This topic really hit home for me. Over many years of being married to my soon to be ex narc husband, birthdays were always weird with him. He'd forget or ignore mine & it'd really hurt me but by the time his b'day rolled around, 5 mos later, I'd still do a celebration for him until one year I didn't & he asked me, "what'd I get for my b'day? " I answered, "the same thing I got for mine, nothing. "
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If a narcissist tries to make you despise your birthday, then it’s you God given duty to love it a 1000 times more To a live a life filled with gratitude and love of the universe and intensify everything positive and good inside you every time you remember that the narcissist tried to make you despise your birthday Do yoga, meditate, drink herbal tea, fast, pray, read/ listen to spiritual/ Philosophical audiobooks and don’t stop until the last day of your earthly life
What an ass--mine did celebrate mine, but my gratitude could never be enough and I'd hear about it months and years later. Maybe you got lucky lol. Anyway, glad you're out!!! xoxo
My narc who i have been with for 39 years stopped buying a birthday card For four years in a row when on the fourth year i asked him why he no longer brought me a card or even wished me a happy birthday he looked me in the eyes and told me i was worthless to him and not worth buying a card for. To say the hurt upset and pain of someone you love and care about treats you in this way Is totally soul destroying and he did it deliberately to. I have learned over the last couple of years spend your birthday with people who enjoy your company and love you for who you are and make your own day a great day. Ladies and gentlemen make your own days good ones x and love to you all
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This was soooo helpful. I have reason to believe my mother resented my birth. This helped me to see that the reason could be my birth to focus away from her and onto the "baby" with whom she was now competing. How sad. Sorry if name icon comes up 2x. Some sort of computer glitch.
Like giving your partner a birthday present only for them to ask if I'd kept the receipt so she could exchange it or get money back to buy something else, which happened multiple times.
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My narcissistic stopped doing anything for my birthday Christmas mothers day and it took me a year or 2 to stop doing for him. But boy did he get pissed. Didn't understand why I stopped. Ahhh dah
It is a blessing from God that all these narcissists act, speak and do the same 😹😂 Once you understand their pattern of thinking, doing is di, du or da then life is simple. God has them trapped in a mental loop to make everything easy for empaths :)
I see it as sin for an empath to feel even the slightest bit of sadness, anxiety or negativity if a narcissist/ narcissists threw a circus 🤡 🎪 show around your birthday 🎂 Rather, you must understand the universe has a message for you. If it wasn’t for the narcissist you’d have rejoiced perhaps a day in your life (birthday). But because of the narcissists, you must rejoice every single day in your life. It is incumbent upon you to live a life filled with gratitude, happiness and accumulative positive habits Be it eating more nutritious foods, increasing serenity, healing your subconscious, more meditations and everything positive you can do, so that your entire life becomes an inner festival of joy for you, that will echo forever throughout the eternity :)
Whenever his Birthday was approaching he'd never stop talking about it, but when I mentioned mine, he played it down as if it bothered him. Like one of the other comments he got a week and I got a few ours at best. 🍒
I started dating this Woman once and it was close to my Birthday. She went all out and made it very nice. This was in the Beginning though. When hers came by then I had seen alot of her ways. She went out of town on hers. It was like she didn't want me around.. When mine came that next year she really didn't care at all.
I made the mistake of sending my narc brother a big gift for his 50th birthday. He still hasn't opened it two years later. It just sits in his garage. He told me he would open it when I come to visit him. Its an 18 hour drive to where he lives for me, and I know nothing good will come from seeing him. I guess it will remain unopened. He pretended like he didn't know when I turned 40, and for my last birthday he left me a long voice mail a day late about how busy he is with his own things. At this stage in my life I couldn't care less. Birthdays can bring so much drama, I wish I had known what he was earlier in life. It would have saved so much grief, anxiety and abuse. It is so hard to go no contact with a sibling too, it can fracture an already fragile family structure. Keep helping people look for answers and help.
Narc ex tried to ruin every single special event during our relationship-my bday, her bday, holidays, vacations, Valentines Day, etc. Literally tried to sabotage every single one….Also, I was afraid to buy her flowers on her bday bc I was afraid it would make her feel smothered. Yet, not doing so would make her feel abandoned. Talk about walking on eggshells…
When I left my Narc last night New Year's Eve, we'd had a great night out dancing even though he remained seated while i got up, and he proposed to me in front of everyone. Then when I took too long at the toilet he accused me if cheating! He built me up then tore me down by accusations.
Exnarc did a discard right before my birthday the first year. I was not aware of him being a narcissist, so I took him back and he treated me even worse the second year on my birthday barely acknowledging it and mostly ignoring me. Absolutely horrible treatment. There will be no third time of that happening to me again. So happy to be away from him and the horrendous treatment.
@@RawMotivations Thank you, Ben. I've been away from him as far as the fake relationship goes for a while but still have some limited contact with him. I have good days and bad days as I'm sure most do with the healing. Just accepting that it was never real is hard and that I loved someone who never loved me is devastating.
OMG! When I just saw this title I about dropped to the floor!! Going to watch now, but my narc was such a BABY about his birthday and it HAD to be ON his birthday no matter what else in the world was going on, and yes, walking on eggshells--a total moving target and nothing could ever be 'right' enough. He's an angry, fragile little man and I'm finally seeing that now. You should see the art that's starting to pour out of me now that I'm finally really putting him behind me 1.5 years after the final breakup, and in large part thanks to this channel! He's an egg in my paintings. The fragile little egg he always was but would berate me (and anyone) for ever even noticing. EVERYTHING you've been saying fits and it's setting me free--thank you!!!
My ex-narc started a huge shouting fight with me on my birthday because he didn't like the shoes I wore when we went out to dinner for my birthday. He was very controlling about my clothes and always telling me how to dress to make him happy. He said I didn't care at all about him because I didn't wear shoes that he likes. Two weeks later he broke up with me because I wasn't even trying to please him and be sexy anymore. I was devastated at the time, but that was the best thing that could have happened. I was trauma bonded at that point and couldn't get myself out of that relationship.
A few years ago people were having fun and changing the "happy birthday " words and his face went violet red and he said , "knock it off and sing it right, start over !" Omg yes sir!😅
He would celebrate his birthday by telling me he hates his birthday and doesn't want to do anything, then would find himself a stranger for secret sex. And on my birthday.... a txt, zero effort, promises of something great but then nothing. And then an expensive present dropped off a couple weeks after. Just enough to make sure I always felt worthless. One year he even said he would take me on a nice holiday. Which I didn't believe he would do, he never booked anything. Then he turned around and told his friend that i was complaining that the idea of a trip away wasn't enough, to make me look like the a$$hole 🤦♀️
Mine just doesn’t care about mine and if he does anything at all it’s taking credit for a gift he told me to order myself (from him) or a “coupon” for something like last year’s “good for the use of half the sky miles!” My birthday is in 2 days, I’m turning 50. He made this big show of promising me some party to “show me how much he values me” as something he’s doing in recovery. The party was also apparently my gift, only there is no party, he never did a single thing or talked to anyone or thought of it again. But he got credit from his group for really really coming up with a great amends thing. He. Did. Nothing.
My birthday is three days apart from family narcissist so I tend to hid the plans from them, because they will try to make that time a family event or a double day. When I already have dinner plans with my boyfriend.!
Ok , this is a hard one , my boyfriend hasn't done anything for my birthday or Christmas or any holiday for me but every holiday I have made a big thing because I know him because he does want it all all the time . This year was my 27 birthday on the 25 of November and it was a hard one for me. Him and his older daughter turned my day into a day all about them and the loss of my boyfriends bother , he lost him in July and his daughter was still going to be in town for a few more days . They took my whole day of my birthday, then when I wanted to go home they refused to take me home and had me in tears by the end of the day and I didn't even get to eat where i wanted to when they told me I could pick where we eat. Welllll today is his birthday and he is just as happy as he could be , I haven't even made it a big thing today because I'm still upset over my birthday my November. Like am I the crazy one for thinking bad and being mad for him enjoying and doing what he wanted to today ?? Am I a bad person that I wish he had as bad a day that he gave me. Honestly I've never been enough for anyone in my life and I've never actually had a good time on my birthday like ever. It's it so much to ask for just one day of good in life ???
My narc loved my birthdays. She bought nice present for me and took good care of me on those days. She had her good moments and those made me love her very much. For those who might have the impression that all narcs are the same after watching video’s like this it is not true. They have things in common and are certainly a pain in the ass to say the least but there are different degrees and types etc. We are humans and no human is the same. Same goes for autism. Not all autists are the same. Or people with Alzheimer. The list goes on. I appreciate video’s like this but sometimes it is hard to put things into perspective. It is easy to be taken away as if video’s are the hard truth. We have to be aware of the influence effect of social media. So the title of this video can be tricky and make you think that all narcs hate your birthday but I think it is in general and not an absolute fact of life
Yep, we'll said. He would even tell me that he hated the month of December because his ex wife's birthday was in late December. My birthday just so happens to be in December as well. I bet he really hates December now. Lol Yet less than 6 months after he moved out he got engaged to new supply and in December of all times. He probably thought it was my birthday as one last dig in hopes of sealing my coffin...Not. Just before December he also tagged then untagged me on Facebook of a picture of my birthday cake that he sent to someone that he was secretly cheating on facebook with from his now supply/ fiancé which is married. Too much drama for me! Block, stay no contact if at all possible and permanently as a hoover only implies that they think there is one more ounce of your soul left for them to syphen dry. They don't change other than to get more skilled at their lies and premeditated manipulation.
This topic really hit home for me. Over many years of being married to my soon to be ex narc husband, birthdays were always weird with him. He'd forget or ignore mine & it'd really hurt me but by the time his b'day rolled around, 5 mos later, I'd still do a celebration for him until one year I didn't & he asked me, "what'd I get for my b'day? " I answered, "the same thing I got for mine, nothing. "
😂😂😂that's what i do to my husband surprise
My ex would go over and beyond would bend backwards and fight against any holiday in our lives except his birthday.
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Ex narc celebrated his bday for a week and I got a couple hours.
perfect example
If a narcissist tries to make you despise your birthday, then it’s you God given duty to love it a 1000 times more
To a live a life filled with gratitude and love of the universe and intensify everything positive and good inside you every time you remember that the narcissist tried to make you despise your birthday
Do yoga, meditate, drink herbal tea, fast, pray, read/ listen to spiritual/ Philosophical audiobooks and don’t stop until the last day of your earthly life
He never celebrated my birthday, even when I went all out for his
.🤔
What an ass--mine did celebrate mine, but my gratitude could never be enough and I'd hear about it months and years later. Maybe you got lucky lol. Anyway, glad you're out!!! xoxo
@@expansionconnection Thank you, it's the only way, Block,and no contact,it's been very affective.
My narc who i have been with for 39 years stopped buying a birthday card
For four years in a row when on the fourth year i asked him why he no longer brought me a card or even wished me a happy birthday he looked me in the eyes and told me i was worthless to him and not worth buying a card for. To say the hurt upset and pain of someone you love and care about treats you in this way
Is totally soul destroying and he did it deliberately to. I have learned over the last couple of years spend your birthday with people who enjoy your company and love you for who you are and make your own day a great day. Ladies and gentlemen make your own days good ones x and love to you all
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This was soooo helpful. I have reason to believe my mother resented my birth. This helped me to see that the reason could be my birth to focus away from her and onto the "baby" with whom she was now competing. How sad. Sorry if name icon comes up 2x. Some sort of computer glitch.
They hate everything and are obsessed with everything that's "theirs" or about them😂
th-cam.com/video/O6pgvtNVg3E/w-d-xo.html What narcissist can’t do - Putting themselves in someone else’s shoes
Like giving your partner a birthday present only for them to ask if I'd kept the receipt so she could exchange it or get money back to buy something else, which happened multiple times.
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My narcissistic stopped doing anything for my birthday Christmas mothers day and it took me a year or 2 to stop doing for him. But boy did he get pissed. Didn't understand why I stopped. Ahhh dah
It is a blessing from God that all these narcissists act, speak and do the same 😹😂
Once you understand their pattern of thinking, doing is di, du or da then life is simple. God has them trapped in a mental loop to make everything easy for empaths :)
Certainly helps a person take it less personally doesn't it 😊
@@StacyJaneK Indeed Brother
I see it as sin for an empath to feel even the slightest bit of sadness, anxiety or negativity if a narcissist/ narcissists threw a circus 🤡 🎪 show around your birthday 🎂
Rather, you must understand the universe has a message for you. If it wasn’t for the narcissist you’d have rejoiced perhaps a day in your life (birthday). But because of the narcissists, you must rejoice every single day in your life. It is incumbent upon you to live a life filled with gratitude, happiness and accumulative positive habits
Be it eating more nutritious foods, increasing serenity, healing your subconscious, more meditations and everything positive you can do, so that your entire life becomes an inner festival of joy for you, that will echo forever throughout the eternity :)
Thanks for sharing this! WIsh you th e best on your journey
Whenever his Birthday was approaching he'd never stop talking about it, but when I mentioned mine, he played it down as if it bothered him. Like one of the other comments he got a week and I got a few ours at best. 🍒
I started dating this Woman once and it was close to my Birthday. She went all out and made it very nice. This was in the Beginning though. When hers came by then I had seen alot of her ways. She went out of town on hers. It was like she didn't want me around.. When mine came that next year she really didn't care at all.
I made the mistake of sending my narc brother a big gift for his 50th birthday. He still hasn't opened it two years later. It just sits in his garage. He told me he would open it when I come to visit him. Its an 18 hour drive to where he lives for me, and I know nothing good will come from seeing him. I guess it will remain unopened. He pretended like he didn't know when I turned 40, and for my last birthday he left me a long voice mail a day late about how busy he is with his own things. At this stage in my life I couldn't care less. Birthdays can bring so much drama, I wish I had known what he was earlier in life. It would have saved so much grief, anxiety and abuse. It is so hard to go no contact with a sibling too, it can fracture an already fragile family structure. Keep helping people look for answers and help.
Narc ex tried to ruin every single special event during our relationship-my bday, her bday, holidays, vacations, Valentines Day, etc. Literally tried to sabotage every single one….Also, I was afraid to buy her flowers on her bday bc I was afraid it would make her feel smothered. Yet, not doing so would make her feel abandoned. Talk about walking on eggshells…
When I left my Narc last night New Year's Eve, we'd had a great night out dancing even though he remained seated while i got up, and he proposed to me in front of everyone. Then when I took too long at the toilet he accused me if cheating! He built me up then tore me down by accusations.
Exnarc did a discard right before my birthday the first year. I was not aware of him being a narcissist, so I took him back and he treated me even worse the second year on my birthday barely acknowledging it and mostly ignoring me. Absolutely horrible treatment. There will be no third time of that happening to me again. So happy to be away from him and the horrendous treatment.
Glad you are out! Hope you are doing better now and found some way of healing
@@RawMotivations Thank you, Ben. I've been away from him as far as the fake relationship goes for a while but still have some limited contact with him. I have good days and bad days as I'm sure most do with the healing. Just accepting that it was never real is hard and that I loved someone who never loved me is devastating.
OMG! When I just saw this title I about dropped to the floor!! Going to watch now, but my narc was such a BABY about his birthday and it HAD to be ON his birthday no matter what else in the world was going on, and yes, walking on eggshells--a total moving target and nothing could ever be 'right' enough. He's an angry, fragile little man and I'm finally seeing that now. You should see the art that's starting to pour out of me now that I'm finally really putting him behind me 1.5 years after the final breakup, and in large part thanks to this channel! He's an egg in my paintings. The fragile little egg he always was but would berate me (and anyone) for ever even noticing. EVERYTHING you've been saying fits and it's setting me free--thank you!!!
Wish you the best. Thank you for sharing, it must have been tough and you’re strong for being able to get away from that. Hope you are healing!
My ex-narc started a huge shouting fight with me on my birthday because he didn't like the shoes I wore when we went out to dinner for my birthday. He was very controlling about my clothes and always telling me how to dress to make him happy. He said I didn't care at all about him because I didn't wear shoes that he likes. Two weeks later he broke up with me because I wasn't even trying to please him and be sexy anymore. I was devastated at the time, but that was the best thing that could have happened. I was trauma bonded at that point and couldn't get myself out of that relationship.
Planned a birthday celebration on my birthday at his favorite restaurant with his favorite female friend as a guest. Yay.
A family member like this want all love for their birthday but dont call nobody on theirs
Or they plan things for your birthday that THEY want to do.
A few years ago people were having fun and changing the "happy birthday " words and his face went violet red and he said , "knock it off and sing it right, start over !"
Omg yes sir!😅
He would celebrate his birthday by telling me he hates his birthday and doesn't want to do anything, then would find himself a stranger for secret sex. And on my birthday.... a txt, zero effort, promises of something great but then nothing. And then an expensive present dropped off a couple weeks after. Just enough to make sure I always felt worthless. One year he even said he would take me on a nice holiday. Which I didn't believe he would do, he never booked anything. Then he turned around and told his friend that i was complaining that the idea of a trip away wasn't enough, to make me look like the a$$hole 🤦♀️
Mine just doesn’t care about mine and if he does anything at all it’s taking credit for a gift he told me to order myself (from him) or a “coupon” for something like last year’s “good for the use of half the sky miles!” My birthday is in 2 days, I’m turning 50. He made this big show of promising me some party to “show me how much he values me” as something he’s doing in recovery. The party was also apparently my gift, only there is no party, he never did a single thing or talked to anyone or thought of it again. But he got credit from his group for really really coming up with a great amends thing. He. Did. Nothing.
My birthday is three days apart from family narcissist so I tend to hid the plans from them, because they will try to make that time a family event or a double day. When I already have dinner plans with my boyfriend.!
Ok , this is a hard one , my boyfriend hasn't done anything for my birthday or Christmas or any holiday for me but every holiday I have made a big thing because I know him because he does want it all all the time . This year was my 27 birthday on the 25 of November and it was a hard one for me. Him and his older daughter turned my day into a day all about them and the loss of my boyfriends bother , he lost him in July and his daughter was still going to be in town for a few more days . They took my whole day of my birthday, then when I wanted to go home they refused to take me home and had me in tears by the end of the day and I didn't even get to eat where i wanted to when they told me I could pick where we eat. Welllll today is his birthday and he is just as happy as he could be , I haven't even made it a big thing today because I'm still upset over my birthday my November. Like am I the crazy one for thinking bad and being mad for him enjoying and doing what he wanted to today ?? Am I a bad person that I wish he had as bad a day that he gave me. Honestly I've never been enough for anyone in my life and I've never actually had a good time on my birthday like ever. It's it so much to ask for just one day of good in life ???
My narc loved my birthdays. She bought nice present for me and took good care of me on those days. She had her good moments and those made me love her very much. For those who might have the impression that all narcs are the same after watching video’s like this it is not true. They have things in common and are certainly a pain in the ass to say the least but there are different degrees and types etc. We are humans and no human is the same. Same goes for autism. Not all autists are the same. Or people with Alzheimer. The list goes on. I appreciate video’s like this but sometimes it is hard to put things into perspective. It is easy to be taken away as if video’s are the hard truth. We have to be aware of the influence effect of social media. So the title of this video can be tricky and make you think that all narcs hate your birthday but I think it is in general and not an absolute fact of life
Of course
💯💯👍👍💪💪
The title alone, these mofos are toddlers. I have to leave and stay gone.
and what about b'days of narcissists stepchildren?
They hate getting old 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤
Yep, we'll said.
He would even tell me that he hated the month of December because his ex wife's birthday was in late December. My birthday just so happens to be in December as well.
I bet he really hates December now. Lol
Yet less than 6 months after he moved out he got engaged to new supply and in December of all times. He probably thought it was my birthday as one last dig in hopes of sealing my coffin...Not.
Just before December he also tagged then untagged me on Facebook of a picture of my birthday cake that he sent to someone that he was secretly cheating on facebook with from his now supply/ fiancé which is married. Too much drama for me! Block, stay no contact if at all possible and permanently as a hoover only implies that they think there is one more ounce of your soul left for them to syphen dry. They don't change other than to get more skilled at their lies and premeditated manipulation.
Right now, he is sulking because it's not HIS birthday, it's mine. Why I am letting ruin my day, for goodness sakes?
USA getting smarter ❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
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He never celebrated birthday or anniversary 😂😂😂😂 glad that's over