So true They don't want the destination, they want the journey. Which is why arguing with them is giving them what they thrive on. Nobody tires of a good thing
Narcissists are ‘bottomless pits of need.’ No matter how much narcissistic supply they have,it’s never,ever enough for them! I don’t think they’re ever truly happy either!
My mother bragged about my performances ever since i was a kid, my most recent instant was when i was buying Dragon Ball Sparking Zero, i was so confidently instant on saying "I would like to purchase Dragon Ball Sparking Zero for PS5 with my gift cards please" Edit: When i learned about Narcissism, i believe i was the golden child and being the golden child is just as messed up as the scapegoat
My narc wife emotionally abused me for 3 days because I was working and couldn’t pick her up from the airport. It looks like we are going to get divorced. It’s truly frightening once you realize what she has been doing for years.
Dead pan eyes. The eyes are the window to your soul !.It's really sad that they can't laugh or really have a good time. Because the ER are to busy trying to control others. So fake ! I can spot em a mile away now. I've done a lot of research on the subject. I do believe there is a demon in them. Controlling them ! All they want to do is lie lie lie put down others hurting others makes them happy. So sad
It is sad when people screw up life for themselves. The more you love them the more they need to break you. When you then leave them because of the abuse they are devastated🤷🏼♂️
It’s their nervous system hard wiring, it’s just human nature, life is very adaptable, the human brain has lots of plasticity in childhood, it’s very hard to re wire it after u have developed it a certain way for so long
I think they get devastated if the victim is their only supply. The worst narcissistic person in my life is my mother and I doubt she's devastated. She has my other siblings. I'm only her scapegoat and surely she misses hurting me on a daily basis but I doubt she has the horrible nightmares I have due to the cptsd I have after decades of abuse.
When you're always at their feet doing things for them, they are "decent" with you. As soon as you start to slow down with some things or are unable to serve them, they literally switch like that. A complete different person. Their true hidden feelings about you are revealed, then you realise actually this person has never loved me or ever will. They only love that you can serve them for their needs. It's quite ironic actually... They expect you to give them 100% and will cause havoc if you are not, but when you ACTUALLY need them... They are never to be found and do NOT support you.
@@beaglerescue5281 I'm really sorry to hear that. I can imagine it is 100 times worse when it is your own child, someone who you naturally love. May God give you peace. Xxx
So so true I’m seeing the mask off right now and the gaslighting and twisting the words to make her the victim is unbelievable and so confusing but I’m on to it now
@@elizabethf9096 Isn’t it great to finally understand what the heck is going on with them. I’m finally at peace. I was with my daughter tonight and she made a few devaluing comments and it didn’t effect me whatsoever. That’s strength and growth. I don’t see her but once a month and now I feel that’s all I want. I’ve come along way from six months ago where I felt devastated.
Same here, with my whole family I always felt that way. Please do your ya favour and leave him too, he won’t change. Ever. Get out while you can. My mother is one and I only broke away 4 years ago from her codependency conditioning. They are sick people.
Beautiful soul I have heard when we will leave these kinda people they will begin the journey of self love at some of point of time ❤️ this is his story 🙏🕉️♾️ he wants everyone to love their own soul.
So people who have been traumatised or abused just are demons? Because the more I’m understanding this disorder is that most people don’t know a lot about it or even take a step back, rather than generalising a whole group of people
This is so true! This is my peace when I walk away. They may pretend and show everyone that their so happy 😂. But people don't know them like I do. I seen and gone through the hardest and darkest with them. I just laugh about people's comments. I also remind myself when I miss them, feel sorry for them, and want to contact them, forgive, and reach out. The best thing is stay away forever!
It's true. It's always about their cruelty but there is also their very broken and very unhappy side which actually provoke this cruelty. Unhappy broken monsters that need to abuse other people to go on.
I never knew about how very serious Narcissism is, until recently. It's really shocking when you see and experience it. It's surreal, really, it's that bad. Just Never let your guard down. Ever. Be very vigilant to everything.
It's very sad. They want you in a constant state of fight or flight. While your in that mode you give off chemicals and like any predator will sense that chemical. It gives them that drug of choice, DOPAMINE.
BINGO! I agree 100% .miserable souls filled with entities that's why they detest us "happy people" they can't stand it! We have something that they will never ever possess.
I was married to a narc exactly like this. Being in that relationship literally almost killed me. Now, she's 1,000 miles away, and the kids are with me thriving and flourishing. She's in her own personal hell, working multiple jobs, no husband, no kids, no family, and is unstable as ever. " most deeply wounded, most unhappy people in this world" 🎯🔥💯
Well done....that's great news and it gives me hope. I'm recently separated from a covert narcissist. We are still living in the same house as I won't leave my boys in her care. I'm prepared to go to battle in court for the sake of my sons emotional wellbeing and future.
Leaving them permanently is THE BEST AND HEALTHIEST OPTION for anyone stuck in a relationship with these cursed beings, irregardless whether it's a parent, sibling, partner, lover etc. Period.
@CarolineStrawsonHealing I also avoid abandonment like the plague. Struggling with it but I allways learn to let go at times and surrender. I walk the line where you almost step into narcicissm. I get the derangement and discarding tendencies from time to time then I feel like guilt that I had that thought and impulse and ask God for forgiveness and strength to fight this. Bpd with narc tendencies maybe? What are your thoughts
If you're a narcissist and reading this; you are not alone. It's tough when you feel so helpless and empathy is so hard to train. But with the little work you can do to train yourself empathy,you will already feel so much prouder of yourself than you are now. You are not a demon, and I wish you successful healing and I'm proud of you!!💜
@TRUTHWINSALLWAYS I appreciate you but I can tell you I'm not misdiagnosed. I'm self aware and tired of the shame. I'm vulnerable narcissist, more specifically. I do feel the need to behave like every typical narcissist does. I just grew up and spent a lot of time alone without the ability to get "narcissistic supply" off of people, just feeling sorry for myself and boasting my own ego to myself for doing the bare minimum and feeling very angry when people say it's a bare minimum and isolating myself further cause "they are all bullies and will never understand ME and my princess in distress struggles". Dealing with constant shame and feeling threatened by everything and everyone, the need to be in the center of attention or not be there at all, the intense need for validation, the needs for passive aggressive gestures, the love bombing theatrics I pulled for the people I started to meet, how ready to take it all away and wanting to do silent treatments for the tiniest innocent things, just- I am not misdiagnosed, dude, there is so much more but I'm not about to spill my whole therapy session and make this even longer- I'm practicing empathy, which is the easiest to feel towards other narcissists (especially when I don't know them and won't need to deal with them??? 🤡😂😭✋wheeze). Not every narcissist is an abuser.
@TRUTHWINSALLWAYS Do you want to see the rest of my life and all there is that I did not say? Cause that's really impossible. I practice empathy and healing by keeping the friends I already made by 1. Biting my tongue when I feel a reaction coming up. 2. Distancing myself until it passes and reconnecting with them while using cognitive empathy 3. Feeling proud for not letting my insecurities get the best of me and feeling clarity come back to me to just be there for my friends and validate their existence like I would with me,I want THEM to also feel proud of themselves even for the little things. Hell,I even told my friends about my narc struggles with empathy and reactive feelings and they're very supportive and proud of me,too. It was very hard at first but now just biting my tongue and being vulnerable with them has become a habit that I practice with other people (like I just did with you! I mean,it takes a lot to get over a shame and admit to all that even if it's to a stranger. I constantly have this little voice in my head that parents me like a child whenever I feel threatened and it's a lot of work to keep that going,but I'm determined to keep going. I take one moment to just "don't",and just erase my ego for a moment to imagine I am the other person and how I am perceiving what I do and say,and it calms me down from making it about myself. And that is satisfying enough. When I say I feel a NEED to act the way narcissists do,I say I feel a need. But I don't act out on it,I feel proud about not acting out,I don't expect people to support and understand me cause they are not me,they are not in my brain,but it's enough for me to deal with my insecurities. When I say it's easy to feel empathy for other narcissists "especially when I don't have to deal with them",I mean I understand WHY they act out the way that they do to the very core,and it helps me feel connected with the outside world people more, it's like a reassurance for me that my struggles are real and it helps me stick around longer with them through building endurance. I FEEL that empathy towards other narcs even when I don't deal with them cause I know exactly what is going through their heads when they attack me when I encounter them, so it helps not to take it personally which, again, that's also empathy at work that's required. It makes me want to come back to even THEM instead of shutting down, and that drive to want to come back is something I cherish and will fight for as much as I can take on. Even if it's a little bit, with building endurance it goes a long way in the long run when I know how to go to that quiet place within myself. It almost feels like keeping a dog on a leash in check and slowly train it. I use that little phrase to myself a lot when I feel the need to react strongly. "Keep your dogs in check". My biggest abuse so far has been distancing myself without saying a word for a couple days. But nowadays I even tell my friends when I feel something come up like "hey,I need a little time for a weird moment I feel" to not make them worried like THEY did something wrong. All of this is a LOT of work, which is healing cause I do feel my insecurities feel a lot more heard and a lot more stronger than BEFORE I was diagnosed. 🥔 Here's a reward potato for the long post if you actually took your time to read all this uh whoops!! 😅
@TRUTHWINSALLWAYS (HOLY hell-- you actually READ all that?! That took some effort thank you 🥺) (Also dude becoming a tree and living in a forest without the need to cry out for other trees hit hard,I love that metaphor omg? 😳) ((I'm stealing that to use for myself in practicing that, mwohoho 😈)) But yeah man! Growing up is basically sums it up. It's easier said than done though when the roots of such behavior are so deep (and many narcs don't even WANT to know or hear something that validates that something is indeed wrong with them,which is the ultimate NIGHTMARE to take in cause of the constant shame and insecurities, that's a "yeah, you're a broken toy, you're off the shelf and nobody will buy you, into the bin you go to die alone and unheard whoops" which is really overdramatic but THEY FULLY BELIEVE it, "might as well hurt others cause of that doomed fate and helplessness over imaginary things,like "if I'm going down I'M TAKING YOU WITH ME 👹""). When I say it's empathy to know and understand why a narc is attacking,to ME it's empathy cause I feel what they're feeling in the moment they're acting out (I don't excuse them!! It's a correct feeling to feel disdain for the big baby abusive behavior). It takes a lot to have a narc to be openly receiving and practicing the message of "grow up" which they will never ever take to heart if it's given with (justified) hostility. You fuck around,you find out,now you're ashamed. Which is why I go through a bit of sugarcoating through empathy to just,put the message out there for them to be exposed to at all which is really hard when narcs are demonized (which,again,valid,cause they're hurting people and being shamed and ridiculed,called out is the fruits of their labor. They don't even KNOW or believe themselves to be able to plant a different kind of plant,like,"what is this alien shit? For ME,for MY inexperienced ass? I only feel and plant pain, I'm just a helpless baby,I will never be able to grow THAT, that's for adults") Yes, waking up and growing up is essential to let and be happy,if it would have been that easy they would be doing that in the first place but it takes a lot more for us. But I just want my fellow narcs to know that it's indeed possible, and to experience it like I do. Cause there are narcs out there that have just enough self awareness (I'm a proof!) to get there, or at least TRY to, and take the message to heart if it's pushed to them correctly which is something I'm attempting to do to bridge them across their shame to a better behavior as much as I can. Sure, it may be considered baby-ing at times but I mean, how else are you gonna help a big baby to grow up into an adult when they're not adulting? 😆 It's absolutely nobody's obligation, like you said, parents are gone. But like, they're still people that are gonna die one day and the chances are slim for them to change, but from my wake up experience, I feel determined to at least throw in some arrows in the sand for the special few. It may not be a lot, but to them it may change a whole entire world to just feel comfortable in their own selves enough to not feel so hostile anymore. 🥔🥔🥔
My wife, who I recently realized exhibits narcissistic behavior, has isolated herself and our 4-year-old son from me for almost three weeks now. She hasn't answered my calls or messages, and the pain I'm experiencing is immense. Just a few days ago, after piecing things together, I recognized her narcissism. She once asked me, "Is there a way to be happy? Because I never had happiness." At the time, I struggled with her actions, such as never listening to me and often being unkind. Now, it makes sense; she never apologized because of her narcissistic tendencies. She lives about five hours away from me because of work; we used to be together for 3 years. I pray for strength and patience to get through this tough time.
They DONT SEE YOU AS A HUMAN BEING. You are just a container to get supply. You are a coffee cup that once is empty will be discarded the same way. That is how they see you. It’s sad but true. Stop taking things personal from someone that doesn’t see you as a person.
The tricky thing is to not feel our self worthiness wounds being triggered so it's very hard to stop taking things personally. However it can be done when people take the steps to work on their healing x
True, to the narcissist something is always wrong, especially if it’s something you brought about. The movie you picked is boring, the dinner is missing something and the trip you planned is too expensive. You can never win.
I knew it, not being able to sympathize with others means being disconnected from all there is, thus they’re never happy, they chose themselves they agreed to go down and not elevate, they can only feel shame with a false ego and false self and five sense pleasures and addictions to stay numb
SO IMPORTANT. If you give them the slightest sign of interest, they will have you sucked in to their trap, & may make you feel special & loved (love bombing) in the beginning stages, but be careful bc it will turn on a dime. They can't sustain a normal healthy loving relationship. No matter how it seems. Acting is one of their best talents.
Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
It is absolutely true… I had a mother & father who were both Narcissists. Mentally and physically abused me. Until I went into therapy, then I walked away and had nothing to do with them! Doing that was the best decision I ever made. It literally changed my life. And my brother too, I went silent on him for over 20 years. My parents are dead, but they were dead to me for over 30 years.
Had a narc female (friend) Looked into her eyes one day I could feel her emotions she was in torment.. and I just filled with compassion for her I was astonished at her emotional state Months later I mentioned it to her and asked if she believed me She wouldn't answer but did say she knew I was a compassionate person About 6 months later I ended what was a one sided friendship
Many times the mood swing "out of nowhere" is due to a fight or issue with another supply. They take it out on you. Usually occurs after "bathroom phone time" or other odd device behaviors.
You are 100000 percent correct. Those people always want someone who will be like a slave to them . My father , elder sister and aunty are having this type of narcissistic personality. It damages other persons well being and happiness. They always try to make you to agree with all their opinions. If you don't follow them or suggest other way , they will badly behave with you as you are scapegoats and good for nothing . We every individual all having self respect and personality and anyone cannot dominate you.
I just want to say to anyone who thinks they are a narcissist: you can heal. You took the first step and that's acknowledgement. I can see that you're capable of healing. Please don't stop believing in a better future.
I’ll tell you my mother is a narcs, that time I didn’t knew that terminology. Through the years the way to deal with it is “less/small talk = less narcissistic trigger to no trigger at all”
This explains my ex-wife, everything you just said is on the money and everything I thought she was, she is…now I can relax and truly see that it is her not me.
I believe this to be correct. They may appear happy during the love-bombing stage of a new relationship but the massive amount of energy required for them to suppress their true selves is unsustainable.
A big concern in myself is I'm worried I might be a narcissist, I sometimes feel empty and or depressed when I get cut off or dismissed when I try to show or tell something to others, get angry over cocky people who say things like "you're not gonna get caught doing this". Back in the day when my sister was around I would be angry for no reason at others etc Ever since 2023 when I've been curious about narcissism, I've been taking a look as if I'm one. My younger brother called me a narcissist twice and I felt like it's the end of the world and I just don't want to be part of my family anymore
I focus on myself and my well being and not focus on what the narcissist is about or happens to them. I don't wish them ill but prayers for the narcissist. Only God passes judgement.
There’s much to be said of CONTENTMENT over “happiness”. The former is achievable, & sustainable. In my opinion, happiness is fleeting, just because life is filled with highs & lows. If contentment comes from the correct source, we can trust in the long term benefits which flow from that source! I’m an old woman, & I only now can look back over my life, & see the times when I counted on the decisions, choices, & even the EMOTIONS of others, to bring MY happiness! I can also say this “happiness” never lasted very long! This is a life lesson I’m only now learning. Some learn sooner, but many NEVER do learn it!
I don't hear anything about Dependency Disorder, but I think many have it. The buzz word in the last few yrs has been narcissist, everyone's talking about it. What about dependency disorder. Does the narcissist tend to attract those with a dependency disorder?
@ Many with co-dependency issues find caring for others important, sometimes too important. And because Narcissists crave attention, initially, they see your care for them as beneficial to them. Whatever you can offer to keep the spotlight on THEM, is seen as a ASSET, & a sign that you’re buying what they’re selling! Picture two magnets: one is a Co-dependent person; the other, a Narcissist... Each seems to compliment the other. Problem is, these relationship dynamics can’t be SUSTAINED for extended periods of time. The best way to avoid an unhealthy relationship, is to MOVE SLOWLY! TAKE THE TIME needed to see WHO a potential partner IS, before allowing them to get too close! The best way I’ve found to identify a narcissist, is to FOCUS ON MYSELF. If my love interest seems bothered, I start talking about future plans, my OWN! ( whether true or exaggerated) That’s usually enough! Taking care of your own NEEDS, before volunteering to help someone else get what they WANT, should send a narcissist packing! Which is FINE! Better to say “Bye” then, than to wait 6 years, & realize you’re miserable, & married with babies! Best of luck to you!…ps: piano buff? Me too
Absolutely true. Narcissist has his own grudges and complaints always against their partner and they may resort to a brinkmanship and pick up an argument which can cause a flare up. Yet, they don't ever feel it necessary to analyse their behaviour. So much is the self love! Totally blind to basic assumptions of a partnership.
Narcissists often use manipulation tactics to maintain control and power in relationships. Knowing their weaknesses can help you identify these tactics and protect yourself from being exploited.
Left my ex narc husband 4 months ago and now he's engaged. I feel sorry for the new supply. She loves him so much and think she got the man of her dreams! Poor girl.......she have no clue who that deceiver is. 😢
I had 23 years with a dismissive avoidant covert narcissist. Accepted it was a codependant trauma bond situation that no healthy man would have stayed in. She'd been married 3 times already and after the lovebombing start the true face showed up with every red flag I tried to believe was probably my fault and I could ' fix' her/us. I ended up in therapy eventually and had stress related physical health problems, heart and gastric issues. I began calling her out on her behaviours but that made everything far worse until despite her still claiming she loved me ( more the fact I was her handyman and general dogs body) her overal attitude towards me was virtually like contempt. Every time we'd break up She'd hoover me back or I'd reach out first. I often thought she was provoking a row so she'd get me off the scene for weeks or months so she could play the field. Finally after Christmas I'd had enough and really told her everything I thought of her. I hate the upsets and apologised next day but got no reply. Now she's saying she doesn't even want to talk to me let alone be friends. I'm sure she's got my replacement in tow and wanted to provoke an angry reaction to get her family on board to accept she's now on man number 5 to save face by telling everyone I'm abusive. What a crap ending to 23 years of giving to someone and to their family. The only good thing is I'm finally free to rebuild my life, in my 70s now, but thank God she's finally let me go because otherwise I'd probably not make another few years. I'm trying not let her hate take me down. Thanks for your videos. ❤
When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it's not personal. "It isn't personal" is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don't know how to love or be a friend; they can't afford to spare the energy to learn, because they're always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don't understand the concept - they can't feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it's no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They're too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn't know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it's from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection.Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions.Cheating is a choice and there's simply a lot of ignorance in the process..Thank you so much for helping me out cyberalbert4@gmail. com.Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,..thank you very much..
Ohh yes they are very happy to be hurting those that love them, but possess no happiness within They cannot be satisfied and continually move the goal posts. So continually being dissatisfied would make them feel “unhappy” but more from frustration rather than sadness from a dire situation. Escape quietly. Avoid the worst parts and make it a surprise. Dismissed and blocked access denied.
He’s never happy. He eventually yells at everyone if they don’t do what he commands. And he accuses me of not being happy. All signs he is miserable. He’s Gods now.
I dated a man who was narcissistic. Around 5 years after our breakup we were talking and I told him I never want to get married. I’m no longer horny and that this is the happiest I’ve ever been. I play pickleball, rescue senior dogs, and I’m spiritually in a good place. I have no desire to go back to dating or growing old with someone. He thought that was the saddest thing he ever heard. He could not wrap his head around it. I knew it was because he suffered from narcissism and without having someone else around, he’d shrivel and die.
How do you make a narcissist suffer forever ? you need to destroy narcissist ego and pride.you need to bring them back to reality.and there is a way you can do that without harming them directly. that is by working on yourself. And go back to being the person you were before you involved with the narcissist. The person that they where attached to. And then become a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it. but you reject their hoover attempts. it will destroy their ego. because they can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. especially if it's from something that they believe they should have. Narcissist find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You are happy. Because what really destroys their ego Is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result they where intended for. Because now you are even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you. Which destroy them. Because they remember how good things were Back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to revenge on the narcissist. you don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it. All thanks to the cyber expert who was able to investigate his phone and get me the information and evidence that I needed to gain my freedom From the abusive relationship. If you are in similar situation you can contact him on Instagram @spy_bruceHow do you make a narcissist suffer forever ? you need to destroy narcissist ego and pride.you need to bring them back to reality.and there is a way you can do that without harming them directly. that is by working on yourself. And go back to being the person you were before you involved with the narcissist. The person that they where attached to. And then become a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it. but you reject their hoover attempts. it will destroy their ego. because they can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. especially if it's from something that they believe they should have. Narcissist find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You are happy. Because what really destroys their ego Is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result they where intended for. Because now you are even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you. Which destroy them. Because they remember how good things were Back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to revenge on the narcissist. you don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it. All thanks to the cyber expert who was able to investigate his phone and get me the information and evidence that I needed to gain my freedom From the abusive relationship. If you are in similar situation you can contact him on Instagram @spy_bruce
I have a 2 narcs in my family They are sucking the family dry …I call them vampire 🧛 This is my bros wife and mother-in-law they both have been so damaging to the entire family …. I’ve walked away …. Others are still under her trap 💩🤬😡
He TOLD me how happy he is now; has a new target, she's everything I wasn't and they do xyz things together all the time - things that he'd Never do, with me. And I'm healing, yes and getting stronger bit by bit, but I'm alone and not ready to be out there, again. And he's happy.
29 years and never once been on the bank account as joint . Housewife ( maid) i barley even go outside anymore he has me so screwed up. 😢 complains about everything cooked . A big huge drawer of new underwear. Im touch starved and punished for asking questions. So many secrets ( swear up and down) that they don't have any lol . Ask a simple question and it blows there lid . Im tired
So true!! My ex is a narcissist and I’m a empath so you know this was not a good ending. But he cheated and left and I can see he’s not happy now like he thought he was in the beginning, and he still comes around our home we shared/ use the dogs as a excuse (yet doesn’t put the true care into) and last night he got into it, he tried to tell me I’m not allowed to let any males here smh I was having a male friend come to help with my senior sick dog and even that wasn’t allowed in his mind. But I’m not listening to that mess. And I know it’s because he’s been seeing me doing so much better and happier and that I finally was able to talk to another guy and not feel like I was cheating and I felt so free!! And I am able to start truly moving on. And I feel it makes him so mad. He did the damage yet he tries to control me and is only happy when I’m here alone and away from the world and moving on. Nope I refuse to let anyone who can’t treat me right and with respect treat me in such a negative way. He slammed the back door and left the back gate wide open not worrying if my husky would of got out and hit by a car smh even didn’t show up to help with my other dog just bc he’s mad not to suck up his feelings and do what he needs for our sick senior dog. So I don’t want to hear that he cares and all the lies he spews. Hope him and his nut ball controlling gf last lol but yea she’s controlling and will go thru his phone every night ect and alot has to do with they started dating with him cheating and lying to me and she knows that and also he is til this day spying on me and hacking into my stuff so idk why his gf comes at me?? I don’t want a cheater back. This weekend I finally got to a point where I was able to talk to another guy and not feel bad or I was cheating and I felt so free and I think he read my messages and seen it and got mad. But I did still cry to my friend after he flipped last night and I think it’s bc Im just angry, and all my focus is on my sick dog and both dogs well being first. They are my kids. And he uses them for a in I think, and I am still waiting for a call back from mental health which I called in July!! So luckily my friends have helped me thru this
So what can I do? Running is too late. How do I give them narcissistic supply? I don't care anymore, I just need the semblance of sanity and minimize the abuse
Remember understanding is not the same as excusing the person’s actions. We should all try to understand what the base motivations and triggers likely are of a narcissist, but we need to be careful not to weaponize it against them as they would do to us.
Bingo. I noticed this with my ex. She was never happy, only happy from external supply. She could never be happy with small things, things cheering herself.
They're all addicted to the beginning stages of a relationship when you cant wait to see or hear from a person... once the newness wears off so does the mask.. we become settled in and they become bored... a noticeable switch happens because they're in the streets trying to get other people hooked into the beginning stages of a relationship.. the only things they offer are PTSD, PH off balance, headaches, upset stomach, high blood pressure, hair loss, weight gain/loss, low self esteem, and with the way they will betray you (jail time).. You have to leave and never look back.. they have nothing you really want.
Support groups especially ones that your Narc doesn't know about, have helped me. Love peace and strength sent your way, it's a difficult road but I bieve you can do it. 💚✨️
I dunno if my mum is a narcissist, but she seeks me out to make me feel constantly bad about myself. And then when i try to keep my distance, she makes me feel guilty for not calling her (i literally call her everyday) . Now i have children, she is constantly in need to know whats going on, and the worst part is that my father has passed away this month, he was with her all the time, now the responsibility is all on me and my brother doesn't want to entertain her. I love her but i don't know how to be her daughter, makes me so sad because i wish it was a healthy relationship, but i feel constantly under so much scrutiny and pressure to be on my best behaviour. I feel like i have to walk on egg shells because she is so sensitive, and if we ever try to talk about this, she starts naming everything that she does for me, and how dare i ever make her feel bad. :(
I remember my professor told me that i was probably the least selfish person in my class because i was able to experience joy by myself and with myself lbs and it didnt make sense until i started encountering narcissist and Bipolar people, they literally are succubus
The ones I've known were badly abused at some point in early life. I think they need our compassion, albeit from a controlled (by you) distance. Only Jesus knew true love, he healed all who came to him. Did he stop and ask first, is this one a narcissist? Yes? Okay then, pass!
My husband had an affair with a co-worker for nearly two years the last nine months of which I was pregnant with our second child. I found out about the other woman the week before my due date, I felt so terrible and moved back to my mother's home for 2 month with the kids after birth, he kept on apologizing to every member of my family and they all begged me to forgive him, I moved back to our home and I still had that feeling something was off, I felt deep down that I have been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillow or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more, my in-law were also very verbally abusive towards me. Wasn't allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to I had to be ready for an argument, everyday I was reminded that I am not nothing and that was not worth fighting for and that don't meet the standard of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me an had a girl friend after seeing the text and pictures, I became numb. I have been a good wife. I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who help me extract enough information from his device. Someone on here share a link to the hacker who helped me clone his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him through a remote link sent to my email,I was able to access all of his text, email, Facebook and Instagram chat real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him on What's app:+1(352)255-6426 @Lawrence Hernandez
My narc ex signed for an engagement ring then found his next wife behind my back. I moved alone to go back to study and work on myself. 3 years later I found someone to love and respect me. The narc thought he could pick up his bookmark after posting very profound social media photos of every milestone with his wife leading up to him visiting back to our home state and trying to hook up with me behind her back after making HER feel special to fly home with him to meet his family. See how that cycles? Never trust a narc. Love yourself so much more.
That exact thing just happened to me, he tried hard for more than a year, and praise God I already know the game he was playing so I just watched him try. He said he regreted everything he done in the past, that he grew mature and bla bla bla. When I asked him 'what is it that you regret from every wrong doing you did to me in the past? What is it that you see now that you didn't see in the past? What does it mean to grow more mature? the asnwer was 'oh come on, I already left the past behind...why can't you just move on and be happy with mefrom now on? Lol 'Nah, thank you. Keep your offer to yourself'
You can tell that they're not happy by the situations that put you in to demean and embarrass you ..I was made homeless and put in jail on a lie and nobody cared not even the judges...
If you are even asking yourself the question then you are most definitely not a narcissist. A narcissist will never believe there is anything wrong with them x
It's normal, get sum self time every day so subconsance can recognize truth. And if someone repeats something enough, one maybe accidently believing it,brainwashing!
I myself have a couple of narcissistic traits, but not all of them. I'm unhappy, from living with a narcissist, but prefer my own company. My narc doesn't want to leave me alone. Blames me for being irritated at their irritating behaviour. It's like groundhog day. I know all of her stories, all of her "issues," right down to the last detail. I know what she's gonna say before she says it. She's on repeat, reliving her "worst moments" daily. It's very frustrating and I need to leave for a while. I've been building a camper van to go away for a while. I need to limit my time with this woman. I can't ditch her, because she's family, but I can limit my time with her.
I use to talk with a guy . I started like him and decided to tell him that i think he is cute and that i really want to know him . I meant to say cute in a way that i like and hope that he feel the same about me but he said that he is not cute at all . And he is narcissistic and arrogant and i said its not very nice thing to say about yourself and he said he is actually proud of it . I was totally caught offgaurd and afcourse i blocked him . I always thought there is some gap about him and something i m not getting. He would only message me when he needed me now that i think about it and i m a sensitive person so i started to care about him . I always felt exhausted after i talked to him too and that was all through text . Imagine having such person in real life . I m glad . I said out my feelings and actually came to my senses . I have further long story before this and how i got there but its a long story
I'm confused in between the narcissist and bipolar.. But I'm pretty sure both have the always blame someone else pattern. Kinda similar that's why I'm confused.
The poor people function as narcissistic sources to to the rich people. That's why it's necessary for some to play the role of a havenot. The haves can enjoy themselves and feel superior when they see the poor person struggling to get by.
Yes ,my ex narc friend, enjoyed speaking about all the stuff she would buy,her vakays,cars, education,degrees,she would send photos of her house,clothes,tell me how much she spent on stuff,looking back i realized she was tryna a rise out of me,make me jealous of her,,look at what i can have or buy,,and you can't.I never asked her or any friends their salary,she was dying to tell me,I said good for u.,that's some goood money..nothing I said to her was ever impressive to her,stopped speaking about any thing good that happened to me,It would be an automatic put down,,never noticed,when I stopped..she would speak 100% about herself,her friends,co workers,family,how well they were all doing,if i was doing fantastic she would not know😮,,then it's I have to go now,,.I would say good night,good bye,speak to u later,, so self absorbed, then one day she said I was jealous of her,,its like she had been dying to say it to me for a very long time,,,,like it was rehersed,,,,that was it for me...She never realized that me with half the stuff she had,,she was the one jealous and envious of me..I went cold turkey,,36 years "fiend" ship came to an abrupt end.i ask myself where do you start again with someone,after that statement?.no energy for that anymore.
😂😂my ex is a mesirable bastard, and she married my narcissist friend. 😂😂the ultimate self-inflicted injury 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 misery loves company. God's wrath Nahum 1: 2-8
They're happy in defeating competition,conquering and winning in any circumstances.
It's more a tense excitement walking a knife edge between fear and ego
But narcs are happy
I think she means content
@inkwyvern5171 ...Happy- feeling or showing pleasure or contentment=The same answer.
Happy- feeling or showing pleasure or contentment=the same answer.
Only in the short term and in environments where they have the advantage. It's not possible to control every new environment that you shift to
@@bruh1052 ...Correct.
Narcissists are energy vampires 🧛
That part☝️🎯💣💯
Thisss 💯💯💯
So true
They don't want the destination, they want the journey. Which is why arguing with them is giving them what they thrive on. Nobody tires of a good thing
True
And that's a fact I just took all my energy back now I'm the bad guy ill be that 🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🙏🏾
Narcissists are ‘bottomless pits of need.’ No matter how much narcissistic supply they have,it’s never,ever enough for them! I don’t think they’re ever truly happy either!
The supply they demand is insatiable.
I felt like I had to constantly entertain that man. As soon as I slowed down, he started letting the mask fall.
100%
Fact… once you stop giving yourself, money and time to them they go crazy like little kids blaming you for their life failures
So exsausting 😩
My mother bragged about my performances ever since i was a kid, my most recent instant was when i was buying Dragon Ball Sparking Zero, i was so confidently instant on saying "I would like to purchase Dragon Ball Sparking Zero for PS5 with my gift cards please"
Edit: When i learned about Narcissism, i believe i was the golden child and being the golden child is just as messed up as the scapegoat
My narc wife emotionally abused me for 3 days because I was working and couldn’t pick her up from the airport. It looks like we are going to get divorced. It’s truly frightening once you realize what she has been doing for years.
So true . That emptiness in their eyes is so sad to see, they can't smile a real smile
Or laugh a real laugh
There is NO warmth in them whatsoever 😢
@@Jec_2815Fake laugh.
I just asked him that I have never seen your teeth or a smile or real heartfelt laughter
So sad
Dead pan eyes. The eyes are the window to your soul !.It's really sad that they can't laugh or really have a good time. Because the ER are to busy trying to control others. So fake ! I can spot em a mile away now. I've done a lot of research on the subject. I do believe there is a demon in them. Controlling them ! All they want to do is lie lie lie put down others hurting others makes them happy. So sad
It is sad when people screw up life for themselves. The more you love them the more they need to break you. When you then leave them because of the abuse they are devastated🤷🏼♂️
With the NPD up is down and down is up.Back to front thinking.
They should be out in jail 🤬
It’s their nervous system hard wiring, it’s just human nature, life is very adaptable, the human brain has lots of plasticity in childhood, it’s very hard to re wire it after u have developed it a certain way for so long
@@sunita8248 I'll put you in jail because i want to. I'm a little baby.
I think they get devastated if the victim is their only supply. The worst narcissistic person in my life is my mother and I doubt she's devastated. She has my other siblings. I'm only her scapegoat and surely she misses hurting me on a daily basis but I doubt she has the horrible nightmares I have due to the cptsd I have after decades of abuse.
When you're always at their feet doing things for them, they are "decent" with you. As soon as you start to slow down with some things or are unable to serve them, they literally switch like that. A complete different person. Their true hidden feelings about you are revealed, then you realise actually this person has never loved me or ever will. They only love that you can serve them for their needs. It's quite ironic actually... They expect you to give them 100% and will cause havoc if you are not, but when you ACTUALLY need them... They are never to be found and do NOT support you.
I’m a parent of a covert narcissistic daughter. I’ve been discarded. I no longer have any value. It’s so disgusting and disturbing.
@@beaglerescue5281 I'm really sorry to hear that. I can imagine it is 100 times worse when it is your own child, someone who you naturally love. May God give you peace. Xxx
So so true I’m seeing the mask off right now and the gaslighting and twisting the words to make her the victim is unbelievable and so confusing but I’m on to it now
@@elizabethf9096 Isn’t it great to finally understand what the heck is going on with them. I’m finally at peace. I was with my daughter tonight and she made a few devaluing comments and it didn’t effect me whatsoever. That’s strength and growth. I don’t see her but once a month and now I feel that’s all I want. I’ve come along way from six months ago where I felt devastated.
Perfectly put .Everything 100% agree because it is e at how you said
Run don't walk away. Run, they are demons not just unhappy.
This is so true. I feel empty . I left him. I called him out on all his crap. He hated me
I feel lonely when I'm with him 😢
Same here, with my whole family I always felt that way. Please do your ya favour and leave him too, he won’t change. Ever. Get out while you can. My mother is one and I only broke away 4 years ago from her codependency conditioning. They are sick people.
Beautiful soul I have heard when we will leave these kinda people they will begin the journey of self love at some of point of time ❤️ this is his story 🙏🕉️♾️ he wants everyone to love their own soul.
They will only ever focus on their needs sadly xx
Get out. Never once is it a good choice to stay. The longer you're abused the harder to recover. I'm sorry you feel this way.
I no this feeling all so well
A narcissist is incapable of joy. Demons cannot experience joy.
They feel so thrown off when they see me with joy like they just can’t grasp the fast I choose happiness
Exactly 💯
Exactly
So people who have been traumatised or abused just are demons? Because the more I’m understanding this disorder is that most people don’t know a lot about it or even take a step back, rather than generalising a whole group of people
People are forgetting it's still actually a mental disorder. They're not demons, just people born with a mental illness.
Even when u see them with someone else, it don’t matter because your healing and don’t look back ever. That the new person’s problem now
They ain’t happy no way so no need to get jealous or worry.. they just need somebody to stroke their ego, somebody to be there, some kind of attention
Sounds like you guys don't want to see your ex's happy moving on and need to make excuses to make yourselves feel better 😂
@@nunyabidness6989u are sick
@@nunyabidness6989ha haa 💯 same feeling 😂
This is so true! This is my peace when I walk away. They may pretend and show everyone that their so happy 😂. But people don't know them like I do. I seen and gone through the hardest and darkest with them. I just laugh about people's comments. I also remind myself when I miss them, feel sorry for them, and want to contact them, forgive, and reach out. The best thing is stay away forever!
It's true. It's always about their cruelty but there is also their very broken and very unhappy side which actually provoke this cruelty. Unhappy broken monsters that need to abuse other people to go on.
May all be blessed with good health, peace and kindness 🌼
When they don't receive validation, they can become anxious, depressed, or angry, revealing the emptiness beneath their grandiose exterior.
You made me realize on what to do when it comes to validation (I'm battling narcissism like it's cancer)
I never knew about how very serious Narcissism is, until recently. It's really shocking when you see and experience it. It's surreal, really, it's that bad. Just Never let your guard down. Ever. Be very vigilant to everything.
This. Surreal is the weird, but definitely in a bad way
My husband is a narcissist😢 I have seen hell in just 3 year's of marriage.
How do you do that when you live with them and they have no job.
It's very sad. They want you in a constant state of fight or flight. While your in that mode you give off chemicals and like any predator will sense that chemical. It gives them that drug of choice, DOPAMINE.
Empty vessel's occupied by dark energy
Great description!
Nailed that description
That's it 👏
@@jermanelawrence7400 Jermane, Yes, & can we imagine how miserable life is?
No amount of money can cure desolate PROVERTY!
BINGO! I agree 100% .miserable souls filled with entities that's why they detest us "happy people" they can't stand it! We have something that they will never ever possess.
They're never truly sane, either. 🤮
Exactly.
That's the truth
I was married to a narc exactly like this. Being in that relationship literally almost killed me. Now, she's 1,000 miles away, and the kids are with me thriving and flourishing. She's in her own personal hell, working multiple jobs, no husband, no kids, no family, and is unstable as ever.
" most deeply wounded, most unhappy people in this world" 🎯🔥💯
She has multiple sources of supply. She will use sex to get
She give you kids so a bit respect will not hurt you.If you can’t do it for her then at least do it to her kids.
Well done....that's great news and it gives me hope. I'm recently separated from a covert narcissist. We are still living in the same house as I won't leave my boys in her care. I'm prepared to go to battle in court for the sake of my sons emotional wellbeing and future.
@@ifnotnowthenwhen9063 you are the epitome of self righteousness
@@mrone8717 what do you think this fcking post is? A bunch of people getting brainwashed by the absolute of knowledge.
Leaving them permanently is THE BEST AND HEALTHIEST OPTION for anyone stuck in a relationship with these cursed beings, irregardless whether it's a parent, sibling, partner, lover etc. Period.
It is the healthiest
But what of in a situation of your own sister😢😢
I love that girl so much but she never cared
The biggest weakness is when they're discarded. It shatters their false grandiosity and reminds them of their infant trauma
They will do everything within their power to make sure this never happens!
@@novisiblebruises true. Evenything including falsifying reality and rewriting history if they need to.
Exactly @@AdamKraft-hq8pn
@CarolineStrawsonHealing I also avoid abandonment like the plague. Struggling with it but I allways learn to let go at times and surrender. I walk the line where you almost step into narcicissm. I get the derangement and discarding tendencies from time to time then I feel like guilt that I had that thought and impulse and ask God for forgiveness and strength to fight this. Bpd with narc tendencies maybe? What are your thoughts
Your comment, just hit me on another level. Stay Away, Stay Strong!
If you're a narcissist and reading this; you are not alone. It's tough when you feel so helpless and empathy is so hard to train. But with the little work you can do to train yourself empathy,you will already feel so much prouder of yourself than you are now. You are not a demon, and I wish you successful healing and I'm proud of you!!💜
@TRUTHWINSALLWAYS I'm a diagnosed narcissist myself going through healing,so...
@TRUTHWINSALLWAYS I appreciate you but I can tell you I'm not misdiagnosed. I'm self aware and tired of the shame. I'm vulnerable narcissist, more specifically. I do feel the need to behave like every typical narcissist does. I just grew up and spent a lot of time alone without the ability to get "narcissistic supply" off of people, just feeling sorry for myself and boasting my own ego to myself for doing the bare minimum and feeling very angry when people say it's a bare minimum and isolating myself further cause "they are all bullies and will never understand ME and my princess in distress struggles". Dealing with constant shame and feeling threatened by everything and everyone, the need to be in the center of attention or not be there at all, the intense need for validation, the needs for passive aggressive gestures, the love bombing theatrics I pulled for the people I started to meet, how ready to take it all away and wanting to do silent treatments for the tiniest innocent things, just- I am not misdiagnosed, dude, there is so much more but I'm not about to spill my whole therapy session and make this even longer- I'm practicing empathy, which is the easiest to feel towards other narcissists (especially when I don't know them and won't need to deal with them??? 🤡😂😭✋wheeze). Not every narcissist is an abuser.
@TRUTHWINSALLWAYS Do you want to see the rest of my life and all there is that I did not say? Cause that's really impossible. I practice empathy and healing by keeping the friends I already made by 1. Biting my tongue when I feel a reaction coming up. 2. Distancing myself until it passes and reconnecting with them while using cognitive empathy 3. Feeling proud for not letting my insecurities get the best of me and feeling clarity come back to me to just be there for my friends and validate their existence like I would with me,I want THEM to also feel proud of themselves even for the little things. Hell,I even told my friends about my narc struggles with empathy and reactive feelings and they're very supportive and proud of me,too. It was very hard at first but now just biting my tongue and being vulnerable with them has become a habit that I practice with other people (like I just did with you! I mean,it takes a lot to get over a shame and admit to all that even if it's to a stranger. I constantly have this little voice in my head that parents me like a child whenever I feel threatened and it's a lot of work to keep that going,but I'm determined to keep going. I take one moment to just "don't",and just erase my ego for a moment to imagine I am the other person and how I am perceiving what I do and say,and it calms me down from making it about myself. And that is satisfying enough. When I say I feel a NEED to act the way narcissists do,I say I feel a need. But I don't act out on it,I feel proud about not acting out,I don't expect people to support and understand me cause they are not me,they are not in my brain,but it's enough for me to deal with my insecurities. When I say it's easy to feel empathy for other narcissists "especially when I don't have to deal with them",I mean I understand WHY they act out the way that they do to the very core,and it helps me feel connected with the outside world people more, it's like a reassurance for me that my struggles are real and it helps me stick around longer with them through building endurance. I FEEL that empathy towards other narcs even when I don't deal with them cause I know exactly what is going through their heads when they attack me when I encounter them, so it helps not to take it personally which, again, that's also empathy at work that's required. It makes me want to come back to even THEM instead of shutting down, and that drive to want to come back is something I cherish and will fight for as much as I can take on. Even if it's a little bit, with building endurance it goes a long way in the long run when I know how to go to that quiet place within myself. It almost feels like keeping a dog on a leash in check and slowly train it. I use that little phrase to myself a lot when I feel the need to react strongly. "Keep your dogs in check". My biggest abuse so far has been distancing myself without saying a word for a couple days. But nowadays I even tell my friends when I feel something come up like "hey,I need a little time for a weird moment I feel" to not make them worried like THEY did something wrong. All of this is a LOT of work, which is healing cause I do feel my insecurities feel a lot more heard and a lot more stronger than BEFORE I was diagnosed.
🥔 Here's a reward potato for the long post if you actually took your time to read all this uh whoops!! 😅
@TRUTHWINSALLWAYS (HOLY hell-- you actually READ all that?! That took some effort thank you 🥺) (Also dude becoming a tree and living in a forest without the need to cry out for other trees hit hard,I love that metaphor omg? 😳) ((I'm stealing that to use for myself in practicing that, mwohoho 😈)) But yeah man! Growing up is basically sums it up. It's easier said than done though when the roots of such behavior are so deep (and many narcs don't even WANT to know or hear something that validates that something is indeed wrong with them,which is the ultimate NIGHTMARE to take in cause of the constant shame and insecurities, that's a "yeah, you're a broken toy, you're off the shelf and nobody will buy you, into the bin you go to die alone and unheard whoops" which is really overdramatic but THEY FULLY BELIEVE it, "might as well hurt others cause of that doomed fate and helplessness over imaginary things,like "if I'm going down I'M TAKING YOU WITH ME 👹""). When I say it's empathy to know and understand why a narc is attacking,to ME it's empathy cause I feel what they're feeling in the moment they're acting out (I don't excuse them!! It's a correct feeling to feel disdain for the big baby abusive behavior). It takes a lot to have a narc to be openly receiving and practicing the message of "grow up" which they will never ever take to heart if it's given with (justified) hostility. You fuck around,you find out,now you're ashamed. Which is why I go through a bit of sugarcoating through empathy to just,put the message out there for them to be exposed to at all which is really hard when narcs are demonized (which,again,valid,cause they're hurting people and being shamed and ridiculed,called out is the fruits of their labor. They don't even KNOW or believe themselves to be able to plant a different kind of plant,like,"what is this alien shit? For ME,for MY inexperienced ass? I only feel and plant pain, I'm just a helpless baby,I will never be able to grow THAT, that's for adults") Yes, waking up and growing up is essential to let and be happy,if it would have been that easy they would be doing that in the first place but it takes a lot more for us. But I just want my fellow narcs to know that it's indeed possible, and to experience it like I do. Cause there are narcs out there that have just enough self awareness (I'm a proof!) to get there, or at least TRY to, and take the message to heart if it's pushed to them correctly which is something I'm attempting to do to bridge them across their shame to a better behavior as much as I can. Sure, it may be considered baby-ing at times but I mean, how else are you gonna help a big baby to grow up into an adult when they're not adulting? 😆 It's absolutely nobody's obligation, like you said, parents are gone. But like, they're still people that are gonna die one day and the chances are slim for them to change, but from my wake up experience, I feel determined to at least throw in some arrows in the sand for the special few. It may not be a lot, but to them it may change a whole entire world to just feel comfortable in their own selves enough to not feel so hostile anymore.
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Narcissists are HOPELESS LOST SOULS.
Absolutely! It's all a facade, sometimes just to win the "break-up"
My wife, who I recently realized exhibits narcissistic behavior, has isolated herself and our 4-year-old son from me for almost three weeks now. She hasn't answered my calls or messages, and the pain I'm experiencing is immense. Just a few days ago, after piecing things together, I recognized her narcissism. She once asked me, "Is there a way to be happy? Because I never had happiness." At the time, I struggled with her actions, such as never listening to me and often being unkind. Now, it makes sense; she never apologized because of her narcissistic tendencies. She lives about five hours away from me because of work; we used to be together for 3 years. I pray for strength and patience to get through this tough time.
They DONT SEE YOU AS A HUMAN BEING. You are just a container to get supply. You are a coffee cup that once is empty will be discarded the same way. That is how they see you. It’s sad but true. Stop taking things personal from someone that doesn’t see you as a person.
The tricky thing is to not feel our self worthiness wounds being triggered so it's very hard to stop taking things personally. However it can be done when people take the steps to work on their healing x
True, to the narcissist something is always wrong, especially if it’s something you brought about. The movie you picked is boring, the dinner is missing something and the trip you planned is too expensive. You can never win.
Yes and sometimes as a long term victim, you can develop those traits or some. You have to work towards fixing them so as you realize your behaviors.
I knew it, not being able to sympathize with others means being disconnected from all there is, thus they’re never happy, they chose themselves they agreed to go down and not elevate, they can only feel shame with a false ego and false self and five sense pleasures and addictions to stay numb
Never show an emotional rise. They absolutely love triggering you and getting an emotional response. Respond as if you just don’t care.
SO IMPORTANT. If you give them the slightest sign of interest, they will have you sucked in to their trap, & may make you feel special & loved (love bombing) in the beginning stages, but be careful bc it will turn on a dime. They can't sustain a normal healthy loving relationship. No matter how it seems. Acting is one of their best talents.
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Health is peace 🌸 Peace for all
Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Hahaha this conversation is so fake!!! Don’t buy into it 😂
It is absolutely true… I had a mother & father who were both Narcissists. Mentally and physically abused me. Until I went into therapy, then I walked away and had nothing to do with them! Doing that was the best decision I ever made. It literally changed my life. And my brother too, I went silent on him for over 20 years. My parents are dead, but they were dead to me for over 30 years.
I truly never saw my ex-narc laugh or smile - unless it was a joke or sarcasm at another’s expense
Had a narc female (friend)
Looked into her eyes one day
I could feel her emotions she was in torment.. and I just filled with compassion for her
I was astonished at her emotional state
Months later I mentioned it to her and asked if she believed me
She wouldn't answer but did say she knew I was a compassionate person
About 6 months later I ended what was a one sided friendship
It’s 💯 % true !
They love pushing that misery onto other people .
Silence and walk away....silence...walk away...no words..no contact...nothing
My narcissist told me he had never been happy a day in his life. He was almost 60.
Many times the mood swing "out of nowhere" is due to a fight or issue with another supply. They take it out on you. Usually occurs after "bathroom phone time" or other odd device behaviors.
Dang! You nailed it
You are 100000 percent correct. Those people always want someone who will be like a slave to them . My father , elder sister and aunty are having this type of narcissistic personality. It damages other persons well being and happiness. They always try to make you to agree with all their opinions. If you don't follow them or suggest other way , they will badly behave with you as you are scapegoats and good for nothing . We every individual all having self respect and personality and anyone cannot dominate you.
I just want to say to anyone who thinks they are a narcissist: you can heal. You took the first step and that's acknowledgement. I can see that you're capable of healing. Please don't stop believing in a better future.
I’ll tell you my mother is a narcs, that time I didn’t knew that terminology. Through the years the way to deal with it is “less/small talk = less narcissistic trigger to no trigger at all”
Their only weakness is seeing their source of supply happy without them.
It’s just mind games to keep you stuck!!!Its all in their mind
This explains my ex-wife, everything you just said is on the money and everything I thought she was, she is…now I can relax and truly see that it is her not me.
My narc mother is never happy, ever. Her smile never reaches her eyes.
That’s the word , narcissist supply.
I believe this to be correct. They may appear happy during the love-bombing stage of a new relationship but the massive amount of energy required for them to suppress their true selves is unsustainable.
So there is no hope for a narcissist
Great advice
A big concern in myself is I'm worried I might be a narcissist, I sometimes feel empty and or depressed when I get cut off or dismissed when I try to show or tell something to others, get angry over cocky people who say things like "you're not gonna get caught doing this".
Back in the day when my sister was around I would be angry for no reason at others etc
Ever since 2023 when I've been curious about narcissism, I've been taking a look as if I'm one. My younger brother called me a narcissist twice and I felt like it's the end of the world and I just don't want to be part of my family anymore
I focus on myself and my well being and not focus on what the narcissist is about or happens to them. I don't wish them ill but prayers for the narcissist. Only God passes judgement.
There’s much to be said of CONTENTMENT over “happiness”.
The former is achievable, & sustainable. In my opinion, happiness is fleeting, just because life is filled with highs & lows. If contentment comes from the correct source, we can trust in the long term benefits which flow from that source!
I’m an old woman, & I only now can look back over my life, & see the times when I counted on the decisions, choices, & even the EMOTIONS of others, to bring MY happiness! I can also say this “happiness” never lasted very long!
This is a life lesson I’m only now learning. Some learn sooner, but many NEVER do learn it!
I don't hear anything about Dependency Disorder, but I think many have it. The buzz word in the last few yrs has been narcissist, everyone's talking about it. What about dependency disorder. Does the narcissist tend to attract those with a dependency disorder?
@ Many with co-dependency issues find caring for others important, sometimes too important.
And because Narcissists crave attention, initially, they see your care for them as beneficial to them. Whatever you can offer to keep the spotlight on THEM, is seen as a ASSET, & a sign that you’re buying what they’re selling! Picture two magnets: one is a Co-dependent person; the other, a Narcissist... Each seems to compliment the other. Problem is, these relationship dynamics can’t be SUSTAINED for extended periods of time.
The best way to avoid an unhealthy relationship, is to MOVE SLOWLY! TAKE THE TIME needed to see WHO a potential partner IS, before allowing them to get too close! The best way I’ve found to identify a narcissist, is to FOCUS ON MYSELF. If my love interest seems bothered, I start talking about future plans, my OWN! ( whether true or exaggerated) That’s usually enough!
Taking care of your own NEEDS, before volunteering to help someone else get what they WANT, should send a narcissist packing! Which is FINE! Better to say “Bye” then, than to wait 6 years, & realize you’re miserable, & married with babies!
Best of luck to you!…ps: piano buff? Me too
Absolutely true. Narcissist has his own grudges and complaints always against their partner and they may resort to a brinkmanship and pick up an argument which can cause a flare up. Yet, they don't ever feel it necessary to analyse their behaviour. So much is the self love! Totally blind to basic assumptions of a partnership.
Narcissists often use manipulation tactics to maintain control and power in relationships. Knowing their weaknesses can help you identify these tactics and protect yourself from being exploited.
Left my ex narc husband 4 months ago and now he's engaged. I feel sorry for the new supply. She loves him so much and think she got the man of her dreams! Poor girl.......she have no clue who that deceiver is. 😢
How are you feeling now? x
@@novisiblebruises relieved 😌
What are you doing to help yourself to heal? @@leeleejm2749 xx
@@novisiblebruises the word of God has helped me and loving myself
Do you think they will change for someone else ? Will he eventually start doing the same thing with a different person?
I had 23 years with a dismissive avoidant covert narcissist. Accepted it was a codependant trauma bond situation that no healthy man would have stayed in.
She'd been married 3 times already
and after the lovebombing start the true face showed up with every red flag I tried to believe was probably my fault and I could ' fix'
her/us. I ended up in therapy eventually and had stress related physical health problems, heart and gastric issues. I began calling her out on her behaviours but that made everything far worse until despite her still claiming she loved me ( more the fact I was her handyman and general dogs body) her overal attitude towards me was virtually like contempt. Every time we'd break up She'd hoover me back or I'd reach out first.
I often thought she was provoking a row so she'd get me off the scene for weeks or months so she could play the field. Finally after Christmas I'd had enough and really told her everything I thought of her. I hate the upsets and apologised next day but got no reply. Now she's saying she doesn't even want to talk to me let alone be friends. I'm sure she's got my replacement in tow and wanted to provoke an angry reaction to get her family on board to accept she's now on man number 5 to save face by telling everyone I'm abusive.
What a crap ending to 23 years of giving to someone and to their family. The only good thing is I'm finally free to rebuild my life, in my 70s now, but thank God she's finally let me go because otherwise I'd probably not make another few years. I'm trying not let her hate take me down. Thanks for your videos. ❤
When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it's not personal. "It isn't personal" is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth.
Narcissists don't know how to love or be a friend; they can't afford to spare the energy to learn, because they're always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don't understand the concept - they can't feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing.
They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it's no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old.
None of this is personal. They're too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn't know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it's from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection.Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions.Cheating is a choice and there's simply a lot of ignorance in the process..Thank you so much for helping me out cyberalbert4@gmail. com.Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,..thank you very much..
Wow Jana well said you have respect and I know you’re doing better just like I’m. Good luck on your journey
But how did the narcissist chose this horrific path in life? Who would chose this knowingly?
@@beaglerescue5281because they aren’t living in reality.
@@cryptonize2105 stuck in past
Ohh yes they are very happy to be hurting those that love them, but possess no happiness within
They cannot be satisfied and continually move the goal posts. So continually being dissatisfied would make them feel “unhappy” but more from frustration rather than sadness from a dire situation.
Escape quietly. Avoid the worst parts and make it a surprise.
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He’s never happy. He eventually yells at everyone if they don’t do what he commands. And he accuses me of not being happy. All signs he is miserable. He’s Gods now.
I dated a man who was narcissistic. Around 5 years after our breakup we were talking and I told him I never want to get married. I’m no longer horny and that this is the happiest I’ve ever been. I play pickleball, rescue senior dogs, and I’m spiritually in a good place. I have no desire to go back to dating or growing old with someone. He thought that was the saddest thing he ever heard. He could not wrap his head around it. I knew it was because he suffered from narcissism and without having someone else around, he’d shrivel and die.
How do you make a narcissist suffer forever ? you need to destroy narcissist ego and pride.you need to bring them back to reality.and there is a way you can do that without harming them directly. that is by working on yourself. And go back to being the person you were before you involved with the narcissist. The person that they where attached to. And then become a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it. but you reject their hoover attempts. it will destroy their ego. because they can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. especially if it's from something that they believe they should have. Narcissist find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You are happy. Because what really destroys their ego Is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result they where intended for. Because now you are even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you.
Which destroy them. Because they remember how good things were Back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to revenge on the narcissist. you don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it. All thanks to the cyber expert who was able to investigate his phone and get me the information and evidence that I needed to gain my freedom From the abusive relationship. If you are in similar situation you can contact him on Instagram @spy_bruceHow do you make a narcissist suffer forever ? you need to destroy narcissist ego and pride.you need to bring them back to reality.and there is a way you can do that without harming them directly. that is by working on yourself. And go back to being the person you were before you involved with the narcissist. The person that they where attached to. And then become a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it. but you reject their hoover attempts. it will destroy their ego. because they can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. especially if it's from something that they believe they should have. Narcissist find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You are happy. Because what really destroys their ego Is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result they where intended for. Because now you are even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you.
Which destroy them. Because they remember how good things were Back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to revenge on the narcissist. you don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it. All thanks to the cyber expert who was able to investigate his phone and get me the information and evidence that I needed to gain my freedom From the abusive relationship. If you are in similar situation you can contact him on Instagram @spy_bruce
This is so true, this is exactly how I have been feeling about this narcissist who I really want to get rid of in my life.
I have a 2 narcs in my family
They are sucking the family dry …I call them vampire 🧛
This is my bros wife and mother-in-law they both have been so damaging to the entire family …. I’ve walked away …. Others are still under her trap 💩🤬😡
My abusers in my case are my mother and aunt...
He TOLD me how happy he is now; has a new target, she's everything I wasn't and they do xyz things together all the time - things that he'd Never do, with me. And I'm healing, yes and getting stronger bit by bit, but I'm alone and not ready to be out there, again. And he's happy.
29 years and never once been on the bank account as joint . Housewife ( maid) i barley even go outside anymore he has me so screwed up. 😢 complains about everything cooked . A big huge drawer of new underwear. Im touch starved and punished for asking questions. So many secrets ( swear up and down) that they don't have any lol . Ask a simple question and it blows there lid . Im tired
Please leave him
So very true!!
I needed this video today
Thank u!!
So true!! My ex is a narcissist and I’m a empath so you know this was not a good ending. But he cheated and left and I can see he’s not happy now like he thought he was in the beginning, and he still comes around our home we shared/ use the dogs as a excuse (yet doesn’t put the true care into) and last night he got into it, he tried to tell me I’m not allowed to let any males here smh I was having a male friend come to help with my senior sick dog and even that wasn’t allowed in his mind. But I’m not listening to that mess. And I know it’s because he’s been seeing me doing so much better and happier and that I finally was able to talk to another guy and not feel like I was cheating and I felt so free!! And I am able to start truly moving on. And I feel it makes him so mad. He did the damage yet he tries to control me and is only happy when I’m here alone and away from the world and moving on. Nope I refuse to let anyone who can’t treat me right and with respect treat me in such a negative way. He slammed the back door and left the back gate wide open not worrying if my husky would of got out and hit by a car smh even didn’t show up to help with my other dog just bc he’s mad not to suck up his feelings and do what he needs for our sick senior dog. So I don’t want to hear that he cares and all the lies he spews. Hope him and his nut ball controlling gf last lol but yea she’s controlling and will go thru his phone every night ect and alot has to do with they started dating with him cheating and lying to me and she knows that and also he is til this day spying on me and hacking into my stuff so idk why his gf comes at me?? I don’t want a cheater back. This weekend I finally got to a point where I was able to talk to another guy and not feel bad or I was cheating and I felt so free and I think he read my messages and seen it and got mad. But I did still cry to my friend after he flipped last night and I think it’s bc Im just angry, and all my focus is on my sick dog and both dogs well being first. They are my kids. And he uses them for a in I think, and I am still waiting for a call back from mental health which I called in July!! So luckily my friends have helped me thru this
He could be poisoning the dogs to come near you
So what can I do? Running is too late. How do I give them narcissistic supply? I don't care anymore, I just need the semblance of sanity and minimize the abuse
You are truly an inspiration
I'm staying home. Alone is seriously better.
Do you have some support my love? x
Sadly, I wanted that lol.. But I'm too broke to quit
Remember understanding is not the same as excusing the person’s actions. We should all try to understand what the base motivations and triggers likely are of a narcissist, but we need to be careful not to weaponize it against them as they would do to us.
Bingo. I noticed this with my ex. She was never happy, only happy from external supply. She could never be happy with small things, things cheering herself.
They're all addicted to the beginning stages of a relationship when you cant wait to see or hear from a person... once the newness wears off so does the mask.. we become settled in and they become bored... a noticeable switch happens because they're in the streets trying to get other people hooked into the beginning stages of a relationship.. the only things they offer are PTSD, PH off balance, headaches, upset stomach, high blood pressure, hair loss, weight gain/loss, low self esteem, and with the way they will betray you (jail time)..
You have to leave and never look back.. they have nothing you really want.
They have so many weaknesses 🤦🏽♀️
Yeaa I’m a victim 😞 idk what to do
Support groups especially ones that your Narc doesn't know about, have helped me. Love peace and strength sent your way, it's a difficult road but I bieve you can do it. 💚✨️
I need to milk to same thing happened to me
Same -i almost feels guilty everyday becuz of them
I dunno if my mum is a narcissist, but she seeks me out to make me feel constantly bad about myself. And then when i try to keep my distance, she makes me feel guilty for not calling her (i literally call her everyday) . Now i have children, she is constantly in need to know whats going on, and the worst part is that my father has passed away this month, he was with her all the time, now the responsibility is all on me and my brother doesn't want to entertain her. I love her but i don't know how to be her daughter, makes me so sad because i wish it was a healthy relationship, but i feel constantly under so much scrutiny and pressure to be on my best behaviour. I feel like i have to walk on egg shells because she is so sensitive, and if we ever try to talk about this, she starts naming everything that she does for me, and how dare i ever make her feel bad. :(
You are right 👍 and from one woman to another you are a beautiful lady 😊
I remember my professor told me that i was probably the least selfish person in my class because i was able to experience joy by myself and with myself lbs and it didnt make sense until i started encountering narcissist and Bipolar people, they literally are succubus
THEY ARE EMPTY AND ANGRY
The ones I've known were badly abused at some point in early life. I think they need our compassion, albeit from a controlled (by you) distance. Only Jesus knew true love, he healed all who came to him. Did he stop and ask first, is this one a narcissist? Yes? Okay then, pass!
I shouldve remembered this when my narcissistic ex told me “i cant be happy”
My husband had an affair with a co-worker for nearly two years the last nine months of which I was pregnant with our second child. I found out about the other woman the week before my due date, I felt so terrible and moved back to my mother's home for 2 month with the kids after birth, he kept on apologizing to every member of my family and they all begged me to forgive him, I moved back to our home and I still had that feeling something was off, I felt deep down that I have been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillow or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more, my in-law were also very verbally abusive towards me. Wasn't allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to I had to be ready for an argument, everyday I was reminded that I am not nothing and that was not worth fighting for and that don't meet the standard of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me an had a girl friend after seeing the text and pictures, I became numb. I have been a good wife. I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who help me extract enough information from his device. Someone on here share a link to the hacker who helped me clone his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him through a remote link sent to my email,I was able to access all of his text, email, Facebook and Instagram chat real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him on What's app:+1(352)255-6426 @Lawrence Hernandez
I used to tell my mom I wanted to look like people I t thought were excellent when I was a little girl. She always said, "okay."
They need “supply “ let’s use clinical words. Without supply they will implode. It’s like kinking the oxygen line on a scuba diver
My narc ex signed for an engagement ring then found his next wife behind my back. I moved alone to go back to study and work on myself. 3 years later I found someone to love and respect me. The narc thought he could pick up his bookmark after posting very profound social media photos of every milestone with his wife leading up to him visiting back to our home state and trying to hook up with me behind her back after making HER feel special to fly home with him to meet his family. See how that cycles? Never trust a narc. Love yourself so much more.
That exact thing just happened to me, he tried hard for more than a year, and praise God I already know the game he was playing so I just watched him try. He said he regreted everything he done in the past, that he grew mature and bla bla bla. When I asked him 'what is it that you regret from every wrong doing you did to me in the past? What is it that you see now that you didn't see in the past? What does it mean to grow more mature? the asnwer was 'oh come on, I already left the past behind...why can't you just move on and be happy with mefrom now on? Lol 'Nah, thank you. Keep your offer to yourself'
You can tell that they're not happy by the situations that put you in to demean and embarrass you ..I was made homeless and put in jail on a lie and nobody cared not even the judges...
As a narcissist i don't know what to say or do when happiness is not for me am alone after seeing how wicked i am but can I be helped
Vulnerable and projecting their fears onto others
They will heighten their abuse!!!!!!!! Brilliant statement
My mother absolutely hates it when we ignore her verbal abuse.
Is it normal to be accused and even start believing your the actual narcissist, my mind is fried 😣😢
If you are even asking yourself the question then you are most definitely not a narcissist. A narcissist will never believe there is anything wrong with them x
It's normal, get sum self time every day so subconsance can recognize truth. And if someone repeats something enough, one maybe accidently believing it,brainwashing!
@@novisiblebruisesthank you I needed that I was questioning myself maybe I am the problem
Absolutely..i feel same😢
In conclusion,all negative people only in this temporary world actually are fool themselves actually 💯
Pls remember that NPD is not the same as being a bad guy
I myself have a couple of narcissistic traits, but not all of them. I'm unhappy, from living with a narcissist, but prefer my own company. My narc doesn't want to leave me alone. Blames me for being irritated at their irritating behaviour. It's like groundhog day. I know all of her stories, all of her "issues," right down to the last detail. I know what she's gonna say before she says it. She's on repeat, reliving her "worst moments" daily. It's very frustrating and I need to leave for a while. I've been building a camper van to go away for a while. I need to limit my time with this woman. I can't ditch her, because she's family, but I can limit my time with her.
I use to talk with a guy . I started like him and decided to tell him that i think he is cute and that i really want to know him . I meant to say cute in a way that i like and hope that he feel the same about me but he said that he is not cute at all . And he is narcissistic and arrogant and i said its not very nice thing to say about yourself and he said he is actually proud of it . I was totally caught offgaurd and afcourse i blocked him .
I always thought there is some gap about him and something i m not getting. He would only message me when he needed me now that i think about it and i m a sensitive person so i started to care about him . I always felt exhausted after i talked to him too and that was all through text . Imagine having such person in real life . I m glad . I said out my feelings and actually came to my senses . I have further long story before this and how i got there but its a long story
This is a great message. Thank you for this.
I'm confused in between the narcissist and bipolar.. But I'm pretty sure both have the always blame someone else pattern. Kinda similar that's why I'm confused.
That's why they shop a lot 😮 They don't genuinely care about others. They think everyone is jealous of them or they're envious of everyone
The poor people function as narcissistic sources to to the rich people. That's why it's necessary for some to play the role of a havenot. The haves can enjoy themselves and feel superior when they see the poor person struggling to get by.
Yes ,my ex narc friend, enjoyed speaking about all the stuff she would buy,her vakays,cars, education,degrees,she would send photos of her house,clothes,tell me how much she spent on stuff,looking back i realized she was tryna a rise out of me,make me jealous of her,,look at what i can have or buy,,and you can't.I never asked her or any friends their salary,she was dying to tell me,I said good for u.,that's some goood money..nothing I said to her was ever impressive to her,stopped speaking about any thing good that happened to me,It would be an automatic put down,,never noticed,when I stopped..she would speak 100% about herself,her friends,co workers,family,how well they were all doing,if i was doing fantastic she would not know😮,,then it's I have to go now,,.I would say good night,good bye,speak to u later,, so self absorbed, then one day she said I was jealous of her,,its like she had been dying to say it to me for a very long time,,,,like it was rehersed,,,,that was it for me...She never realized that me with half the stuff she had,,she was the one jealous and envious of me..I went cold turkey,,36 years "fiend" ship came to an abrupt end.i ask myself where do you start again with someone,after that statement?.no energy for that anymore.
And why we (the masses) should stop supporting the rich and famous.
Lol my mother in law and her crew
Can you now explain what a vulnerable narcissist is for the audience?
😂😂my ex is a mesirable bastard, and she married my narcissist friend. 😂😂the ultimate self-inflicted injury 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 misery loves company. God's wrath Nahum 1: 2-8
A relationinship ( if you can call it that); the so called other is damned if you do, damned if you don’t😳 I’ve had sufficient abuse, no more ever!