her first marriage, then turn around and leave her baby with her husband and his wife 👀
@@davidbishop937
She's a g00fball. Went from one matriarchal marriage to another more insane one. Some people are afraid of themselves, especially when it comes to alone time
Frightening 😱 📙👻
@@davidbishop937right I don’t wanna be insensitive but she’s a big dummy
This is so deep. Ladies, please learn to love yourselves.
Do the necessary work and heal so that you do not feel that you have to endue living in hell like this lady has unfortunately experienced.
Wishing her peace and healing moving forward and thank you for sharing! 💖💖🙏🏾
Woah 😳 I wasn’t expecting the end. God bless you and your kids sis 🫶🏾
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i can bet money something happened to him in prison after he robbed that lady that led to this
I was thinking the same thing
Yup
Or before he went to prison which probably led him to be an angry kid and do something like beat women and rob them. Then prison made it worse
That’s exactly what I thought.. he got SA’d in prison .. especially since he was so young when he went
I agree! His age made him an easy target
He should absolutely be outed, exposed etc. NO sympathy for a chronic abuser, liar and cheater. That’s wild to ask if she thought it was right to out this Bastard🙄Where are the kind words, prayers for her and the kids. The only reason narcissist get away with their BS is because of the enablers ie family, friends. Also narcs count on the victim feeling so ashamed that they’re too embarrassed to tell anyone out of the fear of being judged💯💯💯
Exactly what she was fearing actually come to fruition. OMG…..This is so sad
She needs to heal, and she needs to be more cautious.
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Praying for your continued healing and strength. May you and your family be covered.
He probably was turned out when he went to prison at 17. Just be gay smh
Stop
Lmaoo
I was thinking that.
Sadly a lot of them are. When u are young in prison that’s what happens
@@lgoogleaccount2521 exactly people thing its a joke and it happens and they just act like nothing happened
She’s very brave I know it must be hard saying these things but it helps woman see red flags . Thanks for sharing . Hope you have a great life after this . ❤❤❤
……I really loved how the interviewer handled this lady with warmth, kindness & most importantly respect but he definitely doesn’t understand why woman can’t or won’t leave-patriarchy is a hell of a drug
I'm so very glad she's speaking out about her trauma, thanks for your strength
Goodness, this interview held my attention the entire time. Thank both of you for allowing this so that hopefully somebody will be helped by hearing her story! My God!
Sister, I pray you have a decent & honourable life, going forward 🤲🏽
…💪🏻Woman, keep telling your story!
🚩🚩🚩🚩 I’ma young Gay guy in Atlanta , this Is MORE COMMON than these ladies think 😅 they swear it can’t be their man but it do be ! When he go to the store , work and or when u leave out they hit us up … I’m so serious ! … a lot of guys mess around with us on the low .. then kiss their wife and kids smh …. Ladies CHECK THEM PHONES & that phone u don’t know about … pay attention! What she said was 💯 right .. them homeboys watch out for 📝
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Thank you and I appreciate your honesty! Please be safe
But you in the scene to. You quilty to. Together in this disgusting lifestyle. Warning woman on the act you commit to.
So gross
Mess up ppl in the world.....betraying women along with their bs.....Do you w/o including innocent ppl in your lifestyle
I don't know how I got here but I thank God I did I have never been able to put my experience into words but the way we share the literal same story is beyond...thank you so much your bravery just let me know I'm not alone and I have battles with that for over 10 years
My mom's a SA and DV survivor so she raised us super tough and independent. I remember in my younger days going to jail for cutting a guy who thought that he was gonna hit me. I'm 100% sure that I would've HURT my husband (or probably been left), but DEFINITELY killed the rapist!
Ladies, NO BLAMING, BUT we have to stop running and hiding behind these religions..Remember that wolves come in sheep clothing.. this is so disheartening!
I commend her for having the strength to come up here and put her business on the front line. Prayers and healing to you and your kids❤️🫶🏽🙏🏽
The desperate women trying to hook up a woman. Some women know these men are wayward & stand back to see a train wreck! I've heard some of these Islam. Muslims with their eat once a day stuff are perverted. Flds you have to becareful with all organizations.
I saw so many in my family go through this that I promised myself I would never allow a man to put his hands on me. I thank God for my husband when I see stories like this.
She is brave to tell her story to bring awareness. Thank you for your honesty and transparency. Prays go to you and your family.
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I always know philly when I hear it
Yess im from Philly and drom the rip i said she from Philly
Yup I’m from Philly too and the first thing I said was is she from Philly.
Same 😂
Yup!
When she said Lindbergh blvd I knew she was from Philly. They was in SW
This was really hard to watch...I did not see that coming with the second husband. Praying for them
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I did. I thought she had Aids too.
As a Muslim woman this breaks my heart that something so horrible happened to my sister in Islam and her babygirl! Please don’t blame yourself for anything as the devil work through that man. You didn’t do anything wrong.
I think it’s the fear of every woman who are divorce and have have daughters to protect our daughters from evil devilish acts done by adults who meant to protect them.
When my sister got divorced my nieces were 4 and 7 years old and right then she decided that she wouldn’t ever get married because she said she couldn’t trust another man to be around her kids while she was at work. She wanted them to comfortable and relax in their house and never have to cover themselves head to toe in front of another who wasn’t their dad.
Ladies please get therapy and clean up those old wounds before dating. Trust, you will have the clarity to choose wisely, if not remain single.
The Vaseline took me outttttttttttt
Okkkkkk
😂😂😂🤦🏾♀️
Disgusting 🤮🤢🤮
A big scoop is insane
And she just let them be down there in the basement. 😮 If my husband in the basement with a "friend" he bet not ask me for no d vaseline. I'm staying right down there .
He finna get used and abused in prison, I hope they make him feel helpless like he did her. Disgusting!
He's going to enjoy it, because that's the type of sex that he's used to!😮
He's going to like it.
You have to not want it to get used and abused. He’s going to be free in there.
@@jmatthews5685No ones likes being raped though..
He gone be in heaven.....you really think he's gonna get abused.....
He's a great interviewer
Thank u!
yes he lets her talk....i love his style
He doesn’t ask the right questions. And most are in the comments are confused by the order of events.
Thank you for sharing your story, you are helping a lot of people 🙏🏾
Thanks for having the courage and strength to do this interview. Please take courage and make sure YOU and your KIDS are ok. This world is dangerous and disgusting. Take care,
He did what to her daughter? He still here? Nah
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry you and your children had to endure such pain. Thank God you are still here. Thank you TrappinAnonymous for sharing and being sensitive.
Always
Stay single until ur kids are grown...our jobs as a parent is to protect our children....their well being is more important than our own
I got married 8 years ago with 7 kids
6girls 1boy
My husband is the greatest
I also watch my children and we talk about everything
All men are not like this but I get where your coming from
My daughter's father died when she was 12. I never got her a stepfather or let a man move in with us to protect her. People have always looked down on me for not having a man. They cared more about me being so called undesirable than they did about my child's safety
Assalamu alaikum, as a mother and a woman my love for my daughter, her future and providing a healthy environment has been more powerful than any fear, marriage, man or any dire situation i been in. I refuse to be on my deathbed knowing that i altered and wired my child's brain to think abuse, dysfunction and avoiding red 🚩are the normal. May we all be empowered and committed to breaking every cycle inshallah 🤲🏾☝🏾📿
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I've watched a ton of your videos and man this is def one of the craziest stories!
Great interview! I truly appreciate this beautiful sista for sharing this heartbreaking story! Many blessings to her and her babies🙏🏽
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This whole interview upsets me from the first half to the second . The second half took me there and made me cry! This whole interview was hard to watch for me . I was trying to reach out to her and give her a hugged . I don’t even know her but I wanted to be there for her .
My 25 year old neighbor is the mother of 4 children of under 6 years old and her husband beats her and as we speak she needs surgery for her finger that he broke and all the things that he has done to her are too much too long for here but the denial that she is in is sad and dangerous because she still thinks that he loves her after beating her up. Women needs to do all the inner work to avoid these DL men that use women in so many ways.
Love her testimony and I’m super proud of her courageous decision to stand in her truth🥰
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