Gambling Addiction Cost me EVERYTHING | 40yo with NOTHING to show for it | Feeling like a WASTE
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Gambling addiction can often leave us with a feeling of a wasted life. We don't have or haven't achieved what we wanted. Maybe things aren't as bad as we think.
Thanks for watching, my name's Phil and I'm a former gambling addict. I make videos to share my experiences of gambling and talk about my recovery, abstinence and the challenges of quitting gambling. I also tend to ramble on about anything else that comes to mind and take great pleasure in dispelling some of the most common myths around gambling.
If you found this video interesting then check out the channel and consider subscribing (it would mean a lot). If you are struggling with a gambling problem then hopefully my videos will help but I strongly recommend getting some proper help from the guys below (I'm no expert, just someone who has 'been there, done that and got the t-shirt...(no) merch link in bio'.
GAMSTOP: (Online Gambling Exclusion): www.gamstop.co...
National Self-Exclusion Scheme: self-exclusion...
GAMCARE (Support and advice for problem gamblers): www.gamcare.org.uk
BreakEven (Free local gambling counselling): www.breakeven.org.uk
The Samaritans (If you ever feel like it is too much or contemplate self-harm): www.samaritans... or call 116 123
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At 56 I have no saving due to 20 years of gambling . That being said I have been gambling free for 3 months now
Great job.I know it was hard.
Yes gambling is the worst
Good job, it is never too late
You've been gambling for free now?!?!
@@toneyfree7179 yes it is. he lost his big win
I've become homeless and have been so for the past 3 years because of gambling. I go to work every day don't drink, smoke or do drugs but i have lost everything i have made working because of gambling. I'm still living in my car but have $ 4,000 dollars in my pocket because i haven't gambled for the last 8 weeks. It's not much or very long but it's a start. I deal with temptation but as each day goes by and every dollar I put in my savings is driving me to never go back the a casino.
I hope that you can find the real pleasure of friendships and being alive, and stay away from gambling. Congratulations on your taking back your time!
Gambling is the worst addiction anybody could have. With drugs and alcohol, you at least get what you pay for. With gambling you get nothing.
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dude that 4 grand can possibly win you a jackpot. bet on it since you have nothing to lose
You should start again do it online picking up your phone isnt as unkomfortable as going to a casino
This is so true!
I lost every bit of fortune I ever made (over £1 million) through my late 20s, and my entire 30s, into my early 40s because of gambling, and ended up in a literal mountain of debt, and almost ended up completely homeless.
It ruined relationships, friendships, broke trust, and destroyed basically everything.
Make NO mistake, GAMBLING RUINS LIVES!
Sorry for you mate ! you were playing sports gambling or gambling at the casino ?
The bottom line is that you did something that you loved doing and now have regrets. Who knows if you didn't gamble maybe you would not have the motivation to make money to support your gambling addiction.
Lousy gamblers have no discipline!. Be an investor, count some cards!
not everyone who gambling is addicted
You must of wanted this or you would of not been chasing money with gambling .
I'm 41 yr old gambling addict. I too have lost endless time and money to poker machines and precious moments with my kids. I hope by writing this I can some how move past this and forward in life.
Have you kept going strong?
At 41, you're pretty much done. May as well take that last nut and put it on Red. Then, when you win, let it ride. Red will come up 4 times in a row. Then switch to Black for one spin. You will win. I can FEEL it!
@@david_cop_a_feel7538arsehole!!!
Started at 18 and quit at 38. I have nothing and lost 20 years of my financial life. My last spin on the slot machines was 01/15/2024. After 3 months or so you stop thinking about gambling all together.
I bet you stopped thinking about gambling. I bet you never give it a single thought.
one day you also will gamble again
@@sonminh3161 you were definitly throw to wall as a kid. I'm hoping that spot of tea is good
The concept you said of “to not compare oneself with someone else but, instead, compare oneself with who one was yesterday”, was a very different and more personal and meaningful way to measure improvement. Good idea.
4 months into a relapse. It's getting ugly again. Going to try stopping again tomorrow. Thanks for your support Phil.
You know keeping your self busy helps sometimes. Like gardening, creating art, painting or building a chair or whatever. When I’m busy I don’t let my brain play that trick on me because even after a loss, the brain still thinks there is another bet worth risking .
When ever I wanted to gamble I would spend whatever money I would have on clothes or something for myself. I was so use to never having and spending money the idea of buying myself a gift was actually really nice
Keep going and never stop gambling! The gambling gods will bless you!
No you won't. You just had a bad loss.
Keep it up man
I am 21 and I have nothing. I feel broken dead inside. Gambling as been a crippling addiction for me since I was 15. From May to September I was clean and then I lost all my money and money my grandfather gave me to pay for a surgery I needed and to pay for school. I lost 2700€ in 5 days. I ran away from my country. I have damaged and hurt so many people for so long. I am almost 2 months clean now. I am paying back money to people I owe. I am working in another country and I am coming back in the 2nd of December to start going to 12 steps group and a psychiatrist. I need help. I finally realize that. I have been trying alone for to long. Thank You for this video my friend. Thank You for sharing and caring. Thank You for fighting back! Stay strong!
You can do it my brother. I was super addicted at your age and in around £10000 debt. I turned it around and 8 years later I have my own company and drive a sports car.
Temptation returned recently and I lost £4000 so I’m on here to stop myself falling into a hole like the past.
You’re so young you only need a few good years and this will seem like a memory.
@@stephenhawkingsfootballboo6603 - I bet if you took what you have and put it all on Player on the first hand of Baccarat as soon as you sit down, you'd win. I can FEEL it. It has to be a Strip Hotel/Casino in Vegas, though. Anywhere else, you may lose. But Vegas = Guaranteed Win.
You’re story is like a copy of mine bruv… 22 years old now and just today lost all my savings because I was furious I lost 1100 that I won earlier. I can’t seem to think reasonable and it’s destroying me throughout these younger years. I also brought my family members so much problems and keep lying to my parents. Saying I can do this on my own… I’m throwing away banking apps and gonna only use cash if that doesn’t work I’m seeking help also. This is my last chance.
@@pvpgodz2763 - It's far from your last chance. You have much, MUCH more suffering to do. You're only 22. This is a life-long disease and it's going to torment you through marriage, divorce, affairs, breakups, drunken winning streaks, drunken losing streaks, drunken fights with cops. But the first thing you need to do is learn the difference between Your and You're. Once you've done that, you will no longer sound like a moron when crying like a little bitch.
hi how did you start yo gamble at 15 how did you get access
I am in literal tears of happiness listening to this video. For me, that was one of the most powerful talks I’ve ever heard. This video is really giving me hope for a happy future that I’m truly able to attain. Thank you so much for this
Thanks Tim, I'm glad it struck a chord with you. Thanks for supporting the channel and wishing you all the best in your recovery - Phil
Gabor mate explains perfectly the connection between past trauma and addiction... Addiction can be drugs/alcohol/gambling etc ... Just a way of coping mechanism. In reality no1 is born a drug addict/alcohol abuser/gambler this is a inspirational video Yes it is but really need to look at the root of the problem... This addictions we are hooked on are no different than any medicine that's used for pain... Only difference is the pain of what ever we individuals have is inside of us.. Highly recommend Gabor mate download his podcasts if can.. There are millions of people out there in need of help but feel ashamed/most importantly hopeless
My partner of 5 years is gambling beyond measure now. He’s talking to these “professional” gamblers who are encouraging it. I’m leaving him. I’ve sent him this video because he is about to lose everything he had with me. I can’t do it anymore. He said I’m controlling because I’ve begged him to stop.
Damn. Sorry to hear. Unfortunately, gambling is promoted everywhere by major companies and sports so these “professional “ gamblers prey on the weak minded. I gamble often but I’m usually disciplined but I know many who have lost hundreds of thousands and millions. I will say, if I wasn’t single, I’d gamble less because I’d rather spend that money on a trip with my gf. I gamble more often when I’m not dating
I lost 500 dollars a month ago after being clean 5 years losing mid 6 figures.
I'm in 30s now and this video saved me. Never thought of things your way sir. Thank you, God bless you.
I've been gambling for 14-15 years now, throwing almost every dollar I've made at the casino. The worst part about it is I can't see any kind of future where I prosper.
Gambling addiction is a demon and is destroying lives😕JESUS saves!!!!
Thoughts and prayers from germany 🙏 😇
@@DecipleExactly, for by myself I can do nothing but I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
( Ashamed to admit it but after the lockdowns here in Ireland I lost all my savings in a casino and i will be paying back money lenders for another 10 months, remember me in prayer please brother, God bless you and your family.
Good sign to quit, no?
Study blackjack and get back in the saddle. Come on let’s win it all back.
It
Helped… thank you. 🙏🏽
I’m 37, going on 38yrs old this year. Of course, it’s my new year resolution to quit gambling. I just got off a call with my 13yr old daughter and told her my new year resolution, and how I’m getting close to 40 and have nothing to show for it. 😏 Long story short. I open my TH-cam app and this is my first suggested video!! God sent. Thanks again. Just what I needed. God Bless you and and everyone else in this chat looking for help or battling this addiction.
So your a loser you have to look at the facts you would rather gamble than treat your daughter it’s the same thing I do we r losers and honestly don’t deserve much
I don’t think it’s an addiction anymore I think those r excuses honestly all you have to do is not gamble. Go try heroin that is an addiction lol stop being a lazy loser
Man, ur 38 and have a teen. Ur doing really good to be wasting money gambling. I’m 32 never married and no kids and gamble because I’m bored and lost my college friends over time. U have a family that u should be with. Get it together my man. Best of luck
My close friend wasted his entire inheritance and now has nothing. Gambling addiction is brutal & no joke. We all tried to help him stop, but it was like this crazy trajectory. He hid a lot of the reality of it, but it was so much worse than anyone could have ever imagined. I have no idea what he’s going to do
atleat now he will talk about the good old days
Am writing a book on it. It’s hard though. It’s going be two combined into one. Gambling is no good if you’re addicted.
Am writing a book on it. It’s hard though. It’s going be two combined into one. Gambling is no good if you’re addicted.
Am writing a book on it. It’s hard though. It’s going be two combined into one. Gambling is no good if you’re addicted.
Am writing a book on it. It’s hard though. It’s going be two combined into one. Gambling is no good if you’re addicted.
I’m 44 and in recovery. I quit for a year in my late 20’s but that’s been it. Thank you for this video. I feel like I don’t have anything to show for it. However, there is the time back that I won’t be wasting anymore of it
Can we talk about garbling or have A group of gambler's?
Compulsive gamblers can be addicted to the losing aswell,it's only about the money when there's none left,in the beginning and middle of the session (Could be a day or week,month long session) u think your in control,and have ignored many or all of your triggers, I've been addicted to drink,drugs, gambling,one at a time and sometimes all at once,but the hardest one to break is the gambling and that's been 30 plus years now,I think some people are addicted to addictions,sometimes without a root cause or reason.
Mostly men are addicted to gambling. And the reason is because men pay for women always and are their slaves
A lot of compulsive gamblers say they like to lose it makes them feel like they are still alive even through they lost it all.
It's a substance addiction, it's just an endogenous substance. The addiction is harder to break because the rush is great. That's my guess.not a gambler but am addicted lol
I’ve lost millions and I always think I can get it back . I keep digging myself a deeper hole I am destroying my life and my family and people around me . But I owe so much that I keep thinking I need to gamble to win and pay my debt.
Hard to blow millions on a heroin habit....
@@fatstar111 lol that’s facts gambling is the only habit you can blow millions
Hope you are better, I know the feeling of just keep digging yourself into a bigger hole and feeling worthless! Have faith that things could get better if you stop having that train of thought.
God Bless!
@@poncianosandoval I want to stop but I owe so many people and I don’t know many years it will take by me working a 9 to 5
Be there, done that. I realize if I stopped I could never lose again. This was seven years ago. Now I married and living a great life with plenty of money. I also use to think I couldn't get out of debt without gambling, and that is 100% false
I'm 43. I gambled majority of my money online within the past 3yrs close to 200k plus 30k credit card debt. I'm currently working on forgiving myself and a 6yr plan to grow my new business.. stay strong 💪
Good luck with the new venture,
Hey, any chance we could have a conversation? I desperately need some help and inspiration right now, and am in a similar if not worse situation: thank you.
Did you ever consider getting better at picking winners?
very similar there
One thing gained from losing all my money is this wisdom. Thanks for posting!
I only been gambling for one year and lost around 80k just on slots machines may Allah bless and protect all gamblers amine
You can bless yourself by quitting.
80k is a lot..are you for real?
Bro, forget the past. You have to call it a day.
It’s a dirty habit and the urge for a dopamine hit and trying to get money for free is difficult to overcome, but you got to do it for yourself.
By the way I am Muslim and I overcome the addiction after over 20 years of serious addiction and destroying myself day in and day out.
It’s not easy I ain’t gonna lie, but you will destroy everything that you love in life. Yourself, relationships, family, friends and health will all suffer….and the longer you gamble the longer the suffering.
I need to stop this disgusting habit been gambling since 2006 ive done 6-9 months a couple of times and longest i have g/f been 2 years since lockdown 2019- 2021 i thought it was past me i know it can be beaten wish me luck
@@Taz4u12k4 I see that you’re proven that you can quit. Gambling is the only cancer that doesn’t feed itself. And the industry sees you as just revenue
I really appreciate these videos, im in 4months recovery and didnt think id ever get here, After numerous attempts to quit. These videos give me an extra push
yes phil is awsome
@@patrickprendergast9589 he is saving lives here, More than we think.
What helped you to stay on track and stay away from gambling for 4 months?
@@KimJilene Its strange, Im in a relapse phase about 2 weeks now. Im struggling a to stop again, This is not easy
I used to consider myself lucky. I won 1.4 million in 2 months and felt on top of the world. However, 7 months later, I lost it all and ended up 130k in debt. I'm still paying it off now, but I haven't gambled since then and don't plan to. No matter how tempting it gets, remember "one day you have it all, the next day you have less than you started with"
That’s mental
Stumbled across this video. Very wise words and well-expressed. I think it could apply to any kind of crutch or addiction that people use to compensate for their feelings of not being enough. IMO, life boils down to a simple equation. Happiness = Reality - Expectations. It’s the unrealistic expectations created by things like social media that makes so many people miserable. The best things in life are the things that cost nothing - health, security, good friendships, nature etc. A gigantic cliché, but nevertheless, a truth.
I have more money than I know what to do with and I continue to gamble every day. I don’t need any extra money, but I continue to gamble. Sports betting is my vice. What I don’t like is how it steals my time. My thoughts are consumed with statistics, looking at the days best betting odds etc. I cannot figure out for the life of me why I continue. Winning doesn’t even feel good anymore… Thank you Phil for this video. Today is the day I’m going to attempt to quit gambling. I need to do a little more research, but I’m tired of this addictive feeling.
Well done again, Phil. Gratitude is powerful if you really think about it. If you are reading this, you are better than your addiction. Overcome and support others.
Materialism is one of the reasons we gamble, striving for financial achievements. Assets have no true value, as long as we have health and freedom, we're winning at life.
Success isnt measured by our bank balance, it's judged by our character and the impact we have upon others.
very true, our daily bread & a place to lay our heads is most important
As much as I agree, it’s not entirely true. We live in a materialistic world. Every one of us has looked at someone else’s life and wished it was theirs for even a day. Couple that with how terrible the economy is, bad job market, high home prices, and you get a lot of people living in despair so they go to the casino to escape reality because sometimes it’s depressing thinking about the future
@@SAsh-zg6ln You just described materialism.
Materialism is what we must escape from and casinos aren't the solution they're very much part of the problem. Striving for a perceived material comparison is unattainable, as we can only ever be ourselves. Be true to yourself, avoid false temptation and recognise what is truly important. Winning is a measurement of success, which is an accomplishment of purpose, our ultimate purpose in life is to sacrifice, we need to realise how we impact others and the world around, and behind us. We're not so important that our needs and desires must come first.
@@summan41man very true
not true you also need love. i am very ugly because of a bone disorder (i am physically healthy its just a aesthetic problem) and my life is horrible because i am alone and have never been loved. i will probably end myself
Such a good talk. I live near a casino (Pechanga) and I'll go in, walk around, and just watch people. It just defies logic. But the last time I went (a few days ago) will be my last. People come with others, but in short order, their friend is the slot machine they are playing. No communication, just the stillness of the machine and the sucker playing. And Phil nailed it, the biggest loss of all is time. It's the mundane, and the simple pleasures in life that makes up the sum total of life. It's not the highs of hitting it big gambling. It's like judging one's happiness on a scale from one to ten--we shoot for 10, but 5 is actually good enough.
Thanks for your comment Mike. It’s so true, gambling is sold as an exciting, social activity but it’s tedious and lonely. We get the dopamine hit which makes the brain think we’re having “fun” but, if we take that dopamine away, we’re playing a boring game. It’s wonderful to rediscover pleasure in the simple things. Wishing you all the best - Phil
this is somehow sadder than gambling though you waste your time walking around the casino watching gamblers ? do something else please
@@antzooma Thank you for your kind words. I'll take them to heart and not walk around a casino anymore. Again, thank you.
@@mikefixac good
Your mindset is spot on. I can tell youve had a journey cos ive been through chronic mental health crisis's and trauma and i share your exact way of thinking and i couldnt be happier. I think they call it becoming enlightened😊
Hi Nikolai, thanks for sharing your experience. You’re right, my advice only comes from my negative experiences but I hope it helps others. Thanks for supporting the channel and wishing you all the best - Phil
Very good! Often at times people forget that their lives could be worse. Very humbling video.
Ty Phil for taking your time making this video intelligently addressing this topic and helping out all of us. Bless you and everyone watching this
Brilliant video Phil! Money isn’t the be all and end all. Being happy and content is more important. Social media can sometimes be a hinderance as you can’t help but compare yourself to others.
As someone else said, the concept of comparing yourself to who you were yesterday instead of others was incredibly powerful. I can see this being a great way to improve ones self for the right reasons instead of the wrong ones. This whole video was inspiring but that section in particular was a game changer for me. Thank you so much for making this video and I wish you all the best!
Comparing yourself to yourself there is no point comparing yourself to others at least you have goals
I have an addictive personality so i found a weird way to stop my gambling addiction and it works 😍🙌 . I just got a new addiction and that is saving money and now i dont want to spend money at all . Im never broke and always have what i wish i could of got from gambling and now i dont bother betting i cant gain anything from it now i already have lots of money an no problems . Hope this helps someone
How do I develop this mindset of saving after a years of gambling like crazy?
How I wish I can be like you
Thank you for this video. For me, my regret and sadness comes from destroying my entire retirement savings and being left with extreme debt which includes tax, loan debt. and credit card debt. I’m 49 years old and gamble free but these reminders kill me. Some days are pretty rough.
This was a great speech, totally got every word,all addictions take away normal every day feelings, reset your mind and go cycling for a clear outlook. Thanks baz🇬🇧
It's been awhile now that I've dug myself out of the hole.
Still at times I play once in awhile and surprisingly I win.
But what helps me is being honest with my wife when I do things. I leave when I am up and just stop playing for awhile and go back a few months later.
The self-control and being conscience of what is happening when I gamble is crazy.
But there are times when I know I make that extra bet when I said I would stop. Then I reflect and think about what that is. In my experience that feeling is literally the devil inside my head almost hoping for the self-destruction button to click.
It's a scary thought really.
But accepting it for what it is and being honest with yourself and those closest to you about this thing called gambling day to day, then it should help because it helps me.
God bless everyone out there. When your down and out always remember that you're not alone. The sun will rise again. You have time. You're not a failure.
I hit rock bottom with no prospects and now I have a beautiful wife, 2 children and a great job.
Never give up.
100 % agree that the time we lose through gambling is the biggest loss.
Money can come back relatively quickly when you stop, but it's the mental fatigue, the time you get back with people that you care and love for that is the most important thing in life.
Life is much more than money , your mental health is so much more important.
I am now 5 years gamble free after almost losing everything, family, house, my mental health.
Just for today, I will not gamble
Wise indeed Phil, a modern day Sage! I think you have nailed the current consumer "culture" and puts me in mind of Thoreau who was equally puzzled 160 years ago, by the onrushing and changing economic dynamic of the time " we work hard in jobs we hate, to buy stuff we don't want to impress people we don't like....simplify, simplify!" I really enjoy your videos, keep up the good work!
Thanks for your comment Simon...I love that quote and it's so true (I'll sure I'll find a way to sneak it into a video at some point). All the best - Phil
I had to move far away from the casino as possible. To quit my addition its been 3 weeks since. Now im having trouble dreaming about that big win.
Bro in my country casinos and sport bet places are everywhere also a lot of kaffes and bars with machines
Lol
I'm 57. Got nothing. Got no one. Had enough. No more. I'm freeing myself of this pain. I refuse to ever gamble again.
Hi Phil hope you read this mate. Can you please make a video on how to deal with the anxiety and overall stress regarding being in debt? Or any videos regarding hmrc debt
I told myself right now that I am done gambling for good! Forget chasing. I’ve been chasing for almost 20 years and my life hasn’t improved. It is sad to have no money in your account every week, credit score is 400 now, I was paying ten loans now it’s four, stopped paying credit cards, postponed my payment for my medical bill, haven’t given money to my Mom monthly, I only have 3 hours sleep, sometimes I’m hungry but mostly not, BUT my sex drive is high 😅 Long story short, it’s almost my birthday and I want change! With the help from Jesus Christ 😊 I want my old life back where I enjoy traveling and just buying whatever I want 😌
I'm not religious myself but I hope you find strength and get help from your faith. Thanks for supporting the channel and wishing you all the best in your recovery - Phil
Keep God in your life. Everything will get better you'll see but dont forget him once it does ❤
Yes, Jesus Christ is the answer and he will free you from the desire and addiction of gambling, he did for me. Also sex outside marriage is a sin in God’s eyes, if you meant your wife I apologize but if not then you need to stop immediately and repent. Trust in Jesus for all things, he ask very little and gives so much.
@@alextaylor8776 thank you 😊 I am single and spoiled and can’t have a relationship until I fix myself. Wife? I don’t want to 😅😂
I’m a pathological gambler and lost everything 8 years ago. Sometimes I think what can I learn from a guy that says he’s gambling addict. I tend to minimize minor gambling problems because I feel they don’t experience the things pathological gamblers do; at least not at that level. Gambling problem gambling addiction gambling disorder whatever you want to call it. They all suck. My point is this. I tend to think I can’t learn from other gambling addicts. Thank you for the reality check. I really appreciate the wisdom about comparing yourself to yesterday you. That was awesome. Wish you all the good energy in the world. Peace, Victor
this is a really good video because it is also applicable to life in general, in so many ways.
Be content with what you have. Do not be jealous of others because you don't know what they went through to get to where they are. Be happy.
Great video!!! This is what I've been thinking about.time with my family and my dog.roof over my head.I drive a 1996 ford taurus my "friends" make fun of me but I don't care.8 months gamble free and getting happier everyday.Thank you Phil.
I’m glad you are getting better. Some people never get out that shit
@@Henrys.slots1 thanks I now own a 2010 cadillac srx I watch santos and only phil videos they help me stay gamble free.
Brought to tears from this. Thank you for sharing and trying to help me
You are a very wise man. I used to compare myself to others and was miserable. Then I began to change once I started living those words "Comparison is the Thief of Joy". I am so much happier than I have been in the past.
Thanks man. Needed to hear this & I know I’m not the only one.
Phil. Your Videos always help. Thank you
Great video, really hit home on a lot of things. The "Comparison is the thief of all joy" really is true and prevalent to me.
Hi Phil. Your videos helped me quit gambling for 11 months. I relapsed 2 months ago. I'm back to watching your videos. Gonna try to quit again. Thanks.
11 months is brilliant and, if you did it once, you can do it again. Wishing you all the best in your recovery and thanks for the support - Phil
this video is one of the most realistic and truthful about the life, thank you for this lesson
i have 18 years btw, i lost the confidence of my fathers because of the gambling, i did horrible things to then like make they pay my gambling bills and i fell sad about this. I didnt lose a lot of money, i have a great cellphone, a great pc, great things for a 18 years boy but this things of making my parents worried is one of my biggests mistakes, i lost all my control when i gamble, but today is the day that i will stop, i have this confidence today
I started gambling at 16 with scratch cards, (laws in the uk have changed, it's now illegal to buy scratch cards and lottery tickets under 18). I'm 24 now and I feel like I've wasted what were suppose to be the fun years of my youth addicted to this stuff. The thing that keeps me chained to this compulsion is the sunk cost fallacy, I keep telling myself that if I stop playing, I won't have a chance at winning, and if I don't win, then I will never be compensated for those years I lost. what pisses me off isn't the dept I'm in, it's the time I've lost, the friends I distanced myself from and the family members I hurt. Thanks for these videos, I don't really feel comfortable talking to anyone in person about this issue since I feel so ashamed. My feet are starting to touch the ground more nowadays, I think it's because I'm turning 25 and starting to watch people I use to know get serious about their lives, I'm starting to see my gambling habit for what it really is, a time stealer.
Your so right mate I'm 38 years old and gambled from 12 years old started on fruit machines I can only give you one piece off advice get urself to gamblers anonymous meeting and try stop mate you will have nuin all Ur days I'm going from the way my life as went we are all different but as a gambler we are all the same it messes Ur head and life up and you will at some point in Ur life want to hurt urself the addiction is so bad so I'm being honest get out the gambling game asap buddy I'm talking from all the years I have wasted over the years all the relationship I have wasted over and over thank fully I'm now going to get the help I need you do the same time is on yourself
You can't tax the poor, but you can offer them a 1:100,000 chance to win 10,000 (with smaller bonus prizes). The poor will buy tickets and loose money.
The best part is, in the U.S. the winner doesn't get the whole payout. The federal government takes 28% of all winnings over $600. Federal lotto could run a 1:600 chance of winning 600 and take 28% of all winnings in tax.
Gambling addiction is a demon and is destroying lives 😕 JESUS saves!!!
Thoughts and prayers from germany 🙏 😇
Every gambler is gambling to get lost money back (just one big win) . But even if you win the money back your brain is now altered and you will lose it all again fast. You have waisted 10 years and the only thing worse is to waist another year or say the next 30 years. Stop now and get some help if you need to. As said in the video worst loss IS time and everybody is not driving a Lamborghini. Compare yourself to yesterday starting now.
@@tylerhorn3712 WTF people playing a game should not cause any stress on anyone. Why worry about other people and stuff rather than just focus on ones own things?
I went on a gambling spree and lost $8,000 + in a month only have 11,000 left 😢
Went on TH-cam and came across this video, Very Help Phil. I don’t want to lose the remainder, I want to use it for property investment. But I need a lot more.
I hope this is my turn around and don’t go back gambling
Good luck Alex. Glad you took action before all the money was gone. Wishing you all the best for the future - Phil
Don't chase Alex it'll never work! Best just start saving again with what you earn rather than risk it all... that's what gambling is risk
You will never win gambling. If you win today you’ll loose it again tomorrow. It’s not worthed it. Only play what you don’t mind loading
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Hi Phil, your videos are briilliant. They’ve really helped me through a tough time. 1 month no gambling and I keep watching your videos to help me when the urges come. Thanks again mate 👍
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I've almost lost all my money every pay day to e-sports. This has given me a lot of worries considering that I also have many debts with defaulted payments.
Then stop wasting your money.
Thanks for this. I feel exactly like what you said. I'm in my mid 30's and feel like I've wasted my life so far. I have nothing to show from my years of being a salaried employee. The point about time lost is a good one though, I have to keep that in mind.
I have enormous respect for gambling addicts that have eliminated gambling from their lives. I am Bipolar and periodically suffer from psychosis and my experience of addiction was through using illicit substances and abusing or misusing prescribed medications such as Valium.
My condition means that have periods of extreme mood which can lead to a break with reality: I consider myself blessed because I live in a time where I can design treatment regimes that minimise the harms of my condition.
Gambling has no such interventions. I believe that gambling addiction is the biggest mental health issue facing young men in particular and it is almost exactly like a mania and psychosis episode. People with gambling addictions have huge psychological hurdles to navigate on their recovery journey and they deserve proper support, proper treatment and guidance to eliminate gambling from their lives.
Great videos. Thanks 🖖😎👌❤️
"Therapist: On a scale of 1-10 how would your rate your level of excitement when gambling? Patient: Ten. Outside of gambling what's the highest level of excitement you feel? three. How do you feel about living the rest of your life at a three? OK." - Owning Mahony
such a great movie
The problem I had and I’m sure is the main problem for all gamblers is no matter what the outcome was, whether I was up I’d try to make more because I thought the money I made was “free money” , then I’d lose it all and even when I was down I’d then chase to try and get it all back but in fact lose it all. I’d set limits on gambling apps but then just download another, it’s so easy to do nowadays and very scary
love all that you said! I think the important part of this video is changing your aspect on success.. having a roof over head and a car is a success, not gambling a whole day is a success! need to count the small successess! got me subscribed!
I’m 41 going on 42 according to society I should be married and have kids and own my home….i don’t …..kinda hard not to be feeling down.
I can’t say I know anything about gambling addiction, but I know that you’re brave for talking about this subject, thanks for the video
Wow, extremely good point about the defining success by financial wealth and material things. This is part of why so many people get into gambling in the first place. They want to be wealthy and the idea of winning big is the fastest and easiest way to do it. Only problem is it doesn’t happen.
I'm glad you didn't script this, you made a lot of very good sense and very helpful, thankyou. Nick.
Yknow what. Iv been feelin its probably about time to call that number after a record losing streak but i like what you said " If you gambled today, dont gamble tomorrow an you'll instantly be better" Its the first Week of NFL an that itch is callin but i wont be gambling tomorrow, Thanks Phil.
I gave up gambling 6 months ago. I lost a 3rd generation business because of it. I currently live in a veterans homeless transitional housing program and could be happier. I feel free. So much time lost in casinos. I finally called the gaming commissions in all neighboring state for lifetime ban. A true gambler loves winning as well as losing.
fantastic inspiration words, one of best videos in recent times
Yes people need to speak out more
Such a great outlook on how to enjoy life just that much more, I am 21 and watching this video made me think better about my current situation and struggles.
Well said , When i loose money to gambling i always felt thaiåt i lost myself too. Become a different Person ,low esteem,don t talk , can sleep don t feel hangry very angry even though I wasn’t t gambling every day,sometimes 1 a month sometimes 1in 4 months,I do win but always go back .my last game I won but I felt it s not worth it .again cannot sleep or eat and living like can t focus and felt very bad .I went to casino and asked to banned .now I have the feeling as I m still prisoner to my gambling but thanks God I m not gambling anymore.good luck to you all
I have lost approximately 2 million, just had a big lost in April, I don't want to eat, don't want to communicate with no one, sad life.
Money is not associated with success it is success. Money buys health kids and therefore your future. I don't know what a better measure of success is that being able to raise kids safe healthy and successfully.
I once gambled money that was supposed to care for my mothers home care , she has a chronic illness . I really cant wrap my head around how I did that, its like something that takes a hold of you
Thanks for sharing your story. Unfortunately this addiction can make you do things that are not normally in your nature. Wishing you all the best for the future - Phil
Demons 😢
Phill I’ve tried to stop many times. My longest run is 4 months only gambling free,
I’m a 34yr old man and been doing my conkers ever since I was 18, friends, relationships, family lost due to this cancerous so called hobbie. I’ve been watching your videos the past few weeks but is there really light at the end of the tunnel? My will power is zero, I hate losing my money but my head loves gambling, just makes no sense. The only thing I’ve got from gambling is debt up until I’m 43 lol paying monthly with step change, what a truly sad sadddd sad existence.
This sounds stupid but can you stop with very little will power, in general have zero. I hate this inevitable monthly addition
And yeah I’m only here cause it was payday and lady and I’ve done my conkers but still horrible hole. Any advice be massively appreciated off anybody! Thanks from Adam
😢😢😢my story exacltly
Matched betting thank me later
Gam-stop works. Bans you from everything. Unless you're someone who walks into the bookies on the high street. But then you can spend a day ring them up asking them to not let you in. Good luck
How are you doing now?
there are things called demons.... entities that keep stuck in vice..I suggest call on your higher self/God
Very well said that man. You certainly have a way with words and are very wise. Enjoy listening to your videos. 👌
In Canada, the introduced something called a "Tax Free Savings account" Every year you can contribute $5,000 Dollars to it... $250 every two weeks on pay day. Don't even notice it missing for the most part.... I did not partake, because I'd rather gamble.... fast forward a few years.... the people that maxed out thier TFSA every year are sitting at $88k and I have nothing.... thier compound interest is killing it and I'm slinking around the shadows wondering how I can get from here to there... the answer is literally $250 every two weeks. Or $125 a week. Or $20 a day. Think about that before buying that coffee or pack of smokes ya!!
Cheers from Canada 🇨🇦
I don't know you mate but great video with some really well expressed thoughts people need to hear. Keep up making these videos and don't let anyone knock you off the path. If you think about it this way your TH-cam channel has probably already helped more people than nearly everyone with a Lamborghini and a mansion working for a private company - and if that is not a measure of a successful life then what else is?
Thank you very much! It feels like we are alone with this but truth is that there is many out there like us. Now, while I am writing this I noticed that im gambling at the same time. Makes me sick.
35 years old, nearly paid off my end of terraced house, and saving for retirement (approx £80k). Not bragging at all, but if you set your mind to it, you can achieve anything. It's not all about money or material things (I drive a 2017 berlingo everywhere), but being financially stable will give you freedom later on. Best advice, build a good career where you can be useful to others, and try to pick something you enjoy. Stay away from pubs, drugs, toxic people and focus on you. Facebook and Instagram will destroy your mental health and distract you from your goals. They are designed to create envy. Time is your mist valuable asset. Don't waste it. Start early. Remember there is no shortcut or easy route.
Knight hawk you saved 80k that’s great.
Knight hawk you saved 80k that’s great.
Knight hawk you saved 80k that’s great.
Brilliant video. Definition of what living should be!!!!! Keep the fantastic work!!!!
From 7:10-10:00mins is so true from my perspective.
I instantly subscribed on such thoughts.
The hardest thing for me was filling my time during the early stages of quitting just like with alcohol addiction.
All your mates are in the bar at a certain time after work yet you have to be away from the bar or any social setting because it’s too much to watch them drink and get drunk whilst you just stay being “normal” and sober
You don’t really suffer from alcoholism until you get sober! xxx
I’m on day 2. 🙏🏽 thank you for this video it helped with my perspective
That shit ain’t easy
day by day. hope you are staying well.
Recovered gambling addict here. Fortunately, I stopped quite early in my life, at 24, but from 18-24 it was REALLY ugly, I'm talking about a couple quid left on the bank account with a week to go of the month, sticking it in the pokies for a hail-mary -ugly. I'm now 28, and apart from a lapse a year or so ago, I've been free for 4 years. My life is immensely better, and I am starting to work up a bit of a savings, a rainy day fund if you will. I hope you guys are doing good :)
Lots of encouraging comments on here. Stay strong my friend
you know whats weird? ive never put a single penny into online gambling and im up about $200 overall due to daily bonus and hitting zeros in roulette, but i still feel like a failure when i lose money?
Yeah my dad wasted his life because he was gambling. He was losing his monthly salaries all the time and was laying to my mom that his boss didn't pay him up. It has a massive impact on everyone in the family. Terrible addiction on the same level as alcoholism.
Ty Phil your the reason I stopped gambling I was going well but Tommorow is a new day..I will work at it
Quality video mate really appreciate your honest words.
Gambling addiction is a demon and is destroying lives 😕Thoughts and prayers from germany 🙏 😇
When I was a boy,, every Saturday my Father would put a bet on a Horse !!! I never recal him ever being joyful and saying he had Won !!!! I thought he was Daft. So when I started earning money I bought things that I wanted !!!! I don't drink or smoke !!!! I always realised that I would always lose at Gambling. I am 69 yrs old now and never married and I have been able to buy anything I wanted. I am not rich and I never spent money on Cars. I had a few Motorbikes which I maintained myself. I have always been terrified of becoming homeless, so Gambling was completely out of the Question !!!!! I've had friends who gambled everything away. But they would always say that they would Win one day. I always said No you won't and I was always right !!!! I was a Security Guard in a Holiday camp when a Girl member of Staff won. £200 from a slot machine !!!! I pleaded with her to take the money and buy herself something nice. But she put every penny back into that same machine !!!!
This was very well articulated sir. Great video
Great video , I’m done gambling & I’m a better man for it
"Compare yourself to who you were before".
It's true what you say about time. Although I have lost close to £15k since I started in July 2021, the thing I regret most is the time I lost not the money!
Appreciate your conversation. It was very very uplifting. Thank you.
25 years and noting besides lottery. Inside one month I am down and out. It just crept back. All gambling is a risk but online is vile runing lives.
Thank you so much for explaining about the gambling. Your voice is very important and true!👍👍👍👏👏👏
I have stopped gambling from today! I've been gambling for the past 6years.
I think it's helpful to remember that everybody loses everything they ever worked for anyways at death, even if they didn't gamble it away. The only things we get to keep upon resurrection (according to scriptures) are the things we store up inside ourselves (virtues, wisdom, things learned). So yes as Phil is saying, we should be measuring success based on our personal improvement over time, not based on how big the number we see when we log into bank account.
I'm about to turn 40 and for 20 years I've been really addicted to gambling..I haven't had any friends for years..all my wages have been gambled away and I've been in bankruptcy for 14 years..yesterday and today I gambled again..now I have no money for food.
Same last 5 years im going same cafe looking football bets i lost every contaxt with my friends, family nothing no hobbies no travel no women im in my own prison, so late for life so young for grave
If you can't control your gambling the you shouldn't do it. Yes its easy to go down that rabbit hole and not be able to get out of it. I know that I only gamble what I can afford to lose. My stop loss is $500 to $600 and once that happens I dont play for months. I spread out my gambling playing time bc I know that the longer and the more you play the bigger the chances are you become addicted. I look for "opportunities" to make money gambling (whether its Blackjack or Roulette) at the right time. Once I make a quick profit, $700, $1000 or more I get out. Wish you the best Phil. Thank you for sharing your story.
You are still winning! After you lose you will realize! I’ve been there!! Stop while you can
@@geraldramos5770 NO I have lost before and gone on a losing streak. The difference between you and me is that I STOP and dont play for months at a time then when I start winning any losses I incurred I get back. Example: I just won recently over $3k in two sessions but last week lost $550. I never cashed out all of my winnings bc I left about $300 combined in two of my accounts. So I am really down $250 which I can win back quickly and make up the difference. IF I lose the $300 extra I will not play for another two or three months. Thats HOW I stay in control. I am not a compulsive gambler bc when I lose and Im at my stop limit I dont play again for a while.
Been watching you from the start
Just wanted to say thank you 😊 top man 👍