America is not the only place in the world where trans people exist. So saying you "don't have to wait" is enfuriating for people like me. In the Netherlands I have been waiting more than a year to go on T and need to wait another year after that to get top surgery.
N Doorduin yeah good point. i was speaking on my experience within the US but perhaps i should have titled the video to reflect the fact that i didn't have to wait. good luck to you, i'm sorry your process has been so slow, i would be very upset too.
Elijah Jeremiah vanaf dat ik belde duurde het drie maanden tot mijn intake gesprek, daarna nog 2 maanden tot ik aan de beurt was voor de diagnostiek. De diagnostiek duurt zelf minimaal 6 maanden, maar bij mij is dat uitgelopen tot 7 of meer. (als je facebook hebt kan ik je toevoegen aan een groep voor Nederlandse transgenders)
How do you even at 12... I didn't know I was trans until I was 14 and I'm about to turn 17 and I still question myself all the time. It's not that I don't believe you it's just hard for me to imagine even more knowledge of myself and everyone not seeing it. (My family isnt transphobic enough to kick me out but won't use the right name or clothes.)
Did getting T through the informed consent clinic in any way effect your therapist's comfort level with giving you a referral for surgery? Or how does getting permission to get top surgery work if not through a gender therapist?
IcAnTtHiNkOf12345678 no not at all. when i went back to her to get my letter for surgery she could tell that going on T was the right thing for me and that i was clearly happier, so she had no problem writing me the letter. especially since i had been on T for quite some time. i'm not sure of how else to get a surgery letter besides from a therapist, besides through your doctor. I had mine with garramone in 2012 and i remember that being an option. (my doctor works at a LGBT health clinic so i think that would have been fine)
I came out to my mother today, and she seemed fine with it, though I'm not allowed to even go by different pronouns or get boys clothing or any of that because she says I'm too young and stupid to know for sure. She says I'm not allowed to come out to anyone else either. What should I do?
If you feel really sure about identifying as male, then you have the right whether you want to tell people you're trans or not. If your parent(s) aren't going to be supportive or accepting of who you are, then find people who you feel will be (friends, other family members, etc). It's important to be surrounded by others who will support you, because it sucks not having anyone who is willing to understand your situation and what not. Age doesn't matter when it comes to coming to terms with who you are. Your mother is wrong. Unfortunately, since you're not old enough at the moment, you won't be able to get the clothes or medical/professional help you want and need without an adult. Try to get your mom to better understand what you're going through. Show her videos, articles, anything trans* related so she can get more informed. Maybe she'll come around and help you with transitioning.
+Nicolás Martinez She understands and all, and she obviously cares, it's just she doesn't want me to get bullied. She said she looked up some stuff about Trans* and I'm pretty sure she was emotionally traumatized by the amount of suicide. I'm gonna try to show her, thank you for taking your time and replying. I really appreciate it.
KingOfTheWeaboos That's understandable. My mother was the same when I came out to her when I was younger. But I honestly regret not coming out to people, especially my closest friends because I felt as if I was hiding this big secret from them and they deserved to know. It's your decision, though. If you feel comfortable enough with telling others, then go ahead. If not, that's cool, too. As for your mom- as long as she's willing to learn more about trans* related things, then I'm sure she will warm up to the idea of getting you boys clothes and possibly seeing a gender therapist/doctor.
I've finally accepted I'm ftm but my parents are so fucking religious I know it will be hell if they ever even begin to suspect. It was hard enough when they found out I was lesbian
I'm still trying to come to terms with the fact that it'll probably be at least 3/3.5 years before I can get any kind of medical transition if at all, and that's only really if I fucking start the process now - which I haven't yet (I'm 18, live in England, and would be going through the NHS). NHS waiting times for a first referral to the GIC/appointment are currently around 2 years - although some reportedly as long as 4 years (apparently all NHS referrals are meant to be 18 weeks max), following that you generally need about several GIC appointments over the course of 6 months or so to get a diagnosis, then join another long-ass waiting list to get ur t letter.If you want top surgery (which is the thing I really need) it almost always requires a minimum of 6 months of testosterone beforehand. I'm trying to come to terms with my body as much as I can at the moment, and the thought that I won't be able to go swimming, go shirtless, or really use male public changing rooms or whatever until I'm at very least 21 but quite possibly it'll be a while longer than that. It's really fucking hard and I honestly feel at such a loss as to what to do in this inbetween time. (i edited this slightly after double checking a couple things and the process was even longer than I had originally said. Major sources are ukftm.tumblr.com , pinknews, the guardian
Im Doye hey man I get that, I'm genderfluid but consistently want top surgery and low dose T and would be going through the NHS too. Let alone the waiting lists, I'm also terrified of being rejected for stuff for being NB and wanting to keep long hair and stuff. 3 years...the UK is a joke for this stuff smh.
I have been waiting for 5 years to start things but I just found out I can start T in July. I have to pay out of pocket though. Have any tips on how to finance? My insurance won't cover shit and honestly I can't find any things or places that would help. I live in Iowa.
hey whats up :) im aiden and i live in germany, so it takes about a year to get t from your doctor. and good point at the end: my opinion is that you kinda transition when you come out to friends, family etc. soooooo.... ill get my first t shot in about a month sooo im super duper exited :D i wanted it sooo bad in the past but now im glad i had to wait a year because now i have a positive thinking about my body and everything and i know things get better and my body will fit to my soul. so like my advice to anybody wanting to go on t would be that you should be very calm and have a positive feeling about youself at the first place because testosterone will change how you look but it wont cover up what you didnt work on if youre feeling bad at the first place :)
***** hey! thanks, ill be starting to upload videos next week so maybe that will help you and your room mate :) ill be talking alot about body&soul, about feeling dysphoric etc. maybe there is something you might havent heard yet
I'm from Germany too, I'm moving back soon do you want to be my friend and give me advice about transition in Germany? My discord is bubbles#5614, I'll delete this if you add me.
was transferring your prescription to fenway health an issue at all? did they require a letter or anything? i currently get my T at callen lorde in NYC but there's a chance i might move to Boston for college. i got my T through informed consent as well.
Dollar Store Coffee it wasn't an "issue" but it took a bit of work. They do require a letter, even if you have been on hormones for awhile. I had been on hormones for almost 2 years when i transferred my care over, so i had to get a letter. luckily, i was still in touch with the gender therapist i had seen years ago, so she wrote me one no problem. that was the only thing i needed. since i was already on T i didn't have to go through any other steps. if you can work on getting a letter beforehand, that would be helpful. which colleges are you looking at in boston?
ok, so i really have no idea if this channel would be a good place to ask this, but im trying to figure out if medicaid insurance in the state of florida would pay for t? everywhere i go is really vague and i have no idea.
LemonRussian that's a great question. Although I don't know the answer to that myself. The best way to find out would be to call Medicaid itselves. If you don't get a positive answer you can always ask your doctor,if they are open about transgender people. I just went to my doctor and she literally gave me my first shot of testosterone today! And it wasn't even an appointment about that. But she's known for several months that I am transgender and we have been talking about it and again today we did again during my appointment and All I had to do was sign a waiver, I don't even know what the waiver was, and I got my first shot today. She said she will take care of getting it covered through my Insurance which is the same as yours. So if you have a MD that is willing to work with you they can get you on testosterone and get it paid for. There are ways and means of running it through your insurance as though you are deficient in testosterone, because even female bodied people can be low on testosterone, and then after that she said she would figure out how to get it paid for. But good luck to you and don't stop looking for away. If your doctor is not helpful then look for a doctor that is.
America is not the only place in the world where trans people exist. So saying you "don't have to wait" is enfuriating for people like me. In the Netherlands I have been waiting more than a year to go on T and need to wait another year after that to get top surgery.
N Doorduin yeah good point. i was speaking on my experience within the US but perhaps i should have titled the video to reflect the fact that i didn't have to wait. good luck to you, i'm sorry your process has been so slow, i would be very upset too.
Vanaf het moment dat je hun (t vumc neem ik aan) belt, hoelang duurt het dan voordat ze het proces beginnen? Ben jij al ver in het proces?
***** Yeah man no problem. It was only the way the title was formulated that gave off the wrong message.
Elijah Jeremiah vanaf dat ik belde duurde het drie maanden tot mijn intake gesprek, daarna nog 2 maanden tot ik aan de beurt was voor de diagnostiek. De diagnostiek duurt zelf minimaal 6 maanden, maar bij mij is dat uitgelopen tot 7 of meer. (als je facebook hebt kan ik je toevoegen aan een groep voor Nederlandse transgenders)
Ill move to the Netherlands thanks
you are amazing. im stuck right now and its killing me! i really appreciate your insight, its nice to know there is actually support out there
Yeah I'm ftm but I'm only 12 so I've been waiting for like almost a year to get a hormone blocker!!!
Same here, well if my family doesn't think of me as a freak 😅
How do you even at 12... I didn't know I was trans until I was 14 and I'm about to turn 17 and I still question myself all the time. It's not that I don't believe you it's just hard for me to imagine even more knowledge of myself and everyone not seeing it. (My family isnt transphobic enough to kick me out but won't use the right name or clothes.)
@@screwnames4669 You are valid! You are loved and you are enough just as you are right where you are!💙
It's from Field of Dreams, the quote:)
Did getting T through the informed consent clinic in any way effect your therapist's comfort level with giving you a referral for surgery? Or how does getting permission to get top surgery work if not through a gender therapist?
IcAnTtHiNkOf12345678 no not at all. when i went back to her to get my letter for surgery she could tell that going on T was the right thing for me and that i was clearly happier, so she had no problem writing me the letter. especially since i had been on T for quite some time. i'm not sure of how else to get a surgery letter besides from a therapist, besides through your doctor. I had mine with garramone in 2012 and i remember that being an option. (my doctor works at a LGBT health clinic so i think that would have been fine)
The movie "Field of dreams" (making the baseball diamond in the field)
andrewkiwi1 ah yes. thank you
I came out to my mother today, and she seemed fine with it, though I'm not allowed to even go by different pronouns or get boys clothing or any of that because she says I'm too young and stupid to know for sure. She says I'm not allowed to come out to anyone else either. What should I do?
+KingOfTheWeaboos How old are you?
+Nicolás Martinez Thirteen, but I've had Dysphoria for two or three years.
If you feel really sure about identifying as male, then you have the right whether you want to tell people you're trans or not. If your parent(s) aren't going to be supportive or accepting of who you are, then find people who you feel will be (friends, other family members, etc). It's important to be surrounded by others who will support you, because it sucks not having anyone who is willing to understand your situation and what not. Age doesn't matter when it comes to coming to terms with who you are. Your mother is wrong. Unfortunately, since you're not old enough at the moment, you won't be able to get the clothes or medical/professional help you want and need without an adult. Try to get your mom to better understand what you're going through. Show her videos, articles, anything trans* related so she can get more informed. Maybe she'll come around and help you with transitioning.
+Nicolás Martinez She understands and all, and she obviously cares, it's just she doesn't want me to get bullied. She said she looked up some stuff about Trans* and I'm pretty sure she was emotionally traumatized by the amount of suicide. I'm gonna try to show her, thank you for taking your time and replying. I really appreciate it.
KingOfTheWeaboos
That's understandable. My mother was the same when I came out to her when I was younger. But I honestly regret not coming out to people, especially my closest friends because I felt as if I was hiding this big secret from them and they deserved to know. It's your decision, though. If you feel comfortable enough with telling others, then go ahead. If not, that's cool, too. As for your mom- as long as she's willing to learn more about trans* related things, then I'm sure she will warm up to the idea of getting you boys clothes and possibly seeing a gender therapist/doctor.
I've finally accepted I'm ftm but my parents are so fucking religious I know it will be hell if they ever even begin to suspect. It was hard enough when they found out I was lesbian
Will you have a meet up? Because I'm going
I'm still trying to come to terms with the fact that it'll probably be at least 3/3.5 years before I can get any kind of medical transition if at all, and that's only really if I fucking start the process now - which I haven't yet (I'm 18, live in England, and would be going through the NHS). NHS waiting times for a first referral to the GIC/appointment are currently around 2 years - although some reportedly as long as 4 years (apparently all NHS referrals are meant to be 18 weeks max), following that you generally need about several GIC appointments over the course of 6 months or so to get a diagnosis, then join another long-ass waiting list to get ur t letter.If you want top surgery (which is the thing I really need) it almost always requires a minimum of 6 months of testosterone beforehand. I'm trying to come to terms with my body as much as I can at the moment, and the thought that I won't be able to go swimming, go shirtless, or really use male public changing rooms or whatever until I'm at very least 21 but quite possibly it'll be a while longer than that. It's really fucking hard and I honestly feel at such a loss as to what to do in this inbetween time.
(i edited this slightly after double checking a couple things and the process was even longer than I had originally said. Major sources are ukftm.tumblr.com , pinknews, the guardian
Im Doye hey man I get that, I'm genderfluid but consistently want top surgery and low dose T and would be going through the NHS too. Let alone the waiting lists, I'm also terrified of being rejected for stuff for being NB and wanting to keep long hair and stuff. 3 years...the UK is a joke for this stuff smh.
The quote is from Field of Dreams.
This is the exact point that I'm at right now so I'm so happy to find a video that I can relate to.
I have been waiting for 5 years to start things but I just found out I can start T in July. I have to pay out of pocket though. Have any tips on how to finance? My insurance won't cover shit and honestly I can't find any things or places that would help. I live in Iowa.
Medicaid helps
@@liamwinchesterchasten2229 I was able to get that for my top surgery and my hysterectomy. But it doesn’t cover my t. Dx
hey whats up :) im aiden and i live in germany, so it takes about a year to get t from your doctor. and good point at the end: my opinion is that you kinda transition when you come out to friends, family etc. soooooo.... ill get my first t shot in about a month sooo im super duper exited :D i wanted it sooo bad in the past but now im glad i had to wait a year because now i have a positive thinking about my body and everything and i know things get better and my body will fit to my soul. so like my advice to anybody wanting to go on t would be that you should be very calm and have a positive feeling about youself at the first place because testosterone will change how you look but it wont cover up what you didnt work on if youre feeling bad at the first place :)
***** hey! thanks, ill be starting to upload videos next week so maybe that will help you and your room mate :) ill be talking alot about body&soul, about feeling dysphoric etc. maybe there is something you might havent heard yet
I'm from Germany too, I'm moving back soon do you want to be my friend and give me advice about transition in Germany? My discord is bubbles#5614, I'll delete this if you add me.
Wish I could go to Vidcon! Congrats man :)
Codi_talks thanks! it's my first year so i'm excited
Does your ear hurts?
I needed to hear those words!:) thank you. I'm soooooo inpatient lol
was transferring your prescription to fenway health an issue at all? did they require a letter or anything? i currently get my T at callen lorde in NYC but there's a chance i might move to Boston for college. i got my T through informed consent as well.
Dollar Store Coffee it wasn't an "issue" but it took a bit of work. They do require a letter, even if you have been on hormones for awhile. I had been on hormones for almost 2 years when i transferred my care over, so i had to get a letter. luckily, i was still in touch with the gender therapist i had seen years ago, so she wrote me one no problem. that was the only thing i needed. since i was already on T i didn't have to go through any other steps. if you can work on getting a letter beforehand, that would be helpful. which colleges are you looking at in boston?
does fenway health have informed consent?
Old video but the movie was Field of Dreams
Do you think I could get what I need from my family doctor? Or would I need a therapist?
Katt i think its different from state to state or country. google how you transition in your state/country and/or ask your doctor
Field of Dreams was the movie
ok, so i really have no idea if this channel would be a good place to ask this, but im trying to figure out if medicaid insurance in the state of florida would pay for t? everywhere i go is really vague and i have no idea.
I'm not sure if it varies by state, but in Ohio, medicaid covers T, but not extra syringes.
Ashe Young thank you!!
LemonRussian that's a great question. Although I don't know the answer to that myself. The best way to find out would be to call Medicaid itselves. If you don't get a positive answer you can always ask your doctor,if they are open about transgender people. I just went to my doctor and she literally gave me my first shot of testosterone today! And it wasn't even an appointment about that. But she's known for several months that I am transgender and we have been talking about it and again today we did again during my appointment and All I had to do was sign a waiver, I don't even know what the waiver was, and I got my first shot today. She said she will take care of getting it covered through my Insurance which is the same as yours. So if you have a MD that is willing to work with you they can get you on testosterone and get it paid for. There are ways and means of running it through your insurance as though you are deficient in testosterone, because even female bodied people can be low on testosterone, and then after that she said she would figure out how to get it paid for. But good luck to you and don't stop looking for away. If your doctor is not helpful then look for a doctor that is.
How can you identified as a men but still have a girl mentality I mean you contradict yourself how are you true to yourself.