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They don't understand this. It worked maybe 40 years ago but in today's world people are so busy they don't have time to play games. It's either you in or you out.
@@dallasdandy6276 yes. that's exactly the reason why relationships fail and number of divorces are high nowadays. people have no time to get to know people better before jumping into relationship.
I unfriend anyone who keeps this up for months or starts ghosting me so wish the best of luck to the next sucker and move on. I don't have time for playing games, I rather play Apex Legends instead.
Sometimes they’re not ignoring or ghosting in purpose. They have their own reasons. People shouldn’t care about that much or get bc of it. Sometimes people are dealing with shit and don’t have that time and energy to be talking to people all the time.
The best response for this type of persons is to move forward and never look back again. They will learn a moral lesson that could make them better, honest persons in their future.
Truth is no one likes getting rejected and playing hard to get is a fail safe way to avoid that. Only thing is by not taking the chance you could miss out. We all do it to an extent wether we realize it or not.
Best to just find somebody who don't play those Games all day... Because when the games are said and done you'll find that she'll expect you to continue to play games all your life to make her happy I say don't do that from the start... Worry about your own peace and happiness
Why is she playing hard to get? #1 Fear of Commitment #2 Pure Immaturity #3 Self-Centeredness (she really believes the whole world centers upon her) #4 She is ALWAYS looking for the next fellow & WILL cheat even if she "commits" #5 She is clueless about her role in relationships (and can NEVER be a good mate!) #6 She is HURT & broken inside from being constantly dumped (a Chad chaser, as they say) #7 She is unsure about your value & wishes to test your power #8 She is unsure of her value to you & wishes to test your commitment to catching her. #9 She feels worthless & needs you to chase her so she can feel better about herself. #10 She hates men in general, but likes sex with men, so she REALLY is being honest in her duplicity. Note, MOST of the reasons girls play hard to get are internal to them. Most reasons stem from poor self esteem &/or low moral value. ONLY TWO of the 10 reasons for she plays hard to get have anything to do with you. If she fails to see your value (#7), she is probably not worth your time. If she cannot understand why you descend to her level, then you will have to do serious work building her esteem up so she can be a good mate not fearful of being abruptly abandoned. So, WHY would any real man want to pursue a little girl who plays such games???? Only if he is desperate or only if he failed to protect his emotions & he managed to fall for a girl he does not personally know (foolish). Want the little date-gaming girls guys?? You go right ahead & twist yourselves to fit around their pinkies. I prefer an honest woman with actual value.
I once heard it said like this: "A lot of you men don't understand your true value, so you continue to put up with trash behavior, instead of letting that woman go." I thought about that statement quite a lot, and it seems to me that any person, whether they're a man or woman, who has self-respect, won't play games. It seems to me the key is to respect yourself, and have integrity, and you will see very quickly those who have those same core values, and those that do not, by what they do.
I loved the part where you express, "If she cannot understand why you descend to her level, then you will have to do serious work building her esteem up"; It's true. Many times, we men overlook certain flaws in women that we don't consider to be too serious and that we could live with. Some women, aware of their own shortcomings, when they see us letting these flaws slide, ignoring them a bit, it's reason enough for them to believe that we are weak, foolish, that we have no options, that we cannot live without them, that they are the center of the world. That's when the attitude of bitterness, disrespect, indifference, rudeness, and overall shame begins. It is time to run for your live, if you didn't do it before.
You can’t punish another person for someone else’s down fall I think it was said that women don’t like to talk about past but the past can help the guy to get a slight idea not to make the same mistake as other men did. Hearing a response also help the man to be reassured of the fact that they have a verbal connection with the person before a relationship is established.
Being 'hard to get' is an immature sign of insecurity and severe manipulation. Men won't 'make a move', we'll just pick someone else. The 'chase' is a ridiculous subconscious concept.
Because men used to pride themselves on pursuing repeatedly and just taking the abuse in order to "conquer" the woman. "Happy wife happy life" was the status quo. Which is actually because women were put on a pedestal and given all the power in society. Yet they repaid that kind gesture by declaring a "patriarchy" and trying to take everything men had left. It was always a manipulation bro. Right from the start! But tye time has come for men to take back their power. Hence, these games are no longer an option! Unless you're for the continuation of abuse and manipulation of the male side if our species?
Lmao 80% of these are her insecurities which the guy has to pay for😅 Does that guy have any emotions or is he unimportant or a tool just to play with These women are delusional
Good video, but I don't agree that a high value man will chase a woman when she plays hard to get. A high value man has options and an abundance mentality and will just move on to someone else. It's the low value man who lacks abundance and options and will tolerate her making things difficult for him IMO.
But what if she's a high value woman? They are scarce regardless of who you are. If ego gets in the way it may be a long time before another good one is found.
@@PaulSchechter-v7m I still wouldn't chase her. I'd let her know that I am interested, and I would continue to show interest and put forth effort, and I would continue to invest as long as she's receptive and reciprocating. In order for a relationship to work with a high value woman, she's still got to believe that you're above her, and she's got to believe you're her best option. If you have to chase her, it means she's running away from you. If you chase, she's going to think you're desperate, don't have options, and she's going to think she's above you. This is why women will have dozens of suitors, but the one she wants is the one she has to earn and win over.
Yeah . Play hard to get and you will end up alone . Hypocritical behavior ... testing someone to put in more effort when you aren't putting in any . That's like asking your boss to give you a raise and showing up to work half the time.
A girl I was speaking too online left me on read a few times. I thought she was not interested in talking to me, so I unfriended her. One day out of the blue she messaged me asking why I unfriended her 😕 Background: She added me on FB to begin with and messaged me first. It’s not often I get a random add from a cute girl on FB.
have you noticed no woman ever tells men to give up or leave the women?. it is always some more work the man can do no matter what the women is doing to win her over?.
being romanced is for a woman who appreciates what a man is, how he is and knows it can take just as much courage to open up to her in hopes for love. Being romanced is quality time, flowers, gentle kisses, and many nice heartfelt things that don 't end, even after two people have been together for a long time. Playing hard to get and being chased after, if you run away from a dog it will chase you. If it's about an ego boost, there is no care, or hope there. If a woman can reject a man for not chasing her, then a man can reject a woman for not being successful, and then she will feel just as crappy as he does. Hope this makes a few points, if not, read it again.
Essentially this is about her entitlement and childish games. Don't go there. State your business and if she is not in to you openly then just walk away.
I personally don't believe modern women play hard to get. Modern women have no need to use any sort of seduction tactics anymore, because so many Simpish men have made their dating experiences require absolutely zero effort on the womans part.
That would be a perfectly good point if not for one thing. Hypergamy! Women do not like these simpish men. They are WEAK!!! Since when has being weak been a good way to attract females?
They play hard to get they really don't want to go out with you. If she really wants to date you she will if not she wants to play games and play hard to get. I tell women on the first date not to play games and hard to get. I have been treated bad in the past so I don't need games if she really wants to date me if not tell me right away and I will move on. I rather she be truthful and honest from the start.
Sometimes they’re not ignoring or ghosting in purpose. They have their own reasons. People shouldn’t care about that much or get mad bc of it. Sometimes people are dealing with shit and don’t have that time and energy to be talking to people all the time.
women don't even understand themselves. saying things and doing the opposite of it women can not decide who to fall in love with , just try to ask her how she ended up loving someone and she will say : I don't know , it just happened. try to leave a woman in isolated place for long time with someone who is not her type of men and she will ended up in (..............) you know what I mean.
My Muslim friend, that is partly true. IF a woman is ISOLATED from modern (sicko/Godless) society's messages telling her what to be, who to be & how to be, then she is much more malleable. There are places on Earth where you can find such women. If you want to know their thoughts & dreams, their aspirations & desires, you might become frustrated because their primary dreams are to find a good man, build a happy home & have a happy life. How horrible is THAT?! Personally, I think it is just horrible that a woman might choose happiness over being an "independent, modern woman." (sarcasm) It is a challenge to help a malleable woman find things she truly enjoys in her heart, rather than just things she is willing to accept. That is part of the joy in loving such a woman, finding something that elevates her spirit. :)
"Playing hard to get" is a very sweet way of describing an outdated behavior, counterproductive in modern times, and flawed in its composition, as a game should be fun, not a mockery of a person's dignity. The truth is that in today's unfeasible Western society, women (and, of course, many men) have been taught that they are special, deserve the best, belong to a privileged segment that ultimately does not hold up with education, manners, achievements, effort, long-term vision, and certainly not empathy. We live in a society where people are convinced that they "deserve" what they haven't earned. Failed and simplistic models like that of the United States are imposed, unfortunately followed by other societies, leading people to laziness, obesity, rudeness, excessive egocentrism, ease, immediacy, worship of ignorance, applause for stupidity, and the ridicule of virtue. Love is a matter of sincerity, vulnerability, giving oneself to others, not of staging cheap theatrical performances and inflicting pain and projecting it onto others. Women who are appalling in their actions, in their past, in their treatment of others, convinced that they are princesses, will end up alone, while decent men have learned to understand that if there are no clear and direct expressions of affection, appreciation, empathy, respect, and love, there is nothing. We leave. That should be the dominant attitude. Not to further spoil the unfortunately huge segment of women with no value who believe that the world owes them everything. WE CANNOT CONTINUE TO GIVE LIFE TO THIS HARMFUL, RIDICULOUS, RETROGRADE, AND HARMFUL BEHAVIOR, ESPECIALLY FOR WOMEN THEMSELVES.
Advice for guys now is you ask a girl once if she says no you walk away, it avoids any accusation of harassment. SO girls don't play hard to get be DIRECT.
YES! If we men want female behaviour to change then we must change our behaviour! Rewarding them for treating us like we are less than scum will just continue this behaviour!
Personally playing hard to get should have balance. However starting off each one is holding out, not to be pushy or overbearing, only time will tell!!
Exactly. A few weeks ago, I met a girl at a bar. We connected, liked each other, danced, kissed. She only left when her friends had waited for her for a long time. Overall, it went well. She's 38, I'm 39, so far so good. She has a 15-year-old daughter, but I won't be a jerk to dismiss her because of that. HOWEVER, when I tried to contact her again, after she was the one who took my phone, entered her number, and made a call to register my number, the unacceptable behavior began: responding to messages every four hours and claiming to have a busier schedule than the presidents of all countries in the world combined. What to do in such a case? Well, run away. It may turn out as it has many times in the past: they reappear months later when one has moved on, engaged in other projects. At that point, authentic ghosting happens without any need for games. Men, don't play this impossible-to-win game, and let's do ourselves a favor.
Yeah I'm a man that has many options so when a girl plays hard to get it's almost like when they Play hard to get and play the field too much it's like they're taking the car for a test drive regardless of the saddle size it's it's a bad look for girls dating too many people makes you open and available that means you're loose dear loose you may make it out to be like you're picking the right guy but you look loose
I get that part of this may be that she wants a guy to chase her but how much is not enough & how much is too much? Sometimes knowing where the line in the sand is can be the toughest thing of all to gauge.
any guy is a high value guy women are side effect of your success and growth. any guy who is chasing his success in life and have an ambition is a high value man and that's what women want , if you read this comment and apply it literally you'll see how women will start noticing you or even approaching you, believe me you'll be annoyed by women a lot . Good luck
This is some great information. Can you do a video explaining general timelines for things to happen? How does a guy know if he's moving too quickly (or too slowly). Obviously, every woman would be different, but how long is a back-and-forth chase and retreat by a woman? Are we talking a week or two...or months? Some idea of the progression of things would really help.
@@davidfisher5140 ...no, I don't have anyone of interest at this moment. Curious for future interactions on how a woman views a general "too quick" or "too long" of a process.
@@nathannoblit3314 Hey buddy, I was not trying to be mean. I was not speaking of you seeking a particular girl. I was teasing you for buying the load of crap Joyanima peddles in this video. She is 90% wrong. I cannot yet fully figure out her motivations for peddling nonsense but they are psychologically indefensible -speaking from the perspective of experimental social psychology. I will re-post, just for you 10 BETTER, more truthful reasons why immature girls play this sort of game.
@@nathannoblit3314 Here u go, a partial copy from below: Why is she playing hard to get? #1 Fear of Commitment #2 Pure Immaturity #3 Self-Centeredness (she really believes the whole world centers upon her) #4 She is ALWAYS looking for the next fellow & WILL cheat even if she "commits" #5 She is clueless about her role in relationships (and can NEVER be a good mate!) #6 She is HURT & broken inside from being constantly dumped (a Chad chaser, as they say) #7 She is unsure about your value & wishes to test your power #8 She is unsure of her value to you & wishes to test your commitment to catching her. #9 She feels worthless & needs you to chase her so she can feel better about herself. #10 She hates men in general, but likes sex with men, so she REALLY is being honest in her duplicity. Note, MOST of the reasons girls play hard to get are internal to them. Most reasons stem from poor self esteem &/or low moral value. ONLY TWO of the 10 reasons for she plays hard to get have anything to do with you. If she fails to see your value (#7), she is probably not worth your time. If she cannot understand why you descend to her level, then you will have to do serious work building her esteem up so she can be a good mate not fearful of being abruptly abandoned.
@@Joyanima your more than welcome...your little videos clips and information as helped me find myself, found my confidence which I never had before... more importantly I've found internal happiness 😊 So thank you xx
Ya, I find a massive Issue with this because it is like putting a carrot in front of a donkey, but may never give that donkey the carrot method, Which would be wasting Guy's time when they could be with someone that not gonna keep them hanging Around, If they get turned down by other guys that make you second place and not what they really wanted
I would say about a week or two. Don't let it go on any longer than that. Know your worth and don't let a woman use you for free attention and free food
@@blenderhead9233 huh?? That short? Do men understand their feelings in that amount of short time already? So, what makes a guy pursue a woman for months? What's the reason?
@@blenderhead9233 😅 I don't remember going on dates without paying my share or buying something in return. My dad taught me to bring enough money with me to pay my own meal and a taxi ride, so when a guy disrespects me, I can just pay and leave. It's a give and take. When i get something, i know the guy will expect something in return.
@@dimpledimple5545 I just feel like the whole "getting to know each other" phase should last a week or two. There's nothing wrong with casual dating, but nobody should be playing hard to get for months at a time. Within a week or two, you both should already establish that you have feelings for each other and want to see each other more often. If she's still playing hard to get sfter you've taken her out more than 3 times, drop her.
@@blenderhead9233 so in that 1 -2 weeks, you should be seeing each other often to really establish that right? The shortest time I was pursued was 3 weeks and only because we were seeing each other everyday. if the woman does not return your effort, yeah you should drop her. women have no qualms chasing after men they're interested in,. I mean, I pursued my last ex. 😂 because he was such a nice guy but too introverted I had to make the move. 😅
Before now, I've liked a woman who was playing hard to get. Sadly, when this happens too much I lose interest. Also, men are a lot more forward than women. If there's a wan who's used to men approaching her and one guy doesn't, it might confuse her.
What wil happen if a girl playing hard continuely , guy wil fade up bcos he is hurt , so he think that its better to leave her , guy hv their own way if she cant understand him , it wil high chance to loose him ..
I think I am dealing with the "protecting her self from getting hurt" situation. She has been in an abusive relationship and is a very anxious person, so it makes sense. I will keep acting normal and giving her more time, while letting her know yhat she can trust me
I don’t even think women understand other women because most of them say one thing and do the exact opposite 😂🤷🏿♂️. This is all based off of what I’ve seen
i used to be against girls playing hard to get until I heard the GREAT Alan Watts saying that women should ''play hard to get''. He described in detail why and it made sense to me. Now, that's not to say that i will play hard to get, but I will definitely be a little bit less available in the future when i will start dating again. 😁
ahahahahahh! "when I start dating again" ahaahhaahahhaa! EXACTLY the point. Thank you for illustrating it. Broken girls afraid to commit & unable to be good mates play these silly games. You are the sort of immature, broken girl guys should flee from ... unless they are ok with using you & dumping you.
Don't listen to Alan Watts! He was a great orator but if you have listened to enough of his stuff (as I have. I was a big big fan)... his world view is very, well he's quite a stupid man to be honest! He's good at putting words together in interesting ways which oftentimes creates profound insights but this is actually just a coincidental byproduct of the exercise. His ability for deep and complex thought... his ability for critical thinking... is very VERY VERY low! Plus he was a boomer. They came from a totally different time than the one we're in today!
Early into the video and it sounds dumb. If both parties play hard to get then most likely there will be no resolution. Why play hard to get? Just get to know one and another, dont rush into things and make a good decision if you want to date or not. Girls play hard to get if they are a healing from a previous bad relationship? If you haven’t healed then dont date yet- simple.
Since my last girlfriend was 17 years old an im now 27 going on 28 soon, dealing with this exact thing among many other thing's women do to screw with your head, lead you on ect. Ive gotten to the point where i no longer bother, its not worth im just not going to waste my time trying because its always the same BS. Excuses for everything, a girl doesn't 'have to give you the time of day because there's 50- 100+ other dudes as options for them to look at while us guys are lucky to nab a single match in a week via tinder or bumble its a joke. ive genuinely come to the conclusion i might actually die alone. honestly thinking about deleting all my dating apps. Lol
Go abroad bro. Try Thailand, The Domincan Republic, Brazil. Stay away from western countries, specially the angloxason ones and specially the US. Try to go where the access to the internet is limited and there is no influence from "feminism" or the "me too movement". This garbage has conditioned women to believe they deserve everything without working for anything, framing the situation as a gender war.
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Playing so hard to get will also get a great guy moving on to someone else......
They don't understand this. It worked maybe 40 years ago but in today's world people are so busy they don't have time to play games. It's either you in or you out.
Fcking right! No time for bullshit. She likes you or not.... period
@@dallasdandy6276 yes. that's exactly the reason why relationships fail and number of divorces are high nowadays. people have no time to get to know people better before jumping into relationship.
@@dimpledimple5545 ya its disheartening
Amen to that. It’s happened with me several times.
Its a childs game, only little girls play games, mature high value womans dont play
I unfriend anyone who keeps this up for months or starts ghosting me so wish the best of luck to the next sucker and move on. I don't have time for playing games, I rather play Apex Legends instead.
😂👍👍👍
Sometimes they’re not ignoring or ghosting in purpose. They have their own reasons. People shouldn’t care about that much or get bc of it. Sometimes people are dealing with shit and don’t have that time and energy to be talking to people all the time.
The best response for this type of persons is to move forward and never look back again. They will learn a moral lesson that could make them better, honest persons in their future.
Playing hard to get could lead to you never being gotten.
True
Truth is no one likes getting rejected and playing hard to get is a fail safe way to avoid that. Only thing is by not taking the chance you could miss out. We all do it to an extent wether we realize it or not.
If you decide to play hard to get….always remember that there’s always another woman more attractive and smarter than you.
And more mature lol
Best to just find somebody who don't play those
Games all day... Because when the games are said and done you'll find that she'll expect you to continue to play games all your life to make her happy I say don't do that from the start... Worry about your own peace and happiness
I'm a simple bloke believing in open and honest communication. If a woman says no, I'm out. A maybe will keep me around for a while.
For sure. if a girl says no to me, i say it was lovely talking to you, enjoy the rest of your evening! Like a boss, i walk away 😎 Boooooom
If a woman ever says maybe, then you're not her first choice.
@@nono-gc8gn I agree but change those "i" to capital letter "I". Bosses don't use small anythin' 😉
Maybe is a no
@@tsheponkotwe3732hi boss
Why is she playing hard to get? #1 Fear of Commitment #2 Pure Immaturity #3 Self-Centeredness (she really believes the whole world centers upon her) #4 She is ALWAYS looking for the next fellow & WILL cheat even if she "commits" #5 She is clueless about her role in relationships (and can NEVER be a good mate!) #6 She is HURT & broken inside from being constantly dumped (a Chad chaser, as they say) #7 She is unsure about your value & wishes to test your power #8 She is unsure of her value to you & wishes to test your commitment to catching her. #9 She feels worthless & needs you to chase her so she can feel better about herself. #10 She hates men in general, but likes sex with men, so she REALLY is being honest in her duplicity.
Note, MOST of the reasons girls play hard to get are internal to them. Most reasons stem from poor self esteem &/or low moral value. ONLY TWO of the 10 reasons for she plays hard to get have anything to do with you. If she fails to see your value (#7), she is probably not worth your time. If she cannot understand why you descend to her level, then you will have to do serious work building her esteem up so she can be a good mate not fearful of being abruptly abandoned.
So, WHY would any real man want to pursue a little girl who plays such games????
Only if he is desperate or only if he failed to protect his emotions & he managed to fall for a girl he does not personally know (foolish).
Want the little date-gaming girls guys?? You go right ahead & twist yourselves to fit around their pinkies. I prefer an honest woman with actual value.
I once heard it said like this: "A lot of you men don't understand your true value, so you continue to put up with trash behavior, instead of letting that woman go."
I thought about that statement quite a lot, and it seems to me that any person, whether they're a man or woman, who has self-respect, won't play games.
It seems to me the key is to respect yourself, and have integrity, and you will see very quickly those who have those same core values, and those that do not, by what they do.
I find your comment more useful to me than the video itself ahajajaja.
That's true 😮😂
I loved the part where you express, "If she cannot understand why you descend to her level, then you will have to do serious work building her esteem up"; It's true. Many times, we men overlook certain flaws in women that we don't consider to be too serious and that we could live with. Some women, aware of their own shortcomings, when they see us letting these flaws slide, ignoring them a bit, it's reason enough for them to believe that we are weak, foolish, that we have no options, that we cannot live without them, that they are the center of the world. That's when the attitude of bitterness, disrespect, indifference, rudeness, and overall shame begins. It is time to run for your live, if you didn't do it before.
Playing hard to get tells a lot more about a girl herself than a guy it is used to test.
just move on, she's a waste of time
TIME WASTERS! AND INSECURE ! AVOID ttue!!!!!
You can’t punish another person for someone else’s down fall I think it was said that women don’t like to talk about past but the past can help the guy to get a slight idea not to make the same mistake as other men did. Hearing a response also help the man to be reassured of the fact that they have a verbal connection with the person before a relationship is established.
If a woman i like and have actually asked her out, and she plays hard to get, I move on from the approach quickly.
It turns men off except for the desperate men. It makes her look like a player or emotionally unavailable
Straight up!
What’s important here is that whatever the reason is, it’s not someone you want to be with long term.
I switch off at even the slightest possibility of games
Playing hard to get will get you a cat hotel and box wine.
I understand this but when a girl pisses around or anything i just keep it moving
Im not going to play games. Im going to find a woman that is interested in me.
Sounds easy. But it's not.
Rather just wait
Searching will trigger her to play hard to get
Being 'hard to get' is an immature sign of insecurity and severe manipulation. Men won't 'make a move', we'll just pick someone else. The 'chase' is a ridiculous subconscious concept.
It's a wonder that the human race has got to this point with women playing all these incomprehensibly silly mind games.
Because men used to pride themselves on pursuing repeatedly and just taking the abuse in order to "conquer" the woman. "Happy wife happy life" was the status quo.
Which is actually because women were put on a pedestal and given all the power in society.
Yet they repaid that kind gesture by declaring a "patriarchy" and trying to take everything men had left.
It was always a manipulation bro. Right from the start!
But tye time has come for men to take back their power. Hence, these games are no longer an option!
Unless you're for the continuation of abuse and manipulation of the male side if our species?
Lmao
80% of these are her insecurities which the guy has to pay for😅
Does that guy have any emotions or is he unimportant or a tool just to play with
These women are delusional
Good video, but I don't agree that a high value man will chase a woman when she plays hard to get. A high value man has options and an abundance mentality and will just move on to someone else. It's the low value man who lacks abundance and options and will tolerate her making things difficult for him IMO.
you are right a reason ☝️
But what if she's a high value woman? They are scarce regardless of who you are. If ego gets in the way it may be a long time before another good one is found.
@@PaulSchechter-v7m I still wouldn't chase her. I'd let her know that I am interested, and I would continue to show interest and put forth effort, and I would continue to invest as long as she's receptive and reciprocating. In order for a relationship to work with a high value woman, she's still got to believe that you're above her, and she's got to believe you're her best option. If you have to chase her, it means she's running away from you. If you chase, she's going to think you're desperate, don't have options, and she's going to think she's above you. This is why women will have dozens of suitors, but the one she wants is the one she has to earn and win over.
Some girls play hard to never get
I've heard women say they don't understand women/themselves.
I have a question: How do you find an adult woman nowadays? Not just physically but mentally too.
😂😂😂😂
The answer is no
Women walk a very fine line playing that game.
Whats the difference between being patience and not coming over to her as not being interested?
Yeah . Play hard to get and you will end up alone . Hypocritical behavior ... testing someone to put in more effort when you aren't putting in any . That's like asking your boss to give you a raise and showing up to work half the time.
A girl I was speaking too online left me on read a few times. I thought she was not interested in talking to me, so I unfriended her. One day out of the blue she messaged me asking why I unfriended her 😕 Background: She added me on FB to begin with and messaged me first. It’s not often I get a random add from a cute girl on FB.
have you noticed no woman ever tells men to give up or leave the women?. it is always some more work the man can do no matter what the women is doing to win her over?.
This 🔥
being romanced is for a woman who appreciates what a man is, how he is and knows it can take just as much courage to open up to her in hopes for love. Being romanced is quality time, flowers, gentle kisses, and many nice heartfelt things that don 't end, even after two people have been together for a long time.
Playing hard to get and being chased after, if you run away from a dog it will chase you. If it's about an ego boost, there is no care, or hope there. If a woman can reject a man for not chasing her, then a man can reject a woman for not being successful, and then she will feel just as crappy as he does. Hope this makes a few points, if not, read it again.
Essentially this is about her entitlement and childish games. Don't go there. State your business and if she is not in to you openly then just walk away.
I personally don't believe modern women play hard to get. Modern women have no need to use any sort of seduction tactics anymore, because so many Simpish men have made their dating experiences require absolutely zero effort on the womans part.
That would be a perfectly good point if not for one thing.
Hypergamy!
Women do not like these simpish men. They are WEAK!!!
Since when has being weak been a good way to attract females?
They play hard to get they really don't want to go out with you. If she really wants to date you she will if not she wants to play games and play hard to get. I tell women on the first date not to play games and hard to get. I have been treated bad in the past so I don't need games if she really wants to date me if not tell me right away and I will move on. I rather she be truthful and honest from the start.
6:00 she was in a controlling relationship doesn't give her to be a bad person as well
Sometimes they’re not ignoring or ghosting in purpose. They have their own reasons. People shouldn’t care about that much or get mad bc of it. Sometimes people are dealing with shit and don’t have that time and energy to be talking to people all the time.
women don't even understand themselves.
saying things and doing the opposite of it
women can not decide who to fall in love with ,
just try to ask her how she ended up loving someone and she will say :
I don't know , it just happened.
try to leave a woman in isolated place for long time with someone who is not her type of men and she will ended up in (..............)
you know what I mean.
My Muslim friend, that is partly true.
IF a woman is ISOLATED from modern (sicko/Godless) society's messages telling her what to be, who to be & how to be, then she is much more malleable. There are places on Earth where you can find such women. If you want to know their thoughts & dreams, their aspirations & desires, you might become frustrated because their primary dreams are to find a good man, build a happy home & have a happy life.
How horrible is THAT?!
Personally, I think it is just horrible that a woman might choose happiness over being an "independent, modern woman." (sarcasm)
It is a challenge to help a malleable woman find things she truly enjoys in her heart, rather than just things she is willing to accept. That is part of the joy in loving such a woman, finding something that elevates her spirit. :)
Anna I am really glad you made this video, cause my other crush is giving me hell, she says' I AM AFRAID OF HURTING YOU'
How? By leading you on she's not going to hurt you?
"Playing hard to get" is a very sweet way of describing an outdated behavior, counterproductive in modern times, and flawed in its composition, as a game should be fun, not a mockery of a person's dignity. The truth is that in today's unfeasible Western society, women (and, of course, many men) have been taught that they are special, deserve the best, belong to a privileged segment that ultimately does not hold up with education, manners, achievements, effort, long-term vision, and certainly not empathy. We live in a society where people are convinced that they "deserve" what they haven't earned. Failed and simplistic models like that of the United States are imposed, unfortunately followed by other societies, leading people to laziness, obesity, rudeness, excessive egocentrism, ease, immediacy, worship of ignorance, applause for stupidity, and the ridicule of virtue.
Love is a matter of sincerity, vulnerability, giving oneself to others, not of staging cheap theatrical performances and inflicting pain and projecting it onto others. Women who are appalling in their actions, in their past, in their treatment of others, convinced that they are princesses, will end up alone, while decent men have learned to understand that if there are no clear and direct expressions of affection, appreciation, empathy, respect, and love, there is nothing. We leave. That should be the dominant attitude. Not to further spoil the unfortunately huge segment of women with no value who believe that the world owes them everything. WE CANNOT CONTINUE TO GIVE LIFE TO THIS HARMFUL, RIDICULOUS, RETROGRADE, AND HARMFUL BEHAVIOR, ESPECIALLY FOR WOMEN THEMSELVES.
Excellent comment...and well written. Thank you.
Advice for guys now is you ask a girl once if she says no you walk away, it avoids any accusation of harassment.
SO girls don't play hard to get be DIRECT.
YES!
If we men want female behaviour to change then we must change our behaviour!
Rewarding them for treating us like we are less than scum will just continue this behaviour!
All women who play games will end up single
Help me Rhonda, help me get her outta my heart!
ive got a headache 😂😂
Personally playing hard to get should have balance. However starting off each one is holding out, not to be pushy or overbearing, only time will tell!!
This is grade school behavior!
Kindergarten bro!
The girl on the phone lololo that's when you dump her and walk away permanently.
I find any guy chasing a woman playing hard to get is a looser and doesn't have an option, that's just my opinion 🤷.
If women r so clever then y so many of them raising their kids on their own?
Because they played hard to get 😂
Exactly. A few weeks ago, I met a girl at a bar. We connected, liked each other, danced, kissed. She only left when her friends had waited for her for a long time. Overall, it went well. She's 38, I'm 39, so far so good. She has a 15-year-old daughter, but I won't be a jerk to dismiss her because of that. HOWEVER, when I tried to contact her again, after she was the one who took my phone, entered her number, and made a call to register my number, the unacceptable behavior began: responding to messages every four hours and claiming to have a busier schedule than the presidents of all countries in the world combined.
What to do in such a case? Well, run away.
It may turn out as it has many times in the past: they reappear months later when one has moved on, engaged in other projects. At that point, authentic ghosting happens without any need for games.
Men, don't play this impossible-to-win game, and let's do ourselves a favor.
@@esteban489 absolutely brother
I don't play games! Unless it's in the bedroom! I am straight up! Love me ore hate me! Make up your mind! Before losing the upperunety!
Play games and I’ll make sure I don’t waste my time on her.
...the same game with som "slight" differences...yeah
Yeah I'm a man that has many options so when a girl plays hard to get it's almost like when they Play hard to get and play the field too much it's like they're taking the car for a test drive regardless of the saddle size it's it's a bad look for girls dating too many people makes you open and available that means you're loose dear loose you may make it out to be like you're picking the right guy but you look loose
What?
What should I do if its a LDR and she's constantly busy and unable to call
I get that part of this may be that she wants a guy to chase her but how much is not enough & how much is too much? Sometimes knowing where the line in the sand is can be the toughest thing of all to gauge.
“…women understand women, and they hate each other…” Who said that?
Definately not a woman. 😆
Al Bundy!
Not worth the BS of playing games
Not interested and will not pursue. This is why.
Do you have a video on what is the definition of "high value" guy?
any guy is a high value guy
women are side effect of your success and growth.
any guy who is chasing his success in life and have an ambition is a high value man
and that's what women want , if you read this comment and apply it literally you'll see how women will start noticing you or even approaching you, believe me you'll be annoyed by women a lot .
Good luck
Baie goeie Video!
This video was amazingly interesting with so much information that I never knew before . Thank you Joyanima. More videos like this would be great!
so many friends play hard to get although they can't be on top of a decent date
Playing - Hard to Get - Never Worked with Me
This is some great information. Can you do a video explaining general timelines for things to happen? How does a guy know if he's moving too quickly (or too slowly). Obviously, every woman would be different, but how long is a back-and-forth chase and retreat by a woman? Are we talking a week or two...or months? Some idea of the progression of things would really help.
WOW! Nathan, how did you manage to get the hook all the way into your neck?
@@davidfisher5140 ...no, I don't have anyone of interest at this moment. Curious for future interactions on how a woman views a general "too quick" or "too long" of a process.
@@nathannoblit3314 Hey buddy, I was not trying to be mean. I was not speaking of you seeking a particular girl.
I was teasing you for buying the load of crap Joyanima peddles in this video. She is 90% wrong. I cannot yet fully figure out her motivations for peddling nonsense but they are psychologically indefensible -speaking from the perspective of experimental social psychology.
I will re-post, just for you 10 BETTER, more truthful reasons why immature girls play this sort of game.
@@nathannoblit3314 Here u go, a partial copy from below:
Why is she playing hard to get? #1 Fear of Commitment #2 Pure Immaturity #3 Self-Centeredness (she really believes the whole world centers upon her) #4 She is ALWAYS looking for the next fellow & WILL cheat even if she "commits" #5 She is clueless about her role in relationships (and can NEVER be a good mate!) #6 She is HURT & broken inside from being constantly dumped (a Chad chaser, as they say) #7 She is unsure about your value & wishes to test your power #8 She is unsure of her value to you & wishes to test your commitment to catching her. #9 She feels worthless & needs you to chase her so she can feel better about herself. #10 She hates men in general, but likes sex with men, so she REALLY is being honest in her duplicity.
Note, MOST of the reasons girls play hard to get are internal to them. Most reasons stem from poor self esteem &/or low moral value. ONLY TWO of the 10 reasons for she plays hard to get have anything to do with you. If she fails to see your value (#7), she is probably not worth your time. If she cannot understand why you descend to her level, then you will have to do serious work building her esteem up so she can be a good mate not fearful of being abruptly abandoned.
Thanks
Thank you so much Steven :)
@@Joyanima your more than welcome...your little videos clips and information as helped me find myself, found my confidence which I never had before... more importantly I've found internal happiness 😊
So thank you xx
Well said
AN GOING OUT FOR COFFEE DATES TOO IN TOWN WITH MY BOYZS. AN MEETING UP WITH MY FREINDS TOO AS WELL TODAY.
just go back in from town today town was soo busying this morning did see my crush but well see her on monday an tuesday this week
an talking too her
3 yrs ashley done this to me , do models play these games
Another great vid! Good info,used in the right way!
Help me learn! Cuz ur so NICE!🎉🎉🎉
you can uninterested to make me more chase, then i stop everything.
Ya, I find a massive Issue with this because it is like putting a carrot in front of a donkey, but may never give that donkey the carrot method, Which would be wasting Guy's time when they could be with someone that not gonna keep them hanging Around, If they get turned down by other guys that make you second place and not what they really wanted
If you broke your ex’s heart and now want her back she might do this even if she still loves you.
Question: How long can a guy normally pursue a woman? When she's playing hard to get, when do you know when to stop?
I would say about a week or two. Don't let it go on any longer than that. Know your worth and don't let a woman use you for free attention and free food
@@blenderhead9233 huh?? That short? Do men understand their feelings in that amount of short time already? So, what makes a guy pursue a woman for months? What's the reason?
@@blenderhead9233 😅 I don't remember going on dates without paying my share or buying something in return. My dad taught me to bring enough money with me to pay my own meal and a taxi ride, so when a guy disrespects me, I can just pay and leave. It's a give and take. When i get something, i know the guy will expect something in return.
@@dimpledimple5545 I just feel like the whole "getting to know each other" phase should last a week or two. There's nothing wrong with casual dating, but nobody should be playing hard to get for months at a time. Within a week or two, you both should already establish that you have feelings for each other and want to see each other more often. If she's still playing hard to get sfter you've taken her out more than 3 times, drop her.
@@blenderhead9233 so in that 1 -2 weeks, you should be seeing each other often to really establish that right? The shortest time I was pursued was 3 weeks and only because we were seeing each other everyday. if the woman does not return your effort, yeah you should drop her. women have no qualms chasing after men they're interested in,. I mean, I pursued my last ex. 😂 because he was such a nice guy but too introverted I had to make the move. 😅
💩gets old after a while, this y they don't get got
Guys are playing hard to get to you know have you ever heard of Mgtow
Mine she was playing hard to get but I have to told her
Before now, I've liked a woman who was playing hard to get. Sadly, when this happens too much I lose interest. Also, men are a lot more forward than women. If there's a wan who's used to men approaching her and one guy doesn't, it might confuse her.
Women are impossible to understand, I've been through volumes of literature only to still be dazed and confused.
What wil happen if a girl playing hard continuely , guy wil fade up bcos he is hurt , so he think that its better to leave her , guy hv their own way if she cant understand him , it wil high chance to loose him ..
Some of these are just so laughable 🤣🤣
Hi Anna
It doesn't work on a Capricorn man. We'll drop you like a stone and never talk to you again.
First😅😅
Women understand women and they hate each other - Al Bundy
Leitada and ghost
Drama
I think I am dealing with the "protecting her self from getting hurt" situation. She has been in an abusive relationship and is a very anxious person, so it makes sense. I will keep acting normal and giving her more time, while letting her know yhat she can trust me
So damaged women..... get your passport bros
I don’t even think women understand other women because most of them say one thing and do the exact opposite 😂🤷🏿♂️. This is all based off of what I’ve seen
i used to be against girls playing hard to get until I heard the GREAT Alan Watts saying that women should ''play hard to get''. He described in detail why and it made sense to me. Now, that's not to say that i will play hard to get, but I will definitely be a little bit less available in the future when i will start dating again. 😁
ahahahahahh! "when I start dating again" ahaahhaahahhaa! EXACTLY the point. Thank you for illustrating it. Broken girls afraid to commit & unable to be good mates play these silly games. You are the sort of immature, broken girl guys should flee from ... unless they are ok with using you & dumping you.
You won't find a guy
Don't listen to Alan Watts!
He was a great orator but if you have listened to enough of his stuff (as I have. I was a big big fan)... his world view is very, well he's quite a stupid man to be honest!
He's good at putting words together in interesting ways which oftentimes creates profound insights but this is actually just a coincidental byproduct of the exercise.
His ability for deep and complex thought... his ability for critical thinking... is very VERY VERY low!
Plus he was a boomer. They came from a totally different time than the one we're in today!
You wrote this no sense two years ago. I expect you have found the blue prince by being tooooo difficult!!! Lol
Early into the video and it sounds dumb. If both parties play hard to get then most likely there will be no resolution. Why play hard to get? Just get to know one and another, dont rush into things and make a good decision if you want to date or not. Girls play hard to get if they are a healing from a previous bad relationship? If you haven’t healed then dont date yet- simple.
Women understand women? Really? LOL! Don;t fall for the Goddess trap. Get your passport and go.
😂😂😂😂
Since my last girlfriend was 17 years old an im now 27 going on 28 soon, dealing with this exact thing among many other thing's women do to screw with your head, lead you on ect. Ive gotten to the point where i no longer bother, its not worth im just not going to waste my time trying because its always the same BS. Excuses for everything, a girl doesn't 'have to give you the time of day because there's 50- 100+ other dudes as options for them to look at while us guys are lucky to nab a single match in a week via tinder or bumble its a joke. ive genuinely come to the conclusion i might actually die alone. honestly thinking about deleting all my dating apps. Lol
Date older. Like 24-25
@@andyc9902 Those women are even crazier
@@YK_vas3dge No.
better deleting this time waste🐫💩 sh....t.... you loose your good 💰✨ only ☝️😬
Go abroad bro. Try Thailand, The Domincan Republic, Brazil. Stay away from western countries, specially the angloxason ones and specially the US. Try to go where the access to the internet is limited and there is no influence from "feminism" or the "me too movement". This garbage has conditioned women to believe they deserve everything without working for anything, framing the situation as a gender war.
has anyone ever tell you, you kind of look like Emilia Clarke?
It’s mind games…….
Girls should join msc in political studies. Would all get distinctions
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