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Yup, sadly this is a rare occurence here in america. We are the most individualistic country on this planet. In other points the world, and central U.S.A. this is a common occurance, to actually sit down and care about another person's thoughts
YourFavoriteSpartan idk about the most individualistic country in the planet, Japan is up there but then again you guys are made to think you are somehow special compared to the world and always number 1, let’s hope China beats that
I loved this stream. I related to a lot of stuff that was said and it was nice hearing Dr.K 's opinion, it definitely gives you insight on your own thoughts, even though you are not necessarily similar to the person he's interviewing.
I never expected Pokimane to be the streamer I would relate to the most out of the one's I have seen you interview. I also have this constant desire to become a better version of my current self and honestly it also gets to me too sometimes. I also have no idea where my life is going, and I often fantasize about "what if's?". Your comment about needing to accept yourself for exactly who you are at this moment, as something that is perfect because I can essentially be nothing else really hit home, at least according to what I interpreted. I wish her the best honestly. I never really watched Pokimane much because I thought that she fit a streamer archetype that didn't interest me. I might check her out again if I see something that catches my eye. These streams have drawn me to the offlinetv house and I'm honestly surprised that I've found content outside of the tft streams that genuinely interest me, such as Michael's insanely clever designs. Thanks Dr. K for giving me an incentive to look for what I usually don't look for.
this interview has made me want to watch pokimane tbh, hearing a lot of stuff that i also feel, it's honestly nice to hear someone else explain what im feeling because i cant myself
Role reversal at it's finest "The concept of parentification refers to “the reversal of the parent-child role,” or when a child is forced to serve in a parental or care-taking role towards their own parent. This is usually due to the parent not having had their own developmental needs met while they were growing up"
The hydra part of the video reminded me so much that twitch chat can basically be a guardian for the streamer, the streamer needs to feed the guardian to remain protected by them. Its up to the streamer to control how the guardian acts, either continue to protect, or devour the weakness. The only problem though is mental health becomes such a worry for streamers when you have such a powerful guardian deciding how your life continues.
The "lockdown" Corona situation has got a lot of people sensitive and feeling like they`re running at a wall ... take my word for it people, Breathe, REALLY BREATHE, and take time to let things pass, a month, a year. . . its really no rush! Don`t beat urselves up for feeling bad / sad / depressed...we are all human.
Holy crap she wasn't even an adult when she began streaming?! Yeesh, yeah, that could destroy someone's self-worth pretty quickly Edit: Ok I'm at 36:44 did she just say she worked with them?! I knew she was really smart but daaaaang! Edit 2: Wait so Mykull is only a year younger than her?! Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaang!
As a pwrson who feels VERY strongly about facts and fact based science/reality and problem solving is how i approach everything. Not only do i not know what does it mean not to "problem solve" but also a life without thinking A LOT is too boring. But i also do understand that this in it self is a problem.
I need to tell my parents that it hurts me when they fight because all I want is to see them truly happy for once... Also my adhd hyperfocusing on this 3 hour vod not getting any food even though I am hungry
The beast metaphor at around 46:00 reminds me a lot of a book called "The Dragon Slayer With a Heavy Heart" I read it a long time ago, it's not very long, but quite fun and impactful imo. I recommend reading it if you can
speaking from my point of view since i aint the oldest in the world i disagree with that Im not a merican or english so i dont know if kids there just are a bit stupid (sorry if generalyzing) but in my situation i think ill end up fine since im already learning what i want to do full time on my life
@@river7591 if you have not experienced high school/university, you don't really have the ethos to claim that. Modern academia is a goddamn cesspool Be thankful that you don't live in US, the place where student debt torments the living hell out of students. You clearly have no idea about the hidden competition and market in University application processes. Enjoy life while you can. (And don't take IB no matter what. AP is way better adademically and for your mental health.) Your uni degree will most likely end up unless if it's IT/Business/Medical/Law related.
@@d3ly746 there are other opportunities to chase without having to start your life in a pool of debt because of uni. Either way you it is going to require effort to get there. Playing a victim isn’t going to help anyone succeed. Sure you can sit and complain about the world around you but that’s like sitting in a rocking chair. Your doing something but you are going no where. Instead of worrying about it, do something about it. Just a few thought drops. Dream large folks.
@@d3ly746 as an indian where there's a whole mafia for coaching and entrance preparation and an education system designed to create bots , i think i can relate to some degrees
A really great approach by a therapist. It shows that Poki has the option of doing the same. Its a difficult seed to plant on the therapists part. Bravo Doc
@@SlanglieBeatz you mean he has 10 seconds to begin thinking about thinking then if you wanted hypothetically you could give him 10 more seconds to think and then to state what he was thinking about if that's a rule you want
@@respectedmastermind I dont know man, he is a good person, and incredibly good at games for sure, but I dont think he is that smart. He is still machist AF and cares a lot about not crying and being a "MAN". Maybe he is just ignorant tho.
I'm glad i got off the "shitting on pokimane for no reason" wave. Shes my age, shes dealing with nearly everything im dealing with in some capacity and more, and it just made me realize how dehumanizing I was to her just because shes a streamer and I saw her as such. Fuck man i have so much to work on.
nah she has done some shit things. She has to grow from them instead of acting like they dont exist. Also dr. k said it best she needs to start being imane more and not poki.
@@bungodunko4123 To be honest, we all make mistakes. I don't particularly like her, but its important to note that all her faults like many other content creators are publicized. What I have learned to accept is that there is a reason for everything, even the mistakes that you make. It is important to understand peoples motivation to do things. Everyone knows the shit things they have done in our lives.
@@akazi1582 Yea I agree im probably biased cause I watched her apology video that she made a bit back and take that context into account. One thing I think would help her is being more candid with everyone around her. Like dr k said we know poki but dont really know much about imane.
@Khaffit haha i thought of that exactly when i heard dr k say that. Talking to my parents like an NPC did so much wonders for me and prevented a lot of confrontation that i dont think i want to stop doing it.
Ever since I saw that etika video of him walking down a street, talking about everything, I have started to be hyper aware of the fact that anyone, literally anyone can be going through so much, and you wouldn't even know it. So please if you're reading this make sure to check up on people, no matter who they are. It could save their life
Seriously. That damn video broke my heart dude. Even before the news broke. Can’t blame the people that saw him that day for not knowing his situation or trying to help him, but I do think about the fact that if even one person had given him a hug that walk he might still be here fighting his way through it. Really miss seeing him hyped and smiling and just being a genuinely good person. RIP man.
I feel the same way. I would've never guessed that Etika, one of the most charismatic and energetic content creators, would have ended his life. Seeing that happen has made me so much more aware of how important mental health is. RIP Desmond #JOYCONBOYZ
As I read this all I could think of..... maybe if etika was still alive this man could have helped him. I'm thankful he's here now so at least people don't have to end up like etika and have another chance before it's too late. Such a sad thought but happy and hopeful for some futures that are still lost out there.
@Elijah Dunay Shit this actually hits different. I remember getting the notification of that video and after watching it I knew something would happen. A few days passed and I saw that he had killed himself, that really fucked me up for a while, but it also got me aware of myself and others around me. I remembered being in school waiting for Etika's next smash bros reaction, knowing he was gone, shit I can’t describe the feeling. I somewhat saw myself in that Etika video, it felt like a mirror, but it also felt like a magnifying glass. I realized how fragile and important life is, but also how much suffering it entails, this was the same with everyone. I realized everyone has problems. Although I was trying to better myself after this, I never felt the same after my realizations from that video. This current pandemic has basically fucked up my life in some aspects, I know this goes the same for nearly everyone right now, but it’s given me some time to introspect also, a true dilemma. I still can’t fully process that Etika's gone sometimes, it sucks.
I wasn't expecting crying 3 minutes in I love how deep this gets especially with the whole facade people put on to be an entertaining streamer as a career
Kakugen am I not allowed to care about the well being of other people just because they’re rich? It’s like saying I shouldn’t feel bad for Kobe Bryant’s family after he died because they’re rich and will never have to work another day in their lives.
When she said “I feel really sad for myself” almost as if she was confused and it was a bizarre thing to feel, I felt that. Mourning the death of your inner child and the trauma they experienced, early 20’s are a trip.
this doesnt make sense your inner child isnt dead if you're still breathing. They are a child, they are just hiding and you're probably scaring the poor thing. It's called nurturing for a reason,.
@@silver2zilver this is a thought i had today and honestly idk if it's dead or hiding. Ig you can't say it's dead because then there's no hope. Probably weakened or hiding, who knows man this shit's kinda very complicated
@@amerstain In psychoanalytics it's referred to as the "Shadow". It's the dark side of us that doesn't follow the rules. Suppressing that side of you will only result in it growing and festering until you self sabotage and it all comes out. You have to integrate it into your being and accept it for what it is without judgement. Think of the inner child as one of Dr. K's darker guests (abuser, incel, narcissist). They're controlled by their Shadow because they don't understand it. When you can see your inner child as a valuable important person within you, that has needs too, you can find it easy to treat it with compassion and set healthy boundaries with it. An example would be the hero in a story who has a deep anger and hate for the villain who killed his father and intends to hurt others. The hero has a part of him that enjoys violence. Instead of crushing that side of him he allows the monster to feed when it is appropriate. The boundary he sets is "only when someone is actively trying to cause harm, the beast may come out and feed." In some stories the hero will be too brutal, recognize it and set another boundary. Kind of like portion size management of what the beast may eat. That is all healthy. Beating down your child even when it's actions would be appropriate is not healthy. Not standing up for yourself when someone crosses a healthy boundary is not healthy. So we see people who suppress the child become weak and scared (how your inner child feels when you tyrannize them), people who are possessed by the child (no healthy boundaries set gives the child free reign), and people who integrate the child (recognize what the child wants, say no when it's not appropriate, gives the child outlets and situations where they can let loose, and reigns them in before they go to far.)
When you’ve been on the Internet in a certain way, in forms where you’re known as a username, you have different personas of yourself that sometimes form. Sometimes I want to be me, the offline me. But sometimes I’m just the online me.
I think Fed could benefit a lot from being on here with Dr. K Edit - Please stop replying this was two months ago, nothing had come out when I first made this comment.
35:26 Poki: i'm so worried about teens and pre-teens during this day and age. Dr. K: Yeah they're fucked... and it's gonna get worse gen z (and everyone younger): 👁👄👁
Man I’ve thought about this and for a while. I’ve thought that my parents are lucky they got to live in a time without the technology of today. It’s bad because it’s so new and huge. Like Daily Dose said we don’t know the result of growing up with so much screen time usage.
It is weird how much these kinds of therapy interviews humanize streamers. It makes me realize how much on the surface we judge them and how wrong this is. This young women (I didn't even know she was this young) has to live in a world where almost every decision she makes is scrutinized and judged from a very young and I don't think it's fair. None of us are built by default to handle such things so early on. I will be sure to apply a lot more compassion when discussing/thinking about internet personalities. Thanks for the stream!
She probably does not humanize the people who make her earn money, so in return she wont be humanized. You have the public you deserve. Obviously she has interpersonal problems, but let's be real for a second : who does not?
@@slals What you say may be true. But at the same time that doesn't mean that we have to judge her as a robot with bad programming. Just because she may be numb and acting that way it doesn't mean that we have to do it as well. Of course, at the same time, we don't owe her money or attention either. It was more of a thought experiment.
@@BlazerBoy1337 I never say that I judge her as a robot. My point is that we are animals with social instinct that makes human interaction (group interaction) the way it is, independantly of how you think and you behave on a personal level. On the other hand, Pokimane have a complete control on how she depicts herself, thus how people will think about her, and she is intelligent enough to know that.
@@slals I disagree in the sense that you allocate her full control in herself. In the same sense that we are animals and don't have full control of our behavior so does she. I think this is a mistake we do when looking at streamers (or personalities in general), we think that everything they do is calculated and planed. But, as it is a livestream, we will surely see unfiltered reactions and actions. To put it in another way, if you were in her place how would you react to all the feedback she has gotten? Be it positive or negative.
@@BlazerBoy1337 I talked about social instinct, not indivual behavior. Not everything is calculated, but a lot of thing, that starts by the background of their cam. A streamer very rarely become popular because of hasardous things.
God this channel is so great man. When I heard her say "people don't want to hear people like me complain" my heart broke for her...Streamers get put on this pedestal because they are playing videogames and socializing for a living, and it has to be hard to feel this sense of obligation towards feeling great and being happy 24/7. My girlfriend is a nurse and one of the things she struggles with is not ALWAYS feeling like being the "care taker" that she needs to be. Certain jobs come with certain moral and emotional obligations. I always try and remind her that her feels aren't crazy or bad feelings. They are always valid and justified.
So true. I am a nurse as well and "caregiver role strain" is a real thing for nurses. Nurses are expected to be strong for patients and family members who can't. And I guess people expect streamers to play games or be entertaining or whatever... we don't always feel like we get the opportunity to experience our own emotions. I hope your girlfriend finds the balance between caring for others and caring for herself. She seems very selfless though :)
That's the whole concept I suppose. He wants to 'AOE'. So the whole idea behind the public sessions is so you, as viewer, can have resonance with some of the problems he talks about with famous youtubers/streamers, and as a result learn from them and apply it on your own live.
@@Omnihilo Area of effect. So instead of going single target he is fixing multiple peoples fucked up childhoods while only running his jedi mind tricks on one person at a time
I mean, socially it's understood that crying is a sign of weakness. Pokimane in the public eye probably wants to hold are her emotions in all the time. Being a fairly physically attractive female based on western standards, she probably gets plenty of creepy guys messaging her and she probably feels she has to hold that in too.
@@danieldosso2455 no public figure can be 100% spontaneous, women even less so. Maybe the only spontaneous public person that can exist while being a woman is Lady Gaga
@@payamux8933 the money and comfort is the good aspect of being a streamer and most of the time it's the only aspect people take into account when they visualise one. The reality of having to bring the highest energy/most entertaining version of yourself to sometimes thousands of viewers on a daily basis is not healthy for your mental state
@@payamux8933 Question: What brought you to this channel? For someone watching a mental health focused channel you are really oblivious to it. Makes me hard to think that you would be a regular here.
"streaming for 6-7 years" "I'm 23" She's been streaming since she was 16-17???? I have immense respect for anyone that can put themselves out there and deal with this kind of responsibility staring at that age
Honestly, it's not that young. Most people that make it big start in their mid to late teens because we live in a teen obsessed world. Some big youtubers even started at 12/13.
@@meshshirtburgundypants5244 I said it was a great amount of responsibility, not necessarily that she handled it well. Like how being the leader of a country is a great responsibility, even though some people who have those positions don’t handle it very well. Poki’s past mistakes also don’t reduce my respect for her at all, everyone makes mistakes when they’re starting out in new territory, and you really can’t hold a teenager’s words against them 5 years later.
@@corvacopia Its really not, the entertainment industry is pretty much the only career were a large % of ppl get big when theyre really young and its also the industry where you "live that kind of life and have that kind of attention on you", be that musician, athlete, actor or streamer.
A side note I thought about, in the disabled community there’s a lot of “your symptoms aren’t as bad as mine so you don’t get to be upset about your pain if it’s not as bad as mine” and I don’t get it, we’re all suffering with symptoms and people even without a disability are allowed to be sad about pain they’re experiencing because that’s their pain, not ours. I just had to get that off my chest sorry.
I think the main takeaway from all these interviews is that you don't have to be sorry, it's cool, there's nothing wrong with just dumping thoughts in comments sections.
Justin B yeah it’s different pain but it’s still pain. I dislocate my joints daily and feel like shit all the time. It’s not okay for me to go out and tell people with joint pain that they’re not allowed to feel that pain or talk about it because it’s not as bad as mine. It’s still pain, all pain is pain and no ones allowed to tell people they’re wrong and aren’t allowed to feel their pain. I wouldn’t go to a person with my condition who suffers from heart problems and a punctured lung and start telling them how to get better coz I have no idea. My pain isn’t the same as theirs but both of our pain exists.
@jorge guzman but pain is pain. Just because I have a much higher pain tolerance in order to function as a human doesnt mean everyone with less pain than me dont matter. Also money doesnt equal happiness, you can actually be rich and horribly depressed. And that's allowed and valid.
Justin B well I mean it’s hard to differentiate with that, like I look completely normal, I’m not in a wheelchair, I can walk into a shop and back out but sometimes I get pass out spells or horrific vertigo or my legs just stop being legs so I use a disabled spot because of that risk. If there was a choice between me and a wheelchair user then 100% I can walk from the spot that’s slightly further away. Noone should diminish others pain because we don’t know what others are truly going through and feeling. I can semi comfortably push myself to walk to the village shops and it looks relatively effortless but when I get home, I’m almost paralysed for a bottle of milk.
Justin B no i totally agree on that front, I just don’t like when people feel superiority for feeling more pain than others and telling people with less pain to shut up about it. Also if people are dicks and wanna use depression/disability as a get out of jail free card they can eat my ass tbh I don’t care about those people. Pissed me off when Harvey Weinstein was suddenly disabled at his trial.
I won’t lie when I say I had a pretty negative image of Pokimane before watching this. Many of my friends and content creators I watched talked about shady things she has done and it made me lose trust for her. However, after watching this video, I started to understand why those rumors came about and why she really isn’t much different from all of us. Getting her heartfelt perspective on her position in this community really helped me see that human side of her. That content creators aren’t the culmination of rumors and drama. This was a good experience.
I'm not gonna pretend I'm an expert, I'm not a fan of hers, never made the effort of watching her streams or donating. I've had an inkling that she (along with other streamers) regret a lot of the things that defined their success. But they can't let it go, or a least be strong enough to stop it from defining them. I respect her for owning up to her guilt. I wish her and everyone like her the best Min Max of the game of life.
All people ever do is talk about the negative things Poki has or even been rumoured to have done as if she's never done anything right. Its gotten to the point where almost everyone does it and its horrible and onesided. Looking at it objectively you see that everyone has done stuff wrong in different ways and so just singularly talking about stuff someone's done wrong will make them look like a bad person but its not them.
@@Shady36 very true, I do wish people would look at others more objectively though rather than just things they may have done before. Not saying all people are like that, as some have the intelligence to not pin an issue someones made to them as a person.
@@catsnamedfanta Same! I mind though, because that is keeping me distracted from doing the my work job. But that's on me, and if I wasn't watching this, I would probably find something else to distract me away from the work.
@@_mayankr mabey you should think about changing jobs so you don't feel the need for distraction. I know circumstances and responsibilities but it's possible and you can do it!
These have been the interviews and conversations I’ve wanted to hear. Emotionally driven and powerful breakthrough speeches. I spend my time listening while doing paperwork and stuff it’s so comforting and puts me in such an open and receptive mood to speaking to others throughout the day!
I really enjoy it when Dr.K talks about his kids because I never get to hear my dads perspective on what it was like raising kids or what his feelings were towards me and my sister. Thanks Dr.K
Dude I tried game ending last year and the only person that knows about it is my cousin. I don't know but the gap between me and my parents is too big to break my mental issues to them.
Most Indians are legendary you guys underestimate us a lot :D this guys is like a really good example of good guys around India and what kinda understanding they have about life
What I find heartbreaking is that children think they owe their parents anything. Yet, these children did not choose to be born. When I do something to make the lives of my children better, the thought of 'them owing me' does not ever cross my mind. I know Dr. K and Imane will never read this comment, but I think it's important for people to consider this perspective. And I hope she doesn't get mauled by the online beast. Thank you for sharing your story.
My parents literally asks me if I will take care of them once they're old. Not that I won't take care of them but dem my parents definitely think that I owe them my life.
If I ever become a mum, I want to have your mentality. I feel like that. It's no burden of course, to want to take care of my parents, but there are times when it's limiting, and it can be quite heavy. My dad is very old school, and he sees wrong that daughters-sons go out of their home at 18 to live on their own (I'm from Mexico, so it's not as usual over here). He wants them to take care of their elderly parents. My mum is more liberal. I'm confused, but will take flight, and hope to make a better income to help them financially... But it's so confusing.
43:06 I feel like pokimane hit the nail on the head with the line about "numbers don't stop, there is no 'you've done enough'", resonated with me a lot
i mean im not in that situation so no idea but why not just set some goals? after hitting them you can worry about keeping those numbers while trying to do things that make you feel better. ie maybe less streaming, or streaming less popular things etc no need to aim for the moon after all esp if youre unhappy
@@haitharu after hitting the big numbers there's always gotta be someone better than you. Even if you really become the best of the bests(personally for me) your parents will never acknowledge you
@@haitharu yeah seriously, once my family is all set up I won’t give a fuck about money or success. grinding just to grind is a great way to end up crying after 4 minutes of talking to someone who remotely gives a shit.
This man is doing god's work... This streamers spend their lives in front of a pc screen and put their lives out for people to jugde and critize them. I'm not able to imagine the amount of mental weight they hold. Yes they have the money to go to therapy, but this man is making possible that everyone of us to see thing clear about mental health and how everybody has issues beyond what's happening on screen and HOPEFULLY the community will improve to a healthy point.
dude u should have seen the AMA part doc's helping to pay a random discord member's college fees(for 1st year tho) and that shows how much he cares and is dedicated to help us gamers
To be honest it would be nice if he had talks with smaller streamers that cannot afford therapy. Only top 1% of streamers makes money, others actually lose money streaming (living costs, equipment etc). Still gr8 job.
@@siegpasta When he was drunk crying yesterday talking to that kid about his life. First time I ever found him streaming except for when kitboga hosted him.
@@jackflexington4706 I feel truly blessed to find this guy. I had the same reaction the first "season" I saw of him and sky. It is wonderful what he does. I will check out the drunken stream later today, put it off but sounds funny af.
Poki sounds like someone who gave too many pieces of herself away and forgot what she wanted and who she was deep down. I really relate to this and I cry about it too.
I don't think she gave away pieces of herself. She neglected herself, tried to use adulation to compensate for the lack of self-love, and stretched herself too thin. Making sacrifices is a part of being responsible, but she then proceeded to punish herself for not being happy to be making those sacrifices.
I feel like I owe my parents too. I feel like I’m a debtor. I dream of just throwing 2 million dollars their way and then just disappearing from them and finding out what is important to me.
@@JoelGonzalez-qf8cp money ruins people. Trust me, your parents need love and support more than money. I used to sell weed, big quantities and I was never so miserable in all my life and I could buy anything i wanted. But you cant tape over deep problems with money woman or cars. Woman and money brake your heart a lot less than cars do lol.
Man to think that Poki has been concerned about how people perceive her from out of context things has been a large part of her worries. Idk I think that the "Fed leaks" seem even more manipulative on his end as he would know how much that would hurt her. I honestly feel so bad for her.
fed couldn't have gained anything from those tweets. it's pretty clear that he was the one who got lead on and manipulated, but he also included out of context stuff. i don't like either of them
@@craig7405Aspecially that he knew it is going to get shut down like a week from leaking those files, yes. The thing is he had published a lot of private messages. How "cringy" they are is irrelevant, they are still private. He leaked those documents knowing fully well that the internet won't stay on his side for long. He did it because not only will those messages be visible, but also pokimane and her team would need to publish more of messages from their conversation to provide context :/ ,which is a complete loss of privacy. If my messages got leaked somehow to my friends, i wouldnt care much, but if i had huge public like she has i would care about it much more. Im not saying she is an angel or sth but saying she manipulated him is a bit of an exaggeration. She made mistakes handling their break up, but who didnt. The problem stands, that these incredibily private stuff that can be resolved privatly, got LeAkEd.
@@craig7405 I wouldn't say it's direct, theres more into it. He wanted to take another step in their relationship, and she wanted to just stay friends. Their trip to (I dont remember where), can be interpreted as romantic (his point of view) as well as friendly (as she saw it). There is also a possibility that she changed her mind half way through, then the feds point of view would be very accurate. Again, it's not about what mistakes they may or may not have made or how indecisive she was, rather its about whether she manipulated him on purpose. And i dont think she did, i dont think she is as cruel as you think she is.
@@michaeel4701 and from the texts you can see that after she said that she continued to lead him on. she's not a sociopath, but she's not exactly a good samaritan
i feel like shes been living in this weird bubble and nobody actually treats her like a real person, the fact that people spamming QUEEN in chat before she even arrives is kind of a red flag, and that this has been going on since she was a teen is just kind of disturbing
1) its twitch chat 2) people say that her fan base refer to her as a queen so it has became a meme. but i do agree that people or the viewers don't treat her nicely. But i do think now it is a lot better since she is in a streamer house (offline tv) and everyone there treats each other like family. we already had lilypichu go on so i do think that helped poki go on stream as well.
@@Sc4recrow44 Truth. But I would debate about her obviously playing into it. While obviously there are people who would accept finding themselves in this situation with open arms, she might've not even noticed (or in a worse case scenario went in knowing what it would bring) the repercussions of being put on a pedestal by others. But I guess that is something that ultimately she knows.
It usally takes a while before doc gets emotional arc out of the conversation, Poki was ready to go from the jump... New record for the doc, crying is good its the start of letting go of baggage.
Sometimes I would agree with you, but crying can be a symptom of something much deeper. It's not always the start of letting go baggage. It's a way for emotional people to express what they're feeling in that moment. This is coming from someone who cries all the time.
Chat called it speedrunning, which I thought was hilarious. But it's pretty sad how deeply troubled she is, while both consciously and subconsciously resists dealing with it.
"People don't want to hear someone like me complain". I'm a 'nobody', but seeing a 'somebody' feel the same doubts and feelings, have human problems, feel restless, in need of change, reenforces that no matter what I DO end up achieving, or what relative level of accompishment I get to in life, happiness is not found in the result. It's found in the journeys we go on, the interactions we have, and the challenges we face, overcome, or lose to, and our mental approach to those. Thanks Poki and Dr. K, again.
Well now that she's moved out of the OTV house hopefully she can try to discover herself more and grow as a person with friends and not just friend/colleagues around all the time. Like she said in her video a better work/life balance to separate herself from her work and be able to rest when the camera is off.
I find what you said interesting ... Ye to much of anything is in the end bad... For example I am at the opposite side of pokimane, I live alone and when I say alone I mean it... Totally alone in a 3 room apartment and the closest friend is at a 15 minutes way with a bus... So I don t even have friends close to my house... Tbh it feels bad, and I want to have interactions with people more often... I want to feel exhausted by social interaction just so I could enjoy the lonely life in my home... That s my type, social interaction is the key for me to enjoy my time when I am lonely, otherwise if I just stay alone in my home I begin not to want to do anything because of a lack of energy and stimulation... I think it also happens to other people too but not as dramatically as it happens to me... I mean everyone has a happy vibe inside the home after spending lots of fun time outside the house... We all know the feeling after a huge trip with friends that is exhausting but also fun and the sansation at the end of the trip of saying thing like " ugh, I can t wait to get home and :play games, sleep, do sports" we all kind of have more energy inside our home even if we live alone after spending a lot of "outside" time... But it feels like for me it is 3 times more powerful... I literally can t function inside my home unless I had huge social interactions, I need to be exhausted by social interaction in order to feel good alone... But also, I once lived in a different home where I got sooooo many people coming to visit me because I was staying close to them back then when I was living in that house... And ye, back then it began to be exhausting to HAVE so many people around me... So at the end of the day I think it must be 50/50 in order for it to work alright... Like ,not living totally separated from friends but also not having them come to you every second... Shits weird... Idk
@@mivias6768 I sometimes disappear for a while from my friends to focus on what I enjoy personally. It's nice to have friends but if you spend too much time together it can be a bit stale. Interesting enough it shows the same for married couples who don't live together have lower divorce rates.
People love to judge the outside appearance of people's life. But they rarely consider the problems they might deal with. They will down play all other people's accomplishments and up play a person's mistakes. I guess it's like they say hurt people hurt people.
I had some weird blame/anger towards Pokimane even though I don't watch her and I conciously understood that it's not her fault - because of a lot of the toxic/simp people who were always the ones to bring her name up everywhere, just acting beyond annoying. It got tiring to go around twitch and constantly hear people who either hate her for dumb reasons, oversexualise her, or hype up some dumb clips. I'm really grateful for this 3h talk because it actually let me learn who she is a person, out of the context of the bad part of her community, and now I can appreciate her, genuinely hope she gets to achieve peace and find true friendships in the business, as well just not get frustrated next time I see someone in chat being nasty about her name.
@@traze2963 I don't think she's annoying, just that seeing a lot of weird and nasty comments all over twitch about her got annoying to me and it made it so I couldn't help but associate it with her stream/to an extent her. I should probably also tune into one of her game streams at some point just to see if I like it
The truth is, if you're a twitch streamer like her and your personality is based off of screaming and being hyper, you're gonna get called annoying by some people. The problem is some of these haters just take it way too far and mass dislike her videos or Weirdchamp and Dansgame anytime she appears on their favorite streamer's stream. If you think a streamer is annoying just leave the stream or don't watch it, trust me no ones gonna miss you.
I actually first found out about Poki from a video on my feed listing all the reasons why I should hate her. But I started watching her videos and offline TV stuff, and I found I actually really like her. 😆
This is so powerful. I think Imane is such a smart and strong person but she's also so young. I never realized she was only 23. I can't believe she still has so much place to grow! I'm happy to say, and I say this confidently, that you will grow so much more. This is only the beginning Imane. You got this. Much love.
seriously, she's my same age and I feel like I amount nothing to what she's done in life, and in the same way I can't even begin to imagine how much pressure she feels from the work enviroment she works in
@tim conway piss off you attention seeker, no one responded to your first comment so you have to reply again so that people give you the attention that you seek
The more I think about it, the more it makes sense. All people ever see is Pokimane the ruthless business woman, Pokimane the queen, Pokimane the most successful female streamer. Her fans and haters alike only see what's in front of them. As a person, Imane doesn't feel like she has a right to complain or feel down because she has all these things. Which just goes back to the point that no matter how much money and fame you have it doesn't necessarily mean you'll suddenly gain eternal happiness.
Sure, money isn't a guaranteed happiness. But it's hard to feel bad for her when she brings it on herself. She can't take criticism, and got a smaller channel to lose a big sponsor, thus affecting his income (bet you don't care how that made him feel right, since he's a dude.) Plus she kinda sells out by filming in a way everyone can see her in tight yoga pants.
If she actually goes back to school and stops streaming.. i’ll miss her in offlineTV. But, I’ll be happy for whatever decision she makes, because she is her own person ❤️☺️❤️ Also Imane needs a break to be honest, she’s been working hard enough for the past 6-7 years.
AlexOS Working hard is subjective, because depending on what a person can do, they are able to accomplish many tasks. An example is owning a Merch store, being a multi media streamer with millions of followers, being apart of OfflineTv; a company in which it gets sponsorship whilst making content offline, owning a personal makeup set that’s up for sale, and overall being successful because of their financial stability. With all of those activities comes with great responsibility that a person who hasn’t work hard enough cannot earn. Because of how far her influence can reach due to her large following, it’s inevitable that she’ll be apart in dramas that she does not want to partake in. Her job is essentially working on a live stream in front of people who are good or bad, but ready to pounce at her as soon as she makes a mistake. However, you cannot discredit her years of hard work from the young age of 17 to her adult years of 23 just because she’s been in drama numerous times. That’s outright prejudiced and a lack of judgement on your part objectively.
@@LolzandLolz thats wright what u said but money fame make up clotes is not smile her like she have good life because she is rich...NO she is not happy money cant make u happy dude we fans have good life because we dont have worries nobody knows who we are if u understan she have stress because she have worries she cant sleep i know that and everybody knows who is her and they bully her online ne you or somebody will ve crazy that someone attacking us online ... thats the point of life the God creating a test for this life.
Imane should be allowed to be this vulnerable and have a break. Its lil heartbreaking that theres people that others don't see that change is good for growth. The take home from what I got is that everyone has experienced suffering. Everyone hurts. Gatekeeping who and who dont deserve to feel sad is toxic because you cant fully accept that emotion and move forward.
When she started talking about her parents and how hard they worked to immigrate to provide them everything they didn’t have hit me so hard. Because I felt the same way, I felt like I had to be perfect. Perfect in the sense of Good grades, no drugs, no alcohol, no parties, no boyfriends, nothing that can endanger my future that they carefully prepared for me. I literally went to uni just because I thought it would make them proud...I’m graduating this fall with a bachelors of science and I’m just like...did I want this? Have I succeeded? Did I make them proud?
If your first thought is how happy someone else would be for your accomplishment, this will be something you struggle with... You need to make yourself proud, find your “dharma” and feel satisfied with your life (not serve someone else’s desires)
Lol better than me, I forced myself through engineering even though I’m terrible at and hate math and physics and ended up failing and dropping out in my final year and attempted suicide. Better place rn and realised my parents just want me to be happy, but in training for a job better suited for me that I hope I can make money to support them.
I have a very similar experience. Instead of doing instrumental performance as amy major i did engineering because i didn’t want all of my parent’s efforts to go to waste because i chose to be happy, rather than choosing what made most practical sense.
Our generation is literally having to relearn how to accept ourselves and be adults because of the immense pressure from our parents and its so shitty. Also fuck dads cuz idk what its like to have one.
Twitch is basically a televised 4chan board minus the real world murder/deep web content, so yeah, lets hope for the best and try and do our part, but at the end of the day an anonymous messaging “board” will always have these problems. Its just an inherent problem with removing accountability :/
People don't understand that streamers are people just like us and just because they have more money or whatever excuse you want to use doesn't mean they are happy and can just ignore people hating all the time
Jg well it’s easy to assume it’s a character when you only see him on a stream on twitch, or on social media. Dude could be fine or he could be hiding behind a facade. We on the outside could never know unless he himself opens up on it
Andi Chen well I mean he says he’s enjoyed streaming because he’s made so many more friends because of it. Also his community probably doesn’t attract nearly as much toxicity as others do, and while there always is some and I can’t assume, I feel like streaming was good for him overall
To the people in the comments calling others a simp for empathizing with her, I just wanna say, that I’m hope you can get better in the future. I know that there is probably something going on in your life that is making you lash out at others. I hope that one day you gain empathy for others.
@@itsaident Probably depends on what kind of person Tyler is. It is possible to feel both things at once though. You can be angry and resentful of someone, while also hoping that their life becomes better and them a better person.
I'm gonna try to take a little of overweight from yall's chests on this one, I see a lot of yall relating to "You gotta treat your family like party members not NPC’s". That must make yall feel pretty fucking sad, in exactly the same way where he was describing it to Imane right there. But here's the thing, it's really never been her fault, or yall's for that matter. It's the parents fault. It's the parents' job to approach their kid and conversate with them, ask them how school was, ask them if anyone at school annoyed them, ask them what's their favorite subject at school is, tell them about how you were bullied back in school and how you grew out from it, tell them about your past, at each and every year and stage of your kid's life, you should be there for them, talk to them and ask them and relate to them, throw advice at them, open up, share feelings, give them solid life experience advice. In Imane's case, and probably billions of kids and parents out there, you never teach your kid how to talk to you, you're always just strict and absolute about everything, and then when you're in your 50's and your kid's in their 20's, there's a 30 year barrier, AND your kid's 20+ years of living with a parent figure who has always been there but not really, how are they gonna know how to talk to you then? That's the problem with most parents nowadays, especially the western. That's why yall value mother's day so much, because it seems like that day is the only day you get to show your gratitude and affection to your mother's/parents, by giving them a simple gift, and visiting/just being there. While how it "should" be, is being there for your parents, and them being there for your EVERY day, not only once a fucking year. Doesn't matter what age you are, doesn't matter what age your parents are, there always should be a sense of communication there. My dad is 56 years old, his mother is around 78-80 I think, she's still mentally sane and somewhat physically capable, he still visits her every other week if not weekly, and a lot of times just checks up with her to take her opinion on random things, negotiate random decisions with her, etc, etc. Although he has a wife and kids who are already married with kids. If your parents did a bad job being open and transparent with you, it's ok, they are human too, yes, they made mistakes, it's their fault this time, but when you're in your 20's or late 20's, some of that responsibility is now on you, it'll be very much easier for YOU now to open up to them and talk to them, compared to them doing it. Why? Because you grew up so much and changed so much up until your mid 20's, that they don't even know you anymore. They would not even know where to start talking to you, or what to ask about, other than just checking up and hoping you're doing ok, but deep inside, they're still human, they're very sad and broken that they can't talk to their kid, they cannot open up with their and really make sure their kid is ok. As Dr. K said, imagine yourself being a parent, and your kid grew up not "trusting" you in some sense, and your kid goes through whatever they go through, and you just cannot approach them anymore. How will you feel then? You'll feel devastated. That's how most parents feel nowadays towards their kids. And keep in mind, parents with their kids are THE BEST at hiding their feelings. They have a natural, god-given protective power with their kids, because they know how devastated their kid will feel if they know their parents don't feel well. That's why parents tend to hide it all from us. And that's why I think it's your responsibility in your 20's to approach your parents and talk to them, check on them, catch up with them, etc. With all that being said, go listen to this song, think about what I said, and cry a little bit, not too much. th-cam.com/video/JVpTp8IHdEg/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for saying this. I know this is something that affects particularly my relationship with my father; for many reasons, I have grown distant from him over the years, and I know I am the one who will have to bridge the gap. I thought your point about parents not educating their children about communicating with them is very insightful.
Holy crap. I'm astonished that my issues are that common. And I'm honestly uncomfortable that the responsibility should fall on me, now. To be perfectly honest, I don't want that responsibility, and I don't want to reach out to them. They've failed me too many times. But maybe I should just be a better person and push through anyway... although that might be one of those "shoulds" Dr K also talked about that can be detrimental. Either way, thanks for writing this comment.
As father of 3 Daughters I do my best to let them know that as long as they do what makes them happy in life I will proud of them. I don't care if they are rich or poor, CEO's or barn keepers, all professions are admirable, as long as what they are doing is what they truly want to be doing. I don't want them to feel like they need to do anything specific to make me happy, just be themselves and be happy with their choices. I will always be here for them and forever proud of them. I hope that I give them the tools they need to succeed in life not just some given career. Dr. K you are doing fantastic work and thanks to all the people who have come on and spoken to you so openly that takes real courage.
@@IceFireTerry i guess not 100%, but considering he was in a Psychiatric ward and it made no difference in the end, do you really think a 3 hour talk with this guy would have changed everything?
Terry Carr as already stated, he was in a psychiatric ward for a while. He kept telling them that he was fine when he really wasn’t, it didn’t help him at all. You really think that we “don’t know” if this would’ve helped or not?
I just noticed a real smooth thing dr. K did. he asked "how is your name pronounced?" instead of saying "what's your name again?" I think that so much better to say instead of just asking for their name again. Like it's much friendlier and better goddamn.
@@haziee3108 doesn't matter really, I would assume they just want to get my name right. But they also hear my name again so it's killing two birds with one stone.
@@GetFox3 it kinda does. If I had a name that was impossible to mess up like bob, it would be a bit weird for people to ask me how to pronounce that instead of just asking for my name again if they just forgot it
This is reminding me massively of conversations I had with a therapist about a year ago. I feel bad for Poki, because it really does suck to constantly be beating yourself up with the idea of 'should' - the kind of person you 'should' be, the type of job you 'should' have, the progress you 'should' be making. For years I'd been stuck in a cycle of thinking that whatever I did, it wasn't enough. When it gets really bad, it truly is horrible because it's almost like you can't enjoy anything. Even if you do achieve something you've been aiming towards, you don't get to feel proud of yourself because your brain is telling you 'Right, that's done - what's the next thing? Better not stand around for too long otherwise you'll fall behind.'. And it was really hard learning to live with that, especially seeing as some things had recently gone wrong in my life, and I was blaming myself for them because I perceived that they were taking me further away from the kind of person I 'should' be trying to be.
I haven’t even watched 5 minutes of this and I think this girl has really needed this for a long time. I sincerely hope this helps her a lot. I’ll be honest, There’s been a lot of things that have bugged me about Pokimane over the years knowing about her but, I have to remind myself this is somebody who’s been put in front of a world wide audience since a young age, she’s going to have issues I don’t fully understand and I just hope this helps a lot. We all have problems, I have plenty myself. There was a time about 6 years ago I got upset at every streamer/TH-camr that felt fell in the “fake” category and didn’t treat humans like humans with souls all the time (not saying poki is not human etc. please, try to read between the lines here) I would say things that were too judgmental which is not helping at all and making the problem humanity is facing worst. That problem being too connected too easily without REAL connection to one another. I have learnt and grown from this since then. Don’t spread hate, fellow people. Spread love
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"Is there anything you want to talk about?"
*Immediately starts crying.*
I feel that.
Hapened to me on my first session of therapy actually lmao so yea I felt that as well.
FUCKING SAAAAMEEEE
Time stamp?
I feel that so much. It's just nice finally getting to talk to someone who wants to help you
I think we all who went to therapy for the first time did this kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
My first therapy session went a bit like hers.
Dr: hello.
Me: starts sobbing
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Sometimes we just have so much built up inside, and u finally have a chance to spill how u feel and what u been thru
I just had my first eval by a psychologist and didn't cry once! Things are loonking up!
I had a feeling that the same think would happen to me, so I immediatly localized the tissues. Great help about 45 seconds later.XD
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Absolutely brilliant conversation, so many insights + amazing vibes. Thanks so much for sharing you guys!
I appreciate you linking this in your emails 💪 I never would’ve seen this otherwise
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I just spent three hours watching people talk and I feel like I spent ten years learning about humanity. What the hell.
Yep
But that's a good thing right?..
Yup, sadly this is a rare occurence here in america. We are the most individualistic country on this planet. In other points the world, and central U.S.A. this is a common occurance, to actually sit down and care about another person's thoughts
YourFavoriteSpartan idk about the most individualistic country in the planet, Japan is up there but then again you guys are made to think you are somehow special compared to the world and always number 1, let’s hope China beats that
@@hopefulbloom what if it wasn't? ;)
This guy is really good. Anyone who gets a session with him is blessed
Truly
everybody asks who is dr k, but nobody asks how is dr k
Facts
I'll do you one better: Why is Dr. K?
Woah
@@Bossallama holy shit ur a genius
@@Bossallama Ok but this one doesn't really work, Dr. K isn't the hero we deserve but he is the hero twitch needs.
I loved this stream. I related to a lot of stuff that was said and it was nice hearing Dr.K 's opinion, it definitely gives you insight on your own thoughts, even though you are not necessarily similar to the person he's interviewing.
TRUUUE!!!!!!!
i really like the part where he said poki was see sawing (or flip flopping) her priorities when we should compromise instead
Raaauuul 🤨
I never expected Pokimane to be the streamer I would relate to the most out of the one's I have seen you interview. I also have this constant desire to become a better version of my current self and honestly it also gets to me too sometimes. I also have no idea where my life is going, and I often fantasize about "what if's?". Your comment about needing to accept yourself for exactly who you are at this moment, as something that is perfect because I can essentially be nothing else really hit home, at least according to what I interpreted. I wish her the best honestly. I never really watched Pokimane much because I thought that she fit a streamer archetype that didn't interest me. I might check her out again if I see something that catches my eye. These streams have drawn me to the offlinetv house and I'm honestly surprised that I've found content outside of the tft streams that genuinely interest me, such as Michael's insanely clever designs. Thanks Dr. K for giving me an incentive to look for what I usually don't look for.
“I don’t even know why I’m crying and feeling nervous” I feel that.
“Suffering does not discriminate” I needed that
this interview has made me want to watch pokimane tbh, hearing a lot of stuff that i also feel, it's honestly nice to hear someone else explain what im feeling because i cant myself
Exactly like she planned.
Role reversal at it's finest "The concept of parentification refers to “the reversal of the parent-child role,” or when a child is forced to serve in a parental or care-taking role towards their own parent. This is usually due to the parent not having had their own developmental needs met while they were growing up"
wow that sounds like its just gonna be an infinite cycle
Can we appreciate thatin this comment section are almost no people who say things like "hahaha pokimane bad simp simp leafy"
This was before that i think, and everyone loves dr. k so we would never
Much appreciated
This is great and never schould change
"Simp" is litterally the first word i read on this comment section...
Damn, we almost made it without a "can we..." comment.
The hydra part of the video reminded me so much that twitch chat can basically be a guardian for the streamer, the streamer needs to feed the guardian to remain protected by them. Its up to the streamer to control how the guardian acts, either continue to protect, or devour the weakness. The only problem though is mental health becomes such a worry for streamers when you have such a powerful guardian deciding how your life continues.
The "lockdown" Corona situation has got a lot of people sensitive and feeling like they`re running at a wall ... take my word for it people, Breathe, REALLY BREATHE, and take time to let things pass, a month, a year. . . its really no rush! Don`t beat urselves up for feeling bad / sad / depressed...we are all human.
Yhea.. true. I felt that
Mentally preparing myself for my own counseling session this weekend with this video
everytime I see this guy talking to a twitch streamer I realize they dont really want to be twitch streamers
How often does he talk to dishwashers or shop attendants? Almost nobody likes their job. Thats because 40h per week is too much.
Its like wanting to become popular of course she likes that she can play and talk with many people but everything she says has huge consequences
Destiny likes his job.
To be fair almost nobody likes their job all the time. Obligation ruins everything.
Holy crap she wasn't even an adult when she began streaming?! Yeesh, yeah, that could destroy someone's self-worth pretty quickly
Edit: Ok I'm at 36:44 did she just say she worked with them?! I knew she was really smart but daaaaang!
Edit 2: Wait so Mykull is only a year younger than her?! Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaang!
worked with who ?
@@qwthn8026 MSFT
MICHAEL’S 22?!
@@prestonang8216 23 actually, 22 at the time that I sent the comment
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Bruh he looks 12
2:41:25 harvard psychiatrist develops clinical depression from talking to Pokimane XD
LULW
As a pwrson who feels VERY strongly about facts and fact based science/reality and problem solving is how i approach everything.
Not only do i not know what does it mean not to "problem solve" but also a life without thinking A LOT is too boring. But i also do understand that this in it self is a problem.
I need to tell my parents that it hurts me when they fight because all I want is to see them truly happy for once...
Also my adhd hyperfocusing on this 3 hour vod not getting any food even though I am hungry
The beast metaphor at around 46:00 reminds me a lot of a book called "The Dragon Slayer With a Heavy Heart"
I read it a long time ago, it's not very long, but quite fun and impactful imo.
I recommend reading it if you can
poki: i feel bad for kids these days
dr k: yeah theyre fucked lololol
had me dying bruv
speaking from my point of view since i aint the oldest in the world i disagree with that
Im not a merican or english so i dont know if kids there just are a bit stupid (sorry if generalyzing) but in my situation i think ill end up fine since im already learning what i want to do full time on my life
@@river7591 if you have not experienced high school/university, you don't really have the ethos to claim that.
Modern academia is a goddamn cesspool
Be thankful that you don't live in US, the place where student debt torments the living hell out of students.
You clearly have no idea about the hidden competition and market in University application processes.
Enjoy life while you can.
(And don't take IB no matter what. AP is way better adademically and for your mental health.)
Your uni degree will most likely end up unless if it's IT/Business/Medical/Law related.
@@d3ly746 there are other opportunities to chase without having to start your life in a pool of debt because of uni. Either way you it is going to require effort to get there. Playing a victim isn’t going to help anyone succeed. Sure you can sit and complain about the world around you but that’s like sitting in a rocking chair. Your doing something but you are going no where. Instead of worrying about it, do something about it. Just a few thought drops. Dream large folks.
@@d3ly746 as an indian where there's a whole mafia for coaching and entrance preparation and an education system designed to create bots ,
i think i can relate to some degrees
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"Can I think for a second" - This should be done more often, I respect this guy a lot.
actualy can you think for another second?
A really great approach by a therapist. It shows that Poki has the option of doing the same. Its a difficult seed to plant on the therapists part. Bravo Doc
@@shanecrawford3347 Can I think about what to think about for a second?
@@Suureush nah, I will count down from 10 and when I get to zero you must state whatever you've come up with
@@SlanglieBeatz you mean he has 10 seconds to begin thinking about thinking then if you wanted hypothetically you could give him 10 more seconds to think and then to state what he was thinking about if that's a rule you want
Imagine Dr.K talking with tyler1
Under all that rage i think that Tyler is smart
@@respectedmastermind I dont know man, he is a good person, and incredibly good at games for sure, but I dont think he is that smart. He is still machist AF and cares a lot about not crying and being a "MAN". Maybe he is just ignorant tho.
@@Omehatl i only watched some clips and the off league stuff... It would be interesting for sure
@@Omehatl he used to be a 4.0 cpu science major
Tyler 1 is a character Tyler is a person he would be different off stream
this man is going to talk with every otv member at one point in time
otto wibe we need the Michael Reeves ep
@@cobi421 can't wait
Because otv is a house of millennials that livestream their entire lives, they're all just people like us and have their issues
"how does that make you feel"
michael: not great, turtles gotta die man
"The taming of Michael Reeves"
I'm glad i got off the "shitting on pokimane for no reason" wave. Shes my age, shes dealing with nearly everything im dealing with in some capacity and more, and it just made me realize how dehumanizing I was to her just because shes a streamer and I saw her as such. Fuck man i have so much to work on.
nah she has done some shit things. She has to grow from them instead of acting like they dont exist. Also dr. k said it best she needs to start being imane more and not poki.
@@bungodunko4123 To be honest, we all make mistakes. I don't particularly like her, but its important to note that all her faults like many other content creators are publicized. What I have learned to accept is that there is a reason for everything, even the mistakes that you make. It is important to understand peoples motivation to do things. Everyone knows the shit things they have done in our lives.
@@akazi1582 Yea I agree im probably biased cause I watched her apology video that she made a bit back and take that context into account. One thing I think would help her is being more candid with everyone around her. Like dr k said we know poki but dont really know much about imane.
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this was INSANE ... I'm having almost all of the same issues ... thanks for this
It’s the aoe healing !!
@@papilondon1401 maybe Dr. K is Soraka main
Cool to see you here, I love your art.
Almost like we're all humans?
I wasn’t going to watch this but this comment made me want to watch. Someone was able to relate to her and made me wonder if I can. 🙏🏼 ❤️ Thank you.
'You gotta start treating your family members like party members and not NPCs.' That hit me like a brick.
@Khaffit truuuuuuuuuue
@Khaffit haha i thought of that exactly when i heard dr k say that. Talking to my parents like an NPC did so much wonders for me and prevented a lot of confrontation that i dont think i want to stop doing it.
yeah i really should stop quicksaving and murdering my whole family over and over again
starinthroughmyrearview But how else will I get my level up for the big raid
@@FryedPidgey idk kill people other than your family, try closest friends
Having a person like Dr. K just makes twitch look less horrible than it is. Hes like a saviour.
He should clean up Twitter too. That would be a massive job
@@Guus115 honestly maybe a little too much for him lol, twitter is a menace
@@Guus115 Twitter is unsalable my dude. Let that shit sink
Let's not push too much preassure on him
bro Twitter can't be fixed
It's honestly crazy to be doing this on a public live stream. That's like next level courage.
i cant even do it with my close up people imagine doing it in front of thousands
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@@ybt1995 if you can't do that with your close up people. they're really not "close up" people. think again.
@@catedoge3206 close are mainly my family which we love each other but we never talk about serious stuff basically as Doc K said as "NPCs"
@@ybt1995 I recommend going to a psychiatrist or a support group. In there, you can freely talk about things without getting judged. :D
Ever since I saw that etika video of him walking down a street, talking about everything, I have started to be hyper aware of the fact that anyone, literally anyone can be going through so much, and you wouldn't even know it. So please if you're reading this make sure to check up on people, no matter who they are. It could save their life
Seriously. That damn video broke my heart dude. Even before the news broke. Can’t blame the people that saw him that day for not knowing his situation or trying to help him, but I do think about the fact that if even one person had given him a hug that walk he might still be here fighting his way through it. Really miss seeing him hyped and smiling and just being a genuinely good person. RIP man.
I feel the same way. I would've never guessed that Etika, one of the most charismatic and energetic content creators, would have ended his life. Seeing that happen has made me so much more aware of how important mental health is.
RIP Desmond
#JOYCONBOYZ
As I read this all I could think of..... maybe if etika was still alive this man could have helped him. I'm thankful he's here now so at least people don't have to end up like etika and have another chance before it's too late. Such a sad thought but happy and hopeful for some futures that are still lost out there.
Its fucks me a lot that he's gone because at one point I was getting out of a depressive way of thinking through Etika when he was himself.
@Elijah Dunay Shit this actually hits different. I remember getting the notification of that video and after watching it I knew something would happen. A few days passed and I saw that he had killed himself, that really fucked me up for a while, but it also got me aware of myself and others around me. I remembered being in school waiting for Etika's next smash bros reaction, knowing he was gone, shit I can’t describe the feeling. I somewhat saw myself in that Etika video, it felt like a mirror, but it also felt like a magnifying glass. I realized how fragile and important life is, but also how much suffering it entails, this was the same with everyone. I realized everyone has problems. Although I was trying to better myself after this, I never felt the same after my realizations from that video. This current pandemic has basically fucked up my life in some aspects, I know this goes the same for nearly everyone right now, but it’s given me some time to introspect also, a true dilemma. I still can’t fully process that Etika's gone sometimes, it sucks.
I wasn't expecting crying 3 minutes in
I love how deep this gets especially with the whole facade people put on to be an entertaining streamer as a career
idk why you care so much about rich streamers who are living well
@@ken-yo2hz being rich doesn't make you happy, it just makes you have one less stress
@@pretsoulz lol my point still stands?
Kakugen nobody gives a fuck
Kakugen am I not allowed to care about the well being of other people just because they’re rich? It’s like saying I shouldn’t feel bad for Kobe Bryant’s family after he died because they’re rich and will never have to work another day in their lives.
When she said “I feel really sad for myself” almost as if she was confused and it was a bizarre thing to feel, I felt that. Mourning the death of your inner child and the trauma they experienced, early 20’s are a trip.
fuckkkk yeah
Mid to late are worse
this doesnt make sense your inner child isnt dead if you're still breathing. They are a child, they are just hiding and you're probably scaring the poor thing. It's called nurturing for a reason,.
@@silver2zilver this is a thought i had today and honestly idk if it's dead or hiding. Ig you can't say it's dead because then there's no hope. Probably weakened or hiding, who knows man this shit's kinda very complicated
@@amerstain In psychoanalytics it's referred to as the "Shadow". It's the dark side of us that doesn't follow the rules. Suppressing that side of you will only result in it growing and festering until you self sabotage and it all comes out. You have to integrate it into your being and accept it for what it is without judgement. Think of the inner child as one of Dr. K's darker guests (abuser, incel, narcissist). They're controlled by their Shadow because they don't understand it. When you can see your inner child as a valuable important person within you, that has needs too, you can find it easy to treat it with compassion and set healthy boundaries with it. An example would be the hero in a story who has a deep anger and hate for the villain who killed his father and intends to hurt others. The hero has a part of him that enjoys violence. Instead of crushing that side of him he allows the monster to feed when it is appropriate. The boundary he sets is "only when someone is actively trying to cause harm, the beast may come out and feed." In some stories the hero will be too brutal, recognize it and set another boundary. Kind of like portion size management of what the beast may eat. That is all healthy. Beating down your child even when it's actions would be appropriate is not healthy. Not standing up for yourself when someone crosses a healthy boundary is not healthy. So we see people who suppress the child become weak and scared (how your inner child feels when you tyrannize them), people who are possessed by the child (no healthy boundaries set gives the child free reign), and people who integrate the child (recognize what the child wants, say no when it's not appropriate, gives the child outlets and situations where they can let loose, and reigns them in before they go to far.)
my dude tearing people minds apart while drinking a beer... my hero
I wish this was reddit where I could pay to award you, jeez, agreed lol
He is Lord
no need to "hold my beer"
maybe more like reverse engineering
And it's a Modelo Negra. He really is the people's King.
when he hit her with the "do you want to be poki or do you want to be imane" thing i felt the strings of reality bend around me
the time he took with that is amazing, it shows that he really cares and dont want to make her feel bad.
Imagine if her name was just “pok” lmaooooo
lol.. what are the strings of reality
@@MOGE_ ernie ball hybrid slinky
When you’ve been on the Internet in a certain way, in forms where you’re known as a username, you have different personas of yourself that sometimes form. Sometimes I want to be me, the offline me. But sometimes I’m just the online me.
When he said “You gotta treat your family like party members not NPC’s” that shit hit fr
so talk shit and do nothing?
iphoneusdsd lmao
@@iphoneusdsd normally, yes
so i need to flame my family??
time stamp?????
I think her cry was mostly because someone actually wanted to listen to what she has to say and gave her their time to do it. It can get emotional.
v true
I think it was because she was overwhelmed when thinking about her emotions. Since she’s a problem, solver, her mind started going and didn’t stop.
Yeah. Dr. K was probably the first person to actually be interested in her feelings in a productive way. Which is not surprising
It's because she's a woman, women are emotional.
@@akitadakid6326 the way you worded that really sounded like you said "she's a problem" 😂
Anyways, I think you're right
I think that's the fastest "can I think for a sec" we had. This one's going to be hard to beat :D
Wtf is this on a public stream? It's private counselling
CJ Cowabunga Yes it is on a public stream.
@@christhebritt2231 it isn't counseling because it's public, it's just talking
@@christhebritt2231 why are you watching then?
@@christhebritt2231 why are you here then, also if you actually watch it at one point he say that we should talk more about this later in private
I think Fed could benefit a lot from being on here with Dr. K
Edit - Please stop replying this was two months ago, nothing had come out when I first made this comment.
Think he'd be pretty open about his problems considering how open and honest he is, and how much he overshares generally. I'd watch it.
ALOT actually.I dont watch Fed like that so i kinda noticed he looks...sad in the emotional way
@@lukeemanuels1691 he has been looking sad lately probs because of the whole Yuna and Jade and community so it would be nice if he talked with Dr K
Tbh, I think a great candidate aside from Fed would be Xell...now that guy I feel has a lot of internal issues/struggles.
Fed said on stream that he wasn’t ready to talk with Dr. K yet
35:26
Poki: i'm so worried about teens and pre-teens during this day and age.
Dr. K: Yeah they're fucked... and it's gonna get worse
gen z (and everyone younger): 👁👄👁
Gen z but i agree HAHAHA
Well, since marketing and corporations basically control adult lives and shape teen and preteen lives, he's absolutely right.
Man I’ve thought about this and for a while. I’ve thought that my parents are lucky they got to live in a time without the technology of today. It’s bad because it’s so new and huge. Like Daily Dose said we don’t know the result of growing up with so much screen time usage.
@@BygoneT don't forget gov. and banking in that messed up soup.
im gen z and im 20 bro, i think this only applies to younger gen z and gen alpha
I got a second hand therapy session from this
plasma jumbo it’s part of the AOE healing bro!
@@user-lp8ur5qn3o Area of Effect. :)
i got HAND therapy if you know what i mean
I really thought this was a double entendre but I think I'm just tired
AOE healing is a great thing but also understand that your max health will likely not change without a first hand assist
It is weird how much these kinds of therapy interviews humanize streamers. It makes me realize how much on the surface we judge them and how wrong this is. This young women (I didn't even know she was this young) has to live in a world where almost every decision she makes is scrutinized and judged from a very young and I don't think it's fair. None of us are built by default to handle such things so early on. I will be sure to apply a lot more compassion when discussing/thinking about internet personalities. Thanks for the stream!
She probably does not humanize the people who make her earn money, so in return she wont be humanized. You have the public you deserve.
Obviously she has interpersonal problems, but let's be real for a second : who does not?
@@slals What you say may be true. But at the same time that doesn't mean that we have to judge her as a robot with bad programming. Just because she may be numb and acting that way it doesn't mean that we have to do it as well. Of course, at the same time, we don't owe her money or attention either. It was more of a thought experiment.
@@BlazerBoy1337 I never say that I judge her as a robot. My point is that we are animals with social instinct that makes human interaction (group interaction) the way it is, independantly of how you think and you behave on a personal level. On the other hand, Pokimane have a complete control on how she depicts herself, thus how people will think about her, and she is intelligent enough to know that.
@@slals I disagree in the sense that you allocate her full control in herself. In the same sense that we are animals and don't have full control of our behavior so does she. I think this is a mistake we do when looking at streamers (or personalities in general), we think that everything they do is calculated and planed. But, as it is a livestream, we will surely see unfiltered reactions and actions. To put it in another way, if you were in her place how would you react to all the feedback she has gotten? Be it positive or negative.
@@BlazerBoy1337 I talked about social instinct, not indivual behavior.
Not everything is calculated, but a lot of thing, that starts by the background of their cam. A streamer very rarely become popular because of hasardous things.
God this channel is so great man. When I heard her say "people don't want to hear people like me complain" my heart broke for her...Streamers get put on this pedestal because they are playing videogames and socializing for a living, and it has to be hard to feel this sense of obligation towards feeling great and being happy 24/7. My girlfriend is a nurse and one of the things she struggles with is not ALWAYS feeling like being the "care taker" that she needs to be. Certain jobs come with certain moral and emotional obligations. I always try and remind her that her feels aren't crazy or bad feelings. They are always valid and justified.
Timestamp?
@@tbeycorgan5037 8:48 ish
@@pandak6092 thx
So true. I am a nurse as well and "caregiver role strain" is a real thing for nurses. Nurses are expected to be strong for patients and family members who can't. And I guess people expect streamers to play games or be entertaining or whatever... we don't always feel like we get the opportunity to experience our own emotions.
I hope your girlfriend finds the balance between caring for others and caring for herself. She seems very selfless though :)
CutieBigBooty Thank you! You as well :)
i'm impressed with how dr K has created a youtube series that's essentially public therapy sessions with famous youtubers
That's the whole concept I suppose. He wants to 'AOE'. So the whole idea behind the public sessions is so you, as viewer, can have resonance with some of the problems he talks about with famous youtubers/streamers, and as a result learn from them and apply it on your own live.
@@0Sicarii0 AOE?
@@Omnihilo Area of effect. So instead of going single target he is fixing multiple peoples fucked up childhoods while only running his jedi mind tricks on one person at a time
@@VIpown3d Oooh, okay. Cool, thanks for the explanation!
@@Omnihilo No problem mate
"So what's wrong with crying?" - How did this hit so hard? Dr. K has speechcrafting maxed out I swear.
ikr? he asks the most existential question ever without even trying
I mean, socially it's understood that crying is a sign of weakness. Pokimane in the public eye probably wants to hold are her emotions in all the time. Being a fairly physically attractive female based on western standards, she probably gets plenty of creepy guys messaging her and she probably feels she has to hold that in too.
Daniel Dosso
Society itself is weak asf how Tf are they going to see crying as weak lol
I haven’t cried in 4yrs I’m 22today didint celebrate cause of covid and weak family connection
@@danieldosso2455 no public figure can be 100% spontaneous, women even less so. Maybe the only spontaneous public person that can exist while being a woman is Lady Gaga
I feel poki, i finally found therapy , i said hello and bursted into tears. There's much deep down in all of us.
i agree. my first therapist session, i couldnt get much out because the second she asked me a question i broke down into tears
@@amandaperez4574 i hope you are doing well :3
Omfg if someone starts sccusing this dude saying simp, i will fuck em up
@@FlyhighLife thank you i am, i hope you too :]
i didnt realize she was only 23. i think she'll be fine. she's intelligent and introspective enough.
Simp
Hi. I like your video. Are you still an sjw?
Intelligence can also be their own downfall if they don't keep their thoughts in check.
Jeff K. Simp
Jeff K. Simp
As a gamer and an aspiring psychologist this is essentially a marriage of the things I love.
Dr K is the type of guy I wanna be
Same bro
good way to help ppl
Follow your passions
Be yourself by yourself
same
I can tell from miles that she needs a break from twitch as a job.
Damn these twitch streamers have it really hard sitting all day reacting to videos while receiving millions of dollars.
@@payamux8933 Being succsesful and rich doesn't make you immune to mental illness, and it doesn't mean you have the right to dehumaise them either.
@@payamux8933 the money and comfort is the good aspect of being a streamer and most of the time it's the only aspect people take into account when they visualise one. The reality of having to bring the highest energy/most entertaining version of yourself to sometimes thousands of viewers on a daily basis is not healthy for your mental state
@@payamux8933 you came in the wrong house fool
@@payamux8933 Question: What brought you to this channel? For someone watching a mental health focused channel you are really oblivious to it. Makes me hard to think that you would be a regular here.
"streaming for 6-7 years"
"I'm 23"
She's been streaming since she was 16-17????
I have immense respect for anyone that can put themselves out there and deal with this kind of responsibility staring at that age
Honestly, it's not that young. Most people that make it big start in their mid to late teens because we live in a teen obsessed world. Some big youtubers even started at 12/13.
@@meshshirtburgundypants5244 I said it was a great amount of responsibility, not necessarily that she handled it well. Like how being the leader of a country is a great responsibility, even though some people who have those positions don’t handle it very well. Poki’s past mistakes also don’t reduce my respect for her at all, everyone makes mistakes when they’re starting out in new territory, and you really can’t hold a teenager’s words against them 5 years later.
@starchannel123 not all of them dealt with internet mobs tho. And a lot who did, are no longer online.
@@starchannel123I don’t know how old you are, but 16-17 is very young to be living that kind of life and having that kind of attention on tou
@@corvacopia Its really not, the entertainment industry is pretty much the only career were a large % of ppl get big when theyre really young and its also the industry where you "live that kind of life and have that kind of attention on you", be that musician, athlete, actor or streamer.
this comment said something sincere about Etika but I accidentally changed it, rip.
purad for real, at least he gets to make a difference for others today
@@adc4836 that's a positive
yeah for real
Damnnnn
yes. instead, we got that trash keemstar to talk to him before the tragedy happened
"My dad passed away a couple of years ago. It's all good. I'm cool with it. He's cool with it. "
jesus
@Nikx24 41:09
Underrated comment lol
@Nikx24 41:09 edit:oh crap sorry I didn’t see someone else already comment the time stamp 😅
I felt that kinda response to I'm sorry so much
A side note I thought about, in the disabled community there’s a lot of “your symptoms aren’t as bad as mine so you don’t get to be upset about your pain if it’s not as bad as mine” and I don’t get it, we’re all suffering with symptoms and people even without a disability are allowed to be sad about pain they’re experiencing because that’s their pain, not ours. I just had to get that off my chest sorry.
I think the main takeaway from all these interviews is that you don't have to be sorry, it's cool, there's nothing wrong with just dumping thoughts in comments sections.
Justin B yeah it’s different pain but it’s still pain. I dislocate my joints daily and feel like shit all the time. It’s not okay for me to go out and tell people with joint pain that they’re not allowed to feel that pain or talk about it because it’s not as bad as mine. It’s still pain, all pain is pain and no ones allowed to tell people they’re wrong and aren’t allowed to feel their pain. I wouldn’t go to a person with my condition who suffers from heart problems and a punctured lung and start telling them how to get better coz I have no idea. My pain isn’t the same as theirs but both of our pain exists.
@jorge guzman but pain is pain. Just because I have a much higher pain tolerance in order to function as a human doesnt mean everyone with less pain than me dont matter. Also money doesnt equal happiness, you can actually be rich and horribly depressed. And that's allowed and valid.
Justin B well I mean it’s hard to differentiate with that, like I look completely normal, I’m not in a wheelchair, I can walk into a shop and back out but sometimes I get pass out spells or horrific vertigo or my legs just stop being legs so I use a disabled spot because of that risk. If there was a choice between me and a wheelchair user then 100% I can walk from the spot that’s slightly further away. Noone should diminish others pain because we don’t know what others are truly going through and feeling. I can semi comfortably push myself to walk to the village shops and it looks relatively effortless but when I get home, I’m almost paralysed for a bottle of milk.
Justin B no i totally agree on that front, I just don’t like when people feel superiority for feeling more pain than others and telling people with less pain to shut up about it. Also if people are dicks and wanna use depression/disability as a get out of jail free card they can eat my ass tbh I don’t care about those people. Pissed me off when Harvey Weinstein was suddenly disabled at his trial.
I won’t lie when I say I had a pretty negative image of Pokimane before watching this. Many of my friends and content creators I watched talked about shady things she has done and it made me lose trust for her. However, after watching this video, I started to understand why those rumors came about and why she really isn’t much different from all of us. Getting her heartfelt perspective on her position in this community really helped me see that human side of her. That content creators aren’t the culmination of rumors and drama. This was a good experience.
I'm not gonna pretend I'm an expert, I'm not a fan of hers, never made the effort of watching her streams or donating.
I've had an inkling that she (along with other streamers) regret a lot of the things that defined their success. But they can't let it go, or a least be strong enough to stop it from defining them.
I respect her for owning up to her guilt. I wish her and everyone like her the best Min Max of the game of life.
All people ever do is talk about the negative things Poki has or even been rumoured to have done as if she's never done anything right. Its gotten to the point where almost everyone does it and its horrible and onesided. Looking at it objectively you see that everyone has done stuff wrong in different ways and so just singularly talking about stuff someone's done wrong will make them look like a bad person but its not them.
@@Riku-Leela Theres a saying in my country, do good 99 times out of a hundred - people will remember you for that 1 mistake.
@@Shady36 very true, I do wish people would look at others more objectively though rather than just things they may have done before. Not saying all people are like that, as some have the intelligence to not pin an issue someones made to them as a person.
@@Riku-Leela Or just have a live and let live vibe.
And all of a sudden I’m in a never ending spiral of streamers’ full interviews that take up my entire day. Honestly, I don’t mind
I hope you are feeling okay
@@catsnamedfanta Same! I mind though, because that is keeping me distracted from doing the my work job. But that's on me, and if I wasn't watching this, I would probably find something else to distract me away from the work.
Bro same
@@_mayankr mabey you should think about changing jobs so you don't feel the need for distraction. I know circumstances and responsibilities but it's possible and you can do it!
These have been the interviews and conversations I’ve wanted to hear. Emotionally driven and powerful breakthrough speeches. I spend my time listening while doing paperwork and stuff it’s so comforting and puts me in such an open and receptive mood to speaking to others throughout the day!
I really enjoy it when Dr.K talks about his kids because I never get to hear my dads perspective on what it was like raising kids or what his feelings were towards me and my sister. Thanks Dr.K
Same :(
You never know you've fucked up your kids until they're grown up and that's scary
Same
@Jeff B some people don't have that kind of relationship with their parents, or the parents just don't like to talk about stuff like that..
Dude I tried game ending last year and the only person that knows about it is my cousin. I don't know but the gap between me and my parents is too big to break my mental issues to them.
She broke the record. Crying within 4 minutes. Dr K is legendary
Then kaceytron broke that
Like wtf she just started cryig. Lol wut?
3 minutes in she’s already crying 😭
Most Indians are legendary you guys underestimate us a lot :D this guys is like a really good example of good guys around India and what kinda understanding they have about life
She said she'd been crying a lot regardless of the session with Dr. K
What I find heartbreaking is that children think they owe their parents anything. Yet, these children did not choose to be born. When I do something to make the lives of my children better, the thought of 'them owing me' does not ever cross my mind.
I know Dr. K and Imane will never read this comment, but I think it's important for people to consider this perspective. And I hope she doesn't get mauled by the online beast. Thank you for sharing your story.
thank you for being so good to your kids. you're setting a good example for them.
Exactly. If anything, parents owe their children because they CHOSE to bring them to this Earth.
Thank you for having that mindset. Unfortunately most other parents just don't seem to think the same way :(
My parents literally asks me if I will take care of them once they're old. Not that I won't take care of them but dem my parents definitely think that I owe them my life.
If I ever become a mum, I want to have your mentality. I feel like that. It's no burden of course, to want to take care of my parents, but there are times when it's limiting, and it can be quite heavy. My dad is very old school, and he sees wrong that daughters-sons go out of their home at 18 to live on their own (I'm from Mexico, so it's not as usual over here). He wants them to take care of their elderly parents. My mum is more liberal.
I'm confused, but will take flight, and hope to make a better income to help them financially... But it's so confusing.
43:06 I feel like pokimane hit the nail on the head with the line about "numbers don't stop, there is no 'you've done enough'", resonated with me a lot
i mean im not in that situation so no idea but why not just set some goals? after hitting them you can worry about keeping those numbers while trying to do things that make you feel better. ie maybe less streaming, or streaming less popular things etc
no need to aim for the moon after all esp if youre unhappy
@@haitharu after hitting the big numbers there's always gotta be someone better than you. Even if you really become the best of the bests(personally for me) your parents will never acknowledge you
@@haitharu yeah seriously, once my family is all set up I won’t give a fuck about money or success. grinding just to grind is a great way to end up crying after 4 minutes of talking to someone who remotely gives a shit.
Man this is not a thing 23yo should be able to manage at all
Poor queen she is suffering a lot :( :( :(
@@Hellbryan1 Cringe
@@JuicyTobacco Simp
@@Hellbryan1 how tf is he the simp lmfao
@@Hellbryan1 tf r u on
She said she feels guilty for playing video games for 12 hours for no reason. Just hit 10,000 Unemployed hours on dota 2 and feel like a GOD.
What is a Dota
@Agyfasz-Huszár szia
Is that supposed to be a good thing lmao
yikes
That's rookie numbers....sadly :(
When she started crying after saying hello.. I felt that
When you said "I felt that", I felt that 🤧😩
@@alexmeyer8133 When you said " When you said ' I felt that' ,I felt that🤧😩 " , I felt that 🤧😩
@@umangbhalla I can relate too *crying face*
umang bhalla when you said "when you said 'when you said i felt that' i felt that🤧😫' i felt that" i felt that 🤧😫
@@umangbhalla When you said "When you said 'When you said "I felt that", I felt that🤧😩', I felt that 🤧😩", I felt that 🤧😩
This man is doing god's work...
This streamers spend their lives in front of a pc screen and put their lives out for people to jugde and critize them. I'm not able to imagine the amount of mental weight they hold.
Yes they have the money to go to therapy, but this man is making possible that everyone of us to see thing clear about mental health and how everybody has issues beyond what's happening on screen and HOPEFULLY the community will improve to a healthy point.
Oh yeah, their life is sooo difficult XD Poor streamers and their burdensome job.
dude u should have seen the AMA part doc's helping to pay a random discord member's college fees(for 1st year tho) and that shows how much he cares and is dedicated to help us gamers
To be honest it would be nice if he had talks with smaller streamers that cannot afford therapy. Only top 1% of streamers makes money, others actually lose money streaming (living costs, equipment etc).
Still gr8 job.
@@Proximity94 dude stfu
@@jaydenong5503 Truth hurts, I see.
I think channel is really important to have. Everyone should sub to this guy
hit him with my twitch prime yesterday, dude had me crying and wasnt even talking to me.
@@jackflexington4706 wat made yo cry?
@@siegpasta When he was drunk crying yesterday talking to that kid about his life. First time I ever found him streaming except for when kitboga hosted him.
@@jackflexington4706 I left mid-poki-interview caus bored init, so I fukin missed it.
What a fanny on, fuck me likee.
@@jackflexington4706 I feel truly blessed to find this guy. I had the same reaction the first "season" I saw of him and sky. It is wonderful what he does. I will check out the drunken stream later today, put it off but sounds funny af.
When you became Poki, Imane got left behind - I felt this.
he might've leaned on that a bit much given "shoulds" likely started in childhood and there was no poki until later but it's a convenient placeholder
Poki sounds like someone who gave too many pieces of herself away and forgot what she wanted and who she was deep down. I really relate to this and I cry about it too.
I don't think she gave away pieces of herself. She neglected herself, tried to use adulation to compensate for the lack of self-love, and stretched herself too thin.
Making sacrifices is a part of being responsible, but she then proceeded to punish herself for not being happy to be making those sacrifices.
I feel like I owe my parents too. I feel like I’m a debtor. I dream of just throwing 2 million dollars their way and then just disappearing from them and finding out what is important to me.
I definitely feel the same
yep indian here feel the exact same, i wanna leave but feel like I owe them a lot of money and time lol
I promise you that your parents would much rather have a relationship with you than $2 million.
@@shanehere I would too but there's too much damage done to me by them for any sort of relationship to be possible
@@JoelGonzalez-qf8cp money ruins people. Trust me, your parents need love and support more than money. I used to sell weed, big quantities and I was never so miserable in all my life and I could buy anything i wanted. But you cant tape over deep problems with money woman or cars. Woman and money brake your heart a lot less than cars do lol.
00:02:44 interviewee in tears any%
(second try, cause technical difficulties)
rr3draws Ricardo lmaoo
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Gonna be hard to beat.
Perfect RNG
cant believe dr k dropped the tissue skip exploit in his own run before sharing it to the community
Man to think that Poki has been concerned about how people perceive her from out of context things has been a large part of her worries. Idk I think that the "Fed leaks" seem even more manipulative on his end as he would know how much that would hurt her. I honestly feel so bad for her.
fed couldn't have gained anything from those tweets. it's pretty clear that he was the one who got lead on and manipulated, but he also included out of context stuff. i don't like either of them
@@craig7405Aspecially that he knew it is going to get shut down like a week from leaking those files, yes. The thing is he had published a lot of private messages. How "cringy" they are is irrelevant, they are still private. He leaked those documents knowing fully well that the internet won't stay on his side for long. He did it because not only will those messages be visible, but also pokimane and her team would need to publish more of messages from their conversation to provide context :/ ,which is a complete loss of privacy. If my messages got leaked somehow to my friends, i wouldnt care much, but if i had huge public like she has i would care about it much more.
Im not saying she is an angel or sth but saying she manipulated him is a bit of an exaggeration. She made mistakes handling their break up, but who didnt. The problem stands, that these incredibily private stuff that can be resolved privatly, got LeAkEd.
@@michaeel4701 they were never dating, according to her. fed thought they were, which is a direct example of being led on and manipulation.
@@craig7405 I wouldn't say it's direct, theres more into it. He wanted to take another step in their relationship, and she wanted to just stay friends. Their trip to (I dont remember where), can be interpreted as romantic (his point of view) as well as friendly (as she saw it). There is also a possibility that she changed her mind half way through, then the feds point of view would be very accurate. Again, it's not about what mistakes they may or may not have made or how indecisive she was, rather its about whether she manipulated him on purpose. And i dont think she did, i dont think she is as cruel as you think she is.
@@michaeel4701 and from the texts you can see that after she said that she continued to lead him on. she's not a sociopath, but she's not exactly a good samaritan
"What's wrong with crying?
"There's this cool meme on Reddit"
Edit: Thanks guys for the likes!
She gave example of what she was feeling. Poorly executed but slightly understandable
Mutt ik what she was going for but i just thought it was funny lmfao
@@angstybulbasaur1712 it was lmao
I know the exact one she is talking about too 😂😂 it is hilarious tbf
i feel like shes been living in this weird bubble and nobody actually treats her like a real person, the fact that people spamming QUEEN in chat before she even arrives is kind of a red flag, and that this has been going on since she was a teen is just kind of disturbing
yeah its golden hand cuffs. sometimes u want it all to stop but you just cant
1) its twitch chat 2) people say that her fan base refer to her as a queen so it has became a meme. but i do agree that people or the viewers don't treat her nicely. But i do think now it is a lot better since she is in a streamer house (offline tv) and everyone there treats each other like family. we already had lilypichu go on so i do think that helped poki go on stream as well.
@@Sc4recrow44 Are you saying that she's to blame when others start to idolize her and put her on some sort of pedestal?
@@Sc4recrow44 exactly, iwonder if many celebrities or twitch streamers experience similar
@@Sc4recrow44 Truth. But I would debate about her obviously playing into it. While obviously there are people who would accept finding themselves in this situation with open arms, she might've not even noticed (or in a worse case scenario went in knowing what it would bring) the repercussions of being put on a pedestal by others.
But I guess that is something that ultimately she knows.
It usally takes a while before doc gets emotional arc out of the conversation, Poki was ready to go from the jump... New record for the doc, crying is good its the start of letting go of baggage.
Sometimes I would agree with you, but crying can be a symptom of something much deeper. It's not always the start of letting go baggage. It's a way for emotional people to express what they're feeling in that moment. This is coming from someone who cries all the time.
Chat called it speedrunning, which I thought was hilarious. But it's pretty sad how deeply troubled she is, while both consciously and subconsciously resists dealing with it.
@@GreyGrim thanks doc
@@Kunal70006 anytime son.
@@GreyGrim thanks doc
*The HATE has gotten to her guys..*
*Dr. K's first question: How are you feeling?*
*Poki - starts crying...*
Yeah, I really hope that she's feeling better within herself now.
@@Riku-Leela yea same
Honestly and that says a lot
I am an asshole. High-five mate!
"People don't want to hear someone like me complain". I'm a 'nobody', but seeing a 'somebody' feel the same doubts and feelings, have human problems, feel restless, in need of change, reenforces that no matter what I DO end up achieving, or what relative level of accompishment I get to in life, happiness is not found in the result. It's found in the journeys we go on, the interactions we have, and the challenges we face, overcome, or lose to, and our mental approach to those. Thanks Poki and Dr. K, again.
first time i ever met with a therapist i broke down and started crying like a bitch 5 minutes in.
ADN smh shut up
There's nothing wrong with that, the doctor said so
ADN lmao ignorant thing to say. Opening up to someone and crying/showing feelings isn’t bad or not manly at all. You’re just dumb as fuck
@ADN wow guy, you're like, a huge dick.
ADN get out of here with your toxic masculinity, there is nothing wrong with crying
6:23 she really said "actually, can u think for another second?" 😂😂😂😂😂
omega poggers
Well now that she's moved out of the OTV house hopefully she can try to discover herself more and grow as a person with friends and not just friend/colleagues around all the time. Like she said in her video a better work/life balance to separate herself from her work and be able to rest when the camera is off.
living in a streamer house sounds cool when you're young but after a while you'd grow tired of it even if your friends arent the problem.
I find what you said interesting ... Ye to much of anything is in the end bad... For example I am at the opposite side of pokimane, I live alone and when I say alone I mean it... Totally alone in a 3 room apartment and the closest friend is at a 15 minutes way with a bus... So I don t even have friends close to my house... Tbh it feels bad, and I want to have interactions with people more often... I want to feel exhausted by social interaction just so I could enjoy the lonely life in my home... That s my type, social interaction is the key for me to enjoy my time when I am lonely, otherwise if I just stay alone in my home I begin not to want to do anything because of a lack of energy and stimulation... I think it also happens to other people too but not as dramatically as it happens to me... I mean everyone has a happy vibe inside the home after spending lots of fun time outside the house... We all know the feeling after a huge trip with friends that is exhausting but also fun and the sansation at the end of the trip of saying thing like " ugh, I can t wait to get home and :play games, sleep, do sports" we all kind of have more energy inside our home even if we live alone after spending a lot of "outside" time... But it feels like for me it is 3 times more powerful... I literally can t function inside my home unless I had huge social interactions, I need to be exhausted by social interaction in order to feel good alone... But also, I once lived in a different home where I got sooooo many people coming to visit me because I was staying close to them back then when I was living in that house... And ye, back then it began to be exhausting to HAVE so many people around me... So at the end of the day I think it must be 50/50 in order for it to work alright... Like ,not living totally separated from friends but also not having them come to you every second... Shits weird... Idk
@@mivias6768 I sometimes disappear for a while from my friends to focus on what I enjoy personally. It's nice to have friends but if you spend too much time together it can be a bit stale. Interesting enough it shows the same for married couples who don't live together have lower divorce rates.
Mivias the company and not feeling the loneliness ? Do you go out with your friends time to time? Parents living elsewhere?
@@MarvellousMorbing parents living elsewhere yes.... Both of them kind of far, my mother 300 km away my father 2000 km away... I live alone
People love to judge the outside appearance of people's life. But they rarely consider the problems they might deal with. They will down play all other people's accomplishments and up play a person's mistakes. I guess it's like they say hurt people hurt people.
@Kayden bruh
@Kayden The Fuck?
@Kayden [Everybody disliked that]
@Kayden But she has more of a career than you will ever have so no one cares what you think :)
@Kayden Good job being a waste of a human, piece of trash.
I had some weird blame/anger towards Pokimane even though I don't watch her and I conciously understood that it's not her fault - because of a lot of the toxic/simp people who were always the ones to bring her name up everywhere, just acting beyond annoying. It got tiring to go around twitch and constantly hear people who either hate her for dumb reasons, oversexualise her, or hype up some dumb clips.
I'm really grateful for this 3h talk because it actually let me learn who she is a person, out of the context of the bad part of her community, and now I can appreciate her, genuinely hope she gets to achieve peace and find true friendships in the business, as well just not get frustrated next time I see someone in chat being nasty about her name.
Lixy Fox she’s not actually that annoying it’s just always been a thing to hate her
@@traze2963 I don't think she's annoying, just that seeing a lot of weird and nasty comments all over twitch about her got annoying to me and it made it so I couldn't help but associate it with her stream/to an extent her.
I should probably also tune into one of her game streams at some point just to see if I like it
The truth is, if you're a twitch streamer like her and your personality is based off of screaming and being hyper, you're gonna get called annoying by some people. The problem is some of these haters just take it way too far and mass dislike her videos or Weirdchamp and Dansgame anytime she appears on their favorite streamer's stream. If you think a streamer is annoying just leave the stream or don't watch it, trust me no ones gonna miss you.
@@genkyo6 I think that's too simple of an explanation.
I actually first found out about Poki from a video on my feed listing all the reasons why I should hate her. But I started watching her videos and offline TV stuff, and I found I actually really like her. 😆
This is so powerful.
I think Imane is such a smart and strong person but she's also so young. I never realized she was only 23. I can't believe she still has so much place to grow! I'm happy to say, and I say this confidently, that you will grow so much more. This is only the beginning Imane. You got this. Much love.
seriously, she's my same age and I feel like I amount nothing to what she's done in life, and in the same way I can't even begin to imagine how much pressure she feels from the work enviroment she works in
@tim conway your abuse of LOL is cringe beyond my capacity to write
@tim conway piss off you attention seeker, no one responded to your first comment so you have to reply again so that people give you the attention that you seek
I3INARY_
Make up is the only answer
@I3INARY_ ok
The more I think about it, the more it makes sense. All people ever see is Pokimane the ruthless business woman, Pokimane the queen, Pokimane the most successful female streamer. Her fans and haters alike only see what's in front of them. As a person, Imane doesn't feel like she has a right to complain or feel down because she has all these things. Which just goes back to the point that no matter how much money and fame you have it doesn't necessarily mean you'll suddenly gain eternal happiness.
200 iq 🤣👌
I don’t think finding happiness in a life a destination, it’s more of a journey. Imane seem to be detached from reality until Dr K hit the right spots
Sure, money isn't a guaranteed happiness. But it's hard to feel bad for her when she brings it on herself. She can't take criticism, and got a smaller channel to lose a big sponsor, thus affecting his income (bet you don't care how that made him feel right, since he's a dude.)
Plus she kinda sells out by filming in a way everyone can see her in tight yoga pants.
@@HordePlayerMostly you really care about her lmao
@@morroc6846😂 not really. That's information you can get from 1 video.
If she actually goes back to school and stops streaming.. i’ll miss her in offlineTV. But, I’ll be happy for whatever decision she makes, because she is her own person ❤️☺️❤️
Also Imane needs a break to be honest, she’s been working hard enough for the past 6-7 years.
Working hard is subjective. Anyone can push out content, but half the time I hear about Poki is if drama hits. She should just go to college/school.
AlexOS Working hard is subjective, because depending on what a person can do, they are able to accomplish many tasks. An example is owning a Merch store, being a multi media streamer with millions of followers, being apart of OfflineTv; a company in which it gets sponsorship whilst making content offline, owning a personal makeup set that’s up for sale, and overall being successful because of their financial stability. With all of those activities comes with great responsibility that a person who hasn’t work hard enough cannot earn. Because of how far her influence can reach due to her large following, it’s inevitable that she’ll be apart in dramas that she does not want to partake in. Her job is essentially working on a live stream in front of people who are good or bad, but ready to pounce at her as soon as she makes a mistake. However, you cannot discredit her years of hard work from the young age of 17 to her adult years of 23 just because she’s been in drama numerous times. That’s outright prejudiced and a lack of judgement on your part objectively.
@@LolzandLolz thats wright what u said but money fame make up clotes is not smile her like she have good life because she is rich...NO she is not happy money cant make u happy dude we fans have good life because we dont have worries nobody knows who we are if u understan she have stress because she have worries she cant sleep i know that and everybody knows who is her and they bully her online ne you or somebody will ve crazy that someone attacking us online ... thats the point of life the God creating a test for this life.
working hard? She's literally playing games and letting simps pay for her life.
Imane should be allowed to be this vulnerable and have a break. Its lil heartbreaking that theres people that others don't see that change is good for growth.
The take home from what I got is that everyone has experienced suffering. Everyone hurts. Gatekeeping who and who dont deserve to feel sad is toxic because you cant fully accept that emotion and move forward.
Dr K: The monster in you is FED.
Me a few months later: 👁👄👁 he is a prophet
well that aged well...
@@ryan._.6417 sure it did😂👍🏻
@@King_Solomon_the_Libtart well at the end poki was in the wrong
@@ryan._.6417 how do you figure?
I don't follow Pokimane - can someone elaborate on what exactly happened that was 'foreshadowed' by Dr. K?
When she started talking about her parents and how hard they worked to immigrate to provide them everything they didn’t have hit me so hard. Because I felt the same way, I felt like I had to be perfect. Perfect in the sense of Good grades, no drugs, no alcohol, no parties, no boyfriends, nothing that can endanger my future that they carefully prepared for me. I literally went to uni just because I thought it would make them proud...I’m graduating this fall with a bachelors of science and I’m just like...did I want this? Have I succeeded? Did I make them proud?
gigi ! Dam yea shits crazy... I feel this often too but I’m still in uni
If your first thought is how happy someone else would be for your accomplishment, this will be something you struggle with... You need to make yourself proud, find your “dharma” and feel satisfied with your life (not serve someone else’s desires)
Lol better than me, I forced myself through engineering even though I’m terrible at and hate math and physics and ended up failing and dropping out in my final year and attempted suicide. Better place rn and realised my parents just want me to be happy, but in training for a job better suited for me that I hope I can make money to support them.
I have a very similar experience. Instead of doing instrumental performance as amy major i did engineering because i didn’t want all of my parent’s efforts to go to waste because i chose to be happy, rather than choosing what made most practical sense.
Our generation is literally having to relearn how to accept ourselves and be adults because of the immense pressure from our parents and its so shitty. Also fuck dads cuz idk what its like to have one.
Let's humanize the streaming industry
i like that!
Kind of difficult when your audience has no physical form and anonymity that gives them huge power to say anything they want
Twitch is basically a televised 4chan board minus the real world murder/deep web content, so yeah, lets hope for the best and try and do our part, but at the end of the day an anonymous messaging “board” will always have these problems. Its just an inherent problem with removing accountability :/
@@cartmansnipples "4chan board", lol not really
People don't understand that streamers are people just like us and just because they have more money or whatever excuse you want to use doesn't mean they are happy and can just ignore people hating all the time
I suggest you talk to sykkuno
Edit: I take back what I said don't wanna push sykkuno to do this
Yes
Mithril why?
Mithril he’s just shy and plays a character bud calm down
Jg well it’s easy to assume it’s a character when you only see him on a stream on twitch, or on social media. Dude could be fine or he could be hiding behind a facade. We on the outside could never know unless he himself opens up on it
Andi Chen well I mean he says he’s enjoyed streaming because he’s made so many more friends because of it. Also his community probably doesn’t attract nearly as much toxicity as others do, and while there always is some and I can’t assume, I feel like streaming was good for him overall
conversation summary:
"everyone is wrong but me"- pokimane
To the people in the comments calling others a simp for empathizing with her, I just wanna say, that I’m hope you can get better in the future. I know that there is probably something going on in your life that is making you lash out at others. I hope that one day you gain empathy for others.
Tyler Fulton Simp 😂
Simp
I'm saying simp as a joke, I generally feel bad for her a lot of times, cause I can understand how she feels
Simp
But seriously, very true man, quality comment.
theyre joking usually
@@itsaident Probably depends on what kind of person Tyler is.
It is possible to feel both things at once though. You can be angry and resentful of someone, while also hoping that their life becomes better and them a better person.
I really wish this man got a chance to speak with Etika before his demise.
Same, it would’ve been nice.
6:15 bruh you can see the 4d chess going on in his head
he is using the lobster pincer move
We are in 2020 and hes in 3020
search 5d chess with multivers travel. He was probably playing the early access vers of it
I'm gonna try to take a little of overweight from yall's chests on this one, I see a lot of yall relating to "You gotta treat your family like party members not NPC’s".
That must make yall feel pretty fucking sad, in exactly the same way where he was describing it to Imane right there.
But here's the thing, it's really never been her fault, or yall's for that matter. It's the parents fault. It's the parents' job to approach their kid and conversate with them, ask them how school was, ask them if anyone at school annoyed them, ask them what's their favorite subject at school is, tell them about how you were bullied back in school and how you grew out from it, tell them about your past, at each and every year and stage of your kid's life, you should be there for them, talk to them and ask them and relate to them, throw advice at them, open up, share feelings, give them solid life experience advice.
In Imane's case, and probably billions of kids and parents out there, you never teach your kid how to talk to you, you're always just strict and absolute about everything, and then when you're in your 50's and your kid's in their 20's, there's a 30 year barrier, AND your kid's 20+ years of living with a parent figure who has always been there but not really, how are they gonna know how to talk to you then?
That's the problem with most parents nowadays, especially the western. That's why yall value mother's day so much, because it seems like that day is the only day you get to show your gratitude and affection to your mother's/parents, by giving them a simple gift, and visiting/just being there. While how it "should" be, is being there for your parents, and them being there for your EVERY day, not only once a fucking year.
Doesn't matter what age you are, doesn't matter what age your parents are, there always should be a sense of communication there. My dad is 56 years old, his mother is around 78-80 I think, she's still mentally sane and somewhat physically capable, he still visits her every other week if not weekly, and a lot of times just checks up with her to take her opinion on random things, negotiate random decisions with her, etc, etc. Although he has a wife and kids who are already married with kids.
If your parents did a bad job being open and transparent with you, it's ok, they are human too, yes, they made mistakes, it's their fault this time, but when you're in your 20's or late 20's, some of that responsibility is now on you, it'll be very much easier for YOU now to open up to them and talk to them, compared to them doing it. Why? Because you grew up so much and changed so much up until your mid 20's, that they don't even know you anymore. They would not even know where to start talking to you, or what to ask about, other than just checking up and hoping you're doing ok, but deep inside, they're still human, they're very sad and broken that they can't talk to their kid, they cannot open up with their and really make sure their kid is ok. As Dr. K said, imagine yourself being a parent, and your kid grew up not "trusting" you in some sense, and your kid goes through whatever they go through, and you just cannot approach them anymore. How will you feel then? You'll feel devastated. That's how most parents feel nowadays towards their kids. And keep in mind, parents with their kids are THE BEST at hiding their feelings. They have a natural, god-given protective power with their kids, because they know how devastated their kid will feel if they know their parents don't feel well. That's why parents tend to hide it all from us. And that's why I think it's your responsibility in your 20's to approach your parents and talk to them, check on them, catch up with them, etc.
With all that being said, go listen to this song, think about what I said, and cry a little bit, not too much. th-cam.com/video/JVpTp8IHdEg/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for saying this. I know this is something that affects particularly my relationship with my father; for many reasons, I have grown distant from him over the years, and I know I am the one who will have to bridge the gap. I thought your point about parents not educating their children about communicating with them is very insightful.
Thank you for sharing, glad I came through this comment!
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Holy crap. I'm astonished that my issues are that common. And I'm honestly uncomfortable that the responsibility should fall on me, now. To be perfectly honest, I don't want that responsibility, and I don't want to reach out to them. They've failed me too many times. But maybe I should just be a better person and push through anyway... although that might be one of those "shoulds" Dr K also talked about that can be detrimental.
Either way, thanks for writing this comment.
@@GeeGe.
If they are willing, I'd love to see Michael Reeves, Valkyrae or Sykkuno do a session.
As father of 3 Daughters I do my best to let them know that as long as they do what makes them happy in life I will proud of them. I don't care if they are rich or poor, CEO's or barn keepers, all professions are admirable, as long as what they are doing is what they truly want to be doing. I don't want them to feel like they need to do anything specific to make me happy, just be themselves and be happy with their choices. I will always be here for them and forever proud of them. I hope that I give them the tools they need to succeed in life not just some given career. Dr. K you are doing fantastic work and thanks to all the people who have come on and spoken to you so openly that takes real courage.
OF?
This is exactly why western society is going down the drain.
Imagine if Etika would talk to Dr.K live on twitch...
@@theteddychannel8529 you don't know that
@@IceFireTerry i guess not 100%, but considering he was in a Psychiatric ward and it made no difference in the end, do you really think a 3 hour talk with this guy would have changed everything?
@@IceFireTerry and yeah, he was very ill. Look at some of the stuff he posted towards the end of his life. He was insane... damn i miss him tho
Terry Carr as already stated, he was in a psychiatric ward for a while.
He kept telling them that he was fine when he really wasn’t, it didn’t help him at all. You really think that we “don’t know” if this would’ve helped or not?
Fuck I miss him
poor Iman, I really felt that when she almost immediately started crying not being able to even explain why, that’s such a overwhelming feeling
I just noticed a real smooth thing dr. K did. he asked "how is your name pronounced?" instead of saying "what's your name again?" I think that so much better to say instead of just asking for their name again. Like it's much friendlier and better goddamn.
that only works if you have a foreign/hard to pronounce name though
@@haziee3108 doesn't matter really, I would assume they just want to get my name right. But they also hear my name again so it's killing two birds with one stone.
@@GetFox3 it kinda does. If I had a name that was impossible to mess up like bob, it would be a bit weird for people to ask me how to pronounce that instead of just asking for my name again if they just forgot it
@@haziee3108 I rather people think I am weird then make them feel bad for forgetting their name
@@claudioestrella1160 my point was then it would be obvious you just forgot their name it you'd asked how to pronounce a common name
This is reminding me massively of conversations I had with a therapist about a year ago. I feel bad for Poki, because it really does suck to constantly be beating yourself up with the idea of 'should' - the kind of person you 'should' be, the type of job you 'should' have, the progress you 'should' be making. For years I'd been stuck in a cycle of thinking that whatever I did, it wasn't enough. When it gets really bad, it truly is horrible because it's almost like you can't enjoy anything. Even if you do achieve something you've been aiming towards, you don't get to feel proud of yourself because your brain is telling you 'Right, that's done - what's the next thing? Better not stand around for too long otherwise you'll fall behind.'. And it was really hard learning to live with that, especially seeing as some things had recently gone wrong in my life, and I was blaming myself for them because I perceived that they were taking me further away from the kind of person I 'should' be trying to be.
I haven’t even watched 5 minutes of this and I think this girl has really needed this for a long time. I sincerely hope this helps her a lot. I’ll be honest, There’s been a lot of things that have bugged me about Pokimane over the years knowing about her but, I have to remind myself this is somebody who’s been put in front of a world wide audience since a young age, she’s going to have issues I don’t fully understand and I just hope this helps a lot. We all have problems, I have plenty myself.
There was a time about 6 years ago I got upset at every streamer/TH-camr that felt fell in the “fake” category and didn’t treat humans like humans with souls all the time (not saying poki is not human etc. please, try to read between the lines here) I would say things that were too judgmental which is not helping at all and making the problem humanity is facing worst. That problem being too connected too easily without REAL connection to one another.
I have learnt and grown from this since then. Don’t spread hate, fellow people. Spread love