I feel like I don't want to be judged or a Debbie downer. People don't get it and say you can snap out of it. Truth be told I have insomnia, extreme anxiety, depression, sadness, digestive disorders, fatigued ptsd on and on. I don't have anyone to go to, I'm single, very lonely, no joy in life I could continue but this is the basics. I do feel sick often
@@nikkikelley1743 I have same issues and more like you do. I wish we could push a button and make things better. I do think there should be a place where we and other people who suffer this way could talk about this very debilitating issues. I really think that talking would help us all ❤
I must have seen thousands of videos and read dozens of books on depression and anxiety, and it is the very first time I actually listen to someone addressing these issues. Particularly the constant nausea, I thought it was a "me problem". Thank you for talking about it, it shows you care and truly empathize with patients or clients. Hopefully people who have a loved one going through these things can better understand them based on this information. You are in a better position to help people, because I can tell you I've been in therapy with many different professional psychiatrists and therapists who actually told me "I should better go see a gastroenterologist" (which by the way I had already done but did not help with the symptoms). Thank you for your work and insights, you help people probably more than you think. Best wishes from Argentina.
I lost 45 lbs. I was so skinny. Im just finally getting my appetite back, my apptite just disappeared. Im graining a little wt back slowly. I fell a few times. I had nothing to wear because everything was huge. Funny thing is im an RN and all the nurses saw me deteriorating and said and did nothing. Not one person asked me if i was ok. I finally fell apart at work and had to go on disability. What is wrong with people? I would've definitely talked to a fellow worker if i saw them falling apart. I couldnt get thru a shift without bursting into tears. This all happened after working on the covid floor and warching the elderly not allowed to see their family. They werent allowed in. I watched them die of lonliness. I couldnt shower or any hygeine. I still cant talk about it without crying
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Sounds like you generally care about people and your coworkers were heartless. I’ve heard a lot of stories about how hard nurses work and many struggle in a toxic work environment. I don’t work in the medical field but I’ve been in toxic work environments and it’s extremely difficult and exhausting to deal with. It is very sad those people weren’t allowed to see family and I hope you find a better environment to work in. I recently gave two weeks notice at my job I was at for 5 years. I had to leave because they kept piling work on me and I’ve been severely depressed after losing my nephew in 2022. Im going to take time off to rest and hopefully will find a better place to work. I think the majority of people that suffer with depression are highly sensitive so we need to avoid toxic people and places as much as possible.
I had moderate depression. It was awful. I never wanted to unalive myself. It's immobilizing. I couldn't even look at the mail. Every daily task was a fight in my mind of why I should do the activity, why I shouldn't do the activity. It was exhausting. Don't tell me to take a shower and go for a walk. I JUST CAN'T do any of those things. I couldn't do those during depression. I can now.
Sounds like me back in 2016 out of no where I had my first panic attack, from that day on I noticed I started to have fears of, taking a shower because I got so light headed, had my first vertigo spell at work, I went home I felt so disoriented, everything felt so fake yet so real at the same time, the Sun was to bright, I quit my job of 7+ years and stayed home I was pretty much bedridden, even laying down made me felt dizzy, and when I sat down or stood up, I felt like I was on a boat, like you I wouldn’t even want to shower, reading a text wasn’t easy, basically everything was a struggle. I slowly got better in late 2017, the depression, anxiety, panic attacks were gone, till one day in July 2023 I woke up, turned to my gf and her room started spinning, and now my panic attack is back
I got rid of my doctor when he didn't want to refer me to any specialist, then got irritable/annoyed when I needed to get my prescription. By sheer chance I found another doctor who did refer me to specialists.
They never did. Mar 5:26 NLT - 26 She had suffered a great deal from many doctors, and over the years she had spent everything she had to pay them, but she had gotten no better. In fact, she had gotten worse.
This is the absolute best explanation of the physical symptoms I've ever heard. I overeat when I am depressed and as you explained, it is because I feel so empty that I keep eating in an attempt to possibly feel better. And it does feel a little better, but there isn't enough food in the world to fill the void. Plus, I have no energy to cook so I rely heavily on junk.
interesting i am the opposite! i barely get hungry at all and eat very little. and when i do eat i dont particularly care for it. it can be a can of beans or a five star restaurant meal im like "yeah ok whatever."
Psa 32:3-5 NLT - 3 When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long. 4 Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat. Interlude (sound familiar?) So whats the cure? 5 Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, "I will confess my rebellion to the LORD." And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone. Interlude
We are also more prone to injuries. Not just self harm or suicidal actions, but we fall up and down steps, bump into walls and furniture, cut ourselves preparing food, break our bones. I am often clumsy and so out of sorts.
Yes. I believe it's because part of our amygdala using up attention and energy, leaving less energy and attention for full alertness. More accidents can happen To cope, to reduce the risk, I walk slower, take more time to engage in tasks, etc. And I remind myself to slow way down. It seems to help me get through.
I agree. When I can actually bring myself to cook something (and this doesn't happen often due to brain fog and a complete lack of appetite), I nearly always burn myself - unintentionally. Something that rarely used to happen when cooking. Bumping my head as I get in or out of my car is another observation which rarely used to happen. I feel like I'm so disconnected and almost operating in autopilot mode. Not that I'm managing to do a fraction of what I used to do effortlessly. 😕 I feel I understand and empathise with how you're feeling. ❤
I struggle with hypersomnia. Everyone thinks I’m lazy. I’m just so so tired all the time, and waking up feels like a horrible shock to the system and a realization that I’m in what feels like hell and have to take on a full day of living in it before I can escape. Then I can’t fall asleep and put it off for hours because the sooner I sleep, the sooner I have to wake up. I’ve been to so many doctors to figure out my fatigue, nausea, stomach problems, and brain fog. No answers. GI doctor shrugged when I asked if it was IBS because nothing else tested positive.
Hi. I am sorry you have to go through this. You are not alone. I feel the exact same way and way beyond. Cannabis helps me and are more effective than the meds, which have serious side effects. Been through those too. But with cannabis, even though I am awake, I somehow feel like I can survive. Like I belong. I really do wish you get better soon, as all the people, who suffer in silence. God Bless.
This so clearly describes me. To try to tell anyone how I feel is so hard. I think I sound like a lazy, hypochondriac. And also it seems unfair to inflict myself on people, even my friends.
80 percent of what you have discussed, I have been going through since after the holidays. Every year exactly I get this right after X-mas till spring hits. It's been like this 4 years now. I'm in my 50s and been dealing with Depression, Anxiety and childhood trauma. So big triggers always activates this awful illness.
Went to bed at 10:30pm. Took clonazepam because for some reason I am in constant anxiety and depression. Got up at 11:15. Read a book. Went back to bed and did a brief breathing exercise. Up again at 12:00 am. Did some journaling. Read some more. Up again at 1:15 am. Against my better judgement, took some hydroxyzine. Waiting for that to work. 1:48 am. Wide awake. Ugh! Dr Scott thanks for putting it out there what dealing with insomnia is like.
I'm with you..!!! Everything he's mentioned I have. I'm on day 4 again. With No sleep at all. It's been 7 months of 24/7 suffering. My traumatic events caused terrible stress and terrible anxiety..... sunk me into anhedonic depression. ... I've called 988 a few times. I don't think I can take it anymore
Just the enormous amount of validation along with knowing other human beings have and do go through what I did for the vast majority of my life..... I fall short of words to express how grateful I am. Thank you.
I’m 71 and I’ve never left a comment although I listen to many talks on utube about the human nature. I also don’t throw around the “I love you” statement. However, I have fallen instantly in love with this good man’s words. Thank You!
I have most of those conditions started when my wife was diagnosed with cancer now she’s gone and I miss having her there to support me I can barely function it’s a living hell insomnia is terrible I feel terrible for you have stomach issues people just don’t understand what it’s like unless they have been through it god bless you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Awwww , so sorry to hear of you're loss and suffering!!! I too have lost my wife, then my home, savings, and..my career job. It spiraled me into the worst stress, anxiety, insomnia and anhedonic depression. Im on another 4 days straight of no sleep. I get 1-2 hrs rarely. I've called 988 a few times. I don't think I'm gonna make it.... 🙏
I quit my job due to anxiety. I've been shaking and jerking for a year now. Waiting for a neurologist. On government benefits, which isn't enough to survive on, which is added stress. I find driving difficult now because my leg shakes. A lady said to me yesterday I may have functional neurological disorder. It's so awful that stress brings about these physical manifestations, yet our society still questions mental illness.
I haven't felt this seen in so long. This made me understand myself a whole lot better, and not beat myself up for being lazy, when im actually just exhausted from lack of quality sleep and malnourishment. Thank you, your work here i s so important!
I've caught 4 chronic illnesses (of those, 2 are autoimmune related) since getting sucked into depression some 7 years ago. I have always had eating disorders which only make my situation worse. No one in my real life ever understands. They blame me for my choices. I do take responsibility for making unhealthy choices to an extent but beyond that, everything seems out of my control. Dr. Scott your videos are very validating. Could you please talk about eating disorders stemming from depression and anxiety? Please and thank you. Hugs.❤
Those who don't go through this will never and can never understand nor do they want to or try to understand. All we are is labeled negative things. The whole nausea and walking into to crap, trip, lose balance etc. This dr is like speaking my life all the time. This is eye opening, confirmation and validating im not crazy and making this up about what im feeling and going through. Thanks for this video ❤
i had anemia....also woke up every couple of hours, brain fog, lack of appetite, nausea and even puking in one occasion. You cant just "snap out of it" . I use spiruline as a food supplement it has changed my energy levels
The appetite thing is real. My depressions are usually atypical depressions, and I compulsively overeat instead of losing my appetite. My last depression was different. It caused me to develop IBS and lose my appetite and I lost 70 pounds. I aged rapidly and still feel pretty bad. I am in the beginnings of another bout of depression and it is sadly the overeating kind and I have gained half of the weight back. I think I might have an eating disorder comorbidity along with the depression. I would love to see a video from you about atypical depression if you ever feel like doing it.
I am struggling with my hair falling out and I need help with my depression snd anxiety. I am scared to get out of bed. Please I am calling out for help.
The body temperature dysregulation is hell. Lots of things are, but that one is really getting to me. Anxiety worse as I age too. I've been trying tapping, w/ limited success. Eating is a job. I lost 35 pounds this last round and went down to 105. Managed to gain back around 6 pounds and thought I was coming out of it after a year, but dipped right back down. Now I'm starting to lose a bit again, because my appetite totally tanked. It's so hard to think of what to eat, or make and to make it. So I'm pooping out again. Working on tips and tools.
I live alone and cooking can be a challenge, but I do love to cook so I think if it as self love 💓 I spent many years feeding and nurturing others, and now I deserve it 😊 you do too ❤
@@helenmcinerney1058 I wish it was that easy. The depression is too deep. I can barely think of what to eat when I shop, let alone cook it. All my creativity and enjoyment w/ cooking is gone, so I heat things up.
I just came across this video. I’ve been struggling with this shit for 8 years. I suspect that I had problems long before that but I was too young to realise. I’ve used lots of medication, been to therapy, watched countless videos. Never seen anyone explain the physical symptoms this way. Thank you so much. I feel really validated right now.
The problem with keeping regular exercises is, my insomnia really gets in the way. Like, when I got only 2-3 hours of sleep, it's really hard to exercise without feeling dizzy and weak. I also have this anxious thought of having heart attack if I exercise with only 2 hours of sleep.
Same here..! ... im getting less sleep now. I keep going for many straight days without... my stress, anxiety are so bad . .. I had trauma., and devastating losses.
…as a German Biologist . .. This happened to me By neglect and reckless burnout and overwork and overwhelm A Wreck. Intense Endurance and Inner Strength Training Made a meta Morphosis To become a New Person To never ever do that again Self Destruction Phoenix…
I haven't slept in so long. This chronic insomnia is unbearable. Along with the Stress and anxiety.... that caused the anhedonic depression... I'm not doing so well also... When can I rest....
Finally this all makes sense! I lost 12lbs in two months with no explanation. My dr ran many tests..nothing. So tired I could hardly function. Hot one minute cold the next. So nauseous had to lay down. Didn’t vomit or have upset stomach. The smell of food made me sick. I was in a severe bipolar depressive episode. Physically didn’t want to or couldn’t do anything. This lasted for months. I never connected the dots. Possibly just wasn’t in the right state of mind to realize what could be causing it. My meds were changed about the time it started. Sick with anxiety. Panic attacks every day.
I am fighting a depressive episode right now. Yes, everything I heard in this video is true. I am in the process of adding motion (exercise, running, etc.) back into my life. I know that this is the only thing that will get me out of this episode. But, it is so hard to get started. Also, I know that my immune system is currently compromised. I am terrified of going out because of pathogen. This makes adding motion back into my life so much more difficult. So many demands in my life right now, and I am pretty much out of commission right now. When I get slightly better I will need to address the cause of this episode. Basically, I was asked to charge a hill in my work, and after I charged the hill by working continuously for 3 weeks, I get the sense that all that efforts is going to waste. I am very angry that people are taking such a cavalier attitude about my work and my health. This will NOT happen again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
100%…I always feel like I have a huge clamp digging into my chest and stomach! I’ve gone from 180 lbs to 125 lbs because I have to force myself to eat! Sleep is so elusive, I feel like a zombie and my memory is horrible! Shaking causes me to ruin paintings…my favourite hobby!Life is not easy!
I'm always perturbed when I go through prolonged periods of physical unwellness AND depression... Which causes which. It's just really really tough when you're mentally unwell and physically at the same time. And you can't explain to people what's going on with yourself. It's horrible.
Exactly.!!! There are no words... its too unbelievable to be true or something. I know it Exactly...! Anxiety, insomnia, and anhedonic Depression.... is unexplainable... I just suffer,.. and nothing has helped.
sounds like you are talking about me. I barely get any sleep, I traded alcohol for food, so then there that too. And yes, all my blood work or other testing comes back normal. The doctors "label" me as chronic pain and it's all in my head." I'm so exhausted & frustrated, I fight myself to stay alive. But I do have or experienced just about everything you have mentioned. I do have a therapist but it's the other doctors I struggle with. thank you for the reminders
I am going thru the same. I'm familiar with the same things. However for me it gets to a point when the alcohol doesn't work and I have to eat in the middle of the night to satiate myself to relax and sleep, not good. I had enough when I got use to drinking 1 liter of wine every night and it was not working to relieve my anxiety because I developed a tolerance, and increasing the alcohol was the only way. I asked my doctor for a psychiatrist for my night anxiety. Gabapentin is helping me stay asleep more frequently and helped me reduce my alcohol use alot, not perfect, but better.
My problem with sleep is that it takes me ages to get to sleep but then when I do I sleep for like 10 hours. Then I feel so sluggish all day. If I need to get up earlier I can but I'll be exhausted and getting brain fog later and end up having a two or three hour nap. Then my sleep that night is all messed up. So I can't win either way :/
This is what depression has looked like for me the past 10/15 yrs. Wake. Up with the sun stare at the wall from my bed till the sun goes down try to fall asleep but never comes early. Eventually pass out like midnight - 2am and back up at 6 to do it all again.
That’s horrendous I thought mine was bad. I can’t count the times I would sit for half a day staring at wall or out window with ZERO thoughts but wanting so bad to be a part of life. Power on my Brother
That's worse ... That's terrible. I just sit... and don't move. I don't want to do anything, or go anywhere. I do... but I can't. I don't sleep anymore,.. im on another 4 days straight... it happens so often I just don't care anymore. Nothing helps. I have stress and anxiety from the trauma I experienced .. and the loss of my career job.... slammed me into anhedonic depression... It sucks... being a prisoner to mental illnesses
Your vids should be mandatory viewing for everyone. It would increase the level of understanding, tolerance, and sympathy that is need by those dealing with a mental health issue. Alcoholics deal with all the symptoms mentioned in this vid as well, speaking from experience.
Thank you Scott, really thank you. I needed this video in this exact moment to reassure me that what I'm experiencing right now is real, and I can manage it and improve. Thank you. I am tired of the palatable version of depression/anxiety, 'vanilla lite.' It makes me feel invisible.
Thank you! From someone that has lived this since high school in mid 1980's, everything you mentioned has been a part of my life at some point, even a trip to the ER because I felt my lungs were just pumping air but not doing anything with it. Turned out to be just severe anxiety. It's a daily battle for happiness and health for anyone dealing with this. For me, starting a daily routine work out program, has helped start a path to a somewhat normal life. Nice to hear you confirm what was always in the back my mind why I feel the way I do. Just hearing this I'm sure will resonate with others the way it did with me, just try it, nothing to lose at this point but the daily anxiety.
When my mental health is in a bad state I get so much muscle tension that my sleep quality suffers and I feel like crap in the morning. Even when I have a few hours of free time in the evening, my neck is constantly in pain and I can't do the things I enjoy that typically alleviate my stress. It's like a domino effect towards a downward spiral.
Everything you talked about is my everyday. Its so hard and such a struggle. And todays economy makes it worse. Never going to the ER again either! Only to be told with a smile that " great news, all your tests look great!" And sent home.
Same here.!!!! They gave me a anxiety pill... after waiting hours.! Im still suffering horribly from anxiety, insomnia and anhedonic depression... my trauma was so severe... the losses were personally devastating. I'm on another 4 days no sleep... and depression is so unbearable
Came across this video at a perfect time. Explanation is great and what I needed to hear as well to help my family better understand me. No doctor has explained this like this way you have so I understand it better. This every thing in the video I go through and it has cost a marriage and he made my depression worse by saying she’s too sick to be with to his lawyer and that was in the papers to mine, it was so embarrassing. Yet I don’t think he or anyone else around me understood this. My lawyer did counteroffer him the marriage counseling and he refused. I had become disabled and was not making my really good income and on top of the disability, many surgeries and then this grueling depression anxiety you talk about during the marriage really took me deep depressed. It hurt so bad I was rejected and thrown away because I am disabled and severely depressed. Yes I’ve been on meds for it. It took another two years after divorce to get motivated to get out of bed, then months more and a new med to get the confidence to go outside. I was having grocery delivered kind of depression anxiety. It feels like the flu so bad still yet I swear I have fibromyalgia. Everyone seems so afraid to address a depressed person.
Sometimes it’s a chronic injury, not illness as with childhood complex-PTSD. A deep wound which causes symptoms isn’t because anything is wrong with me but with my caregiver and environment growing up.
I'm in tears. This man is talking about my life. All I want is to be normal ... I guess that's asking to much.. I've been fighting this for most of my life. I just turned 72 .. Even though I've seen different Dr.'s and no one can help me..
Best explanation that ive heard so far in depression! I never wanna wish this on my enemy! Thats how bad it can be! Till to this day im amazed that i got out of it!
Thank you for putting a name to what I have lived with since 2016. I'm learning strategies to cope, but realizing I'm not just imagining things is incredibly helpful on its own.
Scott you have basically described most of my 'life' for the last 30 or so years! Specifically the last 4. Everything you said rings through for me sadly ☹ I now take an OTC sleeping pill some nights because if I don't sleep evades me completely 🙃 it is a vicious circle because we are anxious if we don't sleep and then when we do sleep we are worried we will sleep in so wake up 3 maybe 4 times in the night...you get my drift? My circadian rhythm is through the roof! So yes, thank you for posting this video...you have helped me more than you know.
If it makes you feel any better, many are just faking it: Pro 14:13 NLT - 13 Laughter can conceal a heavy heart, but when the laughter ends, the grief remains. King David (you might have heard about him) had the same issues as you. Heres how he dealt with them. Hope it helps: Psa 32:3-5 NLT - 3 When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long. 4 Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat. Interlude 5 Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, "I will confess my rebellion to the LORD." And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone.
Because you're sick, it's not your fault. Feeling numb is a side effect of not feeling full or fulfilled, or feeling you are a failure. Depression can come from many places, from what you eat to your surroundings. Be very aware of the people around you, some people radiate so much negative energy and you can soak it all up. Love yourself and realize no one will take care of you like you can. Take care of yourself, you only have one life, treat yourself and start doing what you love. If you aren't sure what you want to do, just start by taking care of yourself, by eating healthier, drinking plenty of water, exercising, going out to nature, getting a little bit of sun. Some things we might never have the desire to start doing, sometimes we need to repeatly force ourselves until it becomes a habit. Just because we don't like doing something doesn't mean we can't build a habit and actually start enjoying it!
Never dealt with depression of any kind in my life I’ve always thought it was BS till recently I thought I was dying from liver failure and felt physical pain and symptoms that I created In my mind my brother almost died from liver failure a few months prior! I’m not sure if that had something to do with it I literally was 100% convinced without any doubt and was suffering for a month til I went to the ER and was told I was completely healthy and fine! This was more shocking to me than them telling me I was dying it’s still hard to accept
Depression and anxiety has stopped and ruined my life. Many Doctors, therapists, a raft of medicines. I'm now 75, had this since I was 32. Agoraphobia is a nightmare. Poor sleep for years. I live with this and will until my life is over. It's ok. I had handle it.
I have lived with depression most of my life. Anxiety has also been a factor. Always tired. Omg I was hospitalized for heart failure. I spent a whole night falling asleep then gasping for air! Wake up sleep wake up horrible ! I also retained water. Probly worse.
Man I love you. I have been struggling with bpd and depression for over 15 years now and you describe some of my feelings perfectly. Feeling like Im living on burrowed time, feeling like Im aging faster, like my fire is consuming more every day the the fires of others. My skin heals slower and Im in a constant state of exhaustion. Some little things can be enough and the house of cards falls into itself. I really appreciate your channel and your words, best wishes form somewhere on this planet :)
I've struggled with anxiety for longer than I can remember, before even realizing/recognizing what it was. I've made significant progress in the past 6 months or so with a combination of therapy and medicine prescribed by a psychiatrist. I still have episodes, but they've become more controllable, where I'm not fully bed ridden, and can take my daughter to school, take myself to work. I can usually handle the typical routine, it's when there's a significant change in things, like having to go to the corporate office, my wife going on a work trip, is when I seem to begin my spiral. Hearing you talk about the physical effects felt like you were literally describing me, and that hit really close to home. In one sense it's validating to know others are feeling what I am, but the other side has me in tears, knowing this is what we go through. I'm eternally grateful for my therapist and psychiatrist, because I don't know where I'd be without them. Thank you for all you do.
I definitely relate to the sleep issues, anxiety/worrying, exhaustion, and some digestive issues, though I don't eat poorly . Just today, it was all I could do to complete a small project I started yesterday. I had to break it up throughout the day, or I would have given up. I'm really hoping to see somebody in the very near future, if I can, and don't chicken out. Thanks for all your videos (and the book). I haven't read it yet, but it's next on my reading list.😊
Ive had chronic symptoms for 3 years its been so bad. The last 2 years ive had blurry vision and eye floaters they say is from anxiety and its been constant for the whole 2 hears 😞
Same here.!!! My Anxiety and stress was next level for too long. My eyesight went blurry!!! It's so horrifying !! I just lost my Career job,... and everything worsened. I've gotten anhedonic depression now... Won't be long.... its too unbearable
This sums up my life for the last year 😢 chronic sympathetic dominance, malnutrition, exhaustion, depression and anxiety. but now I'm turning things around, and going into allied health so i can help people because you don't know what it's like unless you've been there.
I can relate so much to most of this! My life is like a never ending soap opera. There is one drama after the next. I’m fortunate to have a wonderful partner, strong willpower and a great therapist
I appreciate you talking about depression. I’ve been treated for depression for a long time. I can’t focus, I sometimes sleep too much. Extreme sadness. A lot more symptoms. I have had nausea sometimes and have thought it might be from so much stress, situations that are very hard. Thank you for your help.
Thank you for this subject. It's very important to teach people what depression (that has so many faces) may look like. You never know who of your family or friends might have this horrible - yet still stigmatized - illness.
I’m watching this at 3am!! Thank you so much-everything is making sense to me regarding how physically “off” I’ve been feeling. I’ve found it incredibly helpful and will be going walking tomorrow plus making the first appointment with a therapist.
I have Crohn's and depression/anxiety, and I always struggle convincing the doctors that the depression is far and away the bigger problem. Having someone say all of this is incredibly validating, thank you so much.
This is so validating...the shame of being depressed compounds the condition...so every time Dr Scott calls out actual 'symptoms' it supports my recovery...because IT IS NOT A PERSONALITY DEFFECT 😂 alleluia 🎉🙏🏻
Thank you for listing all the ways this manifests, as opposed to, you know, “You’re a Loser.” Self-empathy then extends to these low-empathy accusers. Why do others’ complaints affect them so personally? It’s like all the air is getting sucked out of the room and they feel bad because they’re keeping their breathing masks to themselves, so they lash out and say you’d be okay if you shut up and used less oxygen.
Thank you for bringing the fact tbat there are varying degrees of depression and anxiety front and center. It needs to be talked about. So many variables tbat can go into the whole thing as well, because our decks are all stacked completely differently and what might be a little rough patch or isolated for one person might be devastating to another. I agree with you that a lot of the self help and even therapy programs are very targeted toward milder or shorter term types of issues, so thank you for what you do for "the rest of us" who want and need whatever additional resources we can find to help ourselves work on and through things.
Been dealing with depression since childhood.. I’ve been trying to figure out why I always feel so nauseous all the time and having to go to hospital for it.. Now I know, thank u
I have every one of these symptoms and more, have been getting help for 6 months and it’s a struggle and can get worse at times but I am still working on it, hopefully will be improve eventually. It is so stressful that people invalidate these symptoms. I’ve been going to the doctors for these for 13 years before I got answers, so frustrating
Oh my gosh I have had many episodes of anxiety and depression been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder I can not begin to tell you I had to pay a physciatrist I was on my knees literally when I got into see him had to change my meds I eventually got right but all I can say is it felt worse than any physical pain 😢I literally was in desperate panic to get well .
I love that you were sooooo truthful, in 2021 I threw up nearly every day from June 21, lasted months. I can't stop sleeping 😴 I'm exhausted plus going through perimenopause.❤😢
The loss of appetite when constantly anxious can be such an issue, a few months ago I went through an episode of severe anxiety and anxiety/panic attacks caused by serious hypertension that I didnt know that I had. I lost 20kg (44lbs) in less than a month. I kind of needed to lose those lbs anyway so I'm not totally unhappy about it but it definitely wasn't a healthy way to lose weight. When feeling highly anxious I just can not eat I don't even want to see food, I can go 2 or 3 days without eating a thing and still not feel hungry in the slightest. But when you're malnourished your body's various systems aren't getting the fuel and nutrients they need to function correctly, your whole body becomes stressed and weakened and it's going to add to your anxiety, you have to force yourself to consume something healthy and balanced regularly, I find those on the go liquid breakfast drinks are easy to drink, and i make my own healthy smoothies I blend oat milk, a banana, some natural unsweetened yogurt, dried goji berries, chia seeds, flax seed meal, and a handful of mixed nuts, even if I have no appetite I can manage to sip away on one of these and after I've finished it just knowing that I just consumed something highly nutritious for my body actually makes me feel better about myself and lessens my anxiety a lot.
12years of disturbed sleep, awake 6 or 7 times a night. Its got to the point that i dont share a bed with my wife any more as i fear waking her. It feels as if im trying to function while half dead. Dont know any different. This now feels normal! Amazing i havent been fired yet....
Dr. Scott, I am a new subscriber and so thankful I found you. Your videos almost always help me in some way but this one, I truly felt you were talking about me. I have experienced all the things (except insomnia). I had a seizure in 2016 at my desk at work and I have had sooo many diagnosis since then. I go between having zero feelings about anything at all to obsession about what is wrong with me and how to fix it. From time to time I have wondered if my severe depression and anxiety with hypersomnia had anything to do with my physical health. Thank you so much for finally answering that question for me. I plan to take this information to my PCP and therapist and see what they suggest. Bless you for all you do for so many...
I’ve gone through all of this . I was so malnourished that I lost hair and teeth . I feel myself getting there again. I’ve been to several therapist and still have not found the help I need to get change and movement . I haven’t slept in almost 30 years . Broken sleep and sometimes no sleep . My body’s so heavy sometimes it feels filled with cement . I know this is killing me and I’ve done all I can and know to do and have reached out to professionals for years and no one can help me .
Explain perfectly! Add to menopause & my world stopped. I have told ALL my drs that I never slept more than 1 hour & I felt that I was walking underwater all the time! Telling them this for over 10yrs! The IBS went crazy constantly. Didn't eat cause made me so nauseous & have blow out diarrhea. Throw tons of drugs at me (most made me sicker), not once did they suggest Therapy for Depression, Anxiety. Drugs, yes. They made me crazy! I did have a ❤attack. Then 2 cardiac Ablations & Still had another ❤attack!!! Miracle I'm alive. The damage to my gut, nervous system, my liver & kidneys is now severe. Depression is about to kill me, simple as that. I'd like to smack them all across the face with a transcript of this video!!! Physician "First do NO Harm" - a cruel joke😢
It is b s anxitety and depression can affect people very differently. Some of my friends say" just get over it" pray about it. It makes me sick to my stomic. Sleep interuption is hopeless. It sucks. Even when you don't know why. Thanks for this video. I will show some of my friends.
Elevated cortisol levels, due to chronic stress create extrapyramidal symptoms (arms and legs shaking). Been trough this - not fun. You think you're going crazy.
I feel like I don't want to be judged or a Debbie downer. People don't get it and say you can snap out of it. Truth be told I have insomnia, extreme anxiety, depression, sadness, digestive disorders, fatigued ptsd on and on. I don't have anyone to go to, I'm single, very lonely, no joy in life I could continue but this is the basics. I do feel sick often
And panic attacks
I can totally relate to this , you can feel so judged and scared and you don't know how not to feel scared.
@@nikkikelley1743 I have same issues and more like you do. I wish we could push a button and make things better. I do think there should be a place where we and other people who suffer this way could talk about this very debilitating issues. I really think that talking would help us all ❤
Same here
Same.
I must have seen thousands of videos and read dozens of books on depression and anxiety, and it is the very first time I actually listen to someone addressing these issues. Particularly the constant nausea, I thought it was a "me problem". Thank you for talking about it, it shows you care and truly empathize with patients or clients. Hopefully people who have a loved one going through these things can better understand them based on this information. You are in a better position to help people, because I can tell you I've been in therapy with many different professional psychiatrists and therapists who actually told me "I should better go see a gastroenterologist" (which by the way I had already done but did not help with the symptoms). Thank you for your work and insights, you help people probably more than you think. Best wishes from Argentina.
I lost 45 lbs. I was so skinny. Im just finally getting my appetite back, my apptite just disappeared. Im graining a little wt back slowly. I fell a few times. I had nothing to wear because everything was huge. Funny thing is im an RN and all the nurses saw me deteriorating and said and did nothing. Not one person asked me if i was ok. I finally fell apart at work and had to go on disability. What is wrong with people? I would've definitely talked to a fellow worker if i saw them falling apart. I couldnt get thru a shift without bursting into tears. This all happened after working on the covid floor and warching the elderly not allowed to see their family. They werent allowed in. I watched them die of lonliness. I couldnt shower or any hygeine. I still cant talk about it without crying
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Sounds like you generally care about people and your coworkers were heartless. I’ve heard a lot of stories about how hard nurses work and many struggle in a toxic work environment. I don’t work in the medical field but I’ve been in toxic work environments and it’s extremely difficult and exhausting to deal with. It is very sad those people weren’t allowed to see family and I hope you find a better environment to work in. I recently gave two weeks notice at my job I was at for 5 years. I had to leave because they kept piling work on me and I’ve been severely depressed after losing my nephew in 2022. Im going to take time off to rest and hopefully will find a better place to work. I think the majority of people that suffer with depression are highly sensitive so we need to avoid toxic people and places as much as possible.
I had moderate depression. It was awful. I never wanted to unalive myself. It's immobilizing. I couldn't even look at the mail. Every daily task was a fight in my mind of why I should do the activity, why I shouldn't do the activity. It was exhausting. Don't tell me to take a shower and go for a walk. I JUST CAN'T do any of those things. I couldn't do those during depression. I can now.
how did you get out of it?
how did you get out of it
Wow,... I'm living that same struggle. Well explained !! I hope to recover... this is extremely uncomfortable to live this struggle.
Sounds like me back in 2016 out of no where I had my first panic attack, from that day on I noticed I started to have fears of, taking a shower because I got so light headed, had my first vertigo spell at work, I went home I felt so disoriented, everything felt so fake yet so real at the same time, the Sun was to bright, I quit my job of 7+ years and stayed home I was pretty much bedridden, even laying down made me felt dizzy, and when I sat down or stood up, I felt like I was on a boat, like you I wouldn’t even want to shower, reading a text wasn’t easy, basically everything was a struggle. I slowly got better in late 2017, the depression, anxiety, panic attacks were gone, till one day in July 2023 I woke up, turned to my gf and her room started spinning, and now my panic attack is back
You've just explained my life and doctors don't seem to care anymore.
I got rid of my doctor when he didn't want to refer me to any specialist, then got irritable/annoyed when I needed to get my prescription. By sheer chance I found another doctor who did refer me to specialists.
Same here. SSRI help somehow, makes it tolerable, but never “normal”
They never did.
Mar 5:26 NLT - 26 She had suffered a great deal from many doctors, and over the years she had spent everything she had to pay them, but she had gotten no better. In fact, she had gotten worse.
They want five minutes and bill your insurance.
They never do
They’re only there to get paid
It’s stupid
My symptoms are Headache, joint pain, stomach pain bloating, fatigue, numbness in hands and feet ,lost of interest in thing's 😢
Wow same😢
Wow 😮 me too!
Here also 😢
Is this everyday muscle pain
Yes
This is the absolute best explanation of the physical symptoms I've ever heard. I overeat when I am depressed and as you explained, it is because I feel so empty that I keep eating in an attempt to possibly feel better. And it does feel a little better, but there isn't enough food in the world to fill the void. Plus, I have no energy to cook so I rely heavily on junk.
interesting i am the opposite! i barely get hungry at all and eat very little. and when i do eat i dont particularly care for it. it can be a can of beans or a five star restaurant meal im like "yeah ok whatever."
100% with you on that. While eating I'm fine... before & after not good
@@fourshore502I’m the same. I’m a 59 year old bloke who loses appetite big style.
Psa 32:3-5 NLT - 3 When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long. 4 Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat. Interlude
(sound familiar?)
So whats the cure?
5 Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, "I will confess my rebellion to the LORD." And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone. Interlude
I’m right there with you.
We are also more prone to injuries. Not just self harm or suicidal actions, but we fall up and down steps, bump into walls and furniture, cut ourselves preparing food, break our bones. I am often clumsy and so out of sorts.
Me too
Yes. I believe it's because part of our amygdala using up attention and energy, leaving less energy and attention for full alertness.
More accidents can happen
To cope,
to reduce the risk, I walk slower, take more time to engage in tasks, etc. And I remind myself to slow way down. It seems to help me get through.
I agree. When I can actually bring myself to cook something (and this doesn't happen often due to brain fog and a complete lack of appetite), I nearly always burn myself - unintentionally. Something that rarely used to happen when cooking. Bumping my head as I get in or out of my car is another observation which rarely used to happen. I feel like I'm so disconnected and almost operating in autopilot mode. Not that I'm managing to do a fraction of what I used to do effortlessly. 😕 I feel I understand and empathise with how you're feeling. ❤
I'm very clumsy, I thought it was my autism, but maybe both
Depression can be paralytic. Ty for addressing this.
I struggle with hypersomnia. Everyone thinks I’m lazy. I’m just so so tired all the time, and waking up feels like a horrible shock to the system and a realization that I’m in what feels like hell and have to take on a full day of living in it before I can escape. Then I can’t fall asleep and put it off for hours because the sooner I sleep, the sooner I have to wake up.
I’ve been to so many doctors to figure out my fatigue, nausea, stomach problems, and brain fog. No answers. GI doctor shrugged when I asked if it was IBS because nothing else tested positive.
Hi. I am sorry you have to go through this. You are not alone. I feel the exact same way and way beyond.
Cannabis helps me and are more effective than the meds, which have serious side effects. Been through those too.
But with cannabis, even though I am awake, I somehow feel like I can survive. Like I belong.
I really do wish you get better soon, as all the people, who suffer in silence. God Bless.
Have you heard of Dr Peter Osborne on youtube?
every morning before work I want to cry. my body isn't awake at 7 am. I'm very slow for the first half of the day.
This so clearly describes me. To try to tell anyone how I feel is so hard. I think I sound like a lazy, hypochondriac. And also it seems unfair to inflict myself on people, even my friends.
Yes!!!!!
80 percent of what you have discussed, I have been going through since after the holidays. Every year exactly I get this right after X-mas till spring hits. It's been like this 4 years now. I'm in my 50s and been dealing with Depression, Anxiety and childhood trauma. So big triggers always activates this awful illness.
Have you considered or received any trauma specialized therapy modalities? I hope you can find remission from this.
Everything you say are what I have felt for the past 30 years. Sleep is constantly all over the place.
Went to bed at 10:30pm. Took clonazepam because for some reason I am in constant anxiety and depression. Got up at 11:15. Read a book. Went back to bed and did a brief breathing exercise. Up again at 12:00 am. Did some journaling. Read some more. Up again at 1:15 am. Against my better judgement, took some hydroxyzine. Waiting for that to work. 1:48 am. Wide awake. Ugh! Dr Scott thanks for putting it out there what dealing with insomnia is like.
I'm with you..!!! Everything he's mentioned I have.
I'm on day 4 again. With No sleep at all. It's been 7 months of 24/7 suffering. My traumatic events caused terrible stress and terrible anxiety..... sunk me into anhedonic depression.
... I've called 988 a few times.
I don't think I can take it anymore
Just the enormous amount of validation along with knowing other human beings have and do go through what I did for the vast majority of my life..... I fall short of words to express how grateful I am. Thank you.
You just described my entire existance in great detail.
I’m 71 and I’ve never left a comment although I listen to many talks on utube about the human nature. I also don’t throw around the “I love you” statement.
However, I have fallen instantly in love with this good man’s words. Thank You!
I have most of those conditions started when my wife was diagnosed with cancer now she’s gone and I miss having her there to support me I can barely function it’s a living hell insomnia is terrible I feel terrible for you have stomach issues people just don’t understand what it’s like unless they have been through it god bless you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Awwww , so sorry to hear of you're loss and suffering!!!
I too have lost my wife, then my home, savings, and..my career job. It spiraled me into the worst stress, anxiety, insomnia and anhedonic depression. Im on another 4 days straight of no sleep. I get 1-2 hrs rarely. I've called 988 a few times. I don't think I'm gonna make it.... 🙏
I quit my job due to anxiety. I've been shaking and jerking for a year now. Waiting for a neurologist. On government benefits, which isn't enough to survive on, which is added stress. I find driving difficult now because my leg shakes. A lady said to me yesterday I may have functional neurological disorder. It's so awful that stress brings about these physical manifestations, yet our society still questions mental illness.
I'm waiting to see a Neurologist for potential functional neurological disorder too 😔 my legs and arms stop working especially in moments of stress
I haven't felt this seen in so long. This made me understand myself a whole lot better, and not beat myself up for being lazy, when im actually just exhausted from lack of quality sleep and malnourishment. Thank you, your work here i s so important!
I've caught 4 chronic illnesses (of those, 2 are autoimmune related) since getting sucked into depression some 7 years ago.
I have always had eating disorders which only make my situation worse. No one in my real life ever understands. They blame me for my choices. I do take responsibility for making unhealthy choices to an extent but beyond that, everything seems out of my control.
Dr. Scott your videos are very validating. Could you please talk about eating disorders stemming from depression and anxiety? Please and thank you. Hugs.❤
I could not have described my life better than this video did. Ugh
Those who don't go through this will never and can never understand nor do they want to or try to understand. All we are is labeled negative things. The whole nausea and walking into to crap, trip, lose balance etc. This dr is like speaking my life all the time. This is eye opening, confirmation and validating im not crazy and making this up about what im feeling and going through. Thanks for this video ❤
i had anemia....also woke up every couple of hours, brain fog, lack of appetite, nausea and even puking in one occasion. You cant just "snap out of it" . I use spiruline as a food supplement it has changed my energy levels
Somedays all I can manage to do is breathe.
Even with that, my panic attacks make it hard
Hang in there! Its all u have! Your breath and yourself! Hang on to you! 😢
Same and I have trouble even doing that sometimes, taking deep breaths and sick stomach
Hits the nail on the head once more. I’ve literally visited hell several times in the last few months. A mental hell, but hell nonetheless.
The appetite thing is real. My depressions are usually atypical depressions, and I compulsively overeat instead of losing my appetite. My last depression was different. It caused me to develop IBS and lose my appetite and I lost 70 pounds. I aged rapidly and still feel pretty bad. I am in the beginnings of another bout of depression and it is sadly the overeating kind and I have gained half of the weight back. I think I might have an eating disorder comorbidity along with the depression. I would love to see a video from you about atypical depression if you ever feel like doing it.
I am struggling with my hair falling out and I need help with my depression snd anxiety. I am scared to get out of bed. Please I am calling out for help.
Depression gives me so much stomach pain and nausea I vomit allot even when I don’t eat allot. I can’t hold water down so I have dehydration allot.
The body temperature dysregulation is hell. Lots of things are, but that one is really getting to me. Anxiety worse as I age too. I've been trying tapping, w/ limited success. Eating is a job. I lost 35 pounds this last round and went down to 105. Managed to gain back around 6 pounds and thought I was coming out of it after a year, but dipped right back down. Now I'm starting to lose a bit again, because my appetite totally tanked. It's so hard to think of what to eat, or make and to make it. So I'm pooping out again. Working on tips and tools.
I live alone and cooking can be a challenge, but I do love to cook so I think if it as self love 💓 I spent many years feeding and nurturing others, and now I deserve it 😊 you do too ❤
@@helenmcinerney1058 I wish it was that easy. The depression is too deep. I can barely think of what to eat when I shop, let alone cook it. All my creativity and enjoyment w/ cooking is gone, so I heat things up.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 I'm so sorry it's that bad, Tim Fletcher on YT is a great resource too
The exact same way for me 🙁
@@saintejeannedarc9460does THC give you appetite
I just came across this video. I’ve been struggling with this shit for 8 years. I suspect that I had problems long before that but I was too young to realise. I’ve used lots of medication, been to therapy, watched countless videos. Never seen anyone explain the physical symptoms this way. Thank you so much. I feel really validated right now.
Same here..... just the validations... i try telling others,.. but they don't believe it's that bad...
It's worse than I can describe.
.
The problem with keeping regular exercises is, my insomnia really gets in the way. Like, when I got only 2-3 hours of sleep, it's really hard to exercise without feeling dizzy and weak. I also have this anxious thought of having heart attack if I exercise with only 2 hours of sleep.
Same here..!
... im getting less sleep now.
I keep going for many straight days without... my stress, anxiety are so bad .
.. I had trauma., and devastating losses.
…as a German Biologist . ..
This happened to me
By neglect and reckless burnout
and overwork and overwhelm
A Wreck.
Intense Endurance and Inner Strength Training
Made a meta Morphosis
To become a New Person
To never ever do that again
Self Destruction
Phoenix…
This has been my life mostly and I have no hope to get better. I will rest when I die
I haven't slept in so long.
This chronic insomnia is unbearable.
Along with the Stress and anxiety.... that caused the anhedonic depression...
I'm not doing so well also...
When can I rest....
Finally this all makes sense! I lost 12lbs in two months with no explanation. My dr ran many tests..nothing. So tired I could hardly function. Hot one minute cold the next. So nauseous had to lay down. Didn’t vomit or have upset stomach. The smell of food made me sick. I was in a severe bipolar depressive episode. Physically didn’t want to or couldn’t do anything. This lasted for months. I never connected the dots. Possibly just wasn’t in the right state of mind to realize what could be causing it. My meds were changed about the time it started. Sick with anxiety. Panic attacks every day.
I am fighting a depressive episode right now. Yes, everything I heard in this video is true. I am in the process of adding motion (exercise, running, etc.) back into my life. I know that this is the only thing that will get me out of this episode. But, it is so hard to get started. Also, I know that my immune system is currently compromised. I am terrified of going out because of pathogen. This makes adding motion back into my life so much more difficult. So many demands in my life right now, and I am pretty much out of commission right now. When I get slightly better I will need to address the cause of this episode. Basically, I was asked to charge a hill in my work, and after I charged the hill by working continuously for 3 weeks, I get the sense that all that efforts is going to waste. I am very angry that people are taking such a cavalier attitude about my work and my health. This will NOT happen again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
100%…I always feel like I have a huge clamp digging into my chest and stomach! I’ve gone from 180 lbs to 125 lbs because I have to force myself to eat! Sleep is so elusive, I feel like a zombie and my memory is horrible! Shaking causes me to ruin paintings…my favourite hobby!Life is not easy!
Thank you for putting into words, how tough it can be. Sometimes I think I’m ‘crazy’ (hate that word)
Ask your doc for some quitiapine. It will knock you right out. I stopped taking it because it made me sleep too much.
Me too. Hang in there 💙💙💙💙💙
I'm always perturbed when I go through prolonged periods of physical unwellness AND depression... Which causes which. It's just really really tough when you're mentally unwell and physically at the same time. And you can't explain to people what's going on with yourself. It's horrible.
Exactly.!!! There are no words... its too unbelievable to be true or something.
I know it Exactly...!
Anxiety, insomnia, and anhedonic Depression.... is unexplainable... I just suffer,.. and nothing has helped.
sounds like you are talking about me. I barely get any sleep, I traded alcohol for food, so then there that too. And yes, all my blood work or other testing comes back normal. The doctors "label" me as chronic pain and it's all in my head." I'm so exhausted & frustrated, I fight myself to stay alive. But I do have or experienced just about everything you have mentioned. I do have a therapist but it's the other doctors I struggle with. thank you for the reminders
I am going thru the same. I'm familiar with the same things.
However for me it gets to a point when the alcohol doesn't work and I have to eat in the middle of the night to satiate myself to relax and sleep, not good. I had enough when I got use to drinking 1 liter of wine every night and it was not working to relieve my anxiety because I developed a tolerance, and increasing the alcohol was the only way. I asked my doctor for a psychiatrist for my night anxiety. Gabapentin is helping me stay asleep more frequently and helped me reduce my alcohol use alot, not perfect, but better.
My problem with sleep is that it takes me ages to get to sleep but then when I do I sleep for like 10 hours. Then I feel so sluggish all day. If I need to get up earlier I can but I'll be exhausted and getting brain fog later and end up having a two or three hour nap. Then my sleep that night is all messed up. So I can't win either way :/
This is what depression has looked like for me the past 10/15 yrs.
Wake. Up with the sun stare at the wall from my bed till the sun goes down try to fall asleep but never comes early. Eventually pass out like midnight - 2am and back up at 6 to do it all again.
😢
I am in the same situation and I am scared I can't get up
That’s horrendous I thought mine was bad. I can’t count the times I would sit for half a day staring at wall or out window with ZERO thoughts but wanting so bad to be a part of life. Power on my Brother
That's worse ...
That's terrible.
I just sit... and don't move. I don't want to do anything, or go anywhere. I do... but I can't. I don't sleep anymore,.. im on another 4 days straight... it happens so often I just don't care anymore. Nothing helps. I have stress and anxiety from the trauma I experienced .. and the loss of my career job.... slammed me into anhedonic depression...
It sucks... being a prisoner to mental illnesses
Your vids should be mandatory viewing for everyone. It would increase the level of understanding, tolerance, and sympathy that is need by those dealing with a mental health issue. Alcoholics deal with all the symptoms mentioned in this vid as well, speaking from experience.
Thank you Scott, really thank you. I needed this video in this exact moment to reassure me that what I'm experiencing right now is real, and I can manage it and improve. Thank you. I am tired of the palatable version of depression/anxiety, 'vanilla lite.' It makes me feel invisible.
On top of everything you've said, let me mention a difficult time for a woman in menopause dealing with depression. It’s even worse.
I ended up driving to the physiciatric hospital for them just to get me well ,it turns out you can't just get help by going there 🙃
Thank you! From someone that has lived this since high school in mid 1980's, everything you mentioned has been a part of my life at some point, even a trip to the ER because I felt my lungs were just pumping air but not doing anything with it. Turned out to be just severe anxiety. It's a daily battle for happiness and health for anyone dealing with this. For me, starting a daily routine work out program, has helped start a path to a somewhat normal life. Nice to hear you confirm what was always in the back my mind why I feel the way I do. Just hearing this I'm sure will resonate with others the way it did with me, just try it, nothing to lose at this point but the daily anxiety.
Same here man. Started Feb 1986. Hard to believe it's been 37 years.
When my mental health is in a bad state I get so much muscle tension that my sleep quality suffers and I feel like crap in the morning. Even when I have a few hours of free time in the evening, my neck is constantly in pain and I can't do the things I enjoy that typically alleviate my stress. It's like a domino effect towards a downward spiral.
Everything you talked about is my everyday. Its so hard and such a struggle. And todays economy makes it worse.
Never going to the ER again either! Only to be told with a smile that " great news, all your tests look great!" And sent home.
Same here.!!!! They gave me a anxiety pill... after waiting hours.! Im still suffering horribly from anxiety, insomnia and anhedonic depression... my trauma was so severe... the losses were personally devastating.
I'm on another 4 days no sleep... and depression is so unbearable
Came across this video at a perfect time. Explanation is great and what I needed to hear as well to help my family better understand me. No doctor has explained this like this way you have so I understand it better. This every thing in the video I go through and it has cost a marriage and he made my depression worse by saying she’s too sick to be with to his lawyer and that was in the papers to mine, it was so embarrassing. Yet I don’t think he or anyone else around me understood this. My lawyer did counteroffer him the marriage counseling and he refused. I had become disabled and was not making my really good income and on top of the disability, many surgeries and then this grueling depression anxiety you talk about during the marriage really took me deep depressed. It hurt so bad I was rejected and thrown away because I am disabled and severely depressed. Yes I’ve been on meds for it. It took another two years after divorce to get motivated to get out of bed, then months more and a new med to get the confidence to go outside. I was having grocery delivered kind of depression anxiety. It feels like the flu so bad still yet I swear I have fibromyalgia. Everyone seems so afraid to address a depressed person.
Sometimes it’s a chronic injury, not illness as with childhood complex-PTSD. A deep wound which causes symptoms isn’t because anything is wrong with me but with my caregiver and environment growing up.
I'm in tears. This man is talking about my life. All I want is to be normal ... I guess that's asking to much.. I've been fighting this for most of my life. I just turned 72 .. Even though I've seen different Dr.'s and no one can help me..
Best explanation that ive heard so far in depression! I never wanna wish this on my enemy! Thats how bad it can be! Till to this day im amazed that i got out of it!
Thank you for putting a name to what I have lived with since 2016. I'm learning strategies to cope, but realizing I'm not just imagining things is incredibly helpful on its own.
Scott you have basically described most of my 'life' for the last 30 or so years! Specifically the last 4. Everything you said rings through for me sadly ☹ I now take an OTC sleeping pill some nights because if I don't sleep evades me completely 🙃 it is a vicious circle because we are anxious if we don't sleep and then when we do sleep we are worried we will sleep in so wake up 3 maybe 4 times in the night...you get my drift? My circadian rhythm is through the roof! So yes, thank you for posting this video...you have helped me more than you know.
My hair did fall out about two thirds of it and made me severely anemic. After a lot of Iron and specials shampoos my hair is great now.❤
Do you mind sharing what type of shampoos? Ty! ❤
I see people laughing and enjoying those around them. What did they do that I didn’t!
If it makes you feel any better, many are just faking it:
Pro 14:13 NLT - 13 Laughter can conceal a heavy heart, but when the laughter ends, the grief remains.
King David (you might have heard about him) had the same issues as you. Heres how he dealt with them. Hope it helps:
Psa 32:3-5 NLT - 3 When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long. 4 Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat. Interlude 5 Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, "I will confess my rebellion to the LORD." And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone.
I struggle with this too! I’m jealous!
Because you're sick, it's not your fault. Feeling numb is a side effect of not feeling full or fulfilled, or feeling you are a failure. Depression can come from many places, from what you eat to your surroundings. Be very aware of the people around you, some people radiate so much negative energy and you can soak it all up. Love yourself and realize no one will take care of you like you can. Take care of yourself, you only have one life, treat yourself and start doing what you love. If you aren't sure what you want to do, just start by taking care of yourself, by eating healthier, drinking plenty of water, exercising, going out to nature, getting a little bit of sun. Some things we might never have the desire to start doing, sometimes we need to repeatly force ourselves until it becomes a habit. Just because we don't like doing something doesn't mean we can't build a habit and actually start enjoying it!
Never dealt with depression of any kind in my life I’ve always thought it was BS till recently I thought I was dying from liver failure and felt physical pain and symptoms that I created In my mind my brother almost died from liver failure a few months prior! I’m not sure if that had something to do with it I literally was 100% convinced without any doubt and was suffering for a month til I went to the ER and was told I was completely healthy and fine! This was more shocking to me than them telling me I was dying it’s still hard to accept
Depression and anxiety has stopped and ruined my life. Many Doctors, therapists, a raft of medicines. I'm now 75, had this since I was 32. Agoraphobia is a nightmare. Poor sleep for years. I live with this and will until my life is over. It's ok. I had handle it.
I have lived with depression most of my life. Anxiety has also been a factor. Always tired. Omg I was hospitalized for heart failure. I spent a whole night falling asleep then gasping for air! Wake up sleep wake up horrible ! I also retained water. Probly worse.
So true, You can't do that with this very real painful thing. 💔
Everything you are saying is exactly me. Everything single thing.
Same here..!!!
... i don't know what to do...
I don't want to even do anything...
Man I love you. I have been struggling with bpd and depression for over 15 years now and you describe some of my feelings perfectly. Feeling like Im living on burrowed time, feeling like Im aging faster, like my fire is consuming more every day the the fires of others. My skin heals slower and Im in a constant state of exhaustion. Some little things can be enough and the house of cards falls into itself.
I really appreciate your channel and your words, best wishes form somewhere on this planet :)
I've struggled with anxiety for longer than I can remember, before even realizing/recognizing what it was. I've made significant progress in the past 6 months or so with a combination of therapy and medicine prescribed by a psychiatrist. I still have episodes, but they've become more controllable, where I'm not fully bed ridden, and can take my daughter to school, take myself to work. I can usually handle the typical routine, it's when there's a significant change in things, like having to go to the corporate office, my wife going on a work trip, is when I seem to begin my spiral.
Hearing you talk about the physical effects felt like you were literally describing me, and that hit really close to home. In one sense it's validating to know others are feeling what I am, but the other side has me in tears, knowing this is what we go through. I'm eternally grateful for my therapist and psychiatrist, because I don't know where I'd be without them.
Thank you for all you do.
I definitely relate to the sleep issues, anxiety/worrying, exhaustion, and some digestive issues, though I don't eat poorly .
Just today, it was all I could do to complete a small project I started yesterday. I had to break it up throughout the day, or I would have given up. I'm really hoping to see somebody in the very near future, if I can, and don't chicken out.
Thanks for all your videos (and the book). I haven't read it yet, but it's next on my reading list.😊
Ive had chronic symptoms for 3 years its been so bad. The last 2 years ive had blurry vision and eye floaters they say is from anxiety and its been constant for the whole 2 hears 😞
Same here.!!! My Anxiety and stress was next level for too long.
My eyesight went blurry!!! It's so horrifying !! I just lost my Career job,... and everything worsened. I've gotten anhedonic depression now...
Won't be long.... its too unbearable
This sums up my life for the last year 😢 chronic sympathetic dominance, malnutrition, exhaustion, depression and anxiety. but now I'm turning things around, and going into allied health so i can help people because you don't know what it's like unless you've been there.
I can relate so much to most of this! My life is like a never ending soap opera. There is one drama after the next. I’m fortunate to have a wonderful partner, strong willpower and a great therapist
I appreciate you talking about depression. I’ve been treated for depression for a long time. I can’t focus, I sometimes sleep too much. Extreme sadness. A lot more symptoms. I have had nausea sometimes and have thought it might be from so much stress, situations that are very hard. Thank you for your help.
This is my life .
Dr Eilers, please put this video, audio, transcript on as many public forums as humanly possible! This is that important.
I have had all these problems, it's good you have told us this. When I have a physical problem its better than better mental
Thank you for this subject. It's very important to teach people what depression (that has so many faces) may look like. You never know who of your family or friends might have this horrible - yet still stigmatized - illness.
I’m watching this at 3am!! Thank you so much-everything is making sense to me regarding how physically “off” I’ve been feeling. I’ve found it incredibly helpful and will be going walking tomorrow plus making the first appointment with a therapist.
I have Crohn's and depression/anxiety, and I always struggle convincing the doctors that the depression is far and away the bigger problem. Having someone say all of this is incredibly validating, thank you so much.
This is so validating...the shame of being depressed compounds the condition...so every time Dr Scott calls out actual 'symptoms' it supports my recovery...because IT IS NOT A PERSONALITY DEFFECT 😂 alleluia 🎉🙏🏻
💯 😢 He explains it so perfectly!
Glad you think so!
I never would have known all of these if not for this video. Thank you!
Thank you for listing all the ways this manifests, as opposed to, you know, “You’re a Loser.” Self-empathy then extends to these low-empathy accusers. Why do others’ complaints affect them so personally? It’s like all the air is getting sucked out of the room and they feel bad because they’re keeping their breathing masks to themselves, so they lash out and say you’d be okay if you shut up and used less oxygen.
Yeah, ok. So now that you’ve told us how messed up things are…what do we do? Meds? Can’t afford a therapist?…..then what?
Thank you for bringing the fact tbat there are varying degrees of depression and anxiety front and center. It needs to be talked about. So many variables tbat can go into the whole thing as well, because our decks are all stacked completely differently and what might be a little rough patch or isolated for one person might be devastating to another. I agree with you that a lot of the self help and even therapy programs are very targeted toward milder or shorter term types of issues, so thank you for what you do for "the rest of us" who want and need whatever additional resources we can find to help ourselves work on and through things.
You hit it exact!!! I only hope my two sons will listen to this!! I don't feel as crazy as those think i am!
You mind likes the familiar. .you see where this is going. .but you have a chooser. .you ultimately are settling..deciding what you except
Been dealing with depression since childhood.. I’ve been trying to figure out why I always feel so nauseous all the time and having to go to hospital for it.. Now I know, thank u
I have every one of these symptoms and more, have been getting help for 6 months and it’s a struggle and can get worse at times but I am still working on it, hopefully will be improve eventually. It is so stressful that people invalidate these symptoms. I’ve been going to the doctors for these for 13 years before I got answers, so frustrating
Oh my gosh I have had many episodes of anxiety and depression been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder I can not begin to tell you I had to pay a physciatrist I was on my knees literally when I got into see him had to change my meds I eventually got right but all I can say is it felt worse than any physical pain 😢I literally was in desperate panic to get well .
I'm desperate too. I'm in bad shape after 7 months.
... but, im terrified, too afraid of the medications!!
When we try to talk about what I am facing with my friends, I am always judged to be negative
I love that you were sooooo truthful, in 2021 I threw up nearly every day from June 21, lasted months. I can't stop sleeping 😴 I'm exhausted plus going through perimenopause.❤😢
The loss of appetite when constantly anxious can be such an issue, a few months ago I went through an episode of severe anxiety and anxiety/panic attacks caused by serious hypertension that I didnt know that I had. I lost 20kg (44lbs) in less than a month. I kind of needed to lose those lbs anyway so I'm not totally unhappy about it but it definitely wasn't a healthy way to lose weight. When feeling highly anxious I just can not eat I don't even want to see food, I can go 2 or 3 days without eating a thing and still not feel hungry in the slightest. But when you're malnourished your body's various systems aren't getting the fuel and nutrients they need to function correctly, your whole body becomes stressed and weakened and it's going to add to your anxiety, you have to force yourself to consume something healthy and balanced regularly, I find those on the go liquid breakfast drinks are easy to drink, and i make my own healthy smoothies I blend oat milk, a banana, some natural unsweetened yogurt, dried goji berries, chia seeds, flax seed meal, and a handful of mixed nuts, even if I have no appetite I can manage to sip away on one of these and after I've finished it just knowing that I just consumed something highly nutritious for my body actually makes me feel better about myself and lessens my anxiety a lot.
I do the same with the smoothies everyday!
12years of disturbed sleep, awake 6 or 7 times a night. Its got to the point that i dont share a bed with my wife any more as i fear waking her. It feels as if im trying to function while half dead. Dont know any different. This now feels normal! Amazing i havent been fired yet....
I cry at your honest attempts to help us. You are so good.
Thank you. You're literally the only human being who's bullseyed the entirety of true nuclear depression.
Forever a fan, #TryingToComeAliveAgain
Thank you for all your help.
Heal inner you that was so hurt see that that little one and tel them you are very sorry forgive you that you love them dr Len
Thank you very much, that was more enlightening that 2 yrs I have spent so far in CFS clinic.
Dr. Scott, I am a new subscriber and so thankful I found you. Your videos almost always help me in some way but this one, I truly felt you were talking about me. I have experienced all the things (except insomnia). I had a seizure in 2016 at my desk at work and I have had sooo many diagnosis since then. I go between having zero feelings about anything at all to obsession about what is wrong with me and how to fix it. From time to time I have wondered if my severe depression and anxiety with hypersomnia had anything to do with my physical health. Thank you so much for finally answering that question for me. I plan to take this information to my PCP and therapist and see what they suggest. Bless you for all you do for so many...
I’ve gone through all of this . I was so malnourished that I lost hair and teeth . I feel myself getting there again. I’ve been to several therapist and still have not found the help I need to get change and movement . I haven’t slept in almost 30 years . Broken sleep and sometimes no sleep . My body’s so heavy sometimes it feels filled with cement . I know this is killing me and I’ve done all I can and know to do and have reached out to professionals for years and no one can help me .
Wow,... I feel the same.
Nothing or no one can help.
" at this point, Noone can help you but yourself "... is what I'm told.... I don't know how.
Thank you so much for this… I
This made me so emotional because I’ve never felt so validated. Thank you
Same here !!
... his wording is better than mine.
Also... no one can understand when I mention the many ways I'm suffering.
The first two minutes. Perfection. Nailed it.
Thank you!
Explain perfectly! Add to menopause & my world stopped. I have told ALL my drs that I never slept more than 1 hour & I felt that I was walking underwater all the time! Telling them this for over 10yrs! The IBS went crazy constantly. Didn't eat cause made me so nauseous & have blow out diarrhea. Throw tons of drugs at me (most made me sicker), not once did they suggest Therapy for Depression, Anxiety. Drugs, yes. They made me crazy! I did have a ❤attack. Then 2 cardiac Ablations & Still had another ❤attack!!! Miracle I'm alive. The damage to my gut, nervous system, my liver & kidneys is now severe. Depression is about to kill me, simple as that. I'd like to smack them all across the face with a transcript of this video!!! Physician "First do NO Harm" - a cruel joke😢
Wow - this is so absolutely accurate. I needed to hear this. Thank you
It is b s anxitety and depression can affect people very differently. Some of my friends say" just get over it" pray about it. It makes me sick to my stomic. Sleep interuption is hopeless. It sucks. Even when you don't know why. Thanks for this video. I will show some of my friends.
Wow .. same here.
I cannot explain.... it never is understood.
Elevated cortisol levels, due to chronic stress create extrapyramidal symptoms (arms and legs shaking). Been trough this - not fun. You think you're going crazy.