Yea. He wanted to pay for everything and wouldn’t take my money, but then throw it in my face and get angry he was paying. He wanted to clean up and when I tried, it was wrong but then I “never did anything”. He wanted to go to the pub and fall off the radar - but yet was angry I went to the gym and wasn’t sitting at his house waiting for him. He was angry I vacuumed my car on the way to the gym (no impact on him, I wasn’t late or anything), but even that was wrong. He was mad because I didn’t video call him - yet he’d never asked to… it was the most bizarre stuff. Then when I brought it up (because he was nitpicking and being cold and cruel for weeks and months), then it was flipped on me that I didn’t listen to him! Holy moly it’s the most confusing thing.
Another great video Ben. I lived in the unwritten list of his entitlements for 25 years. He made it clear without even telling me what they were. He had the corporate job and I was there to look after everything with the kids, cook the meals, work part-time( can't make more money than him), clean the house, do the gardening and be playboy bunny when the wanted sex. If he washed the car and went to work 6 days a week ( something he wanted to do) he felt like he was the best husband and father!!! Thank god he had an affair and left. Life is wonderful now.
Maybe you have already but I was wondering if you would do a video about what, if anything, in your childhood you think might have contributed to your narcissism?
Yea. He wanted to pay for everything and wouldn’t take my money, but then throw it in my face and get angry he was paying. He wanted to clean up and when I tried, it was wrong but then I “never did anything”. He wanted to go to the pub and fall off the radar - but yet was angry I went to the gym and wasn’t sitting at his house waiting for him. He was angry I vacuumed my car on the way to the gym (no impact on him, I wasn’t late or anything), but even that was wrong. He was mad because I didn’t video call him - yet he’d never asked to… it was the most bizarre stuff. Then when I brought it up (because he was nitpicking and being cold and cruel for weeks and months), then it was flipped on me that I didn’t listen to him! Holy moly it’s the most confusing thing.
Another great video Ben. I lived in the unwritten list of his entitlements for 25 years. He made it clear without even telling me what they were. He had the corporate job and I was there to look after everything with the kids, cook the meals, work part-time( can't make more money than him), clean the house, do the gardening and be playboy bunny when the wanted sex. If he washed the car and went to work 6 days a week ( something he wanted to do) he felt like he was the best husband and father!!! Thank god he had an affair and left. Life is wonderful now.
After 24 years he has discarded me. I am 42 years old and terrified of having to start my life again, I have no clue where to begin.
Maybe you have already but I was wondering if you would do a video about what, if anything, in your childhood you think might have contributed to your narcissism?